The Passport Heaux Chronicles: “Too Broken for Home & Too Green for Overseas”

An Ontological Excavation of Intimacy, Identity, and the Myth of Elsewhere What compels a man to cross oceans not for exploration, but for exoneration—from the psychic residue of rejection, the humiliation of perceived emasculation, and the slow hemorrhaging of significance within Western relational dynamics? 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Those boundaries to keep that relationship healthy.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Yeah, what's your situation right now?

Speaker 3 (00:05):
What you mean situation?

Speaker 4 (00:08):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (00:08):
Man, I'm dating. I'm single, but I'm dating.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Single, but dating something serious more than other.

Speaker 3 (00:15):
No, just dating.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
We gotta we got a chance because she's therapy in.

Speaker 4 (00:19):
Using us like I want my woman to bom me men.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
Like, hold on, what's going on with you? This is
about you?

Speaker 5 (00:31):
You don't flipped the script on us over here?

Speaker 6 (00:36):
It was good.

Speaker 5 (00:37):
It was like, we need to find out about what's
going what's going on with her?

Speaker 2 (00:41):
She's dating single?

Speaker 4 (00:42):
What that?

Speaker 6 (00:43):
Wow?

Speaker 2 (00:43):
What do I tail for a forty two row?

Speaker 3 (00:45):
I am dating, dating.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
Single, enjoying my life. I have really good companions.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
How many dating right now?

Speaker 1 (00:54):
I'm not I'm not exclusively committed to anyone, but I
have I mean, I have one guy that I have
dated off and on for five years. We dated five
years often.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
He was his work for five years. You've been his work.
You're still his work?

Speaker 4 (01:10):
Oh my, yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
I know it's I know what's going on now? I'm yeah. No,
take the sheep clothing off, I.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Read the wolf teeth going out.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
No, we have somebody's work for five years.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
We have been each other's companion for five years and yeah,
I have spent the block for five years and I
it's the truth. And he doesn't like it. He's absolutely correct. Uh,
he feels like I haven't provided no one's no, one
is no, we're working together, were working together, bay.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
Or.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
He wants he wants, he wants a relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:55):
He wants to be committed.

Speaker 5 (01:56):
You just like the sun. Oh, let's keep on it.
You keep somebody for five years, that's like, for real.
You can't keep nobody at a distance for five years.
I ain't never done no shit.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
I am not indeed deficient.

Speaker 5 (02:16):
And kept him on the side until she figured out
if it's something better, I'll see where.

Speaker 4 (02:20):
This is going. Oh lord. So when stuff like this
goes viral, people be like, so you gotta talk about it, man,
you gotta talk about it. Oh gosh, okay, So number one,
let's address forty two years of age and single or

(02:44):
doing whatever. Let's address that now. Anybody who's been listening
to the Voice of Reason for the past three years, nosh,
I lead with my flaw. I tell you at the
end of the show every show, Hey, hey, I started
the conversation. I'm not trying to be right. We're learning together,

(03:08):
we're doing this together. If you've been listening to my
show for the entire time, you've heard me air out
my own personal issues and problems. Right, here's the problem
with the latest and the greatest. Everybody's looking to be

(03:29):
saved by perfection, and that's simply not how it works.
I'm sorry, simply not how it works. Oh, you shouldn't
talk about relationship or marriage unless you're married, but there
are thousands of clinicians out there that may not be
married that are actually helping married couples deal with their issues.

(03:55):
Clinicians are trained to deal with right relationship conflict. They're
trained to help navigate people through that conflict. They're trained
to listen. They're trained to offer practical tools that you know,
people may not have known that they had access to.

(04:17):
They will teach you how to communicate, they'll teach you
how to be a better listener. But that doesn't necessarily
mean that all of their issh is together. And I'm
saying they're collectively. As you know, clinicians, clinicians are not perfect.
They're humans, just like the people they help. Right, So

(04:41):
we missed that, right, we missed that. Oh if your
marriage isn't perfect, you shouldn't talk about marriage, or if
you don't or if you're not in a relationship, you
shouldn't talk about relationship. Human beings are born into the
human condition, into relationships. This is why I try not
to diss anybody. I might disagree with people what certain

(05:02):
people have to say, but I try not to diss them.
You understand what I'm saying, like, ah, I don't agree
with that right, But because we're human beings, we all
have a right to speak about our relational experience. Now,
that's to the you're forty two and you should be
married by now, you should have kids. That's to speak

(05:24):
to that right. That's not a perfect woman. We're an
imperfect society looking for a perfect package, right to help
us understand ourselves better. And if the package isn't perfect,
because we have an unrealistic expectation of the messenger. Not

(05:44):
everybody is christ now, not even Kevin Samuels. Oh, not
even Kevin right Ooh, so nobody's jumping down this lady's throat. Now,
I'm not here to defend or you know, say, you know, oh,

(06:07):
she's above and beyond reproach because she's not but she
is playing the media game, and the media game is
present yourself as perfect, present yourself as a package, a brand, unassailable,
and it's not her fault. In college, that's what they're
teaching all of the kids. They're teaching them to think

(06:28):
in terms of branding. So she's maximized her brand. And
anybody who knows if you were in a rap game,
I was in the music game, any game you in,
you out here hustling, don't get it twisted, don't get
it twisted. That isn't to let her off the hook.

Speaker 7 (06:44):
Though.

Speaker 4 (06:45):
This is why I always say, lead with your flaws.
If you want to inspire people, lead with your flaws.
And you say, well, why that don't make me look bad? Okay,
talk about how you overcame some of them and about
your plans for overcoming the rest of them. That's inspirational.

(07:06):
Do you understand what I'm saying? Oftentimes, when you get
sponsors and people start backing you and pushing you in
a certain direction, they're packaging you. Do you understand, like
we got to package You're right, you know, because you
know people need to. You get what I'm saying, So

(07:29):
in that instance or in that context, I think that's
that's the low hanging fruit in the conversation, Hey, why
aren't you married? You're you're forty two. To me, that's
the low hanging fruit, right, And sure was her answers

(07:51):
suitable or adequate or contextual?

Speaker 7 (07:56):
Not?

Speaker 4 (07:56):
To me, they were evasive. Okay, fine, right, let's put
you on trial. Right, But then if you flip it
in the other direction, she's intelligent, she's savvy. She knows
how to get on a Cam Newton show and light

(08:17):
cam up and that lights her up. Right, she knows
how to get on, you know, a Nick Cannon show
and light him up, and that lights her up. You
get what I'm saying. Let me just tell you stop
looking at the messenger. People, A broken messenger can deliver

(08:37):
a whole message, don't get listen. And I'm not saying
her message is whole, but I'm saying what happens is
it turns into these Adhamin attacks. Right, we're attacking the person,
we're discrediting the person. Now, does she have any valuable information?

(09:03):
I haven't followed her enough to really know. Paquito, I
hear what y'all hear on these clips, But this clip
is so fire right now, everybody's talking about it. I
had to address it briefly because it leads me to
some more stuff. Paul Pierce said. Now, Paul Pierce is Inglewood.

