May 16, 2025 • 36 mins
Are you working harder, chasing success, and still feeling empty?
In this raw and transformational solo episode of Your Ultimate Life, Kellan Fluckiger pulls back the curtain on why so many high achievers experience burnout, disconnection, and disappointment—even after they've "made it."
💥 The truth? You’re chasing money instead of creating value. You're building someone else’s dream instead of living your own.
In this powerful session, Kellan breaks down how to escape the “success trap” and design a life filled with purpose, prosperity, and joy—the real fuel behind fulfillment.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
✔️ The difference between chasing money and creating wealth through purpose.
✔️ Why your story, struggles, and life experience are the KEY to creating impact.
✔️ How to identify the “big cash” vs “big disappointment” paths in your life.
✔️ The mindset shift that turns pain into power—and purpose into prosperity.
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You have infinite power.
Hey there.
Welcome to this episode ofyouf Ultimate Life.
Life.
Now, I've got a kind of funnytitle for this one.
I called this one Big cash orBig disappointment.
And I even got a little subtitle.
So I'm going to read it to you.
How to create money withoutlosing your soul by living with purpose,
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power and fearless service.
Wow.
So you and I, we all want tobe happy.
Who doesn't want to be happy?
And you notice this thingbehind me.
There's one arrow right hereby this shoulder.
It's got disappointment.
And I'm hoping you're watching this.
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And the other one is creating value.
And it goes to the sunlight.
And this goes to some dark anddreary wilderness or sunlight.
Right.
So we're all at a crossroadsevery day.
And some crossroads are biggerthan others.
Yeah, okay.
But you're all always at a crossroads.
And the reason is becauseevery choice that you make right
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now creates a fork in the road.
Now you've maybe you're ascience sci fi fan and you've seen
those things about paralleluniverses and all that cool stuff.
That's fine.
And the idea is that everytime you make a choice, you create
a new branch in the universebecause if there was a different
choice, you would go down adifferent road.
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Right.
I wrote a song once calledWandering and Wondering.
And it's actually on Spotifyif you want to hear it, but it says,
you know, I always wonderedwhat would have been different if
I'd taken that other roadwayway back when.
What would have happened ifI'd taken the other roadway way back
when.
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And we can't know, and wedon't know.
And often thinking we do knowcauses a lot of pain because then
we end up saying, well, ifonly I'd X.
And we assume that if we takein another road, a lot of other things
would have happened too.
And so this isn't really thetopic of today, but I want to tell
you something that's fantasy,it's stupid.
And you can stop because youhave actually no idea what would
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have happened down that other road.
You make up a story if I'dsaid yes instead of no, then.
And then you make up a storyabout what else would have happened,
but you have no idea past theyes or the no.
You.
You.
You and I, we say what wethink would have happened, and that's
kind of useless.
So you can stop doing itbecause that's wasted energy.
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What's past is past.
The question that mattersright now for big cash or big disappointment
is given.
What is.
What do I wish to create?
So I'm standing at thisjunction right now, right here, and
I have the opportunity to goto big light.
Whoops.
Big light.
Beautiful light there.
Or kind of a dark anduncertain whatever, right?
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So do you.
So do you.
Right here, right now.
And you can live likeGroundhog Day, same day, over and
over again.
Disappointing.
Barely getting by.
How many of these those daysdo you have where you're like, oh,
man, I wish today was over.
Man, I hope I just get through.
I hope I tough it through thisday, this week, this month, and then
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next month's the same, andonce in a while, there's a good one.
Oh, good.
Oh, that'll won't happen again.
Hasn't happened for a month of Sundays.
You know that kind of phraseology.
Well, you're setting yourselfup for big disappointment.
You're creating it.
You're living addicted to mediocrity.
And you can get pissed offbecause I said that, but it's true.
Because you have the abilityto create whatever you want.
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And every time you.
Every breath you take, you'restanding at this fork that's behind
my chair.
There's the dude, right?
Huh?
Kind of looks like me.
Even got a little bald spot.
Look at that.
There's the dude.
At least he's looking towardthe light.
Toward the light.
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You're drawn by light.
So am I.
Light represents happy.
Light represents joy.
It represents doing.
It represents success,achieving loving, being loved.
Yet most of our choices aremade from a place of fear.
I'm afraid of what someonewill say or what they will think.
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If I start a business, I mightfail, and then I'll waste some money.
I'm afraid of this and afraidof that, and oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
I love you.
You don't need to be stuck inthat horrible place.
Boldly make your choice and move.
And once you've made a choice,do not second guess.
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What you can do instead isreally important because we make
choices that turn out to benot what we thought all the time.
One way to look at that is,oh, I suck.
That was stupid.
I wish I'd X.
Useless.
Stop it.
Another thing to do is, oh,this isn't what I meant.
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What adjustment can I make now?
Because as soon as you've Madea choice, you've taken a step or
two or ten down the road.
It's in front of the dude back there.
And so you're not at thisjunction, you're at one further down.
And so the only question thatmatters is what can I do now given
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where I am?
You might say, well, I need toturn around and walk back where I
was and go down the other road.
That's fine, but that's stillan adjustment that is not redoing
the other decision.
And when you get back there totake the other road, it'll look different,
you're a different person, thetiming is different, Everything is
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different.
Every decision is forwardfacing, not backward facing.
If I can give you that andrivet it to your heart, your head,
your mind, your soul goal, itis so powerful.
Every decision is forward facing.
Now here's why that's important.
I've made a ton of mistakes inmy life.
You've heard many of thestories here on the show about my
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addictions and failures anddivorces and on and on and on and
on and on.
I can't fix any of thosedecisions I make now.
I make the best I can.
I might be choosing to ortrying to repair, to build relationships,
mend fences and do those kindsof things, but.
And I am, but they're takentoday because there's no way you
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or I can go back and make adifferent decision.
Right?
So even if you're trying tofix a mistake of the past, it's still
a forward facing decision.
What can I do today?
To apologize, to make amends,to mend fences, to do something.
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So if you take into your heartin the idea of big cash, big disappointment,
Disappointment is almostalways a function of yesterday or
yester minute, as it were.
The last minute didn't gowell, or hour or day or week or decade
or whatever.
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And I am now disappointed.
Waste of time.
Stupid useless emotion.
Instead, say I'm.
I'm.
You can.
I'm offering this as an alternative.
You know, I'm not telling youwhat to do, but I find that to be
stupid and wasted.
Because then it buildsresentment and you get mad at yourself
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and you get shame or rage atsomebody else.
A whole bunch of useless emotions.
If you find yourself in aplace where the shit has hit the
fan because of something youdid or somebody else or some unexpected
thing, the only question is,what's now?
What do I do now?
It didn't go like I wanted.
