April 4, 2025 • 35 mins
Are you coasting through life on autopilot and wondering why fulfillment feels so far away? In this episode, Kellan Fluckiger dismantles the myth that living your best life “just happens.” He lays down the hard truth: if you're not preparing, you're not serious.
From morning rituals that fuel divine connection and creativity to redefining preparation as an act of love, Kellan challenges you to radically reframe how you show up for everything—your work, your relationships, your joy.
Get ready to toss out excuses and build a life you actually want. This isn’t fluff. It’s a wake-up call.
🎯 Key Takeaways:
- Preparation is power. It's not about performance—it's about intention, alignment, and love.
- The SPÉM framework (Spiritual, Physical, Emotional, Mental) transforms how you show up every day.
- If you're not preparing, you’re telling yourself it doesn’t matter.
- Your story of resilience matters—Kellan wants to hear it.
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(00:02):
Welcome to the show.
Tired of the hype about livingthe dream?
It's time for truth.
This is the place for tools,power, and real talk, so you can
create the life you dream anddeserve your ultimate life.
Subscribe, share, create.
(00:24):
You have infinite power.
Hi there.
Welcome to your ultimate life.
Today's an exciting, exciting,fun day.
Super exciting because it'sone of the master keys to creating
purpose, prosperity and joy.
Purpose, prosperity and joy.
You know, I set up my lifeschedule, business, all of that,
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so I meet lots of new people.
I have several today andprobably between 5 and 10 every single
week that are brand new that Ihaven't talked to before.
And I do that for several reasons.
One, I love people.
I would love to meet you, soyou're invited.
If you'd like to have aconversation with Kellen, then go
to this URL on the screen,kellenfluekigermedia.com and there's
(01:08):
a contact form there.
So let's talk.
I'm looking for special peopleand you are included.
And I'll tell you why I know that.
Because if you're listening toa podcast about creating purpose,
prosperity and joy, then thosewords appeal to you.
The idea of having a lifedriven by purpose, that is your way
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of adding good to the world.
That sounds good.
And you get all tingly when Isay stuff like that, right?
I want you to close your eyes,unless you're driving, and I want
you to listen to your heartfor a sec and answer this question.
What does the world look likeif the deepest desire of your heart
came to pass?
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Now, I'm assuming in makingthat question or asking that, that
it isn't like I need a billiondollars so the world doesn't look
like anything.
I'm just stinking rich.
Okay, let's get past that.
Let's assume you haveeverything you need to have a decent
life, a good life.
And you go into the part ofyour heart that says, I want to help
people.
I want to help.
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I want to add good to the world.
I want to serve.
I want to matter.
I want to do something that matters.
I know you feel that.
I know you feel it.
You may not feel it all the time.
It may not be front andcenter, but I know for sure you feel
that.
I want to add good to the world.
I want to help.
I love helping people.
You volunteer in thecommunity, at church, at your kids,
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school, with friends.
You do that.
Maybe you're the person thatpeople confide in and they love talking
to you.
Maybe you're that person Right.
But I know you love to help.
And so if you think about itand you look at your life experience,
and maybe you've had lifeexperience with troubled teenagers,
maybe you had a personal bunchof experiences growing up where you
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had, you struggled, maybe youwere abused, maybe you suffered some
terrible illness and you gotpast that and you haven't let it
ruin you.
Sometimes when that craphappens, it ruins us.
And we spend a month, a year,a decade, maybe the rest of our lives
bitter and angry because theworld did us wrong or God dissed
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us.
Right?
And so we wonder, how doesthat play?
How is that just.
Well, I'm not going to talkabout the justice of God.
One of the main things is toremember this hundred years that
you have here, or 50 orhowever long it is, is a micro dot.
We know you know you weresomewhere before and you're going
somewhere.
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So justice.
Several things.
First of all, your view and myview of justice is warped.
We have actually no idea whatjustice actually is.
Two, justice takes howeverlong it takes, right?
If someone commits a crime, itmight be a year before they're caught
and then incarcerated.
So justice is not thisinstantaneous admonition or application
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of whatever it is we thinkought to happen.
That's silly.
Imagine the world like that.
So don't.
That's not happening.
My question is if you have hadsome difficulty or many, you know,
you've had unfair injusticeheaped on you and trials and struggles,
yet you've gotten past it.
And you, you're standing heretoday standing tall, saying, I did
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it, I got past it, I'm here,now, I matter.
Oh, then I am all over thatand several things.
One, I'd love to tell your story.
So please get a hold of me,kellenflueckegermedia.com and go
there and fill out the contactform and let's talk.
I want to share your story ofresilience, of overcoming, of becoming.
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That's fabulous.
We need a million more ofthose stories this year because the
world is so full of pain and struggle.
Some hostages are going to bereleased from this sad war that's
been taking place in theMiddle East.
Couple of little kids andthey're dead, so they're going to
send their bodies home.
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Tragedy.
And we get to choose how to goforward from there.
We can go forward filled withhate and anger, or we can go forward
and create positive goodthings, even though at this moment
there is no way to createjustice for that terrible act.
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It's a good thing that lifeitself is way before and way after.
Because in this little mortalframe, those little kids don't get
to grow up.
They're done.
It's over.
And that is as sad as it is.
And I'm not pretending any ofthat away.
And there will be absolute justice.
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And I'm grateful I'm not incharge of that, because I actually
have no idea what that wouldlook like.
But there will be.
There is and there will be.
Because this life's longerthan just these hundred years, or
fifty, or in their case, two years.
One was two, or one was zeroor one, I guess, and was four.
But anyway, so get past all that.
If you have a story aboutresilience and growth, I want to
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share it.
I want to hear it.
I want to hear your resilience.
I want to learn about you.
I want to know about you.
If you're in the middle of oneof those things, I want to encourage
you.
Right now, there is a sunrise.
There is a way to get past itright now.
No matter how dark, black,ugly, stupid, wrong, unjust, it seems,
there's a way forward.
The sun is going to come up.
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And choosing to get throughthose things and grow is a choice.
You can choose to hate, youcan choose to love.
You can choose to be ruined or refined.
I speak that from the depth ofmy heart, having done both, having
been ruined by things thatwere done to me and things that I
did and refined for both ofthose things also.
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So I know it's possible.
And my work is to help othersdo the same, to make that conscious,
intentional choice to beruined or refined, but to be refined
and then to turn around andlift and bless others, which is the
whole point.
But purpose, you need to think.
You don't need to do anything.
