34: Education Hot Seats, Reality Checks & a Red Flag Romance — with Colleen Borgert - Here Comes the Drama with Christa Innis

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(00:00):
Hi, Colleen.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you much.
I'm so excited.
I'm so excited to have you here.
I mean, I think I was telling you
before we started recording, like I came
across your stuff on, TikTok and ology.
Probably like, I don't even
know, time is funny, but it was
probably like over a year ago.
I just love the stuff you put out.
So thank you for taking the
time and being here today.
Thank you.

(00:20):
Yeah.
I've been on TikTok a little over three
years now and have been following you
and all of your wedding shenanigans
that you put out there and amongst
everything that's happening, like
you're really good comedic relief
for me, so I appreciate that.
Oh, good.
I love hearing that.
It's kind of goofy just how the
internet, I was just telling someone
it feels like, talent show on Phone,

(00:42):
you know, like you're scrolling.
And I just kind of like talent
showing when you're like in
elementary school and everyone's
like, Hey, check out what I got.
And then it's like the next
person, they're like, Hey,
check out what I have to say.
And it's just this funny world we live in
it really is.
You know, like I can envision myself
doing little somersaults on, the stage
in middle school being like, TA Yes.
And now here we are.

(01:03):
Oh my gosh.
So true.
I mean, you cover a lot of it too.
I feel like the world and everything
that's going on, it's just there's a lot
of negative things going on in the world.
Scary things.
And so I just, I feel like
maybe it's my way of detaching.
I don't know.
I don't know what it's, yeah.
But, um, but you know, and
things are really heavy right now and
they're really heavy for people of

(01:24):
all ages, especially in education and
that detachment piece, that's needed.
So we can get up every
day with a full bucket.
And get to work and keep changing lives.
So your detachment is my healing.
So I appreciate you so much.
Well, thank you.
I know.
I appreciate what you do too.
Can you tell everyone a little
bit about yourself, what you do,

(01:46):
and kind of how that pivoted into
what you share on social media?
Yeah.
So, this is gonna be my 15th year in
education and I've kind of always had
more of a social work type background.
And that's originally what
I got into TikTok for.
I was raising awareness to help build a
comfort closet for, kiddos in my school

(02:09):
that were from at-risk backgrounds.
So, I would put out items that we
needed, like toothbrush, socks,
toothpaste, deodorant, just to get
eyeballs on that Amazon wishlist link,
and then it kind of blew up from there.
And then.
After the election when everything
kind of in my world pivoted and changed

(02:30):
a little bit, so did my content.
because everything in the education
world is shifting and changing and I
wanted to let parents know, Hey, this is
happening in your neck of the woods, so
come on up to the front and hear about it.
So now I share more, educational laws

(02:51):
that are changing, things that are
adapting within the educational world.
I love that.
I feel like it's so important because
I've seen especially in your own content
too, people will sign off on things or
they're like, agree with something until
they really get to the nitty gritty and
they're like, wait, what's happening?
Wait, department of
Education's going away.
and they're like picking up these things.
They're like, wait, what

(03:11):
does that actually mean?
And they need people that are in it that
know the ins and outs to explain it.
Yeah.
And, and it's easy for every single person
to kind of wear a school hat in the sense
because they were a student at one point
in their lives, but the lens that they
see things through is that student lens
and maybe not what's behind the curtain.

(03:33):
So hopefully I can just pull that curtain
back for people and let them see the
nitty gritty of what things actually mean.
Yeah.
And so like of going back, what inspired
you to initially become an educator?
You said Did you start with social work
and you were kind of in that field and
then you kind of moved into teaching?
Yeah, so, I kind of was always
in the school social work realm.

(03:55):
And then just recently, a few years ago, I
kind of navigated more into the classroom
and now I work at a Catholic school.
So I'm a Catholic, English,
a second language director.
And what I do is I ensure kiddos
that do not have English as a first
language, have equitable education.
now more than ever.

(04:16):
That's extremely important.
I feel so passionate about this because
I also grew up in an extremely, like
poor environment, poor households.
So I know what it took to
like claw my way to get here.
And I know that if it's possible
for me, it's possible for other
kids if I can just be that adult

(04:37):
that I needed when I was younger.
So that's definitely what fuels me every
day that I get up and I go to school.
I love that I've, heard that quote before
about like, need to almost think about
who you needed as a child because that
should be kind of like who we are as
adults, because that's gonna kind of
put us back in that mind frame of like,
okay, I really need an adult to hear me.

(04:58):
I really needed an adult to
support me or understand me.
to make you feel seen and valid.
Yeah, absolutely.
I feel like that's such a pivotal
thing to remember because we get
kind of lost in the day to day.
And then especially as educators,
you want someone to really care.
Like, my daughter's too young for school
yet, but when she's in school, I'm like,

(05:18):
you want a teacher like that that's gonna
really think like, okay, they're gonna
hear everything I say or they're gonna
see me as a person, like even if I'm
quiet or, you know, those kind of things.
Absolutely.
And see the parent too, because the
parent is an important part of all that.
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
So do you think, so I know you've kind of
posted before about your content changing,

(05:38):
especially after the election, but I
think even before the election you were
kind of, talking a little bit more about
what could happen, these kind of things.
So with working at a Catholic
school, is it hard to kind of.
Do you have to stay in line with
certain things or say certain things?
I don't wanna like get you in
trouble either, so I wanna make sure
you're saying things that are okay.
Mm-hmm.
are there guidelines like can you say

(05:59):
certain things online or where does
that fall in line with your teaching?
Well, I think in general that
is kind of just a teacher box
that everyone has to stay in.
when it comes to my Catholic faith
and where I align, at first was really
nervous to kind of like go out in
those waters and let people know like,
Hey, I'm not a public school teacher.

(06:19):
I'm a Catholic school teacher.
But once I showed people that.
I am here for all kids regardless of
religion, race, background, culture.
People started to see my authentic,
views that I wanted to present and
the information that I was giving
people and it was well received.

(06:40):
There are definite lanes that you
have to stay in, as a teacher.
And then I think my lane is just
a tad bit smaller being a Catholic
school teacher, but the things
that I am bringing are fact-based.
Educational laws to people.
So I'm really proud of that.
And I think as long as I
stay in my lane, I'm good.

