December 12, 2025 • 41 mins
Your survival identity got you through the worst moments of your life — but now it’s killing your future. In this raw solo episode, Kellan dismantles the lie that you are broken, unworthy, or too damaged to rise. He exposes how shame becomes an identity, how stories become prisons, and how pretending “everything is fine” keeps you stuck exactly where you don’t want to be.
This is not a motivational message.
This is a spiritual intervention.
You’ll discover why we cling to old versions of ourselves long after the threat is gone, why transformation begins with telling the truth, and how reclaiming your worth is the foundation of rebuilding your life from the inside out.
If you’ve ever felt trapped by your past, defined by your pain, or haunted by who you used to be… this episode will crack open the doorway to a future you can finally walk into.
- Why your survival identity becomes your prison
- The difference between being broken vs. believing you’re broken
- How shame rewires your story
- The lie of “nothing is wrong with me”
- Self-betrayal as an addiction
- Why healing requires brutal honesty
- How to stop running from your own reflection
- Rebuilding identity through truth, love, and choice
- The quiet power of owning your story
- Why you are not your past — and never were
👉Ready to break free from the identity you built to survive? Join the Dream • Build • Write It Webinar and create the life aligned with who you’re becoming — not who you used to be. Reserve your free seat: dreambuildwriteit.com
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What are you going to do withthe next year of your life? Let's
talk about it, because itmatters and it starts mattering right
now. Welcome to the show.Tired of the hype about living a
dream? It's time for truth.This is the place for tools, power
and real talk. So you cancreate the life you dream and deserve
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your ultimate life. Subscribe,share, create. You have infinite
power. Welcome to this episodeof your ultimate life. And you know
what it made me think of? Thisquestion about what are you going
to do with this year of yourlife? Is the fact that day before
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yesterday, today's episodesreleased on the 12th of December.
So day before yesterday, onthe 10th, I just turned 70, holy
moly. And I'm thinking, 70years now what? Well, that's an interesting
question. Now what? I knowpeople, and so do you that are 70,
maybe even starting at 65 or72 or whatever, and they just kind
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of quote, retire. And I don't,I've never really understood what
that word meant. I didn't knowwhen I thought about. Retirement,
you know, and when I wasyounger, 30s and 40s and stuff, everybody
in the companies that I workedfor talked about retirement. They're
going to retire and thenthey're going to do this and that.
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And I never thought aboutretirement very much because I wasn't
sure what that meant. I'm avery active person and I love doing
things. And so what I alwaysask myself is, why would I, like,
work really hard and, quote,do something so I can then retire
and do, I don't know what Ireally want to do? I mean, that was
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the stupidest thought. Ithought, okay, I'm going to wait
till I'm a lot older and thenI'm going to start doing what I want.
Well, that's what the ultimatelife is all about. What if you knew
you could start doing what youwanted to do in your life right now?
What if it's possible to dothat now? You know, what if it really
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is? Like, you can do that? Whynot? Like, what prevents you. The
only thing that prevents youfrom living like you want to right
now is the story that youcan't. The idea that it's not possible.
Now, you're going to come upwith a lot of explanations about,
well, I don't have any money,I got to keep working and I don't
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know if I like my job and Ihate this and that and I gotta this
and I gotta that, and I've gotall these obligations. I'm not saying
quit that I'm not saying, youknow, walk away from all the commitments
you've made. If you haveobligations, I'm really sad for you
because the word obligation,Oh, I have to do that. Every time
you or I think about the wordobligation, it carries with it the
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seeds of resentment. Becausewhat the word obligation also implies
is, I have to do this, and I'dreally rather be doing something
else. How sad is that? Like,what would your life be like if you
lived every day doing onlywhat you wanted to do? Now, if you
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think about that, what youmight be saying is, well, I could
only do that if I had a wholebunch of money so I didn't have to
work. That's actually nottrue. Because if you don't know right
this minute what you reallywant to do, and I don't mean sit
on the beach and drink Maitais and take vacation and travel
around the world, that stuffyou can do for a while. But it gets
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old, old, old. There is ayearning in your heart to do something,
to be something, to matter, tomake a difference. There is, and
you know it, and you feel it.And what you've probably told yourself
is that you can't live likethat. And the truth is, you can.
You can live like that rightnow. If you want to make it happen.
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So let's talk about what it isto get that done, shall we? Because
the whole purpose of thispodcast, your ultimate life, is to
teach you. How to live a lifeof purpose, prosperity, and joy.
So. Think about this for aminute. What would make it possible
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like, you think you're goingto. Maybe if you inherited a bunch
of money, you could do that.Well, I want to throw that whole
notion in the garbage. Howmany people win the lottery and then
go broke, waste all the money,or they end up, you know, addicted
or lose it or what, you know,bad investments? How many people
inherit a bunch of money anddo the same thing? Trust fund babies
and all the rest? Thepercentage of people that somehow
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come into a bunch of money andare then happy is really tiny. The
ones that are happy are peoplewho are doing what they feel called
to do in life. Yes, you have acalling. Yes, you have a purpose.
And if you don't know what itis, I'm sad. Because you can know.
It is not hidden. And it doesnot come in an Amazon box. And you
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don't need to go on a safarito find it. You know, somewhere in
the desert or in a jungle orwhatever it is inside of you, it
came with you. And you weregiven the gifts and talents to not
only accomplish that mission,but to have fun doing it. So my birthday
two years ago, what I realizednow, as I start the next decade,
the year ending this, when Irealize it doesn't start till after
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this year. But anyway, soit's. It's just an opportunity beyond
measure. I was just on thephone with someone I hadn't seen
for a long time, severalyears, and they moved from the United
States to Spain. And it wasjust delightful to see him again.
He'd reached out to me andsaid, hey, we need to catch up. We
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haven't talked for a while.And I was just thrilled and delighted
to catch up with him and tohear what he's doing. And he's doing
some cool stuff over there.And he found a woman that he loved
and they're married and havebeen for a little while, and it's
just a magical situation forhim. So he is living in a happy place,
doing what he wants, and I wasexcited. But then it got me thinking.
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As I prepared for this podcastepisode, he asked me what I'm doing.
And the answer is, I'm doingexactly what I want to do. Shall
I tell you what I do? Everyday? I get up and I spend two and
a half hours in a morningritual, morning routine. I call it
a daily creation process. Icreate myself every day, remembering
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I'm a son of God. I havemission and purpose on the earth.
I discuss what it is. I'vetalked about my personal truth document
before, so I'm not going torecite any of it here, but it guides
every single day, even thedays when I'm playing and relaxed
and on vacation. My vacationis also part of my ultimate life,
but it isn't a break from mylife so I can have fun. All of that
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is part of the life ofpurpose, prosperity, and joy. And
I can't say it loud enough.You can have your ultimate life.
It is possible for you, andit's here, and you might be here.
Maybe you're living it. Iwon't know that. But if you're not,
and it feels like, ah, I can'tget there, you can, and there is
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a road. What I discover ismost people aren't willing to do
what it was required to walkthat road. It's too hard. It requires
too much choice, too muchsovereignty. I have to own my time,
my calendar, my life. I haveto even know where I'm going. I ask
most people, what do you wantto do? And most of them can't even
tell me Other than I want alot of money and I don't want to
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have to do anything and Idon't want to have to work. And,
you know, that's garbage. Youknow, that is mindless answers without
thinking. We are built to loveand to serve each other. The people
that I have met over and overagain, repeatedly, that are the happiest,
are busy doing good, addinggood to the world in their own unique
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way, with their own gifts andtalents, in their own expression,
not in some way I define. Weare built both physically and spiritually
to be active, to love, toserve, to create, and to maximize
our gifts and talents and addgood to the world. And the struggle
that people keep having is theidea that they can't make a living
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doing that. And that's justnot true. It's easier today than
it has ever been in thehistory of the world to make a living
doing almost anything. Almostanything. Okay. The issue is, are
you willing to get really goodat what you do so people will pay
you to do it? Now, you seethis manifest all the time. In things
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like YouTube influencers,right? And now there's TikTok and
Instagram and stuff like that.Started with YouTube influencers.
