June 26, 2024 • 10 mins
Jodi's cousin Candice always lets her have a moment in the car before they head out, and it's for a good reason.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jony After the Show podcast,
which is brought to you by our dot com personal
identity protection for you and your family.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So coming up tomorrow, speaking of protection, Tomorrow on the show,
we're doing reasons top reasons that people end up in
the er in the summertime. Kids are more likely to
end up in the R in the summer than anyone else,
which is sad and all of that.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
I guess that's between vacations and sport activity and all that.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
We'll get to it tomorrow. So that's that's tomorrow on
the show.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
But it reminded me of something I forgot to tell
you about Murphy. This moment I have with my cousin
on my girl's trip, right before we went to ind
to see Alanis Morris set so I wrote with my cousin,
canvas there and Crystal met us and we park. You know,
gonna have a long walk. It is still really hot out.
You know, this was a night show, but we got
(00:47):
there early, so it was really hot.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Sun was bright.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I was putting my hat on and she had just
turned the car off, or she was about to turn
the craf and I said, I'm sorry. Let me put
another lay of sunscreen on. She goes, oh, don't you
rush that. I was like, no, no, no, I'll be fast.
She was like, don't you.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Dare rush that?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
And she then told me a story that I knew,
but I never knew it from her perspective. Okay, And
I bring it up because you know, you have memories
of your own life, but you don't know how other
people saw those things happen.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
If you had the same experience with them.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
So you know the story about the time that I
ended up not in the emergency room but a doctor's
office when I was a kid because of a sunburn,
and I was with my cousins.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
We were little. We were at amusement park water park.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
We had been dropped off at the water park and
I am super fair complected and they are not. I
don't think they were dropped off with any sun protection,
but I was. My mom sent me with sun protection.
And you know this is not when you couldn't in those.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
In that time. You couldn't find it so easily. It was.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
There was because there was more than there was.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
There was lotion and oil.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Honestly, I think there was the whole like a shelf
in the store at that time, the summer in the eighties.
It was all tanning oil and at the bottom there
was a one bottle of something called sundown. I remember
the bottle because I got sent with it everywhere. My
mom was not this was out of town. I was
at their house with my aunt and uncle, and they
(02:22):
also a different time. They would drop us off at
the water park and pick us up hours later, so
we put our stuff in blockers. I can't remember. I
was probably ten years old. I can't remember if I
put the sun down on or not. But regardless, I
did not know. See the education wasn't there. I did
not know to reapply, so I a was you know.
(02:43):
That was when I almost died in the wavepool. Also,
the lifeguard had to pull me out way too far
in the deep end of the wavepool when it kicked
on and they had to pull me out.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
And summer this is a horrible memory, but at the
end of that day I was in so much pain.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
And then I went to the doctor's off at the
office the next day, and my mom and grandmother the
third day came and got me, you know, a week
ahead of time for me to go home. Because I
was just miserable, and the doctor had told my aunt,
you know, she had a reaction to the sun.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
She's very fair.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
She cannot be in the sun for long, certainly not
without protection. Blah blah blah. And I remember the pain
of it. No big deal, but my canvas. My cousin
told me in the car the other day on the
way to go into Atlantismorese that she said, no, take
your time putting that on. She says, I don't ever
want to see that again. She said, I remember seeing
(03:42):
those blisters and your sickin, and she said it was horrible.
I'm not saying it wasn't horrible for you, but I
will never forget the way that looked. And I didn't
know she had that memory of it because she never
talked to me about that.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
When I tell you it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Was a significant thing. Yeah, my mom was upset with all.
They didn't have a there was no family problem because
of it. But I know that my mom was very mad.
I guess I probably, as a kid, thought it was
she was mad at me, but I think she was
upset with the adults who were supervising me at that time.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I don't know that there was there was not enough
attention sadly at that time for someone whose fair skin
red head, were you easily burned? Yes, because I mean,
to me, that's what's crazy about it. As progressive as
I thought the time was when we were growing up,
you know, we would we knew that we would get burned.
My parents would put some sort of sunscreen on us.
I don't know that the reapplying part was there, but
(04:39):
I knew that we had to be careful. But we
always knew that it was probably going to be a sunburn,
and then we were gonna it was gonna be peeling,
and then we were going to be.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
You know, never had a blister bad.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
No, I never, And that's because me, my brother, and
my sister are olive skin, so the sun if we
stayed out long enough, which I guess is the whole
reason they did tanning contest and stuff like that back then.
I never did one of those, but I remember them.
