What if the stories we tell ourselves could change our lives? Join us as we welcome back Marcus Weiss, a remarkable actor, director, and educator who illuminates the power of storytelling in fostering personal empowerment and transformation. Marcus delves into how embracing positive narratives and compliments can spark our inner light, especially for those grappling with self-worth challenges. Discover the profound impact of storytelling as a bridge to meaningful connections, particularly for veterans seeking to transition smoothly into civilian life. This episode promises to rekindle your belief in your inherent worth and potential.
Ever wondered how to recognize when you've reached your limits in life? Let's explore the nuanced art of fulfillment and the importance of self-forgiveness. By envisioning our bodies as balloons, we navigate the sensations of expansion and contraction as guides for accepting or rejecting life's opportunities. We tackle the tricky terrain of past regrets and the exhaustion that comes from overcommitment, offering insights into maintaining balance. Trust your instincts and learn to say no, avoiding burnout while embracing a more resourceful and intentional approach to life.
Finally, let's unlock the transformative power of self-love and forgiveness. Reconnect with your inner child and cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance. Through simple yet profound daily rituals like self-reflection, discover how to shift from negative self-perceptions to nurturing positivity. Embrace every facet of yourself, even the less likable parts, as essential steps toward personal growth and fulfillment. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to celebrate your unique journey and find joy in every step.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with
Michael Cole, the podcast thatshines a compassionate light on
the journey of veterans battlingthrough life's challenges.
Michael is a dual elitecertified neuro encoding
specialist in coaching andkeynote training presentations
dedicated to guiding militaryveterans as they navigate the
intricate pathways ofpost-deployment life.
(00:23):
Join him as we delve into theprofound realm of neuroencoding
science, empowering these braveindividuals to conquer universal
battles procrastination,self-doubt, fear and more.
Together, let's uncover thestrength within you to re-engage
with families and society,forging a new path forward.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Hello, hello, hello everybody.
So I have my buddy, marcusWeiss, back on again.
Marcus is just this amazing man.
Love him to death and so happyto have you back on.
Tell you a little bit aboutMarcus.
He's an accomplished actor,director and educator with a
passion for storytelling andtransformation.
He's a dual elite, certifiedneuroencoding specialist,
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helping individuals harness joyto create fulfilling lives.
Strong personal connection tomilitary service, to his family,
including Air Force, a retiredNavy commander, and you know,
he's dedicated to guiding peopletoward recognizing their
inherent worth and stepping intotheir full potential, which how
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important is that in life, andespecially in this world today?
Let me just say that, marcus,my dear friend, tell us just a
little bit more about yourself.
People that don't know aboutyou yet haven't seen you on four
or five podcasts, somethinglike that, at this point.
Tell us a little more aboutyourself.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Well, thank you so much, Michael, for having me
back.
It's always great to haveanother invitation to come back,
which means that we can do itagain, and it means that we were
embraced the first time.
You know what I mean and we canpat ourselves on the back for
exactly that.
So if you're invited back intoa room, or if you're invited
back into a relationship or asecond date, whatever it is then
take credit for that.
Take credit for that so youfeel good about yourself and
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then we can feel good about thisrelationship.
So, thank you so much.
It's just such an honor tospeak with you and those that
you serve, and what's alsoreally really great is hearing
the story that other people tellabout us.
I invite everyone to, if acomplimentary word or if a
loving word comes your way,really open your ears and, most
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importantly, your heart to whatis being said about you,
especially if it's being saidwith sincerity and authenticity.
Trust that.
That's where it's coming from,and then go wait a minute.
If that's what's being saidabout me, and if they believe
that and I can believe that theybelieve that then that's
another little step towardsfeeling good about yourself and
it's really, really important.
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It's not an ego thing, it'sjust a thing that keeps our
light alive, because at somepoint we have to believe the
positive stories that otherstell about us and that we
consequently tell aboutourselves.
And I know this is a little bitof a tangent perhaps, and it's
really important theintroduction that you just gave
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me.
If I really hear that, then Igo like, wow, that's really
pretty cool, you know, and I gotto believe it.
So when you say, say a littlebit something about yourself,
I'm going to say, you know,thank you, and yes, those things
are true.
I have, I have to believe it.
So I'm a dual elite neuroencoding specialist.
You know, I help peopleespecially to leverage feelings
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of joy to empower their lives sothey want to move forward the
emphasis being on want to moveforward so that they're pulled
towards a life that excites themand live in their fullest, most
powerful self.
And I take a lot of tools fromthe stagecraft.
I have a master's degree inacting arguably too many degrees
for an actor and it means thatI know what I'm doing.
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I know what I'm doing up onthat stage to elicit, to, first
and foremost, create a story inmy head that then elicits
feelings, that then createsactions.
On that stage that this is veryimportant.
That influences the audience.
That influences the audience tomake up some kind of meaning,
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to feel something, to then to dosomething, which often is
clapping.
Sometimes it's getting enraged.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Sometimes it's like getting up and signing up for a,
for a theater subscription,whatever it is.
I uh, crying.
What's that crying?
Sometimes crying whatever it is, and then laughing a few
minutes later.
Laughing a few minutes lateryeah, fantastic, you know,
marcus um so it's something youknow, you, you bring that up and
I think it's such an importantthing for people to really take
in.
This is something I've beenworking on a lot, because it's
very easy to have somebody saysomething nice about you and not
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absorb it in and just move itback towards the other person.
Instead of really absorbingthat love and that compliment or
whatever the case may be, it'sso easy to say, yeah, that's
great, instead of reallyabsorbing that love and that
compliment or whatever the casemay be.
It's so easy to say, yeah,that's great, and hey, and how
are you doing?
And just deflecting andchanging, instead of really
absorbing that in.
Because, man, if you don'tstoke the fire, if you don't
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light your light, stoke yourlight, I should say it's going
to go out.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Right If you don't stoke your light.
And where is that line betweenstoking your own light and
allowing other people to helpstoke it?
To help stoke it, especially ifyou're in a place where you
feel stuck.
We're trying to.
You know, like our audience,you're trying to reintegrate
into, into, into something, intoa new environment that you,
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that you might doubting, thatyou don't feel safe in
necessarily.
How do you allow that in?
And it's a little bit of awhere exactly does it start?
Because if it's a self-worthissue, if we're talking about
perhaps a lack of self-worth ordisguised in humility, because
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sometimes you say, oh, I'm justbeing humble, I'm just being
humble, and underneath it couldbe this sense of lack of
self-love, of really not evenliking yourself, and it goes all
sorts of reasons.
But somewhere it has to start.
So we have to stoke itourselves and allow other people
to stoke it, and it can startsmall, you know.
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And, very importantly, how dowe and how do I, how can I help,
step in and help people rewritethose scripts and and and act,
act as if life is a stage forthem?
How can I step out and how canI get out of bed and and sort of
rewrite and become a differentcharacter.
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You know and make differentchoices in life.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Yeah, it's amazing how we have so many masks that
we wear.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
And removing them.
