August 26, 2025 • 29 mins
What's going on with the sordid state of the date in 2025? Brian invites skeptical dater Carrie into the studio to break down what's doing on out there, how to build the perfect profile, setting unreasonable standards, learning from mistakes, fishing in a dirty pool, and much more! Plus, one of the worst first dates...ever?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is pod Popular Podcast for the People.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
The Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate, The
Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debase. Hi, get everyone,
it's Brian how He. Welcome to the Great Love Debate,
the world's number one dating and relationship podcast since twenty fifteen.
I'm back here in the very fine studios of Pod
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Popular Podcasts for the People. I am at the one
in Boca Raton, Florida. It is stormy, so do with
that information whatever you like. I get a lot of
people who come to me and they say, I want
to come on there and talk about dating. I want
to come on your podcast. I've got so many things
to say, you know, good, bad, funny and different. And
I'm always very skeptical because the bar at the Great
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Love Debate for what is uh engaging and entertaining as
far as a dating viewpoint, it's a pretty high bar.
So we had somebody do this about two years ago
and they came in, they go and then he made
me pay for my Caesar salad. And I'm like that
in the scheme of things like that's not exactly a
dating disaster, and it wasn't that entertaining, but I have
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somebody here who I think is entertaining. She's my friend.
She's my friend Carrie, and she's been kicking around the Northeast.
I know her from Greenwich, Connecticut, where we had another pod,
popular podcast with the People. She just relocated to Boca Raton, Florida,
and I don't think she knows what she's getting into
down here. She's been single a few years, and I'm
gonna get her sort of dating lay of the land,
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both geographically and also at the age she is in
because she's in a very unique She's lovely, by the way,
so let's not we don't have any cameras here, but
if we did, you would see that she's lovely. But
she's in kind of a tough spot and I don't
want to to downplay for her, but I'm gonna say, Hi, Carrie, Hi, Hi,
How are you are you optimistic as a dater in
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twenty twenty five as we record this.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I'm optimistic for my new venture in Boca.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
In Boca Ratone, Florida. Now I'm going to give you
sort of the summary of South Florida dating. Every year
we put out the top ten, worst, best, and worst
places in which to find love in America. South Florida
is always in the top ten worst. There's some pluses here.
There's a lot of turnover, which means the pool turns over.
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The problem is here for somebody a woman, I'll just
say not to give away your age. Between forty and sixty.
That pool of men has pooped out. They're just tired.
They're playing golf. So if you go out to a
restaurant or a wine bar or a nightclub here, it's
going to seem like it's seven to one women to
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men because these guys play golf all day and they're
sleep at eight o'clock. So I don't know what age
range you're looking for. What age range are you looking for?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
What age range? I think like my age range would be.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Good, which is what not to say, Like early fifties
mean you're looking like fifty to fifty five? Yes, okay,
that's a small bulls eye to hit anywhere, right, And
I think you want because you're like, this is the
way I feel in my early fifties. I feel fun,
I feel vivacious. I'm ready to go out there and
meet somebody. The guys and I'm a guy in my fifties. Eh,
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kind of dull, kind of had it or as you know,
the problem is here. The problem in South Florida is
a lot of guys in their fifties got divorced from
a lot of women in their fifties who made them
feel rightly or wrongly, a little bit inadequate, a little
bit in secure. So these guys in their fifties one
to date girls in their twenties, because if you buy
two bottles of two glasses of pino and war for
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a girl who's twenty three, she's gonna think you're a hero.
If he buys two glasses of pino no War for you,
you're like, I can buy my own Pino no War.
And so that's the challenge is these men who've lost
their confidence wanting to take on somebody who's a lot like,
at least demographically, the one they just got divorced from.
Does that make sense.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Right, But then they have to deal with the twenty
five year old to.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Have a baby, no doubt.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
To go back to diapers.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
That's the fun for the women. It's not nearly as
scary for the men, especially down here in South Florida,
where a lot of these men have some degree of
money they're not that scared by having a baby as
she is, So that's not I agree with you. I think, like,
oh my god, why would anybody date somebody, especially if
they want to date somebody like thirty six? That woman
really is wanting to have a baby. But if these
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guys are like I'm going to date, you know, these
young girls have fun. A lot of times those young
girls will pull the parachute because they don't want to
have necessarily have a baby with a fifty five year
old either.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
So maybe you think I should go up to like
maybe the mid nineties.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Yes, I think that. Well, it depends on where you're well,
so let's start there. That's a good point. What are
you looking for? Have you been married once? Twice?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Married once?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (04:51):
I was in two relationships and single for.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Two substantial relationships, like like this is my boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
And we're this is my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Okay. So what do you want out of a relationship
in your early fifties now?
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Yeah, someone who I want to have sex with all
the time.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Okay, put that on your Tinder profile. I think you can't.
How hard is that? There's a child in here? Sorry,
cover your ears, young lady. Cover your ears. How hard
is that defined?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Well, I'm just saying like, that's that's one of my
top you know, if I don't listen to you.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
There's so many that somebody you want to have sex with.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yes, if you can have a big bank account, but
I don't want if I'm not attracted to you, and
I don't want to have sex with you, I don't
care how big your bank account is. This doesn't matter
to me.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Okay, there's a lot.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Of women who are just fine with the bank.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Okay, how do you know you want to have cover
your ears? Young lady? How do you know that you
want to sleep with the dude?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
How do you know I'm attracted?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I'll know right away, so physically attracted regardless of bank account.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I mean, yeah, I knew there's a caveat there. Yeah,
you better apply. You better fill out this application all
the way here. That's the problem. You need to spend
time with them. Is there a chance that because you
know I talked about this on the podcast, a lot
men are really hooked on that rom com mentality that
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eventually she'll find me good looking. Like if they spend
enough time with you, eventually you'll find something that is
sort of. Yeah, women tend to eventually, you know.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I wasn't attracted him at first, and then I spent
time with him, and then I kind of liked him.
That is more likely to happen with a woman to
a man than a man to a woman. Has that
happened to you before?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I guess kind of with my ex husband. Yeah, And
I think with my ex husband, I was more attracted
to his package, his whole package.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
WHOA cover your ears again?
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Then it was just that I was just like physically
attracted to him because he wasn't tip like my typical look.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But physically attracted two dimensional also doesn't mean you're gonna
want to have sex with him or that you'll like
having sex with him, right, So that's a challenge too.
