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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody after the show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Did the thing this weekend that all women need to
do as often as you possibly can. There's no way
you can do this every Saturday of your life when
you have a home and a family and a career
and all the things that we juggle. But with adult friendships,
you know you do need to spend time with your friends.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
It restores you.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
And I've always said women are my female friends are
my support system. You can be my best friend all
day and my partner in life. Yeah, I'm Murphy, but
my female friends believe me. I talk to them about things.
We touch on things that that you and I never could.
So I spent Saturday, most of Saturday with one of
(00:43):
my absolute best friends, Emily.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
You guys know her, our former producer Emily.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
She and I became really good friends after she no
longer worked for us. Truly, we have become really good
friends in the last five years or so. And by
the way we had that conversation, has been eight years
since she's worked with us. Eight Oh really, it's been
about eight years.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Wow, Okay, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I know, and so we I picked her up in
the Batmobile and we drove out of town and we
had and so I tell you these little stories just
to tell you if you haven't had a day with
a girlfriend, like I know, Producer Faith had her weekend
with one of her best friends.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
She had company this weekend, and so it's.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Something that you need to do, even if it can't
happen very often. I felt restored afterward. I just felt like, oh,
I needed to do that. It was not the normal routine.
And I hope she felt the same, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I think it was a huge difference. And I think
human nature, if you hang around the house, you're going
to do the things that you feel you should be
doing around the house, oh, versus actually just getting out
and doing something that is totally different. Just reset your mindset.
And really, you know, if you have a weekend, that's
probably one of the best things you can do, because
you really need that refreshing, that refreshing time before you
(01:59):
come to work on a Monday.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It made the whole weekend and I had a really
great weekend. We you and I went and got frozen
yogurt on Friday night and that was Saturday, I'm sorry. Sunday,
we had dinner with a couple friends and that and
our girls came along for that. So that a very
social weekend, which is fantastic for me.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Oh, can I go back real quick?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yes, Sam, what flavors of frozen yogurt? The frozen yogurt
that we had on Friday night? We both had the
plane but with fruit toppings because it was like something
that they offer special. So it's like the plane yogurt,
but grapes, strawberries, fresh bananas, granola, and honey drizzle. Very
good and you eat all that together. We went back
(02:40):
on Sunday afternoon, I had I had strawberry.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I had a cheesecake version. I got that one time.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
So yeah, But going back to my day with my
girlfriend day today with Emily, you know, if you haven't
done this in a while and you're planning it, Number one,
don't try not to set a time frame.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Not try not to.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I've only got two hours because that changes it. We
had the whole day that was my favorite thing, and
I picked her up. I'm like, do you have any timeframe?
She's like, I blocked the whole day out, and I
didn't know if I was going to be home at
midnight Murphy or when. Now I think I got home
at like nine pm, right something like that.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Yeah, it was a full day.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
It was a full day, but I didn't we didn't
make a night of it too. We did this whole day.
We drove out of town.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
We went to this place to eat that I have
experienced before, but I wanted her to experience. So that's
one thing. Make sure you block out enough time that
you can be spontaneous too, plan something like an adventure together,
something you've never done together. Do that, but also leave
enough time that if you decide you, oh, look at that,
(03:44):
Look there's a huge sale at this place, or this
said there's a farmer's market here, let's go here, And
that's exactly what we did.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Well, that takes the pressure off too, you know what
I'm saying, If you really are going to if you
time constrict yourself too much, that's not really relaxing.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
In fact, my life is time constricted, and so is hers.
You know, she has those two boys, she has a
busy work schedule. Everything is down to the wire. I've
got to leave it for to be somewhere at four
twenty and da da da da. We had none of that,
and it was fantastic. The spontaneous sort of thing that
we decided. On the way, we had like a three
(04:21):
fifteen reservation, like a late lunch.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
We did a late lunch. We had a reservation for
the place we were eating.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But on the way I knew that there was a
consignment furniture, a designer consignment furniture and whatever shop, and
we went in. I didn't buy a thing there, but
it was just really I'm sorry, I bought a tumbler.
I bought this tumbler. Oh anyway, I drank tumbler on
the way out. But they had a section it's retail,
(04:48):
and that's where I got the tumbler. But then we
got to walk around and look at furniture and you know,
light fixtures and art.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
You know, they have vinyl there too.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I know I didn't look at the vinyl.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
That's where.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
There was a piece of art there that I sent you.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's yeah, I sent it to you to see if
you thought that was a thought reminded me of you, Sam.