And you know, of course we'rewe're integrity is important, I
believe 100%, and so I try to beintegrous across the board.
But I think everybody hasdifferent masks to some extent,
that they wear around differentpeople, right, and we're totally
going to get on a totallydifferent subject right now.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well, you know, today's subject is when is
enough enough?
And when we talked about this.
You know there's different waysto interpret that.
When is enough enough?
And the way that I envisionedthat question is when can I step
into my authentic self?
When is that self that I feeland that comfort that I feel in
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life?
When is that a way that I wantto live Like?
When can I say?
When can I say you know whatthis feels good to me, I'm not
hurting anybody, I'm coming froma place of, perhaps love or
whatever that looks like to me.
My intentions are good and thatis enough.
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And when can we, when can Ichoose to be able to look out
into the world.
That is very tempting, to go inthis direction, to go in that
direction, to buy this, tobelieve that, and I'm able to
say, like you know what, thatI'm going to let in and I'm
going to let that affect me, butthat, no, not going to do it.
And that takes, and thatcombination of openness and
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saying yes and that filter ofsaying like no, thank you,
that's going to rock my boat ina way that's not going to serve
me and it's going to make mefeel like this and therefore
it's not going to help mycommunity and my family and
those I love, then no, thank you.
That's what that question meansto me.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Got it and I love that because you know it also
could be when is enough enough,right?
It's absolutely what it meansto you, right?
Because when I read it, that'swhat I read, and then we talked
for a second and it's like, yeah, it goes both ways and
absolutely love what you'rebringing up.
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Before we really dive in,marcus, I just want to remind
everyone on the top right cornerthere's a blue QR code takes
you to Empower PerformanceStrategies.
Top right corner, there's ablue QR code Takes you to
Empower Performance Strategies.
It's taken me 95 podcasts to getthat right, partly so it takes
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you toempowerperformancestrategiescom
for people listening on thepodcast forums.
Later on, again,empowerperformancestrategiescom
All kinds of free e-books andtools and Facebook groups for
both family members and veteransthemselves.
Ask, hey, check it out, getinvolved in the mission.
So, with that said, shall wedive in deeper?
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Yes, all right.
So let's talk about when a solet's talk about when you're
really trying to recognize whenyou reach that point in their
career or relationships orpersonal growth, good or bad.
Let's go to the positive whenis enough enough, where for
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fulfillment in those kinds ofthings.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I guess you mean when does one?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, I'm spinning in a different direction.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
I pause it because I want to choose the right words.
Do you mean when is enough?
Enough for one's self or,objectively speaking, because
that's two different yet relatedthings.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Yeah.
So let's start with self, firstSelf, and then let's see where
we go from there.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Okay, there's a physical thing that I believe we
can do to help with answeringthat question, and that is I
invite everyone to take theirfinger, if you can, if you're
not driving, and then I want youto put it on your sternum,
right sort of between your ribs,and I want you to imagine that
you're a little balloon with atiny hole in it and I want you
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to deflate a little bit, deflate, deflate, deflate, deflate, and
at some point you feel yourchest kind of collapsing and
wherever that is for your ownbody, and that moment of
collapsing or going inward isdifferent than I want you to now
plug that hole in the balloon,in the imaginary balloon, and
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inflate a little bit, inflate,inflate, inflate the balloon.
And somewhere in there, alittle bit, inflate, inflate,
inflate the balloon, andsomewhere in there your chest
feels like it's inflating or itfeels like it's expanding.
It just gives you the tinylittle feeling of of I like to
call yes versus no, and and andit's somewhere in.
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There is a transition betweenthese feelings of yes, or I
could also call themresourcefulness, or embrace of
life, or feeling of confidence,or feeling of flow, feeling of
forward, and a feeling ofunresourcefulness, a feeling of
no, a feeling of closed off, afeeling of pullback, a feeling
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of waiting, a feeling ofstuckness, a feeling of
frustration If you go, really afeeling of fear.
It's all those things on thecollapse, on the no spectrum
versus the things that are onthe yes spectrum.
And I know it sounds a little,it could be a little woo-woo,
but imagine if you're in themilitary and you're standing
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there at attention, your chestis essentially out.
You're standing at attention,you're ready, you're saying yes
to life versus collapsing, whichis fear, which is saying no,
which is protecting yourselffrom the things that are outside
.
But it's also closing.
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Is that when it feels expansive,when the thought of something
and therefore the meaning ofsomething and the feeling of
something that you'reencountering or doing or
thinking about doing, or arelationship that you're in, if
it feels more on the positiveside of feelings, more often
than it does on the negativeside of feelings, then that is
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something to lean into, Thenthat is something.
When it feels, when it moreoften feels on the unresourceful
, on the negative, on the closedoff sides of feelings, when
you're doing it or when you'rethinking about it, then that is
probably.
That's probably enough of that,then that is probably.
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That's probably enough of that.
That's when it's enough of thatand more of the other thing.
You know, I have mentors andfriends of mine who put it a lot
more simply or summarize itlike if it feels good down here,
do more of it.
If it doesn't feel good, doless of it.
When it feels good from the neckdown, when it feels good again,
if you're coming from apositive place, if you're coming
from a place of good intentions, then do more of it.
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Then it's not enough of thatfor you.
You can have more of it.
It's healthy for you.
You don have another helping soand ultimately that choice is
up to you, but it's so.
You can phrase it like trustyour gut you know that's even
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lower than your heart like trustyour heart, and it's often
easier said than done.
It's often easier said thandone.
It's often easier said thandone because our feelings in
there often get clouded by thethoughts that were conditioned
and your thoughts, your reality,that's oftentimes clouded by
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our thoughts.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
So what would you say ?
Sometimes, when people aretrying to, and we're going to go
back to enough is enough, there, there, there, there are a lot
of times there are people, um,that have dealt with something
in their past.
And I'm going again a little alittle different here, because I
think it's an important thingfor people to to hear, or
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analyze, if you will.
They they're, and it leads toburnout generally.
Um, but they're.
And again, back to enough isenough.
They are really just trying tomake up for past things.
Right, they weren't proud ofthemselves when they were
younger.
They struggled with things.
In their teenage years, theydid things they weren't proud of
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and self-loathing, I mean.
There's all kinds of you know,potential things in there.
So what would be some tips orsome thoughts that you would say
to be careful of, if you will,or when enough is enough?
On that other side of hey, I'mjust doing all of these things
and I'm in this and I'm in that,I'm in this and I'm going to
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implode because of so many, somany things, because fulfillment
is is one thing and doingthings to be busy and to make up
for the past is a whole nother.
So give me some thoughts onthat, if you will.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Oh, ok, nuggets, Thank you.
So, thank you so much for thatno-transcript quote here, but
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okay, so, just, oh, is thatmakeup?
Oh, something to the effect ofyou making up for the past,
right?
So, unconsciously orconsciously, you're like, no,
you know what I was this in thepast?
Never again I'm going to dothis right.
And even though we think it's apositive intention, right, I'm
going to be better than that guy, I'm going to be better than
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that.
