Ever look around and realize the life you built—your job, your money, even your family—is choking the joy out of you?
This episode exposes the brutal truth of why most people stay trapped in success they secretly hate—and how to break free, reclaim your power, and build the life you were actually born to live.
Why does your “dream life” still feel hollow, stressful, or like it’s suffocating you? Why does chasing money or obligation leave so many burned out, disconnected, and depressed?
In this raw solo episode, Kellan Fluckiger dismantles the myth that following the script—climbing the ladder, building wealth, living someone else’s story—will ever make you happy. You’ll learn how to stop serving old obligations, reclaim your sovereignty, and finally create purpose, prosperity, and joy on your own terms.
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Welcome to the show.
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You have infinite power.
Have you ever had theconversation with yourself or with
someone else?
But I did everything right andnothing is working.
I have.
I just got a message from aclient yesterday and it said, you
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know, and obviously there'smore to the story, but everything's
working against me this morning.
Why does that do that and whatdo you do about it?
That's a really important question.
Because the world we live insometimes is easy and often is hard.
The world we live in oftenteaches us to view.
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When situations don't go ourway, it means something's wrong with
us.
Oh, often we deflect and wecuss or yell at the weather or the
divine or the universe or thegovernment or the economy or some
business partner that cheatedus or some client that didn't come
through or whatever.
But the truth is, stuffhappens all the time.
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Excuse me, that's not like you want.
So what are we going to dowith that?
And more importantly, there's a.
There's a bigger piece tothat, not just crap going like you
don't want.
What if you do everythingright and you build something that
you thought was going to begreat and it doesn't work at all?
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I'll give you a funny example.
So you have in your mind acertain kind of omelette and you
think, this is going to taste great.
I'm going to put this in itand cook it this way and do this,
that and the other.
And my favorite meal to cookis breakfast.
I'm not much of a cook and Idon't pretend to be, but I do good
at breakfast.
Waffles and breakfast burritosand, you know, a few things.
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And sometimes you plan it andyou do everything you think you're
supposed to and it doesn't work.
In fact, worse than notworking, it's awful.
It falls apart.
It breaks right in front ofyour eyes.
So I titled today trapped bythe life you built.
And so it's really the same thing.
I'm trying to do somethingthat doesn't work right.
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Only on a macro scale.
I built the life I meant tobuild and now it sucks.
Ever felt like that?
Well, let's talk about howthat happens.
First of all, where did youget the idea or the knowledge or
the certainty that, quote,this life, this outcome was what
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you were supposed to build.
So for example, when I grewup, the only thing that there was
was you grow up, you get a jobwith some big company, you work there
30 or 40 or 50 years and thenyou quote, retire and the nameless,
faceless corporate universetakes care of you.
Now, incidental to that, youtry to do things to get up in the
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company, right?
You want to get to leadershipand then management and then executive
positions if you can.
But it's all in the context ofdoing what you're supposed to.
And at the same time, you'resupposed to get as much money as
you can.
You're supposed to, you know,have a family, get married, have
a family, you know, 2.3 or 3.6kids or whatever.
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And that is success.
And so you're given that recipe.
Now when I was growing up,that was really strong.
In fact, it was the only storyplaying where I grew up and when
I grew up.
Now you may have grown up inthe same years as me and heard a
completely different story,but the principle is this.
The band, the music, the storythat was playing around you influenced
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you in powerful ways.
Often, in fact, most of thetime we adopt those stories, we believe
them, we accept them as truth.
Oh, this is how, this is howit's done.
And you get there and you haveit right, you climb the ladder, you
got the brass ring and then what?
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Covey, Stephen Covey, talksabout this in the 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People, which isconsidered one of the great business
books of all time.
He talks about spending allthe effort to climb the ladder and
then find out it's against thewrong wall.
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That's one aspect of this problem.
Trapped by the life you built.
So in the process of buildingthis success, this corporate success,
or this family success, orthis relationship success that you
were fed, and I'm not sayingyou were fed it by any ill intentioned
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people.
You know, families, religions,social circles, they give you what
they think is the quote, right answer.
What they simply do not evertake into account is your individuality,
your simple, your own will,your simple choices, your gifts,
your talents.
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And if you move outside ofthat, you know, color outside the
lines, you're weird.
And depending on how faroutside the lines, you're weird to
terrible, to ostracized, todisinherited, right?
So somewhere in that mess,we've got to answer the question,
what is it with these stories?
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How do we grow up and put themin proper perspective?
Because I'm not sayingeverything that anybody teaches us
is wrong by no stretch it keptus alive and safe and worked.
Society stayed together.
Lots of people grew up andworked for the corporate machine,
right?
And society produced goods andservices and we all did the things
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right.
And there were and are aboatload, a crush load of miserable
people who hate their jobs,work for the weekend and wonder why
nothing turned out like they wanted.
Because the dream that we weresold and still sold to some extent
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is if you follow thisparticular path, not only will you
achieve success, you'll havecash and whatever, but you'll be
happy.
In other words, there is anequating of being happy with following
this certain set of actions.
You're going to be happy.
So following this path ofearning and progression and becoming
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equals happy.
Well, my experience is that isa disaster.
It was always a disaster.
And today with theproliferation of opportunities and
the madness of, I don't meanbad madness, but the craziness of
the Internet and Internetmillionaires and YouTube stars and
just all the craziness, it'snot only not true, but it's poison.
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Want to know the truth?
We're about creating theultimate life purpose, prosperity
and joy.
Well, the first question thatyou might need to ask yourself about
your own life and then about kids.
If you happen to havestewardship of raising children,
if you've elected to havethem, or if somehow they ended up
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as yours through whatevercircumstance is what do they want?
Sometimes that's hard to tell.
When I was asked as a kid,what do you want?
I didn't even know what to say.
I spit out the same things Ialways, you know, I heard.
Well, I want to be asomething, a business person.
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I don't even remember having areal desire.
The only thing that turned meon as a kid was music.
I loved playing the piano.
I played several instrumentsand I was in a lot of musical things,
drama and music, but that wassort of on the side.
