July 10, 2025 • 20 mins
Ideas for dating on a budget.
Sam's Walmart complaint.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Happy summer, and thank you for subscribing to the Murphy,
Sam and Jody Podcast. Here are some of our favorite
moments from the year so far, and we'll be back
with new shows Monday, July fourteenth.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to the Murphy, Salm and Jody Daily Show Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
This new study in dating is good news if you're
living on a budget anyway, that dating on a budget
budget is not a bad thing. In fact, the person
you're dating, maybe even if it's a first date, they
don't mind if you rock it a little frugal.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
They shouldn't mind.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Right, hopefully they don't mind. Maybe it's something you could
connect on.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
You know, well, yeah, you never really know, because it
also could put an unintended pressure on that person. You
know what I'm saying. If it is, oh, something that's
more expensive and you want to Dutch on the first
date instead of treat or right, right.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
You should talk about that though ahead of time, you
just float that idea before at the end when the
check comes, is not when you ask. I think that
you should want to get the first one. I think
you should just mention it casually, you know, be able
to talk about any of it. But I love that
idea because to me, it fosters a better first date
atmosphere if it's more casual anyway, the old fancy, fancy
(01:09):
place where you're dressed up and you know, all that,
the white tablecloth. You know, maybe it's right for some people,
but if you're trying to really just get to know somebody,
I feel like strip away that kind of stuff and
go have coffee or go.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
On to be an environment where you're going to naturally
be a little more relaxed, a little more casual.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
So the word is singles love it if if they're
being frugal in their lives because of budgets and you
are too, bring that into it and do stuff that's
you know, what you can afford. Look for free stuff
to do, go on a walk together, do happy hour
appetizers instead of the whole meal or whatever. Yeah, that
also makes it quicker in case you need it out
(01:49):
A good point.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I'm thinking back to our you know, first because our
first date wasn't really a date Jody eating together. I
don't remember if it was like a number one with
no onions that I had or you know, that's not.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
What we did.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But sophisticated.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Climbed down we would go on lunches where you would
bring me to lunch and you said we were going
to talk about work stuff and we never did.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, but we're just like sandwiches and things like.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
It was the lunch menu barrel very affordable. The other
part of this, though, the flip side, is this, no
one wants a cheap date. There's a difference between being
frugal and being cheap. So where you don't want to
be frugal is tip your date is paying attention to.
Do you tip? How well do you tip? Are you
(02:40):
looking for a good experience?
Speaker 3 (02:41):
So like if you go to a movie, don't sneak
food in yea on.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
The date and if you're leaving the restaurant and don't
take all the sugar packets.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Just like your first date.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
If you've ever written a complaint letter to customer service,
have you ever gotten a reply?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I've never sent a complaint letter to any customer service ever.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah. I don't know that I have either.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Okay, Sam, do tell Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I'm assuming it means you have.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I did.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
In fact, it was over the holiday weekend. I okay,
let me just put this out there. I'm a Walmart
Plus member because I like the scan and go feature
where you can walk through the store, you scan as
your shop, and when you leave, you just scan a
QR code and go. You're not sitting there a scan
and everything at the register nice and I self checkout,
which is where you use it.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You don't self check out though at all. You don't
check out, you check.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I use the self checkouts to do the.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Quick scan and leave, okay, afeel you.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I don't walk up.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
To somebody who's cash hearing and say can you scan
these for me?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
And you you've reported this I think a couple of times.
And three things to know that Walmart's been cutting back
on the self scanners. Yes, And so I had this
situation over the weekend. I walk up to do my
self scan. They've got like twelve registers. Three are open,
and there's a line. And it's like me, I'm paying
for a feature that gets me in and out of
(04:02):
the store and I have to wait in line. I
even went up and talked to the dude. I was like,
do y'all have a self a scan and go specific
register for people like me who have paid money for this?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
YadA YadA, YadA YadA. Uh No, we don't.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
So I waited in line, and then when I left,
it's like it pops up on my phone. Hey, you
got any comments? You know, Murphy, You'll be happy to
know that I do this in a professional manner.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I do.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I don't go off on people.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
This is ridiculous.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Yes, I did make clear that there were enough registers.
I'm paying for this service. If this is going to continue,
I'm not going to keep paying.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
For this service. That's correct in a nice fashion.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Sure enough, I got a reply back, not a corporate
you know reply, but from the manager of that store.
Oh really, yeah, she replied, And you know, thanks for
your feedback. I am, I'm at the Walmart you visited.
