December 19, 2025 • 38 mins
What if the life you worked so hard to build was never meant to fulfill you?
In this solo episode, Kellan dismantles the cultural myth of success and exposes the quiet crisis so many high performers feel but rarely admit: you achieved everything you were told would make you happy — and it didn’t.
This is not a motivational talk. It’s a confrontation. A reckoning. A re-orientation toward meaning, truth, and the kind of fulfillment no title, income, or recognition can provide.
If you’ve ever reached a milestone and still felt hollow… this episode is for you.
- Why success often leads to emptiness instead of peace
- How chasing validation disconnects you from truth
- The illusion of fulfillment through achievement
- Identity collapse after “making it”
- Why meaning must come before metrics
- The danger of climbing the wrong ladder
- What real fulfillment actually requires
- Reclaiming purpose beyond performance
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Have you ever gotten exactlywhat you wanted? Like hit the big
home run, the big kahuna, andit feels flat. What the heck is going
on? Welcome to the show. Tiredof the hype about living the dream.
It's time for truth. This isthe place for tools, power and real
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talk. So you can create thelife you dream and deserve your ultimate
life. Subscribe, share,create. You have infinite power.
Welcome to your ultimate life.The podcast been going on for five
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and a half, going on sixyears, pretty soon dedicated to just
one thing. How do you createthat life? You love, purpose, prosperity
and joy. Most of the time, atleast. The way I started and was
brought up and indoctrinatedis that you need big success in the
world. Like somebody has tocrown you king for a day, or, you
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know, C suite something, CEO,coo, C something or other, or. And
combined with that, you make abunch of money. 2004-005000-00700,000
million, whatever it is. Thatwas it, right? I mean, that's what
we all strived, strove true,tried to get right. That was it.
I mean, that's the way I wasraised. You know, my dad had XYZ
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job and, oh, we had a lot ofconversation about can't afford this,
that and the other. So get abetter job, go to school. I mean,
you know the drill, right? Sothe question I started with is, you
all have goals, we have goals.And sometimes, most of the time,
especially in the beginning ofour lives, there's somebody else's.
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You should go to college, youshould graduate, you should get a
trade, you should make acertain amount of money, you should
drive this, you should livehere, you shouldn't live there, don't
date this person, don't go outthat, don't this, do that. Those
goals were externally imposedand that ends up almost always in
conflict and misery. And thereason that it does isn't because
the goals weren't, you know,good for somebody, right? They were
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good for somebody and someone.Parents, teachers, leaders, church
leaders, whatever, give youthat kind of advice out of the depth
of their heart because oftheir experience. And the truth is,
they don't know you at all.You know Tom Petty's old song, nobody,
no one knows what it's like.You don't know what it's like. You
don't know what it's like tobe me. And that is true, hundred
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percent true. I have no ideawhat you've been through and more
importantly, what it did withyou to you, for you. Like, two people
can go through exactly thesame circumstance, and it does something
completely different to them.Why? Well, duh. They're different
people. Right? Let's throw twopeople in a swimming pool. One can
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swim, one can't. You don'tknow the difference. One gets out,
one drowns. Same pool, samedepth, same whatever. One knew how
to swim, one didn't. You know,the things that we've learned and
the experiences we have aren'ttattooed on the forehead. All the
skills and gifts, but they'reall part of our life. And when we
learn stuff early enough anddeeply enough, it's instinctive.
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And by instinctive, I mean,you know, automatic reaction. What
I really meant is it's ournatural reaction. So if you're taught
to not like another race, thenevery time you see them, you add
old dialogue plays in thebackground. Something wrong with
them. They're bad. Or richpeople. They all suck. They got it
wrong somehow. If they'rerich, they're evil. We've all had
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those kinds of stories, andnone of them are good. Absolutely
none of them are good. Andthat actually has nothing to do with
whether or not they're true.They're not good because they got
crammed down your throat. Thetruth about growth is that you or
I have to connect with thevision of possibility. We have to
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get to the place where we cansee the possibility and the value
of it. And then whatever wegot taught takes on meaning. And
we go there and we go thereunder our own steam and under our
own power. I spent most of mylife up until my early 50s living
someone else's definition ofsuccess. And at the same time, it
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caused all the problems, youknow, that it would. Depression,
struggle, failedrelationships, abuses, chemistry,
chemical abuses, rehab, etc.Etc. Mine was a particularly rowdy
case. But whether it's a smallamount, whether it's quiet misery
that ends up in somebodyhaving a midlife crisis and walking
away from everything, orwhether someone just suffers in silence
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and does all the thingsthey're supposed to do till they're
dead and they hate their life.Like, what is that about? Well, that's
what we want to talk abouttoday. Because I talk about this
ultimate life stuff, purpose,prosperity and joy. And it's real.
Like I used to hear this overand over again. You can do anything
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you set your mind to. You cancreate whatever you want. And to
me, that was all a bunch ofcrap over and over again. Crap. You're
lying. You're just sayingstuff. You're trying to make me feel
good. You're blowing smoke onand on and on, because I didn't believe
any of it. And continuedrepetition is what it felt like.
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It sounded like I didn't doanything to get it inside my heart.
So let's talk about the arc ofsuccess. The next several episodes
till nearly the end ofJanuary, six episodes are going to
talk about this arc ofsuccess. Like, what does it flip
and take to create a life youlove, purpose, prosperity and joy
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built on the five pillars.WIPO swearth W I P O S worth, identity,
possibility, ownership,sovereignty. What the heck does it
take? Well, I want to startwith a particular story. So in Stephen
Covey's book, and maybe it wasnot in his book 7 Habits, I seem
to remember this quote tied tothat book. But it could be wrong.
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You know, it's terrible tospend all your effort climbing the
ladder. What is it? Ladder ofsuccess, corporate ladder, Ladder
of entrepreneurship, even.Ladder of money, ladder of whatever
and get to the top and findout it was against the wrong wall.
You know, there are manydescriptions, but that's an apt description
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of crap. I put a whole bunchof effort in here and I got to the
top and like, so what? It wasthe wrong wall. I put my ladder against
the wrong wall. And so whocares? I don't even care. There's
an old song, I think Doris Daysang it called Is that All There
is? And it is a melancholy,sad song. And I don't remember all
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the words, but the. The chorusis, is that all there is? Is that
all there is? If that's allthere is, my friend, then let's keep
dancing. Let's break, breakout the booze and have a ball. And
it really is okay. I hit thetop. Fame, cash, notoriety. And my
gut is empty. Yeah. People,you know, say I'm cool. People say
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you're cool. You did it. Youmade it. Then why do I feel so black?
Why do I keep looking forsomething? Well, that's a legitimate
and powerful question thatuntold thousands, millions of people
ask. And the reason is becausewe've been told, taught, indoctrinated,
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poured the Kool Aid down ourthroats, that the wrong things are
important. I have more moneythan you. That is not important.
