September 7, 2024 • 30 mins
No contact is best for a breakup.
Constructive procrastination.
Dining alone.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Murphy Samon Jody Weekend Replay podcast, picking
out some of our favorite moments from this past week.
And it starts now, when you.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Are breaking up with someone or someone is breaking up
with you, when a relationship is ending, the no contact
method is the best thing you can do for your
mental health. And I say that knowing that that's not
possible with people who are married and have children. You know,
you can't just completely not have contact.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
After the breakup, not like ghosting, right you.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Know, Oh no, no, no, no no, that's not an adult thing.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You do just disappear and then.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Once you have had a conversation that hey, this is
not working for me, I'm breaking up or whatever.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
You say.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
The no contact method is best for everybody involved. But
you're not supposed to be worrying about that person. The
word is, it's no contact you do for your own
mental health.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Murphy brings up a good point. So what if that
person it's like you've okay, I'm not going to contact,
but they continue only contact you like, hey, what's up?
Speaker 5 (01:02):
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay, you want the real answer, wow, are you a ghost?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Like you?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Eventually?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
However, many times that happens if you get hit three, four, five,
six times with I miss you or whatever. What you
were supposed to do is state clearly set boundaries. I
need you to stop, I need you to respect my
wishes for no contact.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
I need you.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I'll send it to you later.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
And that's tough to do because, you know what, at
the end of the day, nobody really wants to hurt
anybody's feelings. Okay, maybe the majority of people don't want
to hurt other people's feelings. Yeah, but yeah, So the
definition to me of ghosting is like you're in contact
and then it just stops without any sort of.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Heads up in a sort of adult conversation.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yes, exactly correct.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Another thing you have to remember in relationships is that
if you get into any this is one of the
most brilliant things someone ever told me. I'm grateful for this.
Any any relationship you get into, friendship, mayor ridge, you know, coworker,
it could end, it could go wrong. It's a chance
(02:06):
you are taking that you could be hurt in some way.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
You still should do it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
You still being social and having relationships is an essential component.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Of happiness and health.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, but or not, you can get you can be
hurt it's like being in a relationship any kind is
like agreeing that you might get hurt. But yeah, to
break it off if you can. If they're not children
involved in a family sitaution, that's when you really have
to bring your adultness to play. No but the no
contact is the best way so that you can, you know,
(02:39):
get those dopamine hits somewhere else. Focus on yourself and
do things for you, hobbies and stuff.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Social media connect.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Promise we're going to get to whether Sam jumped out
of a perfectly good airplane or not this weekend for
his birthday.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
But I can't wait to hear this.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Jumping into some comments and emails rolling in from our
Facebook page, Shirley sent this love your show. Listen every
day and I learn a lot. I now eat croutons
instead of chips. Heard it on the show.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Really it's a weird little thing, but they are great.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
It is a good snack and you I'm sorry to
throw this out, but it's cheaper than potato.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Chips and they're flavorful and delicious.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Yeah, I love them.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
The only thing is they'll tear your mouth up after
a while.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
So well, Captain crunch correct.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
But I just can't do as many croutons as I can.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That happened out of an accident I just did. I
wanted something salty and crunchy, and I didn't. We had
no chips, and I just brought them to work and
started eating them.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
And I find them great. So I'm glad you enjoyed.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Shirley David emailed this and I do want to share it. Hi,
I just want to write you and tell you I
listen every.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Day, love you all.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Last week you talked about people who are unconscious and
if they can hear you. Please let everyone know to
always talk to them in the hospital, as in my
case I could here. I started having a heart problem
last year. I passed out and was unresponsive. The ambulance
showed up and rushed me to the hospital. I could
(04:12):
not move, open my eyes, talk or move at all.
When I got to the hospital, I crashed in the er.
I could hear everything and feel them working on me
and the pain when they were poking me. It was
unreal that I could not tell them but I could
hear them. It happened three times. It has happened three times.
(04:33):
Please tell everyone, at least for me, that they can
hear everything you say, touch them and talk to them.
I got comfort from it, and it would be good
for you to give comfort. Thanks for talking about all
the things. Love love, love the show, David Well. First
of all, David, we're so glad you're okay.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
That's phenomenal to know.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
So that if someone seems out, unconscious, whatever, especially, don't
talk about over them. And I don't mean in a
bad way. Did you hear what he did?
Speaker 5 (05:04):
I'm talking how are you going to divvy up the house?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Talk to them in a loving, beautiful way. I'd always
heard that rumor or heard that that it's the last
thing to go the hearing when someone passes out, like
they can hear it, they just can't really respond.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Send us anything anytime, Murphy, Sam and Jodie dot com.
What's the first thing we do when we first procrastinate?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, we don't do anything.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Actually you do something instead. You say you have a
big project.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Oh you're saying, what if you're going to procrastinate, what's
the first thing that you distracts you and you do?
Is that right?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
What do you do in its place a big project?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
I'm sure it's look at your phone immediately.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Right, it's on there. Research new research says the number
one thing.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
That we do we watch a show. We watch TV.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Oh it's still TV after all these years. Huh.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I find that hard to believe. Coming in second is
social media.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You just you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Almost look here in twenty twenty four, you would think
it's the other way around.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I will tell you what bothers me so much about
it and when I when it happens, I check myself.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I think you need to get recentered.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Is that if I if I start looking at social
media and I go down a rabbit hole of makeup
or a recipe or you know, stupid videos. I went
to my phone for a reason for something important, you know,
and I've lost it in social media, and then I
stumble upon it later I was like, oh, I supposed
(06:40):
to text Sam. Yeah, that thing he asked about. That's
when I need I feel like I need to check myself.
That's when you feel bad, Oh yeah about getting lost.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
The one that pulls me away more than anything else
is the all the suggested YouTube videos, because it clearly knows.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
What I like and you're very suggestive.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Right, Murphy will come in to the like come to
bed late at night and the next morn I'm like,
what were you doing watching Johnny Carson videos?
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I went back to see one classic Johnny Carson segment.
The next thing, you know, they put it right up there.
Do you know that? Who? I think Hulu TV is
either Hulu or Google TV has a twenty four to
seven live Johnny Carson channel. Now they've brought back all
of his stuff.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Anyway, good for you.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Good for you if you enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Though, if you enjoy it, I say that's fine. I
say if you are going to procrastinate, it's just very
human to procrastinate. And if you are doing something you
at least enjoy, then there's got to be some good
in that. So TV's first social media, second and third
is taking a nap.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Hey yay.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And we all procrastinate as long as you recenter and
get refocused. It's normal to procrastinate. But the one thing
we all do is we all feel guilty about doing.
