March 21, 2025 • 36 mins
Tired of the hype about living the dream? Let’s get real—it's time for some truth! In this episode, we're diving headfirst into the idea that you’ve got infinite power to create the life you deserve. We’re chatting about how external circumstances, like the craziness of the pandemic, can make us feel powerless, but guess what? Knowing who you are can flip the script entirely! We're pulling in some fun references, like Aragorn from Lord of the Rings, to illustrate how realizing your true identity can unlock your potential. So grab your favorite snack, kick back, and get ready to discover how to take control of your life and embrace your divine being!
Takeaways:
- We all have the power to create the life we dream of, and it's time to unlock it!
- In the midst of chaos, like during a pandemic, we can find unexpected clarity and purpose.
- Understanding who you really are, like Aragorn in Lord of the Rings, can lead to personal empowerment and growth.
- Forgiveness is a major key to unlocking joy and freedom in your life—don't forget to clean that emotional plate!
- When we focus on our divine nature, we gain the strength to overcome negativity and create positive change.
- Every challenge we face can be transformed into an opportunity for growth, so let’s embrace that journey together!
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(00:02):
Welcome to the show.
Tired of the hype about livingthe dream?
It's time for truth.
This is the place for tools,power and real talk.
So you can create the life youdream and deserve your ultimate life.
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(00:24):
You have infinite power.
Hey there.
Welcome to this episode ofyour ultimate life.
You know, I have said this now900 and something, 960 something
times.
I created this podcast.
Maybe you don't know the story.
I created it at the beginningof the pandemic in 2020, so five
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years ago now.
And I did it because right atthe beginning, I'm sure you remember
of the pandemic stuff.
No one really knew how bigthis was going to be.
And especially those first fewweeks, pretty scary.
And it sounded like it couldbe really serious, you know, end
of the world stuff.
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And I didn't really think itwould be, but you never know, right?
It's kind of scary.
So anyway, when the wordslockdown first started getting spoken,
people were worried.
And I remember Joy and I,after lockdown started, right, our
church quit holding servicesin the building and stores were closed
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and I got clients all over theplace that had stores and a guy had
a gym, you know, they wereclosed and nobody knew, you know,
how this was going to play outin terms of money or people making
a living or, you know, allkinds of pretty radical stuff happened
pretty fast.
Anyway, I remember going on adrive with Joy and I remember the
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articles that came out at thetime and said, wow, for the first
time, I think it was somewherein India.
You can see the peaks, thesecertain Tibetan peaks and meaning
the air's clearer, factoriesand all kinds of things were shut
down.
And it struck me at the timehow a change, and yeah, it was pretty
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radical and pretty sudden, buta change created such quick results.
Like after just a few weeks,two, three or four weeks, you know,
the air began to clear.
In other words, the earthbegan to heal itself from the stuff
that we inflicted inflict on it.
And I'm not a climate alarmistor any anything alarmist, but I'm
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fully aware that we haveinflicted all kinds of pollution
and negative stuff on theearth and on ourselves and on each
other.
And that's part of what I wantto talk about today.
So anyway, to start thepodcast, somewhere in that first
several weeks, someone calledmy wife Joy.
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And as you know, she's mybusiness partner.
As you also know, she's anangel and a holy being and lives.
I get to live with an angel.
Don't know if you know whatthat's like to live with a heavenly
being in your house all the time.
Keeps you on good, good focusand, and good thoughts.
Right.
Anyway, this person had beenin a Mastermind with us many several
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years before that, in probably2014 or something, so six years earlier.
And they had never been aclient, but we had met in the Mastermind
meetings that were in person then.
And so, you know, we knew himpretty good.
But anyway, they had calledand asked Joy if we had.
Does Kellen have a podcast?
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Was the question.
And we didn't at the time.
And he was calling because heknew me and knew that if I had one,
it would be, you know, one ofencouragement and growth and stuff.
And so it felt like he waslooking for something to help him
through this.
And we didn't have one.
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But she said yes.
And then she told.
Came down and told me, and heroffice was on the main floor and
my office was down in thebasement because I have several offices,
studios and stuff.
But anyway, she came down andtold me she'd said that.
So we immediately startedthinking, okay, we're going to have
a podcast.
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And that's where this was born.
I decided to call it yourultimate life to counteract the fear
that was pervasive in the world.
A little fear, a lot of fear,but it was certainly there and it
was certainly fear mongered bydifferent people.
And we're not going to getinto the politics of who should have
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done what, et cetera, etcetera, because that's now years
old, although we're stillstruggling with consequences.
I saw a report the other daythat said that at least in the US
now, Joy and I live in Canada,but at least in the U.S.
kids in school have never recovered.
The missed school has neverbeen made up, test scores are worse
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than they've ever been.
And, you know, I don't know ifthat report was accurate or whatever,
but I'm not surprised.
You know, that did a lot oflasting damage.
And I talk to a lot of peopleas a coach.
I meet people, several new people.
I just looked at my calendarand I've got at least six or seven
brand new people I've nevertalked to before.
Going to talk to and meet thisweek and often will.
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People will say, you know,after the 2008 meltdown, people would
say, oh, man, I had, you know,meltdown, lost my life, business,
whatever.
Now there's also.
And Covid did X.
And for some people, Covid wasa boon.
For others, it was a bust, abig disaster.
And I remember I was usingZoom, which we are now all live and
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breathe before the pandemic.
I had picked it up after I'dbeen using Google Hangouts for a
while, and then I startedusing Zoom because it was faster
and easier and it just seemed better.
And so anyway, I'd been usingit for a while and suddenly the beginning
of the pandemic, staying athome, et cetera, et cetera, everybody
in the universe suddenly knewwho Zoom was and, you know, blasted
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off and like five times insize because of that.
And now it is, you know, oneof the ubiquitous tools.
There's also Google Meet,which is the replacement of Hangouts
and Microsoft Teams and allthat stuff.
But anyway, I remember at thesame time that happened, Joy and
I went for a drive one day andit was amazing.
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Streets were empty, there werevery few cars.
Gasoline prices dropped tonearly half because so many people
were just staying home.
And I was just astounded.
And it sort of feltapocalyptic, right, because good
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things were happening.
Clear skies and this and thatand the other, and then a bunch of
terrible things.
Economic crash in some senses.
And for some people, really.
And all this change happenedvery quickly.