That was one of those thingsyou kind of did.
Like if you drew really well,that's nice, you know, that's a nice
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little talent you have.
But that doesn't change thefact that you need to go to school,
get an education, get adegree, graduate, get a job and do
the thing right, the thingmeaning the thing that everybody
else was doing.
And that's a disaster.
And I rail against it strongly now.
I can't change the past andI'm not going to rail against anybody
that ever did that to me oranybody else, because that's all
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they knew.
What I want to talk abouttoday is if you feel trapped by the
life you built, you don't haveto stay there, you don't have to
give up, give in, and sort ofcapitulate on the idea of what you
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wanted.
So let's check up, check outwhat the characteristics are.
So if you're successful, let'ssay you make three, $400,000 a year,
you have a nice house, cars,maybe a relationship, maybe a family,
whatever, and you have thatcash, are you happy?
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Because I know so many peoplethat are successful by those standards.
Somebody looking out from theoutside and seeing your position,
your income, your, you know,you look cool, nice car, business
suit, etc.
Woman or man, and you're still hunted.
In other words, going to workor completing the quote work that
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provides you that cash in thatposition isn't satisfying or fulfilling.
Now, a vast majority of peoplefall into that category because survey
after survey shows between 60and 90%.
It depends on the survey andhow the phrase is questioned.
60 to 90% of people are notsatisfied with the quote job that
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they have.
So that's one telltale sign.
Are you happy?
Do you love going to work?
Do you dive into projects?
Do you feel fulfilled andvalidated because of what you're
doing, like all the time?
Not once a month, not once abig project, not once a quarter,
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not only at review time whenyou got a big bonus, end of the year
you got a $50,000 bonus.
Ah, now I'm happy.
No, that's not happy.
It's got nothing to do with it.
Money is an abysmal poisonsubstitute for true contentment and
happiness.
So I'll just be bold andirritate a lot of people.
Money can't buy you love.
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Money can't buy you happiness.
Money is not the be all, endall of anything.
It's necessary.
We got to have rent and foodand it's fun to have.
I used this background onpurpose because I was talking about
authors and I said, give me a futuristic.
So there's a woman using somekind of futuristic craziness, writing,
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creating something, and Ithought that was a fun picture, so
I put it there now because AIis rising now and rising so fast
we can barely catch our breathas it does so.
But that's a fabulous andunique opportunity right now.
So I want to ask you, are youhappy with the job you have?
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Do you even have a job?
Did you create a business andit has simply become a job?
If you're a business owner andthe business depends on you showing
up, first one to leave orfirst one to get there, last one
to leave.
All you have is a job that you created.
Instead of working for someoneelse, you're working for your own
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idea, but you're working more hours.
Probably you're doingsomething you thought you were going
to like at some point.
Maybe you still like it andmaybe you don't.
And then comes the real question.
So you built this career orjob or situation.
You built it out of fear, not freedom.
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You built it out of fear youwould fail if you didn't.
You built it out of fear thatyou, you know, something bad would
happen if you didn't followthe prescribed path.
You built it out of fear thatyou would look bad to others because
they were successful.
And what's wrong with you?
How many people have you heardsay that?
Either in real life or moviesor books or anywhere else?
Well, what are they going tothink, whoever the they is?
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Right?
That's a terrifying place tobe, a sad place, and above all, completely
unnecessary.
So now you're trapped insideyour own creation.
Why?
Well, you have a big mortgage,you have obligations.
You have people that depend on you.
Maybe you have a family.
Maybe you're supporting others.
Maybe you're terrified aboutwhat it would look like if you just
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walked away and said, thisisn't who I am.
This isn't what I want to be.
You know, in my.
When I was growing up, anybodythat did that, that sort of walked
away and said, this sucks.
I'm going to do something else.
They were an outcast, weirdo,bum, irresponsible, stupid, wrong,
and every other pejorativeword that you can think of.
Any of that sound familiarfrom your family or your friends
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or even your work colleagues?
So let's consider.
Where did that come from?
Well, we know getting trappedis this.
You go down a path.
You have a definition of success.
You think something's going towork for you, and it doesn't.
But you stay there anyway.
At that moment, you become trapped.
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You have become trapped byyour own story.
Trapped by embarrassment,trapped by obligations you've made,
commitments you've made.
I hate the word obligation.
I don't have any obligations.
None at all.
Not car payments, not house payments.
None of those are obligations.
They are pure, joyful, lovingcommitments that I made because I
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want those things and I'mdelighted to pay for them.
There's a difference in energybetween the word obligation, which
carries the seeds ofresentment, and a commitment, which
is a joyful promise that Imade, that I want to honor from this
moment until it is fully fulfilled.
The last payment, if it'sMoney or the last moment I draw breath,
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if it's my relationship.
Now, I failed at a lot of thatstuff earlier.
I viewed everything as an obligation.
I entered them because Ithought I had to, because it was
the story.
And I live trapped in a.
In a story of my own creatingbecause I chose initially to believe
and then to stay in the storyof misery and failure.
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Now, I personally had a wakeup call in 2007.
That's the year I turned 52.
So decades I lived in thisbox, this disaster.
And if you've done it, youknow what I'm talking about.
And then some miraculousthings happened.
And in 2007, I. I had thevision and then the courage.
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Just walk away, start over.
This is all a disaster.
And I've spent the first 52years of my life living that.
And I'm not going to feel bador get angry about it or frustrated
because I quote, wasted time.
Although that thought crossesyour mind, believe me.
But what I'm going to do isI'm going to take everything I learned
about what to do and not do inthat first 52 years, and I'm going
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to create a new and beautifuland fulfilling and ultimate life
of purpose, prosperity, and joy.
So the first thing you need torecognize is what is the story you
believe that's driving your life?
You have a story.
I'm not saying it's a falsestory, but identifying the drivers,
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what you think you're supposedto do, who made that rule?
Where did those ideas come from?
Do you own them or did youaccept them from others?
What I discovered iseverything I was doing was accepted
from others, and I hadn'tquestioned it and then either rejected
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or adopted it as my own.