(09:28):
Come on now, citya champions Inglewood. I raised my kids
in Inglewood. Man, I know what Inglewood is. But at
the same time, he's a Boston Celtic and as a
Laker fan is kind of like I understand Inglewood. Hi
got that green and White. I get it. But right

(09:50):
here on you Yahoo Entertainment, the story right here, Paul Pierce,
American black men should date women from overseas. USA women
don't have the same values. Oh, that's gonna lead us

(10:11):
into our topic. The Passport Chronicles two broken for home
and possibly too green for overseas. Uh oh oh no,
the Passport Chronicles. So you telling me that we can listen,

(10:36):
Go get Tommy j Curries The Man Not. You see
how he broke down how America treats black men, how
America values black men and women. The book is called
The Man Not. One would say, hey, you could use
that book to justify what Paul is saying. No, but

(10:57):
the point that I'm coming from is that book talks
about how we have been systemically and intergenerationally wounded as men.
So you think we can take our psycho spiritual virus
to another country and be happy. Were coming over there

(11:19):
with an std A spiritually transmitted disease. We still got trauma.
So you think, Okay, they got different rules over there,
that just be nicer and a lot of brothers. Thene
f'd around and found out they donet went over there,
got robbed. They don't went. Oh listen, man, What masquerades

(11:44):
as a romantic exodus is in reality a spiritual extradition,
a fugitive flight from the self. The so called passport
bro move meant isn't about love, compatibility or cultural relevance.
It is a psycho spiritual migration strategy enacted by emotionally

(12:11):
arrested men seeking to anesthetize unprocessed trauma. Beneath the beneath
the guise of tradition, travel and values, huh, beneath their
passport lies a pathology not of a place, but of perfection.
I know you don't want to hear it. At its core,

(12:32):
the passport bro phenomena embodies with Babbett Rothschild would classify
as a somatic misplacement. Of trauma. I can be traumatized
over here, but I'm gonna be better over there. The
grass is gonna be grinner over there with my with
the same wounds I got right now. So we don't
want to see this is what I'm saying a lot

(12:54):
of brothers, and I'm here as your advocate and as
your brother. A lot of brothers think all I gotta
do is show with bread and protection. And I fulfilled
my duty as a man. No part of your duty
is to heal, and your woman is not responsible for
your healing. She can assist, do you understand? She can assist,

(13:20):
but listen. She can walk you up to it. She
can walk you up to that wound. She can coach you.
Come on, babe, you can do it. Grab that wound,
embrace it with She could do all that, But guess
who gotta do the embracing of their own wounds?

Speaker 8 (13:38):
Right?

Speaker 4 (13:40):
I'm not listen. Both black men and woman in America
come from the same traumatized pot. You can't quote joy
degru in one breath and then be like yo, I
gotta get out of here and go find some nicer,
different women with different values. What when I come forward?

(14:05):
If you even think I just got started. You'd be wrong.

Speaker 2 (14:09):
That's black man.

Speaker 5 (14:09):
I'm telling y'all we need to follow on French Montana steps.

Speaker 2 (14:14):
You see he cracking. He's cracking like man, I'm out
here with these.

Speaker 3 (14:19):
Don't listen to there's women in the States that are
cool and off.

Speaker 5 (14:24):
The States women, they don't have the same values as
these women overseas. They value they man, they priorities, they
man first. They not shaking on Instagram.

Speaker 3 (14:35):
And not every woman is doing that, Paul.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
That's American women. That's the majority.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
No, not every woman is doing that, though I'm not
doing that.

Speaker 5 (14:44):
So more women in America doing that than out the country,
I can agree.

Speaker 9 (14:48):
But they're out the country women are getting paid twenty
five dollars to have sex with anybody Columbia, go there, Brazil.

Speaker 3 (14:54):
So please kill it because.

Speaker 9 (14:55):
Y'all because I know and y'all want to glorify these
out the country women. These out the country women give
them thirty dollars and they're sucking you and all your
homeboys in one night, So stop trying to glorify that.

Speaker 3 (15:06):
I'm sick of it. Anyways.

Speaker 5 (15:07):
Yeah, I mean, only difference between there and here is
the prices up over here.

Speaker 3 (15:11):
Yes, don't try to say their values are so different
than I shake.

Speaker 4 (15:15):
No, they are.

Speaker 9 (15:16):
They're doing it and they're getting non shaken it and
all types of stuff.

Speaker 5 (15:20):
Yeah, man, I ain't trying nothing, but I'm just saying,
like right now, if you ain't taking a girl shopping,
if you ain't got no bread like this, I'm almost
impossible to get a girl out here.

Speaker 4 (15:36):
Well, there's truth and falsehood in a lot of what's
being said. Truth is, there are good women out here right.

Speaker 5 (15:49):
Right.

Speaker 4 (15:50):
But also the truth, there are a lot of transactional
relationships out here, and that's just what it is. You
live in America capitalism. Look up the evolution of capitalism
and how it has affected intimate relationships. This is the

(16:13):
society right here, right now saying love is a verb.
Do something for me? Oh oh yeah. So but here's
the argument. You can't, as Paul Pierce, you can't blame
women for being transactional when men say, instead of me healing,

(16:35):
all I gotta do is show up with the bread,
and for lack of a better word, because I have
the bread, I'm purchasing you. Oh. So they're both interacting,
they're both utilizing the transactional nature of relationships in America.

(16:56):
America is a capitalist, material, realistic society, and it does
have effects on how we relate to one another. And
it ain't just the women saying this costs my time costs.
It's men saying I've slayed the dragon I'm paying for

(17:19):
nurturing have we are? We a society of garden tools
and John's at its core, the passport bro phenomena embodies
what babet Rothschild would classify as a somatic replacement or

(17:43):
misplacement of trauma. The nervous system is in survival mode
and it's masked in masculinity. Ross Rosenberg's self love deficient
disorder explains the foundation men not seeking love but really
not a partner but a surrogate self. The journey abroad

(18:06):
becomes less about foreign women and more about evading the
psychic mirror Western women may hold up to our face.
We're both traumatized, and the mirror is saying, look at me,
deal with the work now. I want to go over
there and have somebody be quiet while I pay them pennies.

(18:29):
When I come forward, we got even more. It's gonna
get gracey.

Speaker 10 (18:34):
One thing I've learned from traveling is that the work.
When you travel outside the outside of America, the world
really shows you what you are. If you're lame, the
world gonna show you that you are actually a lame,
whereas an America, in my opinion, it's like clown world.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
Everything is upside down amazing.

Speaker 10 (18:49):
But if you're actually a man, that's on your that's
on your that's on your purpose. You're doing your thing.
You got your stuff together. Once you get out of America,
the world is going to show you what you always
thought about yourself. You don't want to show you like,
oh so I wasn't tripping. Yeah, And going back to
that video that you spoke on, you were the first guy,
the first, ain't only guy even still to this day

(19:10):
that I have actually heard say when you get your
money right and against your body right, you get your
you get everything put together, and you.