We appreciate you taking time to share your experience with us. YadA, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Now there was no resolution. It's just like, hey, thanks,
let us know. But I got a reply. So you
(05:03):
got a bot response.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Oh you think it was a bot? If he think
it was real, I.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Mean I don't know, it could have been real. You know,
me and Ais always questioning things.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Look, you they're testing new systems. You have to be,
you know, the one to sort of critique it. So
that they can change their systems based on customer experience.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Construction construction constructive feedback is a good thing.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah for the bots.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Depending on the cruise ship that you're on, there are
certain items you can't bring on cruise ships anymore. Certain
items are banned on cruises, and we're going to go
over it with you.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Are these surprising items are the no dah both?
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Okay, So you're not supposed to bring alcohol on a
cruise ship, correct, even though you can disguise it in
the twelve pack and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Why would you do that? Why would you? That's what
I've read, And why would you bring your own alcohol
on a cruise ship? Anyway?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
That's right, Well you could answer that question.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Actually, I know, I know that it's expensive, but it's
like you're going on a cruise, where are you gonna
are you gonna fit that?
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I'm sure people have tried to try to sneak booze
in everywhere.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Yeah, I mean there are people that because it's expensive,
old tampoo bottles that have been cleaned out, fill it
with alcohol and it's like, oh my shampoo.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You might have a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Yeah, the problem is not what to bring, but what's
wrong with what's wrong with that? You brought it that
you went to that link? Yeah, okay, yeah, it depends
on what the rule of thumb is. Contact the cruise
line and ask them if you're if you really want
to bring your drone. Some cruises are saying no more drones.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Yeah, well most of that's online, by the way too.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I don't mean call can is this carnival?
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Can I bring my drone?
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Door decorations? Oh? I thought those were okay, Oh, I'm
sorry that's upsetting you, Sam. No, just some cruise lines
are saying they're banning this stuff laws in certain countries
where you're gonna port or whatever, but also safety whatever
if they have some bumpy water and everybody get door
decorations that go sliding down the hall, not good, okay.
(07:09):
Bluetooth speakers some cruise ships are banning that you bring
in all. I know, if you would have a problem
with that, we'd be rebooking.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Well, it's probably because you have some people that are,
you know, playing them too loud and it's out on
the lido deck and there's already music playing overhead.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And the little beach thing. Yea, you know, they can
they reserve the right. The cruise line reserves the right.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Can you understand that.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Ham radios, transmitting devices, walkie talkies, baby monitors, and even
starlink devices. Some cruise ships are banning those.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I just know that.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Well, they probably don't want you to bring in starlink
because they want you to pay for the onboard.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Correct, they reserve their right search protected power strips. They
don't want you to plugging those in and in your
cabins and things like that.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I mean that could be an electrical hazard, if you know,
I can, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Yeah, absolutely, Candles, firehousards. I think that's a daw lysol.
I don't know, maybe it's the it's the aerosol can.
That's a problem. But a lot of people want to
bring lifestyle because cabins with family, you just.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Have to live with the stink.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Martial arts and self defense items and tools also being
banned many by many crews operators. I know you two
have known each other a very long time. Sam, you've
been You've known Murphy since before I did.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Yeah, that's right. How does that make you feel? Jody?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Fine? Whatever?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Second place?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I could tell you're a second place or I'm second place.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I think it's only by like, uh, four years.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Oh really, I came into your life. You don't only
known Sam four years?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Oh wow, that's why you're so upset. Sam. I took
all of the attention away from you. Anyway, Murphy and
I are married. For anyone who doesn't know if you're
new to us. But I'm so glad that you Sam
finally got to experience I know you've known him a
long time, but you're not. You don't live with him.
You finally got to experience Murphy running into the gas
station just to go to the bathroom and gravel water.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
We were in the car the other day coming back
from the luncheon, just the three of us. I was
in the back seat. I didn't even go into the
gas station. You guys go into the gas station. I'm
going to get water. I'm going to go to the bathroom.
I'm like, okay, I'm sitting there minding my own. Sam
comes back first and gets in the passenger seat and
says he's looking at snacks. Yeah, have you ever met him?
(09:23):
He can. We had just left lunch too.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
The reason I said that is because right before that,
before we pulled in, he said, I'm thirsty I'm pulling
and get a drink.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Right. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
So it's like, you know, people say they're gonna get
a drink, they go in and they get a drink, right,
And then I come out of the bathroom and he's
standing in the snack aisle.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
It's like, that's not the drink aisle.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
But see, Murphy can't go into a gas station or
comedie store without getting a snack.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I'm telling I am a prime target for Endyle display
these all little bright, shiny objects. And then the other
thing too. You know, I'm not I'm blaming you, Sam,
but you know this food dude, You've all you always
talking about new snacks. I'm like, wait, do they have
the lemon flavored you know, chip or whatever? All that
kind of stuff. But as you know, there's always something
new out there.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Many stories are known for that.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
If there weren't so many choices now, I probably wouldn't
spend time going. I bet that ship would taste good.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, it's funny because I wondered for a second. I'm
just so used to it. I'm conditioned to being in
the passenger seat or the backseat in this case. You
run in Murphy for whatever, for some water or to
go to the bathroom, and I know you're going to
get in and go look what I got. Well, look
and this time it was pop corners. Is that what
she got?
