September 20, 2024 • 19 mins
You admit to the dumbest fights you've had as a couple.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Merphy, Sam and Jody After the Show
podcast where we just hang out a little bit longer.
And you can be a part of this by well
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
On Friday, we like to dig into you and your
emails and comments and everything that you send in and
questions and boy, did you are you really bringing it
with the dumb things that you fight about as a couple.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
And this is all.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Because, you know, Murphy and I we shared that we
had a recent you know, clash if you will, and
we had to work through it over the last several days.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It was a week ago today, Yes, it was.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Right about this time. Actually, I think, yeah, right. We
won't be recreating that anyway anyway.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And everyone was so surprised, Like, you guys fight, I
mean of horse, we do.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
We are married and we work together.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
The opportunity the likelihood of us crashing into each other
is even more so than most couples because we spend
so much time together at work at home.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I will say that Jodie's gotten a lot better about
it than we used to be. Okay, that's a joke.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Every Friday now.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I listed some of the dumb things we fight about.
I only listed three.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Number one I had forgotten about late.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Running late is an ongoing thing because I don't like
to run late. I can't stand it anyway, That's all
I will say. Well, the running late is the thing
that we clash.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
On, and I am a time optimist, so I have
a tendency to believe that more can be done in
a time period than can actually be done.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
You also have a T shirt that says I don't
feel tardy.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Right then, Well you gave me that one, Sam things.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
It's another T shirt for you that says probably late
for something.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Oh that's right, there's a theme here all these years.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I can accept that about you.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I do not expect perfection, obviously, but when it directly
and when it directly affects me, that's when.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
It is a part and you know where it comes from.
The other thing too, and I know or you don't
want me to get bogged down in this one. But uh,
it's you know, my mother always said you finish what
you start, and I think so I Therefore I have
trouble if I'm in a task, when I'm interrupted in
the middle of that task, that's that throws me off too, right,
you know that?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I mean, yes, I mean some tasks shouldn't be saved
for the morning we're leaving for a trip.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Thought's that's how these arguments get started.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
There will be things like that. You're married to the
same person for a long time, they're the same person,
so you know there's sometimes arguments or bumps are always
going to be there. Acknowledge it, talk about it, let
it air out a little bit, breed.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Through it, and bring it up again a week later.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
The other one that I listed that is a thrown
away sandwich.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Do you remember this one?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
No, I don't thing to fight about, which is why
I put it down on the list. These are dumb things.
Murphy threw away my sandwich one time, and it was
my lunch, and it was at work. And the most
of all the years working with you, I have never
ever known you to clean out the refrigerator at work.
(03:27):
But one day you got a wild hair and you
threw away a bunch of stuff in the refrigerator. Even
Sam barely ever cleaned it out. He just threw away
some three month old grapes of his that.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Was growing on.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Well, I mean to me, it usually starts with a
stench when the door.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Oh well, I got one in there right now.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Look well, okay, well let me get that out of there.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
This is one day. You just walked in here into
the studio. I just cleaned out the refrigerator, and I'm like, okay,
I threw away a bunch of stuff, and I'm like, wait,
I just had the best sandwich I've ever had half
of it the day before, and I had put the
other half in the refrigerator and I was looking forward
to having it for my lunch. And you threw my
(04:06):
sandwich away and I was so sad because it was
underneath a bunch of gross stuff and it was just
like gone forever.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Oh wait, did we fight about that?
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Well?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I was upset about it.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, I just don't remember arguing dumb.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
It's a dumb thing. That's why it's on the list.
And the other one was pulp fiction.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Do you remember that? Well, I remember that well. And
I was in the wrong on this one, Okay. I
was definitely there. Yeah, the movie Pulp Fiction because we
got into conversation Taylor and Phoebe, our oldest daughter and
youngest daughter. It might have been just with Taylor, our
oldest anyway, the conversation kind of came up with like, oh, yeah,
well we're talking about John Travolta, that's why. And I said, well, hey,
(04:43):
have a Pulp Fiction. That's a movie you should see.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Both.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Actually, you told Phoebe she should see it, Okay. She
was like fourteen years old.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Right, and you know, I mean, I'm like, I hadn't
seen Pulp Fiction in fifteen twenty years. I wasn't thinking
about it. I just remember it being a great movie
with some great lines, you know, a little bit of language.
