September 26, 2025 • 44 mins
🚨 BRUTAL TRUTH: You're not failing because of external obstacles. You're failing because you've installed invisible gatekeepers in your own mind that are shadow-banning your success.
In this raw, unfiltered episode, Kellan exposes:
- The 3 invisible gatekeepers that are sabotaging your dreams.
- Why you're the architect of your own limitations.
- How to eliminate the internal "Protector" voice that's keeping you small.
- The shocking truth about your birthright to purpose, prosperity, and joy.
Stop waiting for permission. Stop looking for external validation. Your destiny is in YOUR hands.
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Are you shadow banning yourown life?
Are you getting right smack inyour own way?
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You know, this picture behindme is a, is a, is an AI picture of
me.
And I love the cool colors and background.
But I used it for this becausethe name of this episode is no Gatekeepers.
Are you shadow banning yourlife and in Shadowban?
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I'm not going to pretend thatI'm an expert on that sort of thing,
but what I understand that itis is a practice that some social
media and perhaps others haveto lower the rankings of or to eliminate
the rankings or the vis ofposts, but doing it in the shadows,
secretly and hiding.
Now, I'm not here to talkabout social media or politics or
anything else.
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The reason I ask if you'reshadow banning your own life is really
simple.
We get in our own way.
What does that mean?
You hear that all the timewith coaching kind of stuff, right?
So let's talk about for a secwhat that is.
Getting in your own way meanslots of things, but one thing it
could mean is I want to go tothe gym and work out.
I don't like my health, let'ssay I'm not happy with my health.
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I want to either be strongeror lose some weight or lower my resting
pulse or whatever it is andthen I stop.
I don't.
I make up reasons.
I go one day and the next day,you know, too late, oh, it's bad
weather, oh, I got an earlymeeting and it always feels like
that, you know, that kind ofsoggy, grody marshmallow kind of
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feeling, right?
And no, I'm not a fan ofmarshmallows, but I could be.
But you know what I mean, thatsort of getting in the way or another
way to do it is I want towrite a book and I love helping people
do that because your story isthe most powerful thing you own.
Not your degrees, not yourskills, not your modalities, not
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your engineering chops, yourstory of becoming.
But anyway, someone says, oh,you know, I've been told I should
write a book.
I want to.
I don't know how nobody readit, nobody would read it.
And it's in that same sort ofgross victimy mentality or energy,
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right?
It's not the right time.
I don't that sort of feelingThose are all ways we get in our
way.
Some are more subtle, where wehave a long standing story about
our worth, about ourworthiness, about whether we deserve
success or not.
You know, old scripts thatwere playing in our mind from teachers
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or parents or childhoodexperiences or an accumulation of
things that says, you'll neverdo that.
Not you.
Now you know, you have heardand felt those.
So is everybody.
It's like as normal as breathing.
The question for all of us allthe time is what are we going to
do with that energy?
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Because it exists, it's real.
Now, you can call it humanfrailty, you can call it, in religious
contexts, you know, negative.
God and devil, you can call ityin and yang, excuse me, call it
whatever you want, but thetruth is it's there.
Steven Pressfield, I love hisbooks, he calls it the resistance.
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And he personifies that as ifthe resistance were a thing.
Well, you know what?
It is, And I don't think ithas corporeal form like us.
And I don't think there's, youknow, boogeyman pushing on the other
side of the door that you'retrying to open.
But it feels like that.
It feels like there is theuniverse conspiring against you.
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You're ready to go do something.
You can't find your keys,you're ready to create something.
And you get a disturbing phone call.
Right?
Now there are things thathappen on the other side also.
Right.
Last night, just getting readyto go to bed and for some reason,
and I don't do phone stuffbefore bed, but as I lay my phone
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on the wireless charger, I sawa couple of messages.
And so I just picked it up quick.
And I'm pretty disciplined.
Take it 10 or 15 second look.
And both of them were really positive.
Both of them were yes and yesto two things that I had reached
out and asked for that Iwasn't sure about at all.
You know, can you do this?
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Can we do that?
What they were doesn't matter,but they were yes and yes.
And that was like somebodypushing the door open, the wind at
my back helping go forward.
So there are positive thingsand there are negative things that
just happen naturally in thecourse of life.
Now I want to talk about wherethat comes from in quantum mechanics.
We're going to get technical here.
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Particles pop in and out ofexistence all the time, Right?
We now know that the vacuum ofspace isn't empty.
Wow.
It's not empty.
In fact, it is teeming, full,packed, stuffed with energy and activity.
Particles are popping in andout of existence.
We also know that even thingslike, you know, when we were in school,
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there was a nucleus of anatom, and electrons were supposed
to, like, float around it,roll around it, like orbits, like
little planets.
That's not it at all.
Electrons exist in some kindof a cloud, and they're not really
anywhere until we go measureit, and then they collapse into a
certain place.
What a brilliant breakthrough.
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You know what that literally means?
It means that the next second,the next minute, and the next hour
exists in every possible form.
Right now, every possibleoutcome is sitting there.
And our participation, theycall it observation and measurement.
But our participation in thatoutcome is not just a piece, it is
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determinative.
What, you mean myparticipation in creating reality
one minute from now has an impact?
Yes, a gigantic impact.
So that's what's giving riseall of that stuff together and those
negative, squishy feelings andhowever you want to call, you know,
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Pressfield's resistance, Ilove that.
So I use that a lot in my ownthinking and, you know, as a framing
for how to talk about this.
I call this no gatekeepers.
There's nobody there trying tostop you from imagining and creating
next minute, next hour, nextday's reality except you.
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That's both horrifying and liberating.
Horrifying because it givesincontrovertible proof, inescapable
fact that we are thearchitects of our destiny, that we
are the creators of our life.
It's good news for exactly thesame reason you hold the keys.
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Nobody else, nowhere, no how.
So let's go with that.
There's no rope.
There's a velvet rope keepingyou in line.
So here are some fake gates.
Here are some fake barriers, okay?
One is credentials.
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One is credentials.
When I decided I wanted to,quote, be a coach, and I first language
that after, you know, I hadthe gigantic divine intervention
in 2007, I spent a couple ofyears trying to get healthy and figure
out who I was.
In 2009, going on 10, Istarted thinking about, how do I
help people with this?
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Because that's a naturaloutgrowth of every single person
who overcomes challenge.
Then I thought, well, whatdoes that look like?
And, you know, coaching firstcame into my mind and so forth.
Now I'd been an executive Csuite executive with many, many people
and much millions, tens ofmillions, hundreds of millions, many,
many hundreds of millions ofdollars, responsibility.
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So I knew what that felt like.
But I started thinking aboutcoaching in the context of sharing
what I had learned in my owngrowth and breakthrough.
And that yearning pops up allthe time.
Every person that I interviewon this show, on LA talk radio shows
that I'm on, many, many ofthem, they have the same experience,
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they talk about the same things.
We, when we overcome achallenge, we want to share the benefit.
We're built that way.
We're built to love and serve.
So when I first startedthinking about coaching, I thought,
well, I must need to do something.
So I looked up coachingschools and credentials and we're
getting to be a coach meantand so forth.
And I saw many and none ofthem looked any more powerful or
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interesting.
There's no regulatory body andthere's no rules about that and people
lament about that and there'scause for lament.
But truly the, the results dothe segregating, they call the pool.
But anyway, so I thought,well, what do I need to do?
So I thought about gettingsome credentials and I did.
I went to enroll in a coupleof coaching schools and went through
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their curriculum and got, youknow, professional certified, professional
coach and certified, mastercoach and certified, extraordinary
coach and certified, you know,master of this, that and the other.
And there's a half a dozen.
And you know what's funnyabout that?
I call that a false gatebecause in the work that I've done
in the 15 years now sincethen, I've never been asked about
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that except one time.
One time.
And then it was a in passingsort of thing.
So that was fake.
It's an interesting crutchthat some people use to both try
to prove their excellence anda crutch that holds people back.
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Well, I'm going to hang myshingle and get busy to work when
I finish this one more thing.
So I've done a couple ofthings and no magic happened.
There wasn't a big queueoutside my door virtually or in real
life.