I mean I was a kid and there were all
these bikinis and you know, everybody was golden brown, and
that was like.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
The gold.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Childhood memory exactly. I mean, I remember how good that
coconut oil tropic like that it smells, and so it
was like it was like a thing. Your your goal
was to become golden brown during the summer. Was just
so bad.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I grew up in that actually not liking my skin
for that reason, not liking the color and the tone
of my skin, and thinking that I was awkward, the
ugly duckling, all of that, and then there was insult
to injury when Candice and Crystal were fine the next day,
wanting to go to the amusement park the next day,
and I couldn't move. I was laying on the floor
of their and their mother, my aunt Hojraw, who's from Korea,
(05:48):
she didn't know. She had never seen anything like this
redheaded kid with this white white skin, and she blessed
her heart. She was such a love, she was so maternal.
She was trying to make me feel better.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
I was.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
I remember crying. It hurt really badly, and she was
dabbing like nogxeema on me. It hurt a little more. Yeah,
she did that. We just didn't know. They just didn't know.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I was very, very loved. I don't want to I
don't not saying this. I think there was no neglect
going on.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
A different time and place it was. It was the
nineteen eighties, it was. Isn't that hard to believe? Though?
Speaker 4 (06:23):
It's like, I don't remember when sunscreen became a thing,
but I do remember the education. Well, there was no sunscreening.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
That's why you can never stop learning. Science has to
always continue because what we learned we can apply to
our lives.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Thank goodness.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I wear sunscreen every day, not like when I'm at
the beach or something, but I wear it every day.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I think it also takes a while for a message
like that to take hold, because like when the Surgeon
General declared that smoking, you know, was a cause of
lung cancer and all those things in the mid sixties,
that had actually been known for twenty to twenty five
years before that. But even when that was proclaimed, smoking
still continued high rate all the way through the eighties
and into the nineties before it started to decline. Maybe
(07:04):
it was the same thing about sunscreen, because I know
that my grandmother, my grandmother, my grandfather, Heidi, and Skipper
would go fishing a lot, and they absolutely wore sunscreen.
Now it was copper tone, and so it probably was
like an SPF five something like that, but you know,
but they knew that they needed to put sun protection
on because they were going out and they were going
(07:25):
to fish all day long, so it was there. But
there was something about the beach and the golden tanning
magazines and the golden tan on movies and movies and
all that I grew.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Up thinking I was wrong for not being able to
part taking that.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
It makes me feel so bad for you. The hurt
part is what really. I hate the fact that you
remember it hurt.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
I remember it hurt a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But after that it was probably a good lesson for
me because after that, when I would go play softball
or spend if I was going to go to a
camp where I spent a lot of time outside, I
did put the sunscreen on. I was the only kid
doing it, and people there were mean girls rolling their
eyes at me. What's she's doing?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
She's so stupid, you know?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
But whatever, mean girls be gone. I want to say this.
I just thought it was so touching. And then to
realize that memories that you have that you share with
other people, they have a different view of it. I
never realized that she she never said that to me, Candace.
I never realized that she saw it in a different way,
or that she remembers seeing it. But I was so
(08:27):
touched by her words, sitting in her car about to
get out to go to the concert. Oh no, you
take all the time you need for that. I don't
ever want to see that again. I was just so touched.
It's just they thought, and remember to wear your sun's
green more than SPF five please.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Okay, So it does seem like, let's get to Aura.
It does seem like there is a new sort of
you know, information leak. Every week you hear about it
from big companies and do these companies have your information?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That's why Aura is here to help.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Yeah. Aora is an all on one online safety solution.
It can protect you. In fact, you can protect your
entire family and this Aura. It's amazing how many things
Aura covers too. I mean, from stuff like robocalls and telemarketers, yes,
to identity theft and financial fraud and other online thefts.
It's basically a one stop shop to cover everything nice
and protect you.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah, and you can choose the different levels that would
be a fit for your family. And because Aura dot
Com is sponsoring this podcast for a limited time, you
can get a fourteen day trial. Uh and uh and
A and a check of your data to see if
any of your personal information has been leaked, you know, online,
and that's all for free when you visit Aura dot
com slash hack. So when you type au r a
(09:40):
dot com, put the slash mark, type h A c
K hack and that'll give you access to the special
offer and you can see all the different you can
choose everything down to identity protection you know for your children,
and fraud protect. It's so many different things that you know,
Aura encompasses. It makes it a very unique service.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
And they can even help you with the credit bureaus
if you do have an issue.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Yeah, so check it out today and because of the
podcast sponsored special here go to Aura dot com slash
hack and try it for free for fourteen days.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Missed any part of the show, Get it all on
the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jony After the Show podcast,
which is brought to you by our dot com personal
identity protection for you and your family.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So coming up tomorrow, speaking of protection, Tomorrow on the show,
we're doing reasons top reasons that people end up in
the er in the summertime. Kids are more likely to
end up in the R in the summer than anyone else,
which is sad and all of that.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
I guess that's between vacations and sport activity and all that.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
We'll get to it tomorrow. So that's that's tomorrow on
the show.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
But it reminded me of something I forgot to tell
you about Murphy. This moment I have with my cousin
on my girl's trip, right before we went to ind
to see Alanis Morris set so I wrote with my cousin,
canvas there and Crystal met us and we park. You know,
gonna have a long walk. It is still really hot out.