I'm not saying at all thateverything you were taught is somehow
wrong and you have to rejectit all.
What I am saying is you needto decide if you own it or if you're
going to let it go, becausenow you understand it no longer serves
you all right.
So one thing, there's a hugedifference between being driven to
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do something with obligationsand feeling called to do something
because it lines up with your heart.
Now, most of my life, I didn'tknow to even ask these questions.
And one of the things that hascome up in me as I have made these
changes in the last 18 years,because my change started in 07,
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and I'm recording this in 2025.
So in the 18 years, I'vediscovered which things I own, which
things I discard, which thingsI'm letting go and which things I
choose to maintain because Inow know what I want to be.
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Now, this want that I'mspeaking of is at the deepest level
of your soul.
It's not about stuff andhouses and cars and cash and trips
and all that stuff.
Those things are peripheral,and they're fun, but they're still
peripheral to the truth ofyour being.
There's a true thing that yousee over and over in movies and books
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and all that stuff, and thatis high performers often end up trapped
in a dream life.
They follow the script.
They go maybe to school or dowhatever, create this.
And then they end up grinding,creating money and position, and
then realize it's notsatisfactory and feel trapped.
Now, one of the reasons thatthis happens is because without examining
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our beliefs at the deepestlevel, we simply adopt our childhood
stories.
We adopt what happened to usas normal.
I had a friend that wastalking to me about growing up very
poor in a place in New York.
And, you know, when someoneasked him about his life, his upbringing,
because he had been poor andeverything, he said, we were happy.
We didn't know we were poor.
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And so that's a story.
The poor is sad because hedidn't experience that.
The fact that he was happy andhad love and family around him made
him able to continue with thatas he grew up and did create wealth
for himself.
If he had grown up in the sameneighborhood, perhaps next door,
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and the story had been aboutunfairness and misery and others
have more, and, you know, evilpeople are rich and all that, and
that story is prevalent, hislife experience would have been completely
different.
Now, you know people like that.
So this is your invitationhere and now, to decide who you are
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and what you want to believe.
And why is that important?
Because the fundamental truthis this.
You won't have your ultimatelife purpose, prosperity and joy,
until you decide what thatlooks like.
You decide, and then you ownthat to the deepest core of your
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heart.
If there's any element ofsomebody else's story in there, there
will come a day today or nextweek or in a year where that friction
destroys you.
Unless you examine it anddecide that you own it.
For example, I can mow thelawn and hate it.
I can mow the lawn and love it.
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If I mow the lawn and hate itand mow the lawn as a euphemism for
anything, then I'm full ofnegative emotion.
I resent it.
I'm thinking all about otherthings and life is frustrating.
Or I can mow the lawn and loveit, grateful that I Have a lawn and
a place to mow and a place tolive, making it look nice and attractive,
then the lawn still mowed,either way.
But my spirit is in acompletely different place.
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And what I notice is when I dowhatever work, it is positive and
gratefully I feel better and Ihave more energy for lots of other
stuff.
So what?
The cost of living somebodyelse's dream, Somebody else's definition
of your own success.
Even if they're not tellingyou what to do, they've defined it.
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The cost is burnout.
You may know what that's like.
The cost may be your health,it may be relationships.
How many people do you knowthat worked and worked and worked
and worked, make more and moreand more money?
They lost their family, theylost their home, they lost their
self esteem, they lost stuff.
Often that has you turn intonegative things, substances and other
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stuff.
Why?
Because you're getting allthis stuff and it's not happy.
You are not happy because whatyou're getting isn't fulfilling.
Because you haven't decided toown it.
Okay, There's a saying thatmany successful people, even most,
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are often disconnected.
Why would that be?
Well, let's think about who'srunning their business or their life
or their company.
That inner child, the one thatwas told to do this and forced to
do that, is running the company.
And that's or, or your life oryour position in the job or your
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relationship.
And that's all done from fear.
If you run your life fromfear, fear of failure.
Excuse me?
Fear of failure, fear of beingshown up, fear of not being good
enough.
If that's how you run yourlife, you're going to be unhappy.
And it's only a matter of timeuntil it collapses around you.
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So we started with the idea ofbeing trapped by the life you built.
Now if some high percentage ofpeople, and I gave numbers earlier,
don't like their jobs, andthat means most people find themselves
either a little or a ton inthis predicament.
So let's talk about what to do.
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Because it's one thing to justtalk about the misery that I certainly
have experienced.
I did exactly that.
I lived the script I wassupposed to.
I created success in my employment.
I got a number of high profilejobs, I made a lot of money and I
worked a lot, right.
And thought I was successful.
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The true things that I wantedto do were never even on the table.
I lived everything I wassupposed to live.
And of course I had the hollowfeeling, the empty feeling, the not
good enough feeling and allthat Comes with it.
And then eventually, ofcourse, that all crashed down.
And that happens often, sothat's not that weird.
But the question is, what areyou going to do about it?
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What are you going to do withthat truth?
Are you going to let itcontinue to run you?
So here's the invitation andthe truth for the last half.
So we know how many people arestuck in work they don't like, careers
that aren't fulfilling,obligations, quote, that they resent.
Stop.
Stop right now.
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And this may require some help.
Okay.
It certainly did for me.
How do you feel about your life?
Like, you spend a certainamount of time doing what you sleep
and besides that, what, you goto work, you make money.
Does that excite you?
You come home and spend timewith those you love.
Are you feeling fulfilled?
Are you feeling seen?
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Are you giving love and compassion?
That's true.
With no strings attached.
Are you doing those thingsagain that you're supposed to do?
Okay.
I absolutely was a posterchild for all that.
And that's, I guess, why it'sso deeply connected.
I felt isolated,unappreciated, disconnected.
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And part of.
Part of it was my own fault,maybe a lot of it, because I didn't
have time.
I had all these things I was doing.
And the truth of life, whichis love, service, relationships,
adding good to the world wasjust not at all or on the periphery.
Oh, I served in my communityand in my church, but it was all
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with that sense of obligation.
What a disaster.