But we've been told it is. Ourwhole society is built on that red
carpet. Glamour, glitz, cars,bigger houses, bigger. This. More,
more and more of more isalways more better. More is better,
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right? No, it's not. Butthat's the. The worship, the love,
the religion of money. Thecorollary religion is status. I'm
more important than you Morepeople know my name. I can get into
places you can't because I'mcool and you're not. You know, C.S.
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lewis is quoted as saying,happiness isn't in having a thing,
whatever that is, but inhaving more of it than the next person.
How sick. So we've beenpoisoned with the idea that more
is the answer. And so when weget more, then we look around and
see somebody else that hasmore or less of whatever it is, money,
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status, house, car, you know,they have more. Oh, well, then I
need more. I'm not happy, I'mflat, I'm empty. So they have more.
I better get more. And then weset about getting more. And pretty
soon we. We. We dis. Wedisavow, we neglect. We dump things
that were once upon a timeimportant to us because, oh, we got
to go get that more. It'susually money, but it can be anything
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and all the way. You know,what do we do? We lose families,
we lose relationships. Legionstories of people going, pursuing,
you know, got the gig, got upin the company, big. This big, that
spent 50 million hours atwork. Don't know. Your kids. Don't
know. Your spouse. Don't know.Don't know. Oh, dear. And then, you
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know, divorce, misery, drugs,infidelity, cheating, etc. Or why?
Because we walked away fromwhat was truly important. Money isn't
the answer. Love is theanswer. Relationships is the answer.
Honesty is the answer. Beingyour word is the answer. Living true
to your divine nature is theanswer. Service, creating beauty
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and love and kindness in theworld is the answer. Those are the
answer. Now, I'm not sayingthere's anything wrong with making
a boatload of cash, but whathappens is we worship that. We get
to where that is moreimportant. Now, there's a. There's
a some questions I want you tojust honestly think about. I want
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you to think about areas whereyou fully accomplished everything
you wanted or a ton. Likewhere you're in a place where you
think, wow, I never thoughtI'd get here. That. I never thought
I'd get here. Maybe you've hada picture on the wall of the house.
And then you have the house,right? You have it. There it is.
I own it. I walk into it. Iremember that occurrence. I didn't
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have a picture of the house Ibought, but I had a picture of what
it ought to look like. Howmany rooms, how many square feet.
I bought it. 5 acres. Agigantic house. Not happy, still
looking for more. More. And,you know, doing what I had to do.
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To keep it and live it. But itwas the emptiness. And again, I want
you to write this phrase down.You can never, never get enough.
Excuse me? You can never getenough of what you don't need because
what you don't need won'tsatisfy you. Steve Jobs, I think,
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is, you know, fabled assaying, a $3,000 watch tells time
the same as the $30 watch.$300,000 car gets you to the same
place a $30,000 car does. Andhe went on and gave several examples.
And excuse me, what he wastrying to illustrate was this point
we've been talking about. Sothe name of this episode is you made
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it. Why does it feel so flat?And I want to explore that because
we're going on the nextseveral episodes on the ark of fulfillment.
And when we get down to theother side of the rainbow, we're
going to have sharedeverything that it takes to create
your ultimate life. Everythingit takes. Now, I'm sharing this from
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a place of absolute certaintyand knowledge. And the reason that
I am is because I have walkedthat rainbow from a place of misery,
from a place of havingachieved everything I thought I wanted,
realizing it was not all that,not even close. Experiencing all
the difficulties and strugglesthat that conflict creates, shedding
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it all, you know, nearly dyinga couple times and a whole bunch
of stuff, and then making aclear decision. I'm going to go find
out what's truly important.Walk the rainbow. Walk over the bridge.
I always draw it like arainbow. Why? Because there's a pot
of gold at the end of therainbow, and I like pots of gold.
So I've walked it. I did it.From misery to mastery, from suicide
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to true success in the soul atthe deepest level. What that. What
the heck does that mean? Well,it means that today, this day, as
I record this, I'm happy everyday, all the time, people ask me,
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like, we all do each other,right? How are you doing? And I don't
ever say fine. I don't evereven say great. I usually say something
like outrageous. And thenpeople say, what do you mean? Because,
you know, outrageous can beoutrageous, can be like, terrible.
What do you mean, outrageous?And then I usually finish it up with,
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if I was any better, I'dexplode. Or, there need to be two
of me, or, you know, somethinglike that. And the point is, I don't
want to gloss over thatquestion because that question is
the beginning of the search.How are you? And Maybe it takes 10,
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15 or 20 minutes or half anhour or two hour walk in the woods
to just dare to answer thatquestion. Question. How are you?
How do you feel? Are you fullof love for yourself and for others?
Are you truly grateful forwhat you have, no matter what it
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is, how much it is or isn't?Are you deeply engaged in loving
and serving others around you?I don't know why the cough's here
today, but anyway, it is. Sois that true? And there are several
other questions like that toexplore, like the truth about yourself.
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And honestly, when I talk topeople, most people can even answer
those questions. They startwith a superficial layer. Who are
you? Well, I'm the presidentof xyz. Or roles. I'm a dad, or I'm
a CEO, or I'm a citycouncilor, whatever. And that isn't
who you are. Some of thethings you do, and maybe you do them
really well. So let's talkabout here. This. The myth is that
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there is fulfillment in stuff.We were sold a gigantic lie. That
achievement equals peace. Nottrue. There is nothing that comes
from the outside that willgive you peace of mind, peace in
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your heart that will let youlook in the mirror and love everything
you see. Nothing from theoutside will do that. No amount of
acclaim, no number of awards,no amount of recognition. It is legend.
The number of people who saythe following. Some kind of award
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or multiple awards orrecognition gets heaped on them.
And then secretly, at the timeor later, when they get home, they
look in the mirror and thewords in their mind are, if they
only knew. Imposter syndrome.Hiding one or ten or a hundred skeletons
with the thought that if theyknew me, really, they wouldn't like
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me, they wouldn't trust me.They wouldn't, you know, they'd blow
me off. I'd be dead, I'd begone. I personally know. I felt like
that. And I personally know abunch of people who, many hundreds,
thousands that I havepersonally talked to that express
that kind of feeling. So whatis that? Well, like I said, we were
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sold this myth. And the mythis that achievement is peace. House,
money, position, cars, status,recognition, power. We were sold.
That. That's achieve. I mean,excuse me, that. That equals sign.
Achievement equals peace. Solet's think about this. I can tell
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you there's a hollow feelingif you have a public win, you have
some win where you'reacknowledged, like wildly acknowledged.
I remember a very specificcircumstance, and I'm not going to
go into details because it'snot relevant and it would be a long
story anyway, but where I hada public acclaim from people that
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were in very high positions,and they said, wow, law. And said
this thing that was as highachievement acknowledgment as possible.