It can let us somehow that'sgoing to, you were saying, lead
to burnout, because ultimately,we're running from the past.
Ultimately, we're still lookingin the rear view mirror.
We're still looking in the rearview mirror making up, and our
fuel is still that past.
And unless, I believe, unlessour past can inform our present
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sort of for the to lift us uplike a hot air balloon, that
we're looking back on that andgoing like you know what that
dude survived, all that stuff,whatever, and we can do it with
the corners of our mouth abovethe horizontal even a little bit
.
In other words, that we canhave a meaning attached to our
past that produces something onthe positive emotion spectrum,
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not the negative, not every timewe think about it.
Okay, and the reason for thatis is that if it's on the
negative side of the spectrum,something in us still wants to
change it, and that's whereregret comes in and resentment,
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either in others or ourselves.
Those two r's regret andresentment, have to do with
wanting to change what happened10 years ago, to change what
happened 15 years ago, to changewhat happened five minutes ago.
And the thing about that is youcan't and this is coming from a
see what happened there, thatsilence that was me going into
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the past and I'm an actor so Ican temporarily put meanings on.
That trigger sadness.
But I can snap out of it.
Stop, I'm freaking.
Magnificent.
Yes, pat pat, pat, pat, pat.
I'm amazing.
That was called the stoptechnique, by the way.
So we're back in the present.
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So wanting to change the pastis what keeps us stuck there.
And even though we don't thinkwe're trying to change the past,
if we allow ourselves to moveforward to make up for the past,
that's still a version of it.
That's still a version of it.
It still avert.
That's still a version of it.
It's still like you like to say.
I think it's like a backpackfull of rocks.
I love that analogy.
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You're still going forward, butyou're you're doing it because
you got this sack of of stuff.
So the the you asked how do wemove forward from that?
How do we we change that?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
How are we careful of wanting to do so much?
And I think you've already hitthree quarters of it.
Just on the analogy of we'retrying to make up for the past.
We've not forgiven ourselvesfor who we were, where we were
at the time, the person we were,because we didn't know any
better at the time.
For the most part and I thinkit's a huge thing for
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forgiveness you know where youwere, who you were at the time,
because most people, I think,are doing the best they can and
they just don't know better orthey don't have the skills or
they don't have any of thosekinds of things.
Really, one of the mostinfluential ways I've forgiven
myself for my, for my past,because I didn't know any better
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.
I needed to go through thosethings to learn and grow, yeah,
to be the person I am now.
Sure it's like.
So touch base on that.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Well, yeah, absolutely, I mean, and I and I
tear up, just I tear up thinkingabout it because it's it's
really touching.
And this moment what comes upfor me is that you needed to go
through the manure I'm going touse that word, right.
I mean, manure makes thingsright, makes things grow, and
it's one thing to know that,that going through all that
stuff has allowed you to becomethis thing right.
It's one thing to sort of knowthat and go like, yeah, that's
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great, great.
But how do we allow that toactually actually go down into
our heart and open our and openus up and actually make us sort
of feel good about ourselves?
And one of the things that comesup for me is I heard this
wonderful thing a friend andmentor shared where, where he
was thinking back to the kidbefore the before stuff hit the
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fan, you, you know, like, thinkback and maybe you have a
picture, or whatever it is.
Maybe you have a picture ofyourself, that little kid, and
you can imagine in your mind whodidn't know better, who wasn't
looking forward, who didn't knowwhat was coming and who didn't
have these images of of him orher or themselves, yet, these
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ingrained thoughts aboutself-worth and all that.
We're all born, you know,pretty confident and pretty
comfortable.
We cry immediately because thisworld is harsh.
You know we come out and slow,but essentially we're pretty,
you know, innocent and forwardlooking and looking for the good
in others and ourselves and theworld.
And I think if we think back tothat, I think if we think back
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to that person, we're still thatperson.
If we can love that child, ifwe can do that, then we can love
the self that is us.
It's a crazy kind of thought ina way, but we can be reborn any
moment, and I know it soundskind of a little bit hokey, it
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sounds a little bit hokey.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
It's not, it's awesome.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Ultimately, and it's great.
Yeah, thank you.
It's ultimately a split moment,a split second decision, or
it's a split second event, andsometimes it's very small and it
might last for a second, but wecan inch up to that, we can
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inch up to forgiveness, we caninch up to self-love and and
it's scary it can be scary for alot of us, especially those of
us who have a poopy past, butultimately we have to let it, we
have to allow us to, to takethat step.
We have to allow us ourselvesto go from that non-resourceful
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into that resourceful, or to orto to take that leap, or
whatever.
However you want to think of it.
Yeah To to.
To look in that mirror, even ifit's briefly and this is a
physical thing we can do lookinto that mirror and, rather
than just looking at our hairdoor seeing whether our earring is
hanging a certain way orwhether our shirt is tied I mean
, our tie is straight lookyourself in the eye and see
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yourself for just a second.
And see yourself for a second asyou would another person that
you might be in love with or ortrying to find love, and even if
it's just for a split second,and you'll know it, when you see
yourself, yes and that's, andwhen you do, I believe that is a
moment when you actually aresaying you're enough and and
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when you can say you're enough,you're and you'll start, and you
can say that more often andmore deeply about yourself with
the help of the mirror.
Actually see yourself, you'regoing to embrace yourself, and
the more you embrace yourself,the more you will embrace the
things that are good for you inyour life and I would, for lack
of a better word, perhaps rejectthe things that aren't.
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The more you say you're enough,the more you'll be able to say
on the outside that's enough ofthat, because if you love your
plant, you don't pour, you,don't pour junk on it.
If you love your kid, you don't, you know, you, you treat it
with care.
Or your, your, your dog, yourhouse.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Absolutely, would you say and this is again me, you
know, once you've forgivenyourself.
And that mirror exercise, firstof all, I do it every day.
I think it's absolutelyphenomenal when you look at
yourself in the mirror, in youreyes, and you feel your soul.
I think there's not a betterconnection to yourself that I
have found, literally, than that.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Yes, yes, and acknowledge what comes up.
Oh yeah, because it's okay ifyou see yourself and and you,
you see something you don't like.
Take that as a little warninglight on the car or a traffic
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signal that says you know, knowsomething, something crossing
like, beware, you know, causeultimately you're all you got.
Yeah, ultimately you're all yougot, and because you're all you
got it, you're also there forothers.
So so take that as a sign oflike hey, man, it's ultimately
best If you can look at yourselfand find something and see your
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soul and dig it and like it.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Amen.
Speaker 3 (26:05):
And it's hard, or want to embrace it at least.
Yeah, you know how you can loveyour kids, but not like them
sometimes.
You know that whole thing.
I mean it's not like no, Idon't like Sure, sure, there's
parts of you I don't like, youknow, know, so you can look at
yourself and go like, yes, youknow, you know, hey, man, we're
getting better at this, we'regetting better at that and you
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love yourself and that means youwant to take care of yourself
and set boundaries for yourselfand get back in there and
embrace life and enjoy life andall that.