Speaker 5 (07:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Those are three no pressure choices.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Yeah, baby, social media connect.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Love hearing from you on Instagram, Facebook, and at Murphy
Samonjody dot com. Sheila sent this in Hey guys and
Jody specifically another crazy documentary. I think you might want
to watch, and she sent me a link and it's too.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Love Stalker Killer.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
But you're watching that already.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Happy to know that a friend of mine, Catherine, suggests
that I watch it.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Sam finished it before me.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Is this a real documentary or is this a No,
it's a real thing that happened, not one of those
sensational fictionalized No.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Now it's well, it's like trash. It's like watching.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
It's one of those lines where it's a real documentary.
But then they also have the scenes that are played
by characters.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Yeah, a reenactment, which has been done forever, right ever
since the day Crime Stoppers launched. You have to tell.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Stories when you don't have I mean, they don't have
video of these people from when they were doing their crimes.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I always worry about the actors and those two because
those are the people. At some point, someone's gonna think
that's the actual perpetrator.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
I saw you, you were a killer.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Right now, that's the chance you take anyway, I'm Sheila.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
You'll be happy to know that.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
I'm halfway through Lover Stalker Killer, and Murphy walked through
the room last night while I was watching.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
I totally paused it because I was embarrassed.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah, I cannot believe I'm spending my precious lifetime watching this.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I didn't know. I just saw a beautiful mountain scene.
As though I saw, I had no.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Idea what that was beautiful there? Anyway, Sheila went on
to write end.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Also, we went camping at a lake last weekend and
a vehicle kept circling our camp late that night. And
thanks to watching these cringe it shows lately, I couldn't
sleep thinking the worst.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
So I'm taking a break from them for.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Good. Idea.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Yeah, I love Stalker Killer the lady don't tell me
the responsible is the one driving around past.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
People that story happen. Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Yeah, it'll make you think twice about online dating.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I'll tell you that, Or how about stop online dating
this guy?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Anyway?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
He also from our Instagram and Facebook page. We asked
how early how soon do you start thinking about Halloween
because we wanted to know. Melanie says, I'm always thinking
about Halloween. Lisa said all year my favorite holiday, Brandy
said August direct decorations go up, and Rebecca said October first.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
She tries to live in the moment and enjoy the season,
so not too soon.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Good.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Yeah, keep it coming. We love hearing from you anytime.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
I had a comment on the procrastination.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
When you procrastinate what you do, We've been putting this
one off, so yeah, I figured out wait till now
the three things we do and when we procrastinate, watch.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
TV, much CD, go into social media, or take app
All right.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
This is going to sound weird, but I think and
this would be a great title for a book if
anybody wants to write it. But procrastination from me is
a good.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Thing, yes, because because.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
I have to be in the right frame of mind totally.
I have to be in the right at the right
time of day or the right situation.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
And when you're in that, nothing can stop you. So
it's like I have done all three of those before, procrastination.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Instead of do something.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
But to me, it's constructive procrastination.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, because that's the title of the book.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Because I know I'm putting it off. I know I'm
gonna do it, but I also know in my head
if I wait till X, this is.
Speaker 5 (11:23):
Gonna fly and this is gonna be even better.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
That's what I've always been saying about energy is everything
you have to wait till the right moment. You need
to know yourself when you're at your peak, and that's
when you schedule your important things.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Yeah, there's times like I'll sit down at the computer
at home at six o'clock in the evening and not
get up for two hours because it's just.
Speaker 5 (11:42):
Boom, nice hitting.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
It's hitting, yeah, personal business, everything, and it's just like,
while it's working, don't stop it. There are people that
do something called time blocking that's similar to that, and
so you know.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Where you you wait until your peak energy is what
it is, and you block it on your calendar for
that ninety minutes or whatever, and then you also actually
hit the hard stop and when you're done, you actually stop,
let your brain refresh and keep going.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
When you do something mindless, yeah, exactly a nap.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yeah, but yes, you're right about that. I can't tell
you how many times I've tried to take on a
project just because I'm want to plow through and I'm
tired and i realize, okay, it's taking me three times
as long to do this, and I'm not efficient and
I'm correcting mistakes. It's not the best use of my
time with dem.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And I've seen it happen to you before Murphy. Then
you let it make you feel bad. You feel you
start to doubt yourself, and it's like, don't you're trying
to do this at seven pm?
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Just not good? Do it at seven a m. If
you can sort of a thing.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I have to leave the room now to do that.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
It's called constructive procrastination. If anybody wants to write the.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Book, if something that you really want to happen gets
canceled and you have to reschedule it, then you know
how you really feel about it. So Sam, this points
to you. You got you You're canceled for skydiving last
weekend because of weather.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
You're supposed to skydive in the morning.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
Again tomorrow and hopefully the weather won't stop it.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
How do you really feel?
Speaker 4 (13:08):
You know what's funny about it is I don't feel
as jacked up about it as I did last week.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And Retalie, are you managing expectations? You're worried it's going
to be canceled again?
Speaker 5 (13:18):
There is that part of that's in the back of
my head.
Speaker 4 (13:20):
But I guess it's because I got so worked up
for it for a specific time.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
You know, I had a target. Yeah, last Saturday, right.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
And when it came and we can't do it, we
got to reschedule, and it's like, I know, glass half
full is hey, you still get to do it.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
But Sam, it's like I wanted to do it.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Oh, so you it's a control thing.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
I was ready for it. Yes, you know, I'm still
ready for it, but I was more ready last week.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
Well, too bad.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
There's always tomorrow though, Yeah, and then I'm thinking, okay,
so what if tomorrow comes and it's like, sorry, weather
delay again? I mean, is is that a sign it's
twice you've been canceled.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
It's not a sign.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's a sign to keep trying until the weather's right.
If it's something you really want.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
You're not the type of person to look for signs,
are you? You do what you want now?
Speaker 4 (14:09):
And we had a comment too on Facebook that said
they tried three times before they finally got to do it.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
So, I mean, weather is probably always tricky because it
even clouds will keep you from being able to skydive. Obviously, Yeah,
I can't see. And by the way, I was, I
read up on that it actually is illegal. The FAA
has rules that you cannot skydive, you know, through cloud cover.
I mean there's you know, the ceiling, and the visibility
has to be something like three or five miles or
(14:36):
something like that. It's not that you can't skydive around
like little puffy clouds, but like a cloud deck, you're
not going to go yeah, and it's dangerous.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
And I'm not going up in a seven thirty seven either,
with all the equipment.
Speaker 5 (14:46):
It's just a little this little time you wind the
rubber band and go.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
So sounds confidence inspiring.
Speaker 5 (14:53):
Hey, it's okay, because I'll have a parachute on.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
I have a question, how long can you expect to
be up there from the time that you get booted
out of the plane ha ha till the time that
you land.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
I think it's like fifteen to twenty minutes of a fall.
I think Parker, it seemed like Parker when he did it.
