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April 30, 2025 • 10 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning, Desiree, Good morning, thanks for holding what's going
on in your world?

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Okay, So I'm gen Zie and I've been at my
job for two years now, and i'd be like, this
is important for the story. I'm sorry, I'm not trying
to lose you. On Friday, my team went for like
this really boozy happy hour and I ran into a
friend while we were out, and when I like introduced
her to my boss, I was like, definitely a little

(00:24):
too lit because I said, this is Jamie. She's a
boss bitch, and like I meant it as like a
total compliment, like obviously, and like she's like awful and amazing,
and I just think that she did not take it
that way. And so yesterday at work, she was super
cold to me, and I don't know, just like way

(00:46):
less friendly than usual, Like just it was weird. And
now I'm preaking. I'm thinking, I like must have screwed
up my whole vibe at work because I got a
little tooper confident with my tequila.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
You know, that's hilarious. That is really funny.

Speaker 4 (01:02):
Because she probably doesn't get it. She probably was like
did she just call me a b But it is
a term of endearment when you call someone a boss
b like they've got their stuff together. But I can
see how that can come home For all.

Speaker 3 (01:16):
You need to go into her office and be like, hey, boomer, cover.

Speaker 5 (01:21):
That, Yeah, don't do it like that that she really
won't be a fan of you, but you should talk
to her like, hey, I just want you to know
that I totally meant that as like the utmost of
all compliments because I think you are such a like
And then use you know, like flowery good words, check chears.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
What if she's like, you know what, that's great, I
know that, but you haven't turned into ferguson file. At
least you know your job to your job. Call me
whatever you want, but do your job. Are you doing
your job?

Speaker 3 (01:48):
Desiree?

Speaker 2 (01:50):
I am doing my job. I think I'm doing a
pretty good job too.

Speaker 6 (01:53):
Or what if she's not in it but she wasn't
in a bad mood at all, and you're gonna call
her on something that she had thought twice about and
she's like, what do you I mean I'm in a
bad mood. That's what I would be worried about.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
Yeah, But then then she could double down on Well,
if you do remember that it was who was a compliment.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
I guess you know he could also do.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
This is what I do a lot, is I ignore the
person until they eventually let go here anymore.

Speaker 6 (02:18):
Terrible so many times and it works.

Speaker 3 (02:22):
I outlast and I'll live. I'm Survivor do you text
the people?

Speaker 6 (02:26):
John Jerry, We've referred to his operation out last before?

Speaker 7 (02:29):
Remember that?

Speaker 4 (02:31):
Do you text the people when they get fired?

Speaker 6 (02:32):
Though?

Speaker 3 (02:32):
John Jay?

Speaker 4 (02:33):
And you're like, hey, it was nice working with you.

Speaker 3 (02:35):
I've done that once one time.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
One time there was a guy that I that I
was not a fan of, and he got let go
and there was a going away but no, he quit
and there was a going away party for him.

Speaker 3 (02:47):
And I remember being in a meeting. Do you remember
this meeting? Rich We're in a.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Meeting and the guy who's the he was the acting
general manager and he had a staff meeting and he
pounded his fist on the on the table and he goes,
if you don't want to be here, then don't be here.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
Everyone's staff and I go, let's go, Rich, I get
up and walk out it. Rich didn't go and I
walked out by myself.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
I get up, I walk up by myself, so then
that guy later he quits, he goes somewhere else and
there's a god away party for him, and I'm like,
I'm not going to that guy's going away party for him.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
Forget that guy.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
And then three years later he came back to the
radio station but a different capacity.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
But I didn't have to deal with it.

Speaker 4 (03:18):
Oh my gosh, I'm like gagged that you didn't go
with him, Rich.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
I thought, you guys really.

Speaker 4 (03:22):
Don't do it.

Speaker 3 (03:22):
It was very like in the corner of the room.