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That's true.
That's still the same.
The next thought is criticaland I'm pissed at and why didn't
so and so or why did I XYZ useless.
So I invite you with all myheart instead to say, wow, it's not
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like I want it.
What can I do now?
Now, if you want the PhDversion of that, do that without
drama.
Okay?
The drama is oh, it's not likeI want frick.
What do I do?
Oh, I wish I'd this a stupidthat drama multiplies by 10.
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The weight, the power, thenegative power of the situation.
It's awful, it's terrible.
Eat your lunch over and overand over again.
So don't do that.
The first version is teeth clenched.
What do I do now with a bit of drama.
If you haven't learned toundramat when you practice more,
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you'll realize the drama doesnothing except slow you down, weigh
you down and invite you intobackwards looking stuff.
Blame, shame, rage, guilt, revenge.
It's looking backward and youmay want to take a future action,
but it's rooted in this past stuff.
When you get skilled at this,you just don't have any drama.
Oh wow.
Holy crap.
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That's not what I wanted or expected.
What do I do now?
What do I do now?
And the more excited andbright and happy you can get about
that question, the morepowerful the answer is.
And I promise you that everytime, without exception, no failures.
I'll give you an example.
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Happened to me in 2018, December.
Four months after I died andgot out of the hospital.
And if you want to read thatstory, that's in Meeting God at the
Door.
Conversations, choices andcommitments of a near death experience.
I contracted a fatal illnessand died and had conversations and
wrote a book about it.
Amazing Revelations.
It's changed my life.
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And yes, all that good stuff,but that isn't today's topic.
Four months later, after I'dgot out of the hospital, I was in
a coma for 17 days after myheart was restarted and I'd lost
35 pounds and I lost all mymuscle mass and couldn't walk and
on and on and on like you'dexpect, right?
And I have had a ravagingillness that ruined my lungs and
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blah, blah, blah.
But after a month I got out ofthe hospital and I got home and was
in long term physicalrecovery, you know, trying to learn
to walk and do all that stuff.
And four months later, themorning of December 5th, so maybe
it's five months later, I wentin and June, got out in July.
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So August, September, October,November, December, four and a half,
five months later, Right.
I woke up on the morning ofDecember 5th paralyzed from the waist
down.
Now remember, I'm five monthsinto learning to walk and barely,
you know, taking care ofmyself and was making good progress
and was really happy with it.
Yay.
And I woke up paralyzed, likeI didn't know it.
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And so I tried to get out ofbed and I fell on my face, splat
on the carpet, right?
And I thought, that's weird.
And so I tried to get up, likeon my hands and knees, flap on my
face on the carpet.
Finally I realized I couldn'tmove anything below the waist.
So I was paralyzed from thewaist down.
I'm not going to tell thewhole story.
If you want the whole story,it's in a different book called Walking
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Without Fear.
Meeting God at the Door waswhat happened in the summer, and
Walking Without Fear was in December.
But anyway, called the ambulance.
I'm in a lot of pain,paralyzed from the waist down.
I'm five months after thehospital thinking I'm on my way to
recovery.
And the first thought couldhave been, why is this happening?
I just died and recovered andmade a choice to come back and like,
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what is going on?
And it could have easily beenthe road to disappointment, rage
and anger.
And I was in a lot of pain andI was in the back of the ambulance.
And if you want all thedetails, read the book Walking Without
Fear.
But I had a.
An amazing experience there.
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And it led me to the questionthat I'm going to share with you.
And that is this.
What is the gift here?
In other words, I consciouslyand intentionally refused to be mad,
to look at this as apunishment, a negative thing, or
anything other than a gift.
And so I, out loud, I said,what is the gift here?
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And then I.
Everything changed.
When you ask that question,your whole consciousness changes,
right?
And so then I had the wholeconversation with myself from the
perspective of gift.
And that's forward looking.
So it has to do with exactlywhat we're talking about now.
We've laid a good bit ofgroundwork for the idea of disappointment
disconnecting from the past,getting rid of the drama.
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Now let's talk about Big Cash, okay?
The books that you can readthat will help you are the book of
context.
Walking without fear, meetingGod at the door, living with purpose
and power.
You know, several things,several books that I've written,
because every book I'vewritten has come from my own experience.
Now here's what I want to tell you.
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We are built to love and serve.
You're not born to settle.
You're not born to live in mediocrity.
You were born to create.
And money is one of the sacredrewards of serving.
Well, now I understand there'sa lot of crooks and a lot of money
and a lot of cheating and alot of lot.
A lot, a lot of.
But that's not you, and I'mnot talking to them.
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So.
You were born to create.
You were born to serve.
You were born to develop andmagnify your gifts and talents.
And if you don't know how tofind your purpose, then you should
talk to me.
I've got a book coming out.
Or maybe it'll be out by thetime you see this.
No, it won't.
But it'll be out shortly inthe fall of 25 called Masterpiece.
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And it's about how to findyour purpose.
Exactly.
Specifically how to find it.
Okay.
When you're driven by purpose,work isn't work.
Every day is a joy.
And you discover new andpowerful ways to both change lives
and make money.
Change lives and make money.
That's down this road herewith the bright sun.
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You are built to go there.
You are built to win, to love,to create, to serve, to make cash,
big cash.
But you have to do the workbecause it doesn't come in a box
from Amazon.
It doesn't get delivered that way.
You're not born to settle.
You're born to serve.
And getting the reward of money.
All that does is it's funbecause you get to buy another shirt
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or jacket or maybe a new caror something.
Fine.
But then what you really wantit for is to serve more.
Because what it does is itlets you turn up that light.
It lets you create moreproducts, services, programs, speak
to more people so you can be more.
You become more.
More powerful, more joyful,more effective.
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You eliminate your doubts and fears.
You.
They.
They go away.
So.
But it takes work.
And so if you want to choosebetween big cash and big disappointment,
you have to decide.
I'm going to the side of the sunshine.
Oops.
I'm going to the sunshine.
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I'm going to the sunshine.
That's me.
I'm going there.
Now you're going to find disappointment.
You fell on your face.
And maybe you picked a wrongroad for a minute and you're going
to have to make some adjustments.
Me too?
You too?
So what?
It's like the back of the ambulance.
So what's the gift here?
What do I learn?
What can I do?
And I'm going to do it with joy.
Because this life is built for us.
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It's built for you and me tomake the choices to create purpose,
prosperity, and joy, which iswhat your ultimate life.
That's what this whole show's about.
You have the ability to liveyour ultimate life.
So let's talk some more specifically.
Let's talk more specificallyabout choosing Big cash or Big Disappointment.
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If you chase money, you'regoing toward big disappointment.
Money is not happiness.
Money can't buy happiness.
