Relational Lives Podcast

In this episode we take an in-depth look at shame and its impact on relationships, mental health, and emotional wellbeing. Shame is a core but often hidden emotion that can shape how we relate to ourselves and others, driving patterns such as withdrawal, defensiveness, conflict, and people-pleasing.

Drawing on trauma-informed therapy, attachment theory, and relational approaches such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore...

In this episode, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Silva Neves explores the unique dynamics of LGBTQ+ relationships, including the impact of societal pressures, discrimination, and minority stress on mental health and connection. We discuss how stigma and cultural expectations shape daily experiences for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples, and how these challenges can affect intimacy, identity, and emotional wellbeing.

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In this episode of Relational Lives, clinical psychologist Dr. Bryony Bamford breaks down how eating disorders impact relationships, especially when a loved one is in denial. We explore early warning signs, why denial happens, and how it affects communication, trust, and connection. Dr. Bamford shares practical advice on treatment options, how family and partners can offer meaningful support, and the powerful role societal pressure...

In this episode of the Relational Lives Podcast, we explore the mechanics of lasting love and meaningful connection. Building a healthy relationship doesn't happen by accident, it requires intentionality, emotional attunement, and the courage to communicate effectively.

We discuss the latest research and expert insights to help you navigate the complexities of partnership. Whether you are in a new romance or have been together for ...

This episode explores the often-overlooked experience of the non-ADHD partner in relationships where ADHD is present. We unpack the emotional impact, such as feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or alone, alongside common challenges like communication breakdowns and imbalance in responsibilities. You’ll gain practical strategies for coping, improving connection, and building a more supportive, understanding relationship with an ADHD ...

This episode explores what it’s really like to be in a relationship as a partner with ADHD, including the emotional and relational challenges that often go unseen. We unpack common ADHD traits in relationships, how they impact communication, connection, and conflict, and offer practical strategies to build self-awareness and create positive change. Ideal for anyone navigating ADHD in relationships or suppo...

Most of us want to believe that when we start a relationship, we’re beginning with a clean slate. But the truth is, we all bring "uninvited guests" into our partnerships, old hurts, family patterns, and painful memories that we thought we’d left behind.

In this episode, we’re opening up about a new direction for the show. We’re stepping away from general advice to focus on the messy, high-stakes reality of c...

Constantly nagging or feeling 'never good enough' in love? ADHD's hidden role in relationships explained—bridge the neurotypical clash now."

ADHD suspicions (diagnosed or not) disrupt partnerships silently. Hosts Ali and Ros reveal therapy insights: why ADHD brains spark friction beyond "lazy" labels, and proven bridges to deeper connection.

00:00 Understanding ADHD in Relationships

01:20 The Impact of ADHD on Non-ADHD Partne...

Struggling to communicate because childhood never taught you how? Or maybe you're outgrowing your partner? Ali and Ros explore real listener dilemmas in this 'Dear Therapists' episode of Relational Lives.

00:00 Exploring Communication Patterns in Relationships

02:25 Understanding the Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships

05:23 The Role of Awareness in Communication Challenges

08:12 The Consequences of Suppressed Emotions

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What happens when your partner’s brain is wired differently than yours? In this episode, hosts Ali and Ros explore the unique dynamics of neuro-mixed (or neuro-distinct) couples, where one partner is on the autism spectrum and the other is neurotypical.

We move past the stereotypes to look at the daily reality of loving across neurological lines, offering a roadmap for couples looking to bridge the gap between two different w...

In this episode, relationship therapist Catherine Topham Sly shares insights on rekindling intimacy after having children, addressing the emotional and physical challenges couples face, and practical tips for reconnecting.

00:00 Introduction to Catherine Topham Sly

01:32 Catherine's Journey into Relationship Therapy

05:29 The Impact of Parenthood on Relationships

11:34 Navigating Sexuality and Intimacy Post-Childbirth

17:16 Communi...

In this episode, we explore what it really means to feel “triggered” and why some reactions in the present are powered by unhealed moments from the past. We look at how triggers show up in the body and nervous system, how they’re shaped by earlier relationships, and why they can feel so fast and overwhelming. You’ll hear practical ways to spot your own triggers, pause before reacting, and respond with more s...

In this episode, we’re joined by Monica Tanner, host of Secrets of Happily Ever After, to explore the myths that quietly shape our expectations of marriage. We dive into what actually helps couples communicate more openly, rebuild intimacy, and create relationships grounded in mutual respect. If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” you’ve been taught about love, this conversation offers a refreshing...

In this episode of Relational Lives, the hosts explore what it really means to listen, and to feel heard, in our relationships. They unpack the idea of ‘holding space’ for one another, the subtle barriers that get in the way of meaningful communication, and the difference between simply hearing and truly being present. Blending personal stories with professional insight, they reflect on how different communication style...

In this episode, Ros and Ali explore the vital role that boundaries play in our relationships, how they shape connection, protect well-being, and promote self-respect. They unpack what boundaries really are, the different forms they take, and why so many of us struggle to set or maintain them. Along the way, they consider the influence of family dynamics, workplace norms, and personal history, highlighting how self-awareness is key...

In this episode of Relational Lives, couples therapist Michael Preston opens up a thoughtful conversation about the inner emotional worlds of men in relationships. He reflects on the challenges men often face when trying to connect emotionally with their partners, and how cultural expectations can shape, and sometimes limit their capacity for vulnerability. Michael discusses the role of father–son relationships, the power of ...

✨This episode includes discussion of eating disorders, disordered eating, and body image. It may be distressing or triggering, especially if you are currently struggling. Please take care while listening and feel free to skip this episode if you need to. If you are affected by eating difficulties, consider reaching out to a GP or mental health professional, or contacting an eating disorder support service in your area for help. ✨

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In this episode, psychotherapists Ali and Ros unpack the often misunderstood experience of social anxiety. They explore what social anxiety really is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people are struggling with it more since the COVID pandemic. The conversation looks at the impact of technology and social media, the role of early life experiences, and how anxiety can become a self-perpetuating cycle. Ali and Ros di...