And when I got home, it feltnothing. If you only knew, right?
And I felt strutted. Yeah, I'mcool. I can do this. Yeah, look at
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me. And it lasted about threeseconds because it's hollow and comes
from the outside. So whatcomes after that emptiness is a hunger.
And the hunger we misinterpretas more. Well, if that felt good,
and it did for a moment, youget that kind of acclaim acknowledgment
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award. Wow, you. You know, youreally got. It feels good for a minute,
and then it's replaced by ahunger. I need it again. Who else
can tell me? I'm cool? Well,you can't have enough of them. We
all know the stories of actorsand musicians and leaders of corporations
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and stuff that end up takingtheir own lives. And we were just
staggered. We're like, why?They had everything. They had everything
except happy. So that's thewrong wall thing. And so here's what
I want you to realize. Thathunger is a soul hunger. It's a hunger
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of your spirit that no amountof stuff, no amount of hangers on
followers, money, houses,drugs, alcohol, no amount of money
can fill that hole. So whetheryou've had that feeling a little
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or a lot, like I did, at leastfor me, it was a lot. It's not enough,
and it never will be. So let'stalk about what to do about that
success when we use thatexternal value, it's kind of like
a costume we forget we'rewearing. Our worth is tethered to
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applause. And so what are wedoing? Well, we're endlessly seeking
applause. Where can I be inanother place to get acknowledged
and recognized? Because whatwe're looking for is kudos, acknowledgments,
petting, as it were, fromoutside. And that. That absolutely
feels good for a moment, andit feels empty after five minutes.
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And so we go looking foranother fix. It's absolutely no different
than addiction to somechemical substance. It is an addiction,
and there can never be enough.You develop a tolerance for it, just
like you do with manysubstances. And there can never be
enough and more and more. Andpretty soon you overdose. Or if you're
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not, you know, if theadrenaline doesn't kill you or the
applause doesn't kill you, yougo looking for bigger and bigger
thrills. And that's when youstart taking crazy risks. And we
all know where that. Wherethat road goes. So here's the thing.
Real freedom. Now we've talkedabout all the problems and acknowledged
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them in many of the differentways it shows up. So what is really
real freedom? Real freedom isremembering who you were before the
trophies. And if that is apainful memory, because where you
were before the trophies was afrightened person who thought they
couldn't cut it and neverthought they'd, quote, make it if
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that's who you were before thetrophies, you're never going to get
happy ever. Because thetrophies don't change that. The trophies
don't change the feeling ofI'm nobody, I'm nothing, I can't
cut it. So what we have to dois go to work on that falsehood because
I'm nobody, I'm nothing, Ican't cut, it isn't true. And what
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we've done is mask it over andover again, seeking this external
garbage. And the externalgarbage one is short lived. It goes
away even if it lasts 10 or 15years and it doesn't really fill
the hole. And you already knowthat because you've experienced it.
So what do we do then? Hereare some of the anesthesias that
we use to cover the pain.Overwork, distraction, numbing. And
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that has a whole gambling,shopping, drugs, alcohol, sex, whatever,
numbing things, behaviors sowe don't feel. And if you know what
I mean, then you've beenburied in one or more of those things
and you know that it doesn'twork, it doesn't last any longer
than you know the anesthesiathat it provides. So here's the truth.
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When you empty all that andyou sit by yourself, sober, quiet
and alone, what you're feelingis a divine dissatisfaction. The
divine spirit in you issaying, hey, all of these things
are fun, but they're not thereal deal. They don't last. And you
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will have known that. Theydon't fill the deep hole in your
soul and they never will. Soif it's a divine dissatisfaction,
a divine feeling saying, hey,there is more, let's get that going,
that kind of pain is truthannouncing itself. I'm here, it's
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time to act. Now I know youfelt divine nudges. You might call
them inspirations, you mightcall them intuition. And sometimes,
in fact, I would venture tosay that most of the time we ignore
them, yeah, yeah, yeah, later,or I don't know, that's just a stupid
thought or I can't do thatanyway, or you know, a hundred other
ways to ignore those things.It is still truth announcing itself.
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And so let's reframe thatache. That ache isn't asking for
more booze to quiet the pain.It isn't asking for another million
so you can buy another, youknow, $350,000 car and pretend you're
cool. It isn't asking foranother big 2,000 square foot addition
to your 10,000 square foothouse. That pain isn't asking for
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that. Let's talk about what itis asking for. That emptiness is
energy that has beenmisassigned. It's energy that's been
used to chase the wrongthings. So what else is there? Well,
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let's talk about the realtruth of who we are. And that is
this. You're a divine being.You know that you have memories and
remembrances of things beforeyou came to this world with gifts
and talents. Even identicaltwins raised in the same family develop
completely different interestsand have different skills. Why is
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that? Well, because they camedifferent, they look the same physically,
but were different. And thenthe way we go through life makes
us different. So we are builtphysically and spiritually to love
and to serve each other. Iwant you to think back when you've
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been in service, like realservice. Maybe you got paid for it,
maybe you didn't. But when theactivity was real service, like you
could see intentionally in afocused way, you were really helping
somebody, lifting and blessingthem. There's no satisfaction and
feeling that's bigger thanthat. Service is the biggest high
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of all time. You know, one ofthe interesting things that they
prescribe for people whostruggle for with depression, and
I did for decades. Get offyour ass and go help somebody. Stop
thinking about me. Me, me, me,me, me, me. I don't feel like this.
I don't. I, I, I, I just cutthe pronoun for a while. How can
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I love you? Look at everyperson and ask simply the question,
how can I make their daybetter? Not because I need something,
how can I love them? Maybethey need a smile. Maybe they need
a favor. Maybe they need aconversation. Maybe they need to
be acknowledged. Maybe theyjust need someone to pay attention
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to them. When was the lasttime you went through your contact
list with the idea who can Ilove today? Who can I just send messages
of joy, excitement? I haven'ttalked to you for a while. I just
want you to know, thinkingabout you and I really cherish our
last conversation or thememory that I had that we did this,
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that and the other, and I'dlike to do it again. When can we,
when can we have lunch? Whencan we, you know, acknowledgement
and love that does way morefor your heart and soul than another
million in the bank. And ifyou're laughing because I said that,
then you haven't tried it. Soif you want to think about science,
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neurotransmitters, thecocktail of neurotransmitters in
our blood is what decides howwe're feeling, right? The neurotransmitter
cocktail makes us mad or sador happy or joyful, you know, or
want to have make love. Allthose things are neurotransmitters.
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The spirit, the energetic bodyhas some kind of a similar mechanism.
