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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
Episodes
December 19, 2025 • 16 mins
The scene: it's a secret threeway, upstairs at the party. 2 men, one woman, 2 minutes, one orgasm.
To hear more salacious deets, tune in.
We've heard of speed dating...but this is a whole other level.
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December 18, 2025 • 53 mins
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A recent widow grapples with a surge in her libido.
A gay man has been a top for all of his sexual life. Now that's he's a dating a man who wants to top him every now and again, can he learn to like it?
On the Magnum, Dan chats with Kelly Foster Lundquist, Author of "Beard." 20 years after her divorce from her closeted gay husband, Lu...
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December 16, 2025 • 55 mins
A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with someone else as a form of revenge. Too toxic?
A divorced woman is still very good friends with her husband. She's so close with him, that her boyfriends break up with her over it. Are they just jealous or is she part of the problem?
On the Magnum, it's a...
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December 15, 2025 • 21 mins
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It was her first time pegging a man, though she'd dreamed of it for years.
Dream fulfilled. How did it go? What did he wear? Who brought the gear?
All of your (and Dan's) nosey questions are answered.
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December 5, 2025 • 15 mins
Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot.
Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out.
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December 2, 2025 • 55 mins
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Listen in on Dan's conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she's been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband's ex-lov...
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November 28, 2025 • 14 mins
Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked.
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November 25, 2025 • 63 mins
We know you're struggling. So we brought in the most soothing human on the planet-Therapy Jeff- to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. In short, don't take the bait, find your family buddy, and if you are alone on the holiday, get yourself to a gay bar.
Also, a woman who considers herself bad in bed wonders how she can find a "sex teacher."
And, a woman wonders if she has her sub drink her ...
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November 21, 2025 • 10 mins
On this weeks After Action Report, Dan spoke with Milo, a trans man who tried nipple torture after getting top surgery. This is a joyful tale of sexual recovery. We hope you enjoy it.
We would very much like to hear about YOUR freaky funtimes. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line "After Action Report." We'll get in touch!
Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this...
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November 18, 2025 • 49 mins
She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor 5 doors down?
A woman has enjoyed friends-with-benefits relationship with a man where all they do is cuddle and have sex. No outings with friends. No movies. No hikes. Now...
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November 14, 2025 • 18 mins
For this After Action Report, Dan chats with Ember, a life-long sneeze fetishist. She gets turned on when her lovers sneeze, and thus, stocks up on imported sneezing powder. And although she prefers being a sneezing dom, she also delved into submission and share the details.
Hear about her journey.
We would very much like to hear about YOUR journey. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to Q@Savage.Love with th...
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November 11, 2025 • 61 mins
A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing.
Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan b...
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November 7, 2025 • 11 mins
After Action Report #3
Squirting Kira
This week, meet a woman who finally, after YEARS of persistence, has learned how to squirt.
Practice makes perfect, and now she has mastered the messy art. Hear all about how she got there, what she plans for her squirting future, and "Is female ejaculate actually pee?" Kira ends the controversy definitively.
Have you gotten out of (or into) your comfort zone? Write us at Q@Savage.Love ...
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November 4, 2025 • 50 mins
A woman's bisexual husband has been getting "gayer and gayer" to the point where he is only interested in her if she acts like a dude. Her friend is worried about her. How can this marriage work?
Are there any straight leather daddies out there who aren't misogynistic creeps? This caller is NOT HAPPY.
On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got" with psychology professor Dr. Justin Mogilski. His study on people who maintain friendships...
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October 31, 2025 • 12 mins
On this week's After Action Report, a trans man made his way to his first furry party. He doesn't have a full suit yet, just paws, ears and a tail. For those in full fur suits, you might be wondering: How do they, you know...do it? You'll have to listen for this detail.
Do YOU have a.. ahem...tail...to share of a new sexual experience? Write us at Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back t...
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October 28, 2025 • 56 mins
A woman's lefty friend berated her for enjoying drag, saying it's like blackface for trans women. The caller loves drag and had never thought about this before. Is it true?
A straight man loves the idea of seeing a naked woman walking around her house. He wonders if others would love to see him naked, you know, just kickin' it at home.
On the Magnum, let the swooning begin! Actor Ben Palacios from Palm Royale is charming, talen...
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October 24, 2025 • 10 mins
Welcome to our first stand-alone After-Action Report!
He got in a full body spiderman suit. And then the action began.
Hear Dan chat with the man who took cos-play to a whole new level.
If YOU recently had a new sexual experience (good or bad,) write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report.
Ask Dan a question!Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064
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October 21, 2025 • 55 mins
A woman just started a dating a man 12 years her junior. But he doesn't know her age, and has never asked her, even on her birthday. Should she tell him?
A couple were approached by a man who initiated a relationship where he is their sex slave. But he is a very demanding slave, sending too many texts, and generally violating their boundaries. He pays them for their attentions. So who's the boss here?
Dan welcomes Imani Askew-Sh...
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October 14, 2025 • 55 mins
Compare and contrast these two body image calls: A woman's boyfriend is so insecure about his big body, that he can't get hard. She thinks he's hot as can be but can't seem to convince him of this. Meanwhile, a man finds that most of the women he meets in his open relationship dating community are too fat for him. Where can he find some skinny chicks into non-monogamy?
Is there a top shortage? Not enough tops? Should we panic? Whe...
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October 7, 2025 • 56 mins
A woman and her boyfriend, (in an open relationship) tried shibari and enjoyed the intimacy of it. She suggested they exclusively practice shibari with each other, unlike all the other sexual activities they do with their other lovers. At first he agreed, but now he's balking. Should she try to make this a rule of their relationship, or cut him free to t ie up other women?
Can semen be safely employed as a sexual lubricant?
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