November 20, 2024 • 8 mins
As Thanksgiving creeps around the corner, we speak to Deanna and a caller about their hesitance in seeing family this holiday...
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yeah, I had dinner with some friends last night. Another
friend joined us at the table for a little while.
We're talking about Thanksgiving. What are you doing for Thanksgiving?
Where are you going? What are you doing? And he
has this look in his face where his all of
his joy in life just melted off his face like
a melting candle when I brought up Thanksgiving, because he's like,
I'm having it with my family. What's wrong with that?
(00:27):
He said, it's just always always drama. And I said, well,
you're I'm thinking, actually, you're not alone. Some people I
have to get together with him. They are my relatives,
and I have to sit there and take it and
be okay. I mean I would, I guess I'm I'm
very lucky. I never grew up with that in my life,
(00:48):
and I refuse to have a Thanksgiving with anyone. I
don't want to have any Thanksgiving with Yeah, sometimes you
don't have that choice, right, Yeah, right of holiday fights
at the table, politics will be number one this year,
I'm assuming. Yeah, family dynamics, past grievances, can't get over it, right,
past grievances, past grievances. That would be another another fight
(01:11):
that we passed at the table. Relationships and finances.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Yeah, finances, Yeah, don't use phrase monstrous exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Don't use phrases like that wife of yours is why
you don't have any money. Don't use that at the
Thanksgiving table.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
What if they bring them one like you can't stand
like you're like, why are you still one of that person?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Yeah? I don't know. This is why. It's like Thanksgiving
should be a joyous, wonderful thing, but so many people
maybe not maybe not you, but so many people do
dread it.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
It's funny because it's supposed to be about all your
blessings and like thanking, you know, being thankful. People want
to just throw meshed potatoes at each other, pie comes flying.
I actually have a handful of friends who are doing
Thanksgiving by themselves this year because they don't.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Want to fight with family members.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Okay, yeah, I want to get along.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Hey, if you know it's the possibility, you know, don't
go down that road. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I have a theory. I'm sick for the last few days,
so I was alone that entire time. My theory is this,
I think the reason people are dreading Thanksgiving is because
you are being forced to be with other people.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, but they were.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Spending so much time alone, right, It's like I don't
want to leave my little comfort zone, which really isn't
that comfortable because you're lonely. But then you're in this
situation where you have these other people and their different opinions,
and boy, you just.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Don't even want to go there with some of those people.
Another dynamic is families. You know, you have in laws,
but you have a couple they're married. Yeah, okay, do
we go to my parents or do we go to
your parents?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yep?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Sometimes they have to do both and they end up
eating twice day.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
And you were at my mom's house longer than you
were at my house, like with my family, like you know, right,
but I never had that album because you know, my
mother in law and everybody they live in England or
in France, you know. So it's like and that's a
way to do it unless we went there to visit
like a couple of days after the holidays, and we
never fought over that stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And Thanksgiving over there is christmasys, I know, but one
day your sons will be married. Then the decision will
have to be made and you're gonna win that, are you.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
I'm just I would like equal time, that's all.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
We don't usually have big fights, but I hate having
to explain myself to extended family. So it'll be like, oh,
how long have you guys been dating ones? Are you
gonna put a ring on it? Like it's something that
I'm longing for and begging for and it just hasn't happened.
I'm like, this is so weird. Don't you want kids?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You should do that?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Oh god, no, yeah. I remember on Thanksgiving where they
wanted to know why I had a hole in my
ear lobe. Okay, okay, did you get it piercing? Yes? Mother?
Oh dag god, look and those other thingsgivings on. So
(04:01):
I want to bring a girlfriend to Thanksgiving?
Speaker 4 (04:06):
What'd you say to that?
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I'm sure I can find someone inquired that would love
to come.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I love it. Have you seen like the Thanksgiving packages
that people are selling online where it's like, for two
hundred and fifty dollars, I get one plate of food
and I'll be nice to you and kiss you in
front of your family. For five hundred dollars, I get
two plates of food and I will compliment you and
talk about our future together.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Wow, my rent to gay, my rent to gay idea.