So I'm going to invite youright now to do several things.
One, take stock of your life.
Is the way you create yourcash joyful and fulfilling?
Yes or no?
Is the status of yourrelationship, your primary relationship,
joyful and fulfilling?
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Is this is the way you spendall your time joyful and fulfilling?
Yes or no?
And those questions aren'tdifficult to answer.
And if your answer soundslike, well, a little, then the answer
is no.
If it's joyful and fulfilling.
Boy, you know that.
And you're flying up andraising your hand.
Yeah, it's joyful andfulfilling, and I know it.
Now I have an invitation forthose of you that said, yes, it's
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joyful and fulfilling everyday, all that I'm doing.
I invite you to talk to mebecause I'd like you to tell your
story about how you got thereon the show.
I love sharing the stories ofthose who have gone past the old
stories, built new meaning inlife and created purpose, prosperity
and joy.
If you want to do that, youcan reach out the URL on the screen
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kellenfluekeigermedia.comThere's a contact form.
I want to share your storybecause, you know, my mission is
to reach 300 million peoplewith this truth of transformation,
that you own your life.
You can have purpose,prosperity and joy.
Today.
You really can.
I don't care if you hate yourjob this minute.
None of that matters.
That's the cool thing aboutyour divine nature.
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Me, us, we as divine beings,we can change all that right now.
That isn't a ten year process.
Now, one of the other thingsthat come when we feel like we're
living in this obligation isthe sense of being precarious.
Nothing is ever safe.
You might lose the job.
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Somebody might find out aboutthat, whatever it is that you have
done right?
Somebody might find out yoursecret problem, somebody might find
out how miserable you are, youmight make a mistake at work, and
then, boom, you're gone.
And so fear is driving the show.
On the other hand, if you livefully aligned with your purpose that
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you choose, none of that matters.
I do things and they fail allthe time, and I don't care.
That's just feedback and it'san opportunity to do whatever it
is again.
I can write a book, and, youknow, I've written a bunch and if
it doesn't sell, well, that's okay.
I can redo it or I can doanother one.
I can move on and create.
But the act of creation, willwas completely consistent with who
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I'm being.
So if you answered no to thehappy questions, are you happy with
how you create cash?
Do you love it?
Do you make any distinctionbetween work and play?
Or is it, ooh, work over hereand then, oh, now I get to play.
If that's true, I'm sadbecause you're leaving your greatest
gifts on the table.
Your greatest gifts are indoing stuff you love, creating value
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with it so you can get paid.
You know, there's the oldsaying, do what you love and the
money will follow.
That's absolutely true.
If done the right way, youknow, it really is, because the things
you love are the things thatyou're best at that you really do
well.
And if you're willing to dothe work, you can figure out how
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to get paid for that big time.
Because it's what you do best.
It's not a mystery.
Okay, the other thing I wantto talk about is about sovereignty.
Often when we've built a lifethat we hate, we've given up control.
We've given it up, given upcontrol in explicit ways.
Okay, I'm going to do whateverthey, whoever they is, tell me.
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And so that creates resentment.
Sometimes we've given upcontrol, even of ourselves, because
we have habits.
We go to work, we get home, wewatch tv, we drink beer, we do whatever,
we work for the weekend.
And that habit just reinforcesitself over and over again.
And pretty soon, you know,face down in the mud, we're like,
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I wanted to have so muchdifferent life.
And by then we believe it's impossible.
It's never too late.
And it's not impossible.
So here's the first step.
After you assess yourhappiness with how you make money,
with your health, and withyour relationships.
Let's just start with thosethree things.
Then you have to decide.
What would you do if youcould, if money and time were not
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an option?
Not, not, not.
Sorry.
Not an option, but not a problem.
What would you do?
Now, sometimes when we'reharried and we hate life, what we
say is, I sit on the beach forever.
Getting past all that, then avacation to, you know, get all tuned
up again, because that's notgoing to last very long.
If we feel deprived becauseof, you know, we've been denied or
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we've been full of obligationsforever, I get it.
But after that, deeper.
What would you do?
What does the.
The spirit, the gift in youwant to create?
See, we're creators by nature.
Purpose, prosperity and joy isour divine nature.
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We are designed to prosper.
We are designed to have, liveinto and love purpose.
We are designed to love andserve each other.
Most people don't have thecourage to explore that.
So I want to issue you someinvitations here.
Number one, if any of this hasresonated with you and you find yourself
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unhappy where you're at andyou find yourself finally sick of
it and you're going to dosomething, let's talk.
Because helping you find yourtrue purpose is something I do better
than anyone in the world.
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You were built to have joy andhave this ultimate life I keep talking
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But if you don't know whatyour purpose is and you don't know
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You are a sovereign being.
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You can make that choice.
Now.
What if you gave yourselfpermission, deep, full on hardcore
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permission, to start again,not from scratch.
Because you're not zero years old.
You have all these experiencesbehind you and that is both the engine
and the guideposts for whereyou can go.
So we're not going to startfrom scratch, but you're going to
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start from truth.
And the truth is what you'velearned, who you really are, what
you know now and where youwant to go.
You're a divine being.
You've had a boatload ofexperiences that have shaped your
life up to now.
Are you using thoseexperiences to complain about?
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Are you using those wounds asbattle scars to brag about?
Or are you using thosecircumstances to refine you, to lift
you, to temper the steel inyour heart?
See, those are choices we getto make.
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can.
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You have infinite power.
Have you ever had theconversation with yourself or with
someone else?
But I did everything right andnothing is working.
I have.
I just got a message from aclient yesterday and it said, you
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know, and obviously there'smore to the story, but everything's
working against me this morning.
Why does that do that and whatdo you do about it?
That's a really important question.
Because the world we live insometimes is easy and often is hard.
The world we live in oftenteaches us to view.
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When situations don't go ourway, it means something's wrong with
us.
Oh, often we deflect and wecuss or yell at the weather or the
divine or the universe or thegovernment or the economy or some
business partner that cheatedus or some client that didn't come
through or whatever.
But the truth is, stuffhappens all the time.