It starts with you absolutely Ilove that.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Hey, marcus, so we're almost out of time.
I can't even believe this.
Already.
This went way too quick.
Just means we get to do itagain.
Yes, so would you say thatreally?
And this is my take, so I'm nottrying to put words in your
mouth, so understand that first.
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And we're friends so we don'tdo that to each other.
Anyway, we just talk.
So, yeah, absolutely so.
When you've found fulfillment,you found a purpose.
I'm big on fulfillment Actually, kane Shy talked to me about
this and I really likefulfillment.
When you have found that, um,when you have found that um,
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that's kind of where the top ofthe pyramid is.
Yes, when you found thatpurpose, when you found the
reason that, uh, you, you knowyou get up early and stay up
late, when because you generallydon't burn out when you found
happiness in what you're doing,would you agree to talk to me
about that?
I would agree.
I would.
About your bubble?
I would agree.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
I would absolutely agree and I know this from
experience because it wasn't toolong ago where I had a lot of
happy moments you know awonderful wife, a beautiful wife
and a and wonderful kids andfriends who loved me and who I
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love.
You know who I loved and andjobs that were amazing.
But something was gnawing at me.
There was something where Icouldn't wait to go to sleep and
I didn't want to get up in themorning and the worst part was I
thought that was normal, like Ithought, meaning I accepted it.
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I accepted it until someoneelse and it was online, like
mentors and people I foundonline.
They said and asked thequestion when is enough enough?
And with their help, I came torealize something like enough of
this, enough of this.
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And through certain things andneural coding was one of them,
perhaps the most impactful thingI found a feeling and it
started at the top of my headand went all the way to my toes
of integrity, of fullness, offulfillment, where all of a
sudden and I found myself almostin spite of myself, not wanting
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to go to sleep anymore andcouldn't wait to get back up
when it was like a little kidagain, like that little kid and
it's crazy town.
And it wasn't just for a week,it lasted for a long time and it
comes back whenever I choosefor it to come back.
And the great thing is, onceyou know it, you can't unknow it
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.
And so if you get back andhere's the great thing we do, I
have moments of this.
Do I have moments of down?
Yes, and I know I can get backup.
Do I have hours?
Sometimes?
Sure, and I know that I'mchoosing it for some reason to
explore it, or they go like youknow what, but it's not a reward
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.
How is?
How is staying frustrated onpurpose a reward?
How is going like you know whatI deserve to sulk for for an
afternoon?
It's like okay, anyway, um, but, yes, are so fulfillment.
Fulfillment is, is, is key andyou'll know it.
And you'll know it because it's, it's your mission.
When you know it's your mission, um, and whether it's a, it's a
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mission of drive, or whetherit's I want to exist in love,
you'll know it because you'llfeel it from the top of your
head energy flow to the bottomof your toes.
Man, that's it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So here's the thing, right, when you said mission
because what do I?
Always?
I don't call this work, ever,this is not work for me, and I
call it my mission, join themission, et cetera as soon as
you said that, I literally gotchills through my whole body.
There you go, that was.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
That was amazing my friend, that's when you know
it's right.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Yeah, and it's you know.
You feel it like you know inyour body.
You do listen to your body whenyou feel like crap.
Listen to your body when youfeel amazing and energetic.
And to your body when you feelamazing and energetic and like
nothing's going to stop you inthe world.
Listen to your body.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Listen to your body and give that credit, believe
that, believe that feeling andbelieve that that's as important
and as valuable to you and tothose around you and to the
world as as are the when youfeel not good.
We give way too much credit tothe not good and not enough
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credit to the to the good yeahand marcus, yes.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
How do we get credit to the good?
How do we make that stick andanchor that into ourselves?
Speaker 3 (31:40):
Well, I would say, I would point to myself and go I
am magnificent.
And then I make a fist and I goyes, and then I pat myself on
my own back or on my chest, andthen you got to celebrate, you
got to put it in yourself, yougot to celebrate so that you
then go that was a good thing.
I want to do more of it.
So thank you and I celebrateyou for this amazing episode.
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Your mission is just the best.
I'll always join your mission.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Thank you, man, thank you, my dear friend, truly, you
know you being on here isalways a light of my day,
absolutely.
I know it's going to be fun.
I know we're going to talkabout some really great stuff,
sometimes hard, sometimesabsolutely amazing, but good
information to create thattsunami for good.
You know I've moved past theripple effect.
I'm just going tsunami for goodnow.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Why not why?
Speaker 2 (32:30):
not change the language and make it.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, absolutely Do tsunami for good.
Oh, now that's taken Okay.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Amen, man.
Hey, so we're way past time.
All right, brother, how dopeople reach out?
Speaker 3 (32:41):
to you.
Well, I am Marcus Jacob Weisson Facebook, I am
TheMarcusWeissExperience onInstagram, Marcus Weiss on
LinkedIn andwwwTheMarcusWeissExperiencecom,
and I will send you a link forthe Joy Experience, which is a
two-weekend virtual joyempowerment.
(33:03):
I would call it journey Okay,Call it a course if you will,
and that's on Saturday the 1stand Saturday the 8th of March.
That's coming up.
So if anybody wants to join myjourney or my mission, I'm happy
to have them included.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Fantastic.
And, Marcus, please, when we'redone, go into all the social
media, post it everywhere,please.
I will do, as always, so withthat said if you can give us
three tips to get veteransfurther faster.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Three tips to get further, faster Okay, great.
And I've shared this before andI will share it again.
When you wake up in the morningand your eyes open, okay, take
your fingers and remember me anddo this.
Okay, you can either do it likeme or a little less silly, but
here we go.
It's going to be a great day,just like that.
And remember this moment andremember it'll make you smile
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just enough to make you believeit, just enough to feel it, just
enough to move and get out ofbed.
That's the first step.
If you don't get out of bed,nothing is going to happen.
And second, on the other sideof the day, when your head hits
the pillow, please, in yourbrain, review the things that
went well that day.
It doesn't matter.
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Just go scan your day from thefirst, even if the first thought
is like, well, I made it, okay,great, just give yourself
credit for the things that wentgreat.
Do not hit your head on thepillow and go like, thank God,
no, go to the resourcefulfeelings, okay.
And the other thing is this takea breath Whenever you.
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If you, it's kind of like.
If it feels like cheating, itis cheating, you know.
If it feels like you're goingto be angry and let something
out.
That's not great.
You will get angry and letsomething out.
That's not going to be great.
Trust, trust the trust, thatfeeling, sorry, trust that gut.
So then take three seconds andjust do this, breathe in.
(34:57):
You know they say count to 10,count to five.
You know what, when you breathein, it will be at least three
seconds.
So take a slow, deep breath in.
That's all you need to do.
Don't worry about counting,just if you feel that coming,
just go and in that moment,remember this moment.
In that moment remember you'redoing that for a reason.
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You're doing that to stop, toput your foot on the brake, and
it'll make you let out somethingdifferent.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
I absolutely love it.
