November 13, 2024 • 36 mins
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Alright, today I have a returning guest.
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Six months ago I had mom said duck, Jill Moysiuk on and I'm so happy that she's back
again.
Hey, how's it going?
Hey Tracy, how are you?
Oh, I'm great.
I mean, since we've done the last podcast, she was live on stage at Kordazone Theatre
and that was so stinking funny.
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Oh my God.
I'm so glad that you liked it.
I was going back because on your Instagram feed you have a lot of your poems.
I like the one.
What is it?
Every time you say bitch or shit.
Oh yeah, take a shot every time I say snack bitch.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh my God, I love that.
Cheers to that.
Cheers to that.
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Hey.
So what's new and exciting?
Yeah, so I have another show coming up.
And again, I actually booked the next show at Korda the very day after I had my show
in May, just because I was on such a high and I'm like, I don't want to talk myself
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out of doing this again.
So I'm just going to book it right now.
So I sent an email and got that book right away.
Yeah.
In case this is the first time that you are watching this podcast or listening, my name
is Tracy Martens and this is YQG and Bloom podcast.
We are everything local to the Windsor Essex County area, small businesses, comedians,
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wonderful people, events, charities, you name it.
I have it on my podcast.
So make sure that you like and subscribe to it so that it can stay free for all the businesses.
Now getting back to your event that's coming up November 29th, that's sold out really
fast.
It did.
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It's sold out pretty quick.
And I was like really excited and grateful again and all that good stuff.
So I actually capped my ticket sales for my other one, my first one kind of at a smaller
group just because I wanted to, it's my first time and whatever.
And then so once I had that feeling, I was like, okay, I think I can do this again.
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So I increased the ticket sales in terms of capacity.
And so yeah, I sold out that one too.
So I'm really excited.
That's awesome.
Thank you.
So you must write a lot.
I have a lot of poems.
Yeah.
And so I think it's just a testament to like having done this for so many years, I've been
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kind of putting in the work for a long time now.
So it's sort of like it feels, I was thinking about it today.
It feels like things are finally coming to fruition, I guess.
Like in terms of, you know, I didn't really know what I wanted to do.
I didn't know how to monetize Mum's at Duck or anything like that.
And so a lot of good things have sort of aligned for me in the last year or so, I'd say.
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And it's kind of on the trajectory that I like to see.
So it's all good.
So have you started to monetize yet?
Well, just like through ticket sales.
Through the ticket sales.
Yeah.
And stuff like that.
I have something up my sleeve for this upcoming show that I'll be announcing soon.
And so yeah, just different things, just kind of trying to feel my way through the whole
entrepreneurial journey.
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What's the scary part is, like when's the appropriate time to have merch and, you know, what should
I have?
What will people like, but just save me one of whatever it is and I'll get it.
All right.
Sounds good to me.
I almost waited on those ticket sales.
I'm like, I'm going to wait and see if I win that.
You're the contest you had.
And I'm like, no, I know, Damol, I'm not.
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I didn't.
So I'm glad.
Yeah, there you go.
I'm glad.
And then I'm thinking to myself, okay, well, I just got one ticket.
I'll sit with Carrie again and she can't make it.
Oh, that's too bad.
I'm like, well, of course.
Yeah, yeah.
She was so bummed out and Carrie is a girl that I know through my aunt and you went to
high school with her and we just go great school.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
And she was in the audience the last time I went by myself and I sat with her and it's
just funny.
Windsor's such a small town.
Exactly.
Yeah, they say in New York City, it's four degrees of separation.
I think Windsor's like one.
Oh, yeah.
You know, yeah.
It doesn't take long.
That's the one thing I always told my son when he was growing up, it's like, this is
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not the town to try and pull too much because everybody knows somebody and it's going to
get back.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
And it does because you just look on Facebook and it's surprising.
It's like, how do they know that person?
Mutual friends and stuff like that totally.
Yeah.
Yeah, for sure.
So, mom said duck, the poetry and your poems and all that, how long have you been doing
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that?
Because it hasn't been too, too long.
It's been a minute.
I always think about mom said duck as like a baby.
So like, I'm like four and a half years old.
Like mom said duck is four and a half years old.
So, yeah, so it's like, you know, I'm not a toddler anymore.
I'm like, you know, kind of graduated kindergarten and moving into grade one, you know, type thing.
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That's how I kind of look at it.
And that's very much how mom said duck feels where it's like just starting to emerge into
my own little pretty, you know, like that kind of thing.
So yeah, so yeah, four and a half years.
It's been that I've been plugging away at it.
So maybe actually probably five because I was doing stuff behind the scenes before I ever
really launched.
So probably six months or longer.
So yeah, probably five years.
So it's been a minute for sure.
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And just for people that might not have seen the podcast from six months ago, which you
should watch, by the way.
She used to be an HR.
So you can't get a more boring job to end up being basically, you know, you say you're
a poetry, but you're a comedian.
Yes.
Because they're funny as hell.
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Aw, thanks.
That's awesome.
Thank you.
You know, more and more people have been calling me that and it's like, I'm just like sitting
with it and like being like, okay, maybe I'm a comedian.
I don't know.
Yeah.
You are.
This is just your way of doing it.
Yeah.
And it may even evolve from that.
I mean, this evolved from what your mom thrown that book at.
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Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Now, when did you write that book?
It wasn't even a book.
It was just her writings.
Yeah.
No.
So when I, so yeah, how Mom said duck came to be came to be was after I had lost my job
and I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do next.
My and I was kind of in this like, you know, a bit of a grieving period type thing.
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And my mom came over and tossed a book at me that I had written when I was 10 years old
and it's called What's Good for a 10 year old.
And I was just amazed because I, it was like, I, I didn't just write the book.
I created the book in terms of like the actual hard material and all that stuff, the pages
inside and I drew all, all the pictures and I colored them all and all that stuff.
And it was just really interesting for me to read this book that I had written, which
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was a rhyming book as a 10 year old because it was a really good book, I thought.
And I was 10 when I wrote it, which just blew me away because I had always said about myself
that I'm not a creative person.
I always said that I don't have a creative bone in my body.
And so this, this book that I wrote myself when I was a little kid, sort of like proved
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me wrong, which was like such an interesting like thing to sort of realize about myself.
And then so, yeah, the next morning I woke up, my little guy was a toddler, woke up,
came in bed between my husband and I and I was massaging his little toes back to sleep
and thought, oh, I wonder if I can make a little poem about his body after reading that book
the day before, like I couldn't stop reading that book.
And then so sure enough, I wrote this little poem about his body and then thought to myself,
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oh, like that was pretty good.
I should write it down.
So I wrote it down when my husband woke up, I read it to him and he thought it was good
too.
And that's kind of how it all started.
I just kept writing more and more poems from there.
And it's all about being a mom and a spouse because there's something about, you know,
how dads are there and helping.
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Yeah, I definitely spoke some fun at the dads for sure, for sure, but it's all in good
fun.
Yeah, I mean, your family was all there that night and they were all laughing too.
I, well, I don't know about all.
I actually said before the show, I was like nervous because my kids were there was my
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first show and I knew I probably would love it and want to do it again.
So I wanted them to be there for the first one instead of just seeing it on tape.
And so I said to a lot of people, I, as much as I want to have Violet and Edison there,
I'm scared something's going to be said that they're going to be like mad at me about
or like, you know, legit need to go to therapy for kind of things.
Who knows, you're just kind of off the cuff, right?
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And then so I read two poems before intermission.
There was an intermission in the show.