People that would gatherfollowings of a thousand or ten thousand
or one hundred thousand or amillion or several million followers
that are interested in whatthey do. And you look at that and
say, wish I could do that.Well, you know, there's a really
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popular YouTube guy, Mr.Beast. You probably know who he is.
I've known him for many years.I've seen him speak. I've emceed
at conferences where he was.And I know him. I know how he got
where he is. I know what he'sdone. I know the story from the beginning.
And now he's the most. Maybethe most influential video personality
in the world. And he builtthat on purpose by doing what he
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wants and by insisting onexcellence over and over again. How
do I do this better? How do Iserve people more, make them laugh
more, have fun more? And nowhe does outrageous things like donate.
Buy cars and donate them orbuy the entire contents of a store
and has crazy contests of, youknow, seeing how long people can
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hang or stand in a circle ordo, you know, other crazy things.
It's entertaining and it'sfun. And he gives boatloads of cash
to good causes. I know he doesthat, and I know him. And so my point
is, he's not unique. Well, heis unique. He's very, very, very
unique. And the reason isbecause he's dedicated and committed.
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He isn't unique in his abilityto do that. You can live the ultimate
life. If I ask you right now,what is your ultimate life? I'll
bet you don't know. I'll betyou don't know my mission. And if
I'm wrong, hey, yell at me insilent. The orbit leaves a comment,
Tell me I'm stupid, I don'tcare. But what I want to know is,
what is it? And are you trulydoing what you want to do? So as
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I had this chance to visitwith this friend today, you know,
ask me what I'm doing, and I'mwriting books, you know, I've got
two that I'm finishing thisyear, got two more on tap for next
year. I've got a whole bunchof songs that I record. I sing, I
speak, I. What do I sing andspeak about? Your ultimate life?
I sing and speak about how youhave the capability to do whatever
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you want. It's not going to beinstantaneous. It never is. You know,
we live in a world that liesto us. Everything's quick, right?
Download and double click. Andit's just not true. Nothing grows
that way. This backgroundbehind me is crazy colors, but it's
a picture taken outside ourold house in Phoenix. And all the
palm trees are there in the.In the. In the large street that
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comes into this largedeveloped area, you know, planned
community that we lived in.And I did the background switch with
color changes and stuff likethat. But anyway. You have the ability
to live in paradise every day.You have the ability to feel like
you're in paradise every dayand to love your life. So let me
tell you what I'm thinkingabout 70 years and just getting started.
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Now what? Well, now what?Well, this year I'm going to write
some more books. This year I'mgoing to keep going with this podcast
and the new one I just startedin September, that's coaches. Two
coaches that I'm interviewing,talking about AI. I'm going to start
a university next year, auniversity aimed at training coaches
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who want to be in the 5%. 95%of coaches won't be able to make
a living. So I'm going tocreate a university aimed at helping
people understand and develop.What's left after AI gets in full
power and is blowing coachingout of the water. That's built on
frameworks and questions and,you know, hacks. All that stuff that
passes for coaching thesedays, that's all going to be gone
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and there won't be. Any spaceLeft, you'll all have to find something
else to do or change howcoaching is. And that's what the
book Coaching and the Rise ofAI is about. So here's the thing.
In the next the rest of theshow, I'm going to tell you what
I've learned. I'm going totell you what's next in this year
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and how you can claim the nextchapter of your ultimate life, whatever
it is that looks like. Okay,so here's what I've learned. In the
last 18 years I've lived 70.The first 52 years of my life were
without real direction. I wasraised in a particular way, forced
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me in my mind, into a certainpath and it was miserable for me.
You probably can resonate withthat. Maybe you had a difficult upbringing
too, or maybe you didn't. Butwe're all indoctrinated with this
idea of what we're supposed todo, how we're supposed to live life,
supposed to, supposed to.Inside we're feeling like, yeah,
but, yeah, but I don't want todo that. And then we think somehow
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there's something wrong withthat and we can't. And all the rest,
that's just a crock. You areblessed with gifts and talents. I
know that. I died in 2018 andhad three conversations with God
at the door between life andeternity. And of course, I wrote
a couple books about thatvisit. One, it's called one, the
first book's called MeetingGod at the Door. Conversations, Choices
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and Commitments of a NearDeath Experience. It reinforced what
I'd been doing the 11 yearsbefore that since my life changed
radically in 2007 and Istarted on a new path, no longer
living into the expectationsof others, but discovering who I
wanted to be. I invite you todo that. It takes introspection and
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real work. Because when wejust do what we're, quote, supposed
to do, it won't last. It's notfulfilling. We have to each one of
us come to grips with theyearnings of our own heart. That's
not selfishness. It'sdiscovering who you are and then
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declaring that you're going tolive your life. In that process and
in the service of that. Andit's easy to say that. People can
say, well, you know, andpeople think of selfishness, well,
I just want to have everythingeasy. No, you don't. You know what?
You and I are built to loveand serve. And if your life's been
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hard, and maybe it has, I surehad my share. Up to when I was 50,
our first inclination is, oh,crap, if I could just get rid of
all this hard stuff, no morebills, no more hassle, no more problems,
no more this, that and theother. Everything would be beautiful.
And the answer is for aminute, for a minute it is. And very
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quickly after that, it's like.What am I here to do? You hear people
talk about that all the time.Something happens in their life and
they get to a place and say,is that all there is? Well, I certainly
got there. So I'm grateful.I'm grateful for the 50 years I had
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wandering around in thewilderness following someone else's
life plan. I'm grateful forthe explosion and destruction and
collapse that happened in2007, 18 years ago. And I'm super
grateful for the reinventionand claiming the purpose of life
since then. Okay? And I, youknow, I had a near death experience,
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a couple of failed suicideattempts and those kinds of things,
and hopefully everybodydoesn't need that big of a wake up
call. The reason I'vededicated my life to what I'm doing
now, writing books andcoaching and helping and loving you
right this minute, I love youto pieces and serving, is because
I'm hopeful. I'm hopeful. Youdon't have to do. The same. You don't
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have to get run over by 8buses like I did. You don't have
to have all the desperateexperiences. And you know what I
notice? I interview a lot ofpeople for this show. You've seen
them. I notice that nearlyeveryone I interview has a bunch
of stuff they've been through.Personal health wise, relationship
wise, money wise, whatever,maybe several things. And when they
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get through to the other side,they have a story to tell. And when
I ask them what they're doing,oh, I'm trying to help people avoid
the misery and pain that Ihad. I'm trying to help people learn
what I learned sooner andfaster. I'm trying to compress the
learning curve for people,whether it's business, whether it's
writing books, I help peoplewrite books. Or whether it's just
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living your life with purposeand joy. One of the things I've developed
is a proprietary method tohelp business owners radically increase
top line revenue and profitand at the same time reducing overhead,
fixed cost and risk. You knowwhat that means? More money in your
pocket. Now when you hear moremoney, ooh, cash. We used to be of
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the mind of, oh, good, then Ican do what I want and buy what I
want. And when we get a fewmore years under our belt, then it's
you know what? Then I can bemore effective at loving and serving
and giving and blessingbecause we start to realize, you
know what? I am really here tolove and serve. And that has hit
me so hard. So I don't carehow old you are. I just turned 70.
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If you're breathing, you'renot done. If you're breathing, you're
not done. Okay? And I don'tcare if you have a limp like I do,
or if you have some, you know,diffugal these with your body. So
what? You're here to love andserve. So let's talk about what's
next. Everything that I amtoday comes from saying yes when
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it would have been easier toquit. It's been a million times when
it's easier to quit. I knowyou felt that too. So let's not.
