June 3, 2025 • 45 mins
Feeling constantly stressed, anxious, or stuck—even when you "do the right things"? Tia Cristy joins Kellan Fluckiger to expose the real reason you're not getting relief. From chronic low-level stress to invisible energetic interference, this episode unpacks what most gurus won’t tell you.
💥 Discover how frequency affects your mental health.
💥 Learn why meditation doesn’t work the same for everyone.
💥 Understand the two stress types—and how to actually relieve yours.
💥 Explore Tia’s viral TEDx talk + tips that are helping people worldwide.
👇 CALLS TO ACTION 👇
📍 Watch Tia’s TEDx Talk: “It’s All Stress – The Frazzler vs. The Silent Stressor” on YouTube
📍 Visit Tia’s Hub of 40,000+ Life Tips: https://www.tipsfromtia.com
📍 Join the DreamBuildWriteIt Challenge (Starts June 2!): https://www.dreambuildwriteit.com
📍 Connect with Kellan: https://www.kellanfluckigermedia.com
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Hello and welcome to today'sshow. Today's episode of your ultimate,
ultimate life, the podcast Icreated to help you both realize
and create a life of purpose,prosperity and joy by serving with
your gifts and talents andlife experience. Today I have a special
guest, as you can see, TiaChristie. Tia, welcome to the show.
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Hello. Thank you so much forhaving me.
You are welcome. I'm delightedto have you here. We've known each
other for, you know, a whileand we just haven't had the chance
to do this yet. So I'm goingto start with perhaps an unexpected
question. I want you to,without being modest in any way,
tell our listeners how, howdoes TIA add good to the world?
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Ah, TIA adds good to theworld. I. I love helping people.
I. I know it sounds cliche tosome people, but finding your own
special, like superpowers andhow to do that can be very challenging
for people. So I'm really goodat tips. You know this, Kellen. I'm
really good at tips and I tellpeople how to make their everyday
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life a little less stressful.So that's how I really have made
a positive impact in thisworld. And it's so simple, it's something
that comes so easy to me. Butit was really incredible to find
out that I was helping peopleall over the world by giving just
these simple little tips.
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I love that. And what, whatmade you, like, did you start from
a really stressful place thatmade you start looking for ways to
de. Stress yourself?
I have been getting a versionof tips from TIA since I was a teenager.
I mean, I started out, I thinkI was like 16 years old writing for
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one of the local magazines,writing about prom and pimples. Like,
seriously?
Oh, wow.
Always been some kind ofversion of tips from TIA and yeah,
it took me many, many years tofigure out that it wasn't just useless
information. It was actuallysomething that was causing a really
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cool impact in the world.First locally, first in the community,
and then it branched out to worldwide.
So we'll talk more about that.Why do you think, and I believe you
and I'm glad you're doing it.Why do you think we live in such
a stress filled world thatmakes it necessary? I mean, I love
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what you do and what you do iswonderful. How did we get here.
Oh, lots of expectation onourselves from society. You know,
we stress about everything. I,you know, I did my, my TEDX talk
on that and you're familiarwith that. And it is a worldwide
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epidemic. It is something thatpeople stress over everything. And
you know, I take it back tothe fact that, you know, it's chemical.
We have our adrenaline drop,you know, and our amygdala. When
it releases that chemical, youknow, it doesn't, it doesn't dose
us. It, it's one drop andthat's, that's what we get. So, you
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know, this was put in us so wecould take on like a lion or you
know, find our dinner and youknow, hunt it down. But now we get
to use it in traffic orstanding in a long line. And it really
causes that, that overwhelmingstress. You know, there's so much
energy, we don't know how torelease it. And you know, we got
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to find positive ways torelease it instead of just being
angry at everybody else in theworld. You know, we're all going
through is.
And it's, you know, the, theat least one, several things I read
said that, okay, we have thisthing for protection and food and
all that stuff. And that wassupposed to be like on and off. So
you have a thing and you go doit and then it goes away. And it
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seems like today we live in aworld where it's a minimum, a constant
low level, where we sort oflive on a base level of stress instead
of ever turning it off. Whatdoes that do to me or a person who
lives at that 20% or 30% on,in terms of that stress chemicals
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that you were talking about?
I love it. Did you see meadjust? Like this is where I get
to really nerd out. I getreally good.
I want you to tell me whatthat does to me to get all that in
there sort of on a constant basis.
Well, what happens I think iswe're running on a different frequency
nowadays. I read I'm selfproclaimed nerd. I read a lot of
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research and different thingsand that's what, what helps me do
what I do. But you know,we're, we're running on a different
frequency than normal. Theearth was always at like 1:32 or
I'm sorry, 432. And now sincelike 5G was unleashed, we're at a
different frequency. It's nota great frequency for us. It's a
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very stressful frequency. So,you know, we're constantly almost
like in a bad mood. You know,this vibration that's coming through
us. Right. So we have to kindof combat that with other ways of
doing it. That's spending timein nature, that's spending time,
you know, listening tofrequencies that are at 432. A lot
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of oldie songs are, are doneat 4:32. So you know, it's, it's
trying to give that brain whatit needs and give that body the energy
that it needs. But what it'sdoing to you when you stay in the
stressful, anxious, you know,high energy of frustration, it's
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causing illnesses. I mean thisis like the number one cause of major
illnesses across the world.And like number one being, you know,
heart, it's affecting yourheart. Everybody's got a bad heart
nowadays and we can blame, youknow, the vaccines and you know,
different things like that.Sure, sure. But we're not, we're
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not doing ourselves a favor bybeing this stressed out all the time.
Right. But we're talkingabout, we have issues with weight
gain, weight loss, you know,thyroid issues, depression, anxieties,
you know, we get into themental stuff of it. So we just want
to, we want to make sure thatwe are really doing things to combat
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that and really taking care ofourselves because we can, we can
take all the vitamins, youknow, that are on the market. But
if we're not taking care ofthe internal, we're just, we're not
going to make it.
So I love this because yousaid something that I want to make
sure that listeners arehearing and that is the natural stuff
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around us used to be X and youmentioned 432. And if you listeners
do a little woo woo stuff,you'll find that that's a frequency,
you know, tuning that you canuse. A440 is what pianos and orchestras
are tuned to it, but 432 is aslightly lower frequency that is
a more natural one. And whatyou've said is we as a society have
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created an environment wherewe live in a different frequency
and the outcome of that isthis underlying stress. So we've
manufactured a thing and Iguess what it makes me think of is
air quality. You know, when Iwas growing up in California there
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were years where, you knowthat smog in LA used to be something
they talked about all thetime. It was really bad and the sky
was brown and that was amanufactured thing. And then we did,
you know, emissions and carsand all that stuff. And now it's
not like that. And so we did athing and created a mess. We said,
oh crap, it's a mess. And thenwe did some things to uncreate it.
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And we didn't all have to stayhome and we didn't all have to quit
doing stuff. And this remindsme of that. We've created this frantic
always on cell phone in yourface, tablet in one hand and whatever
in the other. And that haselevated this frequency, in other
words, the status in which welive to a place that's not healthy.
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And what you're teaching us isthat there are things that you can
do to fix it. Just like we arefixing or working on air quality.
Did I say that right?
Yes, correct. I mean that islike the perfect analogy of it. Yeah.
We've created this environmentand you know, is now radiating on
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a different frequency. And ifwe go back into nature, if we go
and we find the resources andyou know, like you said there, there
are different frequencies. Youwant to get like woo and get like
really into it. You know,obviously, you know, vibrating on
a higher frequency can bevery, very important for excelling
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and abundance and you know,different things like that, you know,
they, they call it the angelmusic, you know, and they call that
for, for a specific reasonthey call it that. And it's beautiful.
But naturally the earth wasvibrating at the 432. So that's what,
that's what we were all borninto. That's what we knew. And you
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know, they say even babiesbeing born now are being born into
432, but instantly coming intothis, this other frequency, you know,
since 5G. And you know, it's avery stifling frequency. So we want
to try to make sure that weare doing everything we can to balance
that back.
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So now we've, we've identifiedthe problem and so for a minute I've
got a whole nother tact. Iwant to go on in a minute or in a
few minutes. But right now Iwant you to teach us some things.
