March 2, 2025 • 21 mins
Are you constantly battling the urge to judge others? Many of us struggle with this instinctual response, often rooted in insecurity, upbringing, and societal influences. In this podcast episode, we delve deep into the reasons why we judge and the toll it takes on our mental and emotional well-being. Through the engaging story of Cinderella, we illustrate how superficial judgments can overshadow true self-worth. We invite listeners to explore how personal appearance affects our interactions, especially in professional environments, where first impressions dominate.
More importantly, we discuss actionable steps to break this cycle of judgment. By understanding our triggers and reframing our perceptions, we can shift our mindset from judgment to support. The power of kindness, optimism, and self-compassion is emphasized as we explore how fostering connection rather than criticism can lead to a more inclusive society.
Join us as we motivate each other toward personal growth and healthier relationships—within ourselves and with others. Together, we can make a significant positive impact. Don't forget to share your thoughts with us, subscribe for more insightful episodes, and leave a review to help spread the message of kindness.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello friends, welcome to your Motivational Gen
Z and Millennial Expert Podcast.
I am your host, my name is DrJason Wiggins and it is a
pleasure to be here.
This podcast is aboutmotivating and helping others
achieve success in whatever itmay be.
So please continue to pass theword on, and I appreciate all
(00:21):
the great listeners.
I would not be here without you.
So let's get our heads rightand let's get started.
Today we're going to talk aboutsomething really, really
important.
Why do we judge others andourselves?
The reason we are going to lookat today is think about.
(00:42):
There's a story of Cinderella.
Cinderella is based around aprince, a girl that is wretched
in many ways.
She lives in a little cottagewhere she works under an evil
stepmother and she is notsomebody that people see as
(01:02):
something of significance.
But then she finds her fairygodmother.
She turns into a princess,turns the carriage from a
pumpkin to a beautiful carriageand all of that good stuff.
And then the prince.
She runs away from the princeand then the prince finds her
(01:23):
and they find happiness.
He sees her for the person sheis inside, even initially after
just finding her for her looks.
So in many ways it seemed verysuperficial and that's kind of
the way that we see people, orthey see us, and it can be very
superficial in many ways.
(01:45):
When you are in an interview,the first thing people see is
your image.
Therefore, it's alwaysimportant to dress for success
and that's why we're going totalk about and discuss about
judging others and ourselves.
(02:06):
I know when I give interviews,it is very difficult for me to
get past a way somebody dresses,because if they didn't put the
emphasis and effort into howthey dress, a lot of the stuff
they say doesn't really resonate.
Not because I'm superficial,but it's because that's the step
(02:28):
one of what people see whenthey are in an interview.
They see how the person isdressed, they see their
mannerisms, they see many of thethings that make them who they
are.
Therefore, if you put theeffort in and you represent the
part you represent, who you are,you have a better chance of
(02:52):
accelerating yourself within theinterview process.
But let's talk about today,about the steps, about how and
why we judge others, how and whywe judge others, and then we're
going to talk about how we canstop judging others.
So why do we judge others?
Why is social media so crazedabout TikTok videos, instagram
(03:18):
and all it is is negativeconsumerism about why we judge
and how we judge.
We judge oh she's beautiful,she's perfect.
Oh, he's ugly, he's dumb,whatever it may be.
We are judging through TikTok,we're judging through Instagram.
It starts within our schoolsystem when we're young.
(03:39):
We're judging others, we'regetting bullied, we're doing all
of these things.
It encompasses on how somebodylooks, how somebody acts, and
that leads up into the teenage,adolescence, grown up even in
the professionalism.
As the example I just provided,with the interview process,
(04:00):
you're looking and judging abouthow somebody is.
Is it right, is it wrong?
I don't know, but I do knowthat we are better off as a
society if we don't judge.
It sounds simple.
Bullying is about judging andthat's where we really have
(04:23):
issues with on our society.
Mannerisms are why we judge.
You know things like thatreally make a difference.
So through the interviewprocess as an example, because
an interview is all aboutjudging.
It's all about substance, aboutwhat that person brings to the
table and what they may or maynot bring to the job.
(04:46):
So you look at the appearance,you look at the handshake, you
look at the body language, youlook at were they timeliness to
the interview and then you lookat their mannerisms, their smile
, are they positive?