But anyway, so we did that. That was nice and
she was down for that. She's like, I've never seen
anything like this, and.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
She's a good thing.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
We're in the batmobile. What if I want to buy
a chair, like I can load it in the back
of the suv. But we just we sat down. Once
we got to the place to eat. We had a
charcuterie Board's delicious, We had tea, We talked, and I realized, oh,
the other favorite thing.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
You gotta do this if you can.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
On the way home, we realized I realized that there's
a TJ Max right off the interstate that I've never hit.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
And I said, do you ever go to TJ Max?
Speaker 2 (05:46):
And she goes, I haven't been to TJ Max in forever.
And I'm like, do you have a problem going She's like, no,
let's do it. And we had a blast in there. Yeah.
You know, it's just some TJ Max's are over out
it and things are crazy for me.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Don't they all have the clearances though, where everything's just
like crammed.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Yeah, yeah, is ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yes, But anyway, we went to TJ Max and that
was something unexpected.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
We didn't plan to do that. And it was lovely anything.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I did all.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Kinds of things, little things, trinkety things, and I got
sparky and new dog bed and I got some soaps
that I wanted and things like that, but it was
just fantastic just to so get it on the calendar.
But this, this is what happened once I left her house.
As I went in afterwards and we visited a little
bit more in her house. When I'm leaving to come
(06:38):
home and I called you, Murphy, That's when it hit me.
I'm like, I have been in conversation for hours, and
I was like, you started.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
To ask me, well, how did it go?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
And I'm like, I got nothing left, Like I'll tell
you about it when I get home. I got nothing
left because I left it all in the field with her.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
And I'm sure or she felt the same, Yeah, like
worn out because we're catching up. We almost never see
one another, but it's the kind of friendship that, you know,
anything goes. We talk about anything and everything. We talked
about our health, we talked about the kids, we talked
about work.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You know, just like you pick up from where you
left off it every time.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, kind of schedule might maybe in April.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
It's not really all on the schedule because those schedules
for working women have to be fluid. But you know, tentatively,
we really want to and just so you know. By
the at the end of it, they she did ask
me how you guys were doing.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Not sit around talking about you guys. I'm sorry, but
we do not.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
We talk about our lives and ourselves and our health
and exercise and all the things that interest us.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
But she did ask how everybody was doing.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm glad that you set aside that time for yourself.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
And that time is you know, it's just women.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You need to do it, you know, just set the
time aside, experience something new together, but be fluid and
be open to change course and hopefully give yourself a
don't just do a couple of hours, because it'll never
be enough. If we had been having to watch the clock,
I would not have been as enjoyable.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And then becomes a timing or even luck thing because
setting aside that much time for two people living their
own lives to try, that's tough to coordinate too. Sometimes
all you're lucky enough to get is the hour one.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Percent that's adult friendships? Are you struggle that way?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
You don't realize that when you're a young person and
you have all day with your friends in the afternoons
or you know, you see them every day at school.
That's one reason adult friendships are priceless. But they're harder
to you know, coordinate water. They're harder to you know,
feed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
If you can't coordinate, you still try to get away
yourself just for a little Uh Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I would charging and reduction one hundred and ten percent
if I had my heart set on that day. So
if she had had to cancel, let's just say one
of her kids had gotten sick or needed her or
something like that, because the kids were with their dad,
so she had the whole day if something. If she
had had to have canceled, I probably would have just
done something similar.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I mean, this isn't to be funny, but you wouldn't
have asked Murphy to go with you.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I don't know. It depends if he was wide open,
and I probably would have invited you.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
I don't know that he was wanting to.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Yeah, I mean, we've got the things that we have
done in recent weeks, months or whatever is We'll pick
a Saturday and we literally try to make a Saturday
just not schedule, and we just go somewhere and do
something that's not you know, not work related, not the
stuff around the house. Still no schedule. What's that? Still
no schedule or time? Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes it's literally just
(09:47):
where that, wherever the car takes us. Which that's kind
of fun, you know, and it's very nice. But the
but you know the I think we also are pretty
coordinated on the when Jody wants to go shopping or
just get away for a day, it works well because
we both get the chance to recharge and then you
know what, then we actually have something to catch up
on and we're both back together again.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Yeah, except that I was worn out of talk.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh yeah, well yeah, and I knew that missed any
part of the show.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Get it All on the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast.