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Excuse me, that's not like you want.
So what are we going to dowith that?
And more importantly, there's a.
There's a bigger piece tothat, not just crap going like you
don't want.
What if you do everythingright and you build something that
you thought was going to begreat and it doesn't work at all?
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I'll give you a funny example.
So you have in your mind acertain kind of omelette and you
think, this is going to taste great.
I'm going to put this in itand cook it this way and do this,
that and the other.
And my favorite meal to cookis breakfast.
I'm not much of a cook and Idon't pretend to be, but I do good
at breakfast.
Waffles and breakfast burritosand, you know, a few things.
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And sometimes you plan it andyou do everything you think you're
supposed to and it doesn't work.
In fact, worse than notworking, it's awful.
It falls apart.
It breaks right in front ofyour eyes.
So I titled today trapped bythe life you built.
And so it's really the same thing.
I'm trying to do somethingthat doesn't work right.
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Only on a macro scale.
I built the life I meant tobuild and now it sucks.
Ever felt like that?
Well, let's talk about howthat happens.
First of all, where did youget the idea or the knowledge or
the certainty that, quote,this life, this outcome was what
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you were supposed to build.
So for example, when I grewup, the only thing that there was
was you grow up, you get a jobwith some big company, you work there
30 or 40 or 50 years and thenyou quote, retire and the nameless,
faceless corporate universetakes care of you.
Now, incidental to that, youtry to do things to get up in the
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company, right?
You want to get to leadershipand then management and then executive
positions if you can.
But it's all in the context ofdoing what you're supposed to.
And at the same time, you'resupposed to get as much money as
you can.
You're supposed to, you know,have a family, get married, have
a family, you know, 2.3 or 3.6kids or whatever.
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And that is success.
And so you're given that recipe.
Now when I was growing up,that was really strong.
In fact, it was the only storyplaying where I grew up and when
I grew up.
Now you may have grown up inthe same years as me and heard a
completely different story,but the principle is this.
The band, the music, the storythat was playing around you influenced
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you in powerful ways.
Often, in fact, most of thetime we adopt those stories, we believe
them, we accept them as truth.
Oh, this is how, this is howit's done.
And you get there and you haveit right, you climb the ladder, you
got the brass ring and then what?
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Covey, Stephen Covey, talksabout this in the 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People, which isconsidered one of the great business
books of all time.
He talks about spending allthe effort to climb the ladder and
then find out it's against thewrong wall.
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That's one aspect of this problem.
Trapped by the life you built.
So in the process of buildingthis success, this corporate success,
or this family success, orthis relationship success that you
were fed, and I'm not sayingyou were fed it by any ill intentioned
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people.
You know, families, religions,social circles, they give you what
they think is the quote, right answer.
What they simply do not evertake into account is your individuality,
your simple, your own will,your simple choices, your gifts,
your talents.
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And if you move outside ofthat, you know, color outside the
lines, you're weird.
And depending on how faroutside the lines, you're weird to
terrible, to ostracized, todisinherited, right?
So somewhere in that mess,we've got to answer the question,
what is it with these stories?
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How do we grow up and put themin proper perspective?
Because I'm not sayingeverything that anybody teaches us
is wrong by no stretch it keptus alive and safe and worked.
Society stayed together.
Lots of people grew up andworked for the corporate machine,
right?
And society produced goods andservices and we all did the things
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right.
And there were and are aboatload, a crush load of miserable
people who hate their jobs,work for the weekend and wonder why
nothing turned out like they wanted.
Because the dream that we weresold and still sold to some extent
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is if you follow thisparticular path, not only will you
achieve success, you'll havecash and whatever, but you'll be
happy.
In other words, there is anequating of being happy with following
this certain set of actions.
You're going to be happy.
So following this path ofearning and progression and becoming
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equals happy.
Well, my experience is that isa disaster.
It was always a disaster.
And today with theproliferation of opportunities and
the madness of, I don't meanbad madness, but the craziness of
the Internet and Internetmillionaires and YouTube stars and
just all the craziness, it'snot only not true, but it's poison.
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Want to know the truth?
We're about creating theultimate life purpose, prosperity
and joy.
Well, the first question thatyou might need to ask yourself about
your own life and then about kids.
If you happen to havestewardship of raising children,
if you've elected to havethem, or if somehow they ended up
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as yours through whatevercircumstance is what do they want?
Sometimes that's hard to tell.
When I was asked as a kid,what do you want?
I didn't even know what to say.
I spit out the same things Ialways, you know, I heard.
Well, I want to be asomething, a business person.
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I don't even remember having areal desire.
The only thing that turned meon as a kid was music.
I loved playing the piano.
I played several instrumentsand I was in a lot of musical things,
drama and music, but that wassort of on the side.
That was one of those thingsyou kind of did.
Like if you drew really well,that's nice, you know, that's a nice
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little talent you have.
But that doesn't change thefact that you need to go to school,
get an education, get adegree, graduate, get a job and do
the thing right, the thingmeaning the thing that everybody
else was doing.
And that's a disaster.
And I rail against it strongly now.
I can't change the past andI'm not going to rail against anybody
that ever did that to me oranybody else, because that's all
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they knew.
What I want to talk abouttoday is if you feel trapped by the
life you built, you don't haveto stay there, you don't have to
give up, give in, and sort ofcapitulate on the idea of what you
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wanted.
So let's check up, check outwhat the characteristics are.
So if you're successful, let'ssay you make three, $400,000 a year,
you have a nice house, cars,maybe a relationship, maybe a family,
whatever, and you have thatcash, are you happy?
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Because I know so many peoplethat are successful by those standards.
Somebody looking out from theoutside and seeing your position,
your income, your, you know,you look cool, nice car, business
suit, etc.
Woman or man, and you're still hunted.
In other words, going to workor completing the quote work that
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provides you that cash in thatposition isn't satisfying or fulfilling.
Now, a vast majority of peoplefall into that category because survey
after survey shows between 60and 90%.
It depends on the survey andhow the phrase is questioned.
60 to 90% of people are notsatisfied with the quote job that
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they have.
