October 6, 2017 • 5 mins
Here’s why Sam feels like he is practically IN the marriage WITH Murphy & Jodi.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Thank you for hanging out with us after the show
and for being a Murphy, Sam and Jody podcast subscriber. Earlier,
Jody had mentioned that it's e harmony. Came up with
the five words you should use in every profile.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Well front man that supposedly grab a woman's attention and
in an online.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
Profile, and so optimistic number five. I'm gonna count them
down five to one.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Okay, optimistic is number five out going Number four, women
respond to that good spontaneous coming in at number three,
women respond to that.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Number two. This is the one that had our scratching
our heads, but.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Which is where it's the whole reason I want to
do this In the after the show podcast, perceptive, right,
and then number one is what physically fit? Physically fit?
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Okay, begging the biggest response.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Most of those are pretty straightforward. Sam, though wondered, it's
okay perceptive does that kind of fruit through? What does
that really mean?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
And it just doesn't seem like something you'd see on
a dating website.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I think that maybe women respond to that because maybe
they've been in relationships where they felt that they weren't
paid attention to. Exactly how many times have you ever
heard women say, you know, tell my husband any secret.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
He's not listening anyway. Absolutely say that about Murphy all
the time as if no, I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Actually, I mean I think and say I'm glad this
means I'm thinking like a woman, because that's exactly the
whole point of me doing this after the show podcast
is I believe that that probably is its context because
where they've the relationship that they've come out of if
they really didn't have. And this is it's sad. It
happens in a lot of relationships, even unintentionally, where people
are together for a very long time. You don't mean
to take each other for granted, but then you kind
(01:31):
of like stop paying that attention to each other and
listen to and all that kind of stuff. And I mean,
I guess if it turns nasty and somebody leaves as
a result of that, you know, of course you want
somebody who you feel like you're a companion with. If
somebody is perceptive, then they're going to be somebody who's
likely to.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah case at right, right, Yeah, being perceptive it's important. However,
I will say this, this is a mistake I made
in my past. We've talked about this before. When I
was younger and in a different relationship. It wasn't with you, Murphy, this.
Speaker 5 (02:02):
Guy that looked rabbit, that's right.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, okay, well anyway, No, I didn't make that mistake
with him. This was somebody else assuming that expecting him to.
I expected him to read my mind. I was young
and I didn't. I was in a serious relationship, and
I was really hurt when he didn't know things that
(02:30):
I wanted. But I get I gave him no indication
that I did, and it's for me. Maybe that's I
don't know. I felt like I hurt myself for No,
he wasn't trying to hurt me in any way. My
expectation ended up causing that problem inside of my own
head for me to expect him to read my mind. So, yes,
you want someone who was perceptive and who pays attention
(02:52):
to you, but never ever expects someone to be able
to read your mind.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Don't you think that has improved though? Since you got older?
Like you said, we were younger, and.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
It's like it's a more I have a more realistic
expectation that came from experience in life, that's all. Yeah,
knowing that you can't read my mind.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Didn't it because early on, dependent on I guess it
could happen for a number of reasons. But it's not neediness,
but it's it's really just sort of a you know,
pay enough attention and no like know exactly what I
want to do, And of course it's not real.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
It's assuming that someone, because they love you, should know
your every thought and will ridiculousness.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
That's not what love is.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
It's because they're there, your soulmates.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
That's movie love anyway.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You know, it's it's not how you and I still
misread each other from time to time on that because
that because the opposite of that is assuming somebody's thinking
or meaning something when they really don't mean that at all.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Oh my gosh, that happens a lot with couples, and Sam,
I know that you see it with me and Murphy
because you're with us a lot. We spend a lot
of time with you. Sam, You're practically in this marriage with.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Us, don't you love that? Yah? We literally will get.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Short tempered with each other because I'm assuming he means
something or everything that you say to me has so
much weight because we are in this serious relationship and
when it doesn't marriage maybe you're just, you know, really
frustrated about your coffee getting cold or something, and I
think it's personal or vice versa.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
And so there's so much weight.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
For because y'all are so close and you have as
a couple, you have and you have a lot of
inside stuff that goes on, yes, and when if somebody
says something to somebody else, you know, you're like, oh,
it's because they know what they're doing there whatever, and
it's like.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
No, you misread that.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You take it personally, and it explodes.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Into something that really started over.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Nothing right because there's so much weight and you take things.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
So for me being part of the marriage over here,
I don't know whether to step in and say, well
I was just a misreading there.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Yeah, my mouth shut. It's a difficult position for you
to be in.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I'm very sorry because there have been times whenever I've
been upset about something that he's done and you'll say, well,
he was just and then I'm mad at you.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
I know I should have left the room.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
But see that doesn't that kind of bring it full
circle there? It proves our point. As long as we've
been together too, you still you can misread each other.