But I didn't think it was a big deal. Jody
was really mad about.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That because they were planning to watch Pulp Fiction that
night and Phoebe was not allowed to even she you know,
she only.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Well, I forgot about a scene at the land at
the end of.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
The movie, at at the gun shop.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
At the pawn shop or whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, and I'm thinking, well, that's something that I had
trouble forgetting like I couldn't get that out of my brain.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
A fourteen year old certainly wouldn't be able.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I had to be heavy to say I'm sorry, Phoebe,
no you can't watch this.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
She's like the dad said.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I said, yeah, well I'm gonna let mom tell you
why you can't watch it.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
It was a dumb thing to fight about, but I
was mad, and.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
It's because I did. And you know how I am
with I forget things, and yes, I forgot that scene
for me. As time has gone on, the only real
things I remember from Pulp Fiction were the scene where,
you know, the adrenaline to the heart to you know,
get about up and going, the cheeseburger discussion, which everybody
under the royal cheese right exactly, you know, and then
the dance. And there are a lot of iconic moments
(06:09):
from that movie. I forgot about the ending being totally
inappropriate for anyone anyway.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
It's funny. It was kind of hard to remember the
dumb fights.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
It's not hard to remember the rough ones, but it's
it's hard to remember stupid stuff. But if you live
with someone for any length of time, you're going to
bump into each other over stupid things.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
So we asked you to share yours. Pam says, leaving stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Around after you finish with it and not putting things
back where you get them from.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
That's what they fight about. You feel in that? Oh yeah, yeah,
all people who live together have that.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
It always seems like in the couple there's always a
clean person and a not so clean person. It just
seems that way.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
I will tell you something or I don't know that
it's cleanliness. Sometimes it's forgetfulness or distraction, like a cabinet
door being open and that kind of stuff. You know,
I will tell you it's been.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Left on, shoes being left around the floor.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yes, I'm the one that does a lot of picking
up constantly at the house. And I just do because
when I walk through a room, I'm not just walking
from one room to the next. I'm looking at everything
and checking everything out and making I just can't help it.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That's just how I roll. But I will.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
I will admit that if it's my shoes laying there,
I know I put them there. I like knowing that
they're there. I'm going to get them. They're there because
I plan to go to the store again. Later, if
I see someone else's shoes just sitting in the middle
of the kitchen, it bothers me.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
So it's it.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But it could be for the same reason, you know. Yeah,
it could be for the same reason. Yeah, because I'll
do that every now and then too. It's like, Okay,
I know tomorrow morning, I'm gonna be going straight back out.
I want to leave my shoes right here. That kind
of stuff. But you know, generally, speaking between you and I,
that's not as much of it, not as big of
a deal. I used to be one of those who
is kind of oblivious to things on tables. Oh yes, uh,
you know, but not so much now. I think I'm
(07:54):
a lot better about that than they.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Used to be.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
When we were first married, I was like, are you
really leaving flashlights there?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
It's like, yeah, because you never know when you might
need a minute.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Now, okay, to go back to the sandwich that Murphy
threw away of yours. Haven't you been in one of
your cleaning tornadoes and thrown away important stuff?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Of course I think I threw away see Murphy. I
didn't fight about this though. There was no stupid argument.
It's just I felt horrible. I think I threw away
permission slips for the.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Girls for squel trips and stuff.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah, things that they needed.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, so certain seats that we were missing. I see somebody, remember, hey, Jody,
we got to notice from the irs. I don't see
it anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Susanne says, don't use the spoon that you start your
coffee with in the same dish that you get your
sugar out of.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Loading the dishwater correctly.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Ah. That's an interesting one though, because everybody does that differently.
Everybody sees it differently, so it's very difficult to because
I'm the same way too. There's certain things that go
on the bottom. There are certain things that go on
the top and that should never be violated, and.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
The way they go on the bottom is a certain way, right.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
But you know, but Jody is you know, I follow
Jody's rules on the dishwasher, and I followed Jody's rules
on the cabinets too. It's like, you know, a coffee
mug belongs in this cabinet over on the right side
of the sink, not over here on the left.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
That kind of thing, And that just takes time. You're
living with somebody, he's coming around.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Tracy says, not turning off a light. They stupid things
that they argue about. Terry says that I don't help
him with his phone. He's Samsung on iPhone. Denise says,
the dumbest thing, dumbest things we've fought about is which
way the toilet paper rolls should sit on hold or over?