My friend Marcus yes, friend,most precious resource we have
is human beings.
Sure is we do not get it back.
Thank you for spending thispart of your life, these few
minutes of your life, with us tocreate that tsunami for good.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
So thank you, my friend, my pleasure, as always.
I'll see you soon, I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
All right, brother, I love you have an amazing day
and everybody we're out of here,we're out.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
Thank you for joining us on another insightful
journey of your thoughts yourreality podcast with your host,
michael Cole.
We hope the conversationsparked some thoughts that
resonate with you.
To dive deeper into empoweringyour thoughts and enhancing your
reality, visitempowerperformancestrategiescom.
Remember your thoughts shapeyour reality, so make them count
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.
Until next time, stay inspiredand keep creating the reality
you desire.
Catch you on the next episode.
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Speaker 2 (00:47):
Hello, hello, hello everybody.
So I have my buddy, marcusWeiss, back on again.
Marcus is just this amazing man.
Love him to death and so happyto have you back on.
Tell you a little bit aboutMarcus.
He's an accomplished actor,director and educator with a
passion for storytelling andtransformation.
He's a dual elite, certifiedneuroencoding specialist,
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helping individuals harness joyto create fulfilling lives.
Strong personal connection tomilitary service, to his family,
including Air Force, a retiredNavy commander, and you know,
he's dedicated to guiding peopletoward recognizing their
inherent worth and stepping intotheir full potential, which how
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important is that in life, andespecially in this world today?
Let me just say that, marcus,my dear friend, tell us just a
little bit more about yourself.
People that don't know aboutyou yet haven't seen you on four
or five podcasts, somethinglike that, at this point.
Tell us a little more aboutyourself.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Well, thank you so much, Michael, for having me
back.
It's always great to haveanother invitation to come back,
which means that we can do itagain, and it means that we were
embraced the first time.
You know what I mean and we canpat ourselves on the back for
exactly that.
So if you're invited back intoa room, or if you're invited
back into a relationship or asecond date, whatever it is then
take credit for that.
Take credit for that so youfeel good about yourself and
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then we can feel good about thisrelationship.
So, thank you so much.
It's just such an honor tospeak with you and those that
you serve, and what's alsoreally really great is hearing
the story that other people tellabout us.
I invite everyone to, if acomplimentary word or if a
loving word comes your way,really open your ears and, most
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importantly, your heart to whatis being said about you,
especially if it's being saidwith sincerity and authenticity.
Trust that.
That's where it's coming from,and then go wait a minute.
If that's what's being saidabout me, and if they believe
that and I can believe that theybelieve that then that's
another little step towardsfeeling good about yourself and
it's really, really important.
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It's not an ego thing, it'sjust a thing that keeps our
light alive, because at somepoint we have to believe the
positive stories that otherstell about us and that we
consequently tell aboutourselves.
And I know this is a little bitof a tangent perhaps, and it's
really important theintroduction that you just gave
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me.
If I really hear that, then Igo like, wow, that's really
pretty cool, you know, and I gotto believe it.
So when you say, say a littlebit something about yourself,
I'm going to say, you know,thank you, and yes, those things
are true.
I have, I have to believe it.
So I'm a dual elite neuroencoding specialist.
You know, I help peopleespecially to leverage feelings
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of joy to empower their lives sothey want to move forward the
emphasis being on want to moveforward so that they're pulled
towards a life that excites themand live in their fullest, most
powerful self.
And I take a lot of tools fromthe stagecraft.
I have a master's degree inacting arguably too many degrees
for an actor and it means thatI know what I'm doing.
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I know what I'm doing up onthat stage to elicit, to, first
and foremost, create a story inmy head that then elicits
feelings, that then createsactions.
On that stage that this is veryimportant.
That influences the audience.
That influences the audience tomake up some kind of meaning,
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to feel something, to then to dosomething, which often is
clapping.
Sometimes it's getting enraged.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Sometimes it's like getting up and signing up for a,
for a theater subscription,whatever it is.
I uh, crying.
What's that crying?
Sometimes crying whatever it is, and then laughing a few
minutes later.
Laughing a few minutes lateryeah, fantastic, you know,
marcus um so it's something youknow, you, you bring that up and
I think it's such an importantthing for people to really take
in.
This is something I've beenworking on a lot, because it's
very easy to have somebody saysomething nice about you and not
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absorb it in and just move itback towards the other person.
Instead of really absorbingthat love and that compliment or
whatever the case may be, it'sso easy to say, yeah, that's
great, instead of reallyabsorbing that love and that
compliment or whatever the casemay be.
It's so easy to say, yeah,that's great, and hey, and how
are you doing?
And just deflecting andchanging, instead of really
absorbing that in.
Because, man, if you don'tstoke the fire, if you don't
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light your light, stoke yourlight, I should say it's going
to go out.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Right If you don't stoke your light.
And where is that line betweenstoking your own light and
allowing other people to helpstoke it?
To help stoke it, especially ifyou're in a place where you
feel stuck.
We're trying to.
You know, like our audience,you're trying to reintegrate
into, into, into something, intoa new environment that you,
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that you might doubting, thatyou don't feel safe in
necessarily.
How do you allow that in?
And it's a little bit of awhere exactly does it start?
Because if it's a self-worthissue, if we're talking about
perhaps a lack of self-worth ordisguised in humility, because
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sometimes you say, oh, I'm justbeing humble, I'm just being
humble, and underneath it couldbe this sense of lack of
self-love, of really not evenliking yourself, and it goes all
sorts of reasons.
But somewhere it has to start.
So we have to stoke itourselves and allow other people
to stoke it, and it can startsmall, you know.
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And, very importantly, how dowe and how do I, how can I help,
step in and help people rewritethose scripts and and and act,
act as if life is a stage forthem?
How can I step out and how canI get out of bed and and sort of
rewrite and become a differentcharacter.
(06:48):
You know and make differentchoices in life.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Yeah, it's amazing how we have so many masks that
we wear.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
And removing them.
And you know, of course we'rewe're integrity is important, I
believe 100%, and so I try to beintegrous across the board.
But I think everybody hasdifferent masks to some extent,
that they wear around differentpeople, right, and we're totally
going to get on a totallydifferent subject right now.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well, you know, today's subject is when is
enough enough?
And when we talked about this.
You know there's different waysto interpret that.
When is enough enough?
And the way that I envisionedthat question is when can I step
into my authentic self?
When is that self that I feeland that comfort that I feel in
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life?
When is that a way that I wantto live Like?
When can I say?
When can I say you know whatthis feels good to me, I'm not
hurting anybody, I'm coming froma place of, perhaps love or
whatever that looks like to me.
My intentions are good and thatis enough.
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And when can we, when can Ichoose to be able to look out
into the world.
That is very tempting, to go inthis direction, to go in that
direction, to buy this, tobelieve that, and I'm able to
say, like you know what, thatI'm going to let in and I'm
going to let that affect me, butthat, no, not going to do it.
