September 29, 2025 • 28 mins
Are you managing 6+ hours of family logistics daily but spending less than an hour on your own interests? Do you look in the mirror and barely recognize the woman staring back? In this episode, we tackle the dangerous belief that mothers have no purpose beyond their roles as mom and wife - and why this lie is actually destroying the very families we're trying to protect.
Discover
- Why the belief "I have no purpose beyond motherhood" is detrimental to your entire family
- The research showing that fulfilled mothers raise more successful children
- How to recognize if you're living what Misty calls a "half-life"
- The difference between foundational purpose and role-based identity
- Practical steps to rediscover yourself without guilt or upheaval
Link Mentioned
Reclaiming Yourself Beyond Motherhood - Priority Notice
The Two Dangerous Beliefs Explored:
- Women who want to rediscover themselves are unhappy with motherhood
- Outside of my roles as mom and wife, I have no purpose or value
Research That Will Surprise You:
- Ohio State University study: 10% increase in maternal happiness = $50,000 boost to child development
- 2025 Women's Well-being Survey: Mothers pursuing personal growth are 2X more likely to be happy
- Children of growth-focused mothers take healthier risks and pursue goals with confidence
The "Half-Life" vs "Whole Life" Framework:
- Signs you're living a half-life as a mother
- How role-focused identity sets you up for crisis when needs change
- The barn, manure, and coal analogy that will shift your perspective
Powerful Quotes
"You're not broken, you're buried. The woman who dreamed big didn't disappear when you became a mother - she's been waiting patiently for her season."
"When you believe that wanting more makes you a bad mother, your children learn that love means sacrifice instead of abundance."
"Your spouse didn't fall in love with a manager or caretaker. They fell in love with a fascinating, complex, passionate woman who had dreams and opinions and interests."
Success Stories Referenced
- Sara Blakely: Built Spanx into a billion-dollar company while raising four children
- Julia Hartz: Co-founded Eventbrite, credits marriage success to mutual dream support
- Tory Burch: "As a working mother, I know that women can be both professionally ambitious and deeply committed to their family"
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Misty (00:01):
You're managing over six hours of family logistics daily
and are spending less than anhour on your own interests.
You've planned everyone else'slife down to the minute, but
haven't thought about your ownnext chapter, who you'll be, who
you want to be.
You look in the mirror afteryour morning routine and think,
I don't recognize that womanmore days than not.
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Welcome to the fourth episodein this brand new series focused
on reclaiming who you arebeyond just being a mom and a
wife.
If you're feeling invisible,unseen, undervalued, and
disconnected, not just fromthose you love but from
yourself, if you're doingeverything for everyone, but
feel like no one truly sees you.
If you feel detached from thewoman you are beyond a mom and a
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wife, and perhaps like me,you've broken down into tears
while showering, then thisseries is made for you.
Do you ever catch a glimpse ofyourself in the mirror and
barely recognize the womanstaring back?
That woman who once dreamedbig, burned with passion, had a
purpose beyond meeting everyoneelse's needs, you wonder where
she went.
Hi, I'm Mr.
Celli, and this is your utmostlife, the podcast for moms who
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feel guilty for wanting more orcan't remember the last time
they truly felt like themselves.
If you were tired of feelinginvisible, overwhelmed, and
stretched too thin, then you'vecome to the right place.
Here we explore how to reclaimyour identity beyond mom and
wife.
The more times you need to comeguilt, and limit your life to
the utmost.
Here's the truth (01:24):
you are not just everything to everyone.
You are a unique, powerfulwoman with dreams that matter,
rules that count, and a voicethat deserves to be heard.
It's time to move fromsurviving to thriving without
guilt, overwhelm, or upheaval.
So stick around.
We're just getting started.
Hello and welcome to anotherepisode of Europe Most Life
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Podcast.
Today we're diving into episodefour of my new series called
The Six Major Mom Mistakes andHow to Fix Them.
These are the most commonmistakes I've seen moms make,
and honestly, mistakes that Imade for myself for years.
These are habits that leave usfeeling invisible, undervalued,
stressed out, worn down, anddisconnected, not just from
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those that we love, but fromourselves.
They cause us to move throughlife on autopilot and feel worn
out, used up, and quite frankly,longing for something more, but
not exactly sure what morereally means.
When talking to moms and otherwomen and really listening to
what they were saying, Irealized that there were several
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things that were stated that Icompletely understood because I
too had experienced them.
The struggles they were having,the feelings they couldn't
shake, and the responses theywere getting from their family,
they were all things that I toohad gone through.
I narrowed it down to these sixmistakes that kept reoccurring
again and again and really arethose that seem to be the most
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detrimental to the life thatwe're building, the family that
we love and the woman that welong to be.
Today we're diving into nopurpose beyond.
We're tackling the belief thatwe have no purpose beyond our
role as a mom and a wife, andthat the value that we have is
only found in ensuring ourfamily is well taken care of.
This is our top priority inlife.
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Now, before you turn me off,let me assure you, I too believe
that family is a huge priorityin our lives, as it should be.
However, it shouldn't beconsidered our only priority.
We can have a multitude ofpurposes and priorities and
still be an amazing mom andwife.
In fact, there is a better way,one that will make us a better
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mom and wife, allowing us tokeep the superwoman title that
we are so proud of having whileensuring we have deeper
connection to those we love,more confidence, more purpose,
more joy, more of who we long tobe, what we secretly desire but
feel guilty for wanting.
Here's what I know about you.
You love your family, you feelgrateful, and you just want to
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be your absolute best and givethem everything.
But perhaps you found yourselfsipping your morning coffee,
scrolling through Instagram, andyou see that woman talking
about her great new side hustleand how much fun she's having.
She looks great.
She's your age, but somehowlooks at least five years
younger than you.
You click her profile andcontinue to go down the rabbit
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hole of her recent vacation, herdaughter's acceptance into that
fabulous college program, andher awesome workout routine that
has helped her lose 10 pounds.
And this thought crosses yourmind.
She's clearly not grateful forwhat she has, otherwise she
wouldn't be trying so hard tofind the joy in her new hobbies
and clothes and weight loss.
She clearly doesn't findfulfillment in being a mother
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like I do.
That twitch in your stomachhits.
Probably just hunger, right?
It can't be the truth.
