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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Q A Monday edition of the show.
And I'm having a Monday, my friends, I'm having a Monday.
So Ross Kaminski at the end of his show was
asking uh some very interesting and pointy questions about perfume. Now,
first of all, I am going to get a sample
of the potato perfume. You wait, you wait, it will happen.
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I'm gonna get a sample of it. So Ross was
talking about a perfume that smells like potatoes.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Yeah, Polish, I don't know. It has everything in the
world in it, So I have no idea Polish potatoes.
But then I was I was thinking, I wonder if
Mandy wears perfume.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
It's not like I'm not Joe Biden. I haven't walked
around sniffing you a lot.
Speaker 7 (01:06):
My hair does smell good. Chuck always sells me in
my hand.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
I'm not gonna go over and do a Joe Biden
and sniff your hair. Thank you, Yes, but I actually
didn't know the answer. If you wear perfume, I don't
think I've smelled a lot of perfume on you, so
do you.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
That's because I went and had a custom perfume made
that smells exactly like me. It's very very subtle, just
super subtle. Hardly anyone ever notices that I'm wearing it.
Speaker 6 (01:31):
What the hell's the point?
Speaker 4 (01:34):
The point is it was a joke and I texted
to Rock Ross and I.
Speaker 7 (01:37):
Was like, that was a funny joke.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
And then Ross didn't see it until so I just
wanted to get the joke in yea, So I was like, Ross,
can you stay it?
Speaker 5 (01:45):
Are we suggesting then that a rod just believed that
that was a real thing?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Correct?
Speaker 6 (01:50):
Yes, that's that's interesting. Enhances your smell. I don't know
it's worth a conversation on its own, but yeah, that's
not it.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
But they thank you, thank you for giving me that line.
And then I come in. I came, I always.
Speaker 7 (02:04):
Get in before Ross's show.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I left my house today and this canundrum occurred, and
I promised, the blog is coming so much blah blah
blah coming your way, just like bear with me, for
a second. So first of all, today, on a Monday,
I stabbed myself in the eye with the mascaraje. Any
woman in this listening audience just went, oh God, that's
a horrible, horrible way to start the day. Then I'm
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driving here. I'm on a four lane road divided by
a median, So two and two and two people are
going the exact same speed, one in the right lane,
one in the left lane for the entire time. So
if you actually, I don't know, had some place to
be because you were running late because you stabbed yourself
in the eye with the mascaro wine, there was no
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way to get around. And I asked Ross, who's the
A hole? Are they the A hole? Or am I
the a hole for screaming at them in my.
Speaker 7 (02:55):
Car the entire time?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
And the right answer is the person in the left
lane is the a hole.
Speaker 4 (03:01):
And by the time we got to a point where
a reasonable number of people could turn, there was like
twenty cars behind each car. Now I'm they were going
exactly the speed limit exactly.
Speaker 6 (03:15):
These are the same people who don't know how to
zipper merge.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Well, and they were both in tiny cars.
Speaker 6 (03:20):
I felt like there.
Speaker 7 (03:21):
Was some passive aggressiveness.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yere.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
I think one of them was like a Honda Fit
and then the other one was the chevy little dorky
same version of that.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Yeah, so it were they.
Speaker 7 (03:29):
Just being passive aggressive?
Speaker 4 (03:30):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (03:31):
The guy in the other.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Lane was a pickup truck, but he was in the
right lane, you know. I was in the left lane
trying to get around these two.
Speaker 7 (03:37):
Yahoo.
Speaker 5 (03:38):
I have sometimes thought that in a in a James
Bond car kind of way, it would be so great
to have like surface to surface missiles built into your
vehicle for that kind of situation. Yes, and you just
blow that little Honda Fit right out of the way.
Speaker 7 (03:52):
That will never fly.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
But in my presidential platform, yeah, I have the one
paintball per day rule. You would have a paintball gun
melted to the front of your car, like say the
old hood ornaments of old you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
So you get your.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
Paintball gun, you get one paintball per day, and when
someone is a complete a hole, you you just tag
them and basically you are performing a public service for
everyone else.
Speaker 7 (04:15):
What color, whatever you want, it's your true because you
can pick them.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
It's reversible, it's non permanent.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It's permanent because you're warning all of the other drivers
this guy's an a hole, old woman.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Whoever, if it's just for a day, right, that everybody
knows for the rest of that day, and then the
a hole needs to take the time to wash it off.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
I like it.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah, that's part of It's been one of the plants
of my platform for a decade now.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
That's even probably better than the guy who ran on
the rent is too hot.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
I'm a little bit I'm a little bit short on
the details of how you limit people to one paintball
per day, because if you have to drive from Castle Rocks,
say to the stadium. Yeah, that's that's a potentially ten
paintball situation right there.
Speaker 6 (04:56):
Are you allowed to move them up? Could you say
you could have seven paintballs in a week, but you
gonna do them. I'm going to do them all on Monday.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Thirty paintball allotment for the month, and it's up to
you to just either do it all on one day
or what.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
Yeah, maybe maybe that's maybe that's easier.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
And and then you just buy thirty days supply at a time,
and you only allow people to buy them once a month.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And then there you go.
Speaker 6 (05:15):
There you gory over onto something, you know, I think you.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Then carry over. I like the once a month it's
your responsibility. You could literally just just gather up. You
could stockpile.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
Paintballs, wow, and use none for three months, yeah, and
then just blast you like you're in a bad one
going to Really, if you.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Really hated one of your neighbors, you know, you just
save up all your paintballs and then just one day
just at tat tat your whole neighbors.
Speaker 6 (05:42):
Only hit the cars, right, not at their houses.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
The cars. Yeah, it's only only cars you're shoot at people.
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Yeah, bunch of paints.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Are awkward of somebody's windows down. That's the risk you take, right,
you know, your windows down, or you're being an a whole.
That's what I'm saying talking about them. I just made
the they too broad there. So that that was my day.
That's welcome Monday. And then of course it's raining only
when I get to work. So it's like I'm like,
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you know, it's like a like a like a Charlie
Brown cartoon where it's only raining over me.
Speaker 7 (06:14):
I was like, what is happening right now?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
All right?
Speaker 6 (06:16):
So when you get to talk about this stuff.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
Does it make you feel a little better?
Speaker 7 (06:22):
You wait, let me look at the text line.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Here we go. Yeah, Mandy, where did you get the
personalized perfume made? Sounds like an awesome idea, and I'd
love to try it out. To be clear, I did
not have an actual perfume made that smells like me.
Although there are places you can go and have a
custom perfume made for you, you can actually do that.
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I don't know where any of them are, but that
is that is a thing. There you go, so there
you go. The passing lane is not for speeding, Yeah,
it's passing, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 7 (06:59):
And that's where I was so aggravated.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
I just want to make something really clear. If I'm
in a hurry, or if Mandy's in a hurry, the
passing lane can indeed be for speeding.
Speaker 6 (07:09):
Yes, get out of my way.
Speaker 7 (07:10):
I'll take the I'll wear the dice.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
I'll just do it. I'll take the risk, I will
pay the ticket if that's what happens. I mean, generally speaking,
I'm not ever really late, though.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
No.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
I was surprised that you were like ten minutes later
than you became.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
My life right, And I think part of that is
because when I was twenty one years old, it became
a flight attendant, and they're really serious about that. Hey,
if you're late, your job just left, so don't be late.
I mean there's there's actually flight attendants. I don't know
if they still have to do this, but you just
have to sit in the airport in case someone didn't show.
So you do eight hours of what they called ready reserve,
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where you literally go, fully dressed, go to the airport
and sit in the flight attendant lounge for eight hours.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Did you ever get called Oh yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
Yeah, it happens.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
Obviously, it happens enough that they were like, we probably
just need to have someone sit here for eight hours,
and you got paid to sit there. But it was
it was just insane, absolutely insane. So that sort of
set my mindset. I'm never late. I just I can't
stand it. I think people who are late are disrespectful
of your time.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
Hello Loujah.
Speaker 7 (08:10):
Anyway, all right, you can go Ross, Thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Again, no actual perfume was created in the creation of
this joke. So there you go. Let's do the blog,
shall we? Twelve almost thirteen minutes in go find the
blog and Andy, oh hey, well I forgot the airhorn
and eight rod and every I didn't do anything. It's
because I stabbed myself in the eye with the mass.
Speaker 8 (08:33):
But you know it wasn't that bad. Did you get
a flat tiger this weekend? No, you're okay?
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Okay, wait, which brings me to my second blog, delayer. Yes,
we need a practicing which.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
Who can come.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Entry you find this month?
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Do a sage burn around Anthony's car please, because his car.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Is a mess.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
I mean, the car itself is really nice and look
at it and you're like, wow, that's a good looking truck.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
Yeah, really, but it.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Has been It's obviously been cursed. We don't know how.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I might have had something to do with it. Naming
the car Loki.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
It's not too late.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
After we do the save sage burning and we'll do
the you know, get rid of the evil spirits, then
you have to change the name.
Speaker 6 (09:16):
I love its name, though its name.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Has gotten you in the shop for like a month
and a half.
Speaker 6 (09:21):
A month and a half. That's adorable. Try like off
and on for like four months.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Okay, and that now flat tire the name has to go. Yeah,
are you more married to having a car that's functioning
and happy, or are you more married to having a
car with a fun name that won't run and keeps
blowing things up?
Speaker 6 (09:37):
Can't I have both?
Speaker 8 (09:39):
No?
Speaker 7 (09:39):
Apparently not.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
No, I don't have to think about it. No, I
have to think about it.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Yeah. Anyway, that said, blog blog here we get oh
man al we still have that, but we sit for
four hours.
Speaker 7 (09:56):
I'm a United flight attendant.
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Well four hours is, but four hour is almost worse.
And if they get called than someone else has to
go to that chair.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Usually doesn't work that way. It's usually there's just one.
Sometimes in a busy season they'll have more than one.
But then you have to go to the airport and
you only get paid for four hours.
Speaker 6 (10:12):
That sucks.
Speaker 7 (10:13):
I'd rather do the eight, you know, make it worth
your while.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Going to the airport sucks for everybody, including the people
who work on airplanes. Here we go. Here's the blog
at mandy'sblog dot com.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Look for the.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Headline that says ten twenty one twenty four blog Valdemar
wants your vote and a bit on empathy. Click on
that and here are the headlines you will find within
and even with some in office.
Speaker 9 (10:33):
Half of American all with ships and clipas a say
that's going to press.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Plant today on the blog. A new book to cry
over Valdemar Archletta is making waves in District one.
Speaker 7 (10:44):
Donald Trump's McDonald's shift.
Speaker 4 (10:46):
Was amazing about those incessant ads for the eighth Congressional
District vote no on retaining judges. Lots of scare tactics
on Prop one thirty one. The Civil Rights Commission needs
to go. Did we leak Israeli war plans? Sixty minutes?
Responds with a n uh. Holy hell, we eat a
lot of sugar. It's time to stop leaving boys behind.
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Challenge accepted Internet. It's low tire pressure season, everybody. How
much will your last big tabor refund be? Looking for
a good job in Denver that doesn't require a college degree.
It's time to change the squatter laws. Dumb mistake, dumb mistakes,
people vow not to make again. A very clever magic
trip fsu should let this guy call plays.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Arizona State needs a kicker.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Kamala isn't one to add lib These Illinois helmets are crazy.
Stop burning candles. No, you're not imagining a migrant crime spree.
And now a bunch of corny Halloween jokes. Those are
the headlines on the blog at mandy'sblog dot com. Check
it out because there's a bunch of good stuff on here,
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including some very very good videos. Can we talk about
the Illinois football hells for just a second.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Have they been wearing these all season?
Speaker 6 (12:02):
I don't. I doubt it and I don't think so.
Speaker 7 (12:04):
Oh my god, they're amazing.
Speaker 6 (12:06):
Those are so rad.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
The University of Illinois. I don't know why they decided
to do this, but they had someone hand paint all
of their helmets to look like the old leather helmets
from the beginning of football. And they look so good.
I mean so good it's not even funny. And we
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had the one video from a Florida State game worth
watching this year. I told you, I've decided they're just
taking the season off, right. It's it's less painful than
recognizing that they just lost.
Speaker 7 (12:38):
Better That way it is it is. It's been much better,
much much better.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
Now today, we've got a lot of stuff on the blog,
but I want to I want to share an email
with you, and I'm not going to identify the emailer,
and I'm not picking on this person at all, because
I thought it was a very good email. I mean,
I thought he was this person made some great points.
This email says, hello, I listen to your show off
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and on and mostly enjoy it. I'm moderately progressive, but
often agree with your perspectives. They're an antidote to the
far left and some of the most egregious views on
the far right. However, I just can't wrap my head
around your view of the upcoming presidential election. You seem
to be in the camp of those who say they
don't particularly like Trump, but his policies would be better
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than those of Harris. Harris would radically hurt this nation.
You seem to say policies are one thing, leadership is another.
If you haven't already seen, if you probably have, take
five minutes to read the attached exhaustive article and then
acknowledge that this is part of what you would be
voting for. It is the kind of leadership that we
continue to have after a four year hiatus, and in
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my view, this Trump leadership has had profound effects.
Speaker 7 (13:50):
On our nation's culture.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
And I'll stop reading the email right now to tell
you what the column that he sent me is about.
It is a litany of everything Donald Trump has ever
done wrong, and to my knowledge, almost all of it's true.
It is a long list of stuff that Donald Trump
has done and as a businessman, has done as a husband.
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It's a list of moral failings, it's a list of
shady dealings. It's a list of everything. So that is
what is in this column. And then I'll this is
what's the end of the email to me. The only
way one can dismiss this New York Times article is
to dismiss the cultural leadership a role a president has.
I could take another four years of Trump policies, some
I would even like, but I'm at the point of
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despair thinking of enduring four years of cultural disintegration under
Trump and those that have begun to surround him.
Speaker 7 (14:42):
Thanks for reading.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
So that's an email from a person, and I'm glad
they wrote it. I responded to them, and I thought,
you know what, I'm going to respond on the air
because this is the question that I get over and
over and over again, and I've sort of gone over it.
But I want to add a few more wrinkles to
my thinking on that. Number One, I believe that we
have the two worst candidates in the history of the
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presidential elections in Kamala Harris and Donald Trump. I know
a lot of people out there are Trump supporters, think
I'm crazy, but I have to believe there are other
people that could carry the same sort of policies without
the same sort of baggage, the baggage that's laid out
in this column that is from the New York Times.
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That being said, I have to put aside my general
animus here and look at the two people who are.
Speaker 7 (15:34):
Running for president to make a decision.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
On the one hand, we have Kamala Harris, who I
don't think has truly earned her place as vice president because.
Speaker 7 (15:47):
She was chosen.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
If she was not a black woman, there's zero percent
chance that she would be the vice president right now.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
And those are.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Two characteristics that she had absolutely no say on, right
So I don't think she's earned the place where she is,
and I think she was installed by a group of
Democrats because they decided.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Joe Biden was going to lose.
Speaker 4 (16:11):
That kind of power grab is exactly the sort of
thing that many people on the left tell me that
I should have to worry about if Donald Trump becomes president.
Many people on the left are worried about him become
a dictator. The problem here for that argument is that
he's already been president, and though January sixth is a
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stain on our nation and I believe he should have
done more early on to stop it, one hundred percent,
he is not president of the United States today because
our system weren't and most of our bureaucracies, most of
the checks and balances that exist are currently controlled by
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the Democratic Party and Democrats. The bureaucracy in DC is
almost wholly Democratic. DC federal workers almost all Democrats. They
have an entire institutional capture of the bureaucracy.
Speaker 7 (17:13):
Of Washington, d C.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
They have an institutional capture of the FBI, they have
the institutional capture of Homeland Security.
Speaker 7 (17:24):
I mean, it's so patently obvious.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
So for Donald Trump to be able to pull a
cue with none of the levers of the institutions on
his side is very, very unrealistic to me. So I
have to believe that the system will work as it
did last year or January of that year. The system
worked the way I was supposed to. One man can't
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declare himself a dictator and just stay and he didn't
But on the other hand, I have a woman who
is the candidate solely because an unnamed group of Democrats
we don't know. Has anyone ever told us how it
was decided that Kamala Harris was going to be the candidate.
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I mean, yeah, Joe Biden put an endorsement out there,
but at that point did it really matter.
Speaker 7 (18:13):
No one's ever told us who made that decision.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
No one ever told us about that back room meeting,
and no one's even asked. Because the Democrats have the
institutional capture not only of all the bureaucracies, but also of.
Speaker 7 (18:26):
The mainstream media.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
CBS News Today released a statement or over the weekend
basically refuting Donald Trump's assertion that they should release the
transcript because they doctored Kamala Harris's answer on Israel to
make her seem less like an idiot. And the reality
is all they have to do to disprove that notion
is to release the transcripts, as they did when they interviewed.
Speaker 7 (18:51):
Donald Trump in twenty twenty.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
They released the full transcript, but instead they put out
a statement that they essentially said, nahuh, if Kamala Harris
becomes president, I honestly and genuinely don't know who would
actually be in charge, because I've seen absolutely nothing in
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this campaign that indicates to me that she is a
woman of any kind of gravitas, that she has anything
of value to offer. She is whatever people tell her
to be, and I am forced to vote for a
man with all of the moral feelings in this column
from the New York Times because the alternative is even worse.
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And man, I wish I didn't have to choose like this. Man,
I wish I had other choices, but I don't. I
really don't. I feel it is that dire in that importance.
So I appreciate you, emailer reaching out in such a
thoughtful way to allow me to explain this.
Speaker 7 (19:52):
But this is the election that went.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
If I ever look back at elections on my death,
bet I'll but just be like, wow, did that suck?
This weekend, Donald Trump did something that could have gone
either way. Because canadacies have been destroyed by gimmicky appearances
trying to do something that they are clearly not doing.
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Donald Trump showed up at a McDonald's in Pennsylvania and
they put him to work. And I gotta tell you so,
I'm on Twitter yesterday I was watching football games.
Speaker 7 (20:26):
Dam there were some good football games yesterday, really good
games yesterday.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
So watching football when I was on Twitter because you
know commercials, and I start seeing people posting these videos
and pictures of Donald Trump at this McDonald's and he
looked relaxed.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
He looked like he was having fun.
Speaker 4 (20:47):
The engagement that he had with the people that actually
worked at McDonald's seemed very genuine, as he expressed like,
oh wow, this is really cool. I mean, he came
across as a dude who wanted to be there, who
wanted to be a part of the entire McDonald's experience.
Everybody knows the man loves McDonald's, loves it, and it
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was another master stroke when it comes to campaigning. And
this is why I'm beginning to think Donald Trump just
might win this thing.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Now.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
If you don't believe me that it was really, really good,
you guys, can I have my audio, please, Anthony, because
you've got to hear Tim Walls talking about it on
the view.
Speaker 6 (21:29):
She actually worked in a McDonald's.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
She didn't go and pander and disrespect McDonald's workers by
standing there in your red time take a picture.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
But that's not what he did he gave out food
at the drive through talking to people that were They
didn't even pre screened, by the way, by the Secret Service.
They're not just gonna let random people drive through the
drive through when the president's there. But nonetheless they were fawning.
He was gracious. I mean, it was just a masterstroke.
And it took a guy who's a billionaire and made
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him look like he he was one of us.
Speaker 7 (22:03):
He was one of us.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
And you guys, he connects with people on a way
in a manner that makes all of this stuff in
the New York Times column that I was talking about
in the last segment. They don't care because he seems
like the guy who cares about them, And right now,
Kamala Harris does not give that vibe off. There's a
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video I have on the blog today of Vice President
Harris had a series of rallies and she says the
exact same speech at every rally. Ayron, have you ever
seen a concert in different locations on the same tour,
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like seeing the same artist more than one time on
the same tour. No, Okay, the first time I had
that experience, I was absolutely gobsmack to realize they say
the exact same words at every show, right down to wow,
this is the best growd we've ever had, give it
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up insert city here. I mean, they say the exact
same thing, and you realize, Wow, that wasn't genuine at all.
I don't think she thought we were the best crowd
ever in Denver now. But on a political campaign, it's interesting,
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And this is one of the reasons that I cannot
and would not ever vote for Kamala Harris because I
have no idea what her guiding principles are. She keeps
saying her values are the same, but she doesn't give
you any actual values. She just goes on about how
she believes in America or something. That's not a value
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A value system is something that you lay out things
that guide you. For me, it's always trying to do
the right thing always. Sometimes I achieve that, sometimes I fail,
but I'm always trying to do the right thing. I'm
always trying to work at life from a perspective of
moving people forward in their lives. Maybe it's me, maybe
(24:17):
it's a rod, maybe it's whatever. I don't know, but
those are my values. My values say I have to
be responsible for my own stuff and my family that's
a value.
Speaker 7 (24:27):
I don't know what hers are. I have no idea
how she would lead.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
I honestly don't think she would really be in charge.
And I don't trust the image that she would present
to the world in a time that I think we
are closer to some sort of massive world conflagration that
we've been in a very long time. I don't know
what that looks like, but it certainly does feel unstable
right now. Doesn't the world just feel a little rickety
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in terms of the overall security of the world. I
don't trust her to put her face as the face
of the United States. I don't trust her decision making
when she says there's nothing she'd do differently than Joe
Biden did. How can you not look at what happened
in Afghanistan and say, holy cow, wish we'd done that
a whole lot differently. You had people falling off the
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outside of airplanes they were clinging to trying to escape
on television, and you can't think of anything else you
do differently. I just I don't know. I just either no,
can't do it. So I'm voting for Trump. I wish
I could vote for someone else, but I can't. And
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that's just the way the cookie crumbles this election season.
So a little bit later in the show, doctor Judith
Ortloff is joining me. She's got a new book out,
The Genius of Empathy, Practical Skills to heal your sensitive self,
your relationships, and the world. I'm going to drill down
on that last the world part.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Now.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
This past weekend, my friend and candidate for District ones
Congressional Valdemar Archiletta, faced off with incumbent Diana to get
and I thought Valdemar did an absolutely fantastic job, really
really fantastic job by him, and I would urge you
to watch it. I personally feel like Valdemar is, you know,
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perhaps the best equipped candidate to eke out a win
in the first But if he does, it will just
be like a Christmas miracle because that district is so
reliably democratic, so.
Speaker 7 (26:31):
It's gonna be tough.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
But he's just done such a great job in this
campaign that I'm hoping he can get over the finish line.
But we shall see, we shall see. So Valdemar is
coming on it to thirty today. We're gonna have a
chance to chit chat with him and find out a
little bit about what he is hoping to do here,
because he answered some questions in a way that surprised me,
(26:54):
which is nice because you don't generally get surprised at all. Mandy,
do like me, don't vote, says this texter. I'd like
to ask a question. There's a lot of people in
the country that won't vote. Look, we already know this.
We already know that voter participation is never going to
be one hundred percent because most people, uh not most people,
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but a lot of people just can't be bothered. But
I'd like to know, in this listening audience, in this
listening audience, what percentage of you guys that would text
in to five sixty six nine zero are not planning
on voting. I'd really like to know, so you can
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text me. I'd like to know yes, yes, is yes?
Vote a note is no not gonna? If the answer
is no, not gonna, then I'd like to know why
in what would fit in a text message, Mandy and
orange marmalade presents a presidential image to the world. I'm
just gonna say that while he was president, nobody attacked
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anybody else. That's obviously and I've said this before. I
think his strength when it comes to foreign policy is
that everybody in the world thinks he's insane, and nobody
wants to mess with a crazy person because you really
don't know what they're gonna do. Mandy. For as much
as I loathe Trump, the Mickey photo op was a
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brilliant campaign move.
Speaker 7 (28:22):
He enjoyed it for a couple of reasons. In my mind.
Speaker 4 (28:24):
Number One, he's naturally inquisitive about how things are done,
think of micro and dirty jobs.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
Or the undercover Boss.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
Number Two, this was way different than a normal campaign event.
Breaks up the monotony. Still voting for Oliver Chase, though,
all right Texter five six six nine zero texts me
whether or not you're gonna vote. If you're not, tell me.
I have a feeling it's gonna be all yes. Is
here in just a second, because I don't think you
listen to talk radio and don't vote. That almost seems counterintuitive,
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like you're taking in information and knowledge and then just
putting it on a shelf and not doing anything with it.
I'm confused by that, to be perfectly frank, very confused.
