July 22, 2024 • 44 mins
Have you ever wondered what it feels like to question societal norms from your childhood? This week, Mr. Lamont and Big Sterling kick off with some summertime nostalgia, reminiscing about celebration traditions during school and the Pledge of Allegiance. We then shift gears to a timely critique of the current political scene, questioning the capabilities of aged leaders like Trump and Biden and advocating for fresher, younger faces in politics. The conversation takes an intriguing turn as we examine a recent political assassination attempt and its murky impact on public perception and forthcoming elections.
In relationships, can financial imbalance coexist with mutual respect and love? We tackle this complex topic head-on, discussing whether men should accept financial help from wealthier women and how societal expectations shape these dynamics. We also stress the importance of mutual support and respect, regardless of who holds the purse strings. Through this lens, we explore the balance of traditional gender roles and the wisdom gained from past relationship experiences, emphasizing the necessity of clear boundaries to ensure both partners feel valued.
From the NBA draft's touchy subject of familial nepotism to the personal challenges of navigating social gatherings without alcohol, we cover it all. Bronny James' entry into the NBA under the shadow of his father, LeBron James, sparks a heated debate on readiness and influence. We then shift to personal stories about resisting the social pressure to drink and dealing with anxiety in social settings. Wrapping up, we extend our heartfelt support to the resilient people of Carriacou, a small Caribbean island ravaged by Hurricane Baryl. Join us for a dynamic discussion filled with insights, reflections, and a message of solidarity.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome.
Welcome to the your OpinionDoesn't Matter podcast.
I am one of the hosts, mrLamont, and I'm here with none
other Big Sterling.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
What's going on, bro?
How are you?
What's good?
What's good, family Always apleasure to be in your presence.
Talk about some issues thatwe're dealing with in society,
you know.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Yes, for sure, for sure, for sure, man Same here.
Pleasure pleasure.
You know, yes, for sure, forsure, for sure, man Same here.
Pleasure pleasure, pleasure tobe around too son Always always
yeah, man.
So what's going on with you,man?
How's your summer turning outfor you, man?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Summer, summer been all right.
Always had a love for summer.
Since I was a kid, you know.
Always got excited when I knewsummer was coming up.
You always got excited when Iknew something was coming up,
you'd start hitting the gym alittle more trying to get you
know where the muscles goingpump up a little bit you know
what I'm saying so you couldkind of peel off when they get
warm outside.
You know what I'm saying.
But I really haven't beenoutside like I expected, you
(00:55):
know.
But I still enjoyed the warmweather, the sights you know
what I'm saying the greenery,you know.
Hearing the birds chirp, youknow things like that.
I love summertime, I'm a summerbaby.
Nice, nice, nice, nice.
And you know hand the birdschirp, you know things like that
.
I love summertime, I'm a summerbaby.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Nice, nice, nice, nice.
And you know, summertime for me.
You know, I was like, I was oneof those kids in school and I
couldn't celebrate my birthdayduring school like everybody
else.
Oh, it's my birthday today, youknow.
I had to wait till summertime.
It's my time, summertime, july.
My birthday just passed.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh, oh yeah yeah, yeah.
You didn't get to party.
You didn't get to pizza partywith the cake, or nothing in
school.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Nah, nah nah, nah, nah, nah.
Actually, when I was in school,in elementary, they used to
over the system, pa system, yeah, yeah, they say happy birthday
to whoever it was.
I'm like dang man, but that'sduring the time when they used
to have to sing the Pledge ofAllegiance used to have to um,
(01:47):
sing the um the pledgeallegiance pledge allegiance
yeah, yeah, yeah, used to haveto do that in class.
Yeah, mandatory, yeah mandatory.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
When did that stop?
I have no idea, but I'm sureit's probably sometime around
the mid-90s the mid-90s.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
You was doing that in um the mid-90s, it's.
Oh, you mean, they forced thatin elementary?
Yeah, because I don't rememberthat when I was in junior high.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
In junior we had assembly and when we went to
assembly I went to orthosomas.
When we went to assembly we hadto stand up and do the pleasure
legions joint too.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
You know what, you know whatI'm wrong.
But this is different.
They used to have us do it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
From the classroom, from the classroom, oh, okay,
okay.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
They used to have us all doing it in the classroom,
like I played Jealousy instead.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But I'm like come on, man Nah, man Nah man and you
know people started getting wokein the mid to late 90s.
You know, right, right, right.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
We was like yo man, never mind, we fight the power,
fight the power man with withthis um guy who's trying to, you
know, get re-elected, man andum, you know you mean the movie
(02:54):
fake assassination attempt?
Right right, right, right right.
What's your thoughts on that?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
my thoughts.
What are my thoughts on that?
Uh, I don't have any realfavorites when it comes to the
election.
I mean between Trump and Biden.
To me it's all same devil youchoose one.
You know I'm tired of us votingfor these old 80-year-old men.
(03:26):
I think something needs tochange as far as how we go about
picking the leaders of ourcountries, Because these guys
you see the cognitive decline onBiden already.
I'm sure Trump is probablygoing through something of the
same manner.
You know, and I don't thinkit's a good idea to have these
old men with these old way ofthinking running our country.
It's time to get some new bloodin.
(03:47):
You understand what I mean.
And I'm not talking about tooyoung, where you're naive.
I'm talking about, maybe youknow, between 40, 50s.
You know somebody that has theexperience of life and knows how
to deal with issues, and nobodythat's going to panic, you
understand.
But these guys, they're so oldnow I think they just have one
way of thinking that they can'tsee.
I think they sort of havetunnel vision on how to run the
(04:08):
country.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Right, right, right right.
I feel that it's a strangething, man, something violent
happened to him.
And now look at this,everybody's saying, oh, he won,
now he won Well that definitelypropelled him to the finish line
.
Yeah, catapulted him, man,there's so much videos of him.
They got one with him Boys inthe Hood when Biden is in the
(04:32):
car.
And then you know, he said youknow that famous scene With
Ricky yeah, Ricky yeah.
And then yeah, and Donald Trumpgets shot.
Or even the one I just sawanother one today 50 Cent and
Game One.
You know what I mean whenyou're not on top.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it was something definitely
fishy about that assassinationattempt.
I'm a movie buff and I watcheda lot of movies.
Do you realize the caliber ofthe gun that was shot?
I think a semi-automatic rifle.
Don't quote me if I'm wrong,but the bullet for that is about
that big Pause.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, so how could they justend up nipping his ear from?
(05:12):
And he's supposed to have thescope and everything.
You know what I'm saying?
I think Trump just had to catcha packet.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
They bust his shot, bust the packet Right right,
right right.
You know what I'm saying.
Oh, we need to make a scene.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, something is not right about that, man.
It don't add up to me.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
A body got to drop, a body got to drop.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We got Mayday, mayday and he was still resilient
after, like, I just got shot.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
But yeah, I'm still for the people.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Yeah, power to the people.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, trump, whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
And then Biden.
He just fumbling over words andfalling all over.
He look like he's going to besort of a paraplegic in about a
year to no disrespect to thepeople out there, but he doesn't
look like he's in good shape.
He needs to sit down and resthimself and enjoy the rest of
his life without the pressure ofrunning the country.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yeah, he needs to go sit down somewhere, man.
Go sit down somewhere, man.
Yeah, I need your advice, man,I had asked another one of the
homies about a certain situationand they say yo man, you
bugging man, speak on it.
Well, it's this thing, this,this, this thing about prenups.
Um, well, the situation is isthis is a gentleman.
(06:21):
Um, both of them, him and hisgirlfriend, they graduated, they
just graduated college.
Okay.
And so they've been together.
They began at three, four years.
Okay.
So she knows his struggles andthis, that and the third, and he
knows her struggles.
Yes, if she has anything, well,some people have struggles.
(06:44):
It might not just be in thefact that you need money.
Yes, you know anything.
Well, some people havestruggles.
It might not just be in thefact that you need money.
Yes, they got other things,other struggles.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, could be mental type of shit going on.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So his situation is that she is very, very rich.
She's very, very rich.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Elaborate on rich Millionaire very, very rich rich
and um Elaborate on richmillionaire, wealthy her family,
wealthy generations,generational, generational
generational.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
And um, and you know she, you know he pays for dinner
.
Sometimes she pays for dinnersometime.
And um, she invited him to goto Amsterdam or something like
that, and the ticket is $1,000.
And he said no, I want to feellike.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I'm going to you know I'm earning my keep Right,
right, right, right, right,right right.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
But before we get to the prenup, right, I'm going to
ask you a question.
If you were the woman, right?
Is it okay, as a man, is itokay to um take money from your
woman, and especially if she'swealthy?
Speaker 2 (07:51):
absolutely absolutely absolutely, especially if you
have that type of relationshipand especially if she she's all
for to help you out.
I mean, the relationship isabout a balance anyway anyway.
So maybe just her end of thescale is the financial, but I'm
sure you balance it in otherways.
As far as you know, emotionalstability, support, things that,
(08:12):
as such, you know helping Ifthere's kids involved, being a
good father, being a goodhusband, and it's just us
putting into the pot and we'regoing to cook a big stew.
Anyway we're going to eatregardless.
So therefore, therefore, youknow it's just investing into us
.
So I wouldn't feel a way askingnow if it becomes a habit and
I'm doing all the time, ofcourse, but once in a while, if
(08:36):
she's going to give you monetaryto help something that's going
to benefit us also benefit usboth.
As far as, like my car, I needfixing and we both ride in that
car, you know we helping eachother out.
You understand what I'm saying.
I think when it becomes a habit, you know, and repeats itself,
and then if you start thinkingyou're getting over it, that's
when it becomes a problem,because she's going to see that
(08:57):
too.
Obviously you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, but that's what I say is like, the expectations
of, like, say, a woman, it'salready supposed to be.
It's like mandatory, a man issupposed to take care of her
Mandatory, but it's notmandatory.
If a nigga's broke, the dude isbroke and he can't take care of
his woman.
But like I don't understand.
I don't understand it.
Like, why is it not that sametype of pressure that a man gets
(09:23):
when he has money to provide?
It might not be pressure.
Why is it that the woman alwaysthinks that the money is hers,
my money is my money, my money.
And then, when they get theirmoney, they want to move up.
They want to move up and dealwith dudes.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
That that has paper yeah, yeah, I mean in that
profession or whatever I don'tthink that's a no-win situation.
I mean the way society is now,I mean that's how, sadly, that's
how most women think Like yourmoney is their money and you're
supposed to take care of themand wine and dine them and all
of that.
And if it's the other wayaround, if they have all the
(09:56):
money and they wine in and dineyou around, they feel like
they're the head of thehousehold and you really can't
speak too much.
