June 24, 2025 • 42 mins
Her voice was silenced by trauma. Now Rachel Wayte uses it to help others heal through sound, energy, and deep emotional resonance.
What if the very thing that once broke you… was the key to healing others?
Rachel Wayte was trained as an opera singer—until trauma shut down her voice and her self-worth. Years later, in the middle of a session with a client, her voice returned in a way she never expected.
In this powerful conversation, we explore:
- The trauma that caused her to shut it all down.
- How energetic healing and sound helped her come back to life.
- Why your gifts don’t go away—they wait for you to claim them.
- How owning your truth can bring both global impact and prosperity.
🎧 Listen now, and if you’ve ever felt silenced, this is your episode.
📍 More about Rachel: www.rachelwayte.com
🔗 Sample her session: “Unstoppable Energy” at www.rachelwayte.com
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Hello, and welcome to thisepisode of youf Ultimate Life that
I created just to help youcreate a life of purpose, prosperity
and joy by serving with yourlife experience, your divine gifts
and the skills that youalready have.
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Today, I have a special guest,Rachel Waite.
Rachel, welcome to the show.
Helen.
Thank you.
I'm very excited to be here.
Thank you for having me.
Well, I am so excited thatyou're here with me.
And I'm going to start mylittle timer.
It's not exact, but I have torun it, so I kind of know what we're
doing in terms of time.
Bless your heart.
So we've had the chance toknow each other for a little while,
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and I don't give introductionsbecause what you do and who you are
will be revealed as we go along.
So I want to start with aquestion, and I don't want you to
be modest.
I would like you to share with me.
How does Rachel choose to addgood to the world?
I'm just going to let thatsink in a moment.
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So.
That is such a great question.
I choose to show good to theworld by.
By showing up as myself.
And I know that might soundlike a small thing, but actually
having that belief andintention of.
I'm.
I'm not scared to be who I am.
I'm not scared to show up inmy purpose and in my passion and
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in my mission.
I show up as myself, sharingmy gifts, my abilities with my clients,
with the world.
And I believe in doing that.
I'm therefore givingpermission to other people to do
the same thing and help themfeel like, you know what?
It's okay to be me.
It's safe to be me.
It's safe to share my voice.
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It's safe to believe in myself.
It's safe to have dreams.
It's safe to have goals.
So.
So ultimately, that's how Ishare myself with the world being
me.
So why is it.
There's lots of ways peoplecould hear that.
One of them is, well, who are you?
Or who's anybody?
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You can just show up and be you.
And that's supposed to be cool.
They can sort of take acynical view of it like that.
And yet I believe, and I thinkyou do, too, and I want you to talk
about it for a sec, thatshowing up Naked, as it were, but
showing up with the truth ofyour life on your.
On your sleeve, that that'sactually how we can be most valuable
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in the world.
Do you believe that Completely.
I.
I so believe that because Ibelieve for a long time, you know,
up until I was probably 40, I.
I wasn't showing up as me.
And so therefore I was holdingmyself back.
I was fearful, I was scaredabout things, I was limiting myself.
And I think giving yourselfpermission to like, own your vulnerabilities
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and overcome them and believein yourself and that you sort of
have.
What sort of you have.
You.
You are important and then you are.
That you do matter and thatthere is a reason that you are here.
Is.
Is life changing actually on aquite a deep level, if you allow
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yourself to really sort offeel what that actually could mean
for you.
So in the first place, I thinkyou've hit two things that are really
important.
One is permission to be yourself.
And be yourself fully and freely.
Is life changing for you.
Oh, gee, I'm finally free.
I can do what I want.
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And as a subsidiary andactually more important point, that
is the best thing that you cangive me and me standing in as a proxy
for not only the listeners,but anybody in your orbit.
And so there's two pieces.
One, it takes the chains offof us to not be afraid, to just be
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alive and be truthful and betransparent, vulnerable.
But it's actually the bestservice we can do for others.
Would you agree with that?
Totally.
So why, why is so it's notjust me.
I mean, we felt fear.
Every single one of youlistening on, you felt fe and I shouldn't
be this.
And I'm supposed to sandwichmyself into some form or whatever,
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but releasing that, not onlyis freedom for you, but it's valuable
for others.
And I want you to tell us why.
Why is it valuable forourselves and why is it valuable
for others?
Well, we know why it'svaluable, I think, for ourselves.
But yeah, mostly I'm thinkingabout the how come that is the greatest
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service we can do for others?
Okay.
Wow.
I feel like it's the greatestservice we can do for others because
it almost like it gives youpermission to be liberate.
I feel like it liberates us.
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It liberates other people.
It creates.
It gets people out of this, this.
It gives people options and itmakes people think, you know what
I mean?
Who knows?
You know, people will belistening in from all over and sometimes,
you know, we can feel quitestuck in our lives and we can feel
like, oh, I don't have any options.
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I don't know how to get out ofthis situation.
This is where I've got these dreams.
But I don't think it'spossible, you know, can have all
these doubts, we can have allthese fears, we can have all these
beliefs about ourselves.
And I think if we show up andshow others that actually there is
a way forwards, there is,there is a different way to see this.
We aren't stuck, we aren't restricted.
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There are options, there are possibilities.
You can do this, you can do that.
The more of us who show up andshow that side of things, the, the
more change we will see inother people's lives.
But then also a big shift wewill see generally in the world is,
is how I see it.
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That's fabulous.
Yeah, we don't, we, we can seea lot of stuff around that restricts
us, and I think sometimes wecan focus too much on the negative,
too much on what's goingwrong, too much on the doom and gloom.
But actually, if there's moreof us like you and I, Kellen, and
other people that are on yourpodcast and other people in our sphere
showing people that there's adifferent way and we don't have to
see the world that way, thatthat's life changing.
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It is.
And, and I, I just want to bereally clear and I'll just say something
I believe and I.
You can disagree with it ifyou want.
I think that if you choose todiscover and serve and deliver just
the most authentic andvaluable version of yourself, learning
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from all the things that havehappened before, that you not only
can have the most fun, but youcan also have the biggest impact
and make the most money.
Yes.
Do you believe that?
Yes.
Taken.
Well, I'd say it's taking me along time to get to that point and
to get to that belief becauseI think a lot of my, my belief system
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had probably been grounded in.
There are limitations.
You shouldn't have too much money.
You know, you should, youdon't, you know, don't expect too
much of life.
And I've had to sort of getthrough all that to get to that point
and realize actually that andactually having money is a wonderful
thing because how much can youdo for others by having money?
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So actually we should wantmoney, and it's not a bad thing to
want it and have lots of it,but it's taken me a long time to
get to that point and reallyunderstand and feel and believe that.
So as you sit here right nowcan you say gleefully and joyfully
you want boatloads of cash?
Yes, I can.
If you'd have asked me a fewyears ago, maybe not.
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But right now I'm like, bringit on.
All right.
You know, and the thing is,money follows value.
And so if, if being yourhonest self and being on a growth
journey and sharing that withthe world is the most valuable thing
we can do, the most fun and wecan have the biggest impact then,
and it creates this money,then permission to do that and wanting
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that for the purpose of growthis, is the most important thing we
can do.
Yeah.
And we should all feel okay tosay, that's what I want too, and
it's okay for me to want that.
So you said, you know, a fewyears ago, this, that and the other,
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and alluded to, gee, it wasn'talways this way, which implies there's
been a path of growth and youdidn't fall up this mountain because
nobody falls up a mountain.
So tell me a little bit aboutthe journey, the work, the setbacks,
the resilience.
How did you get where you are?
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Okay, well, first of all,because playing to your listeners.
So I actually.
So now I would classify myselfas a sound and energy healer.
And that is sort of like, ifI'm going to define it, that's what
I do on a very, on a veryquite high, high level, high level
work with.
But how I got here is a reallyinteresting journey.
So I actually used to be, Itrained to be.
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I live over in the UK by theway, in case people wondering where
the accent's from.
I trained to be an opera singer.
So that was what I did in mymid to late 20s, early 30s.
And oh, I thought at thattime, oh, that's going to be my life.
I'm going to be an opera singer.
But actually, the more I spentin that world, the more I retreated.
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I found being permanently sortof like judged and analyzed and is
my voice good enough and doesit sound right?