So anyway, and I just rememberthe drive and we commented to each
other, wow, this looks like aghost town.
And we live in a town of a million.
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Edmonton, Alberta is a million plus.
And it was just an astounding drive.
And I was thinking about thattoday because of this episode, which
is if you knew who you are,the reason they're related is because
at a time like that, we canfeel powerless, we can feel overwhelmed.
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Externalities have completelyshut us down.
You know, thoughts about whatthe future was going to bring were
completely different.
Vacations you were going totake, businesses you were going to
grow, all the kinds of stuffthat were affected by in person things
and travel and all the restwere suddenly gone.
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And so those kind ofexternalities can be completely overwhelming.
And I remember that feelingbecause I was already working from
home as a coach.
I wasn't going to be affectedin my ability to deliver services.
But certainly some of myclients were dramatically affected.
And we had to plan strategiesto deal with this sudden and abrupt
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and significant change of events.
And now that's five years agoand not everybody, but most people
are back in and maybe they'redoing completely different things.
Business changed, the natureof product, services changed, Remote
work became feasible and theneven desirable.
And now, I guess, like I said,we're in Canada, but in the US there's
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a big push to, you know,require all federal workers at least
to go back to offices and somedon't want to.
And I, I'm not following allthe details, but I saw an article
that said that some 75,000 hadaccepted some sort of a, a buyout
because they don't want toreturn to the office, whatever.
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But those kinds of events canmake us feel powerless and question
a lot of things right down tobase level stuff.
So I want to ask you thisquestion and it's just framed like
that.
If you knew who you are now,what does that even mean?
Well, I want you to thinkabout the Lord of the Rings.
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I'm hoping you've either readthe books or seen the movies or something.
There was a dude in the Lordof the Rings and his name was Aragorn
and his real name is like five names.
Eller, Ella, Aragorn, Eliezersomething something, something, right?
And it turned out he wasreally the son of Arathorne, heir
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of Isildur, son of Elendil,who was a Numenoren of way back and
you know, some hundredgenerations before and was the rightful
king of Gondor and, and hedidn't like that.
He didn't want anybody toknow, he didn't want to talk about
it.
He rejected it.
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But the fact that it was true,whether he liked it or not, gave
him several things.
As a Numenoran, he had a verylong age cycle.
In fact, he was 80, I think,in the Lord of the Rings and lived
till he was 200 and something,I think, if I remember right.
So he had an extra long lifespan.
But he was the rightful heirand of noble bearing and power and
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people were looking to him asa leader.
And that gradually dawned onhim through that, you know, through
the series.
At first he didn't want to be that.
He went by another nameentirely and didn't want to talk
about him being Dunedin fromthe north countries or whatever.
And I'm not an expert withLord of the Rings, although I did
really enjoy all the moviesand have watched him several times
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for lots of reasons.
And so the question is, whoare you?
Who are you really in real life?
And the question, if you knewwho you are to Aragorn, you know,
now that it was becoming clearto him who he really was, then he
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realized he had not only theopportunity but some could say the
obligation to stand up and bewho he was, to show up in all of
the honor and power and, youknow, that kind of stuff.
And there's one place where heand he alone could release some group
of ghosts from their oath thatthey had broken and all kinds of
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stuff.
But anyway, who are you?
Do you know?
Do you own it?
There's a song that my motherused to sing as a.
When I was a child, and it's aspiritual song and it talks about
being a child of God.
And it goes, do you know whoyou are, little child of mine?
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And there's several verses andit goes through our.
The fact that we've beensomewhere and we all know that we
came from somewhere, we feel it.
Sometimes it's deja vu,sometimes it feels like past life,
whatever, but we know we'vebeen somewhere and we know we're
not done.
When we're dying, we're going somewhere.
And the framing of that andhow we think of it is different for
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different people.
But it doesn't matter.
We have that sense of continuity.
So who are you?
Well, at number one, you're adivine being.
Number one, you're an eternal being.
Like, you will never stopexisting whether you repeat lives
here or you move on to another plane.
You know, the idea that we'rehere to learn certain things, et
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cetera, et cetera, is true.
We're here to see what we dowith this agency.
We've been given the right ofchoice by God, our creator.
And sometimes that choice is constrained.
If you grow up in a placewhere there's famine, you deal with
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a lot of hunger.
If you grow up in a place withyou as a dictator, there's a, you
know, some kind of dictatorialgovernment, you lose some physical
freedoms, but the truth is inyour mind.
Who you choose to be, how youchoose to think, what you choose
to create out of life, giventhe cards that you're dealt, is always
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in our hands, right?
And every person that I talkto has a history, has a history of
difficult things.
Some are severe hunger andabuse, and some are less severe,
neglect.
And some have regular sort oftwo parent upbringings and still,
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excuse me, end up feeling likethey're not valuable.
But the truth, undeniable,incontrovertible, can't get away
from it.
Truth is that you're a divine being.
You're created by God and youhave a mission, a purpose for being
here.
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One of the purposes, it'sreally obvious, is just to see what
we make of ourselves.
Because you and I, we have theright to choose.
Even though, you know, thishard circumstance or that hard circumstance,
in the place we are, we canchoose what we make of ourselves.
Do we give up and be resigned?
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Do we rail against others?
Do we shame and blameourselves or others?
Or do we simply accept what isnot in resignation, but not in anger
or, you know, railing againstit, but say, what can I create out
of this?
And what I know from my ownlife and from the life of others
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is when we say, what can Icreate out of this?
And then we go to work withour creative genius that we can create
way more than if we, you know,live in learned helplessness or victim
mindset or entitlement, youknow, railing against God, why did
you do this to me?
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The circumstances are whatthey are, and you're still a child
of God.
And that means you have theattributes, the DNA, as it were,
of the creator of the universe.
Now, there's no doubt thatthey're, excuse me, that those attributes
are in embryo, like they'renot fully developed in any universe
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yet, but they're still there.
Like the, the oak tree is inthe acorn.
Your fullest divineexpression, and so is mine, is in
us already.
Now it's an embryo.
We have to grow it, we have tofeed it.
You know the story of thewhite wolf and the, the black wolf?
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The way I heard it was,there's a Indian legend and a dad
is teaching his youngster,there's always a, a black wolf and
a white wolf inside of you.
And the black wolf representseverything that's selfish and negative
and hurtful and bad.
