36: Makeup Artist Drama, Reality TV, and Toxic Bridesmaid Who Ruins the Wedding with Antoinette

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(00:00):
Hi Antoinette.
Thank you for coming on.
Hi.
Excited to have, thank you for having me.
I was gonna say, excited to have you.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you.
I have been so guilty of
saying stuff like that.
I remember years ago going to
like the movie theater and you
order like food or something, and
they're like, enjoy your movie.
And you're like, thanks, you too.
Yeah, right.

(00:22):
It's just like you're on
autopilot a lot of times.
You're like, oh, you too.
Oh, you too.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
It literally happens all the time.
I'm just like, yeah.
And it's funny now, like my daughter's
too, but there's times where I'm like,
oh, I don't even, I'll ask a question.
She just goes, good.
And I'm like, well, that's like
if someone says, how are you?
But it's just like, it's funny.
Anyways, thank you for coming on.

(00:43):
I'm excited to have you here.
I know we were talking before that
I just, I found you on TikTok.
I love your content,
your banter, if you will.
and I think that's just
perfect for this, podcast.
so you are a labor and delivery
nurse by day and you banter
about pop culture at night.
I mean, I don't know if
it's necessarily at night.
Tell us a little more about yourself.

(01:04):
You, and, I'd love to hear more.
I am a day nurse.
'cause you know, there are some
people who only do night shifts.
I'm a day girly.
Okay.
I can't do the night shift stuff.
So I am a labor and delivery nurse by
day, but we do like 12 hour shifts,
so I'm not working every day, so it's
basically like three to four days a week
that I am a labor and delivery nurse.

(01:24):
And then basically at night or the days
I have off, I do, Or if I have a break
or more of my breaks if I try to fit it
in there, then I'll do my TikTok stuff,
which, I actually only started a year ago.
my fiance was like, I loved watching
reality tv, and then I was always
searching for other people's
takes and stuff, and then also
like calling my friends and being

(01:46):
like, oh my God, da da da dah.
And then also telling him because he
also watches with me now, so like, then
I'm like, oh my God, blah, blah, blah.
And he's like, well, I mean,
you're always searching for it.
You're always watching people's takes.
Like, why don't you do your own?
And I was like, mm-hmm.
Okay.
Like, yeah, why not?
So.
Yes.
Yeah.
And then it, the really fun.
What was, what was the first show
or thing in pop culture that either
really took off or the first content

(02:06):
you made about, do you remember?
So the first content I made about
was actually Love Island season six.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
it honestly like, really, 'cause I
was getting really revved up because
I felt like people were like really
misunderstanding Serena and being
like, oh, she doesn't like Cordell.
And I was like, I think she does, I think
she's just like really protecting herself.
I was like feeling fired up about

(02:27):
it and I was like, okay, fine,
I'm gonna do it on this one.
but I feel like the season it
wasn't Love Island that I think
really spearheaded things.
for me, like, I think I got a lot of
exposure during The Love Is Blind DC
Ooh, I'm trying, yeah.
I, I watched Love Is Blind.
Trying to remember who was on that one.
Lier.
Uh, we call him.

(02:47):
is it Tyler?
I feel like I'm not, I only
call him Lier, because he lied.
Oh my God.
He like had those three children and it
was like, there was all this drama about
like, how he had these two children,
but he called them sper donors and
then his fiance believed him and then
his baby mama came out to be like, no.
the first one was a sperm donor
situation, but the other two were not.

(03:09):
we made those ourselves.
Wow.
Yeah.
I must have stopped right
before that season 'cause they
don't look familiar to me.
I like religiously watched it in the
beginning I think I watched the first
three seasons and then I just like shot.
There's like, oh my God,
there's a new season.
Wait, there's a new season.
It was wild.
There's so many, I think there's
like two seasons a year, but
it feels like there's three.
Like I feel like there's
always one coming out.
There's always, yeah.

(03:30):
Because I think if you like sleep
on it for a little bit, all of
a sudden there's another one.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Netflix is really on their
zoom with it, honestly.
Yeah.
And the first one came out in 2020.
Right.
Because I feel like I
remember being locked down.
And I was like, I'm about
to binge watch this show.
I care what it is.
It was that in Tiger King that
I was like, what's going my.
Oh my God.
Yes.
Oh my God.

(03:51):
I forgot about that.
That was so good.
That was wild.
My husband and I were
just like, what is this?
That was insane.
Oh, that was good tea.
That was good tv.
And we weren't doing anything
like we were locked in.
We were living for, yeah, we
were living for like, like.
You said, like any morsel.
Yes.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
the pods.

(04:12):
' Because I feel like the
pods were because of COVID.
I don't know, maybe it
was written before that.
I don't know.
But those, I dunno, man.
I feel like it really took off because
of everyone was at home just watching TV
and then they're like, what's this show?
Okay, I guess we'll watch it.
And then it just blew you up on so.
And then blew up.
And then Lauren and Cameron, I mean
they're still like the, what's it called?
Yes.
I love them.
and now you know, Lauren's pregnant,

(04:33):
so that's just so beautiful.
Honestly, they're just
so that I love them.
Yeah, from the beginning.
and I always feel like the first
season, they're the most real because
they're not in it all for the tv.
'Cause they don't know how
big the show's gonna be.
They're like, well let's try it out.
But seasons after, I feel
like people just sign up.
'cause they're like, oh, I'm
gonna get social media famous.
A hundred percent.
And we're like really seeing that
now, I think it was Love is blind.

(04:54):
You really want them to be genuine
because like, you're gonna get married.
and I think some of these other
ones, dating ones, it's like, it
doesn't necessarily fully have
to be genuine, but like, do think
a lot of them, like love island.
you know, people wanna be influencers,
but at the same time they're pretty
young and you're not thinking of
marriage or just thinking of dating.
So they could actually end up
liking each other and dating.
but like with Love is Blind.
I do think people are like, they wanna

(05:15):
be influencers, but then it's like
you end up having to think about are
you willing to get engaged and married
to somebody just to be an influencer?
That's pretty big.
That's wild.
Yeah.
The concept is wild to me.
when they were like moving them
into these apartments together, I
was like, you don't know this guy.
Like
what are you doing?
Nothing about them.
You don't just what they
told you on the other side.

(05:36):
Just like what we found about life.
Like, you know, nothing.
Mm-hmm.
Like whatever they decide to tell you.
And I do think there's a
lot of people who like.
In these later seasons into finding
out some really messed up stuff.
Really?
And one of the girls, I think
on UK Sabrina, she was like, he
didn't even have his own place.
Like he was living with roommates
and then he like wasn't even

(05:56):
willing to go, like they were
living in different parts of the uk.
He wasn't even willing to go see her.
Oh.
But like, he couldn't even afford to, so
she didn't even know that like, oh wait,
you actually really aren't in a place.
I mean, it's one thing if you like
start dating someone and you know,
they're like financial status, but like,
I really do think they should check.
I was like, are you even in a place
to be married, to put somebody first
to even financially support yourself.

(06:18):
in a good well, or like, not,
there's anything wrong with having
roommates, but you know what I mean?
this guy I think was like 37 and like
she, I think he didn't really give all
those details, which I think a lot of
people would assume at three seven,
like, okay, you might not have everything
together, but you probably financially
are.
A little more.
A little bit more
established.
Established, yeah.
Yeah.
I think, or at least Communicate about
like, Hey, I had some financial issues,

(06:40):
or This is what's going on here.
Because there was that other guy,
I don't know what season this was,
maybe two or three, where they got
like towards the end and it came out.
He had all this debt and there was
something like he was lying about,
I can't remember their names, I
can't remember their names, but
I know what you're talking about.
We weren't like parody a lot.
Social media.
I know what you're talking about.
Wait, shoot.

(07:01):
I don't remember.
Yeah, I dunno means there, but
yeah, but there's that too.
And it's like if you get
married, your dad is their dad.
that can really mess somebody stuff up.
Yeah.
That was, oh, one of the
first couples, Barnett.
Yeah.
Amber and Barnett.
Amber, yeah.
Mm-hmm.
that was something like, she was
like, Hey, I have a lot of debt,
and they like moved in together.
he had a house already, but I think he
like sold it to help pay for the debt.