So that's one telltale sign.
Are you happy?
Do you love going to work?
Do you dive into projects?
Do you feel fulfilled andvalidated because of what you're
doing, like all the time?
Not once a month, not once abig project, not once a quarter,
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not only at review time whenyou got a big bonus, end of the year
you got a $50,000 bonus.
Ah, now I'm happy.
No, that's not happy.
It's got nothing to do with it.
Money is an abysmal poisonsubstitute for true contentment and
happiness.
So I'll just be bold andirritate a lot of people.
Money can't buy you love.
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Money can't buy you happiness.
Money is not the be all, endall of anything.
It's necessary.
We got to have rent and foodand it's fun to have.
I used this background onpurpose because I was talking about
authors and I said, give me a futuristic.
So there's a woman using somekind of futuristic craziness, writing,
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creating something, and Ithought that was a fun picture, so
I put it there now because AIis rising now and rising so fast
we can barely catch our breathas it does so.
But that's a fabulous andunique opportunity right now.
So I want to ask you, are youhappy with the job you have?
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Do you even have a job?
Did you create a business andit has simply become a job?
If you're a business owner andthe business depends on you showing
up, first one to leave orfirst one to get there, last one
to leave.
All you have is a job that you created.
Instead of working for someoneelse, you're working for your own
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idea, but you're working more hours.
Probably you're doingsomething you thought you were going
to like at some point.
Maybe you still like it andmaybe you don't.
And then comes the real question.
So you built this career orjob or situation.
You built it out of fear, not freedom.
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You built it out of fear youwould fail if you didn't.
You built it out of fear thatyou, you know, something bad would
happen if you didn't followthe prescribed path.
You built it out of fear thatyou would look bad to others because
they were successful.
And what's wrong with you?
How many people have you heardsay that?
Either in real life or moviesor books or anywhere else?
Well, what are they going tothink, whoever the they is?
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Right?
That's a terrifying place tobe, a sad place, and above all, completely
unnecessary.
So now you're trapped insideyour own creation.
Why?
Well, you have a big mortgage,you have obligations.
You have people that depend on you.
Maybe you have a family.
Maybe you're supporting others.
Maybe you're terrified aboutwhat it would look like if you just
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walked away and said, thisisn't who I am.
This isn't what I want to be.
You know, in my.
When I was growing up, anybodythat did that, that sort of walked
away and said, this sucks.
I'm going to do something else.
They were an outcast, weirdo,bum, irresponsible, stupid, wrong,
and every other pejorativeword that you can think of.
Any of that sound familiarfrom your family or your friends
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or even your work colleagues?
So let's consider.
Where did that come from?
Well, we know getting trappedis this.
You go down a path.
You have a definition of success.
You think something's going towork for you, and it doesn't.
But you stay there anyway.
At that moment, you become trapped.
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You have become trapped byyour own story.
Trapped by embarrassment,trapped by obligations you've made,
commitments you've made.
I hate the word obligation.
I don't have any obligations.
None at all.
Not car payments, not house payments.
None of those are obligations.
They are pure, joyful, lovingcommitments that I made because I
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want those things and I'mdelighted to pay for them.
There's a difference in energybetween the word obligation, which
carries the seeds ofresentment, and a commitment, which
is a joyful promise that Imade, that I want to honor from this
moment until it is fully fulfilled.
The last payment, if it'sMoney or the last moment I draw breath,
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if it's my relationship.
Now, I failed at a lot of thatstuff earlier.
I viewed everything as an obligation.
I entered them because Ithought I had to, because it was
the story.
And I live trapped in a.
In a story of my own creatingbecause I chose initially to believe
and then to stay in the storyof misery and failure.
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Now, I personally had a wakeup call in 2007.
That's the year I turned 52.
So decades I lived in thisbox, this disaster.
And if you've done it, youknow what I'm talking about.
And then some miraculousthings happened.
And in 2007, I. I had thevision and then the courage.
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Just walk away, start over.
This is all a disaster.
And I've spent the first 52years of my life living that.
And I'm not going to feel bador get angry about it or frustrated
because I quote, wasted time.
Although that thought crossesyour mind, believe me.
But what I'm going to do isI'm going to take everything I learned
about what to do and not do inthat first 52 years, and I'm going
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to create a new and beautifuland fulfilling and ultimate life
of purpose, prosperity, and joy.
So the first thing you need torecognize is what is the story you
believe that's driving your life?
You have a story.
I'm not saying it's a falsestory, but identifying the drivers,
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what you think you're supposedto do, who made that rule?
Where did those ideas come from?
Do you own them or did youaccept them from others?
What I discovered iseverything I was doing was accepted
from others, and I hadn'tquestioned it and then either rejected
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or adopted it as my own.
I'm not saying at all thateverything you were taught is somehow
wrong and you have to rejectit all.
What I am saying is you needto decide if you own it or if you're
going to let it go, becausenow you understand it no longer serves
you all right.
So one thing, there's a hugedifference between being driven to
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do something with obligationsand feeling called to do something
because it lines up with your heart.
Now, most of my life, I didn'tknow to even ask these questions.
And one of the things that hascome up in me as I have made these
changes in the last 18 years,because my change started in 07,
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and I'm recording this in 2025.
So in the 18 years, I'vediscovered which things I own, which
things I discard, which thingsI'm letting go and which things I
choose to maintain because Inow know what I want to be.
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Now, this want that I'mspeaking of is at the deepest level
of your soul.
It's not about stuff andhouses and cars and cash and trips
and all that stuff.
Those things are peripheral,and they're fun, but they're still
peripheral to the truth ofyour being.
There's a true thing that yousee over and over in movies and books
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and all that stuff, and thatis high performers often end up trapped
in a dream life.
They follow the script.
They go maybe to school or dowhatever, create this.
And then they end up grinding,creating money and position, and
then realize it's notsatisfactory and feel trapped.
Now, one of the reasons thatthis happens is because without examining
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our beliefs at the deepestlevel, we simply adopt our childhood
stories.
We adopt what happened to usas normal.