Speaker 4 (10:29):
Yeah, it just surprised me to Jeddie because we had
just left the luncheon, I was full.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Well, I did more talking than eating. That was the problem.
I'm a little bit hungry.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
You know, you got to come on vacation with us sometimes,
so because when I go in, I usually come back
with candy for everything. Yeah, so now you would like that.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
It's a lot of fun and you've never experienced that,
so welcome to it. Sam.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Normally three things to note today would go right here,
but we're on vacation this week. Jody will return with
that when we get back.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
M It seems like a strange thing writing advice on
a napkin and handing it to a stranger on a flight,
but it happened recently. Did you see this beautiful story.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
That would almost be creepy, but I'm glad it's a good.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
No's a it's beautiful. This couple was on their on
the way to their own wedding Alaska Airlines and so
the flight attendants had everybody on the plane besides the
couple who were married already write down advice marriage advice
for them and give it to them at the end
of the flight.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Did the couple know they were doing that.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Not until they were handed all these napkins with all
this beautiful advice on it and not cool. They shared
it on social They shared it on TikTok, and it
went viral quickly, and so some of the advice they
got from strangers who had been married before. You want
some of it. Be nice. Communicate wants and needs. That's
simple and true. If your partner gives you a quick hug,
(11:55):
hold them longer. These small moments matter for intimacy.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
Always respond to your partner's bids for attention. Yeah, that's
lovely and nice. One of my favorites. Also, embrace everything
together in an ever changing world, you'll be each other's constant.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
WHOA, that's really insightful and very true.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Here's the other one. This is say we've been married.
It came we were high school sweethearts. This is the
longer note. Not two napkins, but a big napkin. We
were high school sweethearts. We've been married for more than
forty years. Our advice is never give up. Nothing is perfect,
don't sweat small stuff, never stop communicating, and never go
to bed mad. You know that's a hang up for you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
The last one is a difficult one for you, but
it is a good sound advice.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I'd like to be forced to talk about something if
I'm not ready.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So, Sam, any of these you think they would have
helped you in the past with some of the previous marriages.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Actually, oh really, which one? The last one, the long one,
A lot of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Really sweating the small stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Definitely the small stuff. Not going to bed angry. I
know it might be a hang up, but yeah, a.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Lot of people say it it's universal marriage advice.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Yeah, not that well for me, it would be not
going to bed or letting it linger for three or
four days without solving it outs.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
So what did the couple do with all the napkins?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
She toss them out. I'm joking. She plans. The bride
plans to display them all in some sort of frame
in their home forever.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
But good joke toting.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
It's turtle crossing season. Do you guys know what that is?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I didn't know there was a season for it either.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, according to wildlife and fisheries across the country, and
it happens every year that I see it, turtles crossing
the road. They get busy in the they get on
the move. Turtles get on the move late spring, early summer.
They're seeking mates and they're seeking nesting sites, and so
in the warmer weather moves.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Them around and they always happen to be on the
other side of the road.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Well, they're just Yeah, the roads are all over the place. Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
The roads theoretically are the things that got in the way. Yes,
the turtles were around long before the roads existed, exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Okay, remember that we've talked about this before at turtle
crossing season. What to do and what not to do.
If you see a turtle crossing the road, you guys,
remember and help it, move it if you must, to
save it from being run over, but only move it
a short distance and only move it in the direction
it was moving, because if you turn it all around, ah,
(14:30):
it gets messed up, and they can die, they can
get confused, You mess up.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Their whole.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Life if you move them around. That's why you're not
supposed to pick them up and make them your pet
and bring them home, which I used to do when
I was a little girl. I used to find a turtle,
go run into the house and get a box and
make a little habitat for it, and take it to
my friend's house, and all this nonsense. I had no idea.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
I wonder if it's just they move slow anyway?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Yes, they do, they think?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Do they perceived time slowly? Is you know what I'm saying.