How do they act?
It is just a cycle about how wecontinue to judge.
(05:09):
It's not right, it's not wrongand who am I to judge?
But looking at why we judgeothers, well, number one is the
majority of people, like it ornot, typically can be insecure
and have a low self-esteem.
(05:29):
They place the suffering andinferiority about how they feel
and then they judge others forthe same thing, so like they
want to bring themselves up bybringing themselves, by bringing
the others down.
And that's about society,because society wants to keep
(05:52):
people from being successful.
They want to pull them down.
Why?
Because they're not successfuland they feel like they should
be up, and that is a viciouscycle that just continues to
move forward, which is why, atthe end, we're going to talk
about how to stop judging others.
Another key part of judgingothers is the upbringing.
(06:16):
When they were children, it wasfull of judgment within the
house.
The judgment was hey, did youdo this?
You didn't do this?
Well, and there can be someharsh criticism within the
household and the upbringing.
Now the parents are trying topromote, you know, a sense of
(06:37):
improvement within their child,but what the child sees?
Is that harsh upbringing, thatfool of judgment and criticism?
So there we are.
We see insecurity, we seeself-esteem.
We also see how it canencompass an upbringing of
judgment and criticism.
And then why do we judge others?
(06:59):
Because we want to gloss overour own perceived flaws, and
that we all have flaws, whywe're human.
Humans have flaws.
We're not all perfect.
We don't do everything rightand perfect.
We are a flawed species andthat's why we have to realize
(07:24):
that we should not judge others.
We should not gloss over ourown perceived flaws to judge
others.
Another key point of why wejudge others is we make
comparisons about our owninadequacies, and our own
inadequacies teach us that weshould try to improve our
(07:49):
inadequacies, not bring otherpeople to the same level of our
inadequacies.
And that is just aboutmotivation in general, and we
have so many episodes onmotivation, so maybe I will
touch base a little bit at theend of today's podcast.
And they confuse control with asense of security.
(08:16):
What does that mean?
That means, since they don'tfeel good about themselves, they
feel like they can have somesort of control and bully others
, bring other people down, haveharsh judgment, and that makes
their security perceived betterbecause they're making somebody
(08:38):
else not feel good, and thatgoes back down to bullying.
The sixth reason out of sevenis envious of others.
That's called jealousy.
Some of these can be moreinternal and don't even
recognize what you could bedoing to somebody.
(08:59):
But I mean, I'm guilty of whenI'm driving, I am guilty of
judging others, and I'm suremany of you are too.
When you see somebody driving,maybe they make a dumb move,
maybe they turn into the lanewithout blinkers, maybe they're
going too fast and weavingthrough traffic, and or they're
going too slow and you go.
(09:21):
Oh my gosh, that person doesn'tknow how to drive.
That's judging.
I am guilty of that everysingle day when I'm driving.
It is a sense of judging.
It is a sense of judging.
And now the other one is aboutyou are attached, your feelings,
your opinions, rather thannatural observations.
(09:44):
So you know, as humans, we haveour feelings, we have our
opinions, but we don't actuallylook outside the box to see what
the real problem is.
Therefore, we are judging andthose are the reasons why we
talked about low self-esteem.
Upbringing is full of judgments.
(10:04):
We gloss over our own perceivedflaws to worry about others.
We make comparisons about ourown inadequacies so we can make
ourselves feel better.
We're jealous and envious ofothers.
We're attached to our ownopinions and feelings.
We think this is the way itshould be.
(10:24):
We think this is the way itshould be.
So that person is wrong andrather than looking outside the
box and looking at our ownnatural observation, those are
the main reasons why people arehuman.
We have judging and we start atthe very young age with
(10:46):
bullying because we're judgingothers.
They're not as good.
For this reason, therefore, weshould bully them, we should
pick on them.
We should cyber bully, weshould make them feel like they
are unimportant.
And if you look at all this,this is all sad, this is all
rhetoric, but it happens inevery single walk of life.
(11:08):
It happens everywhere you see.
You look on TV.
You see all the perfection.
You look on social media, yousee all the perfection.
You look on social media, yousee all the perfection.
Why?
Because people don't want toshow their inadequacies on
social media.