Speaker 4 (19:17):
Think, hey, listen, I want just hold that right there.
I want to go back. He said, if you are
a lame, the world is going to show you a lame.
You know why the world's is going to show you
you're a lame. So the humanities are being replaced, right,
there's a push to replace the humanities in education in

(19:42):
favor of STEM right, science, mathematics, engineering right. The humanities.
It's like the multidisciplinary repository of knowledge that tries to
give meaning to the human condition. In a lot of ways.

(20:04):
The humanities are like CRT critical race theory. The humanities
is telling the truth. The humanities is telling the truth
about what happened. If you take a humanity's course, you
will see how white supremacy came in and destroyed every country.

(20:28):
So the clip says, if you alame here in America,
top dog, you gonna be a lame in another. The
world is gonna show you why. Let me explain. Let
me explain some t The world has been stripped of
its dignity, of its resources, of its identity by the

(20:50):
global white Just be honest, I just I'm not racist.
I just gotta say what it is. That's why they're
trying to get rid of the humanities. There's a book
by Martha C. Nussbaum. She's an intellect and she teaches
on the humanities. The book is called not for Profit.

(21:11):
She talks about how the human aspect of what it
means to be a human is being stripped out of
education for productivity, for product for profit. So the brother
Paul is mad because this. He not mad at the
educational system. He's mad at the woman the educational system produced.

(21:37):
He said, well, I got to get out of here. Okay,
leave Go over there and guess what the same thing's
happening over there. They're trying to get rid of the humanities.
It's called the humanities DC. So, now, what happened with
black people? Because we magic, right, what happened with black folk?

(22:00):
Guess what? We taking out the flute, the violin, the trumpet,
the recorder, were taken all of that, the saxophone. We're
taking out all of the humanities, right, We're taking that
stuff on arts, literature, We're taking all of it out.
What black people do? Okay, I'm gonna sample my daddy
records with the news. I'm gonna become an instrumentalist by

(22:22):
sampling the music. Seeing you won't teach me how to
play it no more DC to create a whole new genre.
But if you listen to the music right after the
late eighties and you go into the nineties, what is
it talking about? Capitalism, prostitution, money, clothes and garden tools? Right,

(22:47):
it's talking about fame. It's talking. It's if you're listening,
you're hearing narcissistic collapses all over the industry. Right. This
is what Kendrick meant when he said, let party die. So, brothers,
you live here in this toxic society. You have a
responsibility first to yourself. What kind of provider and protector

(23:14):
you're gonna be if you don't nurture that wounded in
her child. It's not your mama's job no more. And
it's not your woman's job. Oh oh, it's easy to
point the finger out the woman and say, oh, she
she's the most educated, and she most educated gender and

(23:36):
race in America. She thinks she better at him. That's
because you are a man by archetype and stereotype alone.
What makes a man a man? Oh, he's a warrior,
he's a protector. How do you right go inside and

(24:00):
protect yourself from the inner child tyrant that makes you
unbearable in relationships. I don't want y'all to think listen,
I don't want y'all think I'm just attacking men because
men get sensitive and then say they're not emotional heat
she does? Why like Kevin Samuels, Because ken zam telling

(24:22):
ugly woman she ugly. That's because you didn't have the
courage to so you become a sickle follower of a
toxic narrative. I'm just cannot It ain't the values that
make the woman. Sir. Listen, listen, listen, listen, brother, listen, brother,

(24:45):
You conquer yourself. You become the author of your own values. No,
America gave you your values. I know you don't want
to hear. Put that way. America gave you your values.
America gave you your meaning and getting your meaning from
a tyrant, getting your meaning from an abusive, narcissistic tyrant.

(25:11):
That's what America did. And if you know anything about
the humanities, heymen, it's multi discipline, right, It's multidisciplines. Law,
history or a lion and history, religion, the concept of love,
the concept of relation. Listen. The humanities has their hands

(25:33):
in everything, and they're trying to get rid of it
because they don't care about you having a meaningful life.
They want a productive life out of you so they
can have profits from your productivity. That's the new world
we're moving into. We don't have time for black men
to be attacking black women when both of them hurt.

(25:56):
We're supposed to come together, got a heal, But it's
easy to talk crap than it is to heal. And
I know people don't want to hear it. When I
come forward. I promise you, when I come forward, we're
gonna start going to the phone lines. But I've got
more to say on this.

Speaker 11 (26:16):
I'm glad there's some children here. So nice to see children,
isn't it. It's beautiful to see children. And unfortunately, through education,

(26:39):
through the corruptive moral society, they're dragged into it willy nilly,
through their education, through their social economic environment, they're destroyed.
Probably the parents know all this, and they're also in despair.

(27:06):
The parents seeing their own children was so nice and
gentle at the beginning of life, become gradually violent, conforming
to the group, and all the misery of life begins.

(27:38):
That's another matter, that is it possible to educate children
without all the pressures and the ugliness of life from them.

(28:00):
The society is too strong, the sucting it because we
think society is something different from us.

Speaker 4 (28:18):
You understand, Hey, listen man, I don't know if you
listen in to Christian Mercy. He's talking about the psychology,
the mentality we live in the most We live in
the wealthiest society. We live in the most dominant militarily,
We live in the most powerful country in the world.

(28:40):
But what has that power done to the rest of
the world. In the clip before, the brother said, if
you're alame here in this country, the world is going
to show you that you're a lame. Why because the
rest of the world. Think about it. They may not

(29:01):
be trying to be like us like they were back
in the day, but they want autonomy from us. Look
at bricks. They want power for themselves, they want their
own identity. Think about it, right, she said, what does
that got to do with what Paul Pierce had to say?
So Paul Pierce is saying, leave and go there. Well,

(29:26):
when you come there, what do you look like to them?
But a vic Oh he's American? Heyy he got that yaper.
Whatever niceties he needs, we will perform that. What compels
a man to cross oceans not for exploration but for

(29:51):
exoneration right from the psychic residue of rejection, the humiliation
of perceived a mask, and the slow hemorrhaging of significance
within Western relational dynamics, the passport bro phenomenon is more

(30:11):
than a sociological trend. It is a metaphysical echo of
unresolved intra psychic war. Your woman can't heal you, brother
by doing everything you need her to do. This ain't
nineteen forty, nineteen fifty when Mama had to bite her

(30:31):
lip because she was totally dependent on Papa. These days
are different, now, do you understand? Beneath the flights and
the filters lies a deeper cry, not for a different woman,

(30:52):
but for a different self. So you think you can
go to another country psychological unindividuated and it's gonna turn
out cool. Well, I got a homeboy who said it
was all good when he went over. And then there's
another twenty five, one hundred two thousand stories where it

(31:12):
all went bad. Robberies, murders, all of that pregnancy, child support. Yeah,
all of those stories are still happening overseas. Right to
understand the psychological architecture of this movement, we must view
it through the fractal lens of trauma theory, attachment science,

(31:35):
general semantics, and maybe even quantum metaphysics. As Christiannamurti reminds us,
it is no measure of health to be well adjusted
to a profoundly sick society. But what if the sickness
uh oh, what if the sickness we flee resides not

