September 13, 2024 • 7 mins
We go over ways that you might be getting manipulated without even realizing.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
You know what, we've become such creatures of habit, not
only the way we brush our teeth and the way
we put on our clothes every morning. And we also
become creatures of habit in the way we perceive things
and think of things. For instance, if you see a
fire or smell of fire, you automatically think, well, it's
this is that, And you think the same thing every
(00:26):
time you drive the same way to work every day.
But Ghani and I, of course were members of we're
members of Medium. This incredible subscription you get. By the way,
they're not sponsors of ours. We pay for it, We
pay full for us. Yeah, they send you incredible short
stories and I don't know how would you describe it.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I mean, there are all kinds of categories and people
can contribute to each category, you know, whether it's an
article or a list or science. And they're constantly updating it,
and I just I don't know, I really like it.
It's really digestible nuggets of news exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
They tell you. The following is a three minute read.
As a matter of fact, This one from Alberto Garcia
three minute read. It's entitled three quick quotes from Louise Hay.
We'll have to dig in and see who she is
that will instantly rewire your brain. Are you curious? Yes,
they're gone to say some phrases can heal the wounds
(01:22):
of the soul. I've searched for these phrases and self
help and spirituality books for the last seven years. These
three from Louise Hay are the ones that have done
me the most good. Number one about your subconscious. Don't
make jokes or derogatory remarks about yourself, as they will
not create good experiences for you. Don't do it about
others either. The subconscious does not distinguish between you and others.
(01:46):
You do know that, right, I.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
That's a tough one.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I feel like we all make fun of ourselves all
the time.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yep, so it's tough.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You know, you don't want to take yourself too seriously.
But at the same time, I totally get how making
fun of other people are talking badly other people would
rewire your brain to just be negative about everything exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
So if you're overly critical about yourself or other overly
critical about other people, that stuff registers in your subconscious yep, mind,
and it doesn't know the difference between what's real and
what's not. They go on to say, being too critical
of others made people reject me, closed doors for me,
and my subconscious could reaffirm that I'm not enough. Narrative.
That narrative was bigger than ever. All right, let me
(02:27):
give another one totally about manipulators. Does anyone here have
a manipulator in their lives? Anyone?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
I think so?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Why you were looking at me? I didn't do anything.
She goes on to say, many times others send us
negative messages because that's the easiest way to manipulate us.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
This is true, yes, yeah, But isn't that like in
a lot of relationships, like abusive relationships, even mentally abusive,
that's what they do. They mentally, they get in your
head and they tell you you're not good enough without me,
or you're not good enough in general, and then that's yeah,
it's manipulation absolutely, Or.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Also just saying, you know, making fun of you and
bullying you because you bought something a shirt that they
don't like. Oh god, you're gonnaware of that, you know, Really,
that's manipulating. The romantic partners, they say, who are constantly
criticized criticizing me, were not criticizing me because I was
as bad as they wanted me to think. They were
making me believe I was not up to their standards
(03:24):
to keep me as long as possible. The boss my
bosses told me that I was doing badly when I
was the best seller in the law firm, to squeeze
as much out of me as possible. My father constantly
criticized me for everything I did, so I would seek
his approval. Oh yeah, how familiar is this seeking our parents' approval?
So I would seek his approval and make up for
(03:47):
lost time after years of neglect. The lesson is we've
been educated in guilt, and guilt works as a repressor
of our will. If someone's constantly criticizing you, ask yourself
why they're doing it. It's not that you're bad, but
it's because that person has hidden agendas that you don't
know about.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Without a doubt, I think criticizing people and being really
mean and you know, saying all those hateful things, it's
the easiest way to keep somebody in a box. But
as soon as you get out of a box, that's
when you can fly.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Very true and very will put a very nice visual there.
If your childhood this is the last one. If in
your childhood you felt a lot of fear and anguish
and now you sort of sort of mentally punish yourself,
you continue to treat your inner child the same way.
They say that children can become very cruel. And we
know that this person grew up in the eighties and
kids were diabolical as they were when I was. They
(04:40):
are and a lot of times teachers look the other
way because they didn't want to have to deal.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
With it, which is not good.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I was bullied myself. My inner child was bullied as well.
So when you feel hurt, you bully that kid that's
still in you. She says, My inner child needed two things.
Number one to know that I love it and to
trust the adult I've become. So, whether you start a
self destructive habit, visualize your inner child. So that's it.