You won't know if you like having sex with him
until you have sex with him. You're gonna take a
lot of applications then, I mean, you know, sorry like that.
So if you're looking, so that's your number one thing
at your age and not you're you're still in the
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primary life. So I don't say that flipp itly, but
I want somebody who I physically desire. Yes, that shouldn't
be hard, but I think that ninety percent of the
time at least that you're spending with this time, you're
gonna be this person, you're gonna be clothed, so you
better like them too. Well that's true, yes, and you
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better like them first, because there's nothing worse than like, okay, now,
can you leave? You know after, like you're you're done
with whatever you're doing. Like I think, well, that.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Kind of happened with my ex boyfriend. We had a
very strong physical attraction and he had mental issues, so
he suffered from anxiety and OCD and he would portray
all of his anxiety on me and it would drive
me crazy. So when I first saw him, it was great.
We had that passion and you know, we had that
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sexual be chemistry together, and then after that was over,
I want to throw him out the window.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Chemistry chemistry manifests itself in the same part of the
brain as cocaine.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
It's very it's it's fleeting, it's erratic, it may not
be real. So I think you still have to first
go out there and try and find something substantive and
then hope that the physical attraction works. I get that
you have to find someone who's cute first, you know,
or you're not gonna give him the time of day.
But if you're saying that I really want to have
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this sort of whirlwind romance on the beat summer eleven,
I don't know. That's tough to sustain. And then you're
gonna have to find another new guy here and unless
but you could go for a bunch of like thirty
five year olds. Does that interest you?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
No? I was stating someone in New York who's forty five.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Yeah, but he's.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
He's more religious than me. I'm Jewish, but he's like,
he keeps Shabbat every weekend. Yeah, and then it was
annoying because it couldn't spend Friday and Saturday with it.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
It's a thing down here in South Florida. It's more
Jewish than Tel Aviv here. Yes it is. And so
I know you want a Jewish guy though, too right? Yes,
what do you care? Why do you care at this
point a Jewish.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Guy because women can boss around the Jewish man?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Okay, that's fair. That tends to go against the sexually
attracting you want. Are you sexually attracted to a man
that you could boss around? Because that seems polar oppice.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I like a man who's metro. I like men who
are like you do.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Oh yeah, see that doesn't seem to go with it either.
You don't want the the You want the metro guy,
the knuckle dragon caveman is the one that's gonna win
at the end of the day. Why do you want
that the Metro? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
You want to share a mirror time with this guy?
How are you defining metro? You want an aiden, not
a mister big.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
No, definitely not mister big.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
I don't you want aiden?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Yeah? I don't like men who are like men. I
like men who look like girls.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Like Jared Letto or somebody I like. So put that
in your dating profile. I like men who look like girls.
This is a little bit tougher bulls I to hit.
But I also think you'll have less competition for these guys.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Well, so I met this skuy in the Hampton and
he when he met me at the restaurant, he looked
like a model, very good looking, well dressed fashion head
to toe. Took me to a nice restauran on for dinner,
paid for dinner, told me from a very affluent family.
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We're walking back to our cars, and I said to him,
I was like, so, where are you staying in the Hampton's.
He opened his car door and he had a mattress
and said that he's living in his car.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Is it a nice car? Kind of car? Was it?
I mean, he's very comfortable by.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
But I was like, what do you mean, you're living
in your car?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Oh? Is that a deal breaker?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Living in the car?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah? Yeah, I mean I mean, was he metrosexual?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I don't, I don't know Metro? Well, he was definitely Metro.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
He was definitely Metro.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
He was definitely Metro. But the car, yes, that's a
deal breaker. I literally was up the entire night over
the fact that he slept in his car.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Huh. There's a lot of art galleries here. That's there's
some Metro guys there here, No here in there's a
lot of art college around. That's kind of you see
some of those dudes. Yeah, you know exactly. I'm not
exactly like the most macho guy myself, but but that
is I've never I've done five hundred some episodes of
this podcast, I've done four hundred something live shows around
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the world. I've never had a woman say that was
what they wanted. All right, I have a lot more
questions for you. I'm here with Carrie. We're breaking down
the twenty twenty five state of the date. I think
we got to take a quick break because we have
to pay for mattresses in case we got to sleep
in the car. We will be back right after this. Okay,
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and we are back online dating?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Are you online?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Are you on j date?
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Now?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
What do you want?
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I'm on bumble?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
You're on Bumble? What is your profile? Can we look
at your profile in real time? Can I read your profile? Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Break? Do you have your phone? Yes? I'm going to
do a forensic analysis of your of your profile right now.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Okay. So I just deleted it because I left New York.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Okay, and I was so I can't read.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
It, no, because I was going to do new photos
and new profile for Okay, for South Florida, South Florida.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
So more floral patterns than Lily Pulitzer. I don't know,
like beach picks, Like why what is the difference? Everybody
here came from New York. That's true, right, We're all the.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Same, So don't do the beach picks.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I mean, I don't know. Are you just running around
a bikini? Is that the picks? I don't know what
are you putting in your profile? Let me ask that
what are you putting in terms of see a good
dating profile should follow should follow these rules?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Okay, it says fit, fashionable, and fun.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Okay, it sounds like you're looking for your gay best friend,
which is fine too. Are you describing you or them? Okay?
What do you look? A good profile should should say this.
It should be three things you want them to find
out about you, which is good, three face, fashionable, and fun,
two things you hope to find in them, and one
thing you hope to find together. So I am this,
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this and this, I'm looking for this and this and
let's run around the world. So what are the two
things you're looking for a sexually attractive yet metrosexual.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Well metro. I don't want it to come off as
I'm looking for a gay guy because I don't want
him to be into men. I just want him to
be metro.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
And how are you you're defining metro? Is like well groomed,
well styled?
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Oh, definitely well groomed.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yes, okay, he seems like a like like a hairless pig.
Is this what you want. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
And who's like stylish and smells nice?
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Figs? Where's a lot of a lot of has a
has a sweater around their neck? Where's a lot of pink?
