April 3, 2026 • 31 mins
How to do "nothing" and why we struggle with it.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This story we touched on in Three Things to Know
the other day about Americans struggling with doing nothing on vacation.
We don't know how to do nothing.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
And I thought that was a double negative.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I know a lot of of us who struggle with
such things.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Yeah, I know me too.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Do you struggle with doing nothing?
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Sam, Yeah, it happens to me, even on the weekends,
and it's like, I'm here on the patio chilling out.
I'm doing nothing. Oh but wait, I gotta.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's the way they say. They blame the busy effect.
We are a nation of busyness, and it's you get
used to it. That is how you feel normal. What's
the next thing? What's the next thing? What's the next thing? Yeah?
And I read something the other day, literally just weeks ago,
(00:58):
and I screenshot it because I want to say this.
I want to send this to Murphy. I forgot to
send it to you. But it says, don't confuse rest
with being unproductive, or being unproductive with being unworthy. It's
okay to be unproductive. In fact, you need to be
unproductive at times, but we all struggle with it even
when even when on vacation, which is the big wow.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
It goes back to the balance thing, right, I mean
there's a happy medium. You can go to either extreme.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Some people are really good to doing nothing. Yeah, professionals
do your Your parents were a good example, Murphy.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
When they were people, they did nothing. Way to go.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
No, I'm talking about the way they vacationed.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Oh yeah, because all they would do was book the
place and that was it when they were there, That's right,
that's what they Their day was sun up, go down
and put the chairs on the beach, spend the day
out there. When the day is done, go back up.
And that it really was just hanging out and doing nothing.
I mean, you're doing nothing in a different place.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
But you know they did, know they worked very hard.
I'm not saying they did nothing all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I know that, No.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I know they vacation right. They didn't have a struggle
that we know of of them not being busy. In fact,
your mom was like, are you interrupt my vacation? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I know. She was very very protective of that and asked.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Her to do anything out of the even out of
the schedule. Like one time when you were first diagnosed
with IBS, I was getting a little antsy about you
eating early enough so you could have the insulin thing,
and it was like, we're not going to eat until
she was like, we're not going to eat early and
I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
But your son has diabetes. I'm going back to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Guess what's making a comeback thanks to jin Z. Now
before we tell you, Murphy, help help us with the
breakdown of who's gen Z.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
What's the group gen Z is generally accepted, like from
nineteen ninety fourn in nineteen ninety five through twenty twenty eleven.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
In that area.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Wow, okay, see.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Jen alpha Jen alpha is after that.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Right, younger than that?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Okay. So what's coming back? And I love this not
just because I love this, but because everything is cyclical.
Is that mall shopping is making a comeback. And guess
who's flooding the Mall's gen z? Really, it's up my
percentage points by percentage points. Who's heading in to the
(03:27):
malls ages eighteen to twenty four. They're spending time there,
they they're looking at stuff, they're they're hitting the boutiques
even not just the big stores that some at some malls.
Those are the parts of it that are still thriving
and surviving.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
That's why they call them anchor stores.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah. There you go to see Murphy's the business major here.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
There's nothing to me more said. I guess there are
other sad things, but a mall that has been it's
like vacant. It's sad.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
It's an Amazon center.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
And so and I'm wondering if maybe there's maybe it's
a balance. It's going to be one of those whole
cat I want to buy everything online necessarily, let me
go out and shop.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
It's about an experience. Yeah, okay, I mean, let's just
be honest, guys. I don't know if it was this
way for you because you're a guy, your guys, But
I'm a girl. When I would go to the mall
as a teenage girl, it was freedom from the house,
from mom and dad. I was with my friends. I
felt such freedom. I felt so cool. I couldn't wait
to buy the Spree handbag and drink an orange Julius.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
The mall was a social experience.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Correct a little bit of freedom you know.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
As long as there are still stores available and open,
that makes a difference. Because when I was shopping recently,
is you know, I don't. I don't go shopping very
often like that Joda, I do, but I do. I
love the department store experience. I forget that. And when
I was walking through the mall recently, it was kind
of cool and retro in my head.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Right, You're like, why why are not? Anyway? So the
word is gen Z looking What do they love about it?
The sense of community. They're tired of everything being on
the screens, and we know that's true with some with
physical media too. We've talked about physical media is trending again.
You know, CDs are being sold, vinyl is valuable again,
(05:12):
and it's gen Z driving it. It's like, fine, I
want I mean they say stranger Things introduces them to
Oh wait, I want to do that too. It's one
of the shows that sort of brought that back into
our hearts. So just something to look out for right
now today, twenty twenty six. What amenities help you sell
(05:34):
a home faster? Don't you want to know? Because guess
what it changes? It's also something that trends.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah, that makes sense, right, So sometimes it's kitchen, sometimes
it's bathrooms, sometimes it's backyards. Sometimes it's what do they
call the outdoor kitchens?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
That outdoor kitchens. Yeah, do you have any like what
would help you buy a house?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Not a kitchen.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
I'm a kitchen person, correct, Okay, so that's on the
list for sure. Gorm May kitchens. I mean I've seen it.
I mean I've seen Murphy get completely mesmerized by a
Viking stove. A house we were looking at was like, man,
I didn't want to live in that house. In love
with the Viking stove. I'm thinking, well, let's just get
a Viking stove, which we still.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Don't app No, no, we don't.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Okay. So, and that's something you would list if you
were a realtor, you would list that in the top
line of the kitchen amenities, Viking stove. So that's one.
And you guys are right about bathrooms and kitchens being
very important. As far as Jack that that's awesome because
you do fall in love with things. Okay, But they
say cottage core is very in anything that makes it
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cottage inspired, like outdoor kitchens or fire pits, something that
makes it seem like a little cottage in the middle
of the woods where you'd find all this special little stuff.
Something just makes it more homey. Little things like that, not.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Just is it like a coziness as what's meant by coverage.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, not just bones. You know, a house can have
really great bones. But does it have a close at bath,
does it have care, does it have something that's sweet
an extra? Those are the extramnities that people are loving
right now. Another thing are the countertops right now? It
used to be you know, soap stone, and it used
to be marble, and it used to be quartz and
(07:22):
now it's quart site. You guys know about that.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
I read so it was a less expensive version of it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Well, it's straight up, it's pure minerals. It's all regular
quartz has like plastics and resins and man made way
around with some quartzite. But quartz site, I hope I'm
saying it correctly, is straight up from the earth and
it lasts forever, and it's pretty in a different way,
and it'll cost you to put an end. But it's
(07:47):
one of those things that Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
When Jody and I were looking for houses, there was
one that had a bidet, which was the first time
I've ever seen that.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
Did you use it now?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Well, I asked Jody. I said, this bathroom's got a
water found. It's like, that's not a water family.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
And here's why we didn't buy that house. Yeah, join
us a million different ways eight seven seven three one
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message us or email us, YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, all
the places.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
That's exactly what Bill did. He was listening to the podcast.