If they moved that slowly and you change their direction,
their brain probably can't keep up with it.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I guess I don't know what's going on there, but
I know, because don't they They.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Live a long time. They don't move very fast. It
would make sense, I tell you. They everything else that
they do is slow.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
They don't move very fast on land. But there are
some turtles in the creek near our house that may
see me pop my head over the LEDs. They through
the water, they're really they are really fast in the water.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
The one's in my pond. When they see you, they're
really nobody ten up on the side of the Yeah, yeah,
if they see you.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
They disappeared in the If you move them in a
different direction in which they were headed, you mess up
you mess them up and they can lose their whole
purpose and they can buy so if you do have
to move them shortest amount of distance and in the
same direction.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
I don't know if you know anybody that has a
skill or a talent that they usually don't share with
everybody else, because everyone does. Murphy has such a talent.
And the reason that I'm going to see if Murphy
will share his talent with you, and.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
You know I have one, Well you'll see, you'll see.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
I was talking to my mom, Miss Judy yesterday, Hi, Judy,
And I know she's left a few comments for you, Jody,
about your daughter Phoebe's singing and guitar playing at local restaurants.
She told me, and she said this a couple of
times in our conversation. Yeah, that girl can sing.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Oh, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
And then following that, she goes, can Murphy or Jody sing?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Do they have that talent? Is that where she got
it from?
Speaker 4 (16:42):
And I said, I don't think, I mean heard Jody sing,
but it's just like you sing along to the radio
on a happy day.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
And I said, but I know that Murphy can play
the piano, and she said, this is from my mom, Murphy,
She says, well, you need to tell him he needs
to share that and do more of that in the show.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
That's suite of her to say that, I don't really
I can plunk around on the piano. I don't know
that I would call it plain. Oh okay, it just
never I've.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Never actually heard you play, so but I've heard you
talk about it before and it's like, oh yeah, Murphy
can play.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
He needs to share at with everybody.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's just one of those things. I mean, I've never
spent the time to develop it because I do have
the ear. I mean, I can hear the notes and
all that, and I can so Phoebe and I can
actually collaborate when she's trying to pick out a song
or something like that. I don't not explain that. I
can go to the piano and plunk it out, no problem,
the notes match. I can do all of that, But
(17:37):
I don't play, because I've never really learned how to play.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Gotcha what the parts of it? What you're describing, Murphy
means that part of it that you can pick it
out is that comes naturally to you.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
It comes natural.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
So if you ever decided you wanted to you have
a leg up. I mean you have a you know,
you have.
Speaker 3 (17:54):
A good star.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Yeah, yeah, you could if you wanted to learn it,
if I.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Took official lessons and had the hand placement correctly, and
you know, because I know the basic scales and all
those those kinds of things. But it's like partially self
taught but never really developed. So but I appreciate the
fact that your mother thinks I'm talented.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
She also said she loves listening because Jody Jody always
says something funny and and Murphy adds something. She said,
but Murphy needs to catch up.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Oh, I need to catch up with what Judy's review out.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
You know what.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Let's move on.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
Social media, connect.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Connect with us. There anything you're thinking about, if you
wanted to tell us something or you missed it, jump
in anytime. Social media never closes, I know, you know
that's it's the true. So Instagram and Facebook. This came
in from Michelle. This is to Facebook about journaling. Someone
had recommended it with Cheryl this week that had told
us that her keep the wow was that she journals
(18:51):
about things and it makes her feel better about everything.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, and she does it every day.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, which I guess you don't have to do that's
one of the rules, right, You don't have to do
it every day because it feels like a chore. Michelle
says sent this into Facebook about the journaling. I'm a therapist,
and I suggest using the notes app for those that
don't like writing. You can use it as a brain
dump and see it whenever you need. The voice to
(19:15):
text text option is great too. Murphy loves that. Yeah,
my notes app. My notes app has been a life saver.
That's a good idea.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Look, it does let you pull up important things and
reminders wherever, so and you can do that so many
different ways. But for me, it has to be voice
to text. Otherwise, trying to type out something is not
as therapeutic to me as writing it out. I've tried
to do both of them before, and typing it out
is not the same thing for me. Everybody different.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
You have to pen to paper.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
The pen to paper is just more of a true
brain dump for me, or voicing it into something is
more of a it's a verbal brain dump.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
I guess I think this is it because typing feels
like work to you, maybe.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Murphy, Yeah, it's not fast enough. Honestly using your thumbs.
That frustrates me when you start misspelling stuff right, I
can't type as fast as I talk. Goodbye journaling, forget this.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, thank you, Michelle. I'm impressed that a therapist sent
us some advice there. I love it. Judith sent this
instead of classic journaling, pick a sore spot and just
free write pen to paper and let it all flow out.
You may end up quite surprised that you're actually upset
about a different aspect than you thought.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
That's a great idea, too.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Kind of mind blowing when that happens. Thank you, Judith.