I wish I had what she does, andhow I wish I could pull off
that outfit, lose 10 pounds, andlook as good as she does.
Listen, I get it completely.
There is no judgment.
I was there, sitting on thecouch, scrolling through social
media and picking apart thosethat I thought were clearly not
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satisfied with their life,needing approval from others.
What a better mom and wife Iwas.
Look in my day focused on myentire family, and I'm putting
them above everything elsebecause I love them more, right?
I was the woman who looked atmothers wanting more and thought
that they were selfish orungrateful.
I was convinced that if youwere a good mom, a loving wife,
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that should be enough.
That seeking anything beyondthose roles meant that you were
broken somehow, unable to findjoy in the beautiful life you've
been blessed with.
I had perfected the art ofbeing everything to everyone.
My husband called me his rock.
My kids knew mom would handlewhatever crisis emerged, and I
was the family's CEO, managingeveryone else's schedules,
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emotions, and needs withprecision that would make any
Fortune 500 company jealous.
But here's what I realizedduring one of those quiet
moments when I wasn't judgingthose women, and I was
completely honest with myself.
I was terrified.
Terrified that wanting moremeant that I was selfish,
ungrateful, and failing at theroles that I had defined for
myself for decades.
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Terrified that the dreams I'dquietly buried meant I was
broken, ungrateful, or worse,that I'd somehow missed the memo
about what fulfillment wassupposed to look like.
Because here's the thing thatnobody talks about.
When your primary job for morethan 16 years starts to shift,
when your kids need you less,when your marriages become more
about function than connection,you start to wonder who am I
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when I'm not actively mothering?
What's my purpose when everyonecan basically take care of
themselves?
And if you've ever felt thathollow ache when you see another
woman pursuing her dreams, ifyou've ever wondered if there's
more to you than these rolesyou've poured yourself into.
If you've ever looked in themirror and thought, I don't
recognize that woman.
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You're not alone.
And more importantly, you'renot broken.
You're just buried.
Today I might completely flipeverything you've been told
about what it means to be afulfilled woman and an
exceptional mother.
The belief that women who wantto rediscover themselves are
unhappy with motherhood isn'tjust wrong.
It's a lie.
A lie that keeps exceptionalmothers living what I call half
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lives.
And here's what I mean by that.
When you believe that wantingmore means that you're
ungrateful, you rob yourself ofthe full, vibrant life that
would actually make you a bettermother, not a worse one.
And I completely understand whythis belief feels true.
We've been conditioned to thinkthat good mothers find complete
fulfillment in their family'ssuccess.
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We're told that if we wantpersonal growth, creative
expression, or professionalachievement, we're somehow
failing at the most importantjob that we will ever have.
Taking time to pursue any ofthose things feels selfish.
There's so much for us to do.
So many things our familyneeds.
I believed this so deeply thateven when I finally passed the
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real estate license exam, afterliterally wanting that for my
entire adult life, but pausingon it when I became pregnant, I
felt a wave of guilt anduncertainty.
Had I done the wrong thing?
Would my family suffer?
Would they feel as though theyweren't enough?
But what I realized during thattime of studying was
remarkable.
My family experienced my joy,my passion.
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They supported me fully, andthey were proud of me.
My conversations with them werefull of new things, excitement,
not just logistics andreminders of what they needed to
do.
They included my dreams, mypassions, my desires.
My joy was infectious and theyloved it.
They loved who I was becoming.
The voice that I was hearingthat they would not feel as
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loved, that was a lie.
The message is everywhere.
Social media posts aboutgrateful mothers who never
wanted anything beyond theirfamilies, articles about
helicopter parents who are sofocused on their children that
they lost themselves.
But then criticism of motherswho pursue their own interests.
We just can't win.
But here's what the researchactually is telling us.
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Ohio State University conducteda comprehensive study and found
that a 10% increase in maternallife satisfaction increases
children's social andself-regulation skills by the
equivalent of $50,000 annualhousehold income increase.
But let me say that again.
Happier mothers literallycreate more successful children.
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There was a women's well-beingsurvey in 2025 of 3,000 women.
And what they found was thatmarried mothers who pursue
personal growth and identitydevelopment are twice as likely
to report being very happycompared to those who don't.
But here's where it gets reallyinteresting.
Let me ask you something.
Do you see Sarah Blakely, whobuilt Spandex into a
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billion-dollar company whileraising four children?
Is she a bad mom?
Do you see Julia Hartz, whoco-founded Eventbrite and
credits her marriage's successto both partners supporting each
other's dreams?
Is she neglecting her family?
What about the research showingthat children of mothers who
model pursuing dreams andpersonal growth are more likely
to take healthy risks, pursuetheir own goals with confidence,
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and have better emotionalregulation?
Are we really saying thesemothers are doing it wrong?
Here's the truth that really istalked about.
The mothers who only focus ontheir children, who make their
entire identity about theirroles, are actually doing their
families a disservice.
They're teaching theirdaughters that women disappear
when they become mothers.
They're showing their sons thatwomen exist only to serve
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others.
They're modeling for everyonethat personal growth stops when
you have a family.
And here's the really hardtruth.
They're usually the mothers whoadult children feel smothered,
whose marriages lack intimacyand excitement, and who become
bitter when their kids buildindependent lives.
They're living half-lives.
Because when you believe thatwanting more makes you a bad
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mother, here's what actuallyhappens.
Your children learn that lovemeans sacrifice instead of
abundance.
Your marriage becomes aboutduty instead of partnership.
You wake up at 50 with grownchildren who see you as a
function, not a person.
And you have a spouse who'sforgotten why they fell in love
with you in the first place.
When you live what I call ahalf-life, going through all the
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motions of full existence, butnever actually experiencing the
vibrancy, the growth, and thejoy that you were created for,
that's heartbreaking.
So what do the thriving mothersdo differently?
They understand something mostpeople miss entirely.
Becoming your utmost self isn'tselfish.
It's the most generous thingyou can do for your family and
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for truthfully yourself and theworld.
Because here's what Idiscovered: you're not broken.
You're buried.
The women who dream big, whohad passions and interests and
goals, she didn't disappear whenyou became a mother.
She's been waiting patientlyfor her season to emerge again.
Let me share something with youthat I rarely talk about.
Several years ago, I was theposter child for the Grateful
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Mother.
My kids were shifting intoindependence.
