Full Disclosure, No Exposure: The Kid Isn't His

Full Disclosure, No Exposure: The Kid Isn't His

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Robin Terrrit Kid on Brisbane's Kiss seven three.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Robin Terry Pankibbs, full disclosure, no exposure, forgive me father,
for I sin.

Speaker 3 (00:12):
This is the point in which we hear Brisbane's secrets.
We've been asking you guys to register at Kiss ninety
seven to three dot com dot au if you want
to get something off your chest. You only speak to
one person here at the radio station. It is not us.
We have no idea who you are. We decode your
voice and then you get to tell your secret. Now,
this one is interesting, and I have asked for some

(00:35):
blokes to come on and be on standby to have
a listen to this particular secret because I want to
get their take on it.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
It's pretty fall on.

Speaker 4 (00:44):
I've got a big secret that's been haunting me the
last year because the older my son gets, the more
certain I am that he is not my husband's. My
son is in the early teens, and he's really looking
kind of like the guy that I had a drunken
one night stand with all those years ago. I remember
at the time I was thinking it could be his,

(01:06):
but the timing was more likely to be my husband,
So I just kind of forgot about it, and we
were really new and really active. I never told my
husband and I haven't told anyone. The timeline of when
we went exclusive is a bit hazy as well. But
he believes it's his child, and my son only knows
my husband as his dad. I really don't know what
to do. I don't want to change anything. It would

(01:27):
break my family apart, and it would cause heartache if
this was the case. Obviously, I pray every day that
he is my husband and I'm not going to ever
say anything to them. It would ruin what we have.
I'm just worried someone's going to find out.

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Oh yeah, right, And I guess my question is to
you guys, would you want to know?

Speaker 2 (01:48):
I'll say first word to direct me my kids and
my kids and my kids.

Speaker 3 (01:51):
I know there's no question with your children, but hypothetically,
would you want to know?

Speaker 2 (01:55):
I reckon, I'd know by now.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
Okay, yes, I know you're a private sleuth bloke.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Will say. Apart from that, would you want to know?

Speaker 4 (02:04):
No?

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Sorry, I wouldn't want. I would want to know. I mean,
I just raised him because that's my son, and that's
how it will be. There'll be our relationship but I
know that he might need to know for medical reasons,
all those sorts of things in his history.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
You wouldn't want to know.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
No, it wouldn't matter to me, Scotty.

Speaker 5 (02:21):
I wouldn't want to know. No, because they're they're your son.
If you're raising that child there, they're yours.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
Keep about it, though, Okay, put yourself in the position.
You have two boys, keep kip, no, keep's not here.
You have two children, like, think about it if it
was them?

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. But the things that you've been raising
that child right the way through, what's what's going to
change that? It's only going to cause hurt.

Speaker 5 (02:44):
I wouldn't I wouldn't want to change that, No, because
I would think I would hope it wouldn't change.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
How would you feel about it?

Speaker 5 (02:50):
Would you want them to know just for the medical reason.
I only want them to know if there was something
they needed to be aware of medically.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
It's Scotty that was different here too. This is clearly
the first charge. So when we were getting together, if
you number two out of three.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Okay, let us let us go. Because I asked specifically
for guys, because I want to know. Would you want
to know? But if anyone else has other experiences in this,
please I'm not you know girls as well? Thirteen one
oh six five Mark of Kolanga. Would you want to.

Speaker 6 (03:19):
Know, well, talk about some Jerry Springer sort of stuff. No,
I wouldn't want to know, absolutely not. Let's sleeping dogs live.
I take to my grave. I raised him as my son.
He's always going to be my son. And that could
just as she said lip apart, with the family apart.
Just keep on living life as if it were. Doesn't

(03:40):
matter if he's not by now.

Speaker 3 (03:42):
Okay, but yeah, okay, but I guess my challenge is
if your child found out, they would never forgive you,
if you know, forgive her for lying to them.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Like there's all that side of it. This is the
right of the child as well.

Speaker 3 (03:54):
Winston, a Murray elder from East Brisbane. Winston, what do
you think?

