Did Robin Just Dump Her Boyfriend Via Text!?

Did Robin Just Dump Her Boyfriend Via Text!?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Robin Terri little Kid on Brisbane's Kiss ninety seven to three. Now,
before we went on holidays, we know that you'd started
dating again, Robin. You had you started online, then you
met someone. Yeah, yeah, and you took your page off
the app. You didn't need it anymore.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
No, that's correct.

Speaker 1 (00:15):
We found out very little about this man. We knew
that he had We had it that he used a
drill who was handing.

Speaker 3 (00:21):
He went out to help the guys with the movie.
We got him drill man, and we're trying to guess
his name. I just need to ask you in case
you reveal the name right now, all right, because I
had a theory going to the holidays about the names.
We've got about forty five names up on the wall
and the all crossed out, but I'm not sure they
should have been crossed out. Can I ask you? Is
his name actually up on that wall behind it?

Speaker 1 (00:39):
Good question?

Speaker 2 (00:40):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (00:42):
And would you mind if I had to crack a guessing?
Should I wait to the end?

Speaker 1 (00:47):
No, i't down a piece of paper. I haven't wait
to the end. Okay, what are you doing?

Speaker 3 (00:52):
What's his name? Craz I love that.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
It's going to be so disappointing to all of you,
because it is no.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
More you know what. I had a theory that that
because you were seem like you go, oh you went
to hear the update, I could tell you were trying
to be bright about it and it's not bright news.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Well, it happened before Easter. And I'm so grateful to
this particular person because.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Your first is your worst.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
I reckon, everything about online dating comes to a pinnacle
when it's the first person that you're trying to make
a connection with. And I will say that I learned
so much about myself in this process. I can categorically
tell you that I have never been more secure in
my adult life than I have in that first instance

(01:45):
of online dating. That's good, yeah, No, No, what I mean
to do with him just at all?

Speaker 4 (01:50):
Just in yourself, Yeah, because I think you know, it
literally is a meat market of which you're saying, by me,
and you're putting yourself out there and then trying to
second guess if someone's not responding quickly enough or you know,
like when you're on the apps, even in the initial
stages of whether they like you or not, and then you're.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
Trying to be really clever with your online stuff. But
let me go back to this particular guy, and the
thing is he will remain nameless because I think it's
really important that this is not a platform for him
to put himself out there. That's not what he's chosen
to do. He is a super lovely human being, and
I am so grateful that he was my first online

(02:30):
dating experience. But the other thing I learned about myself
and my girlfriends think this is hilarious, but I thought
that I was capable of maybe you know, got a
big live, got kids, got you know, family friends, that
I could kind of date someone and it not be
someone that would be really significant in my life. That's
not true. I'm actually ready for love and I'm ready

(02:52):
for a single person. But this particular guy had a
lot of commitments and I was going to sit about
five or six on his list of priorities. Yeah, no
one puts baby.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
In the where where That's an honest question, though, where
would he have sat on yours?

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Well?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
What I wanted was like and I think it's really
interesting in this space if you're in your thirties forties
with kids, because I think there's a massive difference between
loving your children and being in love with someone, right,
But I think for and so, I would never put
myself above someone else's children ever, as I would never

(03:31):
expect them to be above my kids. But I think
you can go like one two one two one two, right,
like I think, and I wanted that, but I didn't
realize I wanted that in the beginning. Right. So this
person had said on his profile wanted long term relationship,
but happy with short right right, So that was really
telling okay, because I think that there meant that it

(03:52):
was okay either way and it wasn't going to necessarily
be someone who was going to be a significant other.
So and so, as I said, I'm super grateful because,
like I've realized, I'm not a bit on the sad
other things to be prioritized in front of me if
I'm going to fall in love with someone. So yeah,
he's off looking for someone that is happy to have

(04:13):
other things in his life and not be the priority.
But it just wasn't me.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
And you have you relaunched, have relaunched? You have you?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Okay, I hang on before we get to the relaunch,
So how did you how did you wrap it up
with old mates?

Speaker 2 (04:25):
Okay? So we actually went and met And this in
itself is also just so orcs right, because you're going
to reject someone to their face.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
So was it you that?

Speaker 2 (04:37):
Yeah, I appreciated it, and we sat down and had
a drink together.

Speaker 3 (04:40):
Right, did you say we need to talk?

Speaker 2 (04:45):
I started.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
I started with You're going to hate this.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
You're going to absolutely nail my butt to the wall
when I tell you. So I started with, you know,
I wanted to catch up because I just wanted to
say this isn't working for me. And then he kind
of said, well, can we just you know, let me
digest that, let me think about that, and then I'll
come back to you.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:01):
I thought that's fair enough, right, it's not this is
a two way straight.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
You two having drinks and you said those words.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
In front of someone's face.

Speaker 1 (05:09):
That is so hard to do. I understand why people go.

Speaker 3 (05:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (05:17):
So yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:18):
So then he made some choices and decisions around seeing,
doing and other things, and I was like, I'm sitting
at home on a weekend alone again. And the whole
reason I got onto online dating was that I didn't
want to do that. So I sent him a text message.
Oh you text him?

Speaker 3 (05:33):
You dropped about text yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Okay, so you've had the meeting and you've said these
are the things I need. Yeah, go away and think
see if you can give me those things.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
Well, see if that works for you. And then he
made choices that proved that it didn't change anything. So
I sent a text, but to his credit, he came
back to me and said, no, that's actually fair. It's
fair that you do this on text, because you actually
had said, like, he's a genuinely lovely guy, and I
wish I could, you know, if I felt that I could,
but I won't. But like revealing because he'll be amazing
for someone else, like he's lovely, but yeah, just not

(06:05):
for me.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
I don't know. Is it if everyone comfortable with that?
Is it a bit like you're having great meeting with
the boss and being text on the way home. By
the way, you're fired.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
It's in problem, Terry and kidd On Drewsbane's Kiss ninety
seventy three.