Speaker 7 (29:06):
We'll be back with your answers right after this.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
We got about one hundred text messages, little over one
hundred text messages about people voting. Okay, I asked, are
you going to vote? Or if the answer is no,
why not. Out of the ninety seven responses that we got,
I had two that said I am not voting, one
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said my vote would matter, the other said I am
not participating in their farce.
Speaker 7 (29:36):
So that's it.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
The rest of you are voting. The rest of you
have already voted. That's another thing. Please turn in your
ballots now. You can go drop them off at the dropbox.
Somebody in Douglas County is having fun with the twenty
four hour surveillance of the dropbox.
Speaker 7 (29:50):
Apparently, in case we're wondering, Anthony.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Sasquatch is registered in our district in Douglas County because
he opped off his ballot at the ballot box.
Speaker 7 (30:03):
Sasquatch, So we got that going forth.
Speaker 6 (30:06):
Which side is he on?
Speaker 4 (30:08):
I don't know. I didn't ask. You know, it's a
it's a it's a it's a secret vote. You know
what we do here, so yeah, yeah, you have to know. Yep, No,
I mean, if you're a Sasquatch, he could be an
environmentalist because he lives in the woods, you know, but
he also wants to be left alone. He doesn't want
big government, you know, he doesn't want people to maybe
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make in decisions about what happens in the woods.
Speaker 7 (30:31):
He wants to just be left alone.
Speaker 6 (30:32):
Animal rights is he though he's amongst the animals.
Speaker 4 (30:37):
He's amongst the animals. But maybe he's like Shrek and
maybe they all annoy him. We don't know. We're ascribing
motives like he's some kind of you know, fairy prince
or something out there with all the But then he
may get sick of it, deer eating his flowers like
other people like me, do you know?
Speaker 8 (30:54):
So if you had to guess which side is on,
I mean, I don't know. Issue yeah, be very much independent.
Speaker 4 (31:01):
Well, his vote's going to be counted now in Douglas
County because he dropped his ballot off. Mandy have always
voted every election, but didn't vote last midterm. I am
very politically motivated, especially as a conservative millennial, but also
own my own construction company. So when life gets busy
and you know it's a waste, voting in Colorado gets
pushed on the priority list. That being said proudly voting
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for Trump for the third time. Mandy. Voting is such
a huge privilege, says this Texter, especially women in certain women. Oh,
certain people, Wait a minute, especially women. I'll just skip
that line. There are people in other countries that would
love to be able to vote freely without threat and
ramifications of their choice.
Speaker 7 (31:44):
Don't take that for granted.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
People.
Speaker 7 (31:46):
We are a very blessed country.
Speaker 4 (31:48):
Even though at times it doesn't feel like things are
going well for us as a country, we are still very,
very blessed to live in the United States of America,
even with all the flaws. That is why we vote
and change what is wrong. That is an excellent, excellent
way to put that. Yes, for every vote that you
don't vote on, it's the point for.
Speaker 7 (32:08):
The other side.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
You may not like the candidates, but you're gonna like
one more than the other. Correct, Correct, Mandy. My wife
never voted, but complains, so I told her she can't
complain if she doesn't vote. We both vote in every election,
and I do kind of feel that way. I mean,
I just think complaining after the fact when you didn't
vote is just kind of annoying. Have you ever been
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in a situation where something went wrong, and the other
person you're with immediately goes, what did you do? And
the assumption is that somehow it's your fault. That's kind
of how that feels when it's like, Oh, these clowns
in office, what did you do?
Speaker 7 (32:50):
You gotta have some skin in the game.
Speaker 4 (32:53):
He's obviously a Democrat speaking of Sasquatch because.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
Republicans would just shoot him.
Speaker 4 (32:59):
That is a fair point, a very fair point, Mandy.
I believe Sasquatch didn't like the introduction of wolves.
Speaker 7 (33:11):
They might try to bite him.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
You need to get someone to call in his Sasquatch
and have an interview.
Speaker 7 (33:16):
What do you even get someone to call?
Speaker 4 (33:17):
I mean, I'll just get Sasquatch, a Rod, get me Sasquatch. Okay,
just can Sasquatch speak? This could be a bad interview.
I'm sure it'll be easy. I mean, right, people see
him all the time. We know everything about him. Mandy,
definitely voting down ballot, but I am leaving the presidential
election blank. Sasquatch is Harry, dumb and smelly, so he's
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definitely a liberal. A rod that from a Texter. There
you go, and with that, we'll be back with doctor
Drew that word off on empathy.
Speaker 7 (33:53):
I could probably use some of that right now.
Speaker 1 (33:55):
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Speaker 4 (34:22):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the second hour of the show.
And I'm pleased, very pleased to have a woman. I've
seen her on television a million times. Doctor Judith Orloff
is a psychiatrist and a prolific writer, and she's got
a new book out called The Genius of Empathy, Practical
Skills to Heal your sensitive self, your relationships and the world.
Speaker 7 (34:43):
Doctor Orloff, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 9 (34:46):
Thank you very much. I'm happy to be on.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
So let me start with a very basic question. We're
going to start right at the beginning. What is empathy
and why does it matter?
Speaker 10 (34:59):
Yes, empathy is our ability to come from our hearts
and to feel what other people are feeling, and to
care about other people and to connect with other people.
Now as opposed to someone who doesn't have empathy, who
such as a narcissist who is not able to do that.
So it's our ability to reach out to others and
for others to say I feel.
Speaker 9 (35:21):
What you're feeling, and I'm with you. You know I
hear you.
Speaker 4 (35:24):
So it seems that right now we're a little bit
short on empathy for our fellow humans who may disagree
with us about politics or disagree with us about about
pretty much anything. Is this the natural state of the
human condition when it comes to empathy or have we
lost our way from what our natural state should be.
Speaker 9 (35:47):
I think we've.
Speaker 10 (35:48):
Lost our way from what our natural state should be.
Empathy is a key to being human, and if you're
in a relationship with someone who doesn't have empathy, you're
going to be in bad shape because they're not going
to care about how you're feeling. And so as humans
as developing humans and being the best we can be,
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it's important that we reignite our empathy and allow it.
Speaker 9 (36:14):
To grow and to be able to give our.
Speaker 10 (36:16):
Loved ones empathy and caring rather than being cold or
shut off or numb.
Speaker 9 (36:23):
Empathy allows you.
Speaker 10 (36:24):
To send healing to other people and to experience love.
If you have no one in your life who has empathy,
you're going to feel.
Speaker 9 (36:33):
Like you're missing something very important.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
So is empathy a learned behavior or are you born
with it?
Speaker 7 (36:40):
And if it isn't any quality.
Speaker 4 (36:43):
Can we have varying degrees of empathy within our population?
Speaker 10 (36:50):
Yes, we can have varying degrees, and some people are
born with it. When I was doing my obgyn rotation
at USC during my medical skip, I see some babies
come out they have empathy and they just seem to care.
Speaker 9 (37:05):
And other babies come out they're not interested, you know,
they don't have that same sensitivity.
Speaker 10 (37:11):
So I call sensitive children empaths. And there's some of
us who are empaths who are very sensitive and need to.
Speaker 9 (37:21):
Find the balance.
Speaker 10 (37:22):
So we don't give too much empathy and too much
of our self away, but to be able to develop
this beautiful skill, you know, in our lives empathy. I
write about empathy for ourselves as well as others.
Speaker 7 (37:36):
So how do we go about the process.
Speaker 4 (37:38):
If maybe you realize you've become cynical and shaded. I
might be talking about me here, but you've become cynical
or jaded and you want to reignite your empathy. What
are some of the things that you recommend that someone
can do to recapture or even grow their ability to
be empathetic.
Speaker 10 (37:59):
Well, the first thing you could do is to be
able to just ask someone how they're doing and listen,
because empathic listening is a skill. You're not checking your phone,
you're not doing anything else, you're not looking around, You're
right there with the person. I'm right there with you
listening how are you doing?
Speaker 2 (38:15):
You know?
Speaker 9 (38:16):
And then you establish a connection with someone.
Speaker 10 (38:19):
That's the first way is to not be in a
million other places when you're trying to connect to someone
you love.
Speaker 4 (38:27):
That is in today's world of distractions, that seems like
a herculean task. Sometimes it is, but it's so important
it depends.
Speaker 9 (38:39):
It really shapes the quality of your life. I mean,
empathy to me is.
Speaker 10 (38:42):
The most important trait that I have, and it's the
trait that can cause us to be kind to ourselves.
You know, when we're at three o'clock in the morning
and our mind's going mile a minute with all the
things we're worried about.
Speaker 9 (38:56):
Now, that's the time to bring empathy in.
Speaker 10 (38:59):
If you don't, you're just going to be torturing yourself
and every night those voices will swirl around and round.
Speaker 9 (39:05):
But if you can say to yourself, you know, you
had a hard day.
Speaker 10 (39:09):
These are really hard people to deal with at work,
and I'm trying my best. And so you talk to
yourself in a loving tone as opposed to what's wrong
with you? Why can't you keep up with everyone? What's
wrong with you?
Speaker 9 (39:22):
You know?
Speaker 10 (39:23):
And that's a very destructive voice, because neurochemically, that throws
you off. When you're mean to yourself, that gets the
stress hormones flowing, and it decreases the endorphins, the natural painkillers,
and when you're empathic, it increases the endorphins and natural
painkillers and all the beautiful hormones in our body that
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can make us feel good.
Speaker 4 (39:49):
I mean, that sounds. That sounds really it sounds like
it's okay. I'm trying to think of the best way
to say this. I understand what you're saying. This is
something I struggle with, and it's something I've struggled with
my entire life. I don't have a lot of patience
for people that I perceive to be making the same
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bad choices over and over again. You know, I don't
have a lot of patience with people who may be
struggling with something for a long period of time. These
are things that I've always viewed as character flaws for me.
So how do I get past that in my own
journey to be a more empathetic human being?
Speaker 9 (40:31):
Well, you know, as.
Speaker 10 (40:32):
A psychiatrist, I've been in practice in over twenty five
years and I've sat with so many people, and each
person has their own timeline on how they can deal
with something. Sometimes now it's not the right time. But
as a friend, if they keep going round and round
the same thing over and over and over again, you
don't want to sit and listen to it.
Speaker 9 (40:53):
You want to say, you know.
Speaker 10 (40:54):
I hear what you're saying, and when you're ready for
a solution, I'm here and I love you about you,
but I can't keep listening to it.
Speaker 9 (41:02):
But the way you set the boundaries.
Speaker 10 (41:04):
Setting boundaries is key when people are going on and
on and not getting anywhere. I mean, I won't sit
with the patient who's going around and around and not
getting anywhere. If they come in week after week the
same thing. You know, I need to address that with them,
you know, and the same with yourself.
Speaker 9 (41:20):
You can say I'm not.
Speaker 10 (41:21):
Able to listen, you know, for two hours on the
phone again and I'm here. If you want a solution
in the meantime, here's someone who might be able to
help you. You know, But the tone of your voice,
you don't want to be nasty, you know, you want
to have an empathic tone, because when you're impatient, you
tend to get nasty and that's only going to hurt
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the other person. And what you want to do is
just set limits for yourself so you don't have to
keep hearing it over and over again, and so you
don't develop a resentment.
Speaker 5 (41:53):
Right.
Speaker 4 (41:53):
We have a lot of text messages on our text
line asking questions doctor Orloff, and one of them is Mandy.
What is the difference between empathy, sympathy and compassion.
Speaker 10 (42:06):
Well, sympathy is when you feel sad for somebody, if
somebody has a loss and you have sent a sympathy card.
And the difference between empathy and compassion is that compassion
is more action oriented, where let's say your neighbor you know,
is unable to go to the market for himself, and
so you take an empathic action go shopping for him
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and bring him up the bags up three flights upstairs.
Speaker 9 (42:31):
That's compassion.
Speaker 10 (42:33):
Empathy is more I feel for him, you know, and
my heart goes out to him. And then compassion is
your ability to go into action.
Speaker 4 (42:41):
Okay, so they're interconnected maybe, but different, Okay, a.
Speaker 9 (42:47):
Little bit different.
Speaker 10 (42:48):
Yeah, I just want to say that dog Mamma wrote
the foreword to this book and he deals with which
I'm thrilled about. And he wrote the difference between empathy
and compassion, and the lines are.
Speaker 9 (42:59):
Not that's straight.
Speaker 10 (43:02):
You know, there's some difference that he talks about it together.
Speaker 4 (43:06):
This person asked specifically, are men more empathetic now than
in previous generations?
Speaker 9 (43:14):
Great question, Some men, not all men.
Speaker 10 (43:19):
If you have a narcissist, sociopath or a psychopath, where
I have a whole chapter on these type of people
who have what's called empathy deficient disorder, they literally don't
have empathy. So now everyone who's listening, you have to
wrap your mind around the fact that some people don't
have empathy. They're not wired to have empathy, all right,
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and so they're not going to be developing more empathy.
What they're into is power over you. They're not into love,
they're not into caring. But the men who have developed it,
I know that the new paradigm I believe this strongly
for a new man as somebody who's able to cry
at times and be sensitive and strong, weakning, but somebody
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who's stronger because they're able to deal with their emotions
at least some of them, and they're not afraid of it.
You don't want somebody who's who's a kind of like
a bait shot and cut off and not into their emotions.
And I'm so tough, you know. And the tough people,
as we were talking about, you know, can be tough
and tender, you know, they can have that spot in
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themselves that can cry sometimes or you know, be sweet
and gentle, and they're.
Speaker 9 (44:29):
Big, you know, man, they're like, you know, real men.
They're not.
Speaker 10 (44:33):
A fear that many people have that I write about
in the book is people are afraid of becoming overly feminized,
you know. And that's not what empathy is. Not want
what healthy empathy is. Healthy empathy is finding the balance
between your masculine and feminine side.
Speaker 9 (44:50):
It's about being strong and able to assert.
Speaker 10 (44:52):
Yourself and set boundaries and be kind as well as
you know, be able to handle life, you know, and deal.
Speaker 9 (44:59):
With it and in a strong way.
Speaker 10 (45:01):
So I want to dispel the myth that empathy is weakness.
Speaker 9 (45:06):
It's not weakness, not when it's balanced.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
And I do think I'm a big fan of crying
at the right appropriate time because crying at the right
appropriate time can make a huge difference. It can be
a physical release that allows you to sort of have
a moment and then you pull yourself together and you'll
wipe the sut off your nose and you move forward
and you go about your day. And I know that
that is something that you've kind of addressed the healthy
side of crying. How do you know if you are
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doing healthy crying or if you probably need some help
because you're doing too much crying.
Speaker 10 (45:39):
Well, you have to see how it's affecting you first
and foremost, and how it affects the people around you.
If you're crying, Let's say you have a sad event
that happened and tears come into your eyes and that's okay,
and that might, you know, last, depending on how big
the event is, that might last because grieving is you know,
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crying is part of grieving, so it's a way of
working the.
Speaker 9 (46:03):
Event through your system.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
You see.
Speaker 10 (46:05):
But if you're crying all the time and everything and
you can't get it together to center yourself.
Speaker 9 (46:10):
That's too much, you know.
Speaker 10 (46:12):
You know, either you have a you know, a depression
that needs to be looked at, or you know, you
have to learn to breathe the center yourself and maybe
call a friend and find a friend to you know,
express this with, especially supportive, loving friends. You know, there's
the issue that I write about in the book about
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crying at work. You know, is it a good thing
to cry at work or is that a problem? And
from what I have seen, most workplaces, most not all,
do not welcome crying, you know, very you know, with
open arms now, and they tend to come down on
people who cry and look at it as a weakness.
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And then criers tend to be bullied, and especially children
who are crying a lot tend to be bullied. And
so I don't think it's a good idea unless you
have a really supportive coworker and say let's go out
for a walk and hear if she can just you know,
be okay with it. You know, it's a to me,
it's a beautiful thing when somebody cries, it's real. But
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if it goes beyond that, if you can't stop it,
because I know a lot of people who are very depressed.
They can't stop it. It just goes on and on.
Speaker 9 (47:23):
So it doesn't give you energy, it perhaps you. So
in those cases you have to.
Speaker 7 (47:28):
Look as one who has had one.
Speaker 4 (47:31):
Episode at work where I cried, I don't look back
with a fondness, with fondness that they were anger. They
were murder tears though I was crying. So I didn't
murder someone. So I'm going to give myself a pass
on that. Soone asked an interesting question, and I don't
know if I have enough information. This texter said, what
if you can't cry? I don't know if that's a
physical thing that you have to be able to make
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tears or your eyes would be permanently dry. I mean,
I'm guessing they mean that they are just they don't cry.
Speaker 7 (48:02):
How I mean, how does that? How does one get
beyond that?
Speaker 4 (48:04):
Or do you even need to or are they capable
of expressing that emotion without the actual crying.
Speaker 10 (48:14):
Well, some people I get asked that question a lot
because things happen to people in their lifetimes and it
might stop their ability to cry. Maybe it's passed trauma,
or maybe it's being bullied for crying or if they
had a really bad association with what it means to cry.
Speaker 9 (48:31):
And so I had patients who really want.
Speaker 10 (48:33):
To open that up again and see if they can,
you know, open their emotions, because when you don't cry,
it is shutting down your emotions, you know, to a
certain extent. But there's usually something that caused them not
to cry. And it's up to you whether you want
to reignite the crying again and explore empathy and everything
that that means. I would encourage you to do that,
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but it's not the right time for everyone to do that.
So I think crying is a well balanced expression of
who we are as human is the way to release stress.
We actually release stress hormones when we cry, so.
Speaker 9 (49:11):
It's a very positive, helpful thing for the body to heal.
Speaker 10 (49:15):
But if someone's not emotionally ready, whoever asked this question.
Speaker 9 (49:19):
She's not ready, don't do it.
Speaker 10 (49:21):
You only do it if you're curious and you might
feel ready to open up your heart in that way.
Speaker 4 (49:28):
Doctor Judith Orloff is my guest. She's a psychiatrist and
the author of the Genius of Empathy, Practical Skills to
heal your sensitive self, your relationships and the world doctor Orloff.
I have several questions on the text line about boundary setting,
and many people saying, how do you even begin to
set boundaries?
Speaker 7 (49:48):
And I think the.
Speaker 4 (49:50):
Very nature of that question would indicate that these people
have no clue because they've never done it. So how
do if you are in a relationship where you feel
like you need to set boundaries but you haven't yet,
how do you begin that process in a long term
relationship to say okay, now this is not okay with me?
Speaker 7 (50:09):
What does that even look like?
Speaker 10 (50:13):
Well, you have to get to know the word no,
because if you're a people pleaser, or you have been
so far and you just want people to be happy,
you want to be everything, to be peaceful.
Speaker 9 (50:25):
You don't want to have any conflict.
Speaker 10 (50:28):
You know, you have to use the word no, you know,
in order to set a boundary.
Speaker 9 (50:34):
But the way you say it, I can't emphasize this enough.
Speaker 10 (50:38):
This is the genius of empathy. Is the way you
say it that you can be heard. You say it
with a very kind tone.
Speaker 9 (50:45):
No, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 10 (50:46):
I can't help you with that project now because I'm
already swamped, but I wish you good luck. With it,
and the way you say it is very short. You
don't apologize at length, you don't get into a big
confrontation with somebody. You practice the first step to empathy
and setting boundaries is practicing how to say no. And
my patients often do that with me in the office.
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So you might want to find a friend, or you
could practice saying no. It may be hard to even
get out, you know, no, I can't do this because
you're so used to being the peacemaker or the adult
in the family, or if you came from a dysfunctional family,
you could never say no. You had to, you know,
take care of everything. So that that's where you practice that,
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and then you begin to notice what doesn't feel right
to you and boundary. You know, with boundary setting as
you don't want to say yes to things that don't
feel right. You know you want like.
Speaker 9 (51:42):
If you go ahead with a job, if you go
ahead with a.
Speaker 10 (51:44):
Relationship, if you go ahead with a discussion with your spouse,
you wanted to feel right.
Speaker 9 (51:49):
You want your approach to feel right.
Speaker 10 (51:51):
You don't want to just blurt things out, and you
also don't want to talk about more than one subject
at a time. You know It's very important that if
you're bringing something up with somebody as a conflict, you
don't go on to ten different subjects. That's a big
mistake that people make because the other people can't process it.
Speaker 7 (52:14):
I got another one. This is kind of interesting.
Speaker 4 (52:16):
If a person has done a personality type test and
been given results that they are low on the ability
to empathize, is it an automatic diagnosis of narcissism.
Speaker 9 (52:29):
Oh no, not at all. Don't worry.
Speaker 10 (52:32):
It could be that you know you have shut down
in a certain way and you just don't know how
to access it in yourself. This is you know, I
call the book practical Tools you know to have empathize
with your sensitive self, others and the world.
Speaker 9 (52:50):
So you have to be very kind to yourself.
Speaker 10 (52:52):
If you have a personality test they say you're low
on empathy, well you could say, I want to develop it.
Speaker 9 (52:58):
You can develop empathy. That's what I teach in my workshops.
Speaker 10 (53:01):
That's what I write about, is I want to help
you develop it. If you want to do it. If
you don't want to do it, don't do it. You know,
it's not totally a matter of attraction to it. If
what I'm saying and who I'm how I'm saying it.
Who I am is attractive to you. You might really
enjoy this and it can expand your world so it's
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happier and more connected.
Speaker 4 (53:26):
Doctor Judith Orloff's fascinating topic again. The book is the
Genius of Empathy, Practical skills to heal your sensitive self,
your relationships, and the world. I put a link to
it today on my blog at Mandy's blog dot com.
Doctor Orlott, thank you so much for your time today.
Speaker 9 (53:42):
You're very welcome, all right.
Speaker 4 (53:44):
Thank you. That is doctor Judas or law. I don't
think I'm very empathetic, don't. I don't think I have
a lot. I lose patience with people, and I always have.
I just I've never been good at that. And one
of my longest running friends is an absolute one hundred
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percent mpath so whenever anything bad happens to anyone, she
just absorbs the energy.
Speaker 7 (54:12):
I couldn't live that, I just I couldn't live that way.
Speaker 6 (54:15):
I'm empathetic within reason.
Speaker 8 (54:16):
When it gets to a point you just can't worry
yourself any longer, then I have a limit where I
have a cut off, like, okay, I've I've really tried
to put myself in your shoes and care for you
to a limit, but eventually.
Speaker 6 (54:28):
I that stopped. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (54:29):
Well, I mean this is something that years and years
and years ago, when I was younger and more patient
with people. You know, you keep giving people a chance
when they don't necessarily deserve it. But as you get older,
you start to recognize those giant red flags in all
kinds of relationships, friendship, work relationships, personal relationships, I mean,
big red flags. As you get older, those red flags
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pop up and you no longer just brush past them.
And that's where I'm like, eh, you know what, I've
met you before, I didn't like you then, probably.
Speaker 7 (54:59):
Won't like it this time either. Mike Rosen.
Speaker 4 (55:03):
You go, hey, Mike, I'm doing this charity thing and
I was wondering would you be interested in coming. Nope,
that doesn't sound like something i'd like. That's literally how
we would say no, nope, no thanks, Nope, I'm good
and then go about his day, completely unbothered by the
fact he just broke your heart. And I was like,
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you know what, the Mike Rosen way, that's how you
set a boundary. Sasquatch knows empathy says I think the
Sasquatch is texting us now a rod Sasquatch knows empathy.
It wishes everyone a blessed day as they run in
fear for their lives away from freaking Sasquatch. There you go.
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I kind of want to ask another question about empathy,
but I don't want to beat the dead horse. I'm
just that that whole interview made me realize my own
personal feelings, and I think I need to improve some things.
And uh, how do you guys say, noticed something in
a nice way? Do you go long? Do you explain?
My brother pointed this out to me. He's like, stop
explaining for a no, And I went what And we
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had walked by a barker and.
Speaker 7 (56:10):
He was selling something and he's like, I don't even
know what it was.
Speaker 4 (56:12):
I was like, no, I'm good. Yeah, I went at home.
My brother's like, why did you have to explain? I
was like, I don't know. It was just being nice.
So you're never gonna see that guy again. It's like,
that's true, that's true. Anyway, Apparently we have leaked Israel's
plans for an attack on Iran somehow to telegram. Of course,
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of course, documents this, according to ABC News, purported to
show classified US intelligence gathering on Israel's preparations for a
potential retaliatory strike on Iran. They appeared on social media
platforms this week. It is unclear what impacts the potential
leak may have had on any Israeli military planning for
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a possible strike on Iran or Israeli America relations. On Sunday,
House Speaker Mike Johnson acknowledged that there was an investigation
underway into the possible intelligence leak during an appearance on CNN.