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody after the show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Did the thing this weekend that all women need to
do as often as you possibly can. There's no way
you can do this every Saturday of your life when
you have a home and a family and a career
and all the things that we juggle. But with adult friendships,
you know you do need to spend time with your friends.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
It restores you.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
And I've always said women are my female friends are
my support system. You can be my best friend all
day and my partner in life. Yeah, I'm Murphy, but
my female friends believe me. I talk to them about things.
We touch on things that that you and I never could.
So I spent Saturday, most of Saturday with one of
(00:43):
my absolute best friends, Emily.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
You guys know her, our former producer Emily.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
She and I became really good friends after she no
longer worked for us. Truly, we have become really good
friends in the last five years or so. And by
the way we had that conversation, has been eight years
since she's worked with us. Eight Oh really, it's been
about eight years.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Wow, Okay, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I know, and so we I picked her up in
the Batmobile and we drove out of town and we
had and so I tell you these little stories just
to tell you if you haven't had a day with
a girlfriend, like I know, Producer Faith had her weekend
with one of her best friends.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
She had company this weekend, and so it's.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Something that you need to do, even if it can't
happen very often. I felt restored afterward. I just felt like, oh,
I needed to do that. It was not the normal routine.
And I hope she felt the same, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I think it was a huge difference. And I think
human nature, if you hang around the house, you're going
to do the things that you feel you should be
doing around the house, oh, versus actually just getting out
and doing something that is totally different. Just reset your mindset.
And really, you know, if you have a weekend, that's
probably one of the best things you can do, because
you really need that refreshing, that refreshing time before you
(01:59):
come to work on a Monday.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It made the whole weekend and I had a really
great weekend. We you and I went and got frozen
yogurt on Friday night and that was Saturday, I'm sorry. Sunday,
we had dinner with a couple friends and that and
our girls came along for that. So that a very
social weekend, which is fantastic for me.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Oh, can I go back real quick?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yes, Sam, what flavors of frozen yogurt? The frozen yogurt
that we had on Friday night? We both had the
plane but with fruit toppings because it was like something
that they offer special. So it's like the plane yogurt,
but grapes, strawberries, fresh bananas, granola, and honey drizzle. Very
good and you eat all that together. We went back
(02:40):
on Sunday afternoon, I had I had strawberry.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I had a cheesecake version. I got that one time.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
So yeah, But going back to my day with my
girlfriend day today with Emily, you know, if you haven't
done this in a while and you're planning it, Number one,
don't try not to set a time frame.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Not try not to.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I've only got two hours because that changes it. We
had the whole day that was my favorite thing, and
I picked her up. I'm like, do you have any timeframe?
She's like, I blocked the whole day out, and I
didn't know if I was going to be home at
midnight Murphy or when. Now I think I got home
at like nine pm, right something like that.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Yeah, it was a full day.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
It was a full day, but I didn't we didn't
make a night of it too. We did this whole day.
We drove out of town.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
We went to this place to eat that I have
experienced before, but I wanted her to experience. So that's
one thing. Make sure you block out enough time that
you can be spontaneous too, plan something like an adventure together,
something you've never done together. Do that, but also leave
enough time that if you decide you, oh, look at that,
(03:44):
Look there's a huge sale at this place, or this
said there's a farmer's market here, let's go here, And
that's exactly what we did.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Well, that takes the pressure off too, you know what
I'm saying, If you really are going to if you
time constrict yourself too much, that's not really relaxing.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
In fact, my life is time constricted, and so is hers.
You know, she has those two boys, she has a
busy work schedule. Everything is down to the wire. I've
got to leave it for to be somewhere at four
twenty and da da da da. We had none of that,
and it was fantastic. The spontaneous sort of thing that
we decided. On the way, we had like a three
(04:21):
fifteen reservation, like a late lunch.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
We did a late lunch. We had a reservation for
the place we were eating.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But on the way I knew that there was a
consignment furniture, a designer consignment furniture and whatever shop, and
we went in. I didn't buy a thing there, but
it was just really I'm sorry, I bought a tumbler.
I bought this tumbler. Oh anyway, I drank tumbler on
the way out. But they had a section it's retail,
(04:48):
and that's where I got the tumbler. But then we
got to walk around and look at furniture and you know,
light fixtures and art.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
You know, they have vinyl there too.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I know I didn't look at the vinyl.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
That's where.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
There was a piece of art there that I sent you.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's yeah, I sent it to you to see if
you thought that was a thought reminded me of you, Sam.