He says, good morning, just heard on three things to
Know today. The study about sparkling water improving the focus
of gamers. Jody did that yesterday.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
It was a small study.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah, yeah, there's.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Not anything in the big medical journals.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
I just want to say, well, he says, thought, was
it the sparkling water or is it just hydration? Even
mild dehydration impacts your system and thought process, so it
could impact your gaming. Thoroughly. Enjoy your show, Bill, Thank
you, thank you, Bill. I mean I could if it's not
like that deep of a scientific study right now, he
could be right along.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
It's not super deep, but they do. But they did
say their takeaway was that they think the carbon nation
does something that sort of tickles the focus in memory,
if you will.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
And if it was a study worth its salt, they
probably had a control group as well.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Sure, I don't know about that though.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh it doesn't sound like you did.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
It was just an interesting lifestyle type story that I
wanted to share, you know. And look, the reason honestly
that it sparked me is because Murphy is on a
mineral water and sparkling water kick. I know that's because
of your mocktail dabbling lately.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I don't know why it became an obsession. It really
started on a flight where they served Lacroix and I'd
never really had that. They asked, you know, you want
regular sparkling water. I'm like sparkling water, and so because
it's flavored, it's just kind of like open up a
door for me. So I'm trying every brand out there
right now.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
And every flavor. If you come to my house.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Drinking like Topo Chico right now, which I love the
twist and lime flavor.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Which is awesome.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
We have raspberry nectarine mineral water, which is my favorite.
He bought a case for me.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
It's not mineral, it's just sparkling water different. So mineral
water actually is sourced from the you know earth. Sparkling
water can be just you know, filter water with CO
two right, with carbonation.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
We have one called lemon Italian ice. Is that mineral
or sparkling?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I don't know, it's sparkling.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
The big question is has it helped your gaming?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yeah? Right, I feel pretty focused and I'm going to
the bathroom a lot.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
You're hydrated, Thank you, Bill jump in anytime.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Jody, a little earlier, you were sharing with us how
it's suggested recommended that when we go on vacation we
try to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
For some of it. That's what it's to do. It's downtime.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yeah. Do you really think that you could do nothing,
the two of you, Murphy and Jody.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It's I could do nothing, but just not for a
long time. In fact, I think I do nothing a
little bit every day, A little bit I do.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Put that on a resume.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I did nothing every day.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I always said, I'm very balanced.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
You're one of the most balanced people I know.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
You know why because it calls to me if I
have one of those back to back days, I will
go get in a corner, I'll go get in a close.
When I was a little girl. If things things were
too much, I would go get in a closet and
then I'll be like, ah, yeah, I gravitate to it.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
So are they saying that. You know, people when they
go on vacation, they're over scheduling themselves to do things.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
You're just not.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Stopping, You're looking at your phone constantly, You're doing all
the things you would do.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
It's average. Their names are Joe and Karen, and they
roll into the beach resort and they're so busy. Their
life is insane and they get there and there's nothing
to do, and they don't know what to do. Karen
and Joe don't know how to be sitting on a
beach chair. It feels unproductive, feel guilty. That was one
of the big parts of the story and study is
(11:58):
that they feel guilty doing nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So you're saying, Karen's unsatisfied and you.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Complain to the manager of the beach. Hey, that example
right there. I remember when I went to the beach
one time with one of my exes, and it did
take me probably a day and a half, two days
to be able to just sit and go. I don't
have to be doing anything. Yeah, I think that's normal.
It is.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
It really is just a subtle effect. And it is
smart to do a little nothing every day, like you say, Jody,
but in balance. But when you when you do need
that break, you can tell you know, when you really
just need to.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Listen to your body, listen to your internal and I
tells you what you need.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And maybe say doing nothing means just don't do the
things that stress you. Don't you know that our chores
or responsibility is that kind of thing. If it's something
you want to learn, that's fun in a hobby, that's cool.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
And if it takes you two days to relax, forgive yourself.
Take the two days you can do things while easing
into relaxation, just like Joe and Karen.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
You know that's saying Hindsight's twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yes, I do know it. We all do.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Got a dose of that this weekend.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Okay, Sam, I'm.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Mobile lately, walking three times a week, two miles every time,
active active. Yeah, and so Saturday it's not a normal
walking day for me. But I thought it's nice weather,
I'm gonna throw two miles in right here, nice and under.
What I decided to do was part way through. It's
like this is really good. Walk. I'm going to jog now.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Ohay.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
So I started jogging. I jogged about a block and
it was like, this is great. I could keep going
if I want to, but you know, I'm not pushing it.
I'm just going to start slow. And then I walk
the rest of the time and everything was great. Well,
you know. Later on Saturday evening, Sammy, my son, and
I went to see Nate BARGATSI write the comedian.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't know anything about history, and I can tell
because every history movie I watch I watch on the
edge of my seat.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
And I recommend this. If you haven't seen him in yet,
can catch him on tour right now. The Dumb Eyes Tour.
You gotta go. Funniest show I've ever seen.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
But whoa, that's a big endorsement, and.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
The lead up acts and everything, the whole concert or
the whole show. I could not get My foot just
started throbbing. My right heel started throbbing, and all day
yesterday I wound up unable to walk on my right
foot because my heel is killing me. Yeah. I did
the Google thing. It says it could be Planner whatever
(14:28):
that thing.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Yes, that's horrible, Yes, exactly what it sounds.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Like it could be heel spurs, whatever those are. But
I'm not a cowboy, so you know who knows.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
You're certainly not a cowboy, but that doesn't mean you
can't get hill spurs.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
Yeah. So I'm limping around today and.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Well, did you take the Google a little further and
understand about elevation and and all.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Of that elevated? I had an ice pack on it
most of the day yesterday.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
So did you land funny? Did you step on a rock?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Did you he doped.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Sadly? I yeah, yeah, there was nothing, and I was thinking, oh,
you weren't. You weren't ready for it yet. And it's
like it wasn't anything where I didn't stretch or anything.
This is a completely one hundred percent heel.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Yeah. I mean this, this can happen to even athletes. Okay,
so it's not like you did. You don't need to
find the mystery the problem.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
You could do a shoe that I have because I
don't have running shoes.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
Yeah, well you're gonna have to put your feet up.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Yeah, because you started walking. Yeah, I knew.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I want to share with you the way to make
cleaning a whole house top to bottom actually fun, make
the time go buy faster. So me and Taylor and
Phoebe are daughters. We wanted to do this for my mom, Nana,
and we wanted to clean her house for her. This
(15:45):
is the woman who raised me, who taught me how
to clean a house. We spent every Saturday cleaning our house.
