June 6, 2025 • 36 mins
Are you tired of feeling stuck and wondering why life hasn’t shifted yet? This episode exposes the hidden truth: most people stay trapped in mediocrity because they resist the very disruptions designed to refine them.
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You have infinite power.
Hey there.
Welcome to this episode ofyour ultimate life.
Your ultimate life.
Hey, I had AI make a picture.
Isn't that pretty good?
Right?
Kind of fun using all that stuff.
And, you know, I'm going to,in a couple of episodes, I'm going
to devote an entire episode toAI not to educate you, because I'm
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assuming you're using it likecrazy already.
But as to the possibilitiesand the problems, the premise, the
promise of that idea, and Ilike the phrase the premise and the
promise of something becausethe premise is the foundational principle.
Like, what is the premise ifyou think about the Ten Commandments?
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The premise of the TenCommandments is God the Creator,
giving us his creation some instructions.
And you can look at it as,this is a bunch of don't do this
or I'm going to zap you.
Or you can look at it as aprescription for a happy and productive
life.
And you can look at it as abunch of restrictions that you push
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against, why can't I cheat,steal, lie, commit adultery, kill
and do whatever?
And you could say, one answeris because you know I'm going to
get caught and burned.
Another answer is because it'snot nice.
And the more expansive answerto me is because it makes me into
a good person if I am kind toothers, if I truly don't worship
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money instead of God.
You know, he says no othergods before me, and he was talking
to people with wooden stone gods.
But it's also money andposition and status and all the rest.
So the premise and the promiseof those, the commandments to me,
whatever they are, TenCommandments or other ones in other
books, is this is aprescription for a fully developed,
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happy, complete life, not abag of restrictions.
Don't do this or I'm going toblow you up kind of stuff, I don't.
I choose not to look at itthat way.
My life experience shows methat because I lived recalcitrant
and rebellious, pushingagainst that, doing whatever I want.
I did that for a long time andit got me into trouble.
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Failed relationships, drugs,addictions, and you guys know the
stories.
And when I have changed thatcompletely in the last 18 years,
since 2007, the divineinterventions, and, you know, I refer
to that a lot.
But I want to invite you to dosomething so we're gonna have a whole
bunch of invitations today.
One invitation is to read thebook Tightrope of Depression.
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Now just give me a second andI'm going to hold it up for you.
I invite you to take a look atthis book, not because you're desperately
interested in my previouslife, but it's a.
It's a manifesto of how youcan take terrible struggles in your
life and turn them into something.
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And that means your struggles,mine happen to be a certain bunch.
But I invite you to considerthe possibility that you're divine.
You're capable, divinity,capability, possibility.
I say that all the time.
You're a divine being.
You're made by God, created by God.
So was I.
Lovingly, carefully, intentionally.
And then so what?
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Well, the so what is thatmeans you have divine DNA woven into
you.
Divine DNA means you're a creator.
It means you have, you know,the heritage, the characteristics
and attributes of God in you.
Obviously in all of us,they're wildly an embryo because
we are all miles out ofalignment with that ideal.
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I interviewed someone for thepodcast here a little bit ago and
we were talking before theshow about integrity.
And he said, yeah, we're allout of integrity.
We're all full of crap.
And this particular person Iknow is a person who is fanatic about
their integrity.
And he was still saying, yeah,you know, and I was thinking about
that afterwards and even thismorning also, and just listing the
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number of ways where I am notin integrity.
And what I mean by that isintegrity is a set of principles,
ideas, thoughts that you onlyyou believe.
I'm not talking aboutexternally imposed, that you should
conduct your life.
By that you believe it.
I don't mean should in the wayof shooting on yourself, but I just
mean you hold a set ofprinciples dear and anytime you think,
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act or do anything that's outof alignment, you have integrity.
Now that's not an indictment,it's just an observation.
So anyways, I sat and thoughtabout that this morning.
I thought, holy moly, there'sa boatload of ways where I'm out
of integrity.
Not that I've gone and done athing, but.
But the thought, the merethought of the entertainment of the
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questioning.
That's where the firstdeviation from the path of integrity
starts.
Anyway, so this is aboutcreating your ultimate life.
And that is daily, moment tomoment, choosing to be in integrity
with what you think you should be.
Not me, you, what you believein your own heart.
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And then when we're not, whichis all the time fixing it constantly
Adjusting things.
I heard a guy who's a churchleader give a talk.
He was a pilot first, youknow, big pilot for big jets.
Flew for Lufthansa, I think.
Long, long flights.
Germany to us, Canada andplaces all over the place.
And he then, you know, got upin the company and became VP of something
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or other.
But he was talking about thethousands of tiny course corrections
you have to make with an airplane.
Otherwise you end up way off course.
A tenth of a degree out ofalignment means you end up after,
you know, six, seven, eighthours of flying way off course.
And the constant thousands oftiny course corrections that the
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pilot, and now the computerswith pilots there make to the course
all the time because ofexternalities, wind and wind shear
and, you know, difference inatmospheric pressure and just all
kinds of stuff, right?
So that is.
That is the truth of creatingyour ultimate life.
Your ultimate life is a lifeof purpose, prosperity, and joy.
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Now, in order to do that, yougot to have a destination.
What is your purpose?
What does your ultimate lifelook like?
I have a clear, crystal clearpicture of what that is for me, with
massive amounts of detail andall kinds of emotional excitement
attached to the detail.
I know what it feels like,looks like, smells like, and everything.
I know what my reaction is toeach of those things, physical and
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spiritual.
I also am keenly aware of whenI'm in a place at all of, like, deviating
from that course.
And that's the integrity issue.
So integrity is a key piece of this.
Now, today I named thisepisode Disruption Friend or Foe.
Because when you think aboutgetting on or off course, think of
the airplane or your life.
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Tons of things pull you,invite you, push you, drag you, beat
you, whatever the right wordis, probably depending on the disruption
and how well you feel that day.
Off course, of course, off course.
And so then the question is,what are you going to do?
I'm tired.
I'm going to let it go.
Oh, I'm off course.
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Gee, I better think about that sometimes.
Oh, I.
I better look at that right now.
Or, you know, an instantaneous reaction.
Okay, little course correction.
Because you and I both knowwhen you get off course very long,
you know, and it's a ways downthere, it's a lot more work to get
back on course.
You know, harking back to my2007 divine intervention that woke
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me up from addiction and, youknow, ruining my life, et cetera,
et cetera, that was a massive shift.
I was way the heck off course.
In fact, I.
I didn't even know wherecourse was that's the part of the
PTAC I've talked often aboutpersonal truth.
One of the most importantthings I've done in the last 18 years
is choose my course.
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That's where I'm going.
That's who I am.
Because otherwise, how theheck do you know you're off course?
I mean, you're free to liveany way you want.
I don't care.
I'm just going to go with theflow every day.