Because when you helpsomebody, it's not just the oxytocin
and the anandamide and blissmolecule and, you know, the other
neurotranspirator. It's notjust those. There's a deeper sense
of soul satisfaction. Everygreat evolution. So if you today
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are in the place that Idescribed, where you've climbed the
high wall and you did fabulousand you know it, and you felt the
empty, you felt the yearning,sometimes it shows up as, I should
give back. I've succeeded inall these ways and I now need to
give back. I just feel a needto do that. Okay, listen to that.
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Now. One of the things that'sfun about that yearning is because
of the unique nature of yourlife. Your skills, your gifts, your
divine nature. You know, thelife experience you've had, your
version and vision of givingback is going to be different than
everybody else's. That meansyou can do things other people can't.
That means you can providevalue, love, caring, service, education,
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coaching, training. Differentthan anyone else because you are
different. And that differenceis your super power. You know, I
used to hear people say thatand I didn't understand it. You can
make a living using your ownlife experience. And I used to think
that was crap. Again, somestuff people said, just, you know,
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sell stuff. I've now learnedthat it's not only true, it's the
best that you've got. You wantto make a boatload of cash, do the
work, to mine your life forwhat you know and learn and share
that that's your most powerfulgift. That's your most money gift,
and that is the deepest andmost satisfaction. And I say most
money because people arealways saying, yeah, but I gotta
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pay bills. You do. And I don'tcare how rich you get. Money doesn't
buy peace. Money doesn't buysatisfaction. It doesn't buy fulfillment.
And you know that. You know itfrom examples around you. And maybe
you know, it because you'vemade your boatload of cash and realized,
holy crap, I'm not fulfilled.Is that all there is? So when we
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choose to be in service, trulyin love and service, that feels better
than anything. Why do youthink the so many, not all of them,
so many billionaires, BillGates, another hundred million dollars
to this cause and that cause.And lots of them do that. Philanthropic
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endeavors. Not just as a taxshelter, not just because we are
called to do that. And we'renot only called. And I'm going to
say this really slow becauseit's really important. Sometimes
we then go and think, okay,fine, when I make a bunch of cash,
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then I'll be a philanthropist,but I got to make a lot of money
first. And you'll never getthere. And you'll never be fulfilled.
You'll sabotage yourselfbefore you get there. You can develop.
In fact, indeed shoulddevelop, and I use that word should
carefully because I'm nottelling anybody what to do. Develop
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your giving on the way becauseit makes you earn more money faster.
It connects you with morepeople, more deeply. It makes you
matter more. When we are inlove and service, there becomes more
substance to our soul. Thesize of our soul actually grows.
I don't know, maybe if we doenough love and service, the soul
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won't even fit in the bodyanymore. It'll leak out our ears.
I'm being a little silly, butyou already. I've met so many people
that say, you know, I justhave this yearning to help. Well,
the yearning is built into us.And one of the most important messages
I want to leave you with todayis that can start right now. Wherever
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you are on the ladder ofrecognition and financial growth,
you can climb that ladderfaster. If you are in love and service
with your fellow beings, youwill climb it with more satisfaction
as you love and serve. Youwill have more creativity as you
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love and serve. Moreopportunities will land in your lap
as you love and serve. Thatlove that we're made out of has the
effect in the universe ofattracting opportunities to you.
We've all heard about the lawof attraction and yeah, there is
an attractive force. Weattract who we're being. So if we
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are being a love and serviceand kindness and judgment free helping
person, we will attract moneyand opportunities like you can't
believe. Zig Ziglar, I think,is quoted with saying, you can have
anything you want in the worldif you help enough other people get
what they want. It's the samething. And here's another thing that
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I notice. If I Go about thatactivity just because I want to make
money. So I know he said, if Ido that, I'm going to help them.
And I help them. I help 27people. How come I'm not. You can't.
It doesn't work like that. Ithas to be without expectation. It
has to be out of pure love,because pure love, that vibration.
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Yeah, it's woo woo talk. Goingout into the universe is infinitely
powerful. It drawsopportunities to you. It draws people
to you. You know that. Youknow what it's like to be around
somebody who's greedy. Youknow what it's like to be on somebody
who's a jerk. You know whatit's like to be around somebody that's
only out for themselves. Andyou know what it's like to be around
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somebody who is truly caring,genuine. I love it when people say
to me, you know, I met so andso and they're really rich and famous
and I thought they'd be jerkwads. And you know what? They're
so nice. They were trying tohelp everybody. And they that want
to help everybody is acharacteristic that attracts success,
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fame, fortune, opportunity. Itdoesn't. I promise you that. Not
because Kellen said so, butbecause those are eternal laws. When
we send out love, we get itback. When we send out generosity,
we get it back. When we go outof our way to help people, we get
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it back. When we go out of ourway to serve and bless and lift and
make that the focus. You'realways against the right wall. And
you can pursue careeropportunities and education opportunities
and being the CXO of whateveror an entrepreneur, starting your
own company to five, six, notfive, but six, seven, eight, nine
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figures. And do it in love andservice and kindness, greed and cheating
and dissing. And that's notrequired. In fact, it destroys your
ladder. So if you want to livethis ultimate life, I talk about
every episode, you can, youcan have it. And it is easiest and
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fastest to build. When wechoose a life of love and service
and serve with our skills, ourgifts that we, you know, came naturally
with in our life experience.When we weave those together in the
triple helix rope, there'snothing we can't create. You were
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built as a divine creator. Sowas I. I have finally, after these
years of working on that andfiguring it out, reached a level
of mastery with that. So I cancreate whatever I want. And it manifests
and it comes in my life,clients, money, joy, opportunity,
service, creativity, etc. AndI live every day that ultimate life.
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And that doesn't matter toyou, except I'm sharing it with you.
Not only the fact that I haveit, so what? But the fact that you
can have it. There's nothingspecial about me except I wouldn't
quit. It won't stop. I'm goingover that mountain. And my mission
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this year is to help you.Right here, listening to this achieve,
purpose, prosperity and joy,to change the world the way you want
to. So if you have achievedsuccess and you're feeling that flat
feeling, this is your call.This is your call to wake up. And
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if you said this isn't enoughanymore, then it's time to understand
what real fulfillment at thesoul level is. I invite you to have
a convo. If you'd like.Kellenfluekigermedia.com this URL
up there.Kellenfluecigermedia.com is a contact
form. Let's talk My mission isto help 300 million people, you included,
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to own the truth that you canhave anything you want. The only
thing keeping me or you fromachieving all we want is our own
stories, our own lack ofwillingness to put on our hiking
shoes and walk up the hillbecause the road's there. It's been
walked and it's been marked.So I invite you to walk with me.
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Walk with me. Becauserealizing you've been against the
wrong wall is just the start.Okay? I'm climbing down this ladder
and going to the other. I'mgoing to acknowledge the truth of
my divine nature. I'm going toget the help I need so I can climb.