I know that she wants it clean, but she has
some health issues. She has actually back problems. If you
have a back problem, you can barely tie your shoe.
So she has.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
And that's the story she told you that I'm going
to ask.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
But yeah, okay, all right, guys. For years, here's what's up.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I just couldn't pass it up.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
A few years. I'm like spring to come over and mop,
and like, Mom, I'm totally able to we can hang out.
And she's like, no, no, no, you have a busy life. No, no,
let's just spend time together. Well, Taylor and Phoebe also said,
you know what, I want to spend time with Nana.
The power of the grandchildren, power of this, she won't
say no to them. So Taylor was like, hey, Nana,
why don't I and Mom and and Phoebe will come
over and clean and we can all visit and she
(16:29):
was like, okay, we roll in there, mop buckets, rooms,
all the stuff the other day and she had, in
Nana's style, made us taco soup and for the girls
she made their favorite strawberry cake. So we you know,
had soup and cake after we cleaned. But she also
was DJ Nana because Taylor and Phoebe were like, we
(16:51):
like to crank music and all that while we clean,
and so she was like, okay, I'm on it. We
started cleaning, and so she would pick the song, started
playing her favorite songs and here's where we started.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Let's do it.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
She has always loved home.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Look, well, that'll get you in the mood to clean.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
And so we had split up. Taylor took the living room.
I started in the kitchen. Phoebe was hitting bathrooms and
we deep clean. We were dusting, wind, the seals were
doing everything. She also introduced them to some stuff that
she wanted them to know about Murphy. I want you
to know she cranked Dwight Yoakum awesome.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I haven't really thought about Dwight Yoakum in a long time.
Nineties country gold there more.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Of it too.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
I was like, I'm go hang.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Out a now we were really cleaning. This helped a lot.
She also introduced them to some Brooks and dun O
Wow blaring and they knew this already.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
We also hit some Elvis.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I know they love that. I know that they are
luke warm on some of the countries.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
They liked song a lot. We were just having a blast.
And as we did the last mop throughout the house
and everything was shining, she did one more jam.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
I asked the guy why you start with LOOAKDJ Mana.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
We were discussing what amenities really make people want to
buy a home. If your home is on the market,
do you have these things? You know? We talked about
cottage core, which is anything that makes it feel homey.
You don't have to think of a cottage. It just
means something that's, you know, relaxing, cozy. Cozy is the
right word. Correct.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Patty's going to help us out. She's a realtor. Patty,
what do you think is the most important thing for
us to do.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
The first thing I feel is curb appeal.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
For sure.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
Impressions are the very most important. Make sure your entry
way looks in fighting when you walk in the door.
If you have any pet, pods. Try to get rid
of those. Obviously I don't see very often. But if
you're a smoker, you've got to start smoking outside. That's
probably the biggest turn off. And I think buyers today
(19:08):
want move in ready, so trial to have your house
as closed to move in ready as possible, and I
think those things really help.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Home sell quickly.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Right, oh rightably is really the most important.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Well, it's funny because one of the things I did
not get to mention when we discussed it was people
don't want to fix a upper, like make sure everything's done. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
I mean there's a few people it's still like that,
but very few with interest rates where they are a
buyer doesn't want to move in and think they've got
to spend a lot more money to get correct.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Cor Well, thank you for this and thank you for listening.
We appreciate you.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I love your show.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Thank you for this, and look, I hope you have
a good closing sometime this week. Okay, thank you, all right?
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Always fun it is, thank you very.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
Much, Patty.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Any little extra amenity that you can add to your
home while you're living in it, make sure it's something
you want to do. But it does increase your value
for when if you want to sell down the road.
Some friends of ours, Rusty and tiffany years ago, they
had bought a home that every little room, in every
corner there was something special. It was like, whoa, this
place is a palace. It was cottage cour to the
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to the mass anyway to the core. And what we
had learned is the people had done one major project
every year. The people they bought it from had done
one major thing. They added a pool one year. The
next year they added up I don't remember what do
you call this the pergola. Like they had done something
like that every year, and by the time they went
to sell it, it was like loth Yeah, so cool,
(20:46):
so cool, morning pick me up time. If you run
a meeting and you happen to decide to cancel it
and you send out the cancelation to all your attendees,
you have just given them a gift because guess what,
it is a fact that canceled meetings feel so satisfying.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
I can understand that too.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
They've studied it. Multiple universities have studied it, and they
all these participants, thousands of participants. It's because of the
way that we experience free time. Unexpected free time is
even better. It's like windfall time. It actually feels longer,
So an hour gained feels like more than sixty minutes.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
That makes sense, and it also makes sense that you're
you're giving back something that now you can control, because
you right part of a meeting. You don't really always
have control over who's doing it and when.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
You actually they say, if you have a meeting that's
canceled and the meeting was going to was going to
go for thirty minutes, you will be like, man, what
a gift. Oh yeah, and you will then with that
time do something that you normally wouldn't take on in
another thirty minute block that you supposedly blocked out later
in the day.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Usually with me, I can continue doing what I'm doing
because I know when I hit that time I got
to stop and go to a meeting. This way you
can continue whatever you're working on. Yes, usually I have
an exclamation that goes when I see that email. It's
usually hallelujah or yes.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Well. Sometimes it's also if you have the dread of
a meeting, or if it's you know, you feel like
the meeting could be an email to me.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
That's a big one because anybody who's holding the meeting,
if if you don't really have a tight agenda, you
really are wasting other people's time. And so if I'm
going to cancel one, it's usually going to be that
I can see that there's no real reason to do that.
You know, follow up and it doesn't need to duplicate
something that's already been done in email unless people aren't
following up, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Yeah, you know secretly, Murphy, I don't know if you
know this, but this is that's Jodie's favorite. But couldn't
this have just been an email?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Yeah? Yeah, it's not my favorite. It's just a lot.
It's just notable. I will say this. The other thing
about the canceled meeting feeling different, apparently getting time back,
which is what it feels like, it alters our psychological
perception of how time passes. That's why it feels like
more of a gift than just even thirty minutes blocked out.
(23:09):
It's keep the Wild Wednesday, not.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
For Keep the Wild Wednesday. Does it have to be
something you did or can it be something your kid
did that wowed you?
Speaker 2 (23:16):
It can be something that wowed you in your life.