And I have a client that hasdone that a lot.
And they said, yeah, I've doneall right and enlisted all these
things.
They came back about a monthlater and said, you know, in thinking
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about this, I have done that.
But I also noticed that I nowstart, I'm starting to really believe
that my ultimate expression,my ultimate goals, my most powerful
contribution isn't just bygoing with the flow and doing what
seems right at the time thereneeds to be.
And this is him talking mysome structure, some focus in order
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for me really to achieve that.
So that, you know, we talkedabout what that meant and what a
discovery that was becausethat's an internal shift.
I could say that forever andit wouldn't matter.
But when you discover a thing.
So today is about helping youframe disruptions in your life.
How are you going to frame those?
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Okay, so here's a possible definition.
Let's define disruption as anunexpected change, something that
rattles the status quo.
You know, you're pulled off course.
All right, maybe a sudden gustof wind blows your plane off course.
Since we used the aviationexample earlier, so it might come
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from many forms.
Some event outside of your control.
Your business partner rips youoff for 100,000 or a million, or
some customer leaves a zerostar review and rips you to pieces
on some social or on feedback.
If you sell on ebay or atwork, someone you know runs to your
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boss and says all kinds ofthings about you.
All those things can happenand they, they bash you off course.
One, oh, how could they say that?
And then you personally startwondering, what's wrong with me?
And then there's another thing.
Wow, what's the boss going to think?
Oh no, is my reputation ruinmy chances for promotion, etc.
Etc.
Etc.
So all of those things do andcan happen.
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Now there can be tech shiftslike we're in the middle of AI.
I mentioned that earlier andI'm going to do a episode on that
about the monumental changethat it is and how to use it beautifully,
faithfully, clearly,elegantly, effectively, ethically
and everything else.
You know, Always a lot ofquestions about ethics of this, that
and you know what that comesfrom people trying to dance at the
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edge.
You can use these toolsfabulously and well without trying
to get to the edge of something.
How far can I go before it's unethical?
Well, why don't we stopworrying about that and just use
it for all the good stuffwithout worrying about the fringes.
But you know, somebody'salways going to do that anyway.
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Those are disruptions.
Now the question is, what areyour personal disruptions?
You can have a little one.
Okay.
I got a message from a clientthe other day that said, I don't
know if I want to, you know,keep going.
I don't know if, you know, ifI'm ready to do all the things you're
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asking me to do.
And it's not going to hurt meif that client says I'm done coaching.
That isn't going to hurt me.
My business is thriving.
I have clients, I'm doing allkinds of good stuff.
But it makes me sad for thembecause the truth is we, you and
me, we're only as powerful aswe choose to be.
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We are only as prepared as ourdaily routine.
We are only as committed asthe clarity of our vision.
If we have a fuzzy vision outthere, well, it's really hard to
get committed to fuzzy, fuzzystuff, you know, out of focus, picture.
It's not fun.
So get clear on your vision.
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That is a tool to get around disruptions.
All right, so you know aboutsome of mine.
I died in 2018.
You know, I got a fatalillness, necrotizing MRSA, right.
And that's a terrible superbugthat is antibiotic resistant.
And I talked to a lady theother day that said, wow, she had
it on her elbow once and itabout wrecked her arm.
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I know somebody that had tohave a limb amputated because of
that.
Well, I had that in both mylungs and in my bloodstream.
And the infectious disease hadat the university told me that is
a death sentence.
He said the 10 day kill rateof that is 100%.
And I didn't get to thehospital till the end of day five.
So my survival was a miracle.
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That was a disruption.
If you want the details, it'sin the book.
Meeting God at the door.
Meeting God at the door.
Looks like this.
Meeting God at the door.
I've got a green screen on, soit's showing there.
Meeting God at the door.
Conversations, choices andcommitments of a near death experience.
Tells you everything that happened.
Had three conversations.
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Anyway, it was a massivedisruption coma for 17 days, couldn't
walk, etc.
Etc.
So a lot of traumatic stuff.
Now, there can be little disruptions.
I'll give you an example.
I bought a camera online in astore in Canada, and all of a sudden
I wasn't getting any.
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You know, it didn't get aninvoice, didn't get an acknowledgment
of payment, and I paid him.
And it's quite an expensivevideo camera, several thousand dollars.
All of a sudden they began tothink, oh, no, what if it's a scam?
What if it's a blah, blah,blah, blah, blah.
So we got a hold of PayPal andcall, call, call, call, call.
And finally after severaldays, got a hold of the merchant,
still don't know if they'regoing to deliver.
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Promise, promise, promise, et cetera.
So that is a disruption.
Certainly not one as big asdying, not feeling good.
My.
You guys know from my storythat I've got back problems sometimes
and I use cane sometimes, etcetera, et cetera.
And some days that's more of adisruption than others.
All right, so those are mine.
Right now.
I want you to think of yours.
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Internal disruptions, right?
I'm not good enough.
I can't do this.
I'm lazy.
Oh, why do I always get distracted?
And on and on and on.
Those are all disruptions.
And they come from internalstories, they come from your own
beliefs.
They come from bad childhoodexperiences that you've allowed to
perpetuate to your adulthood.
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And boy, I did that for decades.
Literally decades, all thatkind of stuff.
So here is the issue for you, disruptions.
Friend or foe is the way Iwant to talk about this.
And so I want to give you somecontrast as we go through friend
or foe, because they can beeither one.
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Like I've said before,terrible experiences can ruin you,
or they can refine you, ruinyou or refine you.
And you know the cool thing?
You get to choose.
And the other good news is,even if you've chosen up to this
very day to let some terribleexperience ruin you, you can now
choose to let it refine you,because the decision is not permanent.
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You can choose to get lessonsand make choices so that it refines
you.
Disruption is going to exposeyour comfort zones.
When things get blown out ofproportion, you're going to rip the
COVID off your mediocrity.
And where are you settling for mediocrity?
Right?
Disruptions and the choicesyou make with them are what life
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is made out of.
The most important thing youor I have to offer is the story of
our life.
And I don't mean a memoir.
I'm talking about the growthchoices we make.
Now, here's a second invitation.
I want you right now, ifyou're not driving, to go to www.dreambuildwriteit.com
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www.dreambuildriteit.com threetimes a year, I conduct a challenge
that is an invitation toexplore your life story and make
money with it.
Save the world, change theworld, do big things.
And you might think my story'snot interesting.
I can't do that.
That's nonsense.
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That's fear talking.
And you have.
It's just not true.
Because you are striving for success.
You are striving to add goodto the world or you wouldn't be listening
to this show.
And the story of your growth,your choices, your resilience, ruin
refined.
The story of your circumstanceis your most valuable asset.
Mine too.
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Www.dreambuildwriteit.com Gothere and join the next challenge.