It allows you to buy stuff andstuff's fun, but it's hollow in the
end.
How many rich people commitsuicide or have drug problems or
hate their spouses or do otherstupid things?
I mean, the news is full ofthem and full of them and full of
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them.
There are some that arephilanthropic and do good and add
good to the world.
And have you noticed they'rethe ones that seem the happiest.
Have you noticed they're theones that seem like they're content.
The ones that are using cashfor ostentatious displays and stupidity.
They don't look content.
They don't look happy becausethey're chasing things that aren't
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happiness.
Flamboyant experiences don'tcreate happiness.
We talked a little bit agoabout, you know, going to the mountaintop
to create an experience, butthat's just a container.
The work to happiness is inyour heart, always, every time, only
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no matter what.
Now let that sink in.
External things will never getyou happiness.
Your happiness is within.
Joy is a choice.
You can create it in any circumstance.
And asking what is the gift?
Is one of the tools that I useto do that.
Now, I want you to know, are you.
I want you to answer this for yourself.
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Are you chasing money?
Stop.
Instead, create money.
What's the difference?
Kellen, chasing money ishaving money be your goal.
The worship you're joining thereligion of money.
It makes me cool.
It makes me feel good.
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It gives me status and accessand power.
I need that.
That energy is destructive.
It won't last, and it won'tmotivate you over the long haul.
And when you get to that placewhere you've got.
Where you're surrounded bybags of cash, you'll be miserable
and wondering where thehappiness went that you thought was
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supposed to happen when youhad cash.
If, on the other hand, youcreate money by creating value, because
money follows value.
So if you create awesome valuebecause of who you are and what you
do, that brings joy.
You know why?
Because value creation brings.
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Comes from your purpose.
It's easy to create value fromyour purpose.
Now let Me give you somespecific examples.
I've got a friend thatstruggled for 30 years with cancer,
overcoming it.
He's a massive example ofresilience and power and capability
and can and does help lots ofpeople with the despair and struggle
of illness.
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I know a lady who hasstruggled with infertility and her
goal with resilience and poweris to both show resources and give
courage and love and you know,encouragement to people struggling
with that thing.
I know people.
I know a woman who had twosons and they were beautiful, middle
class, home sons, hadaddiction problems, both of them
terrible.
And her story of gettingthrough that successfully after years,
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years of work, resilience,hope, power, resources, capability.
What a gift.
Her sharing, that creates what value?
Now if you don't know what youhave, that creates value.
I have an invitation for you.
Do you see this right here?
Dream build.
Write it dot com.
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Go to that website right nowand sign up.
Join the challenge.
Doesn't even cost you anythingbecause there I'll teach you how,
how to find your purpose fromwhich you can create value, from
which you can create and willcreate money.
The feeling of creating valueand therefore money and chasing money
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are completely different.
They're not even sort of the same.
Chasing money is misery.
Creating value and serving andcreating money is pure joy.
So now I want to talk aboutsomething else.
We're going to talk now abouthow to have both big cash and big
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impact.
And I think they go hand in hand.
Now I'm fully aware aboutpeople who create money in bad ways.
We're not talking about thembecause that's not you.
Here's how to have big cashand big meaning without lies, fear
or guilt.
Here's the myths you need toget rid of.
Money is evil.
Spiritual people shouldn'ttalk about cash.
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Baloney.
Deeper truth.
Money is a magnifier.
Whoever you are and whateveryou have, it gives you the power
to magnify your impact and influence.
You see that around you ingood ways and bad ways.
If you're a jerk, money makesyou a bigger jerk.
If you're kind, money makesyou kinder and gives you opportunity
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to be more kind.
You and I both know peopleright now that that describes them
to a te.
Here's another myth.
Sometimes fear of being judgedor fear of being visible or seen
keeps you from selling orscaling or growing.
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That is inner work.
Because you're a divine being,your worth is infinite.
God created you with love andkindness and gave you gifts and talents
and he gave them to you to useand bless others.
And make money because you'recreating such value.
Money's just a tool.
And when you do great thingsfor someone and they shower money
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on you because of gratitude,that's a holy and sacred exchange.
Avoiding money doesn't makeyou good.
It makes you useless.
Hear me?
Avoiding money, charging,charging big bucks.
Serving, it doesn't make you agood person.
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It makes you ineffective.
You can't reach people.
And on the other hand, if you,you know, you, you.
I'm a coach.
If you coach and you coach forfree, people don't follow your direction
anyway because it's for free.
Well, I'll see if they've paidyou good money.
They're paying, they're listening.
So you're not serving unlessyou learn to create cash.
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All right, so here's anotherthing I want you to read.
And that is the Results Equation.
The Results Equation is a bookthat I wrote.
It's called From Dream, theResults Equation.
It is a business book.
It is built on the foundationof my consulting career where I was
in charge of 200 billion witha B dollars worth of projects successfully.
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The Results Equation is fromdream to done in five simple steps.
It has to do with creatingproducts, building a business, overcoming
personal challenges, changingyour relationship.
Any goal that you want followsfive steps, five processes.
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They're not different.
The.
The actions themselves aredifferent, but the five processes
are the same.
The Results Equation will giveyou the secret to do that.
You can create results thatfeel like miracles if you follow
the formula.
I know I've done it.
I do it.
I am living proof of that.
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You know, my goal is to reach300 million people this year.
I've got six months left.
It's the middle of April.
As I'm recording this, you'llhear it at the end of May.
I'm going to reach 300 million people.
I don't care what I have to do.
And I will, and I am.
And I'm on track halfwaythrough the year.
I will do that because I love you.
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It is my commitment.
In the process, I also create money.
But the money is a recognitionof the value I've created in people's
lives.
Because the message is aboutyour capability and possibility.
Quit living in the shadows.
Quit turning it down.
Quit making excuses about whyyou're not capable and you can't.
Love, serve and have purpose.
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Prosperity, which includes themoney and joy.
The big disappointment road,right here, right?
The whoops.
Big disappointment road thatcomes when you devalue yourself.
I'm not that good.
I'm not finished Yet I haven'tdone anything.
That's the road to big disappointment.
The road to big cash isconfidence, personal work, personal
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development work.
Because your most valuablegift to the world that you charge
big money for is a combinationof your skills, gifts, and life experiences.
Your Triple Helix.
I don't have time on thispodcast to go over the Triple Helix,
but it is the proprietary,powerful, invincible method to finding
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and living your life purpose.
And where does that lead?
It leads to big happy, big happy.
It leads to big impact in theworld, and it also leads to big cash.
Not because you're greedy, butbecause you're powerful and you have
created such value.
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Hear me.
This was a hard thing for meto learn.
All right, Now I want you todo something else for me.
I want you to create a visionof your prosperity.