That's significant. It's really mostly supposed to be about yourself
and your own accomplishments and self esteem, keeping your wows
so you have them. But it's it's oftentime. Our kids.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
I got a big wow here for my son, Parker,
one of my team team of children. Here. Parker. You
may not know he went to three put in three
semesters of college. He and Matty are twins. Matty's still
gone in college. Well, Parker joined a fraternity and had
a little too much fun. Oh yeah, and he was
a ask not to come back. But here's the wow.
(23:53):
At the time, he was nineteen, took a little time off.
Now he's twenty. He's got his act togethergured out what
he wanted to do. And this is what wires me.
He's re enrolled in another college now one semester and
he's making a's and b's. Hey, Parker, and it's coursework
and a major that he really wants to do. It
(24:13):
wasn't one of those you know, let me just go
to college and figure it out how to get there.
He's had a chance to get it together and it's
something he really wants to do. So nineteen years old,
flunked out of college, not a good position to be in.
But he's turned it around and he's on his way.
That's crazy. So that is my wile that Parker has.
Parker has made me proud. You know.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Sometimes it takes a real setback, like you could tell
him and tell him and tell him when he was nineteen, Hey,
don't blow this, Hey you go to class, Hey, don't
overdo it. But he has to experience it and suffer
the consequences of not being asked back for him to go,
oh okay, but he takes the rein that's why.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
And I don't remember if it was Edison. Somebody said,
you know, true success is born out of failure and
check out my life bulb right.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Okay, So we are proud of you, Parker. I hope
you keep this. Wow that that is a turnaround that
you are in charge of. That's a while for him. Yeah,
can we do what is he studying? Can you tell
us that yet?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I would love to tell you that, but he's keeping
that close to his vest I know what it is,
and I guarantee you sometime in the next few months
I'll be able to tell you what it is. And
it's going to be even wowerier than wow.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Oh wow, exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Well, but I understand not what he's just getting back
in the game. I can understand that one you say something, yet.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I totally respect that. Congrats Parker. Murphy almost sent you
a text just a few minutes ago here, but I thought,
you know what, let's just talk okay about this.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Yeah, you're free.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
One of the things that you and I like to do,
and it's really only a few people close to us
know this. How weird, this crazy little thing we like
to do. We got addicted to it years ago. When
we did it on Sunday, I did. I was hoping
our girls didn't check our location to know, what are
they doing.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
Oh, they're at a really strange house. They're at an
address we've never heard of.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Okay, Mack and I love to look at houses, and
we're not looking for a house, a new house. We're not.
But there was a house for sale in our old
neighborhood and it was one of those that we had
driven by a million times and we noticed that it
was for sale. It's like, man, I want to go
in there. So we made an appointment to go see it.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
We like to look at houses even though you're not
buying it. What are you interested in?
Speaker 1 (26:31):
No, we're just interested in looking, yea.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
How do you when the real estate agent ask questions,
what are you just?
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Well, well, I have my license, so I'm actually the
person I'm calling.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So well driving around when you check and see if
it's a going show, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Like, yeah, Jack, they call those going shows if you
don't if people aren't actually living there in the house
it's vacant. Many times you don't have to, you know,
wait an hour or what.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
We didn't inconvenience anyone. Okay, you know, he figured it
out with his app and all that, and before you
know it, boom boom, we were inside and it was
an empty house, but it was just we. So I
was about to text you this.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
By the way, I gave the listing agent good feedback
so that she would know what to expect. So I'm
trying to make it productive for other people too.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
It makes us feel less guilty look for the people
who own that house. You never know we could have
walked in there and fallen in love and changed our lives.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Well.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
And it also lets me know that if a friend
winds up looking for a house or something. I know
what's what.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
We're not going to change our lives right now, not
these interest rates. But anyway, I almost texted you, like
because the weekend's coming. You know. It's just a fun
thing to do. And what happened when we were looking
for houses. I think we got addicted to doing it.
It's just what we do. We get in the car
and we would go look at houses. And now it's like,
I've been thinking about it. It's a weird thing that
(27:51):
we like to do as a couple.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Well it's older houses though it's not really Oh.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
Yeah, just is it just to admire or are you
looking for ideas for your house?
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I don't know what it is. It's the chase. We're
addicted to, the chase of the perfect house.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Actually, for me, it's also curiosity when a house stays
on the market for so long, like this house that
we looked at has been on the market for eight months.
You want to see what it is that's holding up
the sale, and we saw trying up the.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Saleh check out yesterday's after the show podcast. Ladies and gents.
If you've ever been interested in having your colors done,
meaning doing a color analysis to figure out are you
a warm spring are you a cool winter? Because everybody
falls into that color wheel, meaning the kind of colors
you should wear for your skin tone and undertones.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Yep, So Jennie proceeded to immediately clean out our closet. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
Actually the instruction was don't go home and annihilate your
closet based on what you know what you learned. I
learned that I'm a warm spring, which is kind of
exciting because the colors that look best on me that
I should be wearing and rocking are bright colors. They're clear,
clean colors. Think of an easter basket with all the
(29:07):
easter eggs in it.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
The biggest takeaways I got from it, just for everybody
the podcast the podcast are the red and the black.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
I know. The only color that everybody can wear well
that doesn't drain you that any season is true red.
Now I understand there are ten reds. There's poppy geranium,
there's fiery red, there's cranberry red. But the one that
sits in the middle is a true red. They say
it's the reason that so many companies use it. Think
Coca Cola. Everybody can wear a true red and it
(29:37):
does not mess up with your tones. The sad takeaway
was that most people can't wear black, and we all
love to wear black.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
Which is ironic because it is the most popular color.
And I think again, it's subjective what you're talking about.
Everybody sees colors differently, but black does make the black
and the extreme white. It's because of contrast is going
to be I mean, you're talking about the pure opposite
ends of the spectrum, and with that much contrast, it's
going to exaggerate whatever's in the middle.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
They're not telling you in the color world to not
wear black. They're telling you, if you wear black, it's
not the best to highlight your features and harmonize your features.
So that's what I learned. Yeah, hush it up. I'm
not getting rid of all my black. In fact, Murphy,
you need to know that it takes time for this.
I'm not I did not annihilate my closet, but this
(30:28):
weekend I do plan to take everything out and go
Will this harmonize with me as a warm spring? Can
I make this work? If I can't, and I'm not
going to wear it ever again, I am going to
donate it or give it, you know, because someone. Everything
in my closet somebody can wear.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Is there one piece that you've already kicked at the
curb that you love, but now it's changed your mind
after this analysis.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
There is a green dress that you know fits me
like a glove.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Of that green dress, you're not.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
It makes me look like I have baggs under my eye. Really,
so I can't wear a bag over my head and
wear that dress. So yeah, kicking it to the curve.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
Well. Check out yesterday's podcast at Murphy Salmon Jody dot com,
wherever you get your podcast
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This story we touched on in Three Things to Know
the other day about Americans struggling with doing nothing on vacation.