But figuring out what mypurpose was was a challenge.
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And the most rewarding thingI've done.
I know yours will be too.
So.
And.
And it doesn't come in anAmazon box and you don't suddenly
land on something go, oh,that's going to inspire me.
The rest of forever doesn'twork like that.
Purpose is a choice, and italmost always comes from struggles
and pain that you'veexperienced in life.
You then adopt a purpose thatis exactly consistent with what you
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learned in your deepest struggles.
Purpose, prosperity and joy isthe ultimate life.
You might use different words,but the same sentiment is there.
Today, I want to talk aboutthe power of preparation.
The power of preparation.
So again, to reiterate theinvitation, if you have a story you'd
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like to share, I'd like tohear from you.
Kellenfluecigermedia.com, usethe contact form and let's talk.
I have this show and I have LATalk Radio and I have other places.
I have a new television showcoming up.
Let's talk about what you haveto share and how you want to add
good to the world today.
The power of preparation is avery important, exciting, critical.
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I can't use enough big words, topic.
It matters more than almostanything because when we go at stuff
half baked, we get half baked results.
No Olympic athlete warms upafter the game.
No concert violinist warms upafter the concert.
We warm up or get ready orprepare ahead of time.
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Got a big deal at work, big presentation.
You know, you get the slidesdone ahead of time.
Maybe you practice it a timeor two.
If you want to have aneffective, persuasive conversation,
you think it through.
You think about what you mightsay, what's really important, what's
not important.
You want to make a goodimpression on someone.
You think about it ahead of time.
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What will make sense?
How can I get through to them?
How can I create rapport?
All that stuff involves preparation.
Today I want to talk about thepower of preparation, and I want
to divide it up into what ispreparation and how do you prepare
for things?
Why would you do that anyway?
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And then the steps of creatinga powerful preparation process.
Now, I want you to think inyour life about things that you do
at a high level, things thatyou do professionally, essentially,
or at a high level.
Maybe you get paid for themand maybe you don't, but something
you're really good at.
Okay, when you get ready to godo that, what is your preparation
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or what have you already doneto be prepared?
Now, there's an interestingthing about that.
I get asked to speak a lot atdifferent places.
I get asked to run meetings, Iget asked to speak, I get asked to
run groups.
And it's not a surprise.
I've done tens of thousands ormore hours of preparation, leadership,
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speaking, you know, that kindof thing.
So I am done preparing.
If I want to talk about aparticular topic, like today, it's
preparation.
I did some work ahead of timeso that what we talk about will matter,
so that our preparation, mypreparation to talk about preparation
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will be something valuable to you.
All right, so let's dive right in.
What is preparation?
Well, preparation is anintentional set of behaviors or practices
to get ready to do a good jobfor something, right?
Whether it's to speak or tosell something or to, you know, invite,
you know, Ask someone out on adate or manage a difficult child,
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having a difficultconversation at work, Any of those
things.
The process of thinking aboutit ahead of time, maybe making some
notes, maybe creating someslides, you know, whatever it is,
that process of getting ready,it can be as simple as I get up in
the morning and I take ashower and I put on good clothes.
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Why?
Because I want to be preparedfor work.
Now, if you don't go to workanymore and do all your work from
home like I do, I still do abunch of preparation, but it isn't
so that I'll look good on Zoom.
And if you're watching thevideo, ooh, I look good today.
You know, it isn't that it's adifferent kind of preparation, but
it's still for the same reason.
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So definition.
Preparation is an intentionalset of behaviors, habits, or practices
to get ready for something.
Right.
Why would you prepare?
Well, you prepare when it'simportant to you.
If you don't want to prepare,that often means you don't think
it's important.
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It doesn't really matter.
And you can say that it does.
But if you're unwilling totake some time and effort to prepare
effectively, then you're lyingto yourself.
Doesn't really mean something.
Doesn't matter.
I even think about that.
Going to church.
So you go to church and I goto church.
I don't know why you go tochurch or even if you do go to church,
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to what worship.
I prepare for that.
I pray.
I try to connect.
I don't try.
I connect with the divine.
I think about and talk aboutwhat's on my heart.
I go with the intention ofworshiping, and I worship my God
and my Savior.
Why would I do that?
Well, my relationship has beensuch that I truly worship them.
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My Savior has rescued me fromcountless difficulties, and I've
told those stories on other episodes.
So I'm not going to do that today.
But when I go to church, I getready because I want the worship
to be effective.
I want it to be sincere, and Iwant it to be meaningful.
So even something like goingto church or playing pickleball,
you get the right clothes onand maybe you stretch and maybe,
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you know, we do some things.
So that's what prep is, andthat's why we do it.
So there's another piece oftruth, and that is this.
How much we prepare forsomething is directly correlated
to how important it is.
If I don't really care aboutthe outcome, then I don't prepare.
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It doesn't matter what Happens.
Then I ask myself another question.
Why am I doing it at all?
If I don't care about theoutcome, why am I doing it at all?
Now, you may think that's aharsh question, but it's not.
Because let's talk about some examples.
Let's say I'm going to gosomewhere with my precious, beloved
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angel, Joy, who's a holy beingI get to live with.
So I'm going somewhere withJoy, and I don't even know what we're
going to go do.
She wants to go shopping, andI said I'd go with her.
I prepare for that.
Not because I know where we'regoing to go or what we're going to
get on a shopping run, butbecause I want the time that I spend
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with that precious being to besacred and holy.
I want her to feel loved, adored.
And I want her to know howmuch I appreciate just being with
her.
To drive down the road andwalk up and down aisles in a store.
I want her to know that thatdoesn't happen accidentally.
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So I get rid of everythingelse I'm doing.
I end.
If I finished a coaching callor I'm taking notes or I'm, you know,
drawing some slides out thatshe's later going to turn into some
slides, and I'm just drawingsome notes.
I quit that.
I end it.
I close the book.
I clean my mind.
I empty it all so that I'm notdistracted, so that I'm not out of
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focus, so I'm clear with her only.
And that's a preparation.
I do because I want it to be meaningful.
I want it to be precious.
I don't want to spend any timethat's just meh.
So that might be a new thoughtfor you, because someone could say,
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who cares what you do in your shopping?
I do.
I care.
Not about the shopping, butabout the time with the relationship.
So I want you to considerevery single thing that you do.
Everything from watchingtelevision to doing the dishes, to
preparing your body for theday to your morning daily creation
process.
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Morning routine, but I call ita dcp.
Daily creation Process.