And the white wolf representslove and service and giving and leadership
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and kindness, etc.
And they are always in conflict.
Well, you've experienced thatmany, many times.
And maybe you experience itevery day, maybe right now even.
And at the end of the fable,why, you know, the son asks his dad,
well, who wins?
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The white one or the black one?
And the answer is the one you feed.
And so as, as sort of cutesyas that is, it's eternal truth.
And what does it mean to feedthe white or the black wolf?
Well, lots of ways to describethat, and you can think of a dozen
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yourself.
But I'll give you some suggestions.
If I spent a bunch of time, orspend a bunch of time ruminating
about a failure in the past,angry, frustrated, feeling cheated
or beat down, I'm feeding theblack wolf.
If I say, well, that happened,that was not what I wanted, what
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can I do now?
How can I get over, get pastor grow from this?
I'm feeding the white wolf.
If some unfortunate thinghappens and I rail against God or
the government or my businesspartner that ripped me off a hundred
thousand dollars or my lifepartner that cheated on me or whatever,
if I Spend a lot of timeviciously living in the victim corner.
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I'm feeding the black wolf.
And there's a couple of reallysad consequences to that.
Number one, I become powerless.
I become a ball of rage, aball of hurt, a ball of frustration,
a ball of negativity.
Because that's all I'm livingin, or I'm living there a lot of
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time.
The other thing is that is sadis, yeah, I've become a ball of negativity.
And so I've hurt myself.
That also hurts everybodyaround me that I might interact with.
If I have a spouse, if I havea family, if I have kids, if I have
others, clients that I mightserve, you know.
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So I not only affect myselfnegatively, I affect tons of other
people because I chose to feedthe black wolf.
Now, when stuff happens to youand to me, it happens and it hurts.
Pain is necessary.
Suffering is optional.
That simply means, gee, thatstuff's gonna happen.
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And that stuff is addiction,betrayal, unkindness, cruelty, illness,
abandonment, you know, abuse.
I mean, some smaller things,you know, shame, guilt, all that
stuff's gonna happen.
So just know that it's goingto happen.
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The only thing that mattersisn't that it happened, isn't that
I get justice or retributionor whatever on the person or thing
that caused it.
Those are irrelevant.
What matters is what I do with it.
I want to tell you this fromthe deepest part of my heart.
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That's the only thing that matters.
Because it already happened.
If I contributed to it bybeing stupid, I learned something.
If I didn't contribute to itand I was completely blindsided and
taken advantage of, I learnedto be more careful.
I also have an opportunity to forgive.
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Now, forgiveness doesn't andnever will mean putting yourself
in harm's way.
Returning to an abusive ordifficult situation doesn't mean
any of that.
So don't be thinking that.
What it does mean is I'm goingto forgive that person because I
can.
They are on their own journeyand whatever consequences are appropriate
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to their own actions are notmine to mete out they belong to.
That eternal karma goesaround, comes around the justice
of the divine.
It's not mine.
And if I spend a bunch of timeand I've done this worrying about
when they're going to gettheir comeuppance.
All I've done is eat myinsides out.
All I've done is reduce myability to be valuable.
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All I've done is reduce myability to love, to have joy, to
serve, to make money even.
I've just reduced by half by 2/3.
Depends on how much Iruminate, right?
I've just reduced my use inthe world.
If I forgive, and that meansto completely clear my heart of any
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effect of that and let justicebelong where it belongs, not with
me.
And then I love myself,forgive myself.
If I had any part to do andforgive myself for judging myself
in any of the thousand waysthat might be part of that, then
I'm feeding the white wolf.
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I become clean, I become emptyof negativity and I can fill me up
with love and positivity andthen I become a beacon of light.
Now, I want you to take aminute to think about something that
you're still hanging onto.
Some negative thing.
Person, illness, unfairness,injustice, rip off, betrayal, abuse.
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I want you to think of thatsomething that's still renting space
in your head and ask yourselfa question.
What would happen?
What would your life be likeif that was completely gone?
If you never thought about itagain, if it were empty, There was
no resentment, negativity,fear, bitterness, anger or hate or
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any of that stuff?
If that was gone, what wouldyour life be like?
That's a really important question.
Now, I didn't talk about howto do that, but just if it were gone
and all the space andemotional memories and triggers and
PTSD and CPTSD and complex,all the acronyms, that was all gone.
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Now if you're like mostpeople, that is.
It's almost a breathtakingsense of liberation and freedom.
And it's like, well, then I could.
Well, since you know that,isn't it worth it to do whatever
you need to do to clear outthat space?
Because when I stay angry,frustrated, hurt, fearful, or hate,
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in hatred towards someoneelse, all I've done is hurt me.
They're no longer hurt.
They don't even know.
What people do know is thatthat's who I'm being energetically.
And so it just reduces myability, your ability to make money,
to be of service, to love, tolive in joy.
I mean, the purpose of thispodcast is creating a life of purpose,
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prosperity and joy.
So I want to talk a little bitabout how to do that, because that
process was a big deal for me.
I had a ton of forgiveness formyself because I made lots of mistakes,
a lot of forgiveness for others.
It doesn't matter who theywere, people that I felt wronged
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by, people that I had wronged,and I felt angry and frustrated at
myself.
So a great mountain of selfforgiveness and a great mountain
of resentment, negativitytoward others, and it was consuming
my Life a little or a lot,sometimes so much that I turned to
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numbing and, you know,substances and things to stop hurting.
And as that went away, myheart opened.
My ability to.
To get and then give love andlight went way up until today.
As I record this for you, andit's been this way for the last few
years, I no longer carry anynegative emotion toward anyone.
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And the.
The.
The rule that I have for me isI forgive everyone, everything, all
the time.
I have compassion, grace, andpatience for everyone, for everything,
including myself.
Not as an excuse to do stupidstuff or an excuse because someone
else did stupid or hurtfulstuff, but because I refuse to be
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bogged down, burdened down,held down, glued down, chained down
to those negative things.
When they happen, I experience them.
I ask, what can I learn from this?
And then I let it go.
And that means my plate isalways clear.
Now, learning to do that waspowerful and important for me because
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before I did, it wrecked my life.
So I wrote a book about thatcalled Forgiveness.
Not surprisingly, ForgivenessA Journey of Courage to a Place of
Freedom and Power.
That's one of 20 books thatI've written, and I'm working on
number 21.