They want to look as good aspossible.
(11:29):
So why they hide the negatives.
And then guess what, whenpeople are having negative
outcomes in life, maybe they'velost jobs, they've lost spouses.
They've lost spouses, they'velost children, they can't pay
their bills, they have all ofthese problems in life, but they
don't go on Facebook and talkabout hey, I lost my job, my
(11:49):
life is miserable.
No, why?
Because A people don't wannalisten, and, sad but true, they
generally just don't want tolisten.
And, sad but true, theygenerally just don't care.
And if that's the case, if theyjust don't care, then you have
a whole different you know thinggoing on.
And that's that's where, herein the United States, if you're
(12:11):
listening from other countriesthe United States has a
perceived perception of theydon't care.
And there's probably not wrong,and I'm sure other countries
might feel the same way.
But we tend to try to putourselves on a pedestal wherever
we go and we're like, hey, weare the top dogs, we are better
(12:34):
than everyone else.
Well, guess what?
This is America?
This is like any other country.
We all have our own problems,but we don't sit out there, we
don't try to show the world whatour problems are.
We talk about wanting to beperfection.
We talk about wanting to beperfection within our jobs,
within our home life.
(12:55):
People don't like to quote airout their dirty laundry.
When you air out your dirtylaundry, you show imperfection,
you show insecurity, you show alot of the things that's called
normal life.
So today we have been talkingabout why people judge others
(13:16):
and really the big problemsbehind it.
So now let's try to solve theproblem.
We can solve the world'sproblems today If we start
working together and start andstop judging others.
That's why this world is such acrazy place.
(13:36):
Because we're judging others.
It's all about perception.
The workplace everybody hasgone, sometimes a little chaotic
, because life can be tough,life can be challenging many
obstacles in with withineverything we do on a daily
basis.
So how do we stop judging?
The first question we shouldask is why are we judging?
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Why do we stop judging?
The first question we shouldask is why are we judging?
Why do we care?
Why do we scroll through socialmedia and, you know, dislike or
like a TikTok video, or, or,you know, make negative comments
on people's posts, on people'sposts?
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Why do we have politicaloutrage about what one president
does or doesn't do?
Why?
Because we want to talk poorlyabout people, because we want to
make ourselves look better, wewant to protect our opinions and
our inferiority.
So these are things that we doon a normal basis.
So we've got to try to stopthat.
And other ways we do it isunderstand your triggers and
(14:44):
biases.
If you are attached to onepolitical party, the other day I
heard from a friend that theydidn't want to do something
because they were so attached totheir political agendas that
that's all they could thinkabout and that's overseeing and
controlling their life.
And that is why we have tounderstand our triggers and
(15:08):
biases and realize that we haveto think about what's important
to us, but not dwell on it.
Number three is look at theperception and reposition the
way we see others.
Reframe how we look at things.
If you're being negative andyou're looking at the big
(15:31):
picture and you're judgingothers, reframe, reposition the
way you look at that and go,wait a minute.
If I was looking at it this way, would I still feel exactly the
same way?
Would I judge the situation orjudge that person in the same
scenario?
And I like to think of this onefirst.
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Number one stop judging yourself.
When we judge ourself.
That is when we look at it andgo I'm not perfect, I am
inadequate in so many differentways.
And how can I improve that?
And how can I improve theinadequacies and all the issues
(16:16):
in my life.
How can I stop judging othersand improve my life?
So don't be hard on yourself.
You judge yourself.
Maybe you're not the mostbeautiful person in the world.
Maybe you're not the strongestperson in the world, maybe
you're not the smartest personin the world, but guess what?
All of these things we cancontinue to improve on.
(16:37):
We can continue to makeourselves better, make our lives
better and improve ourselves.
Now the fourth one is or, excuseme, the fifth one is be more
positive and optimistic, whichwe're going to talk about in a
second.
I'm not going to explain thatone because that is pretty
self-explanatory.
And the last one out of the sixways to stop judging others is
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meet new people and learn how tohelp them, not judge.
Let's be kinder to people inthis world.
Let's be more helpful to peoplein this world.
You know, sometimes it's likewhen you go to a Starbucks, some
people will start a chainreaction where they pass it on,
move it forward, where they'llbuy somebody a coffee drink and
(17:25):
then everybody keeps buying thenext person in line.