My marriage was functional.
We managed the household likebusiness partners.
I was proud of how well I'ddone my job as a mother.
Both kids were thriving, makinggood choices, pursuing their
goals with confidence.
My husband was moving up thecorporate ladder.
But what I was doing is I wasdying inside.
I would lie awake at nightcrying, praying that my husband
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wouldn't wake up.
I would lie there thinking, nowwhat?
I'd spent half my life takingcare of everyone, being
indispensable, and suddenlyeveryone could basically take
care of themselves.
I found myself creatingproblems to solve just so I
could feel needed.
I was managing my 19-year-old'scollege schedule like she was
still in elementary school.
And the worst part, when I wasreally honest with myself, I was
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resentful of the hard work Iput in.
I felt like I was unseen by thevery people that I loved most.
Not because they were doinganything wrong, but because I
had made them my entire purpose.
And now that purpose that I hadwasn't just evolving, it was
dying.
I hadn't failed at motherhood.
I had succeeded so well that mychildren didn't need me the
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same way anymore.
But instead of celebrating thatsuccess and transitioning into
the next season of my life, Iwas trying to hold on to a role
that was naturally shifting.
The real wake-up call came whenmy daughter said to me, Mom, I
love you, but I've got this.
You've done a great job.
She wasn't being mean, she wasbeing honest.
I so desperately wanted her tostill need me the same way she
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had her entire life.
But if I had done a great job,wasn't it now my job to let her
fly?
To be there when she felt sheneeded me, not because I needed
her to let me be needed.
both can't exist together.
Either I had been a great momand had guided, loved, taught,
and given her a solid foundationto function as the beautiful
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adult I tried to raise her tobe, or I had failed and still
needed to be her parent,teaching, training, guiding, and
keeping her between the lines.
I designed for her life to livein a path as to becoming a
thriving adult.
Did I succeed or didn't I?
If the answer is no, I wasn'tsuccessful, would I have any
right to continue in that role?
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If an employee of a companywasn't successful after 18 plus
years, would they still be inthat role at the company?
Heck no.
They would have been let go along time ago.
Was I good at my role, myposition as her parent?
I believed I was.
She told me I had been.
The proof was in her choices,her life she was carving out,
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and her coming to me when sheneeded wisdom, but also in her
taking charge when she wasready.
She was becoming an amazingwoman and a fabulous human
being.
That's what led me here talkingto you today.
She covered that you're notbroken, you're buried under
years of believing that yourworth comes from your function
rather than your inherent valueas a human being.
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The second belief that'skeeping you living a half-life,
and it's connected to the first,is this idea that outside of
your roles as a mother and awife, you have no purpose or
value.
This isn't just false.
It's insulting to theincredible woman you've become
and the masterpiece that youwere created to be from the very
beginning.
I get why you think this.
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For almost 20 years, you'vebeen laser focused on these
roles.
You've become an expert.
And research shows that after10,000 hours, you become a true
expert at anything.
You are an expert at mothering,at managing a household, at
keeping everyone's worldspinning smoothly.
But somewhere along the way,you started to believe that
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those functions defined yourentire work, that your value was
tied to how needed you were,how well you managed everyone
else's life, and how successfulyou kept it all the plates
spinning.
But here's what nobody'stelling you.
When you make your entireidentity about what you do for
others, you set yourself up foran identity crisis the moment
that those needs change.
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And they will change.
Your children will grow, yourspouse will develop
independence.
The natural cycle of lifehappens.
But here's what I need you tounderstand.
And this might sound harsh, butplease stick with me.
A barn is built to houseanimals, equipment, and hay.
That's its function.
But when a barn is no longerneeded for those original
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functions, what happens?
It becomes highly sought after.
Those weathered beams becomethe centerpiece of someone's
dream home.
That old structure becomes morevaluable than it ever because.
People recognize the beauty,the character, and the strength
that was built over time.
Are you really telling me thatyou are less adaptable, less
valuable than a barn?
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Let's look at manure.
It serves one primary function,waste.
But what does it become whenits original purpose is
complete?
The fertilizer that creates themost gorgeous gardens, the
foundation for new growth andbeauty and coal?
It starts as ordinary rock, butunder pressure and time, what
does it become?
It becomes diamonds, literallythe most treasured substance on
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earth.
Are you seriously going to tellme that you are less
transformative than manure andcoal?
I sure as heck hope not.
Here's what's actuallyhappening during your 20 years
of intensive mothering.
You didn't lose skills, yougained them.
You didn't become less, youbecame more.
You developed projectmanagement skills that would
make any corporate executivejealous.
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You learned crisis management,conflict resolution, budget
management, time optimization,emotional intelligence,
strategic planning, andleadership skills that most
people pay thousands of dollarsto learn in an MBA program.
You became a cook, ahousekeeper, a bookkeeper, a
secretary, a nurse, a teacher, acounselor, an event
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coordinator, a chauffeur, atherapist, a life coach, and a
CEO of a complex organization.
And you did it allsimultaneously while maintaining
relationships and keepingeveryone, not just alive, but
thriving.
But here's where most peopleget confused about purpose.
And this is crucial.
Purpose isn't just your roles.
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Purpose isn't even what you dofor work.
Real purpose, foundationalpurpose is much bigger than the
world usually talks about.
Most people think purpose isfinding that one thing you're
supposed to do for the rest ofyour life.
But that's not how purposeactually works.
Purpose grows, purpose changes.
Purpose evolves as you evolve.
The purpose you had in your 20swas different from your purpose
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in your 30s and 40s.
And the purpose that you'removing into now will be
different too.
You have a foundationalpurpose, the core of who you
are, the unique way you show upin the world, the specific gifts
and perspectives that only youbring, that never changes.
But how you express thatpurpose, that's what evolved.
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Let me ask you something.
When you look at your son, yourdaughter, what would you say
their purpose is?
When you were born, what do youthink your parents said about
your purpose?
Did they say her purpose is tobe a great parent and a superior
spouse?
What happens when your childrendo become those things?
Will that be their onlypurpose?
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Of course not.
So it makes sense that when youwere born, your parents looked
at you and saw purpose farbeyond just the role of mom and
wife.
Were you wrong in yourassessment of your children's
limitless potential?
Then why do you think that yourparents were wrong about yours?
Why do you think that yourpurpose is only tied to your
roles?