It's two hours long.
So it's, it's quite lengthy.
In the first set I did, I read a poem where I said something about my, about, about my
son's penis, essentially.
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And I said, one day my youngest asked me, but why does my penis have an eye?
And then I read the poem, snack bitch soon after that.
And then so when I got backstage, I went P and I came out and I was ready to go back
on the stage a couple of minutes later, but my kids were there and I'm like, oh, hey guys,
how's it going?
Like, are you having fun?
You know, kind of thing.
And they were standing there like, like this, both of them.
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And so I'm like, what?
So my daughter said, Eddie's mad at you because you said that he said that his penis has an
eye and he never said that.
He said he never said that.
And I said, he didn't.
I said, it just rhymed.
And then she said, and I don't know why you had to say the B word so many times.
And I said, I know, she's just so sweet though.
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And innocent.
And that's just her.
And she's at age for sure.
Right.
So it's embarrassing.
Mom's saying stuff like that.
Right.
So I was like, I'm like, you guys are totally right.
Like I got to go though.
So we'll put a pin in this and we'll come back to it later.
So yeah, but they they ended up actually getting a toys rest out of it because my cousin and
her wife decided that it would be a good idea to, you know, tell them to to make sure that
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I brought them to toys rest for those two to mishaps there.
So they got toys rest out of it.
So I think I think violet.
Violet, right?
Violet, yeah.
I think she enjoyed it because I remember seeing her during intermission with your mom
and we were grabbing the snacks and that and that's when I told her, I'm like, you know,
I said, you can always get your mom back and do some poems and we can call it daughter said
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duck.
And she looked and she's like, hmm.
And your mom's like laughing.
I'm like, yeah, there's always ways that you can pay back.
I always say like if the world comes around to get and bite me in the butt, it's going
to be something like that.
My husband does dad said duck or my kids do.
Yeah, daughter said duck or kids say.
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Do you do you see any of the writing or, you know, the artistic side coming out?
Neither of them.
So violet is super artistic.
It's like her, her like, you know, with this whole, you know, kind of finding out finding
myself through this stuff that sort of brought me back to my 10 year old self.
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It sort of has shown me that like, it's kind of put a lens on like, you know, I think that
maybe instead of like searching for who we are, it's kind of going back to who you were,
you know, type thing.
And so if that's true, not just for me and then it would be true for my kids, then I
think that she'll always be an artist in some way in her life.
So I think that's, that's a really, you know, she inspires me really.
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Edison's obviously, he's not old enough to understand what happened, but I think she,
violet was on the cusp of understanding that you went through this huge change and you
came out and you're successful and you're enjoying it and you're having fun and it's
nice to see, to have them see that maybe, you know what, sometimes if some shitty stuff
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happens, better stuff can happen because of it.
So I hope so.
I hope that's, you know, that's the part of the reason I wanted them there that night
was to kind of see that through, you know, where it's like they actually have a full
on example of like seeing something like that.
So yeah, so that was a, it was a big moment for me to have them there, even though I will
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likely, you know, have to pay for their therapy one day.
That's why you need merch.
Yeah, that's why I need merch.
That's right.
I should use it as a sign.
Yes.
Help, help.
Therapy.
I like that.
Cheers to that.
That one's a good one.
Oh man.
So are they going to be at this one?
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They're not going to be at this one.
They said enough.
No, yeah, no, they've like kind of brought it up and I'm like, yeah, it's cool guys.
Like, you know, like really I don't, I don't want to be like, yeah, mom said duck and you
know, I like the odd, you know, whatever swear word comes out.
Maybe it's more than, more than odd, but I want to be able to kind of like let loose
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and feel whatever.
Right.
So it'll be, I'm kind of like looking forward a little bit to like not having to, to be
so.
Yeah, a little bit.
Like I was a little bit that night.
I didn't say.
It was also, there was also nerves.
Oh, I mean, so this one, you know what you're getting into.
Yeah.
Yeah.
No, that's true.
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Yeah.
Yeah, absolutely.
I like that.
I can't wait.
I'm so excited.
Thanks.
So in six months, how many poems do you think you've written?
So I mean, I, so I send out a poem every Friday to my Fresh Pwn Friday newsletter subscribers
and which is awesome because it holds me accountable, but over the course of four and a half years,
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it's, it has become sort of unattainable for me to write a new poem every single week,
which I signed up for at the beginning.
So I understand.
So I try to kind of hold that promise, but sometimes what I do is send out a frozen poem.
I call it, it's not so fresh, but, but it gives me and it gives me an opportunity to
take an old poem, recycle it, but tweak it and edit it and make it better and make it
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tighter, which I really like because I don't know if I would be going back to do that as
often as I, as I might, you know, doing it this way kind of thing.
So it's nice because I think long term it will, that will help me out in terms of, you
know, one day I do want to put all the poems into a book and so they'll be more ready.
They'll be tighter at that point.
So you are going to, because the last time when I had brought up you doing a book, you
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were like, no, no, no, no.
It's, you know, it's, that is still the answer because I'm just not ready yet.
Like I'm not done writing poems.
For sure.
But, but you don't have to be done.
This could be the first chapter.
Yeah.
And then you can always.
But it's taken me this long to write a hundred of them.
So like, yes and no, like I can't imagine I'm going to write a hundred and then like over
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the course of the next 10 years, write another hundred.
It's a lot like, because my poems are so sort of generic, like they're like school lunches,
doing dishes, you know, summer vacation, like that kind of thing.
I dig into the weeds about other things too.
But yeah, we'll see who knows what the future holds.
But how I kind of see it is maybe when I get to like, like I'm just shy of a hundred.
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So maybe when I get to a hundred, that's when I'll.
It could be one of those small books.
Yeah.
Something like that.
Yeah.
My original goal back, back when I first started was that I was going to write 365 so that
I could have a book for moms at like, you know, their baby shower and stuff like that,
where it's like, you know, basically like you're good, you know, read this poem one
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a day and like, you know, kind of feel normal again, like everything's cool.
Like it is crazy.
Everything you're doing, going through is crazy.
But you know, we all go through it kind of thing.
So how many poems have you wrote so far?
So I'm like, just shy of a hundred.
Just shy of a hundred?
Yeah.
So each one is, each one is about, about two to three minutes long.
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So they're quite long.
And so at that show that you came to see, I only read one third of them.
So I have like a lot of stuff left.
So that's the other thing too.
I want to kind of get them all out there.
Yeah.
Because I was just thinking when you said 365 was your goal and it's like, that would
be perfect.
Merches have a, have a one a day calendar.
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Yeah.
Something like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, and then actually the book would be titled, Mom of the Year.
And then my Mom of the Year poem would either be at the very beginning or the very end,
something like that.
So yeah.
Thankfully our Mom of the Year.
Yeah.
I mean, you, you heard the poem.
You are very sarcastic.
I'm sorry.
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After what you went through today by her son had an issue and an issue.
He vomited all over a 70 year old carpet.
Were you able to get it out?
Yeah.
I mean, I got it out.
And I don't smell any residual smells or anything.
So that's good.
So yeah, I think we're, I think we're, we're all good.
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You just have to fix the slipper.
Yeah.
I'm going to have to, I mean, it's like, I guess an excuse to buy me.
I just love when they're like so perfect, you know, like there's something about that
like coziness of like having your slippers in the winter and you got your feet.
But I don't want to look at like the avocado stain on it now.
Little shit.
You had to see my stories today.
I didn't know what to talk about.
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You have to follow her Instagram and that's at mom said duck and they're funny.