So you said you've been givingtips for people, for their lives,
for different things, all theway back to prominent pimples and
which of course for a 16 yearold would be a big deal, but now
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you're doing different thingsand have been for many years and
this one is about stress. So.And you've mentioned some sort of
casually as you've gonethrough, but why don't you give us
maybe four or five that areeasy, they're available to people
and they don't have to go someweird place, a mountaintop or Sedona
or someplace that they cansort of do at home. And the reason
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I'm asking for this is I wantpeople to test this out, you know,
do this and try it and seewhat happens. So give us some stuff
that. That we can do this afternoon.
This afternoon. I love that.Well, for. If I could at least mention
my TedX. So my TedX was reallycool. It went viral. And, you know,
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we all hear about the. Thestress, how to reduce stress, you
know, eat right, sleep right,you know, meditate and exercise.
Right. And it's all. It's allnicely packaged. But the fact is,
is we are different kinds ofstressors. And I say there's two
forms. So you got this, thesilent stressor, and you got the
frazzler. And the differencebetween the two is the silent stressor
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keeps everything in, and thefrazzler is kind of like everything's
out all over. And they make.Yeah, and they make everybody else
stress along with them. So. Soyou kind of got to know what kind
of stressor you are to reallyhelp combat that, you know, doesn't
that make a lot of sense whenyou think about it?
Sure.
So, like with frazzlers, youknow, they don't know how to meditate.
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They're just going all thetime, and they're like. So they really
have to learn how to work ontheir meditation skills where, like
a silent stressor, they justmeditate on their problems, like,
all the time. So they're.They're overthinkers a lot of times.
So, I mean, both are. We'renot going to. We're not going to
say that they're not, but, youknow, it's very interesting. So for
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a silent stressor, you know,something that would be really good
is to go out and exercise. Sogo for a run or, you know, something
that can really uncork thatenergy that's going on inside. Silence
stressors, they need to learnhow to express how they're feeling.
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A lot of times, silentstressors will just go on the. Whatever,
you know, whatever you want todo, it's fine. They don't want to
ruffle any kind of feathers oranything like that. They want to
make sure that it's.Everything's kind of going smooth.
So they have to learn how toname what they're feeling. They have
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to learn how to share. Andthat's really hard for a silent stressor,
but it's really important. Nowit's opposite for a frazzler. A frazzler
is going to want to. Have tolearn how to not be so emotional
when they share. I'm notSaying don't share. I'm saying learn
how to be more factual thanemotional in the share. You know,
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instead of trying to stressout everybody else around you. Everybody
loves when I say stress vomit.Like, instead of stress vomiting
on everybody, like, make surethat you are finding out the facts
of it and then sharing thosefacts, very Cliff Notes version of
it. And, you know, learningalso how to turn inward and being
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able to kind of go through theproblem, you know, internally before
sharing it externally. It'sreally interesting when you think,
you know, how, how it can bevery opposite for one another.
You know, I've never been hadit explained to me like that in those
groupings and in listening toyou do that, it becomes really clear
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right away. Oh yeah, ofcourse, there's the ones that stuff
it in and then they burn upinside. And then there's the people
that, you know, splatter itall over everybody else. And it doesn't
really relieve their stressbecause everybody's so busy worrying
about cleaning off the messthat they're not helping anybody
anyway. So tell, tell uswhere, like, I love that you did
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this TED Talk and I want youto tell us two things. One, where
to find the TED Talk, becauseyou said it got good distribution
and that's fabulous. And thesecond thing is where would be the
easiest place for me or one ofour listeners to go learn more about
how to do what you just toldme? If I figure out if I'm a stuffer
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as opposed to a vomiter,where's the best place for me to
go and at least get like 101to do something about that? So those
two things.
Oh, okay. So. Well, I thinkboth can be answered with go ahead
and watch my TEDx because I dogive a lot more tips in there and
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I talk about how self care issuper important no matter which one
you are. So my TEDx is calledit's all stress, the frazzler versus
the silent stressor. And it'son YouTube. And honestly, all you
got to do is probably Googlemy name, Tia, Christy, C R I S T
Y and put in TEDx and itshould come up. It was, it was showcased
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on TEDx as well. And so it'sout there, it's out there circulating.
But yeah, I think the 101 onit is again, the blanket of, you
know, eat right, sleep right,exercise and meditation. Four minutes
a day of meditation can changethe outlook of your entire life.
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It can actually increase yearson your life, which is just amazing.
And that's only four minutes Aday which, you know, people are like,
well, how do I meditate? Andwe go over that in the talk. But
you know, there's, there'sseveral forms of meditation. You
know, most people are familiarwith that, you know, one. But when
I started, I did not know howto do that. I couldn't do it. So
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I did it a lot of times withmusic or by prayer. But I learned
how to do movement meditation.And once I started doing movement
meditation, I can now go intoa meditative state. You know, just
sitting there doing that forhours, like it's, it's incredible.
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And what, what a stressrelieving journey it can be. So,
yeah, I highly recommend it.
I'm glad you said that. It'sfunny because I've written a lot
of books in my career and thefirst five were a five volume series
on meditation because I, ithas played a pivotal role in, in
my own life. And I talk abouta whole bunch of different styles
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of possibility approaches tothat. So that's really good. And
it's funny because peoplethink I don't know how. And that's
not actually very important tostart with, right? There's a million
free videos or whatever. Thepoint is, go try. It isn't about
getting good at it. You don'tmeditate to get good at meditation.
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You meditate to get good atlife, to clean out your stress and
to do other stuff. It's atool, you know, like taking a shower.
I don't take a shower justbecause I love standing underwater.
I take shower so I get cleanand relax and a bunch of other things.
And so meditation is a tool tolower your stress, lower your blood
pressure, feel better. Andthere's a whole list of things that
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it does. So couldn't agreewith you more on that. So, yeah,
I'm glad that you gave thattalk and that it was featured on
ted. What a, what an honor.What a great thing. So I would encourage
people to go take a look atthat. Yeah, that's wonderful. So
now I'm gonna switch gears nowfor a minute and I want you to tell
me a little bit about yourjourney. You said you've been given
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tips since you were 16 andthat's, you know, a few minutes anyway.
So like, how did you decide wedon't act. I mean, a lot of people
go through life sort ofaccidentally, you know, they just
sort of react to things. Butwe talked in the very beginning about
creating our life on purposeand we've been talking about things
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that pull us away from that,which Are all these stresses and
frequencies and things andthings that help with that, which
is learning, the tool ofmeditation, among others. What. What
brought you, like, why is itimportant for TIA to help people
overcome, manage, eliminatestress difficulties? And I think
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it's probably more than juststress. Why is that important to
you?
Yeah, it's interesting thatyou say that, and of course it is.
It's more than just stress.It's, you know, just everyday life
is what I help people with,but, you know, stress. It's funny.
I always thought that I wasreally good at managing stress, and
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I. I discovered stress, Ithink, very early in my childhood
just because of my home life,you know, the things that the family
was experiencing, goingthrough you know, different things
like that. And, you know, as achild, it's kind of like you don't
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talk about certain things.You're not supposed to talk about
that. That's, you know, that'sin the family and, you know, so you
learn. And, like, I am asilent stressor. So I've learned,
you know, okay, just keep itin. Just, you know, work with it,
you know, So I always thoughtI was really good at maintaining
stress. And, you know, when Icame across people that were stressing
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out, and I became. I becamelike this light, you know, where
people with stress would justkind of, like, you know, float to
and they would share with me.And it was really interesting to
hear the stresses that peoplewere going through and then how each
person's story was different,but the stresses were the same. And
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I was like, okay, you know,this is. This is something that everybody's
going through, and if I canprovide a little bit more of a trusted
resource for people to be ableto find the answer that they're looking
for, that's cool, you know,And I did it just as a passion project.
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I mean, that's what I reallyset out to do. I just wanted to help
people. I wanted to makepeople feel like they're not alone,
because that's a big thing inthis world. A lot of people feel
alone, and it causes a lot ofmental anguish and mental health
issues. But it. It really canmake people angry, too, feeling alone.
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And I don't want people tofeel angry. You know, it's. We're
in this together. Even though,like I said, people's stories are
different, the issues arestill the same. And let's. Let's
figure it out together. Sothere's a really. I developed it.