Speaker 7 (57:10):
Officials are following it closely.
Speaker 4 (57:12):
We don't know if it was leaked or if it
was hacked, and obviously hacked would almost be worse. But
if it's leaked, you don't know what else the person
who did the leaking knows. ABC News was quick to
say it could not independently verify the authenticity of the documents,
which appear to show specific details about the types and
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numbers of munitions that Israel may be readying for a
potentially large scale strike on Iran in retaliation for the
regimes late September mirage of almost two hundred ballistic missiles
aimed at Israel. So Israel is going to attack Iran
because they have to. And when I say that it's
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not about retaliation, this is no longer tit for tat.
There is a new vigor to the Israelis battle. And
after speaking two people living in Israel right now, they
all feel the same way. And that is, if you
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are a forty year old man in Israel right now,
you fought in like five different wars.
Speaker 7 (58:21):
Some of them are long, some of them are short.
None of them as long as what they're going through
right now.
Speaker 4 (58:25):
Most of them have been really short, because all the
wars in Israel left to this point have gone like this,
Hamas or Hezbla or someone attacks, they take a bunch
of hostages, they take the hostages back. Israel then says, hey,
you give us back our hostages and we'll give you
a whole bunch of prisoners. Those prisoners then get out
of prison and they become ya Ya Sinwar the head
of Hamas, and.
Speaker 7 (58:47):
The attacks never stop.
Speaker 4 (58:50):
And so if you're a forty year old man, you
have been in six wars in Israel, and you have
children now, and you don't want to look at those
children and know that they could grow up and be
in the military themselves and have to fight over and
over and over again, the same people over and over
and over again, doing the same things over and over
and over again, and somehow expecting a different result. Israel's
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done with that. They're going to end this, and ending
it is going to require a regime change in Iran.
That's ultimately what has to end it, because without Iran
vackuing them hamas has below, they all collapse. They have
no means of making money, they have no means of
doing anything except attacking Israel, which is their purpose. So
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the fact that we cannot even keep this stuff to
ourselves is a massive embarrassment considering the Israel is fighting
for its very existence.
Speaker 7 (59:42):
Israel is fighting against people.
Speaker 4 (59:43):
Who have sworn to pursue genocide against the Jewish people.
That is their sole purpose for living is to destroy
the Jewish people and the Jewish state, and actual genocide
is what they're promising.
Speaker 7 (01:00:01):
And we can't even.
Speaker 4 (01:00:02):
Be bothered to secure the documents, Like did somebody leave
a briefcase unlocked? What happened?
Speaker 8 (01:00:06):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (01:00:06):
I know, you logged in at the library with your
super secret password and then you forgot to log out,
And so now all this stuff is on telegram. Whoops,
Oh my god, so sorry. The Department of Defense and
FBI and Office for the Director of National Intelligence all
declined to provide any comment to ABC News, perhaps because
(01:00:29):
if this is what really happened, it would be the
most significant security breach in a very long time.
Speaker 9 (01:00:35):
Mandy.
Speaker 4 (01:00:35):
This war is a prime example of why empathy is
so hard today. Sorry, you're not sorry, you're losing the
war you started. Yep, yep. What is the old saying,
if you're gonna take the first punch, make it a
good one, because might be the only one you get. Well,
Hamas took their shot, but it wasn't good enough, and
(01:00:58):
now they get to pay the price. Well, Mandy, I
guess that's what we get for letting anti Semitic people
stay in Congress. The Biden administration time and time again
has proven to Israel that the United States just can't
be trusted. Except you know what, I'm just gonna say this,
Joe Biden has been a better ally to Israel than
I anticipated.
Speaker 7 (01:01:18):
And then he keeps.
Speaker 4 (01:01:19):
Making threats about withholding weapons. To my knowledge, that hasn't
actually happened. He's trying to use that as leverage, but
Israel keeps ignoring him and then having success doing the
thing they wanted to do. That he told him not
to let go into Rafa where yeah, Yah Sinmar was
just killed in a chance encounter in Rafa. Come on,
(01:01:41):
come on, Mandy. Do people lose empathy when they get
older or do they just see everybody as they are?
Speaker 7 (01:01:53):
What a fantastic question.
Speaker 4 (01:01:58):
I think it's maybe a little from column and a
little from columb and it's been coming on you to
instead of and by the.
Speaker 7 (01:02:05):
Way, by you, I mean me.
Speaker 4 (01:02:07):
Okay, just to be clear, this is where I've been
working on being less judgmental as I get older, Because
by the time you're fifty five years old, by the
time you're forty, you have had if you've had any
kind of life where you've experienced a lot of new things,
You've met all kinds of different people, You've been in
all kinds of different situations, and you have seen how
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those turn out, and you begin to notice certain consistencies
and behavior between people that maybe in the past turned
out not to be good people, and it makes you
much more guarded. And that's really kind of I think
one of the reasons that older people are so lonely
as they get older.
Speaker 7 (01:02:48):
Because as your friends.
Speaker 4 (01:02:49):
Die or they move far away to be near their
children and things of that nature, it's hard to make
new friends. You're also less willing to put up with
someone else's crap if you don't have any his street
with them. That's why making friends as an adult is
really hard. And I've had to start from scratch friend
wise three times now, four times now, and it's gotten
(01:03:12):
harder and harder every time I move. It just has
part of that's me, part of that's them. It's eh,
you know, it's all fine, Mandy. I have no empathy
for Hamas or Iran, nor do I nor do I. Okay,
we're gonna take a very quick time out and when
(01:03:39):
we get back, I've got so much stuff on the blog,
but I'm reading a text message that we might have
to jump into because it is very uh, it's serious.
We'll do that next. Do you have some samples with
the ballot with answered questions posted somewhere? I don't have that,
but I do have a voter's guide that is out
right now. The easiest way to find it is just
go to Google. Put in Mandy Connell Voter Guide twenty
(01:04:02):
twenty four and bada bing bada, boom bam, it'll pop
right up. I keep forgetting it. I'm trying to embed
it on the blog every day, but I forget obviously.
So that is the easiest way for you.
Speaker 7 (01:04:14):
To find it.
Speaker 4 (01:04:14):
So Mandy Connell Voter Guide twenty twenty four, just put
it in the Google and bam, you too will have
the massive insight of my wisdom, which you know, depending
on your feelings about me, could be a good thing,
could be a bad thing. I don't know. So I
saw something on the blog today from our friends at
(01:04:36):
Fox thirty one and it was about an event called
Girls on the Rise. And Girls on the Rise is
an event put together by the Society of Women Engineers
where middle school girls I can go to this weekend
camp and you get to learn about a bunch of
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stem fields through hands on experiments and the So the
endgame here is to inspire more girls to go into
stem fields because traditionally girls shy away from stem fields.
Boys gravitate towards stem fields for a lot of very
understandable sex based differences in how our brains work. Now
(01:05:20):
that we know for a fact that our brains work differently.
There are different reasons for this, and I understand wanting
to bring more women to STEM, I get it, but
the numbers that we have right now are not good
for boys. Boys are not going to college. More young
men are out of the workforce. They're just out of
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the workforce. Men have lost their way. And I'm just
gonna say it, it's time to stop sex based programs
like this when there could be a bunch of young
men who might want to get interested or learn more
about STEM than they're learning at their current cool And
I just I find this, you know, don't get me wrong,
(01:06:04):
you know, I get it. I understand it.
Speaker 7 (01:06:06):
I'm a woman.
Speaker 4 (01:06:07):
I have a daughter. I want her to be excited
about things like this. But you know what, We've got
to stop excluding boys because we're at the point now
where boys are getting left behind and it's not okay.
Are we doing things to encourage boys to go to college.
Are we making sure that boys understand that if they
don't want to go to college, they are all kinds
of other opportunities for them in trades where they can
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make a really good living, support themselves, support a family,
get to work with their hands. I do think boys
are much more inclined to do jobs where you say, look,
you get to work with your hands. You don't have
to sit behind a desk all day. Boys are like,
sign me up, I'm ready, let's go. So I just
think it's enough, it's enough with the focus on the girls,
(01:06:50):
it's enough. We need to start making sure that we
are giving as much attention to young men, because frankly,
I'm far more worried about young men and teenage boys
right now, who are being told that they are the
cause of every problem, of every ill, that their masculinity.
Depending on who is addressing it, could be okay masculinity
(01:07:15):
if there is such a thing, or it could be
toxic masculinity, if some woman randomly decides whatever they just
did was toxic masculinity.
Speaker 7 (01:07:23):
We're sending boys up for failure.
Speaker 4 (01:07:25):
We're seeing it in higher rates of depression and suicide
and young in teen boys.
Speaker 7 (01:07:30):
We gotta stop. We just got to stop.
Speaker 4 (01:07:32):
And though I appreciate the society of women engineers, where's
the one for boys going to college? Where's that one?
This is why anything designed to lift up one gender,
one race, whatever, is going to create and inherent in balance,
because if.
Speaker 7 (01:07:51):
You're not part of the favorite group.
Speaker 4 (01:07:53):
If you're not part of the blue Eye group, and
that's a reference to an old experiment, and then what are.
Speaker 7 (01:08:00):
You supposed to do?
Speaker 4 (01:08:01):
How are you supposed to move forward in life when
everyone's telling you you are part of the problems? Hey, everybody,
that's Jesse Thumbas fresh from fly fishing someplace fabulous. Jesse,
of course, part of our broadcast team with the Rockies.
So as soon as that season's over, Jesse's off.
Speaker 7 (01:08:16):
Well he's not.
Speaker 4 (01:08:17):
He's actually here working.
Speaker 7 (01:08:18):
But whatever it's mine seems more glamorous my way.
Speaker 4 (01:08:22):
I just saw that. I don't want to be a
negative nelly, but I mean, you guys get what I'm
saying here, right?
Speaker 8 (01:08:28):
You do?
Speaker 9 (01:08:28):
You get?
Speaker 4 (01:08:29):
You get?
Speaker 3 (01:08:29):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (01:08:29):
Ay, Rod? You know with your car, we didn't get
a single wicked Do we not have many wickens in
our audience? Did we do we take the sea? We
need a wick in to do a stage cleansing of
a Rod's cursed vehicle, because then we could go ahead
and do that. I mean, one question for you, though
it is low tire season, anybody else decorating for low
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tire pressure season?
Speaker 6 (01:08:54):
Anyone?
Speaker 8 (01:08:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:08:55):
I decorate every year every year about this time my
low pressure like i'ms on in my car and stays
on until the weather gets warm again. So if you
want to know a very detailed scientific explanation of why
that happens, I've got that linked on the blog today.
But when we get back, when you guys hear how
much sugar Americans eat every year?
Speaker 7 (01:09:19):
OMG, a rod? Guess how much?
Speaker 4 (01:09:22):
A rod?
Speaker 7 (01:09:22):
How much sugar to Americans eat every year?
Speaker 4 (01:09:30):
How much?
Speaker 6 (01:09:31):
How much?
Speaker 7 (01:09:31):
Just guess I too much? No, just guess guessing amount?
Speaker 6 (01:09:36):
Can't give me like a rough idea of whearing a ballpark.
Speaker 8 (01:09:38):
He measured pounds okay, pounds per year average adults, thirty
pounds a year.
Speaker 7 (01:09:46):
I will tell you the answer after this.
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the show.
Speaker 7 (01:10:18):
And if you were listening to the last hour.
Speaker 4 (01:10:21):
First of all, thank you, you guys are my favorites.
You heard me ask Anthony a question, which is how
much sugar do Americans eat on average every year. Ay, Rod,
what did you guess?
Speaker 6 (01:10:35):
Quickly, what did you guess?
Speaker 7 (01:10:38):
Dragon is in the studio? What a dragon?
Speaker 8 (01:10:40):
Guess?
Speaker 6 (01:10:40):
Five to six?
Speaker 4 (01:10:42):
Five to six pounds? Oh good lord, that's precious, but
that's the skinny guy. Now, okay, wait a minute. How
much did fat dragon eat of sugar?
Speaker 6 (01:10:53):
How many of them? All of the sugars, all of
the sugars.
Speaker 4 (01:10:58):
So no, the answer is eighty pounds America.
Speaker 7 (01:11:05):
You guys, you guys, you guys.
Speaker 4 (01:11:08):
I read a stat not too long ago that said
a child today eats more sugar in one year than
a child born in nineteen hundred eight in their lifetime.
I mean, my goodness, gracious, you guys, eighty pounds. That
is thirty six thousand grams of sugar per year. This
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according to a poll of two thousand Americans. The study
found that the typical American ingest ninety nine grams of
sugar per day, surpassing the sugar content and this is
where it's gonna get really real for a lot of people,
surpassing the sugar content of two twelve ounce cans of soda.
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This excessive consumption comes despite eighty five percent of respondents
actively working to reduce their sugar intake. The study reveals
thirty four percent of respondents the majority of their daily
sugar intake comes from beverages in their morning coffee. Another
twenty eight percent said that soda makes up most of
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their liquid consumption. Interestingly, more than half of the participants
fifty one percent, believe that their sugar cravings might actually
be a sign of dehydration, but instead of drinking water.
Speaker 7 (01:12:33):
They're getting more soda.
Speaker 4 (01:12:35):
The survey explored the emotional triggers behind sugar cravings, with
stress thirty nine percent, boredom thirty six percent, fatigue twenty
four percent, loneliness seventeen percent topping the list. When experiencing
these cravings, respondents reported feeling anxious, irritable, impatient, and unproductive.
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Common situations which bring on a sweet craving include watching
a movie thirty one percent, finishing a meal thirty one percent,
needing a midday energy bost thirty percent, and having a
bad day at work nineteen percent. The survey also found
that three twelve PM is the peak time for sugar
cravings to strike three twelve pm, So find something to
(01:13:21):
keep you busy at three twelve Now listen to this
Perhaps the most alarmingly, the average person can only resist
a sugar craving for thirteen minutes before giving in. Some
go to extreme lengths to satisfy their sweet tooth, with
twelve percent of respondents admitting that they'll make time in
their busy schedules no matter what to obtain a sweet treat.
Speaker 7 (01:13:45):
I just think this is.
Speaker 4 (01:13:49):
First of all, why we're fat. Good lord, people. I
don't know if you saw the news Racle had on
the blog last week. I believe that had a graph
in it. This showed when obesity took off, and it
took off at exactly the moment that we started replacing
sugar with high fructose corn syrup. Because once food producers
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started putting high fructose corn syrup into food, they realized
Number one, people one and more of it. Number two,
it lasted forever, especially with baked goods, so they started
putting it in everything, and our sugar intake just went
through the roof. Additionally, our sugary beverage Habit has got
to stop.
Speaker 7 (01:14:31):
It just has to stop.
Speaker 4 (01:14:33):
You guys, you know what's weird? Aron, Have you ever
had a coke zero all the time?
Speaker 11 (01:14:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:14:39):
Okay, So no one told me, the coke zero doesn't
taste like diet coke, which honestly is the worst beverage
since TAB. Many of you are old enough to remember
the first diet beverage TAB, which which honestly it was
a diet beverage because it tasted so disgusting you did
not want to drink any more of it. They were like, no, one,
(01:15:00):
that's enough for me. Diet coke to me is that disgusting.
Coke zero actually tastes like a like a normal coke almost,
but again it has aspertain and aspartame is not not
my friend, not my friend at all. I'm wondering how
much sugar you guys get per day? Have you ever
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tracked calories?
Speaker 7 (01:15:22):
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 4 (01:15:23):
Listening audience, So, there are so many free apps that
you can use. If you want to really get a
handle on how much sugar you're eating, use a food
tracking app like fat Secret. Fat Secret is an app.
It's super easy to use.
Speaker 7 (01:15:37):
You just put in and you don't have to be exact.
Speaker 10 (01:15:39):
Right.
Speaker 4 (01:15:39):
If you're eating a specific brand of something and they
don't have that brand.
Speaker 7 (01:15:42):
Just guess, just guess to one that's closest.
Speaker 4 (01:15:45):
But then you start to see the difference between sugar
and added sugar, because there's sugar and a lot of
food that's really good for you. Vegetables have a little
bit of sugar in them. Fruit has sugar in it,
but it also has the fiber to slow down the absorption.
So it's kind of like the toison and the antidote
in one little fruit container. So there is fruit that
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is not as bad for you as just added sugar.
And when you look at how much added sugar is
in your diet, I don't look at sugar. I look
at added sugar when I'm looking at something. Oh, this
person said tab was my favorite, it was not. It
was no one's favorite. If you really want favorite sodas
of the seventies, you got to go back to Shasta.
(01:16:29):
Shasta was the bomb. I want to taste, possess all
the great tastes. Shatta hass I wanna pop?
Speaker 7 (01:16:39):
How many of you just sang along with me on
that one.
Speaker 4 (01:16:42):
Diet sodas are equally as bad with all the chemicals,
and they make you hungrier. I'm not a diet soda person,
but whenever we have parties, we always buy diet soda.
And I had a little bit of a headache, and
I needed some caffeine, and I didn't want more coffee,
so I went and got a coke zero and drank
like half of it. And I was like, well, this
isn't horrible like diet coke. Mandy, I'm a pastry chef.
(01:17:03):
Don't listen, eat more sweets. More importantly, buy more sweets, well,
pastry chef allegedly. I'm not saying that you're not a
pastry chef. I'm just saying you've never brought pastries to
the studio right here at four six ninety five South
Monaco Street in Denver, at the iHeart Studios, fourth floor.
(01:17:24):
I mean, you say you're a pastry chef, but how
am I supposed to know if you're even telling the
truth regarding sugar. It looks like us life expectancy is
now in the upper seventies versus mid sixties in eighteen hundred.
Speaker 7 (01:17:38):
I like the way you're thinking there. I like it.
Speaker 4 (01:17:43):
I like it a looked. Hey, Mandy, we switched to
Zba to to get our soda fix. Zba uses stevie
as a sweetener, only four ingredients, but it tastes bad.
Tried it.
Speaker 7 (01:17:55):
I'd rather just have club soda or sparkling water.
Speaker 4 (01:17:57):
I'm good with that. It's he kind of. It serves
the same purpose, Mandy. It's a parent's responsibility to not
buyprocessed foods and to teach.
Speaker 7 (01:18:05):
Their children what to eat.
Speaker 4 (01:18:07):
My granddaughter is seventeen and has never had a weight
issue because our parents are good parents. Yep, my cousin's
drank fresca and now we're talking the delicious grapefruit beverage.
M How about it for USCO. There's two pop culture
references right there that were so good for my gen
X brothers and sisters.
Speaker 7 (01:18:28):
I'm just gonna sit with them for a second and
I'll be right back.
Speaker 4 (01:18:30):
Do you ever see something on a social media platform
and you're like, challenge.
Speaker 6 (01:18:35):
Accepted too much?
Speaker 4 (01:18:37):
So I saw this. Jim City says you can't post
a random number and expect people to understand.
Speaker 7 (01:18:46):
And I posted the number forty two. And I'd like
to know who in.
Speaker 4 (01:18:51):
Our listening audience knows what that reference is. You can
text us on the Common Spirit Health text line five
six six nine.
Speaker 7 (01:18:59):
Oh number forty two.
Speaker 6 (01:19:02):
Yeah, it might be one that beats you. Did you
see JK Rowlings?
Speaker 7 (01:19:06):
Oh yeah, nine and three quarters.
Speaker 4 (01:19:07):
Yeah, come on, come on, JK. Leave some for the
rest of us. Let us pick up the crumbs on Twitter, Okay,
billionaire authored lady.
Speaker 6 (01:19:16):
That forty two has quite a bit of meaning to it.
Speaker 3 (01:19:19):
It does.
Speaker 6 (01:19:20):
Lots of meaning it does to it.
Speaker 4 (01:19:22):
It does. I mean, it sounds like a robot in
life say that, you know, I just picked it up
in life. I'm just curious though, because not everyone gets hit.
Speaker 8 (01:19:33):
That's a that's a good throwback throwback now because it's
kind of a throwback.
Speaker 4 (01:19:37):
It is a throwback.
Speaker 9 (01:19:38):
And I was.
Speaker 4 (01:19:38):
Referencing the I was referencing the nineteen seventies version of
that thing when it came out.
Speaker 7 (01:19:47):
Oh, it was the BBC show was fantastic, fantastic.
Speaker 6 (01:19:50):
What was that new one? Here we go?
Speaker 7 (01:19:52):
That was two thousand and nine?
Speaker 4 (01:19:53):
Really, yeah, the new one was two thousand and nine
and it just fell five. Oh I thought it was
two thousand nine.
Speaker 6 (01:20:01):
Yeah, I just looked it up. Oh my god, he's
in it?
Speaker 7 (01:20:03):
Who's in it?
Speaker 6 (01:20:04):
Martin Freeman? He's the Is he a lead? It's Rockwell
and Bill Knight?
Speaker 2 (01:20:11):
Did you ever?
Speaker 4 (01:20:12):
Did you not see that it's not as good as
the BBC version? I might I have it is not
Jackie Robinson, thanks to those.
Speaker 6 (01:20:18):
Of you jack cute. Is it as cute in the throwback?
Speaker 4 (01:20:22):
No, it's it's not cute at all, and it's depressing
and his voice is hilarious the entire show.
Speaker 6 (01:20:29):
The now that we've basically thrown our thumb out on
the road, here.
Speaker 4 (01:20:33):
Boy from The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, it is
the meaning of life, the.
Speaker 7 (01:20:38):
Universe and everything. Forty two.
Speaker 6 (01:20:41):
That was the two.
Speaker 4 (01:20:43):
So there you go. Don't panic, says this text.
Speaker 8 (01:20:45):
Correct, correct, correct, correct, Alan rickman Man what a cast?
Speaker 7 (01:20:50):
Yeah, but it was not as good as the.
Speaker 6 (01:20:52):
Schlocky John Malkovich.
Speaker 4 (01:20:54):
BBC series from the nineteen seventies. We had terrible special.
Speaker 8 (01:20:58):
Effects, rotten tomatoes on the two thousand e it was okay,
it's gonna be always north of sixteen.
Speaker 4 (01:21:05):
You're going to wait Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy BBC cast. Oh,
I might have to buy that. It's on Amazon, the
old one of the new one. Oh it's on Oh wait,
so on YouTube. And it's so cheesy and so bad
and so awesome.
Speaker 6 (01:21:22):
It was one of the things.
Speaker 7 (01:21:22):
It was the eighties, it was the early.
Speaker 6 (01:21:24):
Eighties, seventy nine, I think I saw yeah, it says.
Speaker 4 (01:21:27):
The adaptation follows the original radio series in nineteen seventy
eight and eighty Uh it aired between January fifth and
February ninth.
Speaker 7 (01:21:37):
Nineteen eighty one on the BBC two and.
Speaker 8 (01:21:39):
Then turn into an hour and forty nine minute movie. Yeah, yeah,
hard to translate. Yeah, it didn't work. It did not work.
I mean they gave their best chance though, that cast man.
Speaker 4 (01:21:53):
Yeah. Yeah, but the uh, the BBC version is much better.
It's it's super cheesy, but it's just at a representation
of the book that was a horrible movie, said these
people eight six, seven, five, three oh nine. Also a
response to numbers that you could throw out there that
everybody knew, right, everybody knew them. I was trying to
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think of that there was.
Speaker 7 (01:22:15):
Any other number that had you three point one four.
Speaker 6 (01:22:18):
Yes, that's pie.
Speaker 7 (01:22:19):
Everybody knows what that is. I don't know the rest
of it.
Speaker 4 (01:22:21):
When I was a young nerdier kid, I knew a
lot of the numbers, but I don't know.
Speaker 8 (01:22:25):
There's now two easy ones both had the same numbers,
uh one six sixty six, Oh yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 6 (01:22:32):
And then for Star Wars nerds sixty six what's sixty six? Oh,
come on, then for Palpatine, execute auDA sixty six on
all the Jedi. Dieh.
Speaker 8 (01:22:42):
See that's fine when it's when the storm Troopers start
killing all the Jedi and then the rise of Darth Vader.
Speaker 6 (01:22:47):
YadA, YadA, YadA. Well you know, now you know?
Speaker 8 (01:22:49):
Okay, it symbolizes the rise of the Galactic Empire.
Speaker 6 (01:22:53):
Execute Order sixty six.
Speaker 4 (01:22:54):
Apparently Marvin the Paranoid Android has his own song on YouTube.
