September 25, 2017 • 5 mins
Sam has a few concerns with his son playing football. Is it out of line, or just a normal part of parenting?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And here we go with another episode of the Murphy
Salmon Jody after the Show podcast, so thank you very
much for being a subscriber.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Earlier this morning, we were talking about my son Parker
and you know, playing him playing football on the junior
high team at the boarding school that he's going to.
And I just want to know if this is something
that you've had experienced as as a parent, Jody and Murphy,
it's that Parker. It really has surprised me learning number one,
(00:28):
that he's playing football, or that he's on the team,
and that he's actually playing the way he's playing.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You never pictured him as a football player.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Now, because Parker has always been and I don't mean
anything derogatory by it, but he's always been the runt
of the litter. He's always just been small, and so
it's like, you know, football, When he took up baseball,
it's like, yeah, okay, good, but football you just don't
think it. Sammy, you know, Sammy was always athletically inclined.
Didn't surprise me. Will sometimes he did it.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
But you're oldest two are really tall too. Wound up
more in the basketball arena than they wind up in football.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Right, But Parker and because it's like this week when
I this past week when I was talking to him
and like, Okay, it doesn't hurt when they jump on you.
It's football. You're gonna get tackled.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
And you're putting your thoughts in fear. Yeah, but well no,
you know you're completely human and normal with this. That's
for us. For me, I should say, Murphy, I can't
speak for you, but for me, that's been my favorite
part of parenting when they surprise me with something that
(01:33):
they are interested in or do or delve into. I
love that when they surprise me because I feel like
I learn you're not who I think you are. You
are who you are, You are yourself and you get
to decide who that is.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
And with Parker, it's like, okay, not only is it football,
but he's told me he wants to go out for
baseball and track in the spring. And it's like, Parker
was the last one I thought would be mister athletes.
That's good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
So you're just watching him becoming self. That's really to me.
The cool part of it is we assume when we
go into this thing as parents that were supposed to
develop everything in them, and it's really our only job
is to love them, protect them, and give them the ability,
give them the ability and opportunity to grow and become
who they're going to become. Yeah, and you know, I
mean I think it's tough for any because every parent
does that differently. But you know, because I know some
(02:22):
parents who have actually imposed their will on their kids,
having them do things that the kids clearly are not
interested in doing, and unfortunately they're not succeeding because it's
not really an extracurricular activity that they want to do this.
So it's good that you're just sitting here, I mean,
watching and letting him, you know, explore for himself and
not discouraging him from something that you were in.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
All those years with Sammy playing baseball, I got to
see that with like you said, there were parents that
you know, the kid doesn't want to be here. I
hate that, But Dad, it's like, you know, get out
there and.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You know what that's going to do. That's just going
to cause a major rift in their relationship because you
know what that kid thinks, I'm not who he wants
me to be. That's what that kid will grow up
feeling and believing. Look, it's so it's the hardest job
you ever have, and you don't even know what it
really is until you're in it. Being a parent, well, and.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
There's no perfect way. We just do the best we
can do right exactly. So nobody should shoot to be
a perfection just or even beat themselves up, you know,
thinking that they're not a good parent for whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
It's something I read and it's one of these statements
that it's thought provoking, and it's Enjoy the child you have,
not the child that you thought you were supposed to
have or the person that you thought think they're supposed
to be. Enjoy the child that you have, whoever that is.
And you don't get to say, they get the say.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Isn't that The beautiful thing though? Is watching them becoming
their own individuals. That's where we are to me in
the cycle with our daughters now being sixteen and twelve,
because they've become their own people, you know what I mean.
The personalities we see now are their personalities.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
I do still see those babies sometimes think we always.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Will, and you know what I mean. Look, even obviously
and when I was in high school, I didn't know
what I wanted to ultimately do for a living or
any of those things. I'm not really talking about career paths,
but I'm just saying who they are fundamentally as people
right now. You're really seeing that part of it, and
it's cool to me. I don't know, I mean, I
love being able to relate to them in conversations as
person to person now and not just daddy to daughter.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
And for me with Parker, it makes me even more
happy that he's away at a boarding school, because you know,
when he was at home, it's just he did. I
don't think he opened up like this, I mean there,
I don't know if it's because no one's around, or
he can do what he wants to do. He's becoming
his own person grade wise, personality wise, and in the
(04:42):
sports thing. It's just like, well, that's.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
A relief since I know you guys, you and his mom,
it was hard to make the decision to do that rightly.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
So so I'm gonna ride his back to the NFL.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Okay, missed any part of the show. Get it All
at Murphy samon Jodie dot com.