Yeah. There's a reallyimportant two things that come to
me. There's one is we're notalone. And when I work with folks
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as you do, one of the mostimportant things for someone to internalize
is the fact that they're notalone. Because everybody runs around,
no matter what, feeling likethey're the only person that fill
in the blank. You know, nobodyknows the trouble I've seen but Jesus,
you know, that kind of songthat means thought nobody could possibly.
And when you finally land onthe fact that the details are different
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but the core of the humanexperience is very shareable and
shared and the same. And it'sso comforting, powerful to have that
common connection. So I getthat you figured this out early because
of circumstances in your life,and somebody could say, well, I figured
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it out for me and I'm good,and I'll just go do my stuff. You
know, I'm going to go buildwidgets or build bridges or something,
I don't know. But you decided,no, I'm not going to just build bridges
over here and have it figuredout for me. I'm going to go on a
crusade to help other peoplesolve this problem. And I know I
asked you this question aminute ago, but I want you to answer
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it a little bit more. What isin your heart that makes that sharing
important? After you figuredit out for you, why did it then go
to now I got to help all theseother people with this? How come?
Well, I think, you know, toanswer it a little bit more clearly
is I like you, I started out acareer in radio. I was on the radio
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for most of my life. And whatI came to find out is that I had
a voice people wanted tolisten to, and I had the ability
to make an impact and. And bean influencer. And I really wanted
to always use my powers forgood. And I didn't want to be a shock
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jock or a gossip, you know?Right. I wanted to. I wanted to teach
people kindness, and I wantedto teach people there's a better
way to live. And, you know, Ilooked at it as people were allowing
me to be part of their specialmoment, so why not make them part
of my special moment? And whenI started doing that, then I started
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opening up, I think a littlebit more. I was being a little bit
more brave in sharing my tips.And, you know, when I started to
get the responses from peopleon how I was helping them, that just
fueled me even more to helpmore and more people. So, you know,
then in 2012 is when I startedthe website. And honestly, that started
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from darkness in. In my life,I had been really really sick and
I lost my motor skills. I, Imean, like, it was really, really
bad. And I thought I'm, I'mlosing all these memories of, of
these tips, like, how do I,how do I save them? How do I preserve
this? And I was like, oh, geta 99 cent website. And I started
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writing them down and that wastherapy for me. And within six months
I started feeling better and Istarted getting letters from all
over the world saying, thankyou for helping me. So that's really
how it happened.
Thank you. And that's, I loveasking that question the more thorough
way. And the reason is italmost always when I dig into people's
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stories, goes in this patternwhich says, I had a problem, I figured
out something that I needed todo and I solved it, either partly
or I'm on the way or foundsome effective ways. And somehow
with that healing ofourselves, there rises up in us the
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yearning to help others withthe same thing. And it's so interesting
that that's always the thing.We fix something and it's like, wow,
I can help somebody with this.And then we have this yearning to
do. And nobody wants to hideit in the closet or keep it for themselves,
even though they could. Wedon't want to. And I think it's just
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how we're built. Like we'rebuilt to love and serve each other,
it seems like to me.
I agree. I agree so much. Yeah.
So website, tell me about thewebsite and what I can find there.
Because we've Talked aboutyour TEDx and how to find that. Now
tell me about the websitethat's now been 13 years going. Sounds
like if you started in 12, so13 years ago. Tell me, tell us about
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that, what's there and whatcan we find there.
I think there, somebody toldme there's like 40,000 tips on there
currently. And I was like,wow. Yeah. So that is tips from TIA.com
and like I said, I startedthat in 2012 and I, when it came
out is like a bee's knees. Imean, nobody saw anything like it.
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Now it is in process of beingrebranded and revamped, but everything
that's on there, theinformation is good and it's trusted.
And I would say about 90% ofthe tips have been tested and approved.
Because that's, honestly,that's really why I started it. It
was. People were googling thewrong answer and that was really
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frustrating to me. I, I'llnever forget the one that was like
the straw that broke thecamel's back for me was how to get
red wine stain out of a carpetand somebody told me, oh, you just
pour white wine on it. And Iwas like, what? Oh my gosh. So it
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will, it will make the red goaway, sure. But it'll eventually
leave a big brown sugar stainon the carpet. And yeah, so I was
like, oh, you can't do that.Like it's awful. And not to mention
what you're doing to thepadding underneath and you know,
the, the ability to createmold and bacteria and all that great
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stuff. So anyway, that waskind of like the, the catalyst that
pushed me over the edge and Iwas like, yes, I have to really start
to share these tips withpeople. And so it's, it's where you
can search at the top, there'sa search bar and you can put in lemons
and you'll get like all thearticles that have to deal with lemons.
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But you know, I really am inprogress of making it more like,
like a Huffington Post whereit is that, that resource where it's
so self serving like you'rejust going to type in lemons and
you know, you will get all 10articles like on what to do with
lemons and you know, it'll be,you know, something that really will
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be that trusted hub foreverybody to go and get their, their
resource, their, their life hacks.
You know, it sounds like Chad,GPT better make sure they crawl your
tip site so they give goodanswers. Right?
Yeah.
Yes, I love it.
Exactly.
So I love your story becausewe started talking about stress and
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personal management and livinglonger and burning out and meditation
and stuff. Now all of a suddenwe jump to wine stains in carpet.
So I love that. Which meansthat the tips and like I didn't know
this, the tips are about40,000 tips, not about meditation
and stress but about all kindsof stuff. Is that true?
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Yes. So we got, we got health,beauty, home sexual health, mental
health. So it is all aboutmaking the uncomfortable comfortable.
So we take those conversationsthat people might not want to have
and put the, put the answer upthere on tips from tia. And I've
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worked with doctors andspecialists. Like so it's obviously
there's disclaimers, you know,don't, you know, talk to your doctor
first before trying somethingand don't.
Try this at home. Right. Thatkind of thing.
You know, well, people haveallergies, you know, things like
that. So you know, always besmart and cautious and you know,
definitely you're on a lot ofmedications, different things like
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that. So you're going to wantto Talk to your doctor before, you
know, trying this home remedy.But, you know, it's, it's on there.
And we really, you know, wewant to make sure that people are
getting the right answers, notthe wrong answers. It's super important
to me.
I love that and I love thatit's across a huge broad spectrum.
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And I think my wife, who'salso my business partner and also
I have an angel that lives inmy house, and it's all the same person,
she goes to Jadi and says, soI have these ingredients and I want
a recipe, an Italian recipeusing this stuff, and it'll do it.
And that's why I was thinkingit needs to make sure it looks at
your tips so that whensomebody asks a question, it's got
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good answers. What's theweirdest? Like, I know there's probably
a, a group that would jump upand say, me, but what's the, in most.
The funniest or weirdest topicthat you've got tips on that you
can think of right now?
Well, I, I was going to sayreal quick with Chat GPT, I'm very
honored because if you askChatGPT about tips from TIA, it will
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say it is the number onetrusted resource for everyday lifestyle
tips. And I'm like, that's so cool.
Wow, what a cool thing. Yeah.Hot dog.
Yeah. That's pretty awesome.
It is awesome.
So the weirdest tips. Oh, mygosh, there's so many.
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It doesn't have to be theweirdest. Yeah.
One of the, one of the highestsearched is how to get rid of dandruff.
You know that one? A lot ofpeople want to know how to get rid
of dandruff. Another one ishow to get rid of hickeys.
Oh, yeah.
So people want to know how toget rid of hickeys. There's also,
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you know, I think, I think alot of the sexual health funds they
get, they get a lot oftraction, you know, because that's
just stuff people don't wantto talk about, you know, and that
was the other thing. Like, Ididn't want people learning from
wrong resources either on howthings are supposed to be.
Sure. So, so let's, I want togo on, move on to more. You told
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me before we started that you,you travel a bit and you go to places
speaking. So I know that youtalked about stress in your TEDx.
And when you go on stage, doyou have two or three things that
you're known for or asked tospeak about a lot? And if you do
what are they?