(31:56):
in the culture alone, but in the unexacts and projections
we export across borders. Come on, now, e prime strips
the language of its illusory certainty. Rather than claiming she

(32:16):
is disrespectful, how about we must ask this way. I
interpret her aggressiveness as threatening to my unhealed wounds. Why
look at that? Instead of saying she's disrespectful. Right, let's
go deeper. Nobody wants to go deeper. Why Because in
American culture still one of the nastiest stereotypes is intellect

(32:42):
is for lames. Knowledge is for lames. Right, you're a
goofy if you read right. There's an anti intellectualism that's
coming through in America as well. I interpret her assertiveness

(33:03):
as threatening to my unhealed wounds. That would be too
much like right, That would be like too much like
telling the damn truth. And then the follow up question
is why do I feel that way? How does she
trigger me in this way? This reframe subverts the ego's
need to objectify the other in favor of confronting one's

(33:25):
own perceptual filters. As Robert Anton Wilson would argue, each
man operates from a reality tunnel, a neurologically imprinted loop
of memory, meaning, and survival strategy. In this tunnel, foreign
femininity becomes fetishized, not because of the cultural understanding, but

(33:52):
because of the cultural ignorance. The unfamiliar becomes a screen
onto which unintegrated desire, domination, and developmental arrest are projected. Right,
are you a spiritual colonizer? Brother? Because you're unhealed, you've

(34:14):
turned into a spiritual colonizer and said I'm gonna go
to another country and colonize this foreign spirit with my unhealed, sexual,
spiritually transmitted disease. Come on, man, y'all want that work?
Fifteen eighty, Come on, come on, come on, listen. When

(34:38):
we come forward, I'm gonna get right to the phone
lines and talk to my brother John from Mountain View, Hawaii.

Speaker 6 (34:45):
We have to really start looking at what our mind
is telling us. You know, look at it, Okay, tell
me come on and then really see is that true?
Is that right? Honestly? And oh my, it's not true.
And even if there's something which we did in the past,

(35:05):
which was really awfullest past. It's good now, and we
should encourage ourselves think of the goodness in ourselves and
how that can be cultivated to grow even more. We
all have our weaknesses, we all have our strengths. The

(35:27):
whole point is that our weaknesses are not the obstacles
to the past. They are the past.

Speaker 4 (35:37):
Man, the voice of reason. It is all fire tonight.
I gotta bring in I know, I said I would
go to John John give me a second man. I
gotta bring in one of my favorite comedians currently. And
the brother ain't just a comedian. The brother is intelligent,
way beyond his years, one of the most create of

(36:00):
articulate and just profoundly unique comics in the game. My brother,
Black Ron from Dallas, Texas, is on the line right now.
Black Ron, you hear me in here pontificating about this
whole You know, Paul Pierce, You know black men should

(36:21):
seek women from overseas, should date women from overseas. And
I'm saying, what good is that if you still wounded internally,
if you're still unhealed, aren't you taking a spiritually transmitted
disease over to the third world? Is that what you're doing.
Talk to me black Ron. First of all, Solomn Zothalomule,

(36:46):
I'll take it.

Speaker 7 (36:52):
Reason to Pochopra.

Speaker 4 (37:00):
Tupac show pres genius, brother, I love it, oh man, man,
what are your thoughts on this show?

Speaker 7 (37:09):
First of all, I need everybody that makes less than
two hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year to dial
it back on your trisure because this is amusing of
a rich trick.

Speaker 4 (37:26):
Keep going.

Speaker 7 (37:29):
See a long time ago tricking God popular round about
nineteen ninety five, All of a sudden catch that lacked
social dexterity, charismatic flare, the ability to woo a woman
with his words, with his saba affair, with his presence,

(37:52):
Jennistik quality.

Speaker 4 (37:53):
Yes, all of it.

Speaker 7 (37:54):
Yes, all of a sudden, those men became usurped by
a lesser class as of men that wanted to spend
to win.

Speaker 4 (38:04):
Yeah, they say win it right now though they I
keep going, brother, I'm listening.

Speaker 7 (38:09):
But that's because that's how group economics works. If you
if you think back in the seventies, the two people
that were seen as archetypes, you know, your iconic archetypes,
were either the reform pimp turned private investigator or the

(38:36):
or the reform drug dealer turned private investigator. These two
niggas the man who was, the men who were the
scourge of society, who then began working with the police.

Speaker 4 (38:49):
Oh wait, wait, Ron, wait, I gotta check you through.
We on terrestrial radio. Brother, this ain't YouTube. You out
here talking like it's just you and me, Kanye, We
on get our cup. You just said that N word.
That's all. It just it just flew It just flew.

Speaker 7 (39:05):
Right past it flew right past me. Itsue right, passion,
ain't no feel time on my lip for the end
words and get me sense to myself.

Speaker 4 (39:13):
Okay, well you're still cooking though, let me get out
your way. Keep going.

Speaker 7 (39:18):
These two black men, who, if you pay attention to today's popularity,
have resurfaced as the only two successful types of black men.
You have to be a a man that uses and
abuses women for your own selfish gain or pleasure, or
be a person that sells and does drugs much to

(39:40):
the dismaying demise of your own community, and then start
working with the police.

Speaker 4 (39:48):
Right, uh huh uh huh. And that's wait, that's an
interesting breakdown. So that's from my age, my age group
that sounds like seventies eighties, right, and now as we
traverse into the twenty twenty fives and beyond, what I'm
looking at now is rapper entertainer athlete that fits that category?

Speaker 7 (40:11):
Your thoughts that same category? What is the difference between
Superfly Shaft P Diddy and Young Thug?

Speaker 4 (40:19):
Oh no, no, no, no, Superfly shaft P Diddy and
Young Thug?

Speaker 7 (40:30):
What shaft shaft?

Speaker 8 (40:32):
Uh?

Speaker 7 (40:33):
Where where a street dude turn police? Right? Young Thug
was a street dude who turned straight? Seventy is correct?

Speaker 4 (40:42):
Yes? Uh huh alegedly we protected back ron over Fly.

Speaker 7 (40:48):
Superfly was a was a pimp and a cocaine dealer
turned police correct?

Speaker 4 (40:53):
Correct?

Speaker 12 (40:54):
Yes?

Speaker 7 (40:56):
Okay? What what was P Diddy doing with the two
c and the freakouts? Who then turns state's evidence? See
when Sheba Baby becomes Meg the Stallion. We have a
problem because what was once fantasy, what was once fiction,

(41:17):
is now being lived out in a very real reality,
and the only people that really feel the fall out
are people who can't even afford to play that way.

Speaker 4 (41:27):
Wait wait, wait, what y'all didn't hear? Was he said
when Sheba Baby? Y'all hear what he said, keep going
rock and.

Speaker 7 (41:35):
I hear you see. See, there was a time when
black people believed that entertainment was not something that you
could wholly invest your future in, much less hold that
person up on a pedestal like they were somebody to
admire or even listen to. It wasn't until Muhammad A.