When you believe you only havevalue in these roles, here's
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what's happening.
You live what I call ahalf-life.
You go through the motions, butyou're not fully alive.
Your relationships becometransactional instead of
transformational.
Your marriage loses its sparkbecause you've forgotten how to
be anything other than amanager.
Your children see you as afunction instead of a
fascinating, complex human beingthat they want to learn from
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and spend time with.
But when you understand thatyou are not broken, you're
buried, when you realize thatall those skills and all that
growth and all that wisdom thatyou have gained can be applied
in new ways, everything changes.
Your purpose doesn't end whenyour active mothering changes,
it expands.
So if you're sitting therethinking, okay, Misty, this
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makes sense, but I genuinelydon't know who I am beyond these
roles anymore, here's exactlywhat to do to move from a
half-life to a whole life.
First, you need to recognizethat you're not losing your
identity.
You will always be mom.
However, you're gaining newexpressions of it.
Your role as mother hasspecific functions during that
intensive years as a protector,a teacher, a guide, a daily
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manager.
But if you did your job well,and I'm betting you did, your
role naturally evolves to amentor, a supporter, a friend, a
wisdom seeker.
This isn't loss.
This is success.
You were supposed to workyourself out of the daily
management job.
The goal was always to raiseindependent, capable human
beings who could fly on theirown.
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If they still needed you tomanage their lives at 18, 20,
22, that's actually a problem,not a success.
And I think that you havesucceeded.
So congratulate yourself.
You succeeded at one of thehardest jobs in the world.
Now it's time for the nextexpression of your purpose.
So, second, I want you tounderstand that you're not
starting over.
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You're not broken, you'reburied.
Some of those dreams from your20s might have been immature and
no longer serve who you havebecome, but others, they've been
waiting patiently for theirseason.
I want you to think back to whoyou were before you became
someone's everything.
What lit you up?
What conversations could youhave for hours?
What problems did you naturallywant to solve?
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What kind of impact did youdream about making?
Don't dismiss these as sillyyoung dreams.
Some of them were seeds plantedfor this exact season of your
life.
You now have the wisdom,skills, and perspective to
pursue them in ways that your25-year-old self would never
have been able to do.
I have always been fascinatedby self-improvement, being one's
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best self, and how to achievegoals and live that life of my
dream.
My bedroom floor was full ofbooks, articles, ideas, dreams
on this subject, posters ofhunky guys wasn't what I had
pinned to my walls.
This part of me has always beenthere and it has emerged fully
in this season.
But what I understood in myteenage years, my mid-20s, and
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now as grown evolved and becomea system of lived knowledge and
foundational wisdom.
The dream of being a famoussinger, well, I sing in the car
with my husband who loves myvoice.
I can let that dream go and beperfectly content.
The third thing I want you todo is take inventory of who
you've become actually.
You're not the same person youwere 20 years ago.
You're better.
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You've been in what I call fineaging for life, like a fine
wine.
You only get better with time.
Make a list of every skillyou've developed, every crisis
you've navigated, every projectyou've managed, every person
you've influenced, every problemyou've solved.
You will be shocked at what youdiscover.
Project management, you've beenrunning a complex organization
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for two decades.
Financial management, you'veoptimized budgets that would
make CFOs weak.
Human resources, oh mygoodness, you've mediated
conflicts, motivated teammembers, and developed talent.
And strategic planning?
Well, you've been forecastingneeds and managing resources
like a Fortune 500 executive.
You haven't been just a mom.
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You've been developing a skillset that's incredibly valuable
in the world.
Finally, and this is crucial,your worth isn't based on what
you do, it's based on who youare.
Here are the facts about yourvalue.
You have inherent worth simplyfor existing.
This is unchangeable as needingoxygen is to survive.
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Worth is often assessed byothers based on their values and
needs, but that doesn't changefact number one.
You get to decide how you seeyourself and treat yourself
accordingly.
No matter what anyone thinks orsays, fact number one remains
true.
When you understand this,really understand it, everything
changes.
You stop, you stop trying toearn worth through performance.
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You stop believing that yourvalue depends on how much others
need you.
You start making decisions fromabundance instead of scarcity.
Here's what I want you tounderstand: becoming your utmost
self is the most powerful wayto create the relationships you
actually want with your family.
When you design your life onpurpose instead of living on
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autopilot, everything shifts.
You stop modeling that womendisappear when they become
mothers and start demonstratingthat women expand and evolve.
You stop being the manager ofeveryone else's life and start
being the mentor, the wisdomkeeper, the women that turn to
not because they have to,because they want to learn from
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who you've become.
And here's what happens in yourmarriage: when you include
yourself in your own life, youdon't love your spouse less.
You love them differently,better.
Instead of being a businesspartner, running a household,
you become companions on ajourney.
Instead of managing each other,you start inspiring each other.
Your spouse didn't fall in lovewith a manager or a caretaker.
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They fell in love with afantastic, fascinating, complex,
passionate woman who had dreamsand opinions and interests.
When you rediscover that womanand integrate her with the
wisdom you've gained, you becomeirresistible again.
Not because you're trying tobe, because you are actually
full of life.
And y'all, your children, theydon't need a perfect mother who
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sacrificed everything for them.
That's actually a terribleburden to put on your child.
They need a whole mother whoshows them what it looks like to
live fully, to pursue growth,to adapt to life seasons with
grace and excitement.
When you become your utmostself, you give your children
permission to become theirs.
You show your daughters thatmotherhood enhances women.
It doesn't erase them.
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You show your son what afascinating, evolving woman
looks like so they can recognizeand appreciate that in their
future partner.
So here's the choice in frontof you.
Do you want to continuebelieving that wanting more
makes you ungrateful and riskspending the next 20 years of
your life and a half-life livingsmall, managing instead of
inspiring, watching yourrelationships become functional
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instead of transformational?
Or are you ready to understandthat you are not broken, you're
buried, that becoming yourunmost self isn't selfish.
It's the most generous giftthat you can give to everyone
you love.
Do you want to keep believingthat you're only valuable for
what you do for others and wakeup wondering who you are when
those roles shift?
Or are you ready to discoverthat your purpose is bigger,
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deeper, and more expansive thanyou've ever imagined?
Because here's what I know.
Somewhere inside of you,there's a woman who's been
waiting patiently for herseason.