(07:23):
I mean, as far as I know, they're
still together, so, I mean.
Yeah.
And they have a kid and they were like.
Oh, I didn't know that.
Yeah.
They were child and everything
but she was upfront about it.
Yeah, they, she, she was upset
about it, so like, or married.
So it's one of those things
where it's like, if you know
all that stuff and you're still
willing, then that's, one thing.
Like she was upfront about it.
He was still willing.
So it's like, okay, cool.
that's on you,
Yeah.
the reality TV is just wild to me.

(07:44):
I used to watch Bachelor pretty regularly
too, and then I kind of just like,
then Bachelor in Paradise was like
fun 'cause they all come together.
Yeah.
But I've kind of slowly stopped
watching because I feel like they
always just go on to be like,
influencers and I'm just I don't know.
I can't really get into it anymore.
just.
Yeah.
I honestly have never, I mean, I
keep trying mostly for content.
Like, every time it comes out

(08:05):
I'm like, okay, I'm gonna try
and I just can't get into it.
you'll probably see me make one post
and then just nothing else because
I'm like, I just can't get into it.
I feel like it's so overly produced
too, and it just feels so fake.
You found 20 men or 20 women that
are interested in this one person.
Mm-hmm.
Not saying that they couldn't
all necessarily, but like it's

(08:25):
not like they met this person.
They were like, oh, the 20 people
met this person, or you had them
meet like a hundred people and
these are the 20 that were like, I'm
actually interested in this person.
Like, you just found
20 people or whatever.
I was like, it just doesn't feel organic
and then it's just vying for one person.
It just feels weird, honestly.
Totally.
I love dating shows, but that one,

(08:45):
that's just one I can't get into.
no, and you make it such a good
point because, it brings me back,
'cause again, I haven't watched
probably in like five plus seasons.
But it's like, they're like, he's
my dream guy, she's my dream girl.
And I'm like, you would've said that
about any person they brought on as
a bachelor and bachelorette Right.
And unbeknownst to you, last
season they were a nobody.
You know what I'm saying?

(09:06):
Like, they came on as
like a random person too.
It's like exactly.
I dunno.
I was like, you literally know
nothing about these people.
most of 'em don't even get like,
really a lot of screen time.
So it's like you just saw like a
couple dates with whoever they were
with on last season, and then now
you're like, that's your dream person.
You don't know anything about them, and
I feel like we also saw that with Jen,

(09:26):
like obviously all those men basically
didn't even know it was gonna be Jen.
They thought it was gonna be, what's
her name, that other girl that was
like really famous on Joey's season.
They all thought it was gonna be a. a
different bachelorette, and that set
her up for complete failure, honestly.
and then, ugh, that scammer Devin,
like that was whole, I like tried
to, but I was like, I mostly was
scrolling, watching things because I
was like, I keep up with it, but I'm

(09:47):
like, I can't watch a whole episode.
I literally can't.
Yeah, I know every once in I went.
You're like two hours long too.
I'm like, ah, Jesus.
I know it's, well, there'll be
like three hour season finale
and I'm like, who's got the time?
But why?
And most of it's not even needed.
I was like, okay, this really
could have been cut down.
Literally.
Like, there's just like a lot of
different montages with music.
It's just so gimmicky.
Yeah.
It's literally them picking out rings,

(10:08):
walking down the street through tears
in their eyes, picking out their dress.
And I'm like, Ugh, come on.
She's like, speed it up.
Speed it up.
Please.
We can do this all in 10 minutes.
Let's just tell us who she picked.
Yes, I know.
It's wild.
Props with anyone that goes on.
that's just not, yeah.
my cup of tea.
That's why I like Bachelor
in Paradise better.
So I have a confession.
I've never watched Love Island.

(10:29):
Oh, it's everywhere.
But this last season makes me wanna watch
because the viral like sounds and stuff.
Yeah.
But maybe I should try it.
I've had people tell me to watch it.
I think you should.
I think I would watch, like,
watch season six of USA.
I think season five and season
six of USA are really good.
the uk I also think season five of
UK is really, really, really good.

(10:50):
Okay.
It started in uk so there's
like a lot more seasons.
even Love Island Australia,
I can't remember what season.
It wasn't the latest one I
think, or it was the one before
last was really, really good.
So I do, I really love, love Island.
I feel like it's just.
Like, you know, people are on
there to be influencers, but it's
also just like a dating show.
mean, they're all dating shows,
but you know what I mean?
But it's also just like,

(11:10):
people being there.
They get to meet each other,
they get to, and like, there are
definitely, you're gonna, like,
a lot of them are good looking.
You're gonna like somebody,
you know what I mean?
and then there's just more like
organic drama as well as they
don't allow them to get drunk.
each day they get like maybe
this amount of alcohol.
That's it.
Okay.
I like that.
Um, so it also feels not, so you're
not as worried about some of the,

(11:30):
you know what I'm talking about?
possible things that can happen if people
are like inebriated, like, you know,
that they're making decisions sober.
especially if there's anything like
sexual that goes on, Especially because
with that, you know, you do end up
in there, they do end up sleeping in
the same bed as the guy, as a couple
that they choose and all that stuff.
So, and they do seem to have, like,
even though I feel like this season in
the USA, they did not do very good job

(11:51):
of like really doing background checks.
There's a lot of racial stuff coming out.
I did think that about someone.
Yeah.
So they really haven't like, done
good background checks on people, but
like in general, I do think they have
some pretty cool things in place, like
consent wise, there's just a light
that they have in the back of the bed.
Like, so if things start happening,
both people have to press it to be
like, I consent to what's happening.

(12:11):
And if it's not pressed, then production
gets involved in like no stuff.
Oh, okay.
That's a good step.
Because I remember hearing years ago, like
bachelor, something happened on one of
the shows and they like limit them now to
certain alcohol too, because people would
be like getting inebriated and saying
stuff or doing inappropriate things.
that was a bachelor in Paradise thing too.
I remember.
They were like, oh, we're
only allowed to have like.

(12:33):
Two drinks an hour or
one drink an hour maybe.
Oh, wow.
Because yeah, you see, yeah.
With them it's literally
one glass and that's it.
Wow.
there's a whole usually scenes at night
where like there, or sometimes at night
where you'll see a scene where they like,
are all going up to this table and it's
just like, there's drinks sitting out
already with like a little umbrella.
And that's their serving of
their alcohol, who they get.
Okay.

(12:53):
Well that's, I know.
I was like, I just think it's like,
it makes you feel a little bit
better, but not that there's not any,
some type of like, oh my God, these
like crappy men on here, whatever.
Right, right.
But I was like, well, now
you know that this person's.
Crappy sober.
Okay.
Like they, they're just.
He got no excuse.
No, no.
I know.
It's crappy.
It's not a drunk child.
This is who this person is.
Okay.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.

(13:13):
I think that sounds better too
when there's like multiple, couple
possibilities and not just one guy
and a million girls and vice versa.
and I feel like it also gives like
the bachelor, bachelorette or whatever
type of show it is when there's just
one guy fending for all these women.
It gives them like this like false
sense of like, oh, I'm the hottest
guy in the room at all times.
And it's like, you're the only guy, like

(13:35):
they would find a rock hot next to you.
You know what I'm saying?
Honestly though, the only this is working
is 'cause a, scarcity mindset that is
literally fabricated for this show.
Yeah.
If you were in any other situation,
there would be plenty of other options.
you are literally the only
option that they've given.
Yes.
So they are, they have to fight
for you to stay on the show.
Like, remember that?
Yes.
Like this is like, remember that

(13:57):
they're fighting to stay the show.
Okay.
Yeah.
They're deprived of any other men, so
they're like, well, this is my dream.
Yeah.
this is my dream man
because he's only man.
Oh my God, that's so funny.
yeah, I feel like we would just think too,
too logically about that to be on, a show.
Okay.
So.
A little more back about your content.