(07:00):
And I've had a lot of wonderful
support from my school community.
they have backed me up 110%.
they believe that every child has the
right to a free and equitable education
as I do regardless of race and religion.
So it's been really good.
but at the end of the day, I'm an
adult and I have to be able to control

(07:21):
what I say to stay in that lane.
Yeah, no, absolutely.
No, I love it.
I love that they're, behind you.
'cause I mean, just in general with like
content creators, like just different
jobs, I've heard different stories where
they're like, you can't say this, you
can't post this, you can't do this.
so it's really good to hear that
there's like supportive, schools
and communities out there.
chair, like a pivotal moment in

(07:41):
your life that kind of shaped
how you approach teaching.
I think one thing that changed my view
on how I view all kids in the classroom
is my son was diagnosed with Tourette's
Syndrome when he was in kindergarten and.
As a parent, just hearing that diagnosis,
not knowing what that looks like, in

(08:02):
our lives, let alone in the classroom,
surrounded by, kids he does not know.
it really made me like peel back my
eyelids and open my eyeballs to every
single kid has something different
that's going on inside of them.
Every single kid that is in front
of me is going to feel one way

(08:23):
or another on a certain day.
And my son deserved to have a teacher
that was like, okay, you are different
and you're unique and that's wonderful.
And how are we going to ensure that
you get the exact same care and
attention as every single other kiddo.
In here.
And I think as we're looking at things

(08:45):
today that are happening politically.
We have to remember that we
are all just one diagnosis away
from having a unique child.
we're one car accident away from
having a child that might need to
be in a wheelchair that is going
to need different accommodations
and is going to need a teacher that
is, loving and caring and will do

(09:05):
absolutely everything for your kid.
Like they would for Susie Hugh, who
is always there 20 minutes early,
raising our hand star reader.
Mm-hmm.
Like every single child is different.
And I want my kid to have a
teacher that loves on him.
Like I love on every single baby that I

(09:26):
see every single day of the school year.
Mm-hmm.
So, like his diagnosis,
it was rough for us.
It was scary.
We didn't know what that would look like.
So that was hard.
yeah.
Such an important thing because you
said, anything can change in a minute.
I think.
A lot of times people just like look at
like, what's gonna affect me and me only?
Mm-hmm.
And if you look outside and say like,

(09:47):
well, how is this affecting other people?
Or how is it affecting that family?
Or how is it affecting this family
that leads to more compassion
and empathy and understanding.
I think that's really
what the world lacks.
Because, because, not to like generalize,
but I just feel like those are the
things I've observed is there's a certain
group of people that let's look at like,
well, it doesn't bother me, so I'm fine.

(10:08):
Right.
It's like what anything can
change, anything could happen.
Like you said, like emergencies
happen all the time I don't know.
Things, just can change quickly.
That's such a good thing to think about.
okay.
I wanna switch into the
wedding, kind of topic.
And as I was kind saying to you before we
started recording is I'm kinda shifting
these podcast episodes a little bit
different to like more conversations

(10:28):
in the beginning, but I still haven't
kind of figured it out a transition.
Sometimes it just happens naturally
and other times I'm like, all
right, so onto the wedding stuff.
So sorry if it seems kind of abrupt.
We're working on it.
No first timer here.
I think it seems fabulous.
Okay.
I was just like talk my way through stuff.
or like, what is it called?
Not talk my way through it.
I don't know, I just like when

(10:49):
I dunno what I'm doing, I just
keep talking and figuring it out.
Girl.
Same.
And you're hand talker.
So, oh my gosh.
The number of people, when I first
started making content that would
like, hate comments about like
me using my hands, I was like,
I dunno, I don't know.
Yeah.
It just happens.
I get the same.
And then my next video I come
out 10 times harder just like.

(11:10):
You thought it was bad before, just wait.
I know, right?
It's like, I will make sure I do it now.
Well, yeah.
And so one comment I got last night was,
because you know, I do like the skits
and stuff, but every once in a while I
come on and I'll like explain something
or I'll give like a little background.
Someone basically was like,
no one likes when you do that.
Like, don't come on and explain things.
We're here for the skits

(11:31):
and the skits only.
Don't talk and waste our time.
People are so rude
keyboard warriors nowadays.
Like, it's absolutely ridiculous.
It's, I know, it's crazy.
I just have to
laugh at the ridiculous ones.
Okay, so starting off,
let's do a little, wedding.
Would you rather Ooh.
Completely Just random.

(11:54):
So, okay.
Um, some of them might be a little
tied to being a teacher, but then
we're gonna do like other ones.
So here we go.
Okay.
Would you rather have to teach a
class of 30 kids in full bridesmaid
attire or chaperone recess in high
heels the day after a wedding?
Oh my goodness gracious.
Well, with the amount of dancing that

(12:15):
I do and the way that I get into shout
and put my hands up in the air, yeah,
I'm definitely gonna go with the 30
kids in the classroom like, yeah.
A bridesmaids dress.
I love a good dress up
any day of the week.
Yes, I know.
It's a fun excuse to have like
a princess day or something.

(12:35):
Right.
Like since Wynn is dressing up bad at
school, so I totally will take that.
But my 41-year-old body nowadays after
wedding dancing, I can't like, oh my gosh.
Beautiful day recovery and yeah.
No
fun.
Yeah, I know.
It's funny how that like just changes
all of a sudden, when people have
like the full wedding weekend, I
need like one big day and then I

(12:56):
need like a couple days of recovery.
Thank you.
Yes.
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.
after a good wedding,
Oh my gosh.
Okay.
would you rather give a wedding toast
with no preparation or do the Chacha slide
solo in front of the whole reception?
Oh my gosh.
Chacha real smooth now.
Mm. I would much rather.

(13:17):
I think just give a wedding toast.
I'm a group dancer, but solo
dancing, like my face drops.
Like my face gets serious.
it's not very cool to look at.
I don't think anyone would want
that, but hand me a mic and I, you
know, cheers the bride and groom.
That's something I can Get behind.
Yeah.
Yeah.
All right.

(13:38):
would you rather attend a wedding
where the ceremony lasts three hours?
Or one where the DJ only plays kids?
Bop.
Oh, okay.
that's a tough one.
Oh man.
this is almost like, would you
rather go to a three hour PD or
do a kids bop after school hour?
Oh my gosh.

(13:59):
think I know, I think I'm gonna still
go with the three hour ceremony.
Oh, I
know.
At least.
it's quiet.
At
least it's quiet.
Oh my gosh.
I think I would go kids b really?
Every once in a while.
I don't know if it's 'cause
of my daughter's too.
And so every once in a while, like

(14:20):
I get really into those kids bumps.
I mean, we, I mean they, they are catchy.
They're, they're catchy.
Luckily she's really into Wicked now.
So we listen to the Wicked
soundtrack, but play, I love it.
But, I love a good, Disney,
so I don't know about Kids.
Bop we'll see how that would go.
But I
think it's because when I imagine kids
bop, like I imagine like kindergartners.

(14:41):
All up on me, you know, like
jamming with me with their hands
going down, you know, like yeah.
That's just the vision that
I have from the experiences.
So yours and mine, maybe
a little different.
Yeah.
Different vibe.
Yeah.
would you rather sit at the all
singles table with ex students?