All right, so when you havedisruptions and they blow off your
comfort zone and they exposemediocrity, instead of getting angry
or after you've beenfrustrated or angry for just a minute,
why don't you choose to lookat it as the refiner's fire?
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And I know that might be uncomfortable.
You might say, why do I got tohave a refiner's fire?
Why does everything have to beso hard?
Okay, it's not.
What if we don't?
What if things went throughlife easily and we just cruised and
we didn't have to fight and wedidn't have to work hard and it just
cruised?
And mostly a few little thingshere and there, but mostly it was
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okay.
How powerful are you going tobe when you're dead at the end, when
you're finished?
You and I, we came into theworld with nothing, right?
Helpless, tiny baby with nothing.
When we leave, we're not goingto take anything either.
You know that old Alan Parsonssong, can't take it with you no matter
what you do.
And the it is all the physicalstuff, positions, power, money, houses,
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cars, whatever.
You're not going to take thatwith you.
It's not even going to matter.
The only thing me and you,we're going to take with us is what
we've made out of ourselves.
Well, that's the refiner'sfire stuff.
So I'll just talk about me,but I want you to hear it for you.
If I go through life avoidingskating not having tough things,
then that's the onlyrefinement I get.
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Mediocre.
So I'm going to show up at theend dead, only refined in a mediocre
way.
I can't stand mediocrity in myself.
I went, then my answer is,bring on the fire.
Bring on the fire.
Because when I go home again.
I did that once, Diane.
When I go home again, I wantto stand there as refined as I could
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be.
I want to have done everythingI could with the circumstances I
had, hard or otherwise, to beas refined as possible.
That's what I want.
I'm not telling you what youneed to want, but I can tell you
the refiner's fire is a gift.
It's not an enemy.
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Okay, so that is one way tothink about that.
Now, here's another one.
If you think of disruptions asa friend, it invites you into fierce
life ownership.
Now, you know, my mission thisyear is to visit with reach, talk
to 300 million people.
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That's a horrifically, nothorrifically, wonderfully big number,
right?
Talk to them about what?
Well, message.
Method.
Mastery.
Message.
Method mastery.
Message is what thepossibility is.
Method is how to get there.
And mastery is ultimate fiercelife ownership.
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The message is really simple.
Most of us, in fact, I wouldsay all of us to some degree or another,
live at one end of our possibility.
And there's a continuum.
And I realize that you may bewell on your way, not trying to offend
anybody, but the.
The unholy trinity ofcharacteristics over here are learned
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helplessness, where we believewe just can't do anything, addiction
to mediocrity, where we justsettle and victim mindset, where
we're talking about everythinghappens to me.
The other end of that rainbow,where the pot of gold is, is a fierce
life ownership, where yourealize you create everything.
You have a vivid and powerfulcommitment to excellence, where you
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choose to demand excellence of yourself.
We can't demand things ofothers, but demand excellence of
yourself.
And we live every day with aheart, a yearning, a love, a commitment
to service.
So the message is you and youalone can move from addiction to
mediocrity, learnedhelplessness, and victim mindset
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to a place of fierce lifeownership, commitment to excellence,
and a yearning to serve.
That trinity is the most happyplace in the world.
If you take fierce lifeownership and you do it, and you
create your life every day,and you love serving and you have
a commitment to excellence,that doesn't mean perfection, but
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a commitment to excellence,that is the place of the most joy.
I have ever experienced.
I want you to think about that.
I've never been satisfied with mediocrity.
I've never been satisfied withthe victim thing.
And I don't believe you trulyare either.
So it is a catalyst.
Disruption is a catalyst.
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It calls forth awareness.
It calls forth the opportunityto serve, to grow, and you know exactly
what I mean.
Now, if we treat it as a foe,then it's going to be.
I refuse to adapt.
I'm afraid of it.
I get it mad at it.
I rail at it.
I yell at whoever caused it,whether it's God or the universe
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or the economy or the election.
You know, you got peoplerunning around frothing at the mouth.
I live in Canada, but we justhad an election too.
So it's the same up here.
You got people running aroundin the United States and Canada,
at least frothing at the mouthabout the fact that Trump won the
election.
There would be people frothingat the mouth if the other way had
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happened, right?
Blaming that outcome for yourproblems is the most ridiculous waste
of time because it doesn'tchange anything.
It doesn't advance your.
Our growth.
Either one of us did it.
It doesn't do that.
So quit pretending that it does.
If you want to protest, if youwant to vote different, if you want
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to encourage, encourage thisor that, go ahead.
But blaming your lack ofpossibility and success on an externality
is like that guy that stood atthe seashore trying to hold back
the tide.
I forgot his name.
It was a mythology story aboutsome dude that, some king, and he
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thought by the power of hisroyal presence, he was going to hold
back the tide.
Well, that's nonsense.
You are sovereign.
Act like it.
All right, another role of discipline.
I want to talk about the roleof trust and discipline in navigating
disruption.
Trust and discipline.
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Those are two super powerful words.
Trust in your own ability.
Trust in your divine capability.
You can refuse to believe inGod if you want to, but you have
had circumstances in, in yourlife where, you know, there has been
intuition.
Call it your higher self, thehigher power, the universe, whatever
you want.
There's something bigger thanyou and you know it.
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Trust.
Trust.
Learn to develop thatintuition and then trust it, which
means take action.
That is particularly importantwhen some big disruption has happened.
Something has shut you down,pushed you off course, blown up what
you were trying to do, orwhatever it is.
Trust there's a path back.
Trust there is a way forward.
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Trust there is possibility ahead.
It doesn't mean it's easy andyou won't have to crawl over some
broken glass or walk over somehot coals.
But trust is so critical ingenerating the power to do that.
Because if we don't trust thatthere's anything going forward, then
the only thing we're evergoing to do is stand at the edge
of life and stick our toe inand wait for somebody to promise
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us that it won't be difficult.
Not going to happen.
No one is coming.
So discipline is the same way.
Discipline, some people think,is a harsh word.
I have a client who says sheloves the word discipline.
It comes from the worddisciple, which means a follower
of.
Are you a follower of excellence?
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A follower of fierce lifeownership, A follower of your own
gifts and talents?
Most folks don't recognize orvalue their own gifts and talents.
They don't honor and realizethe power and opportunity that they
have.
So I'm speaking to you now.
Your gifts and talents, yourthings that you've developed, the
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stuff you know you do well,the learnings from your life experience.
Are you sharing those with others?
Because when we overcomesomething, you know what, funny,
one of the first things thathappen is we have this yearning to
share with other people, tohelp them avoid the pain, discomfort,
struggle that you or I have endured.
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So make a choice.
Make a choice, because thechoice is yours to prepare every
day.
That's why the PTAC is so important.
Another invitation for you isthe book Living with Purpose and
Power.
And I don't have it right here.
Oh yes I do.
Right here.
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Living with purpose and Power.
I invite you to read this.