And here we go with another episode of the Murphy
Salmon Jody after the Show podcast, so thank you very
much for being a subscriber.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Earlier this morning, we were talking about my son Parker
and you know, playing him playing football on the junior
high team at the boarding school that he's going to.
And I just want to know if this is something
that you've had experienced as as a parent, Jody and Murphy,
it's that Parker. It really has surprised me learning number one,
(00:28):
that he's playing football, or that he's on the team,
and that he's actually playing the way he's playing.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You never pictured him as a football player.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Now, because Parker has always been and I don't mean
anything derogatory by it, but he's always been the runt
of the litter. He's always just been small, and so
it's like, you know, football, When he took up baseball,
it's like, yeah, okay, good, but football you just don't
think it. Sammy, you know, Sammy was always athletically inclined.
Didn't surprise me. Will sometimes he did it.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
But you're oldest two are really tall too. Wound up
more in the basketball arena than they wind up in football.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Right, But Parker and because it's like this week when
I this past week when I was talking to him
and like, Okay, it doesn't hurt when they jump on you.
It's football. You're gonna get tackled.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
And you're putting your thoughts in fear. Yeah, but well no,
you know you're completely human and normal with this. That's
for us. For me, I should say, Murphy, I can't
speak for you, but for me, that's been my favorite
part of parenting when they surprise me with something that
(01:33):
they are interested in or do or delve into. I
love that when they surprise me because I feel like
I learn you're not who I think you are. You
are who you are, You are yourself and you get
to decide who that is.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
And with Parker, it's like, okay, not only is it football,
but he's told me he wants to go out for
baseball and track in the spring. And it's like, Parker
was the last one I thought would be mister athletes.
That's good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
So you're just watching him becoming self. That's really to me.
The cool part of it is we assume when we
go into this thing as parents that were supposed to
develop everything in them, and it's really our only job
is to love them, protect them, and give them the ability,
give them the ability and opportunity to grow and become
who they're going to become. Yeah, and you know, I
mean I think it's tough for any because every parent
does that differently. But you know, because I know some
(02:22):
parents who have actually imposed their will on their kids,
having them do things that the kids clearly are not
interested in doing, and unfortunately they're not succeeding because it's
not really an extracurricular activity that they want to do this.
So it's good that you're just sitting here, I mean,
watching and letting him, you know, explore for himself and
not discouraging him from something that you were in.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
All those years with Sammy playing baseball, I got to
see that with like you said, there were parents that
you know, the kid doesn't want to be here. I
hate that, But Dad, it's like, you know, get out
there and.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You know what that's going to do. That's just going
to cause a major rift in their relationship because you
know what that kid thinks, I'm not who he wants
me to be. That's what that kid will grow up
feeling and believing. Look, it's so it's the hardest job
you ever have, and you don't even know what it
really is until you're in it. Being a parent, well, and.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
There's no perfect way. We just do the best we
can do right exactly. So nobody should shoot to be
a perfection just or even beat themselves up, you know,
thinking that they're not a good parent for whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
It's something I read and it's one of these statements
that it's thought provoking, and it's Enjoy the child you have,
not the child that you thought you were supposed to
have or the person that you thought think they're supposed
to be. Enjoy the child that you have, whoever that is.
And you don't get to say, they get the say.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Isn't that The beautiful thing though? Is watching them becoming
their own individuals. That's where we are to me in
the cycle with our daughters now being sixteen and twelve,
because they've become their own people, you know what I mean.
The personalities we see now are their personalities.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
I do still see those babies sometimes think we always.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Will, and you know what I mean. Look, even obviously
and when I was in high school, I didn't know
what I wanted to ultimately do for a living or
any of those things. I'm not really talking about career paths,
but I'm just saying who they are fundamentally as people
right now. You're really seeing that part of it, and
it's cool to me. I don't know, I mean, I
love being able to relate to them in conversations as
person to person now and not just daddy to daughter.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
And for me with Parker, it makes me even more
happy that he's away at a boarding school, because you know,
when he was at home, it's just he did. I
don't think he opened up like this, I mean there,
I don't know if it's because no one's around, or
he can do what he wants to do. He's becoming
his own person grade wise, personality wise, and in the
(04:42):
sports thing. It's just like, well, that's.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
A relief since I know you guys, you and his mom,
it was hard to make the decision to do that rightly.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
So so I'm gonna ride his back to the NFL.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Okay, missed any part of the show. Get it All
at Murphy samon Jodie dot com.
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