FULL SHOW: The Day Judge Crotch and the Other Woman Showed Up

Sam confesses to being the “other woman,” a listener gets dumped mid-dinner, and Judge Crotch returns to lay down the law on gift-giving drama. Plus, we unpack relationship compromises, life rules no one writes down, and the chaotic beauty of a summer spent grounded.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
So the following program were pre recorded.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
The courses of this program were pre recorded. Get up
like the butt crack at.

Speaker 3 (00:14):
Dawn, Oh my god, I love you, Big Daddy's.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
By today, I'm gonna come to your beds side to
Oh my goodness, here we go, Elvis Duran in the
Morning Show.

Speaker 5 (00:36):
Hey, relationships are difficult. Heyoff, most of the time is great,
but there are moments where you just really just want
to well hit them in the face with a hot iron. Okay,
maybe an exaggerated exaggerating you don't have to plug it in,

(00:57):
keep it cold. Like we were just talking about yesterday,
I was hanging out with Alex, my husband, and of
course Uncle Johnny's visiting, and uh, I figured out after
the day when we had to make decisions like where
to go for lunch or what to do this, where
to do that, he was like shooting down all my ideas.

(01:17):
Everything we did yesterday was what he wanted to do,
and I kind of just had to, like I wanted
to say something like, hey, this is a partnership. I
get to say something here, but I mean when I
get a vote, I didn't do it. I'm like, eh,
let is have a good day then last night we
started arguing about what we're gonna throw away because we're
gonna renovate some stuff in the house. He starts in

(01:38):
on me with my piano. Well that's gonna go I said, no,
it's not hell now, no, not even a conversation. Well,
this is my house too, I said, what's my house too,
that's my piano. I don't throw away pianos. I don't
throw away books. Those are things I don't throw away.
You're not to yes, way, we're gonna get round. No,
we're not. We're not not gonna happen. And that piano

(02:00):
is staying right here. You know, won't negotiate other things,
but not that. That's not there's no negotiation there. So
in your relationships, I mean, where do you draw the line.
There's a line in the sand sometimes where you disagree
on things and one of you is going to get
your way and one of you is not, Like how
does this work for you?

Speaker 6 (02:19):
See?

Speaker 7 (02:20):
I think one of the things for me at least,
is I wish I had met Heather when I was younger,
because I feel like the older you get, the more
set in your ways you are. And I am totally
immovable on things mate.

Speaker 5 (02:33):
To be honest, you'll become more set in your ways
even when you're with her, and so it just it
It becomes very difficult at times because there's a compromise
that someone's not willing to make, and a lot of
times it's me, you know, and I feel bad because
I want that person to have their way, but exactly, look,

(02:53):
I don't want to argue with you, but you know,
sometimes I need to get it my way.

Speaker 8 (02:57):
You know.

Speaker 5 (02:57):
Sometimes it's okay.

Speaker 9 (02:59):
See there's little things that I'll just give into right away,
Like to me, it's like, okay, this is not worth
fighting over. But then if there's something that I really
really believe in, I will stand my ground and be like, no, this.

Speaker 5 (03:09):
Is how I really feel good. Yeah, and hopefully he
will respect.

Speaker 9 (03:13):
Oh, of course he does.

Speaker 10 (03:15):
So I have a really hard time because everybody says,
you know, relationships are all about compromise, but at the
same time, never settle, And nobody can tell me what
the difference between compromising and settling is. So I think
that I just act like a big ass all the
time and I'm like, no, we're gonna do what I
want to do because I'm not settling or compromising.

Speaker 5 (03:33):
Look at the end of the day, Gandhi, if he
wants to have a burger for lunch and you won't
have pancakes for lunch, and he gets his way and
you get a burger for lunch, it really isn't the
end of life.

Speaker 11 (03:40):
It's not.

Speaker 5 (03:42):
But after a while when he gets to choose every
single lunch you have and you never ever get to say, well,
that becomes a problem.

Speaker 10 (03:49):
Right, Yes, I agree, And I think everybody should have
their joint home together, and then each of you should
have your own apartments so you can slam a door
and decorate however you want to.

Speaker 5 (04:00):
It works for a lot of people.

Speaker 10 (04:01):
I think that would be great.

Speaker 5 (04:02):
Looks and I were not together every day of the week,
and I still don't get my way.

Speaker 10 (04:06):
Yeah, you keep that piano. See if you had your
own place all to yourself, that piano could be in
the middle of the room. No problem.

Speaker 5 (04:11):
The piano's not going anywhere. Yeah.

Speaker 12 (04:14):
Sometimes I let Lisa make a decision that I know
is wrong, but I just let her do it just
because that's the way she can see that it's wrong
than just telling her that, oh my god, no, I'm
being serious. So the other day, she wanted something painted
a certain color and I said that that's not the
right color.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
She's like, no, it will be.

Speaker 12 (04:30):
I'm like, it's not.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
She's like I like it.

Speaker 12 (04:32):
I'm like, okay, I painted it there at that color
and guess what, I was right, it's not the right color.
It caused me more work. But at the same time,
I knew that she needed to see that it wasn't
the right color before just arguing about her.

Speaker 9 (04:43):
Why do you do this to us?

Speaker 5 (04:44):
But wait a minute, wait a minute. But on the
other hand, you may have painted it her way and
actually look back and said, okay, this is a nice color.

Speaker 12 (04:53):
At least you tried. You know, it looked like somebody
backed up to it and just went.

Speaker 11 (04:59):
It was.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
It was all crapped on your shutters.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
What's up?

Speaker 5 (05:02):
Scar?

Speaker 13 (05:03):
This is why I don't want to move in with
my girlfriend or anyone ever, because I see what happens
all this stuff. There's oldest resistance. Nobody wants to compromise.
Everyone's setting their ways. I'm setting my ways, so I
like the way I.

Speaker 5 (05:17):
Do things in my place. Nothing wrong with that.

Speaker 13 (05:19):
She could do stuff in her place, in her own space,
if that works for you.

Speaker 5 (05:22):
Guys. Amen for well, probably works for both of them.
We don't know that, Danielle, stop. I bet you know what.
However you do it, you know if you do it? Okay.
So on Reddit they did a question for married people
share the things you miss most about being single. Oh,

(05:43):
I'll give you a few things. Being where I left them.
Not having to consider anyone else but making a decision.

Speaker 1 (05:54):
Got it.

Speaker 5 (05:55):
Not having to justify myself to another adult if I'm
getting takeout two days in a h okay, not having
to share my leftovers, cleaning the way I want, having
a thing about I have a thing about liking to
clean when no one else is around, just because how
I do takes time and has a weird system to it.
But they don't need to be judging just being alone

(06:15):
and being able to do whatever I want. They missed that.
Now they're married, they don't get that anymore. Sleeping in
the middle of the bed like a starfish.

Speaker 9 (06:23):
Ah.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yes, yeah.

Speaker 5 (06:25):
Quiet. Whenever I want quiet, I have it. I can
turn everything off and have quiet now with a wife
and three kids. No, it's a madhouse. The other person says,
I could I could go without all the farts, Like
we have fun our house. We have a lot of
fun in our house. The excitement at first dating someone
you like, well that goes away, Oh, sometimes controlling the remote,

(06:50):
watching anything without constant streaming commentary, traveling alone. I miss
traveling alone. See, I love traveling with someone. Money my money.
With my money, I could do whatever I wanted to.

Speaker 6 (06:59):
Do with it. Yeah.

Speaker 10 (07:00):
I don't understand that one either. I have a lot
of questions about the money.

Speaker 5 (07:03):
What are your questions about the money situation?

Speaker 10 (07:05):
So Nate had mentioned something earlier today where he was like, oh,
it's on me, but he's getting married. So isn't all
that money the same money once you get married? Is
there really a separate like my money and your money?
Because that's why I don't want to believe in marriage.
Like my money is my money.

Speaker 5 (07:18):
I don't know. I don't know, you know, like if
Alex and I go out for lunch, she'll go, hey,
I'm buying lunch today, or I am buying lunch. I
don't know. I just like everyone, everyone treats their finances differently.

Speaker 9 (07:27):
In my favorite is when I go away on a
trip and Sheldon goes go ahead, I go go ahead.
What go in your closet? And figure out which pair
I threw out. I said, what are you talking about?
He goes, You're never gonna know. You have so many
damn shoes You're never gonna know which pair is gone.
I'm like, gosh, if you touched my shoes you wear
so much.

Speaker 5 (07:46):
That is cruel. Psychological parent He's just poking the bear.
There total total, what's frog?

Speaker 12 (07:54):
There was something in that list that triggered an argument
Lisa and I had on Saturday. So it'says how you clean.
So Lisa doesn't clean the way that I think a
normal person cleans.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
When Lisa decides to clean the.

Speaker 12 (08:04):
Bathrooms, she goes around and puts toilet bowl cleaner, like
the bleach stuff in the toile bowl and just leaves
it for the day and then goes back and cleans
it later, which I think is strange. So the other day,
I'm driving home and I had to do I had
to do a number number two ski. So I'm I'm coming,
and you know how we have gp ass that your
butt knows when you're getting close to the toilet.

Speaker 5 (08:24):
Wow, OK, where is this going?

Speaker 12 (08:28):
I get in the house, I run to the toilet,
I lift up the toilet and there's bleach everywhere. So
now I've got a time out. I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa,
we're not ready it. I had to clean the bleach
and I almost had an accident, and I told her,
I said, you can't do that anymore. You can't just
leave things the bleach in there, because I'm not gonna
sit on that.

Speaker 5 (08:45):
Like I had to come up. Is there a reason
to leave bleach in there?

Speaker 12 (08:50):
Point it clean, cleans while it sits there, and then
she scrubs it later. I'm like, no, no, no, no, just
put it in there, brush it, flush the toilet, and
it's ready when I need it.

Speaker 11 (09:02):
To.

Speaker 10 (09:03):
You to clean the toilet. I will do half. You
do the second half.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
Thanks. Just ask me to do it and I'll do it.

Speaker 5 (09:08):
Line two are from Teresa from h Amsterdam. Are you
calling it from Amsterdam? Teresa?

Speaker 14 (09:14):
I am Amsterdam, New York. How are you guys?

Speaker 6 (09:16):
Oh?

Speaker 5 (09:18):
Hey, love it Amsterdam, New York. Anyway, you're moving in
with your you're moving in with your boyfriend. So you're
just now you're hearing this conversation, and I don't know
if you're freaking out or like, how are you with compromising?

Speaker 14 (09:30):
So I'm fine with compromising. I know he's more stubborn
than I am, which is fine. I'm learning as I go.

Speaker 15 (09:37):
But I also learned that because.

Speaker 14 (09:40):
We've been dating for two years and it's a long distance,
so I've learned as we've been dating what he's okay
with and what I know I'll get away with. And
just learning how each of us are has really helped
because we've learned where they're compromising and when they're nah,

(10:01):
so that I don't find it a problem.

Speaker 9 (10:04):
Good, that's good.

Speaker 5 (10:05):
God, God bless you. Let me call me, call me
in a year and let me.

Speaker 16 (10:10):
Definitely Well, thank you guys so much.

Speaker 14 (10:12):
I love listening to you guys.

Speaker 5 (10:14):
Thank you, Thank you, Teresa, have a great day. Well sure,
it's all roses here.

Speaker 6 (10:20):
Hey.

Speaker 5 (10:20):
Look, I wouldn't trade it in for anything, but you know, look,
that's a part of it. You're gonna have some moments
you don't agree on things, and that's the moment I
wish I'd never done this. Not at all, Not at all.
What's scary.

Speaker 13 (10:34):
Question, are people who refuse to bend and compromise like
bad people who need to work better at their relationship?

Speaker 5 (10:41):
Yes, ask me for a little bit, Yeah, yeah, Okay,
why do you never bend or compromise? It's always your way.

Speaker 13 (10:48):
I just think that my sometimes my decisions are better.

Speaker 9 (10:54):
Shifts are all about compromise.

Speaker 5 (10:57):
We all think our ideas are better.

Speaker 12 (10:58):
Scary, I mean, stuff we say off there is not
supposed to.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
But I got to repeat what Scary say.

Speaker 5 (11:03):
I'm sorry, I let him talk.

Speaker 12 (11:07):
Go ahead from so, Nate asks Scary, He's like, who
makes the decisions? And Scary says, well, I always do.
Robin doesn't give a pushback.

Speaker 13 (11:14):
We just do.

Speaker 12 (11:15):
She lets me do whatever we want to do. I'll say, hey,
this is what we're doing when we go. Nate says, well,
does Robin ever get to make a decision? What happens then?
Is Scary, Scary paused and goes. I take it into consideration.

Speaker 13 (11:29):
Lucky that she's very, very you know, she'll go along
with pretty much everything.

Speaker 5 (11:33):
She's the most easy going person on earth.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
Okay, I want to save Robin.

Speaker 5 (11:37):
Yeah, now if it worked for her, and maybe it's fine.
You know, it's everyone's different.

Speaker 1 (11:43):
I take things.

Speaker 5 (11:44):
I don't just like throw it down. It's it's got
to be this way or the highway sounds like it.

Speaker 1 (11:48):
A little bit.

Speaker 10 (11:48):
I just I know the way he talks about it.

Speaker 17 (11:51):
He's always like, oh, I don't.

Speaker 10 (11:52):
I don't understand how you guys have such pushback in
your relationships all the time, these disagreements.

Speaker 17 (11:57):
I get whatever I want all the time.

Speaker 10 (11:58):
We're like, what out of here?

Speaker 5 (12:00):
We were looking at him like we just saw a
car wreck, even as a normal Do you have a
golden penis?

Speaker 9 (12:08):
Or something like? What's going on there?

Speaker 5 (12:11):
Some people like that, But some people, by the way,
don't answer that scary.

Speaker 12 (12:17):
Some people like Daniel. Some people like not having to
make a decision. Somebody else makes the decisions and they
just go with the flow. Some people like that, and
that's okay.

Speaker 1 (12:23):
But always I don't know everything.

Speaker 5 (12:28):
I bet you, look, we know your girlfriend very well.
We know her. She she's a very very smart person.
I bet she gets her way more than you think
she does. She may make you think you get your
way a lot. But I don't know.

Speaker 9 (12:42):
He's a good point.

Speaker 5 (12:43):
She's probably like, look, she's the puppet master, she's manipulating you.

Speaker 1 (12:47):
It is a great point.

Speaker 5 (12:48):
But to make decisions that she will agree with. I
have an alpha and.

Speaker 10 (12:55):
You are not in alpha.

Speaker 12 (12:57):
I was just trying so hard to save you here.
I don't need your life raft. That'll be fine out
here in the shark something. Oh my god, I love
I can't even well, you can't.

Speaker 6 (13:11):
You just heard it.

Speaker 10 (13:12):
Trying to rescue me from Alpha says no actual Alpha ever,
We're not normal.

Speaker 18 (13:21):
Elis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 19 (13:31):
What was that?

Speaker 18 (13:32):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 5 (13:35):
We got to get into some horos scopes right now.
Producer Sam is in the house. Who are you want
to do with today?

Speaker 20 (13:39):
That cutie behind the glass Scott ebe Okay, let's do it.

Speaker 21 (13:43):
If it's your birthday today, you share it with Lionel
Messi and Mindy Kleig Capricorn. Someone will compliment you today
and it'll be the boost you didn't know you needed.
Your day is an eight Aquarius.

Speaker 20 (13:54):
If you wait for the perfect moment to make your move,
you will be waiting forever.

Speaker 21 (13:58):
Your days a six Pisces creates something beautiful for yourself.
You've been doing too much for others lately, but your days.

Speaker 17 (14:04):
Of five aries.

Speaker 20 (14:05):
Even in your uncertainty, there is purpose in your actions,
so be less hard on your decisions.

Speaker 17 (14:10):
Your days of nine.

Speaker 21 (14:10):
Taurus, an unexpected turn of events is going to push
you in the right direction, so don't be afraid to
go with it. Your day is a seven.

Speaker 20 (14:18):
Hey gemin I make today about appreciating what you usually
take for granted.

Speaker 17 (14:22):
It's all very valuable.