How do you prepare?
And if that feels like anuncomfortable question, then good,
great.
Because that means you're notpreparing and you know it.
And maybe you've been unawareof it, and that just means you're
just going through the day,going with the flow and whatever
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happens, and you're absolutelyfree to do that.
And I've lived life like thatsometimes, but I haven't found it
very fulfilling.
And I haven't Certainly foundit to be pushing me toward that purpose.
Prosperity and joy.
If I decide that my purpose isjust to do whatever float around
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and whatever happens, happens,then I guess I've done a great job.
If I live like that, and Ihave lived like that, I don't find
that fulfilling for very longat all.
So I've changed, changed whatI want out of life.
And I have a definite purpose.
And that definite purposecreates prosperity and joy, which
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means plenty of deep andmeaningful relationships, plenty
of cash to do the things Iwant, and plenty of joy.
Not just my wife joy, but joyin my life.
So I'm stoked all the time.
I'm laughing and loving life,jumping up and down the stairs.
And I love my life all time,all the time, every day.
And you might think I'm nuts,and maybe I am, but it's a lot more
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fun to live like that than Iused to live, which was aimless and
chasing empty goals and justafter money and position.
So preparation number one,Decide that you want to prepare.
That means you have to make a decision.
I want to be all in foreverything that I do, whether it's
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shopping with a partner,whether it's shopping alone, whether
it's taking a walk.
I want to be all into this walk.
I want to relax and enjoy thescenery and feel the steps on the
concrete or the grass.
I want to really be here.
I don't want to be distractedand be thinking about other stuff
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so that the walk's suddenlyover and I'm like, what happened?
I don't want to do that.
So you get to decide whetheryou're going to prepare every day
or not.
Or you can say, today is a dayof nothing.
I'm just going to be today.
That's okay.
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Then if you're going toprepare for that, you know what you
got to do?
Empty.
Get empty.
Because if you've got lots ofleftovers from yesterday hanging
on, worry about something thatwent wrong.
Worry about a conversation.
Worry about who you're goingto see or what somebody said to you,
worry.
Or you're worried about thefuture, fretting about what tomorrow's
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going to bring or some dealthat's going to go down or not.
If you're worried about thepast or the future, guess what?
You're not doing nothing.
You're not just being today.
You're being overwhelmed andattacked and flooded and buried by
fussing about yesterday and tomorrow.
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So even relaxing requires, ifyou're going to do well, requires
good prep.
Because if I go relax and I'mfussed about yesterday or tomorrow.
Metaphorically, the relaxingis not good.
You know, how about that?
You go to sleep and you can'tsleep very well because your mind's
all churned up about this,that and the other.
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How does that work?
So preparation is a.
It's an overlooked powerfultool to create a life of purpose,
prosperity and joy.
Now I'm going to talk abouthow I prepare.
And I prepare the same wayevery single day, no matter what
I'm doing that day.
And I don't work every day andI don't bust my ass all day long
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with no joy.
I have joy all the time, every day.
Not to mention the joy of mybeautiful angel wife whose name is
Joy.
Here is how I prepare.
I use the acronym spem S P E M.
I have some spiritualpreparation that I do every day,
even if I'm going to play.
I have some physicalpreparation that I do every day.
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If I'm.
Even if I'm going to play orif I'm going to work, doesn't matter.
I have some emotionalpreparation that I do every day,
even if I'm going to play,doesn't matter what I'm going to
do.
And mental preparation nomatter what I'm going to do.
And one of the most difficultthings to communicate about this
is when I describe this, whatyou often hear is, ugh, that's a
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lot of friggin work.
No it's not.
It's joyful.
It empties all distractionsand negativity and it makes me open
and playful and creative and fun.
So it used to be work.
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But when you get to the placewhere you preparing your heart, your
soul, your body, your mind forthe day is joyful and you're craving
it because of how good youfeel, then you have understood preparation.
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So you might be preparing ameal and you're preparing your favorite
food and you love the parts ofit and you know you're doing what
it is and you're just thinkingabout the taste.
That kind of excitement canaccompany every preparation.
So my spiritual preparation.
And I do that no matter what,even if I'm going to take the day
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and go play.
And here's why.
I always 100% of the time wantto be connected to God.
I want to be able to hearinspiration and intuition.
I want to be in that space.
Here's why.
See this picture?
I hope you're looking at the video.
This person meditating and themoon is very bright and everything.
I like it when my soul feelslike it that all the time, even if
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we're on a picnic or even ifwe're just doing something around
the house, I want to feel likethat because I have felt like that.
Like this picture light and joy.
And I have felt not like that.
And it's way more fun to feellike that no matter what I'm doing.
So I prepare spiritually, Iconnect to God, I meditate, I pray
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with deep and meaningful intent.
And truthfully, I spend moretime listening than speaking.
Like, a lot more, because I'mway more interested in what God has
to say to me than what I haveto say to God.
I want you to think about that.
I really am.
I'm way more interested inwhat's coming back than what I'm
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sending up.
God already knows the thoughtsand intents of all of our hearts.
And when we speak it, we speak it.
But I'm listening.
So that's the spiritual preparation.
Physical preparation hasalways been part of my life.
From the time I was inelementary school and earlier we
just had a habit in our familyof getting up and doing some exercises.
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Today that's even moreimportant because I'm busted in a
lot of ways.
I have some arthritis in myleft hip and my right back and sciatica
and pain here, there andeverywhere, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm not complaining, butthe stretching and the, you know,
some core exercises and stufflike that are really important to
me because then it dictateshow much pain I have during the day.
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Yuck.
Right?
And I enjoy the pain.
It reminds me I'm alive, andit reminds me to be grateful for
the things that don't hurt.
So that physical preparationis important, and I don't skip it
because I don't like how itfeels when I skip it.
The E in my preparation isemotional, and to me that means all
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the love and relationships andeverything in terms of connection
to others.
So you know what I do for that?
I send messages of love.
The phone makes that so easy.
I'll just thumb throughmessages or emails or Facebook chat
or WhatsApp or whatever andsend messages of love and encouragement.
Doesn't matter if someone sentme or not.
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It's not answering.
It's just loving people, right?
And what I find.
Here's what I notice.
I feel really good when I dothat, and I feel empty when I don't.
Later, I might get someanswers and people might say, wow,
that was nice.
Thank you.
I sure needed that.
Or they might not.
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I don't care.
I want to share and spread Love.
Because that is so building.
It builds, it creates, itlifts, it blesses.