(41:59):
Lead became the voice for all things black and athletic
that entertainers and artists were even credibly taken and their
words were even made into sound bites. But it was
Malcolm X that said, while we listening in the artists
and entertainers, when we're talking about spirituality, when we're talking

(42:19):
about politics, when we're talking about the socio geopolitical climate
of the world, why are we taking sound bites from
artists and entertainers when there are black people with their
boots on the ground actively in the communities that y'all
won't even take the time to listen to. So now
we have that same thing going on in our society

(42:42):
where we have a lot of people who are really
out here in the communities, really got their boots on
the ground. You got people who are really working against recidivism,
people who are really working against the prison, school to
prison pipeline. People who are really working against the narrative
that black men are dead be dash, people who are
really growing community gardens, people who are really practicing group economics.

(43:04):
We have black owned banks, we got black owned businesses. However,
what's being popularized, what's being propagandized against us, what's the
leading headline across all these social medias, is that it
doesn't exist. Our realities are made fantasy. So now black

(43:25):
people coming together, black people rising above all of us,
holding each other to a better standard accountability. All these
things are made fantasy because the reality is the former fantasy.
Now this is why, this is why it seems like

(43:45):
fifty years after people didn't even date people that were
outside of their ten mile radius, you now feel like
the person for you is on another continent.

Speaker 4 (43:56):
Right. Hey, my engineer had a point, were you though?
He said the consumer has some responsibility. Now, what are
your thoughts on that? Because me, personally, I think the
consumer is conditioned to consume. Come on, go ahead, show.

Speaker 7 (44:12):
It right out my mouth. Come on, show it right
out my mouth. Though consumerism is based off conditioning, Come on,
we drink milk in the nineties because the marketing program
told us that it did a body good, right, we
would ignore. We would ignore the lactose incelerants that our

(44:33):
bodies will feel. We're gonna we're gonna ignore the l
CAC guy acting up badly in our gut. We're gonna
ignore the gas. We're gonna ignore the cramps. We're gonna
ignore the bloating. We're gonna ignore the pistic actne We're
gonna ignore everything that milk does us because the commercials
told us that it do your body good.

Speaker 4 (44:51):
Come on, yeah, oh hey, you're listening to the voice
of reason. O kb l A Talk fifteen eighty. I
just had to put the that little.

Speaker 7 (45:01):
Commercialism is just like Christianity, man Well or any spiritual system.
People are in the market for something, and the wise
economists creates a supply to meet the demand.

Speaker 4 (45:16):
Creates now the supply.

Speaker 7 (45:17):
Now the genius. The genius creates the demand before the
supply exists. So if I tell you that no American
woman is good enough that you need to get your
money up so that you can travel, I just created
a demand for the exotic international woman market.

Speaker 4 (45:43):
Okay, okay, ron I see what you came to do. Now,
let me ask you this, How can two generationally traumatized genders,
black men and black women get on the same path?
Why is it that we become famous overnight by tearing

(46:04):
each other down? What example do we need to create
within ourselves and others in order to heal that breach
between her and I? How do we do it?

Speaker 7 (46:18):
Now? I'm gonna sound like a cynic when I say this.

Speaker 4 (46:20):
Go ahead, brother, until.

Speaker 7 (46:25):
Time machines are built and massive.

Speaker 4 (46:29):
God, No, no time machines.

Speaker 7 (46:33):
I mean, so, can I go back? And okay, I'll
put it to you like this. Let's say I ask
for a woman to have a perfect body. Right, everything
be physically proportioned, waistline be exactly where it's supposed to
be according to her height, and all of her physical

(46:54):
attributes be right where they're supposed to be. No tattoos,
no blemishes, no temples on the blo nothing.

Speaker 4 (47:01):
No pimple.

Speaker 7 (47:04):
But when she was sixteen, she had appendicitis and they
had to remove her appendix. Okay, and it left a
scar there. Now she's no longer sixteen. She's thirty two now,
so twice that amount of time has went by. That scar.

(47:24):
Don't hurt her no more? And the appendix has been gone,
so that can't cause any more pain either. So she's healed,
but she's still scarred.

Speaker 4 (47:36):
Come on, trauma, and no matter.

Speaker 7 (47:38):
How perfect she can make herself, she can't do away
with the scar So we have a group of people,
both male and female, that we've experienced some trauma, and
it may have happened more than half of our lives ago,
and we might have healed from that and built muscle

(47:59):
on top of that and are continuing to live a
healthy lifestyle moving forward. And even though the pain ain't
there no more, the stars still remain. So until we
can build a time machine that can go back and
undo the hurt before the hurt got done, we're gonna

(48:19):
have to deal with the fact that we're dealing with
a bunch of scarred individuals and quit seeking an infallible,
marvelous specimen. We asking for a car fresh off the
showroom floor that will accept us for having a couple
of accidents on our driving records.

Speaker 4 (48:41):
For being a human being flawed right a work in progress.

Speaker 7 (48:45):
You to tell a sleep at the wheel, one time
you jump behind the car drunk. One time somebody stopped
real fast in front of you. One time. Somebody cut
you off one time, and even though only a few
of those things were your fault, weren't your fault, they've
still left your vehicles damaged. Right now, you might not
be in that same vehicle anymore. You might have grown up, upgraded,

(49:07):
your credit got better, your bread got better, and now
you're looking for something newer and fancier to drive around. Right,
But you're still a bad driver right right.

Speaker 4 (49:19):
The pattern is still there. That pattern needs to be
corrected many.

Speaker 7 (49:25):
So you got to go learn how to drive all
over again to really drive that Tesla like how it's
supposed to be driven. Because you used to driving older
Cords with a doto't match the rest of the color jobs.
You used to driving deadly, used certified, pre on rental, bucket, Lemon,

(49:46):
cash car da women you use the dating women with issues,
used to dating women that need you financially, used to
dating women with unresolved trauma and drama. You used to
dating women with toxic You're used to dating women with immaturities.
And when you come across a woman that has all
the things that you check, chances are you don't qualify

(50:09):
for a ride that nice. So what do you do now?
You got to devalue the car. Now, you got to
make it seem like the test of cyber truck is
ugly because you can't afford one.

Speaker 4 (50:23):
Because you can't afford it.

Speaker 7 (50:26):
Now you got to be like, why would I want
a car with all them cameras around it because you
can't afford one? Why would I want a car that
don't take gas because you can't afford one. Why would
I want a car where the whole dashboard is an
iPad because you can't afford one. You have to vilify
that that you can't attain in order to make it
seem like attaining it is something.

Speaker 4 (50:47):
Bad, that's ugly, that's ugly. Hey, a black ron, do
me a favor, man, This is important?

Speaker 7 (50:54):
What's that?

Speaker 4 (50:55):
Where are you? Are you here in Los Angeles?

Speaker 7 (50:58):
Like?

Speaker 4 (50:59):
What's going on? Where are you performing? People?