It may be.
It's about paying it forward,and that's where we've got to
start doing better as a society.
We need to be more positive.
We need to be more optimistic.
We need to help each other.
So today we've talked about thereasons why we judge each other.
We've talked about the reasonshow we can stop judging, which
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which, again, is number one askwhy you're judging.
Number two understand yourtriggers and biases.
Number three reposition orreframe the way you see others.
Number four stop judgingyourself.
Number five be more positiveand optimistic.
And number six meet new peopleand learn how to help, not judge
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.
Out of all this that we'vetalked today about today, it all
boils down to one thing and, asI talked about earlier in the
podcast, it comes down tomotivating yourself to want to
be better.
Motivating yourself to want tohelp others be better,
motivating ourselves the way wecarry ourselves, from the way we
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have our mannerisms, the way wehandshake, smile, body language
, timeliness and appearance.
Those are key points on who weare Every single day at work,
right or wrong.
I like to wear a suit.
Why?
Because my thought process isthat when you wear a suit, you
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are trying to not only be yourbest at work, but you're trying
to look your best at work, andthen people judge you on how you
dress, how you act, what yourmannerisms are how professional
are you in the workplace?
And so it comes back down towhat I call that old school
mentality.
That old school mentality isyou want to look the part, you
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be the part and you act the part.
And that's where success reallyhas a key point on the starting
lines.
So when you start a race, whatyou do first, why you train for
the race you have the rightshoes for the race.
What you do first, why youtrain for the race, you have the
right shoes for the race youget ready at the starting line
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for the race and you get inposition.
And then all of that practiceyou did, you run as fast as you
can until you get to the finishline and guess what?
You looked the part, you actedthe part, you did your best for
the part, and that is what canhappen at the end.
That is what success is.
That is where you can make adifference.
So today, make a difference.
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Make a difference on who youare, how you treat others, how
you are in the workplace withall your professionalisms, and
stop judging others, and thentake these steps to help people,
and that'll make you a betterperson, a better professional, a
better leader and just a darnbetter all around person.
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So I want to thank everybodytoday for listening and sharing
this podcast, and please feelfree to reach out if there's
anything I can do to help.
This podcast is for those thatwant to be motivated, that want
to be helped, that want andplease feel free to reach out if
there's anything I can do tohelp.
This podcast is for those thatwant to be motivated, that want
to be helped, that want tocontinue to learn about how to
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be a better person in andoutside the workplace.
Within Gen Z, millennials,generation X, baby Boomers,
alpha, whatever it may be, thispodcast can resonate with
anybody.
So thank you, take care bye.
Hello friends, welcome to your Motivational Gen
Z and Millennial Expert Podcast.
I am your host, my name is DrJason Wiggins and it is a
pleasure to be here.
This podcast is aboutmotivating and helping others
achieve success in whatever itmay be.
So please continue to pass theword on, and I appreciate all
(00:21):
the great listeners.
I would not be here without you.
So let's get our heads rightand let's get started.
Today we're going to talk aboutsomething really, really
important.
Why do we judge others andourselves?
The reason we are going to lookat today is think about.
(00:42):
There's a story of Cinderella.
Cinderella is based around aprince, a girl that is wretched
in many ways.
She lives in a little cottagewhere she works under an evil
stepmother and she is notsomebody that people see as
(01:02):
something of significance.
But then she finds her fairygodmother.
She turns into a princess,turns the carriage from a
pumpkin to a beautiful carriageand all of that good stuff.
And then the prince.
She runs away from the princeand then the prince finds her
(01:23):
and they find happiness.
He sees her for the person sheis inside, even initially after
just finding her for her looks.
So in many ways it seemed verysuperficial and that's kind of
the way that we see people, orthey see us, and it can be very
superficial in many ways.
(01:45):
When you are in an interview,the first thing people see is
your image.
Therefore, it's alwaysimportant to dress for success
and that's why we're going totalk about and discuss about
judging others and ourselves.
(02:06):
I know when I give interviews,it is very difficult for me to
get past a way somebody dresses,because if they didn't put the
emphasis and effort into howthey dress, a lot of the stuff
they say doesn't really resonate.