What's also come to me inthese processes of writing books
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and doing all this stuff isthe realization that because you're
a divine being, remember thewhole point here is if you knew,
if you really knew, likehardcore to the bottom, not some
intellectual idea, but if youknew that you were a king or a queen,
you were Aragorn, you were adivine holy child of God that's going
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through shit and all kinds ofdifficulties, but you still are that.
And that were the place youacted from and believed from and,
you know, created from all the time.
There's no limit to what youcan do.
What we do is we get stuck inthe injustice and the PTSD or the
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pain or the trauma that's beeninflicted on us, and we own that,
and we live in it and we swimin it instead of cleaning the plate.
And I.
One of the most popularYouTube videos I've done is one on
forgiveness.
It's got hundreds of thousandsof views, and it talks about how
to forgive yourself whenyou've hurt someone you love.
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And one of the most frequentcomments is, I can never forgive
myself.
Well, that's a story becauseyou can.
You can't justify what youdid, you can't pretend you didn't,
and you can't decide whetherthat other person's going to get
over their own hurt.
But that isn't Yours to fixany more than the hurt you have from
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the actions of others.
Right?
Is theirs to fix.
The hurt you have or that Ihave is mine to fix and yours to
fix.
And as long as someone says Ican never forgive myself, what you're
really telling me is I refuseto change.
I refuse to let this go.
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I'm going to beat myself todeath with it forever.
You're free to do that, but itjust means that me and you, we're
not worth anywhere near asmuch as we could be.
We can't add good to the worldand create purpose, prosperity and
joy.
See, creating this ultimatelife I talk about all the time, purpose,
prosperity and joy.
It's 100% dependent onforgiveness, forgiving yourself,
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and forgiving others.
Because as long as I'mcarrying negativity, hatred, bitterness,
pain, etc.
Etc.
I am limiting myselfsubstantially in terms of what I
can create and who I am in the world.
So one of the things thatcomes up in this conversation is
a phrase that I used to use.
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And I know this phrase becauseI use.
I myself used it about me andit was, I'm nothing.
I'm nobody.
I'm no good.
They were all right, knowpeople that were angry at me or the
root of all evil.
That sort of comment eithermildly or furiously said.
And as long as I carried thataround, I was powerless to do good,
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or what I could do was afraction, an empty shell of what
was possible.
So here's an invitation for you.
You matter, I promise.
You matter.
I don't care what has come before.
I didn't start my changesuntil I was 52 years old.
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I didn't start really goinginto this work until I was 17 and
a half years ago.
I'm 69.
I'll be 70 this year.
So when I was 52, I finallyrealized I control this doesn't matter
what anybody else did ordidn't do, what they did or didn't
apologize for or make amendsfor or whatever.
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None of that matters.
I am going to take control ofmy life.
And that's what I mean byasking if you knew who you were.
So if you knew you were adivine being and you had the power
to eliminate all this feeling,all this negativity, all this pain,
all this ptsd, all thisstruggle, all this hate towards yourself
or others, if you knew youcould get rid of that and you believed
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it to the core, you do it in a heartbeat.
So my challenge to you is tohear me.
You're a divine being.
You have Godly DNA in you thatisn't going to do itself.
At least my discovery is.
It's not a snap of the fingers.
I had to get a lot of help, socounselors and coaches and books.
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But the biggest thing was justto start with the idea that I'm divine.
I am.
And you know, a fable that Itold myself before is, I've made
so many mistakes that I cannever fix it.
It can never be okay.
There's nothing in all holyliterature that says such a thing.
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And if you go inside yourselfin meditation and listen to your
own inspiration, you will knowthat's not true.
God loves me.
And you, no matter whereyou've been or what's happened before,
you're valuable.
And what I know from my ownexperience is the divine will do
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anything that he can to rescue us.
Anything that he can to rescue us.
But we have to cooperate.
We have to allow the change totake place.
And, boy, that was, you know,that was painful for me to allow
that because I was so used tothe idea of hating myself.
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I was so connected to thefeeling of suffering and being worthless
and believing all the stuffthat my own inner voice and others
were telling me.
So here's the thing.
You are an eternal being.
You came from somewhere.
You're here having an experience.
And I don't care what theexperiences have been before.
Now, you matter.
You matter now.
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And you can have a giganticimpact if you want to.
And requirement number one isto understand your own divinity.
And then this forgivenessthing, use that power to clean your
plate so you're not carryingaround this old baggage.
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Now, I wrote that book,Forgiveness, so there, listen.
A forgiveness, a journey ofcourage to a place of freedom and
power.
Because that's my experience,and I've helped and seen others do
that, too.
But whether you use my book orthe Hawaiian process of hooponopono
or whatever it is, emptyingyour heart of the hateful, hurtful,
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negative energy is essential.
So you're divine.
You matter.
Nothing is beyond your reach,and nothing's going to do it for
us.
We got to say game on.
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Game on.
I didn't have the courage tosay that for most of my adult life
until I was 52, as Imentioned, I was living a hollow
script of doing what I thoughtI was, quote, supposed to do.
And it was hollow and emptyand painful.
And I failed.
And it led me to dark placesand drugs and suicide attempts and
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all kinds of stuff.
Stuff when I finally tookcontrol of my own sovereign being
and said, who am I before God?
Before my creator and Istarted writing those things down,
ignoring everyone else, makingchoices about what I want to do,
the being that I want topresent to my creator, right, that
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was a game changer for mebecause no amount of excuse is going
to come out that comes out ofmy mouth is going to change anything
there, right?
When I stand before thecreator or you do, we're going to
be what we've made of ourselves.
That's it.
No excuses, no nonsense.
It's going to be blindingly obvious.
At first, that scared the crapout of me.
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Then as I realized, and I getto choose that and I get to create
that, then it became joyfuland I became just absolutely devoted
to cleaning up who I was,becoming a person of my word, committing,
you know, to making whatevernecessary changes were so that I
was proud of, satisfied withand happy with who I was and where
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it's led me.
And this is the.
The line, the last thing here.
It's led me to where my goalthis year is to reach 300 million
people.
With what?
With the message of your divinity.
With the assurance that nomatter where you are, you matter
now.
With the assurance that it'snever too late.
With the assurance that youhave gifts and talents.
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With the assurance that thatfeeling in your heart about helping
people and changing the worldis real.