Stay energized and motivated.I love you. My goal with all of my
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heart is to give youeverything that I have to show you
how to create right thisminute, your ultimate life. Right
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here, right now. Youropportunity for massive growth is
right in front of you. Everyepisode gives you practical tips
and practices that will changeevery everything. If you want to
know more, go to Kellen Flukermedia.com if you want more free tools,
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Have you ever gotten exactlywhat you wanted? Like hit the big
home run, the big kahuna, andit feels flat. What the heck is going
on? Welcome to the show. Tiredof the hype about living the dream.
It's time for truth. This isthe place for tools, power and real
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Welcome to your ultimate life.The podcast been going on for five
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and a half, going on sixyears, pretty soon dedicated to just
one thing. How do you createthat life? You love, purpose, prosperity
and joy. Most of the time, atleast. The way I started and was
brought up and indoctrinatedis that you need big success in the
world. Like somebody has tocrown you king for a day, or, you
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know, C suite something, CEO,coo, C something or other, or. And
combined with that, you make abunch of money. 2004-005000-00700,000
million, whatever it is. Thatwas it, right? I mean, that's what
we all strived, strove true,tried to get right. That was it.
I mean, that's the way I wasraised. You know, my dad had XYZ
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job and, oh, we had a lot ofconversation about can't afford this,
that and the other. So get abetter job, go to school. I mean,
you know the drill, right? Sothe question I started with is, you
all have goals, we have goals.And sometimes, most of the time,
especially in the beginning ofour lives, there's somebody else's.
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You should go to college, youshould graduate, you should get a
trade, you should make acertain amount of money, you should
drive this, you should livehere, you shouldn't live there, don't
date this person, don't go outthat, don't this, do that. Those
goals were externally imposedand that ends up almost always in
conflict and misery. And thereason that it does isn't because
the goals weren't, you know,good for somebody, right? They were
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good for somebody and someone.Parents, teachers, leaders, church
leaders, whatever, give youthat kind of advice out of the depth
of their heart because oftheir experience. And the truth is,
they don't know you at all.You know Tom Petty's old song, nobody,
no one knows what it's like.You don't know what it's like. You
don't know what it's like tobe me. And that is true, hundred
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percent true. I have no ideawhat you've been through and more
importantly, what it did withyou to you, for you. Like, two people
can go through exactly thesame circumstance, and it does something
completely different to them.Why? Well, duh. They're different
people. Right? Let's throw twopeople in a swimming pool. One can
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swim, one can't. You don'tknow the difference. One gets out,
one drowns. Same pool, samedepth, same whatever. One knew how
to swim, one didn't. You know,the things that we've learned and
the experiences we have aren'ttattooed on the forehead. All the
skills and gifts, but they'reall part of our life. And when we
learn stuff early enough anddeeply enough, it's instinctive.
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And by instinctive, I mean,you know, automatic reaction. What
I really meant is it's ournatural reaction. So if you're taught
to not like another race, thenevery time you see them, you add
old dialogue plays in thebackground. Something wrong with
them. They're bad. Or richpeople. They all suck. They got it
wrong somehow. If they'rerich, they're evil. We've all had
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those kinds of stories, andnone of them are good. Absolutely
none of them are good. Andthat actually has nothing to do with
whether or not they're true.They're not good because they got
crammed down your throat. Thetruth about growth is that you or
I have to connect with thevision of possibility. We have to
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get to the place where we cansee the possibility and the value
of it. And then whatever wegot taught takes on meaning. And
we go there and we go thereunder our own steam and under our
own power. I spent most of mylife up until my early 50s living
someone else's definition ofsuccess. And at the same time, it
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caused all the problems, youknow, that it would. Depression,
struggle, failedrelationships, abuses, chemistry,
chemical abuses, rehab, etc.Etc. Mine was a particularly rowdy
case. But whether it's a smallamount, whether it's quiet misery
that ends up in somebodyhaving a midlife crisis and walking
away from everything, orwhether someone just suffers in silence
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and does all the thingsthey're supposed to do till they're
dead and they hate their life.Like, what is that about? Well, that's
what we want to talk abouttoday. Because I talk about this
ultimate life stuff, purpose,prosperity and joy. And it's real.
Like I used to hear this overand over again. You can do anything
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you set your mind to. You cancreate whatever you want. And to
me, that was all a bunch ofcrap over and over again. Crap. You're
lying. You're just sayingstuff. You're trying to make me feel
good. You're blowing smoke onand on and on, because I didn't believe
any of it. And continuedrepetition is what it felt like.
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It sounded like I didn't doanything to get it inside my heart.
So let's talk about the arc ofsuccess. The next several episodes
till nearly the end ofJanuary, six episodes are going to
talk about this arc ofsuccess. Like, what does it flip
and take to create a life youlove, purpose, prosperity and joy
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built on the five pillars.WIPO swearth W I P O S worth, identity,
possibility, ownership,sovereignty. What the heck does it
take? Well, I want to startwith a particular story. So in Stephen
Covey's book, and maybe it wasnot in his book 7 Habits, I seem
to remember this quote tied tothat book. But it could be wrong.
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You know, it's terrible tospend all your effort climbing the
ladder. What is it? Ladder ofsuccess, corporate ladder, Ladder
of entrepreneurship, even.Ladder of money, ladder of whatever
and get to the top and findout it was against the wrong wall.
You know, there are manydescriptions, but that's an apt description
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of crap. I put a whole bunchof effort in here and I got to the
top and like, so what? It wasthe wrong wall. I put my ladder against
the wrong wall. And so whocares? I don't even care. There's
an old song, I think Doris Daysang it called Is that All There
is? And it is a melancholy,sad song. And I don't remember all
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the words, but the. The chorusis, is that all there is? Is that
all there is? If that's allthere is, my friend, then let's keep
dancing. Let's break, breakout the booze and have a ball. And
it really is okay. I hit thetop. Fame, cash, notoriety. And my
gut is empty. Yeah. People,you know, say I'm cool. People say
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you're cool. You did it. Youmade it. Then why do I feel so black?
Why do I keep looking forsomething? Well, that's a legitimate
and powerful question thatuntold thousands, millions of people
ask. And the reason is becausewe've been told, taught, indoctrinated,
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poured the Kool Aid down ourthroats, that the wrong things are
important. I have more moneythan you. That is not important.
But we've been told it is. Ourwhole society is built on that red
carpet. Glamour, glitz, cars,bigger houses, bigger. This. More,
more and more of more isalways more better. More is better,
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right? No, it's not. Butthat's the. The worship, the love,
the religion of money. Thecorollary religion is status. I'm
more important than you Morepeople know my name. I can get into
places you can't because I'mcool and you're not. You know, C.S.
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lewis is quoted as saying,happiness isn't in having a thing,
whatever that is, but inhaving more of it than the next person.