And so now I gotta, I mustneed to do another couple, I must
need to have some more letters.
Cqxy, M, B, L, whatever afteryour name.
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Okay, fine.
It's not true.
It's a, it's a fake.
It's a fake gate.
So that's not a gate.
Now here's another one that'sa fake gate.
Audience size.
So you see people online, ifyou, if you spend any time on social
at all, bragging about theirmoney, their cars, their income,
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first of all, how much they'vegot, and second of all, how fast
they got it.
Ooh, I broke all the rules,got all the shortcuts.
I can do this in 72 hourswhile you sleep.
Yeah.
Boom.
So audience size, amount ofmoney and how fast they got there.
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That's supposed to provesomething to you now?
I don't know.
One, is the audience size true?
Half that crap they use is all rented.
More than half, 90% rented.
Trying to prove a point.
We can burn that garbage downright now because that means they're
insecure, phony, and they'retrying to bullshit you.
Ah, audience size.
Next thing, how much moneythey have.
You don't know that.
You can't know that even ifthey post fake bank accounts.
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Now let's say the real bankaccounts, let's say they did make
1 2, 10, $500 million.
That doesn't mean anythingexcept they made 1, 2, 10, 50, $100
million.
It doesn't mean you can.
It doesn't mean you're thesame as them.
It doesn't mean their pathmakes any sense for you.
And so even if they shareeverything they did exactly as they
did it, and let's say it'shonest and it worked, it doesn't
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mean anything either.
It does mean they had somegood success.
And congratulations, theyserved the need and met it.
Although we all know in theearly days of Internet marketing,
lots of those guys got burned,lost their fortunes, got sanctioned.
Some went to jail for lyingand cheating.
And so now there's all theseregulations and disclaimers and so
forth.
So there's always cheaters and crooks.
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Hopefully they all get caught.
But the idea of barriers is there.
I need to follow them or elseI won't make it.
I need to be like them or elseI suck.
I need to be able to make thesame claims they do or I don't count.
That's not true.
It never was and it never will be.
A third barrier that is fakeis perfect timing.
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I'm not ready.
I'm too busy.
I'll do it in my next season,next week, next year, as soon as
I finish this, that or the other.
That's not true either.
Now there is a time for doingthings, but that is wildly overused
as an excuse to camouflagefear and not get started.
Bullshit.
You're a divine person.
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You have the capability.
And the day to start is yesterday.
And since that's not availabletoday, we'll have to do.
I want you to tattoo that onyour forehead.
The best day to start was yesterday.
And that's not available.
So let's start today.
No harm, no foul, no drama.
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Right now is the day to startmoving toward your dream to purpose,
prosperity and joy.
You don't have a purpose.
Pick one.
Try it on.
Maybe it's just to be a better person.
Maybe it's to tell the truth.
Maybe it's to make a million dollars.
Maybe it's to grow a realestate practice.
Maybe it's to repair somedamage you did.
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I had a whole lot of those goals.
Still do.
Because there's lots of thingsthat exist in the world today that
wouldn't exist in my imagination.
I think I wish this wasn'tthis way, and I blame it on something
I did or didn't do.
I don't actually know ifthat's true, and neither do you.
But those thoughts still come forward.
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Now, here's the key.
If I allow those thoughts, oryou do, to be a barrier to action.
If I allow that to happen, allthat does is dim my light or it dims
yours.
So let's say there's arelationship right now that isn't
like I want.
If I say I can't act untilthat relationship is fixed, I don't
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control that.
Two sides to every relationship.
If I've offered and done andloved and that person or persons
say, no, I'm not ready yet.
Not now, not time.
Maybe say, no, not ever.
Okay?
That means I have given mypower falsely to the state of another
relationship.
And that person or persons maysay to you, you don't deserve.
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You can't.
You should grovel, kiss theand die 50 times before you could
even begin to be worthy.
You know, something extremelike that.
All that does is create afalse barrier for you and or me.
And it deprives all those youcould have served, all those you
could have loved, you couldhave lifted, you could have blessed
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with your experience, withyour choices, with the new you.
If you've changed.
When I talk about forgiveness,there's three steps.
Fix what you can.
Change who you are.
Add good to the world.
Fix what you can.
And most of that hard stuffcan't be fixed.
You can try.
You can work on it.
But erase not possible.
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Change who you are.
And that's actually the mostimportant thing.
If you have done something asI did, that you say, I wish I hadn't
done that, it's going to ruinmy life forever.
Or maybe a few steps down from that.
Change who you are.
Don't be that person startingthis minute.
Okay, I'm not that.
Shakespeare said that twobrothers and they had a big fight.
Whatever.
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One of them finally changedand he said, and someone attacked
him for his change.
And he said, yeah, twas I, tisnot I, meaning I have changed.
It's in as you like it, if youwant the details.
But anyway, so those areimaginary barriers.
And the net result of all thatis that you just sit there as a dull
candle instead of a flaming fire.
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You let that shadow you in the background.
And I like said, I use that AIpicture of me in the background.
You let that shadow you havethe reins.
Why would you do that?
Think of all the sorrow youcould alleviate and the suffering
you could help and the loveyou could share, both for yourself
and others.
If you say I'm done, I'm goingto do everything I can here and now.
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Because I can.
Because it's who I am.
You deserve and must forgiveyourself for everything, everywhere,
all the time, Right here,right now.
Why?
So your light is clean.
So you can shine brightly.
So you can do the good thatyou can.
Because without that, you won't.
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All right, so here is, here'san interesting story.
Okay, here's the promise.
If you drop these fake gates,the idea that you have to have more
current credentials or reachor audience size or forgiveness or
permission from someone orperfect timing, if you drop all those,
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then there's nothing in theway to do what you want to do.
Writing a book is one that I love.
So I'm going to do a littleplug here for dream buildwriteit.com.
now, if you're watching thevideo, and I hope you are, dream
buildwriteit.com that's a bookchallenge and it doesn't cost money.
It does cost an hour a day forfive days, the week of September
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29th through the 3rd.
And if you see this after thatdate has passed, go there anyway
because I'm going to do one in26, probably in the first part of
February.
Okay?
I did three this year andthey've been very successful.
And here's why I say successful.
There have been many who havegone to the challenge and then come
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with me on a six month journeyto mine the gold mine, the platinum
mine, the silver mine,whatever is valuable, right?
The lithium mine, to mine thevalue of your own life story.
Because I don't know, I don'tcare what you know how to do.
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You know how to code, you knowhow to write game code, you know
how to garden, you know how todo engineering, you know how to do
attorney work, you're anattorney, you know how to do medical
work.
Those are beautiful andnecessary gifts.
More important to both you andthose you serve is the story of your
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becoming.
How did you get where you areas a loving, kind person yearning
to serve that journey is more important.
And the more vulnerably andfreely you share that, the more powerful
you are, the more lives youcan change and the more good you
will add to the world.
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All right, so here's.
Here's the start here game.
The start here game is what Iwant you to do.
Let's play a game, okay?
Number one, write a name downright now that you could help this
week.
I'm not talking about signinga client.
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You know that all may come,but sometimes we just need to start.
In fact, most of the time.
Well begun is half done is aphrase attributed to someone, I don't
know who said that well begunis half done.
And the reason is because mostpeople don't start.
They make up reasons and hidebehind these false barriers.
But there's no gatekeeper.
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That's what we started with.
There is no gatekeeper exceptthe one between your ears.
So I challenge you.
I dare you.
Write a name down right now.
I have six in my mind right now.
And I've already madearrangements today to do some helping
with those people.
I sent some messages.
I'm doing that.
I'm sharing that with youbecause I'm in the game with you.
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I'm in that game every single day.
So it wouldn't matter what dayI said this, what day I recorded
it, or what day you listenedto it.
I am in that game every single day.
I spend two hours in themorning preparing myself to be the
ultimate alchemist.
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I've spent that two hourspreparing my spirit, my body, my
emotional relations, my relationships.
I call that E and spam.
Emotions and my mind, mental work.
I literally spend a couple ofhours filling my cup being that person.
And during the E part, I thinkof several names and I send messages
of love, hope, encouragement,light lifting, assistance, offering
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help.