And being sort of like in theaudition process at that time in
my, in my early 20s, I didn'thave the resilience to, to accept
the rejection that kept comingand kept coming and kept coming.
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And I also found the worldthat I was in to be quite, what's
the word?
It wasn't very nurturing,let's put it that way.
And so what happened to me wasI actually shrunk my energy, shrunk,
my belief in myself shrunk.
I.
And I came out thinking, I'm,I'm, I'm terrible.
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I'm no good at this.
And, and the only way for meto protect myself from being rejected
by the world, rejected anymore.
People telling me I'm not goodenough, which is then what a very
strong belief that I had aboutmyself was to just shut it all down.
So I remember one daydeciding, that's it, I'm done.
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I'm.
I am never singing again.
I'm never using this voice.
I'm going to just literallywrap it up, put it in a box and put
it over here and almost saythanks for having that part in my
life.
But it's over, I'm done andI'm not opening that box.
It was too painful.
So I, so then I went into,okay, so this is my early 30s now.
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What am I going to do with my life?
So I, I did work for a time inthe corporate world which I found
to be another place that wasquite difficult for me, quite overwhelming.
A lot of, what's the word?
Unhappy people, A lot ofpeople who are quite stressed.
A lot of pressure.
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And that ultimately ended upin me realizing this wasn't where
I was meant to be.
And so during that time Iactually had to navigate a lot of
anxiety and a lot of stressand I didn't know anything about
energy at the time or anythingabout what I currently do.
And I actually started, whichis really quite scary and maybe this
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has happened to some people.
I actually started havingpanic attacks in my car whilst I
was driving to work.
So much my body was saying,you don't want to go here.
But I didn't, I didn'tunderstand what was going on.
I would sometimes have to,yeah, have panic attacks in my car
driving to work.
So it got to the point where Irealized this is really not a healthy
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place for me to be.
This isn't where I'm meant to be.
So you know, we're talkinglike mid, early to mid-30s now.
I'm like, okay, what am Igoing to do with my life?
I left that world.
I trained actually to be, tobe a therapist, which was ultimately
to help me sort of like dealwith what was going on with me.
But I also realized that Iactually wanted to be able to help
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others.
I saw that a lot of peopleweren't happy, that a lot of people
were, yeah, were stressed.
And so I trained to be atherapist, a hands on therapist.
I trained to be a massagetherapist, so.
And run my business for quitea long time.
But ultimately that was sortof like me in a room on my own having
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this wonderful Impact on theclients that I was seeing.
But it got to the point whereI turned 40, where I realized, hold
on a sec.
There is so much more in methat wants to come out.
There's much more impact thatI want to have, and me just on my
own in this room isn't goingto have that.
So I then, at that point, hadto overcome a lot of my own, Overcome
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the fear that I had aroundbeing seen, belief about myself that
actually I mattered, and I hada bigger purpose.
So there was a real dip inthat point in my life where I actually
felt quite down, I actuallyfelt quite depressed, and I had to
really overcome that.
And then once I got throughthat and realized, you know what?
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There's more that I'm meant togrow into, it was like this light
bulb moment turned on, and Irecognized that I had a lot of what
I would call gifts that I hadbeen burying and suppressing.
And once I said, okay, I'mgoing to let those out, Quite soon
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after that, I started workingin a very different way with my clients,
where I would be able toreally help them release from their
own emotions, their owntraumas, their own limiting beliefs,
Anything that was capping themfrom growing, I could see what that
was and really help them clearthat out of their energy, out of
their systems.
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And the most beautiful thinghappened one day, and this is how
it ties all the way back tothe singing, was that one day I was
with a client, and I just knewin that moment, to help her to clear
what was going on, I needed tosing vibrations to her.
And that might sound quitestrange to some people, but to me,
it felt absolutely normalbecause it was almost like my gifts
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were coming back.
And when I sang to her, it waslike this moment of everything made
sense of sort of like, this iswhy I had to learn to sing.
This is why I had to getmyself to this point.
This is why I had to overcomeall of my own fears and doubts so
that I could let this gift outand not be afraid to do that.
And that was about eight years ago.
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You said something.
I want to have you explainjust a little bit more when you had
that deep, I'll call it depression.
But that moment of discovery,people have that, you're going to
have it, you listeners, you'regoing to have it whenever you failed
or especially if you failedover and over again, spectacularly
and all the rest.
Yep.
And you said I had to get past that.
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What did you do?
How did you get help?
Or did you get help?
How did you get help to getstarted, to have the courage and
the perseverance to get.
To get past that.
It happened.
There were several ways thatit happened.
So.
So first it.
It was.
It was really interesting, actually.
And I always.
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I always honor my husband inthis moment because, you know, there
were.
There were days where I'd justbe in tears.
There would be days where Iwould just be like.
We'd be going around incircles, and I'd be like, I want
things to change.
And I think what I was doingat that point in my life was waiting
for an external factor to comein and sort me out.
You know, I was waiting forsomeone to come and rescue me.
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I was waiting for.
It was almost like I didn'thave the.
I was.
I was waiting for.
For the answer to come to me.
And then, actually, what myhusband said to me one day in the
kitchen.
We were in the kitchen, wewere talking about it, and he said
to me, but, Rachel, do youreally want to change?
Because from where I'mstanding, it doesn't seem like it.
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And I know that may soundharsh, but it made me realize that,
you know, we were going aroundin circles, and I was kept sort of
feeling like I was the victim,that I couldn't do anything about
it, and I was stuck.
And then when he said that, itflipped something in me, and I thought,
hold on a second.
If.
If there's any way to createchange in this, it has to begin with
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me, and I have the power to do that.
And when he said that, itflipped something, and I thought,
okay.
And it made me think, okay,well, let's just focus on what I
can do about this.
So initially, I just did smallthings, like giving myself time in
the morning to do some meditation.
You know, that really helped.
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I asked for guidance, and Iasked for support.
I got myself a coach and amentor, and that really helped me.
And then bit by bit by bit,things changed because ultimately
I realized that I could dosomething about it and I didn't have
to stay victim to it.
I love that.
And I want to thank you forsharing that, because I want people
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to hear this.
This.
This show and all my guestsare about creating the life you love,
purpose, prosperity, and joy.
And you just said a key thing,which is nothing's going to happen
until you do.
Until you move.
Nobody's coming.
Nobody's going to come andrescue you.
And.
And nobody can stop you is theother side of that coin.
Yeah.
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Yeah.
It's so true.
And I think we can.
We can get help Can't.
We can get guidance, we canget people to, to support us through
it, but ultimately no one canfix us.
And we, we have to somehow allow.
Do that part ourselves.
And it can take time, it canbe difficult.
And we, we.
We have to honor the fact thatwe have emotions.
And some days are easier than others.
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But I think the other thingthat really helped me was to understand
that my emotions weren't me.
So if I was feeling really low or.
You know, sometimes when youfeel really low, you feel awful in
your body, can't you.
And you can feel like, oh,there's just no way out of it.
And what really helped me tounderstand was that actually all
I was experiencing really wasan energy, was an emotion that was
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just basically stuck in my body.
And if I gave myself, ratherthan trying to bury it or think it
was a bad thing or that Ishouldn't be feeling it or that,
you know, I should try andsuppress it by giving myself permission
to totally feel it withouttrying to go into the story of it
and hold on to it.
I was just like, this is whatI'm feeling.
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It doesn't feel great rightnow, but I'm going to give myself
permission to feel it.
By doing that, you actuallyfreeing yourself from it.
And the emotion has given the.
It's.
First of all, it's honored andit's recognized and actually it can
move on from your body.
It doesn't stay stuck.
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That.
Does that make sense?
It's such you folks listening this.
I want you to understand howpowerful that is.
She said several things allwrapped into one.
You're going to feel different things.
Feeling stuff is a collectionof neurotransmitters that your body
creates, and it creates those.
When you believe a thing andwhen you feel a thing, don't fight
with it.
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Don't get mad at it, don'tblame it.
Don't look at blames.
Just feel what you feel andthen let it go.
Allow it, honor it, and thenit will pass.
And the reason you can saythat is because neurotransmitters
process just like alcohol does.
So you drink and it takes anhour to whatever the number is.
And I don't drink anymorebecause of other things.
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Long history, but it takestime to process and your neurotransmitters
will process.