Excuse me. Wow, sneezing.Maybe that was supposed to be in
there too. So here's my newmission this year. Last year I had
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a. A goal to reach 300 millionpeople with this show. LA Talk Radio
show, my books, the seminarsI've spoken at, the 600 podcasts
I've been on and the placesI've spoke, all of that. So I was
to reaching them and LA talkradio and all that stuff. I was trying
to reach people. What was Itrying to reach him with? Well, with
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the message of purpose,prosperity and joy. Not to say, yeah,
I have it, look at me, I don'tcare about that. But to say, you
can have it. Let me show youhow. This year it's still 300 million,
but I've changed the focusfrom just reaching to nurturing,
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nurturing 300 million peopleto understand five things. W, I,
P, O, S. Well, W stands foryour worth. You're a divine being
created by God, so you're ofinfinite worth. And sometimes we
think, how come he lets mehave all this tough crap? You know,
it's part of the development,it's part of the game. I haven't
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found any use in screaming atGod and claiming it's unfair. What
I have found use in is leaningon the divine for support and using
every challenge as a teacher.The I stands for identity, which
ties into your worth. Becausewhen you deeply own your identity,
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that you're a child of God,the divine, the creator, the universe,
you know, when you. When yourealize you're an intentional creation,
wow. It changes for me atleast every way I think about stuff,
even rough stuff that'shappening. The P W, I P stands for
possibility. You and I havedivine DNA woven into us. Now, we
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all know what DNA is. It saysthat I'm losing my hair and it says
that my eyes are the colorthat they are in yours too. And that
says that you know, whateverelse, how tall I am and all the rest.
Your DNA is divine also, whichmeans you have the seeds of God in
you, which means you haveinfinite possibility. And yet we
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all are limiting ourselves.Kind of like the tip of an iceberg.
We've been living on that onetenth of possibility and the 90%
below the surface. So my goalin the nurture is to help you wake
up to that fact and then giveyou the method to use it. So the
message is what I did lastyear, the method is this year, the
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method. How do you create yourultimate life? The O stands for ownership.
There's nobody that's going todo this for you. You own the process.
You own the truth. Whether youuse discipline or not, or whether
you set a goal or not, whetheryou lean into your divine nature
or not, you own that. And theS stands for sovereignty is you're
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the ruler. One of the thingswe love to do is get buried in excuses.
Well, I'll speak for me. Iused to. I used to love to get buried
in excuses. Blaming others,the world, the government, something,
them that out there andexternalize everything. And I've
realized now that it's allmine. I create my being and I call
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into existence every part ofmy experience. Now, that might scare
the crap out of you to startwith. And some people say, oh, you
mean I called into my lifethat accident or the rainstorm that
made my roof leak or thehurricane? You know, I'm not saying
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that. What I'm saying isthere's a boatload of crap that just
happens around us. And I don'tcontrol what the weather is. If I
did and everybody else did,you know, we'd all have our own individual
weather. In a sense, we do.Let me tell you how if it rains and
you and I are in the samerainstorm, I can be mad because it
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wrecked my golf game and youcan be excited because it's making
your garden grow. Like, we caneach have the same circumstance and
have a different lifeexperience. So that's true for everything.
Even difficult things. I wantyou to hear that. Even difficult
things. So about two years anda half ago, I. Had damaged OR my.
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The disc between L5 and S1 onmy lower back had been deteriorating
for some time. But it got badenough. Now that it really has pinched
the nerve. And so in the lastTwo and a half years. I have a lot
of pain, a lot of, you know,physical therapy and, you know, they're
looking at this and that. Ihave sometimes cortisone shots every
quarter, and they're lookingat more detailed stuff. The bottom
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line is I walk with a cane andit hurts a lot. And now it's on both
sides, starting about seven oreight months after the first one.
So almost two years now onboth sides. So I could be mad or
think I'm somehow debilitated,and I don't buy it for a second.
Yeah, I have a limp. Yeah, Ihave struggles. I'm 70. I could say,
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you know what? I'm tired. I'mgonna wind down. No, I'm winding
up because I want to. Becausewhat this has all taught me is anything
is possible. I can love youjust as fiercely as I can without
a limp. Maybe even more sobecause I have more empathy and love
for any struggle that youmight be having. Okay, so you and
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I, we get to choose ourexperience. And the experience I
choose with limping and usinga cane is one of joy. I get to breathe,
I'm here to love you. I get toexperience the fact that it's getting
cold in Edmonton now becausewe're in the frozen north, right?
And I choose to love it everyday just because I can. Bitterly
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complaining at people, at God,at the weather, at the economy, at
the president or the primeminister. It doesn't do anything
except make us rage againstwhat is. So I choose to have a wonderful
day every day, even with thelimps that I have. All right, so
there's another thing to thinkabout now. Let's talk about the university.
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I'm launching a universitynext year. Why would I do that? Well,
I told you, I just finishedthe book Coaching in the Rise of
AI. By the time you hear this,it'll be out. I encourage you to
look it up if you do anythingthat even resembles coaching, because
it not only says boldly, 95%of coaches will be out of work, it
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says what to do about it.Because the process of being a guide,
a mentor, a sounding board, aplace of encouragement and love,
that need isn't going to goaway. AI can't bleed. It can't create
emotion. It can't create thehuman connection. There's nothing
AI can do that equals sittingwith someone quietly or someone just
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listening to you. And, yeah,you can talk to Chatty and it'll
say cool things back, but it'snot the same as having a human spirit
together. So the power ofcoaching is actually going to go
up more and coaches are goingto be better paid and higher demand,
but only those that arewilling to to be different than they
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are now. Because coachingmostly. Now, I've been through many
coaching academies andprograms. They're useless in the
light of AI. I don't mean theprinciples are wrong. The principles
are right. But unless they'reaccompanied or applied with the truth
of human connection, they'reuseless. And now the only thing that's
left that coaches can do, meor you, is we can be the truth of
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what we teach. If I just talkabout principles, we're dead. We're
dead because AI can do thatfaster and better and in better language,
quite frankly. So unless Ilive, I am the embodiment of what
I teach, I'm going to be outof work. So that's the reason I'm
starting university, is tohelp people both understand that
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and then learn how to do it.In the book, I propose a new coaching
methodology called the TripleHelix Coach. And it's very specific
and very different thananything that is being taught now.
And in researching the book, Idid an AI analysis of 11 coaching
models. I'm not saying that'sall of them, but 11 models that I
know right now and asked AIhow vulnerable they were and all
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the rest and it did a greatjob and it scared the crap out of
me. And then I put in theTriple Helix model, how it works
and what I teach andeverything else and ask for the same
analysis. And I was delighted,I was delighted to say it said zero
vulnerability. Now I'm, I, Irealize those AIs are programmed,
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at least most of them, to bevery encouraging and nice, so I ask
it not to. In fact, I directedit in rather harsh language, no bs,
et cetera, et cetera, andstill came back and told me with
a whole list of rationale. SoI'm really excited about the Triple
Helix coaching methodology. Sothat's another thing that I'm doing.
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There's a businessacceleration piece, cash clarity
Creation, that has to do withwhat I said, increasing top line
revenue and decreasing costs.Wow, who doesn't need that? I have
a book creation part which islike the challenges that I've been
running. You want to get yourbook done, you know you have a story
worth writing. I do too. Butmost people don't make money selling
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books. So what you need to dois not only create the book, but
create the product behind it.Whether it's a do it yourself passive
income product or some kind ofa group product or coaching product.