You know people are doing it.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Yeah, I find a nice, good looking gay guy, say
it's your boyfriend, it's your beard, rent a gay. I
don't know what's up, scary, you know.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Even though our entire family all disagrees politically that none
of that at all pals in comparison to what the
what the holiday is about for us now, and that
is togetherness, especially since I lost my mom last year.
So you know, Thanksgiving and holidays have become more important
as I've grown older to spend more time with these people.
(05:03):
So yes, people put out, we put out differences aside,
we don't talk about that stuff. And yeah, we're happy to.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Be there and you should and that's good, you know.
And I'm sure you were somewhat happy even before your
mother passed away.
Speaker 6 (05:15):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Wait, I love bringing that up to the table, the like.
You know, if Dad was here, you know what he
would say to this. And I dropped the bomb and
walk away.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
There you go, Hello, Stephanie. Hi, So you're planning on
turning your Thanksgiving with your family into something really fun
and festive. Right, yes, I am.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I am going to announce my third pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
But they should be happy about that now.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, they'll be very happy.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
It's so I want to announce it on Thanksgiving just because.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
It's just like scary just said, at the time of togetherness,
and I don't think we should stress about politics or
anything like that.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
We should have some fun, happy, joyful moments.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I know you should. But even after you make the
big announcement and then they go into the political fight,
well what about my baby?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
What are you doing?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah? It so just you know what, that's great reasons
to celebrate right at the table you're bringing them a
third Congratulations to you, Stephanie. Thanks for teask before you
to am I the only.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
One that dresses up like as a turkey?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Hold? Thank you very much, Stepanie.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You want I have a turkey onesie that I wear
every Thanksgiving to Thanksgiving because it's cute and it's comfortable
and then I don't have to like get dressed, so
I show up dress like every Thanksgiving, I'm a turkey.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
That's kind of dark.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Danielle, you dress up as the thing you're gonna eat?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Well, yeah, well you know, I don't really love turkey,
so that's okay, but I do. Yeah, And my mom
used to have like a q little Pilgrim outfit back
in the day, and she used to she used to
wear that to Thanksgiving when she was cooking in the kitchen.
Speaker 6 (06:54):
It was so cute.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
We like to dress up in my family.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
But it's got a vision, so dress up as a
turkey fighting about the presidential election? Interesting text coming through
my mother in law makes me watch to slap her
with a turkey leg?
Speaker 1 (07:13):
What what makes me want?
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Yeah? Yeah, am I reading that right? Yeah, it makes
me want to slaper with the turkey leve. You shouldn't
have food fights. This is all good stuff.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
No, don't waste of food.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Come on, if we celebrated spanksgiving, that would be more fun.
We just someone pisses you off, spank a living hell
out of their hand. Yeah, look at these people texting in.
I don't want to go. I don't want to be
a part of this at all. Then why are you
doing it? People? Our families don't get along. Therefore we
(07:43):
have to do two Thanksgiving. That's think two Thanksgivings. That's
not unusual at all. Deanna, what's up.
Speaker 6 (07:49):
Hey, So this is my first holiday season engaged, and
my fiancee and I both are children of divorce, so
we already had trouble trying to split the time between
two families, and now we've just split the time between
four families.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
So much are they at least in like, you know,
close distance to each other?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Oh? Damn?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
What's wrong with you saying? You know, we can't do everyone?
I love you all, but here's what we have to do.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
Yeah, we're gonna have to do that because.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Day after, like the you know, the day after, do
a couple of things.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, go on the next thing and get all the
extra food.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah that's true. I know even though you love him,
let him go his way, you go yours and you
just say we're not we're not married yet. True, but
then what do we do we get married? Well, then
you figure it out, all right? Well, I guess the
overlying theme over the overarching theme here is God, bless
you all the best at Thanksgiving, and I'm gonna have
(08:37):
a good one. They got him hanging out with people
I like, Yeah, and I love so God than it
could be the other way around.