We don't know how to do nothing.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
And I thought that was a double negative.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I know a lot of of us who struggle with
such things.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Yeah, I know me too.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Do you struggle with doing nothing?
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Sam, Yeah, it happens to me, even on the weekends,
and it's like, I'm here on the patio chilling out.
I'm doing nothing. Oh but wait, I gotta.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's the way they say. They blame the busy effect.
We are a nation of busyness, and it's you get
used to it. That is how you feel normal. What's
the next thing? What's the next thing? What's the next thing? Yeah?
And I read something the other day, literally just weeks ago,
(00:58):
and I screenshot it because I want to say this.
I want to send this to Murphy. I forgot to
send it to you. But it says, don't confuse rest
with being unproductive, or being unproductive with being unworthy. It's
okay to be unproductive. In fact, you need to be
unproductive at times, but we all struggle with it even
when even when on vacation, which is the big wow.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
It goes back to the balance thing, right, I mean
there's a happy medium. You can go to either extreme.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Some people are really good to doing nothing. Yeah, professionals
do your Your parents were a good example, Murphy.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
When they were people, they did nothing. Way to go.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
No, I'm talking about the way they vacationed.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Oh yeah, because all they would do was book the
place and that was it when they were there, That's right,
that's what they Their day was sun up, go down
and put the chairs on the beach, spend the day
out there. When the day is done, go back up.
And that it really was just hanging out and doing nothing.
I mean, you're doing nothing in a different place.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
But you know they did, know they worked very hard.
I'm not saying they did nothing all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I know that, No.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I know they vacation right. They didn't have a struggle
that we know of of them not being busy. In fact,
your mom was like, are you interrupt my vacation? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I know. She was very very protective of that and asked.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Her to do anything out of the even out of
the schedule. Like one time when you were first diagnosed
with IBS, I was getting a little antsy about you
eating early enough so you could have the insulin thing,
and it was like, we're not going to eat until
she was like, we're not going to eat early and
I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
But your son has diabetes. I'm going back to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Guess what's making a comeback thanks to jin Z. Now
before we tell you, Murphy, help help us with the
breakdown of who's gen Z.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
What's the group gen Z is generally accepted, like from
nineteen ninety fourn in nineteen ninety five through twenty twenty eleven.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
In that area.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Wow, okay, see.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Jen alpha Jen alpha is after that.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Right, younger than that?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Okay. So what's coming back? And I love this not
just because I love this, but because everything is cyclical.
Is that mall shopping is making a comeback. And guess
who's flooding the Mall's gen z? Really, it's up my
percentage points by percentage points. Who's heading in to the
(03:27):
malls ages eighteen to twenty four. They're spending time there,
they they're looking at stuff, they're they're hitting the boutiques
even not just the big stores that some at some malls.
Those are the parts of it that are still thriving
and surviving.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
That's why they call them anchor stores.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah. There you go to see Murphy's the business major here.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
There's nothing to me more said. I guess there are
other sad things, but a mall that has been it's
like vacant. It's sad.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
It's an Amazon center.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
And so and I'm wondering if maybe there's maybe it's
a balance. It's going to be one of those whole
cat I want to buy everything online necessarily, let me
go out and shop.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
It's about an experience. Yeah, okay, I mean, let's just
be honest, guys. I don't know if it was this
way for you because you're a guy, your guys, But
I'm a girl. When I would go to the mall
as a teenage girl, it was freedom from the house,
from mom and dad. I was with my friends. I
felt such freedom. I felt so cool. I couldn't wait
to buy the Spree handbag and drink an orange Julius.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
The mall was a social experience.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Correct a little bit of freedom you know.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
As long as there are still stores available and open,
that makes a difference. Because when I was shopping recently,
is you know, I don't. I don't go shopping very
often like that Joda, I do, but I do. I
love the department store experience. I forget that. And when
I was walking through the mall recently, it was kind
of cool and retro in my head.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Right, You're like, why why are not? Anyway? So the
word is gen Z looking What do they love about it?
The sense of community. They're tired of everything being on
the screens, and we know that's true with some with
physical media too. We've talked about physical media is trending again.
You know, CDs are being sold, vinyl is valuable again,
(05:12):
and it's gen Z driving it. It's like, fine, I
want I mean they say stranger Things introduces them to
Oh wait, I want to do that too. It's one
of the shows that sort of brought that back into
our hearts. So just something to look out for right
now today, twenty twenty six. What amenities help you sell
(05:34):
a home faster? Don't you want to know? Because guess
what it changes? It's also something that trends.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah, that makes sense, right, So sometimes it's kitchen, sometimes
it's bathrooms, sometimes it's backyards. Sometimes it's what do they
call the outdoor kitchens?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
That outdoor kitchens. Yeah, do you have any like what
would help you buy a house?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Not a kitchen.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
I'm a kitchen person, correct, Okay, so that's on the
list for sure. Gorm May kitchens. I mean I've seen it.
I mean I've seen Murphy get completely mesmerized by a
Viking stove. A house we were looking at was like, man,
I didn't want to live in that house. In love
with the Viking stove. I'm thinking, well, let's just get
a Viking stove, which we still.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Don't app No, no, we don't.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Okay. So, and that's something you would list if you
were a realtor, you would list that in the top
line of the kitchen amenities, Viking stove. So that's one.
And you guys are right about bathrooms and kitchens being
very important. As far as Jack that that's awesome because
you do fall in love with things. Okay, But they
say cottage core is very in anything that makes it
(06:42):
cottage inspired, like outdoor kitchens or fire pits, something that
makes it seem like a little cottage in the middle
of the woods where you'd find all this special little stuff.
Something just makes it more homey. Little things like that, not.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Just is it like a coziness as what's meant by coverage.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, not just bones. You know, a house can have
really great bones. But does it have a close at bath,
does it have care, does it have something that's sweet
an extra? Those are the extramnities that people are loving
right now. Another thing are the countertops right now? It
used to be you know, soap stone, and it used
to be marble, and it used to be quartz and
(07:22):
now it's quart site. You guys know about that.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
I read so it was a less expensive version of it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Well, it's straight up, it's pure minerals. It's all regular
quartz has like plastics and resins and man made way
around with some quartzite. But quartz site, I hope I'm
saying it correctly, is straight up from the earth and
it lasts forever, and it's pretty in a different way,
and it'll cost you to put an end. But it's
(07:47):
one of those things that Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
When Jody and I were looking for houses, there was
one that had a bidet, which was the first time
I've ever seen that.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
Did you use it now?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Well, I asked Jody. I said, this bathroom's got a
water found. It's like, that's not a water family.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
And here's why we didn't buy that house. Yeah, join
us a million different ways eight seven seven three one
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Speaker 1 (08:21):
That's exactly what Bill did. He was listening to the podcast.