I did that a couple of daysago to someone.
Excuse me.
And I left a voice textbecause I love using voice.
Because I've been blessed witha resonant and powerful voice.
So I use it.
I got a note this morning withall caps.
Wow, thank you so much.
Blah, blah, blah.
Now, I don't say that.
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So, yeah, I feel good.
Yeah, I did a good thing.
It accomplished the mission.
I blessed his life.
And I love him just because Isaid so.
But you know what?
I love you right here, rightnow, and you can't change that.
I yearn for your growth.
I see your divine possibility.
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I know what you are capable of.
And the reason I know isbecause we came from the same place.
We were created in love and inthat and behind that and around that
love is infinite possibility.
There are no limits to whatyou or I can do.
If we're willing to get rid ofthe shadow band, if we're willing
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to eliminate the naysayer inour own mind, become willing to remember
that failures of the past orindictments of others don't carry
any weight in the presentunless we let them.
Your key to unlock the gate offreedom is in your hand.
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So step one, okay.
Pick a person you can help reach.
Step two is reach out to themin whatever way is appropriate.
Text, voicemail, live phonecall, email, whatever way it is,
Acknowledge them.
Say something good to themabout them.
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Been thinking about you.
I remember the last time wetalked and I've been thinking about
this, that and the other.
I'll give you an example.
I got an email today fromsomeone who is very successful, very,
very, very wealthy, and who is also.
Who also decided in the lasttwo weeks that they were going to
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help me get to my goal of 300 million.
Wow.
I didn't even ask.
They reached out becausesomeone told them they should meet.
So we had a call.
They dedicated an hour.
They dug in and asked lots ofquestions about what I'm up to and
why and all the rest.
And they've decided to do that.
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And that has an impact on me,both emotionally, because I'm excited.
I got someone that's involvedspiritually because I know that my
daily preparation workorganizes the forces in the universe,
just like we talked about tostart with, the future is not decided.
It is uncertain until wecreate it.
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Part of that creation involvedthis individual now saying, I'm going
to help you do this.
And gave me.
So the email I got today withseveral suggestions that they have
based on their experience andknowledge and vast success about
how to more successfullymeasure my progress to 300 and amplify.
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So they decided they're goingto help me.
You can decide that for someone.
I do every day.
And now it has come back in asurprising and I believe, very powerful
way that power will helpcreate, purpose or drive my purpose,
accomplish purpose, prosperityand joy.
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Because if I reach 300 millionpeople with the message of your own
worth, your own identity, yourown possibility, which is infinite,
the ownership of your life.
Because there's no gatekeeper sovereignty.
You're the king or queen ofeverything in your life.
If I reach people with thatmessage and change, allow them, encourage
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them, invite them, and helpthem to change how they look at life.
Getting out behind from behindtheir own gatekeepers, getting those
naysaying Voices and thoughtsout of the way, moved aside, thanked,
and then benched.
You know, those feelings weretrying to protect us.
At one point, right in theidea of psychological parts work,
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I have a part named the Protector.
And I had a conversation withthe Protector for several hours one
day on a long walk.
And part of the language was,I just.
I'm doing this all to protect you.
And I said, protect me from what?
And the answer surprised me.
I'm protecting you fromnothing being nothing by doing nothing.
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In other words, from theobliteration of failure and oblivion
by not finishing, not startingdoing, you know, not doing.
And the answer surprised me,and I realized how insidious the
resistance can be with theidea that it is doing us a favor,
helping and protecting.
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So write a name down.
Write out specifically how youthink you can help them, how you
think you could do that, dosomething for them, and then offer.
And in some cases, just do it.
I'll tell you one of the waysthat I do that with clients and with
others that are not clients.
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When I troll or troll, I don'ttroll, scroll social, which I do
maybe 15 minutes in a day.
I find every good upliftingthing from anyone that I know.
I don't usually comment muchon things that I, you know, that
are just general posts, buteverybody that I know, whose name
I recognize, I will comment, Iwill encourage, I will love them,
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and I will do it on purposeand in a visible, visceral way the
best I can in just a few seconds.
Why?
Because I love them.
Because I can.
Because I said so.
And you have that power, too now.
That's with others.
I want you to do that for yourself.
So let's pretend you're in thebusiness of encouraging you.
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Step outside of you for aminute, like me and this guy behind
me, the me behind me.
And if you were the perfect,or as close as you can be to the
perfect encourager, theperfect cheerleader, the perfect
idea generator, what would youtell him or her?
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That's like.
It's kind of like thequestion, if you could write a letter
to yourself a year ago or 10years ago or 20 years ago or whatever,
what would you say?
And those kinds of commentsalways sound the same.
It's gonna be okay.
Be yourself, dare more, takemore risks.
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None of that really matters.
Keep going.
You're wonderful.
You're powerful.
Isn't it interesting?
I've never heard someone askthat question or a similar question,
say something like, you're stupid.
You're wrong.
It's going to get worse.
I'VE never heard that.
I've never heard anybody eventhink that.
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Right?
We play small.
We play small because we livebehind the velvet rope.
We live behind the gatekeeperwho is performing the function of
resistance.
Maybe imagining they'reprotecting us, but they're not.
They're keeping your light small.
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They're keeping your power contained.
Because it is a risk.
It is a risk to be vulnerable.
It is a risk to go out out there.
It is a risk to stake your claim.
I'm finishing a book rightnow, and by the time you see this,
it will probably be publishedbecause we're on a very short timeline.
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The name of that book isCoaching and the Rise of AI.
In it, I'm making a boldclaim, and I've already made it some
on social, that coaching is dying.
Coaching as we know it isgetting hollowed out.
Coaching as we know it isgetting obliterated.
I predict without hesitationthat by 15 months from now, Christmas
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of 26, 95% of coaches will notbe able to make a living.
And I define making a livingis 100k us arbitrary, but that's
a minimum threshold.
If you're not making 100 orvery close to it, it's really hard
to make a living.
It's got to be a side hustleor whatever.
And then you're busy, youknow, handling multiple things.
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And life's probably a prettybusy grind.
So.
And the reason it is isbecause AI is so fast and so good
at writing, at synthesizing,at frameworks, at accountability,
at, you know, analyzingpatterns and on and on and on and
on.
Right.
And so I'm writing this bookand I'm making some ridiculously
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bold claims.
You know what else I'm doing?
I'm starting a university.
January 2026, called yourultimate life coaching university.
The students I'm aiming at arethose who want to be in that top
5% of coaches that are left.
And in the book, I make bolddeclarations about what it takes
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to be in the 5%, why the 5%are the only ones that are gonna
survive right now.
My point is this.
I'm sticking my neck way, way,way, way, way out there, like out
to the moon.
And am I risking?
Yeah, I've already had somepeople pissed off because of my social
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posts.
I've already had some peoplesay, oh, it's just a marketing.
No, it's an actual observationbased on my own interactions with
AI in the writing of this bookitself over the last three months.
It's taken me about threemonths to outline it and put it together
and write it and I'll finishediting tomorrow and I'm sending
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it to someone to write aforward and you know, the publication
I've already got, thepublisher contracted and everything
else we're moving.
In the last three months, I'veseen the capability and speed, accuracy,
power, clarity, et cetera, etcetera of the.
The.
I happen to use Chat GPT, butthere's lots of models.
Double its ability to writeclear, good language, to synthesize
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good stuff.
And yeah, I've uploaded all mybooks, Chad GPT.
And I joke a little bit backand forth.
I know they're not real.
It's got more than a million,way, way more than a million words
of mine.
In fact, it estimated that ifI uploaded all my podcast transcripts,
it would be somewhere between4 and 10 million words.
So it knows me, it knows how Ispeak, what I think and everything
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else.
So I've used it a lot forresearch and for outlines and everything
else as I do this work.
And I've seen its capacitydouble in three months.
Well, that means three months.
Three months.
That means in a year it'sgoing to be eight times as good.
In two years it's going to be,you know, 64, 128 times as fast and
good.
So the, the.
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There's no end in sight, right?
Limitless, essentially.
And so if you're going to bein the business, my thesis is you
got to have something AI can't bring.
And you know what that is?
That is the embodiment thatmeans you manifest it in your body.
