S3 Ep1: Mind the Kids - Monitoring versus Knowing: Rethinking the Parent-Child Dynamics

In this episode of Mind The Kids, our host for this series is Mark Tebbs who welcomes Isabel Aks and Professor William Pelham from the University of California, San Diego, for an insightful conversation on “Monitoring versus Knowing: Rethinking the Parent-Child Dynamics.” Drawing on their recent research published in JCPP Advances (https://doi.org/10.1002/jcv2.70008), the trio explores what parental monitoring really means today—and why it’s much more than just (as Mark's son says) “another name for spying.”

Isabel explains how parental monitoring is often misunderstood as snooping, when in reality it’s about the everyday ways parents stay connected to their children’s lives, from casual check-ins to knowing their friends and routines. William, a clinical child psychologist, highlights the delicate balance between keeping kids safe and respecting their growing independence—especially in the digital age, where technology has transformed how parents and teens interact. 

Together, they discuss how trust is the foundation of effective monitoring, and how open communication—not just gathering information—builds stronger parent-child relationships. The conversation also unpacks the evolution of research in this area, shifting focus from simply what parents know to what they actually do to foster connection and care. 

With practical advice and real-world examples, this episode is essential listening for parents, clinicians, and anyone interested in the changing landscape of family life. Tune in to discover why intentional, adaptable, and caring approaches to monitoring can help families thrive, even as the world—and childhood—rapidly change.