(15:02):
parents, or be seated
next to the couple's ex.
Oh my gosh.
I actually would take the
parent table for sure.
Yeah.
Without a doubt.
I have been really blessed with
wonderful parents I did eight years
in public school and I'm still
connected to so many of my public
school parents that I love and adore.

(15:22):
And the last like five years
in the Catholic school system,
I've been really lucky, so.
Oh good.
I bet that table's really fun.
Signed up.
Yeah.
like all those parents,
like letting loose.
I bet it would be like a great table,
right?
Yes.
Love that.
A
for everybody.
Yes.
Okay.
Would you rather wear a neon bridesmaid
dress that clashes with your skin

(15:43):
tone or have your name spelled
wrong on every wedding program?
Oh my goodness.
So I am the worst speller in the world.
I can totally see me misspelling
something in my own wedding.
I probably did to be honest.
I also wore the wrong colored
bridesmaid's dress in my
cousin's wedding two years ago.
So I've done that as well.

(16:05):
but I'm still gonna have to go
with if that bride wants me to
wear, the worst color in the world.
But she is like, this is my vision.
I've got you.
I'm ride or die for the bride.
you strike me as someone that would
be like a really great bridesmaid.
you're like hands on.
You're like, what do you need?
I got you.
Like, I just get that vibe from you.
Well, until, until literally you see

(16:27):
that I bought the wrong color, which
is before we're walking down the aisle.
So there when you're
walking down the aisle,
oh my gosh.
We walked into like the get ready room
where all the dresses are hanging up.
And the maid of honor comes up to
me and she's like, oh, Pauline.
Have you seen your dress?
And I'm like, yeah, it's hanging up.
It's so cute.

(16:47):
She's like, it's the wrong color.
So everyone had gotten
like a shade of sage.
Okay.
And mine was just a different
shade of sage green.
And
you could tell So it from
different like places or like,
she told you oh, get it sage.
And just sent like a picture of
what she liked and then everyone
just went and got thrown or, so I
confirmed via text and

(17:08):
I've always got receipts.
I pulled that out and before I bought it
I was like, this is the color correct.
And she said, correct.
But the bride, my cousin,
she was so relaxed.
She's like, I don't care.
cause I'm crying at this point.
Aw.
She's like, I don't care.
You're walking down the aisle.
You know, I'm like,
I'll stand in the back.
I don't have to be in the wedding.
Like, oh,

(17:29):
was it that different?
it was like one shade lighter.
you could,
you could tell,
you could tell I ruined the
wedding pictures for sure.
Oh.
But you know, this is the family.
She was a great, I mean, she's just a
great person, so I got really lucky.
but yeah, whatever the bride
needs me to do, I'm gonna do it.
Oh my gosh.
I feel like, especially now too, it's

(17:49):
like I've seen it more weddings where the
bridesmaid dresses don't exactly match.
I know.
I actually love that.
Yeah, I know.
I feel like it's adding
a little more uniqueness.
I think, like at my wedding it was from
Birdie Gray, which is like, you can order
them all online, they're under a hundred
dollars you can pick like a color scheme.
So like, mine was like mov, but
there's like three shades of mov
and people are like, what color?

(18:09):
I'm like, I don't care.
any of them.
Any of them,
they're gonna look so pretty.
I feel like gone are the days where
people wear the exact same dress.
Right.
Maybe I'm sure it happens
here and there, but
Yeah.
And in my wedding, I just did black satin.
All the girls just had to do a black
satin and it needed to be like t
length and didn't care other than

(18:30):
that, so yeah, it was really unique.
I love the non-uniform look.
Yeah.
And that's probably the Catholic school
teacher in me coming out being like,
eh, we don't need a uniform up in here.
We're
done with the uniforms, please.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
Okay.
Let's move into some wedding
hot takes and stories.

(18:51):
You said you have a story of
how you met your husband at a
wedding, so let's get into that.
Okay, so I met Mr. Borger.
we were both in the same wedding party
for my cousin almost 16 years ago.
And, he kind of clocked me right away
and was that's the girl I wanna marry.
So we got to the reception,

(19:13):
danced a little bit.
there was definite connection early on.
We both went our own ways.
the next week he called my
cousin, old school, got my number,
called me on the telephone.
I heard this man's voice
who does that anymore?
So un heard of these days.
I know.
And he asked me out on a date and

(19:35):
we have been together ever since.
But yeah, he went up to my cousin who
was the bride, and said, I just want
you to know I'm gonna marry that girl.
And
oh my gosh, that's like a romantic story.
I know I love, love.
Oh my God.
So how is he connected to the wedding?
Like was he like a groomsmen or He

(19:55):
was I guess your cousin's husband.
Yes, friend.
He was, a longtime childhood
friend of the groom.
Okay.
So now they get to be at family
functions together and we're
like pretty our kids together.
So it's.
wonderful.
I love that when they're already
kind of like connected, so there's
like no extra introduction.
you got an in, he's got an in.

(20:18):
and then for you, it was a family wedding,
so your family was probably already there.
did he like meet your parents then
at the wedding and everything?
I don't know if he necessarily
like, met them at the wedding.
Yeah.
But was invested in the fun that
my family can have for sure.
We are in good time, so I love that.
Yeah, he was there for it.

(20:38):
Oh, that's awesome.
I love that story.
'cause like, usually when I ask people
crazy stories, they're like, I mean, I
try to not put people on the spot, but,
I love that it was like
a positive good story.
Yes.
Because I always tell people, I'm like,
people just remember these crazy moments.
That's why I share them.
But like for the most part, there
are so many great wedding stories

(20:58):
and like fun moments and just
like, wild moments about, yes.
Things hanging out.
Awesome.
I love that.
Okay, let's get into
some wedding hot takes.
Okay.
These are people send me on Instagram.
We'll just kind of react together
and see uh, what our thoughts are.
Okay.
This one says buffets over plated
dinners faster, more variety and Fewer

(21:19):
awkward chicken and steak dinners.
so there was one summer, like my
husband and I had been married for maybe
like two years, and we legit had 10
weddings from like May until September.
mm-hmm.
He's five years older than
me, so my friends were in like
prime time wedding season.
Mm-hmm.
And it was almost every single wedding had

(21:42):
the same chicken with that white gravy.
I think it might.
Oh yeah.
Like on top with the mashed potatoes
and everybody thinks that they're
doing something special when
they're not, like it's just boring.
But one of our friends catered
in Qdoba at their wedding.
And I have never forgotten it.