So we talk about purpose,prosperity and joy.
And when I ask people, what doyou want?
Often they'll say, I need more money.
Okay, there's two reallyimportant questions.
What does your perfect,prosperous, powerful like life looked
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like?
Describe it to me in enormous detail.
The sights, the smells, the sounds.
What do you do?
What time do you get up?
What is your day full of?
How are you serving?
Like, get in the gory details.
They're not gory.
They're beautiful.
And get them in such detailthat they make you get goosebumps
and tingle, because thatconnection creates power.
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Okay, now I want you to createa vision of your prosperity.
Not just more.
More cars, more money, more vacation.
Exactly what it looks like.
It's so important.
All right, the next thing isnow you got to make a plan, because,
you know, sometimes peoplemisunderstand the law of attraction
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or those kinds of principles.
The thing if I just put avision board up and just, like, yeah,
think it's going to show up,and it's not attraction.
The last two syllables are action.
You got to do stuff.
But what to do becomes reallyclear when you have a clear vision.
When you know exactly what youlook like, what it looks like, what
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your life is like andeverything, Then the questions become
simple.
What can I do right here,right now, to take a step in the
direction of that life?
A step down this trail to this.
To the.
To the bright sun.
What's a step you right nowcan take today?
Is there someone you need to call?
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Is there an email you need to send?
Do you need to talk to someoneabout that business you've been thinking
about?
Do you need to join dreambuildwriteit.com so I can help you
find your story?
Create a product, serve andmake money or write a book or both.
This kind of thing, this dreambuild, right.
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It's not even my main business.
I'm a coach.
But I've had so much fun andsuccess writing and helping people
discover their inner power.
That juice that I love doing it.
And so it's something I doonce or twice a year.
So go there.
Money doesn't come from hoping.
It comes from, like we said,creating consistent value on purpose,
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all the time, with focus.
So the focus on what?
That vision of prosperity.
Another vision you can haveis, let's say you pinpoint how you
like to help people based onyour life experience the struggles
you've had.
I know.
Have a client struggle withanger for decades.
I have a client who, like Isaid, a cancer patient.
I have another guy thatstruggled with self esteem.
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He'd considered, you know,ending his life.
Sometimes those struggles giveyou a yearning to serve.
That yearning to serve is thething that lets you create this big
vision of beautiful sunshine,purpose, prosperity and joy.
Turning it in to cash simplycomes from creating value with your
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experiences and story on aconsistent basis.
That's it.
Now if you're stuck about howto create value, we can fix that.
If you're stuck about how towrite a book or create a product,
we can fix that.
That process is well known.
Those aren't the things thatget in the way.
The things that get in the wayis your fear, your procrastination
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and your self sabotage.
Now here's another thing.
You already have divine gifts.
I don't know if you'vedeveloped them or if you're using
them, but if you, if youfigure out what they are and you
develop them and you use themto serve others in powerful ways,
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you create money.
Those gifts that you have andI have were given to us to complete
our purpose here and to havefun with it.
Life's not boring, it's fun.
And money is the reward forusing your skills, your gifts and
your life experience to liftand bless the lives of others.
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Okay?
That is how money is created,not chaste.
It's the difference betweenego driven success and mission fueled
wealth.
Mission fueled wealth isjoyful, powerful and uplifting.
Ego driven cash is empty andsad and leads to dark and dreary
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places.
All right, so I want to talkabout a little bit about mistakes
that we sometimes make thatcan get us on the big disappointment
road.
Okay, here's one of them.
Some of them, burnout.
Burnout only comes when youdon't have a purpose and you don't
remind Yourself every day.
If you want to know how tocreate a purpose and have it drive
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your day every day.
Living with purpose and poweris the best book in the world, period.
If you find yourself livingwithout soul, success without your
soul is like a prison, right?
You become golden handcuffs.
You become a prisoner ofsomething that you don't love.
So find what you love.
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Here's another mistake.
Chasing somebody else'sdefinition of success leads to big
disappointment.
Working in or scalingsomething that's not aligned with
your own truth and meaning andbeing like you got to declare who
the hell you are and thenbuild in accordance with that.
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And you know where you find that?
You find it in your lifeexperience, what you stand for, what
you believe in, really you.
Not any.
Nobody's permission, nobody's agreement.
So chasing other people'sstuff is a guaranteed loser.
I have plenty of clients whohave boatloads of cash and are empty.
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I'm an example.
I had tons of success and Iwas empty.
So empty it turned to, youknow, harmful things.
So do the work to get your purpose.
Go to dreambuildrited.com goto kellenfluecigermedia.com and reach
out and let's talk.
Finding and choosing your ownlife purpose is the engine that will
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drive you to big cash and joy.
Purpose, prosperity and joy.
I promise you have it and youcan do it.
I don't know if you're willingto do the work, but if you're here
and you want to get here, Idon't care what the goal is.
There's always a road.
There's always a road.
The only question for me andyou is, are we willing to walk the
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road, do the work, the innerwork that's most important of love,
compassion, forgiveness,changing who we are, learning to
tell the truth, eliminatingold beliefs and stories when those
are gone and we love ourselvesand we've eliminated all the negative
beliefs and we've forgiveneverybody everything and nothing's
in the way.
Doing your life work is fun.
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There's no work about it at all.
It's joyful, it's jazzed up,and you can do it every day.
I know.
I live that way, and I helppeople do it, too.
But the inner work of thatforgiveness and love and changing
the stories, there's the work.
Okay, okay, here's the final point.
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Your purpose, your bigcalling, as it were.
That's the first ticket.
You find it by mining, usingyour triple helix, your, excuse me,
your skills, your gifts andyour life experience.
There you will find your big purpose.
You have to choose it andcommit to it.
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Using that to love and servewill create big cash for you, and
it will also create joy.
You were born for prosperity,not poverty.
The only thing that keeps youbroken physically, spiritually, financially
or otherwise is your mindsetor your un unwillingness to do the
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work.
If you're willing to do thework and you're willing to change
your mindset and lean intoyour divinity, capability and possibility,
you can have anything you want.
And that's a promise.
Don't settle for crumbs.
Don't, don't.
Don't allow yourself to settlefor crumbs.
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Take action.
Even if the action right nowis getting one of those books or
getting a hold of me orjoining dreambuildrite.com but don't
sit there and stay whereyou're at unless you're perfectly
happy where you're at.
But most of you aren't, and Ideclare that boldly.
So take bold action.
One step right now and onemore tomorrow and one more tomorrow.
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And focus on how do I create value?
How do I find and lean intoand love this calling that I know
I have and I felt it.
That vague feeling.
Maybe it's a powerful feeling.
Sometimes you have it.
If you listen, you lean in.
You will create not onlypurpose because it'll drive you.