Speaker 9 (14:23):
Your days an eight Cancer.

Speaker 21 (14:25):
It's not too late to rebuild a lost connection. Find
the courage to start that conversation. Your day is an
eight Leo.

Speaker 20 (14:31):
Remember rest is not weakness, it's how strength three news itself.
Give yourself permission to replenish. Your day's a seven Virgo.

Speaker 21 (14:39):
Things you think make you too much are the things
that make you loved. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Your day is a nine Libra.

Speaker 20 (14:46):
The stress levels are high today, but trust that soon
they will even out.

Speaker 5 (14:50):
Your day's a nine Scorpio.

Speaker 21 (14:52):
Remember no effort is ever wasted if it brought you
closer to where you want to be.

Speaker 20 (14:56):
Your day is a ten, And finally, Sagittarius, let go
of the time time limits you put on yourself. Instead,
just be goal oriented. Your day's a six, and those
are your Tuesday morning horoscopes.

Speaker 5 (15:06):
Hey producer sam Hi, you want to talk about it?
Is there something you want to discuss today with the family?

Speaker 17 (15:11):
Oh my god, what did I do today?

Speaker 5 (15:13):
You've been the other woman.

Speaker 17 (15:15):
Oh my god, that thing.

Speaker 20 (15:17):
Yeah, I have been the other woman in a relationship,
not the one I'm in for anyone listening intently, but
in the past.

Speaker 9 (15:24):
Yeah, I why the other one?

Speaker 5 (15:26):
Well why is this surfacing and making you crazy all
of a sudden Because.

Speaker 20 (15:29):
We were kind of talking about it the other day
and when it happened, I kind of just swept it
under the rug. But as I think of it more
and more, I'm more pissed at this human for putting
me and the other girl in this situation.

Speaker 5 (15:39):
Well, let's talk about it. Look, you know there's you know,
if you are cheated on, the other woman, is the
other woman?

Speaker 1 (15:47):
Right?

Speaker 5 (15:48):
But you wake up and realize, wait a minute, I
was once the other woman. Yeah, so who you'd be
given hell to some other woman.

Speaker 17 (15:55):
See that's the thing.

Speaker 20 (15:56):
I don't blame the other girl for hating me, but
I one hundred percent did not know what was going
on the whole four months I.

Speaker 17 (16:03):
Was dating the Yeah that's sad, I know, I know,
I was.

Speaker 20 (16:07):
Our schedules like didn't line up a lot, so we
didn't see each other too much, so there was not
enough for me to really sniff around but we ended
up going to a bar that he was a regular at,
and when he went to the bathroom, this woman supporting
a loving bartender, came up to me, held my hand
and said, sweetie, I don't know what conversations you guys
have had, but he's dating my cousin and she thinks

(16:29):
they're exclusive.

Speaker 5 (16:30):
Oh wow, So how did you act on that information?

Speaker 20 (16:33):
I simmered, I finished my beer, I ordered another, and
then I brought him outside and like a Jewish mother,
I am said is there anything you want to tell me?

Speaker 18 (16:43):
And his face dropped.

Speaker 20 (16:45):
He knew what was up, and we kind of had
at it right there in the parking lot.

Speaker 9 (16:48):
We had a fight.

Speaker 20 (16:49):
But my very favorite part was I thought he was lying,
which he was, so he gave me the girl's number.

Speaker 17 (16:56):
He didn't think i'd call. He wanted to call my bluff.

Speaker 20 (16:58):
No.

Speaker 9 (16:59):
I called her.

Speaker 17 (16:59):
We were on the phone for like two hours.

Speaker 5 (17:01):
What a dumb ass?

Speaker 22 (17:02):
I mean.

Speaker 5 (17:03):
I mean, it's one thing to dump him because he
was cheating on someone else and trying about it's another
thing because he's a dumb ass.

Speaker 17 (17:08):
Yeah, he's a dumb ass.

Speaker 5 (17:09):
I will tell you though, when you are the other
woman and I have been same, same, uh, but I
was I was led to believe that well that was over,
that other one was over. You know you two.

Speaker 9 (17:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 10 (17:21):
I actually had no idea that there was another person.
I just realized that I couldn't find him on social media.
And then one of my friends found him and she
was like, this is why he probably has you blocked.
There were pictures of him and another girl everywhere.

Speaker 1 (17:32):
Just y wow.

Speaker 5 (17:32):
See that's like blatant hiding it from her very much.

Speaker 9 (17:35):
So I was with.

Speaker 5 (17:35):
Someone who was in the midst of a breakup and
it was basically quote unquote already over. We're just like
cleaning up the you know, we're just ending in it
and it's all done and so I but it wasn't.
It was a lie.

Speaker 9 (17:52):
My phone call was he's I'm pregnant with his baby.
That was my god, Yeah, how that goes? It was well,
I had no idea they name her Danielle. No, I'm
going to go ahead and say no. But she called
and she says, like, you know so and so who
you've been seeing. Yeah, well guess what, I'm his girlfriend
and I'm pregnant. And I was like, what, okay, you
have fun with that? And then I called him out
on it, and you eat and deny it. I mean,

(18:14):
you know I hate you though, No, because I didn't know.
I really did not know. I had no idea.

Speaker 5 (18:20):
Yeah, well, here's what I'm thinking. First of all, if
you are the other woman and don't know it, it's
not your fault. The person who's doing the cheating is
an a hole. Secondly, if they tell you that they
are in the midst of a breakup or a divorce,
it may be difficult to do this. Look them in
the eye and say, hey, once you get all that

(18:40):
taken care of, then you call me, yeah, because you
don't want to be dragged through that, because there's you know,
there's a motion. Even if someone's so ready to divorce someone,
there's still a tie there.

Speaker 9 (18:48):
There's still stuff going on so complicated as you deserve
more than you know, even if they're telling you that
it's over, like it's stringing you along and saying, oh, yeah, yeah,
this week, I'm going to do it. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
oh well we're going We're doing this next week, I'm
going to do it.

Speaker 5 (19:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (19:02):
It's like, you know, come on.

Speaker 10 (19:03):
When you found out you were the other person, did
you have a conversation with the significant other.

Speaker 17 (19:09):
No, do you think you should?

Speaker 10 (19:11):
I was really torn. So when I found out that
I was the other person, all of my friends were like, well,
you're going to say something to this girl, And I thought,
I don't know. I don't know her at all. I
feel like she should know, but I don't know if
it's my place to say something.

Speaker 9 (19:22):
What do you do?

Speaker 11 (19:22):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (19:24):
Maybe I was in a situation where I was just
led to believe that he was leaving, and I knew
who he was, but I didn't I wasn't friends with him.
But later on I found out that they weren't anywhere
about to break up.

Speaker 20 (19:34):
And yeah, like I was happy I had that conversation
with the other woman.

Speaker 9 (19:38):
But I got lucky.

Speaker 20 (19:39):
She was a really receptive, nice person. She could have
told me to f the write off as soon as
I called her.

Speaker 5 (19:45):
Yeah, with the bottom line is it was a guiding
a douche. Yeah, what's up? Scary?

Speaker 13 (19:50):
I read some crazy stat that eighty five percent of
people married people who cheat never ever wind up getting
the divorce. They say that they're getting the divorce, but
they keep that so you could keep hanging on, but
they say that it never happens because you know it's.

Speaker 10 (20:06):
The horse is expensive.

Speaker 5 (20:07):
Yeah, nothing I'm ever going to experience that. Is this
a Tiana?

Speaker 9 (20:13):
Hi?

Speaker 23 (20:14):
This is Tiana.

Speaker 5 (20:14):
Hey Tiana, thanks for listening to us. You hooked up
with a guy, and afterward he casually mentioned that he's
in a relationship, after he how'd that go?

Speaker 24 (20:26):
Yeah, So he casually mentions his girlfriend, and I have
this confused, bewildered look, and so do my friends at
that point. And so I asked him and he's like, oh, yeah,
I have a girlfriend. We're long distance, and she understands
I have.

Speaker 5 (20:44):
Needs needs, So he's he therefore renamed you needs. Oh yeah, yeah,
you are now my needs.

Speaker 23 (20:54):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 24 (20:55):
I was like, no, I'm not about this. So'st away
after that.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
Wow good.

Speaker 5 (21:01):
Yeah, I'm glad you didn't let him like play around
with you like a cat plays with a toy. You
know what I'm saying. He should Don't you think he
should have said something before you guys hooked up?

Speaker 24 (21:10):
Yes, yes, yeah, but I have a feeling he was
hiding it because many girls probably wouldn't go for that
if they knew.

Speaker 10 (21:17):
First you're gonna say no, shifty, I'm kind of on
where I am in life.

Speaker 9 (21:24):
I might have said, yes, yeah, it depends.

Speaker 5 (21:26):
Still, it wasn't for Tiana. All right, all right, well,
so now if you hook up, are you a little nosy?
Do you try to do a little background investigation before
you go too far with anyone?

Speaker 24 (21:36):
I did after that, but I'm happily married.

Speaker 5 (21:39):
Now, okay, there you go. All right, Tiana, thanks for
listening to us.

Speaker 20 (21:44):
Waking up in the morning taking him on so many things.

Speaker 18 (21:50):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
This is Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 5 (21:58):
I can't waite scary just said what he said. It
really speaks volume. He's like, if you're going to break
up with someone at a restaurant, if it's a really
good restaurant and you're enjoying your meal, it should make
it easier. Well, it happened to me. I don't know,
but you're saying it because the meal was tasty, then
your heart wasn't broken.

Speaker 13 (22:16):
Is a comfort thing and people can use it as
a buffer. So when I got broken up with several
years ago, she planned it out according to the courses
of the meal, with the appetizer, main course in the dessert,
and she kind of slowly ramped into what was she
wanted to talk about, and by dessert she tried to
tie it up into a bow and then she left and.

Speaker 5 (22:32):
She would three blocks from her house. Then you're very forgiving.
And if I'm in love with someone or I'm really
getting into them, and they took me to a restaurant
and stready breaking up with me while we're eating, yeah,
and then you took another bite of what's on that play?
I would throw it at.

Speaker 10 (22:47):
I would smack that fork right out of someone's hand, like,
are you kidding me? You're breaking up with me and
eating the spaghetti?

Speaker 25 (22:51):
No?

Speaker 10 (22:52):
Not today.

Speaker 11 (22:53):
No.

Speaker 12 (22:53):
And whoever does the breaking up, they're responsible to pay
the bill if you break up with me.

Speaker 1 (22:56):
I'm not splitting it with you.

Speaker 5 (22:59):
Yeah great, Oh so okay. So I brought this up
and I said, hey, text in did you see the
hundreds of texts that came in. This obviously hits a
nerve with a lot of people breaking up in restaurants.
Here's someone who said they broke up. I broke up
with my exit Ruby Tuesdays.

Speaker 10 (23:14):
Oh I love I used to work there.

Speaker 5 (23:16):
Found out a lot about him. He ran out of
the restaurant screaming at me, and the whole restaurant listened in,
and there'd be a lot of people were texting and
saying they didn't break up in restaurants, but they kept
quiet at their table to listen to the breakup at
the next table. Oh, I did that, gandhi did that?
Talk about it.

Speaker 10 (23:32):
So I was at a Mexican restaurant with my ex
boyfriend and the table behind it was actually a booth.
Behind us, the guy started to break up with the
girl that he was with, and the reasons that he
was giving were very specific and fascinating. So I stopped
talking with my boyfriend at the time and was listening.
He started talking louder than they were talking, because he

(23:52):
said it was rude that I was trying to listen
to this intimate moment of their life, to which I say,
you're at a booth at Elviacaro right now, why if
I can hear you?

Speaker 3 (24:01):
Man?

Speaker 1 (24:02):
Like, come on, look at this.

Speaker 5 (24:04):
My ex husband took me to my favorite restaurant to
tell me he was serving me with divorce papers. My
best friend's parents, coincidentally, who never go out to dinner,
were sitting at the next table. Never spoke to her again.
This ahle thinks he wants to make a public display
of me. Literally, they know his divorce papers were already
on their way as well. Wow, now it's my favorite
restaurant I go all the time. Here's someone who got broken.

Speaker 1 (24:23):
Up with with somebody in public.

Speaker 5 (24:25):
Yeah, here's the thing at a restaurant. It's it's too
controlled and it's not an easy escape.

Speaker 1 (24:30):
It really really is.

Speaker 12 (24:31):
You don't know how they'll act. They could become unhinged
and embarrass you and themselves.

Speaker 5 (24:36):
Very risky.

Speaker 9 (24:37):
So you think that's what people are hoping they don't
do that you're in that kind of environment and that
that will be maybe more controlled.

Speaker 5 (24:44):
You don't know. That's why backfires. I wouldn't play with
that restaurant breakup. I broke up in a restaurant. I
always wanted to try hot so excited to go, got
dumped from the entrees, came to the table, never lost
my appetite was supposed to be scary techpinion, never lost,
my appetite, just went on eating. Oh my gosh. But
listen to James on line twenty though. Now this is

(25:05):
I think even riskier. Broke up on Norwegian On Norwegian
getaway on a ship.

Speaker 9 (25:11):
Oh that's James, the same room and everything.

Speaker 5 (25:15):
They're on the same vessel. Yeah, you can't escape. What
do you think in James?

Speaker 25 (25:20):
Hey, good morning, guys, good morning. What was I thinking?
It was just it was the end, you know.

Speaker 9 (25:27):
But here's my question. If you're on you're on the
cruise with the person, can you get through the whole
cruise and then once you get off the ship do it?

Speaker 6 (25:36):
Uh?

Speaker 11 (25:37):
No?

Speaker 25 (25:37):
Really, I just decided right there I was done.

Speaker 1 (25:40):
Wow, one of the cruise.

Speaker 6 (25:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (25:42):
How many days did you have?

Speaker 25 (25:44):
It was day four of day eight? Oh god, No,
I still had a great time.

Speaker 8 (25:49):
Uh.

Speaker 25 (25:50):
It was Norwegian, and you guys know Norwegian. The ships
are great, the ports are beautiful, but the best part
is the people you meet, you know. So I went out,
I made a lot of friends, and uh I still
joyed myself.

Speaker 6 (26:01):
Wow.

Speaker 5 (26:01):
And the good thing about this is you you got
to keep the restaurant. You didn't have to give that
up in the breakup. You got to keep the ship.
You're good.

Speaker 25 (26:10):
I took care of the bill.

Speaker 5 (26:12):
Okay, I know, But you had four more days with
this person. How did that go?

Speaker 6 (26:18):
Well?

Speaker 25 (26:18):
We still shared a room, We still shared a bed,
so you know, we definitely both still enjoyed ourselves.

Speaker 9 (26:24):
But you broke up with her on the ship and
she still gave you sex.

Speaker 25 (26:34):
I mean you said it me, I don't know you.

Speaker 5 (26:37):
You basically said that, yes, Gandhi thoughts all right, James?

Speaker 10 (26:42):
What did she do in the middle of the trip
that was so egregious that you couldn't wait till the end?
Like what was the nail on the coffin that you
were like, this is it? Halfway through vacation?

Speaker 25 (26:51):
Well, I mean, well, obviously it was like you know,
a bunch of things that built up over time, But
she kept being late to all the reservations and couldn't
get ready in time, and like that kind of got
a little annoying where I'm was all I should have
done is telling her that the reservation was a few
minutes earlier, so she got ready earlier. But you know,

(27:13):
water under the bridge?

Speaker 5 (27:17):
Well yeah, okay, So may I may I assume that
this this relationship wasn't really all that serious, was it?

Speaker 25 (27:26):
I mean I was in it for real, I was
putting in a lot of effort, but I just saw
that she wasn't. And she said numerous times over the cruise.
Which kind of bothered me was she was she was
perfectly okay with only being good looking. That kind of
bothered me a little bit. Yeah, I guess I don't know,

(27:48):
and maybe it wasn't that serious.

Speaker 5 (27:51):
Okay, I'm in hindsight. Well look, you know, uh, the
whole story is great. By the way, you're my favorite
call of the week. You gotta be honest, all right, James.

Speaker 25 (28:01):
I appreciate that.