(22:03):
I have never forgotten the Qdoba wedding.
And I hope that if this airs they
hear this and they know how special
their Qdoba wedding was to me.
So, I'm a fan of a buffet, you know,
poor girl from a poor neighborhood.
We loved our buffets growing up.
so I don't mind a good
buffet at a wedding.
I know.
I was just saying to someone, like

(22:24):
when I was younger at weddings, I
was like, years from getting married,
I was like, oh yeah, I wouldn't,
I don't think I would do a buffet.
I like the plated dinner.
And then as I got older I
was like, I love a buffet.
Like I just love it.
And then of course when I got
married I did a taco bar and I
was like, this is where it's at.
Oh, you did the, you did
the taco.

(22:45):
There are people that came to your
wedding that 20 years from now are
gonna be like, I went to a taco of our
wedding and it's going to be you girl.
Yeah.
That is the wedding that
they are referencing.
It's yours.
I was just like, I. Never really was a
big fan of plated dinners unless they're
like, I don't know, every once in a while.
Yeah.
Like surprised me.

(23:06):
Really good.
But I also worked at a hotel for,
gosh, three years in college.
I would saw all the banquet foods and
I saw them and not like saying they
were gross or anything, but like I
saw how they would keep 'em warm and I
just, I don't know, just not my thing.
And so I was like, when there's a
buffet though, you take what you want.
Maybe go for seconds, get a
little guacamole in there.

(23:26):
We're good.
Yes.
I'm here for it.
I'm here for it.
And I love that you did.
I can't believe it.
You did Taco.
I know.
You're
seko.
Dopa.
I was like, yes.
It was pretty close.
It was like a local
place, but it was perfect.
Like perfect.
Yes.
Yeah.
And people appreciate it.
And pizza for a late night snack.
Yes.
the best weddings that bring out that
11:00 PM like fill your belly up snack.

(23:49):
The best.
Yes.
Oh, it's the best.
okay.
This next one says, not every
wedding needs a first dance.
Some couples just wanna party, so let them
I agree.
Like if you don't want
to do it, don't do it.
This is your special day.
Who am I to say that you have to do
something to make me feel special
or this whole thing makes sense.

(24:12):
Yeah.
That doesn't make any sense to me.
I know, and I've heard of
parents fighting back on it and
being like, no, you need this.
And it's like they don't wanna
be the center of attention.
They don't want that big moment.
it's okay.
Like no one should be forced to
do anything at their wedding that
they aren't comfortable with, or
that just doesn't interest them.
Right.
Did you do a first dance.
I did.
Yes, we did
too.

(24:32):
Now, don't get me wrong, I love it.
I love, I love a first dance.
Yeah.
But if they
don't want it, they don't want it.
Yeah.
A hundred percent.
We did a I'm gonna mess
up the word choreographed.
We practiced ourself.
Oh my gosh.
We are not
dancers either of us.
I'm not.
Okay.
So when are you posting that to TikTok?

(24:53):
I might have years ago.
I'm trying to think.
I might have to repost it.
I'm gonna get my scroll game
on.
I know.
I
gotta think about what I posted it.
probably not in a long time 'cause
people were like asking about it
once so we watched YouTube because I
was like, okay, one lesson I always
learn brides, if you're listening
was take some kind of dance course.
You don't have to like pay for it.
If you are doing a first dance,

(25:14):
you don't have to like pay for it.
There's free ones on YouTube, right.
and so we started doing that,
like just to learn like the steps.
So we, because I've gone to so many
weddings where you can tell they've
literally never danced together.
Right.
They stand there and they
just like look awkward.
They just sway and they're
like leaving lots of room for Jesus.
You know?
It's
like, come on guys.
let's not have that first time you guys

(25:35):
ever like, get in a room, dance together,
be like in front of a hundred people.
Right?
Right.
So like I knew I didn't
want that awkward moment.
So like, we did our step practicing
and then as we were watching, or
like YouTube, it was like suggestive
videos and it was like Taylor
Swift, oh gosh, what song is it?
pick your voice in.
It's
can, I'm gonna sing it and I can't sing.

(25:56):
Can I go where we can?
I can't sing.
Hold on, hold on.
I'm a swifty.
Give it to me.
Be this clo forever and ever.
And, and take me.
Huh?
And with a, that called
you're my, my lover.
Lover.
Lover.
I knew we'd get there eventually.

(26:16):
Yeah.
Okay.
So it was to lover.
Love that.
Yeah.
And there was a
really cute dance on YouTube
and they showed what to do.
So we did like a little spin.
He like picked me up in the end.
Oh.
And we didn't tell
anyone we were doing it.
So it was likes you
had like your, baby moment from
dirty dancing where he like Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Little less graceful than that, but Yeah.

(26:37):
But I do love that you told brides that
they could just get on YouTube, like
they don't have to spend their money.
Yeah.
Just hop on YouTube.
I love that you remind people
of that it doesn't have to
break the bank to be special.
Yeah, exactly.
Like, we literally did it in
our apartment living room and we
just practiced like every week.
I think we was like, Monday nights
we're gonna practice our dance.

(26:57):
Yay.
Okay.
next one is no ring, no
bring is totally fair.
Sorry to your new hinge date of two weeks.
What are your thoughts
on No ring, no bring.
Oh my thought.
Okay.
So my husband did not get invited to
a second cousin of mine's wedding.

(27:18):
We were not engaged.
We got engaged the next month.
Okay.
And during the time I was like, I can't
believe they won't let me bring him.
why would they not?
Mm-hmm.
And now that I have children of my
own and I see the cost of things I see
more of like that behind the curtain.
Mm-hmm.
I
can see that and I can

(27:39):
respect it for what it is now.
Yeah.
I tell you.
But when I was in the moment, it felt
like, oh, my partner isn't allowed to
be here, but I can understand it now.
I can respect it now.
Yeah.
No, I, I totally get that.
I had a similar thing, it was
my second cousin's wedding.
Gosh, I don't even know

(27:59):
how long ago it was.
My Now husband and I were just
dating, but we were living together
for years and they like it was weird.
It was like they invited all of us,
I can't remember, there was something
weird about it, we were like, oh, I
didn't know if they like, didn't know
his name or something like, weird,
but like I had been with him like
longer than this couple had been.
So like they'd met him many times.

(28:20):
this is your person at this point box.
Yeah.
This is like very clearly my person.
Yeah.
Like he like plus one of the other
weddings in the family, like, he'd
been to their house and then this
second cousin, it was like a fairly
like quick which no hate or anything.
Of course.
that's awesome.
Right.
But it was fairly quick.
So like, they had been together like a
short time and like he wasn't invited
and I was like, oh, I'm just making sure.

