August 15, 2025 • 39 mins
Are you about to repeat the first half of the year—or will you own the rest of it?
In this raw, no-excuses solo episode, Kellan Fluckiger dismantles the myths that keep you stuck in “someday” thinking. You’ll learn the daily practices, mindset shifts, and emotional mastery techniques that make you unstoppable—no matter what life throws at you.
From losing a beloved pet to navigating health scares, Kellan shares how to turn setbacks into beauty, reclaim your sovereignty, and give yourself the gift you really want by year’s end.
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Unstoppable.
That's what this says.
The question is, what are youdoing with the rest of the year?
Welcome to the show.
Tired of the hype about livingthe dream.
It's time for truth.
This is the place for tools,power and real talk.
So you can create the life youdream and deserve your ultimate life.
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Subscribe, share, create.
You have infinite power.
Foreign.
You've got five and a halfmonths left.
Five months, maybe four and a half.
By the time you see this, areyou going to waste it?
Is it going to feel like thefirst half?
Isn't it time to take controlright here, right now and give yourself
something amazing for New Year's?
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I think so.
So the question I'm startingwith here is what is this year really
about?
Is it just survival?
Are you just going to do the same?
Are you actually living?
Now, before you blow me offand think, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
whatever, here's what I wantyou to just slow down for a minute
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and think about what happensday to day for you.
Like what happens.
Do you love your days?
When you wake up in themorning, do you hit snooze several
times?
Do you dread getting up andhitting in the day?
Or do you fly out of bed anddash into your morning ritual?
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Or I call it a dcp DailyCreation Process because you're so
excited about what is on yourschedule, what you've chosen to put
on your calendar?
One of the common answers Iget to this is this.
Well, it depends on the day.
No, it doesn't.
That's completely bogus.
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It only depends on the day.
If you say so.
If you say it depends on theday, then you bet your life it depends
on the day.
And what you've done is youhave given power for joy, productivity,
creativity, love, excitement,whatever goody, wonderful, powerful
words you want to use, you'vegiven that away.
You've given that power to theschedule you created or to somebody
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else.
Like you've given it away.
Aren't you tired of givingaway your sovereignty?
Aren't you tired of givingaway your kingdom, your fortune?
You know your fortune.
Your real fortune is yourheart, your love, your excitement,
your happiness.
Nobody lays on their deathbedand said, I wish I had more money.
I wish I had more love, deeperrelationships, smelled the roses.
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You know the list, you've seen it.
So how do you think that happens?
I don't know.
But let me tell you what I think.
I think what happens is weknow that we hear that over and over
again.
Do the things that areimportant of Course.
And then we don't.
Yeah, but I just got to getthis done first.
Yeah, I know, but.
Yeah, but.
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Yeah, but.
Yeah, but reminds me of Bugs Bunny.
Wabbit.
Webbit, Webbit.
Right.
Yeah, but.
Is a poison dart to yourheart, right.
It's a stab in yoursovereignty, a stab in your divinity.
Yeah, but I got to do this first.
Yeah, but the weather sucks.
Yeah, but I'm going bankrupt.
Yeah, but none of that matters.
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It just doesn't matter.
Let me give you an example.
Yesterday morning.
Now it won't be yesterdaymorning when you hear this because
it's coming out in a fewweeks, but as I record this, yesterday
morning, I get up at 4:30.
I get up at 5 usually, but alittle early yesterday, 4:30 and
I get up diving into my day.
I live and love that.
I live every day that way.
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I love it.
By 5:00, I was so excitedabout what I had to do today, I couldn't
stand it.
I was in the middle of my DCPdaily creation process.
Loving it, loving it, loving it.
About 10 after 5, Joy saidsomething to me.
She's in bed and she usuallydoesn't get up till 8 or 8:30.
You know, we work a differentbit of a schedule.
She works later than I do.
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I'm in bed by 9:30 and up at 5.
And she said something abouther cat named Rubisco.
She said, I think I need totake Rubisco's foaming at the mouth.
I need to take her to the vet,the emergency vet clinic, 24 hour
thing.
Now over the last couple ofweeks we've been, she's been there
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and she was on IV fluids andsome other stuff for five days or
six.
And we had only had her homefor about a week, maybe 10 days.
So maybe it was three weeksago, I don't know.
But anyway, and, and she hadbeen getting better and now she was,
it seemed like she wascrashing again.
And I said, okay, great, youknow, go for it.
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And then she said, will youcome with me?
And I said without evenblinking, of course I will.
Knowing completely well thatall the stuff that I had planned
to do in my mind, in myexcitement and doing my morning ritual
and everything was not goingto get done.
I knew that and I didn't care,not even one millionth of a molecule
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because at that moment we havethe cat in distress that is absolutely
near and dear to Joy's heart.
And I wouldn't think aboutdoing anything else.
And there was not a shred ofthought of, oh, Dear XYZ won't get
done.
I'm not saying yay me becauseI didn't used to be like that.
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That was a developed skillbecause I didn't like me the other
way.
I didn't like the other personwho was okay, whether it was energetically
or physically or anything.
Okay, yeah, we'll do that.
But I got to hurry backbecause I got all this stuff to do.
And so it turned out we tookthe cat to the vet.
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It was not a good prognosis.
We were there about an hour,an hour and a half, 20 or 30 minutes
and the doctor came in, verykind and you know, knew the history
because they were the clinicwhere the cat had been and said,
you know, not, not gonna make it.
So we had to make thedifficult decision to put her down.
Then Joy realized that our,our youngster 10 year old Ukrainian
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daughter who lives with us,with her mother and has for three
plus years would probably wantto say goodbye.
So we went home, got her,brought her back, had a goodbye ceremony
and again the doctor was justamazingly kind and we put the cat
to sleep and then we drove allthe way out to a place that we've
used for pet cremation andthis is our fourth animal.
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And you know, and that took along time.
And then we came back and didsome things and I had a doctor appointment
in the afternoon alreadyscheduled from a while ago because
I've got some crazy stuffgoing on in my balance, my head that
they don't know what is, etc.
Etc.
Bottom line is the whole daybetween the outcome of what I did
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at the doctor that I had to godo, then I had to go immediately
and take a blood test.
And because there was somevery concerning things, I had to
go get some immediate medicmedication because he saw a symptom
or two that for him was 91 1.
So it was like right now,either go to emerge or go get this
med and do it and do a bloodtest and we'll do this stuff afterwards.
So the whole day, start tofinish, five in the morning, tonight
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gone, done, not a thing.
And I loved every minute of it.
I lived and loved in it.
Now my point about beingfocused and clear is I didn't outsource
my joy.
My joy is in me.
My joy is also my wife.
But my joy, my ability to have love.
Love creates server.
My three words, that that's on me.
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And so I chose to love it all.
And we had a very tender bunchof time, you know, taken the cat
out, rubisco out to this, youknow, pet mortuary place and all
the things that wereassociated with that preparation.
It was glorious.
It was beautiful, and it was a blessing.
And, yep, trashed everything Iwas going to do.
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And now I got that stuffstacked up starting today.
Okay.
I love it.
I love it, I love it.
So my question, when I say toyou, what's this year about?
How's your day gonna start or go?
That's on you.
You can get mad at me forsaying it, but it is.
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And there is a gift in every event.
I got an email from a friendof mine this morning that said about
that, about finding the giftin every situation.