Little therapy here.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
That's coming up in Part two of today's Murphy Salmon
Jody podcast.
Happy summer, and thank you for subscribing to the Murphy,
Sam and Jody Podcast. Here are some of our favorite
moments from the year so far, and we'll be back
with new shows Monday, July fourteenth.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to the Murphy, Salm and Jody Daily Show Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
This new study in dating is good news if you're
living on a budget anyway, that dating on a budget
budget is not a bad thing. In fact, the person
you're dating, maybe even if it's a first date, they
don't mind if you rock it a little frugal.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
They shouldn't mind.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Right, hopefully they don't mind. Maybe it's something you could
connect on.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
You know, well, yeah, you never really know, because it
also could put an unintended pressure on that person. You
know what I'm saying. If it is, oh, something that's
more expensive and you want to Dutch on the first
date instead of treat or right, right.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
You should talk about that though ahead of time, you
just float that idea before at the end when the
check comes, is not when you ask. I think that
you should want to get the first one. I think
you should just mention it casually, you know, be able
to talk about any of it. But I love that
idea because to me, it fosters a better first date
atmosphere if it's more casual anyway, the old fancy, fancy
(01:09):
place where you're dressed up and you know, all that,
the white tablecloth. You know, maybe it's right for some people,
but if you're trying to really just get to know somebody,
I feel like strip away that kind of stuff and
go have coffee or go.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
On to be an environment where you're going to naturally
be a little more relaxed, a little more casual.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
So the word is singles love it if if they're
being frugal in their lives because of budgets and you
are too, bring that into it and do stuff that's
you know, what you can afford. Look for free stuff
to do, go on a walk together, do happy hour
appetizers instead of the whole meal or whatever. Yeah, that
also makes it quicker in case you need it out
(01:49):
A good point.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I'm thinking back to our you know, first because our
first date wasn't really a date Jody eating together. I
don't remember if it was like a number one with
no onions that I had or you know, that's not.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
What we did.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But sophisticated.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Climbed down we would go on lunches where you would
bring me to lunch and you said we were going
to talk about work stuff and we never did.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, but we're just like sandwiches and things like.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
It was the lunch menu barrel very affordable. The other
part of this, though, the flip side, is this, no
one wants a cheap date. There's a difference between being
frugal and being cheap. So where you don't want to
be frugal is tip your date is paying attention to.
Do you tip? How well do you tip? Are you
(02:40):
looking for a good experience?
Speaker 3 (02:41):
So like if you go to a movie, don't sneak
food in yea on.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
The date and if you're leaving the restaurant and don't
take all the sugar packets.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Just like your first date.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
If you've ever written a complaint letter to customer service,
have you ever gotten a reply?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I've never sent a complaint letter to any customer service ever.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah. I don't know that I have either.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Okay, Sam, do tell Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I'm assuming it means you have.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I did.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
In fact, it was over the holiday weekend. I okay,
let me just put this out there. I'm a Walmart
Plus member because I like the scan and go feature
where you can walk through the store, you scan as
your shop, and when you leave, you just scan a
QR code and go. You're not sitting there a scan
and everything at the register nice and I self checkout,
which is where you use it.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You don't self check out though at all. You don't
check out, you check.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I use the self checkouts to do the.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Quick scan and leave, okay, afeel you.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I don't walk up.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
To somebody who's cash hearing and say can you scan
these for me?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
And you you've reported this I think a couple of times.
And three things to know that Walmart's been cutting back
on the self scanners. Yes, And so I had this
situation over the weekend. I walk up to do my
self scan. They've got like twelve registers. Three are open,
and there's a line. And it's like me, I'm paying
for a feature that gets me in and out of
(04:02):
the store and I have to wait in line. I
even went up and talked to the dude. I was like,
do y'all have a self a scan and go specific
register for people like me who have paid money for this?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
YadA YadA, YadA YadA. Uh No, we don't.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
So I waited in line, and then when I left,
it's like it pops up on my phone. Hey, you
got any comments? You know, Murphy, You'll be happy to
know that I do this in a professional manner.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I do.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I don't go off on people.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
This is ridiculous.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Yes, I did make clear that there were enough registers.
I'm paying for this service. If this is going to continue,
I'm not going to keep paying.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
For this service. That's correct in a nice fashion.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Sure enough, I got a reply back, not a corporate
you know reply, but from the manager of that store.
Oh really, yeah, she replied, And you know, thanks for
your feedback. I am, I'm at the Walmart you visited.