So therefore, you around, theyfeel like they're the head of
the household and you reallycan't speak too much.
So therefore, you know it's atricky situation as far as you
having money and you taking careand you buying all these things
(10:16):
.
I mean that's a little oldfashioned.
I think you know back in theislands with my grandparents,
that's when you know the mantook care of the household.
You know he went out, he workedor he farmed and then he took
care of the wife and kids.
But the economical times isdifferent and you know you could
you could survive or not thatmuch money.
But now, with all the othervices that you know yourself and
(10:38):
your woman have, with the gucciand the louis and the jewelry
and the flying out and all thatthat becomes pretty costly that
becomes?
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I definitely think that becomes costly and you know
right now, the economy is veryit's shaky.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Yeah, it's very shaky , very unstable, you know.
So, in order, if I'm paying foreverything, you got to balance
it out.
Meaning, when I come home, Iwant my slippers by the door.
You know what I'm saying.
I want my food cooking hot.
You know what I'm saying.
I want my food cooking hot.
You know what I'm saying.
I want warm bath after that.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
And when nighttime come, lingerie time.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah, lingerie time, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
You see, now that's like what men would want, right.
Yeah.
Some men, majority, majority.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Majority, majority men yeah, a lot of these men is
different, now too.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah, so now, like what's the um?
A woman you can't.
Can you even think of a womanthat has those same terms Like I
want this clean, I want thatclean.
I rub my shoulders.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Well, if a woman telling you that, that means she
see you as a woman, youunderstand.
That means the roles.
The roles have switched.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I can't deal with that I can't deal with that.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I can't deal with any woman that's going to try to
put me under manners like that.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
What would your negotiation be if you was the
man at home and your woman wasthe one holding things down?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, well, in order for me to be in that situation,
I'm still going to have to bethe man in her eyes and in the
household, meaning like youcan't talk to me in any type of
way and you can't expect me todo things that are not masculine
.
You understand what I'm saying.
And at the same time, you haveto be submissive.
There's ways you could still bethe man of the house, even
though you're not making all thebread.
You understand what I'm saying.
(12:21):
And if she's submissive and shebuys into that, then I think
things could work.
You understand, yeah, but if,if she's taking this I'm the man
to switch role, identity, likeI'm the man now, you, you do
what I tell you to do, or yourass is out I can't deal with
that I know there's differenttype of men now that deal with
(12:41):
that, but I'm I'm not that breedno, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I mean, I can't even see myself being under any
woman's thumb.
I can't do it.
The question I have is likesuppose she wants you to sign a
prenup?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I don't have any problem signing a prenup.
I mean, what's yours is yours.
And if you came in and you feela way a little insecure and you
think I'm out there to take itfrom you, I'll I'll gladly sign
a prenup just to prove that I'mnot even about that.
I wouldn't feel no way, Iwouldn't take it as an insult.
You know you got in, you got totake care, what's yours.
Sometimes you got to be safe.
(13:17):
You know it's a, it's a sort ofinsurance policy and the other
way around.
If I had my brother and I met aregular woman, I would want to
sign a prenup too, just to makesure what we came in with we
leave with.
You understand what I'm sayingand if I choose to give you a
little more, that's up to you.
Yeah, but I don't want you toever have the intentions like yo
(13:37):
.
I'm trying to run gay and I'mjust trying to get you for your
paper.
That's not who I am, youunderstand.
Some people might get assaultedand I feel the only ways you're
going to get assaulted is ifyou had the intentions of trying
to take a foot of bread anyway,you understand, I get it, I get
it, man, but I don't think thatI could.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I don't think, I don't think I could do a prenup.
I can't do it not less, likesay I'm in a relationship now
but I'm like say, hypothetically, say I ran up on, say, jay
wasn't with Beyonce, orsomething yeah.
I mean certain things like thatis understandable, you know
what I'm saying like oh, she's abillionaire stuff like that
(14:17):
certain things is understandable, yes, but but, but you know, I
mean cause, cause that's notwhat I'm in it for.
So I mean, there's certainthings, is just it.
Just it makes you think likeall right, yeah, hold on, I'm
not in here for that.
And when we leave, I don't wantthat.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
When I leave.
I mean, yeah, but mom, but howdoes she know that?
We anyway, because it could, itcould go left at any time
that's true.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
And and then I want to know what's the um, the
percent for divorces?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
the divorce rate is high too it's very high and I
think, united states has one ofthe highest percentages in the
in the world so let's don't,let's just let's don't get
married.
That's this playhouse it's toolate for me, bro right now I'm
thinking about speaking of that.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I'm about to get married this year, bro.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yo, congratulations.
Let me tell you something.
Those are people that down talkmarriage.
It all depends on your mate man.
If you found that right person,you good.
You know me.
Getting married is one of thebest decisions I ever made in my
life.
I'm 12 years in and I don'tregret a thing.
I do it all over again.
You heard I got me a good one.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I'm happy for you bro .
Speaker 2 (15:21):
And I wish you the same blessings with you and your
fiance.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, man, I'm happy for you, man.
I mean, you know it's time tojust settle down.
You know what I mean.
Yes, yes, you know you can't beBatman forever.
Yeah, yeah yeah, you know whatI mean.
I went from Batman to Robin, tothe who else, to the regular
guys.
You know what?
I mean.
You know what I mean, that'slife.
I remember like say a starter,then I'm a game to bench player,
(15:46):
then a reserve player.
Then your boy don't even go.
He's not even on the court, nomore man.
He got bad knees and all youknow what I mean.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
I'm telling you, man, we had that phase of life.
Man, you don't want to get astroke now.
You don't got nobody to come tothe hospital clean your ass for
you, and give you a bath.
You understand what I'm sayingI know a friend that's a nurse
and she told me that happens allthe time.
A lot of old players come therewith their stroke and then
they're lonely, nobody comes tosee them and they suffer until
they pass away.
(16:14):
You understand.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
And that's the thing, that's why people need to think
about I have a family memberthat's older than me and he kind
of lives in DR yeah yeah, yeah.
He lives in DR and his concernsis not about having a woman.
(16:36):
I mean, you could do your DRthing, your Spain thing, but
have somebody Like on the dayswhen you're sick who's going to
make you soup?
Don't pay for a chick to comethrough and give you soup.
Yes, you know, this is acertain to me, to me, you, you
have to have somebody that youcould be fat skinny, tall short.
(16:56):
Whatever you need somebody tocare for you and you care for
them, care for you in acompanions.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yeah, a little love, you know, and the nurturing part
.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
You understand, yeah, yeah, those prostitutes is only
good for, like you know, untilyou pay them.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's it and then that's it.
When the money going to lovegoing.
Now you back to square oneFacts plus tax, kid.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Facts plus tax man.
And, interesting, that same guywas older than me, right Years
years back before I was with myfiancee.
Yeah, um, he used to alwayswant me.
That's how me and him fell out.
He used to always want me to goto dr with him, but, but then.
But then it's like his.
His motivation is like he'llshow me pictures of of chicks at
(17:37):
that time, my age, I'm likelike yo, what are you doing, bro
?
I said yo at that time.
I think I was in my, I was inmy, like my, my late 30s, yeah,
or something like that.
How old was duke?
huh, how old was him he's threeyears older than me okay, okay
so but but he's showing thesechicks yeah, yeah I'm like what?
Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna go out oftown, I'm gonna go.
I'm gonna go to another countryto get a chick my age.
(17:58):
Yeah, yeah, I wouldn't evendeal with a chick here in the us
, but I'm gonna go out there.
I said no no, no, no, no, no.
And folks, I ain't talkingabout no young little girls, I'm
talking about respectful.
Respectful in the 22 and up,when I was that age, Nah, so he
discouraged me, man.
I'm like nah, bro.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, his priorities wrong as seem.
He probably living a life ofregret right now.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I ain't heard from him.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
But if you speak to him now he probably would have
been like damn, I wasted allthat time doing that.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
No, he's still doing it Still doing it for life.
He's committed man, he'scommitted.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I know there's a few dudes like that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
He got his payola badge because he works for a
flight, the airport, oh, okay,okay, so you know.
You get them what?
$120 flights?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, and you in there.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah, I did the DR thing, me and my crew.
We used to do that in our early20s.
I've been there three, fourtimes, you know what I'm saying.
But we had dudes in the crewthat fell in love with it and it
kept going back, it kept goingback.
We even had a few dudes thatalmost got married and I had to
be like yo bro, what you doing?
Oh word, can't bury him, youcan't bring him down here,
because you know when you're notthere, she not yours, no more.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
You heard she's taking everything.
Anything moving, yeah, and ifyou bring her down here.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
it's only a matter of time before she end up in a A
brothel.
You know what I'm saying?
Shit.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I never went to DR.
Dr was a lick in the 90s.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I never went there with the crew and none of that
like that we went to.
We kept it local VirginiaAtlanta.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Philly.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Greek Fest and shit like that, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
You talking about with Freak Nick.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Yeah, freak, nick, greek Fest Me and the Cruise
Brothers.
Yeah, the Cruise Brothers, theNotorious Cruise Brothers, big
up the Cruz brothers.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Yeah, big up the Cruz brothers.
Yo, we had some fun kid.
I can't wait.
Once these guys get togetherand they come on here and we
tell them our stories.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we can't?
well, all of us.
Them two is married.
No, three of them is married.
You know, I'm engaged but wecan't really give the, we can't
(20:08):
give the whole play.
Yeah, yeah, but yeah, we couldjust, you could just like be a
little discreeter we, just we,we, we discreet and we just like
you know, we're not trying tooffend our family by talking our
crazy shit yeah but just knowit was a movie yeah, yeah
showtime at the palo man.
But those are the good times,man.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I heard about yeah, I heard, I heard I heard there's
a showtime at the palo.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Man, we had a lot of good times, man we had a lot of
good times and, um, you know,hey, that's part of part of life
.
Yeah, you know, that's.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
That's where I um, I overstayed my drinking back then
I was whoo yeah, well, wheneveryou, whenever you go on a greek
fest or freak nigga, it'sdrinking and smoking 24-7 the
whole time I drank more than Iate.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I drank more than I ate kid A lot of weed.
I springy that too.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Looking for breakfast , lunch and dinner, oh man.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
You're waking up the homies.
Yo, let's take some shots.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then you're feeling thatfreedom.
Like oh yeah, I'm back yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
The Invincible Youth Days.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Yeah, the Invincible Youth Days, man, it's a lot of
fun, a lot of fun, man, I'm gladthat you know my numbers add up
as far as good things Throughmy times and travels of going to
clubs and stuff stay out.