He says, good morning, just heard on three things to
Know today. The study about sparkling water improving the focus
of gamers. Jody did that yesterday.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
It was a small study.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah, yeah, there's.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Not anything in the big medical journals.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
I just want to say, well, he says, thought, was
it the sparkling water or is it just hydration? Even
mild dehydration impacts your system and thought process, so it
could impact your gaming. Thoroughly. Enjoy your show, Bill, Thank
you, thank you, Bill. I mean I could if it's not
like that deep of a scientific study right now, he
could be right along.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
It's not super deep, but they do. But they did
say their takeaway was that they think the carbon nation
does something that sort of tickles the focus in memory,
if you will.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
And if it was a study worth its salt, they
probably had a control group as well.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Sure, I don't know about that though.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh it doesn't sound like you did.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
It was just an interesting lifestyle type story that I
wanted to share, you know. And look, the reason honestly
that it sparked me is because Murphy is on a
mineral water and sparkling water kick. I know that's because
of your mocktail dabbling lately.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I don't know why it became an obsession. It really
started on a flight where they served Lacroix and I'd
never really had that. They asked, you know, you want
regular sparkling water. I'm like sparkling water, and so because
it's flavored, it's just kind of like open up a
door for me. So I'm trying every brand out there
right now.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
And every flavor. If you come to my house.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Drinking like Topo Chico right now, which I love the
twist and lime flavor.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Which is awesome.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
We have raspberry nectarine mineral water, which is my favorite.
He bought a case for me.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
It's not mineral, it's just sparkling water different. So mineral
water actually is sourced from the you know earth. Sparkling
water can be just you know, filter water with CO
two right, with carbonation.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
We have one called lemon Italian ice. Is that mineral
or sparkling?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I don't know, it's sparkling.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
The big question is has it helped your gaming?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yeah? Right, I feel pretty focused and I'm going to
the bathroom a lot.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
You're hydrated, Thank you, Bill jump in anytime.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Jody, a little earlier, you were sharing with us how
it's suggested recommended that when we go on vacation we
try to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
For some of it. That's what it's to do. It's downtime.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yeah. Do you really think that you could do nothing,
the two of you, Murphy and Jody.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It's I could do nothing, but just not for a
long time. In fact, I think I do nothing a
little bit every day, A little bit I do.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Put that on a resume.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I did nothing every day.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I always said, I'm very balanced.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
You're one of the most balanced people I know.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
You know why because it calls to me if I
have one of those back to back days, I will
go get in a corner, I'll go get in a close.
When I was a little girl. If things things were
too much, I would go get in a closet and
then I'll be like, ah, yeah, I gravitate to it.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
So are they saying that. You know, people when they
go on vacation, they're over scheduling themselves to do things.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
You're just not.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Stopping, You're looking at your phone constantly, You're doing all
the things you would do.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
It's average. Their names are Joe and Karen, and they
roll into the beach resort and they're so busy. Their
life is insane and they get there and there's nothing
to do, and they don't know what to do. Karen
and Joe don't know how to be sitting on a
beach chair. It feels unproductive, feel guilty. That was one
of the big parts of the story and study is
(11:58):
that they feel guilty doing nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So you're saying, Karen's unsatisfied and you.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Complain to the manager of the beach. Hey, that example
right there. I remember when I went to the beach
one time with one of my exes, and it did
take me probably a day and a half, two days
to be able to just sit and go. I don't
have to be doing anything. Yeah, I think that's normal.
It is.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
It really is just a subtle effect. And it is
smart to do a little nothing every day, like you say, Jody,
but in balance. But when you when you do need
that break, you can tell you know, when you really
just need to.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Listen to your body, listen to your internal and I
tells you what you need.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And maybe say doing nothing means just don't do the
things that stress you. Don't you know that our chores
or responsibility is that kind of thing. If it's something
you want to learn, that's fun in a hobby, that's cool.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
And if it takes you two days to relax, forgive yourself.
Take the two days you can do things while easing
into relaxation, just like Joe and Karen.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
You know that's saying Hindsight's twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yes, I do know it. We all do.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Got a dose of that this weekend.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Okay, Sam, I'm.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Mobile lately, walking three times a week, two miles every time,
active active. Yeah, and so Saturday it's not a normal
walking day for me. But I thought it's nice weather,
I'm gonna throw two miles in right here, nice and under.
What I decided to do was part way through. It's
like this is really good. Walk. I'm going to jog now.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Ohay.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
So I started jogging. I jogged about a block and
it was like, this is great. I could keep going
if I want to, but you know, I'm not pushing it.
I'm just going to start slow. And then I walk
the rest of the time and everything was great. Well,
you know. Later on Saturday evening, Sammy, my son, and
I went to see Nate BARGATSI write the comedian.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't know anything about history, and I can tell
because every history movie I watch I watch on the
edge of my seat.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
And I recommend this. If you haven't seen him in yet,
can catch him on tour right now. The Dumb Eyes Tour.
You gotta go. Funniest show I've ever seen.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
But whoa, that's a big endorsement, and.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
The lead up acts and everything, the whole concert or
the whole show. I could not get My foot just
started throbbing. My right heel started throbbing, and all day
yesterday I wound up unable to walk on my right
foot because my heel is killing me. Yeah. I did
the Google thing. It says it could be Planner whatever
(14:28):
that thing.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Yes, that's horrible, Yes, exactly what it sounds.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Like it could be heel spurs, whatever those are. But
I'm not a cowboy, so you know who knows.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
You're certainly not a cowboy, but that doesn't mean you
can't get hill spurs.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
Yeah. So I'm limping around today and.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Well, did you take the Google a little further and
understand about elevation and and all.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Of that elevated? I had an ice pack on it
most of the day yesterday.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
So did you land funny? Did you step on a rock?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Did you he doped.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Sadly? I yeah, yeah, there was nothing, and I was thinking, oh,
you weren't. You weren't ready for it yet. And it's
like it wasn't anything where I didn't stretch or anything.
This is a completely one hundred percent heel.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Yeah. I mean this, this can happen to even athletes. Okay,
so it's not like you did. You don't need to
find the mystery the problem.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
You could do a shoe that I have because I
don't have running shoes.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
Yeah, well you're gonna have to put your feet up.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Yeah, because you started walking. Yeah, I knew.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I want to share with you the way to make
cleaning a whole house top to bottom actually fun, make
the time go buy faster. So me and Taylor and
Phoebe are daughters. We wanted to do this for my mom, Nana,
and we wanted to clean her house for her. This
(15:45):
is the woman who raised me, who taught me how
to clean a house. We spent every Saturday cleaning our house.