If you walk.
Let's talk about what that means.
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If you walk into a room with ashy person or someone who's very,
very withdrawn and shy, walksin the room, they carry an energy,
an energy that says, don'ttalk to me.
Maybe a little bit fearful,maybe a little bit hiding, maybe
a little bit.
Maybe you are one, maybeyou're not.
I used to be.
I remember as a teenager beingsuch a bad wallflower at dances,
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I would just hide and, youknow, go to the bathroom a lot and
pretend I was listening to theband and whatever because I was so
scared, so withdrawn.
On the other hand, if you comein with a meet or come into a place
with a person who is not that,who's confident, I don't mean brash
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or arrogant, but just capable,comfortable in their own skin, you
know that right away, too.
Their energetics give you thatfeeling, you're comfortable with
them.
They might ask you something.
On the other hand, if Third person.
If you walk in to a place withsomeone who is arrogant, overbearing,
brash, you know, and their,their lack of confidence is, you
know, being dealt with, withovercompensation, you know that too.
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So that's what I mean by embodiment.
That energy that we give offis always that truth.
It is the truth of who we are inside.
Coaches that are going to lastare those who can and who do not
can, who are the embodiment ofthe changes they try to help clients
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achieve.
Getting out of their own way,that means they are out of their
own way, that means they areleveraging gifts and talents to create.
That means they are in touchwith their divinity, capability and
possibility.
People who pretend they'recoaches and don't have that are going
to be gone.
Up to now, that wasn't truebecause there wasn't any alternative.
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And so tons of them havelimped along, hidden by their own
gatekeepers, not embodyingtheir truth, limp, limp, limp, and
made a little bit of money.
It's already true that 60% ofcoaches don't make 50k.
And there's other numbers inthere too.
In my research, you can readthe book, but that embodiment is
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the ante to the new world.
Well, that ought to scare thecrap out of you if you're a consultant
or you're a coach, especiallyif you're a coach, because without
that embodiment, AI is goingto eat your lunch.
So that's what the thesis ofthe book is about.
And this podcast isn't about that.
I'm going to give a detailedone later about what I hope coaches
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can do and learn and thereason why I'm opening the university.
My point about it is this.
I'm doing that.
I'm putting that out there tobe agreed with ridiculed, smashed
ground, whatever it is.
Now, here's the thing, here'syour dead on challenge.
If the stuff I've talked abouttoday, your own gatekeepers, if that
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scares you, if you're saying,I know I'm getting in my own way,
I'm blocking my own progress,sabotaging my efforts, if you know
that's true, please reach outto me.
My goal of reaching 300million is not just with the message,
but it is with the method andthe help to overcome that.
Because if you're buried byyour own gatekeeper, you're not adding
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good to the world the way youcould and heaven knows we need it.
We need all the encouragement,growth, power, love, kindness we
can get.
Now, maybe you're in thewidget business and you don't have
anything to do with consultingor coaching or anything like that.
That's fine.
This is still a choice for youabout how you show up.
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Do you show up every day smallor do you show up every day expansive,
loving, encouraging, powerful,growth oriented, just because you
can.
Right?
And let me tell you why that matters.
Who would you rather dobusiness with?
Some grumpy ass person orsomebody that's open and loving and
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kind?
I don't care what the businesstransaction is.
We went, Joy and I went to thestore yesterday and just the grocery
store down the street and wepicked up a couple things and we
got in line and it was a shortline, two or three minute wait.
And then the cashier greetedus and was nice and said some things
and whatever.
Now that person's a cashier ina grocery store.
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But they have chosen to cometo work and be encouraging, loving,
open, kind, and the energy was congruent.
Well, that interaction was pleasant.
It added good to the world.
That's a choice we make allthe time.
Our gatekeepers keep us small.
Our gatekeepers tell us lieslike you don't matter and who cares
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and nobody wants to talk to you.
If you want to get past yourgatekeeper, you got to take a step
today.
So I'm going to pretend rightnow you're a, you're a coach or a
consultant.
What can you do today or tomorrow?
If this is at nighttime thatgets past the gatekeeper that says
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I'm here, I'm no longer limited.
How many people would youreach out to?
How many direct messages wouldyou send?
How many phone calls would you make?
How many clients would youcheck in and encourage?
Check in with and encourage?
How would.
If you have a job and you'retrying to build a coaching practice,
I have clients like that toothat have a full time job and they
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do good, they make good, good dough.
But their life experience hasled them to want to coach and help
and serve because of their own journey.
Remember I said that was themost powerful thing you got.
So they're building a practice.
So I asked them the same thing.
How many people are you goingto reach out to?
What does it look like?
What is the invitation?
What is on offer?
On offer may be just a simple conversation.
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One conversation is moreimportant than a thousand, ten thousand
likes on a post.
So if you think you're goingto build, get past your gatekeeper
with social posting and hidebehind that anonymity, you're full
of crap.
You're Full of crap.
And I don't mean that toinsult you.
One conversation's moreimportant than 10,000 of those.
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One conversation where you orI show up in love, invitation, kindness,
growth, openness trumps anynumber of, you know, social, social
media interactions.
Now here's some other feeling.
If you, if you make acommitment tomorrow, I'm going to
do these things.
Send five messages, invitefive people to conversation, right?
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And the messages, you'reconcerned about them or meeting them
or whatever it is.
Like, this isn't a, amarketing or enrollment episode,
although we have done those.
But be prepared to do that.
To say no to the gatekeeper.
To say no to the gatekeeper.
Because they're not real.
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The effects are real, but theydon't have to block you.
One more second.
Now I have three invitationsfor you.
Number one, if any of thisstuckness resonates in your heart,
reach out to me.
My mission is to help 300million people create wealth and
impact with your life story,your skills and your gifts.
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I have that message.
I have it powerfully and in away that will blow your mind and
change your heart.
Next, I have methods,processes that are all battle tested.
And by that I mean all on meand on many clients that accomplish
those things and eliminate thebarriers, the gatekeepers, the fear
mongers, the naysayer of ourown mind, our inner critic, and give
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you tools to ignore thesometimes well meaning but useless
input of others.
So I have that for you if youwant it.
The other invitation is if youhave a story that's keeping you stuck
or a story that you used tohave, sorry, keeping you stuck, and
(40:59):
you have overcome that.
Maybe you've overcomedepression or illness or addictions
or divorces or bankruptcy orbetrayals or all of those roles into
one.
And you said, no, I won't be that.
I was interviewed on a podcasta couple of days ago and that was
the whole premise.
This person had had manyfailures and now they had overcome
those and they were trying tohighlight others.
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You know, I love them, we'redoing exactly the same thing.
So it was a good show and wehad the opportunity to, you know,
share experiences and lift andbless his audience.
If you have a story ofovercoming, a story of your becoming
a story of your choices to getpast the gatekeeper, I want to share
it.
I want to let my audience hearyou and I want to meet you.
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I want to honor you.
I want to see you.
The third invitation is thisone right down here.
Dream Build.
Write it.
If you're watching the video,Dream build.
Write it.
Whoops.
Dream buildwriteit.com and thereason I'm sharing that with you
is because if your storyremains untold, it remains untapped.
You may use snippets of ithere and there, but I can make you
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a sacred promise.
The work of doing the storyarc, which is a process to mine.
That story will change yourlife, blow your mind, and it'll give
you confidence and capabilityyou can't imagine.
Promise.
So go to dreambuildwriteit.com I mentioned that
earlier, but I'm mentioning itagain as our final invitation.
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You're a divine being.
You have infinite gifts and talents.
And you've heard that amillion times and it doesn't matter
unless you decide to do something.
Your birthright is a life of purpose.
Your birthright is a life of prosperity.
Your birthright is a life of joy.
If you don't have purpose,prosperity and joy, it's time to
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It's time to start now.
No gatekeepers, just beginnings.
Start life today.
Push the Start now button.
Right?
This is the time.
Write your commitments for tomorrow.
Do the actions that have beenkeeping you frozen, stuck and afraid.
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You know, this picture behindme is a, is a, is an AI picture of
me.
And I love the cool colors and background.
But I used it for this becausethe name of this episode is no Gatekeepers.