Of thousands and thousands ofplaces we only probably got into
like two, three fights.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, becauseyou know, know, and the thing
(21:30):
about is, we was well how weused to do, we used to go in
clubs like, and we first, we'lljust see how it is once we walk
in, we'll know how it is thenext.
You know, we don't staytogether, we all, we all
separate boom, boom, boom, boomand having fun, man, that's how
parties, that's how parties was.
I don't know how it is now, but, um, you know, yeah, the best
part is when you can walk awayfrom your homeboys.
You don't see them for like agood two hours yeah, yeah yeah,
the good old days.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I don't think it's like that.
No more.
I don't even see the partyscene.
I don't know if they still evengot clubs no more, or not late
night clubs anymore.
You know what I'm saying causeI live in Jersey.
When I leave Brooklyn, I drivethrough the city.
I don't see nothing, you know.
You know, usually 3-4 o'clockin the morning you're driving
back in the days you see peoplegetting out to the club, hitting
the restaurants.
I think it's all about barlounges now.
(22:08):
You know little small stufflike that.
But you know, sign of the timesyou know, sign of the times.
We talked about where the womanwas holding a man down or the
man holding a woman downfinancially.
Now what about if you meet atthe median and go 50-50?
How do you feel about going50-50 in a relationship, Meaning
you probably could hold it downby yourself if you want, but
(22:29):
it'll be a struggle.
But if she helps and she putssomething in, it'll make it
easier for both of us.
Could you see yourself doing50-50?
And it's never really 50-50.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
It's 45-55, but you know, that's just a hypothetical
number.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
You know Right, right , right, right, right.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Now I see myself.
I go by what's actually goingon.
Yeah.
I go by what's going on, likeyou know.
I mean certain situations.
Okay word, okay, you didn'twork that much this month, blah,
blah, blah.
It's like okay, I got this andyou got that.
You know what I'm saying.
But, like, if it's like, sayit's a pre thing, like you tell
(23:06):
her, you say holler at thatshorty, and then she's talking
about yo listen, I want to betaken care of man, I got a good
job, but what's mine is mine.
I'm like you got to go that waydarling, and you know I don't.
If you don't agree to do itlike, suggest it at least you
know.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I mean, once a woman's talk about what's mine
is mine, that's a very selfishwoman and she's not even in it
for love.
You understand what I'm saying.
A woman that comes at you likethat, I don't believe she really
loves you.
Because once a woman reallyloves a man, or likewise they
they're willing to bend, youknow, or meet you in the middle.
You understand right?
That means she's just worriedabout she's.
She probably had a badexperience before and she's just
(23:44):
worried about her finance.
That means she's broken on theinside and she needs to be fixed
before she could go on forrelationship anyway.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
You know right, right , right, right, right.
So now, nelson, you're sayingthat 50, 50.
Now you know the girl got paper, so so so still 50, 50 say, if
she if she got paper, we could,we could still.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I mean, I know my 50 going to be different.
Hold on, hold on.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Your 50 is going to be different.
Yeah, it's 50% of what.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I got.
You know it can't be 50% of thewhole equation.
It got to be 50% of what I gotcompared to 50% of what she got.
Right right, right, right right.
You know, but I definitely wantto contribute.
You understand what I'm sayingRight, right, right.
And once she's willing tocontribute.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yo, it's like the 50% your 50 is 50 of whatever she
put in.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, it's like her 50, if she a millionaire, her
50% is $500,000.
You know my $80,000, my 50 is$40,000.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
You know what I'm saying yeah, right, right, right
, right it evens out, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
But at least I'm putting forth the effort to let
her show that I'm committed tomake the relationship move
forward, you understand.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
Right right, right right.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
And I'm not just here for it to get carried.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Right right, right, right, right, right, right,
right, yeah, shit, but yeah, but50-50,.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
It should be like you know, nowadays, these women out
here, they be having these high, these high High expectations.
Yeah, man, and you know why I'mblaming all y'all scammers man
y'all messed up the game.
Man whining and dining thesechicks when you first meet them,
flying them out.
Now they think that's thestandard.
Everybody can't do that.
You know, I'm just speaking tothe other brothers out there.
I'm good.
You know I'm saying I'm out ofthe game, but I see now on
social media these girls makingthese demands I need this, I
(25:22):
need that.
And they're not willing to evennegotiate down and like if you
can't give me that, don't wastemy time.
And I think that really messedup the game.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Yeah, messed up the game, man.
I mean you corrupt the mind ofthe woman man.
Yes, sometimes, a lot of times,y'all make the way men go about
, how they get the drawers andstuff.
You'll make a chick that looklike a six.
You treat her like a nine, justto get the trim.
So then, now, she figured thisis standard.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, this is standard, I'm a standard
.
Nine now.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, yeah, Like okay , oh, he paid for this.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
He paid for it yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah.
So then you know it's weird man, it's weird.
It's weird Certain things.
They mess up the game and youbuying a woman expensive stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Yeah, everything is for monetary gain.
Now it seems like it's not evenany emotions.
No love, no love, things ofthat sort.
Yeah, it's no court.
You're not courting the person.
You understand?
Put the money involved.
What I'm waiting?
You're not going to wait amonth.
If you're spending bread, youknow what I'm saying.
You're going to be like boom,you're making demands now.
Yo, what's up?
I just spent that bread.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Let's talk sports man .
Let's talk sports man.
There's some things that I hada discussion with some of the
homies months back, monthsmonths back, and we talked about
LeBron James' son Bronny, yeah,and I was saying to them then
this was before he even went toUSC.
(26:52):
Yes, this was before that and Isaid this guy, this kid, is not
that good man, and I said thatrespectfully.
He's not that good to a sensethat he's too much hype.
It's not fair to the kids.
That's there's thousands of kids, that's, there's thousands of
kids that's working hard outthere, yeah, and it's coming
from the hood yeah, you knowwhat I'm saying and really need
(27:13):
that break, really need that fortheir family.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
You don't know what's going on at home Feed their
family, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
I dig it, taking that spot and um, and and I and I
didn't um.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
You know he caught a um, something was wrong with his
cardiac arrest, but then hewinds up going into the draft.
Yeah, again unproven fourpoints, four points a game.
He played 10 more games orsomething like that.
Unproven four points a gameaverage.
And then, and yes, under six,two, how are you?
How is he?
Even though he was picked?
I think 52.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
55th.
55th 55th.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Second round, 55th.
Yeah, but how?
And then they, and then the big, there's a big, there's a big
dude from, I think, south.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
The big dread dude.
Yeah, yeah, I know who you'retalking about.
I forgot his name, I can'tremember.
And he got and he started doingWay better numbers.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah, and he had some .
He was so impressive, he hadmajor NIL deals through that and
I'm like and he didn't getdrafted.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
He didn't get drafted .
Lebron took that spot.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
John Bonney took a lot of people's spots.
Man, yeah, yeah.
What's your thoughts on thissituation?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I'm conflicted when it comes to that because you
know, as fathers we're supposedto work to get our sons in where
they need to be.
We put in that work, we getthere, we place our sons there
and then it keeps going on andon to make sure everybody in the
family line is taken care of,you understand.
So I'm conflicted In a way.
I felt like I don't blameLeBron for bringing his son in,
(28:49):
but I just think his son wasn'tready and he's going to do more
harm than good putting him outthere.
Because now you're putting himout there, the lights and the
cameras, and you know there's alot of critics.
And I agree with you when I sayBronny's not ready yet.
I didn't see anything that tellsme he could be a pretty good
(29:12):
NBA player or a starter, or evenlast in the league for more
than three years.
You understand what I'm saying,but I guess he's an untitled
little boy, you know.
And LeBron wants to show I havethe power to do this.
Lebron has to have a hold onthat Laker organization.
That's like he must knowsomething that we don't know
(29:34):
because he has everybody.
He really big up to LeBron.
I don't like him as a player,but you know that power move.
He's a very powerful black manand he showed that you
understand what.
I'm saying I'm happy he got hisson in there, but I think it's
going to do more harm than goodpsychologically to Bronny.
Because you know, if I'm one ofthem dudes, and Bronny got a
guaranteed contract in thesecond round, which is million,
(30:08):
I think, yeah, imagine me, I'mfighting to get on the team and
this, this dude, I can't really.
I'm going at him.
Yeah, and I'm supposed to clearit out.
Yeah, I'm gonna expose you.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
So I feel, after it's all done,brownie might be a little
messed up psychologically.
Maybe he flips the script andgets better and, and you know,
makes it in the league.
But I just I wish him the best,but I just don't see it, man
Right.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
I see it.
You know what I see.
I see it like that.
It's a high-level nepotism andit's more or less that I mean.
I ain't going to lie.
If my nephew or if I had a son,I would try to push to get him
in.
Yes definitely I would put himin a position where he won't get
exposed.
That's the key.
If you're going to dohigh-level nepotism, you got to
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put him in a place where you canhide his weaknesses.
Yes, With sports you can't doit.
Imagine if it was football.
Yes.
See, now it's like say it'sfootball and he's a running back
or the—.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
That defensive line is going to crush you.
Yeah, you're going to get themkilled.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Yeah, so it's like you know you can be
fundamentally sound as you want.
Yes.
But you cannot hide your realskill set when you got good
players around you.
Yes, you can't, you can't, even.
He couldn't even get away within college he couldn't even do
it in college.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yes, yes.
So if I was LeBron, I more soprobably would have try to get
him a job in the organization,doing something other than, you
know, playing.
Make sure he's stable.
But as far as putting him outthere, I mean he's going to be
like a deer in the headlightsnow, when I seen it, you know
he's realizing the speed of thegame is different in the NBA.
You know he didn't really getto play any college ball so he
really didn't get thatexperience he needed to take it
(31:35):
to the next level.
You know everybody coming afterprove, like everybody going to
come after him now.
Right, right, right.
So, do you?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
think that his run is going to last as long as LeBron
is in the league.
Nah, LeBron.
If LeBron leave next year, isBronny going to be able to stay
in the league Once?
Speaker 2 (31:59):
LeBron is out next week, bron Bronny going to be
able to stay in the league OnceLeBron is out next week.
Bronny's out Because, whateverhold he had on them, once it's
over that organization, oncethey cut ties with them,
bronny's just a part of thepackage deal to me.
You understand, we're justgoing to throw it.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
You'll throw that in, right, we're going to throw
that in his father yeah, but letme ask you a question would you
do it if your father waspushing for you to go into it
and sort of see basketball thatyou then play?
Would you accept that role,knowing that there's dudes out
there that crack your ass?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
you well, I don't, I don't, I don't I think brownie
is oblivious to the situationhe's going into.