(14:18):
you were always talking about your own
banter and couldn't really find anyone
that talked about it the way you did.
So when did you kind of start seeing
it, take off and do you remember
like the first video that really like
blew up and you said you talked about
Love Island, but was there one type
of content that you're like, this
is it, people are really connecting
or resonating with what I'm saying?
Love Island, I started, I do really

(14:39):
feel like it was like love is Blind that
season and I think even for me Too, I was
around then, like I started last August.
Mm-hmm.
Like around last august for season
six and then We're still posting and
stuff, but it wasn't really like, I
think last October was when That Love
Is Blind came out October, November.
and that's also when I felt like
I was also taking it more like,
okay, I'm gonna post every day.

(15:00):
I'm gonna like, really cover this
whole season, cause I didn't even fully
cover the whole season of Love Island.
season six.
So with the elevens blind season seven, I
was like, okay, I'm gonna post every day.
I'm gonna like, you know, and
so I was like also being more
intentional about posting.
And so I don't remember what Post
went, but it, I do remember all of a
sudden, like my views started going up.
And then also I went from like,

(15:20):
I feel like a thousand to like
10,000, within that between like
end of October and November.
like blew up.
and I felt like then people were
really like also sending me things
like, oh, I need to know your take.
I need to, and so I got
started getting more of that,
being like, did you see this?
Did you see that?
and people writing those type of
comments, or getting tagged in other
people's videos, for certain stuff.
So it was definitely that, started

(15:41):
to get a little bit more known and a
little bit more, settled in like my
like niche or my niche and my persona,
Yeah.
So do you have any shows that
you, like currently watch that you
wish more people knew about so you
could like commentate on them more?
Or are you mainly in the
reality love dating show type?
I mean, I watch a lot of

(16:01):
different tv honestly.
So like, I mostly comment on reality tv.
Yeah.
and mostly like the, yeah.
The loved ones.
I try to get into the gaming ones.
Like I tried to get into big Brother.
I don't really understand it,
there seems to be so much going
on, so I tried this and it, failed.
I don't know, it didn't work out
for me, but I'm gonna try again.
Another, because I really,
everyone watches Big Brother.

(16:22):
I'm like, I really wanna understand it.
okay.
But let me answer your question.
Special Forces.
Special Forces.
I haven't watched that.
No.
I feel like you would like it.
It's like reality, but it's so like.
It's intense.
Okay, so it's reality stars put
on a competition show, so they're
competing to win special forces.
And like they've had people like,

(16:43):
Hannah Brown or Nick Vile, or, I'm
trying to think of other people.
They're bachelors, but like
other, like, celebrities.
so the woman that dated like
Travis Kelsey, Kayla, Nicole.
so like, people like that are big,
celebrities, athletes, reality TV
stars, and they compete and it's
like really tough competition.
They work with actual people from
special forces and it's like intense.

(17:05):
It's good though 'cause you get
the drama, but you also get, like,
you see them Trying their best
to like win at this competition.
Yeah.
Ooh, okay.
I will have to check that out.
I mean, like, I love anything
with drama, honestly.
Yeah.
I mean, also, like a lot of times on
my content, I do random TikTok drama.
I think there's also a lot stuff there
that like randomly gets flown up I
did the Louis Vuitton chocolate Yes.

(17:27):
Drama.
and the girl with the, dermatology
thing that happened, that was like not
washing her face, not doing anything.
Her
Yes.
Whatever happened with that, was that out?
Um, she got a deal with Sarah V and
started washing her face, basically.
I could not tell if this
was like what's it called?
Where they try to get people mad.
What's it called?
Rage bait.
Yeah.
I couldn't tell if it was rage bait.

(17:47):
I couldn't, I couldn't either.
Part of me feels like it was but then
they also found like an old post,
like a year ago of her having done
the same thing, like, but from Reddit.
So I don't know.
But Sarah v got involved and like got
her to put moisturizer on, and then
it started falling off, which I'm
like, yeah, because you're putting,
like yeah, it's gonna fall off.
you have literally not touched

(18:07):
your face and you're building
up dirt and old skin cells.
that's what's gonna happen.
so like I also do stuff like that
my stuff is like, I have a DD, it's
a little bit a DD too, where I'm
like, whatever I'm interested in.
Right.
Whatever.
I'm interested in that moment.
but it is definitely more like reality TV
drama and then, like TikTok type of drama.
Yeah.
But I am interested in, like right
now I'm watching Huntington Wives on

(18:29):
Netflix, I was thinking about like.
Yes,
I just heard about this.
How is it?
It's so good.
Yeah.
It's so, so, so good.
And like sometimes I will, for
me it's not always for views.
So like, maybe I won't
get a lot of views on it.
'cause like, that's not
necessarily my main base.
But like, even severance, I did a lot of
posts on that because I love that show.
Okay.
And I just wanted to talk, talk about it.
I was like, somebody will, I was

(18:50):
like, I just wanna talk about it.
So people will come across it.
And yeah, some people will
come across it, but like, yeah.
So I do watch other things and so I,
guess sometimes I do wish that, like,
I think it's hard with the algorithm
from, or whatever, but it would be
easier for people to find me that
if I'm like doing stuff outside of
the, like, reality tv, TikTok, drama,
when I am making those contents.

(19:11):
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's hard to know like what's
gonna like, take off or what people
are gonna like, resonate with.
Yeah.
But that like TikTok drama
stuff, man, it goes fast.
It's like you gotta like hop on it
fast because before you know it, if
I don't, scroll for a couple days.
'cause sometimes like there's like
weeks where I just post and I'm like, I
don't have time to scroll or whatever.
Yeah.
Scroll.
I'm like, wait, what's this drama with
so-and-so, what does she do to her?
And I'm like, okay, I have to

(19:31):
find out who these people are.
It's wild.
Yes, yes.
And some people are really, really on it.
some people it's a
little bit easier to do.
I know like there's some people
I follow where it's like,
this is their full-time job.
So like they can scroll most of the day.
And then like, for me it's not so
like, I can't, I'll have some people
write and be like, I want your ticket.
I was like, I missed it.
I'm sorry.
I was like, I literally do
not have time right now.
whatever was my schedule at that

(19:52):
time, I'm like, I don't have
time to even comment on this.
Like, I'm so sorry.
Like, I'm catching babies.
Like
.You were out there quite literally
saving lives I know when you first told
me you're a labor and delivery nurse to
her, I was like, how do you do it all?
I was like, you were
literally an angel on earth.
Oh my gosh.
I'm not sleeping very much.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
I always knew nurses were amazing people.

(20:13):
My grandma was an ER nurse.
Oh.
And so I'm like, I always heard
about like, working in the ER and
everything, but then it's like
once I had my baby and I was like.
These nurses are just incredible.
Like, you guys are just amazing.
this is totally side note and
everything, but like how did you get
into labor and delivery and like, I mean
?Well, yeah.
I mean, so my first nursing job

(20:34):
was actually as a transplant nurse.
So I worked, inpatient for people on a
unit that just did, what was it called?
Kidneys, livers, and pancreatic, some
lung transplants, things like that.
but when I was in nursing school
we did our labor rounds, I had like
One shift where we like actually
got to be in like the labor unit.
We did a lot on Mother, baby.
I was like, oh, this is really fun.

(20:54):
Like, I thought I would, like really
enjoy it, but I was also a little bit
scared because, some stats stuff can
happen too, like losses and things.
And I'm a very empathetic person.
I'm one of those people, like, I will
cry at movies, thinking about certain
things will start to make me cry honestly.
Like I fox in the hound.
Even just thinking about them talk
will make me cry like you did.
So I, like really empathize

(21:15):
very well with people.
I was a little bit nervous, so like
when I went to go get my first nursing
job, I was like, I actually did apply
for labor, but then I turned it down
because I was like, I don't know if I
can handle it if something happened.
but then I kept thinking about
it and I kept thinking about it.
so then I was like, okay,
I just need to do it.
So then I stayed in the same hospital, but
I just ended up applying and like, but it
was basically 'cause I just kept thinking
about it and I was like, I'm just.