Are you shadow banning yourlife and in Shadowban?
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I'm not going to pretend thatI'm an expert on that sort of thing,
but what I understand that itis is a practice that some social
media and perhaps others haveto lower the rankings of or to eliminate
the rankings or the vis ofposts, but doing it in the shadows,
secretly and hiding.
Now, I'm not here to talkabout social media or politics or
anything else.
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The reason I ask if you'reshadow banning your own life is really
simple.
We get in our own way.
What does that mean?
You hear that all the timewith coaching kind of stuff, right?
So let's talk about for a secwhat that is.
Getting in your own way meanslots of things, but one thing it
could mean is I want to go tothe gym and work out.
I don't like my health, let'ssay I'm not happy with my health.
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I want to either be strongeror lose some weight or lower my resting
pulse or whatever it is andthen I stop.
I don't.
I make up reasons.
I go one day and the next day,you know, too late, oh, it's bad
weather, oh, I got an earlymeeting and it always feels like
that, you know, that kind ofsoggy, grody marshmallow kind of
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feeling, right?
And no, I'm not a fan ofmarshmallows, but I could be.
But you know what I mean, thatsort of getting in the way or another
way to do it is I want towrite a book and I love helping people
do that because your story isthe most powerful thing you own.
Not your degrees, not yourskills, not your modalities, not
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your engineering chops, yourstory of becoming.
But anyway, someone says, oh,you know, I've been told I should
write a book.
I want to.
I don't know how nobody readit, nobody would read it.
And it's in that same sort ofgross victimy mentality or energy,
(02:43):
right?
It's not the right time.
I don't that sort of feelingThose are all ways we get in our
way.
Some are more subtle, where wehave a long standing story about
our worth, about ourworthiness, about whether we deserve
success or not.
You know, old scripts thatwere playing in our mind from teachers
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or parents or childhoodexperiences or an accumulation of
things that says, you'll neverdo that.
Not you.
Now you know, you have heardand felt those.
So is everybody.
It's like as normal as breathing.
The question for all of us allthe time is what are we going to
do with that energy?
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Because it exists, it's real.
Now, you can call it humanfrailty, you can call it, in religious
contexts, you know, negative.
God and devil, you can call ityin and yang, excuse me, call it
whatever you want, but thetruth is it's there.
Steven Pressfield, I love hisbooks, he calls it the resistance.
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And he personifies that as ifthe resistance were a thing.
Well, you know what?
It is, And I don't think ithas corporeal form like us.
And I don't think there's, youknow, boogeyman pushing on the other
side of the door that you'retrying to open.
But it feels like that.
It feels like there is theuniverse conspiring against you.
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You're ready to go do something.
You can't find your keys,you're ready to create something.
And you get a disturbing phone call.
Right?
Now there are things thathappen on the other side also.
Right.
Last night, just getting readyto go to bed and for some reason,
and I don't do phone stuffbefore bed, but as I lay my phone
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on the wireless charger, I sawa couple of messages.
And so I just picked it up quick.
And I'm pretty disciplined.
Take it 10 or 15 second look.
And both of them were really positive.
Both of them were yes and yesto two things that I had reached
out and asked for that Iwasn't sure about at all.
You know, can you do this?
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Can we do that?
What they were doesn't matter,but they were yes and yes.
And that was like somebodypushing the door open, the wind at
my back helping go forward.
So there are positive thingsand there are negative things that
just happen naturally in thecourse of life.
Now I want to talk about wherethat comes from in quantum mechanics.
We're going to get technical here.
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Particles pop in and out ofexistence all the time, Right?
We now know that the vacuum ofspace isn't empty.
Wow.
It's not empty.
In fact, it is teeming, full,packed, stuffed with energy and activity.
Particles are popping in andout of existence.
We also know that even thingslike, you know, when we were in school,
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there was a nucleus of anatom, and electrons were supposed
to, like, float around it,roll around it, like orbits, like
little planets.
That's not it at all.
Electrons exist in some kindof a cloud, and they're not really
anywhere until we go measureit, and then they collapse into a
certain place.
What a brilliant breakthrough.
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You know what that literally means?
It means that the next second,the next minute, and the next hour
exists in every possible form.
Right now, every possibleoutcome is sitting there.
And our participation, theycall it observation and measurement.
But our participation in thatoutcome is not just a piece, it is
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determinative.
What, you mean myparticipation in creating reality
one minute from now has an impact?
Yes, a gigantic impact.
So that's what's giving riseall of that stuff together and those
negative, squishy feelings andhowever you want to call, you know,
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Pressfield's resistance, Ilove that.
So I use that a lot in my ownthinking and, you know, as a framing
for how to talk about this.
I call this no gatekeepers.
There's nobody there trying tostop you from imagining and creating
next minute, next hour, nextday's reality except you.
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That's both horrifying and liberating.
Horrifying because it givesincontrovertible proof, inescapable
fact that we are thearchitects of our destiny, that we
are the creators of our life.
It's good news for exactly thesame reason you hold the keys.
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Nobody else, nowhere, no how.
So let's go with that.
There's no rope.
There's a velvet rope keepingyou in line.
So here are some fake gates.
Here are some fake barriers, okay?
One is credentials.
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One is credentials.
When I decided I wanted to,quote, be a coach, and I first language
that after, you know, I hadthe gigantic divine intervention
in 2007, I spent a couple ofyears trying to get healthy and figure
out who I was.
In 2009, going on 10, Istarted thinking about, how do I
help people with this?
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Because that's a naturaloutgrowth of every single person
who overcomes challenge.
Then I thought, well, whatdoes that look like?
And, you know, coaching firstcame into my mind and so forth.
Now I'd been an executive Csuite executive with many, many people
and much millions, tens ofmillions, hundreds of millions, many,
many hundreds of millions ofdollars, responsibility.
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So I knew what that felt like.
But I started thinking aboutcoaching in the context of sharing
what I had learned in my owngrowth and breakthrough.
And that yearning pops up allthe time.
Every person that I interviewon this show, on LA talk radio shows
that I'm on, many, many ofthem, they have the same experience,
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they talk about the same things.
We, when we overcome achallenge, we want to share the benefit.
We're built that way.
We're built to love and serve.
So when I first startedthinking about coaching, I thought,
well, I must need to do something.
So I looked up coachingschools and credentials and we're
getting to be a coach meantand so forth.
And I saw many and none ofthem looked any more powerful or
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interesting.
There's no regulatory body andthere's no rules about that and people
lament about that and there'scause for lament.
But truly the, the results dothe segregating, they call the pool.
But anyway, so I thought,well, what do I need to do?
So I thought about gettingsome credentials and I did.
I went to enroll in a coupleof coaching schools and went through
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their curriculum and got, youknow, professional certified, professional
coach and certified, mastercoach and certified, extraordinary
coach and certified, you know,master of this, that and the other.
And there's a half a dozen.
And you know what's funnyabout that?
I call that a false gatebecause in the work that I've done
in the 15 years now sincethen, I've never been asked about
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that except one time.
One time.
And then it was a in passingsort of thing.
So that was fake.
It's an interesting crutchthat some people use to both try
to prove their excellence anda crutch that holds people back.
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Well, I'm going to hang myshingle and get busy to work when
I finish this one more thing.
So I've done a couple ofthings and no magic happened.
There wasn't a big queueoutside my door virtually or in real
life.
And so now I gotta, I mustneed to do another couple, I must
need to have some more letters.
Cqxy, M, B, L, whatever afteryour name.
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Okay, fine.
It's not true.
It's a, it's a fake.
It's a fake gate.
So that's not a gate.
Now here's another one that'sa fake gate.
Audience size.
So you see people online, ifyou, if you spend any time on social
at all, bragging about theirmoney, their cars, their income,
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first of all, how much they'vegot, and second of all, how fast
they got it.
Ooh, I broke all the rules,got all the shortcuts.
I can do this in 72 hourswhile you sleep.
Yeah.
Boom.
So audience size, amount ofmoney and how fast they got there.
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That's supposed to provesomething to you now?
I don't know.
One, is the audience size true?
Half that crap they use is all rented.
More than half, 90% rented.