Speaker 1 (09:39):
You know what? That's an interesting you're the same way? Well, yeah,
it's really you know so, And she says, did she
say how they she just said it over.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I mean they disagree, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
You know, I mean, I think everybody's going to have
a different opinion. But it's supposed to be over the top,
I think, not on the backside because the reason for that, honestly,
it's because the reason it's supposed to be over the
top is it's physics if it's on the bottom. And
so if it's on the backside and you pull it,
it runs the risk of completely unrolling and unraveling. It's
(10:13):
not going to dispense properly. And so that's the reason
it should go over and not under.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
And if you look, and if he remarries one day
after I'm gone, I hope he explains it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Well, so here's another way to actually show that that
it should be over and not on a lot of
time on I got a point to me now. But
you know, if you look in a lot of you know,
commercial establishments, in the restrooms where you see the uh,
there's like a little metal lid that hangs or in
(10:45):
hotel rooms. The reason it hangs on the front is
because it goes over the top and the bottom, so
that when you pull the perforation, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They're dealing with the perforation. That doesn't doesn't mean it's wrong.
If it's in your own home and you want it
to go under, it's your business.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Your preference is not what's wrong. But I think the
intention from a physics standpoint is the other way, so
that it doesn't completely understand.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
To deal with this at home.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Actually I have an observation, Well, I think there's three
three things to this. You have the over people and
you have the under people, and you know there's no
changing minds. But then you have the people who just
don't and they put it on the roll. And however
it goes on the roll, that time is how it is.
This time it might be over, next time it might
be under. I don't care. I don't have to think
about it because I'm only doing one thing with that
(11:27):
toilet paper. Yeah, and it doesn't matter how it gets
like it?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
So do you change it when it's uh, when it's
not the right way?
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh see, y so you do care. Obviously I do too,
because you know it's I mean, not a big deal,
but I mean to me, you know what, that's sort
of a courtesy thing.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Also, however, I don't have to change it much because
there is no one else in my house to say.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Every time you're changing into someone else's house, Sherry says,
they fight dumb fights over running the dishwasher before it's full.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Oh yeah, yeah, I understand that. Yeah, it's just little
that's running the washing machine for it's full.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Iris says, never tell a partner who is helping you
that it's not done like this.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Just thank you, my love.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Another word, if someone's helping you with something, try your
best not to say, well, this is not really the
right way. Just say thank you for helping me.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
That works for your kids, too, yes it does.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
You don't want to just slam them like that, no.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Because then they don't want to help you.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, nobody does in any conversation anything, nobody wants to
be you know talk, especially if you're in a you know,
a relationship, partnership, you're together. It's really about asking the
other person to do something, not telling them. Tell the
difference in the world another.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Little trick, and you've you've never done this, So I'm
just this is not you, Murphy. But I will say
know this, men of the world, don't ever say, well,
my mom did it this way. Woman, you are not
married to your mother you hopefully are or not, you know,
kind of expecting that from her. Wow, argue that will
(13:05):
be a problem because the woman that you were married
to or partnered up with or whatever is the woman
in your life now and so she does not need
to be reminded that this is how your.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Mother did it, especially in the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Oh, especially anywhere.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
But yeah, but you know the other But that does
remind me what you're talking about a common fight and
a lot of families or if the in laws don't
get along family, you know what I'm saying, that sort
of thing you cross those lines of their parents versus
your parents, and that sort of thing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
I almost put on our list of dumb things we
thought about my mom. But I don't find that to
be a dumb thing when we fight about it. I
don't find that to be light. It's been a long
time ago. Yeah, it has been along.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
I mean there have been disagreements on that, you know.
But she's your mom, not mine.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I'm kidding, she's your mother in law. Rebecca says. They
fight over stupid things. They fight over who left the
milk out? And I don't drink milk.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
Ah, that's great, okay, yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
And that cute. Oh my gosh, there's so much coming
in here?
Speaker 4 (14:05):
Or how about the one where you use something and
put it back in the fridge when it's got like
barely enough for anybody?
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Yeah, I feel like kids do that more.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
If an adult's doing that, something's going on, something's weird there,
or maybe they're not thinking.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Well.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Either that or there's just not enough room in the
cup to put that little bit in. What's happened to
me before? I would like to use the rest of it.