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You will create prosperity inevery meaning of the word and you
will live your life in abubble of joy every day.
I call that living yourultimate life.
Never hold back and you'llnever ask why.
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Open your heart.
And this time around, righthere, right now, your opportunity
for massive growth is right infront of you.
Every episode gives youpractical tips and practices that
will change everything.
If you want to know more, go.
Go to kellenfluekegermedia.comif you want more free tools, go here
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Welcome to this episode ofyouf Ultimate Life.
Life.
Now, I've got a kind of funnytitle for this one.
I called this one Big cash orBig disappointment.
And I even got a little subtitle.
So I'm going to read it to you.
How to create money withoutlosing your soul by living with purpose,
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power and fearless service.
Wow.
So you and I, we all want tobe happy.
Who doesn't want to be happy?
And you notice this thingbehind me.
There's one arrow right hereby this shoulder.
It's got disappointment.
And I'm hoping you're watching this.
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And the other one is creating value.
And it goes to the sunlight.
And this goes to some dark anddreary wilderness or sunlight.
Right.
So we're all at a crossroadsevery day.
And some crossroads are biggerthan others.
Yeah, okay.
But you're all always at a crossroads.
And the reason is becauseevery choice that you make right
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now creates a fork in the road.
Now you've maybe you're ascience sci fi fan and you've seen
those things about paralleluniverses and all that cool stuff.
That's fine.
And the idea is that everytime you make a choice, you create
a new branch in the universebecause if there was a different
choice, you would go down adifferent road.
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Right.
I wrote a song once calledWandering and Wondering.
And it's actually on Spotifyif you want to hear it, but it says,
you know, I always wonderedwhat would have been different if
I'd taken that other roadwayway back when.
What would have happened ifI'd taken the other roadway way back
when.
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And we can't know, and wedon't know.
And often thinking we do knowcauses a lot of pain because then
we end up saying, well, ifonly I'd X.
And we assume that if we takein another road, a lot of other things
would have happened too.
And so this isn't really thetopic of today, but I want to tell
you something that's fantasy,it's stupid.
And you can stop because youhave actually no idea what would
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have happened down that other road.
You make up a story if I'dsaid yes instead of no, then.
And then you make up a storyabout what else would have happened,
but you have no idea past theyes or the no.
You.
You.
You and I, we say what wethink would have happened, and that's
kind of useless.
So you can stop doing itbecause that's wasted energy.
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What's past is past.
The question that mattersright now for big cash or big disappointment
is given.
What is.
What do I wish to create?
So I'm standing at thisjunction right now, right here, and
I have the opportunity to goto big light.
Whoops.
Big light.
Beautiful light there.
Or kind of a dark anduncertain whatever, right?
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So do you.
So do you.
Right here, right now.
And you can live likeGroundhog Day, same day, over and
over again.
Disappointing.
Barely getting by.
How many of these those daysdo you have where you're like, oh,
man, I wish today was over.
Man, I hope I just get through.
I hope I tough it through thisday, this week, this month, and then
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next month's the same, andonce in a while, there's a good one.
Oh, good.
Oh, that'll won't happen again.
Hasn't happened for a month of Sundays.
You know that kind of phraseology.
Well, you're setting yourselfup for big disappointment.
You're creating it.
You're living addicted to mediocrity.
And you can get pissed offbecause I said that, but it's true.
Because you have the abilityto create whatever you want.
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And every time you.
Every breath you take, you'restanding at this fork that's behind
my chair.
There's the dude, right?
Huh?
Kind of looks like me.
Even got a little bald spot.
Look at that.
There's the dude.
At least he's looking towardthe light.
Toward the light.
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You're drawn by light.
So am I.
Light represents happy.
Light represents joy.
It represents doing.
It represents success,achieving loving, being loved.
Yet most of our choices aremade from a place of fear.
I'm afraid of what someonewill say or what they will think.
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If I start a business, I mightfail, and then I'll waste some money.
I'm afraid of this and afraidof that, and oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
I love you.
You don't need to be stuck inthat horrible place.
Boldly make your choice and move.
And once you've made a choice,do not second guess.
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What you can do instead isreally important because we make
choices that turn out to benot what we thought all the time.
One way to look at that is,oh, I suck.
That was stupid.
I wish I'd X.
Useless.
Stop it.
Another thing to do is, oh,this isn't what I meant.
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What adjustment can I make now?
Because as soon as you've Madea choice, you've taken a step or
two or ten down the road.
It's in front of the dude back there.
And so you're not at thisjunction, you're at one further down.
And so the only question thatmatters is what can I do now given
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where I am?
You might say, well, I need toturn around and walk back where I
was and go down the other road.
That's fine, but that's stillan adjustment that is not redoing
the other decision.
And when you get back there totake the other road, it'll look different,
you're a different person, thetiming is different, Everything is
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different.
Every decision is forwardfacing, not backward facing.
If I can give you that andrivet it to your heart, your head,
your mind, your soul goal, itis so powerful.
Every decision is forward facing.
Now here's why that's important.
I've made a ton of mistakes inmy life.
You've heard many of thestories here on the show about my
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addictions and failures anddivorces and on and on and on and
on and on.
I can't fix any of thosedecisions I make now.
I make the best I can.
I might be choosing to ortrying to repair, to build relationships,
mend fences and do those kindsof things, but.
And I am, but they're takentoday because there's no way you
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or I can go back and make adifferent decision.
Right?
So even if you're trying tofix a mistake of the past, it's still
a forward facing decision.
What can I do today?
To apologize, to make amends,to mend fences, to do something.
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So if you take into your heartin the idea of big cash, big disappointment,
Disappointment is almostalways a function of yesterday or
yester minute, as it were.
The last minute didn't gowell, or hour or day or week or decade
or whatever.
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And I am now disappointed.
Waste of time.
Stupid useless emotion.
Instead, say I'm.
I'm.
You can.
I'm offering this as an alternative.
You know, I'm not telling youwhat to do, but I find that to be
stupid and wasted.
Because then it buildsresentment and you get mad at yourself
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and you get shame or rage atsomebody else.
A whole bunch of useless emotions.
If you find yourself in aplace where the shit has hit the
fan because of something youdid or somebody else or some unexpected
thing, the only question is,what's now?
What do I do now?
It didn't go like I wanted.
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That's true.
That's still the same.
The next thought is criticaland I'm pissed at and why didn't
so and so or why did I XYZ useless.
So I invite you with all myheart instead to say, wow, it's not
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like I want it.
What can I do now?
Now, if you want the PhDversion of that, do that without
drama.
Okay?
The drama is oh, it's not likeI want frick.
What do I do?
Oh, I wish I'd this a stupidthat drama multiplies by 10.
