February 19, 2023 • 9 mins
Melissa from MAFS joins Jonesy & Amanda with the truth about Married At First Sight.Â
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Jersey and Amanda gam Nation.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Well she's the name on everyone's lips this morning. A
shocking commitment ceremony last night saw Josh be let go
from the experiment, with his wife Melissa still wanting to stay.
What went on? It seemed quite extraordinary. Joining us in
the studio right now to update us on where all
of this leaves her is Melissa, Hello, Melissa, good morning,
Good morning. How we'll start with this. How have you
(00:24):
felt watching this so called experiment play out on television?
To live it and film it is one thing to
watch it go to air? How has it been?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You know? To watch it back last night is heart
wrenching because I can see how people can you know,
see how upset Josh was. It was even upsetting for
me to watch because I have to say I was
completely blindsided. When people say how did she not know?
Or how did she not know how he was feeling?
I'm serious. I did not know what we do These
(00:53):
things called boxes, so like he would break down in
these boxes, And I said it to my girlfriends. I
felt like I was sleeping with like a secret assassin
because he would break down in these boxes and then
come back to me as if nothing happened.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Yeah, so well that's what he said when you were
intimate with him on your wedding night, he said that
he didn't do anything.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And you said, how bad was that?
Speaker 4 (01:17):
Just so, but also I kind of got where he
was coming from, because he's not a guy that goes
on TV and then says I just had sex with the.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
One hundred percent one. Thing's first, we're in reality TV.
Parts of your relationship is intimacy, you know, Like, so
it's not all about your relationship. But of course reality
TV are gonna ask you, has he not watched the
show before? Have you been intimate with your wife? You
could have just said yes and move forward. I feel
like my character in the show was already planned out early.
(01:43):
I feel like that they knew that I was comfortable
to talk about sex, that I was open, and maybe
I was too open and too vulnerable and I just
shared too much yep. And then they had paired me
with Josh that didn't want to talk about it, like
I didn't even know his religious back, Like if he
was that religious or that uncomfortable, why did he never
(02:04):
mention on our wedding night that he wanted to not
talk about it? So it was on day five on
our honeymoon that he was like, oh my god, you
know all she wants to do is have sex or
talk about That's not the case. It was just like
I was open to talk about it. And then he
was trying to say that because he's religious, that he's
a perfect gentleman. Well, that was all news to me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So do you think it's a couple of things there.
You say that you think that they had decided you
were going to be the one that was open to
talk about sex. You were going to be the freaking
the sheets girl. Yes, and that they deliberately pared you
with someone who you would have conflict about that.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Absolutely. I think it was just designed to just explode
and however long that we were going to last in
the experiment, it was a matter of time. So there
was lots of times in the experiment that I was
compassionate and I was crying and caring. But you don't
see those sides. It was purely focused around sex and
when we were having sex, and when we weren't having sex,
they weren't asking it. Had we been to lunch, what'd
(02:59):
be spoken about. They don't want to air any of that.
It was just purely about us having always confrontations.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
Right, and that thing where you said freaking the sheets,
which are we've dined out?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
All? Well, I look like the girl next door, but
I like to see myself actually as a little freaking
the sheets.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Was that you that came up with that or did
someone feed that to you?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
No? Yeah, so I was asked a question. We did
a two hour interview at my house. It was amazing
about life and love and why I'm on the experiment
for and then at the very end it was like, so,
how do you see yourself? Are you vanilla or a
freaking the sheets? So instantly I was like, I'm a
freaking the sheet.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
You's got to save Nill.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well yeah, but then they did set me up with
someone very opposite, so we were just a time bomb
that was waiting to go off.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
At the end of every season there are people like
you who say I wasn't happy with the way I
was depicted and this experiment wasn't sincere, and yet people
still want to go on the show.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
What I would say to any future contestants seeing it
in the truth, just be what you're going to do
is just be authentically you because you can't lie. The
truth does eventually come out. And you know, obviously I
do like to have sex with my husband. But where
these little rabbit hole's gone on, you know that I
want to have sex with multiple men and that I'm
up for anything is very very fast stretched.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
And how does that manifest for you now when you're
out in the streets.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
It's disgusting, It's really bad. So this is the thing
where it can be very damaging because I would hate
for all men in the world to think that I'm
up for anything at any time, because that's not what
I was about.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
You widows coming up and say, hey, there's a Melissa,
she's up for it.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Well, this is it I do. And I have had
people that have come to my business. It's really actually
quite awkward. Thank God, I'm not wasn't there because I'm
actually not in the salon anymore. So anyone that wants
to come to the head dressing sound, I'm not there,
so they'll never find me there. But obviously going forward,
it opens a real can of worms for you know,
security and you know questioning. Yeah, sure, I want to
(04:59):
have sex with my husband two to three times a week.