(28:41):
And again, now looking back, I was
not like super close with them.
So I was like, I get it.
And I ended up just going
with my mom and my sister.
Yeah.
Which, you know, tho those
can be fun times too.
And it was fun, you know, like
unexpected fun moments without, the
old ball and chain that's fun too.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
And I do think there's a difference
between, you had been dating your now

(29:02):
boyfriend for years and I was almost
engaged versus like, oh, two weeks ago
I met Jimmy, down at the gas station.
Yeah.
Can he come too?
that's
different to me.
I know.
I just read this crazy Reddit story
this morning where it was like.
This girl was demanding to be invited
to her boyfriend of a few months

(29:22):
wedding, like, or his friend's wedding.
And he was like, oh, I
don't get a plus one.
And she's like, well, I'm your girlfriend.
I should be able to go.
And he's like, well,
they didn't gimme one.
I'm a groomsman.
I don't really wanna start anything.
And she's like, no, if you really
like me, you need to like bring me.
And that's where I'm like,
it's only three months.
Mm-hmm.
He's probably only
least friends for years.
I don't see why you have to

(29:43):
automatically give a plus one.
Right.
I agree.
I agree with that.
it's very nuanced.
I think in a lot of it, it's
not all black and white.
It's kind of like each individual
thing is gonna have different.
Rules.
Right?
we didn't do kids at our wedding.
We had a no kid wedding.
but our final total, even after we got
all the nos for our RSVPs, we were up

(30:04):
to like 370 people with no children.
Woo.
and that is hard for people to grasp too,
what do you mean I can't bring my kids?
Yeah.
But when
you are from such a ginormous family
When you eliminate those kids,
you're able to say, okay, my second
cousins can now come and, you know.

(30:24):
Yeah.
So I think we have to remember to pull
back the curtain on everything and
kind of say there's always more back
there than what we initially think.
Oh my gosh.
375 people,
too many.
That is insane.
it was like 360 people.
Too many.
Let me tell you, if you were
to do it again, do you think

(30:45):
you would do it a lot smaller?
I would do it so differently.
it would be much smaller, quaint,
and just a few close people, and I
would probably want to do a surprise.
And just if you wanted to show
up at this random thing I invited
you to, you get to come to my way.
Oh, I love that.
Yeah.
I love that.
I know, I think it's with age, we're

(31:06):
kind of like, because I always tell
people if I were to get married in
my early twenties or something, I
think I would've gone way too big.
Invited way too many people.
Mm-hmm.
I had just been outta college
or something, so I'd probably
had like all my college friends.
Yes.
My bridesmaids.
And it's like now here I am, 15 years or
ish out of college and I'm like doing the
quick math out of college and I'm like.

(31:29):
Half those people I don't
even talk to anymore.
So I'm like, I would not have
wanted them at the wedding.
'cause then they're gonna be
all these pictures like, Right.
And that's exactly how it,
and I'm blessed and lucky and it's
easy for me to be, to say now,
like, oh, I would do it differently.
But that's because I got that moment.
Mm-hmm.
You know, I got the big moment
of, all my friends, all my family.
But yeah.
I don't talk to the majority of

(31:51):
the people that were there at
no fault of theirs or mine life.
Just, I'm just, yeah.
You know, just happens.
Mm-hmm.
Did you get pushback with
the no kids at your wedding?
I did.
There were a couple people
that gave me pushback.
a couple family members
and a couple friends.
one of my bridesmaids had had her
daughter like two weeks before the

(32:13):
ceremony, so she brought her daughter
to like, feed her parents came
things like that didn't bother me.
Yeah.
But if I knew if I let.
One family bring their two kids,
then the next family had, and then
before you know it, it's 500 people.
Right.
And you know, so it's not that the
children, it was more so just I

(32:34):
needed the number as low as possible
to be able to invite all those
people I no longer see anymore.
Right.
And then you wanted to be equal
playing ground for everybody.
Right.
For everybody.
Totally makes sense.
Yeah.
That's one thing people don't realize.
And a lot of the stories I get, they're
like, just make me the exception.
Oh, my kids are fine.
It's like, well, you don't
understand if I let you bring
your two kids and then yours.
And then I read a story the other day

(32:56):
where an aunt was told it was just the
aunt and uncle, and then she RSVP'd for.
Her adult children who are four kids,
their significant others and their kids.
so she wrote in on the card
15 or something, extra people.
I can't
like you're not talking
to one extra person.
You're talking three extra tables.
Two extra tables,
yeah.

(33:16):
Like in what world and in what mind
does that aunt think that that is okay?
Like I can't wrap my mind around
people that do things like that.
But there's people out there that do it.
Mm-hmm.
All the time.
Yes.
It's crazy.
it's again that mind frame of me.
this is gonna affect me if I can't
do it this way, or Oh, it's fine.

(33:37):
Right.
I'm the exception.
She loves me so much.
Yeah.
I'm her favorite aunt.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And it's so funny 'cause when I'm
like acting them out, I'm like,
oh gosh, this is so dramatic.
I'm making this 10 times
worse than it probably is.
And people will comment and they'll be
like, no, that exact thing happened to me.
Or like, that is exactly what, yeah.
Talk that way.
Yeah.
I'm just like, oh man, this is wild.

(34:04):
Okay.
Let's get into this week's
wedding story submission.
So, as always, I've not read this yet, so
feel free to stop me at any time and react
or we'll just kind of react together.
Okay.
Here we go.
Hello Krista.
I just wanna say I love your skits.
I have a story that still
blows my mind years later.
I'm not sure if it's juicy
enough to be considered drama,
but it was wild for sure.

(34:25):
Back in October of 2013, I started dating
a man who was seven years older than me.
I was 23 and he was 30.
He had a younger sister who was
exactly one month older than me.
She was the baby of the family and
never did anything wrong in their eyes.
She was also a teacher, which becomes
important later because I'd always wanted

(34:46):
to be an elementary school teacher,
but had to pay for college on my own.
Most of his family lived in New York or
Florida, which also plays a role later.
Okay,
hold on.
So we've got a 30-year-old man.
Mm-hmm.
Dating a 23-year-old.
23-year-old?
Yes.
Okay.
And sister, who's also 23 is my Okay.

(35:07):
Teacher.
Got it.
Out of state relatives?
Yes.
Okay.
By May, 2014, my then boyfriend
had been in and out of the hospital
several times for various issues, even
having surgery to remove his appendix.
He thanked me for being by his side
through everything and bought me a nice
coach bag to show his appreciation.

(35:27):
I had never owned a designer purse before.
Then he asked my youngest sister for
help planning something my sister knew.
I absolutely hated surprises
and told me he wanted to
propose and ask for suggestions.
So she's just like, this
is what he wants to do.
Okay.
They met in October, 2013 by May, 2014.