She's not gone, she's notbroken, she's buried under years
of believing that she had tochoose between being a good
mother and being fully herself.
But that's always been thefalse choice.
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If you're ready to stop livinga half-life, if you're ready to
discover that you're not broken,if you're ready to design a
life on purpose instead ofliving on autopilot, then I want
you to join the priority noticelist for my brand new three-day
reclaiming who you are beyond amom and wife event.
This isn't about abandoningyour family.
It's about bringing the fullestversion of yourself to your
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family.
This isn't about becomingsomeone new.
It's about excavating the womanwho's been there all along,
integrating her with the wisdomthat you've gained, and stepping
into the most powerful seasonof your life.
Over these three days, we aregoing to excavate the dreams,
the purpose that's been buriedunder years of role-focused
living.
You're going to understand yourskills and experiences have
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actually prepared you for thisnext season.
You're going to design a visionfor your life that honors who
you've become while embracingwho you're becoming, creating a
plan for transitioning frommanager to mentor in your family
relationships, and build thefoundation for becoming your
utmost self in ways that enhancerather than complete with your
roles.
So click the link in the shownotes to join the priority
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notice list to be one of thefirst people notified when the
three-day reclaiming who you arebeyond mom and wife event
opens.
Because your family doesn'tneed a perfect mother.
They need the real you and allyour complex, evolving,
magnificent humanity.
You are more than everything toeveryone.
You are someone.
It's time to reconnect to thatamazing woman and step fully
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into the masterpiece that youhave always been.
You're managing over six hours of family logistics daily
and are spending less than anhour on your own interests.
You've planned everyone else'slife down to the minute, but
haven't thought about your ownnext chapter, who you'll be, who
you want to be.
You look in the mirror afteryour morning routine and think,
I don't recognize that womanmore days than not.
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Welcome to the fourth episodein this brand new series focused
on reclaiming who you arebeyond just being a mom and a
wife.
If you're feeling invisible,unseen, undervalued, and
disconnected, not just fromthose you love but from
yourself, if you're doingeverything for everyone, but
feel like no one truly sees you.
If you feel detached from thewoman you are beyond a mom and a
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wife, and perhaps like me,you've broken down into tears
while showering, then thisseries is made for you.
Do you ever catch a glimpse ofyourself in the mirror and
barely recognize the womanstaring back?
That woman who once dreamedbig, burned with passion, had a
purpose beyond meeting everyoneelse's needs, you wonder where
she went.
Hi, I'm Mr.
Celli, and this is your utmostlife, the podcast for moms who
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feel guilty for wanting more orcan't remember the last time
they truly felt like themselves.
If you were tired of feelinginvisible, overwhelmed, and
stretched too thin, then you'vecome to the right place.
Here we explore how to reclaimyour identity beyond mom and
wife.
The more times you need to comeguilt, and limit your life to
the utmost.
Here's the truth (01:24):
you are not just everything to everyone.
You are a unique, powerfulwoman with dreams that matter,
rules that count, and a voicethat deserves to be heard.
It's time to move fromsurviving to thriving without
guilt, overwhelm, or upheaval.
So stick around.
We're just getting started.
Hello and welcome to anotherepisode of Europe Most Life
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Podcast.
Today we're diving into episodefour of my new series called
The Six Major Mom Mistakes andHow to Fix Them.
These are the most commonmistakes I've seen moms make,
and honestly, mistakes that Imade for myself for years.
These are habits that leave usfeeling invisible, undervalued,
stressed out, worn down, anddisconnected, not just from
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those that we love, but fromourselves.
They cause us to move throughlife on autopilot and feel worn
out, used up, and quite frankly,longing for something more, but
not exactly sure what morereally means.
When talking to moms and otherwomen and really listening to
what they were saying, Irealized that there were several
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things that were stated that Icompletely understood because I
too had experienced them.
The struggles they were having,the feelings they couldn't
shake, and the responses theywere getting from their family,
they were all things that I toohad gone through.
I narrowed it down to these sixmistakes that kept reoccurring
again and again and really arethose that seem to be the most
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detrimental to the life thatwe're building, the family that
we love and the woman that welong to be.
Today we're diving into nopurpose beyond.
We're tackling the belief thatwe have no purpose beyond our
role as a mom and a wife, andthat the value that we have is
only found in ensuring ourfamily is well taken care of.
This is our top priority inlife.
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Now, before you turn me off,let me assure you, I too believe
that family is a huge priorityin our lives, as it should be.
However, it shouldn't beconsidered our only priority.
We can have a multitude ofpurposes and priorities and
still be an amazing mom andwife.
In fact, there is a better way,one that will make us a better
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mom and wife, allowing us tokeep the superwoman title that
we are so proud of having whileensuring we have deeper
connection to those we love,more confidence, more purpose,
more joy, more of who we long tobe, what we secretly desire but
feel guilty for wanting.
Here's what I know about you.
You love your family, you feelgrateful, and you just want to
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be your absolute best and givethem everything.
But perhaps you found yourselfsipping your morning coffee,
scrolling through Instagram, andyou see that woman talking
about her great new side hustleand how much fun she's having.
She looks great.
She's your age, but somehowlooks at least five years
younger than you.
You click her profile andcontinue to go down the rabbit
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hole of her recent vacation, herdaughter's acceptance into that
fabulous college program, andher awesome workout routine that
has helped her lose 10 pounds.
And this thought crosses yourmind.
She's clearly not grateful forwhat she has, otherwise she
wouldn't be trying so hard tofind the joy in her new hobbies
and clothes and weight loss.
She clearly doesn't findfulfillment in being a mother
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like I do.
That twitch in your stomachhits.
Probably just hunger, right?
It can't be the truth.
I wish I had what she does, andhow I wish I could pull off
that outfit, lose 10 pounds, andlook as good as she does.
Listen, I get it completely.
There is no judgment.
I was there, sitting on thecouch, scrolling through social
media and picking apart thosethat I thought were clearly not
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satisfied with their life,needing approval from others.
What a better mom and wife Iwas.
Look in my day focused on myentire family, and I'm putting
them above everything elsebecause I love them more, right?
I was the woman who looked atmothers wanting more and thought
that they were selfish orungrateful.
I was convinced that if youwere a good mom, a loving wife,
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that should be enough.