(21:35):
I'm really interested.
Like, I was like, obviously
I should just do it then.
and so then, know, it
has been really good.
Obviously when sad things happened,
it says still really like, touch me.
but I am able to deal with it.
but like, everybody, there's, it just is
something that happens, but there's just
so many beautiful moments that happen.
it's so many, like being able to be
there for women when they're going
through this, or be there for mothers,

(21:56):
not everyone identifies as women,
but like, being there for mothers
when they're going through this, um.
It just feels so beautiful I really
love being able to support that process,
being able to support the baby and like
just being there for that whole thing.
So.
Yeah.
Oh, I love that.
No, I love hearing like how people
got into nursing and stuff and like
their department because, I used
to work for a mom and baby burn,
and so like, I would talk to like,

(22:17):
nurses and doulas and oh, you know,
just people in the field and stuff.
So I'm always just so curious about it.
I love, that kind of stuff.
Yeah.
Just a little, side
note, but yeah, why not?
I love that.
Okay.
Let's get into the wedding portion of.
Okay.
I'm excited.
I didn't know.
I love drama.
I was let as.
Yes, we live for the drama here.
It's a good, uh, mental break from

(22:38):
the world and all that, but, okay.
So starting off, do you have
any like wild wedding stories or
wedding stories that come to mind
when you, first think of weddings?
Okay.
it's not necessarily wild, but when
it's about me, and it was something I
was like younger, so I don't even know
why I was doing this, but like it was
during My oldest sister's wedding, and
when it was the throwing the bouquet

(22:59):
part, we're all like vying for it.
And then it ends up being, I look up and
it's actually me and I'm like pulling,
like, pulling, like trying to get this.
And I think I just locked in.
I was like, I don't even know why.
I'm like, how old was I?
Even like, I feel like like 17.
I was like, I'm next.
What was I doing?
but I was like, I'm fighting for this.
And then I look up and it was actually my
other sister, and everybody else was gone.

(23:20):
Do you guys actually pull poll at this?
Yes, we were pulling at this.
I just feel like we locked in.
I don't even know what I was thinking,
but I was like, I'm getting this.
I got very competitive at the,
but we both did apparently.
my other sister were sometimes I
actually dating somebody, and she
was a little bit older so like,
you know, like made more sense.
It just made more sense.
But it's so funny to like watch the
video 'cause it's just like everybody
else has gone and just watching us like

(23:41):
literally pull for this thing and then
like we, I look up and I was like, oh.
And I let it go.
I was like, oh.
I was like, so sorry.
Something just came over me.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
I was like, I dunno what's going on.
Like, like the sister thing.
We'll just let them
Yeah.
Figure it out.
Yeah.
Gosh.
I've been to weddings where people get
pretty like, vicious over like the bouquet
toss or like push people out the way.
And I'm like, yeah guys,

(24:03):
it's gonna be okay.
It's, it's gonna be fine.
It's gonna be fine.
but sometimes it's just a
competitive nature, you know?
That takes over.
I can't tell you what I was thinking.
I don't think I was, I think, I think
I just had it and I was like, it would.
You're like, okay, you can take it.
Yeah.
I was like, oh, ooh.
My bad dresser.
It's so funny 'cause I remember
going to weddings in like my early

(24:25):
twenties, so I don't even know if I
was with my now husband yet, but like,
I'd be at weddings and like I was in
that mind frame where I was like, I
don't wanna get married for a while.
And the bouquet would come and I would
just look at it and just step back.
Yeah.
I'm like, someone else take it.
There's been a few weddings
like that where like no one
grabs it and I'm like, oh man.
We're all just like.
Yeah.
Like everyone's like,

(24:45):
oh, don't, don't jinx me.
Yeah.
Like we're not
Times have changed.
Yeah, exactly.
We're waiting a little longer these days.
that's so funny.
oh my gosh.
I love that because, it's one of those
things where like people are either
like so into the bouquet toss and garter
toss and other people are like, no.
I always ask my audience what
are your unpopular opinions?
And I would say like, I. Most of the time

(25:07):
one of those come up as like, don't do it.
people are like, don't do the garter toss.
It's weird.
Don't do the bouquet toss.
It's starts fights.
And I'm just like, it's interesting how,
the dynamic has kind of changed on those.
Yeah.
I think it can start, right?
But also I think it's one of those
things where like, it's very easy
to like get dangerous really quickly
because people are like jumping
and like, there could be an elbow.

(25:27):
Like, it's not even like you're trying
to do, but it's like, for my own, I
don't think I probably would do it.
I don't know if anyone that's coming
would fight over it, but like, I also
just don't want any accidents to happen
over, like just throwing this thing.
I know didn't do them at my
wedding and I was just telling
someone while back, but I was like,
honestly, I am not very Athletic.

(25:48):
Yeah.
So I could see myself throwing the
bouquet, hitting someone in the
face, separation, breaking something.
So I'm like, not just
not throwing anything.
But it might not even
go where everybody is.
How embarrassing would that be?
I throw it.
I don't.
Exactly and I don't want be embarrassed.
Yeah.
I'm like, let's just take that away.

(26:09):
yeah.
I love that.
Okay.
Here are some hot takes that people
have sent in and we can just kind
of share our opinions on them.
Okay.
this says.
If you need a content day during your
wedding week, you're not planning a
marriage, you're producing a mini series.
So they're saying, like,
I've heard of this more, more
and more now with weddings.
people are so concerned with the overall
look that they'll plan out content

(26:30):
during their video or during their day.
Like they'll film stuff or do like,
tiktoks have a TikTok section.
I've never been a part of one
that does that, but yeah, either
this person must have seen it.
So they're saying if you're
planning con, then you're, what?
What's that last part they said?
You're not thinking about
planning a marriage, you're more
about producing, like producing
something like a mini series.

(26:52):
Hmm.
You know what I feel like
I have two ideas about it.
I can see how like, yes, I feel
like that could be true for a
lot of people where it's like,
if you're so focused on that and.
Also like doing different con, I mean,
I think financially too, like how
much money are you putting into this?
Are you thinking about your life later?
All that stuff.
But then I also can think
like, hey, but maybe somebody

(27:12):
is they really like tiktoks.
that's kinda like their thing.
They're like, they're always
doing like content stuff.
So then why wouldn't they have that
to be a part of their wedding too?
Because it's representing them.
Yeah.
Um, and if this is how you envisioned
it, I don't think that's a big deal.
as long as it's not like, oh my
God, like this, okay, you guys
don't do this TikTok, right.
Blah, blah, blah.
But if it's like, if it's just
for fun and you're like, I want my

(27:32):
day to be full of like different
times that I can capture the day
I think if the other parties are
okay with it and it's like your
day and you like, tell people
we're gonna do this, it's fine.
did you see the TikTok drama
talking about TikTok drama?
She was a makeup artist that
was hired for a wedding.
there were photographers there,
but she had her own plans for
tiktoks to be filmed during the day.

(27:53):
So like, literally they were done
with makeup and she is going around
doing, having the bridesmaids
and bride do tiktoks while they
have like another timeline.
Wait, wait, wait.
This is the ma and she was like, involved.
Yes, I know exactly what
you're talking about.
And then she caught in her car saying
they treated her horribly kicking.
Yeah.
Honestly, this is one of my
things that also blew up for me.

(28:13):
Really?
Like in the way, in the
really beginning for me.
Yes.
I know exactly.
Oh my God, I remember this just of it.
She was unhinged.
Yeah, she was unhinged.
Like even in the first look, she was there
and in the photos making it all about her.
Yes.
And the brides were crying.
She's like, okay guys.
Okay.
Like, that's too much crying.
I was like, why aren't you still here?
Yeah.
She stayed the whole day.

(28:34):
and then yeah, she kept
making them do tiktoks.
Then when it was time for like the
after party for the reception, she
was still trying to get tiktoks.
Yes.
I, and then they tried to kick her.
Yeah.
Then they tried to kick her
out and then she was like, she
left and then she came back.
She was like, no, you know what?
I'm not gonna let them bully me.
And she went back.
I was like, yes.
I was like, no.
It was crazy.