Speaker 5 (28:02):
Yeah, But the whole point of this conversation with people
who take take their significant other tour restaurant knowing full
well when they walk through the door they're about to
break up with them. That was not the case when
you went on board Norwegian, was it. You didn't take
your breakup? Okay? All right, and there you go. How
are you today? By the way, how's your life?

Speaker 25 (28:21):
I've done it on the fourth day, so.

Speaker 5 (28:23):
There you go. How's your love life now? James?

Speaker 8 (28:28):
Single?

Speaker 25 (28:28):
Doing my fing It's been a few months. I went
on another Norwegian cruise after that as a solo traveler,
had a good time on that and just you know,
realize that I can have a good time on my own.
I don't need to travel with someone, and I actually
have another, I have another cruise I'm leaving next Friday.
Another I love it.

Speaker 5 (28:48):
Norwegian loves you too. Here's the thing, Uh, solo travel
on cruise ships is fabulous and I've I have so
many friends who've so many friends who've done it. And
have you done solo a cruise before?

Speaker 6 (29:01):
Yeah?

Speaker 25 (29:02):
I did one on a Halloween last year and I
had a great time.

Speaker 5 (29:05):
Look at you? All right, God, it makes me kind
of jealous.

Speaker 25 (29:10):
What do you mean, don't worry.

Speaker 13 (29:12):
Solo cruising by yourself and you're you're stuck with it
with your own devices.

Speaker 5 (29:15):
For seven No, some some people it's a nightmare to
go with someone else. All right, thank you. Scary, but
thank you James. You have a great day, and thanks
for listening to us. And Norwegian loves you man, they
want you back, all right, thank you very much. Wow,
interesting pictures that took a turn. Yeah, but yeah, I

(29:36):
can't believe all of these texts about being broken up
with or breaking up with someone in a restaurant. I
don't know. And then when you broke it up, like
I said before, you and your other love that restaurant, Like,
who gets it? Do you go back on your own

(29:56):
with friends or with your next date. Do you dare
take your next significant other to that romantic restaurant? You know,
sure you do.

Speaker 9 (30:04):
There's a problem probably with the weight staff, Like you know,
they're used to seeing like, you know, you with Robert
and then all of a sudden you come in with
Johnny and they're like, what happened to Robert? And sometimes
they'll say that right in front of them, Hey what
happened to Robert? And then poor Johnny is feeling like
crap because he's your new guy at this restaurant. You know,
it's crazy.

Speaker 5 (30:23):
Well, you want to hear another layer to this onion.
What if you and your let's say your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever,
go to the same restaurant and then you love it
so much when you're cheating on them, you take your
you take your your side piece to the restaurant. Well no,
you know, if you're really tipping high, they'll keep it quiet.

(30:44):
Oh hello, mister Duran, good to see you. Who's your son?

Speaker 18 (30:53):
Hey, I'm at sharing.

Speaker 9 (30:54):
Hey what's up Metro?

Speaker 5 (30:59):
The moonshote it?

Speaker 18 (31:06):
This is Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 5 (31:10):
Yeah, I want to ask you a question. How we
did on time?

Speaker 21 (31:12):
I think.

Speaker 5 (31:17):
Can you point out a decision that you made that
changed the trajectory of your life.

Speaker 9 (31:26):
Oh my gosh, yes, yeah, I mean.

Speaker 5 (31:30):
Not faith or getting married or having a kid. Those
those naturally will change the trajectory, but something you did,
not knowing how impactful it would be. Ye on your future?

Speaker 1 (31:43):
Yep, yep.

Speaker 5 (31:44):
Personally froggy, which what was yours?

Speaker 12 (31:47):
Well, I've had a couple, but I was just thinking
actually different than what I told you. Had I not
moved here to Jacksonville and started seeing a new uh
into chronologist, I would never have found my aneurysm when
I did, I probably would have. I probably wouldn't be here.
I'd be well because I had less than thirty days
to live when they found it.

Speaker 1 (32:01):
And there you go, and.

Speaker 5 (32:04):
Was just moving to you when you did it, you
had no idea would change your life. What about you, Gandhi, I.

Speaker 10 (32:09):
Would say my internship in radio for sure. When I started,
I didn't think that years later I would be working
at such an amazing place in an amazing city with
all of you. I just thought, oh, this looks fun.
Let me get my college credits, and then boom, here
we are.

Speaker 5 (32:22):
Yeah, you know what, And at the time you just thought, well,
I don't know where this is gonna where it's gonna leave,
but I'm gonna do it, not knowing you would be
here today. And that switch, that's that shift in your trajectory.
I love that word has led you to a life
that you're love it. Look at you now, there you
are creating art with your boyfriend.

Speaker 10 (32:42):
Oh, it's just been amazing. I mean, everything about this
experience with all of you has been wonderful. And I mean,
sort of to Froggy's point, moving to Boston as well.
I think had I never moved to Boston, I wouldn't
have maybe caught the attention of some of you guys,
or you know, ever been able to live by myself,
and just so many things that have to do with
getting up and moving and shaking up your circumstances.

Speaker 13 (33:03):
What about you scary choosing to not go with the
cool kids in college and be you know, live on
campus somewhere far away and live at home with my
parents and go to school there, because that then, you know,
gave me the decision to work in radio and then
defy my parents' wishes.

Speaker 5 (33:20):
Yeah, your parents had chosen a different trajectory for your head. A. Yeah,
he wanted me to be in accountant and there's nothing
wrong with that, but it wasn't for you.

Speaker 1 (33:31):
What about you, Dandie.

Speaker 9 (33:32):
Mine is the same thing. I was going to the
television station at Saint John's University and that's what I
wanted to do. While I was there, met some strange
girl on the elevator, she said, hey, do you want
to do the news on the radio station. I was like,
sounds like sounds good, went there, fell in love and
never left, never even went near the television station. But
that was not the plan. So this person that popped

(33:55):
out of nowhere changed my whole life.

Speaker 5 (33:57):
So the reason I bring this up is you're listening
right now. You have done something in your life. You
had to make a decision at some times, and sometimes
making decisions the most difficult thing ever, you know, but
you had to and you did. You had the courage
to do so, and it changed your life forever. You
know what I'm saying. You should give yourself credit, don't
don't just live your life as if it didn't happen.

(34:19):
It's good to celebrate what you did.

Speaker 9 (34:22):
Absolutely you really should. Also, my husband, Elvis, if you
hadn't wanted to sleep with him first, I probably would
never have met him.

Speaker 5 (34:29):
Well, yeah, that trajectory kind of pissed me on a
little bit mine. As I met Alex, I got married,
you know, and I decided to go in for that
weight loss surgery for you know, the sleeve, and I
lost a lot of weight. You could go on and
on and on, but all I'm saying is stop down
every once in a while and take stock in the
good things you've decided to do in your life. Sometimes

(34:49):
these decisions were made for you maybe, but if it
was for the better, fine, so be it. I love that.
Are we going to eleven?

Speaker 19 (34:56):
Here?

Speaker 5 (34:56):
Is that I'm trying to confum itively?

Speaker 6 (34:57):
Well?

Speaker 5 (34:58):
Yeah, okay, very very cool. So uh yeah, Froggy wanted
to add something to that.

Speaker 12 (35:03):
Yeah, when I creepily looked up Lisa's phone number on
realpages dot com and called her and left a message
on her home line.

Speaker 1 (35:09):
Back in the nineties, you looked her up on what doctor?

Speaker 5 (35:13):
Yeah, I did.

Speaker 12 (35:14):
I looked up her phone number on the Internet. I
called her and left the message and she called me back.

Speaker 1 (35:17):
And that's how Lisa, And.

Speaker 9 (35:19):
Wait, what'd you say? I'm a message?

Speaker 1 (35:21):
I don't even remember to be honest with you. I
don't know.

Speaker 12 (35:23):
But anyways, we became friends and then we started dating
and now we're married. So I mean, that was a
decision that was strange, but it worked.

Speaker 5 (35:29):
People are texting in while I was in high school
by Facebook. I liked every single person's post, no matter what,
and caught the eye of mine, now fiance and now
three kids. Someone texted in. I transitioned at thirty four
years old. That changed your trajectory absolutely Eeric code eighty six. Oh,
I kissed a girl and I liked it. This person's

(35:50):
has three divorces. Going to trucking school changed my life.
Taking a job, going back to school when I was
thirty years old. Uh, took a random college course that
changed everything about my life. You know what, another big
one in our lives that maybe we don't want to
give credit to because it was such an it still
is an unpleasant situation, is the pandemic. It changed many

(36:10):
a trajectory. Ye, I don't know. I think it's so great.
Once again, look back on your life and give yourself
some credit for the decision you made. That may have
been a tough decision to make, but look look where
we are now. Katie's Online twenty four. Let's just check
in with some people calling it. Hey, Katie, what's going on?

Speaker 1 (36:28):
Hi?

Speaker 15 (36:29):
Oh my god, I'm such a big fan.

Speaker 16 (36:30):
I met you at your book review in Huntington and
actually reading your Hi reading your book.

Speaker 23 (36:37):
Actually I quit my job because of it.

Speaker 5 (36:39):
Oh God, So you're you become unemployed because of me?
I feel like that's.

Speaker 16 (36:43):
Not very No, No, it was perfect because I was
in this position. I'm a teacher, by the way, and
I always thought I wanted to be an administ reader.
I wanted to be in charge because I'd been teaching
for so long and I had that position, and you
had talked about how, you know, being on it wasn't
necessarily what you always aspired to. It was just always

(37:03):
being yourself and being happy.

Speaker 3 (37:04):
So I put that job.

Speaker 16 (37:05):
And I went back to teaching in the classroom about
a year and a half ago, and I am loving
it and I'm actually thinking now about getting a dual
certification in math and computer science because of it.

Speaker 5 (37:15):
Who good for you, Katie, And you know what, and
these were all these were all decisions that you made.
That was your courage that got you here. So good
for you. We're happy for you very much, so.

Speaker 23 (37:26):
Thank you so much.

Speaker 26 (37:27):
Oh my god, I'm so happy to be talking to you.

Speaker 19 (37:29):
Tell you.

Speaker 16 (37:32):
On another kind of sad note, right after I met
you in October of twenty nineteen, about two weeks later,
right around I think Danielle my mom passed away. It
was like right around when Danielle's dad passed away, and
that was another catalyst of quitting the job.

Speaker 27 (37:45):
So I just wanted to.

Speaker 16 (37:46):
Say to Danielle that I get you, and every time
you talk about your dad, I just you know, my
heart goes out to you.

Speaker 9 (37:52):
Thank you so much, you too, sending you.

Speaker 5 (37:54):
To thank you, Katie. It's a pleasure talking to you.
I hope you have a great day, and it's sure
as nice to know when you're listening to our show.

Speaker 26 (38:00):
Thank you so much.

Speaker 3 (38:00):
It was such a pleasure talking to.

Speaker 5 (38:01):
You, and congratulations with all of your success. That's awesome.

Speaker 2 (38:06):
You want to hear something slightly more unhinged than the
morning show, I'll kill you after party.

Speaker 5 (38:13):
What is the direction of today's podcast?

Speaker 2 (38:16):
A podcast we record daily when the morning show is finished.
Listen on iHeart radio app or wherever you get your podcasts.

Speaker 1 (38:22):
That's an after party, mister.

Speaker 18 (38:24):
Ran In the Morning show. Elvis terran in the Morning show.

Speaker 5 (38:30):
So you know our friend Dina with the pink hair.

Speaker 9 (38:32):
We love her, Yeah, I love her.

Speaker 5 (38:33):
Not only is she a very dear friend and what
she's always there for us for hair and makeup when
we need. We haven't needed in quite some time. But now,
you know, lately that's been warming up. You know, she's
she came to my apartments the other day. She said,
let me bring you some gifts. She also has a
side hustle that came out during the pandemic. She makes candles. Yeah,
these incredible candles. I'm not just saying just like like goops,

(38:55):
vagina candles.

Speaker 9 (38:55):
I'm talking about maybe she could have Dina's vagina candle.

Speaker 5 (38:59):
Maybe anyway, So she had several candles, but one of
the candles she gave me, which was my favorite, was
called stolen Hoodie. Oh yes, I'm like, what is this.
She's like, you know when you go to a guy's
house and you spend the night and you do him
and the next day you steal their hoodie and you
leave and take it home with you. Sniff the candle.
I sniffed. It smelled it. It smelled it. It smelled

(39:22):
like like a guy's hoodie that had been stolen, Like
you could smell a little bit of a cologne in there,
but you could also smell some musky smell, like a
dirty guy like Nate whatever, not that dirty. What a
brilliant idea, and it got me to thinking about stealing
guy's hoodies. Gandhi in your dating life? Have you ever
stolen a guy's hoodie?

Speaker 10 (39:42):
I just Oh, First of all, I have like ten
from my boyfriend, and he called me out for one
of them the other day, so I had to bring
it back.

Speaker 5 (39:48):
Right, Yes, they call it if it's like a one
night stand thing and you steal the hoodie, they called
it a screw of an air as you that's right,
I mean, and I mean, Danielle, do you ever swipe
Sheldon's hoodies?

Speaker 3 (39:59):
Oh?

Speaker 9 (39:59):
All the time, take away and yet sometimes I spray
it with as like cologne and stuff. Oh what you
want to make sure you smell the person exactly.

Speaker 5 (40:07):
So So I was looking this up. There's actually something
for a TikTok video.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
I saw.

Speaker 5 (40:12):
There's many reasons why it's great to steal his hoodie.
First of all, it really when you're sniffing him, it
releases serotonin and endorphins. There's a scientific thing going on there. Scientifically,
it makes you happy because you're sniffing him right. Secondly,
it makes you look good because sometimes his hoodie is
a couple of sizes larger than you, so you feel
like you just kind of you're just in there, like

(40:32):
rattling around.

Speaker 6 (40:33):
Right.

Speaker 27 (40:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (40:35):
Guys love that too. They like to see uh, they
like to see people in their hoodie when it's when
it's oversized. There's a sense of security when you're wearing
You're walking down the street and you can lift that
up and sniff it and you're like, oh, that smells
like him. I'm taken. I'm taken, and this hoodie is
protecting me from the evil world outside.

Speaker 1 (40:52):
Right yep.

Speaker 5 (40:53):
And it smells it smells like you're you're you're the
person you stole it from. Guy girl, doesn't matter it
all the We all have our our odors, good and bad.
It's kind of fantastic.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
Nate.

Speaker 5 (41:04):
Plus, my favorite part of wearing their hoodie is I
stole it and I got away with it because we
like to steal stuff.

Speaker 9 (41:12):
Most of the time, they don't get it back. Most
of the time. It's yours, and that's it pretty much.

Speaker 5 (41:16):
Yep now, And I don't feel sorry for you. If
you have a hoodie that was stolen, too bad, go
buy another one. You know what, No it is, it's
not We're not trying to be nice. It really is
a compliment. You should have a you should always have
like a case of stinky hoodies in the back, ready
to be stolen, whole case exactly. Yeah, Froggy, what do
you think if I stole your black hoodie?

Speaker 1 (41:37):
What would that?

Speaker 5 (41:38):
What does your anger smell like? How would that smell anger?
That's an old thing. But I haven't been angry in
a black hoodie for years. You're that's yesterday's news.

Speaker 9 (41:45):
Now angry black T shirt, it's a lot different.

Speaker 5 (41:50):
They used to make fun of me because for some reason,
when I wore a black hoodie to work, that meant
that meant I didn't really care that day when I
was getting ready. Translation, I didn't want to deal with
anyone to be s Therefore I was mean. So they
called those my black hoodie days. But now I wear
black hoodies every day. Same what straight night.

Speaker 7 (42:08):
As a guy that's had his hoodie stolen, I can
tell you that sometimes it's not just outright stolen without knowledge.
You sometimes gave it to the person say hell, it's
cold out here, take this hoodie, and then they would
conveniently forget.

Speaker 1 (42:22):
To return it. Yeah, no matter how, get the hell
out of here.