How sick. So we've beenpoisoned with the idea that more
is the answer. And so when weget more, then we look around and
see somebody else that hasmore or less of whatever it is, money,
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status, house, car, you know,they have more. Oh, well, then I
need more. I'm not happy, I'mflat, I'm empty. So they have more.
I better get more. And then weset about getting more. And pretty
soon we. We. We dis. Wedisavow, we neglect. We dump things
that were once upon a timeimportant to us because, oh, we got
to go get that more. It'susually money, but it can be anything
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and all the way. You know,what do we do? We lose families,
we lose relationships. Legionstories of people going, pursuing,
you know, got the gig, got upin the company, big. This big, that
spent 50 million hours atwork. Don't know. Your kids. Don't
know. Your spouse. Don't know.Don't know. Oh, dear. And then, you
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know, divorce, misery, drugs,infidelity, cheating, etc. Or why?
Because we walked away fromwhat was truly important. Money isn't
the answer. Love is theanswer. Relationships is the answer.
Honesty is the answer. Beingyour word is the answer. Living true
to your divine nature is theanswer. Service, creating beauty
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and love and kindness in theworld is the answer. Those are the
answer. Now, I'm not sayingthere's anything wrong with making
a boatload of cash, but whathappens is we worship that. We get
to where that is moreimportant. Now, there's a. There's
a some questions I want you tojust honestly think about. I want
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you to think about areas whereyou fully accomplished everything
you wanted or a ton. Likewhere you're in a place where you
think, wow, I never thoughtI'd get here. That. I never thought
I'd get here. Maybe you've hada picture on the wall of the house.
And then you have the house,right? You have it. There it is.
I own it. I walk into it. Iremember that occurrence. I didn't
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have a picture of the house Ibought, but I had a picture of what
it ought to look like. Howmany rooms, how many square feet.
I bought it. 5 acres. Agigantic house. Not happy, still
looking for more. More. And,you know, doing what I had to do.
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To keep it and live it. But itwas the emptiness. And again, I want
you to write this phrase down.You can never, never get enough.
Excuse me? You can never getenough of what you don't need because
what you don't need won'tsatisfy you. Steve Jobs, I think,
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is, you know, fabled assaying, a $3,000 watch tells time
the same as the $30 watch.$300,000 car gets you to the same
place a $30,000 car does. Andhe went on and gave several examples.
And excuse me, what he wastrying to illustrate was this point
we've been talking about. Sothe name of this episode is you made
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it. Why does it feel so flat?And I want to explore that because
we're going on the nextseveral episodes on the ark of fulfillment.
And when we get down to theother side of the rainbow, we're
going to have sharedeverything that it takes to create
your ultimate life. Everythingit takes. Now, I'm sharing this from
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a place of absolute certaintyand knowledge. And the reason that
I am is because I have walkedthat rainbow from a place of misery,
from a place of havingachieved everything I thought I wanted,
realizing it was not all that,not even close. Experiencing all
the difficulties and strugglesthat that conflict creates, shedding
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it all, you know, nearly dyinga couple times and a whole bunch
of stuff, and then making aclear decision. I'm going to go find
out what's truly important.Walk the rainbow. Walk over the bridge.
I always draw it like arainbow. Why? Because there's a pot
of gold at the end of therainbow, and I like pots of gold.
So I've walked it. I did it.From misery to mastery, from suicide
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to true success in the soul atthe deepest level. What that. What
the heck does that mean? Well,it means that today, this day, as
I record this, I'm happy everyday, all the time, people ask me,
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like, we all do each other,right? How are you doing? And I don't
ever say fine. I don't evereven say great. I usually say something
like outrageous. And thenpeople say, what do you mean? Because,
you know, outrageous can beoutrageous, can be like, terrible.
What do you mean, outrageous?And then I usually finish it up with,
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if I was any better, I'dexplode. Or, there need to be two
of me, or, you know, somethinglike that. And the point is, I don't
want to gloss over thatquestion because that question is
the beginning of the search.How are you? And Maybe it takes 10,
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15 or 20 minutes or half anhour or two hour walk in the woods
to just dare to answer thatquestion. Question. How are you?
How do you feel? Are you fullof love for yourself and for others?
Are you truly grateful forwhat you have, no matter what it
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is, how much it is or isn't?Are you deeply engaged in loving
and serving others around you?I don't know why the cough's here
today, but anyway, it is. Sois that true? And there are several
other questions like that toexplore, like the truth about yourself.
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And honestly, when I talk topeople, most people can even answer
those questions. They startwith a superficial layer. Who are
you? Well, I'm the presidentof xyz. Or roles. I'm a dad, or I'm
a CEO, or I'm a citycouncilor, whatever. And that isn't
who you are. Some of thethings you do, and maybe you do them
really well. So let's talkabout here. This. The myth is that
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there is fulfillment in stuff.We were sold a gigantic lie. That
achievement equals peace. Nottrue. There is nothing that comes
from the outside that willgive you peace of mind, peace in
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your heart that will let youlook in the mirror and love everything
you see. Nothing from theoutside will do that. No amount of
acclaim, no number of awards,no amount of recognition. It is legend.
The number of people who saythe following. Some kind of award
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or multiple awards orrecognition gets heaped on them.
And then secretly, at the timeor later, when they get home, they
look in the mirror and thewords in their mind are, if they
only knew. Imposter syndrome.Hiding one or ten or a hundred skeletons
with the thought that if theyknew me, really, they wouldn't like
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me, they wouldn't trust me.They wouldn't, you know, they'd blow
me off. I'd be dead, I'd begone. I personally know. I felt like
that. And I personally know abunch of people who, many hundreds,
thousands that I havepersonally talked to that express
that kind of feeling. So whatis that? Well, like I said, we were
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sold this myth. And the mythis that achievement is peace. House,
money, position, cars, status,recognition, power. We were sold.
That. That's achieve. I mean,excuse me, that. That equals sign.
Achievement equals peace. Solet's think about this. I can tell
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you there's a hollow feelingif you have a public win, you have
some win where you'reacknowledged, like wildly acknowledged.
I remember a very specificcircumstance, and I'm not going to
go into details because it'snot relevant and it would be a long
story anyway, but where I hada public acclaim from people that
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were in very high positions,and they said, wow, law. And said
this thing that was as highachievement acknowledgment as possible.
And when I got home, it feltnothing. If you only knew, right?
And I felt strutted. Yeah, I'mcool. I can do this. Yeah, look at
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me. And it lasted about threeseconds because it's hollow and comes
from the outside. So whatcomes after that emptiness is a hunger.