That seeking anything beyondthose roles meant that you were
broken somehow, unable to findjoy in the beautiful life you've
been blessed with.
I had perfected the art ofbeing everything to everyone.
My husband called me his rock.
My kids knew mom would handlewhatever crisis emerged, and I
was the family's CEO, managingeveryone else's schedules,
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emotions, and needs withprecision that would make any
Fortune 500 company jealous.
But here's what I realizedduring one of those quiet
moments when I wasn't judgingthose women, and I was
completely honest with myself.
I was terrified.
Terrified that wanting moremeant that I was selfish,
ungrateful, and failing at theroles that I had defined for
myself for decades.
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Terrified that the dreams I'dquietly buried meant I was
broken, ungrateful, or worse,that I'd somehow missed the memo
about what fulfillment wassupposed to look like.
Because here's the thing thatnobody talks about.
When your primary job for morethan 16 years starts to shift,
when your kids need you less,when your marriages become more
about function than connection,you start to wonder who am I
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when I'm not actively mothering?
What's my purpose when everyonecan basically take care of
themselves?
And if you've ever felt thathollow ache when you see another
woman pursuing her dreams, ifyou've ever wondered if there's
more to you than these rolesyou've poured yourself into.
If you've ever looked in themirror and thought, I don't
recognize that woman.
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You're not alone.
And more importantly, you'renot broken.
You're just buried.
Today I might completely flipeverything you've been told
about what it means to be afulfilled woman and an
exceptional mother.
The belief that women who wantto rediscover themselves are
unhappy with motherhood isn'tjust wrong.
It's a lie.
A lie that keeps exceptionalmothers living what I call half
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lives.
And here's what I mean by that.
When you believe that wantingmore means that you're
ungrateful, you rob yourself ofthe full, vibrant life that
would actually make you a bettermother, not a worse one.
And I completely understand whythis belief feels true.
We've been conditioned to thinkthat good mothers find complete
fulfillment in their family'ssuccess.
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We're told that if we wantpersonal growth, creative
expression, or professionalachievement, we're somehow
failing at the most importantjob that we will ever have.
Taking time to pursue any ofthose things feels selfish.
There's so much for us to do.
So many things our familyneeds.
I believed this so deeply thateven when I finally passed the
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real estate license exam, afterliterally wanting that for my
entire adult life, but pausingon it when I became pregnant, I
felt a wave of guilt anduncertainty.
Had I done the wrong thing?
Would my family suffer?
Would they feel as though theyweren't enough?
But what I realized during thattime of studying was
remarkable.
My family experienced my joy,my passion.
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They supported me fully, andthey were proud of me.
My conversations with them werefull of new things, excitement,
not just logistics andreminders of what they needed to
do.
They included my dreams, mypassions, my desires.
My joy was infectious and theyloved it.
They loved who I was becoming.
The voice that I was hearingthat they would not feel as
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loved, that was a lie.
The message is everywhere.
Social media posts aboutgrateful mothers who never
wanted anything beyond theirfamilies, articles about
helicopter parents who are sofocused on their children that
they lost themselves.
But then criticism of motherswho pursue their own interests.
We just can't win.
But here's what the researchactually is telling us.
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Ohio State University conducteda comprehensive study and found
that a 10% increase in maternallife satisfaction increases
children's social andself-regulation skills by the
equivalent of $50,000 annualhousehold income increase.
But let me say that again.
Happier mothers literallycreate more successful children.
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There was a women's well-beingsurvey in 2025 of 3,000 women.
And what they found was thatmarried mothers who pursue
personal growth and identitydevelopment are twice as likely
to report being very happycompared to those who don't.
But here's where it gets reallyinteresting.
Let me ask you something.
Do you see Sarah Blakely, whobuilt Spandex into a
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billion-dollar company whileraising four children?
Is she a bad mom?
Do you see Julia Hartz, whoco-founded Eventbrite and
credits her marriage's successto both partners supporting each
other's dreams?
Is she neglecting her family?
What about the research showingthat children of mothers who
model pursuing dreams andpersonal growth are more likely
to take healthy risks, pursuetheir own goals with confidence,
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and have better emotionalregulation?
Are we really saying thesemothers are doing it wrong?
Here's the truth that really istalked about.
The mothers who only focus ontheir children, who make their
entire identity about theirroles, are actually doing their
families a disservice.
They're teaching theirdaughters that women disappear
when they become mothers.
They're showing their sons thatwomen exist only to serve
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others.
They're modeling for everyonethat personal growth stops when
you have a family.
And here's the really hardtruth.
They're usually the mothers whoadult children feel smothered,
whose marriages lack intimacyand excitement, and who become
bitter when their kids buildindependent lives.
They're living half-lives.
Because when you believe thatwanting more makes you a bad
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mother, here's what actuallyhappens.
Your children learn that lovemeans sacrifice instead of
abundance.
Your marriage becomes aboutduty instead of partnership.
You wake up at 50 with grownchildren who see you as a
function, not a person.
And you have a spouse who'sforgotten why they fell in love
with you in the first place.
When you live what I call ahalf-life, going through all the
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motions of full existence, butnever actually experiencing the
vibrancy, the growth, and thejoy that you were created for,
that's heartbreaking.
So what do the thriving mothersdo differently?
They understand something mostpeople miss entirely.
Becoming your utmost self isn'tselfish.
It's the most generous thingyou can do for your family and
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for truthfully yourself and theworld.
Because here's what Idiscovered: you're not broken.
You're buried.
The women who dream big, whohad passions and interests and
goals, she didn't disappear whenyou became a mother.
She's been waiting patientlyfor her season to emerge again.
Let me share something with youthat I rarely talk about.
Several years ago, I was theposter child for the Grateful
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Mother.
My kids were shifting intoindependence.
My marriage was functional.
We managed the household likebusiness partners.
I was proud of how well I'ddone my job as a mother.
Both kids were thriving, makinggood choices, pursuing their
goals with confidence.
My husband was moving up thecorporate ladder.
But what I was doing is I wasdying inside.
I would lie awake at nightcrying, praying that my husband
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wouldn't wake up.
I would lie there thinking, nowwhat?
I'd spent half my life takingcare of everyone, being
indispensable, and suddenlyeveryone could basically take
care of themselves.
I found myself creatingproblems to solve just so I
could feel needed.