You want a vineyard vines guy.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I don't like vineyard vines.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
You want a Brooks Brothers guy, they're out of business.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
No, I don't like Books Brothers.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
But down here you're gonna a lot of Tommy Bahama.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Tommy Bahama, You're gonna go out of.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Fat guys with oversized, extra large shirts.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
I done, Tommy Bahamas.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
I know that's what you're getting. But you came down
here for this.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I went to skinny Fit.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Then you need to go to Miami.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh there's no skinny fet in Pokush Mocha.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
In Palm Beach County. Yeah, not a lot. Or they're young,
I mean once the guys hit forty five here, it's
it's their style. Is is golf cart fashionable? Like that?
It's a little schlumpy here. Slumpy is a Jewish word, right, ye,
slumpy Yiddish? I think so? Uh yeah, I mean that's
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gonna be a challenge too fine, Like I get that
we all want something you're gonna have to expand your
age up. I will tell you that you're gonna have
to go like fifty to sixty five.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I was gonna go up to ninety five.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
You can go to ninety five too. But a lot
of women are like, oh sixty five. Gross. Well, look
the guys in there in their early sixties. And I'm
not saying you're gonna get these guys in South Florida,
but Brad Pitt, Robert Downey Junior, George Clooney, like, there's
a lot of very good looking men in their early sixties,
Like they're out there. You've got to, though, So what
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you need to do when you find one at the
bar here and you get their attention and you start
a conversation, You're going to have to figure out a
way to let them know that you still need a
man in your life, that you're still open to it,
that you're not an independent woman. A lot of these
women all over America, they're like, I'm an independent woman. Great.
All that tells me is you don't need me. We
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want to be needed as men. So you have to
figure out a way to paint a bullseye where he
can get into your world. And somehow enhance it. That's
a little bit challenging for all of us to do
because we're all kind of independent. We all have our
own phones, we all can entertain ourselves. We all really
don't need a partner as much as we used to,
at least we think that. And at your age and
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my age, we've all been in relationships and we're a
little bit jaded as to, oh, this is going to
be amazing for fifty years. You know, right, you want
to get married again? Yes, Oh see, that's good too,
that's hopeful. Yes, all right, that's a good thing because
a lot of women and a lot of men, once
they get to a certain point and they get divorced,
a little bit of the fantasy has popped and they're likeayingah,
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I just want to get through three months with the
same person without killing them. You know, what are your
geographical Are you willing to go seventy five miles? Are
you willing to go to Naples?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
God?
Speaker 2 (17:27):
No, you'd go Well, you'd go one hundred miles for
a deal in a desk at Ikea. You wouldn't do
it for a possible love interest in Naples. I don't know,
it's right across Alligator ally.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Oh, it's awful. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Did you go to Would you go to what's forty
five miles from here? Would you go to Jupiter? Would
you go to Miami? A lot of traffic.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I would go to Miami, but Jupiter, Jupiter is boring.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
You're very boring. You just moved from Connecticut. It's not
exactly Studio fifty four there. I know it is boring,
but this is a retirement community. This is literally del
Boca Vista here, folk tone is where people go to die.
What are you doing here? Seriously? Now, that's not fair.
I like it here. We have studio here and it
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is younger and fun, and there's people from all over
the world here. There's a lot of Israeli population here.
Is that too Jewish?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
So you want to you don't want to just pure
Israeli here? I just want reform jew So no shabbat.
Explain what reform means?
Speaker 1 (18:27):
I want Jewish jappie no no shabbat.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Kosher no kosher wie bacon.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I mean it's not really my thing, but every once
in a while.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
We eat shellfish. Yes, okay, then you don't need the
Jewish thing. What do you care you're looking for Jewish
to dominate. But you could say, I, if you're out
there and you're a Scottish boy and I can boss
you around and I'm sexually attracted to you, no problem,
We're good, We're good. Okay, that sounds reasonable. Oh my god,
I don't know if I'm hopeful for your word for
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you whatever, but this is you know, you should have
a podcast and bring these candidates in here. To do
this on your profile, though, you have to say the
two things you're looking for. If you're saying I need
to be sexually attracted to you, that's that's a little
too out there. That's a little too forward on a
dating profile. Okay, so what are the two things you
say you want to be successful? Do you want to
say something like that successful thinks you're high maintenance.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Well, successful sounds like that I'm just after them for
their month.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
No, it says you're also after their money. It means
that you can't sleep in your car, so you need
to have something. Well, you have to pick the two things,
like two or three things that you really want in them, right,
and they should be kind of said with like a
wink and a sense of humor. You know, I want
a guy who can you know, can you kill spiders
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for me? Something like that, Oh I don't like spiders, right,
so then you would want to got to kill spiders
for you. Because a lot of men will raise their hand.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want them to be like, let's go travel your.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
You say that. A lot of people say they want
to travel. But a lot of people want to travel because
they don't anybody they want to stay home with, and
so they want to travel because the travel's fun because
their home life's not fun. And I'm some of who
travels a lot. I would rather be home with somebody
who I cared about, And so a lot of people.
I mean, do you want to put in there like
must have global entry? Yes, okay, if you put that
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in there, that the signal for that is you have
a certain level of sophistication. You travel out of the
country a lot, which tends to imply that you need
some means of taking care of you. So what else
that's not a bad thing, Like just say like, hope
you have global entry. That says like, let's run around
the world.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Have global entry, right, Okay, that's a good one.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I know. Yeah, I just fall out of the coconut
tree here with these ideas, what else one more thing
that you need in a man, One more thing that
you want to put out there that like, this is
what I'm looking for in.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
A guy, someone who wants to work out with me.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
That's daytime shit. Oh you want nighttime? Shit?
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Nighttime?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Please have a bedtime after ten pm? Something like that.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
At bedtime after ten pm?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Which rules me out. Yeah, because this is the thing
in Florida, like people get up early and they go
to bed early. If you want to put out there
that you are a fun, vivacious, have energy, want to
like go out on the town, Yeah, you have to
put that out there, like let's let's you know, we're
going out.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
We're you going to get a party till eleven twelve o'clock.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Wow, crazy, slow down eleven twelve o'clock. Let's do last
call together something like that. I mean, Miami's a little rough.
The bars in Miami close like six am.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But I don't really drink.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
What does not really drink?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Me very rare?