I think he's just young and hejust thinks he could play ball
right, and he probably was likeyou, like you know, dominating
them AAU leagues which aren't asstrong as they used to be back
in the day.
No, he wasn't dominating, so Ithink he has a false sense of
security or he actually thinkshe's really better than he is.
(32:49):
So I don't think he's evenaware that he's taking spots
from other people.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
I think he knows I'm not knocking a hustle man.
Yeah, yeah, LeBron is gettinghis 40 acres in the mule.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Yeah, or maybe Brown is like yo.
You know what Brown is.
My dad Hold that down.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying,dad holding me down.
So what Y'all don't like it.
So what, brown run the NBAanyway.
It's right before ours, youknow yeah so hold that down,
yeah.
Maybe they're just flexing.
And it'll be like I ain't goingto stay there until Bryce come
(33:24):
in yeah, yeah, yeah, and Bryceactually look like he's going to
be a better prospect thanBronny, and he's taller too.
My main concern with Bronny isyou know, he's really short.
Yeah, he's small, he's small,he's too small.
The big are going to expose him.
Yeah yeah, rich people problems.
Ronnie was already set.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Right, but then he took a spot from a broke person.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
He took a spot from a broke person.
I'm with you with that.
You know, and these guys got togo overseas and show yeah, but
again that's flexing because youknow people do it all over the
world, Company-wise you knowNepotism.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
Nepotism is a big thing.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
There's a bunch of it in the NBA on its own, you know
, yeah, yeah.
So, like I said, I'm conflicted, I'm not against it, but I'm
not with it.
Right right, right.
If it was me, I would rather Iwouldn't.
My way of thinking, I'm alittle more old fashioned.
If my son, if I feel my sonwasn't ready, I would analyze
(34:20):
his skills and I'd be like yolisten, you're not ready yet.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm not going to put you in aposition to fail and get
embarrassed.
Yeah, so yo, I had a illweekend, man.
I pulled a double header thisweekend.
I went to two partiessimultaneously.
I ain't do that in yearssimultaneously.
I ain't do that in years youknow, what I'm saying and my
(34:42):
body's beat from the alcohol.
I ain't even going for it.
You know what I'm saying andyou know, then, while I'm
suffering with the after effects, I think like damn, I should be
like Mont and be able to strongenough to just cut that shit
out.
I'm a work in progress.
If you remember from the lastpodcast I shit out.
(35:02):
I'm a work in progress.
If we remember from the lastpodcast, I told you I'm going to
work in progress.
This is the first weekend Ireally did that.
You know what I'm saying but youknow I'm, I'm getting there,
but again, you, you, you're oneof my motivations to want to do
that.
So let's tell me how thingsbeen going since the last.
Have you been tempted to dip?
I know you have to be temptedsometimes, especially in the
(35:23):
social space, you understandwhat.
I'm saying how do you fightthose temptations?
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Let me tell you what happened.
You know what I mean.
It's like now that I'm tryingto be more out and about because
I'm promoting my programs, I'mpromoting my game and your
opinion doesn't matter.
You can get that at wwwyodmcom.
Yeah, go get that.
So I'm out and about socializingand one time, the homie, when
(35:52):
the cruisers came in town, Iwound up going on a boat ride
and I'm like I really don't wantto go to myself.
But then now, when I get there,first off, I don't know, since
I'm getting older, sometimes Isuffer with anxiety, Like I feel
like yo, I don't even want tobe, I don't want to be someplace
(36:14):
too long where I can't leave.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
I feel trapped when I just can't leave Yo man, let me
tell you a lot of people sufferwith anxiety, including myself,
so don't feel no way, my bro.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
So I'm like you know it's one of the flights and MRI
machines.
Those are the two, oh the MRI.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I can't stay there for long.
I have to set myself up.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
I got to go in then they got to take me and I got to
do for me, put me under yeah,oh, you got to get put under I
gotta put me, they gotta, theygotta put me under wow, so
that's it's real bad.
It's real bad, yeah so so, umso anxiety was kicking in for me
, man you have to get sedatedyou mean sedated.
Right, I had to get sedated inorder to do the mri machine.
(36:52):
Yeah, yeah, okay, I'm a wimp.
I'm a wimp, whatever you know.
I mean, you see, the crazything is they got so much
technology.
You could fly to the moon, youcould do this, you could do that
.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
Yeah, why they still got to put you in a coffin to
get there.
Speaker 1 (37:02):
Am I right?
You got to?
Speaker 2 (37:03):
stay in there for a half an hour.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Yeah, right, well, you know.
So I'm feeling the anxiety.
And then I get on the boat andit's like I'm like yo, I really
want to get off of this.
You know, strobe lights hit theboat, strobe lights hit Loud
music.
Yeah, I said oh shoot.
I said I need a drink.
(37:24):
Yo, I need a drink and I'm notseeing no seats.
I said, oh shoot, you wasn't ina party mood.
No, no.
So now I'm going down andsitting down and stuff like that
, but not only that.
There was another situationwhere I just start to feel that
(37:46):
Not that I want to drink, butthis is when I would drink, this
is the vibe I would drink in.
You know what I'm saying?
I felt that a couple timesduring this little summer me
here, me there, I'm like thiswould be perfect for me to drink
, but I won't.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
But this would be the for me to drink, but I won't.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
Yeah, but this, but this will be.
This will be the perfect thingto drink.
And it's like you know alcoholyou never really know how strong
you are until you get tempted.
Yeah, you never know how strongyou are, cause I mean, I was
able to, I was so strong and umdrinks by ducking places.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's how it was easy.
Staying out of social settings.
Staying out, yeah, avoiding it.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Yeah, you know I was on that.
You know you see me when yousee me, but now I'm outside.
You know what I mean.
I'm around and then, like Ijust went to a nice birthday
party for one of the homies andI see people with bottles and
walking around with bottles andnice, nice, niceness, Niceness,
(38:45):
Vibes, yeah, vibes, and it waslike it was a lot of us there.
It was just, everything waspositive and I'm like I just
felt that and then, but the onlything that was weird, it was
like everybody was like alooking contest, Everybody's
standing around, but it wasstanding around.
But it was weird.
It was like everybody was likea looking contest, everybody's
standing around, but but it wasstanding around, but it was love
it's not like, it's like nobodywas, nobody was like really
dancing, yeah, yeah so I'm likeI said I feel weird up in here.
(39:08):
Man, I'm gonna lie yo, I said,said I'm out of here.
Yo, I told the homies.
I said I'm out, see your mom,you leaving, yeah.
And then I saw another one,another one, uh, associate.
He says yo, man, I didn't seeyou in a long time.
Bro Yo, before you leave, yougot to take this shot with me.
Oh, that's crazy.
I said nah, bro, I'm done, Idon't drink no more.
Kid, I don't drink no more.
(39:29):
And he said oh, wow, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
It's strong, we don't tend to say, but you know
alcohol is a big drug and a lotof people suffer from it.
And you know there's differentkind of alcoholics.
There's weekend alcoholics,there's social alcoholics.
I know you remember when youand the guys, when you had the
liquor store and we used to seepeople with suits come in, you
(40:01):
know what I'm saying.
Get a pint of Georgie, turnaround, take that shit to the
head and then walk out and go totheir job and you see that on
an everyday basis Teachers andall that, teachers, everything.
Yeah, alcohol is a hell of asocial drug and you know,
especially West Indians, it'srites of passage.
I mean, I remember the firsttime my father said I could
(40:23):
drink I was 12.
But when I was 10, he wasgiving me little beers here and
there and it made me feel manly.
You know, you thought it wasthe thing to do.
You know what I'm saying andit's carried on.
But I'm trying to break thatcycle Like I don't even want my
son and my daughter.
I keep them away from it.
You know what I'm saying andhopefully you know they.
(40:44):
They could end this cursebecause father, grandfather,
back in islands, you know myfamily's from caracool grenade,
a big up caracool, youunderstand and when you go to
caracool none but rum house anddrinking from morning to night,
and if you turn the drink down,the man won't diss you like
you're a punk, you know.
Yeah, a lot of peer pressure,you know.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
I seen these guys in there sitting at a bar at like
10.30 in the morning bro that'sregular on the islands and then
I told one of the homies fromTrini.
He said yo, that's nothing, man, we got a lot of rum holes
that's nothing.
I mean, I heard the rum holethat was on Linden, but I didn't
really understand what is a rumhole.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
A rum hole is derived from the West Indies, the
islands.
It's a little shack.
This body puts up and they sellliquor there from morning till
night and it's a constant flow.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
So it is a real thing .
I thought it was just anickname for the spot on Linden.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
Don't quote me, but I think it's derived from because
in Caracol they got little rumshops.
It might be the size of abathroom and you go there, you
buy your own.
A work.
Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, you know.
Yeah, and that's the culture,that's the custom.
It's coping Like.
You know.
We spoke about it before.
It's a coping mechanism, supermechanism.
You know everybody, you knowyou're suffering, you're going
through all this, or you take alittle shot, you feel better for
(42:01):
a little while, you know, andthen you go home and you do it
all over again, you know.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Shit.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
Yeah, it's a tough cycle, you know.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah, man, I mean, well, you know, I'm still
fighting that fight.
Speaker 2 (42:12):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, You're doing good man.
How long has it been againmonths.
I'm two and a half years, I'msorry, two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
That's what's up man, big up to that, yeah, man, but
you go to that, you know.
But sometimes I do want toindulge, but, um, but hey I know
yeah, yes, yes, man, this was avery good episode.
Episode 83, man that youropinion doesn't matter.
Podcast, man, derived from thegame your opinion doesn't matter
, it's the ultimate debatinggame Very good debating game for
family and friends.
And you know you could get thatat wwwyodmcom.
(42:48):
Yeah, go get that.
Yeah.
So my closing statement is, man, you know, don't let temptation
lead you.
Don't let temptation lead you.
Let your wisdom guide you andthen lead you.
Don't let temptation lead you.
You, let your um, your wisdomguide you and then lead you.
You know, um, I've been, I'vebeen in a positive, very
(43:10):
positive space this last twoweeks of things.
This is happening for me, man,and it's like I just think that
if you stay, you stay, you stayin a positive place and, um,
positive things should happenfor you.
Man, just keep that mojo alive,man.
And you know, they say, if youknew better, you'd do better.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
That's right, that's right.
My closing statement, I'm goingto have to give a shout out to
a little island of Caracool.
I don't know if you was aware,but Hurricane Barrel, you heard
of it.
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Yeah, I heard about heard it.
That was in the caribbean.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
It did a number on caracool and people.
They lost about 90 90 percentof the island was flattened, so
a lot of people lost their homes.