Your stories are funny.
Thanks, Tracy.
Your poems are funny.
And I mean, you're a funny person.
I don't know how in the hell you ever did HR.
Yeah.
Well, you had to have a sense of humor to do the type of HR I was doing because it was
more so it was HR and labor relations, but it was for the automotive industry.
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So it was manufacturing.
So I mean, it was like a just in time.
I wasn't necessarily like a corporate HR labor relations person.
I was like a manufacturing elbow grease kind of on the front lines more.
So you're able to be a little bit.
Yeah, I had to be.
Yeah.
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Yeah, for sure.
A little of this underneath the table.
Well, just like, yeah, like I said, you had to have kind of a, I think that I think I
was good at my job and I think the reason I was good at my job is partly because I kind
of could, you know, just have fun in the, not have fun, but like make light or whatever
of, you know, things that kind of came up or whatever, just kind of roll with the punches
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of manufacturing.
So you don't happen to remember any pieces of a poem that you could tell us.
Yeah.
Like I know a couple off by heart, if that's what you mean.
Yeah.
I would love to hear one to kind of give the people that haven't followed you yet a little
snippet of the type of poems that you have that are so funny.
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Yeah.
Well, I don't know when this show is going to be like produced in terms of like a day
date that it would be aired, but I was going to.
Well, it is November 5th.
I'm going to stop here right there.
November 5th and yes, it's election day.
Part of the reason we're drinking.
It would be in probably two weeks.
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So it would be before your show.
So I was going to say I could debut my new one here, but we'll save that for the big
night.
But yeah, I can give you two OGs that I don't know off the top of my head.
Do you want the sweet one first or the funny one first?
Let's go sweet.
Sweet?
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Yeah.
Okay.
So my sweet one is called Momgilt.
It is real as real as the struggle.
It's as real as you feel when you're kidding you snuggle.
Have I told her I loved her any more times than him?
Should I read books after bath or finally go to the gym?
Oh my God, there is a mess in each room.
I seem to pass.
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Do I do the damn dishes or sit down and help with her math?
Did they get outside enough and eat more veggies than sweet treats?
Was that cucumber organic?
We've been more conscious about meat.
Mama, will you play with me is something that I often hear, but it's far in between
if I dare look into a mirror.
In fact, sometimes I scream and shout and likely look like a buffoon.
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Perhaps I'll learn to meditate or maybe buy them that balloon.
It can creep up out of the blue and you do not expect it there.
Momgilt can overcome you and it really isn't fair.
So if you're anything like me and these thoughts also intervene, just focus, smile and laugh
and promptly fix your crown.
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My queen.
Love that.
Thank you.
And it's true.
Momgilt if you're a fur mom or a regular mom, that's true.
And I mean, I have 30 year old kids, 28 year old.
And yeah, you have that guilt that am I there enough?
Am I giving them enough space or too much space?
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Yeah, all that was nice.
Thank you.
And I have my husband's grandmother, who we got that rug from, that 70 plus year old
rug.
She before she passed away, she was my biggest fan and she was she passed away at 96.
So probably or 90 just before 90 turned 98.
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So probably around the time she was 96.
When I, I don't know if she read the poem or if I read the poem to her, but either way,
she said that she still has mom guilt.
Yeah.
And I just thought that was so I had never kind of it didn't even cross my mind.
And then when she said it, I was like, Oh my goodness, like, there's no escaping it.
It's true.
And I'm, my God, you're you're going to last of that long.
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Mine was 96.
Yeah.
96.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She was, I think like three weeks or something shorter for 98th birthday.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think mine was a month shorter for 97th.
But yeah, I know she, we had conversations about, yeah, I should have done things different
or you know, things were different.
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And that's the great thing about being a grandma is you can do it different.
That's true.
It's a good point.
And you know, get back at your kids for being rotten by turning their kids into a little
bugger.
Yeah, yeah.
Exactly.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
So you're funny one.
Yeah.
So this one's called I lie sometimes or sorry.
Sometimes.
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Nope.
It's I lie sometimes.
I switched the title ever at every once in a while.
I lie sometimes.
Sometimes I lie to get through the day.
Often I tell you there's no other way.
I lie to my kids about who snack is bigger.
I tell them it's equal.
If not, then I trigger a damn fight about how her portion 20 smaller like I give a damn
duck.
Please cut out the hauler.
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When they see a fast food bag, I lie about that.
Did you go without us?
No, it's from a while back.
I lie when I need just a minute alone up here going pee guys when I'm on my phone.
It's a lie when I threaten that they won't go see their grandma and grandpa if they disobey
me.
The reason I'm right there is the tallest lie of all.
My rents are my weekend warriors and mama needs a trip to the mall.
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There is only one thing about which I don't lie and that's that I love them from here
to the sky.
Aw.
Thanks.
That one needs a little work, I realize.
No, that one is funny and sweet all at the same time and you don't have to be a mom
to lie about the fast food bags that are hidden in the car.
Yeah, I know, right?
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I have a husband that I don't know.
That's true.
I'm starving, dude.
Yeah, I don't know what you're talking about.
That was for the last time I've never just hit the garbage bag on the way in.
Yeah, for sure.
Oh my goodness.
So do you see yourself doing this on stage every few months or?
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Yeah, so I'm like having a really good time with that like part of it.
Like I'm enjoying putting it together.
I'm really enjoying being up there.
And so, yeah, as long as it kind of everything keeps falling into place the way that it is,
I want to keep doing that.
So yeah, and then maybe the next step is kind of just bigger theater, bigger stage, something
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like that.
So, yeah, I'll see.
That'll be exciting.
Now do you find that your followers that you have or the subscribers to your Friday thing,
are they all local or are you noticing some from outside of our area?
Yeah, definitely mostly local.
I definitely have some followers from around the world, I guess.
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Different, yeah, like, you know, we've connected on Instagram years ago or yeah, things like
that.
Like a few people signing up for my newsletter on my website, you know, when they click from
wherever kind of thing.
So yeah, there are like, I'm international, but very few compared to anything.
So that's okay.
It's a start.
But anything is like those kinds of things like because I didn't have anything to sell
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until I started this show and my one in May and the one coming up, I would look at those
newsletter subscriber emails as like my monetary piece, you know, so that was me jumping for
joy when, you know, somebody from Germany signing up for my newsletter type thing.
So yeah, those moments are like really special for sure.
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On my website too, I can see my website visits and other than Canada and the US, my next biggest,
actually, I think it's more than the US is Germany.
It's consistently Germany.
Oh, okay.
So maybe there's something to be said there.
I don't know what that is.
Yeah, Germany and Belgium are my next top ones.
And it's like, I don't know if there's people that were from the area that lives there or
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family, but I don't know either.
Yeah, because we would both have Windsor as our like whatever.
Right.
So yeah, I don't know.
But it's cool.
Yeah.
Yeah, I'll take it.
It's awesome for sure.
So where can they find you online?
Yep.
So I am probably the most active on Instagram.
Yeah.
As you know, Tracy, yeah.
Tiktok, everything, all of my handles are all at mom said duck.
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I do have a newsletter called Fresh Bone Friday.
You can subscribe for that on my, on my what's more reliable is probably my Instagram link
tree than my website.
Because half the time I'm like, oh, it's like there's some sort of issue.
I'm like, what?
I hate that kind of stuff.
But my link tree in my link and bio on Instagram is where you can find my Fresh Bone Friday
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newsletter subscriber sign up.
And that one always seems to be working.