You know that when someonereally is loving on you, how does
that feel?
Well, I'm loving on you right now.
You're awesome, you'rebeautiful, you're capable.
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I'd love to talk to you.
I'm inviting you into conversation.
So I spend a few minutes doing that.
And the last one is M Mental,which means I stimulate my mind.
I might read some articles, Imight catch up on the news.
I have a stack of about 30books that sit over there that I'm
always in the middle of.
There's a couple of them right now.
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One of them is about realitytransurfing, which is one I'm in
the middle of.
And one's called SpeakingBeing, which is Werner Earhart and
company.
So those S, P, E, M, I do themall the time because I don't feel
like I've got my pants onuntil I've got that done.
I don't feel like I'm awakeuntil I've sent messages of love.
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I don't feel like I can doanything the best I can until I'm
prepared.
And I don't want to make apodcast episode.
I don't want to give acoaching call.
I had two calls this morningbefore recording this.
I don't want to do any ofthose things unless I'm all here,
unless I'm full of love,unless I'm full of listening.
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You know what I mean?
I want to be full of listeningand full of love and full of openness
and full of inspiration and intuition.
Even if I'm just going to sitwith my honey or even if I'm going
to rewire some stuff in the studio.
It's how I feel that mattersand that I have control of.
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Because you and me, we controlour emotions.
We control our feelings aswell as our actions.
So what I notice in doing thatand in helping clients create their
own, I'm not saying my ritualhas to be yours.
I have questions about it.
One, are you willing to createfor yourself a preparation process
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that leaves you feeling on topof the world?
You're willing to do that.
And here's what I know aboutcreating those is it takes some experimenting.
It's not about having achecklist and doing a bunch of rote
crap, because that doesn't work.
It gets boring and it gets tiring.
And maybe you're in a hoteland maybe this, that, and the other.
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Forget that.
It is an outcome driven process.
So here's the outcome I am notdone preparing my day for my day
until I feel connected to God,on fire, creative, alive.
My body's been stretched andI'm ready to go.
Then I feel good and I'm readyto meet whatever's on the day, whatever's
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on the calendar, whether it'sgoing to the grocery store or giving
coaching calls or working inthe studio on some music or writing
in a book or doing some yardwork, it doesn't matter.
I want to be all me, allthere, all in.
So I urge you to considercreating yourself a ritual and then
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using it every single day for90 days.
Don't do it for a couple of days.
Ah, I didn't do anything.
I don't have time.
You don't have any idea if itdid anything.
You got no idea.
You got to do it for 90 days.
But here is the thing.
Don't just do 90 days of rote checkoff.
Play with it and say, when Iget done with this, here's how I
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feel.
Did it work?
Right?
Is it working?
That's the question for me.
I'm a coach, right?
So I talk to people a lotabout getting the help they need
to accomplish their goals.
And I'll often ask them, well,do you have a coach of some kind?
Oh, yeah, I got all that.
And then that's actually notthe question that matters.
You know what matters?
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Is it working?
Meaning is the activity you'reengaging in with your coach, whatever
framework that looks like, isit helping you do be better, have
what you want, be who you want?
Right?
Is it working?
Because that's what matters.
So when you think about amorning routine, and I say morning,
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morning is the only time orright when you get up, if you get
up at noon, okay, right then.
Because you're at the start ofyour day, and it is the opportunity,
the very best and biggestopportunity that you have or I have
to shape the day to cause theday to be as much like you want as
possible.
Now, I know crap happens andgets in the way every single day.
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Every single day it does that.
Yep.
And that's okay.
Because when I am my verybest, I am on the top, I'm on the
fire, connected to God andinspired and excited and stretched
and feel good.
No matter what happens, evenif it's crap, I'm way, way better
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able to deal with it than ifI'm not prepared.
So my offer to you and mychallenge to you is multi to several
parts.
One, I challenge you to createa ritual.
I challenge you to play with it.
Until it works.
It leaves you feelingpowerful, on fire.
I challenge you to never skip,to get committed.
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You're not committing to me.
You're committing to you.
You're saying, wow, I want tolive the best life I can, and that
means being the best me every day.
And you get to decide what thebest you looks like.
I'm not saying what I do isthe thing you ought to do.
I'm saying I've played withthis for years, and it leaves me
on fire.
And I get more done than Ieven imagine in a day.
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I'm creative.
I write books.
I do this.
I coach people.
And it works because they keepcoming back.
So I challenge you to createyourself a ritual and play with it
till it works.
Then I invite you to share itwith me.
Tell me what happened.
Tell me what it meant.
Tell me your process of doing it.
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Tell me if it was hard or ifit was easy, if it was obvious or
if it was obtuse.
You had to dig around and playwith it for a while.
You're worth it.
You're an infinite, divine being.
You're worth all the lovingcare and kindness you can have.
And it starts with loving yourself.
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Love yourself enough to be kind.
Love yourself enough to liftand bless your heart and your life.
Choose to honor and respectyour body, your spirit, your heart,
and your mind.
Prepare yourself.
You're worth it.
Whether it's for work or yourpartner or your business or your
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kids, do the preparation work.
Now, after I've said all that,you could be saying, ugh, that sounds
hard.
It is a little hard toestablish habits.
New habits are not trivial.
But I can make you a promiseon the other side.
It's the most important thingI do every single day.
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It creates more money in my business.
Cash, cash, cash.
It creates that.
It creates love.
It creates beauty.
It creates clients.
It creates fun.
It helps me drive my purposefully, freely.
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Ah.
I would never skip my morning preparation.
So I invite you to getcommitted and then answer this question.
Who do you need to be to getthat much in love with yourself?
Who do you need to be to becreated and fully prepared?
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Who do you need to be to loveyourself enough to pour in that preparation?
I know you're valuable.
I know you're beautiful.
Do you.
Will you honor yourself?
Your heart?
Your love?
Your creator?
Those you live with, Thosethat depend on you?
Will you honor yourself enoughto be fully prepared?
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So today was about the powerof preparation.
I can promise you you'll getmore money, you'll get more done,
and you'll be happier.
That's a guarantee if you'llcreate a habit of preparation for
everything you do and you playwith it until it makes you feel like
that.
Until it makes you feelconnected and on fire.
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If you'd like, help Reach outto me kellenfluecigermedia.com contact
form reach out to Me Reach outon Social I'm on all the socials.
I'm an expert at this.
A world class freaking expertat this kind of preparation.
And I live it.
I'm a walking testimonial.