You know, this was a night show, but we got
(00:47):
there early, so it was really hot.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Sun was bright.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I was putting my hat on and she had just
turned the car off, or she was about to turn
the craf and I said, I'm sorry. Let me put
another lay of sunscreen on. She goes, oh, don't you
rush that. I was like, no, no, no, I'll be fast.
She was like, don't you.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Dare rush that?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
And she then told me a story that I knew,
but I never knew it from her perspective. Okay, And
I bring it up because you know, you have memories
of your own life, but you don't know how other
people saw those things happen.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
If you had the same experience with them.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
So you know the story about the time that I
ended up not in the emergency room but a doctor's
office when I was a kid because of a sunburn,
and I was with my cousins.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
We were little. We were at amusement park water park.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
We had been dropped off at the water park and
I am super fair complected and they are not. I
don't think they were dropped off with any sun protection,
but I was. My mom sent me with sun protection.
And you know this is not when you couldn't in those.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
In that time. You couldn't find it so easily. It was.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
There was because there was more than there was.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
There was lotion and oil.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Honestly, I think there was the whole like a shelf
in the store at that time, the summer in the eighties.
It was all tanning oil and at the bottom there
was a one bottle of something called sundown. I remember
the bottle because I got sent with it everywhere. My
mom was not this was out of town. I was
at their house with my aunt and uncle, and they
(02:22):
also a different time. They would drop us off at
the water park and pick us up hours later, so
we put our stuff in blockers. I can't remember. I
was probably ten years old. I can't remember if I
put the sun down on or not. But regardless, I
did not know. See the education wasn't there. I did
not know to reapply, so I a was you know.
(02:43):
That was when I almost died in the wavepool. Also,
the lifeguard had to pull me out way too far
in the deep end of the wavepool when it kicked
on and they had to pull me out.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
And summer this is a horrible memory, but at the
end of that day I was in so much pain.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
And then I went to the doctor's off at the
office the next day, and my mom and grandmother the
third day came and got me, you know, a week
ahead of time for me to go home. Because I
was just miserable, and the doctor had told my aunt,
you know, she had a reaction to the sun.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
She's very fair.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
She cannot be in the sun for long, certainly not
without protection. Blah blah blah. And I remember the pain
of it. No big deal, but my canvas. My cousin
told me in the car the other day on the
way to go into Atlantismorese that she said, no, take
your time putting that on. She says, I don't ever
want to see that again. She said, I remember seeing
(03:42):
those blisters and your sickin, and she said it was horrible.
I'm not saying it wasn't horrible for you, but I
will never forget the way that looked. And I didn't
know she had that memory of it because she never
talked to me about that.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
When I tell you it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Was a significant thing. Yeah, my mom was upset with all.
They didn't have a there was no family problem because
of it. But I know that my mom was very mad.
I guess I probably, as a kid, thought it was
she was mad at me, but I think she was
upset with the adults who were supervising me at that time.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I don't know that there was there was not enough
attention sadly at that time for someone whose fair skin
red head, were you easily burned? Yes, because I mean,
to me, that's what's crazy about it. As progressive as
I thought the time was when we were growing up,
you know, we would we knew that we would get burned.
My parents would put some sort of sunscreen on us.
I don't know that the reapplying part was there, but
(04:39):
I knew that we had to be careful. But we
always knew that it was probably going to be a sunburn,
and then we were gonna it was gonna be peeling,
and then we were going to be.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
You know, never had a blister bad.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
No, I never, And that's because me, my brother, and
my sister are olive skin, so the sun if we
stayed out long enough, which I guess is the whole
reason they did tanning contest and stuff like that back then.
I never did one of those, but I remember them.
