41: Highlights, Hard Truths & an Unexpected Wedding Crasher with Bailey Lavender

What happens when wedding day expectations clash with reality?

From boundary-crossing vendors to guests who take things a little too far, this episode unpacks the chaos that unfolds when people forget who the day is really about.

Bailey Lavender joins me for a candid chat on green flags, red flags, and how to set boundaries without being labeled a “bridezilla.” We share laughs, lessons, and real talk about communication, kindness, and staying true to yourself, no matter what drama comes your way.

Because at the end of the day, the best weddings aren’t perfect, they’re honest, intentional, and unapologetically you.

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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

• The Seamstress Saga – A wedding vendor takes “involvement” way too far, crossing professional boundaries and ruining key moments.
• When Vendors Forget Their Job – Christa and Bailey share why staying in your lane is crucial on someone else’s wedding day.
• The Bridesmaid Balancing Act – How to set limits and choose roles you can actually handle with love, not guilt.
• Boundaries ≠ Bridezilla – Why being firm about your expectations doesn’t make you difficult—it makes you wise.
• Kindness vs. People-Pleasing – Bailey opens up about learning when to say no to protect her peace (and her friendships).
• The Power of Professionalism – From photographers to coordinators, why doing your job well means knowing when to step back.
• The Cost of “Yes” Culture – How saying yes to everything can actually hurt the people you’re trying to help.
• Reclaiming the Moment – The bride’s plan to recreate her photos becomes a lesson in healing and taking back joy.

Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode

• “Being firm with your boundaries doesn’t make you a bridezilla—it makes you smart.” - Christa Innis
• “You can’t do it all, and saying yes to everything can actually hurt the people you’re trying to help.” - Christa Innis
• “Knowing your friends, and your limits, is key to surviving wedding season with your sanity intact.” - Christa Innis
• “It’s okay to decline being in a wedding if it’s not the right fit. Support can still look like showing up as a guest.” - Christa Innis
• “There’s a reason rules exist, because someone somewhere broke them first.” - Christa Innis
• “You have to show up wholeheartedly for what they’re asking of you, or you’re letting them down.” - Bailey Lavender
• “I can’t enjoy your day if I’m on the clock—so pick one: stylist or bridesmaid.” - Bailey Lavender
• “They forget it’s somebody’s important day and start thinking, ‘What can I get out of this?’” - Bailey Lavender
• “Not all kindness means saying yes, sometimes it means standing firm and protecting your peace.” - Bailey Lavender
• “Those Type A brides? They’ve got it right, they’re just making sure nothing ruins their day.” - Bailey Lavender

About Bailey

Bailey Lavender is a vibrant hairstylist and digital creator known for her bold aesthetic and engaging online presence. She shares hair transformations, fashion finds, and lifestyle content across platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. With a passion for creative color work and community events like the San Antonio Hair Show, Bailey blends artistry with influence, inviting followers into her world of beauty, style, and self-expression.

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