You can make money doing thatand you can make a great living if
you want to. And theuniversity is all part of that. It's
not really just a school. Itis an awakening. It is a fierce faith
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forge for those willing towalk. Because the change that's going
to have to happen in coachingis fierce and not trivial. It's going
to challenge you to the coreof your soul. So I encourage you
to get a hold of me if youwant to. The URL right here. Kellen
flukegar Media at the top,there's a contact form if you'd like
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to talk about it, about whatI've said in the book or what's going
on or buy the book or if you'dlike to argue with me, that's fine
too. Love to get to knowpeople, because I love you. So here's
what else I'm doing. I wroteCoaching and the Rise of AI. It's
coming out this week after,after I record this. And you'll,
you'll see it in. It'llalready be out by the time you see
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this episode in December. Hereis the thing. It really is talking
about the rise and the powerof the human spirit in the age of
machines. Now, we've all seenthe books and movies, you know, Skynet
and the Terminator series andpeople have talked about even now
where, you know, you hit tothe singularity where machines can
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teach themselves and then theyget to infinite intelligence and
pretty soon they're, you know,generative intelligence, AGI, artificial
general intelligence orgenerative intelligence, where it's
not just a reflector. See,right now the thing we're calling
AI is not intelligent. It is afabulous reflector researcher who
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collater. It writes reallywell, although it has a particular
style and you come torecognize it really quick. Unless
you train it to writedifferently, which you can do easily,
but it does what you tell itto and it's unbelievably good at
it. Like I said, it researchesincredibly well and collates and
summarizes and you know, I useit for all kinds of stuff. And you
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should too. If you're not,you're leaving money on the table
and wasting a lot of time. Andwhy would you do that? But the thing
that AI cannot do is replicatethe soul. And if your soul is not
in your coaching, you're dead,you're out of work. You have to transcend
information. The idea up tonow for most coaches is I'm going
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to have walk this process withyou ask these questions, do these
check sheets, do this kind ofthing, and then you're going to have
some insights and you're goingto realize what you got to do. And
that is talking about thatthing over there. Unless you have
bled on the floor and walkedthe road, your coaching will be useless.
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You can only coach what youhave experienced. You can only coach
where you have been. You canonly coach what you know in the future.
I mean, starting right now,frankly. And if you don't realize
and get into that truth rightnow, you'll be out of work. Then
you'll be wondering what to dowith yourself. And when you start,
start to change, it's going tobe too late. Start now. Own the truth
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of your life. The mostimportant gift you have to give me
and anyone else is the storyof your own becoming. The battle,
the challenge, the growth,the, you know, the path you've walked,
the discoveries, those arewhat you really have to offer. Anything
else, you're just a library. Acollation of library and chat does
that better than anyone.Better, way better than you do or
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me. You know, the Internetdemocratized information and AI is
democratizing expertise.Everybody can have it. So if that's
all you've provided, you'reout of at of work. So there's another
book at the end of Decemberthat I'm doing. I've said what I'm
doing this year. And it'll beout now in about three weeks from
when you have this. It'scalled Masterpiece. Masterpiece.
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Okay. And the subtitle isSeize the day, live your purpose
and change the world. Thereason I'm writing that is to emphasize
the truth of your ability tochange the world. But it's not an
accident. It's not somethingthat's going to do itself. You and
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I have the ability to changethe world for the better. And you
might think, as I used to, I'monly one little person in one little
corner. What can I do? Well,the first thing we do is start with
ourselves. We become, asGandhi said, the change we want to
see. Not well, I'm a goodperson. I'm talking about a visible,
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vibrant, powerful, unignorablebeacon of light, vessel of love and
conduit of power. Then whenyou enter a room, you can change
the conversation just bywalking in the room with a single
question, with a singlethought, or saying nothing, just
with your presence. Those kindof coaches are going to be in high
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demand, super high demand, andextremely well paid. So Seize the
Day is a process about how todo that live your purpose is a process
about how to find your purposeand then live into it fully. And
from that place, figure outhow you're going to change the world.
Now, after you've changedyourself or I have, your mission
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and purpose will be all overyou. You'll know what it is and you'll
be leaning into it. You'll bescreaming it from the rooftops. And
you can be well paid, whetherit's book speaking, coaching or one
of many, many other ways. Andthat's one of the things I do when
I help people write theirstories and publish their books,
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is also figure out how they'regoing to monetize, make cash out
of your life. Your life's themost important thing you have. I
don't care if you've learnedto be an engineer or a doctor or
a rocket scientist. Those areinteresting and they're helpful,
but they're still that thingover there. The most powerful thing
you have is who you are, notwhat you can do. Okay, so here's
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the real challenge for you.Stop living life like it's a checklist.
If you get up every day andit's like, oh, I got to do this and
I got to do that, no wonderyou're not living your ultimate life.
I invite you to get a hold ofme kellenflukermedia.com and let
me help you. Or I invite youto read the book Living with Purpose
and Power. It looks like thisLiving with Purpose and Power. There
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is a formula and a process inhere so that you can create a process
that creates you every day. Soyou live your life. You like it's
on steroids all the time inlove with yourself. I don't mean
busy. I mean happy. Full onhappy. Is it worth it to you? Do
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you want to live full on happyevery day? And maybe you do already,
I don't know. If you do, I'dlove to meet you because I love having
those people on my show. Andif you don't, you want to get the
Contact form kellenflukermedia.com Love to help you get that
book Living with Purpose andpower. I've written 22 books. Every
one of them is my ownexperience. It's different pieces
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of that story of my ownbecoming. And my story isn't any
better than yours. So my goalthis year is to help 300 million
people understand that andlive. Understand your worth, identity,
possibility, ownership andsovereignty. I'm stoked about this
year coming. I am reallyexcited. I invite you to audit your
life where has your duty, yourobligation replaced? Living with
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absolute freaking delight.Like, if you don't love your life
every day, why would yousettle for that? It's a real question.
You only live once, and thatdoesn't mean go try crazy stuff.
Although you might. But whywouldn't you love your life every
day when you can? So if youlive in a. Your life is like, you
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wake up and you think aboutall the problems you got. Man, have
we got a big opportunitythere. It's possible, within your
personal grasp, to wake up andbe so excited about life, you can't.
You can hardly stand it.Flying out of bed, getting in to
your life every day. Ipromise. I've walked the road from
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misery to mastery, and I canhelp you do it too. And that is my
commitment to do that and tolove you, listen to you, and understand
and then drag out of you whatyour real goals are. What do you
want? Maybe you've never takentime to dig down deep in your heart
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and figure out what you reallywant. Well, it's time. It's time
now to do that. So I inviteyou to do that. Fun isn't frivolous.
It is the outcome of living adivinely inspired life. Fun is part
of it. I have fun every daywithout fail. I love everything that
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I do. I love talking to thatold client and friend. This morning
was beautiful. Reconnect aftersome years. I love making this episode
for you because I love you andI don't even know you. I love you
anyway, and you can't doanything about it. I invite you to
love yourself. So live maybethis year as if joy was your job.
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What if you lived like joy isyour job? What if you lived like
you knew you could createanything? What if you stopped negotiating
with mediocrity? What if youstopped that? Stop negotiating with
mediocrity. I would love that.And you will too. You. You don't
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need anyone's permission. Youdon't need anyone's agreement. You
just need to decide. That'show you're living. 70 isn't retirement.
It never will be. For me, it'san ignition of a new, a new year
and a new decade. Your nextdecade can be amazing. Beyond Worth
A N D Amazing Next decade.That's the slogan of another one
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of my clients. My mission isto nurture 300 million people to
understand your worth,identity, purpose, sorry, possibility,
ownership and sovereignty soyou can create your ultimate life.
Join me subscribe to thispodcast Share this episode with somebody
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Read Coaching and the Rise ofAI this week. You're worth it. Make
something real happen rightnow just because you can. You're.