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So what I'm usually asked tospeak about majority of the time
is communication. So I'm acommunication specialist, as you
know. And so I help peoplecommunicate better, whether it be
in, you know, business,personal relationships, things like
that. And, you know, it kindof all falls under, you know, my
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tips umbrella because I'malways giving tips on, like, how
to do things andcommunication, though. That's my
jam. Like, I just love to beable to communicate with people.
You know, I think that most ofthe time, you know, people think,
oh, I've been, I've beentalking for so long. You know, I've
been doing it since I was ababy. I'm pretty good at it. Ironically,
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the older we get, the morevocabulary we learn, you know, the
worse we get at communicatingbecause, you know, now we're, now
we're worried about otherpeople's responses, thoughts. We're
so worried about lookingstupid, you know, so there's so many
things that go into it. So alot of times companies will hire
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me or, you know, I'll getinvolved as like a keynote to talk
about, like, how to bridgethese connections, the art of communication,
you know, how to networkbetter, how to take communication
and create it into sales, youknow, so there's, there's a lot that
goes into it. Communicationgoes into everything we do, everything.
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It absolutely does. So if youthink about, like, besides we're
built, us all being built tolove and serve, most people, especially
those that have gone throughsome, some different kinds of difficulty,
have a way that they like tohelp. And you're, you give tips and
you teach communication. Ifyou were to say what your vision
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is, like, if, if Tia was ableto have the impact in the world that
she wanted, what does thatlook like? Like, what drives you
on a macro scale?
Ah, well, I always tellpeople, I'm like, I'm going to be
the Martha Stewart of tips.You know, Martha did it right. You
know, she really did. And loveor hater, you know, like, she, she
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really was great at how shewas able to reach the masses in what
she was trying to do. And youknow, for me, like, I don't have,
I don't have a specific niche,right? I end up having these, these
buckets of, you know,different ways to make everyday lifestyle
tips happen for people. And Ithink what I see in the vision down
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the line is that I will be,you know, up on stages still helping
people communicate and givingthem tips on how to be less stressful
and different things likethat, but also tips from TIA will
be that. That wonderful hub,you know, doing its thing, able to
really get into the nittygritty of life for people. Probably.
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I, I want to incorporate AI atsome point in time also to help,
really be able to pinpointspecific needs for people. But then
also I want to have a.Clothes. Not a clothing, but a product
line of like home goods stuff,you know, in, in, you know, so basically
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like maybe Target or Walmartor something like that. But it's
going to be like cuttingboards, towels, you know, kind of.
That kind of thing. So, yeah,I feel like me. Martha has paved
the path for me to come up anddo what she has done. You know, somebody's.
Somebody's gonna have to take that.
Yeah, well, she's. She's wellin her. Yeah, she's well in her 80s
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now, and so that's not goingto last forever, even though the
name will be around for a longtime. So what, what gets you up in
the morning? Like, what isthe. If you had to list the passion,
because, you know, thispodcast, all things about how to
live your ultimate life, whichis purpose, prosperity and joy. And
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I'm asking about purpose, andyou've been talking about it a bit.
Is, is there something thatyou. That you just wake up excited
to be involved in every day?
Well, today was all about yourshow, so.
Well, not today, but I justmean in general, like, you know me,
the thing behind me, my goalthis year, my commitment, by October
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14th, because that's new year,I'm going to reach 300 million people
and move them from learnedhelplessness, addiction to mediocrity
and victim mindset, to fiercelife ownership commitment to excellence
with a heart to serve. And sothat's my thing that I think about
every single day. I justwonder because someone like you,
that's been in this a longtime and you're passionate and you're
good at what you do. What's.What's the driver?
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So I think the driver is thefact that I know that I was. I was
given this gift, you know, byGod. I say God, you know, the universe,
however you want to say it. Iwas given this, this gift of influence,
right? It's something noteverybody was given. It's an ability
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to connect with people on asoul level. It's. It's not on a superficial
level. It's very soulful. Andnot everybody was given that gift.
So I look at it as. It is my.It is my birth duty, you know, that
I have to do this. And so whenI look at it that way, you know,
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even on days when you're tiredor you don't. Don't feel like it,
you know, you go and you do itbecause it's. It's. It's not about
you. It's about serving othersand what I was put on this planet
to do. And so I get up and Ido it, and I love it. I tell people
I'm like, I don't have. Idon't have days that I. I hate. You
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know, I don't even have baddays. I might have bad moments, sure.
But, like, I. I don't dreadMondays, and I don't live for the
weekends. Like, I. I don'tknow what a weekend is in other people's
standards, and I don't knowwhat, you know, Monday is either,
because I. I just. I loveevery day. I love every day. And
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I'm really happy with what Iget to do. And when I get to share
that with other people andinspire them to love every day too,
like, that's cool. That'sreally cool.
That means. So what I'mhearing from that is that you're.
You're telling me and ourlisteners that it is possible for
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them individually to get to aplace where they love their life
every day and look forward toit instead of working for the weekend
and the examples you gave, butto truly live a life that's driven
by whatever their purpose isand in. In prosperity and joy. Is
that what I'm hearing you say?
Yes. Yes. And I think what'sreally cool about, like, my story
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is it can be so simple. Youknow, everybody as human nature,
we're always striving to dothe more complicated thing. You know,
we think that. That life isabout sacrifice, and it is about
struggle. And, you know, itdoesn't count unless we. We had blood,
sweat, and tears to get there,Right? But, like, I give tips. I
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just always knew tips. When Iwas a little kid, they would call
me MacGyver because I alwayshad a hack on how to fix something.
You know, it was. Give me someduct tape and a wire hanger, and,
you know, I'm gonna. I'm gonnamake a picnic basket out of it. I
don't know. Like, it was justlike, that's. That's the way I was.
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That's the way my brainworked. It was. You know, I would
see something happen. I wouldsee Martha Stewart do something,
and I would remember how to doit, you know, like, it was. That's
just the way my mind worked.And, you know, it stuck with Me.
And when I started sharingthese things, I thought it was useless
information. I really did. Iwas like, why do I have, you know,
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the ability to remember thesethings? But, you know, I can't remember
the periodic table like that,you know?
Sure.
And it was. It was because my.My journey was not about the periodic
table, even though I lovescience, so don't get me wrong, I
love science, but, you know,it was. That was a struggle for me
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to learn that. It was not astruggle for me to learn this. So,
you know, stop trying to, youknow, bear the weight all the time.
You know, the easy things canturn out to be your most magical
moments. And I think thatthat's important to know.
I love that. And that's afabulous point to have, because you
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were given gifts. Each of uswere. You are using yours, I'm using
mine, and I'm encouraging allof you that are listening to realize
you have them. And don'tpretend you don't figure out what
they are, because you have thegift given to you by the divine,
by God, to both complete themission and purpose. You were. You
were. You came here for. Andto have fun with it. It's not supposed
to be sucky. It's supposed tobe fun. And that doesn't mean there
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aren't sucky moments anddifficult things. And there is some
broken glass you got to crawlover. So what? There's a goal to
this, and you got to do that.So what? Didn't I ask you that you're
dying to share with. Withpeople, to. To teach, to love, to
express, to lift, whatever.
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Yes. Well, I think that Ireally got to say that in that last
part. You know, I think. Stoptrying to make life so hard. You
know, it's. You know, yes,anything is possible. You know, you
need to look at theprobability of it. But, you know,
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if you. If you stay tenacious,it will. It will work. It really
will. I love that, you know,you throw water on a rock and it
does nothing. You put a dropin the same place on a rock for one
year, it will drill a holeright into it. You know, it's. It's
so important to remember that,you know, consistency, tenacity,
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it will. It will pay off. So,you know, stop. Stop trying to think.
You have to have all theanswers today. It's not about having
all the answers. It's not evenabout the how, but it's always going
to be about the why. So makesure you have your why.
Enjoy the journey. Tia, thankyou for sort of spreading your smile
and your joyful presence andyour thoughts and ideas. And boy,
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I think everybody needs to goto tipsfromtia.com even if it is
under construction or rehab orwhatever. Because if Chatty says
it's cool, then, hey, youknow, Chatty's not perfect, but we
all use it for a lot of stuff.Thanks for coming today.
Thank you so much for havingme. This was just such a delight.
You are awesome. Thank you, my friend.