Speaker 6 (03:24):
I had to walk walk past a bunch of people
would have been even more awkward. Ate that up.

Speaker 3 (03:32):
I would have been like, yeah, that.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Guy couldn't believe this guys pounding his fist, let's blow
this on the table, saying if you.

Speaker 3 (03:38):
Don't want to be here, they'll be here.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
I'm like, screw this guy.

Speaker 3 (03:42):
I mean, that's that's literally.

Speaker 7 (03:43):
The difference is like John didn't care if anyone's feathers
get ruffled.

Speaker 4 (03:46):
Rich doesn't want to ruffle the feathers, right, which is
a very admirable about I.

Speaker 6 (03:50):
Think like he was talking directly to John Jay anyway.

Speaker 3 (03:53):
No he wasn't, No, he wasn't.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
He was the new guy. I'm the guy in charge
now and this is the way things are going to be.
And then he got really irritated.

Speaker 4 (04:00):
I get to share more about this.

Speaker 6 (04:03):
Although that's the same guy. We were walking out to
lunch one day and so he was stealing a car
radio out of his car and our old parking lot
and he's like, Hey, that's my car and the guy
is stealing ring. He's like, so he just went back
to stealing his radio. That's terrible.

Speaker 4 (04:16):
Well, Desiree, I feel like they just proved to you
that it's not that bad. I think it could be worse.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
Yeah, wait it out till they're gone and you get promoted.

Speaker 6 (04:28):
Operation out Last Oberation.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
I love it all right.

Speaker 3 (04:33):
Well, good luck to Desree. Thanks were calling in.

Speaker 2 (04:35):
Thank you, thanks so much for your advice.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
I have a great day. That's what we do here.
We give advice.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
You could shoot us the text text jj R and
whatever your advice is to nine six eight nine three
and they will client.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
Put you on the air, just like desire have a
great day, Desre you to.

Speaker 8 (04:49):
Put it.

Speaker 3 (04:52):
John T and Rich morning, Trish, thanks.

Speaker 8 (04:54):
For holding Hey, I need a reality check.

Speaker 4 (04:57):
Okay.

Speaker 8 (05:00):
I married for three years now and my girlfriends are
telling me that if my husband ever found out that
I have this one little thing, that he would straight
up divorce me. And I need some help with this.
So here's the deal. I've had this bank account since
I was eighteen years old. I had it for just
emergency expenses, just kept like two hundred and fifty dollars

(05:23):
in their maximum five hundred dollars. I usually just end
up using it to splurge on myself, like you know,
new shoes, something like a spote whatever. But like I've
had it so long, and my friends are telling me that, like,
since I have a husband, I should have told him
and that like I'm I'm like financially cheating on him

(05:47):
or something. And I think that it's stupid. I think
it's just my bank account. I just have money in it.
It's not like I took it out, you know, after
we got married. But like reality check, is this divorce worse?

Speaker 7 (06:00):
No? I don't think so either. I mean I definitely think.
I mean, well, okay, I don't know what you and
your husband's financial situation is like right now, but if
like you're holding money secretly on the side, and like
you as a couple are struggling financially, then yeah, maybe
that's a bigger issue. But if like you guys are
doing okay, you're paying your bills and you've had this
money since before, it's kind of your money.

Speaker 8 (06:24):
Right right, Yeah, yeah, we're we're doing okay. I mean, yeah,
I would definitely offer it up if we were struggling
or whatnot. But like, I just like my friends are
just so, he's going to divorce you because you're lying
to him, and I'm like, I don't think i'm lying.

Speaker 6 (06:40):
That's a that's not a good guy if he divorced
you for that, because it is.

Speaker 7 (06:45):
Technically a lie of omission, like you and he may
see it as like a breach of trust because like
because you're not telling him about it, you're hiding, and
then then you lose a little bit trust. You're like,
what else are you hiding that kind of thing?

Speaker 4 (06:57):
It's not like you're like a secret millionaire, right right?