Speaker 5 (42:25):
Don't just steal it. It doesn't matter how you procure
your hoodie. It's yours now. It smells like them, and
you can't wash it. That's another thing about stolen hoodies.
If you wash them, they lose all their magic. It's gone.
It washes down the drain.

Speaker 10 (42:39):
That's also part of the beauty of the stolen hoodie
is it's always worn in like a pair of shoes.
After a while, it's the perfect amount of comfortable.

Speaker 5 (42:47):
Hey, does Dina with the pink hair have a website?
Can people buy her candles?

Speaker 10 (42:51):
Yeah, you can go to Dina's Kissing Makeup dot com.

Speaker 5 (42:55):
Oh so okay, so I'm encouraging everyone. Look, we're not
making any money off this. We're not getting a percentage
at all. We just happened to love Dina. Go check
out her line of candles, but buy the stolen hoodie.
That's my favorite one.

Speaker 9 (43:06):
She has really pretty ones too, that like look like
a cupcake. And look like a like a cappuccino and
Daron I don't know how the hell she comes up
with this stuff.

Speaker 11 (43:15):
Uh?

Speaker 5 (43:16):
Now, what is her website.

Speaker 10 (43:17):
Again, Dina's Kiss and Makeup dot Com?

Speaker 5 (43:20):
Is it d n A d I n A Dina's Yes,
Dina's what.

Speaker 10 (43:25):
Kiss and Makeup dot Com?

Speaker 5 (43:27):
Oh, I get it, kiss and Makeup.

Speaker 9 (43:29):
That's the name of her salon, Dina's Kiss and Makeup.

Speaker 5 (43:32):
Okay, so Dina di a in a. Dina's Kiss and
Makeup dot Com. Line twenty four is Amanda, Amanda, tell
me you've stolen a hoodie before?

Speaker 6 (43:43):
Oh my gosh, Hi, Well hello.

Speaker 5 (43:45):
Lady, talk about your stolen hoodie? A story. What happened?

Speaker 15 (43:50):
Yeah, when I was in undergrad, I went to a
house party. I you know, saw a guy that I
thought was cute. You know, whatever happened, I ended up
leaving with his hook and then we didn't talk for
a long time. And then like a year or two later,
he messaged me and said, give me back my hoodie
is funny and used it as I guess the way

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to start talking again. And here we are, eight years later,
with a dog and a house and a cat.

Speaker 5 (44:21):
Hoodie stolen it came from a stolen.

Speaker 15 (44:26):
My roommate from college ended up with what was Daniel.

Speaker 9 (44:29):
I said, she got to name her first kid hoodie.

Speaker 5 (44:31):
She's not having kids.

Speaker 9 (44:32):
She's having kids.

Speaker 15 (44:36):
I can't believe them on the radio with you guys.

Speaker 5 (44:38):
Well you are and I love that. And there's something
about that smell. Do you still have that hoodie? By
the way, eight years later?

Speaker 15 (44:45):
You know what's really funny about it is my roommate
from college ended up steeling it.

Speaker 5 (44:49):
From me, and well, don't let her steal your guy. Hello,
smells like all. Thank you for listening to us. You
have a great day.

Speaker 15 (44:58):
Okay, thank you so much.

Speaker 25 (45:00):
It was great talking to you guys.

Speaker 27 (45:01):
I love listening to you in the morning.

Speaker 5 (45:03):
Well, thank you for listening. It's it's a pleasure. Hold on,
Hold on one second. Here's Joe on line twenty three.

Speaker 25 (45:07):
Now.

Speaker 5 (45:07):
Joe, on the other hand, on the other side, has
had many a hoodie stolen. Joe, if you could count
up the number of hoodies that have been stolen from you,
what would that be?

Speaker 7 (45:17):
Well, good morning everybody.

Speaker 11 (45:18):
First off, well, hello lady that I'm on here.

Speaker 5 (45:21):
I'm glad you're here.

Speaker 11 (45:22):
I've been listening to you guys, since I'm like fourteen,
this was crazy.

Speaker 5 (45:26):
I know we're old and ancient. Thanks for rubbing that in. No,
you're not, Joe, all right? So how many how many
hoodies have you had stolen from you?

Speaker 11 (45:37):
I probably had honestly about a dozen hoods.

Speaker 25 (45:40):
From me in college. Like end of my college years,
I had no hoodies left.

Speaker 9 (45:45):
So that means you had a lot of girls in
college years or guys, whatever it is.

Speaker 25 (45:49):
I wouldn't even say that almost.

Speaker 11 (45:51):
I would say, like my one previous ex girlfriend stole
all of them.

Speaker 9 (45:55):
Oh, oh my god, sounds well.

Speaker 5 (45:58):
Wait, but now she's an action she had hold on
one gone, she's an ex and she has like a
dozen of your hoodies. She got away with them.

Speaker 8 (46:04):
No if she still has them, but I would like
some of them back, which would be nice, I know.

Speaker 5 (46:09):
But if you call her or text her or whatever
to get your hoodies back, that means you're reaching out
to connect, and so you can't do it. You gotta
let them go. You got to write them.

Speaker 8 (46:17):
Off, right.

Speaker 11 (46:18):
That is very true.

Speaker 25 (46:19):
That is very very true.

Speaker 5 (46:22):
Anyway, So there you go. So when they stole your hoodies,
were you was it like a badge of honor? For you.
I mean, is that a good thing?

Speaker 23 (46:31):
No?

Speaker 25 (46:32):
Because I actually really liked the hoodies and I went
to school in Albany, so you really needed those that way?

Speaker 10 (46:36):
Oh yeah, guys need to start having a stockpile of
crappy hoodies and then you leave those out so that
they're available for stealing and hide your good ones.

Speaker 5 (46:44):
There you go, Alice in line eight. Then we got
to roll on. Hey Allison, Hey, you want to know that.

Speaker 27 (46:53):
I just donated it back a couple of months ago,
earlier this year that was full of stolen hoodies?

Speaker 5 (46:59):
Wait? Wait, hold on? How many? How many stolen hood
hoodies were in this bag you donated?

Speaker 24 (47:05):
I'm gonna go what half doesn't?

Speaker 6 (47:07):
Wow?

Speaker 5 (47:08):
Okay? So was it a need to move on in
your life for you? Now have a solid relationship with someone,
so you you want these hoodies out out of the way?
I mean, was there a psychological reason you needed to
get rid of them? Or you just wanted to donate them?

Speaker 27 (47:22):
They were so old and I didn't need them anymore,
and they were from guys that don't talk to you.
They were all scuvenirs.

Speaker 9 (47:29):
I got you.

Speaker 5 (47:30):
Have you washed? Have you washed them?

Speaker 6 (47:32):
And did it?

Speaker 5 (47:32):
Was it like a bag full of different voice smells.

Speaker 27 (47:36):
No, no, I them, Okay.

Speaker 9 (47:38):
The guys.

Speaker 5 (47:40):
If you wash them, then you cleared them. You cleared
the guy out. They're gone.

Speaker 1 (47:43):
You're good.

Speaker 9 (47:44):
They have an idea.

Speaker 5 (47:47):
What's your idea, Danielle.

Speaker 9 (47:48):
Oh my gosh. We start a store and it's just
a little store and all it is is people that
donate the hoodies they have stolen, and then we sell
Dina's candle as well, and we either call it in
hoodies or my ex boyfriend's hoodie.

Speaker 6 (48:03):
This is it.

Speaker 9 (48:03):
We're gonna make so much money.

Speaker 5 (48:05):
But the key, the key is you can't wash them.
They have to still smell like the boy stinky, stinky
hoodie s thinky hoodies, Steaky hoodies. That's the name of it,
stinky hoodies. Oh my gosh, you're brilliant. This is like
the time you came up with rent a gay. Alison.
We've got to roll. Thank you for calling, and I'm
glad that you got rid of those hoodies. It's time
to move on. It's time to start collecting a new
a new bunch.

Speaker 25 (48:25):
Okay, one of yours?

Speaker 5 (48:29):
Oh wow, Well, hold on, Nate, can we send Alison
a hoodie? Do does it have to smell like me.
You don't want that. It smells like pancakes, syrup and desperation. Okay,
hold on, hold on, We'll send her a dirty hoodie. Okay.
I've never given away a dirty piece of clothing before
I did, but I can't. I'm not soiling. They might

(48:51):
just wear them, scary. I don't soil my clothing.

Speaker 17 (48:55):
Soil is such a gross word.

Speaker 5 (48:58):
That's disgusting. It's like, I'm like, come eh, all right,
we have to move on. Oh there goes Elvis.

Speaker 2 (49:07):
Elvis Duran in the Morning show, Don't answer the phone,
Elvis Duran See Elvis.

Speaker 18 (49:17):
Duran phone tap.

Speaker 5 (49:18):
So Christina says her dad is always yelling at her
because she's being careless. She leaves the top down on
her convertible, and she leaves the car parked when she
goes shopping or whatever. He really feels like something bad
is gonna happen, someone's gonna break something. He's had him.
So they thought it would be funny to call from
the beach where she left the top down yet again,

(49:39):
and all of her stuff gets stolen. So she starts
the tap and then we'll come up at the end
to break it up. So all right, here we go.
Here's the phone tip. Listen to.

Speaker 2 (49:50):
Sad.

Speaker 28 (49:53):
I'm at the beach and I left the top end
and I just went back to it, and everything is gone.

Speaker 29 (50:00):
What's everything like?

Speaker 28 (50:02):
The CD changer, my iPod, my wallet, my phone, my
your glasses.

Speaker 19 (50:10):
Then the car.

Speaker 28 (50:11):
I know, well I just left it him because it's
always there. I didn't think I should take it out.

Speaker 29 (50:16):
You don't leave that stuff in your call like that, dummy.
Your wallet is gone, with your license and IDs and everything.

Speaker 28 (50:22):
Yeah, my wile, my license, my credit card, my bag.

Speaker 6 (50:27):
I was gonna call.

Speaker 28 (50:30):
The parking lot was like empty. I didn't think there
was gonna be a lot of people here.

Speaker 29 (50:33):
I car off damage. You got the hands, call the
bank and casting your bank, credit card and go more
vehicle and cantling your license.

Speaker 28 (50:47):
I can't go to the bank right now.

Speaker 30 (50:48):
I'm at the beach, the beach there, go take care
of your more born things today.

Speaker 6 (50:59):
But what what a out?

Speaker 2 (51:00):
Like?

Speaker 28 (51:00):
The your glasses is what I got that?

Speaker 29 (51:05):
The important thing is now you got your credit cards
gone and your license is gone, your idiot. Everything else
is replaceable.

Speaker 28 (51:12):
You understand, yes, but like you think you could do it?

Speaker 29 (51:16):
Maybe enough I ain't doing a dancing for you. You're
gonna call the police, have him come over, and you're
gonna follow the police, be poor for stolen property, and
then you're gonna go to the bank and cancel your
credit card.

Speaker 6 (51:30):
They start your phone too.

Speaker 28 (51:32):
Yeah, my phone is in the car to mama, won
This is what.

Speaker 6 (51:34):
Did I tell you? To not leave the phone out
of your sight, to stay with the phone in case
you have to call you.

Speaker 28 (51:40):
I know that's the reason why I went back to
my car.

Speaker 6 (51:43):
What kind of an idiot does that? What that money
in the open car so you know if somebody could
come and take it? What kind of idiot does that?

Speaker 19 (51:55):
Huh?

Speaker 23 (51:56):
I don't know.

Speaker 6 (51:57):
You can your mother and now you're going to try
a vehicle crazy with the yours.

Speaker 28 (52:03):
You don't even tell her all.

Speaker 6 (52:06):
Do you think she's not gonna know because Mom's not
like flat out. Yeah, well you're in big trouble because
now you really mussed up this time. You're on your
freaking sad nonsense. You can't get enough. You can never
get enough. Call a police and follow report. What are
you're lusting? I am listening so that you say you

(52:27):
call the police and tell them where you are and
have a come there follow report. Will you're right what?

Speaker 28 (52:34):
I'm just with my friends at the beach, are tanning.

Speaker 6 (52:36):
You need to beach right now?

Speaker 28 (52:38):
Can you part the half tomorrow because I don't want
to miss this, Like it's like the best time to
be channing right now.

Speaker 6 (52:44):
I swear to God something and all the friends that
you got there, and you go take care of your responsibilities.
I don't want to hear that you're doing at three
or four o'clock that has to be done right now,
but that's when the sun goes way.

Speaker 28 (53:00):
Can I just leap bore.

Speaker 6 (53:07):
Right now and you go take care of that right now,
but get the rest of to day. It's shot. You
don't know how to piss it up. I am at
your little ass right now.

Speaker 13 (53:17):
Would you still be pissed off if we told you
you just got phone tapped?

Speaker 28 (53:21):
I got you.

Speaker 6 (53:24):
Better, boy, I tell you was in a big trouble.
Let me tell you right now.

Speaker 18 (53:31):
Elvis Duran a phone tap.

Speaker 31 (53:34):
This phone tab was pre recorded with permission granted by
all participates.

Speaker 2 (53:37):
The Elvis Duran phone tap only on Elvis Duran in
the Morning show.

Speaker 5 (53:43):
All right, I want to bring up something kind of touchy. Okay,
you have a best friend and you want them to
be happy. Right, they meet someone, they kind of fall
for that person. You hate them. You hate them. Not
only do you just not like them, but you know
they're not good for your friend. But you know what,
if you get in the middle of it, then you're

(54:05):
you're a monster. Like what do you do? And I
bet everyone listening to the sound of my voice has
been in this situation.

Speaker 10 (54:12):
A minute right now, Gandhi, I hate my friend's boyfriend.
I really really dislike this person. He's terrible, he's not nice,
he's bratty, he's not nice to my friend's family. It's
just there's not and all of us are on the
same page, all the friends are on the same page,
or kind of like do we tell? Do we not tell?
Because I know if we tell, we're not going to
win that battle. It's gonna this person's gonna pick the

(54:34):
boyfriend and not us.

Speaker 5 (54:35):
You have to let your friend live in their life,
you know, and I know. But at the same time,
then you have to go out and socialize with them,
and you come up with it. You find yourself coming
up with excuses not to go.

Speaker 10 (54:45):
So many excuses I've run out too.

Speaker 5 (54:47):
Now there's another side of this story. What if you
are the person whose best friend says to you the
person you're dating is a loser. You have chosen the
wrong person. Get a hold of yourself. You're wasting time
with this person. They're using you. They're evil to you,
they're me to your family.

Speaker 25 (55:07):
See.

Speaker 9 (55:08):
I think if it's your best friend, you have to
take some of that to heart, because I feel like
your best friend is only going to have your best
interest in mind, and I feel like maybe they see
something you don't, so maybe it's worth the investigation.

Speaker 5 (55:21):
You know, I've been in this situation, have you. Yeah,
have you ever had your friend say, Hey, the person
you're dating is a total loser, a total Dutch. My
mom said, well, okay, the thing is, you know you
the person you're dating. You immediately take their side and go, hey,
I know him better than you, right, so you know
there are redeeming qualities you don't see. Probably it just
so happens when you're around he's a total fop. You know,

(55:44):
he's a total idiot. But when I'm along with him,
it's all good.

Speaker 9 (55:48):
I had a friend's boyfriend hit on me when she
left the room and she didn't believe me. That was interesting,
that's horrible, And I was like, if he's doing it
right in front of you, you walked into the other
room to get a sandwich.

Speaker 5 (56:01):
The only problem with this is, what's that scary?

Speaker 1 (56:04):
If you bond?

Speaker 13 (56:05):
You know, if you're with your friend and you're trying
to give advice about the person you're dating, you will
eventually get closer and bond closer with the boy the
boyfriend or girlfriend, and then you'll be pit against your
best friend.

Speaker 5 (56:17):
There's all sorts of gravitational stuff going on here. Hi, Julie,
how are you good? How are you doing well? And
thanks for asking? So you were actually elected as the
person to break the news, right, tell everyone what happened.

Speaker 22 (56:34):
Yeah, So right after the engagement party, my best friend's
family approached me afterwards, crying, literally in tears, asking me
to tell him not to marry her, and that I
was the only one that I would come off as okay.
They were really nervous to tell him.