(35:48):
So is it like a year and.
No, not even, no, that's
just like six months.
Oh, that's like six months later.
November, December, January, February.
Yeah, that's like five, six months.
Oh, wow.
Okay.
Okay.
We are going, went
along.
Okay.
She gave him several ideas, so
I wouldn't know which one he'd
pick or when it would happen.
He also asked my biological dad for

(36:08):
permission, which was odd because
I'd always been closer with my mom.
Okay.
Mm-hmm.
You would think he would know
that, but maybe not in five months.
I mean only six months.
Who knows?
Yeah.
in June, 2014, he proposed and I
said, yes, his youngest sister.
so now his youngest sister planned
a visit to our town in July, 2014

(36:31):
to see one of her guy friends.
she messaged her brother.
Okay.
I'm like drawing my head.
Yeah.
Oh yeah.
Duh.
Oh my gosh.
Saying she wanted to see him and meet me.
Okay.
So they hadn't met.
And she's getting ma. Okay.
So she has yet to meet even
his family at this point?
Yeah, and they're engaged.

(36:52):
okay.
So she was just giving us
background on the sister, but at
this point they hadn't even met.
So he meets this girl and
proposes in six months.
She hasn't met the family.
Maybe they don't live, comes in town.
Right.
So she comes in town
when she wants to meet.
We planned everything around her
visit, but when she arrived, she met
up with her friend and blew us off.
Oh, okay.

(37:14):
To this.
Oh, it gets better.
I have never met her
to this day.
Hold on.
Pause.
Pause one.
They're still together.
I don't know if she
just wrote to this day.
I've never met her.
oh.
So I'm like really confused,
we're talking 11 years later.
And that 2014, unless I'm reading, is
weird, flabbergasted.

(37:35):
Like, so there's nothing to
indicate if they are still
together, except the phrase.
To this day, I still have not met her.
Yeah, Okay.
Let's see what happens next.
But I'm pretty sure she means
like she just blew her off
that time and then that was it.
I don't know.
Okay.
She says we set our wedding date
for Saturday, October 25th, 2014.
So about a year after they met, no one

(37:56):
from his family was able to attend.
a So Sister blew them off,
doesn't go to meet her.
And then no one from his
family can just make it red.
That's red flag.
Red flags are everywhere for me.
They're, popping.
I'm sorry to this.
I mean, I don't know what happens next.
So, I'm sorry to this person
that, sent this in, but I'm just
like, this is all very fast.

(38:18):
Yeah.
And weird that his family can't show up.
Right.
And I think the age is like,
the red flags are like popping
and I'm like, hold on a second.
So I'm excited to hear what comes next.
Yes.
'cause I'm trying to put
it all together in my mind.
Yeah, same.
I know I've got like the family
tree going on right here.
Yeah, drawing here.
okay.
so no one from his family was able to

(38:39):
attend, but they planned to watch the
ceremony live on his sister and like, oh,
2014, is that like what on, like,
how do you watch it live in 2014?
Yeah,
because Facebook Did you like Zoom?
Like I don't even remember Facebook
Live in 2014 because was I in 2014?
Oh, I was having a baby.
Okay, you're like where?

(39:00):
Yeah, I was having a baby.
You were.
But yeah.
How do you I don't know
because I remember, okay, I
was working at trade show.
I honestly think it was 2014 one
of my first jobs outta college.
my manager, I worked in marketing
and she was like, look at this
new app where you can live stream.
And I remember her showing me,
and that was before Facebook
Lives and stuff, because then I

(39:20):
think it was bought by Facebook.
she had something, she had something,
something maybe even like FaceTime
and you could FaceTime then, right?
don't even know.
I
feel like I still had
a flip phone back then.
Like with the A, B, C texting,
you know, like, dun, dun dun.
Oh my gosh.
You had to hit it like three.
I mean, you're so young.
Did you ever have a phone like that?
I'm not that much younger
than you, honestly.

(39:41):
Oh, you look amazing Ellie.
How you tell me you're younger than me?
I'm turning 35 this year.
Okay.
Yes.
You are a baby.
You are a baby.
Is that what, five years?
That's not seven.
Seven.
it's funny though.
I see seven.
Oh, okay.
Well, I don't know.
Yeah, it's all, it's alright.
It's all I feel like I'm
at the age where like.

(40:02):
I was gonna say I have friends in
their twenties, but I'm like, I don't,
I guess I have some friends in their
twenties, but I have friends in their
four, you know, like it's Right.
You're
now to the point where
you can go both sides.
Yeah.
I mean, I had an hour long
conversation with my like 85-year-old
neighbor last night and it was
the best, like, I love chatting
with her age doesn't matter to me.
Yeah.
it's funny, I like see 2014 and
it also feels like yesterday and
then I'm like, wait a second.

(40:23):
I have to remind myself,
we're like in the 20.
That was a long time ago.
Yeah, it was a while ago.
Oh my gosh.
okay, she says, then on his sister's
birthday, September 26th, we're giving
some personal details though, so
hopefully they don't listen to this.
he was in the hospital again.
I had no cell service and was too focused
on my fiancé The next day I reached out to

(40:45):
her, to which, her belated happy birthday.
So I'm confused.
So.
She says they never met.
Maybe they just mean in person.
So she talked to her.
I think she has to meet in person.
yeah, because she came in town
in July, the sister blew her off.
Mm-hmm.
And then I'm thinking
September he gets sick.
And then the wedding is in October.

(41:05):
Yeah.
That's what it sounds like.
Yeah.
So, so they just haven't met in person.
They're a, B, C, texting
each other, right?
Yeah.
On their flip list.
Texting.
okay.
So she reached out to Wish her a
belated happy birthday and apologized
for missing it the day before.
She completely lost it on me,
calling me a horrible person for
ignoring her on her birthday.

(41:25):
No hard pass.
Yeah.
we're not like five or six years old
where we like, at this point, if she
was praying 24, you can survive one
day.
Right.
And your brother's in the hospital.
Yeah.
Like, that's another flags.
Huge red flag.
Yes.
where are his parents in all of this?
like she hasn't really mentioned them
except that they're just not coming.