My husband not multiple men or not an invite for
everyone to have a free for all, and it's.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Really scary fye for all.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, lucky you're a strong person because this could break people.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Agree. I really believe my resilience to this is phenomenal
and this is why I want to be I will
go forward with this. You won't see me backing away
from it. Hopefully something amazing comes out and people come
towards me and say, hey, she's very clear, she's very honest.
You know, she's very sex empowering for men and for women,
you know, like, it's not I don't feel at any
(05:33):
time on the experiment that Josh was ever haggled to
have sex with me. He you know, the handful of
times that we did, it was completely like yes, absolutely,
there was no awkwardness about that. And that's what's really
hurtful that they're painting all the public is all these
trolls are painting me in this monster.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Also when you watch the show, I feel for him
as well, because he's coming across as a bit of
a dart and it's probably not and that's a bit unfair.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, but Josh and interviews. I tried to go back
to think you know, why did they match us? And
they were saying that because I'm, you know, so extrovert
or I'm so confident, and then Josh is not that
that could I can see how that can be a
good match, but when you don't know what the other
one's saying behind the other one's back, and then and
(06:18):
then you just watch it like I'm sure that they
saw this fuel going two different ways early on the piece,
but they just it just kept rolling.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I find watching it, you're more prepared for this show
than he.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah, look, I don't know, maybe this is what Josh
has to come. I've been out of my marriage for
ten years. Josh is just separated with his wife, and
I don't think he's even legally divorced. I don't feel
this is just my opinion, but who am I, you know,
I don't feel like maybe he was ready to come
on such a huge experiment, and I just think it
broke him very very quickly. And I just feel like
(06:52):
if I had the opportunity to be with someone more
like myself or someone that was really ready, because come on,
we're in the media and the social life, like you're
going to get even if you're the good guy or
the bad guy. You're going to get a lot of heat.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
It's got to be robust.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
You've got to be ready, and I just feel like
he wasn't ready and now it looks like that at
my expense.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And do you feel Melissa, if there was a button
in front of you that says yes or no, would
you have chosen to go on this show? What button
would you press?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
No? No? Why say no? I was saying like, yes,
the button yes? Okay, Actually, Amanda, that's a good question.
Sometimes I say yes, but then sometimes what I've seen
last night, now I say no. Because they edit or
they edited, they only show parts of what they want
the public to see. So now that you're portrayed as
(07:38):
like a sex pest or like you just have to
be look anyone going anyone going on reality TV, you
just have to be sure and comfortable in yourself and
really strong because however they're going to make it seem
or only what they're going to show is what you're
portrayed to be. You know, a lot of people have
a lot of time now to mend the dammy, which
(08:00):
thank god, I'm strong enough that I feel like I
will come back from this and that the public and
the world will see an amazing human that I am,
and kind and compassionate. It might take some time, but
they're going to see a very different version of me
in real life compared to what they've seen.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
On So what happens with you? Now? Where do you go? Now?
Speaker 3 (08:17):
Well, this is it publicity?
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Well not only fans. You can't know.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I have to let all the fans know out there,
not that I'm against only fans at all, but you
will not see me on those platforms. That is a yet,
you will not see me on any of those platforms
at all.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
I just found it extraordinary last year Olivia, that girl
that was on there, she was a teacher, student, teacher
or something, and then all of a sudden she's on
only fans.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
And I thought, if you said to.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
That girl when she was doing a university or whatever
to be a teacher, Hey, Lvy, here's what's going to
happen to you. In five years, You're going to be
doing acts on only. You're going to be important to
the same thing.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
And Melissa's just said is you can't control the narrative.
So you come out of this experiment, you think these
are the bits I can control so I can see
why people would go this bit. I can ow and
you're going to paint me is that I'll own. I
can own my own narrative here. So Melissa, I just
wish you well in resetting who you are, and I'm
glad you're a robust person because it's not for the fainthearted,
(09:12):
is I agree?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
And there will be more to see of me, So
I will not be going away anytime soon.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Well, great, well, Melissa, thank you for coming here.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Look after Mary First Start is back again on the
Channel night tonight.