My son was about ten to fifteen minutes.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
That is okay.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
So that is understandable now because because in my brain,
you're up there five minutes and it's done, and you've
dropped some money on it.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Okay, good luck. We're sending you good wishes and vibes.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
I'll bring a camera.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
In sharing that Costco has been tightening up or cracking down,
if you will, on their membership sharing by the scanners
and the poor and all of that. Right, I just
want to say, we're going to get to your comments
about that. I'm I'm I understand. That's their business model.
The membership thing is their business model. They don't make
(15:52):
all their money on Richestery chickens and you know, huge
bags of popcorn.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
They make their money the membership.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
And the point is the experiences reserved for the those
who actually pay for the membership, yeah, or and their
guests that they want to bring in. So I did
not write their corporation.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
We could, and Hervey could write for.
Speaker 5 (16:11):
I'm sorry, sir, this experience is reserve.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
So you know, I'm excited though about the scanners. I
can't wait. I don't know what it is about me
and having a barcode scanned on my phone. I just
get excited about that.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
You feel modern, you love the modern experience.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
It's taken them two years to get there though, because
I remember the last time I did my renewal in person,
They're like, I'm sorry, you know, we don't do cards anymore.
I'm like, okay, we just do the app. Okay, great,
but I still see everybody using their cards.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
I still use my card.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Yeah, I didn't know they were in.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I'm such a loser, all right.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
So from our Instagram and Facebook pages, Lindsay said this,
I did Costco for a couple of years along with Sam's,
and I just like Sam's better. So I ended up
just not renewing Costco. But I do get it, meaning
she gets the membership thing. Times are tough, so people
probably share their memberships. Plus it's a little classier than Sam's.
(17:06):
She says, I just like Sam's hot dogs better. Oh really,
I haven't been in a Sam's Club in a decade.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Do they have a.
Speaker 5 (17:12):
Whole I don't know. You don't know. I'm not a
member of either.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
You have got to come to Costco with us Sam and.
Speaker 5 (17:19):
The Costco once. Oh that's right.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
It surprises me, you know, as somebody who is a
uh I don't want to say a penny pincher is,
but you know, but somebody that likes to save and
get deals in those kinds of things, I would think
you'd have a membership to one or the other.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
He doesn't need twenty and.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Not everything's in bulk, not everything's in massive amounts, you.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Know it is. I mean some of it is well.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
I mean things like Premiere Protein, those you know, drinks
or whatever, they're just generating box.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
That's a lot, Murphy.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
It's not a death many we love hearings.
Speaker 5 (17:54):
I only need one chicken, though, Keep.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Becoming any time on Instagram or Facebook. Game day Grub
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Speaker 3 (18:14):
Those are so good and so fun to make, right,
Just smash it, smash it down.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
If you're angry, you know.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
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at Murphy Salmonjody dot com. And speaking of cooking, from
our Facebook page, Tony sent this in regarding.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
Steak in the air fryer.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Oh yeah, prep meets with olive oil and seasonings for
crispy goodness.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
Okay, so never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Every recipe of it, every recipe that I've seen has
actually said that that you actually do need to do
the coding. In fact, the one we posted at Murphy
Salmonjody dot com is that is that same thing. Yeah,
apparently that makes a difference. The whole topic came up
because of my skepticism of putting an expensive piece of
meat in an air fryer in one air but there
are people that I mean truly swear by it. So
(19:12):
I guess at some point we should take the plunge.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Jody, Well, if it's a really good piece of meat,
do you think an air frier can ruin it?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Everything sounds good.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
I just think there's a better way to cook it,
or it would probably be the person using the air
fryer aka me it.
Speaker 5 (19:30):
Wants well done?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Okay, Tony again, prep the meats with olive oil and
seasonings to make it crispy.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
That's a good.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
A lot of the things you cook, you know, like
burritos and stuff, and an air fryer, they tell you
to spritz it with olive oil just for that crisp.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Yeah, and makes sense to me, you know. I guess
the steak thing is almost like the smash burger because
you've got that crispiness on the outside that it works if.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
You like that. Patty sent this in. I love my
air fryers. I have too, and yes I do steak
in it. Four hundred degrees for twelve minutes, okay, okay,
and about six minutes I start checking the temperature for
the way I like it, which is about one forty
five degrees slightly more than rare. I use my air
fryers for defrosting, reheating, baking, and it is fantastic for bacon.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
That's a hard note from the guys, Patty. But if
she says good for it, that just sounds like.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
A fire hat.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Yeah, that's a fear factor in my head. I got
to get past that if I'm ever going to do that.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
He's wild and crazy too. I'm sorry, I do Sorry, Patty.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
I want to try the steak though, now, I really do.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
Jodi Texter call us eight seven seven three one zero
four msj.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Your comments keep rolling in about parents having a favorite child.
What a subject to hit a nerve. Sherry said this, Yep,
my dad had a favorite and everyone knew it. Oh really,
I have two kids and we'll never understand how a
parent can have a favorite. I'm with you, Sherry, I
could never have a favorite, unconditional love for two very
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different people, our girls.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
Does that mean from Sherry that she wasn't the one?
Speaker 2 (21:03):
So probably yeah, because she'd be like, yeah, I'm the faith.
It depends, right, It just depends. Sandra says. Two of
my three kids have said that my oldest is my favorite. Truly,
I don't have a favorite. My oldest is just the
one who likes to spend time with me. We have
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running jokes in our family about it. You know, my brother,
he's so funny. Help years ago, when I was a
teenager and he was just like a young adult. I
was having a bad day and it was some sort
of we were at some sort of late Christmas thing
and my mom had given us cards with a little
money in it. And let's just say it was fifty bucks.
(21:47):
And he knew we each got fifty bucks. He goes, oh,
thanks one hundred bucks, Mom.
Speaker 5 (21:53):
Thanks.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
I bought it for a second. I really did for
a hot second. Synthis and I love your name, by
the way, the Tiger.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Tiger Tiger said, I think most families have a favorite child,
whether they truly want to admit it or not.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
It's probably just very different by different families.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Growing up as a kid in a family of three kids,
there was a favorite and it was well known who
that favorite was.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
Oh, that makes me feel bad, sorry.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Tiger, especially for the child, Especially for the child who
thinks that they are obviously seeing favoritism that's not landing
on them.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Sounds to me like Tiger got the coolest name out
of all of them though, right.
Speaker 5 (22:36):
Totally generate animosity from the other two kids.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
The ones who's not the favorite.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I mean, if it's obvious that they're not the favorite.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Absolutely, Honestly, there's so much self esteem writing on the
dynamics of a family. There's so much there that if
you do have a favorite child, the only advice is
to try to never let it show. All right, thanks
for this, Keep it coming in anytime. You can comment
on Facebook and Instagram. Murphy did something in the kitchen
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the other day that I could not believe that I
was witnessing. And then our youngest child, Phoebe, did the
same thing two days later.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
Huh, I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
So I'm gonna ask you. I'm gonna ask before you
eat a piece of fruit.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Do you wash it? Please tell me you wash your fruit?
Speaker 5 (23:24):
Sam some fruit?