And the language wasdifferent, but I love that.
And I went back over somethinking in my mind about everything
that's happened to me andsince 2017 to now, in the last eight
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years, oh, two or threelifetimes worth of emergency stuff,
gallbladder surgery, emergencyspinal surgery, dying in 2018, being
paralyzed a few months laterin 2018.
I mean, the list is on and onand on.
And I just thought about it,and I thought about the massive and
awesome gift in each situation.
So it wasn't about will therebe a gift?
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Or talking about the idea of a gift.
But I went found them againfor the umpteenth time.
So I said this in thebeginning because I want to get rid
of this idea that it dependson anything but you.
So now let's go back to theinitial question.
What is this year about foryou or the rest of this year?
What are you going to giveyourself by Christmas or by New Year's
that you don't have right this minute?
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It might be emotional, mightbe financial, might be a bunch of
cash.
It might be spiritual, mightbe in relationships.
It might be physically.
All of those things areabsolutely legitimate goals, and
you might be doing two orthree of them at the same time.
I find trying to work on 20goals is too hard, but three or four
big ones, you can do that.
Especially if you're lookingat 90 days or a year or something
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like that.
So here's the question for you.
What is this year about?
What gift will you give yourself?
That's an honest and fair question.
And if you're going to get thevalue out of this time together,
I want you to do it.
Think about and write it on paper.
If the rest of your year had atheme, what would it be?
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What would that be like?
Don't wait for New Year'sresolutions or for Labor Day in the
school year to start, orsummer Vacay to be over.
Don't do that.
Why would you just trash allthe days between now and then?
Like.
Like, you're obviously free todo that, but most of the people that
listen to this show and that Italk to that are guests here on LA
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Talk Radio, they're aboutadding good to the world.
They're about doing something.
I'm continually blown away bythe number of people that I meet,
you included, that havesomething in their heart they want
to give to the world.
Well, are you doing it?
Are you doing it full on?
Are you dribbling it out indrips and drabs?
Really and truly?
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Because that's on you.
Now.
Here's the thing I love aboutbeing a coach, an alchemist.
The alchemist of peace,prosperity, cash, magic, soul, contentment
and fulfillment.
Alchemy.
Part magic and part science.
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Like, if you're not livingthat life of total joy, let's fix
it.
You're invited to get a holdof me.
There's a website right there,kellenfluker media.com.
there's a contact form on that website.
That website's about.
Shows you all my books and allthat stuff.
But there's a contact form there.
Get a hold of me.
Let's talk.
Because you deserve to live in joy.
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Now, the truth is, you got tocreate it.
So let's go back to the nextpiece, which is the rest of the year
is a blob.
You know, depending on whenyou hear this, it might be four months,
four and a half months, fivemonths, depends on when you hear
it.
But it's a blob.
And you think, okay, I got alot of days left.
Not, not 180, but maybe 150.
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Okay, I got 150 days left.
Okay, that's a blob.
I don't have to do that todaybecause I got 149 more days.
No, you have one day at a time.
You have today.
That's what you have.
Period, period, period, period.
Now, you can disagree with that.
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You can fight about it or youcan, but that's all you have.
And if today ends up beinghijacked because you got sick and
had to go to the ER, orbecause somebody wrecked a car or
because something elsehappened, the reflect or whatever,
that's okay.
Lean into it and love it.
But here's the thing.
My question is, in order todo, to lean in and love it when something
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derails what you planned inthe context of your long goal.
So let's say you set a newyear's goal.
And you say, I'm going to do this.
And you line out what you'regoing to do every week.
And then, you know, back downto the days and you prepare and you
hit it and then it blows up.
Here's the secret.
Here's a magic key.
This is worth a billion dollars.
Hold your breath.
Get your pen.
Write it down.
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You can have absolute, totalcontrol over how each day goes.
Say that again.
You can have absolute, totalcontrol over how each day goes for
you.
That thing happened yesterday,hijacked today.
And I had the most beautifulexperience I could imagine because
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I choose to be that way.
But it depends on how youprepare yourself.
If you prepare yourself thatyou're dependent on other things
going right, you're finished.
You can't do this becausenothing out there is going to go.
Like you say, some thingswill, some things won't.
But we don't control theweather or other people's attitudes
or feelings or whether theywhip out a credit card and buy whatever
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you're selling.
We don't control that, do we?
Now, here's what I want you tothink about.
How do you prepare yourself?
You're a divine being.
You're a holy spirit.
You're divinity.
You're one generation from God.
So how do you, you precious,awesome person that I dearly love,
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how do you prepare yourself tohit your day or your week, snooze,
slop out of bed, grab thephone, distraction, relive an old
argument like that is reallycrappy preparation.
If you want success, it'sgreat preparation if you just want
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to go with the flow and cruise.
Okay, so I'm going to sharesomething I've shared before.
Here are some practices that Iuse, okay?
And I.
Please read this.
Living with Purpose and power.
This is about how to createanything you want, literally, day
by day, minute by minute, therest of the year.
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This is.
This is it.
So get that.
Living with purpose and power.
And if you do, I'd love to.
To hear what you think about it.
Don't tell me what you thinkuntil you finish it.
Read it, try it, and tell mewhat's happened in your life.
So I use an acronym, SPEM S PM. Spiritual, Physical, emotional,
Mental.
And I go through someactivities at the start of each day
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in each of those areas, somespiritual practices.
The purpose of that is to getmyself reminded that without the
spiritual power behind all ofus, we're nothing.
We're skin bags.
Right?
We can't.
We can't do much.
We don't control Much.
And to the extent we'rearrogant and proud and think we got
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it all handled, I got news foryou, you're full of crap.
You might for five minutes,but it'll all fall apart.
So ass is spiritual now.
I'm not going to tell you whatyour spiritual practices are.
I meditate, I pray, I readsacred literature and I use my document,
ptac, Personal Truth andCommitment, which is a fire breathing
dragon of motivation and power.
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If you don't have a firebreathing dragon of motivation and
power, why not?
All right, physical is what it says.
Do little exercise stretches.
Do something to honor your body.
You know, I do finger stuff inthe morning because I'm piano and
I do some martial artsstretches to the extent that I can
with my back discdeterioration, which is one of those
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externalities, but I still dowhat I can to get my body going.
E is emotional.
I send messages and tokens oflove, connect relationships, because
emotional to me includes allthose relationships, things.
So I do that on purpose.
And M is mental.
So I read some in a book orin, you know, certain people that
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I follow to see what they'retalking about.
And it's never about trivial stuff.
Once in a while it is andthat's okay, but it's, you know,
inspirational.
Who's.
Who's thinking a thing thatwill inspire me and I go look for
inspiration and I always findit 100% of the time, never, ever,
ever not.
So it's not about control andit's not about rigidity and it's
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not about lack of spontaneity.
It's not about any of that.
It's about choice andpreparing yourself for to be all
you can be.
Sometimes people say, well,that's too rigid and I can't do it
and I get too much going on.
Okay, you're free to do that.
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But as a possibility, I'msuggesting to you that if you take
more control and do what youknow, prepares you, makes you feel
prepared and good, you'll meetchallenges and setbacks with more
grace and creativity.
And on the days and times andhours when the wind's at your back,
you'll blow your own mind withyour productivity and the love and
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intensity and intention thatis infused in everything that you
do and say.