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The weight, the power, thenegative power of the situation.
It's awful, it's terrible.
Eat your lunch over and overand over again.
So don't do that.
The first version is teeth clenched.
What do I do now with a bit of drama.
If you haven't learned toundramat when you practice more,
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you'll realize the drama doesnothing except slow you down, weigh
you down and invite you intobackwards looking stuff.
Blame, shame, rage, guilt, revenge.
It's looking backward and youmay want to take a future action,
but it's rooted in this past stuff.
When you get skilled at this,you just don't have any drama.
Oh wow.
Holy crap.
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That's not what I wanted or expected.
What do I do now?
What do I do now?
And the more excited andbright and happy you can get about
that question, the morepowerful the answer is.
And I promise you that everytime, without exception, no failures.
I'll give you an example.
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Happened to me in 2018, December.
Four months after I died andgot out of the hospital.
And if you want to read thatstory, that's in Meeting God at the
Door.
Conversations, choices andcommitments of a near death experience.
I contracted a fatal illnessand died and had conversations and
wrote a book about it.
Amazing Revelations.
It's changed my life.
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And yes, all that good stuff,but that isn't today's topic.
Four months later, after I'dgot out of the hospital, I was in
a coma for 17 days after myheart was restarted and I'd lost
35 pounds and I lost all mymuscle mass and couldn't walk and
on and on and on like you'dexpect, right?
And I have had a ravagingillness that ruined my lungs and
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blah, blah, blah.
But after a month I got out ofthe hospital and I got home and was
in long term physicalrecovery, you know, trying to learn
to walk and do all that stuff.
And four months later, themorning of December 5th, so maybe
it's five months later, I wentin and June, got out in July.
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So August, September, October,November, December, four and a half,
five months later, Right.
I woke up on the morning ofDecember 5th paralyzed from the waist
down.
Now remember, I'm five monthsinto learning to walk and barely,
you know, taking care ofmyself and was making good progress
and was really happy with it.
Yay.
And I woke up paralyzed, likeI didn't know it.
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And so I tried to get out ofbed and I fell on my face, splat
on the carpet, right?
And I thought, that's weird.
And so I tried to get up, likeon my hands and knees, flap on my
face on the carpet.
Finally I realized I couldn'tmove anything below the waist.
So I was paralyzed from thewaist down.
I'm not going to tell thewhole story.
If you want the whole story,it's in a different book called Walking
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Without Fear.
Meeting God at the Door waswhat happened in the summer, and
Walking Without Fear was in December.
But anyway, called the ambulance.
I'm in a lot of pain,paralyzed from the waist down.
I'm five months after thehospital thinking I'm on my way to
recovery.
And the first thought couldhave been, why is this happening?
I just died and recovered andmade a choice to come back and like,
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what is going on?
And it could have easily beenthe road to disappointment, rage
and anger.
And I was in a lot of pain andI was in the back of the ambulance.
And if you want all thedetails, read the book Walking Without
Fear.
But I had a.
An amazing experience there.
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And it led me to the questionthat I'm going to share with you.
And that is this.
What is the gift here?
In other words, I consciouslyand intentionally refused to be mad,
to look at this as apunishment, a negative thing, or
anything other than a gift.
And so I, out loud, I said,what is the gift here?
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And then I.
Everything changed.
When you ask that question,your whole consciousness changes,
right?
And so then I had the wholeconversation with myself from the
perspective of gift.
And that's forward looking.
So it has to do with exactlywhat we're talking about now.
We've laid a good bit ofgroundwork for the idea of disappointment
disconnecting from the past,getting rid of the drama.
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Now let's talk about Big Cash, okay?
The books that you can readthat will help you are the book of
context.
Walking without fear, meetingGod at the door, living with purpose
and power.
You know, several things,several books that I've written,
because every book I'vewritten has come from my own experience.
Now here's what I want to tell you.
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We are built to love and serve.
You're not born to settle.
You're not born to live in mediocrity.
You were born to create.
And money is one of the sacredrewards of serving.
Well, now I understand there'sa lot of crooks and a lot of money
and a lot of cheating and alot of lot.
A lot, a lot of.
But that's not you, and I'mnot talking to them.
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So.
You were born to create.
You were born to serve.
You were born to develop andmagnify your gifts and talents.
And if you don't know how tofind your purpose, then you should
talk to me.
I've got a book coming out.
Or maybe it'll be out by thetime you see this.
No, it won't.
But it'll be out shortly inthe fall of 25 called Masterpiece.
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And it's about how to findyour purpose.
Exactly.
Specifically how to find it.
Okay.
When you're driven by purpose,work isn't work.
Every day is a joy.
And you discover new andpowerful ways to both change lives
and make money.
Change lives and make money.
That's down this road herewith the bright sun.
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You are built to go there.
You are built to win, to love,to create, to serve, to make cash,
big cash.
But you have to do the workbecause it doesn't come in a box
from Amazon.
It doesn't get delivered that way.
You're not born to settle.
You're born to serve.
And getting the reward of money.
All that does is it's funbecause you get to buy another shirt
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or jacket or maybe a new caror something.
Fine.
But then what you really wantit for is to serve more.
Because what it does is itlets you turn up that light.
It lets you create moreproducts, services, programs, speak
to more people so you can be more.
You become more.
More powerful, more joyful,more effective.
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You eliminate your doubts and fears.
You.
They.
They go away.
So.
But it takes work.
And so if you want to choosebetween big cash and big disappointment,
you have to decide.
I'm going to the side of the sunshine.
Oops.
I'm going to the sunshine.
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I'm going to the sunshine.
That's me.
I'm going there.
Now you're going to find disappointment.
You fell on your face.
And maybe you picked a wrongroad for a minute and you're going
to have to make some adjustments.
Me too?
You too?
So what?
It's like the back of the ambulance.
So what's the gift here?
What do I learn?
What can I do?
And I'm going to do it with joy.
Because this life is built for us.
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It's built for you and me tomake the choices to create purpose,
prosperity, and joy, which iswhat your ultimate life.
That's what this whole show's about.
You have the ability to liveyour ultimate life.
So let's talk some more specifically.
Let's talk more specificallyabout choosing Big cash or Big Disappointment.
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If you chase money, you'regoing toward big disappointment.
Money is not happiness.
Money can't buy happiness.
It allows you to buy stuff andstuff's fun, but it's hollow in the
end.
How many rich people commitsuicide or have drug problems or
hate their spouses or do otherstupid things?
I mean, the news is full ofthem and full of them and full of
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them.
There are some that arephilanthropic and do good and add
good to the world.
And have you noticed they'rethe ones that seem the happiest.
Have you noticed they're theones that seem like they're content.
The ones that are using cashfor ostentatious displays and stupidity.