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Okay, that doesn't mean you don't and can they I don't.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Care if they drink, But I don't want to be
with somebody who's a heavy drinker.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yeah, that's such a true then, because.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Then they're like, you know, one of my guys that
I was dating, he was like calling me up, like
slurring his words, and I'm like, I barely drink and
now I'm going to listen.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Yeah, I know it's rough at some points where like
we don't need to drink anymore. I get that, but
you have to put something in there that shows that
you want to have your fun, like workout partner. Not
a lot of guys are signed up for that because
it's sweaty. It's daytime sweaty. I don't think we want that.
Like people don't want to go hiking. Men don't want
to go hiking with you. They want you to put
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on like a pretty dress and let's go somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Well, I don't want to go hiking because then there's snakes.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
I agree with you.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
I'm anti snake too. You know where there's no snakes, Hawaii.
You know where else there's no snakes, New Zealand. They
never got there, people on this podcast. No, I have
a mental list of place the closest to here with
no snakes Newfoundland. So I don't know if the Newfoundland
men are your guys. Yeah, there's only a handful of
places of no snakes the same you live in westbolk Raton.
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It's practically Jurassic Park over there. What are you doing?
There's snakes and alligators and lizards and all kinds of things.
Are you not aware of this?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I said the lizards, But there's.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Alligators all over the place where and there's python. The
python in South Florida have eaten all the deer. There's
no more deer in South Florida. The python ate them all.
They're coming for us. That's like a real thing. The town,
the town just south of here is called Deerfield Beach.
You know, it's called Deerfield Beach because he used to
be a field of deer. There's none left. The python
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ate them all, and they cut them open and there's
deer hoofs in them. Yeah. Sorry, that's not exactly good
for Florida tourism. But anyway, if you want to, you
need to put something out there that like, I'm fun,
I'm sexy. I want to you know, do dance. Okay,
A guy who will go dancing checks two boxes. It
means he goes out at night and he's probably a
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little metro. Okay, put that out there. Take me dancing
and let's have fun. That will do? There? Are you
open to to some of the many, many, many Latin
men that are here.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
No, I don't like Latin.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Sorry Latin men. That's seventy. Your choice is down here
a Jewish man and Latin man. That's it. Only Jewish.
But the Jewish guys aren't good dancers. Sorry, sorry Jewish man.
Will you teach them how to dance? I'll teach them, okay.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Shake their little booty around?
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Oh my god? All right, this is I wish you
well and we're gonna do this. But this is your
first time on this podcast. We play something called worst
date or first date. So you either have to give
us the absolute worst date you've ever been on, okay,
or the greatest first date you've ever been on.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Your choice, I'll give you the worst date.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Okay. How did I have a feeling? Go ahead?
Speaker 1 (24:34):
So I went out with this guy and when he
was a cyclist.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
And he a bicyclist, cyclist, like he rides a like
a bike, okay, in this.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Green outfit because he would always put on his green
outfit to go cycling, and we would only eat at
organic restaurant. So now I have all these like you know,
designer clothing, and I have to go with him to
an organic restaurant.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
And I was like, well, he's fitting healthy. That's so far.
That's what I get at him.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
He's fitting healthy, right, but I don't want to eat
at the tree hugger restaurant.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
Okay, right, fair enough.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
So then I go back to his place and he
has a clear tent over his bed with a machine
hooked up to.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
The like a hyperback chamber.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Up to the bed, up to the bed, so.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
This clear. He's like a bubble boy.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
He went into his tent to sleep every night, right,
he could sleep at elevation.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Okay, And he got you in there, So the tree
Hugger restaurant wasn't a deal breaker, Nor was the guy
with the mattress in the car had a shot. I
think he gave up too soon. So you got in
the healthy. So he wanted to have sex with you
at high, high elevation.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
At high elevation, yeah, yeah, is that a bad thing?
And then and then you're ready. Yeah, he drank his
own pea.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Okay, that is that a turn on? Did you do
this before you got in the bed? Was it a nightcap?
Speaker 1 (26:14):
This is his nightcap?
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Did he offer you any how did you know? How
does he bring this up? He tells you what this is.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
He told me that he's going to drink his pea
because it's very good for his body.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Okay, it's possible, and you still got in the bed.
So there's really not a whole lot of deal breakers here.
So what part of this is the bad day?
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Well then I was like, what is all this? This
is very weird, right, So then I was like goodbye.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Oh the pea was too much.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
The pee, the tents, the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Did he drink the pea in front of you? Did
he drink in front of you?
Speaker 1 (26:54):
He drank it in front of him?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Did you kiss him?
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Not after that?
Speaker 2 (26:57):
He kissed him before?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
I was like, oh my god, now I have pea
in my mouth because who knows?
Speaker 2 (27:02):
That means that he did it before. So to be fair,
he's fitting healthy, he's gonna live a long time. He's
probably very virileftly metro. Okay, he's metro. See this guy
there's just like you. This could be the guy. I
think you need to revisit this all right? Where do
you find a guy like that?
Speaker 1 (27:20):
I found him at a health food stock.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
What town was this in? Brandish, Connecticut?
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Grew Connecticut? Ok imagine in the health food cafe.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Okay, you should just stick to the polo fields. There's
probably better as So you were at the same place
as him, and you went out and he a cyclist.
I don't know that's there's some women listening that are like, Okay,
I want a guy like that, but not for you.
He was almost there. If he didn't drink the pea,
you'd be engaged to this guy right now. So it
wasn't terrible. So the date wasn't bad. It was just
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he was a little too far out of the fringes
for you. You think, yeah, maybe this is ok Back
to the Hampton's and the mattress in the car. All right,
this was fun. I think we're gonna have to have
you back to chronicle this. You've only been in this town,
what two days?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Two days?
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Okay, Well, we'll have to do that. Is there any
way people can find you on social media or anything
to check you out or you don't want to give
that out.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
I'm not giving that all right, Well.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
We'll shoot a picture and we'll put it on our socials.
This was fun as far as us like, share, follow,
Please review this podcast. Review still mean a lot in
the podcasting ecosystem. I will keep you posted on Carrie's podcast,
which I'm sure is going to launch shortly. I kind
of leaked out that I might be doing some live
Great Love Debate shows. I might health permitting, and I
got some people who are like, come to Boise. I'm
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not coming to Boise, but I might go to some
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Great Loved Debate at gmail dot com if you want question, comments, thoughts,
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It's the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's
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Speaker 2 (00:08):
The Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate, The
Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debase. Hi, get everyone,
it's Brian how He. Welcome to the Great Love Debate,
the world's number one dating and relationship podcast since twenty fifteen.