Speaker 8 (07:00):
No, No, no, totally not. It's just like never more
than five hundred buck.

Speaker 3 (07:04):
So why not tell him? How come?

Speaker 1 (07:05):
Why is it a secret? Like why don't you just say,
oh my god, I forgot to tell Like, you know,
are you newly weds?

Speaker 3 (07:10):
How long has it been? How long you've been married?

Speaker 8 (07:11):
Just tell him it's in three years and I honestly
don't even think about it. Well, then just tell him
a non issue.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
I mean, you brought it up to your girlfriends, so
why not bring it up to him. Hey, I forgot
to tell you about this boom. I have this money.
It's not that much, but I have this money because
that way I would assume. Also maybe he'd be like,
where'd you get those shoes or something?

Speaker 6 (07:29):
Right?

Speaker 3 (07:30):
But then again, you're pretty money.

Speaker 6 (07:31):
It would hurt to tell her.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
So you're putting money into the account, so you're getting
the money from somewhere. So that's money that he's not
getting or he's not accounting for. Like if you guys
are both have a joint account and you sharing the finances,
he's probably going something's not right, right because you're putting
money down account.

Speaker 8 (07:50):
Yeah, I mean he hasn't, but like like I said,
it's just it's not even that much, and I just
kind of like let it sit there.

Speaker 7 (07:58):
But yeah, I'm sure reason you won't tell him, like
johnje just has is there a reason?

Speaker 8 (08:03):
No? I mean my friends freaked me out. No, they
think that they think he's going.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
To divorce me. Nah, you should tell me. Let me
put it this way.

Speaker 1 (08:11):
I don't know the right word, but if you were
a business, I'm sure you'd go to jail.

Speaker 6 (08:16):
Well, that.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
You were a business and she was taking me money
not accounting for it.

Speaker 1 (08:21):
Somewhere, I'm sure that there'd be a j like, hey,
that's a jail sentence, that's a that's something.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Bad, there's some sort of sort of fraud.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
Yeah, So I would probably tell him as soon as
you can. Say, this is so tiny, but I just
want to let you know, well that's probably good advice.

Speaker 8 (08:38):
Yeah, okay, all right, all.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
Right, thanks, have a great day. Thanks for calling.

Speaker 6 (08:42):
She's like, there goes my fun. Secret stash is a
different angle of that is like I don't know anything
about our finances. My wife could have secret accounts everywhere
and I would even know.

Speaker 4 (08:52):
Yeah, that was gonna be my question because I felt
like I was trying to put myself in her shoes.
But I just said, never had that kind of situation,
and I'm like curious. I'm like, when you do get
married and you do cross that, you know, go to
that next step? Is it a thing where like you
need to talk about your finances, because what if you're
waking making way more money than your significant other and
you don't.

Speaker 6 (09:10):
Want them to know that.

Speaker 7 (09:11):
You should definitely be open about your finances if you
move on to marriage, that's definitely. I mean, I feel
like that's one of the main things people fight and
get divorced over is money, definitely, and that kind of thing.
So it should definitely be an open conversation.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
Because then you're both working towards a goal, making a salary,
he's making his salary. Hey, let's see if we can
make this much and save this much this year, So
you're working together something. But if you're embezzling and saving
stuff on the side, it's not you.

Speaker 3 (09:39):
You know.

Speaker 6 (09:39):
You can even have a secret stash like that you
guys agree to. It's like, here's my money, Yeah, but
I get to spend whatever.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
I want, so you feel free if whatever show.

Speaker 6 (09:46):
Up with a new person, I don't have to explain
it to you. This is from my little corner, okay,
And I think that's probably a fun thing to do.

Speaker 4 (09:52):
Look at that.

Speaker 1 (09:52):
All right, there you go, text us if you have
any questions about advice or finances, that's what we do here.

Speaker 3 (09:57):
It's the John J. Riche. We want to g j R.
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