So leave it alone and let it.
Let just be there and thenmake some choices about what you
want to think about andbelieve, because that set of beliefs
will create another set ofneurotransmitters and therefore another
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physical feeling.
In your body.
Yeah.
And I think what happenssometimes is, you know, we feel these
feelings, say we feel bad, andyou think, oh, I shouldn't be feeling
that.
That's not good.
I'll try and feel this.
I'll try and think positive thoughts.
And I get that, and Iunderstand that, and that does help.
But I think sometimes first weneed to create space for that positivity
to come in.
So we need to give that.
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That emotion, the energy, thechance to be there and move on.
So then you've got the spaceto bring in the new emotion, the
new feelings, the new beliefsthat you want to have.
Yes.
Thank you.
Because those feelings willprocess and go away in their own.
Just don't get into a fightwith an intellectual or emotional
fight, because you're going tolose every time.
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Because the energy of fighting.
Right.
Reinforces the negative emotion.
Yes, exactly.
If you go to war with that,you're going to lose every time.
Yeah.
All right.
Yeah.
Can I say one other thing?
That's just one other thing.
I think.
I just think some sometimes,especially if we're feeling those
emotions of anger orresentment, you know, sometimes we
can really get caught up in,well, the other person said this,
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and the other person saidthat, and it's their fault.
And I'm going to stay angrybecause I'm not going to, like, let
this go.
But you're just holdingyourself captive to that prisoner,
to that, in a way.
And I think if you can gethonored that you're feeling that,
but not go into the, he saidthis, she said that.
Because that just takes youback down in the spiral of feeling
bad.
It does, And I love that.
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And that's like saying, youknow, holding your grudge is like
drinking poison and waitingfor the other guy to die.
Yes.
And, you know, not going to happen.
All right, so thank you forthat little detour about how you
got there.
Because what you need to know,all of you, is you're not alone and
there is a way out, and you'rethe only one that can walk the path,
even if you have to go get aboatload of help from different sources.
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So you've discovered thateight years ago, you sang to the
lady, and it made a differencefor you.
And then walk me from there towhere you realize and are more realizing
the true power of this gift,which was to be expressed this way
and not that way.
Yeah.
So first of all, it was.
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I recognized it to be a giftbecause when I.
When I let my voice out inthat way, I felt so free.
And so, like, oh, like, justlike, what do I say?
I felt free and liberated,that I knew that this was what I
was meant to do.
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And so from that moment, itwas like I.
Just for a little while it washard for me to talk about it because
I was very much like, well,what will people think?
What will they say?
How will they perceive this?
But what I realized, and maybethis will help help your listeners,
is in the.
The what was growing stronger.
My desire for bringing forththis gift and being seen and letting
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this out in the world wasgetting so much stronger than the
fear that was holding me back.
I couldn't stop, stop it anymore.
To stop it would have been.
Would have been to suppress myself.
So everything just started tounfold a lot quicker.
I.
I stopped just being me on myown in a room.
I made connections, a lot ofconnections with people all over
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the world.
And I realized that not onlycould I take this from.
For one to many, I could dothis work online as well.
So I suddenly built a businessthat was global.
So I was, I was working withpeople faced online.
And then I.
And then I discovered thatactually this could.
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This, this worked whether Iwas working with one person or whether
I was working with fronts ofgroups of people.
So I, I have done many workshops.
I've done many live sort oflike sessions where I might be me
here, but I'll be deliveringto hundreds of people.
And the feedback that I getfrom that, when people just tune
in and they listen and theyallow themselves to receive the vibrations
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and the words that I share,they have.
Every single person has theirown experience from it.
And so it may.
It made me see that this couldbe, this could have such a ripple
out in the world because I canbe me, but I can be delivering to
hundreds or thousands ofpeople, and they're going to receive
what they need from listening,from allowing themselves to hear
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and receive the vibrationsthat come from my voice.
One of the things you saidthat I think is so interesting is.
Interesting is the wrong word.
Powerful.
Truthful and powerful is this.
And I'm going to.
Before I say it, I'm going to.
If a speaker speaks, eachperson in the audience is going to
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hear whatever they hearthrough the lenses of life that they
wear because they can't doanything else.
People say, oh, you don't seelife the way it is.
You see life the way you are?
Well, well, duh, you can't seeit any other way because that's all
that you have is those lenses.
And so when a speaker speaksit's not weird to think, oh, everybody
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hears whatever they hear.
It's no different when yousing and you provide the energy that
flows through you to provide.
I'm going to hear it directlyas through my own life lenses and
experience.
And it's going to be eitherdivided or multiplied by my willingness
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to be present and, and allowthe truth of that message, spoken
or sung, to come into my heart.
Wow.
That I had to take a deepbreath as you said that.
And I think that's so true.
I think you're right.
There is a sense of somepeople are just receive it immediately
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because they're so ready for it.
Yet with others, like yousaid, it can take time because sometimes
it's hard to allow, isn't it?
Because if, if we allow, westart thinking, well, if I, you know,
that's almost like opening thecan of worms, isn't it?
And if I allow and let thingsout, what does that mean for my life?
You know, so it can, it can bequite daunting sometimes for people
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to just allow because it meansthat change is going to happen, which
is a great thing.
But sometimes when we knowwhen we are where we are, it feels
safe.
And the unknown can feel scary.
Well, people argue for theirlimitations all the time.
And if you're married to yourexcuses or you love being in the
victim mindset, or, you know,in the pool of learned helplessness,
addiction to mediocrity is theunholy trinity in my mind.
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If you, if you, if you, ifyou're comfortable there and you,
you know, the blaming and allthe stuff that goes on in that disempowering
state, allowing for numberone, the truth that something, if
you let it in, can change is ascary thing by itself.
And then not only allowing forthe possibility, but then allowing
the message, whether it'sspoken or sung, the vibrations to
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do something to you.
Because the notes themselvesare just notes.
Yeah.
And we are connected in thatenergetic way.
And sound is sound.
And so someone's willingnessto allow the possibility that it
might change them, which isopening the door and then to just
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let it be so that you canexperience the truth, whatever that
might be that comes into you,which will be different for every
person because the chamber oftheir heart into which it goes is
so different and it's so true.
I see it all the time with thegroups that I work with.
I'll do the same session, thesame healing.
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They'll all have completelydifferent experiences because they,
like you said, they are theirown vessel.
They are their own body.
And.
And so they experience it how.
How they need to experience it.
And it will be different forevery single person, which is magical
in a way.
It's completely magical.
And you know what we'rediscovering, so let's back.
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But what we're discovering isthis energetic connection that holds
everything together.
Like the vibration andfrequency of love is what holds the
world, the universe, together.
And you know that because assoon as discord, hate, fear, and
other things are introduced,it's divisive and blows stuff up.
And the more we dive into thattruth, the more truthful it becomes.
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And sometimes it can be scarybecause it feels like.
And we don't know anythingabout this crap.
Oh, no, it's scary like that.
Yeah, I know.
The measurements and thescience we pretend is so holy.
And the truth is that science,too, it's just a bunch of stuff we
haven't figured out at all howit works yet.
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And so, you know, we're scaredof it.
Why do you think we live in aworld that is so closed, so abrasive?
Like we've created a worldthat is so tuned to pushing down
gifts, to pushing away thesethings to keep people in a box, to
be fearful, to be inauthentic,to fit in somebody else's story.
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Why do we live in that world?
Wow, that's.
That's another question.
I.
Why do we live in that world?
I think it's big.
It's.
It's conditioning, isn't it?
It's what we've seen, it'swhat we've been told, it's what's
been programmed through thegenerations, that this is what's
possible.
And I think it takes.
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It takes a strong and braveperson to realize that that isn't
the truth and we don't have tolive in that world.
And I, in a hopeful way, Ifeel that there is more and more
and more and more of us whorecognize we don't have to live in
that world anymore.
And that's, in a way, bringsme hope that it's not always going
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to stay like that.
It feels certainly, it feelslike that currently where we are
right now in 2025, it can feellike we can see there's quite a lot
of, let's say, restriction andfear and stuff around.
But I also feel on thepositive side, there are more of
us who are saying, but itdoesn't have to be that way, and
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we need to, like you and I aredoing, Helen, show people that we
don't have.