Trying to prove a point.
We can burn that garbage downright now because that means they're
insecure, phony, and they'retrying to bullshit you.
Ah, audience size.
Next thing, how much moneythey have.
You don't know that.
You can't know that even ifthey post fake bank accounts.
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Now let's say the real bankaccounts, let's say they did make
1 2, 10, $500 million.
That doesn't mean anythingexcept they made 1, 2, 10, 50, $100
million.
It doesn't mean you can.
It doesn't mean you're thesame as them.
It doesn't mean their pathmakes any sense for you.
And so even if they shareeverything they did exactly as they
did it, and let's say it'shonest and it worked, it doesn't
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mean anything either.
It does mean they had somegood success.
And congratulations, theyserved the need and met it.
Although we all know in theearly days of Internet marketing,
lots of those guys got burned,lost their fortunes, got sanctioned.
Some went to jail for lyingand cheating.
And so now there's all theseregulations and disclaimers and so
forth.
So there's always cheaters and crooks.
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Hopefully they all get caught.
But the idea of barriers is there.
I need to follow them or elseI won't make it.
I need to be like them or elseI suck.
I need to be able to make thesame claims they do or I don't count.
That's not true.
It never was and it never will be.
A third barrier that is fakeis perfect timing.
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I'm not ready.
I'm too busy.
I'll do it in my next season,next week, next year, as soon as
I finish this, that or the other.
That's not true either.
Now there is a time for doingthings, but that is wildly overused
as an excuse to camouflagefear and not get started.
Bullshit.
You're a divine person.
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You have the capability.
And the day to start is yesterday.
And since that's not availabletoday, we'll have to do.
I want you to tattoo that onyour forehead.
The best day to start was yesterday.
And that's not available.
So let's start today.
No harm, no foul, no drama.
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Right now is the day to startmoving toward your dream to purpose,
prosperity and joy.
You don't have a purpose.
Pick one.
Try it on.
Maybe it's just to be a better person.
Maybe it's to tell the truth.
Maybe it's to make a million dollars.
Maybe it's to grow a realestate practice.
Maybe it's to repair somedamage you did.
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I had a whole lot of those goals.
Still do.
Because there's lots of thingsthat exist in the world today that
wouldn't exist in my imagination.
I think I wish this wasn'tthis way, and I blame it on something
I did or didn't do.
I don't actually know ifthat's true, and neither do you.
But those thoughts still come forward.
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Now, here's the key.
If I allow those thoughts, oryou do, to be a barrier to action.
If I allow that to happen, allthat does is dim my light or it dims
yours.
So let's say there's arelationship right now that isn't
like I want.
If I say I can't act untilthat relationship is fixed, I don't
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control that.
Two sides to every relationship.
If I've offered and done andloved and that person or persons
say, no, I'm not ready yet.
Not now, not time.
Maybe say, no, not ever.
Okay?
That means I have given mypower falsely to the state of another
relationship.
And that person or persons maysay to you, you don't deserve.
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You can't.
You should grovel, kiss theand die 50 times before you could
even begin to be worthy.
You know, something extremelike that.
All that does is create afalse barrier for you and or me.
And it deprives all those youcould have served, all those you
could have loved, you couldhave lifted, you could have blessed
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with your experience, withyour choices, with the new you.
If you've changed.
When I talk about forgiveness,there's three steps.
Fix what you can.
Change who you are.
Add good to the world.
Fix what you can.
And most of that hard stuffcan't be fixed.
You can try.
You can work on it.
But erase not possible.
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Change who you are.
And that's actually the mostimportant thing.
If you have done something asI did, that you say, I wish I hadn't
done that, it's going to ruinmy life forever.
Or maybe a few steps down from that.
Change who you are.
Don't be that person startingthis minute.
Okay, I'm not that.
Shakespeare said that twobrothers and they had a big fight.
Whatever.
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One of them finally changedand he said, and someone attacked
him for his change.
And he said, yeah, twas I, tisnot I, meaning I have changed.
It's in as you like it, if youwant the details.
But anyway, so those areimaginary barriers.
And the net result of all thatis that you just sit there as a dull
candle instead of a flaming fire.
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You let that shadow you in the background.
And I like said, I use that AIpicture of me in the background.
You let that shadow you havethe reins.
Why would you do that?
Think of all the sorrow youcould alleviate and the suffering
you could help and the loveyou could share, both for yourself
and others.
If you say I'm done, I'm goingto do everything I can here and now.
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Because I can.
Because it's who I am.
You deserve and must forgiveyourself for everything, everywhere,
all the time, Right here,right now.
Why?
So your light is clean.
So you can shine brightly.
So you can do the good thatyou can.
Because without that, you won't.
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All right, so here is, here'san interesting story.
Okay, here's the promise.
If you drop these fake gates,the idea that you have to have more
current credentials or reachor audience size or forgiveness or
permission from someone orperfect timing, if you drop all those,
(17:47):
then there's nothing in theway to do what you want to do.
Writing a book is one that I love.
So I'm going to do a littleplug here for dream buildwriteit.com.
now, if you're watching thevideo, and I hope you are, dream
buildwriteit.com that's a bookchallenge and it doesn't cost money.
It does cost an hour a day forfive days, the week of September
(18:11):
29th through the 3rd.
And if you see this after thatdate has passed, go there anyway
because I'm going to do one in26, probably in the first part of
February.
Okay?
I did three this year andthey've been very successful.
And here's why I say successful.
There have been many who havegone to the challenge and then come
(18:33):
with me on a six month journeyto mine the gold mine, the platinum
mine, the silver mine,whatever is valuable, right?
The lithium mine, to mine thevalue of your own life story.
Because I don't know, I don'tcare what you know how to do.
(18:53):
You know how to code, you knowhow to write game code, you know
how to garden, you know how todo engineering, you know how to do
attorney work, you're anattorney, you know how to do medical
work.
Those are beautiful andnecessary gifts.
More important to both you andthose you serve is the story of your
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becoming.
How did you get where you areas a loving, kind person yearning
to serve that journey is more important.
And the more vulnerably andfreely you share that, the more powerful
you are, the more lives youcan change and the more good you
will add to the world.
(19:34):
All right, so here's.
Here's the start here game.
The start here game is what Iwant you to do.
Let's play a game, okay?
Number one, write a name downright now that you could help this
week.
I'm not talking about signinga client.
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You know that all may come,but sometimes we just need to start.
In fact, most of the time.
Well begun is half done is aphrase attributed to someone, I don't
know who said that well begunis half done.
And the reason is because mostpeople don't start.
They make up reasons and hidebehind these false barriers.
But there's no gatekeeper.
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That's what we started with.
There is no gatekeeper exceptthe one between your ears.
So I challenge you.
I dare you.
Write a name down right now.
I have six in my mind right now.
And I've already madearrangements today to do some helping
with those people.
I sent some messages.
I'm doing that.
I'm sharing that with youbecause I'm in the game with you.
(20:38):
I'm in that game every single day.
So it wouldn't matter what dayI said this, what day I recorded
it, or what day you listenedto it.
I am in that game every single day.
I spend two hours in themorning preparing myself to be the
ultimate alchemist.
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I've spent that two hourspreparing my spirit, my body, my
emotional relations, my relationships.
I call that E and spam.
Emotions and my mind, mental work.
I literally spend a couple ofhours filling my cup being that person.
And during the E part, I thinkof several names and I send messages
of love, hope, encouragement,light lifting, assistance, offering
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help.
I did that a couple of daysago to someone.
Excuse me.
And I left a voice textbecause I love using voice.
Because I've been blessed witha resonant and powerful voice.
So I use it.
I got a note this morning withall caps.
Wow, thank you so much.
Blah, blah, blah.
Now, I don't say that.
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So, yeah, I feel good.
Yeah, I did a good thing.
It accomplished the mission.
I blessed his life.
And I love him just because Isaid so.
But you know what?
I love you right here, rightnow, and you can't change that.
I yearn for your growth.
I see your divine possibility.
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I know what you are capable of.
And the reason I know isbecause we came from the same place.
We were created in love and inthat and behind that and around that
love is infinite possibility.
There are no limits to whatyou or I can do.