They don't look content.
They don't look happy becausethey're chasing things that aren't
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happiness.
Flamboyant experiences don'tcreate happiness.
We talked a little bit agoabout, you know, going to the mountaintop
to create an experience, butthat's just a container.
The work to happiness is inyour heart, always, every time, only
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no matter what.
Now let that sink in.
External things will never getyou happiness.
Your happiness is within.
Joy is a choice.
You can create it in any circumstance.
And asking what is the gift?
Is one of the tools that I useto do that.
Now, I want you to know, are you.
I want you to answer this for yourself.
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Are you chasing money?
Stop.
Instead, create money.
What's the difference?
Kellen, chasing money ishaving money be your goal.
The worship you're joining thereligion of money.
It makes me cool.
It makes me feel good.
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It gives me status and accessand power.
I need that.
That energy is destructive.
It won't last, and it won'tmotivate you over the long haul.
And when you get to that placewhere you've got.
Where you're surrounded bybags of cash, you'll be miserable
and wondering where thehappiness went that you thought was
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supposed to happen when youhad cash.
If, on the other hand, youcreate money by creating value, because
money follows value.
So if you create awesome valuebecause of who you are and what you
do, that brings joy.
You know why?
Because value creation brings.
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Comes from your purpose.
It's easy to create value fromyour purpose.
Now let Me give you somespecific examples.
I've got a friend thatstruggled for 30 years with cancer,
overcoming it.
He's a massive example ofresilience and power and capability
and can and does help lots ofpeople with the despair and struggle
of illness.
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I know a lady who hasstruggled with infertility and her
goal with resilience and poweris to both show resources and give
courage and love and you know,encouragement to people struggling
with that thing.
I know people.
I know a woman who had twosons and they were beautiful, middle
class, home sons, hadaddiction problems, both of them
terrible.
And her story of gettingthrough that successfully after years,
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years of work, resilience,hope, power, resources, capability.
What a gift.
Her sharing, that creates what value?
Now if you don't know what youhave, that creates value.
I have an invitation for you.
Do you see this right here?
Dream build.
Write it dot com.
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Go to that website right nowand sign up.
Join the challenge.
Doesn't even cost you anythingbecause there I'll teach you how,
how to find your purpose fromwhich you can create value, from
which you can create and willcreate money.
The feeling of creating valueand therefore money and chasing money
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are completely different.
They're not even sort of the same.
Chasing money is misery.
Creating value and serving andcreating money is pure joy.
So now I want to talk aboutsomething else.
We're going to talk now abouthow to have both big cash and big
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impact.
And I think they go hand in hand.
Now I'm fully aware aboutpeople who create money in bad ways.
We're not talking about thembecause that's not you.
Here's how to have big cashand big meaning without lies, fear
or guilt.
Here's the myths you need toget rid of.
Money is evil.
Spiritual people shouldn'ttalk about cash.
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Baloney.
Deeper truth.
Money is a magnifier.
Whoever you are and whateveryou have, it gives you the power
to magnify your impact and influence.
You see that around you ingood ways and bad ways.
If you're a jerk, money makesyou a bigger jerk.
If you're kind, money makesyou kinder and gives you opportunity
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to be more kind.
You and I both know peopleright now that that describes them
to a te.
Here's another myth.
Sometimes fear of being judgedor fear of being visible or seen
keeps you from selling orscaling or growing.
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That is inner work.
Because you're a divine being,your worth is infinite.
God created you with love andkindness and gave you gifts and talents
and he gave them to you to useand bless others.
And make money because you'recreating such value.
Money's just a tool.
And when you do great thingsfor someone and they shower money
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on you because of gratitude,that's a holy and sacred exchange.
Avoiding money doesn't makeyou good.
It makes you useless.
Hear me?
Avoiding money, charging,charging big bucks.
Serving, it doesn't make you agood person.
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It makes you ineffective.
You can't reach people.
And on the other hand, if you,you know, you, you.
I'm a coach.
If you coach and you coach forfree, people don't follow your direction
anyway because it's for free.
Well, I'll see if they've paidyou good money.
They're paying, they're listening.
So you're not serving unlessyou learn to create cash.
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All right, so here's anotherthing I want you to read.
And that is the Results Equation.
The Results Equation is a bookthat I wrote.
It's called From Dream, theResults Equation.
It is a business book.
It is built on the foundationof my consulting career where I was
in charge of 200 billion witha B dollars worth of projects successfully.
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The Results Equation is fromdream to done in five simple steps.
It has to do with creatingproducts, building a business, overcoming
personal challenges, changingyour relationship.
Any goal that you want followsfive steps, five processes.
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They're not different.
The.
The actions themselves aredifferent, but the five processes
are the same.
The Results Equation will giveyou the secret to do that.
You can create results thatfeel like miracles if you follow
the formula.
I know I've done it.
I do it.
I am living proof of that.
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You know, my goal is to reach300 million people this year.
I've got six months left.
It's the middle of April.
As I'm recording this, you'llhear it at the end of May.
I'm going to reach 300 million people.
I don't care what I have to do.
And I will, and I am.
And I'm on track halfwaythrough the year.
I will do that because I love you.
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It is my commitment.
In the process, I also create money.
But the money is a recognitionof the value I've created in people's
lives.
Because the message is aboutyour capability and possibility.
Quit living in the shadows.
Quit turning it down.
Quit making excuses about whyyou're not capable and you can't.
Love, serve and have purpose.
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Prosperity, which includes themoney and joy.
The big disappointment road,right here, right?
The whoops.
Big disappointment road thatcomes when you devalue yourself.
I'm not that good.
I'm not finished Yet I haven'tdone anything.
That's the road to big disappointment.
The road to big cash isconfidence, personal work, personal
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development work.
Because your most valuablegift to the world that you charge
big money for is a combinationof your skills, gifts, and life experiences.
Your Triple Helix.
I don't have time on thispodcast to go over the Triple Helix,
but it is the proprietary,powerful, invincible method to finding
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and living your life purpose.
And where does that lead?
It leads to big happy, big happy.
It leads to big impact in theworld, and it also leads to big cash.
Not because you're greedy, butbecause you're powerful and you have
created such value.
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Hear me.
This was a hard thing for meto learn.
All right, Now I want you todo something else for me.
I want you to create a visionof your prosperity.
So we talk about purpose,prosperity and joy.
And when I ask people, what doyou want?
Often they'll say, I need more money.
Okay, there's two reallyimportant questions.
What does your perfect,prosperous, powerful like life looked
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like?
Describe it to me in enormous detail.
The sights, the smells, the sounds.
What do you do?
What time do you get up?
What is your day full of?
How are you serving?
Like, get in the gory details.
They're not gory.
They're beautiful.