(28:54):
I was like, I don't understand why you're
not getting it, she was like, oh my
God, we were having such a good time.
We were kiking.
And I was like, not for
you to stay the whole day.
No's not for you to stay the whole day.
Yeah.
I didn't make any said, oh, the groomsmen?
Or, she said someone invited her and they
were probably just being like friendly.
Like,
Oh, like in, no,
Basically like, the bride, I
think kept being like, oh, okay.
Oh, okay.
Like, and I think she like, just was

(29:16):
just very kind, and like maybe just
didn't wanna like do any confrontation.
But then it wasn't until like
the groom later at the reception.
Was like, okay.
No.
'cause he was tired.
he didn't actually agree to any of
the things that the bride Right.
You know what I mean?
had said yes to and then
the bride was like, no, no.
Like he's just upset.
It's okay.
But then she left and it's like, why
didn't you take the hint from the groom?
she's like, well you know what,

(29:36):
my bride, that's what she said.
She's like, my bride wants me there.
It's like, no, she doesn't.
Okay.
But also it's the groom's wedding too.
And he asked you to leave?
Yeah.
And leave how awkward that is.
Like she's probably just like, the bride's
probably just trying to enjoy her day.
Doesn't wanna start.
cause in our minds, you know, it's
like, oh, I don't wanna start drama.
But it's like, no, she's
literally crossing all the
boundaries at the wedding.
All the boundaries.
She's the makeup artist.

(29:57):
She's hired, she did her job.
And I feel like she was even like
drinking or something during makeup.
Yes.
Showing her drinking.
All these things.
And then what kills me is then like.
She makes this video bashing the bride
and groom showing all their video
footage before they even posted to
make herself look like the victim.
And I'm like, no.
Oh my God.
I knew it.
So left for her.

(30:18):
Like no one would have even known
about it if she didn't make that video.
the bride and groom, because they
aren't even social media people.
no one even known about it.
Mm-hmm.
She could have just have ruined this
wedding and nobody would've known.
Yeah.
But then she went online.
I know she made this whole series blasted
them, put their videos, their faces.
Oh my God.
That was crazy.
Even like the bridesmaids were getting

(30:40):
in the comments and being like, oh
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Like this is not okay.
And then somebody else, like
there was another MUA that had
worked with her in the past and
she's like, oh no, she's unhinged.
She's unhinged.
Like, oh yeah.
So much came out about that woman.
Yeah, that's wild when you're putting
your content in front of your client, Yes.
That's the thing that like, obviously
like I love social media, I love like
the connections and stuff, but you

(31:01):
have to always put like your job first.
There's so many people that are
like, oh, I wanna create content.
And it's like, well this is
not the place or the time.
Like as a makeup artist Yeah.
Do their before and after and
be like, Hey, can I post this?
But you have to always check
in with your client first.
They might not wanna be posted
and they might not want you
hanging out all day and.
Yeah.
But she kept being like, well, they

(31:22):
agreed to content, but they didn't agree
to like every single content that you I
think she probably thought you were just
doing the look content that a lot of like
people do where it's like, okay, they did
the before and then they do the after.
I didn't think, she didn't think
you were gonna be following her
around all day trying to get her.
It was like, I can't remember.
I can like hear the song in
my head, but I can't think of.
can't say it all, but there was like,
I can remember the TikTok thing that

(31:43):
she was trying to make and she was
just trying to go throughout the day.
you were never even a part of the grooms
party, but then you involved them.
'Cause you're like,
well I need the grooms.
And I was like, that's when
you know you've gone too far.
Does it, does the content fit with
the service that you're doing?
Right.
I think you have to think about that.
And does it fit within the timeframe
of the service that you're doing
or are you going beyond that?
if it's something where like, I

(32:03):
don't, things are taking long,
maybe you won't get your content.
but exactly what you said,
the service should come first.
Yeah.
And then the content, but someone
agreeing to make tiktoks with you
doesn't mean they're agreeing to
like literally every single thing
that you came up under the sun.
Yeah, no.
100%. Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
I can't believe that.
Just came back like that.
That was one of those where like, I think

(32:23):
I took a few days off and I came back
on and like I got a couple messages.
Someone tagged me, they're like, Christa,
can you please make a skit about this?
I didn't.
I think I just kind of talked about it.
'cause I was like, it's so fresh.
I don't know, like this is kind of wild.
yeah, I watched all the videos
and I was like, oh my gosh, this
is an unhinged, seriously insane.
Yeah.
okay.
This last hot take says reality TV.

(32:45):
Weddings have convinced people that
bridal parties are unpaid extras.
Oh.
interesting reality.
Tv.
Bachelor parties, they said weddings.
Oh, our unpaid extras.
Is this more like, I think they
were saying that people are taking
advantage of the bridal party basically.
But I feel like people have

(33:05):
been doing that for like,
even before reality TV stuff.
Yeah.
I don't actually reality tv.
Yeah.
I think it's just some people do
take advantage of the bridal party.
I think some people don't realize
that like, yeah, of course, like
these people wanna be here for you.
you can't just ask
endless amount of things.
you can't also just ask people to
like put all their money into your
wedding or into like the bridesmaids
dress or whatever the makeup that

(33:26):
they have to do or, what have you.
also like that whole year is
not literally about you to.
Everybody else in your life.
it's about you for you and
your spouse, but like everybody
else's life is still going on.
I mean, like, I have things to do.
We got things to do, but I do know
that I feel like there's a lot of
people who are like, you're not
really supporting me right now.

(33:47):
I feel like you're doing enough
for the way I was like, what
are you talking about, dude?
I have a life.
Like I will help you, but like,
I'm not making a full-time job out
of helping you for your wedding.
Right.
The world doesn't stop because
you're getting married.
Yeah.
I've seen wild stories where brides
get mad because their bridesmaids are
pregnant or their bridesmaids also
get engaged and it's like you don't
get claims to the whole there, there.

(34:08):
I mean like I had two, pregnant
bridesmaids and I was like, don't feel
like you have to come to anything.
Your baby and your health comes first.
Like yeah, I mean life happens.
let's say like you had a destination
wedding and one of the people got
pregnant, if it's that time for
me, my life for me that I wanna get
pregnant, I'm not gonna like be like,
oh no, we gotta hold off a year.
Yeah.
'cause so and so's, just in case,

(34:28):
that's not what's gonna happen.
And I think that's absolutely
crazy when people do that.
I think like, literally you
need to get your head checked.
That's not cool.
Yeah.
Like that.
Like you're, way too self-centered.
But I think a lot of times there are
probably signs about that person.
yeah.
You know, before the wedding there
were probably signs about the person
that they were pretty selfish.
and then it just went to like, kind of the
nth degree when they felt like they had
an excuse to be their most selfish shelf.

(34:48):
Yes.
Like they hear it like,
oh, it's your bride's day.
So they're like, yep.
The court.
Yes, exactly.
They're like, okay, well now
I get to be exact you know.
Here's my notebook.
Yes.
Oh my God, that's so true.
Because yeah, you hear
it time and time again.
It's like, oh, it's a bride's day.
It's your moment.
So then they're like, I've
been waiting for this.
Yes.
Yeah.
But it's not, that's the funny part.

(35:08):
It's your day.
It's your day.
Not your year.
Not your year, your day.
Yeah.
And we gotta have, respect people's
life and their boundaries too.
Yes.
A hundred percent.

(35:30):
Before we get to this week's wild
wedding story that we'll react to,
we'll do a little quick rapid fire.
How does that sound?
Okay.
In addition, okay.
Would you rather deal with
a jealous bridesmaid or an
attention hogging groomsman?
I guess an attention hogging groom
has been, I guess, a little bit.
for me personally, I feel like I

(35:50):
would be a lot easier to talk to that
person and be like, tone it down.
Yeah.
Like cause I would not have a
problem be like, I love you so
much, but you gotta tone it down.
You're doing too much.
Yeah.
Versus somebody who is jealous.
I don't know if I would know that
they're being jealous or if they're like,
kind of being stink face or whatever.
Or like, eat subconsciously or
consciously sabotaging things.
So I feel like I wouldn't
want that type of negativity.

(36:12):
Yep.
On my day.
That's a great point.
Yeah.
would you rather your wedding TikTok flop?
So like if something bad happened at your
wedding or your honeymoon get leaked?
so either the TikTok I have be
like a flop, like someone said,
let, like my wedding was a flop.
if you had like a wedding TikTok,
maybe you like, posted about your
wedding as a TikTok and it didn't
do well, is how I'm reading it.