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yeah, I had dinner with some friends last night. Another
friend joined us at the table for a little while.
We're talking about Thanksgiving. What are you doing for Thanksgiving?
Where are you going? What are you doing? And he
has this look in his face where his all of
his joy in life just melted off his face like
a melting candle when I brought up Thanksgiving, because he's like,
I'm having it with my family. What's wrong with that?
(00:27):
He said, it's just always always drama. And I said, well,
you're I'm thinking, actually, you're not alone. Some people I
have to get together with him. They are my relatives,
and I have to sit there and take it and
be okay. I mean I would, I guess I'm I'm
very lucky. I never grew up with that in my life,
(00:48):
and I refuse to have a Thanksgiving with anyone. I
don't want to have any Thanksgiving with Yeah, sometimes you
don't have that choice, right, Yeah, right of holiday fights
at the table, politics will be number one this year,
I'm assuming. Yeah, family dynamics, past grievances, can't get over it, right,
past grievances, past grievances. That would be another another fight
(01:11):
that we passed at the table. Relationships and finances.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Yeah, finances, Yeah, don't use phrase monstrous exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Don't use phrases like that wife of yours is why
you don't have any money. Don't use that at the
Thanksgiving table.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
What if they bring them one like you can't stand
like you're like, why are you still one of that person?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Yeah? I don't know. This is why. It's like Thanksgiving
should be a joyous, wonderful thing, but so many people
maybe not maybe not you, but so many people do
dread it.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
It's funny because it's supposed to be about all your
blessings and like thanking, you know, being thankful. People want
to just throw meshed potatoes at each other, pie comes flying.
I actually have a handful of friends who are doing
Thanksgiving by themselves this year because they don't.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Want to fight with family members.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Okay, yeah, I want to get along.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Hey, if you know it's the possibility, you know, don't
go down that road. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I have a theory. I'm sick for the last few days,
so I was alone that entire time. My theory is this,
I think the reason people are dreading Thanksgiving is because
you are being forced to be with other people.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, but they were.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Spending so much time alone, right, It's like I don't
want to leave my little comfort zone, which really isn't
that comfortable because you're lonely. But then you're in this
situation where you have these other people and their different opinions,
and boy, you just.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Don't even want to go there with some of those people.
Another dynamic is families. You know, you have in laws,
but you have a couple they're married. Yeah, okay, do
we go to my parents or do we go to
your parents?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yep?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Sometimes they have to do both and they end up
eating twice day.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
And you were at my mom's house longer than you
were at my house, like with my family, like you know, right,
but I never had that album because you know, my
mother in law and everybody they live in England or
in France, you know. So it's like and that's a
way to do it unless we went there to visit
like a couple of days after the holidays, and we
never fought over that stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And Thanksgiving over there is christmasys, I know, but one
day your sons will be married. Then the decision will
have to be made and you're gonna win that, are you.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
I'm just I would like equal time, that's all.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
We don't usually have big fights, but I hate having
to explain myself to extended family. So it'll be like, oh,
how long have you guys been dating ones? Are you
gonna put a ring on it? Like it's something that
I'm longing for and begging for and it just hasn't happened.
I'm like, this is so weird. Don't you want kids?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You should do that?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Oh god, no, yeah. I remember on Thanksgiving where they
wanted to know why I had a hole in my
ear lobe. Okay, okay, did you get it piercing? Yes? Mother?
Oh dag god, look and those other thingsgivings on. So
(04:01):
I want to bring a girlfriend to Thanksgiving?
Speaker 4 (04:06):
What'd you say to that?
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I'm sure I can find someone inquired that would love
to come.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I love it. Have you seen like the Thanksgiving packages
that people are selling online where it's like, for two
hundred and fifty dollars, I get one plate of food
and I'll be nice to you and kiss you in
front of your family. For five hundred dollars, I get
two plates of food and I will compliment you and
talk about our future together.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Wow, my rent to gay, my rent to gay idea.