And get them in such detailthat they make you get goosebumps
and tingle, because thatconnection creates power.
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Okay, now I want you to createa vision of your prosperity.
Not just more.
More cars, more money, more vacation.
Exactly what it looks like.
It's so important.
All right, the next thing isnow you got to make a plan, because,
you know, sometimes peoplemisunderstand the law of attraction
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or those kinds of principles.
The thing if I just put avision board up and just, like, yeah,
think it's going to show up,and it's not attraction.
The last two syllables are action.
You got to do stuff.
But what to do becomes reallyclear when you have a clear vision.
When you know exactly what youlook like, what it looks like, what
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your life is like andeverything, Then the questions become
simple.
What can I do right here,right now, to take a step in the
direction of that life?
A step down this trail to this.
To the.
To the bright sun.
What's a step you right nowcan take today?
Is there someone you need to call?
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Is there an email you need to send?
Do you need to talk to someoneabout that business you've been thinking
about?
Do you need to join dreambuildwriteit.com so I can help you
find your story?
Create a product, serve andmake money or write a book or both.
This kind of thing, this dreambuild, right.
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It's not even my main business.
I'm a coach.
But I've had so much fun andsuccess writing and helping people
discover their inner power.
That juice that I love doing it.
And so it's something I doonce or twice a year.
So go there.
Money doesn't come from hoping.
It comes from, like we said,creating consistent value on purpose,
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all the time, with focus.
So the focus on what?
That vision of prosperity.
Another vision you can haveis, let's say you pinpoint how you
like to help people based onyour life experience the struggles
you've had.
I know.
Have a client struggle withanger for decades.
I have a client who, like Isaid, a cancer patient.
I have another guy thatstruggled with self esteem.
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He'd considered, you know,ending his life.
Sometimes those struggles giveyou a yearning to serve.
That yearning to serve is thething that lets you create this big
vision of beautiful sunshine,purpose, prosperity and joy.
Turning it in to cash simplycomes from creating value with your
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experiences and story on aconsistent basis.
That's it.
Now if you're stuck about howto create value, we can fix that.
If you're stuck about how towrite a book or create a product,
we can fix that.
That process is well known.
Those aren't the things thatget in the way.
The things that get in the wayis your fear, your procrastination
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and your self sabotage.
Now here's another thing.
You already have divine gifts.
I don't know if you'vedeveloped them or if you're using
them, but if you, if youfigure out what they are and you
develop them and you use themto serve others in powerful ways,
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you create money.
Those gifts that you have andI have were given to us to complete
our purpose here and to havefun with it.
Life's not boring, it's fun.
And money is the reward forusing your skills, your gifts and
your life experience to liftand bless the lives of others.
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Okay?
That is how money is created,not chaste.
It's the difference betweenego driven success and mission fueled
wealth.
Mission fueled wealth isjoyful, powerful and uplifting.
Ego driven cash is empty andsad and leads to dark and dreary
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places.
All right, so I want to talkabout a little bit about mistakes
that we sometimes make thatcan get us on the big disappointment
road.
Okay, here's one of them.
Some of them, burnout.
Burnout only comes when youdon't have a purpose and you don't
remind Yourself every day.
If you want to know how tocreate a purpose and have it drive
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your day every day.
Living with purpose and poweris the best book in the world, period.
If you find yourself livingwithout soul, success without your
soul is like a prison, right?
You become golden handcuffs.
You become a prisoner ofsomething that you don't love.
So find what you love.
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Here's another mistake.
Chasing somebody else'sdefinition of success leads to big
disappointment.
Working in or scalingsomething that's not aligned with
your own truth and meaning andbeing like you got to declare who
the hell you are and thenbuild in accordance with that.
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And you know where you find that?
You find it in your lifeexperience, what you stand for, what
you believe in, really you.
Not any.
Nobody's permission, nobody's agreement.
So chasing other people'sstuff is a guaranteed loser.
I have plenty of clients whohave boatloads of cash and are empty.
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I'm an example.
I had tons of success and Iwas empty.
So empty it turned to, youknow, harmful things.
So do the work to get your purpose.
Go to dreambuildrited.com goto kellenfluecigermedia.com and reach
out and let's talk.
Finding and choosing your ownlife purpose is the engine that will
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drive you to big cash and joy.
Purpose, prosperity and joy.
I promise you have it and youcan do it.
I don't know if you're willingto do the work, but if you're here
and you want to get here, Idon't care what the goal is.
There's always a road.
There's always a road.
The only question for me andyou is, are we willing to walk the
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road, do the work, the innerwork that's most important of love,
compassion, forgiveness,changing who we are, learning to
tell the truth, eliminatingold beliefs and stories when those
are gone and we love ourselvesand we've eliminated all the negative
beliefs and we've forgiveneverybody everything and nothing's
in the way.
Doing your life work is fun.
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There's no work about it at all.
It's joyful, it's jazzed up,and you can do it every day.
I know.
I live that way, and I helppeople do it, too.
But the inner work of thatforgiveness and love and changing
the stories, there's the work.
Okay, okay, here's the final point.
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Your purpose, your bigcalling, as it were.
That's the first ticket.
You find it by mining, usingyour triple helix, your, excuse me,
your skills, your gifts andyour life experience.
There you will find your big purpose.
You have to choose it andcommit to it.
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Using that to love and servewill create big cash for you, and
it will also create joy.
You were born for prosperity,not poverty.
The only thing that keeps youbroken physically, spiritually, financially
or otherwise is your mindsetor your un unwillingness to do the
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work.
If you're willing to do thework and you're willing to change
your mindset and lean intoyour divinity, capability and possibility,
you can have anything you want.
And that's a promise.
Don't settle for crumbs.
Don't, don't.
Don't allow yourself to settlefor crumbs.
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Take action.
Even if the action right nowis getting one of those books or
getting a hold of me orjoining dreambuildrite.com but don't
sit there and stay whereyou're at unless you're perfectly
happy where you're at.
But most of you aren't, and Ideclare that boldly.
So take bold action.
One step right now and onemore tomorrow and one more tomorrow.
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And focus on how do I create value?
How do I find and lean intoand love this calling that I know
I have and I felt it.
That vague feeling.
Maybe it's a powerful feeling.
Sometimes you have it.
If you listen, you lean in.
You will create not onlypurpose because it'll drive you.
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You will create prosperity inevery meaning of the word and you
will live your life in abubble of joy every day.
I call that living yourultimate life.
Never hold back and you'llnever ask why.
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Open your heart.
And this time around, righthere, right now, your opportunity
for massive growth is right infront of you.
Every episode gives youpractical tips and practices that
will change everything.
If you want to know more, go.
Go to kellenfluekegermedia.comif you want more free tools, go here
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