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Hello and welcome to today'sshow. Today's episode of your ultimate,
ultimate life, the podcast Icreated to help you both realize
and create a life of purpose,prosperity and joy by serving with
your gifts and talents andlife experience. Today I have a special
guest, as you can see, TiaChristie. Tia, welcome to the show.
(00:50):
Hello. Thank you so much forhaving me.
You are welcome. I'm delightedto have you here. We've known each
other for, you know, a whileand we just haven't had the chance
to do this yet. So I'm goingto start with perhaps an unexpected
question. I want you to,without being modest in any way,
tell our listeners how, howdoes TIA add good to the world?
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Ah, TIA adds good to theworld. I. I love helping people.
I. I know it sounds cliche tosome people, but finding your own
special, like superpowers andhow to do that can be very challenging
for people. So I'm really goodat tips. You know this, Kellen. I'm
really good at tips and I tellpeople how to make their everyday
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life a little less stressful.So that's how I really have made
a positive impact in thisworld. And it's so simple, it's something
that comes so easy to me. Butit was really incredible to find
out that I was helping peopleall over the world by giving just
these simple little tips.
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I love that. And what, whatmade you, like, did you start from
a really stressful place thatmade you start looking for ways to
de. Stress yourself?
I have been getting a versionof tips from TIA since I was a teenager.
I mean, I started out, I thinkI was like 16 years old writing for
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one of the local magazines,writing about prom and pimples. Like,
seriously?
Oh, wow.
Always been some kind ofversion of tips from TIA and yeah,
it took me many, many years tofigure out that it wasn't just useless
information. It was actuallysomething that was causing a really
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cool impact in the world.First locally, first in the community,
and then it branched out to worldwide.
So we'll talk more about that.Why do you think, and I believe you
and I'm glad you're doing it.Why do you think we live in such
a stress filled world thatmakes it necessary? I mean, I love
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what you do and what you do iswonderful. How did we get here.
Oh, lots of expectation onourselves from society. You know,
we stress about everything. I,you know, I did my, my TEDX talk
on that and you're familiarwith that. And it is a worldwide
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epidemic. It is something thatpeople stress over everything. And
you know, I take it back tothe fact that, you know, it's chemical.
We have our adrenaline drop,you know, and our amygdala. When
it releases that chemical, youknow, it doesn't, it doesn't dose
us. It, it's one drop andthat's, that's what we get. So, you
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know, this was put in us so wecould take on like a lion or you
know, find our dinner and youknow, hunt it down. But now we get
to use it in traffic orstanding in a long line. And it really
causes that, that overwhelmingstress. You know, there's so much
energy, we don't know how torelease it. And you know, we got
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to find positive ways torelease it instead of just being
angry at everybody else in theworld. You know, we're all going
through is.
And it's, you know, the, theat least one, several things I read
said that, okay, we have thisthing for protection and food and
all that stuff. And that wassupposed to be like on and off. So
you have a thing and you go doit and then it goes away. And it
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seems like today we live in aworld where it's a minimum, a constant
low level, where we sort oflive on a base level of stress instead
of ever turning it off. Whatdoes that do to me or a person who
lives at that 20% or 30% on,in terms of that stress chemicals
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that you were talking about?
I love it. Did you see meadjust? Like this is where I get
to really nerd out. I getreally good.
I want you to tell me whatthat does to me to get all that in
there sort of on a constant basis.
Well, what happens I think iswe're running on a different frequency
nowadays. I read I'm selfproclaimed nerd. I read a lot of
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research and different thingsand that's what, what helps me do
what I do. But you know,we're, we're running on a different
frequency than normal. Theearth was always at like 1:32 or
I'm sorry, 432. And now sincelike 5G was unleashed, we're at a
different frequency. It's nota great frequency for us. It's a
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very stressful frequency. So,you know, we're constantly almost
like in a bad mood. You know,this vibration that's coming through
us. Right. So we have to kindof combat that with other ways of
doing it. That's spending timein nature, that's spending time,
you know, listening tofrequencies that are at 432. A lot
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of oldie songs are, are doneat 4:32. So you know, it's, it's
trying to give that brain whatit needs and give that body the energy
that it needs. But what it'sdoing to you when you stay in the
stressful, anxious, you know,high energy of frustration, it's
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causing illnesses. I mean thisis like the number one cause of major
illnesses across the world.And like number one being, you know,
heart, it's affecting yourheart. Everybody's got a bad heart
nowadays and we can blame, youknow, the vaccines and you know,
different things like that.Sure, sure. But we're not, we're
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not doing ourselves a favor bybeing this stressed out all the time.
Right. But we're talkingabout, we have issues with weight
gain, weight loss, you know,thyroid issues, depression, anxieties,
you know, we get into themental stuff of it. So we just want
to, we want to make sure thatwe are really doing things to combat
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that and really taking care ofourselves because we can, we can
take all the vitamins, youknow, that are on the market. But
if we're not taking care ofthe internal, we're just, we're not
going to make it.
So I love this because yousaid something that I want to make
sure that listeners arehearing and that is the natural stuff
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around us used to be X and youmentioned 432. And if you listeners
do a little woo woo stuff,you'll find that that's a frequency,
you know, tuning that you canuse. A440 is what pianos and orchestras
are tuned to it, but 432 is aslightly lower frequency that is
a more natural one. And whatyou've said is we as a society have
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created an environment wherewe live in a different frequency
and the outcome of that isthis underlying stress. So we've
manufactured a thing and Iguess what it makes me think of is
air quality. You know, when Iwas growing up in California there
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were years where, you knowthat smog in LA used to be something
they talked about all thetime. It was really bad and the sky
was brown and that was amanufactured thing. And then we did,
you know, emissions and carsand all that stuff. And now it's
not like that. And so we did athing and created a mess. We said,
oh crap, it's a mess. And thenwe did some things to uncreate it.
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And we didn't all have to stayhome and we didn't all have to quit
doing stuff. And this remindsme of that. We've created this frantic
always on cell phone in yourface, tablet in one hand and whatever
in the other. And that haselevated this frequency, in other
words, the status in which welive to a place that's not healthy.
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And what you're teaching us isthat there are things that you can
do to fix it. Just like we arefixing or working on air quality.
Did I say that right?
Yes, correct. I mean that islike the perfect analogy of it. Yeah.
We've created this environmentand you know, is now radiating on
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a different frequency. And ifwe go back into nature, if we go
and we find the resources andyou know, like you said there, there
are different frequencies. Youwant to get like woo and get like
really into it. You know,obviously, you know, vibrating on
a higher frequency can bevery, very important for excelling
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and abundance and you know,different things like that, you know,
they, they call it the angelmusic, you know, and they call that
for, for a specific reasonthey call it that. And it's beautiful.
But naturally the earth wasvibrating at the 432. So that's what,
that's what we were all borninto. That's what we knew. And you
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know, they say even babiesbeing born now are being born into
432, but instantly coming intothis, this other frequency, you know,
since 5G. And you know, it's avery stifling frequency. So we want
to try to make sure that weare doing everything we can to balance
that back.
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So now we've, we've identifiedthe problem and so for a minute I've
got a whole nother tact. Iwant to go on in a minute or in a
few minutes. But right now Iwant you to teach us some things.
So you said you've been givingtips for people, for their lives,
for different things, all theway back to prominent pimples and
which of course for a 16 yearold would be a big deal, but now
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you're doing different thingsand have been for many years and
this one is about stress. So.And you've mentioned some sort of
casually as you've gonethrough, but why don't you give us
maybe four or five that areeasy, they're available to people
and they don't have to go someweird place, a mountaintop or Sedona
or someplace that they cansort of do at home. And the reason
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I'm asking for this is I wantpeople to test this out, you know,
do this and try it and seewhat happens. So give us some stuff
that. That we can do this afternoon.
This afternoon. I love that.Well, for. If I could at least mention
my TedX. So my TedX was reallycool. It went viral. And, you know,
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we all hear about the. Thestress, how to reduce stress, you
know, eat right, sleep right,you know, meditate and exercise.
Right. And it's all. It's allnicely packaged. But the fact is,
is we are different kinds ofstressors. And I say there's two
forms. So you got this, thesilent stressor, and you got the
frazzler. And the differencebetween the two is the silent stressor
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keeps everything in, and thefrazzler is kind of like everything's
out all over. And they make.Yeah, and they make everybody else
stress along with them. So. Soyou kind of got to know what kind
of stressor you are to reallyhelp combat that, you know, doesn't
that make a lot of sense whenyou think about it?
