The Healing Paradox

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore what it means to choose yourself when life keeps pulling you in every direction.

Through the story of Michelle - a woman who spent years doing everything for everyone - we see what happens when caring turns into exhaustion. Michelle worked, cleaned, cooked, helped, and kept going until there was nothing left of her own energy.

Her story is familiar because many of us live the same ...

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly walking on eggshells, afraid to say anything that might upset someone? 

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we’re going to dive into why we learn to do this and what it really costs us. We’ll explore how to break free from this pattern and reclaim the freedom to be ourselves again.

You’ll learn some really cool stuff, like why “keeping the peace” often starts in childhood and how it can...

Overthinking doesn’t help you feel safer, it keeps you stuck in fear.

You try to think through every possible outcome, hoping that’ll stop something bad from happening, but you just get more anxious and much less present.

In this episode, we talk about how to spot when you’re caught in the “what if” loop, why it happens, and how you can stop the downward spiral. You’ll learn a simple grounding tool to bring your attention back to t...

When you speak from the heart and someone still blows up, goes quiet, or walks away upset, it’s easy to feel guilty, like you did something wrong. But you can’t control how other people respond. You can only control how you show up.

In this episode, we talk about why taking on other people’s reactions drains your energy and how to start letting that go. You’ll learn how to notice when you’re carrying emotions that aren’t yours, and...

When someone criticises you, it’s easy to feel small, doubtful, or even ashamed. But you can’t control their reactions, you can only choose how you show up.

In this episode, we talk about how to stop hanging onto other people’s opinions, so you can protect your energy and keep your sense of peace. You’ll learn a simple way to let go of words that don’t belong to you and step back into your own story.

Inside this episode:

• Why c...

When life feels out of control, our first instinct is often to fix, solve, or react. But what if your real power is in taking a step back and pausing?

In this episode, we talk about how to stay grounded when everything feels too much. You'll learn a simple way to centre yourself, so you can respond with calm instead. It’s not about getting things perfect, it’s about learning to trust yourself, one step at a time.

Inside this episod...

Your value doesn't change just because someone else couldn't see it.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we’re talking about the pain of rejection, silence, and feeling "not enough."

If you've ever looked to someone else for proof of your worth, this one's for you.

Including:

• Why we confuse someone else’s opinion with our value
• The funhouse mirror metaphor and why it matters
• The "I messed up" trap, and how to find your foo...

You don’t need all the answers before you take a step forward.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore what real confidence looks like when life feels uncertain.

Including:

• Why waiting for certainty keeps us stuck
• How confidence grows through action, not control
• A simple metaphor for moving forward with “just enough light”
• A real-life story of finding clarity through small steps
• A 24-hour practice to help you take a...

Have you ever kept quiet to avoid upsetting someone… but felt worse afterwards?

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about how to say what you really feel, without blame, without anger. Just in a way that feels authentically aligned.

You’ll learn:

• Why speaking up can feel scary
• A better way to share how you feel (even if it’s hard)
• Simple phrases you can try out loud
• A short exercise to practise using your voice
• Why...

Have you ever held back from sharing your feelings or ideas, just to avoid being rejected?

Most people do. 

Fear of rejection is one of the most common emotional blocks, and it often forms early in life from our first experience of feeling unsafe being ourselves.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about:

• Why this fear shows up (and what it's really trying to protect)
• A simple way to help you see rejection differen...

Healing is already challenging enough, and the last thing you need is an inner critic making the process even harder. In this episode, we explore how self-compassion transforms healing from punishment into a partnership.

You’ll learn:

• Why being hard on yourself slows your healing.
• What self-compassion really means (and what it’s not).
• How to spot your inner critic’s voice.
• How to use “The Friend Test” to shift how you speak to...

What if your brain doesn’t know the difference between something real and something imagined?

Turns out, it often doesn’t. 

Which means we can train our emotional responses, not just by living through different situations, but by IMAGINING them.

This episode is about that. 

I’ll walk you through a short, gentle practice I’ve been using myself. 

Three minutes. 

No complicated explanations. 

Just a way to start rewiring old emotional...

Ever feel like someone’s just... safe to be around?

You don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to explain. You just ARE.

That feeling doesn’t come from saying all the right things.

It comes from emotional safety, and in this episode, we’re exploring how to offer it.

You’ll hear:

• Why safety, not strategy, is what opens people up
• How presence creates trust
• What unknowingly shuts people down
• The small changes that make a big emot...

Ever found yourself snapping at your child, then feeling guilty moments later?

It’s happened to us all at some point, and you’re not a bad parent.

Often, it’s not the shoes, the mess, or the bedtime routine, it’s the fear underneath.

Fear of losing control, fear of failing, fear of not being enough.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how to move from fear to peace in your parenting - not by being perfect, but by lea...

Have you ever felt like you're doing the work… but still not moving fast enough?

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why healing is rarely linear, and often takes longer than our expectations. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still triggered, still tired, or still waiting to feel “done,” this conversation is for you.

Inside this episode:

• Why healing is more spiral than straight line
• What it means to honour you...

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to fix something, the more strained it becomes?

You send the message. You show up. You try harder.


But nothing changes, and sometimes it even gets worse.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the energy behind your actions matters just as much as the actions themselves. 

You’ll learn how to shift from urgency and fear into calm, grounded presence, and why that one shif...

Conflict and disconnection are often seen as signs that something’s broken. But what if they’re invitations?

In this episode, we explore how your perspective on challenging moments can influence how you navigate them and why shifting your perspective is one of the most powerful tools for healing.

• Learn how to move from frustration to curiosity

• Discover the 3 key perspective shifts that change everything
• 
Try a simple, daily j...

You’ve noticed the old patterns.


You’ve questioned the beliefs you never chose.


Now comes the most powerful step of all...


CHOOSING what you WANT to believe instead.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about how to begin writing a new emotional story.


Not a perfect story all in one go.


Just starting, with curiosity and intention.

You’ll learn:

• Why it’s hard to let go of the things that feel familiar, even when...

Have you ever stopped to ask, Where did I even learn to think this way about myself?

The stories we carry, about worth, love, safety, success, they didn’t come out of nowhere.


They were passed down. Shaped. Absorbed.


From family. From culture. From moments you didn’t even realise were shaping you.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how those stories got written 
and why simply recognising where they came from can...