We appreciate you taking time to share your experience with us. YadA, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Now there was no resolution. It's just like, hey, thanks,
let us know. But I got a reply. So you
(05:03):
got a bot response.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Oh you think it was a bot? If he think
it was real, I.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Mean I don't know, it could have been real. You know,
me and Ais always questioning things.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Look, you they're testing new systems. You have to be,
you know, the one to sort of critique it. So
that they can change their systems based on customer experience.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Construction construction constructive feedback is a good thing.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah for the bots.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Depending on the cruise ship that you're on, there are
certain items you can't bring on cruise ships anymore. Certain
items are banned on cruises, and we're going to go
over it with you.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Are these surprising items are the no dah both?
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Okay, So you're not supposed to bring alcohol on a
cruise ship, correct, even though you can disguise it in
the twelve pack and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Why would you do that? Why would you? That's what
I've read, And why would you bring your own alcohol
on a cruise ship? Anyway?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
That's right, Well you could answer that question.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Actually, I know, I know that it's expensive, but it's
like you're going on a cruise, where are you gonna
are you gonna fit that?
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I'm sure people have tried to try to sneak booze
in everywhere.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Yeah, I mean there are people that because it's expensive,
old tampoo bottles that have been cleaned out, fill it
with alcohol and it's like, oh my shampoo.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You might have a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Yeah, the problem is not what to bring, but what's
wrong with what's wrong with that? You brought it that
you went to that link? Yeah, okay, yeah, it depends
on what the rule of thumb is. Contact the cruise
line and ask them if you're if you really want
to bring your drone. Some cruises are saying no more drones.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Yeah, well most of that's online, by the way too.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I don't mean call can is this carnival?
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Can I bring my drone?
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Door decorations? Oh? I thought those were okay, Oh, I'm
sorry that's upsetting you, Sam. No, just some cruise lines
are saying they're banning this stuff laws in certain countries
where you're gonna port or whatever, but also safety whatever
if they have some bumpy water and everybody get door
decorations that go sliding down the hall, not good, okay.
(07:09):
Bluetooth speakers some cruise ships are banning that you bring
in all. I know, if you would have a problem
with that, we'd be rebooking.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Well, it's probably because you have some people that are,
you know, playing them too loud and it's out on
the lido deck and there's already music playing overhead.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And the little beach thing. Yea, you know, they can
they reserve the right. The cruise line reserves the right.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Can you understand that.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Ham radios, transmitting devices, walkie talkies, baby monitors, and even
starlink devices. Some cruise ships are banning those.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I just know that.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Well, they probably don't want you to bring in starlink
because they want you to pay for the onboard.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Correct, they reserve their right search protected power strips. They
don't want you to plugging those in and in your
cabins and things like that.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I mean that could be an electrical hazard, if you know,
I can, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Yeah, absolutely, Candles, firehousards. I think that's a daw lysol.
I don't know, maybe it's the it's the aerosol can.
That's a problem. But a lot of people want to
bring lifestyle because cabins with family, you just.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Have to live with the stink.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Martial arts and self defense items and tools also being
banned many by many crews operators. I know you two
have known each other a very long time. Sam, you've
been You've known Murphy since before I did.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Yeah, that's right. How does that make you feel? Jody?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Fine? Whatever?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Second place?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I could tell you're a second place or I'm second place.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I think it's only by like, uh, four years.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Oh really, I came into your life. You don't only
known Sam four years?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Oh wow, that's why you're so upset. Sam. I took
all of the attention away from you. Anyway, Murphy and
I are married. For anyone who doesn't know if you're
new to us. But I'm so glad that you Sam
finally got to experience I know you've known him a
long time, but you're not. You don't live with him.
You finally got to experience Murphy running into the gas
station just to go to the bathroom and gravel water.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
We were in the car the other day coming back
from the luncheon, just the three of us. I was
in the back seat. I didn't even go into the
gas station. You guys go into the gas station. I'm
going to get water. I'm going to go to the bathroom.
I'm like, okay, I'm sitting there minding my own. Sam
comes back first and gets in the passenger seat and
says he's looking at snacks. Yeah, have you ever met him?
(09:23):
He can. We had just left lunch too.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
The reason I said that is because right before that,
before we pulled in, he said, I'm thirsty I'm pulling
and get a drink.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Right. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
So it's like, you know, people say they're gonna get
a drink, they go in and they get a drink, right,
And then I come out of the bathroom and he's
standing in the snack aisle.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
It's like, that's not the drink aisle.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
But see, Murphy can't go into a gas station or
comedie store without getting a snack.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I'm telling I am a prime target for Endyle display
these all little bright, shiny objects. And then the other
thing too. You know, I'm not I'm blaming you, Sam,
but you know this food dude, You've all you always
talking about new snacks. I'm like, wait, do they have
the lemon flavored you know, chip or whatever? All that
kind of stuff. But as you know, there's always something
new out there.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Many stories are known for that.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
If there weren't so many choices now, I probably wouldn't
spend time going. I bet that ship would taste good.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, it's funny because I wondered for a second. I'm
just so used to it. I'm conditioned to being in
the passenger seat or the backseat in this case. You
run in Murphy for whatever, for some water or to
go to the bathroom, and I know you're going to
get in and go look what I got. Well, look
and this time it was pop corners. Is that what
she got?