(05:10):
If you're doing something in your life now that's a
habit that's bad for you. It could be drinking, smoking, drugs, whatever,
or not taking care of yourself physically or emotionally. Whenever
you start this self destructive habit, visualize your inner child
and look at it as if you were its parent
and act accordingly. This little exercise can seriously change your
(05:32):
life completely. It's like a little virtual hug you. Does
that make sense what I just said?
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Yes? Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
If you're doing something that's bad, it may be because
you need a quick fix. You may be sad. But
if you do this or that, it'll make you happy,
like eating an entire pizza whatever. Well that what would
you as a parent of your inner child is a
parent of yourself? What would you say, Hey, yeah, you
don't want to do that, and here's why, even though
(05:58):
it tastes good, you shouldn't do it. I don't know.
I think this is pretty strong. I don't know if
I gave it to you in as strong as manner
as it needed. I don't know any thoughts about any
of this.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I love that kind of stuff. I don't know. I
just like to think about what am I doing and
why am I doing it this way? It is interesting
what you just said about picture your inner child doing it.
It is really weird to think about a little me,
the child version of me, like taking a shot of whiskey.
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Yeah, what are you doing? Child? Yeah? What are you
doing here? Why are you doing it? That's another thing,
like if you're out with friends and like, come on,
let's drink, let's get really messed up. Well, okay, but
why am I doing it?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
It'll be interesting to see what each person would say,
because obviously it would be totally different for everyone exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
So sometimes you need to be your own parent, which
is something I'd never really thought about until I read this.
And I want to know more about Louise Hey.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
She was a motivational speaker and an author. She liked
to encourage people to enjoy joy and find joy, positive affirmations,
and feel good about themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And if you want to know more about a lot
of these essays and short stories you can read. It's Medium.
It's the name of the organization. You can join and
they will send you stories and essays that are curated
to the things that you are interested in. Right, is
that what we did? We filled out a little survey
at the beginning.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, it asks you what are your top you know,
like ten interests, and you can pick science or relationships
or sex or medicine, whatever it is. There's all kinds
of stuff in there.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So it's Medium. Go do a search again. There are
not sponsors of ours. We did it. We signed up
for you because we like it. It's it, really if
you have time to do a medium read at least
one a day, three minutes a day, something like that. Wow,
pretty powerful stuff
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
You know what, we've become such creatures of habit, not
only the way we brush our teeth and the way
we put on our clothes every morning. And we also
become creatures of habit in the way we perceive things
and think of things. For instance, if you see a
fire or smell of fire, you automatically think, well, it's
this is that, And you think the same thing every
(00:26):
time you drive the same way to work every day.
But Ghani and I, of course were members of we're
members of Medium. This incredible subscription you get. By the way,
they're not sponsors of ours. We pay for it, We
pay full for us. Yeah, they send you incredible short
stories and I don't know how would you describe it.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I mean, there are all kinds of categories and people
can contribute to each category, you know, whether it's an
article or a list or science. And they're constantly updating it,
and I just I don't know, I really like it.
It's really digestible nuggets of news exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
They tell you. The following is a three minute read.
As a matter of fact, This one from Alberto Garcia
three minute read. It's entitled three quick quotes from Louise Hay.
We'll have to dig in and see who she is
that will instantly rewire your brain. Are you curious? Yes,
they're gone to say some phrases can heal the wounds
(01:22):
of the soul. I've searched for these phrases and self
help and spirituality books for the last seven years. These
three from Louise Hay are the ones that have done
me the most good. Number one about your subconscious. Don't
make jokes or derogatory remarks about yourself, as they will
not create good experiences for you. Don't do it about
others either. The subconscious does not distinguish between you and others.
(01:46):
You do know that, right, I.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
That's a tough one.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I feel like we all make fun of ourselves all
the time.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yep, so it's tough.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You know, you don't want to take yourself too seriously.
But at the same time, I totally get how making
fun of other people are talking badly other people would
rewire your brain to just be negative about everything exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
So if you're overly critical about yourself or other overly
critical about other people, that stuff registers in your subconscious yep, mind,
and it doesn't know the difference between what's real and
what's not. They go on to say, being too critical
of others made people reject me, closed doors for me,
and my subconscious could reaffirm that I'm not enough. Narrative.
That narrative was bigger than ever. All right, let me
(02:27):
give another one totally about manipulators. Does anyone here have
a manipulator in their lives? Anyone?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
I think so?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Why you were looking at me? I didn't do anything.