And that takes, and thatcombination of openness and
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saying yes and that filter ofsaying like no, thank you,
that's going to rock my boat ina way that's not going to serve
me and it's going to make mefeel like this and therefore
it's not going to help mycommunity and my family and
those I love, then no, thank you.
That's what that question meansto me.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Got it and I love that because you know it also
could be when is enough enough,right?
It's absolutely what it meansto you, right?
Because when I read it, that'swhat I read, and then we talked
for a second and it's like, yeah, it goes both ways and
absolutely love what you'rebringing up.
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Before we really dive in,marcus, I just want to remind
everyone on the top right cornerthere's a blue QR code takes
you to Empower PerformanceStrategies.
Top right corner, there's ablue QR code Takes you to
Empower Performance Strategies.
It's taken me 95 podcasts to getthat right, partly so it takes
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you toempowerperformancestrategiescom
for people listening on thepodcast forums.
Later on, again,empowerperformancestrategiescom
All kinds of free e-books andtools and Facebook groups for
both family members and veteransthemselves.
Ask, hey, check it out, getinvolved in the mission.
So, with that said, shall wedive in deeper?
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Yes, all right.
So let's talk about when a solet's talk about when you're
really trying to recognize whenyou reach that point in their
career or relationships orpersonal growth, good or bad.
Let's go to the positive whenis enough enough, where for
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fulfillment in those kinds ofthings.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I guess you mean when does one?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, I'm spinning in a different direction.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
I pause it because I want to choose the right words.
Do you mean when is enough?
Enough for one's self or,objectively speaking, because
that's two different yet relatedthings.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Yeah.
So let's start with self, firstSelf, and then let's see where
we go from there.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Okay, there's a physical thing that I believe we
can do to help with answeringthat question, and that is I
invite everyone to take theirfinger, if you can, if you're
not driving, and then I want youto put it on your sternum,
right sort of between your ribs,and I want you to imagine that
you're a little balloon with atiny hole in it and I want you
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to deflate a little bit, deflate, deflate, deflate, deflate, and
at some point you feel yourchest kind of collapsing and
wherever that is for your ownbody, and that moment of
collapsing or going inward isdifferent than I want you to now
plug that hole in the balloon,in the imaginary balloon, and
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inflate a little bit, inflate,inflate, inflate the balloon.
And somewhere in there, alittle bit, inflate, inflate,
inflate the balloon, andsomewhere in there your chest
feels like it's inflating or itfeels like it's expanding.
It just gives you the tinylittle feeling of of I like to
call yes versus no, and and andit's somewhere in.
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There is a transition betweenthese feelings of yes, or I
could also call themresourcefulness, or embrace of
life, or feeling of confidence,or feeling of flow, feeling of
forward, and a feeling ofunresourcefulness, a feeling of
no, a feeling of closed off, afeeling of pullback, a feeling
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of waiting, a feeling ofstuckness, a feeling of
frustration If you go, really afeeling of fear.
It's all those things on thecollapse, on the no spectrum
versus the things that are onthe yes spectrum.
And I know it sounds a little,it could be a little woo-woo,
but imagine if you're in themilitary and you're standing
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there at attention, your chestis essentially out.
You're standing at attention,you're ready, you're saying yes
to life versus collapsing, whichis fear, which is saying no,
which is protecting yourselffrom the things that are outside
.
But it's also closing.
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Is that when it feels expansive,when the thought of something
and therefore the meaning ofsomething and the feeling of
something that you'reencountering or doing or
thinking about doing, or arelationship that you're in, if
it feels more on the positiveside of feelings, more often
than it does on the negativeside of feelings, then that is
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something to lean into, Thenthat is something.
When it feels, when it moreoften feels on the unresourceful
, on the negative, on the closedoff sides of feelings, when
you're doing it or when you'rethinking about it, then that is
probably.
That's probably enough of that,then that is probably.
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That's probably enough of that.
That's when it's enough of thatand more of the other thing.
You know, I have mentors andfriends of mine who put it a lot
more simply or summarize itlike if it feels good down here,
do more of it.
If it doesn't feel good, doless of it.
When it feels good from the neckdown, when it feels good again,
if you're coming from apositive place, if you're coming
from a place of good intentions, then do more of it.
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Then it's not enough of thatfor you.
You can have more of it.
It's healthy for you.
You don have another helping soand ultimately that choice is
up to you, but it's so.
You can phrase it like trustyour gut you know that's even
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lower than your heart like trustyour heart, and it's often
easier said than done.
It's often easier said thandone.
It's often easier said thandone because our feelings in
there often get clouded by thethoughts that were conditioned
and your thoughts, your reality,that's oftentimes clouded by
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our thoughts.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
So what would you say ?
Sometimes, when people aretrying to, and we're going to go
back to enough is enough, there, there, there, there are a lot
of times there are people, um,that have dealt with something
in their past.
And I'm going again a little alittle different here, because I
think it's an important thingfor people to to hear, or
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analyze, if you will.
They they're, and it leads toburnout generally.
Um, but they're.
And again, back to enough isenough.
They are really just trying tomake up for past things.
Right, they weren't proud ofthemselves when they were
younger.
They struggled with things.
In their teenage years, theydid things they weren't proud of
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and self-loathing, I mean.
There's all kinds of you know,potential things in there.
So what would be some tips orsome thoughts that you would say
to be careful of, if you will,or when enough is enough?
On that other side of hey, I'mjust doing all of these things
and I'm in this and I'm in that,I'm in this and I'm going to
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implode because of so many, somany things, because fulfillment
is is one thing and doingthings to be busy and to make up
for the past is a whole nother.
So give me some thoughts onthat, if you will.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Oh, ok, nuggets, Thank you.
So, thank you so much for thatno-transcript quote here, but
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okay, so, just, oh, is thatmakeup?
Oh, something to the effect ofyou making up for the past,
right?
So, unconsciously orconsciously, you're like, no,
you know what I was this in thepast?
Never again I'm going to dothis right.
And even though we think it's apositive intention, right, I'm
going to be better than that guy, I'm going to be better than
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that.
It can let us somehow that'sgoing to, you were saying, lead
to burnout, because ultimately,we're running from the past.
Ultimately, we're still lookingin the rear view mirror.
We're still looking in the rearview mirror making up, and our
fuel is still that past.
And unless, I believe, unlessour past can inform our present
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sort of for the to lift us uplike a hot air balloon, that
we're looking back on that andgoing like you know what that
dude survived, all that stuff,whatever, and we can do it with
the corners of our mouth abovethe horizontal even a little bit
.
In other words, that we canhave a meaning attached to our
past that produces something onthe positive emotion spectrum,
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not the negative, not every timewe think about it.
Okay, and the reason for thatis is that if it's on the
negative side of the spectrum,something in us still wants to
change it, and that's whereregret comes in and resentment,
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either in others or ourselves.
Those two r's regret andresentment, have to do with
wanting to change what happened10 years ago, to change what
happened 15 years ago, to changewhat happened five minutes ago.
And the thing about that is youcan't and this is coming from a
see what happened there, thatsilence that was me going into
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the past and I'm an actor so Ican temporarily put meanings on.