Speaker 4 (23:26):
Yeah, grapes I don't usually, and bananas obviously because it's
in the.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
You don't have to any it's something that comes in
a wrapper of its own. No, you don't have apples. Good.
Speaker 5 (23:35):
That's the only fruit I washed.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Do you remember what fruit you just bicked that ate, yes,
the other day out of the container and didn't even
wash it.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
And I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Murphy, Yeah, the nectarine.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
The nectarine. I bought a think a flat of nectarines
because this is one of my favorite fruits in the world.
And Murphy just ate started eating it straight from the box. Yeah,
And I was like, whoa of all people, mister safety,
and you didn't wash it.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I mean, honestly, I guess I didn't think about it.
You know, it's the fruit is already clean looking.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You know. Phoebe did the same thing yesterday. She was
at the house and You're like, ooh, can I have
that nectarine? It's the last one. I'm like, yes, you can't.
Her mouth and I'm like, whoa, you got to wash that?
You definitely should be washing grapes.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Here's what grapes you can taste the stuff that's on them.
If you don't rinse the grapes off. I mean, I
don't know what's still on them. But yes, you're supposed
to really wash I guess everything, because if they're traces
of dirt, pesticide or whatever, it's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Already be the you know downer here, but food borne illness.
Everybody thinks about meat and raw poultry and all that
kind of stuff, But guess what fruits and vegetables are
supposed to be washed like? And the easiest way is
like run like, run cold water over it, pat it down.
If you see dirt on it, wipe it off, like
you see dirt on mushrooms. Wipe it off because not
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only dirt pesticides, but they're grown out out in the
open where a bird can land on it and all
kinds of and then in the packaging process and all
of that. I read about it just before bringing it
up with you. It's like anybody who eats fruit and vegetables,
which you're supposed to do, fantastic, you are supposed to
(25:17):
You gotta watch it.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Isn't it weird how the brain works though, because grapes
totally get that. I just didn't think about it for
the neckaren know.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
How you feeling today?
Speaker 1 (25:26):
A little woozy but otherwise good.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
What's the oldest expired item in a pantry you will
admit to having found and thrown away?
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I know that one.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
It wasn't our pantry, right.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
It wasn't ours. But go ahead, Sam, you're going to
thank God.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Well he went into his grandmother's and that's a whole
other level a grandmother's.
Speaker 5 (25:51):
Pantry with me. It's coke. It was cocoa. Okay, I
think you know the Hershey's cocoa ten. Yes, it's like
you buy that and it sits in the cat and
you'll have to buy one your whole life.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah, old was it?
Speaker 5 (26:02):
It was old? Years old?
Speaker 4 (26:03):
Okay, yeah, years that's a fair thing. I mean this,
I threw this away years ago and it was years old.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
There's a saying too, like if you buy one big
bottle of Worcester, and I'm saying that, that's how I
say it Worcester. Sure you don't have to buy another
one for years, although you should watch the expiration date.
Vasoline is the same, like buy a big thing of
it and you don't need it for a lifetime.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
I was thinking that of the cocoa, It's like, it's
just chocolate powder. How can it go bad? I threw
it away.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Well, the one that went bad at my grandmother's house
was horseeradish that had been in the fridge somehow, a
jar of it for eleven years past its expiration date.
Eleven years. Got to say, what color was it? It
was the same color it was before. It must have
been some good preservatives. Now now it didn't smell good
at all, but it looked the same.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Grandmothers or grandparents are the most likely likely culprit of that,
because not wanting to waste things that you've spent money on,
but also the passage of time. I have learned that
in our kitchen, Murphy, I feel like I bought something
last week and you'll be like, oh no, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Oh yeah, I had two of them that happened with
a sandwich this weekend.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
The mustard was inspired in the mayo was expired as like, man,
are you trying to kill me? Jody?
Speaker 4 (27:22):
We see though, what you're saying about grandparents. I think
it's because grandparents are it's non scientific, you.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Know, it's like, oh, it's fine, ain't gonna kill you.
Speaker 5 (27:30):
It's fine. I've been eating that for weeks, eating well.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I did some kitchen clean out, speaking of you know
yesterday and after the show podcast the stuff we couldn't
remember from a long weekend. I did a kitchen clean
out of some cabinets and things like that, and I
pantry clean out.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
And it feels so good to have when you finally
have that done.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
But I will say that I was proud to say
that I threw away something. And the oldest date I
could find was twenty nineteen. Oh, it was like nuts years,
not gonna kill Yeah, Sam, you did this beautiful after
the show podcast this week, we did me.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
But you let it about.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Dining alone, solo, dining table for one and how you
know we had talked about open table reported that people
booking reservations to dine alone.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
It's up thirty and forty percent. It's just as there's
not a stigma on it anymore.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
It's hard the first time you do it first couple
of times because you do feel like you're alone.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
I think it depends on the way that you were
sort of.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Raised as well, exactly. I was going to say, I mean,
if you were you know, if if you've always been
kind of independent or maybe an only child or something
like that, it's not You went from being in multiple
relationships a lot of them actually, to uh.
Speaker 5 (28:48):
Can I set up there, Jodie?
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Can I get some popcorn?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
But you know what I mean. You went from You
went from you know that that socialized.
Speaker 5 (28:55):
Always selling kids around, you know exactly.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
So that makes a difference when you're doing it. The
first time you're write it, it feels kind of funny.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Being able to enjoy time by yourself and doing things alone,
I think is a very big step in personal growth.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
I really do.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And I'm the dining alone thing. I can remember the
first time I was. I was traveling away from my
family and I was flying to see someone and I
was delayed, and I was a young woman, I was
early twenties, and I was alone in an airport and
I didn't feel right. And then I sat down and
I was having coffee and thought, oh, this is actually
kind of cool. Yeah, but it was a notable moment
(29:31):
in my life.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
It is different.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
So regarding dining alone, Tanya says this, I always enjoyed
my dining alone times, and I'd tell the server I
was going to camp, so please don't rush me, but
please keep my drink filled. And when I was done,
they'd be tipped really well. Always took a book with
me and I still do this at times, and that was.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
One of the I think one of the benefits of
eating alone is that you can eat at your own speed.
You know, it's just you can eat and actually enjoy
every bite and everything on your plate.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
If you're not comfortable doing it, it's something you should try.
And it doesn't mean that you have to be comfortable
doing it.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
You don't.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Trey says, I'm great eating by myself and I've been
doing it for many, many years. Kimberly, I hate going
out and eating alone. I'll just pick something up and
bring it home. I won't sit out by myself, Okay,
and that's not wrong either.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
No, it's a matter of personal comfort.
Speaker 4 (30:21):
If you want a baby, step into it. Go to
a fast food place. Oh yeah, go to McDonald's and
sit by yourself.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
Yes, keep it coming.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
We love hearing from you on Instagram, Facebook, and you
can email us anytime at Murphysamonjody dot com.