And you can.
And it's time to start now.
I can give you a lastinvitation, and that is if I can
help you in some way.
I'm in.
I'm in.
Reach out.
I won't know that by readingyour mind.
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You have infinite power.
Hey there.
Welcome to this episode ofyour ultimate life.
You know, I have said this now900 and something, 960 something
times.
I created this podcast.
Maybe you don't know the story.
I created it at the beginningof the pandemic in 2020, so five
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years ago now.
And I did it because right atthe beginning, I'm sure you remember
of the pandemic stuff.
No one really knew how bigthis was going to be.
And especially those first fewweeks, pretty scary.
And it sounded like it couldbe really serious, you know, end
of the world stuff.
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And I didn't really think itwould be, but you never know, right?
It's kind of scary.
So anyway, when the wordslockdown first started getting spoken,
people were worried.
And I remember Joy and I,after lockdown started, right, our
church quit holding servicesin the building and stores were closed
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and I got clients all over theplace that had stores and a guy had
a gym, you know, they wereclosed and nobody knew, you know,
how this was going to play outin terms of money or people making
a living or, you know, allkinds of pretty radical stuff happened
pretty fast.
Anyway, I remember going on adrive with Joy and I remember the
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articles that came out at thetime and said, wow, for the first
time, I think it was somewherein India.
You can see the peaks, thesecertain Tibetan peaks and meaning
the air's clearer, factoriesand all kinds of things were shut
down.
And it struck me at the timehow a change, and yeah, it was pretty
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radical and pretty sudden, buta change created such quick results.
Like after just a few weeks,two, three or four weeks, you know,
the air began to clear.
In other words, the earthbegan to heal itself from the stuff
that we inflicted inflict on it.
And I'm not a climate alarmistor any anything alarmist, but I'm
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fully aware that we haveinflicted all kinds of pollution
and negative stuff on theearth and on ourselves and on each
other.
And that's part of what I wantto talk about today.
So anyway, to start thepodcast, somewhere in that first
several weeks, someone calledmy wife Joy.
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And as you know, she's mybusiness partner.
As you also know, she's anangel and a holy being and lives.
I get to live with an angel.
Don't know if you know whatthat's like to live with a heavenly
being in your house all the time.
Keeps you on good, good focusand, and good thoughts.
Right.
Anyway, this person had beenin a Mastermind with us many several
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years before that, in probably2014 or something, so six years earlier.
And they had never been aclient, but we had met in the Mastermind
meetings that were in person then.
And so, you know, we knew himpretty good.
But anyway, they had calledand asked Joy if we had.
Does Kellen have a podcast?
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Was the question.
And we didn't at the time.
And he was calling because heknew me and knew that if I had one,
it would be, you know, one ofencouragement and growth and stuff.
And so it felt like he waslooking for something to help him
through this.
And we didn't have one.
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But she said yes.
And then she told.
Came down and told me, and heroffice was on the main floor and
my office was down in thebasement because I have several offices,
studios and stuff.
But anyway, she came down andtold me she'd said that.
So we immediately startedthinking, okay, we're going to have
a podcast.
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And that's where this was born.
I decided to call it yourultimate life to counteract the fear
that was pervasive in the world.
A little fear, a lot of fear,but it was certainly there and it
was certainly fear mongered bydifferent people.
And we're not going to getinto the politics of who should have
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done what, et cetera, etcetera, because that's now years
old, although we're stillstruggling with consequences.
I saw a report the other daythat said that at least in the US
now, Joy and I live in Canada,but at least in the U.S.
kids in school have never recovered.
The missed school has neverbeen made up, test scores are worse
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than they've ever been.
And, you know, I don't know ifthat report was accurate or whatever,
but I'm not surprised.
You know, that did a lot oflasting damage.
And I talk to a lot of peopleas a coach.
I meet people, several new people.
I just looked at my calendarand I've got at least six or seven
brand new people I've nevertalked to before.
Going to talk to and meet thisweek and often will.
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People will say, you know,after the 2008 meltdown, people would
say, oh, man, I had, you know,meltdown, lost my life, business,
whatever.
Now there's also.
And Covid did X.
And for some people, Covid wasa boon.
For others, it was a bust, abig disaster.
And I remember I was usingZoom, which we are now all live and
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breathe before the pandemic.
I had picked it up after I'dbeen using Google Hangouts for a
while, and then I startedusing Zoom because it was faster
and easier and it just seemed better.
And so anyway, I'd been usingit for a while and suddenly the beginning
of the pandemic, staying athome, et cetera, et cetera, everybody
in the universe suddenly knewwho Zoom was and, you know, blasted
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off and like five times insize because of that.
And now it is, you know, oneof the ubiquitous tools.
There's also Google Meet,which is the replacement of Hangouts
and Microsoft Teams and allthat stuff.
But anyway, I remember at thesame time that happened, Joy and
I went for a drive one day andit was amazing.
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Streets were empty, there werevery few cars.
Gasoline prices dropped tonearly half because so many people
were just staying home.
And I was just astounded.
And it sort of feltapocalyptic, right, because good
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things were happening.
Clear skies and this and thatand the other, and then a bunch of
terrible things.
Economic crash in some senses.
And for some people, really.
And all this change happenedvery quickly.
So anyway, and I just rememberthe drive and we commented to each
other, wow, this looks like aghost town.
And we live in a town of a million.
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Edmonton, Alberta is a million plus.
And it was just an astounding drive.
And I was thinking about thattoday because of this episode, which
is if you knew who you are,the reason they're related is because
at a time like that, we canfeel powerless, we can feel overwhelmed.
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Externalities have completelyshut us down.
You know, thoughts about whatthe future was going to bring were
completely different.
Vacations you were going totake, businesses you were going to
grow, all the kinds of stuffthat were affected by in person things
and travel and all the restwere suddenly gone.
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And so those kind ofexternalities can be completely overwhelming.
And I remember that feelingbecause I was already working from
home as a coach.
I wasn't going to be affectedin my ability to deliver services.
But certainly some of myclients were dramatically affected.
And we had to plan strategiesto deal with this sudden and abrupt
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and significant change of events.
And now that's five years agoand not everybody, but most people
are back in and maybe they'redoing completely different things.
Business changed, the natureof product, services changed, Remote
work became feasible and theneven desirable.