This is the best book everwritten about how to create your
life purpose.
People say, well, I can't.
I don't know what my purpose is.
Well, you know, it's not goingto come in an Amazon box.
You're going to go, and you'renot going to go dig it up in the
yard.
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It comes when you mine yourgifts and talents.
It comes when you dive intothe service of others.
There's a triple helix.
Your skills, the things you'velearned and are probably selling
in the marketplace.
Your gifts, which are thosenatural proclivities you and I came
with and your life experience,which is the basket in which all
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of that unfolded.
Those things together you canfind your calling, your yearning.
And that yearning will poweryou through any disruption.
Disruption.
So here's another modern day disruption.
AI.
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You got people frantic aboutwhat it's going to do.
And I listened to part of thetestimony before the United States
Congress the other day aboutSam Altman, the guy that's running
OpenAI at Chat chatgpt companyhe talked about some scary stuff,
but it's only scary if youdon't plan for it and use it.
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You know, if you want to sitand imagine a future where AI becomes
sentient and we're all goingto be subject to robots, go ahead.
You can imagine that and be aprepper and doomsday watcher for
that if you want to.
I don't know how fast and howintelligent and how capable those
devices are becoming.
I know it's way faster thanyou or I know because the cutting
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edge is never what's availableto consumers and even smart people
that read all the articles.
Way past that, experimental things.
So instead of worrying, takethat disruption and use it.
Okay?
I remember in the 80s whensynthesizers first came out, musicians
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of the world thought that wasgoing to be the end of orchestras
and music, the music industry.
And it's turned out here now,30 years, 40 years later, it's not
at all or just another tool.
AI is going to be the same way.
And this tool is gettingbetter and better and faster and
faster and who knows, there'sgoing to be a point of singularity
where it exceeds our abilityand attention.
You know, artificial generalintelligence, AGI is what they call
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that, where the AI can thinkand reason and do everything a human
brain can do.
I don't know, a year, fiveyears maybe that will come.
In the meantime, I'm going toprepare and I'm going to use it for
all it's worth.
I just had a convo with ChatChatty this morning about a university
I'm creating.
I am launching your ultimatelife coaching university in January
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of 26.
It's going to be the mostpowerful, best coaching university
in the world with the mostpowerful profound graduates, the
most awesome prepared and youknow why?
Because AI is going to disruptthe coaching industry is going to
blow it to pieces.
Mediocrity will no longer beallowed because AI will perform at
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the level of 85 to 90% ofcoaching today, which is formulaic
and information driven.
Well, no Olympic athlete gotto the podium with information.
No one got to the podium of inany field with just information.
The transformation,transmutation, the biggest word you
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can find, which is a statechange in the beingness of someone.
That's what got you to thepodium when you move from I can't
do this, I doubt myself to Iknow I can.
And information, howeversophisticated, does not provide that
growth.
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So this huge disruption is a.
I use it, maximize it, don'tcheat don't plagiarize, don't push
the edges, but use it.
And this isn't the podcastepisode to teach about that.
And I might do that later, Idon't know.
But that changes, like every minute.
I'm two months ahead, so I'mrecording this.
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By the time it came out,everything I taught about it would
be yesterday's news.
I just went and spoke at anevent, Philadelphia, a few days ago,
and one of the speakers onthere was a high powered AI nerd
and he talked about everydifferent platform and his view about
what it's good for and so forth.
And I realize in two or threemonths that'll all be wrong anyway,
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and that's okay.
That's how fast this is growing.
So this modern day disruption,don't let it wreck your life.
Don't let anything wreck your life.
You're the sovereign, you own it.
All right, so here's one more thing.
How did.
How do you.
How do you turn a disruptionof any kind, whether it's emotional,
in a relationship, financial,technological, how do you turn that
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into power?
Well, let's talk about that.
Let's ask.
Always when something happensthat wasn't expected, that messes
up your status quo, Here's a question.
What is the gift here?
Because there is always a gift.
And we might be inclined torail first and say, there's no gift,
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it's not fair, and scream atwhoever, but the truth is, there's
always the seeds of greater opportunity.
In every failure, there isalways the seed of equal or greater
opportunity.
Somebody said that.
Can't tell you who the quotewas, and I don't even know if I got
it right.
But the idea is, I don't carewhat happens.
You can get past it and exceedit if you want to, or you can let
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it beat the crap out of youand lay down.
But you know where that goes.
Frustration, depression, badrelationships, your addictions.
Other places are worse.
This is your sovereign call tostand up, create your ultimate life.
Now, when you ask what thegift is, then say, okay, what can
I do right now?
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And don't say, well, I'll do it.
When you know some.
If you blame an externality orwait for something outside to change,
you're missing the point.
Sovereign ownership is takingimmediate assessment and acting.
So if you've got a financialdisaster, okay, this happened.
What can I do right now?
Who do I need to call?
What do I need to get organized?
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What do I need to sell?
When I went to hospital, youknow, and died, and we didn't have
any idea how long I was goingto be there or how long I was going
to be in a coma or anything.
Our, you know, finances werein disarray because why?
Because I'm a coach and Ican't coach when I'm in a coma.
So Joy took immediate actionto revitalize something she had done
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for a long time.
She was an ebay merchant.
So she got a bunch of stuffup, start selling things and getting
stuff organized so that wewere able to continue while I was
helpless and unconsciousmoving things.
And she did that on top ofcoming to see me in the hospital.
So choosing action overflailing is a way to manage a disruption.
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Now, in the book Living withpurpose and Power that I showed you,
there's another documentcalled the scroll of Truth and Power.
That document, read it.
It will show you where you'reholding back.
Because a disruption, like Isaid, it kicks you out of your comfort
zone earlier.
It will always reveal alwayswhere you can take more powerful
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ownership and create largergrowth personally, professionally,
financially.
Because none of us havereached the top of that mountain.
And the only question for meor you is are you willing to walk
the path, make friends withthe disruption.
I don't care what it is,financial, relationship, health,
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anything else, make friends.
What is the gift here?
What is my first step?
Inherent in that process ispersonal growth, refiner's fire and
success.
It's not just a rhetoricalexercise where you try to distract
yourself.
It is the path of growth,refinement, where you use a precious
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metal and heat to take out allthe impurities, is real.
And it's available today,right this minute, no matter what
your disruptions are.
I know it.
I promise it.
And here's the final invitation.
If you have a story ofresilience and overcoming you'd like
to share, get a hold of me.
Go to www.kellenfluekegermedia.com sorry, www.kellenfluker
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Go there.
Get a hold of me.
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If you have another story, notanother, but if you have a story
you want to make money withand change the world, I invite you
to go to the Dream build.
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You're creating it one way or another.
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Hey there.
Welcome to this episode ofyour ultimate life.
Your ultimate life.
Hey, I had AI make a picture.
Isn't that pretty good?