(41:47):
They're not coming.
Which is weird ' cause it says
family's in New York and Florida.
They're in, Kansas City.
It says.
Then she insulted me saying she was a
teacher and I was too dumb to finish
college and get my teaching license.
Oh no.
Just missing a birthday by one day and

(42:08):
being with your brother in the hospital.
Oh no.
College.
you go to college, it does not make
you any smarter than anybody else.
I don't get that many Gives, gives you
a set of tools to be able to do a job.
It doesn't equate to being
smarter than anybody.
Right?
Yeah.
And don't, I just don't get

(42:29):
that mentality of like mm-hmm.
Oh, I went to college and you
didn't, it's like you probably went
to college 'cause you had either a
privilege to go to college, right?
You had funds to go to college.
you don't know the full story of,
and you'll just choose not to.
And that it's ally.
Okay.
And there's no one's smarter
if we're going or not going.
Right?
Oh
yeah.
That, that would, be like a,

(42:50):
I would feel that as a knife.
Mm-hmm.
Like that comment to me
that would stay with me.
I feel like I'd carry that for a while.
Yeah.
Oh, for sure.
it says, after that she
blocked me on everything.
My fiancé was upset for a moment and then
defended her saying That's just who she
is, and she'll come around Soon enough.
No, someone that says that

(43:11):
they're not coming around And
that's also like, that is your
fiancé
Mm-hmm.
This is the person that you're
getting ready to say I do to And
you're just, he's just gonna be
okay with people being mean to you.
Yeah.
And see, this is where, again, I don't
know the rest of the story, so I'm
sorry if it works out a different way,
but like, I hope, I don't know, maybe

(43:33):
it doesn't work out, but like someone
that jumped the gun really quickly
to someone that was much younger than
him and was like, let's move fast.
Six months from now we're getting engaged.
My family's not gonna be there.
I don't know.
I'm getting some bad
vibes and I don't, yes.
So
I live by the rule that whoever
you date, if you can subtract that
amount of years and you wind up under

(43:56):
the age of 18, it shouldn't happen
yet.
So, so if you subtract her
age by their distance Yes.
Yeah.
Of seven years.
Yeah.
Then I'm like, Hmm, that's
icky to me a little bit.
Mm-hmm.
not to say that it, won't work
out, and I hope that it did,
and I hope that they're happy.
But that age gap, the life experiences

(44:19):
that people have are so vastly different.
Yeah.
You know, a 30-year-old to a
37-year-old, they've had a lot
of similar life experiences.
you minus that number and it's
like, okay, they've been a, grown
adult for a long time, so it's not
necessarily the number that I get.
Tripped up on.
Yeah, it is.

(44:39):
How much life experience is attached
to those numbers?
No, that's a really good point.
'cause people are always like,
well, my parents are this or that.
And it's like, it's a good point
of like, well, when did they meet?
How did they meet?
what were they at in their cause
yeah, I'm thinking like 23.
I was like freshly.
I mean, I graduated at 23, so I
was like, freshly outta college 30.
Like, you've been in the,

(45:00):
job field for a while.
Yes.
And you know what you want in life,
you know this man, he may be like,
yeah, that's the woman that I want.
I'm going after her.
I'm gonna get her.
But was she ready for that?
Could she see the red
flag of hey, your fiance.
He is not supporting you right now.
And I think that comes with life
experience, just growing into your

(45:22):
own as a woman and the value that
you bring to the table, you know?
Yeah.
So, I know.
It's a little, Hmm.
interesting.
Okay.
She says she never watched our wedding.
Okay.
So they got married and to this
day, I haven't spoken to her
since September 27th, 2014.
So we're talking about 11 years.
So they
got married still.

(45:43):
I'm so happy that they are happy.
I wanna put that out into the
universe, but I'm still so confused.
Well, there is still more.
Oh, okay.
Let's go something.
We can see what's so she said
she hasn't spoken to her.
I even visited their
mother's house Oh, oh.
In New York in February
of 2015 where she lived.

(46:05):
I still never saw or heard from her.
Interesting.
She lived there and then didn't show up.
You refused to come by
in November, 2014, I asked for a divorce
and thanked his dad and stepmom for trying
to help us through our marriage troubles.
can I give a I knew it.
I was like, can I applaud it?

(46:26):
Like, yes girl.
and maybe it was the sister,
maybe she was looking at it all
being like, I can't support this.
I can't, but No, no.
Nope.
I can't validate that
sister's comment in my mind.
The comment I
tried.
Yeah, I know.
And it's like, where does
that come from though?
Either like where I have a
lot of questions still too.

(46:46):
it says his stepmom threatened to
have his dad, my now ex father-in-law.
End my life if I ever
contacted her son again.
What?
Because she asked for a divorce that
just a whole family sounds very toxic.
And red flag.
She
dodged a bullet.
literally it sounds like
she dodged a bullet.
Yeah.
Because the mom is like,

(47:07):
I'm gonna enter your life.
So she
also very threatening, like Right.
Trolling maybe?
Yeah.
No, that whole 30 to 23, my
flag went up immediately.
I knew it.
Mm-hmm.
I saw your face too.
And you're like, wait, so she's 23?
He's 30 Oh, six months later they went.
Okay.
Okay.
so they were married for, wait,

(47:27):
they weren't even married a month
because it says their wedding
date was set for October 25th.
She filed for divorce in November,
so it wasn't even a full month.
Oh my okay.
Does she include like, where am I now?
do we get to Hear like the healing
part of all of this because, um,
no, but there's a little bit more.
Okay.
Because like a little more of a paragraph.

(47:47):
Let's see.
it says we got back together for
a little while, but never spoke to
his dad, stepmom or sister again.
I later found out his older siblings
were annoyed at how much their
younger sister got away with.
I mean, at 24 she threw a fit because
her brother was in the hospital and I
wished her happy birthday a day late.
It wasn't like I'd forgotten entirely.

(48:09):
Side note, I graduated a few years later
after divorcing her abusive brother.
Okay, now we're getting a
little more of the context.
Yes.
And I'm working on my master's degree.
I also ended up teaching for a few years.
Yay.
Yes, queen.
I love that.
That was
a happy ending because you know what?
You saw your worth and you saw like, I
went out of this situation and I'm glad.

(48:31):
It was not even a month that you
were just like, you know what?
I'm out.
And I hope this is a lesson too for
people listening that like, 'cause
I've had friends before that are like,
well, everything's already paid for.
We have to go through the wedding.
It's like, it's never too late.
just if you are in a bad
relationship, it's okay.
and that goes like both ways too.
Like as a boy mom, having only boys,

(48:52):
I want them to know that as well.
they bring worth to the table too.
And they need to be love and respected.
And if they need me to fake a heart
attack as I'm lighting that wedding
candle so that they can run out of
the back door, I, ugh, I will do it.
I will do it for them.
It's never too late for happiness.