You're divine. You'repowerful. You're limitless. No more
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negotiating with mediocrity.Slam your fist, put your foot down,
whatever it is. Seventy yearshas taught me what a lot of things,
but one stands out. And thatis life is too important to waste
time being small. Today is thefirst day of your next year of awesome
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growth. Join me. And go createyour ultimate life. Go back and you'll
never ask why. Open your heartand this time around, right here,
right now, your opportunityfor massive growth is right in front
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on the ground.
What are you going to do withthe next year of your life? Let's
talk about it, because itmatters and it starts mattering right
now. Welcome to the show.Tired of the hype about living a
dream? It's time for truth.This is the place for tools, power
and real talk. So you cancreate the life you dream and deserve
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your ultimate life. Subscribe,share, create. You have infinite
power. Welcome to this episodeof your ultimate life. And you know
what it made me think of? Thisquestion about what are you going
to do with this year of yourlife? Is the fact that day before
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yesterday, today's episodesreleased on the 12th of December.
So day before yesterday, onthe 10th, I just turned 70, holy
moly. And I'm thinking, 70years now what? Well, that's an interesting
question. Now what? I knowpeople, and so do you that are 70,
maybe even starting at 65 or72 or whatever, and they just kind
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of quote, retire. And I don't,I've never really understood what
that word meant. I didn't knowwhen I thought about. Retirement,
you know, and when I wasyounger, 30s and 40s and stuff, everybody
in the companies that I workedfor talked about retirement. They're
going to retire and thenthey're going to do this and that.
(01:27):
And I never thought aboutretirement very much because I wasn't
sure what that meant. I'm avery active person and I love doing
things. And so what I alwaysask myself is, why would I, like,
work really hard and, quote,do something so I can then retire
and do, I don't know what Ireally want to do? I mean, that was
(01:48):
the stupidest thought. Ithought, okay, I'm going to wait
till I'm a lot older and thenI'm going to start doing what I want.
Well, that's what the ultimatelife is all about. What if you knew
you could start doing what youwanted to do in your life right now?
What if it's possible to dothat now? You know, what if it really
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is? Like, you can do that? Whynot? Like, what prevents you. The
only thing that prevents youfrom living like you want to right
now is the story that youcan't. The idea that it's not possible.
Now, you're going to come upwith a lot of explanations about,
well, I don't have any money,I got to keep working and I don't
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know if I like my job and Ihate this and that and I gotta this
and I gotta that, and I've gotall these obligations. I'm not saying
quit that I'm not saying, youknow, walk away from all the commitments
you've made. If you haveobligations, I'm really sad for you
because the word obligation,Oh, I have to do that. Every time
you or I think about the wordobligation, it carries with it the
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seeds of resentment. Becausewhat the word obligation also implies
is, I have to do this, and I'dreally rather be doing something
else. How sad is that? Like,what would your life be like if you
lived every day doing onlywhat you wanted to do? Now, if you
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think about that, what youmight be saying is, well, I could
only do that if I had a wholebunch of money so I didn't have to
work. That's actually nottrue. Because if you don't know right
this minute what you reallywant to do, and I don't mean sit
on the beach and drink Maitais and take vacation and travel
around the world, that stuffyou can do for a while. But it gets
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old, old, old. There is ayearning in your heart to do something,
to be something, to matter, tomake a difference. There is, and
you know it, and you feel it.And what you've probably told yourself
is that you can't live likethat. And the truth is, you can.
You can live like that rightnow. If you want to make it happen.
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So let's talk about what it isto get that done, shall we? Because
the whole purpose of thispodcast, your ultimate life, is to
teach you. How to live a lifeof purpose, prosperity, and joy.
So. Think about this for aminute. What would make it possible
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like, you think you're goingto. Maybe if you inherited a bunch
of money, you could do that.Well, I want to throw that whole
notion in the garbage. Howmany people win the lottery and then
go broke, waste all the money,or they end up, you know, addicted
or lose it or what, you know,bad investments? How many people
inherit a bunch of money anddo the same thing? Trust fund babies
and all the rest? Thepercentage of people that somehow
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come into a bunch of money andare then happy is really tiny. The
ones that are happy are peoplewho are doing what they feel called
to do in life. Yes, you have acalling. Yes, you have a purpose.
And if you don't know what itis, I'm sad. Because you can know.
It is not hidden. And it doesnot come in an Amazon box. And you
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don't need to go on a safarito find it. You know, somewhere in
the desert or in a jungle orwhatever it is inside of you, it
came with you. And you weregiven the gifts and talents to not
only accomplish that mission,but to have fun doing it. So my birthday
two years ago, what I realizednow, as I start the next decade,
the year ending this, when Irealize it doesn't start till after
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this year. But anyway, soit's. It's just an opportunity beyond
measure. I was just on thephone with someone I hadn't seen
for a long time, severalyears, and they moved from the United
States to Spain. And it wasjust delightful to see him again.
He'd reached out to me andsaid, hey, we need to catch up. We
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haven't talked for a while.And I was just thrilled and delighted
to catch up with him and tohear what he's doing. And he's doing
some cool stuff over there.And he found a woman that he loved
and they're married and havebeen for a little while, and it's
just a magical situation forhim. So he is living in a happy place,
doing what he wants, and I wasexcited. But then it got me thinking.
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As I prepared for this podcastepisode, he asked me what I'm doing.
And the answer is, I'm doingexactly what I want to do. Shall
I tell you what I do? Everyday? I get up and I spend two and
a half hours in a morningritual, morning routine. I call it
a daily creation process. Icreate myself every day, remembering
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I'm a son of God. I havemission and purpose on the earth.
I discuss what it is. I'vetalked about my personal truth document
before, so I'm not going torecite any of it here, but it guides
every single day, even thedays when I'm playing and relaxed
and on vacation. My vacationis also part of my ultimate life,
but it isn't a break from mylife so I can have fun. All of that
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is part of the life ofpurpose, prosperity, and joy. And
I can't say it loud enough.You can have your ultimate life.
It is possible for you, andit's here, and you might be here.
Maybe you're living it. Iwon't know that. But if you're not,
and it feels like, ah, I can'tget there, you can, and there is
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a road. What I discover ismost people aren't willing to do
what it was required to walkthat road. It's too hard. It requires
too much choice, too muchsovereignty. I have to own my time,
my calendar, my life. I haveto even know where I'm going. I ask
most people, what do you wantto do? And most of them can't even
tell me Other than I want alot of money and I don't want to
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have to do anything and Idon't want to have to work. And,
you know, that's garbage. Youknow, that is mindless answers without
thinking. We are built to loveand to serve each other. The people
that I have met over and overagain, repeatedly, that are the happiest,
are busy doing good, addinggood to the world in their own unique
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way, with their own gifts andtalents, in their own expression,
not in some way I define. Weare built both physically and spiritually
to be active, to love, toserve, to create, and to maximize
our gifts and talents and addgood to the world. And the struggle
that people keep having is theidea that they can't make a living
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doing that. And that's justnot true. It's easier today than
it has ever been in thehistory of the world to make a living
doing almost anything. Almostanything. Okay. The issue is, are
you willing to get really goodat what you do so people will pay
you to do it? Now, you seethis manifest all the time. In things
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like YouTube influencers,right? And now there's TikTok and
Instagram and stuff like that.Started with YouTube influencers.
People that would gatherfollowings of a thousand or ten thousand
or one hundred thousand or amillion or several million followers
that are interested in whatthey do. And you look at that and
say, wish I could do that.Well, you know, there's a really
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popular YouTube guy, Mr.Beast. You probably know who he is.
I've known him for many years.I've seen him speak. I've emceed
at conferences where he was.And I know him. I know how he got
where he is. I know what he'sdone. I know the story from the beginning.
And now he's the most. Maybethe most influential video personality
in the world. And he builtthat on purpose by doing what he
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wants and by insisting onexcellence over and over again. How
do I do this better? How do Iserve people more, make them laugh
more, have fun more? And nowhe does outrageous things like donate.