I want you to hold that.
Now the next thing I want totalk about is, okay, how do you handle
setbacks and sudden changes?
Now, I talked a little bitabout that with my example with the
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cat Rubisco and yesterdaybeing all about, you know, her, her
passing and us Having to then,you know, set up cremation and choose
urns and, you know, all ofthose things.
And involving our littleUkrainian girl in that, because she
loved Rubisco.
And for me, it was also aboutmy wife.
My wife loved that cat.
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And there's a very specialstory between us, Joy and I, about
the cat.
And so there was a lot ofreflection on that and a lot of,
you know, tears and work.
And so the whole day becameabout that.
So that's interruption, and itwas beautiful.
So the question is, thosethings are going to happen.
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Okay?
And my first convo with Joythis morning was to just hug her
and ask her how she's doing,how her heart feels, and, you know,
what's going on for her tolove her and do that, because that's
who I am.
That's how we've created our relationship.
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So my question here is, let'sassume you do part one, which is
your awesome, awesome, awesomemorning creation.
Let's assume you do that.
Okay.
That morning prep is all abouthow to get your goals clear, your
New Year's gifts organized.
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Instead of lamenting lastyear's New Year's resolutions, it's
about choosing.
I'm going to give myself inner peace.
I'm going to give myself abunch of cash for Christmas.
Okay.
I'll tell you what this year'sabout for me till October 14.
It's about my 300 millionpeople and the number of things that
are happening.
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Blow my mind.
I got an email from somebodytalking about syndicating my podcast,
making an offer to do that,and that might mean some money.
Good.
It'll certainly meansponsorship and those kinds of things.
And I don't really care aboutthe money.
I care about the 300 million.
But that came out of thisfocus that I have that I'm sharing
with you, how to do.
That's where it came from.
I was.
Had a live stream the otherday that went to a million people.
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Holy moly.
So that's the size of things.
And those have been createdbecause I'm doing this prep every
day.
It's not magic.
It's not luck.
It's creation.
All right, so let's talk aboutyou and your handling of setbacks.
When something happens thatthrows you off your game, what do
you do?
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Be honest.
What do you do?
If it's tiny, you just blow it off.
If it's big.
Like, I know people that getthrown off their game because somebody's
rude on the road, somebodycuts you off or doesn't let you in
or Whatever it is, and youknow your boils up and you want to
flip them off and stupid.
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That's where you start, right there.
Love them.
I don't know what's going onfor that person, but I love them.
That's a game.
Try it.
I can't do that.
Yes, you can.
You can learn anything you want.
You learn to be like you are.
You weren't born that way, right?
Babies aren't flipping eachother off.
So choose some things today,if you don't drive anywhere, you
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know, emails come that aren'twhat you wanted.
Taxing IRS or candidate CRAsent you a note and it's like, I
got to do something late on mytax return.
Whatever it is, Grace and love.
Grace and love.
It's not pretending and it'snot a game.
Everything that you have to doand I have to do is just that.
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It's a thing I have to do.
It doesn't mean your mission's wrong.
It doesn't mean your goalsneed to be changed.
It's not an indictment of your personality.
It's not an indictment of yourgoals or your Persona.
It's just a thing you gotta do.
And if it moves everythingforward a day or two or a week.
So back on track.
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Back on track in June of 2018.
Now, eight years ago, sevenyears ago, you know, I got sick and
I was in the hospital for amonth and died and 17 days in a coma.
And you know, that and rehabafterwards was a lot of work, so
that didn't throw off a day.
That threw off two months, right?
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And I found the gift.
I leaned into it and I loved it.
Now, if all this stuff soundslike mumbo jumbo to you and you're
like, I wish I could do that,but I can't, let me help you, because
I can teach you to do that andyou can learn it fast.
90 days from now, you know,what are we?
August, September, October.
By the 1st of November, byHalloween, you can have a handle
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on your emotional mastery.
You can have a handle on that.
Where you look for the gift in everything.
You don't blame other people.
You no longer have that angerrising up in you or that frustration
or that resignation or thatdepression that says, I'll never
make it.
I'm not good enough.
You know how I know this is true?
Because all that was true for me.
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I lived my first.
I left home at 17, my divine intervention.
Change happened in 2007.
So I lived that 35 years back,buried in depression, self sabotage.
And if you, you know, if youwant the story, it's in the book
Tightrope of Depression.
My I'm the author and thatsubtitles my journey from darkness,
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despair and death to light,love, and life.
So I lived in that whereeverything was derailed and I was
never going to be good enough.
And I destroyed different careers.
And.
And so I.
When I say to you this ispossible, I know it because I've
walked that road one brick ata time, one rock at a time, one steep
grade at a time, one setbackat a time.
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And so I am the ultimatecatalyst, or alchemist.
Sorry, I use both those words,sometimes interchangeably.
But an alchemist using magicand science to give you back control
of your flipping life.
Like, why give it away?
All right, so setbacks,however small they are, are exactly
that opportunity.
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And they happen every day.
So we get lots of practice, right?
We get lots of opportunity topractice what we're going to do with
setbacks.
Little ones and big ones.
If you have prepared yourselflike we talk about in the morning,
because that's the key, thendealing with setbacks is not difficult.
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Here's what we ask.
What is the gift here?
Now, when I knew that catthing was going to take the day,
which I suspected it was, theminute she said anything, I could
have said, ah.
Instead, I've trained andchosen to be great.
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How can we turn this into beauty?
That's what I ask.
And I meant that.
And everything disappeared.
How can we turn this into beauty?
So I want you to think about that.
Developing those kind ofhabits is the beginning, right?
The emotion, sadness, tears.
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Oh, no, Unexpected, you know,she was 15 or 14 and a half.
Almost 15.
Be 15 in September, so right quick.
And, you know, cats live,what, 12 to 20, occasionally to 21
or two.
So it was a little early, youknow, we expected to have a few more
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years, but she also had ckd,chronic kidney.
Kidney disease.
And that was the reason sheultimately couldn't do it.
Her kidneys failed.
So the.
The question is, what is thebeauty here?
Not.
I can't wait till this is over.
That is a learned behavior.
If you want to know how tolearn it quickly, get a hold of me.
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Contact Form Ellen FlukerMedia Read the book Living with Purpose
and power.
All the 20 books that I'vewritten, every one is about only
one thing.
Helping you with what I'velearned, because I've walked every
one of these roads.
I don't write books aboutstuff I don't understand, don't know,
haven't bled over.
And then I write Them, becauseI know the things I've learned could
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be of service.
So that's the first thing isyour daily prep.
The second thing is the firstquestion you ask.
No matter what hits you, yourmom dies, your brother gets cancer.
You know, my mom dying is fresh.
For me, that happened inApril, just a few months ago.
Got an email from my sister.
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She said, mama graduated.
We called her Mama, not Mom.
Mama graduated.
I knew what she meant.
And I sat there in thestillness for a moment and waited
to connect with it.
I asked the very samequestion, spoke to the divine.
This is a blessing.
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She's now reunited with my dad.
This is beautiful.
How can this be good?
What can I turn?
How can I turn this into joy?
And in about an hour, Iactually felt her spirit.
And that's significant becauseif you've read Tightrope, you know
some of the details of whythat might not be what you'd expect
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to have happen.
But it did, and it was beautiful.