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It works every day, everytime, without fail.
Every day is beautiful.
Every day is powerful.
Every day is exciting,productive, in love and connected
to my purpose.
You can have that.
I'm not magic.
I worked my way to that place.
I love you.
I believe in you and you canhave anything you want.
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Start today and don't stop sothat you can do whatever you have
to do to create your ultimate life.
Never hold back and you'llnever ask why.
Open your heart and this timearound, right here, right now, your
opportunity for mass andgrowth is right in front of you.
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You have infinite power.
Hi there.
Welcome to your ultimate life.
Today's an exciting, exciting,fun day.
Super exciting because it'sone of the master keys to creating
purpose, prosperity and joy.
Purpose, prosperity and joy.
You know, I set up my lifeschedule, business, all of that,
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so I meet lots of new people.
I have several today andprobably between 5 and 10 every single
week that are brand new that Ihaven't talked to before.
And I do that for several reasons.
One, I love people.
I would love to meet you, soyou're invited.
If you'd like to have aconversation with Kellen, then go
to this URL on the screen,kellenfluekigermedia.com and there's
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a contact form there.
So let's talk.
I'm looking for special peopleand you are included.
And I'll tell you why I know that.
Because if you're listening toa podcast about creating purpose,
prosperity and joy, then thosewords appeal to you.
The idea of having a lifedriven by purpose, that is your way
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of adding good to the world.
That sounds good.
And you get all tingly when Isay stuff like that, right?
I want you to close your eyes,unless you're driving, and I want
you to listen to your heartfor a sec and answer this question.
What does the world look likeif the deepest desire of your heart
came to pass?
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Now, I'm assuming in makingthat question or asking that, that
it isn't like I need a billiondollars so the world doesn't look
like anything.
I'm just stinking rich.
Okay, let's get past that.
Let's assume you haveeverything you need to have a decent
life, a good life.
And you go into the part ofyour heart that says, I want to help
people.
I want to help.
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I want to add good to the world.
I want to serve.
I want to matter.
I want to do something that matters.
I know you feel that.
I know you feel it.
You may not feel it all the time.
It may not be front andcenter, but I know for sure you feel
that.
I want to add good to the world.
I want to help.
I love helping people.
You volunteer in thecommunity, at church, at your kids,
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school, with friends.
You do that.
Maybe you're the person thatpeople confide in and they love talking
to you.
Maybe you're that person Right.
But I know you love to help.
And so if you think about itand you look at your life experience,
and maybe you've had lifeexperience with troubled teenagers,
maybe you had a personal bunchof experiences growing up where you
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had, you struggled, maybe youwere abused, maybe you suffered some
terrible illness and you gotpast that and you haven't let it
ruin you.
Sometimes when that craphappens, it ruins us.
And we spend a month, a year,a decade, maybe the rest of our lives
bitter and angry because theworld did us wrong or God dissed
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us.
Right?
And so we wonder, how doesthat play?
How is that just.
Well, I'm not going to talkabout the justice of God.
One of the main things is toremember this hundred years that
you have here, or 50 orhowever long it is, is a micro dot.
We know you know you weresomewhere before and you're going
somewhere.
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So justice.
Several things.
First of all, your view and myview of justice is warped.
We have actually no idea whatjustice actually is.
Two, justice takes howeverlong it takes, right?
If someone commits a crime, itmight be a year before they're caught
and then incarcerated.
So justice is not thisinstantaneous admonition or application
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of whatever it is we thinkought to happen.
That's silly.
Imagine the world like that.
So don't.
That's not happening.
My question is if you have hadsome difficulty or many, you know,
you've had unfair injusticeheaped on you and trials and struggles,
yet you've gotten past it.
And you, you're standing heretoday standing tall, saying, I did
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it, I got past it, I'm here,now, I matter.
Oh, then I am all over thatand several things.
One, I'd love to tell your story.
So please get a hold of me,kellenflueckegermedia.com and go
there and fill out the contactform and let's talk.
I want to share your story ofresilience, of overcoming, of becoming.
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That's fabulous.
We need a million more ofthose stories this year because the
world is so full of pain and struggle.
Some hostages are going to bereleased from this sad war that's
been taking place in theMiddle East.
Couple of little kids andthey're dead, so they're going to
send their bodies home.
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Tragedy.
And we get to choose how to goforward from there.
We can go forward filled withhate and anger, or we can go forward
and create positive goodthings, even though at this moment
there is no way to createjustice for that terrible act.
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It's a good thing that lifeitself is way before and way after.
Because in this little mortalframe, those little kids don't get
to grow up.
They're done.
It's over.
And that is as sad as it is.
And I'm not pretending any ofthat away.
And there will be absolute justice.
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And I'm grateful I'm not incharge of that, because I actually
have no idea what that wouldlook like.
But there will be.
There is and there will be.
Because this life's longerthan just these hundred years, or
fifty, or in their case, two years.
One was two, or one was zeroor one, I guess, and was four.
But anyway, so get past all that.
If you have a story aboutresilience and growth, I want to
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share it.
I want to hear it.
I want to hear your resilience.
I want to learn about you.
I want to know about you.
If you're in the middle of oneof those things, I want to encourage
you.
Right now, there is a sunrise.
There is a way to get past itright now.
No matter how dark, black,ugly, stupid, wrong, unjust, it seems,
there's a way forward.
The sun is going to come up.
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And choosing to get throughthose things and grow is a choice.
You can choose to hate, youcan choose to love.
You can choose to be ruined or refined.
I speak that from the depth ofmy heart, having done both, having
been ruined by things thatwere done to me and things that I
did and refined for both ofthose things also.
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So I know it's possible.
And my work is to help othersdo the same, to make that conscious,
intentional choice to beruined or refined, but to be refined
and then to turn around andlift and bless others, which is the
whole point.
But purpose, you need to think.
You don't need to do anything.
But figuring out what mypurpose was was a challenge.
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And the most rewarding thingI've done.
I know yours will be too.
So.
And.
And it doesn't come in anAmazon box and you don't suddenly
land on something go, oh,that's going to inspire me.
The rest of forever doesn'twork like that.
Purpose is a choice, and italmost always comes from struggles
and pain that you'veexperienced in life.
You then adopt a purpose thatis exactly consistent with what you
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learned in your deepest struggles.
Purpose, prosperity and joy isthe ultimate life.
You might use different words,but the same sentiment is there.
Today, I want to talk aboutthe power of preparation.
The power of preparation.