Right?
Kind of fun using all that stuff.
And, you know, I'm going to,in a couple of episodes, I'm going
to devote an entire episode toAI not to educate you, because I'm
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assuming you're using it likecrazy already.
But as to the possibilitiesand the problems, the premise, the
promise of that idea, and Ilike the phrase the premise and the
promise of something becausethe premise is the foundational principle.
Like, what is the premise ifyou think about the Ten Commandments?
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The premise of the TenCommandments is God the Creator,
giving us his creation some instructions.
And you can look at it as,this is a bunch of don't do this
or I'm going to zap you.
Or you can look at it as aprescription for a happy and productive
life.
And you can look at it as abunch of restrictions that you push
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against, why can't I cheat,steal, lie, commit adultery, kill
and do whatever?
And you could say, one answeris because you know I'm going to
get caught and burned.
Another answer is because it'snot nice.
And the more expansive answerto me is because it makes me into
a good person if I am kind toothers, if I truly don't worship
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money instead of God.
You know, he says no othergods before me, and he was talking
to people with wooden stone gods.
But it's also money andposition and status and all the rest.
So the premise and the promiseof those, the commandments to me,
whatever they are, TenCommandments or other ones in other
books, is this is aprescription for a fully developed,
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happy, complete life, not abag of restrictions.
Don't do this or I'm going toblow you up kind of stuff, I don't.
I choose not to look at itthat way.
My life experience shows methat because I lived recalcitrant
and rebellious, pushingagainst that, doing whatever I want.
I did that for a long time andit got me into trouble.
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Failed relationships, drugs,addictions, and you guys know the
stories.
And when I have changed thatcompletely in the last 18 years,
since 2007, the divineinterventions, and, you know, I refer
to that a lot.
But I want to invite you to dosomething so we're gonna have a whole
bunch of invitations today.
One invitation is to read thebook Tightrope of Depression.
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Now just give me a second andI'm going to hold it up for you.
I invite you to take a look atthis book, not because you're desperately
interested in my previouslife, but it's a.
It's a manifesto of how youcan take terrible struggles in your
life and turn them into something.
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And that means your struggles,mine happen to be a certain bunch.
But I invite you to considerthe possibility that you're divine.
You're capable, divinity,capability, possibility.
I say that all the time.
You're a divine being.
You're made by God, created by God.
So was I.
Lovingly, carefully, intentionally.
And then so what?
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Well, the so what is thatmeans you have divine DNA woven into
you.
Divine DNA means you're a creator.
It means you have, you know,the heritage, the characteristics
and attributes of God in you.
Obviously in all of us,they're wildly an embryo because
we are all miles out ofalignment with that ideal.
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I interviewed someone for thepodcast here a little bit ago and
we were talking before theshow about integrity.
And he said, yeah, we're allout of integrity.
We're all full of crap.
And this particular person Iknow is a person who is fanatic about
their integrity.
And he was still saying, yeah,you know, and I was thinking about
that afterwards and even thismorning also, and just listing the
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number of ways where I am notin integrity.
And what I mean by that isintegrity is a set of principles,
ideas, thoughts that you onlyyou believe.
I'm not talking aboutexternally imposed, that you should
conduct your life.
By that you believe it.
I don't mean should in the wayof shooting on yourself, but I just
mean you hold a set ofprinciples dear and anytime you think,
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act or do anything that's outof alignment, you have integrity.
Now that's not an indictment,it's just an observation.
So anyways, I sat and thoughtabout that this morning.
I thought, holy moly, there'sa boatload of ways where I'm out
of integrity.
Not that I've gone and done athing, but.
But the thought, the merethought of the entertainment of the
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questioning.
That's where the firstdeviation from the path of integrity
starts.
Anyway, so this is aboutcreating your ultimate life.
And that is daily, moment tomoment, choosing to be in integrity
with what you think you should be.
Not me, you, what you believein your own heart.
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And then when we're not, whichis all the time fixing it constantly
Adjusting things.
I heard a guy who's a churchleader give a talk.
He was a pilot first, youknow, big pilot for big jets.
Flew for Lufthansa, I think.
Long, long flights.
Germany to us, Canada andplaces all over the place.
And he then, you know, got upin the company and became VP of something
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or other.
But he was talking about thethousands of tiny course corrections
you have to make with an airplane.
Otherwise you end up way off course.
A tenth of a degree out ofalignment means you end up after,
you know, six, seven, eighthours of flying way off course.
And the constant thousands oftiny course corrections that the
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pilot, and now the computerswith pilots there make to the course
all the time because ofexternalities, wind and wind shear
and, you know, difference inatmospheric pressure and just all
kinds of stuff, right?
So that is.
That is the truth of creatingyour ultimate life.
Your ultimate life is a lifeof purpose, prosperity, and joy.
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Now, in order to do that, yougot to have a destination.
What is your purpose?
What does your ultimate lifelook like?
I have a clear, crystal clearpicture of what that is for me, with
massive amounts of detail andall kinds of emotional excitement
attached to the detail.
I know what it feels like,looks like, smells like, and everything.
I know what my reaction is toeach of those things, physical and
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spiritual.
I also am keenly aware of whenI'm in a place at all of, like, deviating
from that course.
And that's the integrity issue.
So integrity is a key piece of this.
Now, today I named thisepisode Disruption Friend or Foe.
Because when you think aboutgetting on or off course, think of
the airplane or your life.
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Tons of things pull you,invite you, push you, drag you, beat
you, whatever the right wordis, probably depending on the disruption
and how well you feel that day.
Off course, of course, off course.
And so then the question is,what are you going to do?
I'm tired.
I'm going to let it go.
Oh, I'm off course.
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Gee, I better think about that sometimes.
Oh, I.
I better look at that right now.
Or, you know, an instantaneous reaction.
Okay, little course correction.
Because you and I both knowwhen you get off course very long,
you know, and it's a ways downthere, it's a lot more work to get
back on course.
You know, harking back to my2007 divine intervention that woke
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me up from addiction and, youknow, ruining my life, et cetera,
et cetera, that was a massive shift.
I was way the heck off course.
In fact, I.
I didn't even know wherecourse was that's the part of the
PTAC I've talked often aboutpersonal truth.
One of the most importantthings I've done in the last 18 years
is choose my course.
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That's where I'm going.
That's who I am.
Because otherwise, how theheck do you know you're off course?
I mean, you're free to liveany way you want.
I don't care.
I'm just going to go with theflow every day.
And I have a client that hasdone that a lot.
And they said, yeah, I've doneall right and enlisted all these
things.
They came back about a monthlater and said, you know, in thinking
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about this, I have done that.
But I also noticed that I nowstart, I'm starting to really believe
that my ultimate expression,my ultimate goals, my most powerful
contribution isn't just bygoing with the flow and doing what
seems right at the time thereneeds to be.