And the hunger we misinterpretas more. Well, if that felt good,
and it did for a moment, youget that kind of acclaim acknowledgment
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award. Wow, you. You know, youreally got. It feels good for a minute,
and then it's replaced by ahunger. I need it again. Who else
can tell me? I'm cool? Well,you can't have enough of them. We
all know the stories of actorsand musicians and leaders of corporations
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and stuff that end up takingtheir own lives. And we were just
staggered. We're like, why?They had everything. They had everything
except happy. So that's thewrong wall thing. And so here's what
I want you to realize. Thathunger is a soul hunger. It's a hunger
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of your spirit that no amountof stuff, no amount of hangers on
followers, money, houses,drugs, alcohol, no amount of money
can fill that hole. So whetheryou've had that feeling a little
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or a lot, like I did, at leastfor me, it was a lot. It's not enough,
and it never will be. So let'stalk about what to do about that
success when we use thatexternal value, it's kind of like
a costume we forget we'rewearing. Our worth is tethered to
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applause. And so what are wedoing? Well, we're endlessly seeking
applause. Where can I be inanother place to get acknowledged
and recognized? Because whatwe're looking for is kudos, acknowledgments,
petting, as it were, fromoutside. And that. That absolutely
feels good for a moment, andit feels empty after five minutes.
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And so we go looking foranother fix. It's absolutely no different
than addiction to somechemical substance. It is an addiction,
and there can never be enough.You develop a tolerance for it, just
like you do with manysubstances. And there can never be
enough and more and more. Andpretty soon you overdose. Or if you're
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not, you know, if theadrenaline doesn't kill you or the
applause doesn't kill you, yougo looking for bigger and bigger
thrills. And that's when youstart taking crazy risks. And we
all know where that. Wherethat road goes. So here's the thing.
Real freedom. Now we've talkedabout all the problems and acknowledged
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them in many of the differentways it shows up. So what is really
real freedom? Real freedom isremembering who you were before the
trophies. And if that is apainful memory, because where you
were before the trophies was afrightened person who thought they
couldn't cut it and neverthought they'd, quote, make it if
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that's who you were before thetrophies, you're never going to get
happy ever. Because thetrophies don't change that. The trophies
don't change the feeling ofI'm nobody, I'm nothing, I can't
cut it. So what we have to dois go to work on that falsehood because
I'm nobody, I'm nothing, Ican't cut, it isn't true. And what
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we've done is mask it over andover again, seeking this external
garbage. And the externalgarbage one is short lived. It goes
away even if it lasts 10 or 15years and it doesn't really fill
the hole. And you already knowthat because you've experienced it.
So what do we do then? Hereare some of the anesthesias that
we use to cover the pain.Overwork, distraction, numbing. And
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that has a whole gambling,shopping, drugs, alcohol, sex, whatever,
numbing things, behaviors sowe don't feel. And if you know what
I mean, then you've beenburied in one or more of those things
and you know that it doesn'twork, it doesn't last any longer
than you know the anesthesiathat it provides. So here's the truth.
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When you empty all that andyou sit by yourself, sober, quiet
and alone, what you're feelingis a divine dissatisfaction. The
divine spirit in you issaying, hey, all of these things
are fun, but they're not thereal deal. They don't last. And you
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will have known that. Theydon't fill the deep hole in your
soul and they never will. Soif it's a divine dissatisfaction,
a divine feeling saying, hey,there is more, let's get that going,
that kind of pain is truthannouncing itself. I'm here, it's
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time to act. Now I know youfelt divine nudges. You might call
them inspirations, you mightcall them intuition. And sometimes,
in fact, I would venture tosay that most of the time we ignore
them, yeah, yeah, yeah, later,or I don't know, that's just a stupid
thought or I can't do thatanyway, or you know, a hundred other
ways to ignore those things.It is still truth announcing itself.
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And so let's reframe thatache. That ache isn't asking for
more booze to quiet the pain.It isn't asking for another million
so you can buy another, youknow, $350,000 car and pretend you're
cool. It isn't asking foranother big 2,000 square foot addition
to your 10,000 square foothouse. That pain isn't asking for
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that. Let's talk about what itis asking for. That emptiness is
energy that has beenmisassigned. It's energy that's been
used to chase the wrongthings. So what else is there? Well,
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let's talk about the realtruth of who we are. And that is
this. You're a divine being.You know that you have memories and
remembrances of things beforeyou came to this world with gifts
and talents. Even identicaltwins raised in the same family develop
completely different interestsand have different skills. Why is
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that? Well, because they camedifferent, they look the same physically,
but were different. And thenthe way we go through life makes
us different. So we are builtphysically and spiritually to love
and to serve each other. Iwant you to think back when you've
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been in service, like realservice. Maybe you got paid for it,
maybe you didn't. But when theactivity was real service, like you
could see intentionally in afocused way, you were really helping
somebody, lifting and blessingthem. There's no satisfaction and
feeling that's bigger thanthat. Service is the biggest high
(25:31):
of all time. You know, one ofthe interesting things that they
prescribe for people whostruggle for with depression, and
I did for decades. Get offyour ass and go help somebody. Stop
thinking about me. Me, me, me,me, me, me. I don't feel like this.
I don't. I, I, I, I just cutthe pronoun for a while. How can
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I love you? Look at everyperson and ask simply the question,
how can I make their daybetter? Not because I need something,
how can I love them? Maybethey need a smile. Maybe they need
a favor. Maybe they need aconversation. Maybe they need to
be acknowledged. Maybe theyjust need someone to pay attention
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to them. When was the lasttime you went through your contact
list with the idea who can Ilove today? Who can I just send messages
of joy, excitement? I haven'ttalked to you for a while. I just
want you to know, thinkingabout you and I really cherish our
last conversation or thememory that I had that we did this,
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that and the other, and I'dlike to do it again. When can we,
when can we have lunch? Whencan we, you know, acknowledgement
and love that does way morefor your heart and soul than another
million in the bank. And ifyou're laughing because I said that,
then you haven't tried it. Soif you want to think about science,
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neurotransmitters, thecocktail of neurotransmitters in
our blood is what decides howwe're feeling, right? The neurotransmitter
cocktail makes us mad or sador happy or joyful, you know, or
want to have make love. Allthose things are neurotransmitters.
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The spirit, the energetic bodyhas some kind of a similar mechanism.
Because when you helpsomebody, it's not just the oxytocin
and the anandamide and blissmolecule and, you know, the other
neurotranspirator. It's notjust those. There's a deeper sense
of soul satisfaction. Everygreat evolution. So if you today
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are in the place that Idescribed, where you've climbed the
high wall and you did fabulousand you know it, and you felt the
empty, you felt the yearning,sometimes it shows up as, I should
give back. I've succeeded inall these ways and I now need to
give back. I just feel a needto do that. Okay, listen to that.
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Now. One of the things that'sfun about that yearning is because
of the unique nature of yourlife. Your skills, your gifts, your
divine nature. You know, thelife experience you've had, your
version and vision of givingback is going to be different than
everybody else's. That meansyou can do things other people can't.
