Nellie is a PEOPLE PLEASER

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
John Jay and rich Nelly, Good morning, Good morning, how
are you? Thanks for holding you're on the radio.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
So I need someone to bitch to my My husband
has you know, decided that I'm just like the designated
community parent or whatever, and without me without telling me,
like without my permission. So like anytime someone needs something,
you know, be it like a pot love dish or

(00:29):
like team snacks for for you know, his colleagues or
or or neighborly help or whatever, like I am the volunteer,
like I am volunteerd that like I will be.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
Buying all of that stuff.

Speaker 4 (00:42):
I actually okay for.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
You, No hate it. I hate it for myself too.
And you know, I feel like I'm just like this
neighborhood like concierge or whatever. And I didn't I didn't
agree to this role. And so you know, I'll be
like minding my business, like on the couch, watching TV
or whatever, and then and suddenly he'll be like, oh, hey, babe,
by the way, we need forty cupcakes by Friday. Can

(01:04):
you get on that? Yeah? And I'm like, sir, I'm
watching Netflix, like no, I can't get on that, like
and it's just it's ridiculous It's like, I'm sorry that
you don't know how to bake or do anything around
the house, but like it's not my job to do
that for you.

Speaker 4 (01:18):
You know, on a positive note, you must be super
clutch at getting things done because he's entrusting you with
all that.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
But you should ask you this is true, this is true.

Speaker 4 (01:27):
I am.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
I am very good at multitasking. I'm a very good baker.
I got a lot of a lot of tangible skills.
But I you know, I'm like three seconds from just
like losing my mind. So I just need to know
if I'm crazy or if there are other people out
there that are like dealing with the same.

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Bold I'm just wondering why you do it. I would
have been like, well, good luck getting those cupcakes. Me
know how it was for you.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
You know, that's a good point.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
I think he's doing that because usually you're doing the
things that he's volunteer me to know. My take on
this is I've seen this in relationships before, and but
most of the time, or almost every time I could
ever think of, the wife loves it and he's willing,
like not going to complain about it like it's something
or the husband the other way around. I know women think, oh,

(02:14):
he'll come over and fix that for you. He's great.
It's usually because they love it. I've never heard it
before where she's like stop doing that, Like have you
said stop doing that?

Speaker 2 (02:23):
Well, to be honest, I did love it at first,
like I because I love to bake and I love
doing these things. I think it's just when I'm told
that I have to do it, like I like to
do it when it's on a whim or whatever, and
so it's only a recent thing that I'm like resenting
the fact that I have to do it.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
It's kind of like like Kyle, you do stuff like
that all on your own. I'll make cups for the
whole team.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
I do. But I think if someone told me I
had to, I also resent it. So it is probably
the presentation. You have to talk to him about that.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, yeah, I guess I haven't. I haven't really thought
about like, actually.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, what if he's doing it to you know, maybe
he's not happy to relationship anymore and he's seen how
far can I push her? Like what if his next
week he's like, NELLI, yeah, you need her to clean
out your stories for silly She'll.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
Do that she loves that stuff.

Speaker 4 (03:15):
I mean, do you feel like we were helpful, because
if you did, we would like forty cupcakes stat by Friday.

Speaker 3 (03:20):
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
Oh no, how dare you do that? Nelly?

Speaker 3 (03:26):
Nellie's a people pleas her. That's what it is. She
doesn't want to say no because she doesn't want to
disappoint anything.

Speaker 4 (03:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
I would just start making like really gross cakes.

Speaker 3 (03:33):
She can't, she's too good at making. You could just
be like oops for out the flower.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
No, you're so right about the people pleaser saying my
therapist would like have a field day with it.

Speaker 1 (03:42):
Well, thanks for calling in, Nellie, thanks for listening.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
Thank you,