Speaker 32 (56:55):
They're all scared.

Speaker 1 (56:56):
Wow, I mean an entire family, a family.

Speaker 5 (57:01):
I wanted to use use you as a sacrificial land.
You're the pery keet. They flew into the mine right.

Speaker 9 (57:09):
But you know what, it makes sense because a lot
of times you don't listen to your family, you listen
to your friends. Firsity for your family.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
So what happened, Julie?

Speaker 22 (57:16):
So I debated it and I ended up telling them
it's their responsibility to tell him, not mine.

Speaker 26 (57:24):
I'm not blood.

Speaker 22 (57:26):
And if they were all concerned that they should do
it because I didn't want to be in a situation
where I lost my best friend.

Speaker 5 (57:32):
Yeah, it's a tricky place to be in. So did
they follow your advice or what happened?

Speaker 22 (57:38):
They did not follow my advice. So the day of
the wedding, everyone was crying. They were drunk, They were
giving loud speeches about how hopefully this will work out.

Speaker 1 (57:51):
Very it's not good, this is not.

Speaker 11 (57:58):
So.

Speaker 5 (57:59):
How long have they been married?

Speaker 22 (58:00):
Now they've been married about a year and a half,
and am everyone still hates her. There's definitely issues.

Speaker 10 (58:10):
She lies.

Speaker 22 (58:12):
It's still it's still all big.

Speaker 23 (58:14):
It's a circuit.

Speaker 27 (58:15):
We'll does the.

Speaker 9 (58:15):
Family look at you now and be like you should
help us out, lady?

Speaker 22 (58:21):
Yeah, but you know what, on that blood, they should
have done it too.

Speaker 5 (58:24):
You should lose one out of sleep over this, not
at all. Do you think your friend, the husband, of course,
is starting to come around and see the cracks in
the foundation with this woman he married?

Speaker 22 (58:34):
Oh, I definitely think so. Now when I see him,
he does not look happy.

Speaker 16 (58:38):
Oh that all the time.

Speaker 22 (58:40):
He's very suppressed that it's her.

Speaker 15 (58:42):
It's definitely her.

Speaker 1 (58:43):
Look.

Speaker 5 (58:44):
There you are on the sidelines watching a friend make
make an awful, awful decision with, you know, in their
love life and getting married. Sometimes you got to let
them do it. They have to learn on their own,
you know, and I don't. I don't know anyway. So
do you feel fine? You can sleep at night knowing
that it's not your fault if you did not have
to go in and try to save him from this
awful marriage?

Speaker 22 (59:04):
Right, I'm feel fine with it all. I mean, it
is what it is. He has to learn from his
own mistakes. I can't tell him who not to marry.

Speaker 27 (59:12):
It's on him right there, All.

Speaker 5 (59:14):
Right, Julie, thanks for listening to us. I don't blame you.
You know, you can only take so much responsibility. I
can't sit. The whole family voted you're the one. Hello, Laura,
Welcome to the show.

Speaker 6 (59:26):
Hi.

Speaker 5 (59:27):
Hi, So your best friends hated your boyfriend.

Speaker 32 (59:32):
Yes, And I've been on both sides of a situation
like this, and now looking back, I'm an idiot of course,
Like you just kind of have to.

Speaker 23 (59:40):
Work through it.

Speaker 32 (59:41):
But when there's like all these red signs but you
don't let them meet your family, you have to kind
of lie about that you're still dating them because your
friends and your friends know that you're still dating them.

Speaker 23 (59:51):
But it's just kind of a sucky.

Speaker 32 (59:53):
Situation because your best friend can give you advice and
tell you that like you know that he's bad for
you or so on, but you have like blinders on.
You're kind of just stuck in a situation and you
have to learn the hard way.

Speaker 23 (01:00:06):
And I feel like, as long as they're not.

Speaker 32 (01:00:09):
Like physically getting hurt or you know what I mean,
there's not really much you can do until they realize
it on their own. Because then on the tail end,
I have friends or I have a really good friend
who you can't trash their boyfriend if they're with them,
because they if they go back to them, you can't
be like, oh, he's a you know, blah blah blah
blah blah, and then they end up being with him
and you look like it's just it's a hot mess.

Speaker 9 (01:00:32):
You have to worry about them opening their mouths to him.
Oh yeah, you tell him, you know, you tell her this,
that and the other thing. And then she goes back
and tells him what you said, and then he hates you,
and it gets just, you know, gets bad.

Speaker 32 (01:00:43):
You have to be like swiz, you has to be neutral.
You can't say anything, and it.

Speaker 33 (01:00:47):
Thinks you got to bite your tongue.

Speaker 23 (01:00:48):
But again, I feel like.

Speaker 32 (01:00:50):
Now I know, all right, well you're an idiot because
you were eating an idiot for a while, Like you're stupid,
But you know what, you kind of have to go
through those.

Speaker 5 (01:00:59):
You gotta learn learn for yourself. The thing is, if
you're dating someone your friends don't like and they insult
the person you're dating, you feel like they're insulting you.
Ahead you're doubting me. I know what I'm doing. You're
not You're not sleeping with this guy.

Speaker 7 (01:01:12):
You don't know I am.

Speaker 5 (01:01:13):
It's all great, And.

Speaker 10 (01:01:15):
I've totally done the thing where I had friends who
did the make up break up, make up, breakup, and
on the first breakup, I was like, well, let me
tell you, I didn't like him anyway. He was ugly,
he's not.

Speaker 17 (01:01:22):
Good enough for you. And then they get back together.

Speaker 10 (01:01:24):
I'm like, oh damn, yeah, so true.

Speaker 5 (01:01:29):
All right, Laura, thanks for listening to us. Have a
good day. Okay to Hi, Maddie. What's going on?

Speaker 11 (01:01:37):
So?

Speaker 23 (01:01:37):
Why I friend? She met this guy and they dad
for two months and they got made and I told
her not to and she did it anyway. And but
you don't want to be that friend's like I told
you so, No, never, you know, she had to learn
it on her own.

Speaker 5 (01:01:56):
But did she ever come to you, Maddie and say,
you know what, I should have listened to you. Did
she ever say that to you?

Speaker 23 (01:02:01):
No, she's so hardheaded she will admit it.

Speaker 5 (01:02:03):
Yeah, I know. Well you gotta live and let live.

Speaker 1 (01:02:05):
What are you gonna do?

Speaker 9 (01:02:06):
But there is always the opposite too, right?

Speaker 1 (01:02:08):
What's that?

Speaker 9 (01:02:08):
Don't say anything? Then they break up with the parson
and then you go, you know, I never really liked him.
And then they say to you, well, what the hell
didn't you tell me?

Speaker 1 (01:02:17):
Why did you tell me?

Speaker 17 (01:02:17):
The blakes?

Speaker 5 (01:02:18):
The signs were so offous? All right, Maddie, you're a
good friend. You can't help it. She did, she has
to do her own thing. Thanks for listening to us.

Speaker 24 (01:02:25):
Oh, thank you, it's going to be.

Speaker 5 (01:02:29):
We're glad you're on. Thank you. Have a great day today.
Finally we talked to Katie.

Speaker 3 (01:02:32):
Hi, Katie, Hey, good morning, Hello lady, Hello lady.

Speaker 5 (01:02:36):
So all these tragic stories were hearing. You want to
hear a happy ending, give it, give us your happy ending.
Go ahead.

Speaker 3 (01:02:41):
So basically I dated this guy for four years. My
best friend hated him for three of them. They were
actually really good friends for the first four the first
one first year.

Speaker 5 (01:02:51):
One year, and then your then your best friend hated it.

Speaker 3 (01:02:54):
Yeah, and then actually my dad chimed in and he
was like, you gotta let him go. And my best
friend's words were like in the back of my head saying,
Garrett of him. He's so good for you, right, And
I just I got rid of him. And basically all
is said and down, and my life is so much better.

Speaker 33 (01:03:16):
Okay, I forgot I forgot his.

Speaker 5 (01:03:18):
Existence exactly, I know, but no, he's definitely left a
footprint on you. And there was obviously if you look
at it at a universal you know, you know me
the tree hugger. You got to remember that you learned
something from that. Something good did come out of that
awful situation. It's hard to see it sometimes, can you
can you actually think about what it could have been?

Speaker 1 (01:03:35):
Like?

Speaker 5 (01:03:36):
What do you what did you learn from that relationship
with this bad guy?

Speaker 3 (01:03:40):
I definitely think that I learned that sometimes when the
blinders are on, you don't want to listen to anybody.
I'm really hard headed. Yeah, so so has this?

Speaker 5 (01:03:52):
Has this turned into a person who's a little more
likely to listen to the consult from friends?

Speaker 9 (01:03:57):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:03:58):
Most definitely, Yeah, definitely, especially since I'm a very diy person.

Speaker 33 (01:04:04):
I have to do it myself.

Speaker 3 (01:04:06):
Before I have to listen and ask for help.

Speaker 5 (01:04:09):
There you go, so well, now you're on the right path, Katie. Congratulations,
good for you, Thank you.

Speaker 3 (01:04:13):
I can't even believe I'm talking to you guys right now.
I've been trying to call it for years.

Speaker 25 (01:04:17):
Why not?

Speaker 5 (01:04:17):
But you know what, and you calling in it has been
a great contribution. We appreciate it. Now, are you dating anyone?

Speaker 25 (01:04:21):
Now?

Speaker 6 (01:04:22):
I am? I am?

Speaker 5 (01:04:24):
Is anyone get saying right?

Speaker 19 (01:04:25):
You?

Speaker 11 (01:04:25):
Hi?

Speaker 12 (01:04:27):
No?

Speaker 3 (01:04:28):
No, no, no, not at all. Actually, my boyfriend's friends,
my boyfriend's relationship with my friends are really great. Good
We all hang out and we all go on vacations together.

Speaker 5 (01:04:37):
It's so much much better this way, isn't it? I mean,
is it better? Love it?

Speaker 25 (01:04:41):
Love it?

Speaker 3 (01:04:42):
Oh and ye know what's funny. My best friend didn't
like this guy at first.

Speaker 5 (01:04:45):
Oh well, okay, well okay, sometimes they have to give
it a little time. All right, Katie, thank you very much.

Speaker 10 (01:04:50):
Do you have one friend or a person in your
life who if they said I really don't like your
significant other, you'd be like, all right, this is a
bad thing.

Speaker 5 (01:04:56):
I would listen to them, and I would maybe I would.
I would pay closer attention to what they're talking about
and see if there are signs. Yeah, yep, But ten
years ago I would say, screw you. Yeah, you know
what you're talking about.

Speaker 9 (01:05:07):
And you're like a deer in headlight. You're so in
love everything, so wonder you just don't see, you know,
sometimes what's right in front of you.

Speaker 5 (01:05:13):
You got to get into a point in your life
where you're like, okay, I'm in charge of my life.
If it's not good for me, I need to go
the other way and stop coming up with justification and
excuses and stuff like that. You're live, don't use the f.

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Speaker 5 (01:06:07):
Squatters Now, this has been a huge story of late
where people have a house they got from their mom
who passed away or whatever, and it's been empty for
a month or whatever. They go over to check on
the house and you know whatever, make sure the toilets
are flushing. There's someone living in it. Right, They're like,
what are you doing here? Well, in some places they

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have a right to be there even if you own it.

Speaker 9 (01:06:34):
They are squatters without paying you, without paying you, insanity.

Speaker 5 (01:06:38):
I know there have been stories lately here in the
New York area. There was a woman I believe in
Queen's you were saying, she went to a similar conversation,
went to her mom's house.

Speaker 10 (01:06:48):
Yeah, her mother passed away. She took some time getting
herself together, went to the house to clean things up,
found people living there, asked them to leave. They told her, no,
we're not leaving, We're going to stay here. So she
changed the locks. She got arrested.

Speaker 5 (01:07:01):
What exactly, Yeah, because she kept them from their house
because they had squatters' rights. Go back to that our favorite,
one of our favorite musicals of all time, Danielle Rent. Yeah,
that was about a bunch of people who really talented people.

Speaker 9 (01:07:14):
Yeah, great voices, great voices, dancer living where they were squatting.

Speaker 5 (01:07:19):
Living in the East Village, I guess right.

Speaker 9 (01:07:22):
And actually one of their friends owned the property, and
so they thought like they even had more rights.

Speaker 5 (01:07:27):
Because right they couldn't get rid of them because they
could sing. Well, something changes everything if you're a singing squatter.
So I it's just it baffles my mind that if
you go out and you pay, you know, money for
an apartment or a house, and someone moves in. I
think in New York State, thirty days is it? Keep

(01:07:47):
in mind worth saying what we're just reading on the surface, right,
thirty days?

Speaker 10 (01:07:51):
It looks like so in some places they said, if
you've been in a place for ten years, then you
have a right to squat there. But then they're saying
thirty days is all it takes in New York State
to be able to squat on someone's property and just
stay there.

Speaker 18 (01:08:02):
That's crazy.

Speaker 10 (01:08:03):
So I could be wrong about this to follows if.

Speaker 5 (01:08:05):
You know, look, I think you still technically own it.
It's just a very very laborious project project to get
them out of there.

Speaker 12 (01:08:13):
It's a lot of saw case where some squatters they
were charging other squatters to come in and move in
in a place that they don't even own. So like
there was like a main squatter he was charging other
squatters to live there while they were trying to while
the person that actually owned the property was trying to
get them out.

Speaker 10 (01:08:28):
So these asses can become landlords.

Speaker 9 (01:08:30):
Yeah property, that's exactly crazy.

Speaker 5 (01:08:33):
Well, so it kind of makes me scared. I'm want
to get home real quick after work. No really, So okay,
we're trying to figure out where the squatter's rights came from.
And I was under the impression I could be wrong here,
maybe very clear that Let's say you're renting. You were,
you have a legal lease with a landlord, and you're
renting an apartment, and then you cannot for whatever reason

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pay the rent and there are circumstances there, including pandemic
or whatever. You then I think you've been given rights
to not be pushed out so fast. But what if
you don't have at least you just move into an
empty place.

Speaker 10 (01:09:11):
Right So this seems like something that was rooted in
the settlement of the United States, where everybody was coming
here and just squatting on property that wasn't theirs, and
then they make these laws and say, hey, this is ours.
Now you can't get me out now here we are.

Speaker 5 (01:09:28):
But that was a land grab. When we're all going
west to pan for gold.

Speaker 10 (01:09:33):
In the day, you see a land from other people,
and now it continues.

Speaker 5 (01:09:36):
I don't I'm just this is one of those stories.
I just don't get it.

Speaker 1 (01:09:39):
What's that? But I do know that you know.

Speaker 7 (01:09:41):
It's basically maintaining a property right because I had a
vacant lot next to me to my house and doing
some research. If they haven't maintained a lot for ten years,
then you can claim ownership. But then, like you said Elvis,
it's a long laborious process.

Speaker 5 (01:09:57):
Yeah, to do that. Yeah, if you if you own
the house or the you still own it. But you
can't just call the police and have them kick them
off with their property. Well, depends on what state you're in.

Speaker 12 (01:10:07):
Yeah, because in Florida now they just passed the law
now that it's illegal squatters that you can't have them
removed from the property.

Speaker 1 (01:10:14):
Now in the state of Florida, that's a good thing.

Speaker 9 (01:10:15):
I just asked my husband, who's a real estate agent
in New Jersey, So I said, do you know the
rules of squatters in New Jersey? And he said no,
They change all the time and they are very intricate,
so it's tough to know the exact laws and allowances
of what landlords can do.

Speaker 5 (01:10:31):
I will tell you, huh, not far down the road
from our house, out in the country, there's people living
there that don't own their house really, and so we're like,
what do we call the police? We're trying to find
the owners. We can't find them. Someone passed away, then
it got passed down to someone. Someone bought someone in
the family bought the house for a dollar, just you know,
change the name over to them. Yeah, you can't find them.

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Here's Alisha, Alicia.

Speaker 9 (01:10:55):
This happened on your street, right right, Yeah, I live
in Connecticut.