I'm back here in the very fine studios of Pod
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Popular Podcasts for the People. I am at the one
in Boca Raton, Florida. It is stormy, so do with
that information whatever you like. I get a lot of
people who come to me and they say, I want
to come on there and talk about dating. I want
to come on your podcast. I've got so many things
to say, you know, good, bad, funny and different. And
I'm always very skeptical because the bar at the Great
(00:50):
Love Debate for what is uh engaging and entertaining as
far as a dating viewpoint, it's a pretty high bar.
So we had somebody do this about two years ago
and they came in, they go and then he made
me pay for my Caesar salad. And I'm like that
in the scheme of things like that's not exactly a
dating disaster, and it wasn't that entertaining, but I have
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somebody here who I think is entertaining. She's my friend.
She's my friend Carrie, and she's been kicking around the Northeast.
I know her from Greenwich, Connecticut, where we had another pod,
popular podcast with the People. She just relocated to Boca Raton, Florida,
and I don't think she knows what she's getting into
down here. She's been single a few years, and I'm
gonna get her sort of dating lay of the land,
(01:33):
both geographically and also at the age she is in
because she's in a very unique She's lovely, by the way,
so let's not we don't have any cameras here, but
if we did, you would see that she's lovely. But
she's in kind of a tough spot and I don't
want to to downplay for her, but I'm gonna say, Hi, Carrie, Hi, Hi,
How are you are you optimistic as a dater in
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twenty twenty five as we record this.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I'm optimistic for my new venture in Boca.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
In Boca Ratone, Florida. Now I'm going to give you
sort of the summary of South Florida dating. Every year
we put out the top ten, worst, best, and worst
places in which to find love in America. South Florida
is always in the top ten worst. There's some pluses here.
There's a lot of turnover, which means the pool turns over.
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The problem is here for somebody a woman, I'll just
say not to give away your age. Between forty and sixty.
That pool of men has pooped out. They're just tired.
They're playing golf. So if you go out to a
restaurant or a wine bar or a nightclub here, it's
going to seem like it's seven to one women to
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men because these guys play golf all day and they're
sleep at eight o'clock. So I don't know what age
range you're looking for. What age range are you looking for?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
What age range? I think like my age range would be.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Good, which is what not to say, Like early fifties
mean you're looking like fifty to fifty five? Yes, okay,
that's a small bulls eye to hit anywhere, right, And
I think you want because you're like, this is the
way I feel in my early fifties. I feel fun,
I feel vivacious. I'm ready to go out there and
meet somebody. The guys and I'm a guy in my fifties. Eh,
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kind of dull, kind of had it or as you know,
the problem is here. The problem in South Florida is
a lot of guys in their fifties got divorced from
a lot of women in their fifties who made them
feel rightly or wrongly, a little bit inadequate, a little
bit in secure. So these guys in their fifties one
to date girls in their twenties, because if you buy
two bottles of two glasses of pino and war for
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a girl who's twenty three, she's gonna think you're a hero.
If he buys two glasses of pino no War for you,
you're like, I can buy my own Pino no War.
And so that's the challenge is these men who've lost
their confidence wanting to take on somebody who's a lot like,
at least demographically, the one they just got divorced from.
Does that make sense.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Right, But then they have to deal with the twenty
five year old to.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Have a baby, no doubt.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
To go back to diapers.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
That's the fun for the women. It's not nearly as
scary for the men, especially down here in South Florida,
where a lot of these men have some degree of
money they're not that scared by having a baby as
she is, So that's not I agree with you. I think, like,
oh my god, why would anybody date somebody, especially if
they want to date somebody like thirty six? That woman
really is wanting to have a baby. But if these
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guys are like I'm going to date, you know, these
young girls have fun. A lot of times those young
girls will pull the parachute because they don't want to
have necessarily have a baby with a fifty five year
old either.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
So maybe you think I should go up to like
maybe the mid nineties.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Yes, I think that. Well, it depends on where you're well,
so let's start there. That's a good point. What are
you looking for? Have you been married once? Twice?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Married once?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (04:51):
I was in two relationships and single for.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Two substantial relationships, like like this is my boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
And we're this is my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Okay. So what do you want out of a relationship
in your early fifties now?
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Yeah, someone who I want to have sex with all
the time.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Okay, put that on your Tinder profile. I think you can't.
How hard is that? There's a child in here? Sorry,
cover your ears, young lady. Cover your ears. How hard
is that defined?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Well, I'm just saying like, that's that's one of my
top you know, if I don't listen to you.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
There's so many that somebody you want to have sex with.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yes, if you can have a big bank account, but
I don't want if I'm not attracted to you, and
I don't want to have sex with you, I don't
care how big your bank account is. This doesn't matter
to me.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Okay, there's a lot.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Of women who are just fine with the bank.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Okay, how do you know you want to have cover
your ears? Young lady? How do you know that you
want to sleep with the dude?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
How do you know I'm attracted?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I'll know right away, so physically attracted regardless of bank account.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I mean, yeah, I knew there's a caveat there. Yeah,
you better apply. You better fill out this application all
the way here. That's the problem. You need to spend
time with them. Is there a chance that because you
know I talked about this on the podcast, a lot
men are really hooked on that rom com mentality that
(06:21):
eventually she'll find me good looking. Like if they spend
enough time with you, eventually you'll find something that is
sort of. Yeah, women tend to eventually, you know.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I wasn't attracted him at first, and then I spent
time with him, and then I kind of liked him.
That is more likely to happen with a woman to
a man than a man to a woman. Has that
happened to you before?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I guess kind of with my ex husband. Yeah, And
I think with my ex husband, I was more attracted
to his package, his whole package.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
WHOA cover your ears again?
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Then it was just that I was just like physically
attracted to him because he wasn't tip like my typical look.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But physically attracted two dimensional also doesn't mean you're gonna
want to have sex with him or that you'll like
having sex with him, right, So that's a challenge too.
You won't know if you like having sex with him
until you have sex with him. You're gonna take a
lot of applications then, I mean, you know, sorry like that.