I know that she wants it clean, but she has
some health issues. She has actually back problems. If you
have a back problem, you can barely tie your shoe.
So she has.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
And that's the story she told you that I'm going
to ask.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
But yeah, okay, all right, guys. For years, here's what's up.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I just couldn't pass it up.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
A few years. I'm like spring to come over and mop,
and like, Mom, I'm totally able to we can hang out.
And she's like, no, no, no, you have a busy life. No, no,
let's just spend time together. Well, Taylor and Phoebe also said,
you know what, I want to spend time with Nana.
The power of the grandchildren, power of this, she won't
say no to them. So Taylor was like, hey, Nana,
why don't I and Mom and and Phoebe will come
over and clean and we can all visit and she
(16:29):
was like, okay, we roll in there, mop buckets, rooms,
all the stuff the other day and she had, in
Nana's style, made us taco soup and for the girls
she made their favorite strawberry cake. So we you know,
had soup and cake after we cleaned. But she also
was DJ Nana because Taylor and Phoebe were like, we
(16:51):
like to crank music and all that while we clean,
and so she was like, okay, I'm on it. We
started cleaning, and so she would pick the song, started
playing her favorite songs and here's where we started.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Let's do it.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
She has always loved home.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Look, well, that'll get you in the mood to clean.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
And so we had split up. Taylor took the living room.
I started in the kitchen. Phoebe was hitting bathrooms and
we deep clean. We were dusting, wind, the seals were
doing everything. She also introduced them to some stuff that
she wanted them to know about Murphy. I want you
to know she cranked Dwight Yoakum awesome.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I haven't really thought about Dwight Yoakum in a long time.
Nineties country gold there more.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Of it too.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
I was like, I'm go hang.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Out a now we were really cleaning. This helped a lot.
She also introduced them to some Brooks and dun O
Wow blaring and they knew this already.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
We also hit some Elvis.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I know they love that. I know that they are
luke warm on some of the countries.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
They liked song a lot. We were just having a blast.
And as we did the last mop throughout the house
and everything was shining, she did one more jam.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
I asked the guy why you start with LOOAKDJ Mana.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
We were discussing what amenities really make people want to
buy a home. If your home is on the market,
do you have these things? You know? We talked about
cottage core, which is anything that makes it feel homey.
You don't have to think of a cottage. It just
means something that's, you know, relaxing, cozy. Cozy is the
right word. Correct.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Patty's going to help us out. She's a realtor. Patty,
what do you think is the most important thing for
us to do.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
The first thing I feel is curb appeal.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
For sure.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
Impressions are the very most important. Make sure your entry
way looks in fighting when you walk in the door.
If you have any pet, pods. Try to get rid
of those. Obviously I don't see very often. But if
you're a smoker, you've got to start smoking outside. That's
probably the biggest turn off. And I think buyers today
(19:08):
want move in ready, so trial to have your house
as closed to move in ready as possible, and I
think those things really help.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Home sell quickly.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Right, oh rightably is really the most important.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Well, it's funny because one of the things I did
not get to mention when we discussed it was people
don't want to fix a upper, like make sure everything's done. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
I mean there's a few people it's still like that,
but very few with interest rates where they are a
buyer doesn't want to move in and think they've got
to spend a lot more money to get correct.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Cor Well, thank you for this and thank you for listening.
We appreciate you.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I love your show.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Thank you for this, and look, I hope you have
a good closing sometime this week. Okay, thank you, all right?
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Always fun it is, thank you very.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
Much, Patty.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Any little extra amenity that you can add to your
home while you're living in it, make sure it's something
you want to do. But it does increase your value
for when if you want to sell down the road.
Some friends of ours, Rusty and tiffany years ago, they
had bought a home that every little room, in every
corner there was something special. It was like, whoa, this
place is a palace. It was cottage cour to the
(20:22):
to the mass anyway to the core. And what we
had learned is the people had done one major project
every year. The people they bought it from had done
one major thing. They added a pool one year. The
next year they added up I don't remember what do
you call this the pergola. Like they had done something
like that every year, and by the time they went
to sell it, it was like loth Yeah, so cool,
(20:46):
so cool, morning pick me up time. If you run
a meeting and you happen to decide to cancel it
and you send out the cancelation to all your attendees,
you have just given them a gift because guess what,
it is a fact that canceled meetings feel so satisfying.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
I can understand that too.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
They've studied it. Multiple universities have studied it, and they
all these participants, thousands of participants. It's because of the
way that we experience free time. Unexpected free time is
even better. It's like windfall time. It actually feels longer,
So an hour gained feels like more than sixty minutes.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
That makes sense, and it also makes sense that you're
you're giving back something that now you can control, because
you right part of a meeting. You don't really always
have control over who's doing it and when.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
You actually they say, if you have a meeting that's
canceled and the meeting was going to was going to
go for thirty minutes, you will be like, man, what
a gift. Oh yeah, and you will then with that
time do something that you normally wouldn't take on in
another thirty minute block that you supposedly blocked out later
in the day.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Usually with me, I can continue doing what I'm doing
because I know when I hit that time I got
to stop and go to a meeting. This way you
can continue whatever you're working on. Yes, usually I have
an exclamation that goes when I see that email. It's
usually hallelujah or yes.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Well. Sometimes it's also if you have the dread of
a meeting, or if it's you know, you feel like
the meeting could be an email to me.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
That's a big one because anybody who's holding the meeting,
if if you don't really have a tight agenda, you
really are wasting other people's time. And so if I'm
going to cancel one, it's usually going to be that
I can see that there's no real reason to do that.
You know, follow up and it doesn't need to duplicate
something that's already been done in email unless people aren't
following up, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Yeah, you know secretly, Murphy, I don't know if you
know this, but this is that's Jodie's favorite. But couldn't
this have just been an email?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Yeah? Yeah, it's not my favorite. It's just a lot.
It's just notable. I will say this. The other thing
about the canceled meeting feeling different, apparently getting time back,
which is what it feels like, it alters our psychological
perception of how time passes. That's why it feels like
more of a gift than just even thirty minutes blocked out.
(23:09):
It's keep the Wild Wednesday, not.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
For Keep the Wild Wednesday. Does it have to be
something you did or can it be something your kid
did that wowed you?
Speaker 2 (23:16):
It can be something that wowed you in your life.
