Feeling like you’re “not healed enough” from your toxic family patterns? You’re not broken—and you’re not alone. In this powerful episode of You’re Not Crazy, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell dismantles the harmful myth of perfect healing that keeps so many cycle breakers stuck in shame and self-judgment.
You’ll learn why healing from narcissistic, borderline, or emotionally immature parents is messy, non-linear, and never a one-and-done checklist—and how chasing “completely healed” can actually block your growth. Torie shares what real progress looks like: building capacity, creating space between yourself and your triggers, and trusting that you can handle whatever arises.
This episode is your reminder that two steps forward, one step back isn’t failure—it’s the actual path to freedom. You’ll walk away knowing how to measure growth more realistically, and why anyone claiming to have zero struggles is misrepresenting the human experience.
Plus, Torie announces exciting news: The Confident Boundaries Membership is now just $39/month—with two weekly group coaching sessions, monthly workshops on topics like gaslighting and guilt-tripping, and a private community of cycle breakers who get it. You can even try it for free for 24 hours.
If you’re ready to stop judging your healing and start building the skills and support you need to thrive, join us at confidentboundaries.com/membership.
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