This is the Murphy Samon Jody Weekend Replay podcast, picking
out some of our favorite moments from this past week.
And it starts now, when you.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Are breaking up with someone or someone is breaking up
with you, when a relationship is ending, the no contact
method is the best thing you can do for your
mental health. And I say that knowing that that's not
possible with people who are married and have children. You know,
you can't just completely not have contact.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
After the breakup, not like ghosting, right you.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Know, Oh no, no, no, no no, that's not an adult thing.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You do just disappear and then.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Once you have had a conversation that hey, this is
not working for me, I'm breaking up or whatever.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
You say.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
The no contact method is best for everybody involved. But
you're not supposed to be worrying about that person. The
word is, it's no contact you do for your own
mental health.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Murphy brings up a good point. So what if that
person it's like you've okay, I'm not going to contact,
but they continue only contact you like, hey, what's up?
Speaker 5 (01:02):
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay, you want the real answer, wow, are you a ghost?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Like you?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Eventually?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
However, many times that happens if you get hit three, four, five,
six times with I miss you or whatever. What you
were supposed to do is state clearly set boundaries. I
need you to stop, I need you to respect my
wishes for no contact.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
I need you.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I'll send it to you later.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
And that's tough to do because, you know what, at
the end of the day, nobody really wants to hurt
anybody's feelings. Okay, maybe the majority of people don't want
to hurt other people's feelings. Yeah, but yeah, So the
definition to me of ghosting is like you're in contact
and then it just stops without any sort of.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Heads up in a sort of adult conversation.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yes, exactly correct.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Another thing you have to remember in relationships is that
if you get into any this is one of the
most brilliant things someone ever told me. I'm grateful for this.
Any any relationship you get into, friendship, mayor ridge, you know, coworker,
it could end, it could go wrong. It's a chance
(02:06):
you are taking that you could be hurt in some way.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
You still should do it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
You still being social and having relationships is an essential component.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Of happiness and health.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, but or not, you can get you can be
hurt it's like being in a relationship any kind is
like agreeing that you might get hurt. But yeah, to
break it off if you can. If they're not children
involved in a family sitaution, that's when you really have
to bring your adultness to play. No but the no
contact is the best way so that you can, you know,
(02:39):
get those dopamine hits somewhere else. Focus on yourself and
do things for you, hobbies and stuff.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Social media connect.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Promise we're going to get to whether Sam jumped out
of a perfectly good airplane or not this weekend for
his birthday.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
But I can't wait to hear this.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Jumping into some comments and emails rolling in from our
Facebook page, Shirley sent this love your show. Listen every
day and I learn a lot. I now eat croutons
instead of chips. Heard it on the show.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Really it's a weird little thing, but they are great.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
It is a good snack and you I'm sorry to
throw this out, but it's cheaper than potato.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Chips and they're flavorful and delicious.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Yeah, I love them.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
The only thing is they'll tear your mouth up after
a while.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
So well, Captain crunch correct.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
But I just can't do as many croutons as I can.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That happened out of an accident I just did. I
wanted something salty and crunchy, and I didn't. We had
no chips, and I just brought them to work and
started eating them.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
And I find them great. So I'm glad you enjoyed.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Shirley David emailed this and I do want to share it. Hi,
I just want to write you and tell you I
listen every.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Day, love you all.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Last week you talked about people who are unconscious and
if they can hear you. Please let everyone know to
always talk to them in the hospital, as in my
case I could here. I started having a heart problem
last year. I passed out and was unresponsive. The ambulance
showed up and rushed me to the hospital. I could
(04:12):
not move, open my eyes, talk or move at all.
When I got to the hospital, I crashed in the er.
I could hear everything and feel them working on me
and the pain when they were poking me. It was
unreal that I could not tell them but I could
hear them. It happened three times. It has happened three times.
(04:33):
Please tell everyone, at least for me, that they can
hear everything you say, touch them and talk to them.
I got comfort from it, and it would be good
for you to give comfort. Thanks for talking about all
the things. Love love, love the show, David Well. First
of all, David, we're so glad you're okay.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
That's phenomenal to know.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
So that if someone seems out, unconscious, whatever, especially, don't
talk about over them. And I don't mean in a
bad way. Did you hear what he did?
Speaker 5 (05:04):
I'm talking how are you going to divvy up the house?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Talk to them in a loving, beautiful way. I'd always
heard that rumor or heard that that it's the last
thing to go the hearing when someone passes out, like
they can hear it, they just can't really respond.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Send us anything anytime, Murphy, Sam and Jodie dot com.
What's the first thing we do when we first procrastinate?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, we don't do anything.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Actually you do something instead. You say you have a
big project.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Oh you're saying, what if you're going to procrastinate, what's
the first thing that you distracts you and you do?
Is that right?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
What do you do in its place a big project?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
I'm sure it's look at your phone immediately.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Right, it's on there. Research new research says the number
one thing.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
That we do we watch a show. We watch TV.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Oh it's still TV after all these years. Huh.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I find that hard to believe. Coming in second is
social media.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You just you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Almost look here in twenty twenty four, you would think
it's the other way around.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I will tell you what bothers me so much about
it and when I when it happens, I check myself.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I think you need to get recentered.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Is that if I if I start looking at social
media and I go down a rabbit hole of makeup
or a recipe or you know, stupid videos. I went
to my phone for a reason for something important, you know,
and I've lost it in social media, and then I
stumble upon it later I was like, oh, I supposed
(06:40):
to text Sam. Yeah, that thing he asked about. That's
when I need I feel like I need to check myself.
That's when you feel bad, Oh yeah about getting lost.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
The one that pulls me away more than anything else
is the all the suggested YouTube videos, because it clearly knows.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
What I like and you're very suggestive.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Right, Murphy will come in to the like come to
bed late at night and the next morn I'm like,
what were you doing watching Johnny Carson videos?
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I went back to see one classic Johnny Carson segment.
The next thing, you know, they put it right up there.
Do you know that? Who? I think Hulu TV is
either Hulu or Google TV has a twenty four to
seven live Johnny Carson channel. Now they've brought back all
of his stuff.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Anyway, good for you.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Good for you if you enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Though, if you enjoy it, I say that's fine. I
say if you are going to procrastinate, it's just very
human to procrastinate. And if you are doing something you
at least enjoy, then there's got to be some good
in that. So TV's first social media, second and third
is taking a nap.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Hey yay.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And we all procrastinate as long as you recenter and
get refocused. It's normal to procrastinate. But the one thing
we all do is we all feel guilty about doing.
Speaker 5 (07:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Those are three no pressure choices.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Yeah, baby, social media connect.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Love hearing from you on Instagram, Facebook, and at Murphy
Samonjody dot com. Sheila sent this in Hey guys and
Jody specifically another crazy documentary. I think you might want
to watch, and she sent me a link and it's too.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Love Stalker Killer.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
But you're watching that already.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Happy to know that a friend of mine, Catherine, suggests
that I watch it.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Sam finished it before me.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Is this a real documentary or is this a No,
it's a real thing that happened, not one of those
sensational fictionalized No.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Now it's well, it's like trash. It's like watching.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
It's one of those lines where it's a real documentary.