Speaker 4 (10:29):
Yeah, it just surprised me to Jeddie because we had
just left the luncheon, I was full.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Well, I did more talking than eating. That was the problem.
I'm a little bit hungry.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
You know, you got to come on vacation with us sometimes,
so because when I go in, I usually come back
with candy for everything. Yeah, so now you would like that.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
It's a lot of fun and you've never experienced that,
so welcome to it. Sam.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Normally three things to note today would go right here,
but we're on vacation this week. Jody will return with
that when we get back.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
M It seems like a strange thing writing advice on
a napkin and handing it to a stranger on a flight,
but it happened recently. Did you see this beautiful story.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
That would almost be creepy, but I'm glad it's a good.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
No's a it's beautiful. This couple was on their on
the way to their own wedding Alaska Airlines and so
the flight attendants had everybody on the plane besides the
couple who were married already write down advice marriage advice
for them and give it to them at the end
of the flight.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Did the couple know they were doing that.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Not until they were handed all these napkins with all
this beautiful advice on it and not cool. They shared
it on social They shared it on TikTok, and it
went viral quickly, and so some of the advice they
got from strangers who had been married before. You want
some of it. Be nice. Communicate wants and needs. That's
simple and true. If your partner gives you a quick hug,
(11:55):
hold them longer. These small moments matter for intimacy.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
Always respond to your partner's bids for attention. Yeah, that's
lovely and nice. One of my favorites. Also, embrace everything
together in an ever changing world, you'll be each other's constant.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
WHOA, that's really insightful and very true.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Here's the other one. This is say we've been married.
It came we were high school sweethearts. This is the
longer note. Not two napkins, but a big napkin. We
were high school sweethearts. We've been married for more than
forty years. Our advice is never give up. Nothing is perfect,
don't sweat small stuff, never stop communicating, and never go
to bed mad. You know that's a hang up for you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
The last one is a difficult one for you, but
it is a good sound advice.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I'd like to be forced to talk about something if
I'm not ready.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So, Sam, any of these you think they would have
helped you in the past with some of the previous marriages.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Actually, oh really, which one? The last one, the long one,
A lot of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Really sweating the small stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Definitely the small stuff. Not going to bed angry. I
know it might be a hang up, but yeah, a.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Lot of people say it it's universal marriage advice.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Yeah, not that well for me, it would be not
going to bed or letting it linger for three or
four days without solving it outs.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
So what did the couple do with all the napkins?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
She toss them out. I'm joking. She plans. The bride
plans to display them all in some sort of frame
in their home forever.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
But good joke toting.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
It's turtle crossing season. Do you guys know what that is?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I didn't know there was a season for it either.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, according to wildlife and fisheries across the country, and
it happens every year that I see it, turtles crossing
the road. They get busy in the they get on
the move. Turtles get on the move late spring, early summer.
They're seeking mates and they're seeking nesting sites, and so
in the warmer weather moves.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Them around and they always happen to be on the
other side of the road.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Well, they're just Yeah, the roads are all over the place. Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
The roads theoretically are the things that got in the way. Yes,
the turtles were around long before the roads existed, exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Okay, remember that we've talked about this before at turtle
crossing season. What to do and what not to do.
If you see a turtle crossing the road, you guys,
remember and help it, move it if you must, to
save it from being run over, but only move it
a short distance and only move it in the direction
it was moving, because if you turn it all around, ah,
(14:30):
it gets messed up, and they can die, they can
get confused, You mess up.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Their whole.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Life if you move them around. That's why you're not
supposed to pick them up and make them your pet
and bring them home, which I used to do when
I was a little girl. I used to find a turtle,
go run into the house and get a box and
make a little habitat for it, and take it to
my friend's house, and all this nonsense. I had no idea.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
I wonder if it's just they move slow anyway?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Yes, they do, they think?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Do they perceived time slowly? Is you know what I'm saying.