So that was a choice with thecat or with her?
I mean, that could havederailed the day, too.
And the only thing I did isfind out when the funeral was over
the next couple days and makeplans to go.
But plans to go is three orfour days out of the schedule.
I loved it.
It was beautiful because Ichoose it.
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Setbacks do not derail your mission.
Hear this.
Setbacks don't derail.
They don't even delay your mission.
Even though the funeral tookthree or four days to the travel,
everything else and the cattook a day, and I imagine in the
next few days, it'll takeanother day.
It doesn't derail yourrelationship or it doesn't derail
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your mission.
It doesn't even delay.
Changes your relationship to.
Allows you to recognize thatexternalities are blessings.
Now, in the case of a pet or aperson in your family, passing and
a spiritual connection, youcan see with the sadness, which I'm
not pretending to deny, youmight weep, you might have sadness,
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you might have an hour of breakdown.
Depends on what the thing is.
But your choice to show up asa divine being then empowers you
to come back from that andcreate beauty out of ashes, to build
a masterpiece out of a mess.
Because it's not really amess, it's just a thing.
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So what is this year about for you?
This really is several pieces.
One, to think about what youwant for New Year's.
And then the real question is, what?
Who do you have to be to takethe action day to day, week to week,
month to month, to give you,your gift.
And who do you have to be todeal with the inevitable setbacks,
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large or small?
Because they're going to comeand they're going to come hard, and
they're going to come fastsometimes or slow and easy.
So when you have a setback,remember, it doesn't derail your
mission.
It.
It reveals your relationshipto it.
Because if these things happenand that makes you doubt your mission
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or your purpose or your goalsor your ability, that's the sign
to do some work there.
When you have a realcommitment to your, in this case,
New Year's gifts or Christmasgifts, when you have a real relationship
with that, what those setbacksdo is reaffirm, recommit.
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What this thing yesterday didis gave me a beautiful story to tell.
That's true and powerful for myself.
I shared it with you.
But for me to look at whatactually happened and realize what
that reveals.
So it.
These setbacks will.
Will reveal for you yourrelationship to your goals.
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If it derails you, you're not committed.
If it makes you think I'llnever get there, you're not committed.
If it makes you wonder, whatwhy is this happening to me?
You're not committed.
Now, that might sound harsh,but the answer isn't to get mad at
me.
It's to get committed.
Get committed.
You know what committed is?
I will crawl over every pieceof broken glass that I have to to
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get to that goal.
Now, you're free at any timeto say, you know what?
That's not a goal I want anymore.
You're free to have thelearnings of life teach you that
you are going in the wrongdirection, or it needs just a course
correction or a radical pivot.
The lessons of life will do that.
But it's not because I've beenbeat down.
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I give up.
It is with carefulconsideration with you as a divine
being in your heart,considering who you want to be in
the world and how you wantthat to show up.
Like, I've had all kinds ofsetbacks over the years with this
podcast.
Oh, I don't want to do this anymore.
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Oh, it's too hard.
Too much work on and on and on.
And by reviewing what Iwanted, I want to add good to the
world.
I want to help people realizethey can create their lives like
I have.
And I want to give them thetools to do it.
That commitment every timewould over, override, outweigh the
setback.
And it will for you, too, butonly if you have your real vision.
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So here's the real question.
This when this crap happensand it's going to, will you crumble?
Are you going to curse the sky?
Right?
I don't know.
And what you've done beforenow, let's say you've had a habit
of being angry at bad driversor at the Revenue Service Canada
Revenue or the IRS orwhatever, or your partner or an illness
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or a business partner or thefact that your sales strategy isn't
working or your relationshipisn't good.
You can rail and blame andmaybe that's been your habit.
Cursing the sky, cursing Godand wishing to die.
It says in the Bible somewhere.
If that's been your habit, Idon't care.
You can change it today if youwant help.
Get a hold of me.
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Read the books or get a holdof me, but change it because it's
so much more fun and empowering.
Yeah, there's people that loveto live in their complaints and love
to argue for their limitationsand love to live as victims, but
they're not very happy.
I've never met a person, Ihave never met a person who lives
in that victim blaming placewho is actually happy.
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You know, you're around himand you just feel joy.
No complain, hard done by,beat down.
I could have been a contender,you know, I could have done this
if this, that and the othergarbage or it can be garbage starting
today.
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So the question is, when ithappens, you crumble or do you recommit
with your heart, with yoursoul, maybe with tears running down
your face?
I will do this thing.
I don't know.
Your call.
All right, so let's wrap up here.
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I want to say out loud, whatis the rest of your year about?
I've told you what mine is.
Mine's getting to 300 millionby October 14th.
And in January I'm launchingthe ultimate life coaching university.
It's a complete recasting ofthe business and of the profession
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of coaching from the highestpossible place, from the most authentic,
powerful place.
Because AI is going to put 95%of coaches out of business by Christmas
of 26.
That's what I think.
Or sooner and only those whoreally have the kind of commitment
I'm talking about, commitment,vision, leadership, will be able
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to do stuff that AI can't do.
Presence and divine patternand power and really communicate
and transmit things that afrequency AI can't touch.
But anyway, so that's myJanuary goal.
So now you know my October and January.
I've got three months andthree months, not quite, but something
like that.
And I'm committed to those andI don't care how many things break.
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I don't care how many thingsget in the way.
I am committed to that.
So this is not about my commitment.
Those are just examples.
And I'm just sharing what is yours.
What is your commitment?
By New Year's, you want my help?
Want me to help you get it?
If you're tired of struggling,if you're tired of not having the
cash you want.
Money is so easy.
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Easy to create.
Cash is laying around to pick up.
I know you hear that kind ofcrap all the time and you're like,
yeah, scam.
No, it actually is.
Money follows value.
The question is, how do youcreate value so that people pour
money on you?
It's not that complicated.
You have infinite worth andyou have infinite value.
But if you're not rolling indough, you're not using it, that
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can change.
So what is your year about?
What is the rest of this yearabout for you?
I've shared mine.
Write it down, say it outloud, say it in the mirror.
Make a promise to the future.
You have a convo.
Sit down and have a convo withthe future.
You right there.
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Have a cup of tea, you know,if you're in England or a drink,
a soda, whatever.
I don't drink anymore.
You know that.
So.
So sit down and have asandwich, tea and crumpets.
I don't care with that person.
And, and talk about you ashaving achieved that thing.
Have a convo with him.
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Maybe.
If you're a coach and you'rehearing me say 95% of coaches are
going to be out of business in16, 17, 18 months, maybe the idea
of your ultimate life coachinguniversity appeals to you and you're
saying, who do I actually haveto be?
What are the step by stepprocesses to get me in the top 5%?
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Because 95% are going to beout of work and looking for something
else to do.
Really?
Not maybe.
And only the 5% who haveparticular skills and ability that
come from the kind of work I'mtalking about are going to be left
with clients and they're goingto be in high demand and well paid
because you are able to dothings no other coach can.
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Now, whether you're a coach ornot, the same process applies.
You need to create.
You don't need to do anything.
But if you want those goals,you have to create the person.
Answer the question.
Who do I have to be to have abetter relationship, to have more
money, to be more loving, tonot be ashamed when I look in the
mirror, to forgive myself ofall this crap I'm carrying around
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about stuff other people didor I did.
Like that is the question.
Who do you have to be?