There's just not enough room for it, you know.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
Okay, that's when you turn the cart and up and
you drink it straight right.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Stephanie sent this love you too. Me and mine.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
We argue over mother in law, kids being late, where
to eat and money.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Money's a big one.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
That is a big one. But the where to eat
things always cracks me up a little bit because and
we've done this before too. Where it will be, you know,
and it could be either of us, So I'm not
just saying Jodie's the only one that does this will
be Okay, well I'm good. Where do you want to
go to Murphy? I don't know. I'm kind of thinking Mexican.
And then you know, I don't really want Mexican. Tonight
(15:05):
It's like, okay, well you asked me what I want.
You know, when when people when nobody can, it's kind of.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
Like, you don't I don't really care, is the answer
what you want? I don't really care? And then the
first thing you throw out is like, well not there.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Well you're correct number one. I never say no to Mexican.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Though, you're right, that's a poor example.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
I think that's anyone. Everyone's going to do that. You
have to be foret just thinking that's just right. Everyone
is going to do that, and that's not a real problem.
It's it's an aggravation, but it's not a problem.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
But you know, I'll tell you, this is one of
those that you know, the longer that you're in a relationship,
that's when I just don't let that one bother me anymore.
It's going to happen. I mean, at some point we've
got to make a decision, right But you know, it's
just like that's when I I don't let that one
get under my skin anymore.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
And what we said, I want to I want to
read two more of these, okay, but it's like what
we said earlier this week, I think in the in
and after the show podcast.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Sometimes it's about the baggage.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
And you've been with somebody for a long time, it's
not just it's the first time. It's not it's because
it's not the first time it's happening. It's not the
first time the refrigerator thing is happening, or the shoes
left out. It's like you feel like no, nothing is
ever changing. You have baggage and you're you know, you
get sort of fatigued with that. When you're together a
long time, you have a beautiful history hopefully, but you
(16:22):
also have baggage and.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You have to learn to, you know, let the baggage
go live through it like work, just work through it.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You know, as you get older, you understand that love
is not the Hollywood thing we are sold it is not.
It is a it's a life thing, and it's it's
as many downs as there are ups, as many downs
as ups. Sean says stupid things that they fight about driving, WHOA.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
We could do a whole podcast on that. I'm horrible.
I'm a horrible passenger.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
But I love to be the passenger because given the choice,
I would not like to drive. If someone else can
drive me, I love it.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Yeah, those are things that used to bother me. But
I understand Jody's just nervous. It's not about me. But
I used to really get frustrated with that. As long
as there's not like an open scream in the car
or something like that that scares me that I'm makes
me think that I'm missing something or I'm about to
hit someone, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
The eighteen wheelers sometimes when they seem to get so
close and I feel like, yeah, and today even.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Though they're not really getting close right well in the
that's just a kind I think that's a very common
passenger thing. If you're if you really prefer to be
in control, you know what I mean. Uh, you know, Sam,
one of your exes was kind of a wild driver.
I remember being in a passenger you know, with her,
and it was, you know, interesting. But but excuse me.
(17:44):
The thing is when Jody is behind the wheel and
in control, she's more aggressive than she thinks she is.
It's really funny because even the girls will you know,
will say that. But I think that's the case of anybody.
You're gonna be a little bit different behind the wheel
when you're in control.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
Versus in control. I'm a bad passenger to anybody. Thanks,
anybody drives. It's just like you're talking about five things
wrong with the way you're driving right now.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
That's true for you in every podcast. And finally, this
is cute. Carol said one of the dumbest things they
ever argued about plastic containers. It really wasn't about that, though,
and now we laugh about it like usually it's about something.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You know, it's probably the lids thing, you know what
I mean. You're never finding a match for a plastic containers,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Sometimes wepened, I don't know what she means. Sometimes it's
about something else. It manifests itself as a plastic container
or a coffee cup or a pair of shoes. Yeah,
but it's something else and it just manifests itself through that.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
You know, you're like you are you picking a fight?
Are you just about a Yeah? You can't have things
unresolved if you expect to move forward, I wan and
be happy to enjoy life. So keep it coming.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
We like the dumb things that you have thought about
because it's fun to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
It's like therapy.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
So can we resolve this toilet paper thing?