Speaker 7 (51:01):
Brother? I'm so glad to ask. I'm so glad to ask.
I'm on the road right now, Houston, Texas. This weekend.
We're doing Trade Day, So I'll be performing at the Trade,
a comedy festival this Houston this weekend July the twentieth,
and then in seven days, six days and twenty three
hours from now, I'm gonna be live right there KBLA

(51:26):
Station fifteen eighty. I'm gonna be all off in the
building with all them do willion because I'm coming to La.
I'm coming to La. Brother, I gotta do shows on
the twenty fifth to twenty sixth and the twenty seventh. Well,
I'm actually doing Crack them Up Thursdays at the Comedy Store.
As soon as we get off the air, I'm going
to the Comedy Store, and then Saturday I'll be in

(51:49):
Bellflower performing and then Sunday I'll be at the Last
Factory doing chocolate Sundays. So I'm coming tell next week.

Speaker 4 (52:01):
Yes, sir, brother, I'm gonna be rolling with you. Man.
I'm gonna come through a couple of those spots, and
I appreciate you and you definitely come in here. We
appreciate you cooking it up for us. Tonight. Black bron
just brought Dallas, Texas in the building. If you want
to bring your city in the building, all you got
to do is call me at one eight hundred nine
twenty fifteen eighty. Ladies and gentlemen, My playlist is my

(52:24):
co host, The Voice of Reason is a complete fire. Tonight.
You already know what it is. It's always a fire
up in here. I mean, this guy, Paul Pierce sparked
a conversation about black men, right, have better shot, have

(52:46):
a better chance, better odds overseas, overseas women, Brazilians, Colombians, Asians, Europeans.
Maybe I don't know. Listen, nobody's perfect. It started to

(53:09):
show off saying that nobody's perfect. Right, we still trying
to find hardcore evidence on the only perfect guide that
they talked about, and that was Jesus. I need a
blood sample from the cross, like, we still trying to
find the only were waiting on the only perfect person

(53:31):
to return. Right, everybody Muslims waiting for Jesus too, Muslim
tell you that. So I'm like, if nobody is perfect,
what makes you think a good education and a good
job makes you perfect, makes you above and beyond? Reproach
the humanities teach, that's how you certify a person. You

(53:57):
validate a person through the dominant society. These education portal,
But you have to remember, the dominant society is not
going to tell you the truth about how they extrapolated
every ounce of their power from the other people, right,
the other cultures that they dominated killed, crushed, marginalized. They're

(54:17):
not gonna say that, do you see? So we think
as captured folk, right, we think all I gotta do
is rise up the latter he created. All I have
to do is attain what he defined. When I say he,

(54:38):
I'm talking about this nation, what they define as success,
what they define as happiness. If I have that, I'll
be good. Some of the richest white people you know
are miserable, depressed. It's still dysfunctional. And this ain't a
black a white thing. It's really you have a colonized mind,

(55:03):
and you think, with all the wounds I got from
living here, right, with all the wounds I got from
living here, I can go somewhere else with those same
wounds and be pampered the way I wish my mother
would have done. Relationship is a mirror no matter where

(55:28):
you go, and what's unhealed in you is going to
show up in your relationship, regardless of the language barrier
from a trauma informed lens. The passport bro archetype may
not be a predator, but a protector, a protector of

(55:49):
a fragile masculine identity forged in chronic invalidation. As Patrick
Carnes has shown trauma bonds operate under the illusion of
intimacy while recycling unmet childhood wounds. When those unmet needs
feel irredeemable at home, the fantasy of finding sanctuary abroad

(56:15):
becomes a seductive bypass. Come on man. Yet this migration
does not just cross continents, It traverses timelines. The boy
who felt invisible now seeks adoration, mistaking compliance for compatibility.

(56:37):
The man who equates challenge with disrespect now interprets sovereignty
as rebellion. Your woman is self sovereign too, in her
own dysfunction. When David Diata speaks of masculine presence meeting
feminine radiance, he warns, without embodiment, the masculine becomes an extractor,

(57:02):
not a container.

Speaker 7 (57:06):
Man.

Speaker 4 (57:06):
When I come forward, When I come forward, we got callers.
We're gonna go to Mountain View, Hawaii and then to Oakland.
We got people on the line that want to talk
about this at our spot.

Speaker 5 (57:17):
For people that don't know what are you discussing and
talking about and going through a relationships?

Speaker 13 (57:21):
Relationships because they amass their mess right now?

Speaker 2 (57:25):
Have you seen the things going on?

Speaker 4 (57:28):
What's the biggest thing people want to discuss with relationships.

Speaker 13 (57:32):
Why it doesn't look the way they think it should look.

Speaker 4 (57:37):
Tales.

Speaker 13 (57:38):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, why it doesn't look the way they
think it should look. And also this is huge in relationships,
why they aren't getting what they're giving because we've made
relationships relationships transactional.

Speaker 2 (57:52):
You give me this and I'll do that.

Speaker 13 (57:53):
You do this, you make me feel this.

Speaker 2 (57:55):
That's crazy.

Speaker 13 (57:57):
Also control making somebody prove they love you over and
over and over again. Let me see how bad I
can behave and if you'll stop loving me, let me
say this or do this, And if you don't respond
the way I want you to, that means you don't
love me. It's crazy.

Speaker 4 (58:11):
I don't understand it. There should be individuation passports. I
should look at your passport and see if there's an
individuation stamp on it. Now I know, let me. I'm
just joking, But to get on a plane unhealed, looking

(58:33):
for love is crazy to me. To me, and it
doesn't matter what gender you are, male or female, right
to get on a plane. Yeah, I'm a fine love
over there. Nah, you don't want love, You want a
wound caretaker, You want an inner child nanny that's what

(58:58):
you want. Relationships are not guaranteed to work when you
don't heal. It's just that simple. Healing is part of
the reason relationships exist. Can't look at yourself, can't have

(59:18):
a healthy relationship, can't reconcile inner wounds, can't put the
blame excuse me, no blame, can't claim what is yours?

Speaker 14 (59:31):
Do you see.

Speaker 4 (59:34):
Do you mean claim what is mine?

Speaker 11 (59:36):
Yes?

Speaker 4 (59:37):
A lot of times you're a co creator of the
mess you say you don't want. And how you become
a co creator of the mess you say you don't
want is ignoring the mess that's in you leaking into
the relationship. Come listen, man nine twenty fifteen. We've got
callers online. Let's get him in here right now. John
Mountain View, Hawaii, what are your thoughts on tonight's topic?

Speaker 8 (01:00:00):
Uh?

Speaker 12 (01:00:01):
First off, you're gonna knock it off?

Speaker 7 (01:00:02):
What did I do?

Speaker 4 (01:00:07):
Wait? What did I do?

Speaker 11 (01:00:08):
Bro?

Speaker 7 (01:00:08):
No?

Speaker 12 (01:00:09):
No, no, no, no, just just I love this subject.
It feels like gray Hoodie season, feels like more temperament
needs to be worked on. It feels like it feels
like the process of life that nobody wants to pick
up the plate neat right, Come on, let me put
my dirty chuck Let me put my dirty chucks on

(01:00:29):
the table and get get get out of here real quick. Okay,
First off, ladies and gentlemen in the jury, or better yet,
just ladies, not your turn. Gentlemen step forward too. Apologize
to the pilot for the turbulence you brought on the

(01:00:50):
plane before y'all even got started.