But then they also have the scenes that are played
by characters.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Yeah, a reenactment, which has been done forever, right ever
since the day Crime Stoppers launched. You have to tell.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Stories when you don't have I mean, they don't have
video of these people from when they were doing their crimes.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I always worry about the actors and those two because
those are the people. At some point, someone's gonna think
that's the actual perpetrator.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
I saw you, you were a killer.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Right now, that's the chance you take anyway, I'm Sheila.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
You'll be happy to know that.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
I'm halfway through Lover Stalker Killer, and Murphy walked through
the room last night while I was watching.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
I totally paused it because I was embarrassed.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah, I cannot believe I'm spending my precious lifetime watching this.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I didn't know. I just saw a beautiful mountain scene.
As though I saw, I had no.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Idea what that was beautiful there? Anyway, Sheila went on
to write end.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Also, we went camping at a lake last weekend and
a vehicle kept circling our camp late that night. And
thanks to watching these cringe it shows lately, I couldn't
sleep thinking the worst.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
So I'm taking a break from them for.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Good. Idea.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Yeah, I love Stalker Killer the lady don't tell me
the responsible is the one driving around past.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
People that story happen. Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Yeah, it'll make you think twice about online dating.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I'll tell you that, Or how about stop online dating
this guy?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Anyway?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
He also from our Instagram and Facebook page. We asked
how early how soon do you start thinking about Halloween
because we wanted to know. Melanie says, I'm always thinking
about Halloween. Lisa said all year my favorite holiday, Brandy
said August direct decorations go up, and Rebecca said October first.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
She tries to live in the moment and enjoy the season,
so not too soon.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Good.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Yeah, keep it coming. We love hearing from you anytime.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
I had a comment on the procrastination.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
When you procrastinate what you do, We've been putting this
one off, so yeah, I figured out wait till now
the three things we do and when we procrastinate, watch.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
TV, much CD, go into social media, or take app
All right.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
This is going to sound weird, but I think and
this would be a great title for a book if
anybody wants to write it. But procrastination from me is
a good.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Thing, yes, because because.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
I have to be in the right frame of mind totally.
I have to be in the right at the right
time of day or the right situation.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
And when you're in that, nothing can stop you. So
it's like I have done all three of those before, procrastination.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Instead of do something.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
But to me, it's constructive procrastination.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, because that's the title of the book.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Because I know I'm putting it off. I know I'm
gonna do it, but I also know in my head
if I wait till X, this is.
Speaker 5 (11:23):
Gonna fly and this is gonna be even better.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
That's what I've always been saying about energy is everything
you have to wait till the right moment. You need
to know yourself when you're at your peak, and that's
when you schedule your important things.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Yeah, there's times like I'll sit down at the computer
at home at six o'clock in the evening and not
get up for two hours because it's just.
Speaker 5 (11:42):
Boom, nice hitting.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
It's hitting, yeah, personal business, everything, and it's just like,
while it's working, don't stop it. There are people that
do something called time blocking that's similar to that, and
so you know.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Where you you wait until your peak energy is what
it is, and you block it on your calendar for
that ninety minutes or whatever, and then you also actually
hit the hard stop and when you're done, you actually stop,
let your brain refresh and keep going.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
When you do something mindless, yeah, exactly a nap.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yeah, but yes, you're right about that. I can't tell
you how many times I've tried to take on a
project just because I'm want to plow through and I'm
tired and i realize, okay, it's taking me three times
as long to do this, and I'm not efficient and
I'm correcting mistakes. It's not the best use of my
time with dem.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And I've seen it happen to you before Murphy. Then
you let it make you feel bad. You feel you
start to doubt yourself, and it's like, don't you're trying
to do this at seven pm?
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Just not good? Do it at seven a m. If
you can sort of a thing.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I have to leave the room now to do that.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
It's called constructive procrastination. If anybody wants to write the.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Book, if something that you really want to happen gets
canceled and you have to reschedule it, then you know
how you really feel about it. So Sam, this points
to you. You got you You're canceled for skydiving last
weekend because of weather.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
You're supposed to skydive in the morning.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
Again tomorrow and hopefully the weather won't stop it.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
How do you really feel?
Speaker 4 (13:08):
You know what's funny about it is I don't feel
as jacked up about it as I did last week.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And Retalie, are you managing expectations? You're worried it's going
to be canceled again?
Speaker 5 (13:18):
There is that part of that's in the back of
my head.
Speaker 4 (13:20):
But I guess it's because I got so worked up
for it for a specific time.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
You know, I had a target. Yeah, last Saturday, right.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
And when it came and we can't do it, we
got to reschedule, and it's like, I know, glass half
full is hey, you still get to do it.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
But Sam, it's like I wanted to do it.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Oh, so you it's a control thing.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
I was ready for it. Yes, you know, I'm still
ready for it, but I was more ready last week.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
Well, too bad.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
There's always tomorrow though, Yeah, and then I'm thinking, okay,
so what if tomorrow comes and it's like, sorry, weather
delay again? I mean, is is that a sign it's
twice you've been canceled.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
It's not a sign.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's a sign to keep trying until the weather's right.
If it's something you really want.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
You're not the type of person to look for signs,
are you? You do what you want now?
Speaker 4 (14:09):
And we had a comment too on Facebook that said
they tried three times before they finally got to do it.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
So, I mean, weather is probably always tricky because it
even clouds will keep you from being able to skydive. Obviously, Yeah,
I can't see. And by the way, I was, I
read up on that it actually is illegal. The FAA
has rules that you cannot skydive, you know, through cloud cover.
I mean there's you know, the ceiling, and the visibility
has to be something like three or five miles or
(14:36):
something like that. It's not that you can't skydive around
like little puffy clouds, but like a cloud deck, you're
not going to go yeah, and it's dangerous.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
And I'm not going up in a seven thirty seven either,
with all the equipment.
Speaker 5 (14:46):
It's just a little this little time you wind the
rubber band and go.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
So sounds confidence inspiring.
Speaker 5 (14:53):
Hey, it's okay, because I'll have a parachute on.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
I have a question, how long can you expect to
be up there from the time that you get booted
out of the plane ha ha till the time that
you land.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
I think it's like fifteen to twenty minutes of a fall.
I think Parker, it seemed like Parker when he did it.
My son was about ten to fifteen minutes.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
That is okay.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
So that is understandable now because because in my brain,
you're up there five minutes and it's done, and you've
dropped some money on it.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Okay, good luck. We're sending you good wishes and vibes.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
I'll bring a camera.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
In sharing that Costco has been tightening up or cracking down,
if you will, on their membership sharing by the scanners
and the poor and all of that. Right, I just
want to say, we're going to get to your comments
about that. I'm I'm I understand. That's their business model.