You know people are doing it.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Yeah, I find a nice, good looking gay guy, say
it's your boyfriend, it's your beard, rent a gay. I
don't know what's up, scary, you know.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Even though our entire family all disagrees politically that none
of that at all pals in comparison to what the
what the holiday is about for us now, and that
is togetherness, especially since I lost my mom last year.
So you know, Thanksgiving and holidays have become more important
as I've grown older to spend more time with these people.
(05:03):
So yes, people put out, we put out differences aside,
we don't talk about that stuff. And yeah, we're happy to.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Be there and you should and that's good, you know.
And I'm sure you were somewhat happy even before your
mother passed away.
Speaker 6 (05:15):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Wait, I love bringing that up to the table, the like.
You know, if Dad was here, you know what he
would say to this. And I dropped the bomb and
walk away.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
There you go, Hello, Stephanie. Hi, So you're planning on
turning your Thanksgiving with your family into something really fun
and festive. Right, yes, I am.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I am going to announce my third pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
But they should be happy about that now.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, they'll be very happy.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
It's so I want to announce it on Thanksgiving just because.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
It's just like scary just said, at the time of togetherness,
and I don't think we should stress about politics or
anything like that.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
We should have some fun, happy, joyful moments.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I know you should. But even after you make the
big announcement and then they go into the political fight,
well what about my baby?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
What are you doing?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah? It so just you know what, that's great reasons
to celebrate right at the table you're bringing them a
third Congratulations to you, Stephanie. Thanks for teask before you
to am I the only.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
One that dresses up like as a turkey?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Hold? Thank you very much, Stepanie.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You want I have a turkey onesie that I wear
every Thanksgiving to Thanksgiving because it's cute and it's comfortable
and then I don't have to like get dressed, so
I show up dress like every Thanksgiving, I'm a turkey.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
That's kind of dark.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Danielle, you dress up as the thing you're gonna eat?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Well, yeah, well you know, I don't really love turkey,
so that's okay, but I do. Yeah, And my mom
used to have like a q little Pilgrim outfit back
in the day, and she used to she used to
wear that to Thanksgiving when she was cooking in the kitchen.
Speaker 6 (06:54):
It was so cute.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
We like to dress up in my family.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
But it's got a vision, so dress up as a
turkey fighting about the presidential election? Interesting text coming through
my mother in law makes me watch to slap her
with a turkey leg?
Speaker 1 (07:13):
What what makes me want?
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Yeah? Yeah, am I reading that right? Yeah, it makes
me want to slaper with the turkey leve. You shouldn't
have food fights. This is all good stuff.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
No, don't waste of food.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Come on, if we celebrated spanksgiving, that would be more fun.
We just someone pisses you off, spank a living hell
out of their hand. Yeah, look at these people texting in.
I don't want to go. I don't want to be
a part of this at all. Then why are you
doing it? People? Our families don't get along. Therefore we
(07:43):
have to do two Thanksgiving. That's think two Thanksgivings. That's
not unusual at all. Deanna, what's up.
Speaker 6 (07:49):
Hey, So this is my first holiday season engaged, and
my fiancee and I both are children of divorce, so
we already had trouble trying to split the time between
two families, and now we've just split the time between
four families.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
So much are they at least in like, you know,
close distance to each other?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Oh? Damn?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
What's wrong with you saying? You know, we can't do everyone?
I love you all, but here's what we have to do.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
Yeah, we're gonna have to do that because.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Day after, like the you know, the day after, do
a couple of things.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, go on the next thing and get all the
extra food.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah that's true. I know even though you love him,
let him go his way, you go yours and you
just say we're not we're not married yet. True, but
then what do we do we get married? Well, then
you figure it out, all right? Well, I guess the
overlying theme over the overarching theme here is God, bless
you all the best at Thanksgiving, and I'm gonna have
(08:37):
a good one. They got him hanging out with people
I like, Yeah, and I love so God than it
could be the other way around.
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