If they moved that slowly and you change their direction,
their brain probably can't keep up with it.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I guess I don't know what's going on there, but
I know, because don't they They.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Live a long time. They don't move very fast. It
would make sense, I tell you. They everything else that
they do is slow.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
They don't move very fast on land. But there are
some turtles in the creek near our house that may
see me pop my head over the LEDs. They through
the water, they're really they are really fast in the water.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
The one's in my pond. When they see you, they're
really nobody ten up on the side of the Yeah, yeah,
if they see you.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
They disappeared in the If you move them in a
different direction in which they were headed, you mess up
you mess them up and they can lose their whole
purpose and they can buy so if you do have
to move them shortest amount of distance and in the
same direction.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
I don't know if you know anybody that has a
skill or a talent that they usually don't share with
everybody else, because everyone does. Murphy has such a talent.
And the reason that I'm going to see if Murphy
will share his talent with you, and.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
You know I have one, Well you'll see, you'll see.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
I was talking to my mom, Miss Judy yesterday, Hi, Judy,
And I know she's left a few comments for you, Jody,
about your daughter Phoebe's singing and guitar playing at local restaurants.
She told me, and she said this a couple of
times in our conversation. Yeah, that girl can sing.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Oh, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
And then following that, she goes, can Murphy or Jody sing?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Do they have that talent? Is that where she got
it from?
Speaker 4 (16:42):
And I said, I don't think, I mean heard Jody sing,
but it's just like you sing along to the radio
on a happy day.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
And I said, but I know that Murphy can play
the piano, and she said, this is from my mom, Murphy,
She says, well, you need to tell him he needs
to share that and do more of that in the show.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
That's suite of her to say that, I don't really
I can plunk around on the piano. I don't know
that I would call it plain. Oh okay, it just
never I've.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Never actually heard you play, so but I've heard you
talk about it before and it's like, oh yeah, Murphy
can play.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
He needs to share at with everybody.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's just one of those things. I mean, I've never
spent the time to develop it because I do have
the ear. I mean, I can hear the notes and
all that, and I can so Phoebe and I can
actually collaborate when she's trying to pick out a song
or something like that. I don't not explain that. I
can go to the piano and plunk it out, no problem,
the notes match. I can do all of that, But
(17:37):
I don't play, because I've never really learned how to play.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Gotcha what the parts of it? What you're describing, Murphy
means that part of it that you can pick it
out is that comes naturally to you.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
It comes natural.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
So if you ever decided you wanted to you have
a leg up. I mean you have a you know,
you have.
Speaker 3 (17:54):
A good star.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Yeah, yeah, you could if you wanted to learn it,
if I.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Took official lessons and had the hand placement correctly, and
you know, because I know the basic scales and all
those those kinds of things. But it's like partially self
taught but never really developed. So but I appreciate the
fact that your mother thinks I'm talented.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
She also said she loves listening because Jody Jody always
says something funny and and Murphy adds something. She said,
but Murphy needs to catch up.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Oh, I need to catch up with what Judy's review out.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
You know what.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Let's move on.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
Social media, connect.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Connect with us. There anything you're thinking about, if you
wanted to tell us something or you missed it, jump
in anytime. Social media never closes, I know, you know
that's it's the true. So Instagram and Facebook. This came
in from Michelle. This is to Facebook about journaling. Someone
had recommended it with Cheryl this week that had told
us that her keep the wow was that she journals
(18:51):
about things and it makes her feel better about everything.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, and she does it every day.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, which I guess you don't have to do that's
one of the rules, right, You don't have to do
it every day because it feels like a chore. Michelle
says sent this into Facebook about the journaling. I'm a therapist,
and I suggest using the notes app for those that
don't like writing. You can use it as a brain
dump and see it whenever you need. The voice to
(19:15):
text text option is great too. Murphy loves that. Yeah,
my notes app. My notes app has been a life saver.
That's a good idea.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Look, it does let you pull up important things and
reminders wherever, so and you can do that so many
different ways. But for me, it has to be voice
to text. Otherwise, trying to type out something is not
as therapeutic to me as writing it out. I've tried
to do both of them before, and typing it out
is not the same thing for me. Everybody different.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
You have to pen to paper.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
The pen to paper is just more of a true
brain dump for me, or voicing it into something is
more of a it's a verbal brain dump.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
I guess I think this is it because typing feels
like work to you, maybe.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Murphy, Yeah, it's not fast enough. Honestly using your thumbs.
That frustrates me when you start misspelling stuff right, I
can't type as fast as I talk. Goodbye journaling, forget this.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, thank you, Michelle. I'm impressed that a therapist sent
us some advice there. I love it. Judith sent this
instead of classic journaling, pick a sore spot and just
free write pen to paper and let it all flow out.
You may end up quite surprised that you're actually upset
about a different aspect than you thought.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
That's a great idea, too.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Kind of mind blowing when that happens. Thank you, Judith.
Little therapy here.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
That's coming up in Part two of today's Murphy Salmon
Jody podcast.
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