And now, I guess, like I said,we're in Canada, but in the US there's
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a big push to, you know,require all federal workers at least
to go back to offices and somedon't want to.
And I, I'm not following allthe details, but I saw an article
that said that some 75,000 hadaccepted some sort of a, a buyout
because they don't want toreturn to the office, whatever.
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But those kinds of events canmake us feel powerless and question
a lot of things right down tobase level stuff.
So I want to ask you thisquestion and it's just framed like
that.
If you knew who you are now,what does that even mean?
Well, I want you to thinkabout the Lord of the Rings.
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I'm hoping you've either readthe books or seen the movies or something.
There was a dude in the Lordof the Rings and his name was Aragorn
and his real name is like five names.
Eller, Ella, Aragorn, Eliezersomething something, something, right?
And it turned out he wasreally the son of Arathorne, heir
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of Isildur, son of Elendil,who was a Numenoren of way back and
you know, some hundredgenerations before and was the rightful
king of Gondor and, and hedidn't like that.
He didn't want anybody toknow, he didn't want to talk about
it.
He rejected it.
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But the fact that it was true,whether he liked it or not, gave
him several things.
As a Numenoran, he had a verylong age cycle.
In fact, he was 80, I think,in the Lord of the Rings and lived
till he was 200 and something,I think, if I remember right.
So he had an extra long lifespan.
But he was the rightful heirand of noble bearing and power and
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people were looking to him asa leader.
And that gradually dawned onhim through that, you know, through
the series.
At first he didn't want to be that.
He went by another nameentirely and didn't want to talk
about him being Dunedin fromthe north countries or whatever.
And I'm not an expert withLord of the Rings, although I did
really enjoy all the moviesand have watched him several times
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for lots of reasons.
And so the question is, whoare you?
Who are you really in real life?
And the question, if you knewwho you are to Aragorn, you know,
now that it was becoming clearto him who he really was, then he
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realized he had not only theopportunity but some could say the
obligation to stand up and bewho he was, to show up in all of
the honor and power and, youknow, that kind of stuff.
And there's one place where heand he alone could release some group
of ghosts from their oath thatthey had broken and all kinds of
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stuff.
But anyway, who are you?
Do you know?
Do you own it?
There's a song that my motherused to sing as a.
When I was a child, and it's aspiritual song and it talks about
being a child of God.
And it goes, do you know whoyou are, little child of mine?
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And there's several verses andit goes through our.
The fact that we've beensomewhere and we all know that we
came from somewhere, we feel it.
Sometimes it's deja vu,sometimes it feels like past life,
whatever, but we know we'vebeen somewhere and we know we're
not done.
When we're dying, we're going somewhere.
And the framing of that andhow we think of it is different for
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different people.
But it doesn't matter.
We have that sense of continuity.
So who are you?
Well, at number one, you're adivine being.
Number one, you're an eternal being.
Like, you will never stopexisting whether you repeat lives
here or you move on to another plane.
You know, the idea that we'rehere to learn certain things, et
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cetera, et cetera, is true.
We're here to see what we dowith this agency.
We've been given the right ofchoice by God, our creator.
And sometimes that choice is constrained.
If you grow up in a placewhere there's famine, you deal with
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a lot of hunger.
If you grow up in a place withyou as a dictator, there's a, you
know, some kind of dictatorialgovernment, you lose some physical
freedoms, but the truth is inyour mind.
Who you choose to be, how youchoose to think, what you choose
to create out of life, giventhe cards that you're dealt, is always
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in our hands, right?
And every person that I talkto has a history, has a history of
difficult things.
Some are severe hunger andabuse, and some are less severe,
neglect.
And some have regular sort oftwo parent upbringings and still,
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excuse me, end up feeling likethey're not valuable.
But the truth, undeniable,incontrovertible, can't get away
from it.
Truth is that you're a divine being.
You're created by God and youhave a mission, a purpose for being
here.
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One of the purposes, it'sreally obvious, is just to see what
we make of ourselves.
Because you and I, we have theright to choose.
Even though, you know, thishard circumstance or that hard circumstance,
in the place we are, we canchoose what we make of ourselves.
Do we give up and be resigned?
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Do we rail against others?
Do we shame and blameourselves or others?
Or do we simply accept what isnot in resignation, but not in anger
or, you know, railing againstit, but say, what can I create out
of this?
And what I know from my ownlife and from the life of others
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is when we say, what can Icreate out of this?
And then we go to work withour creative genius that we can create
way more than if we, you know,live in learned helplessness or victim
mindset or entitlement, youknow, railing against God, why did
you do this to me?
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The circumstances are whatthey are, and you're still a child
of God.
And that means you have theattributes, the DNA, as it were,
of the creator of the universe.
Now, there's no doubt thatthey're, excuse me, that those attributes
are in embryo, like they'renot fully developed in any universe
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yet, but they're still there.
Like the, the oak tree is inthe acorn.
Your fullest divineexpression, and so is mine, is in
us already.
Now it's an embryo.
We have to grow it, we have tofeed it.
You know the story of thewhite wolf and the, the black wolf?
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The way I heard it was,there's a Indian legend and a dad
is teaching his youngster,there's always a, a black wolf and
a white wolf inside of you.
And the black wolf representseverything that's selfish and negative
and hurtful and bad.
And the white wolf representslove and service and giving and leadership
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and kindness, etc.
And they are always in conflict.
Well, you've experienced thatmany, many times.
And maybe you experience itevery day, maybe right now even.
And at the end of the fable,why, you know, the son asks his dad,
well, who wins?
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The white one or the black one?
And the answer is the one you feed.
And so as, as sort of cutesyas that is, it's eternal truth.
And what does it mean to feedthe white or the black wolf?
Well, lots of ways to describethat, and you can think of a dozen
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yourself.
But I'll give you some suggestions.
If I spent a bunch of time, orspend a bunch of time ruminating
about a failure in the past,angry, frustrated, feeling cheated
or beat down, I'm feeding theblack wolf.
If I say, well, that happened,that was not what I wanted, what
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can I do now?
How can I get over, get pastor grow from this?
I'm feeding the white wolf.
If some unfortunate thinghappens and I rail against God or
the government or my businesspartner that ripped me off a hundred
thousand dollars or my lifepartner that cheated on me or whatever,
if I Spend a lot of timeviciously living in the victim corner.
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I'm feeding the black wolf.