So yeah, that's where I kind of, you know, let out all my big announcements.
I always have, I don't know if you're on my newsletter or not, Tracy, but I always have
my ticket sales there earlier than, than anywhere else.
They get an extra week.
They get like a little sidebar, you know, code or whatever that they go in with.
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And yeah, so I suck with my, with my email because I have my podcast email, a regular
email and then photography email.
Yeah.
And I need to go through and start unsubscribing two things because I find that I accidentally
delete important ones because I'm just going through and there's like 25 different things
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that I don't want to do.
And I miss so much.
I miss so much.
Oh, it's just another task for us, right?
Why not?
So how are you on TikTok?
Because you have a lot of fun stuff.
Yeah, it's just, I'll be honest, it's just like regurgitated from Instagram type thing.
I post the same thing.
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Yeah, it's funny because some things on Instagram will take off like crazy and other ones will
be really stagnant, but they go nuts on.
Tiktok.
TikTok.
I've never had anything go nuts ever once.
So I can't compare.
Well, I haven't had anything go nuts except for one and I mean, it's not nuts.
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It was like 12,000.
So, yeah, yeah.
And it was stupid.
Yeah.
Either way.
Yeah.
I've never had anything go nuts, but it's better than anything I've ever gotten.
But that's fine, whatever.
Like to me, it's like, you know, social media is important for sure.
And I want to keep, like that's a focus of mine in next year is to get more into YouTube
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shorts.
And so I think that's part of where my market lives.
And so I want to, I want to get into that more.
And I think that my material is appropriate for that platform.
So I want to look at that a little bit more.
I'm almost thinking, cause I do a lot on YouTube, cause the podcast is on YouTube shorts are
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really hard to do cause reels on Instagram are minute and 30 seconds, but shorts are
like 60 seconds long.
It's almost like you could class if you did one that was a little longer than a minute,
classify it as like a mini podcast.
And you might be able to, cause it's hard to get things down to a minute.
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Especially if you're doing a poem and they're all two to three minutes long.
And that's something that I've faced, like, you know, until they opened up the reel to
it's a minute and a half now.
Oh, on YouTube?
I know, on Instagram.
Oh, Instagram.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, but yeah, even that is like, because my poems are two to three minutes long, half
the time, you know, I feel like I have to like run through them, which isn't fun either.
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So I very much have to try to sort of fit into social media, which I don't love, but
it's, you know, part of the rat race, I guess.
Same here.
I'm doing the same thing.
I'm doing reels, reels.
I was like, okay, I'll do them.
And I mean, I'm finding that I have more people that actually look at my posts than they do
the reels, cause not that interesting.
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Well, no, not that you're not interesting.
What I, what I think is that for me anyway, is that I'm not a marketer, right?
And so it being, I think the biggest whirlwind for me with regards to being an entrepreneur
is that you have to be, my husband always says this, that you have to be the CEO first.
So whatever, you know, you think you're a mom, but nope, you're the CEO.
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So you're that first and you have to kind of make sure that from a bird's eye view,
everything is sort of working in tandem kind of thing.
And so I didn't expect to have to be the marketer and the, and the IT department and
it's hard.
All the things.
Yeah.
You know, you have to write poems and say them on the stage.
You know, it's like, okay, well, that's not really how it works.
You got to pull it all together, you know, you got to create a website or you got to
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pay somebody to do it, which is like, you know, sometimes you have to kind of pick and
choose what you put that, you know, that too.
What do you put your time to?
What do you put your resources to?
How much money are you going to spend on A, B and C?
Like they're so much, they're so much.
Oh, I know.
And people are like, you do your own social media and I'm like, okay, this is $0 an hour
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plus benefits.
I make zero money.
So how am I supposed to pay somebody to do my social media or to do my website?
I'm just trying to figure this out as I go along and at 54, it's, it sucks.
But I mean, yeah, but I think that there's something to be said about, you know, passing
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things off when it makes sense or when the time is right or, you know, all that kind
of stuff, like I know for sure that if I were to make mom said duck fiscally successful,
that marketing is the first person or first people that I would hire, you know, so because
I just, it's not, I don't know enough about it.
It's like its own entity.
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It's super important, probably the most important.
Your marketing is probably, probably more, I shouldn't say more, but just as important
as the thing you're putting out, the talent that you're doing or the thing that you're
creating or whatever it is that you, you know, you have to, you have to be able to market
it because if people don't see your work, you, what's the point?
Exactly.
You have to, people have to be able to see you.
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People need to see you.
They need to see that your poems and listen to you and it needs to, I seriously think
you need to, if you're not going to do it, get a marketer because your poems are wonderful
and they, I'm trying to figure out the right words for it, but they make it okay to say
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duck.
They make it okay to say, did I make a wrong decision here having kids?
Obviously, we don't feel that way, but there are days when it's like, oh man, I wish I
was still single.
I wish I was, you know, some days are tough.
They are tough.
I definitely touch on that kind of stuff in the poems where it's like, I think in one
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of those, like some days I want to hide and it's true.
Like, you know, like today started out like that.
In fact, I looked back on my Instagram and I was like, oh my gosh, I was so saucy, but
that was the audience.
But like, I mean, that's the, that's like the ups and downs of the day, you know, like
I feel like I almost have to go on and apologize to everyone.
No, I was so saucy to everybody.
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You were not being saucy whatsoever.
You were just like, oh my God, seriously?
This happened.
And I mean, you're making it okay to have those feelings.
We all have those feelings.
You're not alone and you know, you're making light of it.
And that's why I really want everybody to follow mom's head duck and I really want to
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see a book, I'm a note and I want to see you have a ton of these shows because I just have
a blast.
Oh, that's so amazing.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for being the inspo behind one of the poems when I set it up on this stage.
It wasn't originally going to say one of my poems, but Tracy in the last interview was
like, okay, you got to talk about these poop diapers.
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You got to talk about, oh no, it was corn poop.
That's right.
Corn poop.
So, okay, this one's for Tracy Martin's from Wacky D&B.
Oh, come on, corn poop.
That's the best.
It's like, how does it come out whole?
You have to talk about that.
You really get a close up on it to your kids.
They're wiping it.
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I didn't want the kernel in my...
Can I just rinse this off and give it for next dinner?
It's so funny.
Oh gosh.
Well, thank you so much, Jill.
I really appreciate you being here.
Oh my gosh.
Anytime, like you and you asked me to come back, I'm like, yes, I got it in my back.
Yes.
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So anytime, I would love to come back.
Of course.
And thank you for making us all laugh.
It was awesome.
It was so sweet.
Thank you so much.
I mean, so much.
Thank you, thank you.
This is the whole point of it, right?
It's like to make moms just sit back and giggle.
And I think that if I've learned anything, it's that if you don't laugh, you cry.
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So it's like, if we can turn something into a giggle that should otherwise be something
that wants to put you in a home, then let's do it.
Let's just have fun with it.
It saves a lot of gray hairs.
That's for sure.
Awesome.
That's good.
That's so good to hear.
Yeah.
Thank you.
And again, my name is Tracy Martens.
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I want to thank you for joining me for another episode of YQG In Bloom.
Make sure to like and subscribe to the podcast so that I can keep this going for all local
businesses, events, people in the Windsor-Essex County area.
And I do do it for free so that they are able to afford the chance to get out and be a little
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bit more known.
So you guys have a wonderful day.
Alright, today I have a returning guest.
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Six months ago I had mom said duck, Jill Moysiuk on and I'm so happy that she's back
again.