I was managing my 19-year-old'scollege schedule like she was
still in elementary school.
And the worst part, when I wasreally honest with myself, I was
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resentful of the hard work Iput in.
I felt like I was unseen by thevery people that I loved most.
Not because they were doinganything wrong, but because I
had made them my entire purpose.
And now that purpose that I hadwasn't just evolving, it was
dying.
I hadn't failed at motherhood.
I had succeeded so well that mychildren didn't need me the
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same way anymore.
But instead of celebrating thatsuccess and transitioning into
the next season of my life, Iwas trying to hold on to a role
that was naturally shifting.
The real wake-up call came whenmy daughter said to me, Mom, I
love you, but I've got this.
You've done a great job.
She wasn't being mean, she wasbeing honest.
I so desperately wanted her tostill need me the same way she
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had her entire life.
But if I had done a great job,wasn't it now my job to let her
fly?
To be there when she felt sheneeded me, not because I needed
her to let me be needed.
both can't exist together.
Either I had been a great momand had guided, loved, taught,
and given her a solid foundationto function as the beautiful
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adult I tried to raise her tobe, or I had failed and still
needed to be her parent,teaching, training, guiding, and
keeping her between the lines.
I designed for her life to livein a path as to becoming a
thriving adult.
Did I succeed or didn't I?
If the answer is no, I wasn'tsuccessful, would I have any
right to continue in that role?
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If an employee of a companywasn't successful after 18 plus
years, would they still be inthat role at the company?
Heck no.
They would have been let go along time ago.
Was I good at my role, myposition as her parent?
I believed I was.
She told me I had been.
The proof was in her choices,her life she was carving out,
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and her coming to me when sheneeded wisdom, but also in her
taking charge when she wasready.
She was becoming an amazingwoman and a fabulous human
being.
That's what led me here talkingto you today.
She covered that you're notbroken, you're buried under
years of believing that yourworth comes from your function
rather than your inherent valueas a human being.
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The second belief that'skeeping you living a half-life,
and it's connected to the first,is this idea that outside of
your roles as a mother and awife, you have no purpose or
value.
This isn't just false.
It's insulting to theincredible woman you've become
and the masterpiece that youwere created to be from the very
beginning.
I get why you think this.
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For almost 20 years, you'vebeen laser focused on these
roles.
You've become an expert.
And research shows that after10,000 hours, you become a true
expert at anything.
You are an expert at mothering,at managing a household, at
keeping everyone's worldspinning smoothly.
But somewhere along the way,you started to believe that
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those functions defined yourentire work, that your value was
tied to how needed you were,how well you managed everyone
else's life, and how successfulyou kept it all the plates
spinning.
But here's what nobody'stelling you.
When you make your entireidentity about what you do for
others, you set yourself up foran identity crisis the moment
that those needs change.
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And they will change.
Your children will grow, yourspouse will develop
independence.
The natural cycle of lifehappens.
But here's what I need you tounderstand.
And this might sound harsh, butplease stick with me.
A barn is built to houseanimals, equipment, and hay.
That's its function.
But when a barn is no longerneeded for those original
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functions, what happens?
It becomes highly sought after.
Those weathered beams becomethe centerpiece of someone's
dream home.
That old structure becomes morevaluable than it ever because.
People recognize the beauty,the character, and the strength
that was built over time.
Are you really telling me thatyou are less adaptable, less
valuable than a barn?
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Let's look at manure.
It serves one primary function,waste.
But what does it become whenits original purpose is
complete?
The fertilizer that creates themost gorgeous gardens, the
foundation for new growth andbeauty and coal?
It starts as ordinary rock, butunder pressure and time, what
does it become?
It becomes diamonds, literallythe most treasured substance on
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earth.
Are you seriously going to tellme that you are less
transformative than manure andcoal?
I sure as heck hope not.
Here's what's actuallyhappening during your 20 years
of intensive mothering.
You didn't lose skills, yougained them.
You didn't become less, youbecame more.
You developed projectmanagement skills that would
make any corporate executivejealous.
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You learned crisis management,conflict resolution, budget
management, time optimization,emotional intelligence,
strategic planning, andleadership skills that most
people pay thousands of dollarsto learn in an MBA program.
You became a cook, ahousekeeper, a bookkeeper, a
secretary, a nurse, a teacher, acounselor, an event
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coordinator, a chauffeur, atherapist, a life coach, and a
CEO of a complex organization.
And you did it allsimultaneously while maintaining
relationships and keepingeveryone, not just alive, but
thriving.
But here's where most peopleget confused about purpose.
And this is crucial.
Purpose isn't just your roles.
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Purpose isn't even what you dofor work.
Real purpose, foundationalpurpose is much bigger than the
world usually talks about.
Most people think purpose isfinding that one thing you're
supposed to do for the rest ofyour life.
But that's not how purposeactually works.
Purpose grows, purpose changes.
Purpose evolves as you evolve.
The purpose you had in your 20swas different from your purpose
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in your 30s and 40s.
And the purpose that you'removing into now will be
different too.
You have a foundationalpurpose, the core of who you
are, the unique way you show upin the world, the specific gifts
and perspectives that only youbring, that never changes.
But how you express thatpurpose, that's what evolved.
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Let me ask you something.
When you look at your son, yourdaughter, what would you say
their purpose is?
When you were born, what do youthink your parents said about
your purpose?
Did they say her purpose is tobe a great parent and a superior
spouse?
What happens when your childrendo become those things?
Will that be their onlypurpose?
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Of course not.
So it makes sense that when youwere born, your parents looked
at you and saw purpose farbeyond just the role of mom and
wife.
Were you wrong in yourassessment of your children's
limitless potential?
Then why do you think that yourparents were wrong about yours?
Why do you think that yourpurpose is only tied to your
roles?
When you believe you only havevalue in these roles, here's
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what's happening.
You live what I call ahalf-life.
You go through the motions, butyou're not fully alive.
Your relationships becometransactional instead of
transformational.
Your marriage loses its sparkbecause you've forgotten how to
be anything other than amanager.
Your children see you as afunction instead of a
fascinating, complex human beingthat they want to learn from
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and spend time with.
But when you understand thatyou are not broken, you're
buried, when you realize thatall those skills and all that
growth and all that wisdom thatyou have gained can be applied
in new ways, everything changes.