And if you're not that today,then the time to change is to start
right this second.
This is your invitation.
Create the rest of this yearfor yourself.
Right here, right now.
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a hold of me.
There's a contact form onkellen flukeigermedia.com Go there.
Get the contact form.
Reach out.
Let's talk.
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That's what this says.
The question is, what are youdoing with the rest of the year?
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Foreign.
You've got five and a halfmonths left.
Five months, maybe four and a half.
By the time you see this, areyou going to waste it?
Is it going to feel like thefirst half?
Isn't it time to take controlright here, right now and give yourself
something amazing for New Year's?
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I think so.
So the question I'm startingwith here is what is this year really
about?
Is it just survival?
Are you just going to do the same?
Are you actually living?
Now, before you blow me offand think, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
whatever, here's what I wantyou to just slow down for a minute
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and think about what happensday to day for you.
Like what happens.
Do you love your days?
When you wake up in themorning, do you hit snooze several
times?
Do you dread getting up andhitting in the day?
Or do you fly out of bed anddash into your morning ritual?
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Or I call it a dcp DailyCreation Process because you're so
excited about what is on yourschedule, what you've chosen to put
on your calendar?
One of the common answers Iget to this is this.
Well, it depends on the day.
No, it doesn't.
That's completely bogus.
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It only depends on the day.
If you say so.
If you say it depends on theday, then you bet your life it depends
on the day.
And what you've done is youhave given power for joy, productivity,
creativity, love, excitement,whatever goody, wonderful, powerful
words you want to use, you'vegiven that away.
You've given that power to theschedule you created or to somebody
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else.
Like you've given it away.
Aren't you tired of givingaway your sovereignty?
Aren't you tired of givingaway your kingdom, your fortune?
You know your fortune.
Your real fortune is yourheart, your love, your excitement,
your happiness.
Nobody lays on their deathbedand said, I wish I had more money.
I wish I had more love, deeperrelationships, smelled the roses.
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You know the list, you've seen it.
So how do you think that happens?
I don't know.
But let me tell you what I think.
I think what happens is weknow that we hear that over and over
again.
Do the things that areimportant of Course.
And then we don't.
Yeah, but I just got to getthis done first.
Yeah, I know, but.
Yeah, but.
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Yeah, but.
Yeah, but reminds me of Bugs Bunny.
Wabbit.
Webbit, Webbit.
Right.
Yeah, but.
Is a poison dart to yourheart, right.
It's a stab in yoursovereignty, a stab in your divinity.
Yeah, but I got to do this first.
Yeah, but the weather sucks.
Yeah, but I'm going bankrupt.
Yeah, but none of that matters.
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It just doesn't matter.
Let me give you an example.
Yesterday morning.
Now it won't be yesterdaymorning when you hear this because
it's coming out in a fewweeks, but as I record this, yesterday
morning, I get up at 4:30.
I get up at 5 usually, but alittle early yesterday, 4:30 and
I get up diving into my day.
I live and love that.
I live every day that way.
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I love it.
By 5:00, I was so excitedabout what I had to do today, I couldn't
stand it.
I was in the middle of my DCPdaily creation process.
Loving it, loving it, loving it.
About 10 after 5, Joy saidsomething to me.
She's in bed and she usuallydoesn't get up till 8 or 8:30.
You know, we work a differentbit of a schedule.
She works later than I do.
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I'm in bed by 9:30 and up at 5.
And she said something abouther cat named Rubisco.
She said, I think I need totake Rubisco's foaming at the mouth.
I need to take her to the vet,the emergency vet clinic, 24 hour
thing.
Now over the last couple ofweeks we've been, she's been there
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and she was on IV fluids andsome other stuff for five days or
six.
And we had only had her homefor about a week, maybe 10 days.
So maybe it was three weeksago, I don't know.
But anyway, and, and she hadbeen getting better and now she was,
it seemed like she wascrashing again.
And I said, okay, great, youknow, go for it.
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And then she said, will youcome with me?
And I said without evenblinking, of course I will.
Knowing completely well thatall the stuff that I had planned
to do in my mind, in myexcitement and doing my morning ritual
and everything was not goingto get done.
I knew that and I didn't care,not even one millionth of a molecule
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because at that moment we havethe cat in distress that is absolutely
near and dear to Joy's heart.
And I wouldn't think aboutdoing anything else.
And there was not a shred ofthought of, oh, Dear XYZ won't get
done.
I'm not saying yay me becauseI didn't used to be like that.
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That was a developed skillbecause I didn't like me the other
way.
I didn't like the other personwho was okay, whether it was energetically
or physically or anything.
Okay, yeah, we'll do that.
But I got to hurry backbecause I got all this stuff to do.
And so it turned out we tookthe cat to the vet.
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It was not a good prognosis.
We were there about an hour,an hour and a half, 20 or 30 minutes
and the doctor came in, verykind and you know, knew the history
because they were the clinicwhere the cat had been and said,
you know, not, not gonna make it.
So we had to make thedifficult decision to put her down.
Then Joy realized that our,our youngster 10 year old Ukrainian
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daughter who lives with us,with her mother and has for three
plus years would probably wantto say goodbye.
So we went home, got her,brought her back, had a goodbye ceremony
and again the doctor was justamazingly kind and we put the cat
to sleep and then we drove allthe way out to a place that we've
used for pet cremation andthis is our fourth animal.
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And you know, and that took along time.
And then we came back and didsome things and I had a doctor appointment
in the afternoon alreadyscheduled from a while ago because
I've got some crazy stuffgoing on in my balance, my head that
they don't know what is, etc.
Etc.
Bottom line is the whole daybetween the outcome of what I did
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at the doctor that I had to godo, then I had to go immediately
and take a blood test.
And because there was somevery concerning things, I had to
go get some immediate medicmedication because he saw a symptom
or two that for him was 91 1.
So it was like right now,either go to emerge or go get this
med and do it and do a bloodtest and we'll do this stuff afterwards.
So the whole day, start tofinish, five in the morning, tonight
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gone, done, not a thing.
And I loved every minute of it.
I lived and loved in it.
Now my point about beingfocused and clear is I didn't outsource
my joy.
My joy is in me.
My joy is also my wife.
But my joy, my ability to have love.
Love creates server.
My three words, that that's on me.
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And so I chose to love it all.
And we had a very tender bunchof time, you know, taken the cat
out, rubisco out to this, youknow, pet mortuary place and all
the things that wereassociated with that preparation.
It was glorious.
It was beautiful, and it was a blessing.
And, yep, trashed everything Iwas going to do.
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And now I got that stuffstacked up starting today.
Okay.
I love it.
I love it, I love it.
So my question, when I say toyou, what's this year about?
How's your day gonna start or go?
That's on you.
You can get mad at me forsaying it, but it is.
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And there is a gift in every event.
I got an email from a friendof mine this morning that said about
that, about finding the giftin every situation.
And the language wasdifferent, but I love that.
And I went back over somethinking in my mind about everything
that's happened to me andsince 2017 to now, in the last eight
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years, oh, two or threelifetimes worth of emergency stuff,
gallbladder surgery, emergencyspinal surgery, dying in 2018, being
paralyzed a few months laterin 2018.
I mean, the list is on and onand on.
And I just thought about it,and I thought about the massive and
awesome gift in each situation.
So it wasn't about will therebe a gift?