Jersey and Amanda gam Nation.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Well she's the name on everyone's lips this morning. A
shocking commitment ceremony last night saw Josh be let go
from the experiment, with his wife Melissa still wanting to stay.
What went on? It seemed quite extraordinary. Joining us in
the studio right now to update us on where all
of this leaves her is Melissa, Hello, Melissa, good morning,
Good morning. How we'll start with this. How have you
(00:24):
felt watching this so called experiment play out on television?
To live it and film it is one thing to
watch it go to air? How has it been?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You know? To watch it back last night is heart
wrenching because I can see how people can you know,
see how upset Josh was. It was even upsetting for
me to watch because I have to say I was
completely blindsided. When people say how did she not know?
Or how did she not know how he was feeling?
I'm serious. I did not know what we do These
(00:53):
things called boxes, so like he would break down in
these boxes, And I said it to my girlfriends. I
felt like I was sleeping with like a secret assassin
because he would break down in these boxes and then
come back to me as if nothing happened.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Yeah, so well that's what he said when you were
intimate with him on your wedding night, he said that
he didn't do anything.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And you said, how bad was that?
Speaker 4 (01:17):
Just so, but also I kind of got where he
was coming from, because he's not a guy that goes
on TV and then says I just had sex with the.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
One hundred percent one. Thing's first, we're in reality TV.
Parts of your relationship is intimacy, you know, Like, so
it's not all about your relationship. But of course reality
TV are gonna ask you, has he not watched the
show before? Have you been intimate with your wife? You
could have just said yes and move forward. I feel
like my character in the show was already planned out early.
(01:43):
I feel like that they knew that I was comfortable
to talk about sex, that I was open, and maybe
I was too open and too vulnerable and I just
shared too much yep. And then they had paired me
with Josh that didn't want to talk about it, like
I didn't even know his religious back, Like if he
was that religious or that uncomfortable, why did he never
(02:04):
mention on our wedding night that he wanted to not
talk about it? So it was on day five on
our honeymoon that he was like, oh my god, you
know all she wants to do is have sex or
talk about That's not the case. It was just like
I was open to talk about it. And then he
was trying to say that because he's religious, that he's
a perfect gentleman. Well, that was all news to me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So do you think it's a couple of things there.
You say that you think that they had decided you
were going to be the one that was open to
talk about sex. You were going to be the freaking
the sheets girl. Yes, and that they deliberately pared you
with someone who you would have conflict about that.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Absolutely. I think it was just designed to just explode
and however long that we were going to last in
the experiment, it was a matter of time. So there
was lots of times in the experiment that I was
compassionate and I was crying and caring. But you don't
see those sides. It was purely focused around sex and
when we were having sex, and when we weren't having sex,
they weren't asking it. Had we been to lunch, what'd
(02:59):
be spoken about. They don't want to air any of that.
It was just purely about us having always confrontations.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
Right, and that thing where you said freaking the sheets,
which are we've dined out?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
All? Well, I look like the girl next door, but
I like to see myself actually as a little freaking
the sheets.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Was that you that came up with that or did
someone feed that to you?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
No? Yeah, so I was asked a question. We did
a two hour interview at my house. It was amazing
about life and love and why I'm on the experiment
for and then at the very end it was like, so,
how do you see yourself? Are you vanilla or a
freaking the sheets? So instantly I was like, I'm a
freaking the sheet.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
You's got to save Nill.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well yeah, but then they did set me up with
someone very opposite, so we were just a time bomb
that was waiting to go off.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
At the end of every season there are people like
you who say I wasn't happy with the way I
was depicted and this experiment wasn't sincere, and yet people
still want to go on the show.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
What I would say to any future contestants seeing it
in the truth, just be what you're going to do
is just be authentically you because you can't lie. The
truth does eventually come out. And you know, obviously I
do like to have sex with my husband. But where
these little rabbit hole's gone on, you know that I
want to have sex with multiple men and that I'm
up for anything is very very fast stretched.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
And how does that manifest for you now when you're
out in the streets.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
It's disgusting, It's really bad. So this is the thing
where it can be very damaging because I would hate
for all men in the world to think that I'm
up for anything at any time, because that's not what
I was about.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
You widows coming up and say, hey, there's a Melissa,
she's up for it.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Well, this is it I do. And I have had
people that have come to my business. It's really actually
quite awkward. Thank God, I'm not wasn't there because I'm
actually not in the salon anymore. So anyone that wants
to come to the head dressing sound, I'm not there,
so they'll never find me there. But obviously going forward,
it opens a real can of worms for you know,
security and you know questioning. Yeah, sure, I want to
(04:59):
have sex with my husband two to three times a week.