(36:33):
or videos from your honeymoon or
photos from your honeymoon get leaked.
I don't know.
Like Oh, like your,
was like, what type of leak?
I was like, what we, I was like, I
was like, what are we talking about?
I'm nervous I didn't write these.
I guess I wouldn't mind
having a TikTok flop.
I probably would think it was funny.
Yeah, it's 'cause it'd be
more for me anyways if I.
Yeah.
Just in case.

(36:54):
There could be lots of
different meanings for the leak.
I'd rather have nothing leaked,
just to be clear.
just in case nothing leaked.
I know, I feel like the word
leaked just sounds celebrity leak.
Like Yeah.
Oh, there, this got leach.
okay.
Would you rather have your wedding
go viral for the wrong reasons?
Or have no one shared at all?
No one shared at all.
Yeah, same.

(37:15):
Would you rather find out your
fiance applied to a reality dating
show after your engagement or
that your proposal was filmed for
a pilot episode you didn't know?
These are wild.
What the, is this, I guess,
the film for a pilot?
I didn't know because like what
the actual fuck if you just, sorry.
With the actual flip, if you just, I

(37:36):
didn't know if you could curse something.
I was like, it's all good.
Okay.
If you just, like, you got
engaged to me and then you
just applied to a dating show?
Dude, there's been people on
Bachelor that has come out, like
they have girlfriends at home.
This happens the thing is why I'm sure,
well, cheaters, I feel like, just don't
think about this, but they're like, yeah,
you don't think it's ever gonna come out.

(37:57):
Exactly.
You don't thinking at home,
like clicking and being like
thank you.
Recognize
the
internet Are you new?
Are you new to the world now?
Like the internet is like, especially
with TikTok, information moves by fast.
People are detectives.
Okay.
If you're on there, they're gonna
find you and everything about you.
So.
people always think like,
oh, I can just hide it.
No, you can't.
No.
It's no one else has been able to.
Someone's always watching,

(38:17):
especially nowadays.
Oh my gosh, Coldplay concert.
Yes, exactly.
Exactly.
Someone's always watching.
Yes.
And the funny, if they had just not
ducked, if they had just not ducked,
that wouldn't have been a thing.
Yes.
Seriously.
No one would've even
thought twice about it.
But the funny thing is, someone,
do you see the behind the scenes,
someone was behind them and realized

(38:39):
later, like they had videos of
them kissing before that happened.
Oh, they were like
literally behind the couple.
Yeah.
I didn't see that.
Ah.
Yeah.
So I'm like, oh my God.
But like literally, they would've just
been like, oh, it's a cute couple.
Yeah.
Never would've thought anything
about if they weren't like, whoa.
Yeah, exactly.
it wouldn't, the smelling front.
Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
It wouldn't have been a thing.
All right, last one.

(38:59):
Would you rather have your wedding
edited by Netflix or produced by Bravo?
Ooh.
Edited by Netflix or produced
by Bravo, I guess edited by
Netflix, produced by Bravo.
Ooh.
I don't know, dude, that's kind
of like, I like Netflix shows, so
let's just say edit it by Netflix.
Yeah.
I like it.
All right, let's get into this
week's wedding story submission.

(39:21):
Are So as always, I have not read
this, this will be a blind reaction.
Let's just see how we go.
Feel free to stop me if you want.
otherwise we'll, just as you know,
I might have questions.
I'll let you know.
Yeah.
all names have been
changed, so here we go.
This story starts about
two and a half years ago.
Around six months before I got engaged.
I was on a pontoon boat with my friends,
their boyfriends, and my now fiancé Ryan.

(39:43):
One of my friends, Brooke, asked Ryan if
he had any plans to propose in the future.
At that point, we'd been together
for a little over a year, so
it was still fairly early.
But we had already talked about marriage,
so it wasn't a totally random question.
Ryan told Brooke and my other friend
Erica, that he actually planned
on proposing in August, which was
about two months from when they

(40:05):
were having this conversation.
I was on the other side of
the pontoon boat and had no
idea this was even happening.
Next thing I know, I look over and
see Erica sulking in the corner
of the boat, glued to her phone
and refusing to talk to anyone.
We were only about an hour into
a six hour rental, so things
weren't off to a great start.
I asked Brooke if she knew why Erica

(40:25):
was upset, and she told me that when
the topic of proposals came up, Erica
made a comment to her boyfriend who
was also on the boat, and they'd been
together for three years at the time.
Asking when he was going to propose and
he replied with something dismissive
like, don't hold your breath.
Which upset her.
then starts the comparison, Yeah.

(40:45):
for the rest of the rental,
Erica sulked and barely spoke.
After we got off the boat, she
immediately returned to her hotel.
Instead of joining the group for
dinner the next day, she texted
me asking why I didn't make more
of an effort to comfort her.
I explained that it wasn't fair for
her to expect me to come spend my
entire birthday consoling her over
something I had no control over.

(41:07):
Fast forward six months, Ryan
and I get engaged on a beach.
Brooke was there because she helped
Ryan plan and execute the proposal.
Afterward, Ryan and I FaceTimed
friends and family to share the news.
When I FaceTimed Erica to
show her the ring, gosh.
The first thing she said to me was, Ew.
He let you have red
nails for your proposal.

(41:28):
Jealousy.
Not a pretty.
What the, oh my God.
That's not a friend.
This is kind of ironic.
'cause yesterday I did like a, different
kind of video and I was like, pretending
to be, I said, your best friend of
me just found out you're engaged.
Oh, I think I saw that.
I saw that.
I said something like that.
I'm like, oh, I didn't
know you liked that.

(41:48):
Kind of, you know?
Yes.
That's literally that kind of comment,
like why would you say that to someone?
That is so rude.
and I feel like jealousy
is a normal emotion.
like, people are like, oh, we, I was
like, I don't think you should like down
people for having feelings of jealousy.
It just is like information for you.
it's not necessarily that you
dislike the person or whatever.
It's like there's something going
on with you You're looking for.

(42:09):
Do you what I mean?
And that person has, it
doesn't necessarily mean that's
not something you can have.
it's information.
That's how I think of it more.
It's information.
And if you don't actually take
in that information, then I think
jealousy can get out of hand.
Obviously this person,
jealousy got out of hand.
Yes.
'cause for her to be outwardly so
rude and dismissive to her friend
during such a beautiful moment.
And the fact that she also thinks

(42:30):
of you so much that she calls
you during that beautiful moment.
And that's the first thing you
say is like, what the fuck?
Yeah.
you need to internally look.
Yeah.
yeah, you're letting that jealousy
take over you when it's like, yeah.
You could have like feelings
of being like, oh, I wish that
was me first, or that yeah.
Kind of sucks, but I wouldn't
be really happy for my friend
because she's my friend.
Yeah, a hundred percent.

(42:50):
it says I was in such a good
mood that I brushed it off.
Okay, good.
At least it didn't ruin the moment.
she gave me a half-hearted
congratulations.
And we moved on later.
Our families had planned a
small celebration at our house.
Erica and her boyfriend came out
but barely said anything to me
and left about an hour later.
I tried to give her the benefit of
the doubt, assuming she might be
having an off day, despite everything.

(43:12):
I still asked her to be
one of my bridesmaids.
There we go.
That gut feeling like she's
already showing signs.
when I started organizing hangout so the
bridesmaid could get to know each other,
Erica always made excuses not to come.
Her reasons ranged from anticipating
she'd be too tired or needing to attend a
half birthday party for a six month old.
What's a half birthday?
Oh, a six month old, like half birthday.

(43:34):
I get it.
to simply not liking who does.
Six and a half?
No, I was like, wait, what?
to simply not liking the location.
Weird.
Not going to your friend to hang out
'cause you don't like the location.
Okay.
While planning the bachelorette trip,
I mentioned feeling sad that one of my
bridesmaids Tessa wouldn't be able to
make it because she lives in Arizona.
Erica responded, I'm so jealous of
Tessa living in another state gets

(43:55):
her out of so many of these events.
Okay.
Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.
Okay.
Yeah.
I wanna be here.
Okay.
Yeah.
Honestly, if it was
me, I'd be like, girly.
What's going on?
Yeah.
Like what is happening here?
Like you've been saying, I've
been letting it go, but you've
been saying way too many things.
We need to talk.
Yeah.
Like, 'cause that's just rude.
Like, that's just rude.
You don't have to come, don't
do me any flipping favors.
Okay.