And this is him talking mysome structure, some focus in order
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for me really to achieve that.
So that, you know, we talkedabout what that meant and what a
discovery that was becausethat's an internal shift.
I could say that forever andit wouldn't matter.
But when you discover a thing.
So today is about helping youframe disruptions in your life.
How are you going to frame those?
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Okay, so here's a possible definition.
Let's define disruption as anunexpected change, something that
rattles the status quo.
You know, you're pulled off course.
All right, maybe a sudden gustof wind blows your plane off course.
Since we used the aviationexample earlier, so it might come
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from many forms.
Some event outside of your control.
Your business partner rips youoff for 100,000 or a million, or
some customer leaves a zerostar review and rips you to pieces
on some social or on feedback.
If you sell on ebay or atwork, someone you know runs to your
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boss and says all kinds ofthings about you.
All those things can happenand they, they bash you off course.
One, oh, how could they say that?
And then you personally startwondering, what's wrong with me?
And then there's another thing.
Wow, what's the boss going to think?
Oh no, is my reputation ruinmy chances for promotion, etc.
Etc.
Etc.
So all of those things do andcan happen.
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Now there can be tech shiftslike we're in the middle of AI.
I mentioned that earlier andI'm going to do a episode on that
about the monumental changethat it is and how to use it beautifully,
faithfully, clearly,elegantly, effectively, ethically
and everything else.
You know, Always a lot ofquestions about ethics of this, that
and you know what that comesfrom people trying to dance at the
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edge.
You can use these toolsfabulously and well without trying
to get to the edge of something.
How far can I go before it's unethical?
Well, why don't we stopworrying about that and just use
it for all the good stuffwithout worrying about the fringes.
But you know, somebody'salways going to do that anyway.
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Those are disruptions.
Now the question is, what areyour personal disruptions?
You can have a little one.
Okay.
I got a message from a clientthe other day that said, I don't
know if I want to, you know,keep going.
I don't know if, you know, ifI'm ready to do all the things you're
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asking me to do.
And it's not going to hurt meif that client says I'm done coaching.
That isn't going to hurt me.
My business is thriving.
I have clients, I'm doing allkinds of good stuff.
But it makes me sad for thembecause the truth is we, you and
me, we're only as powerful aswe choose to be.
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We are only as prepared as ourdaily routine.
We are only as committed asthe clarity of our vision.
If we have a fuzzy vision outthere, well, it's really hard to
get committed to fuzzy, fuzzystuff, you know, out of focus, picture.
It's not fun.
So get clear on your vision.
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That is a tool to get around disruptions.
All right, so you know aboutsome of mine.
I died in 2018.
You know, I got a fatalillness, necrotizing MRSA, right.
And that's a terrible superbugthat is antibiotic resistant.
And I talked to a lady theother day that said, wow, she had
it on her elbow once and itabout wrecked her arm.
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I know somebody that had tohave a limb amputated because of
that.
Well, I had that in both mylungs and in my bloodstream.
And the infectious disease hadat the university told me that is
a death sentence.
He said the 10 day kill rateof that is 100%.
And I didn't get to thehospital till the end of day five.
So my survival was a miracle.
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That was a disruption.
If you want the details, it'sin the book.
Meeting God at the door.
Meeting God at the door.
Looks like this.
Meeting God at the door.
I've got a green screen on, soit's showing there.
Meeting God at the door.
Conversations, choices andcommitments of a near death experience.
Tells you everything that happened.
Had three conversations.
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Anyway, it was a massivedisruption coma for 17 days, couldn't
walk, etc.
Etc.
So a lot of traumatic stuff.
Now, there can be little disruptions.
I'll give you an example.
I bought a camera online in astore in Canada, and all of a sudden
I wasn't getting any.
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You know, it didn't get aninvoice, didn't get an acknowledgment
of payment, and I paid him.
And it's quite an expensivevideo camera, several thousand dollars.
All of a sudden they began tothink, oh, no, what if it's a scam?
What if it's a blah, blah,blah, blah, blah.
So we got a hold of PayPal andcall, call, call, call, call.
And finally after severaldays, got a hold of the merchant,
still don't know if they'regoing to deliver.
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Promise, promise, promise, et cetera.
So that is a disruption.
Certainly not one as big asdying, not feeling good.
My.
You guys know from my storythat I've got back problems sometimes
and I use cane sometimes, etcetera, et cetera.
And some days that's more of adisruption than others.
All right, so those are mine.
Right now.
I want you to think of yours.
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Internal disruptions, right?
I'm not good enough.
I can't do this.
I'm lazy.
Oh, why do I always get distracted?
And on and on and on.
Those are all disruptions.
And they come from internalstories, they come from your own
beliefs.
They come from bad childhoodexperiences that you've allowed to
perpetuate to your adulthood.
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And boy, I did that for decades.
Literally decades, all thatkind of stuff.
So here is the issue for you, disruptions.
Friend or foe is the way Iwant to talk about this.
And so I want to give you somecontrast as we go through friend
or foe, because they can beeither one.
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Like I've said before,terrible experiences can ruin you,
or they can refine you, ruinyou or refine you.
And you know the cool thing?
You get to choose.
And the other good news is,even if you've chosen up to this
very day to let some terribleexperience ruin you, you can now
choose to let it refine you,because the decision is not permanent.
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You can choose to get lessonsand make choices so that it refines
you.
Disruption is going to exposeyour comfort zones.
When things get blown out ofproportion, you're going to rip the
COVID off your mediocrity.
And where are you settling for mediocrity?
Right?
Disruptions and the choicesyou make with them are what life
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is made out of.
The most important thing youor I have to offer is the story of
our life.
And I don't mean a memoir.
I'm talking about the growthchoices we make.
Now, here's a second invitation.
I want you right now, ifyou're not driving, to go to www.dreambuildwriteit.com
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www.dreambuildriteit.com threetimes a year, I conduct a challenge
that is an invitation toexplore your life story and make
money with it.
Save the world, change theworld, do big things.
And you might think my story'snot interesting.
I can't do that.
That's nonsense.
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That's fear talking.
And you have.
It's just not true.
Because you are striving for success.
You are striving to add goodto the world or you wouldn't be listening
to this show.
And the story of your growth,your choices, your resilience, ruin
refined.
The story of your circumstanceis your most valuable asset.
Mine too.
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Www.dreambuildwriteit.com Gothere and join the next challenge.
All right, so when you havedisruptions and they blow off your
comfort zone and they exposemediocrity, instead of getting angry
or after you've beenfrustrated or angry for just a minute,
why don't you choose to lookat it as the refiner's fire?
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And I know that might be uncomfortable.
You might say, why do I got tohave a refiner's fire?
Why does everything have to beso hard?
Okay, it's not.
What if we don't?
What if things went throughlife easily and we just cruised and
we didn't have to fight and wedidn't have to work hard and it just
cruised?