And there's a couple of reallysad consequences to that.
Number one, I become powerless.
I become a ball of rage, aball of hurt, a ball of frustration,
a ball of negativity.
Because that's all I'm livingin, or I'm living there a lot of
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time.
The other thing is that is sadis, yeah, I've become a ball of negativity.
And so I've hurt myself.
That also hurts everybodyaround me that I might interact with.
If I have a spouse, if I havea family, if I have kids, if I have
others, clients that I mightserve, you know.
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So I not only affect myselfnegatively, I affect tons of other
people because I chose to feedthe black wolf.
Now, when stuff happens to youand to me, it happens and it hurts.
Pain is necessary.
Suffering is optional.
That simply means, gee, thatstuff's gonna happen.
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And that stuff is addiction,betrayal, unkindness, cruelty, illness,
abandonment, you know, abuse.
I mean, some smaller things,you know, shame, guilt, all that
stuff's gonna happen.
So just know that it's goingto happen.
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The only thing that mattersisn't that it happened, isn't that
I get justice or retributionor whatever on the person or thing
that caused it.
Those are irrelevant.
What matters is what I do with it.
I want to tell you this fromthe deepest part of my heart.
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That's the only thing that matters.
Because it already happened.
If I contributed to it bybeing stupid, I learned something.
If I didn't contribute to itand I was completely blindsided and
taken advantage of, I learnedto be more careful.
I also have an opportunity to forgive.
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Now, forgiveness doesn't andnever will mean putting yourself
in harm's way.
Returning to an abusive ordifficult situation doesn't mean
any of that.
So don't be thinking that.
What it does mean is I'm goingto forgive that person because I
can.
They are on their own journeyand whatever consequences are appropriate
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to their own actions are notmine to mete out they belong to.
That eternal karma goesaround, comes around the justice
of the divine.
It's not mine.
And if I spend a bunch of timeand I've done this worrying about
when they're going to gettheir comeuppance.
All I've done is eat myinsides out.
All I've done is reduce myability to be valuable.
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All I've done is reduce myability to love, to have joy, to
serve, to make money even.
I've just reduced by half by 2/3.
Depends on how much Iruminate, right?
I've just reduced my use inthe world.
If I forgive, and that meansto completely clear my heart of any
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effect of that and let justicebelong where it belongs, not with
me.
And then I love myself,forgive myself.
If I had any part to do andforgive myself for judging myself
in any of the thousand waysthat might be part of that, then
I'm feeding the white wolf.
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I become clean, I become emptyof negativity and I can fill me up
with love and positivity andthen I become a beacon of light.
Now, I want you to take aminute to think about something that
you're still hanging onto.
Some negative thing.
Person, illness, unfairness,injustice, rip off, betrayal, abuse.
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I want you to think of thatsomething that's still renting space
in your head and ask yourselfa question.
What would happen?
What would your life be likeif that was completely gone?
If you never thought about itagain, if it were empty, There was
no resentment, negativity,fear, bitterness, anger or hate or
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any of that stuff?
If that was gone, what wouldyour life be like?
That's a really important question.
Now, I didn't talk about howto do that, but just if it were gone
and all the space andemotional memories and triggers and
PTSD and CPTSD and complex,all the acronyms, that was all gone.
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Now if you're like mostpeople, that is.
It's almost a breathtakingsense of liberation and freedom.
And it's like, well, then I could.
Well, since you know that,isn't it worth it to do whatever
you need to do to clear outthat space?
Because when I stay angry,frustrated, hurt, fearful, or hate,
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in hatred towards someoneelse, all I've done is hurt me.
They're no longer hurt.
They don't even know.
What people do know is thatthat's who I'm being energetically.
And so it just reduces myability, your ability to make money,
to be of service, to love, tolive in joy.
I mean, the purpose of thispodcast is creating a life of purpose,
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prosperity and joy.
So I want to talk a little bitabout how to do that, because that
process was a big deal for me.
I had a ton of forgiveness formyself because I made lots of mistakes,
a lot of forgiveness for others.
It doesn't matter who theywere, people that I felt wronged
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by, people that I had wronged,and I felt angry and frustrated at
myself.
So a great mountain of selfforgiveness and a great mountain
of resentment, negativitytoward others, and it was consuming
my Life a little or a lot,sometimes so much that I turned to
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numbing and, you know,substances and things to stop hurting.
And as that went away, myheart opened.
My ability to.
To get and then give love andlight went way up until today.
As I record this for you, andit's been this way for the last few
years, I no longer carry anynegative emotion toward anyone.
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And the.
The.
The rule that I have for me isI forgive everyone, everything, all
the time.
I have compassion, grace, andpatience for everyone, for everything,
including myself.
Not as an excuse to do stupidstuff or an excuse because someone
else did stupid or hurtfulstuff, but because I refuse to be
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bogged down, burdened down,held down, glued down, chained down
to those negative things.
When they happen, I experience them.
I ask, what can I learn from this?
And then I let it go.
And that means my plate isalways clear.
Now, learning to do that waspowerful and important for me because
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before I did, it wrecked my life.
So I wrote a book about thatcalled Forgiveness.
Not surprisingly, ForgivenessA Journey of Courage to a Place of
Freedom and Power.
That's one of 20 books thatI've written, and I'm working on
number 21.
What's also come to me inthese processes of writing books
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and doing all this stuff isthe realization that because you're
a divine being, remember thewhole point here is if you knew,
if you really knew, likehardcore to the bottom, not some
intellectual idea, but if youknew that you were a king or a queen,
you were Aragorn, you were adivine holy child of God that's going
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through shit and all kinds ofdifficulties, but you still are that.
And that were the place youacted from and believed from and,
you know, created from all the time.
There's no limit to what youcan do.
What we do is we get stuck inthe injustice and the PTSD or the
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pain or the trauma that's beeninflicted on us, and we own that,
and we live in it and we swimin it instead of cleaning the plate.
And I.
One of the most popularYouTube videos I've done is one on
forgiveness.
It's got hundreds of thousandsof views, and it talks about how
to forgive yourself whenyou've hurt someone you love.
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And one of the most frequentcomments is, I can never forgive
myself.
Well, that's a story becauseyou can.
You can't justify what youdid, you can't pretend you didn't,
and you can't decide whetherthat other person's going to get
over their own hurt.
But that isn't Yours to fixany more than the hurt you have from
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the actions of others.