Buy cars and donate them orbuy the entire contents of a store
and has crazy contests of, youknow, seeing how long people can
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hang or stand in a circle ordo, you know, other crazy things.
It's entertaining and it'sfun. And he gives boatloads of cash
to good causes. I know he doesthat, and I know him. And so my point
is, he's not unique. Well, heis unique. He's very, very, very
unique. And the reason isbecause he's dedicated and committed.
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He isn't unique in his abilityto do that. You can live the ultimate
life. If I ask you right now,what is your ultimate life? I'll
bet you don't know. I'll betyou don't know my mission. And if
I'm wrong, hey, yell at me insilent. The orbit leaves a comment,
Tell me I'm stupid, I don'tcare. But what I want to know is,
what is it? And are you trulydoing what you want to do? So as
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I had this chance to visitwith this friend today, you know,
ask me what I'm doing, and I'mwriting books, you know, I've got
two that I'm finishing thisyear, got two more on tap for next
year. I've got a whole bunchof songs that I record. I sing, I
speak, I. What do I sing andspeak about? Your ultimate life?
I sing and speak about how youhave the capability to do whatever
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you want. It's not going to beinstantaneous. It never is. You know,
we live in a world that liesto us. Everything's quick, right?
Download and double click. Andit's just not true. Nothing grows
that way. This backgroundbehind me is crazy colors, but it's
a picture taken outside ourold house in Phoenix. And all the
palm trees are there in the.In the. In the large street that
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comes into this largedeveloped area, you know, planned
community that we lived in.And I did the background switch with
color changes and stuff likethat. But anyway. You have the ability
to live in paradise every day.You have the ability to feel like
you're in paradise every dayand to love your life. So let me
tell you what I'm thinkingabout 70 years and just getting started.
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Now what? Well, now what?Well, this year I'm going to write
some more books. This year I'mgoing to keep going with this podcast
and the new one I just startedin September, that's coaches. Two
coaches that I'm interviewing,talking about AI. I'm going to start
a university next year, auniversity aimed at training coaches
(12:28):
who want to be in the 5%. 95%of coaches won't be able to make
a living. So I'm going tocreate a university aimed at helping
people understand and develop.What's left after AI gets in full
power and is blowing coachingout of the water. That's built on
frameworks and questions and,you know, hacks. All that stuff that
passes for coaching thesedays, that's all going to be gone
(12:50):
and there won't be. Any spaceLeft, you'll all have to find something
else to do or change howcoaching is. And that's what the
book Coaching and the Rise ofAI is about. So here's the thing.
In the next the rest of theshow, I'm going to tell you what
I've learned. I'm going totell you what's next in this year
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and how you can claim the nextchapter of your ultimate life, whatever
it is that looks like. Okay,so here's what I've learned. In the
last 18 years I've lived 70.The first 52 years of my life were
without real direction. I wasraised in a particular way, forced
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me in my mind, into a certainpath and it was miserable for me.
You probably can resonate withthat. Maybe you had a difficult upbringing
too, or maybe you didn't. Butwe're all indoctrinated with this
idea of what we're supposed todo, how we're supposed to live life,
supposed to, supposed to.Inside we're feeling like, yeah,
but, yeah, but I don't want todo that. And then we think somehow
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there's something wrong withthat and we can't. And all the rest,
that's just a crock. You areblessed with gifts and talents. I
know that. I died in 2018 andhad three conversations with God
at the door between life andeternity. And of course, I wrote
a couple books about thatvisit. One, it's called one, the
first book's called MeetingGod at the Door. Conversations, Choices
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and Commitments of a NearDeath Experience. It reinforced what
I'd been doing the 11 yearsbefore that since my life changed
radically in 2007 and Istarted on a new path, no longer
living into the expectationsof others, but discovering who I
wanted to be. I invite you todo that. It takes introspection and
(14:54):
real work. Because when wejust do what we're, quote, supposed
to do, it won't last. It's notfulfilling. We have to each one of
us come to grips with theyearnings of our own heart. That's
not selfishness. It'sdiscovering who you are and then
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declaring that you're going tolive your life. In that process and
in the service of that. Andit's easy to say that. People can
say, well, you know, andpeople think of selfishness, well,
I just want to have everythingeasy. No, you don't. You know what?
You and I are built to loveand serve. And if your life's been
(15:37):
hard, and maybe it has, I surehad my share. Up to when I was 50,
our first inclination is, oh,crap, if I could just get rid of
all this hard stuff, no morebills, no more hassle, no more problems,
no more this, that and theother. Everything would be beautiful.
And the answer is for aminute, for a minute it is. And very
(15:58):
quickly after that, it's like.What am I here to do? You hear people
talk about that all the time.Something happens in their life and
they get to a place and say,is that all there is? Well, I certainly
got there. So I'm grateful.I'm grateful for the 50 years I had
(16:20):
wandering around in thewilderness following someone else's
life plan. I'm grateful forthe explosion and destruction and
collapse that happened in2007, 18 years ago. And I'm super
grateful for the reinventionand claiming the purpose of life
since then. Okay? And I, youknow, I had a near death experience,
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a couple of failed suicideattempts and those kinds of things,
and hopefully everybodydoesn't need that big of a wake up
call. The reason I'vededicated my life to what I'm doing
now, writing books andcoaching and helping and loving you
right this minute, I love youto pieces and serving, is because
I'm hopeful. I'm hopeful. Youdon't have to do. The same. You don't
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have to get run over by 8buses like I did. You don't have
to have all the desperateexperiences. And you know what I
notice? I interview a lot ofpeople for this show. You've seen
them. I notice that nearlyeveryone I interview has a bunch
of stuff they've been through.Personal health wise, relationship
wise, money wise, whatever,maybe several things. And when they
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get through to the other side,they have a story to tell. And when
I ask them what they're doing,oh, I'm trying to help people avoid
the misery and pain that Ihad. I'm trying to help people learn
what I learned sooner andfaster. I'm trying to compress the
learning curve for people,whether it's business, whether it's
writing books, I help peoplewrite books. Or whether it's just
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living your life with purposeand joy. One of the things I've developed
is a proprietary method tohelp business owners radically increase
top line revenue and profitand at the same time reducing overhead,
fixed cost and risk. You knowwhat that means? More money in your
pocket. Now when you hear moremoney, ooh, cash. We used to be of
(18:15):
the mind of, oh, good, then Ican do what I want and buy what I
want. And when we get a fewmore years under our belt, then it's
you know what? Then I can bemore effective at loving and serving
and giving and blessingbecause we start to realize, you
know what? I am really here tolove and serve. And that has hit
me so hard. So I don't carehow old you are. I just turned 70.
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If you're breathing, you'renot done. If you're breathing, you're
not done. Okay? And I don'tcare if you have a limp like I do,
or if you have some, you know,diffugal these with your body. So
what? You're here to love andserve. So let's talk about what's
next. Everything that I amtoday comes from saying yes when
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it would have been easier toquit. It's been a million times when
it's easier to quit. I knowyou felt that too. So let's not.