And mostly a few little thingshere and there, but mostly it was
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okay.
How powerful are you going tobe when you're dead at the end, when
you're finished?
You and I, we came into theworld with nothing, right?
Helpless, tiny baby with nothing.
When we leave, we're not goingto take anything either.
You know that old Alan Parsonssong, can't take it with you no matter
what you do.
And the it is all the physicalstuff, positions, power, money, houses,
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cars, whatever.
You're not going to take thatwith you.
It's not even going to matter.
The only thing me and you,we're going to take with us is what
we've made out of ourselves.
Well, that's the refiner'sfire stuff.
So I'll just talk about me,but I want you to hear it for you.
If I go through life avoidingskating not having tough things,
then that's the onlyrefinement I get.
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Mediocre.
So I'm going to show up at theend dead, only refined in a mediocre
way.
I can't stand mediocrity in myself.
I went, then my answer is,bring on the fire.
Bring on the fire.
Because when I go home again.
I did that once, Diane.
When I go home again, I wantto stand there as refined as I could
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be.
I want to have done everythingI could with the circumstances I
had, hard or otherwise, to beas refined as possible.
That's what I want.
I'm not telling you what youneed to want, but I can tell you
the refiner's fire is a gift.
It's not an enemy.
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Okay, so that is one way tothink about that.
Now, here's another one.
If you think of disruptions asa friend, it invites you into fierce
life ownership.
Now, you know, my mission thisyear is to visit with reach, talk
to 300 million people.
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That's a horrifically, nothorrifically, wonderfully big number,
right?
Talk to them about what?
Well, message.
Method.
Mastery.
Message.
Method mastery.
Message is what thepossibility is.
Method is how to get there.
And mastery is ultimate fiercelife ownership.
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The message is really simple.
Most of us, in fact, I wouldsay all of us to some degree or another,
live at one end of our possibility.
And there's a continuum.
And I realize that you may bewell on your way, not trying to offend
anybody, but the.
The unholy trinity ofcharacteristics over here are learned
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helplessness, where we believewe just can't do anything, addiction
to mediocrity, where we justsettle and victim mindset, where
we're talking about everythinghappens to me.
The other end of that rainbow,where the pot of gold is, is a fierce
life ownership, where yourealize you create everything.
You have a vivid and powerfulcommitment to excellence, where you
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choose to demand excellence of yourself.
We can't demand things ofothers, but demand excellence of
yourself.
And we live every day with aheart, a yearning, a love, a commitment
to service.
So the message is you and youalone can move from addiction to
mediocrity, learnedhelplessness, and victim mindset
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to a place of fierce lifeownership, commitment to excellence,
and a yearning to serve.
That trinity is the most happyplace in the world.
If you take fierce lifeownership and you do it, and you
create your life every day,and you love serving and you have
a commitment to excellence,that doesn't mean perfection, but
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a commitment to excellence,that is the place of the most joy.
I have ever experienced.
I want you to think about that.
I've never been satisfied with mediocrity.
I've never been satisfied withthe victim thing.
And I don't believe you trulyare either.
So it is a catalyst.
Disruption is a catalyst.
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It calls forth awareness.
It calls forth the opportunityto serve, to grow, and you know exactly
what I mean.
Now, if we treat it as a foe,then it's going to be.
I refuse to adapt.
I'm afraid of it.
I get it mad at it.
I rail at it.
I yell at whoever caused it,whether it's God or the universe
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or the economy or the election.
You know, you got peoplerunning around frothing at the mouth.
I live in Canada, but we justhad an election too.
So it's the same up here.
You got people running aroundin the United States and Canada,
at least frothing at the mouthabout the fact that Trump won the
election.
There would be people frothingat the mouth if the other way had
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happened, right?
Blaming that outcome for yourproblems is the most ridiculous waste
of time because it doesn'tchange anything.
It doesn't advance your.
Our growth.
Either one of us did it.
It doesn't do that.
So quit pretending that it does.
If you want to protest, if youwant to vote different, if you want
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to encourage, encourage thisor that, go ahead.
But blaming your lack ofpossibility and success on an externality
is like that guy that stood atthe seashore trying to hold back
the tide.
I forgot his name.
It was a mythology story aboutsome dude that, some king, and he
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thought by the power of hisroyal presence, he was going to hold
back the tide.
Well, that's nonsense.
You are sovereign.
Act like it.
All right, another role of discipline.
I want to talk about the roleof trust and discipline in navigating
disruption.
Trust and discipline.
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Those are two super powerful words.
Trust in your own ability.
Trust in your divine capability.
You can refuse to believe inGod if you want to, but you have
had circumstances in, in yourlife where, you know, there has been
intuition.
Call it your higher self, thehigher power, the universe, whatever
you want.
There's something bigger thanyou and you know it.
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Trust.
Trust.
Learn to develop thatintuition and then trust it, which
means take action.
That is particularly importantwhen some big disruption has happened.
Something has shut you down,pushed you off course, blown up what
you were trying to do, orwhatever it is.
Trust there's a path back.
Trust there is a way forward.
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Trust there is possibility ahead.
It doesn't mean it's easy andyou won't have to crawl over some
broken glass or walk over somehot coals.
But trust is so critical ingenerating the power to do that.
Because if we don't trust thatthere's anything going forward, then
the only thing we're evergoing to do is stand at the edge
of life and stick our toe inand wait for somebody to promise
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us that it won't be difficult.
Not going to happen.
No one is coming.
So discipline is the same way.
Discipline, some people think,is a harsh word.
I have a client who says sheloves the word discipline.
It comes from the worddisciple, which means a follower
of.
Are you a follower of excellence?
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A follower of fierce lifeownership, A follower of your own
gifts and talents?
Most folks don't recognize orvalue their own gifts and talents.
They don't honor and realizethe power and opportunity that they
have.
So I'm speaking to you now.
Your gifts and talents, yourthings that you've developed, the
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stuff you know you do well,the learnings from your life experience.
Are you sharing those with others?
Because when we overcomesomething, you know what, funny,
one of the first things thathappen is we have this yearning to
share with other people, tohelp them avoid the pain, discomfort,
struggle that you or I have endured.
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So make a choice.
Make a choice, because thechoice is yours to prepare every
day.
That's why the PTAC is so important.
Another invitation for you isthe book Living with Purpose and
Power.
And I don't have it right here.
Oh yes I do.
Right here.
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Living with purpose and Power.
I invite you to read this.
This is the best book everwritten about how to create your
life purpose.
People say, well, I can't.
I don't know what my purpose is.
Well, you know, it's not goingto come in an Amazon box.
You're going to go, and you'renot going to go dig it up in the
yard.
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It comes when you mine yourgifts and talents.
It comes when you dive intothe service of others.
There's a triple helix.
Your skills, the things you'velearned and are probably selling
in the marketplace.