The membership thing is their business model. They don't make
(15:52):
all their money on Richestery chickens and you know, huge
bags of popcorn.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
They make their money the membership.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
And the point is the experiences reserved for the those
who actually pay for the membership, yeah, or and their
guests that they want to bring in. So I did
not write their corporation.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
We could, and Hervey could write for.
Speaker 5 (16:11):
I'm sorry, sir, this experience is reserve.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
So you know, I'm excited though about the scanners. I
can't wait. I don't know what it is about me
and having a barcode scanned on my phone. I just
get excited about that.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
You feel modern, you love the modern experience.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
It's taken them two years to get there though, because
I remember the last time I did my renewal in person,
They're like, I'm sorry, you know, we don't do cards anymore.
I'm like, okay, we just do the app. Okay, great,
but I still see everybody using their cards.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
I still use my card.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Yeah, I didn't know they were in.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I'm such a loser, all right.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
So from our Instagram and Facebook pages, Lindsay said this,
I did Costco for a couple of years along with Sam's,
and I just like Sam's better. So I ended up
just not renewing Costco. But I do get it, meaning
she gets the membership thing. Times are tough, so people
probably share their memberships. Plus it's a little classier than Sam's.
(17:06):
She says, I just like Sam's hot dogs better. Oh really,
I haven't been in a Sam's Club in a decade.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Do they have a.
Speaker 5 (17:12):
Whole I don't know. You don't know. I'm not a
member of either.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
You have got to come to Costco with us Sam and.
Speaker 5 (17:19):
The Costco once. Oh that's right.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
It surprises me, you know, as somebody who is a
uh I don't want to say a penny pincher is,
but you know, but somebody that likes to save and
get deals in those kinds of things, I would think
you'd have a membership to one or the other.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
He doesn't need twenty and.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Not everything's in bulk, not everything's in massive amounts, you.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Know it is. I mean some of it is well.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
I mean things like Premiere Protein, those you know, drinks
or whatever, they're just generating box.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
That's a lot, Murphy.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
It's not a death many we love hearings.
Speaker 5 (17:54):
I only need one chicken, though, Keep.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Becoming any time on Instagram or Facebook. Game day Grub
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Speaker 3 (18:14):
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Just smash it, smash it down.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
If you're angry, you know.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
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a recipe, but you can go get all of these
at Murphy Salmonjody dot com. And speaking of cooking, from
our Facebook page, Tony sent this in regarding.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
Steak in the air fryer.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Oh yeah, prep meets with olive oil and seasonings for
crispy goodness.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
Okay, so never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Every recipe of it, every recipe that I've seen has
actually said that that you actually do need to do
the coding. In fact, the one we posted at Murphy
Salmonjody dot com is that is that same thing. Yeah,
apparently that makes a difference. The whole topic came up
because of my skepticism of putting an expensive piece of
meat in an air fryer in one air but there
are people that I mean truly swear by it. So
(19:12):
I guess at some point we should take the plunge.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Jody, Well, if it's a really good piece of meat,
do you think an air frier can ruin it?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Everything sounds good.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
I just think there's a better way to cook it,
or it would probably be the person using the air
fryer aka me it.
Speaker 5 (19:30):
Wants well done?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Okay, Tony again, prep the meats with olive oil and
seasonings to make it crispy.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
That's a good.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
A lot of the things you cook, you know, like
burritos and stuff, and an air fryer, they tell you
to spritz it with olive oil just for that crisp.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Yeah, and makes sense to me, you know. I guess
the steak thing is almost like the smash burger because
you've got that crispiness on the outside that it works if.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
You like that. Patty sent this in. I love my
air fryers. I have too, and yes I do steak
in it. Four hundred degrees for twelve minutes, okay, okay,
and about six minutes I start checking the temperature for
the way I like it, which is about one forty
five degrees slightly more than rare. I use my air
fryers for defrosting, reheating, baking, and it is fantastic for bacon.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
That's a hard note from the guys, Patty. But if
she says good for it, that just sounds like.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
A fire hat.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Yeah, that's a fear factor in my head. I got
to get past that if I'm ever going to do that.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
He's wild and crazy too. I'm sorry, I do Sorry, Patty.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
I want to try the steak though, now, I really do.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
Jodi Texter call us eight seven seven three one zero
four msj.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Your comments keep rolling in about parents having a favorite child.
What a subject to hit a nerve. Sherry said this, Yep,
my dad had a favorite and everyone knew it. Oh really,
I have two kids and we'll never understand how a
parent can have a favorite. I'm with you, Sherry, I
could never have a favorite, unconditional love for two very
(20:59):
different people, our girls.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
Does that mean from Sherry that she wasn't the one?
Speaker 2 (21:03):
So probably yeah, because she'd be like, yeah, I'm the faith.
It depends, right, It just depends. Sandra says. Two of
my three kids have said that my oldest is my favorite. Truly,
I don't have a favorite. My oldest is just the
one who likes to spend time with me. We have
(21:24):
running jokes in our family about it. You know, my brother,
he's so funny. Help years ago, when I was a
teenager and he was just like a young adult. I
was having a bad day and it was some sort
of we were at some sort of late Christmas thing
and my mom had given us cards with a little
money in it. And let's just say it was fifty bucks.
(21:47):
And he knew we each got fifty bucks. He goes, oh,
thanks one hundred bucks, Mom.
Speaker 5 (21:53):
Thanks.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
I bought it for a second. I really did for
a hot second. Synthis and I love your name, by
the way, the Tiger.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Tiger Tiger said, I think most families have a favorite child,
whether they truly want to admit it or not.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
It's probably just very different by different families.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Growing up as a kid in a family of three kids,
there was a favorite and it was well known who
that favorite was.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
Oh, that makes me feel bad, sorry.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Tiger, especially for the child, Especially for the child who
thinks that they are obviously seeing favoritism that's not landing
on them.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Sounds to me like Tiger got the coolest name out
of all of them though, right.
Speaker 5 (22:36):
Totally generate animosity from the other two kids.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
The ones who's not the favorite.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I mean, if it's obvious that they're not the favorite.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Absolutely, Honestly, there's so much self esteem writing on the
dynamics of a family. There's so much there that if
you do have a favorite child, the only advice is
to try to never let it show. All right, thanks
for this, Keep it coming in anytime. You can comment
on Facebook and Instagram. Murphy did something in the kitchen
(23:07):
the other day that I could not believe that I
was witnessing. And then our youngest child, Phoebe, did the
same thing two days later.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
Huh, I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
So I'm gonna ask you. I'm gonna ask before you
eat a piece of fruit.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Do you wash it? Please tell me you wash your fruit?
Speaker 5 (23:24):
Sam some fruit?