It doesn't have to be that way.
So I agree with you 100.
And that's why I'm on themission to do what I'm on the mission
to do.
Because we know.
We don't think, we're notpostulating, we're not guessing,
we're not hoping.
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We know that something else ispossible because we've personally
experienced it and we'vehelped others find it.
And so it's not about that.
It's about the process ofallowing, of presenting the opportunity,
the invitation for others toopen the door and consider the possibility
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and then embrace their owntrue divine nature and the resonance
that can come from.
I don't need to explain it.
I just need to have it be true.
So tell us, tell us about moredetail about the work you do.
You know, I don't know ifpeople want to follow you somewhere.
How do they do that?
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How do they find more aboutthe coolness of Rachel?
They want to go swim in that.
What do they do?
Well, they'd be very welcometo come and swim.
Swimming in.
In my energy.
I mainly can be found onLinkedIn these days, which would
be, Rachel, wait, W A Y T E.
My website is Rachel Waits.comand on there, you know, if they want
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to just.
If they've heard me andthey've gone, do you know what?
I'm ready to get unstuck.
I'm ready to start makingchanges in my life.
They can go on there and theycan sample a whole session that's
on there, 60 minutes long.
It's called Unstoppable Energy.
So that will really help people.
It was created for almost likehow I was feeling at that time when
I was feeling stuck andlacking in any spark.
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This, this session there willhelp people really reignite their
energy, Reignite their spark.
So that is there for anybodywho's just like, okay, where can
I.
Where can I begin?
And so those are the two wayspeople can connect with me.
They can reach out through mywebsite, through LinkedIn.
I have a media page on there.
If anybody wants for me to beon their podcast or speak or talk
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and they like what I've said,they can find that information on
there as well.
Yeah.
So I want to ask you, youknow, somebody might hear this and
say, sort of with thisskeptical attitude, yeah, whatever.
Some bunch of noise isn'tgoing to change anything for me.
And if you're feeling that,and I'm going to say something and
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then invite you to comment,Rachel, if you're hearing that and
you're feeling that, let me.
Let me give you anotherpossibility instead of saying I'll
go listen to three seconds andif it doesn't drop bold gold bars
in my porch.
It's a bunch of crap.
You could do that and you'refree to do that.
And I promise you if you dothat nothing's going to happen.
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What I would invite you to doinstead is say to yourself, what
if there's a piece of truthhere that I haven't discovered yet
and set yourself 10 or 15minutes aside and just show up and
participate with nothing elsegoing on and your heart open just
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to see.
Because you can force doctorssay all the time the people that
want to get better are theones that get better.
And people that have a hatefulor negative attitude, their own healing
in hospitals don't.
And so we know that's true.
And so I would just invite youto, instead of fighting with it,
think about what if.
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And that's was what I wantedto say and I want to invite you to
talk a little bit about that.
Yeah, that's so beautifulbecause those were as you were saying
it, those were the words thatwere coming to me, you know, what
if this could open the door tosomething new, to a new potential,
to a new way of living, to anew way of being for me.
And even if you go in thatlittle door opened it would, it will
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begin to help you.
And you know, the other thingthat I want to say is just be open
because I came from a worldwhere my father was a judge, my mum
a nurse, the most two, themost beautiful loving people I know.
But there was.
And so I was brought up, youknow, believing that there wasn't
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much beyond what we can see.
And so I wasn't bought withenergy, with sound, with any of this.
And the only way.
So when I, when it came intomy world I was a bit like you thinking
your, your listeners by a bit skeptical.
But the way it landed for mewas, you know what I felt it, I could
suddenly feel energy, I couldfeel vibration and it was making
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a change within me.
And I thought well if this ishelping me, I'm not making this up,
this is real, if that makes sense.
So I just wanted to share thatbecause my own journey was also a
skeptical journey coming fromquite a skeptical sort of family,
a skeptical background togoing let's be open minded to this,
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let's not, let's, let's look abit deeper into this.
What does this look like?
What could this possibly be tothen now seeing the ripple effect
and the effect that it canhave in people's lives in such a
huge way.
Why.
Why would I want to hold thatback and not talk about it and not
offer people the opportunityto experience this and hope that
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it brings them change and relief?
I love that.
Because you're absolutelycertain that it can.
All of us who do any kind ofchange work are also absolutely certain,
with plenty of examples.
The people that don't want tobelieve and don't want to change
won't.
No.
And it won't.
And.
And I could.
I could.
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And I could spend hours withthat person.
And if there's just a sort of,like, blanket, I mean, we may start
chinking a little bits away,let's be honest.
But generally, if there's,like, a blanket, this isn't gonna
work.
I don't.
I don't.
I don't want to like you.
I think I might have heard yousaid this before.
Like, I'm not here to convincepeople, and I don't need to convince
people, and I don't want totry and convince anybody.
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No, you're offering a gift,and it's on me to say, what if this.
What if this package has thekey to my own misery in it?
Yeah.
And I invite you to considerit that way.
Rachel, what didn't I ask youthat you're dying to talk about?
That would be just super fun,and we'd get done, and you'd say,
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oh, I should have said that.
Wow.
You know, the words that justcame to me was, you know, everything
we've talked about, it's beenfeeling, like, stuck.
And it's helping people getout of things that are holding them
back.
But, you know, let's alsorecognize that life can be joyful,
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like, and that's okay to havea joyful life and the.
To give ourselves permissionto experience joyful things.
I was just.
I just had this vision of whatI sometimes do when I feel.
When I am feeling like myenergy is a bit lower.
I just need to keep myself boosted.
I get in cold water, you know,I go in lakes.
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I get in the sea.
I have cold showers.
And that helps me stay grounded.
It helps me stay aligned, andit helps me connect back to.
To nature.
It helps me to connect back to joy.
So I think sometimes we alsohave to do things like that.
We also have to recognize thatif we can move our bodies, if we
can exercise, if you can getout in nature, we can do things that
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slightly stretch us.
You know, getting in the coldsea here in England in the middle
of winter, it's Freezing cold.
But gosh, does it boost my energy?
So I also think give.
Show people, you know, even.
Even if you just do smallthings like that, exercise, running,
walking, fresh air, listeningto music, music, you know, anything
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like that, that can also helpshift your energy and bring you to
a more joyful state.
And sometimes when we talklike that, people sort of think it's
kind of weird.
But I want to give you anexample that every single one of
you know about.
If you're hungry, it's uncomfortable.
You know, if you go eat, thatgoes away.
So if you feel suckyenergetically or negative or angry,
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it's not weird that if you goeat, and I'm not talking about food
now, I'm talking about if yougo ingest something that is uplifting
and powerful or bracing, likejumping in the water or whatever,
it's just like eating, it willmake it go away.
It will give you a new thing.
Just like, if I go eat, I'mnot hungry.
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So this is not like weird.
We do this all the time.
And to understand that there'smany ways to eat to feed your spirit,
your soul, your heart, yourpurpose and everything else.
Yeah, beautiful.
And then when you do that,then you'll have more energy.
And then actually, if you'vebeen looking for clarity, you've
been, you've been trying towork something out, you've been trying
to work through something.
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You'll find, find that, oh,I've got more ideas now, I've got
more energy, I've got more thought.
I can even think through ideasbetter and solutions will come and
life just blows that bitbetter a hundred percent.
So, Rachel, you've told uswhere we can find you.
Yes.
Is there anything else finallike thing or not?
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No, I do know what I think thefinal thing was that what we were
just saying about getting it,doing those little things to shift
and change your energy.
I feel that.
I feel complete.
As long as you do, I feel comfortable.
It's perfect.
So here's the thing.
You know, if you do nothing,you're going to stay right where
you are because you've beendown that road a million times.
So isn't it time to dosomething new?
Rachel, I want to thank youfor your contribution today, for
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your heart, for your openness,sharing your story, encouragement,
places to find you and allthat good stuff.
Thank you.
Thank you so much, Kellen.
It's been great.
So, listeners, I want you totake this seriously.
Like, you know, you followedthe journey.
She was quite open with us andshared with us the process that she
got to get to a place whereshe's fully expressive and uses that
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Hello, and welcome to thisepisode of youf Ultimate Life that
I created just to help youcreate a life of purpose, prosperity
and joy by serving with yourlife experience, your divine gifts
and the skills that youalready have.