So if you're looking, so that's your number one thing
at your age and not you're you're still in the
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primary life. So I don't say that flipp itly, but
I want somebody who I physically desire. Yes, that shouldn't
be hard, but I think that ninety percent of the
time at least that you're spending with this time, you're
gonna be this person, you're gonna be clothed, so you
better like them too. Well that's true, yes, and you
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better like them first, because there's nothing worse than like, okay, now,
can you leave? You know after, like you're you're done
with whatever you're doing. Like I think, well, that.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Kind of happened with my ex boyfriend. We had a
very strong physical attraction and he had mental issues, so
he suffered from anxiety and OCD and he would portray
all of his anxiety on me and it would drive
me crazy. So when I first saw him, it was great.
We had that passion and you know, we had that
(08:24):
sexual be chemistry together, and then after that was over,
I want to throw him out the window.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Chemistry chemistry manifests itself in the same part of the
brain as cocaine.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
It's very it's it's fleeting, it's erratic, it may not
be real. So I think you still have to first
go out there and try and find something substantive and
then hope that the physical attraction works. I get that
you have to find someone who's cute first, you know,
or you're not gonna give him the time of day.
But if you're saying that I really want to have
(08:57):
this sort of whirlwind romance on the beat summer eleven,
I don't know. That's tough to sustain. And then you're
gonna have to find another new guy here and unless
but you could go for a bunch of like thirty
five year olds. Does that interest you?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
No? I was stating someone in New York who's forty five.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Yeah, but he's.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
He's more religious than me. I'm Jewish, but he's like,
he keeps Shabbat every weekend. Yeah, and then it was
annoying because it couldn't spend Friday and Saturday with it.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
It's a thing down here in South Florida. It's more
Jewish than Tel Aviv here. Yes it is. And so
I know you want a Jewish guy though, too right? Yes,
what do you care? Why do you care at this
point a Jewish.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Guy because women can boss around the Jewish man?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Okay, that's fair. That tends to go against the sexually
attracting you want. Are you sexually attracted to a man
that you could boss around? Because that seems polar oppice.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I like a man who's metro. I like men who
are like you do.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Oh yeah, see that doesn't seem to go with it either.
You don't want the the You want the metro guy,
the knuckle dragon caveman is the one that's gonna win
at the end of the day. Why do you want
that the Metro? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
You want to share a mirror time with this guy?
How are you defining metro? You want an aiden, not
a mister big.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
No, definitely not mister big.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
I don't you want aiden?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Yeah? I don't like men who are like men. I
like men who look like girls.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Like Jared Letto or somebody I like. So put that
in your dating profile. I like men who look like girls.
This is a little bit tougher bulls I to hit.
But I also think you'll have less competition for these guys.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Well, so I met this skuy in the Hampton and
he when he met me at the restaurant, he looked
like a model, very good looking, well dressed fashion head
to toe. Took me to a nice restauran on for dinner,
paid for dinner, told me from a very affluent family.
(11:07):
We're walking back to our cars, and I said to him,
I was like, so, where are you staying in the Hampton's.
He opened his car door and he had a mattress
and said that he's living in his car.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Is it a nice car? Kind of car? Was it?
I mean, he's very comfortable by.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
But I was like, what do you mean, you're living
in your car?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Oh? Is that a deal breaker?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Living in the car?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah? Yeah, I mean I mean, was he metrosexual?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I don't, I don't know Metro? Well, he was definitely Metro.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
He was definitely Metro.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
He was definitely Metro. But the car, yes, that's a
deal breaker. I literally was up the entire night over
the fact that he slept in his car.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Huh. There's a lot of art galleries here. That's there's
some Metro guys there here, No here in there's a
lot of art college around. That's kind of you see
some of those dudes. Yeah, you know exactly. I'm not
exactly like the most macho guy myself, but but that
is I've never I've done five hundred some episodes of
this podcast, I've done four hundred something live shows around
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the world. I've never had a woman say that was
what they wanted. All right, I have a lot more
questions for you. I'm here with Carrie. We're breaking down
the twenty twenty five state of the date. I think
we got to take a quick break because we have
to pay for mattresses in case we got to sleep
in the car. We will be back right after this. Okay,
(12:41):
and we are back online dating?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Are you online?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Are you on j date?
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Now?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
What do you want?
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I'm on bumble?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
You're on Bumble? What is your profile? Can we look
at your profile in real time? Can I read your profile? Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Break? Do you have your phone? Yes? I'm going to
do a forensic analysis of your of your profile right now.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Okay. So I just deleted it because I left New York.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Okay, and I was so I can't read.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
It, no, because I was going to do new photos
and new profile for Okay, for South Florida, South Florida.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
So more floral patterns than Lily Pulitzer. I don't know,
like beach picks, Like why what is the difference? Everybody
here came from New York. That's true, right, We're all the.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Same, So don't do the beach picks.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I mean, I don't know. Are you just running around
a bikini? Is that the picks? I don't know what
are you putting in your profile? Let me ask that
what are you putting in terms of see a good
dating profile should follow should follow these rules?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Okay, it says fit, fashionable, and fun.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Okay, it sounds like you're looking for your gay best friend,
which is fine too. Are you describing you or them? Okay?
What do you look? A good profile should should say this.
It should be three things you want them to find
out about you, which is good, three face, fashionable, and fun,
two things you hope to find in them, and one
thing you hope to find together. So I am this,
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this and this, I'm looking for this and this and
let's run around the world. So what are the two
things you're looking for a sexually attractive yet metrosexual.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Well metro. I don't want it to come off as
I'm looking for a gay guy because I don't want
him to be into men. I just want him to
be metro.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
And how are you you're defining metro? Is like well groomed,
well styled?
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Oh, definitely well groomed.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yes, okay, he seems like a like like a hairless pig.
Is this what you want. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
And who's like stylish and smells nice?
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Figs? Where's a lot of a lot of has a
has a sweater around their neck? Where's a lot of pink?
You want a vineyard vines guy.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I don't like vineyard vines.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
You want a Brooks Brothers guy, they're out of business.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
No, I don't like Books Brothers.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
But down here you're gonna a lot of Tommy Bahama.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Tommy Bahama, You're gonna go out of.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Fat guys with oversized, extra large shirts.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
I done, Tommy Bahamas.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
I know that's what you're getting. But you came down
here for this.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I went to skinny Fit.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Then you need to go to Miami.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh there's no skinny fet in Pokush Mocha.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
In Palm Beach County. Yeah, not a lot. Or they're young,
I mean once the guys hit forty five here, it's
it's their style. Is is golf cart fashionable? Like that?