Speaker 34 (01:10:59):
A woman in the street passed away and the house
was vacant for months, and when her family finally came
in to sell it, there was actually a squadron in
there who had moved tables and chairs and appliances that
didn't work because there was no power. But he had
a full grown a rug in there. He was living
in there for months at the time, and when somebody

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actually finally bought the house, he refused to leave, so
they changed the locks, but he broke in through a
window and they still let him stay there. The cops
let him stay there.

Speaker 5 (01:11:28):
Well, I don't I don't understand.

Speaker 9 (01:11:32):
It doesn't make sense if it's not yours, it's not yours.
I mean, why is it not that simple?

Speaker 5 (01:11:36):
I don't know, but I'm assuming there are there are
rights group human rights groups out there that saying no, no, no, No,
I mean it was a lot.

Speaker 34 (01:11:45):
It took a lot to finally get him out. Somebody
finally bought the house and started to flip it, and
then they must have filed something to get him out officially.
But yeah, he had a full living room in there,
he had stuff in the kitchen, he had food in
the pantries. He was just living there for free.

Speaker 5 (01:11:57):
Wasn't there a story? I guess I think it was
here in New York. There was a guy going online
and he was communicating to a lot of immigrants who
are coming over the border, saying, here's how you get
a house. Look to these houses that they're empty, move in,
and so I think he is. They let him have it.

Speaker 9 (01:12:14):
Still, I have a question if somebody goes, say, you know,
a lot of people get summer homes, so they move
out of their mansion because they get a summer home
down the beach and it's beautiful, So they're not in
their home for three months, Can I technically then move in?

Speaker 5 (01:12:27):
Really this happened in California, Los Angeles. There's a mansion
like in bel Air. They took it over. They took
everyone in the neighborhood knows, and of course California, being
an extremely liberal state, They're like, well, no, we can't
do anything.

Speaker 34 (01:12:40):
Oh look this new hobby because I would.

Speaker 5 (01:12:43):
Yeah, God, give me an address. I'm gonna go squat.

Speaker 9 (01:12:46):
Seriously, I know some people will get a nice summer
home and their other house is not too shabby.

Speaker 5 (01:12:51):
Lisia, thank you very much. I hope everything gets worked
out on your street.

Speaker 6 (01:12:54):
Thank you.

Speaker 10 (01:12:55):
Love you, guys, love you more so asking for a friend.
If my apartment building has been irritating me with some
things and I just stopped paying rent, they can't kick
me out.

Speaker 5 (01:13:05):
There's a process they have to go through. Their eviction
process is very lengthy. Yeah, they can't just move your
stuff in a hotel. If it's a hotel, it's different.

Speaker 9 (01:13:16):
Okay, I think I.

Speaker 10 (01:13:17):
Think this happens with Airbnb's a lot too. I've seen
some videos of people who had a renter. Then those
renters just stayed and they couldn't do anything to get
them out. It's crazy.

Speaker 9 (01:13:24):
It's crazy.

Speaker 5 (01:13:25):
We have someone center text. Is this the one you're
talking about? Yeah, they're oh listening this morning. I'm going
to court this morning for a squad that's living in
my Brooklyn property and they've taken me to court for repairs.
What so we have the holdover in one court room
this morning, and then the case against them is for repairs.
They're assuming because I'm not repairing my place I own.

Speaker 7 (01:13:50):
I spoke to him. He didn't want to go in
the air. Okay, they've been there for two years, and
I asked them, well, how much have you spent in
legal fees?

Speaker 1 (01:13:55):
He goes, I couldn't even calculate that at this point.

Speaker 5 (01:13:58):
Wow, this is so wild. Stefinitely, you work for a
landlord tenant court, so you still see all this all
the time. So you live in the state of New York.
So what's going on in the state of New York
as far as squatters.

Speaker 8 (01:14:11):
Well, they have rights after thirty days the landlords or
owners have to take them beforet to have them removed
and the lesson time that.

Speaker 1 (01:14:19):
Yeah, why do they have this?

Speaker 5 (01:14:21):
Why do they have these rights?

Speaker 1 (01:14:22):
Where? Where does this come from?

Speaker 19 (01:14:24):
New York State law?

Speaker 8 (01:14:26):
Thank your congressman.

Speaker 6 (01:14:28):
Yeah, but.

Speaker 5 (01:14:30):
At some point, Stephanie, I'm just kind of curious they
had to put this into law, and something caused them
to put it into law. I'm trying to wonder. I'm
wondering what story there is to tell about why squatters
have rights, but we can't figure that out.

Speaker 8 (01:14:43):
Yeah, I can't figure that out, but they do. They
do have rights. And it's a long process. And you know,
it goes by how long they've been in the property.
If they've been there up to a year, you have
to give them a thirty day notice. A year to
two years is a sixty day notice, and anything over
to two years it's a ninety Oh.

Speaker 5 (01:15:01):
My god, it could be quite all right. Thank you, Stephanie.
Thank you very much.

Speaker 8 (01:15:08):
Nice to talk to you.

Speaker 6 (01:15:09):
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Speaker 32 (01:15:10):
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Speaker 11 (01:15:11):
Listener.

Speaker 5 (01:15:12):
Well, you know what, we've been here for thirty years
because we're squatting doing a great job. They've been trying
to the victims for years. All right, Thank you, Stephanie,
Thank you very much. What's up? Scary?

Speaker 13 (01:15:22):
So, if I own property and you break into my house, yes,
you can be arrested for breaking and entering. Yes, So
I still own that property and squats show up, why
don't they get arrested for breaking it?

Speaker 5 (01:15:33):
If they're well in the state of New York, if
they're there thirty days there, they are protected more than
more so than not so they're okay, okay, oh here
you go. What once you use that microphone over there?

Speaker 7 (01:15:45):
You found it. Why do squatters have rights? It's to
help urban residents find affordable housing. Well, that's extremely affordable.

Speaker 5 (01:15:53):
What a good deal.

Speaker 7 (01:15:54):
It was a legal right meant to allow people to
settle in abandoned or unused properties or to build homes
on unclaimed land. The intent was to prevent people and
property owners from taking law into their own hands, encouraging
resolution through legal channels instead of potential physical confrontations.

Speaker 10 (01:16:10):
So initially it did start through colonialism.

Speaker 5 (01:16:14):
Yeah, yeahstead act like land is claimed, I own it.

Speaker 9 (01:16:17):
This land is my land.

Speaker 1 (01:16:19):
This land it's not your land.

Speaker 5 (01:16:22):
From California to New York Islands, from the Redwood Forest
to the Gulf Stream Waters. This land's made for you
or me.

Speaker 9 (01:16:29):
Yes, it is.

Speaker 10 (01:16:30):
Apparently you had a point.

Speaker 5 (01:16:32):
I don't.

Speaker 10 (01:16:33):
I'm just you know, there are abandoned buildings all over
the place. So if I go and find a mall
and I just sit there for thirty days, then that
mall is mine.

Speaker 5 (01:16:40):
I don't know, I don't know. It may be a
residential thing, maybe a mall thing.

Speaker 1 (01:16:43):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:16:44):
You can live there, at Gandhi you can live there
at the old anti hand stand. This is Gandhi Square mall.

Speaker 1 (01:16:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:16:56):
So when Centata, Texas, Anna Delvi didn't she squint? Yeah,
thinks she did.

Speaker 17 (01:17:02):
This is crazy.

Speaker 5 (01:17:03):
I know, we're just trying to figure it out. It's
so strange.

Speaker 7 (01:17:08):
I guess the lesson is every twenty nine days, check
on your property.

Speaker 17 (01:17:12):
Yeah, if you want to, do you prove?

Speaker 1 (01:17:15):
How do you prove along they've been there? How are
you going to prove that?

Speaker 10 (01:17:18):
I don't know if someone I'm not advocating for this,
but if someone hired other people to extract those people
from the house.

Speaker 5 (01:17:24):
I've heard how they do this. Okay, how you send
someone to your house and have them remove the heating system,
their finishing system, make sure there's no electricity going to
the place. You pull the doors off, the hinges on
the front door, of the back door.

Speaker 9 (01:17:37):
Okay, a lot of money.

Speaker 5 (01:17:38):
It does cost a lot of money.

Speaker 10 (01:17:42):
I was thinking more like, hire some big people to
just yank am out of the house.

Speaker 1 (01:17:46):
How Gandhi style.

Speaker 9 (01:17:48):
Now you're going goodbye.

Speaker 5 (01:17:50):
Yeah, it's economical.

Speaker 9 (01:17:52):
Yeah yeah, but then they're going to say something, you know,
they got hurt and harassment.

Speaker 5 (01:17:56):
Yeah, you get taken a jam. Yeah, I don't insanity,
I don't know nuts. I just don't know anymore.

Speaker 10 (01:18:05):
This was the first time I've been thankful to have
no property.

Speaker 5 (01:18:08):
They gotta have no property right side, I get We
gotta hurry up, I gotta get a home.

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Speaker 5 (01:18:44):
We had to actually open up our people's court. Yes,
plaintiff first.

Speaker 9 (01:18:49):
Right, scary as the plaintiff away, all.

Speaker 5 (01:18:50):
Right, plaintiff plush and we really should get a laptop.

Speaker 9 (01:18:55):
We should make them swear on the Bible, shouldn't they.
Let's not get into that to his mother doesn't want that.

Speaker 5 (01:19:01):
All right, scary, you're you're the plaintiff and your your
complaints against Samantha. Yes, okay, what a couple of days ago.

Speaker 13 (01:19:10):
It was brought to my attention unintentionally by Nate that
Sam took a present that I got her for Christmas
a couple of years ago, and I paid a lot
of money for and.

Speaker 5 (01:19:23):
She sold it and just to whoever she did. I
don't know where she sold it.

Speaker 13 (01:19:27):
I don't know what website, I don't know if she's
strapped for cash. But I felt that this was something
that I was I put a lot of love and
energy time.

Speaker 5 (01:19:37):
And hurt your feelings. Can you tell us what? Okay,
hold on?

Speaker 1 (01:19:40):
What was the gift?

Speaker 5 (01:19:42):
What was the gift you bought? It was a very
I'm gonna show you exhibit A. Can I give you
exhibit A.

Speaker 9 (01:19:49):
I'll bring it to the judge.

Speaker 13 (01:19:52):
It is a Jonathan Adler authentic canister from his canister collection.
Do they say like barbig WIT's and Klaylud's and Ganja.

Speaker 5 (01:20:02):
I love that. Let me tell you something. Anything from
Jonathan Adler I'm a fan of. That's a great gift.

Speaker 17 (01:20:08):
Yeah, Jonathan Adler has some attractive designs.

Speaker 5 (01:20:10):
Okay.

Speaker 13 (01:20:10):
So so one year she helped me out quite a bit.
And you know, a couple of years ago, and it doesn't matter,
you gave her again. I gave her a gift for Christmas,
and I said, sam in fact, I actually left it
on her doorstep because she wasn't home to collect it.

Speaker 5 (01:20:24):
Remember that. Okay, that really has nothing to do with
what I spent over one hundred dollars on this canister. Okay,
it doesn't matter if you spent two dollars or two
million dollars. It's a gift, it was thoughtful, it came
from the right place. And now I come to find
out from Nate that she's sold it online, like as
if he never even gave a rats but about it.

Speaker 1 (01:20:45):
Okay.

Speaker 5 (01:20:45):
You can use the word ass if you want, but
you want to say rats but top b u et.

Speaker 9 (01:20:50):
But did you sell that on Poshmark?

Speaker 5 (01:20:52):
I did sell it on PA Okay, So let's go
to Samantha, the UH defendant.

Speaker 25 (01:20:58):
All right.

Speaker 5 (01:20:58):
I'm still trying to figure out even if you do
Scary with the damages will be. I can't quite forget that.
But anyway falls back, no, hold on, there's more to
it than that, Yes, Samantha, your side of the story.

Speaker 17 (01:21:08):
Okay.

Speaker 20 (01:21:09):
So I had the gift from Scary. I I very
much appreciated it, and I recently started just cleaning out
my life things I didn't need.

Speaker 5 (01:21:16):
So I came across it, don't need a canister that
says barbituates need.

Speaker 17 (01:21:20):
I didn't need the canister.

Speaker 20 (01:21:21):
I was cleaning stuff out, and I'm like, okay, you know,
because gift from Scary.

Speaker 17 (01:21:24):
It was really nice.

Speaker 20 (01:21:25):
And then I never understood why he got me a
canister that said ganja because I don't smoke.

Speaker 17 (01:21:30):
I never there was no reference to it whatsoever.

Speaker 13 (01:21:33):
It's a play on words, almost like as if it's
a cute tea thing, like you say ganja, but there's us.

Speaker 5 (01:21:38):
I'm sorry, you had your chance, all right, Please go ahead.

Speaker 20 (01:21:41):
We never spoke about it, was never hit on. And
then we always talk about how much Scary is king
of regifting things. So I started to like, I'm a
little suspicious that he didn't regift it to me. So
I reached out to our friend who he also bought
a gift for that same year, and she got Michael
Kore's boots that year, which she picked out when she

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the same day we both.

Speaker 5 (01:22:03):
Got our best assistant.

Speaker 9 (01:22:06):
Those were beautiful, those Michael cor boos, and she wore.

Speaker 5 (01:22:08):
The same year, I gave her a Chanel bag, so
I went, but it isn't okay. By the way, this
isn't getting just it's okay.

Speaker 20 (01:22:16):
I put two and two together and I realized Scary
regifted me this because she got to pick out her
own gift that same year, and this meant nothing to him.

Speaker 5 (01:22:25):
By the way, me no offense Samantha talking about what
other gifts he sent to other people. It really has
no bearing on this case.

Speaker 20 (01:22:32):
I just realized it was regifted, so I didn't feel
badly about.

Speaker 13 (01:22:36):
Gifted bought at the Short Hills mall Way credit court statement.

Speaker 9 (01:22:41):
Did you buy it for her? Or did you buy
it for someone else? Or did someone get.

Speaker 1 (01:22:45):
Hold on Danielle?

Speaker 5 (01:22:46):
Danielle Scary was the plaintiff. Now he's the defender. All right,
here we go, hold on turn playing. Okay, here's okay.
Let me just as your judge, the knowledgeable Judge Crotch,
I must, I must tell you what's going on here.
It has nothing to do with regifting, has nothing to
do with the price of the gift. The fact is

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that It'll keep it simple. You gave her a gift
and she sold it. Yeah, okay, set, okay, what damage
has been done? Because that's all I can work with
emotional damage. Okay, emotional damage. I've upset.

Speaker 13 (01:23:18):
I cannot believe that I went out of my way
to do this for and she freaking sells it.

Speaker 5 (01:23:23):
Okay, well as if it didn't.

Speaker 9 (01:23:24):
Mean anything to her. Wait a minute, how many times
have we gotten gifts? And I've seen you sell people
s'mores makers or what the other thing?

Speaker 5 (01:23:31):
What am I going to do with a fund? My
point is this, Okay, though, even though she hurt your
feelings by selling the gift you gave her, it's not illegal,
it's not wrong. You really aren't damaged. There's no damage here,
even though your feelers are hurt.

Speaker 20 (01:23:49):
Now I love the gift even more in the form
of fifty five dollars.

Speaker 5 (01:23:52):
She got fifty How much did you spent? Scary? How
much you over?

Speaker 1 (01:24:00):
Well over a hundred. Who's the bigger one?

Speaker 11 (01:24:04):
You know?

Speaker 5 (01:24:05):
Who wins out here is whoever bought it from Samantha.

Speaker 1 (01:24:07):
That's the winner.

Speaker 5 (01:24:09):
This is a this is a frivolous lawsuit.

Speaker 1 (01:24:13):
Really can't throw this out of court. I'm throwing it out.

Speaker 5 (01:24:16):
This is a waste of the court's time. This is stupid.
This is a stupid thing. I can't believe we're wasting
our show's time.

Speaker 9 (01:24:24):
On this very scary.

Speaker 5 (01:24:26):
Whether it's a new gift or regift, it doesn't matter.
She sell it to doesn't matter. It's her will you
give it to her. It is her property technically, so
she can do whatever she wants.