Speaker 4 (01:00:55):
Come on fast, and John.

Speaker 12 (01:00:56):
Come on, no, I mean seriously, if you're talking about
bringing all this junk on this plane and going somewhere
and giving it to somebody else, what purpose was that
it didn't relieve you, nor did it relieve the person
that you gave it to.

Speaker 4 (01:01:12):
He said, Apologize to the pilot for bringing all this
turbulent pilot on the plane carrying turn through.

Speaker 12 (01:01:21):
The steward is because she's dog gonna put up with yopiet.

Speaker 4 (01:01:27):
Yes, sir, Yes, sir.

Speaker 12 (01:01:30):
It is ugly. Yes, life is going to be full
of that. And let's not talk about the scars, because again,
those scars are actually the things that make you unique
and beautiful. If you're talking about su conroy.

Speaker 4 (01:01:43):
Of your soul, right, ken sukaroi, yeah, Kensugi kensu coroi.
You know the art of golden joinery. Fix them those cracks, man,
heal those cracks and make them more beautiful. I love
the reference, brother, keep going.

Speaker 12 (01:02:00):
The simple fact is is this is the work that
needs to be done for you to be that pottery
that somebody will celebrate. But don't be the fool breaking
the plate. M It's not your purpose to break anybody else.
If anything, break your own heart, as has already been said.

(01:02:23):
Get the work done so that when you actually go
to Paradise, you bring.

Speaker 7 (01:02:28):
It with you.

Speaker 4 (01:02:31):
Love that love that love that. Hey, John, you already
know what did you just do? My friend.

Speaker 12 (01:02:39):
Mountain Views in the house. The rangers are hot and
this foggyar is all get out. God bless y'all. You
stay blessed, be safe, stay dangerous.

Speaker 4 (01:02:47):
Yes, sir, Hey, that was John Gilbreath from Mountain View, Hawaii.
We call him passa John. Listen, if you want to
bring your city in the building, now you gotta do
is call me a twenty fifteen eighty. We got another
call on the line straight out of Oakland. You already
know what it is, oak Town town business. You already
know what it is, My brother in the building. What up, sir?

Speaker 12 (01:03:09):
What's so with it. But I'm all right.

Speaker 8 (01:03:11):
I swum a lake and bro, how you doing?

Speaker 4 (01:03:13):
Come on, man, we in here, in here, hey.

Speaker 8 (01:03:18):
Man, you got me all triggered and stuff. Man, I
don't appreciate none of it either, you know what I'm saying. Pastor,
I don't know what's this dude doing. He didn't stay
in his lane talking about stars again, you know what
I'm saying. I just want to say, you know, I'm
sticking up for us, our black men in America. We

(01:03:42):
are some great fathers, Yes we are.

Speaker 2 (01:03:44):
You know.

Speaker 8 (01:03:46):
Statistics say we spend the most time with our children
after divorce, yes, sir, you know, and we know the
plight of just trying to stay in a marriage is hard.
So even when we're in the marriage, we also are
among now the highest percentage of people who spend their
time with their children. So we are definitely good nurturers.

(01:04:09):
We have that in us, you know. So the feminine
energy is strong in us, and let's keep on being
good fathers. I wanted to put that good energy out
there to start things off. You know, the Goldilock age
of cohabitating in marriage. You know you you've probably familiar

(01:04:33):
with that Goldie like age. Is from twenty five to
let's say thirty five. Let's give it a ten years.
They said thirty two, but let's give it thirty thirty five.
This is the Goldilock era age where you're supposed to
be cohabitating, supposed to be married. As far as statistic,
this is all statistics. It's not where your levels of spirituality,

(01:04:54):
how big your wound is, and did you go to
therapy first. The reason why they say that is because
you create more senses of the trauma bonding as you
get more and more partners, you have less of ability
for attachment and a serious, committed relationship of as you

(01:05:16):
go on and on. And the reason why I say
that because we know Paul Pierce, and I don't want
to name names. Let's just say this. You don't get
advice from dead hearts on how to find love. You're
you're at a certain age where you really ain't really
bonded with no one successfully but yourself, and probably not

(01:05:39):
even yourself. So it's very important for us to start
knowing where we're getting this advice from, because we can
get advice from bitter uncles and aunties and we'll run
with it. You know what, I'm saying. And so for
the youth who are in that twenty five to thirty
five Goldilock era as they call it, you know, make

(01:06:01):
sure you get the best advice because Thoe is here
to try to raise up another generation and teach them
how to love and teach them, you know, how how
to heal quicker than some of us knuckleheads who took
twenty and thirty years to find ourselves in our wounds.
And you're gonna waste a lot of people time. So
if you're a young person that in you hearing this

(01:06:22):
this message, this is for you. We're trying to get,
you know, twenty five to thirty five of our youth
to be married and so we can. We got a
whole lot of blame and a whole lot of trauma
and forties and fifties that we can we can go
on forever. That's why we got a solimoquy of people
that got to make this thing short and sequenced, like myself,

(01:06:42):
So twenty and thirty five, twenty five to thirty five, man,
just just learn how to love, Learn how to love yourself.
Get to the point of not playing around, not just
satisfying your urges, don't believe in all this girl going
wild and college lifestyle. Is y'all playing man. Listen here, man,
you know it's serious business out here, you know, serious

(01:07:04):
on your career and serious on who you're going to
to make a family with. And so I hope some
of this information reaches those those youth out there. And
like Frederick Douglas said, you know, I'm not into repairing
he's broken.

Speaker 12 (01:07:20):
Adults.

Speaker 8 (01:07:20):
I'm into building the new generation. And it's a lot
of and I take my hats off to you because
I won't talk to older people about love because it
ain't it ain't in them anymore. It's all transaction, you know.
And so I only speak to people who are twenty
two when younger sometimes about serious things, because when you
go after forty two, you're not even serious anymore, you

(01:07:44):
know less, unless you're in the business of being serious.
And that's all I had to say.

Speaker 4 (01:07:48):
Well, brother, I'm glad you gave me a compliment. While
at the same time telling people I'm old, I break.

Speaker 7 (01:07:57):
Man, you look like.

Speaker 12 (01:07:58):
You two.

Speaker 15 (01:08:02):
May no you no, you're actually you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (01:08:07):
One of those one of those souls are or who's
ageless and we can appreciate that. Hey, you know what
I'm saying because you're teaching us.

Speaker 7 (01:08:15):
Bro.

Speaker 4 (01:08:16):
Hey man, it ain't none but love. You already know
what it is.

Speaker 8 (01:08:18):
But guess what you just did, hommy man, you know
what it is, main town business man.

Speaker 12 (01:08:24):
I appreciate you.