So again, to reiterate theinvitation, if you have a story you'd
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like to share, I'd like tohear from you.
Kellenfluecigermedia.com, usethe contact form and let's talk.
I have this show and I have LATalk Radio and I have other places.
I have a new television showcoming up.
Let's talk about what you haveto share and how you want to add
good to the world today.
The power of preparation is avery important, exciting, critical.
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I can't use enough big words, topic.
It matters more than almostanything because when we go at stuff
half baked, we get half baked results.
No Olympic athlete warms upafter the game.
No concert violinist warms upafter the concert.
We warm up or get ready orprepare ahead of time.
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Got a big deal at work, big presentation.
You know, you get the slidesdone ahead of time.
Maybe you practice it a timeor two.
If you want to have aneffective, persuasive conversation,
you think it through.
You think about what you mightsay, what's really important, what's
not important.
You want to make a goodimpression on someone.
You think about it ahead of time.
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What will make sense?
How can I get through to them?
How can I create rapport?
All that stuff involves preparation.
Today I want to talk about thepower of preparation, and I want
to divide it up into what ispreparation and how do you prepare
for things?
Why would you do that anyway?
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And then the steps of creatinga powerful preparation process.
Now, I want you to think inyour life about things that you do
at a high level, things thatyou do professionally, essentially,
or at a high level.
Maybe you get paid for themand maybe you don't, but something
you're really good at.
Okay, when you get ready to godo that, what is your preparation
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or what have you already doneto be prepared?
Now, there's an interestingthing about that.
I get asked to speak a lot atdifferent places.
I get asked to run meetings, Iget asked to speak, I get asked to
run groups.
And it's not a surprise.
I've done tens of thousands ormore hours of preparation, leadership,
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speaking, you know, that kindof thing.
So I am done preparing.
If I want to talk about aparticular topic, like today, it's
preparation.
I did some work ahead of timeso that what we talk about will matter,
so that our preparation, mypreparation to talk about preparation
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will be something valuable to you.
All right, so let's dive right in.
What is preparation?
Well, preparation is anintentional set of behaviors or practices
to get ready to do a good jobfor something, right?
Whether it's to speak or tosell something or to, you know, invite,
you know, Ask someone out on adate or manage a difficult child,
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having a difficultconversation at work, Any of those
things.
The process of thinking aboutit ahead of time, maybe making some
notes, maybe creating someslides, you know, whatever it is,
that process of getting ready,it can be as simple as I get up in
the morning and I take ashower and I put on good clothes.
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Why?
Because I want to be preparedfor work.
Now, if you don't go to workanymore and do all your work from
home like I do, I still do abunch of preparation, but it isn't
so that I'll look good on Zoom.
And if you're watching thevideo, ooh, I look good today.
You know, it isn't that it's adifferent kind of preparation, but
it's still for the same reason.
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So definition.
Preparation is an intentionalset of behaviors, habits, or practices
to get ready for something.
Right.
Why would you prepare?
Well, you prepare when it'simportant to you.
If you don't want to prepare,that often means you don't think
it's important.
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It doesn't really matter.
And you can say that it does.
But if you're unwilling totake some time and effort to prepare
effectively, then you're lyingto yourself.
Doesn't really mean something.
Doesn't matter.
I even think about that.
Going to church.
So you go to church and I goto church.
I don't know why you go tochurch or even if you do go to church,
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to what worship.
I prepare for that.
I pray.
I try to connect.
I don't try.
I connect with the divine.
I think about and talk aboutwhat's on my heart.
I go with the intention ofworshiping, and I worship my God
and my Savior.
Why would I do that?
Well, my relationship has beensuch that I truly worship them.
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My Savior has rescued me fromcountless difficulties, and I've
told those stories on other episodes.
So I'm not going to do that today.
But when I go to church, I getready because I want the worship
to be effective.
I want it to be sincere, and Iwant it to be meaningful.
So even something like goingto church or playing pickleball,
you get the right clothes onand maybe you stretch and maybe,
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you know, we do some things.
So that's what prep is, andthat's why we do it.
So there's another piece oftruth, and that is this.
How much we prepare forsomething is directly correlated
to how important it is.
If I don't really care aboutthe outcome, then I don't prepare.
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It doesn't matter what Happens.
Then I ask myself another question.
Why am I doing it at all?
If I don't care about theoutcome, why am I doing it at all?
Now, you may think that's aharsh question, but it's not.
Because let's talk about some examples.
Let's say I'm going to gosomewhere with my precious, beloved
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angel, Joy, who's a holy beingI get to live with.
So I'm going somewhere withJoy, and I don't even know what we're
going to go do.
She wants to go shopping, andI said I'd go with her.
I prepare for that.
Not because I know where we'regoing to go or what we're going to
get on a shopping run, butbecause I want the time that I spend
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with that precious being to besacred and holy.
I want her to feel loved, adored.
And I want her to know howmuch I appreciate just being with
her.
To drive down the road andwalk up and down aisles in a store.
I want her to know that thatdoesn't happen accidentally.
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So I get rid of everythingelse I'm doing.
I end.
If I finished a coaching callor I'm taking notes or I'm, you know,
drawing some slides out thatshe's later going to turn into some
slides, and I'm just drawingsome notes.
I quit that.
I end it.
I close the book.
I clean my mind.
I empty it all so that I'm notdistracted, so that I'm not out of
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focus, so I'm clear with her only.
And that's a preparation.
I do because I want it to be meaningful.
I want it to be precious.
I don't want to spend any timethat's just meh.
So that might be a new thoughtfor you, because someone could say,
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who cares what you do in your shopping?
I do.
I care.
Not about the shopping, butabout the time with the relationship.
So I want you to considerevery single thing that you do.
Everything from watchingtelevision to doing the dishes, to
preparing your body for theday to your morning daily creation
process.
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Morning routine, but I call ita dcp.
Daily creation Process.
How do you prepare?
And if that feels like anuncomfortable question, then good,
great.
Because that means you're notpreparing and you know it.
And maybe you've been unawareof it, and that just means you're
just going through the day,going with the flow and whatever
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happens, and you're absolutelyfree to do that.
And I've lived life like thatsometimes, but I haven't found it
very fulfilling.
And I haven't Certainly foundit to be pushing me toward that purpose.
Prosperity and joy.
If I decide that my purpose isjust to do whatever float around
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and whatever happens, happens,then I guess I've done a great job.
If I live like that, and Ihave lived like that, I don't find
that fulfilling for very longat all.