Your gifts, which are thosenatural proclivities you and I came
with and your life experience,which is the basket in which all
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of that unfolded.
Those things together you canfind your calling, your yearning.
And that yearning will poweryou through any disruption.
Disruption.
So here's another modern day disruption.
AI.
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You got people frantic aboutwhat it's going to do.
And I listened to part of thetestimony before the United States
Congress the other day aboutSam Altman, the guy that's running
OpenAI at Chat chatgpt companyhe talked about some scary stuff,
but it's only scary if youdon't plan for it and use it.
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You know, if you want to sitand imagine a future where AI becomes
sentient and we're all goingto be subject to robots, go ahead.
You can imagine that and be aprepper and doomsday watcher for
that if you want to.
I don't know how fast and howintelligent and how capable those
devices are becoming.
I know it's way faster thanyou or I know because the cutting
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edge is never what's availableto consumers and even smart people
that read all the articles.
Way past that, experimental things.
So instead of worrying, takethat disruption and use it.
Okay?
I remember in the 80s whensynthesizers first came out, musicians
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of the world thought that wasgoing to be the end of orchestras
and music, the music industry.
And it's turned out here now,30 years, 40 years later, it's not
at all or just another tool.
AI is going to be the same way.
And this tool is gettingbetter and better and faster and
faster and who knows, there'sgoing to be a point of singularity
where it exceeds our abilityand attention.
You know, artificial generalintelligence, AGI is what they call
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that, where the AI can thinkand reason and do everything a human
brain can do.
I don't know, a year, fiveyears maybe that will come.
In the meantime, I'm going toprepare and I'm going to use it for
all it's worth.
I just had a convo with ChatChatty this morning about a university
I'm creating.
I am launching your ultimatelife coaching university in January
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of 26.
It's going to be the mostpowerful, best coaching university
in the world with the mostpowerful profound graduates, the
most awesome prepared and youknow why?
Because AI is going to disruptthe coaching industry is going to
blow it to pieces.
Mediocrity will no longer beallowed because AI will perform at
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the level of 85 to 90% ofcoaching today, which is formulaic
and information driven.
Well, no Olympic athlete gotto the podium with information.
No one got to the podium of inany field with just information.
The transformation,transmutation, the biggest word you
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can find, which is a statechange in the beingness of someone.
That's what got you to thepodium when you move from I can't
do this, I doubt myself to Iknow I can.
And information, howeversophisticated, does not provide that
growth.
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So this huge disruption is a.
I use it, maximize it, don'tcheat don't plagiarize, don't push
the edges, but use it.
And this isn't the podcastepisode to teach about that.
And I might do that later, Idon't know.
But that changes, like every minute.
I'm two months ahead, so I'mrecording this.
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By the time it came out,everything I taught about it would
be yesterday's news.
I just went and spoke at anevent, Philadelphia, a few days ago,
and one of the speakers onthere was a high powered AI nerd
and he talked about everydifferent platform and his view about
what it's good for and so forth.
And I realize in two or threemonths that'll all be wrong anyway,
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and that's okay.
That's how fast this is growing.
So this modern day disruption,don't let it wreck your life.
Don't let anything wreck your life.
You're the sovereign, you own it.
All right, so here's one more thing.
How did.
How do you.
How do you turn a disruptionof any kind, whether it's emotional,
in a relationship, financial,technological, how do you turn that
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into power?
Well, let's talk about that.
Let's ask.
Always when something happensthat wasn't expected, that messes
up your status quo, Here's a question.
What is the gift here?
Because there is always a gift.
And we might be inclined torail first and say, there's no gift,
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it's not fair, and scream atwhoever, but the truth is, there's
always the seeds of greater opportunity.
In every failure, there isalways the seed of equal or greater
opportunity.
Somebody said that.
Can't tell you who the quotewas, and I don't even know if I got
it right.
But the idea is, I don't carewhat happens.
You can get past it and exceedit if you want to, or you can let
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it beat the crap out of youand lay down.
But you know where that goes.
Frustration, depression, badrelationships, your addictions.
Other places are worse.
This is your sovereign call tostand up, create your ultimate life.
Now, when you ask what thegift is, then say, okay, what can
I do right now?
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And don't say, well, I'll do it.
When you know some.
If you blame an externality orwait for something outside to change,
you're missing the point.
Sovereign ownership is takingimmediate assessment and acting.
So if you've got a financialdisaster, okay, this happened.
What can I do right now?
Who do I need to call?
What do I need to get organized?
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What do I need to sell?
When I went to hospital, youknow, and died, and we didn't have
any idea how long I was goingto be there or how long I was going
to be in a coma or anything.
Our, you know, finances werein disarray because why?
Because I'm a coach and Ican't coach when I'm in a coma.
So Joy took immediate actionto revitalize something she had done
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for a long time.
She was an ebay merchant.
So she got a bunch of stuffup, start selling things and getting
stuff organized so that wewere able to continue while I was
helpless and unconsciousmoving things.
And she did that on top ofcoming to see me in the hospital.
So choosing action overflailing is a way to manage a disruption.
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Now, in the book Living withpurpose and Power that I showed you,
there's another documentcalled the scroll of Truth and Power.
That document, read it.
It will show you where you'reholding back.
Because a disruption, like Isaid, it kicks you out of your comfort
zone earlier.
It will always reveal alwayswhere you can take more powerful
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ownership and create largergrowth personally, professionally,
financially.
Because none of us havereached the top of that mountain.
And the only question for meor you is are you willing to walk
the path, make friends withthe disruption.
I don't care what it is,financial, relationship, health,
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anything else, make friends.
What is the gift here?
What is my first step?
Inherent in that process ispersonal growth, refiner's fire and
success.
It's not just a rhetoricalexercise where you try to distract
yourself.
It is the path of growth,refinement, where you use a precious
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metal and heat to take out allthe impurities, is real.
And it's available today,right this minute, no matter what
your disruptions are.
I know it.
I promise it.
And here's the final invitation.
If you have a story ofresilience and overcoming you'd like
to share, get a hold of me.
Go to www.kellenfluekegermedia.com sorry, www.kellenfluker
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media.com there's a contactform there.
Go there.
Get a hold of me.
Let's talk.
I want to have you on the show.
If you've got a story to tell.
If you have another story, notanother, but if you have a story
you want to make money withand change the world, I invite you
to go to the Dream build.
Write it.
Www.dreambuildriteit.com Jointhe challenge.
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Let's figure out how to turnyour life experience into power,
passion and profit as youserve as a final takeaway.
Understand that no matter whatis going on around you.
You are the sovereign of your life.
You're creating it one way or another.
Whether you're acknowledgingit or not, or whether you like it
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or not.
I invite you to take thatownership seriously and create your
ultimate life right here,right now.
Your opportunity for massivegrowth is right in front of you.
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will change everything.
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