That's significant. It's really mostly supposed to be about yourself
and your own accomplishments and self esteem, keeping your wows
so you have them. But it's it's oftentime. Our kids.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
I got a big wow here for my son, Parker,
one of my team team of children. Here. Parker. You
may not know he went to three put in three
semesters of college. He and Matty are twins. Matty's still
gone in college. Well, Parker joined a fraternity and had
a little too much fun. Oh yeah, and he was
a ask not to come back. But here's the wow.
(23:53):
At the time, he was nineteen, took a little time off.
Now he's twenty. He's got his act togethergured out what
he wanted to do. And this is what wires me.
He's re enrolled in another college now one semester and
he's making a's and b's. Hey, Parker, and it's coursework
and a major that he really wants to do. It
(24:13):
wasn't one of those you know, let me just go
to college and figure it out how to get there.
He's had a chance to get it together and it's
something he really wants to do. So nineteen years old,
flunked out of college, not a good position to be in.
But he's turned it around and he's on his way.
That's crazy. So that is my wile that Parker has.
Parker has made me proud. You know.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Sometimes it takes a real setback, like you could tell
him and tell him and tell him when he was nineteen, Hey,
don't blow this, Hey you go to class, Hey, don't
overdo it. But he has to experience it and suffer
the consequences of not being asked back for him to go,
oh okay, but he takes the rein that's why.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
And I don't remember if it was Edison. Somebody said,
you know, true success is born out of failure and
check out my life bulb right.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Okay, So we are proud of you, Parker. I hope
you keep this. Wow that that is a turnaround that
you are in charge of. That's a while for him. Yeah,
can we do what is he studying? Can you tell
us that yet?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I would love to tell you that, but he's keeping
that close to his vest I know what it is,
and I guarantee you sometime in the next few months
I'll be able to tell you what it is. And
it's going to be even wowerier than wow.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Oh wow, exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Well, but I understand not what he's just getting back
in the game. I can understand that one you say something, yet.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I totally respect that. Congrats Parker. Murphy almost sent you
a text just a few minutes ago here, but I thought,
you know what, let's just talk okay about this.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Yeah, you're free.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
One of the things that you and I like to do,
and it's really only a few people close to us
know this. How weird, this crazy little thing we like
to do. We got addicted to it years ago. When
we did it on Sunday, I did. I was hoping
our girls didn't check our location to know, what are
they doing.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
Oh, they're at a really strange house. They're at an
address we've never heard of.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Okay, Mack and I love to look at houses, and
we're not looking for a house, a new house. We're not.
But there was a house for sale in our old
neighborhood and it was one of those that we had
driven by a million times and we noticed that it
was for sale. It's like, man, I want to go
in there. So we made an appointment to go see it.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
We like to look at houses even though you're not
buying it. What are you interested in?
Speaker 1 (26:31):
No, we're just interested in looking, yea.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
How do you when the real estate agent ask questions,
what are you just?
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Well, well, I have my license, so I'm actually the
person I'm calling.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So well driving around when you check and see if
it's a going show, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Like, yeah, Jack, they call those going shows if you
don't if people aren't actually living there in the house
it's vacant. Many times you don't have to, you know,
wait an hour or what.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
We didn't inconvenience anyone. Okay, you know, he figured it
out with his app and all that, and before you
know it, boom boom, we were inside and it was
an empty house, but it was just we. So I
was about to text you this.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
By the way, I gave the listing agent good feedback
so that she would know what to expect. So I'm
trying to make it productive for other people too.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
It makes us feel less guilty look for the people
who own that house. You never know we could have
walked in there and fallen in love and changed our lives.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Well.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
And it also lets me know that if a friend
winds up looking for a house or something. I know
what's what.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
We're not going to change our lives right now, not
these interest rates. But anyway, I almost texted you, like
because the weekend's coming. You know. It's just a fun
thing to do. And what happened when we were looking
for houses. I think we got addicted to doing it.
It's just what we do. We get in the car
and we would go look at houses. And now it's like,
I've been thinking about it. It's a weird thing that
(27:51):
we like to do as a couple.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Well it's older houses though it's not really Oh.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
Yeah, just is it just to admire or are you
looking for ideas for your house?
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I don't know what it is. It's the chase. We're
addicted to, the chase of the perfect house.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Actually, for me, it's also curiosity when a house stays
on the market for so long, like this house that
we looked at has been on the market for eight months.
You want to see what it is that's holding up
the sale, and we saw trying up the.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Saleh check out yesterday's after the show podcast. Ladies and gents.
If you've ever been interested in having your colors done,
meaning doing a color analysis to figure out are you
a warm spring are you a cool winter? Because everybody
falls into that color wheel, meaning the kind of colors
you should wear for your skin tone and undertones.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Yep, So Jennie proceeded to immediately clean out our closet. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
Actually the instruction was don't go home and annihilate your
closet based on what you know what you learned. I
learned that I'm a warm spring, which is kind of
exciting because the colors that look best on me that
I should be wearing and rocking are bright colors. They're clear,
clean colors. Think of an easter basket with all the
(29:07):
easter eggs in it.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
The biggest takeaways I got from it, just for everybody
the podcast the podcast are the red and the black.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
I know. The only color that everybody can wear well
that doesn't drain you that any season is true red.
Now I understand there are ten reds. There's poppy geranium,
there's fiery red, there's cranberry red. But the one that
sits in the middle is a true red. They say
it's the reason that so many companies use it. Think
Coca Cola. Everybody can wear a true red and it
(29:37):
does not mess up with your tones. The sad takeaway
was that most people can't wear black, and we all
love to wear black.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
Which is ironic because it is the most popular color.
And I think again, it's subjective what you're talking about.
Everybody sees colors differently, but black does make the black
and the extreme white. It's because of contrast is going
to be I mean, you're talking about the pure opposite
ends of the spectrum, and with that much contrast, it's
going to exaggerate whatever's in the middle.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
They're not telling you in the color world to not
wear black. They're telling you, if you wear black, it's
not the best to highlight your features and harmonize your features.
So that's what I learned. Yeah, hush it up. I'm
not getting rid of all my black. In fact, Murphy,
you need to know that it takes time for this.
I'm not I did not annihilate my closet, but this
(30:28):
weekend I do plan to take everything out and go
Will this harmonize with me as a warm spring? Can
I make this work? If I can't, and I'm not
going to wear it ever again, I am going to
donate it or give it, you know, because someone. Everything
in my closet somebody can wear.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Is there one piece that you've already kicked at the
curb that you love, but now it's changed your mind
after this analysis.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
There is a green dress that you know fits me
like a glove.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Of that green dress, you're not.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
It makes me look like I have baggs under my eye. Really,
so I can't wear a bag over my head and
wear that dress. So yeah, kicking it to the curve.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
Well. Check out yesterday's podcast at Murphy Salmon Jody dot com,
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