If we're willing to get rid ofthe shadow band, if we're willing
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to eliminate the naysayer inour own mind, become willing to remember
that failures of the past orindictments of others don't carry
any weight in the presentunless we let them.
Your key to unlock the gate offreedom is in your hand.
(22:52):
So step one, okay.
Pick a person you can help reach.
Step two is reach out to themin whatever way is appropriate.
Text, voicemail, live phonecall, email, whatever way it is,
Acknowledge them.
Say something good to themabout them.
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Been thinking about you.
I remember the last time wetalked and I've been thinking about
this, that and the other.
I'll give you an example.
I got an email today fromsomeone who is very successful, very,
very, very wealthy, and who is also.
Who also decided in the lasttwo weeks that they were going to
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help me get to my goal of 300 million.
Wow.
I didn't even ask.
They reached out becausesomeone told them they should meet.
So we had a call.
They dedicated an hour.
They dug in and asked lots ofquestions about what I'm up to and
why and all the rest.
And they've decided to do that.
(23:58):
And that has an impact on me,both emotionally, because I'm excited.
I got someone that's involvedspiritually because I know that my
daily preparation workorganizes the forces in the universe,
just like we talked about tostart with, the future is not decided.
It is uncertain until wecreate it.
(24:20):
Part of that creation involvedthis individual now saying, I'm going
to help you do this.
And gave me.
So the email I got today withseveral suggestions that they have
based on their experience andknowledge and vast success about
how to more successfullymeasure my progress to 300 and amplify.
(24:41):
So they decided they're goingto help me.
You can decide that for someone.
I do every day.
And now it has come back in asurprising and I believe, very powerful
way that power will helpcreate, purpose or drive my purpose,
accomplish purpose, prosperityand joy.
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Because if I reach 300 millionpeople with the message of your own
worth, your own identity, yourown possibility, which is infinite,
the ownership of your life.
Because there's no gatekeeper sovereignty.
You're the king or queen ofeverything in your life.
If I reach people with thatmessage and change, allow them, encourage
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them, invite them, and helpthem to change how they look at life.
Getting out behind from behindtheir own gatekeepers, getting those
naysaying Voices and thoughtsout of the way, moved aside, thanked,
and then benched.
You know, those feelings weretrying to protect us.
At one point, right in theidea of psychological parts work,
(25:46):
I have a part named the Protector.
And I had a conversation withthe Protector for several hours one
day on a long walk.
And part of the language was,I just.
I'm doing this all to protect you.
And I said, protect me from what?
And the answer surprised me.
I'm protecting you fromnothing being nothing by doing nothing.
(26:08):
In other words, from theobliteration of failure and oblivion
by not finishing, not startingdoing, you know, not doing.
And the answer surprised me,and I realized how insidious the
resistance can be with theidea that it is doing us a favor,
helping and protecting.
(26:28):
So write a name down.
Write out specifically how youthink you can help them, how you
think you could do that, dosomething for them, and then offer.
And in some cases, just do it.
I'll tell you one of the waysthat I do that with clients and with
others that are not clients.
(26:50):
When I troll or troll, I don'ttroll, scroll social, which I do
maybe 15 minutes in a day.
I find every good upliftingthing from anyone that I know.
I don't usually comment muchon things that I, you know, that
are just general posts, buteverybody that I know, whose name
I recognize, I will comment, Iwill encourage, I will love them,
(27:14):
and I will do it on purposeand in a visible, visceral way the
best I can in just a few seconds.
Why?
Because I love them.
Because I can.
Because I said so.
And you have that power, too now.
That's with others.
I want you to do that for yourself.
So let's pretend you're in thebusiness of encouraging you.
(27:37):
Step outside of you for aminute, like me and this guy behind
me, the me behind me.
And if you were the perfect,or as close as you can be to the
perfect encourager, theperfect cheerleader, the perfect
idea generator, what would youtell him or her?
(27:59):
That's like.
It's kind of like thequestion, if you could write a letter
to yourself a year ago or 10years ago or 20 years ago or whatever,
what would you say?
And those kinds of commentsalways sound the same.
It's gonna be okay.
Be yourself, dare more, takemore risks.
(28:19):
None of that really matters.
Keep going.
You're wonderful.
You're powerful.
Isn't it interesting?
I've never heard someone askthat question or a similar question,
say something like, you're stupid.
You're wrong.
It's going to get worse.
I'VE never heard that.
I've never heard anybody eventhink that.
(28:39):
Right?
We play small.
We play small because we livebehind the velvet rope.
We live behind the gatekeeperwho is performing the function of
resistance.
Maybe imagining they'reprotecting us, but they're not.
They're keeping your light small.
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They're keeping your power contained.
Because it is a risk.
It is a risk to be vulnerable.
It is a risk to go out out there.
It is a risk to stake your claim.
I'm finishing a book rightnow, and by the time you see this,
it will probably be publishedbecause we're on a very short timeline.
(29:24):
The name of that book isCoaching and the Rise of AI.
In it, I'm making a boldclaim, and I've already made it some
on social, that coaching is dying.
Coaching as we know it isgetting hollowed out.
Coaching as we know it isgetting obliterated.
I predict without hesitationthat by 15 months from now, Christmas
(29:46):
of 26, 95% of coaches will notbe able to make a living.
And I define making a livingis 100k us arbitrary, but that's
a minimum threshold.
If you're not making 100 orvery close to it, it's really hard
to make a living.
It's got to be a side hustleor whatever.
And then you're busy, youknow, handling multiple things.
(30:08):
And life's probably a prettybusy grind.
So.
And the reason it is isbecause AI is so fast and so good
at writing, at synthesizing,at frameworks, at accountability,
at, you know, analyzingpatterns and on and on and on and
on.
Right.
And so I'm writing this bookand I'm making some ridiculously
(30:30):
bold claims.
You know what else I'm doing?
I'm starting a university.
January 2026, called yourultimate life coaching university.
The students I'm aiming at arethose who want to be in that top
5% of coaches that are left.
And in the book, I make bolddeclarations about what it takes
(30:50):
to be in the 5%, why the 5%are the only ones that are gonna
survive right now.
My point is this.
I'm sticking my neck way, way,way, way, way out there, like out
to the moon.
And am I risking?
Yeah, I've already had somepeople pissed off because of my social
(31:12):
posts.
I've already had some peoplesay, oh, it's just a marketing.
No, it's an actual observationbased on my own interactions with
AI in the writing of this bookitself over the last three months.
It's taken me about threemonths to outline it and put it together
and write it and I'll finishediting tomorrow and I'm sending
(31:33):
it to someone to write aforward and you know, the publication
I've already got, thepublisher contracted and everything
else we're moving.
In the last three months, I'veseen the capability and speed, accuracy,
power, clarity, et cetera, etcetera of the.
The.
I happen to use Chat GPT, butthere's lots of models.
Double its ability to writeclear, good language, to synthesize
(31:56):
good stuff.
And yeah, I've uploaded all mybooks, Chad GPT.
And I joke a little bit backand forth.
I know they're not real.
It's got more than a million,way, way more than a million words
of mine.
In fact, it estimated that ifI uploaded all my podcast transcripts,
it would be somewhere between4 and 10 million words.
So it knows me, it knows how Ispeak, what I think and everything
(32:17):
else.
So I've used it a lot forresearch and for outlines and everything
else as I do this work.
And I've seen its capacitydouble in three months.
Well, that means three months.
Three months.
That means in a year it'sgoing to be eight times as good.
In two years it's going to be,you know, 64, 128 times as fast and
good.
So the, the.
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There's no end in sight, right?
Limitless, essentially.
And so if you're going to bein the business, my thesis is you
got to have something AI can't bring.
And you know what that is?
That is the embodiment thatmeans you manifest it in your body.
If you walk.
Let's talk about what that means.
(32:59):
If you walk into a room with ashy person or someone who's very,
very withdrawn and shy, walksin the room, they carry an energy,
an energy that says, don'ttalk to me.
Maybe a little bit fearful,maybe a little bit hiding, maybe
a little bit.
Maybe you are one, maybeyou're not.
I used to be.