Speaker 4 (23:26):
Yeah, grapes I don't usually, and bananas obviously because it's
in the.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
You don't have to any it's something that comes in
a wrapper of its own. No, you don't have apples. Good.
Speaker 5 (23:35):
That's the only fruit I washed.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Do you remember what fruit you just bicked that ate, yes,
the other day out of the container and didn't even
wash it.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
And I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Murphy, Yeah, the nectarine.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
The nectarine. I bought a think a flat of nectarines
because this is one of my favorite fruits in the world.
And Murphy just ate started eating it straight from the box. Yeah,
And I was like, whoa of all people, mister safety,
and you didn't wash it.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I mean, honestly, I guess I didn't think about it.
You know, it's the fruit is already clean looking.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You know. Phoebe did the same thing yesterday. She was
at the house and You're like, ooh, can I have
that nectarine? It's the last one. I'm like, yes, you can't.
Her mouth and I'm like, whoa, you got to wash that?
You definitely should be washing grapes.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Here's what grapes you can taste the stuff that's on them.
If you don't rinse the grapes off. I mean, I
don't know what's still on them. But yes, you're supposed
to really wash I guess everything, because if they're traces
of dirt, pesticide or whatever, it's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Already be the you know downer here, but food borne illness.
Everybody thinks about meat and raw poultry and all that
kind of stuff, But guess what fruits and vegetables are
supposed to be washed like? And the easiest way is
like run like, run cold water over it, pat it down.
If you see dirt on it, wipe it off, like
you see dirt on mushrooms. Wipe it off because not
(24:57):
only dirt pesticides, but they're grown out out in the
open where a bird can land on it and all
kinds of and then in the packaging process and all
of that. I read about it just before bringing it
up with you. It's like anybody who eats fruit and vegetables,
which you're supposed to do, fantastic, you are supposed to
(25:17):
You gotta watch it.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Isn't it weird how the brain works though, because grapes
totally get that. I just didn't think about it for
the neckaren know.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
How you feeling today?
Speaker 1 (25:26):
A little woozy but otherwise good.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
What's the oldest expired item in a pantry you will
admit to having found and thrown away?
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I know that one.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
It wasn't our pantry, right.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
It wasn't ours. But go ahead, Sam, you're going to
thank God.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Well he went into his grandmother's and that's a whole
other level a grandmother's.
Speaker 5 (25:51):
Pantry with me. It's coke. It was cocoa. Okay, I
think you know the Hershey's cocoa ten. Yes, it's like
you buy that and it sits in the cat and
you'll have to buy one your whole life.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah, old was it?
Speaker 5 (26:02):
It was old? Years old?
Speaker 4 (26:03):
Okay, yeah, years that's a fair thing. I mean this,
I threw this away years ago and it was years old.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
There's a saying too, like if you buy one big
bottle of Worcester, and I'm saying that, that's how I
say it Worcester. Sure you don't have to buy another
one for years, although you should watch the expiration date.
Vasoline is the same, like buy a big thing of
it and you don't need it for a lifetime.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
I was thinking that of the cocoa, It's like, it's
just chocolate powder. How can it go bad? I threw
it away.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Well, the one that went bad at my grandmother's house
was horseeradish that had been in the fridge somehow, a
jar of it for eleven years past its expiration date.
Eleven years. Got to say, what color was it? It
was the same color it was before. It must have
been some good preservatives. Now now it didn't smell good
at all, but it looked the same.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Grandmothers or grandparents are the most likely likely culprit of that,
because not wanting to waste things that you've spent money on,
but also the passage of time. I have learned that
in our kitchen, Murphy, I feel like I bought something
last week and you'll be like, oh no, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Oh yeah, I had two of them that happened with
a sandwich this weekend.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
The mustard was inspired in the mayo was expired as like, man,
are you trying to kill me? Jody?
Speaker 4 (27:22):
We see though, what you're saying about grandparents. I think
it's because grandparents are it's non scientific, you.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Know, it's like, oh, it's fine, ain't gonna kill you.
Speaker 5 (27:30):
It's fine. I've been eating that for weeks, eating well.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I did some kitchen clean out, speaking of you know
yesterday and after the show podcast the stuff we couldn't
remember from a long weekend. I did a kitchen clean
out of some cabinets and things like that, and I
pantry clean out.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
And it feels so good to have when you finally
have that done.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
But I will say that I was proud to say
that I threw away something. And the oldest date I
could find was twenty nineteen. Oh, it was like nuts years,
not gonna kill Yeah, Sam, you did this beautiful after
the show podcast this week, we did me.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
But you let it about.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Dining alone, solo, dining table for one and how you
know we had talked about open table reported that people
booking reservations to dine alone.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
It's up thirty and forty percent. It's just as there's
not a stigma on it anymore.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
It's hard the first time you do it first couple
of times because you do feel like you're alone.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
I think it depends on the way that you were
sort of.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Raised as well, exactly. I was going to say, I mean,
if you were you know, if if you've always been
kind of independent or maybe an only child or something
like that, it's not You went from being in multiple
relationships a lot of them actually, to uh.
Speaker 5 (28:48):
Can I set up there, Jodie?
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Can I get some popcorn?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
But you know what I mean. You went from You
went from you know that that socialized.
Speaker 5 (28:55):
Always selling kids around, you know exactly.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
So that makes a difference when you're doing it. The
first time you're write it, it feels kind of funny.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Being able to enjoy time by yourself and doing things alone,
I think is a very big step in personal growth.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
I really do.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And I'm the dining alone thing. I can remember the
first time I was. I was traveling away from my
family and I was flying to see someone and I
was delayed, and I was a young woman, I was
early twenties, and I was alone in an airport and
I didn't feel right. And then I sat down and
I was having coffee and thought, oh, this is actually
kind of cool. Yeah, but it was a notable moment
(29:31):
in my life.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
It is different.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
So regarding dining alone, Tanya says this, I always enjoyed
my dining alone times, and I'd tell the server I
was going to camp, so please don't rush me, but
please keep my drink filled. And when I was done,
they'd be tipped really well. Always took a book with
me and I still do this at times, and that was.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
One of the I think one of the benefits of
eating alone is that you can eat at your own speed.
You know, it's just you can eat and actually enjoy
every bite and everything on your plate.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
If you're not comfortable doing it, it's something you should try.
And it doesn't mean that you have to be comfortable
doing it.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
You don't.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Trey says, I'm great eating by myself and I've been
doing it for many, many years. Kimberly, I hate going
out and eating alone. I'll just pick something up and
bring it home. I won't sit out by myself, Okay,
and that's not wrong either.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
No, it's a matter of personal comfort.
Speaker 4 (30:21):
If you want a baby, step into it. Go to
a fast food place. Oh yeah, go to McDonald's and
sit by yourself.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
Yes, keep it coming.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
We love hearing from you on Instagram, Facebook, and you
can email us anytime at Murphysamonjody dot com.
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