Speaker 17 (01:24:36):
To win and now belongs to Deborah Girl for sixty eight.

Speaker 5 (01:24:40):
I got a great deal on that day.

Speaker 1 (01:24:43):
So there are no winners.

Speaker 5 (01:24:46):
There are nothing but losers in this trial to strike scary.
One more, one more visit to this court and you
lose another case.

Speaker 1 (01:24:55):
Where's my defense? No one cares.

Speaker 9 (01:24:58):
Nobody would defend.

Speaker 5 (01:25:00):
Look, you may be offended. I would be offended. No
problem but that you can't take this to a court
of law. What a waste of my time and everyone's
talking about it. There you go, thanks Scar. You know scary.
Next time you want to give someone a gift, just
sell it. Scary one.

Speaker 17 (01:25:16):
If I take you out for drinks with my earnings.

Speaker 5 (01:25:18):
No, no, no, no, you don't owe him anything. You
don't ow him anything.

Speaker 9 (01:25:22):
You always have that guilt feeling.

Speaker 5 (01:25:24):
Sam, Yeah, Danielle, get them out of here, get out,
going down a list of things to talk about today.
I had to bring this in the list of lost skills.
You know what, we live in this day of technology
and whatever, and we can get things done arguably faster
and more efficiently these days than maybe ten twenty thirty
years ago. Things that we have totally totally lost touch

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with skills and hobbies, they feel outdated. So my list
writing letters. When is the last time you wrote a letter?

Speaker 18 (01:25:56):
Oh?

Speaker 10 (01:25:57):
I actually do do that all the time, but I
it's for myself and I write them to myself a lot.

Speaker 5 (01:26:02):
See that's cool. You're taking good care of yourself by
doing that. Reading a map like you don't have to
read it because the map tells you where to go,
It reads itself exactly. Remembering phone numbers, forget it.

Speaker 9 (01:26:17):
That's the worst. If something was happening to my phone.
I don't even know how I get in touch with anybody.

Speaker 5 (01:26:22):
The lost art of using a compass.

Speaker 17 (01:26:25):
Oh yeah, I don't know if I ever knew how
to use it.

Speaker 5 (01:26:29):
Isn't the compass Isn't that the thing that you used
to you could poke people with in school?

Speaker 9 (01:26:33):
Oh that's a different. It's a different with the pencil
and the sharp point.

Speaker 5 (01:26:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's a different. Well, I use I
don't know what's different about it?

Speaker 1 (01:26:46):
About a directional compass north south east west.

Speaker 5 (01:26:49):
Well, no, that one, but I like the one in school.
You could poke people with that. Yeah, having meeting someone
with a protractor never was as excited.

Speaker 10 (01:26:59):
The compass was definitely more damaging.

Speaker 5 (01:27:00):
Now here's one I had a struggle with the other day,
and it's handwriting. I am so accustomed to just you know,
using my thumb on my phone or whatever. So when
it comes time to fill it a birthday card? How
many times have you goofed up in wish you had
three more birthday cards because figure got how to write

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a word.

Speaker 9 (01:27:21):
Sometimes I buy two just in case because I know
I know it's going to happen. You don't cross it out,
and I'm like, this is ridiculous.

Speaker 12 (01:27:28):
So unless you're a Papyrus, those are expensive where.

Speaker 5 (01:27:32):
You know, the card folds and then you mess up
the thing that you write on the right side, so
you tear it off and just pretend it's like a
two sided card. Okay, I've done that. Okay, making a
fire from scratch who can never knew how to do it?

Speaker 10 (01:27:49):
Never knew.

Speaker 5 (01:27:50):
I know Nate can do it because well he's from
Erie Pennsylvania. They don't have fire there. Yeah, you get some.

Speaker 1 (01:27:54):
Birch bark and a little spark. Why do you.

Speaker 9 (01:27:57):
A boy scout?

Speaker 10 (01:27:57):
Anyone?

Speaker 18 (01:27:58):
Were you?

Speaker 1 (01:27:58):
I had allergies around the animals. Okay, but if you don't.

Speaker 10 (01:28:02):
Have the birch bark, can you do the thing where
you just use like stones or a stick or whatever
you do?

Speaker 7 (01:28:08):
Yeah, you need a spark and actually dryer lint works fantastic.

Speaker 5 (01:28:12):
Stuff is flammable. Sewing? Can you sew a button on?

Speaker 1 (01:28:19):
Yes?

Speaker 5 (01:28:19):
Yes, yes, I couldn't do it, but it wouldn't last long.
I mean I could do it for like the look, Yeah,
but it's not going to hold anything my big belly
popping it off?

Speaker 1 (01:28:30):
Uh?

Speaker 5 (01:28:31):
Knitting? Who's knitting these days?

Speaker 10 (01:28:33):
Nope, never knew how. I would love to learn, though
it seems very relaxing.

Speaker 9 (01:28:38):
I can do lanyard. That's about it.

Speaker 5 (01:28:40):
Here's here's one. We've lost touch with spelling.

Speaker 9 (01:28:44):
Yeah, yeah, totally.

Speaker 18 (01:28:46):
Because you don't need to.

Speaker 9 (01:28:47):
It corrects it for you.

Speaker 12 (01:28:48):
Prepell word and you're so off that even autocorrect can't
fix it.

Speaker 1 (01:28:52):
You're like, really, I'm way off here.

Speaker 5 (01:28:54):
I recognize about How about pickling? When the last time
you preserved. I do pickled onions from time to time
to put on dishes, but that's easy.

Speaker 9 (01:29:04):
Specially we buy so much pickled stuff because my husband's British.
Those pickle onions are disgusting. What great gosh, oh stop,
just stop?

Speaker 1 (01:29:16):
How about now?

Speaker 5 (01:29:16):
Jam? What does that time you made a good old
strawberry jam?

Speaker 1 (01:29:21):
Pickle? To make jellies or jams?

Speaker 5 (01:29:26):
I make jams.

Speaker 9 (01:29:27):
What's the difference difference? What's the difference between a jelly
and a jam?

Speaker 5 (01:29:31):
Pectan or some kind of stuffing? Look it up jam
versus look it up jam versus jelly? There was a difference,
something different. Yeah, you did pottery. See this is something
Gandhi would make.

Speaker 1 (01:29:47):
Pottery.

Speaker 5 (01:29:47):
Gandhi would make pottery.

Speaker 10 (01:29:49):
Absolutely. I actually went and started to do some pottery
classes not too long ago, and now I just have
to get them out of the kiln and paint ready
to go.

Speaker 5 (01:29:57):
Who has a kiln?

Speaker 8 (01:29:58):
Show?

Speaker 10 (01:30:01):
The lady with the kiln is real stingy about it too.
She doesn't like us messing around.

Speaker 5 (01:30:04):
There are two things on my list that make me
make me a little sad. Well, there's one thing, and
it's reading. People are just out of touch and can't
focus long enough to read because we work, We live
and work in a world that is so distracting. There

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are so many reasons to pick up your phone and
check out Instagram when you could be reading a book.
And today yeah, see I'm read into reading too.

Speaker 9 (01:30:35):
Yep, I would read. I would rather read a book
than watch television. I love reading so much.

Speaker 5 (01:30:41):
I happen to agree. And I love hearing that from you. Yes, Gary,
what you know?

Speaker 13 (01:30:44):
I hear there's not a lot of as much diversity
anymore in college courses, like the recreational stuff like ornamental horticulture,
or we had glass blowing like do you ever blow
glass before.

Speaker 5 (01:30:56):
A thing? Class?

Speaker 12 (01:31:04):
I swear twelve, especially Danielle and I.

Speaker 5 (01:31:08):
There is out in a near my house in Santa
Fe into Suki, New Mexico. There's a place that they
have glass blowing and they'll put the sign up, we're
blowing right now, stop on and I'd live there.

Speaker 1 (01:31:23):
Can you pay rent?

Speaker 5 (01:31:24):
Yeah?

Speaker 9 (01:31:25):
That intrigues me. How they do that, That's just amazing.

Speaker 5 (01:31:28):
Yeah, there's some really talented people.

Speaker 1 (01:31:30):
These are things.

Speaker 5 (01:31:30):
Look, you know, we live in this life where where
we feel like we are so lucky to have this
technology and access to things just by saying, hey, look
this up and she looks it up. You know, but
you lose touch with things like you know, spelling and reading,
making jam Come on, just get back to work with that.

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Speaker 5 (01:32:28):
Show, WHOA all right? There are unwritten rules in life
we need to be following, right.

Speaker 9 (01:32:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:32:34):
For instance, if you're at the table and we're passing
around a plate full of you know, slices, there's only
one left. I can't take it.

Speaker 10 (01:32:39):
I never take it, and I always judge the people
who just take it without asking. Everyone else if they
want to split it, or if they want some of it,
I'm like, who are you?

Speaker 9 (01:32:46):
Or they say anyone else gonna eat this? Because you
know the answer is going to be no. You take
it right. So it's like, you know, I think.

Speaker 10 (01:32:53):
It should always be to someone want to split this
with me?

Speaker 5 (01:32:55):
Yeah, Nate. If you borrow someone's car, Nate, you put
gas back in it three times, you buy it.

Speaker 1 (01:33:00):
Say I've learned it. It took me three times to learn it,
but I learned it.

Speaker 5 (01:33:02):
Well, it's too late. You know you're gonna get your
own car now. Okay, let's see, let's go to line
twenty one. Uh Aana, I hope I'm saying her name right?
Is this Aana? Is that here?

Speaker 26 (01:33:11):
Say your name the morning is Ayana?

Speaker 5 (01:33:14):
You are okay, Ayana? That makes sense calling from Philly
listening to Q and on two. So uh oh, you
have bathroom etiquette in the the Unwritten Rules of Life list.

Speaker 26 (01:33:23):
Go ahead, okay. So mine is is you are at
someone's house, you know, family, friends, whatever, and you have
to use the bathroom, and if you know you're gonna
be in there for a little while, you know, flush
a couple of times, you know, baby, carry your own
little spray, because again you're at someone's house and there's

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people in there, and like say, I gotta go. I
don't want to go in the bathroom behind you and
smell what just came out of it.

Speaker 5 (01:33:55):
Yeah, very good point.

Speaker 26 (01:33:58):
I don't want to see like the little leftovers.

Speaker 9 (01:34:02):
I don't understand that. Who in their right mind doesn't
turn around and look to make sure.

Speaker 17 (01:34:07):
I don't know.

Speaker 26 (01:34:08):
I mean I work at an animal hospital, and like
we have like a public bathroom, and I've definitely walked
in the bathroom women's bathroom a couple of times and
definitely a fiend where some people were like, oh, I'm done,
dump and go.

Speaker 1 (01:34:21):
Yeah yeah, yeah, leave a clew.

Speaker 26 (01:34:25):
Oh so you just forgot to flush, Like even though
you just wait, you forgot to flush.

Speaker 5 (01:34:30):
All right, Very good, Diana, Diana, we got to remember
when you know, the other people may use that bathroom
list they board it up and condemn it when you're done,
you know. All right, Diana, thanks for listening to us.
Have a great day, okay, Michelle, Line twenty four. It's
more toilet stuff, you know what, the unwritten rules. We
should have the toilet Edition. Hello, Michelle, how are you.

Speaker 9 (01:34:50):
That's a good idea.

Speaker 5 (01:34:52):
We're okay, so uh yeah, go ahead.

Speaker 23 (01:34:55):
So it's time because I'm flushing.

Speaker 14 (01:34:56):
You gotta do something about it because it's the cruise.

Speaker 5 (01:35:00):
Okay. Thanks. You can't call us and say that.

Speaker 1 (01:35:05):
What do you mean?

Speaker 6 (01:35:05):
Do what you like?

Speaker 9 (01:35:06):
What do you scoop it outlet Michelle?

Speaker 5 (01:35:12):
You're not thank you? No, I need answers.

Speaker 10 (01:35:16):
What about like walking and riding escalators and elevators, not elevators,
but escalators, Like if you're going to just stand there,
I think you have to stand to the right and
let the people past.

Speaker 9 (01:35:25):
There's etiquette, isn't there etiquette? I think so?

Speaker 10 (01:35:28):
But I all the time where people don't do it.

Speaker 5 (01:35:30):
For instance, at the airport, the walkway, the moving walkway.
It's a walkway, it's not a stand away.

Speaker 9 (01:35:35):
The reason it's a walkway scary?

Speaker 5 (01:35:37):
Has one Ye're scary.

Speaker 1 (01:35:38):
Never assume a woman is pregnant. Oh yeah, that's a
huge one.

Speaker 9 (01:35:42):
I've done that. I've done it.

Speaker 10 (01:35:47):
One time I touched someone's belly and I thought that
she was like pregnant, pregnant and she had just had
the baby. And as soon as I touched her belly,
I knew it. I was like, oh my god, I'm
such an idiot, right now.

Speaker 1 (01:35:56):
That's what. Yeah.

Speaker 9 (01:35:58):
I was in a maternity store right and the woman
was shopping and I and she had the little bulge
and I go, oh, whinner you do? And she says, oh,
I just had the baby. Oh my god.

Speaker 6 (01:36:07):
That's okay.

Speaker 5 (01:36:07):
But that's easy to explain it if you But if
you've been nowhere near pregnant, right, I get up, Uh, Froggy,
do you have one?

Speaker 1 (01:36:15):
I don't know.

Speaker 12 (01:36:16):
I'm the same way with the cookies. I told you
over the weekend, my son there was one cookie left
in the pack. I wanted that last taste cookie and
he ate it and he said, oh, there was only
one left.

Speaker 1 (01:36:25):
I ate and throw it away. No, you don't eat
the last cookie, it's mine.

Speaker 10 (01:36:28):
Oh can we talk about at a kid on a
plane when you're getting off the plane, because I think
that this should be something ingrained in everyone. There's an
order the way you're getting off the plane. Just let
every seat go as it is. Don't be the person
in the back of the plane who tries to run
up to the front with all your suitcases.

Speaker 17 (01:36:43):
That's so rude.

Speaker 10 (01:36:44):
I don't understand why if everyone just let the people
in front of them go.

Speaker 9 (01:36:47):
It would go quickly.

Speaker 5 (01:36:47):
Yeah, so I have more on my list. Don't start
drama at a funeral.

Speaker 17 (01:36:51):
Oh it's good.

Speaker 5 (01:36:53):
Chew with your mouth closed. Scary, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:36:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:36:57):
Don't play loud music in public. Oh, don't eat.

Speaker 9 (01:36:59):
My leftovers in the refrigerator without asking me.

Speaker 5 (01:37:02):
If you're borrowing something for the third time, buy one
of your own. Oh that's okay, I like that one. Yeah,
there's one for Nate. You borrowed my car three times.

Speaker 9 (01:37:09):
That's three times.

Speaker 5 (01:37:11):
Oh, here's one for Gandhi. If someone shows you a
photo on their phone, don't swipe left or right. Just
look at that phone. Look at that picture. Don't look
left right.

Speaker 9 (01:37:19):
I'm a monster.

Speaker 5 (01:37:20):
Oh another one. If you're waiting for the elevator the
door opens, you let the people off before you get off. Yes, yes,
right with me.

Speaker 9 (01:37:28):
And don't stand right by the elevator when the door's
open so that the people trip over you when they're
caring exactly.

Speaker 5 (01:37:34):
Don't leave your shopping cart in the middle of the
aisle when you're bending down to get that can of
pork and beans or whatever it is. You know what
I'm saying. Oh yeah, move over to the side line.
Twenty one is Jerlene, I believe chery. Yeah, Jarrelyne, how
are you? I agree with you on this one wholeheartedly.

Speaker 1 (01:37:49):
Go right ahead.

Speaker 32 (01:37:51):
When people are driving in the fast lane and you
see me and everyone.

Speaker 16 (01:37:55):
Else passing you, but you still stay in the fastlane,
move over.

Speaker 9 (01:37:59):
Move over. That's why it's a fact lane.

Speaker 5 (01:38:02):
It's a passing lane. Keep that in mind. You can
only use that lane to pass people. All right, I'm
with you, Jam, Thank you so much. Have a great day.
Stay in the right lane unless you're passing Devin Online.