Hey, how's it going?
Hey Tracy, how are you?
Oh, I'm great.
I mean, since we've done the last podcast, she was live on stage at Kordazone Theatre
and that was so stinking funny.
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Oh my God.
I'm so glad that you liked it.
I was going back because on your Instagram feed you have a lot of your poems.
I like the one.
What is it?
Every time you say bitch or shit.
Oh yeah, take a shot every time I say snack bitch.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh my God, I love that.
Cheers to that.
Cheers to that.
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Hey.
So what's new and exciting?
Yeah, so I have another show coming up.
And again, I actually booked the next show at Korda the very day after I had my show
in May, just because I was on such a high and I'm like, I don't want to talk myself
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out of doing this again.
So I'm just going to book it right now.
So I sent an email and got that book right away.
Yeah.
In case this is the first time that you are watching this podcast or listening, my name
is Tracy Martens and this is YQG and Bloom podcast.
We are everything local to the Windsor Essex County area, small businesses, comedians,
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wonderful people, events, charities, you name it.
I have it on my podcast.
So make sure that you like and subscribe to it so that it can stay free for all the businesses.
Now getting back to your event that's coming up November 29th, that's sold out really
fast.
It did.
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It's sold out pretty quick.
And I was like really excited and grateful again and all that good stuff.
So I actually capped my ticket sales for my other one, my first one kind of at a smaller
group just because I wanted to, it's my first time and whatever.
And then so once I had that feeling, I was like, okay, I think I can do this again.
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So I increased the ticket sales in terms of capacity.
And so yeah, I sold out that one too.
So I'm really excited.
That's awesome.
Thank you.
So you must write a lot.
I have a lot of poems.
Yeah.
And so I think it's just a testament to like having done this for so many years, I've been
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kind of putting in the work for a long time now.
So it's sort of like it feels, I was thinking about it today.
It feels like things are finally coming to fruition, I guess.
Like in terms of, you know, I didn't really know what I wanted to do.
I didn't know how to monetize Mum's at Duck or anything like that.
And so a lot of good things have sort of aligned for me in the last year or so, I'd say.
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And it's kind of on the trajectory that I like to see.
So it's all good.
So have you started to monetize yet?
Well, just like through ticket sales.
Through the ticket sales.
Yeah.
And stuff like that.
I have something up my sleeve for this upcoming show that I'll be announcing soon.
And so yeah, just different things, just kind of trying to feel my way through the whole
entrepreneurial journey.
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What's the scary part is, like when's the appropriate time to have merch and, you know, what should
I have?
What will people like, but just save me one of whatever it is and I'll get it.
All right.
Sounds good to me.
I almost waited on those ticket sales.
I'm like, I'm going to wait and see if I win that.
You're the contest you had.
And I'm like, no, I know, Damol, I'm not.
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I didn't.
So I'm glad.
Yeah, there you go.
I'm glad.
And then I'm thinking to myself, okay, well, I just got one ticket.
I'll sit with Carrie again and she can't make it.
Oh, that's too bad.
I'm like, well, of course.
Yeah, yeah.
She was so bummed out and Carrie is a girl that I know through my aunt and you went to
high school with her and we just go great school.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
And she was in the audience the last time I went by myself and I sat with her and it's
just funny.
Windsor's such a small town.
Exactly.
Yeah, they say in New York City, it's four degrees of separation.
I think Windsor's like one.
Oh, yeah.
You know, yeah.
It doesn't take long.
That's the one thing I always told my son when he was growing up, it's like, this is
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not the town to try and pull too much because everybody knows somebody and it's going to
get back.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
And it does because you just look on Facebook and it's surprising.
It's like, how do they know that person?
Mutual friends and stuff like that totally.
Yeah.
Yeah, for sure.
So, mom said duck, the poetry and your poems and all that, how long have you been doing
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that?
Because it hasn't been too, too long.
It's been a minute.
I always think about mom said duck as like a baby.
So like, I'm like four and a half years old.
Like mom said duck is four and a half years old.
So, yeah, so it's like, you know, I'm not a toddler anymore.
I'm like, you know, kind of graduated kindergarten and moving into grade one, you know, type thing.
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That's how I kind of look at it.
And that's very much how mom said duck feels where it's like just starting to emerge into
my own little pretty, you know, like that kind of thing.
So yeah, so yeah, four and a half years.
It's been that I've been plugging away at it.
So maybe actually probably five because I was doing stuff behind the scenes before I ever
really launched.
So probably six months or longer.
So yeah, probably five years.
So it's been a minute for sure.
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And just for people that might not have seen the podcast from six months ago, which you
should watch, by the way.
She used to be an HR.
So you can't get a more boring job to end up being basically, you know, you say you're
a poetry, but you're a comedian.
Yes.
Because they're funny as hell.
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Aw, thanks.
That's awesome.
Thank you.
You know, more and more people have been calling me that and it's like, I'm just like sitting
with it and like being like, okay, maybe I'm a comedian.
I don't know.
Yeah.
You are.
This is just your way of doing it.
Yeah.
And it may even evolve from that.
I mean, this evolved from what your mom thrown that book at.
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Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Now, when did you write that book?
It wasn't even a book.
It was just her writings.
Yeah.
No.
So when I, so yeah, how Mom said duck came to be came to be was after I had lost my job
and I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do next.
My and I was kind of in this like, you know, a bit of a grieving period type thing.
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And my mom came over and tossed a book at me that I had written when I was 10 years old
and it's called What's Good for a 10 year old.
And I was just amazed because I, it was like, I, I didn't just write the book.
I created the book in terms of like the actual hard material and all that stuff, the pages
inside and I drew all, all the pictures and I colored them all and all that stuff.
And it was just really interesting for me to read this book that I had written, which
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was a rhyming book as a 10 year old because it was a really good book, I thought.
And I was 10 when I wrote it, which just blew me away because I had always said about myself
that I'm not a creative person.
I always said that I don't have a creative bone in my body.
And so this, this book that I wrote myself when I was a little kid, sort of like proved
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me wrong, which was like such an interesting like thing to sort of realize about myself.
And then so, yeah, the next morning I woke up, my little guy was a toddler, woke up,
came in bed between my husband and I and I was massaging his little toes back to sleep
and thought, oh, I wonder if I can make a little poem about his body after reading that book
the day before, like I couldn't stop reading that book.
And then so sure enough, I wrote this little poem about his body and then thought to myself,
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oh, like that was pretty good.
I should write it down.
So I wrote it down when my husband woke up, I read it to him and he thought it was good
too.
And that's kind of how it all started.
I just kept writing more and more poems from there.
And it's all about being a mom and a spouse because there's something about, you know,
how dads are there and helping.
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Yeah, I definitely spoke some fun at the dads for sure, for sure, but it's all in good
fun.
Yeah, I mean, your family was all there that night and they were all laughing too.
I, well, I don't know about all.
I actually said before the show, I was like nervous because my kids were there was my
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first show and I knew I probably would love it and want to do it again.
So I wanted them to be there for the first one instead of just seeing it on tape.
And so I said to a lot of people, I, as much as I want to have Violet and Edison there,
I'm scared something's going to be said that they're going to be like mad at me about
or like, you know, legit need to go to therapy for kind of things.
Who knows, you're just kind of off the cuff, right?
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And then so I read two poems before intermission.
There was an intermission in the show.
It's two hours long.
So it's, it's quite lengthy.
In the first set I did, I read a poem where I said something about my, about, about my
son's penis, essentially.
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And I said, one day my youngest asked me, but why does my penis have an eye?