She goes on to say, many times others send us
negative messages because that's the easiest way to manipulate us.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
This is true, yes, yeah, But isn't that like in
a lot of relationships, like abusive relationships, even mentally abusive,
that's what they do. They mentally, they get in your
head and they tell you you're not good enough without me,
or you're not good enough in general, and then that's yeah,
it's manipulation absolutely, Or.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Also just saying, you know, making fun of you and
bullying you because you bought something a shirt that they
don't like. Oh god, you're gonnaware of that, you know, Really,
that's manipulating. The romantic partners, they say, who are constantly
criticized criticizing me, were not criticizing me because I was
as bad as they wanted me to think. They were
making me believe I was not up to their standards
(03:24):
to keep me as long as possible. The boss my
bosses told me that I was doing badly when I
was the best seller in the law firm, to squeeze
as much out of me as possible. My father constantly
criticized me for everything I did, so I would seek
his approval. Oh yeah, how familiar is this seeking our parents' approval?
So I would seek his approval and make up for
(03:47):
lost time after years of neglect. The lesson is we've
been educated in guilt, and guilt works as a repressor
of our will. If someone's constantly criticizing you, ask yourself
why they're doing it. It's not that you're bad, but
it's because that person has hidden agendas that you don't
know about.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Without a doubt, I think criticizing people and being really
mean and you know, saying all those hateful things, it's
the easiest way to keep somebody in a box. But
as soon as you get out of a box, that's
when you can fly.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Very true and very will put a very nice visual there.
If your childhood this is the last one. If in
your childhood you felt a lot of fear and anguish
and now you sort of sort of mentally punish yourself,
you continue to treat your inner child the same way.
They say that children can become very cruel. And we
know that this person grew up in the eighties and
kids were diabolical as they were when I was. They
(04:40):
are and a lot of times teachers look the other
way because they didn't want to have to deal.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
With it, which is not good.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I was bullied myself. My inner child was bullied as well.
So when you feel hurt, you bully that kid that's
still in you. She says, My inner child needed two things.
Number one to know that I love it and to
trust the adult I've become. So, whether you start a
self destructive habit, visualize your inner child. So that's it.
(05:10):
If you're doing something in your life now that's a
habit that's bad for you. It could be drinking, smoking, drugs, whatever,
or not taking care of yourself physically or emotionally. Whenever
you start this self destructive habit, visualize your inner child
and look at it as if you were its parent
and act accordingly. This little exercise can seriously change your
(05:32):
life completely. It's like a little virtual hug you. Does
that make sense what I just said?
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Yes? Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
If you're doing something that's bad, it may be because
you need a quick fix. You may be sad. But
if you do this or that, it'll make you happy,
like eating an entire pizza whatever. Well that what would
you as a parent of your inner child is a
parent of yourself? What would you say, Hey, yeah, you
don't want to do that, and here's why, even though
(05:58):
it tastes good, you shouldn't do it. I don't know.
I think this is pretty strong. I don't know if
I gave it to you in as strong as manner
as it needed. I don't know any thoughts about any
of this.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I love that kind of stuff. I don't know. I
just like to think about what am I doing and
why am I doing it this way? It is interesting
what you just said about picture your inner child doing it.
It is really weird to think about a little me,
the child version of me, like taking a shot of whiskey.
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Yeah, what are you doing? Child? Yeah? What are you
doing here? Why are you doing it? That's another thing,
like if you're out with friends and like, come on,
let's drink, let's get really messed up. Well, okay, but
why am I doing it?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
It'll be interesting to see what each person would say,
because obviously it would be totally different for everyone exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
So sometimes you need to be your own parent, which
is something I'd never really thought about until I read this.
And I want to know more about Louise Hey.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
She was a motivational speaker and an author. She liked
to encourage people to enjoy joy and find joy, positive affirmations,
and feel good about themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And if you want to know more about a lot
of these essays and short stories you can read. It's Medium.
It's the name of the organization. You can join and
they will send you stories and essays that are curated
to the things that you are interested in. Right, is
that what we did? We filled out a little survey
at the beginning.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, it asks you what are your top you know,
like ten interests, and you can pick science or relationships
or sex or medicine, whatever it is. There's all kinds
of stuff in there.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So it's Medium. Go do a search again. There are
not sponsors of ours. We did it. We signed up
for you because we like it. It's it, really if
you have time to do a medium read at least
one a day, three minutes a day, something like that. Wow,
pretty powerful stuff
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