Speaker 3 (19:18):
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the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast.
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
On Friday, we like to dig into you and your
emails and comments and everything that you send in and
questions and boy, did you are you really bringing it
with the dumb things that you fight about as a couple.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
And this is all.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Because, you know, Murphy and I we shared that we
had a recent you know, clash if you will, and
we had to work through it over the last several days.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It was a week ago today, Yes, it was.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Right about this time. Actually, I think, yeah, right. We
won't be recreating that anyway anyway.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And everyone was so surprised, Like, you guys fight, I
mean of horse, we do.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
We are married and we work together.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
The opportunity the likelihood of us crashing into each other
is even more so than most couples because we spend
so much time together at work at home.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I will say that Jodie's gotten a lot better about
it than we used to be. Okay, that's a joke.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Every Friday now.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I listed some of the dumb things we fight about.
I only listed three.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Number one I had forgotten about late.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Running late is an ongoing thing because I don't like
to run late. I can't stand it anyway, That's all
I will say. Well, the running late is the thing
that we clash.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
On, and I am a time optimist, so I have
a tendency to believe that more can be done in
a time period than can actually be done.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
You also have a T shirt that says I don't
feel tardy.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Right then, Well you gave me that one, Sam things.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
It's another T shirt for you that says probably late
for something.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Oh that's right, there's a theme here all these years.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I can accept that about you.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I do not expect perfection, obviously, but when it directly
and when it directly affects me, that's when.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
It is a part and you know where it comes from.
The other thing too, and I know or you don't
want me to get bogged down in this one. But uh,
it's you know, my mother always said you finish what
you start, and I think so I Therefore I have
trouble if I'm in a task, when I'm interrupted in
the middle of that task, that's that throws me off too, right,
you know that?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I mean, yes, I mean some tasks shouldn't be saved
for the morning we're leaving for a trip.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Thought's that's how these arguments get started.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
There will be things like that. You're married to the
same person for a long time, they're the same person,
so you know there's sometimes arguments or bumps are always
going to be there. Acknowledge it, talk about it, let
it air out a little bit, breed.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Through it, and bring it up again a week later.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
The other one that I listed that is a thrown
away sandwich.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Do you remember this one?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
No, I don't thing to fight about, which is why
I put it down on the list. These are dumb things.
Murphy threw away my sandwich one time, and it was
my lunch, and it was at work. And the most
of all the years working with you, I have never
ever known you to clean out the refrigerator at work.
(03:27):
But one day you got a wild hair and you
threw away a bunch of stuff in the refrigerator. Even
Sam barely ever cleaned it out. He just threw away
some three month old grapes of his that.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Was growing on.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Well, I mean to me, it usually starts with a
stench when the door.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Oh well, I got one in there right now.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Look well, okay, well let me get that out of there.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
This is one day. You just walked in here into
the studio. I just cleaned out the refrigerator, and I'm like, okay,
I threw away a bunch of stuff, and I'm like, wait,
I just had the best sandwich I've ever had half
of it the day before, and I had put the
other half in the refrigerator and I was looking forward
to having it for my lunch. And you threw my
(04:06):
sandwich away and I was so sad because it was
underneath a bunch of gross stuff and it was just
like gone forever.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Oh wait, did we fight about that?
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Well?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I was upset about it.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, I just don't remember arguing dumb.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
It's a dumb thing. That's why it's on the list.
And the other one was pulp fiction.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Do you remember that? Well, I remember that well. And
I was in the wrong on this one, Okay. I
was definitely there. Yeah, the movie Pulp Fiction because we
got into conversation Taylor and Phoebe, our oldest daughter and
youngest daughter. It might have been just with Taylor, our
oldest anyway, the conversation kind of came up with like, oh, yeah,
well we're talking about John Travolta, that's why. And I said, well, hey,
(04:43):
have a Pulp Fiction. That's a movie you should see.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Both.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Actually, you told Phoebe she should see it, Okay. She
was like fourteen years old.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Right, and you know, I mean, I'm like, I hadn't
seen Pulp Fiction in fifteen twenty years. I wasn't thinking
about it. I just remember it being a great movie
with some great lines, you know, a little bit of language.