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Or talking about the idea of a gift.
But I went found them againfor the umpteenth time.
So I said this in thebeginning because I want to get rid
of this idea that it dependson anything but you.
So now let's go back to theinitial question.
What is this year about foryou or the rest of this year?
What are you going to giveyourself by Christmas or by New Year's
that you don't have right this minute?
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It might be emotional, mightbe financial, might be a bunch of
cash.
It might be spiritual, mightbe in relationships.
It might be physically.
All of those things areabsolutely legitimate goals, and
you might be doing two orthree of them at the same time.
I find trying to work on 20goals is too hard, but three or four
big ones, you can do that.
Especially if you're lookingat 90 days or a year or something
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like that.
So here's the question for you.
What is this year about?
What gift will you give yourself?
That's an honest and fair question.
And if you're going to get thevalue out of this time together,
I want you to do it.
Think about and write it on paper.
If the rest of your year had atheme, what would it be?
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What would that be like?
Don't wait for New Year'sresolutions or for Labor Day in the
school year to start, orsummer Vacay to be over.
Don't do that.
Why would you just trash allthe days between now and then?
Like.
Like, you're obviously free todo that, but most of the people that
listen to this show and that Italk to that are guests here on LA
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Talk Radio, they're aboutadding good to the world.
They're about doing something.
I'm continually blown away bythe number of people that I meet,
you included, that havesomething in their heart they want
to give to the world.
Well, are you doing it?
Are you doing it full on?
Are you dribbling it out indrips and drabs?
Really and truly?
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Because that's on you.
Now.
Here's the thing I love aboutbeing a coach, an alchemist.
The alchemist of peace,prosperity, cash, magic, soul, contentment
and fulfillment.
Alchemy.
Part magic and part science.
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Like, if you're not livingthat life of total joy, let's fix
it.
You're invited to get a holdof me.
There's a website right there,kellenfluker media.com.
there's a contact form on that website.
That website's about.
Shows you all my books and allthat stuff.
But there's a contact form there.
Get a hold of me.
Let's talk.
Because you deserve to live in joy.
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Now, the truth is, you got tocreate it.
So let's go back to the nextpiece, which is the rest of the year
is a blob.
You know, depending on whenyou hear this, it might be four months,
four and a half months, fivemonths, depends on when you hear
it.
But it's a blob.
And you think, okay, I got alot of days left.
Not, not 180, but maybe 150.
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Okay, I got 150 days left.
Okay, that's a blob.
I don't have to do that todaybecause I got 149 more days.
No, you have one day at a time.
You have today.
That's what you have.
Period, period, period, period.
Now, you can disagree with that.
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You can fight about it or youcan, but that's all you have.
And if today ends up beinghijacked because you got sick and
had to go to the ER, orbecause somebody wrecked a car or
because something elsehappened, the reflect or whatever,
that's okay.
Lean into it and love it.
But here's the thing.
My question is, in order todo, to lean in and love it when something
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derails what you planned inthe context of your long goal.
So let's say you set a newyear's goal.
And you say, I'm going to do this.
And you line out what you'regoing to do every week.
And then, you know, back downto the days and you prepare and you
hit it and then it blows up.
Here's the secret.
Here's a magic key.
This is worth a billion dollars.
Hold your breath.
Get your pen.
Write it down.
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You can have absolute, totalcontrol over how each day goes.
Say that again.
You can have absolute, totalcontrol over how each day goes for
you.
That thing happened yesterday,hijacked today.
And I had the most beautifulexperience I could imagine because
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I choose to be that way.
But it depends on how youprepare yourself.
If you prepare yourself thatyou're dependent on other things
going right, you're finished.
You can't do this becausenothing out there is going to go.
Like you say, some thingswill, some things won't.
But we don't control theweather or other people's attitudes
or feelings or whether theywhip out a credit card and buy whatever
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you're selling.
We don't control that, do we?
Now, here's what I want you tothink about.
How do you prepare yourself?
You're a divine being.
You're a holy spirit.
You're divinity.
You're one generation from God.
So how do you, you precious,awesome person that I dearly love,
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how do you prepare yourself tohit your day or your week, snooze,
slop out of bed, grab thephone, distraction, relive an old
argument like that is reallycrappy preparation.
If you want success, it'sgreat preparation if you just want
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to go with the flow and cruise.
Okay, so I'm going to sharesomething I've shared before.
Here are some practices that Iuse, okay?
And I.
Please read this.
Living with Purpose and power.
This is about how to createanything you want, literally, day
by day, minute by minute, therest of the year.
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This is.
This is it.
So get that.
Living with purpose and power.
And if you do, I'd love to.
To hear what you think about it.
Don't tell me what you thinkuntil you finish it.
Read it, try it, and tell mewhat's happened in your life.
So I use an acronym, SPEM S PM. Spiritual, Physical, emotional,
Mental.
And I go through someactivities at the start of each day
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in each of those areas, somespiritual practices.
The purpose of that is to getmyself reminded that without the
spiritual power behind all ofus, we're nothing.
We're skin bags.
Right?
We can't.
We can't do much.
We don't control Much.
And to the extent we'rearrogant and proud and think we got
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it all handled, I got news foryou, you're full of crap.
You might for five minutes,but it'll all fall apart.
So ass is spiritual now.
I'm not going to tell you whatyour spiritual practices are.
I meditate, I pray, I readsacred literature and I use my document,
ptac, Personal Truth andCommitment, which is a fire breathing
dragon of motivation and power.
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If you don't have a firebreathing dragon of motivation and
power, why not?
All right, physical is what it says.
Do little exercise stretches.
Do something to honor your body.
You know, I do finger stuff inthe morning because I'm piano and
I do some martial artsstretches to the extent that I can
with my back discdeterioration, which is one of those
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externalities, but I still dowhat I can to get my body going.
E is emotional.
I send messages and tokens oflove, connect relationships, because
emotional to me includes allthose relationships, things.
So I do that on purpose.
And M is mental.
So I read some in a book orin, you know, certain people that
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I follow to see what they'retalking about.
And it's never about trivial stuff.
Once in a while it is andthat's okay, but it's, you know,
inspirational.
Who's.
Who's thinking a thing thatwill inspire me and I go look for
inspiration and I always findit 100% of the time, never, ever,
ever not.
So it's not about control andit's not about rigidity and it's
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not about lack of spontaneity.
It's not about any of that.
It's about choice andpreparing yourself for to be all
you can be.
Sometimes people say, well,that's too rigid and I can't do it
and I get too much going on.
Okay, you're free to do that.
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But as a possibility, I'msuggesting to you that if you take
more control and do what youknow, prepares you, makes you feel
prepared and good, you'll meetchallenges and setbacks with more
grace and creativity.
And on the days and times andhours when the wind's at your back,
you'll blow your own mind withyour productivity and the love and
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intensity and intention thatis infused in everything that you
do and say.
I want you to hold that.
Now the next thing I want totalk about is, okay, how do you handle
setbacks and sudden changes?
Now, I talked a little bitabout that with my example with the
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cat Rubisco and yesterdaybeing all about, you know, her, her
passing and us Having to then,you know, set up cremation and choose
urns and, you know, all ofthose things.
And involving our littleUkrainian girl in that, because she
loved Rubisco.
And for me, it was also aboutmy wife.
My wife loved that cat.