A few lost their lives.
I just want to give a shout outand tell the people of caracool
that you know we're with them.
Stay strong, stay resilient.
You know what I'm saying.
You know, as long as you gotlife and health, you could build
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everything back up.
You know what I'm saying.
And that goes to show that lifeis unpredictable, because I was
just there for Carnival inFebruary and now it literally
looks like a hurricane hit it.
Everything is tore up.
So you know, I'd like to give ashout out to my people in
caracool stay strong.
We love you.
Stay resilient, we'll build,we'll get there nice, nice, nice
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.
Speaker 1 (44:28):
Yes, this is your opinion, doesn't matter.
Podcast episode 83 and we areoutie.
Peace, peace, peace, yeah, yeah, peace.
Welcome.
Welcome to the your OpinionDoesn't Matter podcast.
I am one of the hosts, mrLamont, and I'm here with none
other Big Sterling.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
What's going on, bro?
How are you?
What's good?
What's good, family Always apleasure to be in your presence.
Talk about some issues thatwe're dealing with in society,
you know.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Yes, for sure, for sure, for sure, man Same here.
Pleasure pleasure.
You know, yes, for sure, forsure, for sure, man Same here.
Pleasure pleasure, pleasure tobe around too son Always always
yeah, man.
So what's going on with you,man?
How's your summer turning outfor you, man?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Summer, summer been all right.
Always had a love for summer.
Since I was a kid, you know.
Always got excited when I knewsummer was coming up.
You always got excited when Iknew something was coming up,
you'd start hitting the gym alittle more trying to get you
know where the muscles goingpump up a little bit you know
what I'm saying so you couldkind of peel off when they get
warm outside.
You know what I'm saying.
But I really haven't beenoutside like I expected, you
(00:55):
know.
But I still enjoyed the warmweather, the sights you know
what I'm saying the greenery,you know.
Hearing the birds chirp, youknow things like that.
I love summertime, I'm a summerbaby.
Nice, nice, nice, nice.
And you know hand the birdschirp, you know things like that
.
I love summertime, I'm a summerbaby.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Nice, nice, nice, nice.
And you know, summertime for me.
You know, I was like, I was oneof those kids in school and I
couldn't celebrate my birthdayduring school like everybody
else.
Oh, it's my birthday today, youknow.
I had to wait till summertime.
It's my time, summertime, july.
My birthday just passed.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh, oh yeah yeah, yeah.
You didn't get to party.
You didn't get to pizza partywith the cake, or nothing in
school.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Nah, nah nah, nah, nah, nah.
Actually, when I was in school,in elementary, they used to
over the system, pa system, yeah, yeah, they say happy birthday
to whoever it was.
I'm like dang man, but that'sduring the time when they used
to have to sing the Pledge ofAllegiance used to have to um,
(01:47):
sing the um the pledgeallegiance pledge allegiance
yeah, yeah, yeah, used to haveto do that in class.
Yeah, mandatory, yeah mandatory.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
When did that stop?
I have no idea, but I'm sureit's probably sometime around
the mid-90s the mid-90s.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
You was doing that in um the mid-90s, it's.
Oh, you mean, they forced thatin elementary?
Yeah, because I don't rememberthat when I was in junior high.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
In junior we had assembly and when we went to
assembly I went to orthosomas.
When we went to assembly we hadto stand up and do the pleasure
legions joint too.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
You know what, you know whatI'm wrong.
But this is different.
They used to have us do it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
From the classroom, from the classroom, oh, okay,
okay.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
They used to have us all doing it in the classroom,
like I played Jealousy instead.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But I'm like come on, man Nah, man Nah man and you
know people started getting wokein the mid to late 90s.
You know, right, right, right.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
We was like yo man, never mind, we fight the power,
fight the power man with withthis um guy who's trying to, you
know, get re-elected, man andum, you know you mean the movie
(02:54):
fake assassination attempt?
Right right, right, right right.
What's your thoughts on that?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
my thoughts.
What are my thoughts on that?
Uh, I don't have any realfavorites when it comes to the
election.
I mean between Trump and Biden.
To me it's all same devil youchoose one.
You know I'm tired of us votingfor these old 80-year-old men.
(03:26):
I think something needs tochange as far as how we go about
picking the leaders of ourcountries, Because these guys
you see the cognitive decline onBiden already.
I'm sure Trump is probablygoing through something of the
same manner.
You know, and I don't thinkit's a good idea to have these
old men with these old way ofthinking running our country.
It's time to get some new bloodin.
(03:47):
You understand what I mean.
And I'm not talking about tooyoung, where you're naive.
I'm talking about, maybe youknow, between 40, 50s.
You know somebody that has theexperience of life and knows how
to deal with issues, and nobodythat's going to panic, you
understand.
But these guys, they're so oldnow I think they just have one
way of thinking that they can'tsee.
I think they sort of havetunnel vision on how to run the
(04:08):
country.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Right, right, right right.
I feel that it's a strangething, man, something violent
happened to him.
And now look at this,everybody's saying, oh, he won,
now he won Well that definitelypropelled him to the finish line
.
Yeah, catapulted him, man,there's so much videos of him.
They got one with him Boys inthe Hood when Biden is in the
(04:32):
car.
And then you know, he said youknow that famous scene With
Ricky yeah, Ricky yeah.
And then yeah, and Donald Trumpgets shot.
Or even the one I just sawanother one today 50 Cent and
Game One.
You know what I mean whenyou're not on top.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it was something definitely
fishy about that assassinationattempt.
I'm a movie buff and I watcheda lot of movies.
Do you realize the caliber ofthe gun that was shot?
I think a semi-automatic rifle.
Don't quote me if I'm wrong,but the bullet for that is about
that big Pause.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, so how could they justend up nipping his ear from?
(05:12):
And he's supposed to have thescope and everything.
You know what I'm saying?
I think Trump just had to catcha packet.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
They bust his shot, bust the packet Right right,
right right.
You know what I'm saying.
Oh, we need to make a scene.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, something is not right about that, man.
It don't add up to me.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
A body got to drop, a body got to drop.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We got Mayday, mayday and he was still resilient
after, like, I just got shot.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
But yeah, I'm still for the people.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Yeah, power to the people.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, trump, whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
And then Biden.
He just fumbling over words andfalling all over.
He look like he's going to besort of a paraplegic in about a
year to no disrespect to thepeople out there, but he doesn't
look like he's in good shape.
He needs to sit down and resthimself and enjoy the rest of
his life without the pressure ofrunning the country.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yeah, he needs to go sit down somewhere, man.
Go sit down somewhere, man.
Yeah, I need your advice, man,I had asked another one of the
homies about a certain situationand they say yo man, you
bugging man, speak on it.
Well, it's this thing, this,this, this thing about prenups.
Um, well, the situation is isthis is a gentleman.
(06:21):
Um, both of them, him and hisgirlfriend, they graduated, they
just graduated college.
Okay.
And so they've been together.
They began at three, four years.
Okay.
So she knows his struggles andthis, that and the third, and he
knows her struggles.
Yes, if she has anything, well,some people have struggles.
(06:44):
It might not just be in thefact that you need money.
Yes, you know anything.
Well, some people havestruggles.
It might not just be in thefact that you need money.
Yes, they got other things,other struggles.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, could be mental type of shit going on.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So his situation is that she is very, very rich.
She's very, very rich.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Elaborate on rich Millionaire very, very rich rich
and um Elaborate on richmillionaire, wealthy her family,
wealthy generations,generational, generational
generational.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
And um, and you know she, you know he pays for dinner
.
Sometimes she pays for dinnersometime.
And um, she invited him to goto Amsterdam or something like
that, and the ticket is $1,000.
And he said no, I want to feellike.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I'm going to you know I'm earning my keep Right,
right, right, right, right,right right.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
But before we get to the prenup, right, I'm going to
ask you a question.
If you were the woman, right?
Is it okay, as a man, is itokay to um take money from your
woman, and especially if she'swealthy?
Speaker 2 (07:51):
absolutely absolutely absolutely, especially if you
have that type of relationshipand especially if she she's all
for to help you out.
I mean, the relationship isabout a balance anyway anyway.
So maybe just her end of thescale is the financial, but I'm
sure you balance it in otherways.
As far as you know, emotionalstability, support, things that,
(08:12):
as such, you know helping Ifthere's kids involved, being a
good father, being a goodhusband, and it's just us
putting into the pot and we'regoing to cook a big stew.
Anyway we're going to eatregardless.
So therefore, therefore, youknow it's just investing into us
.
So I wouldn't feel a way askingnow if it becomes a habit and
I'm doing all the time, ofcourse, but once in a while, if
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she's going to give you monetaryto help something that's going
to benefit us also benefit usboth.
As far as, like my car, I needfixing and we both ride in that
car, you know we helping eachother out.
You understand what I'm saying.
I think when it becomes a habit, you know, and repeats itself,
and then if you start thinkingyou're getting over it, that's
when it becomes a problem,because she's going to see that
(08:57):
too.
Obviously you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, but that's what I say is like, the expectations
of, like, say, a woman, it'salready supposed to be.
It's like mandatory, a man issupposed to take care of her
Mandatory, but it's notmandatory.
If a nigga's broke, the dude isbroke and he can't take care of
his woman.
But like I don't understand.
I don't understand it.
Like, why is it not that sametype of pressure that a man gets
(09:23):
when he has money to provide?
It might not be pressure.
Why is it that the woman alwaysthinks that the money is hers,
my money is my money, my money.
And then, when they get theirmoney, they want to move up.
They want to move up and dealwith dudes.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
That that has paper yeah, yeah, I mean in that
profession or whatever I don'tthink that's a no-win situation.
I mean the way society is now,I mean that's how, sadly, that's
how most women think Like yourmoney is their money and you're
supposed to take care of themand wine and dine them and all
of that.
And if it's the other wayaround, if they have all the
(09:56):
money and they wine in and dineyou around, they feel like
they're the head of thehousehold and you really can't
speak too much.
So therefore, you around, theyfeel like they're the head of
the household and you reallycan't speak too much.
So therefore, you know it's atricky situation as far as you
having money and you taking careand you buying all these things
(10:16):
.
I mean that's a little oldfashioned.
I think you know back in theislands with my grandparents,
that's when you know the mantook care of the household.
You know he went out, he workedor he farmed and then he took
care of the wife and kids.
But the economical times isdifferent and you know you could
you could survive or not thatmuch money.
But now, with all the othervices that you know yourself and
(10:38):
your woman have, with the gucciand the louis and the jewelry
and the flying out and all thatthat becomes pretty costly that
becomes?