Right?
Is theirs to fix.
The hurt you have or that Ihave is mine to fix and yours to
fix.
And as long as someone says Ican never forgive myself, what you're
really telling me is I refuseto change.
I refuse to let this go.
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I'm going to beat myself todeath with it forever.
You're free to do that, but itjust means that me and you, we're
not worth anywhere near asmuch as we could be.
We can't add good to the worldand create purpose, prosperity and
joy.
See, creating this ultimatelife I talk about all the time, purpose,
prosperity and joy.
It's 100% dependent onforgiveness, forgiving yourself,
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and forgiving others.
Because as long as I'mcarrying negativity, hatred, bitterness,
pain, etc.
Etc.
I am limiting myselfsubstantially in terms of what I
can create and who I am in the world.
So one of the things thatcomes up in this conversation is
a phrase that I used to use.
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And I know this phrase becauseI use.
I myself used it about me andit was, I'm nothing.
I'm nobody.
I'm no good.
They were all right, knowpeople that were angry at me or the
root of all evil.
That sort of comment eithermildly or furiously said.
And as long as I carried thataround, I was powerless to do good,
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or what I could do was afraction, an empty shell of what
was possible.
So here's an invitation for you.
You matter, I promise.
You matter.
I don't care what has come before.
I didn't start my changesuntil I was 52 years old.
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I didn't start really goinginto this work until I was 17 and
a half years ago.
I'm 69.
I'll be 70 this year.
So when I was 52, I finallyrealized I control this doesn't matter
what anybody else did ordidn't do, what they did or didn't
apologize for or make amendsfor or whatever.
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None of that matters.
I am going to take control ofmy life.
And that's what I mean byasking if you knew who you were.
So if you knew you were adivine being and you had the power
to eliminate all this feeling,all this negativity, all this pain,
all this ptsd, all thisstruggle, all this hate towards yourself
or others, if you knew youcould get rid of that and you believed
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it to the core, you do it in a heartbeat.
So my challenge to you is tohear me.
You're a divine being.
You have Godly DNA in you thatisn't going to do itself.
At least my discovery is.
It's not a snap of the fingers.
I had to get a lot of help, socounselors and coaches and books.
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But the biggest thing was justto start with the idea that I'm divine.
I am.
And you know, a fable that Itold myself before is, I've made
so many mistakes that I cannever fix it.
It can never be okay.
There's nothing in all holyliterature that says such a thing.
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And if you go inside yourselfin meditation and listen to your
own inspiration, you will knowthat's not true.
God loves me.
And you, no matter whereyou've been or what's happened before,
you're valuable.
And what I know from my ownexperience is the divine will do
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anything that he can to rescue us.
Anything that he can to rescue us.
But we have to cooperate.
We have to allow the change totake place.
And, boy, that was, you know,that was painful for me to allow
that because I was so used tothe idea of hating myself.
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I was so connected to thefeeling of suffering and being worthless
and believing all the stuffthat my own inner voice and others
were telling me.
So here's the thing.
You are an eternal being.
You came from somewhere.
You're here having an experience.
And I don't care what theexperiences have been before.
Now, you matter.
You matter now.
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And you can have a giganticimpact if you want to.
And requirement number one isto understand your own divinity.
And then this forgivenessthing, use that power to clean your
plate so you're not carryingaround this old baggage.
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Now, I wrote that book,Forgiveness, so there, listen.
A forgiveness, a journey ofcourage to a place of freedom and
power.
Because that's my experience,and I've helped and seen others do
that, too.
But whether you use my book orthe Hawaiian process of hooponopono
or whatever it is, emptyingyour heart of the hateful, hurtful,
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negative energy is essential.
So you're divine.
You matter.
Nothing is beyond your reach,and nothing's going to do it for
us.
We got to say game on.
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Game on.
I didn't have the courage tosay that for most of my adult life
until I was 52, as Imentioned, I was living a hollow
script of doing what I thoughtI was, quote, supposed to do.
And it was hollow and emptyand painful.
And I failed.
And it led me to dark placesand drugs and suicide attempts and
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all kinds of stuff.
Stuff when I finally tookcontrol of my own sovereign being
and said, who am I before God?
Before my creator and Istarted writing those things down,
ignoring everyone else, makingchoices about what I want to do,
the being that I want topresent to my creator, right, that
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was a game changer for mebecause no amount of excuse is going
to come out that comes out ofmy mouth is going to change anything
there, right?
When I stand before thecreator or you do, we're going to
be what we've made of ourselves.
That's it.
No excuses, no nonsense.
It's going to be blindingly obvious.
At first, that scared the crapout of me.
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Then as I realized, and I getto choose that and I get to create
that, then it became joyfuland I became just absolutely devoted
to cleaning up who I was,becoming a person of my word, committing,
you know, to making whatevernecessary changes were so that I
was proud of, satisfied withand happy with who I was and where
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it's led me.
And this is the.
The line, the last thing here.
It's led me to where my goalthis year is to reach 300 million
people.
With what?
With the message of your divinity.
With the assurance that nomatter where you are, you matter
now.
With the assurance that it'snever too late.
With the assurance that youhave gifts and talents.
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With the assurance that thatfeeling in your heart about helping
people and changing the worldis real.
And you can.
And it's time to start now.
I can give you a lastinvitation, and that is if I can
help you in some way.
I'm in.
I'm in.
Reach out.
I won't know that by readingyour mind.
There's some URLs on the screen.
Kellenfluekigermedia.comthat's on there twice.
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Go there.
There's a contact form.
Let's talk.
Share this podcast with someone.
Maybe you're all perfect on this.
And if you are, share it withsomeone who needs to hear the message
of worth, of encouragement, ofpower, of joy, of the ultimate life.
I live every single day inmore joy than I know what to do.
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And that's from a person whoused to live at the bottom of the
canyon, figuratively, youknow, addicted and suicidal and on
and on and on.
And if I can walk up thatcanyon and I didn't do it alone,
I had to have a lot of help.
You can, too.
With the right help, I cantell you it's possible.
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I love you.
You deserve to have a life ofpurpose, prosperity and joy, or whatever
words work for you.
And you deserve to live everyday and fully participate in your
ultimate life.
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Right here.
Right now.
Your opportunity for massivegrowth is right in front of you.
Every episode gives youpractical tips and practices that
will change everything.
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