But I didn't think it was a big deal. Jody
was really mad about.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That because they were planning to watch Pulp Fiction that
night and Phoebe was not allowed to even she you know,
she only.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Well, I forgot about a scene at the land at
the end of.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
The movie, at at the gun shop.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
At the pawn shop or whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, and I'm thinking, well, that's something that I had
trouble forgetting like I couldn't get that out of my brain.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
A fourteen year old certainly wouldn't be able.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I had to be heavy to say I'm sorry, Phoebe,
no you can't watch this.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
She's like the dad said.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I said, yeah, well I'm gonna let mom tell you
why you can't watch it.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
It was a dumb thing to fight about, but I
was mad, and.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
It's because I did. And you know how I am
with I forget things, and yes, I forgot that scene
for me. As time has gone on, the only real
things I remember from Pulp Fiction were the scene where,
you know, the adrenaline to the heart to you know,
get about up and going, the cheeseburger discussion, which everybody
under the royal cheese right exactly, you know, and then
the dance. And there are a lot of iconic moments
(06:09):
from that movie. I forgot about the ending being totally
inappropriate for anyone anyway.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
It's funny. It was kind of hard to remember the
dumb fights.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
It's not hard to remember the rough ones, but it's
it's hard to remember stupid stuff. But if you live
with someone for any length of time, you're going to
bump into each other over stupid things.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
So we asked you to share yours. Pam says, leaving stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Around after you finish with it and not putting things
back where you get them from.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
That's what they fight about. You feel in that? Oh yeah, yeah,
all people who live together have that.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
It always seems like in the couple there's always a
clean person and a not so clean person. It just
seems that way.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
I will tell you something or I don't know that
it's cleanliness. Sometimes it's forgetfulness or distraction, like a cabinet
door being open and that kind of stuff. You know,
I will tell you it's been.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Left on, shoes being left around the floor.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yes, I'm the one that does a lot of picking
up constantly at the house. And I just do because
when I walk through a room, I'm not just walking
from one room to the next. I'm looking at everything
and checking everything out and making I just can't help it.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That's just how I roll. But I will.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
I will admit that if it's my shoes laying there,
I know I put them there. I like knowing that
they're there. I'm going to get them. They're there because
I plan to go to the store again. Later, if
I see someone else's shoes just sitting in the middle
of the kitchen, it bothers me.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
So it's it.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But it could be for the same reason, you know. Yeah,
it could be for the same reason. Yeah, because I'll
do that every now and then too. It's like, Okay,
I know tomorrow morning, I'm gonna be going straight back out.
I want to leave my shoes right here. That kind
of stuff. But you know, generally, speaking between you and I,
that's not as much of it, not as big of
a deal. I used to be one of those who
is kind of oblivious to things on tables. Oh yes, uh,
you know, but not so much now. I think I'm
(07:54):
a lot better about that than they.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Used to be.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
When we were first married, I was like, are you
really leaving flashlights there?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
It's like, yeah, because you never know when you might
need a minute.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Now, okay, to go back to the sandwich that Murphy
threw away of yours. Haven't you been in one of
your cleaning tornadoes and thrown away important stuff?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Of course I think I threw away see Murphy. I
didn't fight about this though. There was no stupid argument.
It's just I felt horrible. I think I threw away
permission slips for the.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Girls for squel trips and stuff.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah, things that they needed.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, so certain seats that we were missing. I see somebody, remember, hey, Jody,
we got to notice from the irs. I don't see
it anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Susanne says, don't use the spoon that you start your
coffee with in the same dish that you get your
sugar out of.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Loading the dishwater correctly.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Ah. That's an interesting one though, because everybody does that differently.
Everybody sees it differently, so it's very difficult to because
I'm the same way too. There's certain things that go
on the bottom. There are certain things that go on
the top and that should never be violated, and.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
The way they go on the bottom is a certain way, right.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
But you know, but Jody is you know, I follow
Jody's rules on the dishwasher, and I followed Jody's rules
on the cabinets too. It's like, you know, a coffee
mug belongs in this cabinet over on the right side
of the sink, not over here on the left.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
That kind of thing, And that just takes time. You're
living with somebody, he's coming around.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Tracy says, not turning off a light. They stupid things
that they argue about. Terry says that I don't help
him with his phone. He's Samsung on iPhone. Denise says,
the dumbest thing, dumbest things we've fought about is which
way the toilet paper rolls should sit on hold or over?