That means you can providevalue, love, caring, service, education,
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coaching, training. Differentthan anyone else because you are
different. And that differenceis your super power. You know, I
used to hear people say thatand I didn't understand it. You can
make a living using your ownlife experience. And I used to think
that was crap. Again, somestuff people said, just, you know,
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sell stuff. I've now learnedthat it's not only true, it's the
best that you've got. You wantto make a boatload of cash, do the
work, to mine your life forwhat you know and learn and share
that that's your most powerfulgift. That's your most money gift,
and that is the deepest andmost satisfaction. And I say most
money because people arealways saying, yeah, but I gotta
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pay bills. You do. And I don'tcare how rich you get. Money doesn't
buy peace. Money doesn't buysatisfaction. It doesn't buy fulfillment.
And you know that. You know itfrom examples around you. And maybe
you know, it because you'vemade your boatload of cash and realized,
holy crap, I'm not fulfilled.Is that all there is? So when we
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choose to be in service, trulyin love and service, that feels better
than anything. Why do youthink the so many, not all of them,
so many billionaires, BillGates, another hundred million dollars
to this cause and that cause.And lots of them do that. Philanthropic
(30:00):
endeavors. Not just as a taxshelter, not just because we are
called to do that. And we'renot only called. And I'm going to
say this really slow becauseit's really important. Sometimes
we then go and think, okay,fine, when I make a bunch of cash,
(30:20):
then I'll be a philanthropist,but I got to make a lot of money
first. And you'll never getthere. And you'll never be fulfilled.
You'll sabotage yourselfbefore you get there. You can develop.
In fact, indeed shoulddevelop, and I use that word should
carefully because I'm nottelling anybody what to do. Develop
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your giving on the way becauseit makes you earn more money faster.
It connects you with morepeople, more deeply. It makes you
matter more. When we are inlove and service, there becomes more
substance to our soul. Thesize of our soul actually grows.
I don't know, maybe if we doenough love and service, the soul
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won't even fit in the bodyanymore. It'll leak out our ears.
I'm being a little silly, butyou already. I've met so many people
that say, you know, I justhave this yearning to help. Well,
the yearning is built into us.And one of the most important messages
I want to leave you with todayis that can start right now. Wherever
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you are on the ladder ofrecognition and financial growth,
you can climb that ladderfaster. If you are in love and service
with your fellow beings, youwill climb it with more satisfaction
as you love and serve. Youwill have more creativity as you
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love and serve. Moreopportunities will land in your lap
as you love and serve. Thatlove that we're made out of has the
effect in the universe ofattracting opportunities to you.
We've all heard about the lawof attraction and yeah, there is
an attractive force. Weattract who we're being. So if we
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are being a love and serviceand kindness and judgment free helping
person, we will attract moneyand opportunities like you can't
believe. Zig Ziglar, I think,is quoted with saying, you can have
anything you want in the worldif you help enough other people get
what they want. It's the samething. And here's another thing that
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I notice. If I Go about thatactivity just because I want to make
money. So I know he said, if Ido that, I'm going to help them.
And I help them. I help 27people. How come I'm not. You can't.
It doesn't work like that. Ithas to be without expectation. It
has to be out of pure love,because pure love, that vibration.
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Yeah, it's woo woo talk. Goingout into the universe is infinitely
powerful. It drawsopportunities to you. It draws people
to you. You know that. Youknow what it's like to be around
somebody who's greedy. Youknow what it's like to be on somebody
who's a jerk. You know whatit's like to be around somebody that's
only out for themselves. Andyou know what it's like to be around
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somebody who is truly caring,genuine. I love it when people say
to me, you know, I met so andso and they're really rich and famous
and I thought they'd be jerkwads. And you know what? They're
so nice. They were trying tohelp everybody. And they that want
to help everybody is acharacteristic that attracts success,
(33:47):
fame, fortune, opportunity. Itdoesn't. I promise you that. Not
because Kellen said so, butbecause those are eternal laws. When
we send out love, we get itback. When we send out generosity,
we get it back. When we go outof our way to help people, we get
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it back. When we go out of ourway to serve and bless and lift and
make that the focus. You'realways against the right wall. And
you can pursue careeropportunities and education opportunities
and being the CXO of whateveror an entrepreneur, starting your
own company to five, six, notfive, but six, seven, eight, nine
(34:30):
figures. And do it in love andservice and kindness, greed and cheating
and dissing. And that's notrequired. In fact, it destroys your
ladder. So if you want to livethis ultimate life, I talk about
every episode, you can, youcan have it. And it is easiest and
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fastest to build. When wechoose a life of love and service
and serve with our skills, ourgifts that we, you know, came naturally
with in our life experience.When we weave those together in the
triple helix rope, there'snothing we can't create. You were
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built as a divine creator. Sowas I. I have finally, after these
years of working on that andfiguring it out, reached a level
of mastery with that. So I cancreate whatever I want. And it manifests
and it comes in my life,clients, money, joy, opportunity,
service, creativity, etc. AndI live every day that ultimate life.
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And that doesn't matter toyou, except I'm sharing it with you.
Not only the fact that I haveit, so what? But the fact that you
can have it. There's nothingspecial about me except I wouldn't
quit. It won't stop. I'm goingover that mountain. And my mission
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this year is to help you.Right here, listening to this achieve,
purpose, prosperity and joy,to change the world the way you want
to. So if you have achievedsuccess and you're feeling that flat
feeling, this is your call.This is your call to wake up. And
(36:29):
if you said this isn't enoughanymore, then it's time to understand
what real fulfillment at thesoul level is. I invite you to have
a convo. If you'd like.Kellenfluekigermedia.com this URL
up there.Kellenfluecigermedia.com is a contact
form. Let's talk My mission isto help 300 million people, you included,
(36:55):
to own the truth that you canhave anything you want. The only
thing keeping me or you fromachieving all we want is our own
stories, our own lack ofwillingness to put on our hiking
shoes and walk up the hillbecause the road's there. It's been
walked and it's been marked.So I invite you to walk with me.
(37:21):
Walk with me. Becauserealizing you've been against the
wrong wall is just the start.Okay? I'm climbing down this ladder
and going to the other. I'mgoing to acknowledge the truth of
my divine nature. I'm going toget the help I need so I can climb.
Stay energized and motivated.I love you. My goal with all of my
(37:45):
heart is to give youeverything that I have to show you
how to create right thisminute, your ultimate life. Right
(38:09):
here, right now. Youropportunity for massive growth is
right in front of you. Everyepisode gives you practical tips
and practices that will changeevery everything. If you want to
know more, go to Kellen Flukermedia.com if you want more free tools,
go here. Your Ultimate Life casubscribe Share Stand with your heart
(38:36):
in the sky and your feet onthe ground. Be.
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