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I definitely think that becomes costly and you know
right now, the economy is veryit's shaky.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Yeah, it's very shaky , very unstable, you know.
So, in order, if I'm paying foreverything, you got to balance
it out.
Meaning, when I come home, Iwant my slippers by the door.
You know what I'm saying.
I want my food cooking hot.
You know what I'm saying.
I want my food cooking hot.
You know what I'm saying.
I want warm bath after that.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
And when nighttime come, lingerie time.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah, lingerie time, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
You see, now that's like what men would want, right.
Yeah.
Some men, majority, majority.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Majority, majority men yeah, a lot of these men is
different, now too.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah, so now, like what's the um?
A woman you can't.
Can you even think of a womanthat has those same terms Like I
want this clean, I want thatclean.
I rub my shoulders.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Well, if a woman telling you that, that means she
see you as a woman, youunderstand.
That means the roles.
The roles have switched.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I can't deal with that I can't deal with that.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I can't deal with any woman that's going to try to
put me under manners like that.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
What would your negotiation be if you was the
man at home and your woman wasthe one holding things down?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, well, in order for me to be in that situation,
I'm still going to have to bethe man in her eyes and in the
household, meaning like youcan't talk to me in any type of
way and you can't expect me todo things that are not masculine
.
You understand what I'm saying.
And at the same time, you haveto be submissive.
There's ways you could still bethe man of the house, even
though you're not making all thebread.
You understand what I'm saying.
(12:21):
And if she's submissive and shebuys into that, then I think
things could work.
You understand, yeah, but if,if she's taking this I'm the man
to switch role, identity, likeI'm the man now, you, you do
what I tell you to do, or yourass is out I can't deal with
that I know there's differenttype of men now that deal with
(12:41):
that, but I'm I'm not that breedno, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I mean, I can't even see myself being under any
woman's thumb.
I can't do it.
The question I have is likesuppose she wants you to sign a
prenup?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I don't have any problem signing a prenup.
I mean, what's yours is yours.
And if you came in and you feela way a little insecure and you
think I'm out there to take itfrom you, I'll I'll gladly sign
a prenup just to prove that I'mnot even about that.
I wouldn't feel no way, Iwouldn't take it as an insult.
You know you got in, you got totake care, what's yours.
Sometimes you got to be safe.
(13:17):
You know it's a, it's a sort ofinsurance policy and the other
way around.
If I had my brother and I met aregular woman, I would want to
sign a prenup too, just to makesure what we came in with we
leave with.
You understand what I'm sayingand if I choose to give you a
little more, that's up to you.
Yeah, but I don't want you toever have the intentions like yo
(13:37):
.
I'm trying to run gay and I'mjust trying to get you for your
paper.
That's not who I am, youunderstand.
Some people might get assaultedand I feel the only ways you're
going to get assaulted is ifyou had the intentions of trying
to take a foot of bread anyway,you understand, I get it, I get
it, man, but I don't think thatI could.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I don't think, I don't think I could do a prenup.
I can't do it not less, likesay I'm in a relationship now
but I'm like say, hypothetically, say I ran up on, say, jay
wasn't with Beyonce, orsomething yeah.
I mean certain things like thatis understandable, you know
what I'm saying like oh, she's abillionaire stuff like that
(14:17):
certain things is understandable, yes, but but, but you know, I
mean cause, cause that's notwhat I'm in it for.
So I mean, there's certainthings, is just it.
Just it makes you think likeall right, yeah, hold on, I'm
not in here for that.
And when we leave, I don't wantthat.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
When I leave.
I mean, yeah, but mom, but howdoes she know that?
We anyway, because it could, itcould go left at any time
that's true.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
And and then I want to know what's the um, the
percent for divorces?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
the divorce rate is high too it's very high and I
think, united states has one ofthe highest percentages in the
in the world so let's don't,let's just let's don't get
married.
That's this playhouse it's toolate for me, bro right now I'm
thinking about speaking of that.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I'm about to get married this year, bro.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yo, congratulations.
Let me tell you something.
Those are people that down talkmarriage.
It all depends on your mate man.
If you found that right person,you good.
You know me.
Getting married is one of thebest decisions I ever made in my
life.
I'm 12 years in and I don'tregret a thing.
I do it all over again.
You heard I got me a good one.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I'm happy for you bro .
Speaker 2 (15:21):
And I wish you the same blessings with you and your
fiance.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, man, I'm happy for you, man.
I mean, you know it's time tojust settle down.
You know what I mean.
Yes, yes, you know you can't beBatman forever.
Yeah, yeah yeah, you know whatI mean.
I went from Batman to Robin, tothe who else, to the regular
guys.
You know what?
I mean.
You know what I mean, that'slife.
I remember like say a starter,then I'm a game to bench player,
(15:46):
then a reserve player.
Then your boy don't even go.
He's not even on the court, nomore man.
He got bad knees and all youknow what I mean.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
I'm telling you, man, we had that phase of life.
Man, you don't want to get astroke now.
You don't got nobody to come tothe hospital clean your ass for
you, and give you a bath.
You understand what I'm sayingI know a friend that's a nurse
and she told me that happens allthe time.
A lot of old players come therewith their stroke and then
they're lonely, nobody comes tosee them and they suffer until
they pass away.
(16:14):
You understand.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
And that's the thing, that's why people need to think
about I have a family memberthat's older than me and he kind
of lives in DR yeah yeah, yeah.
He lives in DR and his concernsis not about having a woman.
(16:36):
I mean, you could do your DRthing, your Spain thing, but
have somebody Like on the dayswhen you're sick who's going to
make you soup?
Don't pay for a chick to comethrough and give you soup.
Yes, you know, this is acertain to me, to me, you, you
have to have somebody that youcould be fat skinny, tall short.
(16:56):
Whatever you need somebody tocare for you and you care for
them, care for you in acompanions.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yeah, a little love, you know, and the nurturing part
.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
You understand, yeah, yeah, those prostitutes is only
good for, like you know, untilyou pay them.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's it and then that's it.
When the money going to lovegoing.
Now you back to square oneFacts plus tax, kid.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Facts plus tax man.
And, interesting, that same guywas older than me, right Years
years back before I was with myfiancee.
Yeah, um, he used to alwayswant me.
That's how me and him fell out.
He used to always want me to goto dr with him, but, but then.
But then it's like his.
His motivation is like he'llshow me pictures of of chicks at
(17:37):
that time, my age, I'm likelike yo, what are you doing, bro
?
I said yo at that time.
I think I was in my, I was inmy, like my, my late 30s, yeah,
or something like that.
How old was duke?
huh, how old was him he's threeyears older than me okay, okay
so but but he's showing thesechicks yeah, yeah I'm like what?
Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna go out oftown, I'm gonna go.
I'm gonna go to another countryto get a chick my age.
(17:58):
Yeah, yeah, I wouldn't evendeal with a chick here in the us
, but I'm gonna go out there.
I said no no, no, no, no, no.
And folks, I ain't talkingabout no young little girls, I'm
talking about respectful.
Respectful in the 22 and up,when I was that age, Nah, so he
discouraged me, man.
I'm like nah, bro.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, his priorities wrong as seem.
He probably living a life ofregret right now.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I ain't heard from him.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
But if you speak to him now he probably would have
been like damn, I wasted allthat time doing that.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
No, he's still doing it Still doing it for life.
He's committed man, he'scommitted.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I know there's a few dudes like that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
He got his payola badge because he works for a
flight, the airport, oh, okay,okay, so you know.
You get them what?
$120 flights?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, and you in there.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah, I did the DR thing, me and my crew.
We used to do that in our early20s.
I've been there three, fourtimes, you know what I'm saying.
But we had dudes in the crewthat fell in love with it and it
kept going back, it kept goingback.
We even had a few dudes thatalmost got married and I had to
be like yo bro, what you doing?
Oh word, can't bury him, youcan't bring him down here,
because you know when you're notthere, she not yours, no more.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
You heard she's taking everything.
Anything moving, yeah, and ifyou bring her down here.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
it's only a matter of time before she end up in a A
brothel.
You know what I'm saying?
Shit.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I never went to DR.
Dr was a lick in the 90s.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I never went there with the crew and none of that
like that we went to.
We kept it local VirginiaAtlanta.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Philly.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Greek Fest and shit like that, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
You talking about with Freak Nick.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Yeah, freak, nick, greek Fest Me and the Cruise
Brothers.
Yeah, the Cruise Brothers, theNotorious Cruise Brothers, big
up the Cruz brothers.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Yeah, big up the Cruz brothers.
Yo, we had some fun kid.
I can't wait.
Once these guys get togetherand they come on here and we
tell them our stories.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we can't?
well, all of us.
Them two is married.
No, three of them is married.
You know, I'm engaged but wecan't really give the, we can't
(20:08):
give the whole play.
Yeah, yeah, but yeah, we couldjust, you could just like be a
little discreeter we, just we,we, we discreet and we just like
you know, we're not trying tooffend our family by talking our
crazy shit yeah but just knowit was a movie yeah, yeah
showtime at the palo man.
But those are the good times,man.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I heard about yeah, I heard, I heard I heard there's
a showtime at the palo.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Man, we had a lot of good times, man we had a lot of
good times and, um, you know,hey, that's part of part of life
.
Yeah, you know, that's.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
That's where I um, I overstayed my drinking back then
I was whoo yeah, well, wheneveryou, whenever you go on a greek
fest or freak nigga, it'sdrinking and smoking 24-7 the
whole time I drank more than Iate.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I drank more than I ate kid A lot of weed.
I springy that too.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Looking for breakfast , lunch and dinner, oh man.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
You're waking up the homies.
Yo, let's take some shots.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then you're feeling thatfreedom.
Like oh yeah, I'm back yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
The Invincible Youth Days.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Yeah, the Invincible Youth Days, man, it's a lot of
fun, a lot of fun, man, I'm gladthat you know my numbers add up
as far as good things Throughmy times and travels of going to
clubs and stuff stay out.
Of thousands and thousands ofplaces we only probably got into
like two, three fights.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, becauseyou know, know, and the thing
(21:30):
about is, we was well how weused to do, we used to go in
clubs like, and we first, we'lljust see how it is once we walk
in, we'll know how it is thenext.
You know, we don't staytogether, we all, we all
separate boom, boom, boom, boomand having fun, man, that's how
parties, that's how parties was.
I don't know how it is now, but, um, you know, yeah, the best
part is when you can walk awayfrom your homeboys.
You don't see them for like agood two hours yeah, yeah yeah,
the good old days.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I don't think it's like that.
No more.
I don't even see the partyscene.
I don't know if they still evengot clubs no more, or not late
night clubs anymore.