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Today, I have a special guest,Rachel Waite.
Rachel, welcome to the show.
Helen.
Thank you.
I'm very excited to be here.
Thank you for having me.
Well, I am so excited thatyou're here with me.
And I'm going to start mylittle timer.
It's not exact, but I have torun it, so I kind of know what we're
doing in terms of time.
Bless your heart.
So we've had the chance toknow each other for a little while,
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and I don't give introductionsbecause what you do and who you are
will be revealed as we go along.
So I want to start with aquestion, and I don't want you to
be modest.
I would like you to share with me.
How does Rachel choose to addgood to the world?
I'm just going to let thatsink in a moment.
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So.
That is such a great question.
I choose to show good to theworld by.
By showing up as myself.
And I know that might soundlike a small thing, but actually
having that belief andintention of.
I'm.
I'm not scared to be who I am.
I'm not scared to show up inmy purpose and in my passion and
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in my mission.
I show up as myself, sharingmy gifts, my abilities with my clients,
with the world.
And I believe in doing that.
I'm therefore givingpermission to other people to do
the same thing and help themfeel like, you know what?
It's okay to be me.
It's safe to be me.
It's safe to share my voice.
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It's safe to believe in myself.
It's safe to have dreams.
It's safe to have goals.
So.
So ultimately, that's how Ishare myself with the world being
me.
So why is it.
There's lots of ways peoplecould hear that.
One of them is, well, who are you?
Or who's anybody?
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You can just show up and be you.
And that's supposed to be cool.
They can sort of take acynical view of it like that.
And yet I believe, and I thinkyou do, too, and I want you to talk
about it for a sec, thatshowing up Naked, as it were, but
showing up with the truth ofyour life on your.
On your sleeve, that that'sactually how we can be most valuable
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in the world.
Do you believe that Completely.
I.
I so believe that because Ibelieve for a long time, you know,
up until I was probably 40, I.
I wasn't showing up as me.
And so therefore I was holdingmyself back.
I was fearful, I was scaredabout things, I was limiting myself.
And I think giving yourselfpermission to like, own your vulnerabilities
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and overcome them and believein yourself and that you sort of
have.
What sort of you have.
You.
You are important and then you are.
That you do matter and thatthere is a reason that you are here.
Is.
Is life changing actually on aquite a deep level, if you allow
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yourself to really sort offeel what that actually could mean
for you.
So in the first place, I thinkyou've hit two things that are really
important.
One is permission to be yourself.
And be yourself fully and freely.
Is life changing for you.
Oh, gee, I'm finally free.
I can do what I want.
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And as a subsidiary andactually more important point, that
is the best thing that you cangive me and me standing in as a proxy
for not only the listeners,but anybody in your orbit.
And so there's two pieces.
One, it takes the chains offof us to not be afraid, to just be
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alive and be truthful and betransparent, vulnerable.
But it's actually the bestservice we can do for others.
Would you agree with that?
Totally.
So why, why is so it's notjust me.
I mean, we felt fear.
Every single one of youlistening on, you felt fe and I shouldn't
be this.
And I'm supposed to sandwichmyself into some form or whatever,
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but releasing that, not onlyis freedom for you, but it's valuable
for others.
And I want you to tell us why.
Why is it valuable forourselves and why is it valuable
for others?
Well, we know why it'svaluable, I think, for ourselves.
But yeah, mostly I'm thinkingabout the how come that is the greatest
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service we can do for others?
Okay.
Wow.
I feel like it's the greatestservice we can do for others because
it almost like it gives youpermission to be liberate.
I feel like it liberates us.
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It liberates other people.
It creates.
It gets people out of this, this.
It gives people options and itmakes people think, you know what
I mean?
Who knows?
You know, people will belistening in from all over and sometimes,
you know, we can feel quitestuck in our lives and we can feel
like, oh, I don't have any options.
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I don't know how to get out ofthis situation.
This is where I've got these dreams.
But I don't think it'spossible, you know, can have all
these doubts, we can have allthese fears, we can have all these
beliefs about ourselves.
And I think if we show up andshow others that actually there is
a way forwards, there is,there is a different way to see this.
We aren't stuck, we aren't restricted.
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There are options, there are possibilities.
You can do this, you can do that.
The more of us who show up andshow that side of things, the, the
more change we will see inother people's lives.
But then also a big shift wewill see generally in the world is,
is how I see it.
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That's fabulous.
Yeah, we don't, we, we can seea lot of stuff around that restricts
us, and I think sometimes wecan focus too much on the negative,
too much on what's goingwrong, too much on the doom and gloom.
But actually, if there's moreof us like you and I, Kellen, and
other people that are on yourpodcast and other people in our sphere
showing people that there's adifferent way and we don't have to
see the world that way, thatthat's life changing.
(06:52):
It is.
And, and I, I just want to bereally clear and I'll just say something
I believe and I.
You can disagree with it ifyou want.
I think that if you choose todiscover and serve and deliver just
the most authentic andvaluable version of yourself, learning
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from all the things that havehappened before, that you not only
can have the most fun, but youcan also have the biggest impact
and make the most money.
Yes.
Do you believe that?
Yes.
Taken.
Well, I'd say it's taking me along time to get to that point and
to get to that belief becauseI think a lot of my, my belief system
(07:37):
had probably been grounded in.
There are limitations.
You shouldn't have too much money.
You know, you should, youdon't, you know, don't expect too
much of life.
And I've had to sort of getthrough all that to get to that point
and realize actually that andactually having money is a wonderful
thing because how much can youdo for others by having money?
(07:57):
So actually we should wantmoney, and it's not a bad thing to
want it and have lots of it,but it's taken me a long time to
get to that point and reallyunderstand and feel and believe that.
So as you sit here right nowcan you say gleefully and joyfully
you want boatloads of cash?
Yes, I can.
If you'd have asked me a fewyears ago, maybe not.
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But right now I'm like, bringit on.
All right.
You know, and the thing is,money follows value.
And so if, if being yourhonest self and being on a growth
journey and sharing that withthe world is the most valuable thing
we can do, the most fun and wecan have the biggest impact then,
and it creates this money,then permission to do that and wanting
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that for the purpose of growthis, is the most important thing we
can do.
Yeah.
And we should all feel okay tosay, that's what I want too, and
it's okay for me to want that.
So you said, you know, a fewyears ago, this, that and the other,
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and alluded to, gee, it wasn'talways this way, which implies there's
been a path of growth and youdidn't fall up this mountain because
nobody falls up a mountain.
So tell me a little bit aboutthe journey, the work, the setbacks,
the resilience.
How did you get where you are?
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Okay, well, first of all,because playing to your listeners.
So I actually.
So now I would classify myselfas a sound and energy healer.
And that is sort of like, ifI'm going to define it, that's what
I do on a very, on a veryquite high, high level, high level
work with.
But how I got here is a reallyinteresting journey.
So I actually used to be, Itrained to be.
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I live over in the UK by theway, in case people wondering where
the accent's from.
I trained to be an opera singer.
So that was what I did in mymid to late 20s, early 30s.
And oh, I thought at thattime, oh, that's going to be my life.
I'm going to be an opera singer.
But actually, the more I spentin that world, the more I retreated.
(10:15):
I found being permanently sortof like judged and analyzed and is
my voice good enough and doesit sound right?
And being sort of like in theaudition process at that time in
my, in my early 20s, I didn'thave the resilience to, to accept
the rejection that kept comingand kept coming and kept coming.
(10:37):
And I also found the worldthat I was in to be quite, what's
the word?
It wasn't very nurturing,let's put it that way.
And so what happened to me wasI actually shrunk my energy, shrunk,
my belief in myself shrunk.
I.
And I came out thinking, I'm,I'm, I'm terrible.
(10:59):
I'm no good at this.
And, and the only way for meto protect myself from being rejected
by the world, rejected anymore.
People telling me I'm not goodenough, which is then what a very
strong belief that I had aboutmyself was to just shut it all down.
So I remember one daydeciding, that's it, I'm done.
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I'm.
I am never singing again.
I'm never using this voice.
I'm going to just literallywrap it up, put it in a box and put
it over here and almost saythanks for having that part in my
life.
But it's over, I'm done andI'm not opening that box.
It was too painful.