That trigger sadness.
But I can snap out of it.
Stop, I'm freaking.
Magnificent.
Yes, pat pat, pat, pat, pat.
I'm amazing.
That was called the stoptechnique, by the way.
So we're back in the present.
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So wanting to change the pastis what keeps us stuck there.
And even though we don't thinkwe're trying to change the past,
if we allow ourselves to moveforward to make up for the past,
that's still a version of it.
That's still a version of it.
It still avert.
That's still a version of it.
It's still like you like to say.
I think it's like a backpackfull of rocks.
I love that analogy.
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You're still going forward, butyou're you're doing it because
you got this sack of of stuff.
So the the you asked how do wemove forward from that?
How do we we change that?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
How are we careful of wanting to do so much?
And I think you've already hitthree quarters of it.
Just on the analogy of we'retrying to make up for the past.
We've not forgiven ourselvesfor who we were, where we were
at the time, the person we were,because we didn't know any
better at the time.
For the most part and I thinkit's a huge thing for
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forgiveness you know where youwere, who you were at the time,
because most people, I think,are doing the best they can and
they just don't know better orthey don't have the skills or
they don't have any of thosekinds of things.
Really, one of the mostinfluential ways I've forgiven
myself for my, for my past,because I didn't know any better
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.
I needed to go through thosethings to learn and grow, yeah,
to be the person I am now.
Sure it's like.
So touch base on that.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Well, yeah, absolutely, I mean, and I and I
tear up, just I tear up thinkingabout it because it's it's
really touching.
And this moment what comes upfor me is that you needed to go
through the manure I'm going touse that word, right.
I mean, manure makes thingsright, makes things grow, and
it's one thing to know that,that going through all that
stuff has allowed you to becomethis thing right.
It's one thing to sort of knowthat and go like, yeah, that's
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great, great.
But how do we allow that toactually actually go down into
our heart and open our and openus up and actually make us sort
of feel good about ourselves?
And one of the things that comesup for me is I heard this
wonderful thing a friend andmentor shared where, where he
was thinking back to the kidbefore the before stuff hit the
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fan, you, you know, like, thinkback and maybe you have a
picture, or whatever it is.
Maybe you have a picture ofyourself, that little kid, and
you can imagine in your mind whodidn't know better, who wasn't
looking forward, who didn't knowwhat was coming and who didn't
have these images of of him orher or themselves, yet, these
(21:52):
ingrained thoughts aboutself-worth and all that.
We're all born, you know,pretty confident and pretty
comfortable.
We cry immediately because thisworld is harsh.
You know we come out and slow,but essentially we're pretty,
you know, innocent and forwardlooking and looking for the good
in others and ourselves and theworld.
And I think if we think back tothat, I think if we think back
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to that person, we're still thatperson.
If we can love that child, ifwe can do that, then we can love
the self that is us.
It's a crazy kind of thought ina way, but we can be reborn any
moment, and I know it soundskind of a little bit hokey, it
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sounds a little bit hokey.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
It's not, it's awesome.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Ultimately, and it's great.
Yeah, thank you.
It's ultimately a split moment,a split second decision, or
it's a split second event, andsometimes it's very small and it
might last for a second, but wecan inch up to that, we can
(23:00):
inch up to forgiveness, we caninch up to self-love and and
it's scary it can be scary for alot of us, especially those of
us who have a poopy past, butultimately we have to let it, we
have to allow us to, to takethat step.
We have to allow us ourselvesto go from that non-resourceful
(23:23):
into that resourceful, or to orto to take that leap, or
whatever.
However you want to think of it.
Yeah To to.
To look in that mirror, even ifit's briefly and this is a
physical thing we can do lookinto that mirror and, rather
than just looking at our hairdoor seeing whether our earring is
hanging a certain way orwhether our shirt is tied I mean
, our tie is straight lookyourself in the eye and see
(23:46):
yourself for just a second.
And see yourself for a second asyou would another person that
you might be in love with or ortrying to find love, and even if
it's just for a split second,and you'll know it, when you see
yourself, yes and that's, andwhen you do, I believe that is a
moment when you actually aresaying you're enough and and
(24:13):
when you can say you're enough,you're and you'll start, and you
can say that more often andmore deeply about yourself with
the help of the mirror.
Actually see yourself, you'regoing to embrace yourself, and
the more you embrace yourself,the more you will embrace the
things that are good for you inyour life and I would, for lack
of a better word, perhaps rejectthe things that aren't.
(24:34):
The more you say you're enough,the more you'll be able to say
on the outside that's enough ofthat, because if you love your
plant, you don't pour, you,don't pour junk on it.
If you love your kid, you don't, you know, you, you treat it
with care.
Or your, your, your dog, yourhouse.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Absolutely, would you say and this is again me, you
know, once you've forgivenyourself.
And that mirror exercise, firstof all, I do it every day.
I think it's absolutelyphenomenal when you look at
yourself in the mirror, in youreyes, and you feel your soul.
I think there's not a betterconnection to yourself that I
have found, literally, than that.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Yes, yes, and acknowledge what comes up.
Oh yeah, because it's okay ifyou see yourself and and you,
you see something you don't like.
Take that as a little warninglight on the car or a traffic
(25:38):
signal that says you know, knowsomething, something crossing
like, beware, you know, causeultimately you're all you got.
Yeah, ultimately you're all yougot, and because you're all you
got it, you're also there forothers.
So so take that as a sign oflike hey, man, it's ultimately
best If you can look at yourselfand find something and see your
(26:00):
soul and dig it and like it.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Amen.
Speaker 3 (26:05):
And it's hard, or want to embrace it at least.
Yeah, you know how you can loveyour kids, but not like them
sometimes.
You know that whole thing.
I mean it's not like no, Idon't like Sure, sure, there's
parts of you I don't like, youknow, know, so you can look at
yourself and go like, yes, youknow, you know, hey, man, we're
getting better at this, we'regetting better at that and you
(26:26):
love yourself and that means youwant to take care of yourself
and set boundaries for yourselfand get back in there and
embrace life and enjoy life andall that.
It starts with you absolutely Ilove that.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Hey, marcus, so we're almost out of time.
I can't even believe this.
Already.
This went way too quick.
Just means we get to do itagain.
Yes, so would you say thatreally?
And this is my take, so I'm nottrying to put words in your
mouth, so understand that first.
(26:58):
And we're friends so we don'tdo that to each other.
Anyway, we just talk.
So, yeah, absolutely so.
When you've found fulfillment,you found a purpose.
I'm big on fulfillment Actually, kane Shy talked to me about
this and I really likefulfillment.
When you have found that, um,when you have found that um,
(27:22):
that's kind of where the top ofthe pyramid is.
Yes, when you found thatpurpose, when you found the
reason that, uh, you, you knowyou get up early and stay up
late, when because you generallydon't burn out when you found
happiness in what you're doing,would you agree to talk to me
about that?
I would agree.
I would.
About your bubble?