I mean I was a kid and there were all
these bikinis and you know, everybody was golden brown, and
that was like.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
The gold.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Childhood memory exactly. I mean, I remember how good that
coconut oil tropic like that it smells, and so it
was like it was like a thing. Your your goal
was to become golden brown during the summer. Was just
so bad.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I grew up in that actually not liking my skin
for that reason, not liking the color and the tone
of my skin, and thinking that I was awkward, the
ugly duckling, all of that, and then there was insult
to injury when Candice and Crystal were fine the next day,
wanting to go to the amusement park the next day,
and I couldn't move. I was laying on the floor
of their and their mother, my aunt Hojraw, who's from Korea,
(05:48):
she didn't know. She had never seen anything like this
redheaded kid with this white white skin, and she blessed
her heart. She was such a love, she was so maternal.
She was trying to make me feel better.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
I was.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
I remember crying. It hurt really badly, and she was
dabbing like nogxeema on me. It hurt a little more. Yeah,
she did that. We just didn't know. They just didn't know.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I was very, very loved. I don't want to I
don't not saying this. I think there was no neglect
going on.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
A different time and place it was. It was the
nineteen eighties, it was. Isn't that hard to believe? Though?
Speaker 4 (06:23):
It's like, I don't remember when sunscreen became a thing,
but I do remember the education. Well, there was no sunscreening.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
That's why you can never stop learning. Science has to
always continue because what we learned we can apply to
our lives.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Thank goodness.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I wear sunscreen every day, not like when I'm at
the beach or something, but I wear it every day.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I think it also takes a while for a message
like that to take hold, because like when the Surgeon
General declared that smoking, you know, was a cause of
lung cancer and all those things in the mid sixties,
that had actually been known for twenty to twenty five
years before that. But even when that was proclaimed, smoking
still continued high rate all the way through the eighties
and into the nineties before it started to decline. Maybe
(07:04):
it was the same thing about sunscreen, because I know
that my grandmother, my grandmother, my grandfather, Heidi, and Skipper
would go fishing a lot, and they absolutely wore sunscreen.
Now it was copper tone, and so it probably was
like an SPF five something like that, but you know,
but they knew that they needed to put sun protection
on because they were going out and they were going
(07:25):
to fish all day long, so it was there. But
there was something about the beach and the golden tanning
magazines and the golden tan on movies and movies and
all that I grew.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Up thinking I was wrong for not being able to
part taking that.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
It makes me feel so bad for you. The hurt
part is what really. I hate the fact that you
remember it hurt.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
I remember it hurt a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But after that it was probably a good lesson for
me because after that, when I would go play softball
or spend if I was going to go to a
camp where I spent a lot of time outside, I
did put the sunscreen on. I was the only kid
doing it, and people there were mean girls rolling their
eyes at me. What's she's doing?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
She's so stupid, you know?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
But whatever, mean girls be gone. I want to say this.
I just thought it was so touching. And then to
realize that memories that you have that you share with
other people, they have a different view of it. I
never realized that she she never said that to me, Candace.
I never realized that she saw it in a different way,
or that she remembers seeing it. But I was so
(08:27):
touched by her words, sitting in her car about to
get out to go to the concert. Oh no, you
take all the time you need for that. I don't
ever want to see that again. I was just so touched.
It's just they thought, and remember to wear your sun's
green more than SPF five please.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Okay, So it does seem like, let's get to Aura.
It does seem like there is a new sort of
you know, information leak. Every week you hear about it
from big companies and do these companies have your information?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That's why Aura is here to help.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Yeah. Aora is an all on one online safety solution.
It can protect you. In fact, you can protect your
entire family and this Aura. It's amazing how many things
Aura covers too. I mean, from stuff like robocalls and telemarketers, yes,
to identity theft and financial fraud and other online thefts.
It's basically a one stop shop to cover everything nice
and protect you.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah, and you can choose the different levels that would
be a fit for your family. And because Aura dot
Com is sponsoring this podcast for a limited time, you
can get a fourteen day trial. Uh and uh and
A and a check of your data to see if
any of your personal information has been leaked, you know, online,
and that's all for free when you visit Aura dot
com slash hack. So when you type au r a
(09:40):
dot com, put the slash mark, type h A c
K hack and that'll give you access to the special
offer and you can see all the different you can
choose everything down to identity protection you know for your children,
and fraud protect. It's so many different things that you know,
Aura encompasses. It makes it a very unique service.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
And they can even help you with the credit bureaus
if you do have an issue.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Yeah, so check it out today and because of the
podcast sponsored special here go to Aura dot com slash
hack and try it for free for fourteen days.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Missed any part of the show, Get it all on
the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast
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