Sure.
So, like with frazzlers, youknow, they don't know how to meditate.
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They're just going all thetime, and they're like. So they really
have to learn how to work ontheir meditation skills where, like
a silent stressor, they justmeditate on their problems, like,
all the time. So they're.They're overthinkers a lot of times.
So, I mean, both are. We'renot going to. We're not going to
say that they're not, but, youknow, it's very interesting. So for
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a silent stressor, you know,something that would be really good
is to go out and exercise. Sogo for a run or, you know, something
that can really uncork thatenergy that's going on inside. Silence
stressors, they need to learnhow to express how they're feeling.
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A lot of times, silentstressors will just go on the. Whatever,
you know, whatever you want todo, it's fine. They don't want to
ruffle any kind of feathers oranything like that. They want to
make sure that it's.Everything's kind of going smooth.
So they have to learn how toname what they're feeling. They have
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to learn how to share. Andthat's really hard for a silent stressor,
but it's really important. Nowit's opposite for a frazzler. A frazzler
is going to want to. Have tolearn how to not be so emotional
when they share. I'm notSaying don't share. I'm saying learn
how to be more factual thanemotional in the share. You know,
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instead of trying to stressout everybody else around you. Everybody
loves when I say stress vomit.Like, instead of stress vomiting
on everybody, like, make surethat you are finding out the facts
of it and then sharing thosefacts, very Cliff Notes version of
it. And, you know, learningalso how to turn inward and being
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able to kind of go through theproblem, you know, internally before
sharing it externally. It'sreally interesting when you think,
you know, how, how it can bevery opposite for one another.
You know, I've never been hadit explained to me like that in those
groupings and in listening toyou do that, it becomes really clear
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right away. Oh yeah, ofcourse, there's the ones that stuff
it in and then they burn upinside. And then there's the people
that, you know, splatter itall over everybody else. And it doesn't
really relieve their stressbecause everybody's so busy worrying
about cleaning off the messthat they're not helping anybody
anyway. So tell, tell uswhere, like, I love that you did
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this TED Talk and I want youto tell us two things. One, where
to find the TED Talk, becauseyou said it got good distribution
and that's fabulous. And thesecond thing is where would be the
easiest place for me or one ofour listeners to go learn more about
how to do what you just toldme? If I figure out if I'm a stuffer
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as opposed to a vomiter,where's the best place for me to
go and at least get like 101to do something about that? So those
two things.
Oh, okay. So. Well, I thinkboth can be answered with go ahead
and watch my TEDx because I dogive a lot more tips in there and
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I talk about how self care issuper important no matter which one
you are. So my TEDx is calledit's all stress, the frazzler versus
the silent stressor. And it'son YouTube. And honestly, all you
got to do is probably Googlemy name, Tia, Christy, C R I S T
Y and put in TEDx and itshould come up. It was, it was showcased
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on TEDx as well. And so it'sout there, it's out there circulating.
But yeah, I think the 101 onit is again, the blanket of, you
know, eat right, sleep right,exercise and meditation. Four minutes
a day of meditation can changethe outlook of your entire life.
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It can actually increase yearson your life, which is just amazing.
And that's only four minutes Aday which, you know, people are like,
well, how do I meditate? Andwe go over that in the talk. But
you know, there's, there'sseveral forms of meditation. You
know, most people are familiarwith that, you know, one. But when
I started, I did not know howto do that. I couldn't do it. So
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I did it a lot of times withmusic or by prayer. But I learned
how to do movement meditation.And once I started doing movement
meditation, I can now go intoa meditative state. You know, just
sitting there doing that forhours, like it's, it's incredible.
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And what, what a stressrelieving journey it can be. So,
yeah, I highly recommend it.
I'm glad you said that. It'sfunny because I've written a lot
of books in my career and thefirst five were a five volume series
on meditation because I, ithas played a pivotal role in, in
my own life. And I talk abouta whole bunch of different styles
(17:20):
of possibility approaches tothat. So that's really good. And
it's funny because peoplethink I don't know how. And that's
not actually very important tostart with, right? There's a million
free videos or whatever. Thepoint is, go try. It isn't about
getting good at it. You don'tmeditate to get good at meditation.
(17:41):
You meditate to get good atlife, to clean out your stress and
to do other stuff. It's atool, you know, like taking a shower.
I don't take a shower justbecause I love standing underwater.
I take shower so I get cleanand relax and a bunch of other things.
And so meditation is a tool tolower your stress, lower your blood
pressure, feel better. Andthere's a whole list of things that
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it does. So couldn't agreewith you more on that. So, yeah,
I'm glad that you gave thattalk and that it was featured on
ted. What a, what an honor.What a great thing. So I would encourage
people to go take a look atthat. Yeah, that's wonderful. So
now I'm gonna switch gears nowfor a minute and I want you to tell
me a little bit about yourjourney. You said you've been given
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tips since you were 16 andthat's, you know, a few minutes anyway.
So like, how did you decide wedon't act. I mean, a lot of people
go through life sort ofaccidentally, you know, they just
sort of react to things. Butwe talked in the very beginning about
creating our life on purposeand we've been talking about things
(18:47):
that pull us away from that,which Are all these stresses and
frequencies and things andthings that help with that, which
is learning, the tool ofmeditation, among others. What. What
brought you, like, why is itimportant for TIA to help people
overcome, manage, eliminatestress difficulties? And I think
(19:11):
it's probably more than juststress. Why is that important to
you?
Yeah, it's interesting thatyou say that, and of course it is.
It's more than just stress.It's, you know, just everyday life
is what I help people with,but, you know, stress. It's funny.
I always thought that I wasreally good at managing stress, and
(19:32):
I. I discovered stress, Ithink, very early in my childhood
just because of my home life,you know, the things that the family
was experiencing, goingthrough you know, different things
like that. And, you know, as achild, it's kind of like you don't
(19:54):
talk about certain things.You're not supposed to talk about
that. That's, you know, that'sin the family and, you know, so you
learn. And, like, I am asilent stressor. So I've learned,
you know, okay, just keep itin. Just, you know, work with it,
you know, So I always thoughtI was really good at maintaining
stress. And, you know, when Icame across people that were stressing
(20:17):
out, and I became. I becamelike this light, you know, where
people with stress would justkind of, like, you know, float to
and they would share with me.And it was really interesting to
hear the stresses that peoplewere going through and then how each
person's story was different,but the stresses were the same. And
(20:38):
I was like, okay, you know,this is. This is something that everybody's
going through, and if I canprovide a little bit more of a trusted
resource for people to be ableto find the answer that they're looking
for, that's cool, you know,And I did it just as a passion project.
(20:59):
I mean, that's what I reallyset out to do. I just wanted to help
people. I wanted to makepeople feel like they're not alone,
because that's a big thing inthis world. A lot of people feel
alone, and it causes a lot ofmental anguish and mental health
issues. But it. It really canmake people angry, too, feeling alone.
(21:23):
And I don't want people tofeel angry. You know, it's. We're
in this together. Even though,like I said, people's stories are
different, the issues arestill the same. And let's. Let's
figure it out together. Sothere's a really. I developed it.
Yeah. There's a reallyimportant two things that come to
me. There's one is we're notalone. And when I work with folks
(21:45):
as you do, one of the mostimportant things for someone to internalize
is the fact that they're notalone. Because everybody runs around,
no matter what, feeling likethey're the only person that fill
in the blank. You know, nobodyknows the trouble I've seen but Jesus,
you know, that kind of songthat means thought nobody could possibly.
And when you finally land onthe fact that the details are different
(22:08):
but the core of the humanexperience is very shareable and
shared and the same. And it'sso comforting, powerful to have that
common connection. So I getthat you figured this out early because
of circumstances in your life,and somebody could say, well, I figured
(22:29):
it out for me and I'm good,and I'll just go do my stuff. You
know, I'm going to go buildwidgets or build bridges or something,
I don't know. But you decided,no, I'm not going to just build bridges
over here and have it figuredout for me. I'm going to go on a
crusade to help other peoplesolve this problem. And I know I
asked you this question aminute ago, but I want you to answer
(22:50):
it a little bit more. What isin your heart that makes that sharing
important? After you figuredit out for you, why did it then go
to now I got to help all theseother people with this? How come?