But anyway, so we did that. That was nice and
she was down for that. She's like, I've never seen
anything like this, and.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
She's a good thing.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
We're in the batmobile. What if I want to buy
a chair, like I can load it in the back
of the suv. But we just we sat down. Once
we got to the place to eat. We had a
charcuterie Board's delicious, We had tea, We talked, and I realized, oh,
the other favorite thing.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
You gotta do this if you can.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
On the way home, we realized I realized that there's
a TJ Max right off the interstate that I've never hit.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
And I said, do you ever go to TJ Max?
Speaker 2 (05:46):
And she goes, I haven't been to TJ Max in forever.
And I'm like, do you have a problem going She's like, no,
let's do it. And we had a blast in there. Yeah.
You know, it's just some TJ Max's are over out
it and things are crazy for me.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Don't they all have the clearances though, where everything's just
like crammed.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Yeah, yeah, is ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yes, But anyway, we went to TJ Max and that
was something unexpected.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
We didn't plan to do that. And it was lovely anything.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I did all.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Kinds of things, little things, trinkety things, and I got
sparky and new dog bed and I got some soaps
that I wanted and things like that, but it was
just fantastic just to so get it on the calendar.
But this, this is what happened once I left her house.
As I went in afterwards and we visited a little
bit more in her house. When I'm leaving to come
(06:38):
home and I called you, Murphy, That's when it hit me.
I'm like, I have been in conversation for hours, and
I was like, you started.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
To ask me, well, how did it go?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
And I'm like, I got nothing left, Like I'll tell
you about it when I get home. I got nothing
left because I left it all in the field with her.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
And I'm sure or she felt the same, Yeah, like
worn out because we're catching up. We almost never see
one another, but it's the kind of friendship that, you know,
anything goes. We talk about anything and everything. We talked
about our health, we talked about the kids, we talked
about work.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You know, just like you pick up from where you
left off it every time.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, kind of schedule might maybe in April.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
It's not really all on the schedule because those schedules
for working women have to be fluid. But you know, tentatively,
we really want to and just so you know. By
the at the end of it, they she did ask
me how you guys were doing.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Not sit around talking about you guys. I'm sorry, but
we do not.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
We talk about our lives and ourselves and our health
and exercise and all the things that interest us.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
But she did ask how everybody was doing.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm glad that you set aside that time for yourself.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
And that time is you know, it's just women.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You need to do it, you know, just set the
time aside, experience something new together, but be fluid and
be open to change course and hopefully give yourself a
don't just do a couple of hours, because it'll never
be enough. If we had been having to watch the clock,
I would not have been as enjoyable.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And then becomes a timing or even luck thing because
setting aside that much time for two people living their
own lives to try, that's tough to coordinate too. Sometimes
all you're lucky enough to get is the hour one.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Percent that's adult friendships? Are you struggle that way?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
You don't realize that when you're a young person and
you have all day with your friends in the afternoons
or you know, you see them every day at school.
That's one reason adult friendships are priceless. But they're harder
to you know, coordinate water. They're harder to you know,
feed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
If you can't coordinate, you still try to get away
yourself just for a little Uh Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I would charging and reduction one hundred and ten percent
if I had my heart set on that day. So
if she had had to cancel, let's just say one
of her kids had gotten sick or needed her or
something like that, because the kids were with their dad,
so she had the whole day if something. If she
had had to have canceled, I probably would have just
done something similar.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I mean, this isn't to be funny, but you wouldn't
have asked Murphy to go with you.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I don't know. It depends if he was wide open,
and I probably would have invited you.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
I don't know that he was wanting to.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Yeah, I mean, we've got the things that we have
done in recent weeks, months or whatever is We'll pick
a Saturday and we literally try to make a Saturday
just not schedule, and we just go somewhere and do
something that's not you know, not work related, not the
stuff around the house. Still no schedule. What's that? Still
no schedule or time? Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes it's literally just
(09:47):
where that, wherever the car takes us. Which that's kind
of fun, you know, and it's very nice. But the
but you know the I think we also are pretty
coordinated on the when Jody wants to go shopping or
just get away for a day, it works well because
we both get the chance to recharge and then you
know what, then we actually have something to catch up
on and we're both back together again.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Yeah, except that I was worn out of talk.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh yeah, well yeah, and I knew that missed any
part of the show.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Get it All on the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast.
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