So I've changed, changed whatI want out of life.
And I have a definite purpose.
And that definite purposecreates prosperity and joy, which
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means plenty of deep andmeaningful relationships, plenty
of cash to do the things Iwant, and plenty of joy.
Not just my wife joy, but joyin my life.
So I'm stoked all the time.
I'm laughing and loving life,jumping up and down the stairs.
And I love my life all time,all the time, every day.
And you might think I'm nuts,and maybe I am, but it's a lot more
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fun to live like that than Iused to live, which was aimless and
chasing empty goals and justafter money and position.
So preparation number one,Decide that you want to prepare.
That means you have to make a decision.
I want to be all in foreverything that I do, whether it's
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shopping with a partner,whether it's shopping alone, whether
it's taking a walk.
I want to be all into this walk.
I want to relax and enjoy thescenery and feel the steps on the
concrete or the grass.
I want to really be here.
I don't want to be distractedand be thinking about other stuff
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so that the walk's suddenlyover and I'm like, what happened?
I don't want to do that.
So you get to decide whetheryou're going to prepare every day
or not.
Or you can say, today is a dayof nothing.
I'm just going to be today.
That's okay.
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Then if you're going toprepare for that, you know what you
got to do?
Empty.
Get empty.
Because if you've got lots ofleftovers from yesterday hanging
on, worry about something thatwent wrong.
Worry about a conversation.
Worry about who you're goingto see or what somebody said to you,
worry.
Or you're worried about thefuture, fretting about what tomorrow's
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going to bring or some dealthat's going to go down or not.
If you're worried about thepast or the future, guess what?
You're not doing nothing.
You're not just being today.
You're being overwhelmed andattacked and flooded and buried by
fussing about yesterday and tomorrow.
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So even relaxing requires, ifyou're going to do well, requires
good prep.
Because if I go relax and I'mfussed about yesterday or tomorrow.
Metaphorically, the relaxingis not good.
You know, how about that?
You go to sleep and you can'tsleep very well because your mind's
all churned up about this,that and the other.
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How does that work?
So preparation is a.
It's an overlooked powerfultool to create a life of purpose,
prosperity and joy.
Now I'm going to talk abouthow I prepare.
And I prepare the same wayevery single day, no matter what
I'm doing that day.
And I don't work every day andI don't bust my ass all day long
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with no joy.
I have joy all the time, every day.
Not to mention the joy of mybeautiful angel wife whose name is
Joy.
Here is how I prepare.
I use the acronym spem S P E M.
I have some spiritualpreparation that I do every day,
even if I'm going to play.
I have some physicalpreparation that I do every day.
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If I'm.
Even if I'm going to play orif I'm going to work, doesn't matter.
I have some emotionalpreparation that I do every day,
even if I'm going to play,doesn't matter what I'm going to
do.
And mental preparation nomatter what I'm going to do.
And one of the most difficultthings to communicate about this
is when I describe this, whatyou often hear is, ugh, that's a
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lot of friggin work.
No it's not.
It's joyful.
It empties all distractionsand negativity and it makes me open
and playful and creative and fun.
So it used to be work.
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But when you get to the placewhere you preparing your heart, your
soul, your body, your mind forthe day is joyful and you're craving
it because of how good youfeel, then you have understood preparation.
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So you might be preparing ameal and you're preparing your favorite
food and you love the parts ofit and you know you're doing what
it is and you're just thinkingabout the taste.
That kind of excitement canaccompany every preparation.
So my spiritual preparation.
And I do that no matter what,even if I'm going to take the day
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and go play.
And here's why.
I always 100% of the time wantto be connected to God.
I want to be able to hearinspiration and intuition.
I want to be in that space.
Here's why.
See this picture?
I hope you're looking at the video.
This person meditating and themoon is very bright and everything.
I like it when my soul feelslike it that all the time, even if
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we're on a picnic or even ifwe're just doing something around
the house, I want to feel likethat because I have felt like that.
Like this picture light and joy.
And I have felt not like that.
And it's way more fun to feellike that no matter what I'm doing.
So I prepare spiritually, Iconnect to God, I meditate, I pray
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with deep and meaningful intent.
And truthfully, I spend moretime listening than speaking.
Like, a lot more, because I'mway more interested in what God has
to say to me than what I haveto say to God.
I want you to think about that.
I really am.
I'm way more interested inwhat's coming back than what I'm
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sending up.
God already knows the thoughtsand intents of all of our hearts.
And when we speak it, we speak it.
But I'm listening.
So that's the spiritual preparation.
Physical preparation hasalways been part of my life.
From the time I was inelementary school and earlier we
just had a habit in our familyof getting up and doing some exercises.
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Today that's even moreimportant because I'm busted in a
lot of ways.
I have some arthritis in myleft hip and my right back and sciatica
and pain here, there andeverywhere, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm not complaining, butthe stretching and the, you know,
some core exercises and stufflike that are really important to
me because then it dictateshow much pain I have during the day.
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Yuck.
Right?
And I enjoy the pain.
It reminds me I'm alive, andit reminds me to be grateful for
the things that don't hurt.
So that physical preparationis important, and I don't skip it
because I don't like how itfeels when I skip it.
The E in my preparation isemotional, and to me that means all
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the love and relationships andeverything in terms of connection
to others.
So you know what I do for that?
I send messages of love.
The phone makes that so easy.
I'll just thumb throughmessages or emails or Facebook chat
or WhatsApp or whatever andsend messages of love and encouragement.
Doesn't matter if someone sentme or not.
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It's not answering.
It's just loving people, right?
And what I find.
Here's what I notice.
I feel really good when I dothat, and I feel empty when I don't.
Later, I might get someanswers and people might say, wow,
that was nice.
Thank you.
I sure needed that.
Or they might not.
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I don't care.
I want to share and spread Love.
Because that is so building.
It builds, it creates, itlifts, it blesses.
You know that when someonereally is loving on you, how does
that feel?
Well, I'm loving on you right now.
You're awesome, you'rebeautiful, you're capable.
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I'd love to talk to you.
I'm inviting you into conversation.
So I spend a few minutes doing that.
And the last one is M Mental,which means I stimulate my mind.
I might read some articles, Imight catch up on the news.
I have a stack of about 30books that sit over there that I'm
always in the middle of.
There's a couple of them right now.
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One of them is about realitytransurfing, which is one I'm in
the middle of.
And one's called SpeakingBeing, which is Werner Earhart and
company.