(44:16):
Okay.
Like, don't do me any, this what.
You're gonna ruin it being there.
I'd rather.
Yeah.
You are ruining it.
Like you're ruining everything.
You're making me feel bad.
Like you're, putting in digs, like
trying to make me feel bad about myself.
Yeah.
That's, oh gosh.
She's like putting all
the signs out there.
Yeah.
okay.
She says I wish I had a solid
excuse not to come to the

(44:36):
bachelorette trip, that was her end.
That's it.
Yeah.
That's your excuse.
Like don't come friend.
You don't need, I'd be like,
you don't even need one.
You're uninvited.
done.
Done.
Oh my gosh.
That is, I would literally
be like, don't you?
I would literally say that most
likely I'd be like, you don't
even need one you're uninvited.
If someone's gonna be that mopey and like.
Oh yeah, I wish I had a solid excuse.

(44:56):
And you're saying that to me.
Yeah,
Yeah.
No.
There you go.
Bye.
Yeah.
Yeah.
that's your excuse right?
There you have it.
okay.
She goes frustrated.
I said, if you don't wanna
come, then you should stay home.
Okay, good.
She replied that she would
def look bad if she didn't go.
So you look bad by saying this,
you already, what do you mean You
obviously don't care about looking bad?
'Cause you look bad right now.

(45:18):
Yeah.
How can you really care about
looking bad if you say that?
it's more about everybody
else, what everyone else thinks
versus your best friend or one.
Yeah.
You don't care about me or what
I think because you're saying
all this Yeah, to my face.
Like, you're being rude
and mean to my face.
it's not about me.
It's like, okay, what other
people would it look bad for then?
Yeah, exactly.
Oh my gosh.
while shopping for bridesmaid

(45:38):
dresses, Erica told me she struggles
when people get married before her.
Really?
Did they?
Right.
Not also, why are we telling her
this at bridesmaid dress shopping
again, like a wedding event for her.
Don't go if you're
gonna make it about you.
Like honestly, at this
point, this is where the
introspection we need to come in.
And it'd be like, I'm in a weird place.

(45:59):
I can literally, I don't know
why, but I can literally not
be happy for you right now.
Mm-hmm.
I want to be, I know I should
be, but I'm in a bad place.
honestly, I should just be like.
I can't do this and cut
it out, like mm-hmm.
not a lot of people are like
self-aware like that, where it's
like, I'm just not able to do this.
Yeah.
If it's gonna bother you that much and
every little thing you're gonna bring

(46:19):
up how you're not married yet, or you're
not engaged yet, that's a problem.
Yeah.
You're gonna be rude to your friend.
It's, this is supposedly your friend.
Yeah.
Like, you're gonna be rude to
them, put them down, make them
feel bad about all the events that
are happening around this wedding.
then just see yourself out,
be a friend and don't go.
Right.
Like that would be the
way you're being a friend.
If like I'm literally not able to control

(46:40):
myself at this point because I'm so
jealous that I need to not be involved.
Yeah.
100%. she goes, especially when
they haven't been with their
partners as long as she has.
Oh my gosh.
Doesn't matter.
Erica.
Get over it.
Yeah.
Okay.
Dump your partner and get a new one.
Then.
I don't know, if the issue is

(47:01):
that, then maybe you should
like not be with your partner.
If they, obviously, obviously I don't
think she should be with her partner.
If her partner said something along the
lines of like, oh, what's it called?
Don't hold your breath.
You shouldn't be with that.
You shouldn't be with that person.
Yeah.
Like you're more mad at him, I think.
Yeah.
You're not mad at your friend
and you're letting him dictate
how you feel about your friend,
which you should be happy for her.
I think you need to turn
the anger maybe to him.

(47:22):
Yes.
You guys are on different timelines.
Yes.
Yeah.
I mean, but also like why even if
you're on different timelines, why
would that be your answer to somebody
asking about when we're getting married?
Yeah.
Your breath.
You obviously don't like me.
if that's your answer, that's rude.
Yeah.
It's one thing to be like, I'm not ready.
Gonna be like, don't hold your breath.
Okay.
you don't like me.
Then like, you always like, you don't
care about me or my feelings, Yeah.
The fact that he was so quick to

(47:44):
be like, don't hold your breath.
Not like, don't worry,
we're gonna get married.
I've got something planned.
Or just like, I need another year.
You know, whatever.
Or can we talk about it later?
Like, can we talk like not
on this boat when Yeah.
Not on this boat.
might not be happy with my answer.
Let's talk about it in private.
Might ruin your whole day.
Yeah, exactly right.
Ruins everybody's day
and year, apparently.

(48:05):
Yes.
Oh my gosh.
she said she felt she should
be getting married before me.
Oh, now it's clear before me.
Because of the length
of her own relationship.
Length does not dictate any of that.
It does not ever.
It really doesn't ever.
Oh my gosh.
It really doesn't.
I wanted to suggest that she
stepped down as a bridesmaid, but
I avoided the confrontation because
I knew it would end our friendship.
Well, maybe, but this is

(48:25):
not ending your friend.
This should have ended your friendship.
Yeah.
This should have ended your friendship.
I think this girl's being way too
much of a pushover because like, this
should have ended your friendship.
Why are you worried about ending?
how is this not ending it?
Mm-hmm.
all the signs are there from the outside.
I'm like, these signs are so
big and red that I'm like you.
Yeah.
As red.
Those nails that you got proposed.
Yeah,

(48:48):
exactly.
They are, flashing at me.
Yes.
for the bachelorette trip, a joint
bachelor and bachelorette weekend.
Erica texted me the week before saying
her boyfriend couldn't take time off work.
So they probably would come late.
Okay.
I thought she was gonna say,
so they probably wouldn't come.
And I was gonna be like, whoa, whoa, whoa.
Wait.
Despite multiple bridesmaids

(49:08):
offering to drive her so she
could come on time, she refused.
that's weird.
If it's one of my best friends, I'd be
like, sorry, you have to work a boyfriend.
I'm going without you like, yeah.
What, what, I'm sorry.
I'm not wasting my time.
she and her boyfriend finally
arrived Friday night just as we
were heading to the karaoke bar.
At the bar they stood apart from
everyone else repeatedly asked

(49:29):
when we were leaving and complained
about how much they disliked it.
Why did you come?
They both did?
Apparently.
what?
What was the point of coming then?
you just like ob you want
to ruin people's time.
Mm-hmm.
You're just miserable, unhappy people.
Yeah.
you're being miserable and you're
trying to make everyone else miserable.
I'm one of those people where like, I

(49:49):
feel like I give so much grace where
I'm like, you know, if somebody's in a
bad place, and Maybe you are miserable.
Okay.
But like, are you spreading your misery?
That's what I'm really asking.
are you spreading your misery?
And that's what's happening here.
And I feel like that's
so like, get it together.
There's really no reason for you to go to
event and just ruin somebody else's time.
Go home.

(50:09):
Yeah, go home.
Because, yeah, no one feels bad for you.
don't go there to like ruin their day.
they're enjoying their time.
So just like.
Yeah.
This would also be a festivity and
you would literally be like, Ugh.
Can we go home?
Yeah, go.
No, yeah, you can.
Yeah, please.
You literally can, you drove here by
yourself because you didn't come with us.
' Cause you're waiting for your boyfriend
so you can, you literally can't go.
Yeah.
Literally.

(50:30):
Please.
Do you already want
the excuse to not come?
This is not an escape room.
You can escape.
Okay.
Yeah.
You're way out.
Oh my gosh.
This is wild.
the next morning Erica claimed she
had a panic attack and decided to
leave saying she wasn't having fun.
Okay.
Yeah.
Neither were we.
We could tell.
Yeah.
You could tell.
It's not a surprise.
You made it very clear.