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And there's a very specialstory between us, Joy and I, about
the cat.
And so there was a lot ofreflection on that and a lot of,
you know, tears and work.
And so the whole day becameabout that.
So that's interruption, and itwas beautiful.
So the question is, thosethings are going to happen.
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Okay?
And my first convo with Joythis morning was to just hug her
and ask her how she's doing,how her heart feels, and, you know,
what's going on for her tolove her and do that, because that's
who I am.
That's how we've created our relationship.
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So my question here is, let'sassume you do part one, which is
your awesome, awesome, awesomemorning creation.
Let's assume you do that.
Okay.
That morning prep is all abouthow to get your goals clear, your
New Year's gifts organized.
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Instead of lamenting lastyear's New Year's resolutions, it's
about choosing.
I'm going to give myself inner peace.
I'm going to give myself abunch of cash for Christmas.
Okay.
I'll tell you what this year'sabout for me till October 14.
It's about my 300 millionpeople and the number of things that
are happening.
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Blow my mind.
I got an email from somebodytalking about syndicating my podcast,
making an offer to do that,and that might mean some money.
Good.
It'll certainly meansponsorship and those kinds of things.
And I don't really care aboutthe money.
I care about the 300 million.
But that came out of thisfocus that I have that I'm sharing
with you, how to do.
That's where it came from.
I was.
Had a live stream the otherday that went to a million people.
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Holy moly.
So that's the size of things.
And those have been createdbecause I'm doing this prep every
day.
It's not magic.
It's not luck.
It's creation.
All right, so let's talk aboutyou and your handling of setbacks.
When something happens thatthrows you off your game, what do
you do?
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Be honest.
What do you do?
If it's tiny, you just blow it off.
If it's big.
Like, I know people that getthrown off their game because somebody's
rude on the road, somebodycuts you off or doesn't let you in
or Whatever it is, and youknow your boils up and you want to
flip them off and stupid.
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That's where you start, right there.
Love them.
I don't know what's going onfor that person, but I love them.
That's a game.
Try it.
I can't do that.
Yes, you can.
You can learn anything you want.
You learn to be like you are.
You weren't born that way, right?
Babies aren't flipping eachother off.
So choose some things today,if you don't drive anywhere, you
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know, emails come that aren'twhat you wanted.
Taxing IRS or candidate CRAsent you a note and it's like, I
got to do something late on mytax return.
Whatever it is, Grace and love.
Grace and love.
It's not pretending and it'snot a game.
Everything that you have to doand I have to do is just that.
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It's a thing I have to do.
It doesn't mean your mission's wrong.
It doesn't mean your goalsneed to be changed.
It's not an indictment of your personality.
It's not an indictment of yourgoals or your Persona.
It's just a thing you gotta do.
And if it moves everythingforward a day or two or a week.
So back on track.
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Back on track in June of 2018.
Now, eight years ago, sevenyears ago, you know, I got sick and
I was in the hospital for amonth and died and 17 days in a coma.
And you know, that and rehabafterwards was a lot of work, so
that didn't throw off a day.
That threw off two months, right?
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And I found the gift.
I leaned into it and I loved it.
Now, if all this stuff soundslike mumbo jumbo to you and you're
like, I wish I could do that,but I can't, let me help you, because
I can teach you to do that andyou can learn it fast.
90 days from now, you know,what are we?
August, September, October.
By the 1st of November, byHalloween, you can have a handle
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on your emotional mastery.
You can have a handle on that.
Where you look for the gift in everything.
You don't blame other people.
You no longer have that angerrising up in you or that frustration
or that resignation or thatdepression that says, I'll never
make it.
I'm not good enough.
You know how I know this is true?
Because all that was true for me.
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I lived my first.
I left home at 17, my divine intervention.
Change happened in 2007.
So I lived that 35 years back,buried in depression, self sabotage.
And if you, you know, if youwant the story, it's in the book
Tightrope of Depression.
My I'm the author and thatsubtitles my journey from darkness,
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despair and death to light,love, and life.
So I lived in that whereeverything was derailed and I was
never going to be good enough.
And I destroyed different careers.
And.
And so I.
When I say to you this ispossible, I know it because I've
walked that road one brick ata time, one rock at a time, one steep
grade at a time, one setbackat a time.
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And so I am the ultimatecatalyst, or alchemist.
Sorry, I use both those words,sometimes interchangeably.
But an alchemist using magicand science to give you back control
of your flipping life.
Like, why give it away?
All right, so setbacks,however small they are, are exactly
that opportunity.
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And they happen every day.
So we get lots of practice, right?
We get lots of opportunity topractice what we're going to do with
setbacks.
Little ones and big ones.
If you have prepared yourselflike we talk about in the morning,
because that's the key, thendealing with setbacks is not difficult.
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Here's what we ask.
What is the gift here?
Now, when I knew that catthing was going to take the day,
which I suspected it was, theminute she said anything, I could
have said, ah.
Instead, I've trained andchosen to be great.
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How can we turn this into beauty?
That's what I ask.
And I meant that.
And everything disappeared.
How can we turn this into beauty?
So I want you to think about that.
Developing those kind ofhabits is the beginning, right?
The emotion, sadness, tears.
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Oh, no, Unexpected, you know,she was 15 or 14 and a half.
Almost 15.
Be 15 in September, so right quick.
And, you know, cats live,what, 12 to 20, occasionally to 21
or two.
So it was a little early, youknow, we expected to have a few more
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years, but she also had ckd,chronic kidney.
Kidney disease.
And that was the reason sheultimately couldn't do it.
Her kidneys failed.
So the.
The question is, what is thebeauty here?
Not.
I can't wait till this is over.
That is a learned behavior.
If you want to know how tolearn it quickly, get a hold of me.
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Contact Form Ellen FlukerMedia Read the book Living with Purpose
and power.
All the 20 books that I'vewritten, every one is about only
one thing.
Helping you with what I'velearned, because I've walked every
one of these roads.
I don't write books aboutstuff I don't understand, don't know,
haven't bled over.
And then I write Them, becauseI know the things I've learned could
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be of service.
So that's the first thing isyour daily prep.
The second thing is the firstquestion you ask.
No matter what hits you, yourmom dies, your brother gets cancer.
You know, my mom dying is fresh.
For me, that happened inApril, just a few months ago.
Got an email from my sister.
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She said, mama graduated.
We called her Mama, not Mom.
Mama graduated.
I knew what she meant.
And I sat there in thestillness for a moment and waited
to connect with it.
I asked the very samequestion, spoke to the divine.
This is a blessing.
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She's now reunited with my dad.
This is beautiful.
How can this be good?
What can I turn?
How can I turn this into joy?
And in about an hour, Iactually felt her spirit.
And that's significant becauseif you've read Tightrope, you know
some of the details of whythat might not be what you'd expect
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to have happen.
But it did, and it was beautiful.
So that was a choice with thecat or with her?
I mean, that could havederailed the day, too.
And the only thing I did isfind out when the funeral was over
the next couple days and makeplans to go.
But plans to go is three orfour days out of the schedule.
I loved it.
It was beautiful because Ichoose it.
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Setbacks do not derail your mission.
Hear this.
Setbacks don't derail.
They don't even delay your mission.
Even though the funeral tookthree or four days to the travel,
everything else and the cattook a day, and I imagine in the
next few days, it'll takeanother day.