Well, I think, you know, toanswer it a little bit more clearly
is I like you, I started out acareer in radio. I was on the radio
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for most of my life. And whatI came to find out is that I had
a voice people wanted tolisten to, and I had the ability
to make an impact and. And bean influencer. And I really wanted
to always use my powers forgood. And I didn't want to be a shock
(23:36):
jock or a gossip, you know?Right. I wanted to. I wanted to teach
people kindness, and I wantedto teach people there's a better
way to live. And, you know, Ilooked at it as people were allowing
me to be part of their specialmoment, so why not make them part
of my special moment? And whenI started doing that, then I started
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opening up, I think a littlebit more. I was being a little bit
more brave in sharing my tips.And, you know, when I started to
get the responses from peopleon how I was helping them, that just
fueled me even more to helpmore and more people. So, you know,
then in 2012 is when I startedthe website. And honestly, that started
(24:22):
from darkness in. In my life,I had been really really sick and
I lost my motor skills. I, Imean, like, it was really, really
bad. And I thought I'm, I'mlosing all these memories of, of
these tips, like, how do I,how do I save them? How do I preserve
this? And I was like, oh, geta 99 cent website. And I started
(24:45):
writing them down and that wastherapy for me. And within six months
I started feeling better and Istarted getting letters from all
over the world saying, thankyou for helping me. So that's really
how it happened.
Thank you. And that's, I loveasking that question the more thorough
way. And the reason is italmost always when I dig into people's
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stories, goes in this patternwhich says, I had a problem, I figured
out something that I needed todo and I solved it, either partly
or I'm on the way or foundsome effective ways. And somehow
with that healing ofourselves, there rises up in us the
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yearning to help others withthe same thing. And it's so interesting
that that's always the thing.We fix something and it's like, wow,
I can help somebody with this.And then we have this yearning to
do. And nobody wants to hideit in the closet or keep it for themselves,
even though they could. Wedon't want to. And I think it's just
(25:50):
how we're built. Like we'rebuilt to love and serve each other,
it seems like to me.
I agree. I agree so much. Yeah.
So website, tell me about thewebsite and what I can find there.
Because we've Talked aboutyour TEDx and how to find that. Now
tell me about the websitethat's now been 13 years going. Sounds
like if you started in 12, so13 years ago. Tell me, tell us about
(26:13):
that, what's there and whatcan we find there.
I think there, somebody toldme there's like 40,000 tips on there
currently. And I was like,wow. Yeah. So that is tips from TIA.com
and like I said, I startedthat in 2012 and I, when it came
out is like a bee's knees. Imean, nobody saw anything like it.
(26:37):
Now it is in process of beingrebranded and revamped, but everything
that's on there, theinformation is good and it's trusted.
And I would say about 90% ofthe tips have been tested and approved.
Because that's, honestly,that's really why I started it. It
was. People were googling thewrong answer and that was really
(27:01):
frustrating to me. I, I'llnever forget the one that was like
the straw that broke thecamel's back for me was how to get
red wine stain out of a carpetand somebody told me, oh, you just
pour white wine on it. And Iwas like, what? Oh my gosh. So it
(27:22):
will, it will make the red goaway, sure. But it'll eventually
leave a big brown sugar stainon the carpet. And yeah, so I was
like, oh, you can't do that.Like it's awful. And not to mention
what you're doing to thepadding underneath and you know,
the, the ability to createmold and bacteria and all that great
(27:43):
stuff. So anyway, that waskind of like the, the catalyst that
pushed me over the edge and Iwas like, yes, I have to really start
to share these tips withpeople. And so it's, it's where you
can search at the top, there'sa search bar and you can put in lemons
and you'll get like all thearticles that have to deal with lemons.
(28:06):
But you know, I really am inprogress of making it more like,
like a Huffington Post whereit is that, that resource where it's
so self serving like you'rejust going to type in lemons and
you know, you will get all 10articles like on what to do with
lemons and you know, it'll be,you know, something that really will
(28:28):
be that trusted hub foreverybody to go and get their, their
resource, their, their life hacks.
You know, it sounds like Chad,GPT better make sure they crawl your
tip site so they give goodanswers. Right?
Yeah.
Yes, I love it.
Exactly.
So I love your story becausewe started talking about stress and
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personal management and livinglonger and burning out and meditation
and stuff. Now all of a suddenwe jump to wine stains in carpet.
So I love that. Which meansthat the tips and like I didn't know
this, the tips are about40,000 tips, not about meditation
and stress but about all kindsof stuff. Is that true?
(29:11):
Yes. So we got, we got health,beauty, home sexual health, mental
health. So it is all aboutmaking the uncomfortable comfortable.
So we take those conversationsthat people might not want to have
and put the, put the answer upthere on tips from tia. And I've
(29:35):
worked with doctors andspecialists. Like so it's obviously
there's disclaimers, you know,don't, you know, talk to your doctor
first before trying somethingand don't.
Try this at home. Right. Thatkind of thing.
You know, well, people haveallergies, you know, things like
that. So you know, always besmart and cautious and you know,
definitely you're on a lot ofmedications, different things like
(29:58):
that. So you're going to wantto Talk to your doctor before, you
know, trying this home remedy.But, you know, it's, it's on there.
And we really, you know, wewant to make sure that people are
getting the right answers, notthe wrong answers. It's super important
to me.
I love that and I love thatit's across a huge broad spectrum.
(30:18):
And I think my wife, who'salso my business partner and also
I have an angel that lives inmy house, and it's all the same person,
she goes to Jadi and says, soI have these ingredients and I want
a recipe, an Italian recipeusing this stuff, and it'll do it.
And that's why I was thinkingit needs to make sure it looks at
your tips so that whensomebody asks a question, it's got
(30:40):
good answers. What's theweirdest? Like, I know there's probably
a, a group that would jump upand say, me, but what's the, in most.
The funniest or weirdest topicthat you've got tips on that you
can think of right now?
Well, I, I was going to sayreal quick with Chat GPT, I'm very
honored because if you askChatGPT about tips from TIA, it will
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say it is the number onetrusted resource for everyday lifestyle
tips. And I'm like, that's so cool.
Wow, what a cool thing. Yeah.Hot dog.
Yeah. That's pretty awesome.
It is awesome.
So the weirdest tips. Oh, mygosh, there's so many.
(31:23):
It doesn't have to be theweirdest. Yeah.
One of the, one of the highestsearched is how to get rid of dandruff.
You know that one? A lot ofpeople want to know how to get rid
of dandruff. Another one ishow to get rid of hickeys.
Oh, yeah.
So people want to know how toget rid of hickeys. There's also,
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you know, I think, I think alot of the sexual health funds they
get, they get a lot oftraction, you know, because that's
just stuff people don't wantto talk about, you know, and that
was the other thing. Like, Ididn't want people learning from
wrong resources either on howthings are supposed to be.
Sure. So, so let's, I want togo on, move on to more. You told
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me before we started that you,you travel a bit and you go to places
speaking. So I know that youtalked about stress in your TEDx.
And when you go on stage, doyou have two or three things that
you're known for or asked tospeak about a lot? And if you do
what are they?
(32:33):
So what I'm usually asked tospeak about majority of the time
is communication. So I'm acommunication specialist, as you
know. And so I help peoplecommunicate better, whether it be
in, you know, business,personal relationships, things like
that. And, you know, it kindof all falls under, you know, my
(32:55):
tips umbrella because I'malways giving tips on, like, how
to do things andcommunication, though. That's my
jam. Like, I just love to beable to communicate with people.
You know, I think that most ofthe time, you know, people think,
oh, I've been, I've beentalking for so long. You know, I've
been doing it since I was ababy. I'm pretty good at it. Ironically,
(33:18):
the older we get, the morevocabulary we learn, you know, the
worse we get at communicatingbecause, you know, now we're, now
we're worried about otherpeople's responses, thoughts. We're
so worried about lookingstupid, you know, so there's so many
things that go into it. So alot of times companies will hire
(33:41):
me or, you know, I'll getinvolved as like a keynote to talk
about, like, how to bridgethese connections, the art of communication,
you know, how to networkbetter, how to take communication
and create it into sales, youknow, so there's, there's a lot that
goes into it. Communicationgoes into everything we do, everything.