Speaker 7 (04:01):
I don't want to know? And there's multiple reasons, like
a child being your blood doesn't necessarily make you any
more father than a guy that actually raises the child.
The child, you know, there's a lot of things that
comes into it, like the guilt that must be eating
that woman up all this life and she's holding all

(04:25):
that inside it Yeah. The whole thing is she's better
off coming up front now, sitting down calmly talking about
it and saying, look, this has been eating me up
for years. I've been too scared to approach the situation
and be up front about it all. At the end

(04:46):
of the day, what would they do if it came
out all of a sudden.

Speaker 3 (04:52):
Have you ever been in that position? Winston?

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (04:57):
I was in that position when I was younger, and
it was actually a friend that told me what was
going on and we end up breaking up. But it
wasn't because of that. It was because I found out
she was actually treating more often than not, because she's
just it's one of those sort of people that does it.

Speaker 3 (05:20):
Okay, thank you, thank you so much. To instance, lots
of calls are coming through on thirteen one oh sixty five,
and Royce says he has his own lived experience. Let's
talk to him next.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Yes, So a woman who's confessed a son who's now
thirteen may not be her husband's biological child, and she's
wondering if she should tell him. We're all wondering if
we want to know, or in fact, if we would
have gleaned it by now Robin.

Speaker 3 (05:43):
Yeah, so Royce of Kedron, you have some lived experience,
tell me about it.

Speaker 8 (05:48):
Yeah. I was in a situation back almost ten years
ago now where I was married and me and my
wife had a situation where we separated for a short
time and we reconciled and she was pregnant. My circumstances
in that situation where that I we were really wanting

(06:09):
to keep that marriage together. She was very open about
the fact that been other people involved and that ultimately
we stayed together for for a period of time, separated
for other reasons which has really nothing to do with
the child. And listening to everything that's being spoken about
this morning, my position changed a few times on what

(06:31):
of how I feel about this, but ultimately I knowing
was the most important thing. But I guess the next
point is that thirteen years have gone past for that
family and the lady with the secret, well, I'm not
going to path judgment on her, but she should have
dealt with that thirteen years ago, and she's living.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
She's living.

Speaker 8 (06:53):
There's a lot more damage.

Speaker 2 (06:54):
Yeah, fair enough, Thank you, Royce. I got a gag. Yeah,
I got to about this. Just to put a happy
note on the end of it. Okay, okay, So we'll
get to his song, a respectful song, and I'll tell
you that gag base with just bend to cheer up
on one of it.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Rom and Tarian kidd for you Tuesday morning on Kiss
ninety seven three, No kid today.

Speaker 5 (07:18):
He is a little under the weather.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
Don't forget you are still listening out for a Pink
song thirteen one oh sixty five. When you hear it,
the first person to call through is going to head
gig at.

Speaker 5 (07:29):
Sun Corps Stadium. We were just talking about, Yes, a
situation where a couple's son or child wasn't the husband wasn't.

Speaker 3 (07:39):
The should play We should actually play it again. This
is full disclosure, no exposure.

Speaker 4 (07:44):
I've got a big secret that's been haunting me for
the last year because the older my son gets, the
more so than I am. But he is not my husband's.
My son is in the early teens, and he's really
looking kind of like the guy that I had a
drunken one I stand with all those years ago. I
remember at the time I was thinking it could be his,

(08:06):
but the timing was more likely to be my husband.
So I just kind of forgot about it, and we
were really new and really active. I never told my
husband and I haven't told anyone. The timeline of when
we went exclusive is a bit hazy as well. But
he believes it's his child, and my son only knows
my husband as his dad. I really don't know what
to do. I don't want to change anything. It would

(08:27):
break my family apart, and it would cause heartache if
this was the case. Obviously, I pray every day that
he is my husband, and I'm not going to ever
say anything to them. It would ruin what we have.
I'm just worried someone's going to find out.

Speaker 2 (08:40):
And I've got a lot of blokes weighing in on
this one.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yeah, majority is saying they don't want to know you.

Speaker 2 (08:45):
And also it's about that when they first got together,
says is the first child. Okay, it's more awkward when
it's not the first child this happens with and it
reminds you of the store of a guy who walked
in maternity. What a beautiful wife, too, gorgeous kids, and
it shows up rather than a third child. And this
child's got one of those heads gonna need some loving
in life. No, not all baby sharp being beautiful. This
kid's got a rough looking head, and he turns to

(09:05):
what said, Hey hey, hey, hey hey, you've been playing
up for me, She says, not this time.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
It's in proven Terry and Kidd on Crisbane's Cheese ninety
seventy three.