It doesn't derail yourrelationship or it doesn't derail
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your mission.
It doesn't even delay.
Changes your relationship to.
Allows you to recognize thatexternalities are blessings.
Now, in the case of a pet or aperson in your family, passing and
a spiritual connection, youcan see with the sadness, which I'm
not pretending to deny, youmight weep, you might have sadness,
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you might have an hour of breakdown.
Depends on what the thing is.
But your choice to show up asa divine being then empowers you
to come back from that andcreate beauty out of ashes, to build
a masterpiece out of a mess.
Because it's not really amess, it's just a thing.
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So what is this year about for you?
This really is several pieces.
One, to think about what youwant for New Year's.
And then the real question is, what?
Who do you have to be to takethe action day to day, week to week,
month to month, to give you,your gift.
And who do you have to be todeal with the inevitable setbacks,
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large or small?
Because they're going to comeand they're going to come hard, and
they're going to come fastsometimes or slow and easy.
So when you have a setback,remember, it doesn't derail your
mission.
It.
It reveals your relationshipto it.
Because if these things happenand that makes you doubt your mission
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or your purpose or your goalsor your ability, that's the sign
to do some work there.
When you have a realcommitment to your, in this case,
New Year's gifts or Christmasgifts, when you have a real relationship
with that, what those setbacksdo is reaffirm, recommit.
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What this thing yesterday didis gave me a beautiful story to tell.
That's true and powerful for myself.
I shared it with you.
But for me to look at whatactually happened and realize what
that reveals.
So it.
These setbacks will.
Will reveal for you yourrelationship to your goals.
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If it derails you, you're not committed.
If it makes you think I'llnever get there, you're not committed.
If it makes you wonder, whatwhy is this happening to me?
You're not committed.
Now, that might sound harsh,but the answer isn't to get mad at
me.
It's to get committed.
Get committed.
You know what committed is?
I will crawl over every pieceof broken glass that I have to to
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get to that goal.
Now, you're free at any timeto say, you know what?
That's not a goal I want anymore.
You're free to have thelearnings of life teach you that
you are going in the wrongdirection, or it needs just a course
correction or a radical pivot.
The lessons of life will do that.
But it's not because I've beenbeat down.
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I give up.
It is with carefulconsideration with you as a divine
being in your heart,considering who you want to be in
the world and how you wantthat to show up.
Like, I've had all kinds ofsetbacks over the years with this
podcast.
Oh, I don't want to do this anymore.
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Oh, it's too hard.
Too much work on and on and on.
And by reviewing what Iwanted, I want to add good to the
world.
I want to help people realizethey can create their lives like
I have.
And I want to give them thetools to do it.
That commitment every timewould over, override, outweigh the
setback.
And it will for you, too, butonly if you have your real vision.
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So here's the real question.
This when this crap happensand it's going to, will you crumble?
Are you going to curse the sky?
Right?
I don't know.
And what you've done beforenow, let's say you've had a habit
of being angry at bad driversor at the Revenue Service Canada
Revenue or the IRS orwhatever, or your partner or an illness
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or a business partner or thefact that your sales strategy isn't
working or your relationshipisn't good.
You can rail and blame andmaybe that's been your habit.
Cursing the sky, cursing Godand wishing to die.
It says in the Bible somewhere.
If that's been your habit, Idon't care.
You can change it today if youwant help.
Get a hold of me.
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Read the books or get a holdof me, but change it because it's
so much more fun and empowering.
Yeah, there's people that loveto live in their complaints and love
to argue for their limitationsand love to live as victims, but
they're not very happy.
I've never met a person, Ihave never met a person who lives
in that victim blaming placewho is actually happy.
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You know, you're around himand you just feel joy.
No complain, hard done by,beat down.
I could have been a contender,you know, I could have done this
if this, that and the othergarbage or it can be garbage starting
today.
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So the question is, when ithappens, you crumble or do you recommit
with your heart, with yoursoul, maybe with tears running down
your face?
I will do this thing.
I don't know.
Your call.
All right, so let's wrap up here.
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I want to say out loud, whatis the rest of your year about?
I've told you what mine is.
Mine's getting to 300 millionby October 14th.
And in January I'm launchingthe ultimate life coaching university.
It's a complete recasting ofthe business and of the profession
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of coaching from the highestpossible place, from the most authentic,
powerful place.
Because AI is going to put 95%of coaches out of business by Christmas
of 26.
That's what I think.
Or sooner and only those whoreally have the kind of commitment
I'm talking about, commitment,vision, leadership, will be able
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to do stuff that AI can't do.
Presence and divine patternand power and really communicate
and transmit things that afrequency AI can't touch.
But anyway, so that's myJanuary goal.
So now you know my October and January.
I've got three months andthree months, not quite, but something
like that.
And I'm committed to those andI don't care how many things break.
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I don't care how many thingsget in the way.
I am committed to that.
So this is not about my commitment.
Those are just examples.
And I'm just sharing what is yours.
What is your commitment?
By New Year's, you want my help?
Want me to help you get it?
If you're tired of struggling,if you're tired of not having the
cash you want.
Money is so easy.
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Easy to create.
Cash is laying around to pick up.
I know you hear that kind ofcrap all the time and you're like,
yeah, scam.
No, it actually is.
Money follows value.
The question is, how do youcreate value so that people pour
money on you?
It's not that complicated.
You have infinite worth andyou have infinite value.
But if you're not rolling indough, you're not using it, that
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can change.
So what is your year about?
What is the rest of this yearabout for you?
I've shared mine.
Write it down, say it outloud, say it in the mirror.
Make a promise to the future.
You have a convo.
Sit down and have a convo withthe future.
You right there.
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Have a cup of tea, you know,if you're in England or a drink,
a soda, whatever.
I don't drink anymore.
You know that.
So.
So sit down and have asandwich, tea and crumpets.
I don't care with that person.
And, and talk about you ashaving achieved that thing.
Have a convo with him.
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Maybe.
If you're a coach and you'rehearing me say 95% of coaches are
going to be out of business in16, 17, 18 months, maybe the idea
of your ultimate life coachinguniversity appeals to you and you're
saying, who do I actually haveto be?
What are the step by stepprocesses to get me in the top 5%?
(36:35):
Because 95% are going to beout of work and looking for something
else to do.
Really?
Not maybe.
And only the 5% who haveparticular skills and ability that
come from the kind of work I'mtalking about are going to be left
with clients and they're goingto be in high demand and well paid
because you are able to dothings no other coach can.
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Now, whether you're a coach ornot, the same process applies.
You need to create.
You don't need to do anything.
But if you want those goals,you have to create the person.
Answer the question.
Who do I have to be to have abetter relationship, to have more
money, to be more loving, tonot be ashamed when I look in the
mirror, to forgive myself ofall this crap I'm carrying around
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about stuff other people didor I did.
Like that is the question.
Who do you have to be?
And if you're not that today,then the time to change is to start
right this second.
This is your invitation.
Create the rest of this yearfor yourself.
Right here, right now.
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If you want my help, I've toldyou three or four times how to get
a hold of me.
There's a contact form onkellen flukeigermedia.com Go there.
Get the contact form.
Reach out.
Let's talk.
The only thing I live for isdoing the things that I've said for
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in joy with a purpose andinfinite prosperity.
All those things wrappedtogether help you.
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