I had a friend that wastalking to me about growing up very
poor in a place in New York.
And, you know, when someoneasked him about his life, his upbringing,
because he had been poor andeverything, he said, we were happy.
We didn't know we were poor.
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And so that's a story.
The poor is sad because hedidn't experience that.
The fact that he was happy andhad love and family around him made
him able to continue with thatas he grew up and did create wealth
for himself.
If he had grown up in the sameneighborhood, perhaps next door,
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and the story had been aboutunfairness and misery and others
have more, and, you know, evilpeople are rich and all that, and
that story is prevalent, hislife experience would have been completely
different.
Now, you know people like that.
So this is your invitationhere and now, to decide who you are
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and what you want to believe.
And why is that important?
Because the fundamental truthis this.
You won't have your ultimatelife purpose, prosperity and joy,
until you decide what thatlooks like.
You decide, and then you ownthat to the deepest core of your
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heart.
If there's any element ofsomebody else's story in there, there
will come a day today or nextweek or in a year where that friction
destroys you.
Unless you examine it anddecide that you own it.
For example, I can mow thelawn and hate it.
I can mow the lawn and love it.
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If I mow the lawn and hate itand mow the lawn as a euphemism for
anything, then I'm full ofnegative emotion.
I resent it.
I'm thinking all about otherthings and life is frustrating.
Or I can mow the lawn and loveit, grateful that I Have a lawn and
a place to mow and a place tolive, making it look nice and attractive,
then the lawn still mowed,either way.
But my spirit is in acompletely different place.
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And what I notice is when I dowhatever work, it is positive and
gratefully I feel better and Ihave more energy for lots of other
stuff.
So what?
The cost of living somebodyelse's dream, Somebody else's definition
of your own success.
Even if they're not tellingyou what to do, they've defined it.
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The cost is burnout.
You may know what that's like.
The cost may be your health,it may be relationships.
How many people do you knowthat worked and worked and worked
and worked, make more and moreand more money?
They lost their family, theylost their home, they lost their
self esteem, they lost stuff.
Often that has you turn intonegative things, substances and other
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stuff.
Why?
Because you're getting allthis stuff and it's not happy.
You are not happy because whatyou're getting isn't fulfilling.
Because you haven't decided toown it.
Okay, There's a saying thatmany successful people, even most,
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are often disconnected.
Why would that be?
Well, let's think about who'srunning their business or their life
or their company.
That inner child, the one thatwas told to do this and forced to
do that, is running the company.
And that's or, or your life oryour position in the job or your
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relationship.
And that's all done from fear.
If you run your life fromfear, fear of failure.
Excuse me?
Fear of failure, fear of beingshown up, fear of not being good
enough.
If that's how you run yourlife, you're going to be unhappy.
And it's only a matter of timeuntil it collapses around you.
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So we started with the idea ofbeing trapped by the life you built.
Now if some high percentage ofpeople, and I gave numbers earlier,
don't like their jobs, andthat means most people find themselves
either a little or a ton inthis predicament.
So let's talk about what to do.
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Because it's one thing to justtalk about the misery that I certainly
have experienced.
I did exactly that.
I lived the script I wassupposed to.
I created success in my employment.
I got a number of high profilejobs, I made a lot of money and I
worked a lot, right.
And thought I was successful.
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The true things that I wantedto do were never even on the table.
I lived everything I wassupposed to live.
And of course I had the hollowfeeling, the empty feeling, the not
good enough feeling and allthat Comes with it.
And then eventually, ofcourse, that all crashed down.
And that happens often, sothat's not that weird.
But the question is, what areyou going to do about it?
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What are you going to do withthat truth?
Are you going to let itcontinue to run you?
So here's the invitation andthe truth for the last half.
So we know how many people arestuck in work they don't like, careers
that aren't fulfilling,obligations, quote, that they resent.
Stop.
Stop right now.
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And this may require some help.
Okay.
It certainly did for me.
How do you feel about your life?
Like, you spend a certainamount of time doing what you sleep
and besides that, what, you goto work, you make money.
Does that excite you?
You come home and spend timewith those you love.
Are you feeling fulfilled?
Are you feeling seen?
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Are you giving love and compassion?
That's true.
With no strings attached.
Are you doing those thingsagain that you're supposed to do?
Okay.
I absolutely was a posterchild for all that.
And that's, I guess, why it'sso deeply connected.
I felt isolated,unappreciated, disconnected.
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And part of.
Part of it was my own fault,maybe a lot of it, because I didn't
have time.
I had all these things I was doing.
And the truth of life, whichis love, service, relationships,
adding good to the world wasjust not at all or on the periphery.
Oh, I served in my communityand in my church, but it was all
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with that sense of obligation.
What a disaster.
So I'm going to invite youright now to do several things.
One, take stock of your life.
Is the way you create yourcash joyful and fulfilling?
Yes or no?
Is the status of yourrelationship, your primary relationship,
joyful and fulfilling?
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Is this is the way you spendall your time joyful and fulfilling?
Yes or no?
And those questions aren'tdifficult to answer.
And if your answer soundslike, well, a little, then the answer
is no.
If it's joyful and fulfilling.
Boy, you know that.
And you're flying up andraising your hand.
Yeah, it's joyful andfulfilling, and I know it.
Now I have an invitation forthose of you that said, yes, it's
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joyful and fulfilling everyday, all that I'm doing.
I invite you to talk to mebecause I'd like you to tell your
story about how you got thereon the show.
I love sharing the stories ofthose who have gone past the old
stories, built new meaning inlife and created purpose, prosperity
and joy.
If you want to do that, youcan reach out the URL on the screen
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kellenfluekeigermedia.comThere's a contact form.
I want to share your storybecause, you know, my mission is
to reach 300 million peoplewith this truth of transformation,
that you own your life.
You can have purpose,prosperity and joy.
Today.
You really can.
I don't care if you hate yourjob this minute.
None of that matters.
That's the cool thing aboutyour divine nature.
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Me, us, we as divine beings,we can change all that right now.
That isn't a ten year process.