It's a little schlumpy here. Slumpy is a Jewish word, right, ye,
slumpy Yiddish? I think so? Uh yeah, I mean that's
(15:37):
gonna be a challenge too fine, Like I get that
we all want something you're gonna have to expand your
age up. I will tell you that you're gonna have
to go like fifty to sixty five.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I was gonna go up to ninety five.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
You can go to ninety five too. But a lot
of women are like, oh sixty five. Gross. Well, look
the guys in there in their early sixties. And I'm
not saying you're gonna get these guys in South Florida,
but Brad Pitt, Robert Downey Junior, George Clooney, like, there's
a lot of very good looking men in their early sixties,
Like they're out there. You've got to, though, So what
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you need to do when you find one at the
bar here and you get their attention and you start
a conversation, You're going to have to figure out a
way to let them know that you still need a
man in your life, that you're still open to it,
that you're not an independent woman. A lot of these
women all over America, they're like, I'm an independent woman. Great.
All that tells me is you don't need me. We
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want to be needed as men. So you have to
figure out a way to paint a bullseye where he
can get into your world. And somehow enhance it. That's
a little bit challenging for all of us to do
because we're all kind of independent. We all have our
own phones, we all can entertain ourselves. We all really
don't need a partner as much as we used to,
at least we think that. And at your age and
(16:51):
my age, we've all been in relationships and we're a
little bit jaded as to, oh, this is going to
be amazing for fifty years. You know, right, you want
to get married again? Yes, Oh see, that's good too,
that's hopeful. Yes, all right, that's a good thing because
a lot of women and a lot of men, once
they get to a certain point and they get divorced,
a little bit of the fantasy has popped and they're likeayingah,
(17:13):
I just want to get through three months with the
same person without killing them. You know, what are your
geographical Are you willing to go seventy five miles? Are
you willing to go to Naples?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
God?
Speaker 2 (17:27):
No, you'd go Well, you'd go one hundred miles for
a deal in a desk at Ikea. You wouldn't do
it for a possible love interest in Naples. I don't know,
it's right across Alligator ally.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Oh, it's awful. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Did you go to Would you go to what's forty
five miles from here? Would you go to Jupiter? Would
you go to Miami? A lot of traffic.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I would go to Miami, but Jupiter, Jupiter is boring.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
You're very boring. You just moved from Connecticut. It's not
exactly Studio fifty four there. I know it is boring,
but this is a retirement community. This is literally del
Boca Vista here, folk tone is where people go to die.
What are you doing here? Seriously? Now, that's not fair.
I like it here. We have studio here and it
(18:11):
is younger and fun, and there's people from all over
the world here. There's a lot of Israeli population here.
Is that too Jewish?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
So you want to you don't want to just pure
Israeli here? I just want reform jew So no shabbat.
Explain what reform means?
Speaker 1 (18:27):
I want Jewish jappie no no shabbat.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Kosher no kosher wie bacon.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I mean it's not really my thing, but every once
in a while.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
We eat shellfish. Yes, okay, then you don't need the
Jewish thing. What do you care you're looking for Jewish
to dominate. But you could say, I, if you're out
there and you're a Scottish boy and I can boss
you around and I'm sexually attracted to you, no problem,
We're good, We're good. Okay, that sounds reasonable. Oh my god,
I don't know if I'm hopeful for your word for
(19:00):
you whatever, but this is you know, you should have
a podcast and bring these candidates in here. To do
this on your profile, though, you have to say the
two things you're looking for. If you're saying I need
to be sexually attracted to you, that's that's a little
too out there. That's a little too forward on a
dating profile. Okay, so what are the two things you
say you want to be successful? Do you want to
say something like that successful thinks you're high maintenance.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Well, successful sounds like that I'm just after them for
their month.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
No, it says you're also after their money. It means
that you can't sleep in your car, so you need
to have something. Well, you have to pick the two things,
like two or three things that you really want in them, right,
and they should be kind of said with like a
wink and a sense of humor. You know, I want
a guy who can you know, can you kill spiders
(19:47):
for me? Something like that, Oh I don't like spiders, right,
so then you would want to got to kill spiders
for you. Because a lot of men will raise their hand.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want them to be like, let's go travel your.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
You say that. A lot of people say they want
to travel. But a lot of people want to travel because
they don't anybody they want to stay home with, and
so they want to travel because the travel's fun because
their home life's not fun. And I'm some of who
travels a lot. I would rather be home with somebody
who I cared about, And so a lot of people.
I mean, do you want to put in there like
must have global entry? Yes, okay, if you put that
(20:22):
in there, that the signal for that is you have
a certain level of sophistication. You travel out of the
country a lot, which tends to imply that you need
some means of taking care of you. So what else
that's not a bad thing, Like just say like, hope
you have global entry. That says like, let's run around
the world.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Have global entry, right, Okay, that's a good one.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I know. Yeah, I just fall out of the coconut
tree here with these ideas, what else one more thing
that you need in a man, One more thing that
you want to put out there that like, this is
what I'm looking for in.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
A guy, someone who wants to work out with me.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
That's daytime shit. Oh you want nighttime? Shit?
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Nighttime?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Please have a bedtime after ten pm? Something like that.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
At bedtime after ten pm?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Which rules me out. Yeah, because this is the thing
in Florida, like people get up early and they go
to bed early. If you want to put out there
that you are a fun, vivacious, have energy, want to
like go out on the town, Yeah, you have to
put that out there, like let's let's you know, we're
going out.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
We're you going to get a party till eleven twelve o'clock.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Wow, crazy, slow down eleven twelve o'clock. Let's do last
call together something like that. I mean, Miami's a little rough.
The bars in Miami close like six am.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But I don't really drink.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
What does not really drink?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Me very rare?
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Okay, that doesn't mean you don't and can they I don't.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Care if they drink, But I don't want to be
with somebody who's a heavy drinker.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yeah, that's such a true then, because.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Then they're like, you know, one of my guys that
I was dating, he was like calling me up, like
slurring his words, and I'm like, I barely drink and
now I'm going to listen.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Yeah, I know it's rough at some points where like
we don't need to drink anymore. I get that, but
you have to put something in there that shows that
you want to have your fun, like workout partner. Not
a lot of guys are signed up for that because
it's sweaty. It's daytime sweaty. I don't think we want that.