Speaker 1 (09:39):
You know what? That's an interesting you're the same way? Well, yeah,
it's really you know so, And she says, did she
say how they she just said it over.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I mean they disagree, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
You know, I mean, I think everybody's going to have
a different opinion. But it's supposed to be over the top,
I think, not on the backside because the reason for that, honestly,
it's because the reason it's supposed to be over the
top is it's physics if it's on the bottom. And
so if it's on the backside and you pull it,
it runs the risk of completely unrolling and unraveling. It's
(10:13):
not going to dispense properly. And so that's the reason
it should go over and not under.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
And if you look, and if he remarries one day
after I'm gone, I hope he explains it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Well, so here's another way to actually show that that
it should be over and not on a lot of
time on I got a point to me now. But
you know, if you look in a lot of you know,
commercial establishments, in the restrooms where you see the uh,
there's like a little metal lid that hangs or in
(10:45):
hotel rooms. The reason it hangs on the front is
because it goes over the top and the bottom, so
that when you pull the perforation, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They're dealing with the perforation. That doesn't doesn't mean it's wrong.
If it's in your own home and you want it
to go under, it's your business.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Your preference is not what's wrong. But I think the
intention from a physics standpoint is the other way, so
that it doesn't completely understand.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
To deal with this at home.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Actually I have an observation, Well, I think there's three
three things to this. You have the over people and
you have the under people, and you know there's no
changing minds. But then you have the people who just
don't and they put it on the roll. And however
it goes on the roll, that time is how it is.
This time it might be over, next time it might
be under. I don't care. I don't have to think
about it because I'm only doing one thing with that
(11:27):
toilet paper. Yeah, and it doesn't matter how it gets
like it?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
So do you change it when it's uh, when it's
not the right way?
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh see, y so you do care. Obviously I do too,
because you know it's I mean, not a big deal,
but I mean to me, you know what, that's sort
of a courtesy thing.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Also, however, I don't have to change it much because
there is no one else in my house to say.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Every time you're changing into someone else's house, Sherry says,
they fight dumb fights over running the dishwasher before it's full.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Oh yeah, yeah, I understand that. Yeah, it's just little
that's running the washing machine for it's full.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Iris says, never tell a partner who is helping you
that it's not done like this.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Just thank you, my love.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Another word, if someone's helping you with something, try your
best not to say, well, this is not really the
right way. Just say thank you for helping me.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
That works for your kids, too, yes it does.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
You don't want to just slam them like that, no.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Because then they don't want to help you.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, nobody does in any conversation anything, nobody wants to
be you know talk, especially if you're in a you know,
a relationship, partnership, you're together. It's really about asking the
other person to do something, not telling them. Tell the
difference in the world another.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Little trick, and you've you've never done this, So I'm
just this is not you, Murphy. But I will say
know this, men of the world, don't ever say, well,
my mom did it this way. Woman, you are not
married to your mother you hopefully are or not, you know,
kind of expecting that from her. Wow, argue that will
(13:05):
be a problem because the woman that you were married
to or partnered up with or whatever is the woman
in your life now and so she does not need
to be reminded that this is how your.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Mother did it, especially in the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Oh, especially anywhere.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
But yeah, but you know the other But that does
remind me what you're talking about a common fight and
a lot of families or if the in laws don't
get along family, you know what I'm saying, that sort
of thing you cross those lines of their parents versus
your parents, and that sort of thing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
I almost put on our list of dumb things we
thought about my mom. But I don't find that to
be a dumb thing when we fight about it. I
don't find that to be light. It's been a long
time ago. Yeah, it has been along.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
I mean there have been disagreements on that, you know.
But she's your mom, not mine.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I'm kidding, she's your mother in law. Rebecca says. They
fight over stupid things. They fight over who left the
milk out? And I don't drink milk.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
Ah, that's great, okay, yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
And that cute. Oh my gosh, there's so much coming
in here?
Speaker 4 (14:05):
Or how about the one where you use something and
put it back in the fridge when it's got like
barely enough for anybody?
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Yeah, I feel like kids do that more.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
If an adult's doing that, something's going on, something's weird there,
or maybe they're not thinking.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Well.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Either that or there's just not enough room in the
cup to put that little bit in. What's happened to
me before? I would like to use the rest of it.