Speaker 4 (01:08:25):
Day, Yes, sir, Hey, if you want to bring your
city in the building. Now you got to do is
call me fifteen eighty one, I come forward. You know,
zo gonna land the plane. Let's get it. Ladies and gentlemen,
you're listening to the smooth sounds of so Williams. The
voice of reason, it's my Donnamci voice. I'm out here

(01:08:48):
wild and then I miss younder dig I might have
a flight. Give me a little beautiful Argentinian, even a Colombian.
What about a little Indian? Love little Asian? Hey, put

(01:09:08):
that skin tight on. The voice of Reason is in
the building. Baby girl. She didn't love me at home,
but they love it when I own. Come on, skin tight.
The voice of Reason is on fire tonight. Man, we
act in a fool. All my people been calling in
the phone lines. Or Jack, let's get it quickly. We

(01:09:30):
got nelton If I get that correct, Nelton from Houston, Texas.
What are your thoughts on tonight's topic. Brother, you gotta
make it brief because we up against the clock.

Speaker 7 (01:09:39):
Talk to me, well, what's up, big bro?

Speaker 14 (01:09:41):
So long time listener, first time calling it in.

Speaker 4 (01:09:47):
It's all good, no cussing, first time caller.

Speaker 15 (01:09:49):
Go ahead, I got you, I got you.

Speaker 14 (01:09:51):
I've been watching. So to the point what y'all have
been talking about? Right as they say, wherever you go,
there you are, So to be quick, I didn't know
how I hurt. I was from my first marriage until
I got remarried and my wife now she put the
mirror in front of me and I'm I'm passive aggressive
by by nature, right, but she kept just showing me like, Nope,

(01:10:15):
your ex she's a break crumbing you. I need you
to handle that. You know, I'm saying with my kids
and everything. That's why I'm going through with my kids.
So it's just so crazy that you know, when you
when you don't recognize and you're not healed. If the
winner you're going in the world, you're gonna go through
the same stuff with this, you know, exotic women or
everybody what you want to call her, you know. So

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so she showed me that I rather hurt now than
hurt later because I really go through what I'm going
through now with and I seeing my kids and going
through the proper route, then get bread crumbed and then
go through the agony and pain. You know what I'm saying,
because I'm healing right now, bro, even though not with
my kids right now, I'm healing right now because she's
showing me that there's a better way.

Speaker 4 (01:10:58):
Come on, man, God, as I don't want to get
it off my chest. Man, bless to Nelton. Ain't Nelton Man.
You gotta see at the table. You know what you
just earned a praise break. Give it up to Nelton Man.

Speaker 7 (01:11:16):
I appreciated.

Speaker 4 (01:11:17):
Man. Yes, brother Nelton, guess what you just did? My friend?
The building h town is in the building. Let's bounce
over to Arkansas. Let's get it. Davy Lee, what are
your thoughts on tonight's topic?

Speaker 12 (01:11:38):
Brother man?

Speaker 15 (01:11:39):
This has been very impactful. Shout out to Big you said,
Big Black ride.

Speaker 1 (01:11:44):
You hear me?

Speaker 12 (01:11:44):
That was awesome.

Speaker 15 (01:11:45):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 12 (01:11:46):
Y'all did that there?

Speaker 15 (01:11:47):
Yes, yes, sir, I said, everybody, especially Nelton Man, because
I gotta, I gotta, I got a brother who going through.

Speaker 12 (01:11:54):
The same thing.

Speaker 15 (01:11:55):
He's trying to get itself together, going through life without
the children. I ain't got kids. When I see yet,
it makes me crist I can only imagine how y'all feel.
So it is what it is, man, But what I
can say, you go ahead, hold on one second. A
lot of folks when they come to sexism, classes or racism,
all that they got a problem with smelling their drawers. Man,

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you know, selling your drawers. That's what my mom used
to tell me.

Speaker 7 (01:12:20):
So she used to get on me.

Speaker 12 (01:12:22):
And the reason why you smell your.

Speaker 15 (01:12:23):
Drugs because you ain't do that laundry.

Speaker 7 (01:12:25):
We gotta do your launchry.

Speaker 12 (01:12:26):
Bro, we're larning through your longy was it?

Speaker 7 (01:12:29):
They didn't come out here and.

Speaker 12 (01:12:29):
Try to live how you supposed to?

Speaker 5 (01:12:31):
Hear me?

Speaker 15 (01:12:32):
Come on, that's all I gotta say.

Speaker 4 (01:12:33):
Man, Hey, man, guess what you just did. Brother?

Speaker 7 (01:12:37):
I brought out some sticks.

Speaker 4 (01:12:38):
We down in the sticks with the homie Davy lead.
You know what it is. If you want to bring
your city in the building, all you got to do
is call me one nine twenty fifteen eighty. We appreciate
our brother, Davy Lee. Thank you for the call. My
brother you well, brother, thank you, Yes, sir, Hey so again, Man,
I'm a Paul Pierce fan because I'm an NBA fan,

(01:13:02):
I'm a basketball fan. I'm a Laker fan first, a
Kobe fan second. But here's the thing, man, Like guys
have gotten so skillful in this podcast, radio, YouTube space.
They know exactly what to say to get people tripping.

(01:13:22):
And this is one of those things. Oh you know,
Lee's sisters alone and listen, sisters have hurt me. I
have hurt sisters. I'm not perfect, never been perfect. I
done failed good women, I've failed bad women. Good women
have failed me, and bad women have failed me. It's

(01:13:44):
all been a work in progress. I've been trying to
heal this whole damn time. The show is not only
cathartic for some of you, but it's definitely cathartic for
me on a nightly basis. It causes me to to
constantly investigate myself and my shortcomings. But let me tell

(01:14:06):
you something, Man, the more I delve into the spirit
work of relationships, I realize it ain't on nobody to
heal me but me. And it's beautiful that Nelton got
a wife that, like I said, God blessed that brother.
It's beautiful that his wife is there to support him
through the most difficult time of his life. But the

(01:14:30):
reality of it is, and he'll tell you too, the
work that must be done is his alone. She can't
heal him. She can walk with him as he's healing.
She can encourage him as he's healing, And that's what
relationship is about. There're gonna be nights where, you know,
my work and my healing is tough, and you know what,

(01:14:54):
it's all good to have a good woman by your
side when her night is a little lighter.

Speaker 2 (01:15:00):
You know what.

Speaker 4 (01:15:00):
Damn you know, I'm feeling pretty good right now. He
ain't let me go help him. And then they're gonna
be nights where she gonna be in her fields and
she's gonna be in her wounds, and I'm gonna have
to walk with her. But that's how it works. And
guess what, on those nights where we both deep in it,
sometimes we just gotta sit still and be at peace

(01:15:23):
and accept the moment as it is, without criticism, without judgment.
These are spiritual practices that we used to know, but
the moment our minds got colonized by consumerism. Materialism and
our definition was given to us by our captor. We
lost that spiritual movement within ourselves. I'm just here to

(01:15:47):
start the conversation. It's up to you to finish it.
I'm the VR. We had a wonderful week this week.
I'll see you next week with another slew of slap heers, deuces,