Like people don't want to go hiking. Men don't want
to go hiking with you. They want you to put
(22:22):
on like a pretty dress and let's go somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Well, I don't want to go hiking because then there's snakes.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
I agree with you.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
I'm anti snake too. You know where there's no snakes, Hawaii.
You know where else there's no snakes, New Zealand. They
never got there, people on this podcast. No, I have
a mental list of place the closest to here with
no snakes Newfoundland. So I don't know if the Newfoundland
men are your guys. Yeah, there's only a handful of
places of no snakes the same you live in westbolk Raton.
(22:51):
It's practically Jurassic Park over there. What are you doing?
There's snakes and alligators and lizards and all kinds of things.
Are you not aware of this?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I said the lizards, But there's.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Alligators all over the place where and there's python. The
python in South Florida have eaten all the deer. There's
no more deer in South Florida. The python ate them all.
They're coming for us. That's like a real thing. The town,
the town just south of here is called Deerfield Beach.
You know, it's called Deerfield Beach because he used to
be a field of deer. There's none left. The python
(23:23):
ate them all, and they cut them open and there's
deer hoofs in them. Yeah. Sorry, that's not exactly good
for Florida tourism. But anyway, if you want to, you
need to put something out there that like, I'm fun,
I'm sexy. I want to you know, do dance. Okay,
A guy who will go dancing checks two boxes. It
means he goes out at night and he's probably a
(23:43):
little metro. Okay, put that out there. Take me dancing
and let's have fun. That will do? There? Are you
open to to some of the many, many, many Latin
men that are here.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
No, I don't like Latin.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Sorry Latin men. That's seventy. Your choice is down here
a Jewish man and Latin man. That's it. Only Jewish.
But the Jewish guys aren't good dancers. Sorry, sorry Jewish man.
Will you teach them how to dance? I'll teach them, okay.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Shake their little booty around?
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Oh my god? All right, this is I wish you
well and we're gonna do this. But this is your
first time on this podcast. We play something called worst
date or first date. So you either have to give
us the absolute worst date you've ever been on, okay,
or the greatest first date you've ever been on.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Your choice, I'll give you the worst date.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Okay. How did I have a feeling? Go ahead?
Speaker 1 (24:34):
So I went out with this guy and when he
was a cyclist.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
And he a bicyclist, cyclist, like he rides a like
a bike, okay, in this.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Green outfit because he would always put on his green
outfit to go cycling, and we would only eat at
organic restaurant. So now I have all these like you know,
designer clothing, and I have to go with him to
an organic restaurant.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
And I was like, well, he's fitting healthy. That's so far.
That's what I get at him.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
He's fitting healthy, right, but I don't want to eat
at the tree hugger restaurant.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
Okay, right, fair enough.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
So then I go back to his place and he
has a clear tent over his bed with a machine
hooked up to.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
The like a hyperback chamber.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Up to the bed, up to the bed, so.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
This clear. He's like a bubble boy.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
He went into his tent to sleep every night, right,
he could sleep at elevation.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Okay, And he got you in there, So the tree
Hugger restaurant wasn't a deal breaker, Nor was the guy
with the mattress in the car had a shot. I
think he gave up too soon. So you got in
the healthy. So he wanted to have sex with you
at high, high elevation.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
At high elevation, yeah, yeah, is that a bad thing?
And then and then you're ready. Yeah, he drank his
own pea.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Okay, that is that a turn on? Did you do
this before you got in the bed? Was it a nightcap?
Speaker 1 (26:14):
This is his nightcap?
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Did he offer you any how did you know? How
does he bring this up? He tells you what this is.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
He told me that he's going to drink his pea
because it's very good for his body.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Okay, it's possible, and you still got in the bed.
So there's really not a whole lot of deal breakers here.
So what part of this is the bad day?
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Well then I was like, what is all this? This
is very weird, right, So then I was like goodbye.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Oh the pea was too much.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
The pee, the tents, the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Did he drink the pea in front of you? Did
he drink in front of you?
Speaker 1 (26:54):
He drank it in front of him?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Did you kiss him?
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Not after that?
Speaker 2 (26:57):
He kissed him before?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
I was like, oh my god, now I have pea
in my mouth because who knows?
Speaker 2 (27:02):
That means that he did it before. So to be fair,
he's fitting healthy, he's gonna live a long time. He's
probably very virileftly metro. Okay, he's metro. See this guy
there's just like you. This could be the guy. I
think you need to revisit this all right? Where do
you find a guy like that?
Speaker 1 (27:20):
I found him at a health food stock.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
What town was this in? Brandish, Connecticut?
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Grew Connecticut? Ok imagine in the health food cafe.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Okay, you should just stick to the polo fields. There's
probably better as So you were at the same place
as him, and you went out and he a cyclist.
I don't know that's there's some women listening that are like, Okay,
I want a guy like that, but not for you.
He was almost there. If he didn't drink the pea,
you'd be engaged to this guy right now. So it
wasn't terrible. So the date wasn't bad. It was just
(27:51):
he was a little too far out of the fringes
for you. You think, yeah, maybe this is ok Back
to the Hampton's and the mattress in the car. All right,
this was fun. I think we're gonna have to have
you back to chronicle this. You've only been in this town,
what two days?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Two days?
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Okay, Well, we'll have to do that. Is there any
way people can find you on social media or anything
to check you out or you don't want to give
that out.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
I'm not giving that all right, Well.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
We'll shoot a picture and we'll put it on our socials.
This was fun as far as us like, share, follow,
Please review this podcast. Review still mean a lot in
the podcasting ecosystem. I will keep you posted on Carrie's podcast,
which I'm sure is going to launch shortly. I kind
of leaked out that I might be doing some live
Great Love Debate shows. I might health permitting, and I
got some people who are like, come to Boise. I'm
(28:38):
not coming to Boise, but I might go to some
of the places that offered me. Shoot me an email.
Great Loved Debate at gmail dot com if you want question, comments, thoughts,
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as always at the Great Love Debate, we never stopped
(28:58):
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