There's just not enough room for it, you know.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
Okay, that's when you turn the cart and up and
you drink it straight right.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Stephanie sent this love you too. Me and mine.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
We argue over mother in law, kids being late, where
to eat and money.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Money's a big one.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
That is a big one. But the where to eat
things always cracks me up a little bit because and
we've done this before too. Where it will be, you know,
and it could be either of us, So I'm not
just saying Jodie's the only one that does this will
be Okay, well I'm good. Where do you want to
go to Murphy? I don't know. I'm kind of thinking Mexican.
And then you know, I don't really want Mexican. Tonight
(15:05):
It's like, okay, well you asked me what I want.
You know, when when people when nobody can, it's kind of.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
Like, you don't I don't really care, is the answer
what you want? I don't really care? And then the
first thing you throw out is like, well not there.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Well you're correct number one. I never say no to Mexican.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Though, you're right, that's a poor example.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
I think that's anyone. Everyone's going to do that. You
have to be foret just thinking that's just right. Everyone
is going to do that, and that's not a real problem.
It's it's an aggravation, but it's not a problem.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
But you know, I'll tell you, this is one of
those that you know, the longer that you're in a relationship,
that's when I just don't let that one bother me anymore.
It's going to happen. I mean, at some point we've
got to make a decision, right But you know, it's
just like that's when I I don't let that one
get under my skin anymore.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
And what we said, I want to I want to
read two more of these, okay, but it's like what
we said earlier this week, I think in the in
and after the show podcast.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Sometimes it's about the baggage.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
And you've been with somebody for a long time, it's
not just it's the first time. It's not it's because
it's not the first time it's happening. It's not the
first time the refrigerator thing is happening, or the shoes
left out. It's like you feel like no, nothing is
ever changing. You have baggage and you're you know, you
get sort of fatigued with that. When you're together a
long time, you have a beautiful history hopefully, but you
(16:22):
also have baggage and.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You have to learn to, you know, let the baggage
go live through it like work, just work through it.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You know, as you get older, you understand that love
is not the Hollywood thing we are sold it is not.
It is a it's a life thing, and it's it's
as many downs as there are ups, as many downs
as ups. Sean says stupid things that they fight about driving, WHOA.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
We could do a whole podcast on that. I'm horrible.
I'm a horrible passenger.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
But I love to be the passenger because given the choice,
I would not like to drive. If someone else can
drive me, I love it.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Yeah, those are things that used to bother me. But
I understand Jody's just nervous. It's not about me. But
I used to really get frustrated with that. As long
as there's not like an open scream in the car
or something like that that scares me that I'm makes
me think that I'm missing something or I'm about to
hit someone, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
The eighteen wheelers sometimes when they seem to get so
close and I feel like, yeah, and today even.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Though they're not really getting close right well in the
that's just a kind I think that's a very common
passenger thing. If you're if you really prefer to be
in control, you know what I mean. Uh, you know, Sam,
one of your exes was kind of a wild driver.
I remember being in a passenger you know, with her,
and it was, you know, interesting. But but excuse me.
(17:44):
The thing is when Jody is behind the wheel and
in control, she's more aggressive than she thinks she is.
It's really funny because even the girls will you know,
will say that. But I think that's the case of anybody.
You're gonna be a little bit different behind the wheel
when you're in control.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
Versus in control. I'm a bad passenger to anybody. Thanks,
anybody drives. It's just like you're talking about five things
wrong with the way you're driving right now.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
That's true for you in every podcast. And finally, this
is cute. Carol said one of the dumbest things they
ever argued about plastic containers. It really wasn't about that, though,
and now we laugh about it like usually it's about something.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You know, it's probably the lids thing, you know what
I mean. You're never finding a match for a plastic containers,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Sometimes wepened, I don't know what she means. Sometimes it's
about something else. It manifests itself as a plastic container
or a coffee cup or a pair of shoes. Yeah,
but it's something else and it just manifests itself through that.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
You know, you're like you are you picking a fight?
Are you just about a Yeah? You can't have things
unresolved if you expect to move forward, I wan and
be happy to enjoy life. So keep it coming.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
We like the dumb things that you have thought about
because it's fun to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
It's like therapy.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
So can we resolve this toilet paper thing?
Speaker 3 (19:18):
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