(49:13):
Yes.
No, I totally agree.
I feel like obviously, we don't know the
full situation here, but the fact that
she threw in that he was abusive, abusive.
Which I kind of got the vibe
he was controlling or something
because of, the moving so quickly
and, him being a lot older.
But, yeah, that's a scary situation.
So always listening to your gut about it.
I hope she had someone on her side that

(49:35):
was like, Hey, this doesn't seem right.
Right.
' cause it sounds like they went
to his dad and stepmom for like,
helping through marital issues.
So I don't know if she had anyone
on her side that was like, Hey,
this guy is not right for you.
Like this Also having Yeah.
Also having that like third party,
it's nice that his parents were
willing to help, but I feel like they
should probably have had therapist

(49:56):
or something come in and Right.
Really sit them down Yeah.
And be like,
this is what we're looking at here.
Yeah.
But I'm glad she got out of that
because that could be very bad.
Oh my gosh, yes.
and again, it's that life experience.
Like you just don't know.
At such a young age, sometimes
you do, but most part, you

(50:17):
don't know what you don't know.
Yeah.
And it's hard to see those
things until that frontal lobe is
developed, which is like 25, So wild.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's wild how like, at least like my
grandparents' age, they were like married,
having kids like 19, 20, and that was
like what they were expected to do.
And they went to college to get their

(50:38):
MRS you know, that was their job.
Mm-hmm.
And it's just Wow.
'cause they were still
children in my eyes.
I'm like, you're at 19, 20, 21.
Like, you're still a kid, right.
You're just a baby.
Like you are still I'm still
folding clothes for my college kid.
I'm like, there's no way you
can get married right now.

(50:59):
Like.
I am folding your t-shirts for you.
you're not ready.
You're not ready.
Yeah.
it's wild.
well that was a wild story.
Thank you to this person for sending
that in because it was a different
kind of story that we've got, and
I think it's good to kind of get
all the angles of these kind of
stories, and I'm really proud of you.
So, yeah.

(51:20):
Good job writer in person.
What do you call the, submitter?
yeah, story submitter or like, op,
like original poster, but I guess
they're not really posting it.
They're just sending it to me, so, yeah.
Writer in.
Good job.
Writer in.
We're proud of you.
Yeah,
we got, we've got great grammar over here.
Oh my gosh.
The number.
It's really in intimate over here.

(51:42):
Intimate.
Which honestly intimate.
I think you could do something with that.
worked in marketing the past like 13
years, so I always think of things
you could do a mint at wedding.
It's called an intimate,
intimate listening.
Oh, it's so
intimate here.
I love it.
If you're listening, do it and then tag
me in it so I can see all of your love.

(52:04):
Yeah.
Oh my gosh, I love it.
Okay.
I always end these on, a couple of
confessions that people send in.
So let's read these and then
we'll get on with our days.
Okay.
This says, I kind of regret who
I picked to be my maid of honor.
I would've still had her
as a bridesmaid, but yeah.
Oh, I, I think that's normal.
we kind of touched on that earlier.

(52:26):
Just your life just changes and unfolds
in different ways that you just don't know
how you're going to need different people,
and it's okay that she was that person
in your life, in that moment and that
it might be someone different right now.
Like, it's okay that both of those
happened, and both of those can be true.

(52:47):
Yeah, I'm kind of reading it as she
hasn't gotten married yet, and she like
asked them, that's how I'm reading,
but maybe I'm reading it wrong.
she asked them to be in the wedding
and so like the wedding's coming up,
but they're like, and she wants to take
it back and like, maybe it's like the
maid of honor's not really stepping
up, but I think that's too, it's like.
Expectations and communication too.
Or maybe that maid of honor just doesn't

(53:08):
really know what to do or, you know.
Right.
Or you're just not as
close with that person.
It's hard.
yeah.
It's hard and you don't wanna
hurt anybody's feelings.
Yeah.
this says I plan to cut my mother-in-law
out of my life, regardless of
what my fiance wants to do.
Oh, Ooh.
that's a, therapy for sure.

(53:28):
I feel like.
Right.
yeah.
I mean, I feel like if it's valid where
like the mother-in-law's done something
like terrible turn, just treats her
poorly, then I feel like the fiance
should be backing her up and like Right.
Being that buffer.
I feel like it should never be between the
daughter-in-law and mother-in-law because
this is about the son or something.
Right.
Right.
There's
something

(53:49):
going on
and it shouldn't just be about her.
Yeah.
And so it's gonna be almost impossible.
To just cut out the mother-in-law if
the fiance is still talking to her.
Right.
So then I need like, figured out of
like, who is he gonna fully support?
What's the issue here?
Right.
Unless you guys just don't get along,
then I don't know how that would work.

(54:09):
But
then you have to figure out you're
gonna form a family together.
Mm-hmm.
Like, you've gotta figure it out.
Gotta figure it out.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
okay.
This last one says, my grandma being my
biggest supporter for eloping helped me
elope and deal with all of the backlash.
I love a good grandma.
Like, is there anything
better than a good grandma?

(54:30):
there's not, hands down top
five things a good grandma.
you can't beat it.
Yeah.
And one that helps you elope and then
says, not only am I gonna help you do it
and I'll help you plan it, but a grandma
that says, you go and then I'll tell
everyone I did it and I'll take the heat.
go live your life.
That's an amazing,
you need that.
I remember, it's kind of funny, I grew

(54:52):
up Catholic and so like with Catholic
parents, it's like you don't move in
before you get married, like, right.
Mm-hmm.
Like you child, my grandma's Catholic,
my parents, you know, like that.
So this is nothing against that.
It was just like how like
I was raised, you know?
And I remember though being like,
I'm so close with my grandma that
when my husband and I now husband,
we were gonna move in together.
I told her first and she was
like, that's great honey.

(55:13):
I'm so proud of you and my
parents were fine with it.
I'm the youngest.
So they were like, by
that point, they were like
right by that point they're
just like, get out of here.
Yeah.
But I was like, it was just funny.
Like, I told my friends, I was
like, yeah, I told my, now she's 90.
But at the time, she was.
Gosh, how long have I
been with my husband?
It was, she was like probably
80, but I like told her first
and she was like, that's great.
I'm so proud, so excited.

(55:35):
See top five.
You've got one.
She's great.
Yeah, you've got one.
I've got one too.
My grandma, for her 80th birthday
five years ago, she's still here.
she jumped out of an airplane.
She went skydiving on her way and
we all went and
yeah, she even, you know, got a
second set of dentures so that if

(55:56):
they fell out, she would have her.
She was ready.
She visited all of her doctors to
get like the, okay, but there's
nothing better than a good grandma.
That is amazing.
Oh my gosh, I love that.
Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Thank you.
This was so much fun.
I truly enjoyed it.
Good.
Oh, I'm so glad.
it was so much fun hanging out with you.

(56:16):
And can you tell everyone again
where they can follow you, find
your content, and then anything
fun you're kind of working on?
Yeah, so again, my name is Colleen Boer.
You can find me on Instagram at at Miss
Colleen b or at Leany Borg on TikTok.
And if you are looking for
educational news that is happening

(56:37):
in this political climate, I am
the teacher you want to follow.
'cause I'm gonna give
it to you like it is.
I love it.
Awesome.
Well thank you so much.
This was awesome.
Thank you.
Have a wonderful night.
You too.

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