And then I read the poem, snack bitch soon after that.
And then so when I got backstage, I went P and I came out and I was ready to go back
on the stage a couple of minutes later, but my kids were there and I'm like, oh, hey guys,
how's it going?
Like, are you having fun?
You know, kind of thing.
And they were standing there like, like this, both of them.
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And so I'm like, what?
So my daughter said, Eddie's mad at you because you said that he said that his penis has an
eye and he never said that.
He said he never said that.
And I said, he didn't.
I said, it just rhymed.
And then she said, and I don't know why you had to say the B word so many times.
And I said, I know, she's just so sweet though.
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And innocent.
And that's just her.
And she's at age for sure.
Right.
So it's embarrassing.
Mom's saying stuff like that.
Right.
So I was like, I'm like, you guys are totally right.
Like I got to go though.
So we'll put a pin in this and we'll come back to it later.
So yeah, but they they ended up actually getting a toys rest out of it because my cousin and
her wife decided that it would be a good idea to, you know, tell them to to make sure that
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I brought them to toys rest for those two to mishaps there.
So they got toys rest out of it.
So I think I think violet.
Violet, right?
Violet, yeah.
I think she enjoyed it because I remember seeing her during intermission with your mom
and we were grabbing the snacks and that and that's when I told her, I'm like, you know,
I said, you can always get your mom back and do some poems and we can call it daughter said
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duck.
And she looked and she's like, hmm.
And your mom's like laughing.
I'm like, yeah, there's always ways that you can pay back.
I always say like if the world comes around to get and bite me in the butt, it's going
to be something like that.
My husband does dad said duck or my kids do.
Yeah, daughter said duck or kids say.
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Do you do you see any of the writing or, you know, the artistic side coming out?
Neither of them.
So violet is super artistic.
It's like her, her like, you know, with this whole, you know, kind of finding out finding
myself through this stuff that sort of brought me back to my 10 year old self.
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It sort of has shown me that like, it's kind of put a lens on like, you know, I think that
maybe instead of like searching for who we are, it's kind of going back to who you were,
you know, type thing.
And so if that's true, not just for me and then it would be true for my kids, then I
think that she'll always be an artist in some way in her life.
So I think that's, that's a really, you know, she inspires me really.
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Edison's obviously, he's not old enough to understand what happened, but I think she,
violet was on the cusp of understanding that you went through this huge change and you
came out and you're successful and you're enjoying it and you're having fun and it's
nice to see, to have them see that maybe, you know what, sometimes if some shitty stuff
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happens, better stuff can happen because of it.
So I hope so.
I hope that's, you know, that's the part of the reason I wanted them there that night
was to kind of see that through, you know, where it's like they actually have a full
on example of like seeing something like that.
So yeah, so that was a, it was a big moment for me to have them there, even though I will
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likely, you know, have to pay for their therapy one day.
That's why you need merch.
Yeah, that's why I need merch.
That's right.
I should use it as a sign.
Yes.
Help, help.
Therapy.
I like that.
Cheers to that.
That one's a good one.
Oh man.
So are they going to be at this one?
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They're not going to be at this one.
They said enough.
No, yeah, no, they've like kind of brought it up and I'm like, yeah, it's cool guys.
Like, you know, like really I don't, I don't want to be like, yeah, mom said duck and you
know, I like the odd, you know, whatever swear word comes out.
Maybe it's more than, more than odd, but I want to be able to kind of like let loose
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and feel whatever.
Right.
So it'll be, I'm kind of like looking forward a little bit to like not having to, to be
so.
Yeah, a little bit.
Like I was a little bit that night.
I didn't say.
It was also, there was also nerves.
Oh, I mean, so this one, you know what you're getting into.
Yeah.
Yeah.
No, that's true.
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Yeah.
Yeah, absolutely.
I like that.
I can't wait.
I'm so excited.
Thanks.
So in six months, how many poems do you think you've written?
So I mean, I, so I send out a poem every Friday to my Fresh Pwn Friday newsletter subscribers
and which is awesome because it holds me accountable, but over the course of four and a half years,
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it's, it has become sort of unattainable for me to write a new poem every single week,
which I signed up for at the beginning.
So I understand.
So I try to kind of hold that promise, but sometimes what I do is send out a frozen poem.
I call it, it's not so fresh, but, but it gives me and it gives me an opportunity to
take an old poem, recycle it, but tweak it and edit it and make it better and make it
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tighter, which I really like because I don't know if I would be going back to do that as
often as I, as I might, you know, doing it this way kind of thing.
So it's nice because I think long term it will, that will help me out in terms of, you
know, one day I do want to put all the poems into a book and so they'll be more ready.
They'll be tighter at that point.
So you are going to, because the last time when I had brought up you doing a book, you
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were like, no, no, no, no.
It's, you know, it's, that is still the answer because I'm just not ready yet.
Like I'm not done writing poems.
For sure.
But, but you don't have to be done.
This could be the first chapter.
Yeah.
And then you can always.
But it's taken me this long to write a hundred of them.
So like, yes and no, like I can't imagine I'm going to write a hundred and then like over
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the course of the next 10 years, write another hundred.
It's a lot like, because my poems are so sort of generic, like they're like school lunches,
doing dishes, you know, summer vacation, like that kind of thing.
I dig into the weeds about other things too.
But yeah, we'll see who knows what the future holds.
But how I kind of see it is maybe when I get to like, like I'm just shy of a hundred.
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So maybe when I get to a hundred, that's when I'll.
It could be one of those small books.
Yeah.
Something like that.
Yeah.
My original goal back, back when I first started was that I was going to write 365 so that
I could have a book for moms at like, you know, their baby shower and stuff like that,
where it's like, you know, basically like you're good, you know, read this poem one
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a day and like, you know, kind of feel normal again, like everything's cool.
Like it is crazy.
Everything you're doing, going through is crazy.
But you know, we all go through it kind of thing.
So how many poems have you wrote so far?
So I'm like, just shy of a hundred.
Just shy of a hundred?
Yeah.
So each one is, each one is about, about two to three minutes long.
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So they're quite long.
And so at that show that you came to see, I only read one third of them.
So I have like a lot of stuff left.
So that's the other thing too.
I want to kind of get them all out there.
Yeah.
Because I was just thinking when you said 365 was your goal and it's like, that would
be perfect.
Merches have a, have a one a day calendar.
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Yeah.
Something like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, and then actually the book would be titled, Mom of the Year.
And then my Mom of the Year poem would either be at the very beginning or the very end,
something like that.
So yeah.
Thankfully our Mom of the Year.
Yeah.
I mean, you, you heard the poem.
You are very sarcastic.
I'm sorry.
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After what you went through today by her son had an issue and an issue.
He vomited all over a 70 year old carpet.
Were you able to get it out?
Yeah.
I mean, I got it out.
And I don't smell any residual smells or anything.
So that's good.
So yeah, I think we're, I think we're, we're all good.
(17:15):
You just have to fix the slipper.
Yeah.
I'm going to have to, I mean, it's like, I guess an excuse to buy me.
I just love when they're like so perfect, you know, like there's something about that
like coziness of like having your slippers in the winter and you got your feet.
But I don't want to look at like the avocado stain on it now.
Little shit.
You had to see my stories today.
I didn't know what to talk about.
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You have to follow her Instagram and that's at mom said duck and they're funny.
Your stories are funny.
Thanks, Tracy.
Your poems are funny.
And I mean, you're a funny person.
I don't know how in the hell you ever did HR.