So I, so then I went into,okay, so this is my early 30s now.
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What am I going to do with my life?
So I, I did work for a time inthe corporate world which I found
to be another place that wasquite difficult for me, quite overwhelming.
A lot of, what's the word?
Unhappy people, A lot ofpeople who are quite stressed.
A lot of pressure.
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And that ultimately ended upin me realizing this wasn't where
I was meant to be.
And so during that time Iactually had to navigate a lot of
anxiety and a lot of stressand I didn't know anything about
energy at the time or anythingabout what I currently do.
And I actually started, whichis really quite scary and maybe this
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has happened to some people.
I actually started havingpanic attacks in my car whilst I
was driving to work.
So much my body was saying,you don't want to go here.
But I didn't, I didn'tunderstand what was going on.
I would sometimes have to,yeah, have panic attacks in my car
driving to work.
So it got to the point where Irealized this is really not a healthy
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place for me to be.
This isn't where I'm meant to be.
So you know, we're talkinglike mid, early to mid-30s now.
I'm like, okay, what am Igoing to do with my life?
I left that world.
I trained actually to be, tobe a therapist, which was ultimately
to help me sort of like dealwith what was going on with me.
But I also realized that Iactually wanted to be able to help
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others.
I saw that a lot of peopleweren't happy, that a lot of people
were, yeah, were stressed.
And so I trained to be atherapist, a hands on therapist.
I trained to be a massagetherapist, so.
And run my business for quitea long time.
But ultimately that was sortof like me in a room on my own having
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this wonderful Impact on theclients that I was seeing.
But it got to the point whereI turned 40, where I realized, hold
on a sec.
There is so much more in methat wants to come out.
There's much more impact thatI want to have, and me just on my
own in this room isn't goingto have that.
So I then, at that point, hadto overcome a lot of my own, Overcome
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the fear that I had aroundbeing seen, belief about myself that
actually I mattered, and I hada bigger purpose.
So there was a real dip inthat point in my life where I actually
felt quite down, I actuallyfelt quite depressed, and I had to
really overcome that.
And then once I got throughthat and realized, you know what?
(14:15):
There's more that I'm meant togrow into, it was like this light
bulb moment turned on, and Irecognized that I had a lot of what
I would call gifts that I hadbeen burying and suppressing.
And once I said, okay, I'mgoing to let those out, Quite soon
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after that, I started workingin a very different way with my clients,
where I would be able toreally help them release from their
own emotions, their owntraumas, their own limiting beliefs,
Anything that was capping themfrom growing, I could see what that
was and really help them clearthat out of their energy, out of
their systems.
(14:56):
And the most beautiful thinghappened one day, and this is how
it ties all the way back tothe singing, was that one day I was
with a client, and I just knewin that moment, to help her to clear
what was going on, I needed tosing vibrations to her.
And that might sound quitestrange to some people, but to me,
it felt absolutely normalbecause it was almost like my gifts
(15:19):
were coming back.
And when I sang to her, it waslike this moment of everything made
sense of sort of like, this iswhy I had to learn to sing.
This is why I had to getmyself to this point.
This is why I had to overcomeall of my own fears and doubts so
that I could let this gift outand not be afraid to do that.
And that was about eight years ago.
(15:40):
You said something.
I want to have you explainjust a little bit more when you had
that deep, I'll call it depression.
But that moment of discovery,people have that, you're going to
have it, you listeners, you'regoing to have it whenever you failed
or especially if you failedover and over again, spectacularly
and all the rest.
Yep.
And you said I had to get past that.
(16:01):
What did you do?
How did you get help?
Or did you get help?
How did you get help to getstarted, to have the courage and
the perseverance to get.
To get past that.
It happened.
There were several ways thatit happened.
So.
So first it.
It was.
It was really interesting, actually.
And I always.
(16:21):
I always honor my husband inthis moment because, you know, there
were.
There were days where I'd justbe in tears.
There would be days where Iwould just be like.
We'd be going around incircles, and I'd be like, I want
things to change.
And I think what I was doingat that point in my life was waiting
for an external factor to comein and sort me out.
You know, I was waiting forsomeone to come and rescue me.
(16:42):
I was waiting for.
It was almost like I didn'thave the.
I was.
I was waiting for.
For the answer to come to me.
And then, actually, what myhusband said to me one day in the
kitchen.
We were in the kitchen, wewere talking about it, and he said
to me, but, Rachel, do youreally want to change?
Because from where I'mstanding, it doesn't seem like it.
(17:04):
And I know that may soundharsh, but it made me realize that,
you know, we were going aroundin circles, and I was kept sort of
feeling like I was the victim,that I couldn't do anything about
it, and I was stuck.
And then when he said that, itflipped something in me, and I thought,
hold on a second.
If.
If there's any way to createchange in this, it has to begin with
(17:27):
me, and I have the power to do that.
And when he said that, itflipped something, and I thought,
okay.
And it made me think, okay,well, let's just focus on what I
can do about this.
So initially, I just did smallthings, like giving myself time in
the morning to do some meditation.
You know, that really helped.
(17:49):
I asked for guidance, and Iasked for support.
I got myself a coach and amentor, and that really helped me.
And then bit by bit by bit,things changed because ultimately
I realized that I could dosomething about it and I didn't have
to stay victim to it.
I love that.
And I want to thank you forsharing that, because I want people
(18:11):
to hear this.
This.
This show and all my guestsare about creating the life you love,
purpose, prosperity, and joy.
And you just said a key thing,which is nothing's going to happen
until you do.
Until you move.
Nobody's coming.
Nobody's going to come andrescue you.
And.
And nobody can stop you is theother side of that coin.
Yeah.
(18:32):
Yeah.
It's so true.
And I think we can.
We can get help Can't.
We can get guidance, we canget people to, to support us through
it, but ultimately no one canfix us.
And we, we have to somehow allow.
Do that part ourselves.
And it can take time, it canbe difficult.
And we, we.
We have to honor the fact thatwe have emotions.
And some days are easier than others.
(18:54):
But I think the other thingthat really helped me was to understand
that my emotions weren't me.
So if I was feeling really low or.
You know, sometimes when youfeel really low, you feel awful in
your body, can't you.
And you can feel like, oh,there's just no way out of it.
And what really helped me tounderstand was that actually all
I was experiencing really wasan energy, was an emotion that was
(19:16):
just basically stuck in my body.
And if I gave myself, ratherthan trying to bury it or think it
was a bad thing or that Ishouldn't be feeling it or that,
you know, I should try andsuppress it by giving myself permission
to totally feel it withouttrying to go into the story of it
and hold on to it.
I was just like, this is whatI'm feeling.
(19:36):
It doesn't feel great rightnow, but I'm going to give myself
permission to feel it.
By doing that, you actuallyfreeing yourself from it.
And the emotion has given the.
It's.
First of all, it's honored andit's recognized and actually it can
move on from your body.
It doesn't stay stuck.
(19:57):
That.
Does that make sense?
It's such you folks listening this.
I want you to understand howpowerful that is.
She said several things allwrapped into one.
You're going to feel different things.
Feeling stuff is a collectionof neurotransmitters that your body
creates, and it creates those.
When you believe a thing andwhen you feel a thing, don't fight
with it.
(20:18):
Don't get mad at it, don'tblame it.
Don't look at blames.
Just feel what you feel andthen let it go.
Allow it, honor it, and thenit will pass.
And the reason you can saythat is because neurotransmitters
process just like alcohol does.
So you drink and it takes anhour to whatever the number is.
And I don't drink anymorebecause of other things.
(20:39):
Long history, but it takestime to process and your neurotransmitters
will process.
So leave it alone and let it.
Let just be there and thenmake some choices about what you
want to think about andbelieve, because that set of beliefs
will create another set ofneurotransmitters and therefore another
(21:00):
physical feeling.
In your body.
Yeah.
And I think what happenssometimes is, you know, we feel these
feelings, say we feel bad, andyou think, oh, I shouldn't be feeling
that.
That's not good.
I'll try and feel this.
I'll try and think positive thoughts.
And I get that, and Iunderstand that, and that does help.
But I think sometimes first weneed to create space for that positivity
to come in.
So we need to give that.
(21:21):
That emotion, the energy, thechance to be there and move on.