Speaker 10 (01:38:13):
Four.

Speaker 5 (01:38:13):
Let's go over there. The hello hello, Devin? What's going on?

Speaker 19 (01:38:18):
Hello?

Speaker 6 (01:38:18):
Hello?

Speaker 8 (01:38:19):
Hello?

Speaker 19 (01:38:20):
Mine is.

Speaker 11 (01:38:22):
When you open the door for somebody and they don't
say thank you. That is my biggest pet peeve. I
can never stand it when I open the door and
I just you know, it's just a common gesture and
they just walk right by.

Speaker 5 (01:38:33):
Do you ever say you're welcome?

Speaker 11 (01:38:36):
Every time you say something snarky, you say you're welcome
and they just keep going, and they keep going. It's
like they don't even a knowledge, or they just look
back and then they keep going.

Speaker 5 (01:38:45):
Yes, I agree, say thank you. Don't be a dick.

Speaker 9 (01:38:50):
Like my dad.

Speaker 5 (01:38:51):
Yes, exactly, Thank you, Devin, have a great day. I'll
let this text from the South Southern etiquette one, even
if your house is spotless, always apologize for the mass.
I love that one. That is so genteel. Here it
is summertime, the long days of summer. Of course, the
older you get, the faster they go. But we're any
of you ever grounded for an entire summer over something

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stupid you did.

Speaker 10 (01:39:15):
I was kind of house arrested for three weeks.

Speaker 5 (01:39:19):
Goney, surprise, do you mean how kind of house arrested? Well,
house arrest? Was it like the law, I mean the
police department.

Speaker 10 (01:39:28):
Yeah, it was a combination of the police and my parents.

Speaker 5 (01:39:30):
Oh oh, do we need to hear this? I think
we do.

Speaker 10 (01:39:34):
So it was in fourth grade and four grade, yeah,
and I did something stupid and I shoplifted and I
got busted at J. C. Penny and we we tried
to take a lot of stuff. So it crossed the
line of like misdemeanor into what would have been a
felony based on the dollar amount. So when I went
to the whatever court thing it was when I was

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a kid, they said, Okay, this is what we're gonna do.
We're not gonna punish you too badly, but you cannot
leave your house for two weeks. My parents asked it
to be three, and then I had to do it. Yeah,
And then I had to do a couple of weekends
where I went to this like juvie facility and you
had to sit through some classes with like the other
bad kids.

Speaker 1 (01:40:15):
Wow.

Speaker 10 (01:40:15):
Yeah, my parents are probably not happy I'm talking about this.

Speaker 5 (01:40:19):
So have you ever flip around channels and you see
maybe a reality show about a juvie facility or whatever,
and you have to remind yourself. Wait, I can't pass
judgment on them. I had to do the same thing.

Speaker 10 (01:40:29):
Oh, totally, and they'll remind me of it too. I
don't know why you're laughing.

Speaker 8 (01:40:32):
That was you.

Speaker 10 (01:40:33):
I'm like, oh man, I'm sorry. And then I couldn't
go to any parties. I had to tell people why.
My parents would never just let me say I can't go.
They would say, tell them why you can't go.

Speaker 5 (01:40:42):
I'm like, oh, damn, Well, so you couldn't leave the
house or could you go to school or no? It
was summertime.

Speaker 10 (01:40:47):
Yeah, I couldn't leave the house, and my dad made
me do homework, which he made me do anyway, but
he gave me extra stuff. Man, it was terrible. Don't
shop with from JZ Penny, don't shop look from anyway, Yeah, anywhere,
They'll do it from anywhere. It's bad decision.

Speaker 5 (01:41:00):
Duly noted, Yeah, Frog, that was the worst.

Speaker 1 (01:41:03):
As a kid. My dad would always make me tell
like my friends.

Speaker 12 (01:41:08):
I'd get in trouble, which is pretty regular, and kids
would come knock on the door and I would open
the door and be like, yeah, I can't come out
right now, and my dad would go.

Speaker 1 (01:41:15):
Tell him why.

Speaker 12 (01:41:18):
I'm like, no, I don't want to tell him why,
and he's like, if you don't, I'm gonna He would
come to the door and tell them why. I'm like, why,
why can't I just say I can't come out right now?
And why do I have to be humiliated in front
of my friends?

Speaker 5 (01:41:28):
Because he wanted you to understand now, wanted you, Gandi
to understand why this was happening. There was a reason
I wasn't kids any reason. It's well, I don't know.
I did may yeah I did. Maybe for Gandhi.

Speaker 10 (01:41:40):
It was embarrassing. It was horrible. I was a little
shoplifter and I did tell all my friends I was
a little shoplifter. Was so stupid.

Speaker 1 (01:41:46):
Tell you tell your friends you're a thief?

Speaker 5 (01:41:48):
Like dude, Wow, lie twenties Lisa, Uh, Lisa, what's going on?

Speaker 8 (01:41:57):
Hi?

Speaker 1 (01:41:58):
Elvis and everybody, how are you mind? We're doing well?

Speaker 5 (01:42:02):
Okay? So what happened? You were fourteen years old? And
what did you do?

Speaker 23 (01:42:06):
I took my parents' car out. They had just gotten new,
a Suzoo Trooper, and I really really wanted to drive
it so badly, so I had taken it out on
back to school night when everybody was out of the house,
and I kept taking it help for a year, and
it wasn't until it turned fourteen in the summer and

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my mom caught me and was pissed. Horrible.

Speaker 1 (01:42:32):
What did they do?

Speaker 23 (01:42:34):
Oh? My dad gave me a beating right on the
front when he got home. And yeah, I was grounded
for the rest of the summer. And my best friend
was grounded sort of too, just because she and I
hung out all the time. So grounded for the summer,
and uh, yeah it was. It was not the best decision,

(01:42:54):
but we still talk about it to this day and
kind of still can laugh over it.

Speaker 5 (01:42:59):
When I look out with the car when I was
a kid. Uh, my parents had to come get me
because the car didn't start. And you know what, I
didn't get a beating on the front yard. I didn't
get grounded. They said nothing to me.

Speaker 9 (01:43:17):
It was that's the worst.

Speaker 5 (01:43:19):
Oh yeah, no, it was a total mind I mean
it was like whoa. And then we got my dad.
My dad gave me a hook and he says, I
love you, and I went, oh, my good. I mean
it was a total reversal in what they should have
done right, But it was very, very effective.

Speaker 9 (01:43:35):
I told you. When my brother stole the car, he
parked it in a different spot because that spot wasn't available.
And I'm like, well, obviously they're gonna find out now,
dumb ass, and they did. Like my dad was like,
I didn't park there.

Speaker 1 (01:43:48):
That happened.

Speaker 5 (01:43:51):
Aliens picked it up and moved it.

Speaker 9 (01:43:52):
Dad.

Speaker 12 (01:43:54):
My wife Lisa stole her mom's car and hit a
gutter cover to avoid a car that was driving down
the side of the road the wrong way, and she
had a call her She blew both both tires on
the right side, call her mom to come get her, and.

Speaker 5 (01:44:08):
All right, thanks for listening. Now, I bet, Lisa, when
you see in a zuzu, you go, you have these
painful memories time you bet? I bet? Thanks thanks for
calling on twenty fourth, Madeline. Then we'll move in along.

Speaker 12 (01:44:23):
Hey Madeline, Hi, how are you guys?

Speaker 5 (01:44:26):
We're doing okay. See I'm looking at the list of
reasons why you were sort of grounded. But it was
you didn't do anything bad except have bad grades. It
wasn't like you stole the car or anything.

Speaker 33 (01:44:36):
Right, No, we just if you got anything lower than
a sea in school, my parents would have ground you
for the whole summer.

Speaker 32 (01:44:43):
And they were worse.

Speaker 33 (01:44:45):
So if one parent said you were grounded, the other
one went along with it, we might have got a
week off and that was it.

Speaker 5 (01:44:50):
Wow damn look at that well, Madeline. Wow, God, I'd
never I'd still be grounded. I don't think I ever
went a but I don't think ever went above us.
And if if I did, it was a mistake from
someone's part. All right, Madeline, thank you?

Speaker 8 (01:45:06):
Now?

Speaker 5 (01:45:06):
Did you hold on? Did it work? Did you strive
to have better grades?

Speaker 33 (01:45:11):
Because I've been doing my first couple of years in
high school.

Speaker 25 (01:45:14):
My last year I got a's and b's.

Speaker 9 (01:45:16):
Yeah, that's good.

Speaker 5 (01:45:17):
There you go, all right. You know, maybe they should
have grounded me. All right, Madeline, thank you you too.
I love how this text says. I'm so glad Elvis
gave all these juvenile delinquents of career. Hey too, thank you.

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Speaker 5 (01:46:03):
Come on wait.

Speaker 18 (01:46:04):
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Speaker 5 (01:46:06):
Soon all right, I want to take you someplace. Come
with me ready. Yesterday went to this place called back
Road Pizza. I liked a pizza, right, I ordered my pizza.
They gave me that big steak with a number on
it to take to the table. You know, I was
number seventeen, and I went and sat down at the
table outside. It was under a tree, and the breeze

(01:46:29):
was blowing. It was just a beautiful day. I just
wanted to sit there for hours. I was drinking an
ice cold beer waiting for my pizza to come out.
And I'm not really a beer fan, but it was
just a perfect moment. It was great. Then the pizza
came out. I had a couple of slices of that
brought the rest home. But that moment I was having

(01:46:51):
just with me. I was in a happy space, a
happier space I've been in in a long time, from
something as simple as a cold beer, a breeze, chirping birds, sunshine,
blue skies. It was great. So Gandhi says, well, there's
a name for that, that moment, And what did you
say it is?

Speaker 10 (01:47:08):
Yeah, they're called glimmers. They're supposed to be the opposite
of a trigger. So a trigger obviously sends you down
a bad path, it makes you upset. A glimmer sends
you down a happy path and makes you a little happier.

Speaker 2 (01:47:18):
In the day.

Speaker 5 (01:47:20):
Yeah, ice cold beer, pizza, blue sky's, birds, chirping. I
was glimmered.

Speaker 9 (01:47:25):
That's nice.

Speaker 5 (01:47:25):
So when these things happened to you, you need to
stop down and recognize them because you owe that to yourself. Like, oh,
like Danielle for instance, is there something that triggers you
but in a positive way.

Speaker 9 (01:47:35):
Yeah, like in the fall, the smell of the air,
like you know, it's like, I don't know what it
is about it, but if I go outside it on
an October day, it takes me back to when the
first time. This is gonna sound crazy, I actually called
into Z one hundred in New York. I was walking
to college. It was a crisp October day and I

(01:47:57):
was on the air talking to whoever the dish was
at the time, and in my mind it was the
start of my career because they invited me to come
up and visit. And I always remember the way that
day smelled. So when on October day comes and I
smell that chrisp October air, I think of it takes me.

Speaker 5 (01:48:15):
Back to that, and it brings you to today and
here you're sitting in a chair into ZE one hundred. Yeah,
it's crazy, Wow, how wild? So how many years ago
was that?

Speaker 9 (01:48:22):
Oh my gosh, this scary twenty nine?

Speaker 5 (01:48:25):
Okay, so roughly thirty. Okay, listen to what you're what's
happening in your brain. The brain's fabulous. By the way,
something that happened thirty years ago. A simple whiff of
October air is it's a positive glimmer. It's a trigger
of great positive things for you. Isn't that great?

Speaker 6 (01:48:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 9 (01:48:46):
That's awesome.

Speaker 5 (01:48:47):
I love that we do that. We all have one.
What about you, frog? You got one?

Speaker 12 (01:48:51):
When I smell suntan lotion and salt air together, it
makes me happy.

Speaker 5 (01:48:56):
Wow, I get that.

Speaker 10 (01:48:57):
Yeah, that's a good one.

Speaker 5 (01:48:58):
Summer right, yep, it is. It's it's a little thing
that's like in your brain. It's been there for years.
You can't really explain it. Scotty Bees is interesting. Scotty
Bee is totally glimmered when he finds himself doing this thing.

Speaker 31 (01:49:11):
Tell him what it Isn't having for the teddy berries?
Oh no, no, no, that was only okay, just check it.
I like to sit out on the porch with a
big solo cup full of cherries being cherries and eat
them and spit the pits into the bushes, and that
just makes me think of summer. It's such a short
season too. Cherry season is short, so I enjoy it

(01:49:32):
as much as I possibly can.

Speaker 5 (01:49:33):
And I love it so much. So as we talk
about these, you're thinking about your own As you're driving
to work or whatever you're doing. You talk about this
when you get to work. This is actually a fun conversation,
as simple as it is as it is, what about
you scary.

Speaker 13 (01:49:46):
Top down on my way out to Montalk or to
the Jersey Shore and pulling over on the side of
the road for a lobster roll, having a lobster roll
and then eating that lobster roll? Is I'm driving and
of just and just the breeze. That is a simple
look at you. It takes you just thinking about it
is taking you to a place. What about you, gandhi?

Speaker 17 (01:50:08):
Oh man.

Speaker 10 (01:50:09):
I love when I walk outside and I can actually
see stars because like living where we all live, you
can't really see any at all, so I get really excited.
I love when there's a dog and it comes over
and sits with you and does that little and flops.

Speaker 1 (01:50:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 10 (01:50:25):
And I really like that first snow of the year
when it's actually coating the ground and you walk outside
and there's that silence because it's all muffle.

Speaker 9 (01:50:34):
I love that that first snow that after that, Yeah.

Speaker 10 (01:50:37):
This is the first one. The rest of them can
go to hell.

Speaker 5 (01:50:39):
Sucks after that, You're right that the snow, the snow
has that well, it sucks noise in. I mean it's
it's like soundproofing for the earth. What about you, straight, Nate,
Mine is.

Speaker 18 (01:50:58):
In my head.

Speaker 1 (01:51:00):
Oh no, no, no.

Speaker 5 (01:51:01):
No, please please disregard the jury, world, disregard move forward,
move forward. Nay, not my station.

Speaker 7 (01:51:10):
But my favorite thing is when you're driving and it's
usually in a place you've never been before, and then
you're just driving and then you happen across this vista
and it looks like a Vincent van Go painting and
you just realize, wow, this is such a beautiful world.
And it's happens for just an instant and you realize
that this is everywhere. There's so many different spots where

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you're just driving or in nature and you just see
something that's out of a painting and you realize.

Speaker 1 (01:51:39):
Wow, this is a beautiful world we're in. You know,
I love that.

Speaker 5 (01:51:44):
So, I mean, like I said before, as simple as
these things are, they really are everything if you think
about it. These are the moments of happiness you get
if you're having like a really crapole a day. You know,
it's like if one of these things just kind of
falls out of heaven and hits you in the face
and says, hey, wait a minute, here's something cool here. Yeah,
you got it. You have to be aware of it.
My nineteen is Nicole. Let's go talk to Nicole. Hey,

(01:52:07):
what's up, Nicole?

Speaker 19 (01:52:09):
Hi, how are you?

Speaker 5 (01:52:10):
We're doing really well. I don't know. I don't know
how we fell into this hole here, but wait, wait,
it's kind of an interesting conversation. Go ahead, Well, what
did you want to tell us?

Speaker 19 (01:52:20):
I love the smell of hot clay during this springtime
that's on a baseball field. It just takes me back
to my softball playing days and it just makes me
so happy. I don't really know how to describe it,
but I remember my softball mitt smelling like it, and
it just makes me so happy.

Speaker 9 (01:52:38):
That's nice.

Speaker 5 (01:52:40):
Yeah, you know, the brain slowly dies as we get older,
but there are things in our brain that will live forever,
and I'm hoping that's one that will live forever for you, Nicole.
I love it. Thanks for listening to us.

Speaker 19 (01:52:50):
Yeah, I have a great day everyone.

Speaker 1 (01:52:53):
I love it.

Speaker 5 (01:52:54):
I'm gonna go. Let me have a nice cold beer
for breakfast. I don't know, maybe not all right. Shows done,
Let's get out of here until next time. Say peace out, everybody,
Peace out, everybody,