Not because I'm superficial,but it's because that's the step
(02:28):
one of what people see whenthey are in an interview.
They see how the person isdressed, they see their
mannerisms, they see many of thethings that make them who they
are.
Therefore, if you put theeffort in and you represent the
part you represent, who you are,you have a better chance of
(02:52):
accelerating yourself within theinterview process.
But let's talk about today,about the steps, about how and
why we judge others, how and whywe judge others, and then we're
going to talk about how we canstop judging others.
So why do we judge others?
Why is social media so crazedabout TikTok videos, instagram
(03:18):
and all it is is negativeconsumerism about why we judge
and how we judge.
We judge oh she's beautiful,she's perfect.
Oh, he's ugly, he's dumb,whatever it may be.
We are judging through TikTok,we're judging through Instagram.
It starts within our schoolsystem when we're young.
(03:39):
We're judging others, we'regetting bullied, we're doing all
of these things.
It encompasses on how somebodylooks, how somebody acts, and
that leads up into the teenage,adolescence, grown up even in
the professionalism.
As the example I just provided,with the interview process,
(04:00):
you're looking and judging abouthow somebody is.
Is it right, is it wrong?
I don't know, but I do knowthat we are better off as a
society if we don't judge.
It sounds simple.
Bullying is about judging andthat's where we really have
(04:23):
issues with on our society.
Mannerisms are why we judge.
You know things like thatreally make a difference.
So through the interviewprocess as an example, because
an interview is all aboutjudging.
It's all about substance, aboutwhat that person brings to the
table and what they may or maynot bring to the job.
(04:46):
So you look at the appearance,you look at the handshake, you
look at the body language, youlook at were they timeliness to
the interview and then you lookat their mannerisms, their smile
, are they positive?
How do they act?
It is just a cycle about how wecontinue to judge.
(05:09):
It's not right, it's not wrongand who am I to judge?
But looking at why we judgeothers, well, number one is the
majority of people, like it ornot, typically can be insecure
and have a low self-esteem.
(05:29):
They place the suffering andinferiority about how they feel
and then they judge others forthe same thing, so like they
want to bring themselves up bybringing themselves, by bringing
the others down.
And that's about society,because society wants to keep
(05:52):
people from being successful.
They want to pull them down.
Why?
Because they're not successfuland they feel like they should
be up, and that is a viciouscycle that just continues to
move forward, which is why, atthe end, we're going to talk
about how to stop judging others.
Another key part of judgingothers is the upbringing.
(06:16):
When they were children, it wasfull of judgment within the
house.
The judgment was hey, did youdo this?
You didn't do this?
Well, and there can be someharsh criticism within the
household and the upbringing.
Now the parents are trying topromote, you know, a sense of
(06:37):
improvement within their child,but what the child sees?
Is that harsh upbringing, thatfool of judgment and criticism?
So there we are.
We see insecurity, we seeself-esteem.
We also see how it canencompass an upbringing of
judgment and criticism.
And then why do we judge others?
(06:59):
Because we want to gloss overour own perceived flaws, and
that we all have flaws, whywe're human.
Humans have flaws.
We're not all perfect.
We don't do everything rightand perfect.
We are a flawed species andthat's why we have to realize
(07:24):
that we should not judge others.
We should not gloss over ourown perceived flaws to judge
others.
Another key point of why wejudge others is we make
comparisons about our owninadequacies, and our own
inadequacies teach us that weshould try to improve our
(07:49):
inadequacies, not bring otherpeople to the same level of our
inadequacies.
And that is just aboutmotivation in general, and we
have so many episodes onmotivation, so maybe I will
touch base a little bit at theend of today's podcast.
And they confuse control with asense of security.
(08:16):
What does that mean?
That means, since they don'tfeel good about themselves, they
feel like they can have somesort of control and bully others
, bring other people down, haveharsh judgment, and that makes
their security perceived betterbecause they're making somebody
(08:38):
else not feel good, and thatgoes back down to bullying.
The sixth reason out of sevenis envious of others.
That's called jealousy.
Some of these can be moreinternal and don't even
recognize what you could bedoing to somebody.
(08:59):
But I mean, I'm guilty of whenI'm driving, I am guilty of
judging others, and I'm suremany of you are too.