You know what I'm saying causeI live in Jersey.
When I leave Brooklyn, I drivethrough the city.
I don't see nothing, you know.
You know, usually 3-4 o'clockin the morning you're driving
back in the days you see peoplegetting out to the club, hitting
the restaurants.
I think it's all about barlounges now.
(22:08):
You know little small stufflike that.
But you know, sign of the timesyou know, sign of the times.
We talked about where the womanwas holding a man down or the
man holding a woman downfinancially.
Now what about if you meet atthe median and go 50-50?
How do you feel about going50-50 in a relationship, Meaning
you probably could hold it downby yourself if you want, but
(22:29):
it'll be a struggle.
But if she helps and she putssomething in, it'll make it
easier for both of us.
Could you see yourself doing50-50?
And it's never really 50-50.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
It's 45-55, but you know, that's just a hypothetical
number.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
You know Right, right , right, right, right.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Now I see myself.
I go by what's actually goingon.
Yeah.
I go by what's going on, likeyou know.
I mean certain situations.
Okay word, okay, you didn'twork that much this month, blah,
blah, blah.
It's like okay, I got this andyou got that.
You know what I'm saying.
But, like, if it's like, sayit's a pre thing, like you tell
(23:06):
her, you say holler at thatshorty, and then she's talking
about yo listen, I want to betaken care of man, I got a good
job, but what's mine is mine.
I'm like you got to go that waydarling, and you know I don't.
If you don't agree to do itlike, suggest it at least you
know.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I mean, once a woman's talk about what's mine
is mine, that's a very selfishwoman and she's not even in it
for love.
You understand what I'm saying.
A woman that comes at you likethat, I don't believe she really
loves you.
Because once a woman reallyloves a man, or likewise they
they're willing to bend, youknow, or meet you in the middle.
You understand right?
That means she's just worriedabout she's.
She probably had a badexperience before and she's just
(23:44):
worried about her finance.
That means she's broken on theinside and she needs to be fixed
before she could go on forrelationship anyway.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
You know right, right , right, right, right.
So now, nelson, you're sayingthat 50, 50.
Now you know the girl got paper, so so so still 50, 50 say, if
she if she got paper, we could,we could still.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I mean, I know my 50 going to be different.
Hold on, hold on.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Your 50 is going to be different.
Yeah, it's 50% of what.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I got.
You know it can't be 50% of thewhole equation.
It got to be 50% of what I gotcompared to 50% of what she got.
Right right, right, right right.
You know, but I definitely wantto contribute.
You understand what I'm sayingRight, right, right.
And once she's willing tocontribute.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yo, it's like the 50% your 50 is 50 of whatever she
put in.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, it's like her 50, if she a millionaire, her
50% is $500,000.
You know my $80,000, my 50 is$40,000.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
You know what I'm saying yeah, right, right, right
, right it evens out, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
But at least I'm putting forth the effort to let
her show that I'm committed tomake the relationship move
forward, you understand.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
Right right, right right.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
And I'm not just here for it to get carried.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Right right, right, right, right, right, right,
right, yeah, shit, but yeah, but50-50,.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
It should be like you know, nowadays, these women out
here, they be having these high, these high High expectations.
Yeah, man, and you know why I'mblaming all y'all scammers man
y'all messed up the game.
Man whining and dining thesechicks when you first meet them,
flying them out.
Now they think that's thestandard.
Everybody can't do that.
You know, I'm just speaking tothe other brothers out there.
I'm good.
You know I'm saying I'm out ofthe game, but I see now on
social media these girls makingthese demands I need this, I
(25:22):
need that.
And they're not willing to evennegotiate down and like if you
can't give me that, don't wastemy time.
And I think that really messedup the game.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Yeah, messed up the game, man.
I mean you corrupt the mind ofthe woman man.
Yes, sometimes, a lot of times,y'all make the way men go about
, how they get the drawers andstuff.
You'll make a chick that looklike a six.
You treat her like a nine, justto get the trim.
So then, now, she figured thisis standard.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, this is standard, I'm a standard
.
Nine now.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, yeah, Like okay , oh, he paid for this.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
He paid for it yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah.
So then you know it's weird man, it's weird.
It's weird Certain things.
They mess up the game and youbuying a woman expensive stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Yeah, everything is for monetary gain.
Now it seems like it's not evenany emotions.
No love, no love, things ofthat sort.
Yeah, it's no court.
You're not courting the person.
You understand?
Put the money involved.
What I'm waiting?
You're not going to wait amonth.
If you're spending bread, youknow what I'm saying.
You're going to be like boom,you're making demands now.
Yo, what's up?
I just spent that bread.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Let's talk sports man .
Let's talk sports man.
There's some things that I hada discussion with some of the
homies months back, monthsmonths back, and we talked about
LeBron James' son Bronny, yeah,and I was saying to them then
this was before he even went toUSC.
(26:52):
Yes, this was before that and Isaid this guy, this kid, is not
that good man, and I said thatrespectfully.
He's not that good to a sensethat he's too much hype.
It's not fair to the kids.
That's there's thousands of kids, that's, there's thousands of
kids that's working hard outthere, yeah, and it's coming
from the hood yeah, you knowwhat I'm saying and really need
(27:13):
that break, really need that fortheir family.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
You don't know what's going on at home Feed their
family, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
I dig it, taking that spot and um, and and I and I
didn't um.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
You know he caught a um, something was wrong with his
cardiac arrest, but then hewinds up going into the draft.
Yeah, again unproven fourpoints, four points a game.
He played 10 more games orsomething like that.
Unproven four points a gameaverage.
And then, and yes, under six,two, how are you?
How is he?
Even though he was picked?
I think 52.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
55th.
55th 55th.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Second round, 55th.
Yeah, but how?
And then they, and then the big, there's a big, there's a big
dude from, I think, south.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
The big dread dude.
Yeah, yeah, I know who you'retalking about.
I forgot his name, I can'tremember.
And he got and he started doingWay better numbers.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah, and he had some .
He was so impressive, he hadmajor NIL deals through that and
I'm like and he didn't getdrafted.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
He didn't get drafted .
Lebron took that spot.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
John Bonney took a lot of people's spots.
Man, yeah, yeah.
What's your thoughts on thissituation?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I'm conflicted when it comes to that because you
know, as fathers we're supposedto work to get our sons in where
they need to be.
We put in that work, we getthere, we place our sons there
and then it keeps going on andon to make sure everybody in the
family line is taken care of,you understand.
So I'm conflicted In a way.
I felt like I don't blameLeBron for bringing his son in,
(28:49):
but I just think his son wasn'tready and he's going to do more
harm than good putting him outthere.
Because now you're putting himout there, the lights and the
cameras, and you know there's alot of critics.
And I agree with you when I sayBronny's not ready yet.
I didn't see anything that tellsme he could be a pretty good
(29:12):
NBA player or a starter, or evenlast in the league for more
than three years.
You understand what I'm saying,but I guess he's an untitled
little boy, you know.
And LeBron wants to show I havethe power to do this.
Lebron has to have a hold onthat Laker organization.
That's like he must knowsomething that we don't know
(29:34):
because he has everybody.
He really big up to LeBron.
I don't like him as a player,but you know that power move.
He's a very powerful black manand he showed that you
understand what.
I'm saying I'm happy he got hisson in there, but I think it's
going to do more harm than goodpsychologically to Bronny.
Because you know, if I'm one ofthem dudes, and Bronny got a
guaranteed contract in thesecond round, which is million,
(30:08):
I think, yeah, imagine me, I'mfighting to get on the team and
this, this dude, I can't really.
I'm going at him.
Yeah, and I'm supposed to clearit out.
Yeah, I'm gonna expose you.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
So I feel, after it's all done,brownie might be a little
messed up psychologically.
Maybe he flips the script andgets better and, and you know,
makes it in the league.
But I just I wish him the best,but I just don't see it, man
Right.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
I see it.
You know what I see.
I see it like that.
It's a high-level nepotism andit's more or less that I mean.
I ain't going to lie.
If my nephew or if I had a son,I would try to push to get him
in.
Yes definitely I would put himin a position where he won't get
exposed.
That's the key.
If you're going to dohigh-level nepotism, you got to
(30:46):
put him in a place where you canhide his weaknesses.
Yes, With sports you can't doit.
Imagine if it was football.
Yes.
See, now it's like say it'sfootball and he's a running back
or the—.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
That defensive line is going to crush you.
Yeah, you're going to get themkilled.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Yeah, so it's like you know you can be
fundamentally sound as you want.
Yes.
But you cannot hide your realskill set when you got good
players around you.
Yes, you can't, you can't, even.
He couldn't even get away within college he couldn't even do
it in college.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yes, yes.
So if I was LeBron, I more soprobably would have try to get
him a job in the organization,doing something other than, you
know, playing.
Make sure he's stable.
But as far as putting him outthere, I mean he's going to be
like a deer in the headlightsnow, when I seen it, you know
he's realizing the speed of thegame is different in the NBA.
You know he didn't really getto play any college ball so he
really didn't get thatexperience he needed to take it
(31:35):
to the next level.
You know everybody coming afterprove, like everybody going to
come after him now.
Right, right, right.
So, do you?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
think that his run is going to last as long as LeBron
is in the league.
Nah, LeBron.
If LeBron leave next year, isBronny going to be able to stay
in the league Once?
Speaker 2 (31:59):
LeBron is out next week, bron Bronny going to be
able to stay in the league OnceLeBron is out next week.
Bronny's out Because, whateverhold he had on them, once it's
over that organization, oncethey cut ties with them,
bronny's just a part of thepackage deal to me.
You understand, we're justgoing to throw it.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
You'll throw that in, right, we're going to throw
that in his father yeah, but letme ask you a question would you
do it if your father waspushing for you to go into it
and sort of see basketball thatyou then play?
Would you accept that role,knowing that there's dudes out
there that crack your ass?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
you well, I don't, I don't, I don't I think brownie
is oblivious to the situationhe's going into.
I think he's just young and hejust thinks he could play ball
right, and he probably was likeyou, like you know, dominating
them AAU leagues which aren't asstrong as they used to be back
in the day.
No, he wasn't dominating, so Ithink he has a false sense of
security or he actually thinkshe's really better than he is.
(32:49):
So I don't think he's evenaware that he's taking spots
from other people.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
I think he knows I'm not knocking a hustle man.
Yeah, yeah, LeBron is gettinghis 40 acres in the mule.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Yeah, or maybe Brown is like yo.
You know what Brown is.
My dad Hold that down.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying,dad holding me down.
So what Y'all don't like it.
So what, brown run the NBAanyway.
It's right before ours, youknow yeah so hold that down,
yeah.