I will look that up when we get back. Oh,
by the way, your Tabor refunds are coming, and I
have a link to a story that has the numbers,
and these are going to be the last big Tabor
refunds we ever get, because the Democratic Legislature has decided
that they are going to give your table refunds to
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people they decided were more worthy of those. Later on
nine oh two one. Oh, that's a good one. It's
the number everybody knows, the three three oh the three
oh three. Well, people here, I wouldn't have known that
if I didn't live here. I'm just saying the five
oh four three three five, Well, the three oh five
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is California. Five oh four is a big freeway in California.
Speaker 6 (01:23:40):
Three, Miami. Three or five?
Speaker 4 (01:23:41):
Oh, you're right?
Speaker 7 (01:23:42):
Three or five is Miami? What is the one?
Speaker 4 (01:23:45):
You're right? When we get back, I bet Voldemir Valdemar Alchiletta.
Speaker 7 (01:23:50):
He knows a number. He knows the number one.
Speaker 4 (01:23:54):
For the first congressional district. We're talking to him about
that next. Kind of a part of Republican politics, a
big part of the log cabin of Republicans before deciding
to jump into what I think is probably one of
the most challenging races in Colorado for a Republican the
first congressional district against the firmly entrenched Diana to Get.
But Valdemar Argiletta was either crazy, maybe he was a
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little drunk.
Speaker 6 (01:24:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (01:24:18):
But he's been doing it and he's been doing a
great job representing conservative opinions and Republican values during this
race and on the blog today at mandy'sblog dot com,
I embedded his candidate debate with Diana to Get from
last weekend. So, first of all, it's a big get.
She doesn't really necessarily pay attention to her opponents.
Speaker 6 (01:24:39):
Yeah, I was.
Speaker 12 (01:24:40):
I give her credit for being willing to do the
debate because you know, honestly in her on her side
and with her strategy, maybe it's not.
Speaker 6 (01:24:48):
I don't know what she gained from it, but she
still was willing to.
Speaker 12 (01:24:50):
Do it and go on Channel eight and have the
conversation and do the debate, and.
Speaker 4 (01:24:56):
It was it was very good. But I want to
ask you this, we kind of mad chatting off the air.
You know, I'm not breaking any news here that if
you were to win the first it would be a
shock across the country.
Speaker 6 (01:25:09):
It really, it really would.
Speaker 12 (01:25:10):
I'd be making international news with what happened here in
Denver and that would be amazing.
Speaker 7 (01:25:18):
So why did you do it?
Speaker 4 (01:25:19):
I mean, why did you jump into this race that
is going to be damn near impossible.
Speaker 12 (01:25:24):
Yeah, well I had been asked to do it back
in twenty two and I was like, hell, no, I'm
not doing that.
Speaker 6 (01:25:29):
That's crazy.
Speaker 12 (01:25:30):
But it started a lot of conversations at that point,
right people within the Republican community and the Denver community
as to how this race and my campaign could be
used as a platform to have conversations with different different
demographics through the city and just a platform to speak
about conservative policies and issues and solutions in the city
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of Denver, because we don't really have a voice there
most of the time. End I found that it's really missing.
I've gone a lot of town halls meetings that the
city puts on, and typically I am the only Republican
or Conservative in the entire room, and you know, the
conversation happens, and it's a very one sided conversation, and
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everything they talk about has kind of the same ideas,
the same solutions, and I just feel like you can
sense in the room there's something missing, and the people
in Denver want to hear something else. I was at
one meeting and they were talking about immigration, and I let.
Speaker 6 (01:26:30):
Everyone say their thing.
Speaker 12 (01:26:31):
I think most of the things people were talking about, well,
we need more money, we need more money, we need
more government to deal with this. And one man raised
his hand and he said, you know, I want to
be a good Democrat. But then he really said nothing,
but it was like he was afraid. He wanted to
say more, but he was afraid to say it. And
that feeling was around the room, and so I eventually
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raised my hand and I stood up and I was like,
you know this is all you know good?
Speaker 6 (01:26:56):
You know you want to help people, but is unsustainable.
Speaker 12 (01:27:01):
We have to stop the inflow of immigration at the border.
And again there was this air in the room that like,
I'm glad somebody finally said that everyone was thinking it,
but they don't want to say it, and so the.
Speaker 4 (01:27:15):
Conservative gosh, you know what I mean, Valdemar, that is
one of those things that I think to myself in
my lifetime.
Speaker 7 (01:27:22):
I'm fifty five years old.
Speaker 4 (01:27:23):
Do you have any idea how many bipartisan conversations have
happened around legal immigration?
Speaker 3 (01:27:28):
Right?
Speaker 7 (01:27:28):
And for until until ten.
Speaker 4 (01:27:32):
Years ago, the thought of encouraging more illegal immigration would
would have been completely appalling to anyone. The issue has
been so politicized that now you have people who are rational, reasonable,
thoughtful people who feel like they're too scared to say, up, hey,
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maybe we should do this the legal way, which is
unsure what they were all thinking, you know what I mean?
Speaker 12 (01:27:57):
And if that's just an example, but there are so
many issues like that. I was in Cheeseman Park and
I had a table set up. I just put my
table there and put my signs up, and I was
sitting there talking to people and a guy came up
to me in a white dude for Harris hat and
you know, he really hates Trump and he was not
going to support me because at the federal level he
doesn't want Republicans and blah blah whatever. But then we
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were talking about local politics and he said, I agree
that Democrats have ruined our state and our city.
Speaker 6 (01:28:29):
I'm like, well, you don't see that at the national level.
How this ties in? Why didn't say that.
Speaker 12 (01:28:34):
I'm like, you know what, this is good.
Speaker 6 (01:28:38):
I'm going to stop the argument. Let's just talk about that.
Speaker 12 (01:28:41):
And I think he's going to vote for our House
district Republican candidate in that area, who also has a
major uphill battle. But still he was like, I'm willing
to look at Republicans at a local level.
Speaker 4 (01:28:54):
No, this is Faldimorret what you're doing right now. And
I know you're you're trying to win the race because
nobody wants to lose a raate And but the attitude
that you're taking of like, Okay, you know what, even
if I don't win this race, I'm going to lay
the groundwork to make it so Republicans can have a
conversation with people. Because this has been a frustration of
mine for a really long time.
Speaker 7 (01:29:16):
Not just in Colorado.
Speaker 4 (01:29:17):
I have stood up at Republican meetings and said, why
are we not actively working in communities of color, communities
of poverty? Why are we not working in these areas
where we've just given all the voters when in reality
our ideas will make their lives better.
Speaker 6 (01:29:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (01:29:35):
I went to I met I met a man at
a I think it was at the Colorado Black round Table.
And I went to the Northeast Denver Islamic Center and
met with their group, and they had their worship going on,
and so I sat through and I.
Speaker 6 (01:29:51):
Pretty much just expected I'm going to sit here, listen.
Speaker 12 (01:29:54):
To them and just you know, be in the background.
But they ended up talking to me for like a
half hour, almost like I was on a talk show,
ye asking me questions and we had a conversation.
Speaker 6 (01:30:05):
And their main issues are family.
Speaker 12 (01:30:07):
They are concerned about family values and what's happening to
families in our country. And so by the end they
were like, all right, how do we help you get elected?
Speaker 2 (01:30:18):
Wow?
Speaker 12 (01:30:19):
So I'm like, there a lot of these communities want
to hear from us, just.
Speaker 7 (01:30:23):
Need to be asked.
Speaker 6 (01:30:24):
Yeah. And I was at the.
Speaker 12 (01:30:25):
You know, John Fabricatory, Nothing against all our other candidates,
but I think he's like the for what that we
need right now. He is like the best candidate we
have in the state. Again, nothing against our others, they're
all wonderful. But we were at the Taste of Ethiopia.
He had a booth there and I was hanging out
with him because it was in Denver, but a lot
of the population live in Aurora. So the number of
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people we had come up to us who were Ethiopian
and African immigrants who were like, all right, we're we're
tired of what the Democrats are doing.
Speaker 6 (01:30:56):
They don't represent our values.
Speaker 12 (01:30:57):
And I even told one man there's like, you know,
I've never been to an African festival like this, but
I've been to hundreds and hundreds of Latino Hispanic festivals,
and like, you guys might have us beat on the
Jesus T shirts.
Speaker 6 (01:31:11):
I think we win when it.
Speaker 12 (01:31:12):
Comes to the Mary T shirts, But the Jesus T shirts,
you guys, they're more there than I've seen at any
other people strong faith, ye, very strong faith. And I
was talking to a man who owns a store in Aurora,
and he was talking to me about how he's concerned
about what's happening in schools, and he gave you a
really sad statistic that he said in the Ethiopian community
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in the previous year, twenty two young people had committed
and he's like, we left Africa to come here to
build a better life, and now our young.
Speaker 6 (01:31:44):
People are being put in this position.
Speaker 12 (01:31:46):
So he was going to open his store longer and
work harder so he could send his kids to a
private school or a charter school where because he kind
of put it on a lot of things they're learning
in public schools right that are hurting kids and hurting
their mental health, and not promoting family values and not
promoting faith.
Speaker 4 (01:32:05):
And so I mean they're putting kids at odds with
their parents' values.
Speaker 7 (01:32:08):
Yes they are, and that is a huge problem.
Speaker 4 (01:32:11):
And for kids who are already struggling, who don't fit
in their support system should be their parents. And schools
are literally saying your parents are dangerous. They're creating Yeah,
you can't talk to your parents about this, it's too
dangerous for you.
Speaker 12 (01:32:25):
I said that working with the Colorado Parental Advocacy Network.
I went and I don't remember where I was, but
I basically said, you know, as a gay man, we
have fought for years to build a better relationship with
our families and bring our families into our lives, and
now we're doing that, and now the schools are trying
to tear us apart again.
Speaker 6 (01:32:42):
Like we've worked so hard to get our.
Speaker 12 (01:32:45):
Families to accept us and to be part of their
lives and all, and I feel like we've done a
great job at that. But now they are putting that
little seed of thought into kids' minds that your parents
are wrong, your parents are not looking out for your
best interest.
Speaker 6 (01:32:59):
Don't tell you your parents. Don't talk to them. They're wrong, dangerous. Yeah,
and it's fine to me, it really is.
Speaker 12 (01:33:07):
So there's so many communities within our cities that we
don't think about, or maybe we we I don't know.
We're not talking to them, but they are on our side.
We need to give them the opportunity to understand who
Republicans actually are, to even just go beyond the political party,
but just what our conservative politics are, what are whatever
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you want to label it as is they agree with us.
And there was something that I don't remember where it was,
where the Christians and the Muslims got together and went
to the school board and they were united and sticking
up for family values, and we need to do that.
Speaker 6 (01:33:43):
We need to be.
Speaker 12 (01:33:44):
Making allies throughout our states, and and that's what this
is I want to do. Like I understand, you know
the realities of my campaign, but this is a step
that's not going to end after this campaign and reaching
out to the people in the city. And where it
goes from here, I don't know yet. I just want
to get past November.
Speaker 6 (01:34:04):
At this point, you're in the state of.
Speaker 4 (01:34:05):
The race, right, I need the candidate's about this point.
You got a few weeks left.
Speaker 6 (01:34:09):
Every candidate, it's like weeks.
Speaker 4 (01:34:11):
I just need this to be over.
Speaker 9 (01:34:13):
I just need it to be done.
Speaker 4 (01:34:16):
Let me ask you about the actual campaigning, the political
aspect of it. And it might be too soon for
us to tap into this, but I've had the opportunity
to talk to many candidates after the fact, and they
talk about things like the political class, consultant class, it
wants to micromanage every aspect of the campaign. How challenging
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has it been for you? Because in all honesty, like
I don't we're not best friends. We don't braid each
other's hair. But I've known you now for many years
I've seen no change in you, which is a compliment.
I've seen no change from the guy who said we
can do a better job when you first started to
the person you are now. You're still out there having
conversations with people and just trying to find comment and
(01:35:00):
areas where you can grow, you know, bridges to these
other people. Has that been well received? Have you been
micromanager of they looking over you because they're like, it's
the first congressional district, It's going.
Speaker 6 (01:35:12):
To be impossible. I'm That's one thing.
Speaker 12 (01:35:15):
I think I've been fairly lucky that most people have
left me alone and just let me do whatever I want.
And I have pretty much been myself, and I feel
like that's kind of why I fit this campaign, is
that I don't have to make things up. I don't
have to lie, I don't have to pretend I believe
things I don't. I can just go be myself all
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the time and it works and it is a very
unique district and a unique campaign.
Speaker 6 (01:35:41):
We I don't know if this is a good thing or.
Speaker 12 (01:35:45):
Not, but sometimes I guess I'm the type of person
if someone tells me I can't do something correct, I
want to do it.
Speaker 7 (01:35:51):
It just inspires you.
Speaker 12 (01:35:54):
A few weeks ago, we were at an event and
you know, they were doing campaign pitches and I was
with other candidates. There were a bunch there and I
had a beer and they're like, all right, let's take
a picture. Like, no, you got to put that down
because you can't be seen holding a beer.
Speaker 7 (01:36:08):
You're a grown ass man.
Speaker 4 (01:36:10):
You do whatever you want.
Speaker 12 (01:36:11):
It led to talking to my team and this past
weekend we did a campaign pub crawl in down I
was like, all right, because we talked about like in Denver,
I'm like, I think in some areas maybe that's true.
Speaker 6 (01:36:28):
Like if I were in ultra conservative.
Speaker 4 (01:36:31):
District, if you're in a southern Baptist neighborhood, they're not
taking pictures with beer because it's hidden in the back
of their fridge, you know.
Speaker 7 (01:36:39):
But otherwise I just don't. I mean, don't get me wrong,
if you.
Speaker 4 (01:36:42):
Were like sloppy with your tie tied around your head
like it was down. We didn't make sure everyone behaved themselves.
Speaker 6 (01:36:49):
We don't need negative pictures coming yeah this event. But
we had a great time.
Speaker 12 (01:36:54):
We went downtown, we talked to people, and we all
had on the same hat, my campaign hat and people
would be like, what are those hats? Who are you guys?
And we would talk to them. We handed out cards
and we just we just had fun. We talked about
real stuff. A lot of the conversations weren't even about politics.
Just were meeting people and we met people from all
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over and it was a great time.
Speaker 6 (01:37:17):
So it is. It is a unique.
Speaker 12 (01:37:21):
District where I think we could do something like that
and it comes across well, maybe some other districts. You
shouldn't have a pub crawl that's part of your campaign.
Speaker 4 (01:37:29):
I'm just gonna say it.
Speaker 3 (01:37:30):
You had fun.
Speaker 7 (01:37:31):
I think that's a genius move.
Speaker 4 (01:37:32):
It is a little bit reminiscent in a way of
Donald Trump's McDonald's experience yesterday. Yeah, that was great, and
I wanted to compliment you on the way you handled
represented a Caravello's attacks or they were they weren't really attacks.
Speaker 7 (01:37:46):
They were just kind of lobs across the.
Speaker 4 (01:37:47):
Mountain where she was trying to you. What did I say?
Speaker 6 (01:37:51):
You said, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (01:37:53):
I was like, wait, she said, Diana. She said something
to the effect of, well, you're a Trump supporter and
basically implying that you were just going to be another
lockstep Republican, which is hilarious considering her record. I mean,
I'm like, come on, but you handled it very well
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by saying, look, I'm not afraid to stand up to
the Republican Party. And that was about the unfortunate you know,
Pride mailer that Dave Williams loves so much that he
keeps sending out.
Speaker 12 (01:38:23):
Yeah, one of my volunteers earlier that literally just hours
before that debate kind of gave me that talking point.
She's like, I've been researching her. She has never pushed
back against her party ever.
Speaker 4 (01:38:34):
Yep.
Speaker 12 (01:38:34):
She walks in lockstep with them one hundred percent of
the time.
Speaker 7 (01:38:38):
And you did a really, really good show.
Speaker 6 (01:38:40):
It was in my head. So when she said that,
I was like, well, here's an opening.
Speaker 4 (01:38:43):
There you go.
Speaker 12 (01:38:44):
I pushed back on my party. You never pushed back
on yours.
Speaker 6 (01:38:47):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (01:38:47):
Valdemir Angeletta is my guest. He is running for the
first congressional district seat currently head by Diana to get
not anyone named Caravale. But I'd really love for you
guys to support Valdemar. He is not only a really
good person, his outsider perspective would be very welcome for
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Colorado in Congress, and this is such a long shot,
and we know it, but I am just so incredibly
proud of you for taking this.
Speaker 6 (01:39:20):
Excuse me, Okay, I gotta hear all hang on those
things happen.
Speaker 4 (01:39:28):
Yeah, I'm Marco Rubio. Now, I'm just so I got
some for doing what you're doing, because I do think
that the only way forward is to talk to people
that aren't normally talked to explain the commonalities, talk about
their value system, talk about the value system of the Democrats, sprinkly.
I mean, for someone of faith, it's it's a tough
(01:39:50):
lift right now. But the current candidate for a president anyway.
Speaker 12 (01:39:55):
Yeah, I mean, politics is a game of numbers, and
we need to do everything we can to increase numbers.
And you know, in Colorado, we don't have the luxury
of being able to push anyone away, and so I
don't I don't get some of these individuals in our
state who feel like they want to burn.
Speaker 4 (01:40:15):
It down so they can rule over the ashes.
Speaker 7 (01:40:17):
That's what it is.
Speaker 6 (01:40:18):
I don't know. Yeah, I mean makes sense, does anything else.
Speaker 4 (01:40:22):
Their power base over nine people is more important than
them than winning races. That's what it is. All right now.
Valdemar has reluctantly agreed to play of the day because
he says he's doing It's fine. No one is gonna
no one is listening. Why it's time for the most
exciting segment all the radio. It's kind in the world.
(01:40:46):
Ye in the world is so in the world it guys.
I did push my cough button, but Valdemar's mic is
on as well, so you were hearing me cough in
his mic. Sorry about that, Valdemore, What a breath of
a share a great interview. Vote for him.
Speaker 7 (01:41:02):
Get all your friends in the district one to vote for.
Speaker 4 (01:41:04):
What is our dad joke? Did you see?
Speaker 7 (01:41:06):
I have a list of one hundred Halloween jokes.
Speaker 6 (01:41:09):
Well, I have a three for Halloween.
Speaker 4 (01:41:10):
All right, here we go.
Speaker 8 (01:41:12):
My house is haunted by a chicken. It's a poultry, guys,
Oh my god, haunted by a foul spirit. I plan
to call an exorcist. That'll help it cross to the
other side.
Speaker 4 (01:41:25):
Wow, there was a lot going on in that entire
one joke situation there. So all right, what is our
word of the day? Please?
Speaker 6 (01:41:34):
Is a what is this adjective?
Speaker 4 (01:41:36):
Hey?
Speaker 8 (01:41:37):
Oh lid O L I D what old lid I
O l I D adjective. Here's a hint, something stinky,
maybe valdimar, maybe maybe old factory.
Speaker 6 (01:41:51):
Yeah, so it's a scented I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 8 (01:41:54):
Smells good like candle something fouls smelling.
Speaker 4 (01:41:59):
The time that I guessed. Basically, well, if you ever
need to pass gas yanked candle in them all, that's.
Speaker 8 (01:42:05):
Your jam right now indoors though apparently with bad candles,
remember the Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 4 (01:42:09):
Don't burn candles anymore. They're gonna kill you, all right?
What is our trivia question? That is, what does the
internet slang acronym TBT mean Thursday?
Speaker 7 (01:42:21):
Correct?
Speaker 4 (01:42:22):
It was popularized on Instagram, where users post old photos
on Thursdays and tag them hashtag tvt Okay, what is
our jeopardy category? You know you have to yell out?
Speaker 9 (01:42:31):
Just yell out?
Speaker 4 (01:42:32):
Volved, okay, vault because that's sort of that involved demark.
Speaker 8 (01:42:36):
What is it?
Speaker 3 (01:42:37):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (01:42:37):
I think you said my full name was too.
Speaker 4 (01:42:39):
Long and.
Speaker 7 (01:42:41):
Your parents hated you. What is going on?
Speaker 8 (01:42:45):
How generous is feeling today? You want to give them
a little, a little I'll.
Speaker 7 (01:42:48):
Give them the edge. I can wait until the end
of the question.
Speaker 8 (01:42:50):
Yes, okay, all right, we're going to oh sorry. The
category is let it roll?
Speaker 7 (01:42:55):
Okay roll roll r O L L or okay.
Speaker 2 (01:42:59):
R O L L.
Speaker 8 (01:43:00):
Usually means we're going to roll out this cylindrical wooden container.
Speaker 7 (01:43:05):
Manny, what is the barrel?
Speaker 8 (01:43:07):
That is?
Speaker 2 (01:43:07):
Correct?
Speaker 8 (01:43:09):
Sixty four million pieces of this chewy candy bearing the
nickname of its inventor's daughter, vell Val.
Speaker 6 (01:43:16):
I don't know toy roll correct?
Speaker 7 (01:43:18):
Hey, I was saying, and then I was like, that
can't be right?
Speaker 8 (01:43:22):
All right again, Valdemar, you can answer any times just
like you just did, because it's gonna be helpful here.
Alexa play never gonna give you up by this individual.
He sang it with food fighters in twenty seventeen, and
you've been him.
Speaker 7 (01:43:35):
Roll many What is rick?
Speaker 3 (01:43:36):
Roll?
Speaker 6 (01:43:37):
Correct?
Speaker 7 (01:43:38):
This heiny?
Speaker 8 (01:43:41):
This omnivore can roll into a ball and float on
its back. It's porcupine like signs val edge correct? Hey,
what we too used to tie? Did am so cute?
This last one is terrible? Permission to skip to an
event go ahead. Mark sixteen three asks who shall roll
(01:44:03):
us away? The stone from the door of this a
synonym for tomb t o NB.
Speaker 6 (01:44:10):
I told you, I warned you.
Speaker 4 (01:44:12):
I warned you wait, wait.
Speaker 8 (01:44:14):
Permission to still pass. I'm telling you it's terrible. Just
neither be that joke so pulture. Yeah, okay, yeah, let's
go with new category. Three syllable words to decide it
all time to do this recite to verbs inflected forms.
Speaker 6 (01:44:30):
I am, you are, she is, we are? You are
needing to blake?
Speaker 2 (01:44:37):
What?
Speaker 7 (01:44:37):
What is the category? Where were you?
Speaker 6 (01:44:40):
Three words in the answer to sales conjugate.
Speaker 4 (01:44:48):
My friend, You don't know conjugate, I know you, Valdemart.
Do I let people win a rod?
Speaker 6 (01:44:56):
No ever, I do.
Speaker 4 (01:44:57):
I do accept some limiting rules like I did today.
But you won that fair and square, don't. I used
to beat my six year old daughter at candy Land
because I didn't want it to think that we were
gonna let it grow.
Speaker 6 (01:45:07):
Good thing. I mean, you need to learn how to lose.
Speaker 7 (01:45:09):
Yeah, you did a great job, child.
Speaker 4 (01:45:12):
Anyway, Ryan Edwards is out at the sporty Pickle right now.
What's you guy coming up on Kawa Sports?
Speaker 11 (01:45:19):
Well, first of all, I echoed the sentiment, you never ever, ever,
ever let somebody win. Yeah, that doesn't happen now, But yes,
we're excited to be out here. Of course, we're gonna
be giveaway Broncos Panthers tickets for Sunday's game, which is
a pretty cool deal.
Speaker 4 (01:45:32):
You'll be able to see my husband do the parabolic mic.
Speaker 7 (01:45:35):
On the Sunday. I know everybody's excited about that.
Speaker 6 (01:45:38):
Yeah, very cool, awesome.
Speaker 11 (01:45:40):
Well, come on down here and then not only get
to go to the game, but you also.
Speaker 6 (01:45:43):
Get to see Mandy' husband. That's also a good reason.
Speaker 11 (01:45:46):
And then you get a free twenty out spearit just
by mentioning big out, which is always.
Speaker 2 (01:45:49):
A cool deal.
Speaker 6 (01:45:49):
At it down here.
Speaker 2 (01:45:50):
So all right, that's.
Speaker 4 (01:45:51):
Happening right now the Sporty Pickle over my valley, So
check that out.
Speaker 7 (01:45:55):
We'll be back tomorrow. Keep it right here on kay
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Speaker 4 (00:26):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Q A Monday edition of the show.