Your purpose doesn't end whenyour active mothering changes,
it expands.
So if you're sitting therethinking, okay, Misty, this
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makes sense, but I genuinelydon't know who I am beyond these
roles anymore, here's exactlywhat to do to move from a
half-life to a whole life.
First, you need to recognizethat you're not losing your
identity.
You will always be mom.
However, you're gaining newexpressions of it.
Your role as mother hasspecific functions during that
intensive years as a protector,a teacher, a guide, a daily
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manager.
But if you did your job well,and I'm betting you did, your
role naturally evolves to amentor, a supporter, a friend, a
wisdom seeker.
This isn't loss.
This is success.
You were supposed to workyourself out of the daily
management job.
The goal was always to raiseindependent, capable human
beings who could fly on theirown.
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If they still needed you tomanage their lives at 18, 20,
22, that's actually a problem,not a success.
And I think that you havesucceeded.
So congratulate yourself.
You succeeded at one of thehardest jobs in the world.
Now it's time for the nextexpression of your purpose.
So, second, I want you tounderstand that you're not
starting over.
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You're not broken, you'reburied.
Some of those dreams from your20s might have been immature and
no longer serve who you havebecome, but others, they've been
waiting patiently for theirseason.
I want you to think back to whoyou were before you became
someone's everything.
What lit you up?
What conversations could youhave for hours?
What problems did you naturallywant to solve?
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What kind of impact did youdream about making?
Don't dismiss these as sillyyoung dreams.
Some of them were seeds plantedfor this exact season of your
life.
You now have the wisdom,skills, and perspective to
pursue them in ways that your25-year-old self would never
have been able to do.
I have always been fascinatedby self-improvement, being one's
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best self, and how to achievegoals and live that life of my
dream.
My bedroom floor was full ofbooks, articles, ideas, dreams
on this subject, posters ofhunky guys wasn't what I had
pinned to my walls.
This part of me has always beenthere and it has emerged fully
in this season.
But what I understood in myteenage years, my mid-20s, and
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now as grown evolved and becomea system of lived knowledge and
foundational wisdom.
The dream of being a famoussinger, well, I sing in the car
with my husband who loves myvoice.
I can let that dream go and beperfectly content.
The third thing I want you todo is take inventory of who
you've become actually.
You're not the same person youwere 20 years ago.
You're better.
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You've been in what I call fineaging for life, like a fine
wine.
You only get better with time.
Make a list of every skillyou've developed, every crisis
you've navigated, every projectyou've managed, every person
you've influenced, every problemyou've solved.
You will be shocked at what youdiscover.
Project management, you've beenrunning a complex organization
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for two decades.
Financial management, you'veoptimized budgets that would
make CFOs weak.
Human resources, oh mygoodness, you've mediated
conflicts, motivated teammembers, and developed talent.
And strategic planning?
Well, you've been forecastingneeds and managing resources
like a Fortune 500 executive.
You haven't been just a mom.
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You've been developing a skillset that's incredibly valuable
in the world.
Finally, and this is crucial,your worth isn't based on what
you do, it's based on who youare.
Here are the facts about yourvalue.
You have inherent worth simplyfor existing.
This is unchangeable as needingoxygen is to survive.
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Worth is often assessed byothers based on their values and
needs, but that doesn't changefact number one.
You get to decide how you seeyourself and treat yourself
accordingly.
No matter what anyone thinks orsays, fact number one remains
true.
When you understand this,really understand it, everything
changes.
You stop, you stop trying toearn worth through performance.
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You stop believing that yourvalue depends on how much others
need you.
You start making decisions fromabundance instead of scarcity.
Here's what I want you tounderstand: becoming your utmost
self is the most powerful wayto create the relationships you
actually want with your family.
When you design your life onpurpose instead of living on
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autopilot, everything shifts.
You stop modeling that womendisappear when they become
mothers and start demonstratingthat women expand and evolve.
You stop being the manager ofeveryone else's life and start
being the mentor, the wisdomkeeper, the women that turn to
not because they have to,because they want to learn from
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who you've become.
And here's what happens in yourmarriage: when you include
yourself in your own life, youdon't love your spouse less.
You love them differently,better.
Instead of being a businesspartner, running a household,
you become companions on ajourney.
Instead of managing each other,you start inspiring each other.
Your spouse didn't fall in lovewith a manager or a caretaker.
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They fell in love with afantastic, fascinating, complex,
passionate woman who had dreamsand opinions and interests.
When you rediscover that womanand integrate her with the
wisdom you've gained, you becomeirresistible again.
Not because you're trying tobe, because you are actually
full of life.
And y'all, your children, theydon't need a perfect mother who
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sacrificed everything for them.
That's actually a terribleburden to put on your child.
They need a whole mother whoshows them what it looks like to
live fully, to pursue growth,to adapt to life seasons with
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When you become your utmostself, you give your children
permission to become theirs.
You show your daughters thatmotherhood enhances women.
It doesn't erase them.
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You show your son what afascinating, evolving woman
looks like so they can recognizeand appreciate that in their
future partner.
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Do you want to continuebelieving that wanting more
makes you ungrateful and riskspending the next 20 years of
your life and a half-life livingsmall, managing instead of
inspiring, watching yourrelationships become functional
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instead of transformational?
Or are you ready to understandthat you are not broken, you're
buried, that becoming yourunmost self isn't selfish.
It's the most generous giftthat you can give to everyone
you love.
Do you want to keep believingthat you're only valuable for
what you do for others and wakeup wondering who you are when
those roles shift?
Or are you ready to discoverthat your purpose is bigger,
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deeper, and more expansive thanyou've ever imagined?
Because here's what I know.
Somewhere inside of you,there's a woman who's been
waiting patiently for herseason.
She's not gone, she's notbroken, she's buried under years
of believing that she had tochoose between being a good
mother and being fully herself.
But that's always been thefalse choice.
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If you're ready to stop livinga half-life, if you're ready to
discover that you're not broken,if you're ready to design a
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This isn't about abandoningyour family.
It's about bringing the fullestversion of yourself to your
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It's about excavating the womanwho's been there all along,
integrating her with the wisdomthat you've gained, and stepping
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Over these three days, we aregoing to excavate the dreams,
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You're going to understand yourskills and experiences have
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You're going to design a visionfor your life that honors who
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