When you see somebody driving,maybe they make a dumb move,
maybe they turn into the lanewithout blinkers, maybe they're
going too fast and weavingthrough traffic, and or they're
going too slow and you go.
(09:21):
Oh my gosh, that person doesn'tknow how to drive.
That's judging.
I am guilty of that everysingle day when I'm driving.
It is a sense of judging.
It is a sense of judging.
And now the other one is aboutyou are attached, your feelings,
your opinions, rather thannatural observations.
(09:44):
So you know, as humans, we haveour feelings, we have our
opinions, but we don't actuallylook outside the box to see what
the real problem is.
Therefore, we are judging andthose are the reasons why we
talked about low self-esteem.
Upbringing is full of judgments.
(10:04):
We gloss over our own perceivedflaws to worry about others.
We make comparisons about ourown inadequacies so we can make
ourselves feel better.
We're jealous and envious ofothers.
We're attached to our ownopinions and feelings.
We think this is the way itshould be.
(10:24):
We think this is the way itshould be.
So that person is wrong andrather than looking outside the
box and looking at our ownnatural observation, those are
the main reasons why people arehuman.
We have judging and we start atthe very young age with
(10:46):
bullying because we're judgingothers.
They're not as good.
For this reason, therefore, weshould bully them, we should
pick on them.
We should cyber bully, weshould make them feel like they
are unimportant.
And if you look at all this,this is all sad, this is all
rhetoric, but it happens inevery single walk of life.
(11:08):
It happens everywhere you see.
You look on TV.
You see all the perfection.
You look on social media, yousee all the perfection.
You look on social media, yousee all the perfection.
Why?
Because people don't want toshow their inadequacies on
social media.
They want to look as good aspossible.
(11:29):
So why they hide the negatives.
And then guess what, whenpeople are having negative
outcomes in life, maybe they'velost jobs, they've lost spouses.
They've lost spouses, they'velost children, they can't pay
their bills, they have all ofthese problems in life, but they
don't go on Facebook and talkabout hey, I lost my job, my
(11:49):
life is miserable.
No, why?
Because A people don't wannalisten, and, sad but true, they
generally just don't want tolisten.
And, sad but true, theygenerally just don't care.
And if that's the case, if theyjust don't care, then you have
a whole different you know thinggoing on.
And that's that's where, herein the United States, if you're
(12:11):
listening from other countriesthe United States has a
perceived perception of theydon't care.
And there's probably not wrong,and I'm sure other countries
might feel the same way.
But we tend to try to putourselves on a pedestal wherever
we go and we're like, hey, weare the top dogs, we are better
(12:34):
than everyone else.
Well, guess what?
This is America?
This is like any other country.
We all have our own problems,but we don't sit out there, we
don't try to show the world whatour problems are.
We talk about wanting to beperfection.
We talk about wanting to beperfection within our jobs,
within our home life.
(12:55):
People don't like to quote airout their dirty laundry.
When you air out your dirtylaundry, you show imperfection,
you show insecurity, you show alot of the things that's called
normal life.
So today we have been talkingabout why people judge others
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and really the big problemsbehind it.
So now let's try to solve theproblem.
We can solve the world'sproblems today If we start
working together and start andstop judging others.
That's why this world is such acrazy place.
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Because we're judging others.
It's all about perception.
The workplace everybody hasgone, sometimes a little chaotic
, because life can be tough,life can be challenging many
obstacles in with withineverything we do on a daily
basis.
So how do we stop judging?
The first question we shouldask is why are we judging?
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Why do we stop judging?
The first question we shouldask is why are we judging?
Why do we care?
Why do we scroll through socialmedia and, you know, dislike or
like a TikTok video, or, or,you know, make negative comments
on people's posts, on people'sposts?
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Why do we have politicaloutrage about what one president
does or doesn't do?
Why?
Because we want to talk poorlyabout people, because we want to
make ourselves look better, wewant to protect our opinions and
our inferiority.
So these are things that we doon a normal basis.
So we've got to try to stopthat.
And other ways we do it isunderstand your triggers and
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biases.
If you are attached to onepolitical party, the other day I
heard from a friend that theydidn't want to do something
because they were so attached totheir political agendas that
that's all they could thinkabout and that's overseeing and
controlling their life.