And I'm having a Monday, my friends, I'm having a Monday.
So Ross Kaminski at the end of his show was
asking uh some very interesting and pointy questions about perfume. Now,
first of all, I am going to get a sample
of the potato perfume. You wait, you wait, it will happen.
(00:49):
I'm gonna get a sample of it. So Ross was
talking about a perfume that smells like potatoes.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Yeah, Polish, I don't know. It has everything in the
world in it, So I have no idea Polish potatoes.
But then I was I was thinking, I wonder if
Mandy wears perfume.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
It's not like I'm not Joe Biden. I haven't walked
around sniffing you a lot.
Speaker 7 (01:06):
My hair does smell good. Chuck always sells me in
my hand.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
I'm not gonna go over and do a Joe Biden
and sniff your hair. Thank you, Yes, but I actually
didn't know the answer. If you wear perfume, I don't
think I've smelled a lot of perfume on you, so
do you.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
That's because I went and had a custom perfume made
that smells exactly like me. It's very very subtle, just
super subtle. Hardly anyone ever notices that I'm wearing it.
Speaker 6 (01:31):
What the hell's the point?
Speaker 4 (01:34):
The point is it was a joke and I texted
to Rock Ross and I.
Speaker 7 (01:37):
Was like, that was a funny joke.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
And then Ross didn't see it until so I just
wanted to get the joke in yea, So I was like, Ross,
can you stay it?
Speaker 5 (01:45):
Are we suggesting then that a rod just believed that
that was a real thing?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Correct?
Speaker 6 (01:50):
Yes, that's that's interesting. Enhances your smell. I don't know
it's worth a conversation on its own, but yeah, that's
not it.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
But they thank you, thank you for giving me that line.
And then I come in. I came, I always.
Speaker 7 (02:04):
Get in before Ross's show.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I left my house today and this canundrum occurred, and
I promised, the blog is coming so much blah blah
blah coming your way, just like bear with me, for
a second. So first of all, today, on a Monday,
I stabbed myself in the eye with the mascaraje. Any
woman in this listening audience just went, oh God, that's
a horrible, horrible way to start the day. Then I'm
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driving here. I'm on a four lane road divided by
a median, So two and two and two people are
going the exact same speed, one in the right lane,
one in the left lane for the entire time. So
if you actually, I don't know, had some place to
be because you were running late because you stabbed yourself
in the eye with the mascaro wine, there was no
(02:48):
way to get around. And I asked Ross, who's the
A hole? Are they the A hole? Or am I
the a hole for screaming at them in my.
Speaker 7 (02:55):
Car the entire time?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
And the right answer is the person in the left
lane is the a hole.
Speaker 4 (03:01):
And by the time we got to a point where
a reasonable number of people could turn, there was like
twenty cars behind each car. Now I'm they were going
exactly the speed limit exactly.
Speaker 6 (03:15):
These are the same people who don't know how to
zipper merge.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Well, and they were both in tiny cars.
Speaker 6 (03:20):
I felt like there.
Speaker 7 (03:21):
Was some passive aggressiveness.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yere.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
I think one of them was like a Honda Fit
and then the other one was the chevy little dorky
same version of that.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Yeah, so it were they.
Speaker 7 (03:29):
Just being passive aggressive?
Speaker 4 (03:30):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (03:31):
The guy in the other.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Lane was a pickup truck, but he was in the
right lane, you know. I was in the left lane
trying to get around these two.
Speaker 7 (03:37):
Yahoo.
Speaker 5 (03:38):
I have sometimes thought that in a in a James
Bond car kind of way, it would be so great
to have like surface to surface missiles built into your
vehicle for that kind of situation. Yes, and you just
blow that little Honda Fit right out of the way.
Speaker 7 (03:52):
That will never fly.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
But in my presidential platform, yeah, I have the one
paintball per day rule. You would have a paintball gun
melted to the front of your car, like say the
old hood ornaments of old you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
So you get your.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
Paintball gun, you get one paintball per day, and when
someone is a complete a hole, you you just tag
them and basically you are performing a public service for
everyone else.
Speaker 7 (04:15):
What color, whatever you want, it's your true because you
can pick them.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
It's reversible, it's non permanent.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It's permanent because you're warning all of the other drivers
this guy's an a hole, old woman.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Whoever, if it's just for a day, right, that everybody
knows for the rest of that day, and then the
a hole needs to take the time to wash it off.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
I like it.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah, that's part of It's been one of the plants
of my platform for a decade now.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
That's even probably better than the guy who ran on
the rent is too hot.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
I'm a little bit I'm a little bit short on
the details of how you limit people to one paintball
per day, because if you have to drive from Castle Rocks,
say to the stadium. Yeah, that's that's a potentially ten
paintball situation right there.
Speaker 6 (04:56):
Are you allowed to move them up? Could you say
you could have seven paintballs in a week, but you
gonna do them. I'm going to do them all on Monday.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Thirty paintball allotment for the month, and it's up to
you to just either do it all on one day
or what.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
Yeah, maybe maybe that's maybe that's easier.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
And and then you just buy thirty days supply at a time,
and you only allow people to buy them once a month.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And then there you go.
Speaker 6 (05:15):
There you gory over onto something, you know, I think you.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Then carry over. I like the once a month it's
your responsibility. You could literally just just gather up. You
could stockpile.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
Paintballs, wow, and use none for three months, yeah, and
then just blast you like you're in a bad one
going to Really, if you.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Really hated one of your neighbors, you know, you just
save up all your paintballs and then just one day
just at tat tat your whole neighbors.
Speaker 6 (05:42):
Only hit the cars, right, not at their houses.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
The cars. Yeah, it's only only cars you're shoot at people.
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Yeah, bunch of paints.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Are awkward of somebody's windows down. That's the risk you take, right,
you know, your windows down, or you're being an a whole.
That's what I'm saying talking about them. I just made
the they too broad there. So that that was my day.
That's welcome Monday. And then of course it's raining only
when I get to work. So it's like I'm like,
(06:10):
you know, it's like a like a like a Charlie
Brown cartoon where it's only raining over me.
Speaker 7 (06:14):
I was like, what is happening right now?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
All right?
Speaker 6 (06:16):
So when you get to talk about this stuff.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
Does it make you feel a little better?
Speaker 7 (06:22):
You wait, let me look at the text line.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Here we go. Yeah, Mandy, where did you get the
personalized perfume made? Sounds like an awesome idea, and I'd
love to try it out. To be clear, I did
not have an actual perfume made that smells like me.
Although there are places you can go and have a
custom perfume made for you, you can actually do that.
(06:47):
I don't know where any of them are, but that
is that is a thing. There you go, so there
you go. The passing lane is not for speeding, Yeah,
it's passing, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 7 (06:59):
And that's where I was so aggravated.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
I just want to make something really clear. If I'm
in a hurry, or if Mandy's in a hurry, the
passing lane can indeed be for speeding.
Speaker 6 (07:09):
Yes, get out of my way.
Speaker 7 (07:10):
I'll take the I'll wear the dice.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
I'll just do it. I'll take the risk, I will
pay the ticket if that's what happens. I mean, generally speaking,
I'm not ever really late, though.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
No.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
I was surprised that you were like ten minutes later
than you became.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
My life right, And I think part of that is
because when I was twenty one years old, it became
a flight attendant, and they're really serious about that. Hey,
if you're late, your job just left, so don't be late.
I mean there's there's actually flight attendants. I don't know
if they still have to do this, but you just
have to sit in the airport in case someone didn't show.
So you do eight hours of what they called ready reserve,
(07:45):
where you literally go, fully dressed, go to the airport
and sit in the flight attendant lounge for eight hours.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Did you ever get called Oh yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
Yeah, it happens.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
Obviously, it happens enough that they were like, we probably
just need to have someone sit here for eight hours,
and you got paid to sit there. But it was
it was just insane, absolutely insane. So that sort of
set my mindset. I'm never late. I just I can't
stand it. I think people who are late are disrespectful
of your time.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
Hello Loujah.
Speaker 7 (08:10):
Anyway, all right, you can go Ross, Thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Again, no actual perfume was created in the creation of
this joke. So there you go. Let's do the blog,
shall we? Twelve almost thirteen minutes in go find the
blog and Andy, oh hey, well I forgot the airhorn
and eight rod and every I didn't do anything. It's
because I stabbed myself in the eye with the mass.
Speaker 8 (08:33):
But you know it wasn't that bad. Did you get
a flat tiger this weekend? No, you're okay?
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Okay, wait, which brings me to my second blog, delayer. Yes,
we need a practicing which.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
Who can come.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Entry you find this month?
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Do a sage burn around Anthony's car please, because his car.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Is a mess.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
I mean, the car itself is really nice and look
at it and you're like, wow, that's a good looking truck.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
Yeah, really, but it.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Has been It's obviously been cursed. We don't know how.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I might have had something to do with it. Naming
the car Loki.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
It's not too late.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
After we do the save sage burning and we'll do
the you know, get rid of the evil spirits, then
you have to change the name.
Speaker 6 (09:16):
I love its name, though its name.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Has gotten you in the shop for like a month
and a half.
Speaker 6 (09:21):
A month and a half. That's adorable. Try like off
and on for like four months.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Okay, and that now flat tire the name has to go. Yeah,
are you more married to having a car that's functioning
and happy, or are you more married to having a
car with a fun name that won't run and keeps
blowing things up?
Speaker 6 (09:37):
Can't I have both?
Speaker 8 (09:39):
No?
Speaker 7 (09:39):
Apparently not.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
No, I don't have to think about it. No, I
have to think about it.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Yeah. Anyway, that said, blog blog here we get oh
man al we still have that, but we sit for
four hours.
Speaker 7 (09:56):
I'm a United flight attendant.
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Well four hours is, but four hour is almost worse.
And if they get called than someone else has to
go to that chair.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Usually doesn't work that way. It's usually there's just one.
Sometimes in a busy season they'll have more than one.
But then you have to go to the airport and
you only get paid for four hours.
Speaker 6 (10:12):
That sucks.
Speaker 7 (10:13):
I'd rather do the eight, you know, make it worth
your while.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Going to the airport sucks for everybody, including the people
who work on airplanes. Here we go. Here's the blog
at mandy'sblog dot com.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Look for the.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Headline that says ten twenty one twenty four blog Valdemar
wants your vote and a bit on empathy. Click on
that and here are the headlines you will find within
and even with some in office.
Speaker 9 (10:33):
Half of American all with ships and clipas a say
that's going to press.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Plant today on the blog. A new book to cry
over Valdemar Archletta is making waves in District one.
Speaker 7 (10:44):
Donald Trump's McDonald's shift.
Speaker 4 (10:46):
Was amazing about those incessant ads for the eighth Congressional
District vote no on retaining judges. Lots of scare tactics
on Prop one thirty one. The Civil Rights Commission needs
to go. Did we leak Israeli war plans? Sixty minutes?
Responds with a n uh. Holy hell, we eat a
lot of sugar. It's time to stop leaving boys behind.
(11:08):
Challenge accepted Internet. It's low tire pressure season, everybody. How
much will your last big tabor refund be? Looking for
a good job in Denver that doesn't require a college degree.
It's time to change the squatter laws. Dumb mistake, dumb mistakes,
people vow not to make again. A very clever magic
trip fsu should let this guy call plays.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Arizona State needs a kicker.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Kamala isn't one to add lib These Illinois helmets are crazy.
Stop burning candles. No, you're not imagining a migrant crime spree.
And now a bunch of corny Halloween jokes. Those are
the headlines on the blog at mandy'sblog dot com. Check
it out because there's a bunch of good stuff on here,
(11:54):
including some very very good videos. Can we talk about
the Illinois football hells for just a second.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Have they been wearing these all season?
Speaker 6 (12:02):
I don't. I doubt it and I don't think so.
Speaker 7 (12:04):
Oh my god, they're amazing.
Speaker 6 (12:06):
Those are so rad.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
The University of Illinois. I don't know why they decided
to do this, but they had someone hand paint all
of their helmets to look like the old leather helmets
from the beginning of football. And they look so good.
I mean so good it's not even funny. And we
(12:28):
had the one video from a Florida State game worth
watching this year. I told you, I've decided they're just
taking the season off, right. It's it's less painful than
recognizing that they just lost.
Speaker 7 (12:38):
Better That way it is it is. It's been much better,
much much better.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
Now today, we've got a lot of stuff on the blog,
but I want to I want to share an email
with you, and I'm not going to identify the emailer,
and I'm not picking on this person at all, because
I thought it was a very good email. I mean,
I thought he was this person made some great points.
This email says, hello, I listen to your show off
(13:05):
and on and mostly enjoy it. I'm moderately progressive, but
often agree with your perspectives. They're an antidote to the
far left and some of the most egregious views on
the far right. However, I just can't wrap my head
around your view of the upcoming presidential election. You seem
to be in the camp of those who say they
don't particularly like Trump, but his policies would be better
(13:25):
than those of Harris. Harris would radically hurt this nation.
You seem to say policies are one thing, leadership is another.
If you haven't already seen, if you probably have, take
five minutes to read the attached exhaustive article and then
acknowledge that this is part of what you would be
voting for. It is the kind of leadership that we
continue to have after a four year hiatus, and in
(13:47):
my view, this Trump leadership has had profound effects.
Speaker 7 (13:50):
On our nation's culture.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
And I'll stop reading the email right now to tell
you what the column that he sent me is about.
It is a litany of everything Donald Trump has ever
done wrong, and to my knowledge, almost all of it's true.
It is a long list of stuff that Donald Trump
has done and as a businessman, has done as a husband.
(14:14):
It's a list of moral failings, it's a list of
shady dealings. It's a list of everything. So that is
what is in this column. And then I'll this is
what's the end of the email to me. The only
way one can dismiss this New York Times article is
to dismiss the cultural leadership a role a president has.
I could take another four years of Trump policies, some
I would even like, but I'm at the point of
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despair thinking of enduring four years of cultural disintegration under
Trump and those that have begun to surround him.
Speaker 7 (14:42):
Thanks for reading.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
So that's an email from a person, and I'm glad
they wrote it. I responded to them, and I thought,
you know what, I'm going to respond on the air
because this is the question that I get over and
over and over again, and I've sort of gone over it.
But I want to add a few more wrinkles to
my thinking on that. Number One, I believe that we
have the two worst candidates in the history of the
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presidential elections in Kamala Harris and Donald Trump. I know
a lot of people out there are Trump supporters, think
I'm crazy, but I have to believe there are other
people that could carry the same sort of policies without
the same sort of baggage, the baggage that's laid out
in this column that is from the New York Times.
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That being said, I have to put aside my general
animus here and look at the two people who are.
Speaker 7 (15:34):
Running for president to make a decision.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
On the one hand, we have Kamala Harris, who I
don't think has truly earned her place as vice president because.
Speaker 7 (15:47):
She was chosen.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
If she was not a black woman, there's zero percent
chance that she would be the vice president right now.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
And those are.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Two characteristics that she had absolutely no say on, right
So I don't think she's earned the place where she is,
and I think she was installed by a group of
Democrats because they decided.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Joe Biden was going to lose.
Speaker 4 (16:11):
That kind of power grab is exactly the sort of
thing that many people on the left tell me that
I should have to worry about if Donald Trump becomes president.
Many people on the left are worried about him become
a dictator. The problem here for that argument is that
he's already been president, and though January sixth is a
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stain on our nation and I believe he should have
done more early on to stop it, one hundred percent,
he is not president of the United States today because
our system weren't and most of our bureaucracies, most of
the checks and balances that exist are currently controlled by
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the Democratic Party and Democrats. The bureaucracy in DC is
almost wholly Democratic. DC federal workers almost all Democrats. They
have an entire institutional capture of the bureaucracy.
Speaker 7 (17:13):
Of Washington, d C.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
They have an institutional capture of the FBI, they have
the institutional capture of Homeland Security.
Speaker 7 (17:24):
I mean, it's so patently obvious.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
So for Donald Trump to be able to pull a
cue with none of the levers of the institutions on
his side is very, very unrealistic to me. So I
have to believe that the system will work as it
did last year or January of that year. The system
worked the way I was supposed to. One man can't
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declare himself a dictator and just stay and he didn't
But on the other hand, I have a woman who
is the candidate solely because an unnamed group of Democrats
we don't know. Has anyone ever told us how it
was decided that Kamala Harris was going to be the candidate.
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I mean, yeah, Joe Biden put an endorsement out there,
but at that point did it really matter.
Speaker 7 (18:13):
No one's ever told us who made that decision.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
No one ever told us about that back room meeting,
and no one's even asked. Because the Democrats have the
institutional capture not only of all the bureaucracies, but also of.
Speaker 7 (18:26):
The mainstream media.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
CBS News Today released a statement or over the weekend
basically refuting Donald Trump's assertion that they should release the
transcript because they doctored Kamala Harris's answer on Israel to
make her seem less like an idiot. And the reality
is all they have to do to disprove that notion
is to release the transcripts, as they did when they interviewed.
Speaker 7 (18:51):
Donald Trump in twenty twenty.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
They released the full transcript, but instead they put out
a statement that they essentially said, nahuh, if Kamala Harris
becomes president, I honestly and genuinely don't know who would
actually be in charge, because I've seen absolutely nothing in
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this campaign that indicates to me that she is a
woman of any kind of gravitas, that she has anything
of value to offer. She is whatever people tell her
to be, and I am forced to vote for a
man with all of the moral feelings in this column
from the New York Times because the alternative is even worse.
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And man, I wish I didn't have to choose like this. Man,
I wish I had other choices, but I don't. I
really don't. I feel it is that dire in that importance.
So I appreciate you, emailer reaching out in such a
thoughtful way to allow me to explain this.
Speaker 7 (19:52):
But this is the election that went.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
If I ever look back at elections on my death,
bet I'll but just be like, wow, did that suck?
This weekend, Donald Trump did something that could have gone
either way. Because canadacies have been destroyed by gimmicky appearances
trying to do something that they are clearly not doing.
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Donald Trump showed up at a McDonald's in Pennsylvania and
they put him to work. And I gotta tell you so,
I'm on Twitter yesterday I was watching football games.
Speaker 7 (20:26):
Dam there were some good football games yesterday, really good
games yesterday.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
So watching football when I was on Twitter because you
know commercials, and I start seeing people posting these videos
and pictures of Donald Trump at this McDonald's and he
looked relaxed.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
He looked like he was having fun.
Speaker 4 (20:47):
The engagement that he had with the people that actually
worked at McDonald's seemed very genuine, as he expressed like,
oh wow, this is really cool. I mean, he came
across as a dude who wanted to be there, who
wanted to be a part of the entire McDonald's experience.
Everybody knows the man loves McDonald's, loves it, and it
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was another master stroke when it comes to campaigning. And
this is why I'm beginning to think Donald Trump just
might win this thing.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Now.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
If you don't believe me that it was really, really good,
you guys, can I have my audio, please, Anthony, because
you've got to hear Tim Walls talking about it on
the view.
Speaker 6 (21:29):
She actually worked in a McDonald's.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
She didn't go and pander and disrespect McDonald's workers by
standing there in your red time take a picture.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
But that's not what he did he gave out food
at the drive through talking to people that were They
didn't even pre screened, by the way, by the Secret Service.
They're not just gonna let random people drive through the
drive through when the president's there. But nonetheless they were fawning.
He was gracious. I mean, it was just a masterstroke.
And it took a guy who's a billionaire and made
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him look like he he was one of us.
Speaker 7 (22:03):
He was one of us.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
And you guys, he connects with people on a way
in a manner that makes all of this stuff in
the New York Times column that I was talking about
in the last segment. They don't care because he seems
like the guy who cares about them, And right now,
Kamala Harris does not give that vibe off. There's a
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video I have on the blog today of Vice President
Harris had a series of rallies and she says the
exact same speech at every rally. Ayron, have you ever
seen a concert in different locations on the same tour,
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like seeing the same artist more than one time on
the same tour. No, Okay, the first time I had
that experience, I was absolutely gobsmack to realize they say
the exact same words at every show, right down to wow,
this is the best growd we've ever had, give it
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up insert city here. I mean, they say the exact
same thing, and you realize, Wow, that wasn't genuine at all.
I don't think she thought we were the best crowd
ever in Denver now. But on a political campaign, it's interesting,
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And this is one of the reasons that I cannot
and would not ever vote for Kamala Harris because I
have no idea what her guiding principles are. She keeps
saying her values are the same, but she doesn't give
you any actual values. She just goes on about how
she believes in America or something. That's not a value
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A value system is something that you lay out things
that guide you. For me, it's always trying to do
the right thing always. Sometimes I achieve that, sometimes I fail,
but I'm always trying to do the right thing. I'm
always trying to work at life from a perspective of
moving people forward in their lives. Maybe it's me, maybe
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it's a rod, maybe it's whatever. I don't know, but
those are my values. My values say I have to
be responsible for my own stuff and my family that's
a value.
Speaker 7 (24:27):
I don't know what hers are. I have no idea
how she would lead.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
I honestly don't think she would really be in charge.
And I don't trust the image that she would present
to the world in a time that I think we
are closer to some sort of massive world conflagration that
we've been in a very long time. I don't know
what that looks like, but it certainly does feel unstable
right now. Doesn't the world just feel a little rickety
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in terms of the overall security of the world. I
don't trust her to put her face as the face
of the United States. I don't trust her decision making
when she says there's nothing she'd do differently than Joe
Biden did. How can you not look at what happened
in Afghanistan and say, holy cow, wish we'd done that
a whole lot differently. You had people falling off the
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outside of airplanes they were clinging to trying to escape
on television, and you can't think of anything else you
do differently. I just I don't know. I just either no,
can't do it. So I'm voting for Trump. I wish
I could vote for someone else, but I can't. And
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that's just the way the cookie crumbles this election season.
So a little bit later in the show, doctor Judith
Ortloff is joining me. She's got a new book out,
The Genius of Empathy, Practical Skills to heal your sensitive self,
your relationships, and the world. I'm going to drill down
on that last the world part.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Now.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
This past weekend, my friend and candidate for District ones
Congressional Valdemar Archiletta, faced off with incumbent Diana to get
and I thought Valdemar did an absolutely fantastic job, really
really fantastic job by him, and I would urge you
to watch it. I personally feel like Valdemar is, you know,
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perhaps the best equipped candidate to eke out a win
in the first But if he does, it will just
be like a Christmas miracle because that district is so
reliably democratic, so.
Speaker 7 (26:31):
It's gonna be tough.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
But he's just done such a great job in this
campaign that I'm hoping he can get over the finish line.
But we shall see, we shall see. So Valdemar is
coming on it to thirty today. We're gonna have a
chance to chit chat with him and find out a
little bit about what he is hoping to do here,
because he answered some questions in a way that surprised me,
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which is nice because you don't generally get surprised at all. Mandy,
do like me, don't vote, says this texter. I'd like
to ask a question. There's a lot of people in
the country that won't vote. Look, we already know this.
We already know that voter participation is never going to
be one hundred percent because most people, uh not most people,
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but a lot of people just can't be bothered. But
I'd like to know, in this listening audience, in this
listening audience, what percentage of you guys that would text
in to five sixty six nine zero are not planning
on voting. I'd really like to know, so you can
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text me. I'd like to know yes, yes, is yes?
Vote a note is no not gonna? If the answer
is no, not gonna, then I'd like to know why
in what would fit in a text message, Mandy and
orange marmalade presents a presidential image to the world. I'm
just gonna say that while he was president, nobody attacked
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anybody else. That's obviously and I've said this before. I
think his strength when it comes to foreign policy is
that everybody in the world thinks he's insane, and nobody
wants to mess with a crazy person because you really
don't know what they're gonna do. Mandy. For as much
as I loathe Trump, the Mickey photo op was a
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brilliant campaign move.
Speaker 7 (28:22):
He enjoyed it for a couple of reasons. In my mind.
Speaker 4 (28:24):
Number One, he's naturally inquisitive about how things are done,
think of micro and dirty jobs.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
Or the undercover Boss.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
Number Two, this was way different than a normal campaign event.
Breaks up the monotony. Still voting for Oliver Chase, though,
all right Texter five six six nine zero texts me
whether or not you're gonna vote. If you're not, tell me.
I have a feeling it's gonna be all yes. Is
here in just a second, because I don't think you
listen to talk radio and don't vote. That almost seems counterintuitive,
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like you're taking in information and knowledge and then just
putting it on a shelf and not doing anything with it.
I'm confused by that, to be perfectly frank, very confused.