So then you've got the spaceto bring in the new emotion, the
new feelings, the new beliefsthat you want to have.
Yes.
Thank you.
Because those feelings willprocess and go away in their own.
Just don't get into a fightwith an intellectual or emotional
fight, because you're going tolose every time.
(21:41):
Because the energy of fighting.
Right.
Reinforces the negative emotion.
Yes, exactly.
If you go to war with that,you're going to lose every time.
Yeah.
All right.
Yeah.
Can I say one other thing?
That's just one other thing.
I think.
I just think some sometimes,especially if we're feeling those
emotions of anger orresentment, you know, sometimes we
can really get caught up in,well, the other person said this,
(22:04):
and the other person saidthat, and it's their fault.
And I'm going to stay angrybecause I'm not going to, like, let
this go.
But you're just holdingyourself captive to that prisoner,
to that, in a way.
And I think if you can gethonored that you're feeling that,
but not go into the, he saidthis, she said that.
Because that just takes youback down in the spiral of feeling
bad.
It does, And I love that.
(22:25):
And that's like saying, youknow, holding your grudge is like
drinking poison and waitingfor the other guy to die.
Yes.
And, you know, not going to happen.
All right, so thank you forthat little detour about how you
got there.
Because what you need to know,all of you, is you're not alone and
there is a way out, and you'rethe only one that can walk the path,
even if you have to go get aboatload of help from different sources.
(22:47):
So you've discovered thateight years ago, you sang to the
lady, and it made a differencefor you.
And then walk me from there towhere you realize and are more realizing
the true power of this gift,which was to be expressed this way
and not that way.
Yeah.
So first of all, it was.
(23:08):
I recognized it to be a giftbecause when I.
When I let my voice out inthat way, I felt so free.
And so, like, oh, like, justlike, what do I say?
I felt free and liberated,that I knew that this was what I
was meant to do.
(23:28):
And so from that moment, itwas like I.
Just for a little while it washard for me to talk about it because
I was very much like, well,what will people think?
What will they say?
How will they perceive this?
But what I realized, and maybethis will help help your listeners,
is in the.
The what was growing stronger.
My desire for bringing forththis gift and being seen and letting
(23:52):
this out in the world wasgetting so much stronger than the
fear that was holding me back.
I couldn't stop, stop it anymore.
To stop it would have been.
Would have been to suppress myself.
So everything just started tounfold a lot quicker.
I.
I stopped just being me on myown in a room.
I made connections, a lot ofconnections with people all over
(24:14):
the world.
And I realized that not onlycould I take this from.
For one to many, I could dothis work online as well.
So I suddenly built a businessthat was global.
So I was, I was working withpeople faced online.
And then I.
And then I discovered thatactually this could.
(24:34):
This, this worked whether Iwas working with one person or whether
I was working with fronts ofgroups of people.
So I, I have done many workshops.
I've done many live sort oflike sessions where I might be me
here, but I'll be deliveringto hundreds of people.
And the feedback that I getfrom that, when people just tune
in and they listen and theyallow themselves to receive the vibrations
(24:58):
and the words that I share,they have.
Every single person has theirown experience from it.
And so it may.
It made me see that this couldbe, this could have such a ripple
out in the world because I canbe me, but I can be delivering to
hundreds or thousands ofpeople, and they're going to receive
what they need from listening,from allowing themselves to hear
(25:19):
and receive the vibrationsthat come from my voice.
One of the things you saidthat I think is so interesting is.
Interesting is the wrong word.
Powerful.
Truthful and powerful is this.
And I'm going to.
Before I say it, I'm going to.
If a speaker speaks, eachperson in the audience is going to
(25:41):
hear whatever they hearthrough the lenses of life that they
wear because they can't doanything else.
People say, oh, you don't seelife the way it is.
You see life the way you are?
Well, well, duh, you can't seeit any other way because that's all
that you have is those lenses.
And so when a speaker speaksit's not weird to think, oh, everybody
(26:02):
hears whatever they hear.
It's no different when yousing and you provide the energy that
flows through you to provide.
I'm going to hear it directlyas through my own life lenses and
experience.
And it's going to be eitherdivided or multiplied by my willingness
(26:24):
to be present and, and allowthe truth of that message, spoken
or sung, to come into my heart.
Wow.
That I had to take a deepbreath as you said that.
And I think that's so true.
I think you're right.
There is a sense of somepeople are just receive it immediately
(26:46):
because they're so ready for it.
Yet with others, like yousaid, it can take time because sometimes
it's hard to allow, isn't it?
Because if, if we allow, westart thinking, well, if I, you know,
that's almost like opening thecan of worms, isn't it?
And if I allow and let thingsout, what does that mean for my life?
You know, so it can, it can bequite daunting sometimes for people
(27:09):
to just allow because it meansthat change is going to happen, which
is a great thing.
But sometimes when we knowwhen we are where we are, it feels
safe.
And the unknown can feel scary.
Well, people argue for theirlimitations all the time.
And if you're married to yourexcuses or you love being in the
victim mindset, or, you know,in the pool of learned helplessness,
addiction to mediocrity is theunholy trinity in my mind.
(27:32):
If you, if you, if you, ifyou're comfortable there and you,
you know, the blaming and allthe stuff that goes on in that disempowering
state, allowing for numberone, the truth that something, if
you let it in, can change is ascary thing by itself.
And then not only allowing forthe possibility, but then allowing
the message, whether it'sspoken or sung, the vibrations to
(27:56):
do something to you.
Because the notes themselvesare just notes.
Yeah.
And we are connected in thatenergetic way.
And sound is sound.
And so someone's willingnessto allow the possibility that it
might change them, which isopening the door and then to just
(28:17):
let it be so that you canexperience the truth, whatever that
might be that comes into you,which will be different for every
person because the chamber oftheir heart into which it goes is
so different and it's so true.
I see it all the time with thegroups that I work with.
I'll do the same session, thesame healing.
(28:38):
They'll all have completelydifferent experiences because they,
like you said, they are theirown vessel.
They are their own body.
And.
And so they experience it how.
How they need to experience it.
And it will be different forevery single person, which is magical
in a way.
It's completely magical.
And you know what we'rediscovering, so let's back.
(29:02):
But what we're discovering isthis energetic connection that holds
everything together.
Like the vibration andfrequency of love is what holds the
world, the universe, together.
And you know that because assoon as discord, hate, fear, and
other things are introduced,it's divisive and blows stuff up.
And the more we dive into thattruth, the more truthful it becomes.
(29:25):
And sometimes it can be scarybecause it feels like.
And we don't know anythingabout this crap.
Oh, no, it's scary like that.
Yeah, I know.
The measurements and thescience we pretend is so holy.
And the truth is that science,too, it's just a bunch of stuff we
haven't figured out at all howit works yet.
(29:45):
And so, you know, we're scaredof it.
Why do you think we live in aworld that is so closed, so abrasive?
Like we've created a worldthat is so tuned to pushing down
gifts, to pushing away thesethings to keep people in a box, to
be fearful, to be inauthentic,to fit in somebody else's story.
(30:08):
Why do we live in that world?
Wow, that's.
That's another question.
I.
Why do we live in that world?
I think it's big.
It's.
It's conditioning, isn't it?
It's what we've seen, it'swhat we've been told, it's what's
been programmed through thegenerations, that this is what's
possible.
And I think it takes.
(30:29):
It takes a strong and braveperson to realize that that isn't
the truth and we don't have tolive in that world.
And I, in a hopeful way, Ifeel that there is more and more
and more and more of us whorecognize we don't have to live in
that world anymore.
And that's, in a way, bringsme hope that it's not always going
(30:52):
to stay like that.
It feels certainly, it feelslike that currently where we are
right now in 2025, it can feellike we can see there's quite a lot
of, let's say, restriction andfear and stuff around.
But I also feel on thepositive side, there are more of
us who are saying, but itdoesn't have to be that way, and
(31:14):
we need to, like you and I aredoing, Helen, show people that we
don't have.
It doesn't have to be that way.
So I agree with you 100.
And that's why I'm on themission to do what I'm on the mission
to do.
Because we know.
We don't think, we're notpostulating, we're not guessing,
we're not hoping.
(31:34):
We know that something else ispossible because we've personally
experienced it and we'vehelped others find it.
And so it's not about that.