I would agree.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
I would absolutely agree and I know this from
experience because it wasn't toolong ago where I had a lot of
happy moments you know awonderful wife, a beautiful wife
and a and wonderful kids andfriends who loved me and who I
(28:06):
love.
You know who I loved and andjobs that were amazing.
But something was gnawing at me.
There was something where Icouldn't wait to go to sleep and
I didn't want to get up in themorning and the worst part was I
thought that was normal, like Ithought, meaning I accepted it.
(28:28):
I accepted it until someoneelse and it was online, like
mentors and people I foundonline.
They said and asked thequestion when is enough enough?
And with their help, I came torealize something like enough of
this, enough of this.
(28:50):
And through certain things andneural coding was one of them,
perhaps the most impactful thingI found a feeling and it
started at the top of my headand went all the way to my toes
of integrity, of fullness, offulfillment, where all of a
sudden and I found myself almostin spite of myself, not wanting
(29:14):
to go to sleep anymore andcouldn't wait to get back up
when it was like a little kidagain, like that little kid and
it's crazy town.
And it wasn't just for a week,it lasted for a long time and it
comes back whenever I choosefor it to come back.
And the great thing is, onceyou know it, you can't unknow it
(29:35):
.
And so if you get back andhere's the great thing we do, I
have moments of this.
Do I have moments of down?
Yes, and I know I can get backup.
Do I have hours?
Sometimes?
Sure, and I know that I'mchoosing it for some reason to
explore it, or they go like youknow what, but it's not a reward
(29:56):
.
How is?
How is staying frustrated onpurpose a reward?
How is going like you know whatI deserve to sulk for for an
afternoon?
It's like okay, anyway, um, but, yes, are so fulfillment.
Fulfillment is, is, is key andyou'll know it.
And you'll know it because it's, it's your mission.
When you know it's your mission, um, and whether it's a, it's a
(30:20):
mission of drive, or whetherit's I want to exist in love,
you'll know it because you'llfeel it from the top of your
head energy flow to the bottomof your toes.
Man, that's it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So here's the thing, right, when you said mission
because what do I?
Always?
I don't call this work, ever,this is not work for me, and I
call it my mission, join themission, et cetera as soon as
you said that, I literally gotchills through my whole body.
There you go, that was.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
That was amazing my friend, that's when you know
it's right.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Yeah, and it's you know.
You feel it like you know inyour body.
You do listen to your body whenyou feel like crap.
Listen to your body when youfeel amazing and energetic.
And to your body when you feelamazing and energetic and like
nothing's going to stop you inthe world.
Listen to your body.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Listen to your body and give that credit, believe
that, believe that feeling andbelieve that that's as important
and as valuable to you and tothose around you and to the
world as as are the when youfeel not good.
We give way too much credit tothe not good and not enough
(31:29):
credit to the to the good yeahand marcus, yes.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
How do we get credit to the good?
How do we make that stick andanchor that into ourselves?
Speaker 3 (31:40):
Well, I would say, I would point to myself and go I
am magnificent.
And then I make a fist and I goyes, and then I pat myself on
my own back or on my chest, andthen you got to celebrate, you
got to put it in yourself, yougot to celebrate so that you
then go that was a good thing.
I want to do more of it.
So thank you and I celebrateyou for this amazing episode.
(32:01):
Your mission is just the best.
I'll always join your mission.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Thank you, man, thank you, my dear friend, truly, you
know you being on here isalways a light of my day,
absolutely.
I know it's going to be fun.
I know we're going to talkabout some really great stuff,
sometimes hard, sometimesabsolutely amazing, but good
information to create thattsunami for good.
You know I've moved past theripple effect.
I'm just going tsunami for goodnow.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Why not why?
Speaker 2 (32:30):
not change the language and make it.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, absolutely Do tsunami for good.
Oh, now that's taken Okay.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Amen, man.
Hey, so we're way past time.
All right, brother, how dopeople reach out?
Speaker 3 (32:41):
to you.
Well, I am Marcus Jacob Weisson Facebook, I am
TheMarcusWeissExperience onInstagram, Marcus Weiss on
LinkedIn andwwwTheMarcusWeissExperiencecom,
and I will send you a link forthe Joy Experience, which is a
two-weekend virtual joyempowerment.
(33:03):
I would call it journey Okay,Call it a course if you will,
and that's on Saturday the 1stand Saturday the 8th of March.
That's coming up.
So if anybody wants to join myjourney or my mission, I'm happy
to have them included.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Fantastic.
And, Marcus, please, when we'redone, go into all the social
media, post it everywhere,please.
I will do, as always, so withthat said if you can give us
three tips to get veteransfurther faster.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Three tips to get further, faster Okay, great.
And I've shared this before andI will share it again.
When you wake up in the morningand your eyes open, okay, take
your fingers and remember me anddo this.
Okay, you can either do it likeme or a little less silly, but
here we go.
It's going to be a great day,just like that.
And remember this moment andremember it'll make you smile
(33:55):
just enough to make you believeit, just enough to feel it, just
enough to move and get out ofbed.
That's the first step.
If you don't get out of bed,nothing is going to happen.
And second, on the other sideof the day, when your head hits
the pillow, please, in yourbrain, review the things that
went well that day.
It doesn't matter.
(34:16):
Just go scan your day from thefirst, even if the first thought
is like, well, I made it, okay,great, just give yourself
credit for the things that wentgreat.
Do not hit your head on thepillow and go like, thank God,
no, go to the resourcefulfeelings, okay.
And the other thing is this takea breath Whenever you.
(34:37):
If you, it's kind of like.
If it feels like cheating, itis cheating, you know.
If it feels like you're goingto be angry and let something
out.
That's not great.
You will get angry and letsomething out.
That's not going to be great.
Trust, trust the trust, thatfeeling, sorry, trust that gut.
So then take three seconds andjust do this, breathe in.
(34:57):
You know they say count to 10,count to five.
You know what, when you breathein, it will be at least three
seconds.
So take a slow, deep breath in.
That's all you need to do.
Don't worry about counting,just if you feel that coming,
just go and in that moment,remember this moment.
In that moment remember you'redoing that for a reason.
(35:17):
You're doing that to stop, toput your foot on the brake, and
it'll make you let out somethingdifferent.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
I absolutely love it.
My friend Marcus yes, friend,most precious resource we have
is human beings.
Sure is we do not get it back.
Thank you for spending thispart of your life, these few
minutes of your life, with us tocreate that tsunami for good.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
So thank you, my friend, my pleasure, as always.
I'll see you soon, I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
All right, brother, I love you have an amazing day
and everybody we're out of here,we're out.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
Thank you for joining us on another insightful
journey of your thoughts yourreality podcast with your host,
michael Cole.
We hope the conversationsparked some thoughts that
resonate with you.
To dive deeper into empoweringyour thoughts and enhancing your
reality, visitempowerperformancestrategiescom.
Remember your thoughts shapeyour reality, so make them count
(36:13):
.
Until next time, stay inspiredand keep creating the reality
you desire.
Catch you on the next episode.
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