(34:02):
It absolutely does. So if youthink about, like, besides we're
built, us all being built tolove and serve, most people, especially
those that have gone throughsome, some different kinds of difficulty,
have a way that they like tohelp. And you're, you give tips and
you teach communication. Ifyou were to say what your vision
(34:26):
is, like, if, if Tia was ableto have the impact in the world that
she wanted, what does thatlook like? Like, what drives you
on a macro scale?
Ah, well, I always tellpeople, I'm like, I'm going to be
the Martha Stewart of tips.You know, Martha did it right. You
know, she really did. And loveor hater, you know, like, she, she
(34:49):
really was great at how shewas able to reach the masses in what
she was trying to do. And youknow, for me, like, I don't have,
I don't have a specific niche,right? I end up having these, these
buckets of, you know,different ways to make everyday lifestyle
tips happen for people. And Ithink what I see in the vision down
(35:16):
the line is that I will be,you know, up on stages still helping
people communicate and givingthem tips on how to be less stressful
and different things likethat, but also tips from TIA will
be that. That wonderful hub,you know, doing its thing, able to
really get into the nittygritty of life for people. Probably.
(35:44):
I, I want to incorporate AI atsome point in time also to help,
really be able to pinpointspecific needs for people. But then
also I want to have a.Clothes. Not a clothing, but a product
line of like home goods stuff,you know, in, in, you know, so basically
(36:07):
like maybe Target or Walmartor something like that. But it's
going to be like cuttingboards, towels, you know, kind of.
That kind of thing. So, yeah,I feel like me. Martha has paved
the path for me to come up anddo what she has done. You know, somebody's.
Somebody's gonna have to take that.
Yeah, well, she's. She's wellin her. Yeah, she's well in her 80s
(36:30):
now, and so that's not goingto last forever, even though the
name will be around for a longtime. So what, what gets you up in
the morning? Like, what isthe. If you had to list the passion,
because, you know, thispodcast, all things about how to
live your ultimate life, whichis purpose, prosperity and joy. And
(36:50):
I'm asking about purpose, andyou've been talking about it a bit.
Is, is there something thatyou. That you just wake up excited
to be involved in every day?
Well, today was all about yourshow, so.
Well, not today, but I justmean in general, like, you know me,
the thing behind me, my goalthis year, my commitment, by October
(37:12):
14th, because that's new year,I'm going to reach 300 million people
and move them from learnedhelplessness, addiction to mediocrity
and victim mindset, to fiercelife ownership commitment to excellence
with a heart to serve. And sothat's my thing that I think about
every single day. I justwonder because someone like you,
that's been in this a longtime and you're passionate and you're
good at what you do. What's.What's the driver?
(37:36):
So I think the driver is thefact that I know that I was. I was
given this gift, you know, byGod. I say God, you know, the universe,
however you want to say it. Iwas given this, this gift of influence,
right? It's something noteverybody was given. It's an ability
(37:57):
to connect with people on asoul level. It's. It's not on a superficial
level. It's very soulful. Andnot everybody was given that gift.
So I look at it as. It is my.It is my birth duty, you know, that
I have to do this. And so whenI look at it that way, you know,
(38:17):
even on days when you're tiredor you don't. Don't feel like it,
you know, you go and you do itbecause it's. It's. It's not about
you. It's about serving othersand what I was put on this planet
to do. And so I get up and Ido it, and I love it. I tell people
I'm like, I don't have. Idon't have days that I. I hate. You
(38:43):
know, I don't even have baddays. I might have bad moments, sure.
But, like, I. I don't dreadMondays, and I don't live for the
weekends. Like, I. I don'tknow what a weekend is in other people's
standards, and I don't knowwhat, you know, Monday is either,
because I. I just. I loveevery day. I love every day. And
(39:05):
I'm really happy with what Iget to do. And when I get to share
that with other people andinspire them to love every day too,
like, that's cool. That'sreally cool.
That means. So what I'mhearing from that is that you're.
You're telling me and ourlisteners that it is possible for
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them individually to get to aplace where they love their life
every day and look forward toit instead of working for the weekend
and the examples you gave, butto truly live a life that's driven
by whatever their purpose isand in. In prosperity and joy. Is
that what I'm hearing you say?
Yes. Yes. And I think what'sreally cool about, like, my story
(39:48):
is it can be so simple. Youknow, everybody as human nature,
we're always striving to dothe more complicated thing. You know,
we think that. That life isabout sacrifice, and it is about
struggle. And, you know, itdoesn't count unless we. We had blood,
sweat, and tears to get there,Right? But, like, I give tips. I
(40:12):
just always knew tips. When Iwas a little kid, they would call
me MacGyver because I alwayshad a hack on how to fix something.
You know, it was. Give me someduct tape and a wire hanger, and,
you know, I'm gonna. I'm gonnamake a picnic basket out of it. I
don't know. Like, it was justlike, that's. That's the way I was.
(40:33):
That's the way my brainworked. It was. You know, I would
see something happen. I wouldsee Martha Stewart do something,
and I would remember how to doit, you know, like, it was. That's
just the way my mind worked.And, you know, it stuck with Me.
And when I started sharingthese things, I thought it was useless
information. I really did. Iwas like, why do I have, you know,
(40:58):
the ability to remember thesethings? But, you know, I can't remember
the periodic table like that,you know?
Sure.
And it was. It was because my.My journey was not about the periodic
table, even though I lovescience, so don't get me wrong, I
love science, but, you know,it was. That was a struggle for me
(41:21):
to learn that. It was not astruggle for me to learn this. So,
you know, stop trying to, youknow, bear the weight all the time.
You know, the easy things canturn out to be your most magical
moments. And I think thatthat's important to know.
I love that. And that's afabulous point to have, because you
(41:42):
were given gifts. Each of uswere. You are using yours, I'm using
mine, and I'm encouraging allof you that are listening to realize
you have them. And don'tpretend you don't figure out what
they are, because you have thegift given to you by the divine,
by God, to both complete themission and purpose. You were. You
were. You came here for. Andto have fun with it. It's not supposed
to be sucky. It's supposed tobe fun. And that doesn't mean there
(42:04):
aren't sucky moments anddifficult things. And there is some
broken glass you got to crawlover. So what? There's a goal to
this, and you got to do that.So what? Didn't I ask you that you're
dying to share with. Withpeople, to. To teach, to love, to
express, to lift, whatever.
(42:24):
Yes. Well, I think that Ireally got to say that in that last
part. You know, I think. Stoptrying to make life so hard. You
know, it's. You know, yes,anything is possible. You know, you
need to look at theprobability of it. But, you know,
(42:45):
if you. If you stay tenacious,it will. It will work. It really
will. I love that, you know,you throw water on a rock and it
does nothing. You put a dropin the same place on a rock for one
year, it will drill a holeright into it. You know, it's. It's
so important to remember that,you know, consistency, tenacity,
(43:08):
it will. It will pay off. So,you know, stop. Stop trying to think.
You have to have all theanswers today. It's not about having
all the answers. It's not evenabout the how, but it's always going
to be about the why. So makesure you have your why.
Enjoy the journey. Tia, thankyou for sort of spreading your smile
and your joyful presence andyour thoughts and ideas. And boy,
(43:31):
I think everybody needs to goto tipsfromtia.com even if it is
under construction or rehab orwhatever. Because if Chatty says
it's cool, then, hey, youknow, Chatty's not perfect, but we
all use it for a lot of stuff.Thanks for coming today.
Thank you so much for havingme. This was just such a delight.
You are awesome. Thank you, my friend.
(43:51):
You betcha. So I want you totake this seriously. Go back and
listen to some of this stuffand go listen to her talk. Go check
out the site. Because likeeverything we do here, the whole
point is to give you thetools, permission and encouragement
to create your ultimate lifeso that you can have it. Go now and
create your ultimate liferight here, right now. Your opportunity
(44:25):
for massive growth is right infront of you. Every. Every episode
gives you practical tips andpractices that will change everything.
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