Yeah.
Well, you had to have a sense of humor to do the type of HR I was doing because it was
more so it was HR and labor relations, but it was for the automotive industry.
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So it was manufacturing.
So I mean, it was like a just in time.
I wasn't necessarily like a corporate HR labor relations person.
I was like a manufacturing elbow grease kind of on the front lines more.
So you're able to be a little bit.
Yeah, I had to be.
Yeah.
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Yeah, for sure.
A little of this underneath the table.
Well, just like, yeah, like I said, you had to have kind of a, I think that I think I
was good at my job and I think the reason I was good at my job is partly because I kind
of could, you know, just have fun in the, not have fun, but like make light or whatever
of, you know, things that kind of came up or whatever, just kind of roll with the punches
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of manufacturing.
So you don't happen to remember any pieces of a poem that you could tell us.
Yeah.
Like I know a couple off by heart, if that's what you mean.
Yeah.
I would love to hear one to kind of give the people that haven't followed you yet a little
snippet of the type of poems that you have that are so funny.
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Yeah.
Well, I don't know when this show is going to be like produced in terms of like a day
date that it would be aired, but I was going to.
Well, it is November 5th.
I'm going to stop here right there.
November 5th and yes, it's election day.
Part of the reason we're drinking.
It would be in probably two weeks.
(19:28):
So it would be before your show.
So I was going to say I could debut my new one here, but we'll save that for the big
night.
But yeah, I can give you two OGs that I don't know off the top of my head.
Do you want the sweet one first or the funny one first?
Let's go sweet.
Sweet?
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Yeah.
Okay.
So my sweet one is called Momgilt.
It is real as real as the struggle.
It's as real as you feel when you're kidding you snuggle.
Have I told her I loved her any more times than him?
Should I read books after bath or finally go to the gym?
Oh my God, there is a mess in each room.
I seem to pass.
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Do I do the damn dishes or sit down and help with her math?
Did they get outside enough and eat more veggies than sweet treats?
Was that cucumber organic?
We've been more conscious about meat.
Mama, will you play with me is something that I often hear, but it's far in between
if I dare look into a mirror.
In fact, sometimes I scream and shout and likely look like a buffoon.
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Perhaps I'll learn to meditate or maybe buy them that balloon.
It can creep up out of the blue and you do not expect it there.
Momgilt can overcome you and it really isn't fair.
So if you're anything like me and these thoughts also intervene, just focus, smile and laugh
and promptly fix your crown.
(20:51):
My queen.
Love that.
Thank you.
And it's true.
Momgilt if you're a fur mom or a regular mom, that's true.
And I mean, I have 30 year old kids, 28 year old.
And yeah, you have that guilt that am I there enough?
Am I giving them enough space or too much space?
(21:14):
Yeah, all that was nice.
Thank you.
And I have my husband's grandmother, who we got that rug from, that 70 plus year old
rug.
She before she passed away, she was my biggest fan and she was she passed away at 96.
So probably or 90 just before 90 turned 98.
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So probably around the time she was 96.
When I, I don't know if she read the poem or if I read the poem to her, but either way,
she said that she still has mom guilt.
Yeah.
And I just thought that was so I had never kind of it didn't even cross my mind.
And then when she said it, I was like, Oh my goodness, like, there's no escaping it.
It's true.
And I'm, my God, you're you're going to last of that long.
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Mine was 96.
Yeah.
96.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She was, I think like three weeks or something shorter for 98th birthday.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think mine was a month shorter for 97th.
But yeah, I know she, we had conversations about, yeah, I should have done things different
or you know, things were different.
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And that's the great thing about being a grandma is you can do it different.
That's true.
It's a good point.
And you know, get back at your kids for being rotten by turning their kids into a little
bugger.
Yeah, yeah.
Exactly.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
So you're funny one.
Yeah.
So this one's called I lie sometimes or sorry.
Sometimes.
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Nope.
It's I lie sometimes.
I switched the title ever at every once in a while.
I lie sometimes.
Sometimes I lie to get through the day.
Often I tell you there's no other way.
I lie to my kids about who snack is bigger.
I tell them it's equal.
If not, then I trigger a damn fight about how her portion 20 smaller like I give a damn
duck.
Please cut out the hauler.
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When they see a fast food bag, I lie about that.
Did you go without us?
No, it's from a while back.
I lie when I need just a minute alone up here going pee guys when I'm on my phone.
It's a lie when I threaten that they won't go see their grandma and grandpa if they disobey
me.
The reason I'm right there is the tallest lie of all.
My rents are my weekend warriors and mama needs a trip to the mall.
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There is only one thing about which I don't lie and that's that I love them from here
to the sky.
Aw.
Thanks.
That one needs a little work, I realize.
No, that one is funny and sweet all at the same time and you don't have to be a mom
to lie about the fast food bags that are hidden in the car.
Yeah, I know, right?
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I have a husband that I don't know.
That's true.
I'm starving, dude.
Yeah, I don't know what you're talking about.
That was for the last time I've never just hit the garbage bag on the way in.
Yeah, for sure.
Oh my goodness.
So do you see yourself doing this on stage every few months or?
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Yeah, so I'm like having a really good time with that like part of it.
Like I'm enjoying putting it together.
I'm really enjoying being up there.
And so, yeah, as long as it kind of everything keeps falling into place the way that it is,
I want to keep doing that.
So yeah, and then maybe the next step is kind of just bigger theater, bigger stage, something
(24:27):
like that.
So, yeah, I'll see.
That'll be exciting.
Now do you find that your followers that you have or the subscribers to your Friday thing,
are they all local or are you noticing some from outside of our area?
Yeah, definitely mostly local.
I definitely have some followers from around the world, I guess.
(24:50):
Different, yeah, like, you know, we've connected on Instagram years ago or yeah, things like
that.
Like a few people signing up for my newsletter on my website, you know, when they click from
wherever kind of thing.
So yeah, there are like, I'm international, but very few compared to anything.
So that's okay.
It's a start.
But anything is like those kinds of things like because I didn't have anything to sell
(25:13):
until I started this show and my one in May and the one coming up, I would look at those
newsletter subscriber emails as like my monetary piece, you know, so that was me jumping for
joy when, you know, somebody from Germany signing up for my newsletter type thing.
So yeah, those moments are like really special for sure.
(25:34):
On my website too, I can see my website visits and other than Canada and the US, my next biggest,
actually, I think it's more than the US is Germany.
It's consistently Germany.
Oh, okay.
So maybe there's something to be said there.
I don't know what that is.
Yeah, Germany and Belgium are my next top ones.
And it's like, I don't know if there's people that were from the area that lives there or
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family, but I don't know either.
Yeah, because we would both have Windsor as our like whatever.
Right.
So yeah, I don't know.
But it's cool.
Yeah.
Yeah, I'll take it.
It's awesome for sure.
So where can they find you online?
Yep.
So I am probably the most active on Instagram.
Yeah.
As you know, Tracy, yeah.
Tiktok, everything, all of my handles are all at mom said duck.
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I do have a newsletter called Fresh Bone Friday.
You can subscribe for that on my, on my what's more reliable is probably my Instagram link
tree than my website.
Because half the time I'm like, oh, it's like there's some sort of issue.
I'm like, what?
I hate that kind of stuff.
But my link tree in my link and bio on Instagram is where you can find my Fresh Bone Friday
(26:44):
newsletter subscriber sign up.
And that one always seems to be working.
So yeah, that's where I kind of, you know, let out all my big announcements.