So Perceptive just means basically paying attention.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Just because someone cannot read your mind does not mean
they don't love you. You know. That's you know, being
close does not mean knowing some what's what someone's every
whim is. And like I said, I think I felt
that way when I was younger.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
See, maybe you should add perceptive to your profile. A
little struck coming at you from all directors?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Perceptive? What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Miss any part of the show at Murphysamon Jody dot
com
Thank you for hanging out with us after the show
and for being a Murphy, Sam and Jody podcast subscriber. Earlier,
Jody had mentioned that it's e harmony. Came up with
the five words you should use in every profile.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Well front man that supposedly grab a woman's attention and
in an online.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
Profile, and so optimistic number five. I'm gonna count them
down five to one.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Okay, optimistic is number five out going Number four, women
respond to that good spontaneous coming in at number three,
women respond to that.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Number two. This is the one that had our scratching
our heads, but.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Which is where it's the whole reason I want to
do this In the after the show podcast, perceptive, right,
and then number one is what physically fit? Physically fit?
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Okay, begging the biggest response.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Most of those are pretty straightforward. Sam, though wondered, it's
okay perceptive does that kind of fruit through? What does
that really mean?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
And it just doesn't seem like something you'd see on
a dating website.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I think that maybe women respond to that because maybe
they've been in relationships where they felt that they weren't
paid attention to. Exactly how many times have you ever
heard women say, you know, tell my husband any secret.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
He's not listening anyway. Absolutely say that about Murphy all
the time as if no, I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Actually, I mean I think and say I'm glad this
means I'm thinking like a woman, because that's exactly the
whole point of me doing this after the show podcast
is I believe that that probably is its context because
where they've the relationship that they've come out of if
they really didn't have. And this is it's sad. It
happens in a lot of relationships, even unintentionally, where people
are together for a very long time. You don't mean
to take each other for granted, but then you kind
(01:31):
of like stop paying that attention to each other and
listen to and all that kind of stuff. And I mean,
I guess if it turns nasty and somebody leaves as
a result of that, you know, of course you want
somebody who you feel like you're a companion with. If
somebody is perceptive, then they're going to be somebody who's
likely to.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah case at right, right, Yeah, being perceptive it's important. However,
I will say this, this is a mistake I made
in my past. We've talked about this before. When I
was younger and in a different relationship. It wasn't with you, Murphy, this.
Speaker 5 (02:02):
Guy that looked rabbit, that's right.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, okay, well anyway, No, I didn't make that mistake
with him. This was somebody else assuming that expecting him to.
I expected him to read my mind. I was young
and I didn't. I was in a serious relationship, and
I was really hurt when he didn't know things that
(02:30):
I wanted. But I get I gave him no indication
that I did, and it's for me. Maybe that's I
don't know. I felt like I hurt myself for No,
he wasn't trying to hurt me in any way. My
expectation ended up causing that problem inside of my own
head for me to expect him to read my mind. So, yes,
you want someone who was perceptive and who pays attention
(02:52):
to you, but never ever expects someone to be able
to read your mind.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Don't you think that has improved though? Since you got older?
Like you said, we were younger, and.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
It's like it's a more I have a more realistic
expectation that came from experience in life, that's all. Yeah,
knowing that you can't read my mind.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Didn't it because early on, dependent on I guess it
could happen for a number of reasons. But it's not neediness,
but it's it's really just sort of a you know,
pay enough attention and no like know exactly what I
want to do, And of course it's not real.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
It's assuming that someone, because they love you, should know
your every thought and will ridiculousness.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
That's not what love is.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
It's because they're there, your soulmates.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
That's movie love anyway.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You know, it's it's not how you and I still
misread each other from time to time on that because
that because the opposite of that is assuming somebody's thinking
or meaning something when they really don't mean that at all.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Oh my gosh, that happens a lot with couples, and Sam,
I know that you see it with me and Murphy
because you're with us a lot. We spend a lot
of time with you. Sam, You're practically in this marriage with.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Us, don't you love that? Yah? We literally will get.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Short tempered with each other because I'm assuming he means
something or everything that you say to me has so
much weight because we are in this serious relationship and
when it doesn't marriage maybe you're just, you know, really
frustrated about your coffee getting cold or something, and I
think it's personal or vice versa.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
And so there's so much weight.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
For because y'all are so close and you have as
a couple, you have and you have a lot of
inside stuff that goes on, yes, and when if somebody
says something to somebody else, you know, you're like, oh,
it's because they know what they're doing there whatever, and
it's like.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
No, you misread that.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You take it personally, and it explodes.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Into something that really started over.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Nothing right because there's so much weight and you take things.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
So for me being part of the marriage over here,
I don't know whether to step in and say, well
I was just a misreading there.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Yeah, my mouth shut. It's a difficult position for you
to be in.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I'm very sorry because there have been times whenever I've
been upset about something that he's done and you'll say, well,
he was just and then I'm mad at you.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
I know I should have left the room.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
But see that doesn't that kind of bring it full
circle there? It proves our point. As long as we've
been together too, you still you can misread each other.
So Perceptive just means basically paying attention.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Just because someone cannot read your mind does not mean
they don't love you. You know. That's you know, being
close does not mean knowing some what's what someone's every
whim is. And like I said, I think I felt
that way when I was younger.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
See, maybe you should add perceptive to your profile. A
little struck coming at you from all directors?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Perceptive? What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Miss any part of the show at Murphysamon Jody dot
com
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