(50:50):
Yeah.
Like it's not a surprise, girly.
A month after the trip, Erica got engaged.
Hmm.
Okay.
Good for maybe, I hope, you know what?
I hope her attitude changes now.
I hope she's very happy now.
Yeah.
Now she's gonna be, wait, I didn't read
the rest, but I'm just gonna guess it's
gonna be all about her and her wedding now
and then maybe they kept married first.

(51:12):
Oh my God.
I bet she's gonna be
like, oh, you know what?
If this was my wedding, I
wouldn't have done that.
Yes.
A lot of that, like, oh, you know what?
I would've never picked that color.
Oh, you know what?
I kind of feel like that's a little
techy, but like, it's good for you.
Oh my God.
I hate Erica.
What?
Yes.
God.
Erica, you're the worse.
Yeah.
a month after the trip, so Erica
got engaged and started texting me
questions about wedding planning.

(51:34):
she's so excited now.
look at her.
Things most bridesmaids would
already know, like what wedding
website I use and where my venue was.
On the day of my bridal shower, Erica
showed up with her mom both wearing white.
Because she's engaged, so
it's now her wedding here.
I literally can't,
Erica is just the worse.
Erica is the worst.

(51:56):
She can't help herself.
matching, outfits, like wearing
a sash bride and mother of bride.
She's like, well, I'm, also, engaged.
We're all engaged together.
Yeah.
Oh my God,
God.
she asked the other bridesmaids how
long the shower would last complained
about having to stay for the opening

(52:17):
of gifts and spent most of the time
talking about her own wedding plans.
you called it,
I feel like I've just seen so many
stories like this where I'm just
like that type of person that's so
upset and jealous and has to be rude.
The second then they get engaged.
It's me, me, me, me, me.
Oh, you had your, yes, that's it.
But it's like she doesn't

(52:37):
have her time yet.
She's still like.
She never had her time.
You were rude the whole time.
Like and then after now
you're still being rude.
See?
Are you just a rude person?
Like that.
Just who?
Yeah.
I was like, were there signs?
You know what, I'm sorry.
I feel like I was like, were there signs
already that Erica was not a good friend
I wanna hear about
before
all of this.
Yeah.
some pre-engagement stories about Erica.
Tell me the truth.

(52:57):
Yeah.
I was like, let's get the truth.
Have you, as his friend, needed
to be gone for a long time?
Probably.
My, guess is, yeah.
Yeah.
and this just brought
it all out even more.
when I walked over to her table,
her mom interrupted me to show Erica
something so cute for her wedding.
About 45 minutes into the shower,
Erica's mom came up to me and

(53:18):
said Erica wasn't feeling well.
I know I have to say that in that voice.
Yeah.
No, I love it.
Come say goodbye.
Oh.
At your shower.
You need to go outside
and say goodbye to Erica.
No, Erica can come inside.
Yeah.
Or, tell her I say bye.
She can just do the old Irish goodbye.
See ya.
I went outside and Erica apologized,
later texted me that she's always
getting sick at events related to me.

(53:41):
Oh my God.
You said it weird.
There must be some jealousy in the air.
Yeah.
Right, right.
I right.
Stick with jealousy.
You're literally getting
sick by your own jealousy.
Your own jealousy is making you sick.
Eating you up inside.
Alive.
Like, like your body
knows terrible therapy.

(54:02):
Immediately, please.
Like, yeah.
Can you seek some inner peace?
all right.
The next day, my sister texted Erica and
asked if she'd be getting sick on the
wedding day too, and whether she saw,
I love the sister.
The sister is awesome.
The sister was like, I'm done with this.
Yeah.
Like, I'll be her
backbone for a little bit.
I got, yeah.
Whether she felt capable

(54:22):
of handling the pressure.
Erica got defensive and sent me
a long series of messages about
feeling disrespected before I
could respond she blocked me.
The audacity!
And all the other
bridesmaids on social media.
' cause she was called out for her bs.
She felt disrespected?
She, Erica felt disrespect?

(54:42):
Wow.
Wow.
That is wild.
She did them a favor though.
Yeah.
Like somebody needed to like, thank
you for excusing yourself out then.
Mm-hmm.
And she, she literally went
through, just blocked everybody.
Okay.
Nobody wanted you ready.
That's someone that expects
you just to like, go to their
beck and call at all times.
No one says no to me.

(55:03):
And so I think because the
sister came in and was like, yo,
you're not being a good person.
Are you gonna be there or not?
Tell me now because
Yeah, exactly.
Not dealing with this.
I'm glad the sister said something.
'cause it was like someone had to be like,
we've already seen the pattern for a year.
Are you gonna do this on
the actual important day?
Mm-hmm.
If so, like, and I love that.
Are you gonna be able to handle it?

(55:23):
'cause Yeah.
can you handle it?
You've proven not to be able to.
So yeah.
Can you get yourself together before then?
Mm-hmm.
And she pretty much, she
answered, no, she's not.
I mean by all of her actions were a No.
That was the answer.
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
She blocked everybody off.
That is wild.
Oh so childish.
I kind of like.
Very loosely relate to this.
years ago I had a very

(55:44):
shady kind of friend.
The end of, yeah, shady is probably
the wrong word, just a friend
where like I was always like people
pleasing, bending over backwards for.
And many times, like last minute
cancellations, like if she was
gonna help me with something, like
feeling sick, that kind of stuff.
And my sister texted her one day when
she was supposed to come to something and
canceled like the morning of, or She like
stopped responding to me and my sister

(56:06):
was like, Christa's always bending over
backwards for you, blah, blah, blah.
And it was like the same thing.
She was rude back to my sister and
then texted me like a whole thing.
And I was just like, I'm done.
done.
Sorry.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like you can't take accountability.
Yeah.
Yeah.
all right.
Last paragraph here says,
looking back, I should have never
asked her to be a bridesmaid.
She has always been selfish and viewed

(56:27):
our friendship as a competition.
There you go.
Mm.
I was trying to hold on to a one-sided
friendship, but in the end she took
the first opportunity to bow out.
Wow.
They hung on by a thread
there for a while.
Yeah, yeah, and everyone, but I
mean, that's what we're wondering.
We're wondering, like, it seems like
Erica probably has always been a problem,
and, but she just confirmed that.

(56:48):
Yeah.
and that happens.
I mean, I've been, in a friendship
like that too, where like,
it was definitely one sided.
I was definitely like doing everything.
And they definitely were like
selfish, but there's like something,
I don't know what it is, but you
were like, attached to that person.
I felt attached to them.
and sometimes it can be hard to
like let people go, even if they're
like, not really bringing anything.
Mm-hmm.
A hundred percent.
Um, yeah.
Yeah.
So.

(57:08):
And I feel like too, it's like, you think
of like good times with that person.
Yeah.
And you're like, oh, they're
good to me during that.
Or like, this was a good time.
I don't wanna just like be the mean
person and say like, I'm done with
you, but also like, you matter too.
And it's like, yeah.
And their friendships just have
a timeline and they're just.
Done at a certain point.
And that's.
Yeah.
And this was the one, I mean, I
secretly wish for this girl that like

(57:30):
it had been earlier, so her whole,
all the events weren't like so tainted
with Erica's drama, But at least
her wedding wasn't tainted with it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She was long out by that point.
Yeah, right.
Oh my gosh.
Well that was a wild story.
Well, thank you so much for coming
on and yeah, entering with me
and reacting to this wild story.

(57:51):
I had so much fun hanging out with you.
I feel like we could talk for hours just
because I do too, so much to chat about.
can you again, just tell everyone where
they can follow you and find your content
and then anything fun you're working on?
Yeah.
you can find me on TikTok
at Miss Razzle Dazzle.
I've been trying to change it, but
it won't change on TikTok, so Miss
Razzle dazzle, and then on Instagram

(58:14):
at bits of banter with Antoinette
and then YouTube at bits of banter.
I love it.
now my next thing is Perfect
Match and Love is Blind uk so I'll
be reacting to those two shows.
Okay.
I gotta watch at least one of those.
Yes, yes.
I Dating Show World.
Yes.
Awesome.
Well thank you so much.

(58:35):
Thank you.

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