I remember as a teenager beingsuch a bad wallflower at dances,
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I would just hide and, youknow, go to the bathroom a lot and
pretend I was listening to theband and whatever because I was so
scared, so withdrawn.
On the other hand, if you comein with a meet or come into a place
with a person who is not that,who's confident, I don't mean brash
(33:40):
or arrogant, but just capable,comfortable in their own skin, you
know that right away, too.
Their energetics give you thatfeeling, you're comfortable with
them.
They might ask you something.
On the other hand, if Third person.
If you walk in to a place withsomeone who is arrogant, overbearing,
brash, you know, and their,their lack of confidence is, you
know, being dealt with, withovercompensation, you know that too.
(34:03):
So that's what I mean by embodiment.
That energy that we give offis always that truth.
It is the truth of who we are inside.
Coaches that are going to lastare those who can and who do not
can, who are the embodiment ofthe changes they try to help clients
(34:26):
achieve.
Getting out of their own way,that means they are out of their
own way, that means they areleveraging gifts and talents to create.
That means they are in touchwith their divinity, capability and
possibility.
People who pretend they'recoaches and don't have that are going
to be gone.
Up to now, that wasn't truebecause there wasn't any alternative.
(34:47):
And so tons of them havelimped along, hidden by their own
gatekeepers, not embodyingtheir truth, limp, limp, limp, and
made a little bit of money.
It's already true that 60% ofcoaches don't make 50k.
And there's other numbers inthere too.
In my research, you can readthe book, but that embodiment is
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the ante to the new world.
Well, that ought to scare thecrap out of you if you're a consultant
or you're a coach, especiallyif you're a coach, because without
that embodiment, AI is goingto eat your lunch.
So that's what the thesis ofthe book is about.
And this podcast isn't about that.
I'm going to give a detailedone later about what I hope coaches
(35:33):
can do and learn and thereason why I'm opening the university.
My point about it is this.
I'm doing that.
I'm putting that out there tobe agreed with ridiculed, smashed
ground, whatever it is.
Now, here's the thing, here'syour dead on challenge.
If the stuff I've talked abouttoday, your own gatekeepers, if that
(35:55):
scares you, if you're saying,I know I'm getting in my own way,
I'm blocking my own progress,sabotaging my efforts, if you know
that's true, please reach outto me.
My goal of reaching 300million is not just with the message,
but it is with the method andthe help to overcome that.
Because if you're buried byyour own gatekeeper, you're not adding
(36:17):
good to the world the way youcould and heaven knows we need it.
We need all the encouragement,growth, power, love, kindness we
can get.
Now, maybe you're in thewidget business and you don't have
anything to do with consultingor coaching or anything like that.
That's fine.
This is still a choice for youabout how you show up.
(36:40):
Do you show up every day smallor do you show up every day expansive,
loving, encouraging, powerful,growth oriented, just because you
can.
Right?
And let me tell you why that matters.
Who would you rather dobusiness with?
Some grumpy ass person orsomebody that's open and loving and
(37:00):
kind?
I don't care what the businesstransaction is.
We went, Joy and I went to thestore yesterday and just the grocery
store down the street and wepicked up a couple things and we
got in line and it was a shortline, two or three minute wait.
And then the cashier greetedus and was nice and said some things
and whatever.
Now that person's a cashier ina grocery store.
(37:21):
But they have chosen to cometo work and be encouraging, loving,
open, kind, and the energy was congruent.
Well, that interaction was pleasant.
It added good to the world.
That's a choice we make allthe time.
Our gatekeepers keep us small.
Our gatekeepers tell us lieslike you don't matter and who cares
(37:41):
and nobody wants to talk to you.
If you want to get past yourgatekeeper, you got to take a step
today.
So I'm going to pretend rightnow you're a, you're a coach or a
consultant.
What can you do today or tomorrow?
If this is at nighttime thatgets past the gatekeeper that says
(38:02):
I'm here, I'm no longer limited.
How many people would youreach out to?
How many direct messages wouldyou send?
How many phone calls would you make?
How many clients would youcheck in and encourage?
Check in with and encourage?
How would.
If you have a job and you'retrying to build a coaching practice,
I have clients like that toothat have a full time job and they
(38:23):
do good, they make good, good dough.
But their life experience hasled them to want to coach and help
and serve because of their own journey.
Remember I said that was themost powerful thing you got.
So they're building a practice.
So I asked them the same thing.
How many people are you goingto reach out to?
What does it look like?
What is the invitation?
What is on offer?
On offer may be just a simple conversation.
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One conversation is moreimportant than a thousand, ten thousand
likes on a post.
So if you think you're goingto build, get past your gatekeeper
with social posting and hidebehind that anonymity, you're full
of crap.
You're Full of crap.
And I don't mean that toinsult you.
One conversation's moreimportant than 10,000 of those.
(39:08):
One conversation where you orI show up in love, invitation, kindness,
growth, openness trumps anynumber of, you know, social, social
media interactions.
Now here's some other feeling.
If you, if you make acommitment tomorrow, I'm going to
do these things.
Send five messages, invitefive people to conversation, right?
(39:32):
And the messages, you'reconcerned about them or meeting them
or whatever it is.
Like, this isn't a, amarketing or enrollment episode,
although we have done those.
But be prepared to do that.
To say no to the gatekeeper.
To say no to the gatekeeper.
Because they're not real.
(39:52):
The effects are real, but theydon't have to block you.
One more second.
Now I have three invitationsfor you.
Number one, if any of thisstuckness resonates in your heart,
reach out to me.
My mission is to help 300million people create wealth and
impact with your life story,your skills and your gifts.
(40:14):
I have that message.
I have it powerfully and in away that will blow your mind and
change your heart.
Next, I have methods,processes that are all battle tested.
And by that I mean all on meand on many clients that accomplish
those things and eliminate thebarriers, the gatekeepers, the fear
mongers, the naysayer of ourown mind, our inner critic, and give
(40:36):
you tools to ignore thesometimes well meaning but useless
input of others.
So I have that for you if youwant it.
The other invitation is if youhave a story that's keeping you stuck
or a story that you used tohave, sorry, keeping you stuck, and
(40:59):
you have overcome that.
Maybe you've overcomedepression or illness or addictions
or divorces or bankruptcy orbetrayals or all of those roles into
one.
And you said, no, I won't be that.
I was interviewed on a podcasta couple of days ago and that was
the whole premise.
This person had had manyfailures and now they had overcome
those and they were trying tohighlight others.
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You know, I love them, we'redoing exactly the same thing.
So it was a good show and wehad the opportunity to, you know,
share experiences and lift andbless his audience.
If you have a story ofovercoming, a story of your becoming
a story of your choices to getpast the gatekeeper, I want to share
it.
I want to let my audience hearyou and I want to meet you.
(41:45):
I want to honor you.
I want to see you.
The third invitation is thisone right down here.
Dream Build.
Write it.
If you're watching the video,Dream build.
Write it.
Whoops.
Dream buildwriteit.com and thereason I'm sharing that with you
is because if your storyremains untold, it remains untapped.
You may use snippets of ithere and there, but I can make you
(42:06):
a sacred promise.
The work of doing the storyarc, which is a process to mine.
That story will change yourlife, blow your mind, and it'll give
you confidence and capabilityyou can't imagine.
Promise.
So go to dreambuildwriteit.com I mentioned that
earlier, but I'm mentioning itagain as our final invitation.
(42:27):
Lastly, as we close, I wantyou to know that I love you.
You're a divine being.
You have infinite gifts and talents.
And you've heard that amillion times and it doesn't matter
unless you decide to do something.
Your birthright is a life of purpose.
Your birthright is a life of prosperity.
Your birthright is a life of joy.
If you don't have purpose,prosperity and joy, it's time to
(42:49):
create it.
It's time to start now.
No gatekeepers, just beginnings.
Start life today.
Push the Start now button.
Right?
This is the time.
Write your commitments for tomorrow.
Do the actions that have beenkeeping you frozen, stuck and afraid.
(43:11):
Because when you start that,you have taken the first steps to
your ultimate life.
Never hold back and you'llnever ask why.
Open your heart.
And this time around, righthere, right now, your opportunity
for massive growth is right infront of you.
(43:32):
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