Speaker 7 (29:06):
We'll be back with your answers right after this.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
We got about one hundred text messages, little over one
hundred text messages about people voting. Okay, I asked, are
you going to vote? Or if the answer is no,
why not. Out of the ninety seven responses that we got,
I had two that said I am not voting, one
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said my vote would matter, the other said I am
not participating in their farce.
Speaker 7 (29:36):
So that's it.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
The rest of you are voting. The rest of you
have already voted. That's another thing. Please turn in your
ballots now. You can go drop them off at the dropbox.
Somebody in Douglas County is having fun with the twenty
four hour surveillance of the dropbox.
Speaker 7 (29:50):
Apparently, in case we're wondering, Anthony.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Sasquatch is registered in our district in Douglas County because
he opped off his ballot at the ballot box.
Speaker 7 (30:03):
Sasquatch, So we got that going forth.
Speaker 6 (30:06):
Which side is he on?
Speaker 4 (30:08):
I don't know. I didn't ask. You know, it's a
it's a it's a it's a secret vote. You know
what we do here, so yeah, yeah, you have to know. Yep, No,
I mean, if you're a Sasquatch, he could be an
environmentalist because he lives in the woods, you know, but
he also wants to be left alone. He doesn't want
big government, you know, he doesn't want people to maybe
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make in decisions about what happens in the woods.
Speaker 7 (30:31):
He wants to just be left alone.
Speaker 6 (30:32):
Animal rights is he though he's amongst the animals.
Speaker 4 (30:37):
He's amongst the animals. But maybe he's like Shrek and
maybe they all annoy him. We don't know. We're ascribing
motives like he's some kind of you know, fairy prince
or something out there with all the But then he
may get sick of it, deer eating his flowers like
other people like me, do you know?
Speaker 8 (30:54):
So if you had to guess which side is on,
I mean, I don't know. Issue yeah, be very much independent.
Speaker 4 (31:01):
Well, his vote's going to be counted now in Douglas
County because he dropped his ballot off. Mandy have always
voted every election, but didn't vote last midterm. I am
very politically motivated, especially as a conservative millennial, but also
own my own construction company. So when life gets busy
and you know it's a waste, voting in Colorado gets
pushed on the priority list. That being said proudly voting
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for Trump for the third time. Mandy. Voting is such
a huge privilege, says this Texter, especially women in certain women. Oh,
certain people, Wait a minute, especially women. I'll just skip
that line. There are people in other countries that would
love to be able to vote freely without threat and
ramifications of their choice.
Speaker 7 (31:44):
Don't take that for granted.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
People.
Speaker 7 (31:46):
We are a very blessed country.
Speaker 4 (31:48):
Even though at times it doesn't feel like things are
going well for us as a country, we are still very,
very blessed to live in the United States of America,
even with all the flaws. That is why we vote
and change what is wrong. That is an excellent, excellent
way to put that. Yes, for every vote that you
don't vote on, it's the point for.
Speaker 7 (32:08):
The other side.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
You may not like the candidates, but you're gonna like
one more than the other. Correct, Correct, Mandy. My wife
never voted, but complains, so I told her she can't
complain if she doesn't vote. We both vote in every election,
and I do kind of feel that way. I mean,
I just think complaining after the fact when you didn't
vote is just kind of annoying. Have you ever been
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in a situation where something went wrong, and the other
person you're with immediately goes, what did you do? And
the assumption is that somehow it's your fault. That's kind
of how that feels when it's like, Oh, these clowns
in office, what did you do?
Speaker 7 (32:50):
You gotta have some skin in the game.
Speaker 4 (32:53):
He's obviously a Democrat speaking of Sasquatch because.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
Republicans would just shoot him.
Speaker 4 (32:59):
That is a fair point, a very fair point, Mandy.
I believe Sasquatch didn't like the introduction of wolves.
Speaker 7 (33:11):
They might try to bite him.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
You need to get someone to call in his Sasquatch
and have an interview.
Speaker 7 (33:16):
What do you even get someone to call?
Speaker 4 (33:17):
I mean, I'll just get Sasquatch, a Rod, get me Sasquatch. Okay,
just can Sasquatch speak? This could be a bad interview.
I'm sure it'll be easy. I mean, right, people see
him all the time. We know everything about him. Mandy,
definitely voting down ballot, but I am leaving the presidential
election blank. Sasquatch is Harry, dumb and smelly, so he's
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definitely a liberal. A rod that from a Texter. There
you go, and with that, we'll be back with doctor
Drew that word off on empathy.
Speaker 7 (33:53):
I could probably use some of that right now.
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Speaker 4 (34:22):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the second hour of the show.
And I'm pleased, very pleased to have a woman. I've
seen her on television a million times. Doctor Judith Orloff
is a psychiatrist and a prolific writer, and she's got
a new book out called The Genius of Empathy, Practical
Skills to Heal your sensitive self, your relationships and the world.
Speaker 7 (34:43):
Doctor Orloff, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 9 (34:46):
Thank you very much. I'm happy to be on.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
So let me start with a very basic question. We're
going to start right at the beginning. What is empathy
and why does it matter?
Speaker 10 (34:59):
Yes, empathy is our ability to come from our hearts
and to feel what other people are feeling, and to
care about other people and to connect with other people.
Now as opposed to someone who doesn't have empathy, who
such as a narcissist who is not able to do that.
So it's our ability to reach out to others and
for others to say I feel.
Speaker 9 (35:21):
What you're feeling, and I'm with you. You know I
hear you.
Speaker 4 (35:24):
So it seems that right now we're a little bit
short on empathy for our fellow humans who may disagree
with us about politics or disagree with us about about
pretty much anything. Is this the natural state of the
human condition when it comes to empathy or have we
lost our way from what our natural state should be.
Speaker 9 (35:47):
I think we've.
Speaker 10 (35:48):
Lost our way from what our natural state should be.
Empathy is a key to being human, and if you're
in a relationship with someone who doesn't have empathy, you're
going to be in bad shape because they're not going
to care about how you're feeling. And so as humans
as developing humans and being the best we can be,
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it's important that we reignite our empathy and allow it.
Speaker 9 (36:14):
To grow and to be able to give our.
Speaker 10 (36:16):
Loved ones empathy and caring rather than being cold or
shut off or numb.
Speaker 9 (36:23):
Empathy allows you.
Speaker 10 (36:24):
To send healing to other people and to experience love.
If you have no one in your life who has empathy,
you're going to feel.
Speaker 9 (36:33):
Like you're missing something very important.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
So is empathy a learned behavior or are you born
with it?
Speaker 7 (36:40):
And if it isn't any quality.
Speaker 4 (36:43):
Can we have varying degrees of empathy within our population?
Speaker 10 (36:50):
Yes, we can have varying degrees, and some people are
born with it. When I was doing my obgyn rotation
at USC during my medical skip, I see some babies
come out they have empathy and they just seem to care.
Speaker 9 (37:05):
And other babies come out they're not interested, you know,
they don't have that same sensitivity.
Speaker 10 (37:11):
So I call sensitive children empaths. And there's some of
us who are empaths who are very sensitive and need to.
Speaker 9 (37:21):
Find the balance.
Speaker 10 (37:22):
So we don't give too much empathy and too much
of our self away, but to be able to develop
this beautiful skill, you know, in our lives empathy. I
write about empathy for ourselves as well as others.
Speaker 7 (37:36):
So how do we go about the process.
Speaker 4 (37:38):
If maybe you realize you've become cynical and shaded. I
might be talking about me here, but you've become cynical
or jaded and you want to reignite your empathy. What
are some of the things that you recommend that someone
can do to recapture or even grow their ability to
be empathetic.
Speaker 10 (37:59):
Well, the first thing you could do is to be
able to just ask someone how they're doing and listen,
because empathic listening is a skill. You're not checking your phone,
you're not doing anything else, you're not looking around, You're
right there with the person. I'm right there with you
listening how are you doing?
Speaker 2 (38:15):
You know?
Speaker 9 (38:16):
And then you establish a connection with someone.
Speaker 10 (38:19):
That's the first way is to not be in a
million other places when you're trying to connect to someone
you love.
Speaker 4 (38:27):
That is in today's world of distractions, that seems like
a herculean task. Sometimes it is, but it's so important
it depends.
Speaker 9 (38:39):
It really shapes the quality of your life. I mean,
empathy to me is.
Speaker 10 (38:42):
The most important trait that I have, and it's the
trait that can cause us to be kind to ourselves.
You know, when we're at three o'clock in the morning
and our mind's going mile a minute with all the
things we're worried about.
Speaker 9 (38:56):
Now, that's the time to bring empathy in.
Speaker 10 (38:59):
If you don't, you're just going to be torturing yourself
and every night those voices will swirl around and round.
Speaker 9 (39:05):
But if you can say to yourself, you know, you
had a hard day.
Speaker 10 (39:09):
These are really hard people to deal with at work,
and I'm trying my best. And so you talk to
yourself in a loving tone as opposed to what's wrong
with you? Why can't you keep up with everyone? What's
wrong with you?
Speaker 9 (39:22):
You know?
Speaker 10 (39:23):
And that's a very destructive voice, because neurochemically, that throws
you off. When you're mean to yourself, that gets the
stress hormones flowing, and it decreases the endorphins, the natural painkillers,
and when you're empathic, it increases the endorphins and natural
painkillers and all the beautiful hormones in our body that
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can make us feel good.
Speaker 4 (39:49):
I mean, that sounds. That sounds really it sounds like
it's okay. I'm trying to think of the best way
to say this. I understand what you're saying. This is
something I struggle with, and it's something I've struggled with
my entire life. I don't have a lot of patience
for people that I perceive to be making the same
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bad choices over and over again. You know, I don't
have a lot of patience with people who may be
struggling with something for a long period of time. These
are things that I've always viewed as character flaws for me.
So how do I get past that in my own
journey to be a more empathetic human being?
Speaker 9 (40:31):
Well, you know, as.
Speaker 10 (40:32):
A psychiatrist, I've been in practice in over twenty five
years and I've sat with so many people, and each
person has their own timeline on how they can deal
with something. Sometimes now it's not the right time. But
as a friend, if they keep going round and round
the same thing over and over and over again, you
don't want to sit and listen to it.
Speaker 9 (40:53):
You want to say, you know.
Speaker 10 (40:54):
I hear what you're saying, and when you're ready for
a solution, I'm here and I love you about you,
but I can't keep listening to it.
Speaker 9 (41:02):
But the way you set the boundaries.
Speaker 10 (41:04):
Setting boundaries is key when people are going on and
on and not getting anywhere. I mean, I won't sit
with the patient who's going around and around and not
getting anywhere. If they come in week after week the
same thing. You know, I need to address that with them,
you know, and the same with yourself.
Speaker 9 (41:20):
You can say I'm not.
Speaker 10 (41:21):
Able to listen, you know, for two hours on the
phone again and I'm here. If you want a solution
in the meantime, here's someone who might be able to
help you. You know, But the tone of your voice,
you don't want to be nasty, you know, you want
to have an empathic tone, because when you're impatient, you
tend to get nasty and that's only going to hurt
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the other person. And what you want to do is
just set limits for yourself so you don't have to
keep hearing it over and over again, and so you
don't develop a resentment.
Speaker 5 (41:53):
Right.
Speaker 4 (41:53):
We have a lot of text messages on our text
line asking questions doctor Orloff, and one of them is Mandy.
What is the difference between empathy, sympathy and compassion.
Speaker 10 (42:06):
Well, sympathy is when you feel sad for somebody, if
somebody has a loss and you have sent a sympathy card.
And the difference between empathy and compassion is that compassion
is more action oriented, where let's say your neighbor you know,
is unable to go to the market for himself, and
so you take an empathic action go shopping for him
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and bring him up the bags up three flights upstairs.
Speaker 9 (42:31):
That's compassion.
Speaker 10 (42:33):
Empathy is more I feel for him, you know, and
my heart goes out to him. And then compassion is
your ability to go into action.
Speaker 4 (42:41):
Okay, so they're interconnected maybe, but different, Okay, a.
Speaker 9 (42:47):
Little bit different.
Speaker 10 (42:48):
Yeah, I just want to say that dog Mamma wrote
the foreword to this book and he deals with which
I'm thrilled about. And he wrote the difference between empathy
and compassion, and the lines are.
Speaker 9 (42:59):
Not that's straight.
Speaker 10 (43:02):
You know, there's some difference that he talks about it together.
Speaker 4 (43:06):
This person asked specifically, are men more empathetic now than
in previous generations?
Speaker 9 (43:14):
Great question, Some men, not all men.
Speaker 10 (43:19):
If you have a narcissist, sociopath or a psychopath, where
I have a whole chapter on these type of people
who have what's called empathy deficient disorder, they literally don't
have empathy. So now everyone who's listening, you have to
wrap your mind around the fact that some people don't
have empathy. They're not wired to have empathy, all right,
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and so they're not going to be developing more empathy.
What they're into is power over you. They're not into love,
they're not into caring. But the men who have developed it,
I know that the new paradigm I believe this strongly
for a new man as somebody who's able to cry
at times and be sensitive and strong, weakning, but somebody
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who's stronger because they're able to deal with their emotions
at least some of them, and they're not afraid of it.
You don't want somebody who's who's a kind of like
a bait shot and cut off and not into their emotions.
And I'm so tough, you know. And the tough people,
as we were talking about, you know, can be tough
and tender, you know, they can have that spot in
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themselves that can cry sometimes or you know, be sweet
and gentle, and they're.
Speaker 9 (44:29):
Big, you know, man, they're like, you know, real men.
They're not.
Speaker 10 (44:33):
A fear that many people have that I write about
in the book is people are afraid of becoming overly feminized,
you know. And that's not what empathy is. Not want
what healthy empathy is. Healthy empathy is finding the balance
between your masculine and feminine side.
Speaker 9 (44:50):
It's about being strong and able to assert.
Speaker 10 (44:52):
Yourself and set boundaries and be kind as well as
you know, be able to handle life, you know, and deal.
Speaker 9 (44:59):
With it and in a strong way.
Speaker 10 (45:01):
So I want to dispel the myth that empathy is weakness.
Speaker 9 (45:06):
It's not weakness, not when it's balanced.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
And I do think I'm a big fan of crying
at the right appropriate time because crying at the right
appropriate time can make a huge difference. It can be
a physical release that allows you to sort of have
a moment and then you pull yourself together and you'll
wipe the sut off your nose and you move forward
and you go about your day. And I know that
that is something that you've kind of addressed the healthy
side of crying. How do you know if you are
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doing healthy crying or if you probably need some help
because you're doing too much crying.
Speaker 10 (45:39):
Well, you have to see how it's affecting you first
and foremost, and how it affects the people around you.
If you're crying, Let's say you have a sad event
that happened and tears come into your eyes and that's okay,
and that might, you know, last, depending on how big
the event is, that might last because grieving is you know,
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crying is part of grieving, so it's a way of
working the.
Speaker 9 (46:03):
Event through your system.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
You see.
Speaker 10 (46:05):
But if you're crying all the time and everything and
you can't get it together to center yourself.
Speaker 9 (46:10):
That's too much, you know.
Speaker 10 (46:12):
You know, either you have a you know, a depression
that needs to be looked at, or you know, you
have to learn to breathe the center yourself and maybe
call a friend and find a friend to you know,
express this with, especially supportive, loving friends. You know, there's
the issue that I write about in the book about
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crying at work. You know, is it a good thing
to cry at work or is that a problem? And
from what I have seen, most workplaces, most not all,
do not welcome crying, you know, very you know, with
open arms now, and they tend to come down on
people who cry and look at it as a weakness.
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And then criers tend to be bullied, and especially children
who are crying a lot tend to be bullied. And
so I don't think it's a good idea unless you
have a really supportive coworker and say let's go out
for a walk and hear if she can just you know,
be okay with it. You know, it's a to me,
it's a beautiful thing when somebody cries, it's real. But
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if it goes beyond that, if you can't stop it,
because I know a lot of people who are very depressed.
They can't stop it. It just goes on and on.
Speaker 9 (47:23):
So it doesn't give you energy, it perhaps you. So
in those cases you have to.
Speaker 7 (47:28):
Look as one who has had one.
Speaker 4 (47:31):
Episode at work where I cried, I don't look back
with a fondness, with fondness that they were anger. They
were murder tears though I was crying. So I didn't
murder someone. So I'm going to give myself a pass
on that. Soone asked an interesting question, and I don't
know if I have enough information. This texter said, what
if you can't cry? I don't know if that's a
physical thing that you have to be able to make
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tears or your eyes would be permanently dry. I mean,
I'm guessing they mean that they are just they don't cry.
Speaker 7 (48:02):
How I mean, how does that? How does one get
beyond that?
Speaker 4 (48:04):
Or do you even need to or are they capable
of expressing that emotion without the actual crying.
Speaker 10 (48:14):
Well, some people I get asked that question a lot
because things happen to people in their lifetimes and it
might stop their ability to cry. Maybe it's passed trauma,
or maybe it's being bullied for crying or if they
had a really bad association with what it means to cry.
Speaker 9 (48:31):
And so I had patients who really want.
Speaker 10 (48:33):
To open that up again and see if they can,
you know, open their emotions, because when you don't cry,
it is shutting down your emotions, you know, to a
certain extent. But there's usually something that caused them not
to cry. And it's up to you whether you want
to reignite the crying again and explore empathy and everything
that that means. I would encourage you to do that,
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but it's not the right time for everyone to do that.
So I think crying is a well balanced expression of
who we are as human is the way to release stress.
We actually release stress hormones when we cry, so.
Speaker 9 (49:11):
It's a very positive, helpful thing for the body to heal.
Speaker 10 (49:15):
But if someone's not emotionally ready, whoever asked this question.
Speaker 9 (49:19):
She's not ready, don't do it.
Speaker 10 (49:21):
You only do it if you're curious and you might
feel ready to open up your heart in that way.
Speaker 4 (49:28):
Doctor Judith Orloff is my guest. She's a psychiatrist and
the author of the Genius of Empathy, Practical Skills to
heal your sensitive self, your relationships and the world doctor Orloff.
I have several questions on the text line about boundary setting,
and many people saying, how do you even begin to
set boundaries?
Speaker 7 (49:48):
And I think the.
Speaker 4 (49:50):
Very nature of that question would indicate that these people
have no clue because they've never done it. So how
do if you are in a relationship where you feel
like you need to set boundaries but you haven't yet,
how do you begin that process in a long term
relationship to say okay, now this is not okay with me?
Speaker 7 (50:09):
What does that even look like?
Speaker 10 (50:13):
Well, you have to get to know the word no,
because if you're a people pleaser, or you have been
so far and you just want people to be happy,
you want to be everything, to be peaceful.
Speaker 9 (50:25):
You don't want to have any conflict.
Speaker 10 (50:28):
You know, you have to use the word no, you know,
in order to set a boundary.
Speaker 9 (50:34):
But the way you say it, I can't emphasize this enough.
Speaker 10 (50:38):
This is the genius of empathy. Is the way you
say it that you can be heard. You say it
with a very kind tone.
Speaker 9 (50:45):
No, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 10 (50:46):
I can't help you with that project now because I'm
already swamped, but I wish you good luck. With it,
and the way you say it is very short. You
don't apologize at length, you don't get into a big
confrontation with somebody. You practice the first step to empathy
and setting boundaries is practicing how to say no. And
my patients often do that with me in the office.
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So you might want to find a friend, or you
could practice saying no. It may be hard to even
get out, you know, no, I can't do this because
you're so used to being the peacemaker or the adult
in the family, or if you came from a dysfunctional family,
you could never say no. You had to, you know,
take care of everything. So that that's where you practice that,
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and then you begin to notice what doesn't feel right
to you and boundary. You know, with boundary setting as
you don't want to say yes to things that don't
feel right. You know you want like.
Speaker 9 (51:42):
If you go ahead with a job, if you go
ahead with a.
Speaker 10 (51:44):
Relationship, if you go ahead with a discussion with your spouse,
you wanted to feel right.
Speaker 9 (51:49):
You want your approach to feel right.
Speaker 10 (51:51):
You don't want to just blurt things out, and you
also don't want to talk about more than one subject
at a time. You know It's very important that if
you're bringing something up with somebody as a conflict, you
don't go on to ten different subjects. That's a big
mistake that people make because the other people can't process it.
Speaker 7 (52:14):
I got another one. This is kind of interesting.
Speaker 4 (52:16):
If a person has done a personality type test and
been given results that they are low on the ability
to empathize, is it an automatic diagnosis of narcissism.
Speaker 9 (52:29):
Oh no, not at all. Don't worry.
Speaker 10 (52:32):
It could be that you know you have shut down
in a certain way and you just don't know how
to access it in yourself. This is you know, I
call the book practical Tools you know to have empathize
with your sensitive self, others and the world.
Speaker 9 (52:50):
So you have to be very kind to yourself.
Speaker 10 (52:52):
If you have a personality test they say you're low
on empathy, well you could say, I want to develop it.
Speaker 9 (52:58):
You can develop empathy. That's what I teach in my workshops.
Speaker 10 (53:01):
That's what I write about, is I want to help
you develop it. If you want to do it. If
you don't want to do it, don't do it. You know,
it's not totally a matter of attraction to it. If
what I'm saying and who I'm how I'm saying it.
Who I am is attractive to you. You might really
enjoy this and it can expand your world so it's
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happier and more connected.
Speaker 4 (53:26):
Doctor Judith Orloff's fascinating topic again. The book is the
Genius of Empathy, Practical skills to heal your sensitive self,
your relationships, and the world. I put a link to
it today on my blog at Mandy's blog dot com.
Doctor Orlott, thank you so much for your time today.
Speaker 9 (53:42):
You're very welcome, all right.
Speaker 4 (53:44):
Thank you. That is doctor Judas or law. I don't
think I'm very empathetic, don't. I don't think I have
a lot. I lose patience with people, and I always have.
I just I've never been good at that. And one
of my longest running friends is an absolute one hundred
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percent mpath so whenever anything bad happens to anyone, she
just absorbs the energy.
Speaker 7 (54:12):
I couldn't live that, I just I couldn't live that way.
Speaker 6 (54:15):
I'm empathetic within reason.
Speaker 8 (54:16):
When it gets to a point you just can't worry
yourself any longer, then I have a limit where I
have a cut off, like, okay, I've I've really tried
to put myself in your shoes and care for you
to a limit, but eventually.
Speaker 6 (54:28):
I that stopped. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (54:29):
Well, I mean this is something that years and years
and years ago, when I was younger and more patient
with people. You know, you keep giving people a chance
when they don't necessarily deserve it. But as you get older,
you start to recognize those giant red flags in all
kinds of relationships, friendship, work relationships, personal relationships, I mean,
big red flags. As you get older, those red flags
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pop up and you no longer just brush past them.
And that's where I'm like, eh, you know what, I've
met you before, I didn't like you then, probably.
Speaker 7 (54:59):
Won't like it this time either. Mike Rosen.
Speaker 4 (55:03):
You go, hey, Mike, I'm doing this charity thing and
I was wondering would you be interested in coming. Nope,
that doesn't sound like something i'd like. That's literally how
we would say no, nope, no thanks, Nope, I'm good
and then go about his day, completely unbothered by the
fact he just broke your heart. And I was like,
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you know what, the Mike Rosen way, that's how you
set a boundary. Sasquatch knows empathy says I think the
Sasquatch is texting us now a rod Sasquatch knows empathy.
It wishes everyone a blessed day as they run in
fear for their lives away from freaking Sasquatch. There you go.
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I kind of want to ask another question about empathy,
but I don't want to beat the dead horse. I'm
just that that whole interview made me realize my own
personal feelings, and I think I need to improve some things.
And uh, how do you guys say, noticed something in
a nice way? Do you go long? Do you explain?
My brother pointed this out to me. He's like, stop
explaining for a no, And I went what And we
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had walked by a barker and.
Speaker 7 (56:10):
He was selling something and he's like, I don't even
know what it was.
Speaker 4 (56:12):
I was like, no, I'm good. Yeah, I went at home.
My brother's like, why did you have to explain? I
was like, I don't know. It was just being nice.
So you're never gonna see that guy again. It's like,
that's true, that's true. Anyway, Apparently we have leaked Israel's
plans for an attack on Iran somehow to telegram. Of course,
(56:34):
of course, documents this, according to ABC News, purported to
show classified US intelligence gathering on Israel's preparations for a
potential retaliatory strike on Iran. They appeared on social media
platforms this week. It is unclear what impacts the potential
leak may have had on any Israeli military planning for
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a possible strike on Iran or Israeli America relations. On Sunday,
House Speaker Mike Johnson acknowledged that there was an investigation
underway into the possible intelligence leak during an appearance on CNN.