Excuse me. Wow, sneezing.Maybe that was supposed to be in
there too. So here's my newmission this year. Last year I had
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a. A goal to reach 300 millionpeople with this show. LA Talk Radio
show, my books, the seminarsI've spoken at, the 600 podcasts
I've been on and the placesI've spoke, all of that. So I was
to reaching them and LA talkradio and all that stuff. I was trying
to reach people. What was Itrying to reach him with? Well, with
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the message of purpose,prosperity and joy. Not to say, yeah,
I have it, look at me, I don'tcare about that. But to say, you
can have it. Let me show youhow. This year it's still 300 million,
but I've changed the focusfrom just reaching to nurturing,
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nurturing 300 million peopleto understand five things. W, I,
P, O, S. Well, W stands foryour worth. You're a divine being
created by God, so you're ofinfinite worth. And sometimes we
think, how come he lets mehave all this tough crap? You know,
it's part of the development,it's part of the game. I haven't
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found any use in screaming atGod and claiming it's unfair. What
I have found use in is leaningon the divine for support and using
every challenge as a teacher.The I stands for identity, which
ties into your worth. Becausewhen you deeply own your identity,
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that you're a child of God,the divine, the creator, the universe,
you know, when you. When yourealize you're an intentional creation,
wow. It changes for me atleast every way I think about stuff,
even rough stuff that'shappening. The P W, I P stands for
possibility. You and I havedivine DNA woven into us. Now, we
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all know what DNA is. It saysthat I'm losing my hair and it says
that my eyes are the colorthat they are in yours too. And that
says that you know, whateverelse, how tall I am and all the rest.
Your DNA is divine also, whichmeans you have the seeds of God in
you, which means you haveinfinite possibility. And yet we
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all are limiting ourselves.Kind of like the tip of an iceberg.
We've been living on that onetenth of possibility and the 90%
below the surface. So my goalin the nurture is to help you wake
up to that fact and then giveyou the method to use it. So the
message is what I did lastyear, the method is this year, the
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method. How do you create yourultimate life? The O stands for ownership.
There's nobody that's going todo this for you. You own the process.
You own the truth. Whether youuse discipline or not, or whether
you set a goal or not, whetheryou lean into your divine nature
or not, you own that. And theS stands for sovereignty is you're
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the ruler. One of the thingswe love to do is get buried in excuses.
Well, I'll speak for me. Iused to. I used to love to get buried
in excuses. Blaming others,the world, the government, something,
them that out there andexternalize everything. And I've
realized now that it's allmine. I create my being and I call
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into existence every part ofmy experience. Now, that might scare
the crap out of you to startwith. And some people say, oh, you
mean I called into my lifethat accident or the rainstorm that
made my roof leak or thehurricane? You know, I'm not saying
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that. What I'm saying isthere's a boatload of crap that just
happens around us. And I don'tcontrol what the weather is. If I
did and everybody else did,you know, we'd all have our own individual
weather. In a sense, we do.Let me tell you how if it rains and
you and I are in the samerainstorm, I can be mad because it
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wrecked my golf game and youcan be excited because it's making
your garden grow. Like, we caneach have the same circumstance and
have a different lifeexperience. So that's true for everything.
Even difficult things. I wantyou to hear that. Even difficult
things. So about two years anda half ago, I. Had damaged OR my.
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The disc between L5 and S1 onmy lower back had been deteriorating
for some time. But it got badenough. Now that it really has pinched
the nerve. And so in the lastTwo and a half years. I have a lot
of pain, a lot of, you know,physical therapy and, you know, they're
looking at this and that. Ihave sometimes cortisone shots every
quarter, and they're lookingat more detailed stuff. The bottom
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line is I walk with a cane andit hurts a lot. And now it's on both
sides, starting about seven oreight months after the first one.
So almost two years now onboth sides. So I could be mad or
think I'm somehow debilitated,and I don't buy it for a second.
Yeah, I have a limp. Yeah, Ihave struggles. I'm 70. I could say,
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you know what? I'm tired. I'mgonna wind down. No, I'm winding
up because I want to. Becausewhat this has all taught me is anything
is possible. I can love youjust as fiercely as I can without
a limp. Maybe even more sobecause I have more empathy and love
for any struggle that youmight be having. Okay, so you and
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I, we get to choose ourexperience. And the experience I
choose with limping and usinga cane is one of joy. I get to breathe,
I'm here to love you. I get toexperience the fact that it's getting
cold in Edmonton now becausewe're in the frozen north, right?
And I choose to love it everyday just because I can. Bitterly
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complaining at people, at God,at the weather, at the economy, at
the president or the primeminister. It doesn't do anything
except make us rage againstwhat is. So I choose to have a wonderful
day every day, even with thelimps that I have. All right, so
there's another thing to thinkabout now. Let's talk about the university.
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I'm launching a universitynext year. Why would I do that? Well,
I told you, I just finishedthe book Coaching in the Rise of
AI. By the time you hear this,it'll be out. I encourage you to
look it up if you do anythingthat even resembles coaching, because
it not only says boldly, 95%of coaches will be out of work, it
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says what to do about it.Because the process of being a guide,
a mentor, a sounding board, aplace of encouragement and love,
that need isn't going to goaway. AI can't bleed. It can't create
emotion. It can't create thehuman connection. There's nothing
AI can do that equals sittingwith someone quietly or someone just
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listening to you. And, yeah,you can talk to Chatty and it'll
say cool things back, but it'snot the same as having a human spirit
together. So the power ofcoaching is actually going to go
up more and coaches are goingto be better paid and higher demand,
but only those that arewilling to to be different than they
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are now. Because coachingmostly. Now, I've been through many
coaching academies andprograms. They're useless in the
light of AI. I don't mean theprinciples are wrong. The principles
are right. But unless they'reaccompanied or applied with the truth
of human connection, they'reuseless. And now the only thing that's
left that coaches can do, meor you, is we can be the truth of
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what we teach. If I just talkabout principles, we're dead. We're
dead because AI can do thatfaster and better and in better language,
quite frankly. So unless Ilive, I am the embodiment of what
I teach, I'm going to be outof work. So that's the reason I'm
starting university, is tohelp people both understand that
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and then learn how to do it.In the book, I propose a new coaching
methodology called the TripleHelix Coach. And it's very specific
and very different thananything that is being taught now.
And in researching the book, Idid an AI analysis of 11 coaching
models. I'm not saying that'sall of them, but 11 models that I
know right now and asked AIhow vulnerable they were and all
(28:02):
the rest and it did a greatjob and it scared the crap out of
me. And then I put in theTriple Helix model, how it works
and what I teach andeverything else and ask for the same
analysis. And I was delighted,I was delighted to say it said zero
vulnerability. Now I'm, I, Irealize those AIs are programmed,
(28:23):
at least most of them, to bevery encouraging and nice, so I ask
it not to. In fact, I directedit in rather harsh language, no bs,
et cetera, et cetera, andstill came back and told me with
a whole list of rationale. SoI'm really excited about the Triple
Helix coaching methodology. Sothat's another thing that I'm doing.
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There's a businessacceleration piece, cash clarity
Creation, that has to do withwhat I said, increasing top line
revenue and decreasing costs.Wow, who doesn't need that? I have
a book creation part which islike the challenges that I've been
running. You want to get yourbook done, you know you have a story
worth writing. I do too. Butmost people don't make money selling
(29:09):
books. So what you need to dois not only create the book, but
create the product behind it.Whether it's a do it yourself passive
income product or some kind ofa group product or coaching product.