Maybe they're just flexing.
And it'll be like I ain't goingto stay there until Bryce come
(33:24):
in yeah, yeah, yeah, and Bryceactually look like he's going to
be a better prospect thanBronny, and he's taller too.
My main concern with Bronny isyou know, he's really short.
Yeah, he's small, he's small,he's too small.
The big are going to expose him.
Yeah yeah, rich people problems.
Ronnie was already set.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Right, but then he took a spot from a broke person.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
He took a spot from a broke person.
I'm with you with that.
You know, and these guys got togo overseas and show yeah, but
again that's flexing because youknow people do it all over the
world, Company-wise you knowNepotism.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
Nepotism is a big thing.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
There's a bunch of it in the NBA on its own, you know
, yeah, yeah.
So, like I said, I'm conflicted, I'm not against it, but I'm
not with it.
Right right, right.
If it was me, I would rather Iwouldn't.
My way of thinking, I'm alittle more old fashioned.
If my son, if I feel my sonwasn't ready, I would analyze
(34:20):
his skills and I'd be like yolisten, you're not ready yet.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm not going to put you in aposition to fail and get
embarrassed.
Yeah, so yo, I had a illweekend, man.
I pulled a double header thisweekend.
I went to two partiessimultaneously.
I ain't do that in yearssimultaneously.
I ain't do that in years youknow, what I'm saying and my
(34:42):
body's beat from the alcohol.
I ain't even going for it.
You know what I'm saying andyou know, then, while I'm
suffering with the after effects, I think like damn, I should be
like Mont and be able to strongenough to just cut that shit
out.
I'm a work in progress.
If you remember from the lastpodcast I shit out.
(35:02):
I'm a work in progress.
If we remember from the lastpodcast, I told you I'm going to
work in progress.
This is the first weekend Ireally did that.
You know what I'm saying but youknow I'm, I'm getting there,
but again, you, you, you're oneof my motivations to want to do
that.
So let's tell me how thingsbeen going since the last.
Have you been tempted to dip?
I know you have to be temptedsometimes, especially in the
(35:23):
social space, you understandwhat.
I'm saying how do you fightthose temptations?
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Let me tell you what happened.
You know what I mean.
It's like now that I'm tryingto be more out and about because
I'm promoting my programs, I'mpromoting my game and your
opinion doesn't matter.
You can get that at wwwyodmcom.
Yeah, go get that.
So I'm out and about socializingand one time, the homie, when
(35:52):
the cruisers came in town, Iwound up going on a boat ride
and I'm like I really don't wantto go to myself.
But then now, when I get there,first off, I don't know, since
I'm getting older, sometimes Isuffer with anxiety, Like I feel
like yo, I don't even want tobe, I don't want to be someplace
(36:14):
too long where I can't leave.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
I feel trapped when I just can't leave Yo man, let me
tell you a lot of people sufferwith anxiety, including myself,
so don't feel no way, my bro.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
So I'm like you know it's one of the flights and MRI
machines.
Those are the two, oh the MRI.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I can't stay there for long.
I have to set myself up.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
I got to go in then they got to take me and I got to
do for me, put me under yeah,oh, you got to get put under I
gotta put me, they gotta, theygotta put me under wow, so
that's it's real bad.
It's real bad, yeah so so, umso anxiety was kicking in for me
, man you have to get sedatedyou mean sedated.
Right, I had to get sedated inorder to do the mri machine.
(36:52):
Yeah, yeah, okay, I'm a wimp.
I'm a wimp, whatever you know.
I mean, you see, the crazything is they got so much
technology.
You could fly to the moon, youcould do this, you could do that
.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
Yeah, why they still got to put you in a coffin to
get there.
Speaker 1 (37:02):
Am I right?
You got to?
Speaker 2 (37:03):
stay in there for a half an hour.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Yeah, right, well, you know.
So I'm feeling the anxiety.
And then I get on the boat andit's like I'm like yo, I really
want to get off of this.
You know, strobe lights hit theboat, strobe lights hit Loud
music.
Yeah, I said oh shoot.
I said I need a drink.
(37:24):
Yo, I need a drink and I'm notseeing no seats.
I said, oh shoot, you wasn't ina party mood.
No, no.
So now I'm going down andsitting down and stuff like that
, but not only that.
There was another situationwhere I just start to feel that
(37:46):
Not that I want to drink, butthis is when I would drink, this
is the vibe I would drink in.
You know what I'm saying?
I felt that a couple timesduring this little summer me
here, me there, I'm like thiswould be perfect for me to drink
, but I won't.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
But this would be the for me to drink, but I won't.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
Yeah, but this, but this will be.
This will be the perfect thingto drink.
And it's like you know alcoholyou never really know how strong
you are until you get tempted.
Yeah, you never know how strongyou are, cause I mean, I was
able to, I was so strong and umdrinks by ducking places.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's how it was easy.
Staying out of social settings.
Staying out, yeah, avoiding it.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Yeah, you know I was on that.
You know you see me when yousee me, but now I'm outside.
You know what I mean.
I'm around and then, like Ijust went to a nice birthday
party for one of the homies andI see people with bottles and
walking around with bottles andnice, nice, niceness, Niceness,
(38:45):
Vibes, yeah, vibes, and it waslike it was a lot of us there.
It was just, everything waspositive and I'm like I just
felt that and then, but the onlything that was weird, it was
like everybody was like alooking contest, Everybody's
standing around, but it wasstanding around.
But it was weird.
It was like everybody was likea looking contest, everybody's
standing around, but but it wasstanding around, but it was love
it's not like, it's like nobodywas, nobody was like really
dancing, yeah, yeah so I'm likeI said I feel weird up in here.
(39:08):
Man, I'm gonna lie yo, I said,said I'm out of here.
Yo, I told the homies.
I said I'm out, see your mom,you leaving, yeah.
And then I saw another one,another one, uh, associate.
He says yo, man, I didn't seeyou in a long time.
Bro Yo, before you leave, yougot to take this shot with me.
Oh, that's crazy.
I said nah, bro, I'm done, Idon't drink no more.
Kid, I don't drink no more.
(39:29):
And he said oh, wow, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
It's strong, we don't tend to say, but you know
alcohol is a big drug and a lotof people suffer from it.
And you know there's differentkind of alcoholics.
There's weekend alcoholics,there's social alcoholics.
I know you remember when youand the guys, when you had the
liquor store and we used to seepeople with suits come in, you
(40:01):
know what I'm saying.
Get a pint of Georgie, turnaround, take that shit to the
head and then walk out and go totheir job and you see that on
an everyday basis Teachers andall that, teachers, everything.
Yeah, alcohol is a hell of asocial drug and you know,
especially West Indians, it'srites of passage.
I mean, I remember the firsttime my father said I could
(40:23):
drink I was 12.
But when I was 10, he wasgiving me little beers here and
there and it made me feel manly.
You know, you thought it wasthe thing to do.
You know what I'm saying andit's carried on.
But I'm trying to break thatcycle Like I don't even want my
son and my daughter.
I keep them away from it.
You know what I'm saying andhopefully you know they.
(40:44):
They could end this cursebecause father, grandfather,
back in islands, you know myfamily's from caracool grenade,
a big up caracool, youunderstand and when you go to
caracool none but rum house anddrinking from morning to night,
and if you turn the drink down,the man won't diss you like
you're a punk, you know.
Yeah, a lot of peer pressure,you know.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
I seen these guys in there sitting at a bar at like
10.30 in the morning bro that'sregular on the islands and then
I told one of the homies fromTrini.
He said yo, that's nothing, man, we got a lot of rum holes
that's nothing.
I mean, I heard the rum holethat was on Linden, but I didn't
really understand what is a rumhole.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
A rum hole is derived from the West Indies, the
islands.
It's a little shack.
This body puts up and they sellliquor there from morning till
night and it's a constant flow.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
So it is a real thing .
I thought it was just anickname for the spot on Linden.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
Don't quote me, but I think it's derived from because
in Caracol they got little rumshops.
It might be the size of abathroom and you go there, you
buy your own.
A work.
Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, you know.
Yeah, and that's the culture,that's the custom.
It's coping Like.
You know.
We spoke about it before.
It's a coping mechanism, supermechanism.
You know everybody, you knowyou're suffering, you're going
through all this, or you take alittle shot, you feel better for
(42:01):
a little while, you know, andthen you go home and you do it
all over again, you know.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Shit.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
Yeah, it's a tough cycle, you know.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah, man, I mean, well, you know, I'm still
fighting that fight.
Speaker 2 (42:12):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, You're doing good man.
How long has it been againmonths.
I'm two and a half years, I'msorry, two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
That's what's up man, big up to that, yeah, man, but
you go to that, you know.
But sometimes I do want toindulge, but, um, but hey I know
yeah, yes, yes, man, this was avery good episode.
Episode 83, man that youropinion doesn't matter.
Podcast, man, derived from thegame your opinion doesn't matter
, it's the ultimate debatinggame Very good debating game for
family and friends.
And you know you could get thatat wwwyodmcom.
(42:48):
Yeah, go get that.
Yeah.
So my closing statement is, man, you know, don't let temptation
lead you.
Don't let temptation lead you.
Let your wisdom guide you andthen lead you.
Don't let temptation lead you.
You, let your um, your wisdomguide you and then lead you.
You know, um, I've been, I'vebeen in a positive, very
(43:10):
positive space this last twoweeks of things.
This is happening for me, man,and it's like I just think that
if you stay, you stay, you stayin a positive place and, um,
positive things should happenfor you.
Man, just keep that mojo alive,man.
And you know, they say, if youknew better, you'd do better.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
That's right, that's right.
My closing statement, I'm goingto have to give a shout out to
a little island of Caracool.
I don't know if you was aware,but Hurricane Barrel, you heard
of it.
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Yeah, I heard about heard it.
That was in the caribbean.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
It did a number on caracool and people.
They lost about 90 90 percentof the island was flattened, so
a lot of people lost their homes.
A few lost their lives.
I just want to give a shout outand tell the people of caracool
that you know we're with them.
Stay strong, stay resilient.
You know what I'm saying.
You know, as long as you gotlife and health, you could build
(44:05):
everything back up.
You know what I'm saying.
And that goes to show that lifeis unpredictable, because I was
just there for Carnival inFebruary and now it literally
looks like a hurricane hit it.
Everything is tore up.
So you know, I'd like to give ashout out to my people in
caracool stay strong.
We love you.
Stay resilient, we'll build,we'll get there nice, nice, nice
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Yes, this is your opinion, doesn't matter.
Podcast episode 83 and we areoutie.
Peace, peace, peace, yeah, yeah, peace.
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