So those S, P, E, M, I do themall the time because I don't feel
like I've got my pants onuntil I've got that done.
I don't feel like I'm awakeuntil I've sent messages of love.
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I don't feel like I can doanything the best I can until I'm
prepared.
And I don't want to make apodcast episode.
I don't want to give acoaching call.
I had two calls this morningbefore recording this.
I don't want to do any ofthose things unless I'm all here,
unless I'm full of love,unless I'm full of listening.
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You know what I mean?
I want to be full of listeningand full of love and full of openness
and full of inspiration and intuition.
Even if I'm just going to sitwith my honey or even if I'm going
to rewire some stuff in the studio.
It's how I feel that mattersand that I have control of.
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Because you and me, we controlour emotions.
We control our feelings aswell as our actions.
So what I notice in doing thatand in helping clients create their
own, I'm not saying my ritualhas to be yours.
I have questions about it.
One, are you willing to createfor yourself a preparation process
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that leaves you feeling on topof the world?
You're willing to do that.
And here's what I know aboutcreating those is it takes some experimenting.
It's not about having achecklist and doing a bunch of rote
crap, because that doesn't work.
It gets boring and it gets tiring.
And maybe you're in a hoteland maybe this, that, and the other.
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Forget that.
It is an outcome driven process.
So here's the outcome I am notdone preparing my day for my day
until I feel connected to God,on fire, creative, alive.
My body's been stretched andI'm ready to go.
Then I feel good and I'm readyto meet whatever's on the day, whatever's
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on the calendar, whether it'sgoing to the grocery store or giving
coaching calls or working inthe studio on some music or writing
in a book or doing some yardwork, it doesn't matter.
I want to be all me, allthere, all in.
So I urge you to considercreating yourself a ritual and then
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using it every single day for90 days.
Don't do it for a couple of days.
Ah, I didn't do anything.
I don't have time.
You don't have any idea if itdid anything.
You got no idea.
You got to do it for 90 days.
But here is the thing.
Don't just do 90 days of rote checkoff.
Play with it and say, when Iget done with this, here's how I
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feel.
Did it work?
Right?
Is it working?
That's the question for me.
I'm a coach, right?
So I talk to people a lotabout getting the help they need
to accomplish their goals.
And I'll often ask them, well,do you have a coach of some kind?
Oh, yeah, I got all that.
And then that's actually notthe question that matters.
You know what matters?
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Is it working?
Meaning is the activity you'reengaging in with your coach, whatever
framework that looks like, isit helping you do be better, have
what you want, be who you want?
Right?
Is it working?
Because that's what matters.
So when you think about amorning routine, and I say morning,
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morning is the only time orright when you get up, if you get
up at noon, okay, right then.
Because you're at the start ofyour day, and it is the opportunity,
the very best and biggestopportunity that you have or I have
to shape the day to cause theday to be as much like you want as
possible.
Now, I know crap happens andgets in the way every single day.
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Every single day it does that.
Yep.
And that's okay.
Because when I am my verybest, I am on the top, I'm on the
fire, connected to God andinspired and excited and stretched
and feel good.
No matter what happens, evenif it's crap, I'm way, way better
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able to deal with it than ifI'm not prepared.
So my offer to you and mychallenge to you is multi to several
parts.
One, I challenge you to createa ritual.
I challenge you to play with it.
Until it works.
It leaves you feelingpowerful, on fire.
I challenge you to never skip,to get committed.
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You're not committing to me.
You're committing to you.
You're saying, wow, I want tolive the best life I can, and that
means being the best me every day.
And you get to decide what thebest you looks like.
I'm not saying what I do isthe thing you ought to do.
I'm saying I've played withthis for years, and it leaves me
on fire.
And I get more done than Ieven imagine in a day.
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I'm creative.
I write books.
I do this.
I coach people.
And it works because they keepcoming back.
So I challenge you to createyourself a ritual and play with it
till it works.
Then I invite you to share itwith me.
Tell me what happened.
Tell me what it meant.
Tell me your process of doing it.
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Tell me if it was hard or ifit was easy, if it was obvious or
if it was obtuse.
You had to dig around and playwith it for a while.
You're worth it.
You're an infinite, divine being.
You're worth all the lovingcare and kindness you can have.
And it starts with loving yourself.
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Love yourself enough to be kind.
Love yourself enough to liftand bless your heart and your life.
Choose to honor and respectyour body, your spirit, your heart,
and your mind.
Prepare yourself.
You're worth it.
Whether it's for work or yourpartner or your business or your
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kids, do the preparation work.
Now, after I've said all that,you could be saying, ugh, that sounds
hard.
It is a little hard toestablish habits.
New habits are not trivial.
But I can make you a promiseon the other side.
It's the most important thingI do every single day.
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It creates more money in my business.
Cash, cash, cash.
It creates that.
It creates love.
It creates beauty.
It creates clients.
It creates fun.
It helps me drive my purposefully, freely.
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Ah.
I would never skip my morning preparation.
So I invite you to getcommitted and then answer this question.
Who do you need to be to getthat much in love with yourself?
Who do you need to be to becreated and fully prepared?
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Who do you need to be to loveyourself enough to pour in that preparation?
I know you're valuable.
I know you're beautiful.
Do you.
Will you honor yourself?
Your heart?
Your love?
Your creator?
Those you live with, Thosethat depend on you?
Will you honor yourself enoughto be fully prepared?
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So today was about the powerof preparation.
I can promise you you'll getmore money, you'll get more done,
and you'll be happier.
That's a guarantee if you'llcreate a habit of preparation for
everything you do and you playwith it until it makes you feel like
that.
Until it makes you feelconnected and on fire.
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If you'd like, help Reach outto me kellenfluecigermedia.com contact
form reach out to Me Reach outon Social I'm on all the socials.
I'm an expert at this.
A world class freaking expertat this kind of preparation.
And I live it.
I'm a walking testimonial.
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It works every day, everytime, without fail.
Every day is beautiful.
Every day is powerful.
Every day is exciting,productive, in love and connected
to my purpose.
You can have that.
I'm not magic.
I worked my way to that place.
I love you.
I believe in you and you canhave anything you want.
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Start today and don't stop sothat you can do whatever you have
to do to create your ultimate life.
Never hold back and you'llnever ask why.
Open your heart and this timearound, right here, right now, your
opportunity for mass andgrowth is right in front of you.
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Every episode gives youpractical tips and practices that
will will change everything.
If you want to know more, goto Kellen Fluker media.com if you
want more free tools, go here.
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