Speaker 7 (57:10):
Officials are following it closely.
Speaker 4 (57:12):
We don't know if it was leaked or if it
was hacked, and obviously hacked would almost be worse. But
if it's leaked, you don't know what else the person
who did the leaking knows. ABC News was quick to
say it could not independently verify the authenticity of the documents,
which appear to show specific details about the types and
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numbers of munitions that Israel may be readying for a
potentially large scale strike on Iran in retaliation for the
regimes late September mirage of almost two hundred ballistic missiles
aimed at Israel. So Israel is going to attack Iran
because they have to. And when I say that it's
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not about retaliation, this is no longer tit for tat.
There is a new vigor to the Israelis battle. And
after speaking two people living in Israel right now, they
all feel the same way. And that is, if you
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are a forty year old man in Israel right now,
you fought in like five different wars.
Speaker 7 (58:21):
Some of them are long, some of them are short.
None of them as long as what they're going through
right now.
Speaker 4 (58:25):
Most of them have been really short, because all the
wars in Israel left to this point have gone like this,
Hamas or Hezbla or someone attacks, they take a bunch
of hostages, they take the hostages back. Israel then says, hey,
you give us back our hostages and we'll give you
a whole bunch of prisoners. Those prisoners then get out
of prison and they become ya Ya Sinwar the head
of Hamas, and.
Speaker 7 (58:47):
The attacks never stop.
Speaker 4 (58:50):
And so if you're a forty year old man, you
have been in six wars in Israel, and you have
children now, and you don't want to look at those
children and know that they could grow up and be
in the military themselves and have to fight over and
over and over again, the same people over and over
and over again, doing the same things over and over
and over again, and somehow expecting a different result. Israel's
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done with that. They're going to end this, and ending
it is going to require a regime change in Iran.
That's ultimately what has to end it, because without Iran
vackuing them hamas has below, they all collapse. They have
no means of making money, they have no means of
doing anything except attacking Israel, which is their purpose. So
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the fact that we cannot even keep this stuff to
ourselves is a massive embarrassment considering the Israel is fighting
for its very existence.
Speaker 7 (59:42):
Israel is fighting against people.
Speaker 4 (59:43):
Who have sworn to pursue genocide against the Jewish people.
That is their sole purpose for living is to destroy
the Jewish people and the Jewish state, and actual genocide
is what they're promising.
Speaker 7 (01:00:01):
And we can't even.
Speaker 4 (01:00:02):
Be bothered to secure the documents, Like did somebody leave
a briefcase unlocked? What happened?
Speaker 8 (01:00:06):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (01:00:06):
I know, you logged in at the library with your
super secret password and then you forgot to log out,
And so now all this stuff is on telegram. Whoops,
Oh my god, so sorry. The Department of Defense and
FBI and Office for the Director of National Intelligence all
declined to provide any comment to ABC News, perhaps because
(01:00:29):
if this is what really happened, it would be the
most significant security breach in a very long time.
Speaker 9 (01:00:35):
Mandy.
Speaker 4 (01:00:35):
This war is a prime example of why empathy is
so hard today. Sorry, you're not sorry, you're losing the
war you started. Yep, yep. What is the old saying,
if you're gonna take the first punch, make it a
good one, because might be the only one you get. Well,
Hamas took their shot, but it wasn't good enough, and
(01:00:58):
now they get to pay the price. Well, Mandy, I
guess that's what we get for letting anti Semitic people
stay in Congress. The Biden administration time and time again
has proven to Israel that the United States just can't
be trusted. Except you know what, I'm just gonna say this,
Joe Biden has been a better ally to Israel than
I anticipated.
Speaker 7 (01:01:18):
And then he keeps.
Speaker 4 (01:01:19):
Making threats about withholding weapons. To my knowledge, that hasn't
actually happened. He's trying to use that as leverage, but
Israel keeps ignoring him and then having success doing the
thing they wanted to do. That he told him not
to let go into Rafa where yeah, Yah Sinmar was
just killed in a chance encounter in Rafa. Come on,
(01:01:41):
come on, Mandy. Do people lose empathy when they get
older or do they just see everybody as they are?
Speaker 7 (01:01:53):
What a fantastic question.
Speaker 4 (01:01:58):
I think it's maybe a little from column and a
little from columb and it's been coming on you to
instead of and by the.
Speaker 7 (01:02:05):
Way, by you, I mean me.
Speaker 4 (01:02:07):
Okay, just to be clear, this is where I've been
working on being less judgmental as I get older, Because
by the time you're fifty five years old, by the
time you're forty, you have had if you've had any
kind of life where you've experienced a lot of new things,
You've met all kinds of different people, You've been in
all kinds of different situations, and you have seen how
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those turn out, and you begin to notice certain consistencies
and behavior between people that maybe in the past turned
out not to be good people, and it makes you
much more guarded. And that's really kind of I think
one of the reasons that older people are so lonely
as they get older.
Speaker 7 (01:02:48):
Because as your friends.
Speaker 4 (01:02:49):
Die or they move far away to be near their
children and things of that nature, it's hard to make
new friends. You're also less willing to put up with
someone else's crap if you don't have any his street
with them. That's why making friends as an adult is
really hard. And I've had to start from scratch friend
wise three times now, four times now, and it's gotten
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harder and harder every time I move. It just has
part of that's me, part of that's them. It's eh,
you know, it's all fine, Mandy. I have no empathy
for Hamas or Iran, nor do I nor do I. Okay,
we're gonna take a very quick time out and when
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we get back, I've got so much stuff on the blog,
but I'm reading a text message that we might have
to jump into because it is very uh, it's serious.
We'll do that next. Do you have some samples with
the ballot with answered questions posted somewhere? I don't have that,
but I do have a voter's guide that is out
right now. The easiest way to find it is just
go to Google. Put in Mandy Connell Voter Guide twenty
(01:04:02):
twenty four and bada bing bada, boom bam, it'll pop
right up. I keep forgetting it. I'm trying to embed
it on the blog every day, but I forget obviously.
So that is the easiest way for you.
Speaker 7 (01:04:14):
To find it.
Speaker 4 (01:04:14):
So Mandy Connell Voter Guide twenty twenty four, just put
it in the Google and bam, you too will have
the massive insight of my wisdom, which you know, depending
on your feelings about me, could be a good thing,
could be a bad thing. I don't know. So I
saw something on the blog today from our friends at
(01:04:36):
Fox thirty one and it was about an event called
Girls on the Rise. And Girls on the Rise is
an event put together by the Society of Women Engineers
where middle school girls I can go to this weekend
camp and you get to learn about a bunch of
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stem fields through hands on experiments and the So the
endgame here is to inspire more girls to go into
stem fields because traditionally girls shy away from stem fields.
Boys gravitate towards stem fields for a lot of very
understandable sex based differences in how our brains work. Now
(01:05:20):
that we know for a fact that our brains work differently.
There are different reasons for this, and I understand wanting
to bring more women to STEM, I get it, but
the numbers that we have right now are not good
for boys. Boys are not going to college. More young
men are out of the workforce. They're just out of
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the workforce. Men have lost their way. And I'm just
gonna say it, it's time to stop sex based programs
like this when there could be a bunch of young
men who might want to get interested or learn more
about STEM than they're learning at their current cool And
I just I find this, you know, don't get me wrong,
(01:06:04):
you know, I get it. I understand it.
Speaker 7 (01:06:06):
I'm a woman.
Speaker 4 (01:06:07):
I have a daughter. I want her to be excited
about things like this. But you know what, We've got
to stop excluding boys because we're at the point now
where boys are getting left behind and it's not okay.
Are we doing things to encourage boys to go to college.
Are we making sure that boys understand that if they
don't want to go to college, they are all kinds
of other opportunities for them in trades where they can
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make a really good living, support themselves, support a family,
get to work with their hands. I do think boys
are much more inclined to do jobs where you say, look,
you get to work with your hands. You don't have
to sit behind a desk all day. Boys are like,
sign me up, I'm ready, let's go. So I just
think it's enough, it's enough with the focus on the girls,
(01:06:50):
it's enough. We need to start making sure that we
are giving as much attention to young men, because frankly,
I'm far more worried about young men and teenage boys
right now, who are being told that they are the
cause of every problem, of every ill, that their masculinity.
Depending on who is addressing it, could be okay masculinity
(01:07:15):
if there is such a thing, or it could be
toxic masculinity, if some woman randomly decides whatever they just
did was toxic masculinity.
Speaker 7 (01:07:23):
We're sending boys up for failure.
Speaker 4 (01:07:25):
We're seeing it in higher rates of depression and suicide
and young in teen boys.
Speaker 7 (01:07:30):
We gotta stop. We just got to stop.
Speaker 4 (01:07:32):
And though I appreciate the society of women engineers, where's
the one for boys going to college? Where's that one?
This is why anything designed to lift up one gender,
one race, whatever, is going to create and inherent in balance,
because if.
Speaker 7 (01:07:51):
You're not part of the favorite group.
Speaker 4 (01:07:53):
If you're not part of the blue Eye group, and
that's a reference to an old experiment, and then what are.
Speaker 7 (01:08:00):
You supposed to do?
Speaker 4 (01:08:01):
How are you supposed to move forward in life when
everyone's telling you you are part of the problems? Hey, everybody,
that's Jesse Thumbas fresh from fly fishing someplace fabulous. Jesse,
of course, part of our broadcast team with the Rockies.
So as soon as that season's over, Jesse's off.
Speaker 7 (01:08:16):
Well he's not.
Speaker 4 (01:08:17):
He's actually here working.
Speaker 7 (01:08:18):
But whatever it's mine seems more glamorous my way.
Speaker 4 (01:08:22):
I just saw that. I don't want to be a
negative nelly, but I mean, you guys get what I'm
saying here, right?
Speaker 8 (01:08:28):
You do?
Speaker 9 (01:08:28):
You get?
Speaker 4 (01:08:29):
You get?
Speaker 3 (01:08:29):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (01:08:29):
Ay, Rod? You know with your car, we didn't get
a single wicked Do we not have many wickens in
our audience? Did we do we take the sea? We
need a wick in to do a stage cleansing of
a Rod's cursed vehicle, because then we could go ahead
and do that. I mean, one question for you, though
it is low tire season, anybody else decorating for low
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tire pressure season?
Speaker 6 (01:08:54):
Anyone?
Speaker 8 (01:08:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:08:55):
I decorate every year every year about this time my
low pressure like i'ms on in my car and stays
on until the weather gets warm again. So if you
want to know a very detailed scientific explanation of why
that happens, I've got that linked on the blog today.
But when we get back, when you guys hear how
much sugar Americans eat every year?
Speaker 7 (01:09:19):
OMG, a rod? Guess how much?
Speaker 4 (01:09:22):
A rod?
Speaker 7 (01:09:22):
How much sugar to Americans eat every year?
Speaker 4 (01:09:30):
How much?
Speaker 6 (01:09:31):
How much?
Speaker 7 (01:09:31):
Just guess I too much? No, just guess guessing amount?
Speaker 6 (01:09:36):
Can't give me like a rough idea of whearing a ballpark.
Speaker 8 (01:09:38):
He measured pounds okay, pounds per year average adults, thirty
pounds a year.
Speaker 7 (01:09:46):
I will tell you the answer after this.
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the show.
Speaker 7 (01:10:18):
And if you were listening to the last hour.
Speaker 4 (01:10:21):
First of all, thank you, you guys are my favorites.
You heard me ask Anthony a question, which is how
much sugar do Americans eat on average every year. Ay, Rod,
what did you guess?
Speaker 6 (01:10:35):
Quickly, what did you guess?
Speaker 7 (01:10:38):
Dragon is in the studio? What a dragon?
Speaker 8 (01:10:40):
Guess?
Speaker 6 (01:10:40):
Five to six?
Speaker 4 (01:10:42):
Five to six pounds? Oh good lord, that's precious, but
that's the skinny guy. Now, okay, wait a minute. How
much did fat dragon eat of sugar?
Speaker 6 (01:10:53):
How many of them? All of the sugars, all of
the sugars.
Speaker 4 (01:10:58):
So no, the answer is eighty pounds America.
Speaker 7 (01:11:05):
You guys, you guys, you guys.
Speaker 4 (01:11:08):
I read a stat not too long ago that said
a child today eats more sugar in one year than
a child born in nineteen hundred eight in their lifetime.
I mean, my goodness, gracious, you guys, eighty pounds. That
is thirty six thousand grams of sugar per year. This
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according to a poll of two thousand Americans. The study
found that the typical American ingest ninety nine grams of
sugar per day, surpassing the sugar content and this is
where it's gonna get really real for a lot of people,
surpassing the sugar content of two twelve ounce cans of soda.
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This excessive consumption comes despite eighty five percent of respondents
actively working to reduce their sugar intake. The study reveals
thirty four percent of respondents the majority of their daily
sugar intake comes from beverages in their morning coffee. Another
twenty eight percent said that soda makes up most of
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their liquid consumption. Interestingly, more than half of the participants
fifty one percent, believe that their sugar cravings might actually
be a sign of dehydration, but instead of drinking water.
Speaker 7 (01:12:33):
They're getting more soda.
Speaker 4 (01:12:35):
The survey explored the emotional triggers behind sugar cravings, with
stress thirty nine percent, boredom thirty six percent, fatigue twenty
four percent, loneliness seventeen percent topping the list. When experiencing
these cravings, respondents reported feeling anxious, irritable, impatient, and unproductive.
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Common situations which bring on a sweet craving include watching
a movie thirty one percent, finishing a meal thirty one percent,
needing a midday energy bost thirty percent, and having a
bad day at work nineteen percent. The survey also found
that three twelve PM is the peak time for sugar
cravings to strike three twelve pm, So find something to
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keep you busy at three twelve Now listen to this
Perhaps the most alarmingly, the average person can only resist
a sugar craving for thirteen minutes before giving in. Some
go to extreme lengths to satisfy their sweet tooth, with
twelve percent of respondents admitting that they'll make time in
their busy schedules no matter what to obtain a sweet treat.
Speaker 7 (01:13:45):
I just think this is.
Speaker 4 (01:13:49):
First of all, why we're fat. Good lord, people. I
don't know if you saw the news Racle had on
the blog last week. I believe that had a graph
in it. This showed when obesity took off, and it
took off at exactly the moment that we started replacing
sugar with high fructose corn syrup. Because once food producers
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started putting high fructose corn syrup into food, they realized
Number one, people one and more of it. Number two,
it lasted forever, especially with baked goods, so they started
putting it in everything, and our sugar intake just went
through the roof. Additionally, our sugary beverage Habit has got
to stop.
Speaker 7 (01:14:31):
It just has to stop.
Speaker 4 (01:14:33):
You guys, you know what's weird? Aron, Have you ever
had a coke zero all the time?
Speaker 11 (01:14:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:14:39):
Okay, So no one told me, the coke zero doesn't
taste like diet coke, which honestly is the worst beverage
since TAB. Many of you are old enough to remember
the first diet beverage TAB, which which honestly it was
a diet beverage because it tasted so disgusting you did
not want to drink any more of it. They were like, no, one,
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that's enough for me. Diet coke to me is that disgusting.
Coke zero actually tastes like a like a normal coke almost,
but again it has aspertain and aspartame is not not
my friend, not my friend at all. I'm wondering how
much sugar you guys get per day? Have you ever
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tracked calories?
Speaker 7 (01:15:22):
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 4 (01:15:23):
Listening audience, So, there are so many free apps that
you can use. If you want to really get a
handle on how much sugar you're eating, use a food
tracking app like fat Secret. Fat Secret is an app.
It's super easy to use.
Speaker 7 (01:15:37):
You just put in and you don't have to be exact.
Speaker 10 (01:15:39):
Right.
Speaker 4 (01:15:39):
If you're eating a specific brand of something and they
don't have that brand.
Speaker 7 (01:15:42):
Just guess, just guess to one that's closest.
Speaker 4 (01:15:45):
But then you start to see the difference between sugar
and added sugar, because there's sugar and a lot of
food that's really good for you. Vegetables have a little
bit of sugar in them. Fruit has sugar in it,
but it also has the fiber to slow down the absorption.
So it's kind of like the toison and the antidote
in one little fruit container. So there is fruit that
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is not as bad for you as just added sugar.
And when you look at how much added sugar is
in your diet, I don't look at sugar. I look
at added sugar when I'm looking at something. Oh, this
person said tab was my favorite, it was not. It
was no one's favorite. If you really want favorite sodas
of the seventies, you got to go back to Shasta.
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Shasta was the bomb. I want to taste, possess all
the great tastes. Shatta hass I wanna pop?
Speaker 7 (01:16:39):
How many of you just sang along with me on
that one.
Speaker 4 (01:16:42):
Diet sodas are equally as bad with all the chemicals,
and they make you hungrier. I'm not a diet soda person,
but whenever we have parties, we always buy diet soda.
And I had a little bit of a headache, and
I needed some caffeine, and I didn't want more coffee,
so I went and got a coke zero and drank
like half of it. And I was like, well, this
isn't horrible like diet coke. Mandy, I'm a pastry chef.
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Don't listen, eat more sweets. More importantly, buy more sweets, well,
pastry chef allegedly. I'm not saying that you're not a
pastry chef. I'm just saying you've never brought pastries to
the studio right here at four six ninety five South
Monaco Street in Denver, at the iHeart Studios, fourth floor.
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I mean, you say you're a pastry chef, but how
am I supposed to know if you're even telling the
truth regarding sugar. It looks like us life expectancy is
now in the upper seventies versus mid sixties in eighteen hundred.
Speaker 7 (01:17:38):
I like the way you're thinking there. I like it.
Speaker 4 (01:17:43):
I like it a looked. Hey, Mandy, we switched to
Zba to to get our soda fix. Zba uses stevie
as a sweetener, only four ingredients, but it tastes bad.
Tried it.
Speaker 7 (01:17:55):
I'd rather just have club soda or sparkling water.
Speaker 4 (01:17:57):
I'm good with that. It's he kind of. It serves
the same purpose, Mandy. It's a parent's responsibility to not
buyprocessed foods and to teach.
Speaker 7 (01:18:05):
Their children what to eat.
Speaker 4 (01:18:07):
My granddaughter is seventeen and has never had a weight
issue because our parents are good parents. Yep, my cousin's
drank fresca and now we're talking the delicious grapefruit beverage.
M How about it for USCO. There's two pop culture
references right there that were so good for my gen
X brothers and sisters.
Speaker 7 (01:18:28):
I'm just gonna sit with them for a second and
I'll be right back.
Speaker 4 (01:18:30):
Do you ever see something on a social media platform
and you're like, challenge.
Speaker 6 (01:18:35):
Accepted too much?
Speaker 4 (01:18:37):
So I saw this. Jim City says you can't post
a random number and expect people to understand.
Speaker 7 (01:18:46):
And I posted the number forty two. And I'd like
to know who in.
Speaker 4 (01:18:51):
Our listening audience knows what that reference is. You can
text us on the Common Spirit Health text line five
six six nine.
Speaker 7 (01:18:59):
Oh number forty two.
Speaker 6 (01:19:02):
Yeah, it might be one that beats you. Did you
see JK Rowlings?
Speaker 7 (01:19:06):
Oh yeah, nine and three quarters.
Speaker 4 (01:19:07):
Yeah, come on, come on, JK. Leave some for the
rest of us. Let us pick up the crumbs on Twitter, Okay,
billionaire authored lady.
Speaker 6 (01:19:16):
That forty two has quite a bit of meaning to it.
Speaker 3 (01:19:19):
It does.
Speaker 6 (01:19:20):
Lots of meaning it does to it.
Speaker 4 (01:19:22):
It does. I mean, it sounds like a robot in
life say that, you know, I just picked it up
in life. I'm just curious though, because not everyone gets hit.
Speaker 8 (01:19:33):
That's a that's a good throwback throwback now because it's
kind of a throwback.
Speaker 4 (01:19:37):
It is a throwback.
Speaker 9 (01:19:38):
And I was.
Speaker 4 (01:19:38):
Referencing the I was referencing the nineteen seventies version of
that thing when it came out.
Speaker 7 (01:19:47):
Oh, it was the BBC show was fantastic, fantastic.
Speaker 6 (01:19:50):
What was that new one? Here we go?
Speaker 7 (01:19:52):
That was two thousand and nine?
Speaker 4 (01:19:53):
Really, yeah, the new one was two thousand and nine
and it just fell five. Oh I thought it was
two thousand nine.
Speaker 6 (01:20:01):
Yeah, I just looked it up. Oh my god, he's
in it?
Speaker 7 (01:20:03):
Who's in it?
Speaker 6 (01:20:04):
Martin Freeman? He's the Is he a lead? It's Rockwell
and Bill Knight?
Speaker 2 (01:20:11):
Did you ever?
Speaker 4 (01:20:12):
Did you not see that it's not as good as
the BBC version? I might I have it is not
Jackie Robinson, thanks to those.
Speaker 6 (01:20:18):
Of you jack cute. Is it as cute in the throwback?
Speaker 4 (01:20:22):
No, it's it's not cute at all, and it's depressing
and his voice is hilarious the entire show.
Speaker 6 (01:20:29):
The now that we've basically thrown our thumb out on
the road, here.
Speaker 4 (01:20:33):
Boy from The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, it is
the meaning of life, the.
Speaker 7 (01:20:38):
Universe and everything. Forty two.
Speaker 6 (01:20:41):
That was the two.
Speaker 4 (01:20:43):
So there you go. Don't panic, says this text.
Speaker 8 (01:20:45):
Correct, correct, correct, correct, Alan rickman Man what a cast?
Speaker 7 (01:20:50):
Yeah, but it was not as good as the.
Speaker 6 (01:20:52):
Schlocky John Malkovich.
Speaker 4 (01:20:54):
BBC series from the nineteen seventies. We had terrible special.
Speaker 8 (01:20:58):
Effects, rotten tomatoes on the two thousand e it was okay,
it's gonna be always north of sixteen.
Speaker 4 (01:21:05):
You're going to wait Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy BBC cast. Oh,
I might have to buy that. It's on Amazon, the
old one of the new one. Oh it's on Oh wait,
so on YouTube. And it's so cheesy and so bad
and so awesome.
Speaker 6 (01:21:22):
It was one of the things.
Speaker 7 (01:21:22):
It was the eighties, it was the early.
Speaker 6 (01:21:24):
Eighties, seventy nine, I think I saw yeah, it says.
Speaker 4 (01:21:27):
The adaptation follows the original radio series in nineteen seventy
eight and eighty Uh it aired between January fifth and
February ninth.
Speaker 7 (01:21:37):
Nineteen eighty one on the BBC two and.
Speaker 8 (01:21:39):
Then turn into an hour and forty nine minute movie. Yeah, yeah,
hard to translate. Yeah, it didn't work. It did not work.
I mean they gave their best chance though, that cast man.
Speaker 4 (01:21:53):
Yeah. Yeah, but the uh, the BBC version is much better.
It's it's super cheesy, but it's just at a representation
of the book that was a horrible movie, said these
people eight six, seven, five, three oh nine. Also a
response to numbers that you could throw out there that
everybody knew, right, everybody knew them. I was trying to
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think of that there was.
Speaker 7 (01:22:15):
Any other number that had you three point one four.
Speaker 6 (01:22:18):
Yes, that's pie.
Speaker 7 (01:22:19):
Everybody knows what that is. I don't know the rest
of it.
Speaker 4 (01:22:21):
When I was a young nerdier kid, I knew a
lot of the numbers, but I don't know.
Speaker 8 (01:22:25):
There's now two easy ones both had the same numbers,
uh one six sixty six, Oh yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 6 (01:22:32):
And then for Star Wars nerds sixty six what's sixty six? Oh,
come on, then for Palpatine, execute auDA sixty six on
all the Jedi. Dieh.
Speaker 8 (01:22:42):
See that's fine when it's when the storm Troopers start
killing all the Jedi and then the rise of Darth Vader.
Speaker 6 (01:22:47):
YadA, YadA, YadA. Well you know, now you know?
Speaker 8 (01:22:49):
Okay, it symbolizes the rise of the Galactic Empire.
Speaker 6 (01:22:53):
Execute Order sixty six.
Speaker 4 (01:22:54):
Apparently Marvin the Paranoid Android has his own song on YouTube.