And that is why we have tounderstand our triggers and
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biases and realize that we haveto think about what's important
to us, but not dwell on it.
Number three is look at theperception and reposition the
way we see others.
Reframe how we look at things.
If you're being negative andyou're looking at the big
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picture and you're judgingothers, reframe, reposition the
way you look at that and go,wait a minute.
If I was looking at it this way, would I still feel exactly the
same way?
Would I judge the situation orjudge that person in the same
scenario?
And I like to think of this onefirst.
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Number one stop judging yourself.
When we judge ourself.
That is when we look at it andgo I'm not perfect, I am
inadequate in so many differentways.
And how can I improve that?
And how can I improve theinadequacies and all the issues
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in my life.
How can I stop judging othersand improve my life?
So don't be hard on yourself.
You judge yourself.
Maybe you're not the mostbeautiful person in the world.
Maybe you're not the strongestperson in the world, maybe
you're not the smartest personin the world, but guess what?
All of these things we cancontinue to improve on.
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We can continue to makeourselves better, make our lives
better and improve ourselves.
Now the fourth one is or, excuseme, the fifth one is be more
positive and optimistic, whichwe're going to talk about in a
second.
I'm not going to explain thatone because that is pretty
self-explanatory.
And the last one out of the sixways to stop judging others is
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meet new people and learn how tohelp them, not judge.
Let's be kinder to people inthis world.
Let's be more helpful to peoplein this world.
You know, sometimes it's likewhen you go to a Starbucks, some
people will start a chainreaction where they pass it on,
move it forward, where they'llbuy somebody a coffee drink and
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then everybody keeps buying thenext person in line.
It may be.
It's about paying it forward,and that's where we've got to
start doing better as a society.
We need to be more positive.
We need to be more optimistic.
We need to help each other.
So today we've talked about thereasons why we judge each other.
We've talked about the reasonshow we can stop judging, which
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which, again, is number one askwhy you're judging.
Number two understand yourtriggers and biases.
Number three reposition orreframe the way you see others.
Number four stop judgingyourself.
Number five be more positiveand optimistic.
And number six meet new peopleand learn how to help, not judge
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.
Out of all this that we'vetalked today about today, it all
boils down to one thing and, asI talked about earlier in the
podcast, it comes down tomotivating yourself to want to
be better.
Motivating yourself to want tohelp others be better,
motivating ourselves the way wecarry ourselves, from the way we
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have our mannerisms, the way wehandshake, smile, body language
, timeliness and appearance.
Those are key points on who weare Every single day at work,
right or wrong.
I like to wear a suit.
Why?
Because my thought process isthat when you wear a suit, you
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are trying to not only be yourbest at work, but you're trying
to look your best at work, andthen people judge you on how you
dress, how you act, what yourmannerisms are how professional
are you in the workplace?
And so it comes back down towhat I call that old school
mentality.
That old school mentality isyou want to look the part, you
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be the part and you act the part.
And that's where success reallyhas a key point on the starting
lines.
So when you start a race, whatyou do first, why you train for
the race you have the rightshoes for the race.
What you do first, why youtrain for the race, you have the
right shoes for the race youget ready at the starting line
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for the race and you get inposition.
And then all of that practiceyou did, you run as fast as you
can until you get to the finishline and guess what?
You looked the part, you actedthe part, you did your best for
the part, and that is what canhappen at the end.
That is what success is.
That is where you can make adifference.
So today, make a difference.
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Make a difference on who youare, how you treat others, how
you are in the workplace withall your professionalisms, and
stop judging others, and thentake these steps to help people,
and that'll make you a betterperson, a better professional, a
better leader and just a darnbetter all around person.
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So I want to thank everybodytoday for listening and sharing
this podcast, and please feelfree to reach out if there's
anything I can do to help.
This podcast is for those thatwant to be motivated, that want
to be helped, that want andplease feel free to reach out if
there's anything I can do tohelp.
This podcast is for those thatwant to be motivated, that want
to be helped, that want tocontinue to learn about how to
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be a better person in andoutside the workplace.
Within Gen Z, millennials,generation X, baby Boomers,
alpha, whatever it may be, thispodcast can resonate with
anybody.
So thank you, take care bye.
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