You can make money doing thatand you can make a great living if
you want to. And theuniversity is all part of that. It's
not really just a school. Itis an awakening. It is a fierce faith
(29:32):
forge for those willing towalk. Because the change that's going
to have to happen in coachingis fierce and not trivial. It's going
to challenge you to the coreof your soul. So I encourage you
to get a hold of me if youwant to. The URL right here. Kellen
flukegar Media at the top,there's a contact form if you'd like
(29:53):
to talk about it, about whatI've said in the book or what's going
on or buy the book or if you'dlike to argue with me, that's fine
too. Love to get to knowpeople, because I love you. So here's
what else I'm doing. I wroteCoaching and the Rise of AI. It's
coming out this week after,after I record this. And you'll,
you'll see it in. It'llalready be out by the time you see
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this episode in December. Hereis the thing. It really is talking
about the rise and the powerof the human spirit in the age of
machines. Now, we've all seenthe books and movies, you know, Skynet
and the Terminator series andpeople have talked about even now
where, you know, you hit tothe singularity where machines can
(30:34):
teach themselves and then theyget to infinite intelligence and
pretty soon they're, you know,generative intelligence, AGI, artificial
general intelligence orgenerative intelligence, where it's
not just a reflector. See,right now the thing we're calling
AI is not intelligent. It is afabulous reflector researcher who
(30:56):
collater. It writes reallywell, although it has a particular
style and you come torecognize it really quick. Unless
you train it to writedifferently, which you can do easily,
but it does what you tell itto and it's unbelievably good at
it. Like I said, it researchesincredibly well and collates and
summarizes and you know, I useit for all kinds of stuff. And you
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should too. If you're not,you're leaving money on the table
and wasting a lot of time. Andwhy would you do that? But the thing
that AI cannot do is replicatethe soul. And if your soul is not
in your coaching, you're dead,you're out of work. You have to transcend
information. The idea up tonow for most coaches is I'm going
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to have walk this process withyou ask these questions, do these
check sheets, do this kind ofthing, and then you're going to have
some insights and you're goingto realize what you got to do. And
that is talking about thatthing over there. Unless you have
bled on the floor and walkedthe road, your coaching will be useless.
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You can only coach what youhave experienced. You can only coach
where you have been. You canonly coach what you know in the future.
I mean, starting right now,frankly. And if you don't realize
and get into that truth rightnow, you'll be out of work. Then
you'll be wondering what to dowith yourself. And when you start,
start to change, it's going tobe too late. Start now. Own the truth
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of your life. The mostimportant gift you have to give me
and anyone else is the storyof your own becoming. The battle,
the challenge, the growth,the, you know, the path you've walked,
the discoveries, those arewhat you really have to offer. Anything
else, you're just a library. Acollation of library and chat does
that better than anyone.Better, way better than you do or
(32:52):
me. You know, the Internetdemocratized information and AI is
democratizing expertise.Everybody can have it. So if that's
all you've provided, you'reout of at of work. So there's another
book at the end of Decemberthat I'm doing. I've said what I'm
doing this year. And it'll beout now in about three weeks from
when you have this. It'scalled Masterpiece. Masterpiece.
(33:17):
Okay. And the subtitle isSeize the day, live your purpose
and change the world. Thereason I'm writing that is to emphasize
the truth of your ability tochange the world. But it's not an
accident. It's not somethingthat's going to do itself. You and
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I have the ability to changethe world for the better. And you
might think, as I used to, I'monly one little person in one little
corner. What can I do? Well,the first thing we do is start with
ourselves. We become, asGandhi said, the change we want to
see. Not well, I'm a goodperson. I'm talking about a visible,
(34:00):
vibrant, powerful, unignorablebeacon of light, vessel of love and
conduit of power. Then whenyou enter a room, you can change
the conversation just bywalking in the room with a single
question, with a singlethought, or saying nothing, just
with your presence. Those kindof coaches are going to be in high
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demand, super high demand, andextremely well paid. So Seize the
Day is a process about how todo that live your purpose is a process
about how to find your purposeand then live into it fully. And
from that place, figure outhow you're going to change the world.
Now, after you've changedyourself or I have, your mission
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and purpose will be all overyou. You'll know what it is and you'll
be leaning into it. You'll bescreaming it from the rooftops. And
you can be well paid, whetherit's book speaking, coaching or one
of many, many other ways. Andthat's one of the things I do when
I help people write theirstories and publish their books,
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is also figure out how they'regoing to monetize, make cash out
of your life. Your life's themost important thing you have. I
don't care if you've learnedto be an engineer or a doctor or
a rocket scientist. Those areinteresting and they're helpful,
but they're still that thingover there. The most powerful thing
you have is who you are, notwhat you can do. Okay, so here's
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the real challenge for you.Stop living life like it's a checklist.
If you get up every day andit's like, oh, I got to do this and
I got to do that, no wonderyou're not living your ultimate life.
I invite you to get a hold ofme kellenflukermedia.com and let
me help you. Or I invite youto read the book Living with Purpose
and Power. It looks like thisLiving with Purpose and Power. There
(35:53):
is a formula and a process inhere so that you can create a process
that creates you every day. Soyou live your life. You like it's
on steroids all the time inlove with yourself. I don't mean
busy. I mean happy. Full onhappy. Is it worth it to you? Do
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you want to live full on happyevery day? And maybe you do already,
I don't know. If you do, I'dlove to meet you because I love having
those people on my show. Andif you don't, you want to get the
Contact form kellenflukermedia.com Love to help you get that
book Living with Purpose andpower. I've written 22 books. Every
one of them is my ownexperience. It's different pieces
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of that story of my ownbecoming. And my story isn't any
better than yours. So my goalthis year is to help 300 million
people understand that andlive. Understand your worth, identity,
possibility, ownership andsovereignty. I'm stoked about this
year coming. I am reallyexcited. I invite you to audit your
life where has your duty, yourobligation replaced? Living with
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absolute freaking delight.Like, if you don't love your life
every day, why would yousettle for that? It's a real question.
You only live once, and thatdoesn't mean go try crazy stuff.
Although you might. But whywouldn't you love your life every
day when you can? So if youlive in a. Your life is like, you
(37:26):
wake up and you think aboutall the problems you got. Man, have
we got a big opportunitythere. It's possible, within your
personal grasp, to wake up andbe so excited about life, you can't.
You can hardly stand it.Flying out of bed, getting in to
your life every day. Ipromise. I've walked the road from
(37:46):
misery to mastery, and I canhelp you do it too. And that is my
commitment to do that and tolove you, listen to you, and understand
and then drag out of you whatyour real goals are. What do you
want? Maybe you've never takentime to dig down deep in your heart
(38:08):
and figure out what you reallywant. Well, it's time. It's time
now to do that. So I inviteyou to do that. Fun isn't frivolous.
It is the outcome of living adivinely inspired life. Fun is part
of it. I have fun every daywithout fail. I love everything that
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I do. I love talking to thatold client and friend. This morning
was beautiful. Reconnect aftersome years. I love making this episode
for you because I love you andI don't even know you. I love you
anyway, and you can't doanything about it. I invite you to
love yourself. So live maybethis year as if joy was your job.
(38:55):
What if you lived like joy isyour job? What if you lived like
you knew you could createanything? What if you stopped negotiating
with mediocrity? What if youstopped that? Stop negotiating with
mediocrity. I would love that.And you will too. You. You don't
(39:16):
need anyone's permission. Youdon't need anyone's agreement. You
just need to decide. That'show you're living. 70 isn't retirement.
It never will be. For me, it'san ignition of a new, a new year
and a new decade. Your nextdecade can be amazing. Beyond Worth
A N D Amazing Next decade.That's the slogan of another one
(39:37):
of my clients. My mission isto nurture 300 million people to
understand your worth,identity, purpose, sorry, possibility,
ownership and sovereignty soyou can create your ultimate life.
Join me subscribe to thispodcast Share this episode with somebody
(39:57):
Reach out to me and let's TalkEllen Flueker Media the Contact Form
Read Coaching and the Rise ofAI this week. You're worth it. Make
something real happen rightnow just because you can. You're.
You're divine. You'repowerful. You're limitless. No more
(40:23):
negotiating with mediocrity.Slam your fist, put your foot down,
whatever it is. Seventy yearshas taught me what a lot of things,
but one stands out. And thatis life is too important to waste
time being small. Today is thefirst day of your next year of awesome
(40:46):
growth. Join me. And go createyour ultimate life. Go back and you'll
never ask why. Open your heartand this time around, right here,
right now, your opportunityfor massive growth is right in front
(41:08):
of you. Every episode givesyou practical tips and practices
that will change everything.If you want to know more, go to kellenflukermedia.com
if you want more more FREEtools, go here. Your Ultimate Life
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