I will look that up when we get back. Oh,
by the way, your Tabor refunds are coming, and I
have a link to a story that has the numbers,
and these are going to be the last big Tabor
refunds we ever get, because the Democratic Legislature has decided
that they are going to give your table refunds to
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people they decided were more worthy of those. Later on
nine oh two one. Oh, that's a good one. It's
the number everybody knows, the three three oh the three
oh three. Well, people here, I wouldn't have known that
if I didn't live here. I'm just saying the five
oh four three three five, Well, the three oh five
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is California. Five oh four is a big freeway in California.
Speaker 6 (01:23:40):
Three, Miami. Three or five?
Speaker 4 (01:23:41):
Oh, you're right?
Speaker 7 (01:23:42):
Three or five is Miami? What is the one?
Speaker 4 (01:23:45):
You're right? When we get back, I bet Voldemir Valdemar Alchiletta.
Speaker 7 (01:23:50):
He knows a number. He knows the number one.
Speaker 4 (01:23:54):
For the first congressional district. We're talking to him about
that next. Kind of a part of Republican politics, a
big part of the log cabin of Republicans before deciding
to jump into what I think is probably one of
the most challenging races in Colorado for a Republican the
first congressional district against the firmly entrenched Diana to Get.
But Valdemar Argiletta was either crazy, maybe he was a
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little drunk.
Speaker 6 (01:24:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (01:24:18):
But he's been doing it and he's been doing a
great job representing conservative opinions and Republican values during this
race and on the blog today at mandy'sblog dot com,
I embedded his candidate debate with Diana to Get from
last weekend. So, first of all, it's a big get.
She doesn't really necessarily pay attention to her opponents.
Speaker 6 (01:24:39):
Yeah, I was.
Speaker 12 (01:24:40):
I give her credit for being willing to do the
debate because you know, honestly in her on her side
and with her strategy, maybe it's not.
Speaker 6 (01:24:48):
I don't know what she gained from it, but she
still was willing to.
Speaker 12 (01:24:50):
Do it and go on Channel eight and have the
conversation and do the debate, and.
Speaker 4 (01:24:56):
It was it was very good. But I want to
ask you this, we kind of mad chatting off the air.
You know, I'm not breaking any news here that if
you were to win the first it would be a
shock across the country.
Speaker 6 (01:25:09):
It really, it really would.
Speaker 12 (01:25:10):
I'd be making international news with what happened here in
Denver and that would be amazing.
Speaker 7 (01:25:18):
So why did you do it?
Speaker 4 (01:25:19):
I mean, why did you jump into this race that
is going to be damn near impossible.
Speaker 12 (01:25:24):
Yeah, well I had been asked to do it back
in twenty two and I was like, hell, no, I'm
not doing that.
Speaker 6 (01:25:29):
That's crazy.
Speaker 12 (01:25:30):
But it started a lot of conversations at that point,
right people within the Republican community and the Denver community
as to how this race and my campaign could be
used as a platform to have conversations with different different
demographics through the city and just a platform to speak
about conservative policies and issues and solutions in the city
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of Denver, because we don't really have a voice there
most of the time. End I found that it's really missing.
I've gone a lot of town halls meetings that the
city puts on, and typically I am the only Republican
or Conservative in the entire room, and you know, the
conversation happens, and it's a very one sided conversation, and
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everything they talk about has kind of the same ideas,
the same solutions, and I just feel like you can
sense in the room there's something missing, and the people
in Denver want to hear something else. I was at
one meeting and they were talking about immigration, and I let.
Speaker 6 (01:26:30):
Everyone say their thing.
Speaker 12 (01:26:31):
I think most of the things people were talking about, well,
we need more money, we need more money, we need
more government to deal with this. And one man raised
his hand and he said, you know, I want to
be a good Democrat. But then he really said nothing,
but it was like he was afraid. He wanted to
say more, but he was afraid to say it. And
that feeling was around the room, and so I eventually
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raised my hand and I stood up and I was like,
you know this is all you know good?
Speaker 6 (01:26:56):
You know you want to help people, but is unsustainable.
Speaker 12 (01:27:01):
We have to stop the inflow of immigration at the border.
And again there was this air in the room that like,
I'm glad somebody finally said that everyone was thinking it,
but they don't want to say it, and so the.
Speaker 4 (01:27:15):
Conservative gosh, you know what I mean, Valdemar, that is
one of those things that I think to myself in
my lifetime.
Speaker 7 (01:27:22):
I'm fifty five years old.
Speaker 4 (01:27:23):
Do you have any idea how many bipartisan conversations have
happened around legal immigration?
Speaker 3 (01:27:28):
Right?
Speaker 7 (01:27:28):
And for until until ten.
Speaker 4 (01:27:32):
Years ago, the thought of encouraging more illegal immigration would
would have been completely appalling to anyone. The issue has
been so politicized that now you have people who are rational, reasonable,
thoughtful people who feel like they're too scared to say, up, hey,
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maybe we should do this the legal way, which is
unsure what they were all thinking, you know what I mean?
Speaker 12 (01:27:57):
And if that's just an example, but there are so
many issues like that. I was in Cheeseman Park and
I had a table set up. I just put my
table there and put my signs up, and I was
sitting there talking to people and a guy came up
to me in a white dude for Harris hat and
you know, he really hates Trump and he was not
going to support me because at the federal level he
doesn't want Republicans and blah blah whatever. But then we
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were talking about local politics and he said, I agree
that Democrats have ruined our state and our city.
Speaker 6 (01:28:29):
I'm like, well, you don't see that at the national level.
How this ties in? Why didn't say that.
Speaker 12 (01:28:34):
I'm like, you know what, this is good.
Speaker 6 (01:28:38):
I'm going to stop the argument. Let's just talk about that.
Speaker 12 (01:28:41):
And I think he's going to vote for our House
district Republican candidate in that area, who also has a
major uphill battle. But still he was like, I'm willing
to look at Republicans at a local level.
Speaker 4 (01:28:54):
No, this is Faldimorret what you're doing right now. And
I know you're you're trying to win the race because
nobody wants to lose a raate And but the attitude
that you're taking of like, Okay, you know what, even
if I don't win this race, I'm going to lay
the groundwork to make it so Republicans can have a
conversation with people. Because this has been a frustration of
mine for a really long time.
Speaker 7 (01:29:16):
Not just in Colorado.
Speaker 4 (01:29:17):
I have stood up at Republican meetings and said, why
are we not actively working in communities of color, communities
of poverty? Why are we not working in these areas
where we've just given all the voters when in reality
our ideas will make their lives better.
Speaker 6 (01:29:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (01:29:35):
I went to I met I met a man at
a I think it was at the Colorado Black round Table.
And I went to the Northeast Denver Islamic Center and
met with their group, and they had their worship going on,
and so I sat through and I.
Speaker 6 (01:29:51):
Pretty much just expected I'm going to sit here, listen.
Speaker 12 (01:29:54):
To them and just you know, be in the background.
But they ended up talking to me for like a
half hour, almost like I was on a talk show,
ye asking me questions and we had a conversation.
Speaker 6 (01:30:05):
And their main issues are family.
Speaker 12 (01:30:07):
They are concerned about family values and what's happening to
families in our country. And so by the end they
were like, all right, how do we help you get elected?
Speaker 2 (01:30:18):
Wow?
Speaker 12 (01:30:19):
So I'm like, there a lot of these communities want
to hear from us, just.
Speaker 7 (01:30:23):
Need to be asked.
Speaker 6 (01:30:24):
Yeah. And I was at the.
Speaker 12 (01:30:25):
You know, John Fabricatory, Nothing against all our other candidates,
but I think he's like the for what that we
need right now. He is like the best candidate we
have in the state. Again, nothing against our others, they're
all wonderful. But we were at the Taste of Ethiopia.
He had a booth there and I was hanging out
with him because it was in Denver, but a lot
of the population live in Aurora. So the number of
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people we had come up to us who were Ethiopian
and African immigrants who were like, all right, we're we're
tired of what the Democrats are doing.
Speaker 6 (01:30:56):
They don't represent our values.
Speaker 12 (01:30:57):
And I even told one man there's like, you know,
I've never been to an African festival like this, but
I've been to hundreds and hundreds of Latino Hispanic festivals,
and like, you guys might have us beat on the
Jesus T shirts.
Speaker 6 (01:31:11):
I think we win when it.
Speaker 12 (01:31:12):
Comes to the Mary T shirts, But the Jesus T shirts,
you guys, they're more there than I've seen at any
other people strong faith, ye, very strong faith. And I
was talking to a man who owns a store in Aurora,
and he was talking to me about how he's concerned
about what's happening in schools, and he gave you a
really sad statistic that he said in the Ethiopian community
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in the previous year, twenty two young people had committed
and he's like, we left Africa to come here to
build a better life, and now our young.
Speaker 6 (01:31:44):
People are being put in this position.
Speaker 12 (01:31:46):
So he was going to open his store longer and
work harder so he could send his kids to a
private school or a charter school where because he kind
of put it on a lot of things they're learning
in public schools right that are hurting kids and hurting
their mental health, and not promoting family values and not
promoting faith.
Speaker 4 (01:32:05):
And so I mean they're putting kids at odds with
their parents' values.
Speaker 7 (01:32:08):
Yes they are, and that is a huge problem.
Speaker 4 (01:32:11):
And for kids who are already struggling, who don't fit
in their support system should be their parents. And schools
are literally saying your parents are dangerous. They're creating Yeah,
you can't talk to your parents about this, it's too
dangerous for you.
Speaker 12 (01:32:25):
I said that working with the Colorado Parental Advocacy Network.
I went and I don't remember where I was, but
I basically said, you know, as a gay man, we
have fought for years to build a better relationship with
our families and bring our families into our lives, and
now we're doing that, and now the schools are trying
to tear us apart again.
Speaker 6 (01:32:42):
Like we've worked so hard to get our.
Speaker 12 (01:32:45):
Families to accept us and to be part of their
lives and all, and I feel like we've done a
great job at that. But now they are putting that
little seed of thought into kids' minds that your parents
are wrong, your parents are not looking out for your
best interest.
Speaker 6 (01:32:59):
Don't tell you your parents. Don't talk to them. They're wrong, dangerous. Yeah,
and it's fine to me, it really is.
Speaker 12 (01:33:07):
So there's so many communities within our cities that we
don't think about, or maybe we we I don't know.
We're not talking to them, but they are on our side.
We need to give them the opportunity to understand who
Republicans actually are, to even just go beyond the political party,
but just what our conservative politics are, what are whatever
(01:33:29):
you want to label it as is they agree with us.
And there was something that I don't remember where it was,
where the Christians and the Muslims got together and went
to the school board and they were united and sticking
up for family values, and we need to do that.
Speaker 6 (01:33:43):
We need to be.
Speaker 12 (01:33:44):
Making allies throughout our states, and and that's what this
is I want to do. Like I understand, you know
the realities of my campaign, but this is a step
that's not going to end after this campaign and reaching
out to the people in the city. And where it
goes from here, I don't know yet. I just want
to get past November.
Speaker 6 (01:34:04):
At this point, you're in the state of.
Speaker 4 (01:34:05):
The race, right, I need the candidate's about this point.
You got a few weeks left.
Speaker 6 (01:34:09):
Every candidate, it's like weeks.
Speaker 4 (01:34:11):
I just need this to be over.
Speaker 9 (01:34:13):
I just need it to be done.
Speaker 4 (01:34:16):
Let me ask you about the actual campaigning, the political
aspect of it. And it might be too soon for
us to tap into this, but I've had the opportunity
to talk to many candidates after the fact, and they
talk about things like the political class, consultant class, it
wants to micromanage every aspect of the campaign. How challenging
(01:34:37):
has it been for you? Because in all honesty, like
I don't we're not best friends. We don't braid each
other's hair. But I've known you now for many years
I've seen no change in you, which is a compliment.
I've seen no change from the guy who said we
can do a better job when you first started to
the person you are now. You're still out there having
conversations with people and just trying to find comment and
(01:35:00):
areas where you can grow, you know, bridges to these
other people. Has that been well received? Have you been
micromanager of they looking over you because they're like, it's
the first congressional district, It's going.
Speaker 6 (01:35:12):
To be impossible. I'm That's one thing.
Speaker 12 (01:35:15):
I think I've been fairly lucky that most people have
left me alone and just let me do whatever I want.
And I have pretty much been myself, and I feel
like that's kind of why I fit this campaign, is
that I don't have to make things up. I don't
have to lie, I don't have to pretend I believe
things I don't. I can just go be myself all
(01:35:35):
the time and it works and it is a very
unique district and a unique campaign.
Speaker 6 (01:35:41):
We I don't know if this is a good thing or.
Speaker 12 (01:35:45):
Not, but sometimes I guess I'm the type of person
if someone tells me I can't do something correct, I
want to do it.
Speaker 7 (01:35:51):
It just inspires you.
Speaker 12 (01:35:54):
A few weeks ago, we were at an event and
you know, they were doing campaign pitches and I was
with other candidates. There were a bunch there and I
had a beer and they're like, all right, let's take
a picture. Like, no, you got to put that down
because you can't be seen holding a beer.
Speaker 7 (01:36:08):
You're a grown ass man.
Speaker 4 (01:36:10):
You do whatever you want.
Speaker 12 (01:36:11):
It led to talking to my team and this past
weekend we did a campaign pub crawl in down I
was like, all right, because we talked about like in Denver,
I'm like, I think in some areas maybe that's true.
Speaker 6 (01:36:28):
Like if I were in ultra conservative.
Speaker 4 (01:36:31):
District, if you're in a southern Baptist neighborhood, they're not
taking pictures with beer because it's hidden in the back
of their fridge, you know.
Speaker 7 (01:36:39):
But otherwise I just don't. I mean, don't get me wrong,
if you.
Speaker 4 (01:36:42):
Were like sloppy with your tie tied around your head
like it was down. We didn't make sure everyone behaved themselves.
Speaker 6 (01:36:49):
We don't need negative pictures coming yeah this event. But
we had a great time.
Speaker 12 (01:36:54):
We went downtown, we talked to people, and we all
had on the same hat, my campaign hat and people
would be like, what are those hats? Who are you guys?
And we would talk to them. We handed out cards
and we just we just had fun. We talked about
real stuff. A lot of the conversations weren't even about politics.
Just were meeting people and we met people from all
(01:37:16):
over and it was a great time.
Speaker 6 (01:37:17):
So it is. It is a unique.
Speaker 12 (01:37:21):
District where I think we could do something like that
and it comes across well, maybe some other districts. You
shouldn't have a pub crawl that's part of your campaign.
Speaker 4 (01:37:29):
I'm just gonna say it.
Speaker 3 (01:37:30):
You had fun.
Speaker 7 (01:37:31):
I think that's a genius move.
Speaker 4 (01:37:32):
It is a little bit reminiscent in a way of
Donald Trump's McDonald's experience yesterday. Yeah, that was great, and
I wanted to compliment you on the way you handled
represented a Caravello's attacks or they were they weren't really attacks.
Speaker 7 (01:37:46):
They were just kind of lobs across the.
Speaker 4 (01:37:47):
Mountain where she was trying to you. What did I say?
Speaker 6 (01:37:51):
You said, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (01:37:53):
I was like, wait, she said, Diana. She said something
to the effect of, well, you're a Trump supporter and
basically implying that you were just going to be another
lockstep Republican, which is hilarious considering her record. I mean,
I'm like, come on, but you handled it very well
(01:38:13):
by saying, look, I'm not afraid to stand up to
the Republican Party. And that was about the unfortunate you know,
Pride mailer that Dave Williams loves so much that he
keeps sending out.
Speaker 12 (01:38:23):
Yeah, one of my volunteers earlier that literally just hours
before that debate kind of gave me that talking point.
She's like, I've been researching her. She has never pushed
back against her party ever.
Speaker 4 (01:38:34):
Yep.
Speaker 12 (01:38:34):
She walks in lockstep with them one hundred percent of
the time.
Speaker 7 (01:38:38):
And you did a really, really good show.
Speaker 6 (01:38:40):
It was in my head. So when she said that,
I was like, well, here's an opening.
Speaker 4 (01:38:43):
There you go.
Speaker 12 (01:38:44):
I pushed back on my party. You never pushed back
on yours.
Speaker 6 (01:38:47):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (01:38:47):
Valdemir Angeletta is my guest. He is running for the
first congressional district seat currently head by Diana to get
not anyone named Caravale. But I'd really love for you
guys to support Valdemar. He is not only a really
good person, his outsider perspective would be very welcome for
(01:39:11):
Colorado in Congress, and this is such a long shot,
and we know it, but I am just so incredibly
proud of you for taking this.
Speaker 6 (01:39:20):
Excuse me, Okay, I gotta hear all hang on those
things happen.
Speaker 4 (01:39:28):
Yeah, I'm Marco Rubio. Now, I'm just so I got
some for doing what you're doing, because I do think
that the only way forward is to talk to people
that aren't normally talked to explain the commonalities, talk about
their value system, talk about the value system of the Democrats, sprinkly.
I mean, for someone of faith, it's it's a tough
(01:39:50):
lift right now. But the current candidate for a president anyway.
Speaker 12 (01:39:55):
Yeah, I mean, politics is a game of numbers, and
we need to do everything we can to increase numbers.
And you know, in Colorado, we don't have the luxury
of being able to push anyone away, and so I
don't I don't get some of these individuals in our
state who feel like they want to burn.
Speaker 4 (01:40:15):
It down so they can rule over the ashes.
Speaker 7 (01:40:17):
That's what it is.
Speaker 6 (01:40:18):
I don't know. Yeah, I mean makes sense, does anything else.
Speaker 4 (01:40:22):
Their power base over nine people is more important than
them than winning races. That's what it is. All right now.
Valdemar has reluctantly agreed to play of the day because
he says he's doing It's fine. No one is gonna
no one is listening. Why it's time for the most
exciting segment all the radio. It's kind in the world.
(01:40:46):
Ye in the world is so in the world it guys.
I did push my cough button, but Valdemar's mic is
on as well, so you were hearing me cough in
his mic. Sorry about that, Valdemore, What a breath of
a share a great interview. Vote for him.
Speaker 7 (01:41:02):
Get all your friends in the district one to vote for.
Speaker 4 (01:41:04):
What is our dad joke? Did you see?
Speaker 7 (01:41:06):
I have a list of one hundred Halloween jokes.
Speaker 6 (01:41:09):
Well, I have a three for Halloween.
Speaker 4 (01:41:10):
All right, here we go.
Speaker 8 (01:41:12):
My house is haunted by a chicken. It's a poultry, guys,
Oh my god, haunted by a foul spirit. I plan
to call an exorcist. That'll help it cross to the
other side.
Speaker 4 (01:41:25):
Wow, there was a lot going on in that entire
one joke situation there. So all right, what is our
word of the day? Please?
Speaker 6 (01:41:34):
Is a what is this adjective?
Speaker 4 (01:41:36):
Hey?
Speaker 8 (01:41:37):
Oh lid O L I D what old lid I
O l I D adjective. Here's a hint, something stinky,
maybe valdimar, maybe maybe old factory.
Speaker 6 (01:41:51):
Yeah, so it's a scented I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 8 (01:41:54):
Smells good like candle something fouls smelling.
Speaker 4 (01:41:59):
The time that I guessed. Basically, well, if you ever
need to pass gas yanked candle in them all, that's.
Speaker 8 (01:42:05):
Your jam right now indoors though apparently with bad candles,
remember the Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 4 (01:42:09):
Don't burn candles anymore. They're gonna kill you, all right?
What is our trivia question? That is, what does the
internet slang acronym TBT mean Thursday?
Speaker 7 (01:42:21):
Correct?
Speaker 4 (01:42:22):
It was popularized on Instagram, where users post old photos
on Thursdays and tag them hashtag tvt Okay, what is
our jeopardy category? You know you have to yell out?
Speaker 9 (01:42:31):
Just yell out?
Speaker 4 (01:42:32):
Volved, okay, vault because that's sort of that involved demark.
Speaker 8 (01:42:36):
What is it?
Speaker 3 (01:42:37):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (01:42:37):
I think you said my full name was too.
Speaker 4 (01:42:39):
Long and.
Speaker 7 (01:42:41):
Your parents hated you. What is going on?
Speaker 8 (01:42:45):
How generous is feeling today? You want to give them
a little, a little I'll.
Speaker 7 (01:42:48):
Give them the edge. I can wait until the end
of the question.
Speaker 8 (01:42:50):
Yes, okay, all right, we're going to oh sorry. The
category is let it roll?
Speaker 7 (01:42:55):
Okay roll roll r O L L or okay.
Speaker 2 (01:42:59):
R O L L.
Speaker 8 (01:43:00):
Usually means we're going to roll out this cylindrical wooden container.
Speaker 7 (01:43:05):
Manny, what is the barrel?
Speaker 8 (01:43:07):
That is?
Speaker 2 (01:43:07):
Correct?
Speaker 8 (01:43:09):
Sixty four million pieces of this chewy candy bearing the
nickname of its inventor's daughter, vell Val.
Speaker 6 (01:43:16):
I don't know toy roll correct?
Speaker 7 (01:43:18):
Hey, I was saying, and then I was like, that
can't be right?
Speaker 8 (01:43:22):
All right again, Valdemar, you can answer any times just
like you just did, because it's gonna be helpful here.
Alexa play never gonna give you up by this individual.
He sang it with food fighters in twenty seventeen, and
you've been him.
Speaker 7 (01:43:35):
Roll many What is rick?
Speaker 3 (01:43:36):
Roll?
Speaker 6 (01:43:37):
Correct?
Speaker 7 (01:43:38):
This heiny?
Speaker 8 (01:43:41):
This omnivore can roll into a ball and float on
its back. It's porcupine like signs val edge correct? Hey,
what we too used to tie? Did am so cute?
This last one is terrible? Permission to skip to an
event go ahead. Mark sixteen three asks who shall roll
(01:44:03):
us away? The stone from the door of this a
synonym for tomb t o NB.
Speaker 6 (01:44:10):
I told you, I warned you.
Speaker 4 (01:44:12):
I warned you wait, wait.
Speaker 8 (01:44:14):
Permission to still pass. I'm telling you it's terrible. Just
neither be that joke so pulture. Yeah, okay, yeah, let's
go with new category. Three syllable words to decide it
all time to do this recite to verbs inflected forms.
Speaker 6 (01:44:30):
I am, you are, she is, we are? You are
needing to blake?
Speaker 2 (01:44:37):
What?
Speaker 7 (01:44:37):
What is the category? Where were you?
Speaker 6 (01:44:40):
Three words in the answer to sales conjugate.
Speaker 4 (01:44:48):
My friend, You don't know conjugate, I know you, Valdemart.
Do I let people win a rod?
Speaker 6 (01:44:56):
No ever, I do.
Speaker 4 (01:44:57):
I do accept some limiting rules like I did today.
But you won that fair and square, don't. I used
to beat my six year old daughter at candy Land
because I didn't want it to think that we were
gonna let it grow.
Speaker 6 (01:45:07):
Good thing. I mean, you need to learn how to lose.
Speaker 7 (01:45:09):
Yeah, you did a great job, child.
Speaker 4 (01:45:12):
Anyway, Ryan Edwards is out at the sporty Pickle right now.
What's you guy coming up on Kawa Sports?
Speaker 11 (01:45:19):
Well, first of all, I echoed the sentiment, you never ever, ever,
ever let somebody win. Yeah, that doesn't happen now, But yes,
we're excited to be out here. Of course, we're gonna
be giveaway Broncos Panthers tickets for Sunday's game, which is
a pretty cool deal.
Speaker 4 (01:45:32):
You'll be able to see my husband do the parabolic mic.
Speaker 7 (01:45:35):
On the Sunday. I know everybody's excited about that.
Speaker 6 (01:45:38):
Yeah, very cool, awesome.
Speaker 11 (01:45:40):
Well, come on down here and then not only get
to go to the game, but you also.
Speaker 6 (01:45:43):
Get to see Mandy' husband. That's also a good reason.
Speaker 11 (01:45:46):
And then you get a free twenty out spearit just
by mentioning big out, which is always.
Speaker 2 (01:45:49):
A cool deal.
Speaker 6 (01:45:49):
At it down here.
Speaker 2 (01:45:50):
So all right, that's.
Speaker 4 (01:45:51):
Happening right now the Sporty Pickle over my valley, So
check that out.
Speaker 7 (01:45:55):
We'll be back tomorrow. Keep it right here on kay
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