My husband not multiple men or not an invite for
everyone to have a free for all, and it's.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Really scary fye for all.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, lucky you're a strong person because this could break people.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Agree. I really believe my resilience to this is phenomenal
and this is why I want to be I will
go forward with this. You won't see me backing away
from it. Hopefully something amazing comes out and people come
towards me and say, hey, she's very clear, she's very honest.
You know, she's very sex empowering for men and for women,
you know, like, it's not I don't feel at any
(05:33):
time on the experiment that Josh was ever haggled to
have sex with me. He you know, the handful of
times that we did, it was completely like yes, absolutely,
there was no awkwardness about that. And that's what's really
hurtful that they're painting all the public is all these
trolls are painting me in this monster.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Also when you watch the show, I feel for him
as well, because he's coming across as a bit of
a dart and it's probably not and that's a bit unfair.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, but Josh and interviews. I tried to go back
to think you know, why did they match us? And
they were saying that because I'm, you know, so extrovert
or I'm so confident, and then Josh is not that
that could I can see how that can be a
good match, but when you don't know what the other
one's saying behind the other one's back, and then and
(06:18):
then you just watch it like I'm sure that they
saw this fuel going two different ways early on the piece,
but they just it just kept rolling.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I find watching it, you're more prepared for this show
than he.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah, look, I don't know, maybe this is what Josh
has to come. I've been out of my marriage for
ten years. Josh is just separated with his wife, and
I don't think he's even legally divorced. I don't feel
this is just my opinion, but who am I, you know,
I don't feel like maybe he was ready to come
on such a huge experiment, and I just think it
broke him very very quickly. And I just feel like
(06:52):
if I had the opportunity to be with someone more
like myself or someone that was really ready, because come on,
we're in the media and the social life, like you're
going to get even if you're the good guy or
the bad guy. You're going to get a lot of heat.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
It's got to be robust.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
You've got to be ready, and I just feel like
he wasn't ready and now it looks like that at
my expense.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And do you feel Melissa, if there was a button
in front of you that says yes or no, would
you have chosen to go on this show? What button
would you press?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
No? No? Why say no? I was saying like, yes,
the button yes? Okay, Actually, Amanda, that's a good question.
Sometimes I say yes, but then sometimes what I've seen
last night, now I say no. Because they edit or
they edited, they only show parts of what they want
the public to see. So now that you're portrayed as
(07:38):
like a sex pest or like you just have to
be look anyone going anyone going on reality TV, you
just have to be sure and comfortable in yourself and
really strong because however they're going to make it seem
or only what they're going to show is what you're
portrayed to be. You know, a lot of people have
a lot of time now to mend the dammy, which
(08:00):
thank god, I'm strong enough that I feel like I
will come back from this and that the public and
the world will see an amazing human that I am,
and kind and compassionate. It might take some time, but
they're going to see a very different version of me
in real life compared to what they've seen.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
On So what happens with you? Now? Where do you go? Now?
Speaker 3 (08:17):
Well, this is it publicity?
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Well not only fans. You can't know.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I have to let all the fans know out there,
not that I'm against only fans at all, but you
will not see me on those platforms. That is a yet,
you will not see me on any of those platforms
at all.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
I just found it extraordinary last year Olivia, that girl
that was on there, she was a teacher, student, teacher
or something, and then all of a sudden she's on
only fans.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
And I thought, if you said to.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
That girl when she was doing a university or whatever
to be a teacher, Hey, Lvy, here's what's going to
happen to you. In five years, You're going to be
doing acts on only. You're going to be important to
the same thing.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
And Melissa's just said is you can't control the narrative.
So you come out of this experiment, you think these
are the bits I can control so I can see
why people would go this bit. I can ow and
you're going to paint me is that I'll own. I
can own my own narrative here. So Melissa, I just
wish you well in resetting who you are, and I'm
glad you're a robust person because it's not for the fainthearted,
(09:12):
is I agree?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
And there will be more to see of me, So
I will not be going away anytime soon.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Well, great, well, Melissa, thank you for coming here.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Look after Mary First Start is back again on the
Channel night tonight.
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