I always have, I don't know if you're on my newsletter or not, Tracy, but I always have
my ticket sales there earlier than, than anywhere else.
They get an extra week.
They get like a little sidebar, you know, code or whatever that they go in with.
(27:07):
And yeah, so I suck with my, with my email because I have my podcast email, a regular
email and then photography email.
Yeah.
And I need to go through and start unsubscribing two things because I find that I accidentally
delete important ones because I'm just going through and there's like 25 different things
(27:32):
that I don't want to do.
And I miss so much.
I miss so much.
Oh, it's just another task for us, right?
Why not?
So how are you on TikTok?
Because you have a lot of fun stuff.
Yeah, it's just, I'll be honest, it's just like regurgitated from Instagram type thing.
I post the same thing.
(27:52):
Yeah, it's funny because some things on Instagram will take off like crazy and other ones will
be really stagnant, but they go nuts on.
Tiktok.
TikTok.
I've never had anything go nuts ever once.
So I can't compare.
Well, I haven't had anything go nuts except for one and I mean, it's not nuts.
(28:16):
It was like 12,000.
So, yeah, yeah.
And it was stupid.
Yeah.
Either way.
Yeah.
I've never had anything go nuts, but it's better than anything I've ever gotten.
But that's fine, whatever.
Like to me, it's like, you know, social media is important for sure.
And I want to keep, like that's a focus of mine in next year is to get more into YouTube
(28:36):
shorts.
And so I think that's part of where my market lives.
And so I want to, I want to get into that more.
And I think that my material is appropriate for that platform.
So I want to look at that a little bit more.
I'm almost thinking, cause I do a lot on YouTube, cause the podcast is on YouTube shorts are
(28:57):
really hard to do cause reels on Instagram are minute and 30 seconds, but shorts are
like 60 seconds long.
It's almost like you could class if you did one that was a little longer than a minute,
classify it as like a mini podcast.
And you might be able to, cause it's hard to get things down to a minute.
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Especially if you're doing a poem and they're all two to three minutes long.
And that's something that I've faced, like, you know, until they opened up the reel to
it's a minute and a half now.
Oh, on YouTube?
I know, on Instagram.
Oh, Instagram.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, but yeah, even that is like, because my poems are two to three minutes long, half
the time, you know, I feel like I have to like run through them, which isn't fun either.
(29:42):
So I very much have to try to sort of fit into social media, which I don't love, but
it's, you know, part of the rat race, I guess.
Same here.
I'm doing the same thing.
I'm doing reels, reels.
I was like, okay, I'll do them.
And I mean, I'm finding that I have more people that actually look at my posts than they do
the reels, cause not that interesting.
(30:05):
Well, no, not that you're not interesting.
What I, what I think is that for me anyway, is that I'm not a marketer, right?
And so it being, I think the biggest whirlwind for me with regards to being an entrepreneur
is that you have to be, my husband always says this, that you have to be the CEO first.
So whatever, you know, you think you're a mom, but nope, you're the CEO.
(30:28):
So you're that first and you have to kind of make sure that from a bird's eye view,
everything is sort of working in tandem kind of thing.
And so I didn't expect to have to be the marketer and the, and the IT department and
it's hard.
All the things.
Yeah.
You know, you have to write poems and say them on the stage.
You know, it's like, okay, well, that's not really how it works.
You got to pull it all together, you know, you got to create a website or you got to
(30:50):
pay somebody to do it, which is like, you know, sometimes you have to kind of pick and
choose what you put that, you know, that too.
What do you put your time to?
What do you put your resources to?
How much money are you going to spend on A, B and C?
Like they're so much, they're so much.
Oh, I know.
And people are like, you do your own social media and I'm like, okay, this is $0 an hour
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plus benefits.
I make zero money.
So how am I supposed to pay somebody to do my social media or to do my website?
I'm just trying to figure this out as I go along and at 54, it's, it sucks.
But I mean, yeah, but I think that there's something to be said about, you know, passing
(31:33):
things off when it makes sense or when the time is right or, you know, all that kind
of stuff, like I know for sure that if I were to make mom said duck fiscally successful,
that marketing is the first person or first people that I would hire, you know, so because
I just, it's not, I don't know enough about it.
It's like its own entity.
(31:54):
It's super important, probably the most important.
Your marketing is probably, probably more, I shouldn't say more, but just as important
as the thing you're putting out, the talent that you're doing or the thing that you're
creating or whatever it is that you, you know, you have to, you have to be able to market
it because if people don't see your work, you, what's the point?
Exactly.
You have to, people have to be able to see you.
(32:15):
People need to see you.
They need to see that your poems and listen to you and it needs to, I seriously think
you need to, if you're not going to do it, get a marketer because your poems are wonderful
and they, I'm trying to figure out the right words for it, but they make it okay to say
(32:37):
duck.
They make it okay to say, did I make a wrong decision here having kids?
Obviously, we don't feel that way, but there are days when it's like, oh man, I wish I
was still single.
I wish I was, you know, some days are tough.
They are tough.
I definitely touch on that kind of stuff in the poems where it's like, I think in one
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of those, like some days I want to hide and it's true.
Like, you know, like today started out like that.
In fact, I looked back on my Instagram and I was like, oh my gosh, I was so saucy, but
that was the audience.
But like, I mean, that's the, that's like the ups and downs of the day, you know, like
I feel like I almost have to go on and apologize to everyone.
No, I was so saucy to everybody.
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You were not being saucy whatsoever.
You were just like, oh my God, seriously?
This happened.
And I mean, you're making it okay to have those feelings.
We all have those feelings.
You're not alone and you know, you're making light of it.
And that's why I really want everybody to follow mom's head duck and I really want to
(33:48):
see a book, I'm a note and I want to see you have a ton of these shows because I just have
a blast.
Oh, that's so amazing.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for being the inspo behind one of the poems when I set it up on this stage.
It wasn't originally going to say one of my poems, but Tracy in the last interview was
like, okay, you got to talk about these poop diapers.
(34:09):
You got to talk about, oh no, it was corn poop.
That's right.
Corn poop.
So, okay, this one's for Tracy Martin's from Wacky D&B.
Oh, come on, corn poop.
That's the best.
It's like, how does it come out whole?
You have to talk about that.
You really get a close up on it to your kids.
They're wiping it.
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I didn't want the kernel in my...
Can I just rinse this off and give it for next dinner?
It's so funny.
Oh gosh.
Well, thank you so much, Jill.
I really appreciate you being here.
Oh my gosh.
Anytime, like you and you asked me to come back, I'm like, yes, I got it in my back.
Yes.
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So anytime, I would love to come back.
Of course.
And thank you for making us all laugh.
It was awesome.
It was so sweet.
Thank you so much.
I mean, so much.
Thank you, thank you.
This is the whole point of it, right?
It's like to make moms just sit back and giggle.
And I think that if I've learned anything, it's that if you don't laugh, you cry.
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So it's like, if we can turn something into a giggle that should otherwise be something
that wants to put you in a home, then let's do it.
Let's just have fun with it.
It saves a lot of gray hairs.
That's for sure.
Awesome.
That's good.
That's so good to hear.
Yeah.
Thank you.
And again, my name is Tracy Martens.
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I want to thank you for joining me for another episode of YQG In Bloom.
Make sure to like and subscribe to the podcast so that I can keep this going for all local
businesses, events, people in the Windsor-Essex County area.
And I do do it for free so that they are able to afford the chance to get out and be a little
(35:55):
bit more known.
So you guys have a wonderful day.
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