Now, one of the other thingsthat come when we feel like we're
living in this obligation isthe sense of being precarious.
Nothing is ever safe.
You might lose the job.
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Somebody might find out aboutthat, whatever it is that you have
done right?
Somebody might find out yoursecret problem, somebody might find
out how miserable you are, youmight make a mistake at work, and
then, boom, you're gone.
And so fear is driving the show.
On the other hand, if you livefully aligned with your purpose that
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you choose, none of that matters.
I do things and they fail allthe time, and I don't care.
That's just feedback and it'san opportunity to do whatever it
is again.
I can write a book, and, youknow, I've written a bunch and if
it doesn't sell, well, that's okay.
I can redo it or I can doanother one.
I can move on and create.
But the act of creation, willwas completely consistent with who
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I'm being.
So if you answered no to thehappy questions, are you happy with
how you create cash?
Do you love it?
Do you make any distinctionbetween work and play?
Or is it, ooh, work over hereand then, oh, now I get to play.
If that's true, I'm sadbecause you're leaving your greatest
gifts on the table.
Your greatest gifts are indoing stuff you love, creating value
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with it so you can get paid.
You know, there's the oldsaying, do what you love and the
money will follow.
That's absolutely true.
If done the right way, youknow, it really is, because the things
you love are the things thatyou're best at that you really do
well.
And if you're willing to dothe work, you can figure out how
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to get paid for that big time.
Because it's what you do best.
It's not a mystery.
Okay, the other thing I wantto talk about is about sovereignty.
Often when we've built a lifethat we hate, we've given up control.
We've given it up, given upcontrol in explicit ways.
Okay, I'm going to do whateverthey, whoever they is, tell me.
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And so that creates resentment.
Sometimes we've given upcontrol, even of ourselves, because
we have habits.
We go to work, we get home, wewatch tv, we drink beer, we do whatever,
we work for the weekend.
And that habit just reinforcesitself over and over again.
And pretty soon, you know,face down in the mud, we're like,
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I wanted to have so muchdifferent life.
And by then we believe it's impossible.
It's never too late.
And it's not impossible.
So here's the first step.
After you assess yourhappiness with how you make money,
with your health, and withyour relationships.
Let's just start with thosethree things.
Then you have to decide.
What would you do if youcould, if money and time were not
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an option?
Not, not, not.
Sorry.
Not an option, but not a problem.
What would you do?
Now, sometimes when we'reharried and we hate life, what we
say is, I sit on the beach forever.
Getting past all that, then avacation to, you know, get all tuned
up again, because that's notgoing to last very long.
If we feel deprived becauseof, you know, we've been denied or
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we've been full of obligationsforever, I get it.
But after that, deeper.
What would you do?
What does the.
The spirit, the gift in youwant to create?
See, we're creators by nature.
Purpose, prosperity and joy isour divine nature.
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We are designed to prosper.
We are designed to have, liveinto and love purpose.
We are designed to love andserve each other.
Most people don't have thecourage to explore that.
So I want to issue you someinvitations here.
Number one, if any of this hasresonated with you and you find yourself
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unhappy where you're at andyou find yourself finally sick of
it and you're going to dosomething, let's talk.
Because helping you find yourtrue purpose is something I do better
than anyone in the world.
And the reason isn't a mystery.
It's because of the battle andthe work I went through to make that
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discovery.
So I have processes to helpwith that.
That's number one.
Number two, if you're notcreating a big impact in the world,
meaning lifting, blessing,serving, helping, and you want to,
let's talk.
Because we were built to loveand serve.
You were built to have joy andhave this ultimate life I keep talking
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about.
But if you don't know whatyour purpose is and you don't know
what you really want to do,and it's limited to, I just want
to have all the money and timein the world.
That means you haven't doneenough thinking because that wears
out really quickly.
So one place to go iswww.yourultimatelife.ca free stuff.
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Five steps to your ultimate life.
If you have a story you wantto share about your own overcoming
growth, resilience, choices,tragedies turned into triumphs.
I love sharing that stuff.
I love sharing that stuff.
And I'd love to share yours.
So go tokellenfluekegermedia.com and reach
out.
Now, here's the final point.
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You are a sovereign being.
You own your life and you getto choose what to do with it every
minute, no matter what's comebefore, right this minute.
You can make that choice.
Now.
What if you gave yourselfpermission, deep, full on hardcore
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permission, to start again,not from scratch.
Because you're not zero years old.
You have all these experiencesbehind you and that is both the engine
and the guideposts for whereyou can go.
So we're not going to startfrom scratch, but you're going to
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start from truth.
And the truth is what you'velearned, who you really are, what
you know now and where youwant to go.
You're a divine being.
You've had a boatload ofexperiences that have shaped your
life up to now.
Are you using thoseexperiences to complain about?
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Are you using those wounds asbattle scars to brag about?
Or are you using thosecircumstances to refine you, to lift
you, to temper the steel inyour heart?
See, those are choices we getto make.
And if you want to live a lifeof purpose, prosperity and joy, you
can.
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That is available to you, notto somebody else.
You, right here, right now.
But it doesn't come in anAmazon box and it's not going to
create itself.
So if you yearn to haveeverything you want, your first choice
is to start now.
The first choice is to examinewhere you are happy, unhappy.
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Why?
What are you doing?
What are you believing?
That work is the most fun thatI have with people.
So if you'd like my help doingthat, get ahold of me.
I've told you how already.
Or you can look up one of manybooks that I've written about that.
And the reason that I'vewritten so many is because I learned
all that the hard way.
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And my goal in writing themwas to save you time, to serve your
heart and to love you fiercelyso that you can move forward right
now, eliminate the nonsense,rise up to the level of your capability,
which is infinite, and startcreating purpose, prosperity, joy
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in every day, in every hour,in every moment, because I'm not
smoking anything.
It's possible and it's real.
And it is your birthright tomove forward right now and create
your ultimate life right here,right now.
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Your opportunity for massivegrowth is right in front of you.
Every episode gives youpractical tips, tips and practices
that will change everything.
If you want to know more, goto kellenflukermedia.com if you want
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