It's about the process ofallowing, of presenting the opportunity,
the invitation for others toopen the door and consider the possibility
(31:55):
and then embrace their owntrue divine nature and the resonance
that can come from.
I don't need to explain it.
I just need to have it be true.
So tell us, tell us about moredetail about the work you do.
You know, I don't know ifpeople want to follow you somewhere.
How do they do that?
(32:15):
How do they find more aboutthe coolness of Rachel?
They want to go swim in that.
What do they do?
Well, they'd be very welcometo come and swim.
Swimming in.
In my energy.
I mainly can be found onLinkedIn these days, which would
be, Rachel, wait, W A Y T E.
My website is Rachel Waits.comand on there, you know, if they want
(32:38):
to just.
If they've heard me andthey've gone, do you know what?
I'm ready to get unstuck.
I'm ready to start makingchanges in my life.
They can go on there and theycan sample a whole session that's
on there, 60 minutes long.
It's called Unstoppable Energy.
So that will really help people.
It was created for almost likehow I was feeling at that time when
I was feeling stuck andlacking in any spark.
(32:59):
This, this session there willhelp people really reignite their
energy, Reignite their spark.
So that is there for anybodywho's just like, okay, where can
I.
Where can I begin?
And so those are the two wayspeople can connect with me.
They can reach out through mywebsite, through LinkedIn.
I have a media page on there.
If anybody wants for me to beon their podcast or speak or talk
(33:21):
and they like what I've said,they can find that information on
there as well.
Yeah.
So I want to ask you, youknow, somebody might hear this and
say, sort of with thisskeptical attitude, yeah, whatever.
Some bunch of noise isn'tgoing to change anything for me.
And if you're feeling that,and I'm going to say something and
(33:43):
then invite you to comment,Rachel, if you're hearing that and
you're feeling that, let me.
Let me give you anotherpossibility instead of saying I'll
go listen to three seconds andif it doesn't drop bold gold bars
in my porch.
It's a bunch of crap.
You could do that and you'refree to do that.
And I promise you if you dothat nothing's going to happen.
(34:03):
What I would invite you to doinstead is say to yourself, what
if there's a piece of truthhere that I haven't discovered yet
and set yourself 10 or 15minutes aside and just show up and
participate with nothing elsegoing on and your heart open just
(34:28):
to see.
Because you can force doctorssay all the time the people that
want to get better are theones that get better.
And people that have a hatefulor negative attitude, their own healing
in hospitals don't.
And so we know that's true.
And so I would just invite youto, instead of fighting with it,
think about what if.
(34:50):
And that's was what I wantedto say and I want to invite you to
talk a little bit about that.
Yeah, that's so beautifulbecause those were as you were saying
it, those were the words thatwere coming to me, you know, what
if this could open the door tosomething new, to a new potential,
to a new way of living, to anew way of being for me.
And even if you go in thatlittle door opened it would, it will
(35:14):
begin to help you.
And you know, the other thingthat I want to say is just be open
because I came from a worldwhere my father was a judge, my mum
a nurse, the most two, themost beautiful loving people I know.
But there was.
And so I was brought up, youknow, believing that there wasn't
(35:37):
much beyond what we can see.
And so I wasn't bought withenergy, with sound, with any of this.
And the only way.
So when I, when it came intomy world I was a bit like you thinking
your, your listeners by a bit skeptical.
But the way it landed for mewas, you know what I felt it, I could
suddenly feel energy, I couldfeel vibration and it was making
(36:02):
a change within me.
And I thought well if this ishelping me, I'm not making this up,
this is real, if that makes sense.
So I just wanted to share thatbecause my own journey was also a
skeptical journey coming fromquite a skeptical sort of family,
a skeptical background togoing let's be open minded to this,
(36:24):
let's not, let's, let's look abit deeper into this.
What does this look like?
What could this possibly be tothen now seeing the ripple effect
and the effect that it canhave in people's lives in such a
huge way.
Why.
Why would I want to hold thatback and not talk about it and not
offer people the opportunityto experience this and hope that
(36:44):
it brings them change and relief?
I love that.
Because you're absolutelycertain that it can.
All of us who do any kind ofchange work are also absolutely certain,
with plenty of examples.
The people that don't want tobelieve and don't want to change
won't.
No.
And it won't.
And.
And I could.
I could.
(37:04):
And I could spend hours withthat person.
And if there's just a sort of,like, blanket, I mean, we may start
chinking a little bits away,let's be honest.
But generally, if there's,like, a blanket, this isn't gonna
work.
I don't.
I don't.
I don't want to like you.
I think I might have heard yousaid this before.
Like, I'm not here to convincepeople, and I don't need to convince
people, and I don't want totry and convince anybody.
(37:28):
No, you're offering a gift,and it's on me to say, what if this.
What if this package has thekey to my own misery in it?
Yeah.
And I invite you to considerit that way.
Rachel, what didn't I ask youthat you're dying to talk about?
That would be just super fun,and we'd get done, and you'd say,
(37:48):
oh, I should have said that.
Wow.
You know, the words that justcame to me was, you know, everything
we've talked about, it's beenfeeling, like, stuck.
And it's helping people getout of things that are holding them
back.
But, you know, let's alsorecognize that life can be joyful,
(38:08):
like, and that's okay to havea joyful life and the.
To give ourselves permissionto experience joyful things.
I was just.
I just had this vision of whatI sometimes do when I feel.
When I am feeling like myenergy is a bit lower.
I just need to keep myself boosted.
I get in cold water, you know,I go in lakes.
(38:30):
I get in the sea.
I have cold showers.
And that helps me stay grounded.
It helps me stay aligned, andit helps me connect back to.
To nature.
It helps me to connect back to joy.
So I think sometimes we alsohave to do things like that.
We also have to recognize thatif we can move our bodies, if we
can exercise, if you can getout in nature, we can do things that
(38:53):
slightly stretch us.
You know, getting in the coldsea here in England in the middle
of winter, it's Freezing cold.
But gosh, does it boost my energy?
So I also think give.
Show people, you know, even.
Even if you just do smallthings like that, exercise, running,
walking, fresh air, listeningto music, music, you know, anything
(39:15):
like that, that can also helpshift your energy and bring you to
a more joyful state.
And sometimes when we talklike that, people sort of think it's
kind of weird.
But I want to give you anexample that every single one of
you know about.
If you're hungry, it's uncomfortable.
You know, if you go eat, thatgoes away.
So if you feel suckyenergetically or negative or angry,
(39:39):
it's not weird that if you goeat, and I'm not talking about food
now, I'm talking about if yougo ingest something that is uplifting
and powerful or bracing, likejumping in the water or whatever,
it's just like eating, it willmake it go away.
It will give you a new thing.
Just like, if I go eat, I'mnot hungry.
(40:01):
So this is not like weird.
We do this all the time.
And to understand that there'smany ways to eat to feed your spirit,
your soul, your heart, yourpurpose and everything else.
Yeah, beautiful.
And then when you do that,then you'll have more energy.
And then actually, if you'vebeen looking for clarity, you've
been, you've been trying towork something out, you've been trying
to work through something.
(40:21):
You'll find, find that, oh,I've got more ideas now, I've got
more energy, I've got more thought.
I can even think through ideasbetter and solutions will come and
life just blows that bitbetter a hundred percent.
So, Rachel, you've told uswhere we can find you.
Yes.
Is there anything else finallike thing or not?
(40:42):
No, I do know what I think thefinal thing was that what we were
just saying about getting it,doing those little things to shift
and change your energy.
I feel that.
I feel complete.
As long as you do, I feel comfortable.
It's perfect.
So here's the thing.
You know, if you do nothing,you're going to stay right where
you are because you've beendown that road a million times.
So isn't it time to dosomething new?
Rachel, I want to thank youfor your contribution today, for
(41:05):
your heart, for your openness,sharing your story, encouragement,
places to find you and allthat good stuff.
Thank you.
Thank you so much, Kellen.
It's been great.
So, listeners, I want you totake this seriously.
Like, you know, you followedthe journey.
She was quite open with us andshared with us the process that she
got to get to a place whereshe's fully expressive and uses that
(41:26):
in the service of others.
If you choose to do the samething, you can bless, lift and create
your ultimate life right here,right now.
Your opportunity for massivegrowth is right in front of you.
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