May 9, 2023 • 9 mins
Full Disclosure, No Exposure: Should You Out A Cheater?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Robin terarily Kip on Brisbane's Kiss ninety seven.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Three Robinary and Gibbs full disclosure, no.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Exposure, forgive me father, for I have sin.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
So you can head to our website Kiss ninety seven
three dot com dot A. You tell us your story.
It doesn't always have to be a confession.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
No, it can just be something that you've done that
you haven't.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Shared, or just a question, a question which is kind
of what today's is, like what do I do about this?
Here's the story.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
So a few years.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Ago, I probably did one of the worst things that
I have ever done, and it still gets me up inside.
But it wasn't what I did. But it's a secret
that I'm keeping for someone else. And I don't know
whether I'm doing the right thing by my friend keeping
this secret, or if I'm making it worse. I got
a call really early in the morning one day from
(00:54):
my friend. He said, I've my card is declining, my
phone is about to go flat.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I'm texting you on address.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
Please come pick me up, Like, please, don't ask any questions,
I said, no worries.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I went straight out there.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
And also this was not an isolated incident of picking
him up from random places, but when I got there, I.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Was actually picking him up from a brothel.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
And the issue is that he had a girlfriend who
also was one of my really, really good friends.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And didn't know what to do.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
I'd already told him that I'd promised I wouldn't tell anyone.
I didn't think it was my business to get involved,
and I trusted that he would tell her. And he
still hasn't told her, and it was years ago now,
So even though it happened so long ago, I just
still think about it. I'm not sure whether I'm doing
the right thing by standing by him, because I have
(01:50):
been such a good friend for him for so much longer.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Than I've known her.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
But I think I'm still at this moral standpoint of
am I making.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
The right to.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Is he still doing it like it was a long
time ago? But if that's kind of his modus operandi,
if that's how he does what he does, she would
know and neither would potentially. But then the flip side
of that right is that you don't know what goes
on behind closed doors as a negotiated relationship. But if
he was okay with it, then he would have told her.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Thirteen one oh sixty five is our number. I think
it's I think it's past the time to tell.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
It's never past the time.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
It's past the time.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
You can't, Well, it can't be because she's already this
person is feeling terrible.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Yeah, well that's that's that's her problem. Now she left
it too late. Now it's just her. The only thing
that's going to feel better is her relieving her own
guilt by telling it's not gonna it's not going to
help anyone.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
What happens if they get married and she doesn't know
that this guy has does maybe continues to do go
and seek relations with other people in other places.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
That's the moment the wedding, is it? When I say,
does anyone have any reason why this couple should be?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
That's when you stand up?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But what do you think Team one o six y
five Lauren at the morning side, I think.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
That you need to tell the girlfriend for sure?
Speaker 3 (03:06):
How would you say that because it's been such a
long time.
Speaker 6 (03:09):
Yeah, Look, if he hasn't told her and he said
he was going to tell her, he's given him plenty
of time to tell her.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But what about what about the fact that she's been
friends with the man for a lot longer like I mean,
I guess I don't know if time matters, but it
feels like they've been friends for ages and the girlfriends
and you were a friend, So doesn't she have loyalty
to the old one?
Speaker 6 (03:33):
Look if I if it was me, I want to
know if someone was cheating on me, especially in a brothel.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, it is cheating. I mean if you're not upfront
about it. I mean there are people with it because
it's like a non emotional attachment.
Speaker 6 (03:50):
Yeah, right, that almost makes it worse. That almost makes
it worse.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
Yeah, I want sometimes explain that rash that comes and goes,
you know, yes.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 6 (04:00):
He's endangering her as well.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Uh huh, all right, so definitely tell is your is
your idea?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Lauren? Absolutely all right, thank you, thanks mate.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Thirteen one oh sixty five is our number.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
So that's one for tell, one for tell us. And
he said, Nope, not tell.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I say, don't tell.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
It's too late, and I am, well, got splinters up
my butt.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
We're talking full disclosure, no exposure. And Today's stories from
a lady who's friends with a couple. She's close to
both partners. She knows the man cheated at a brothel
many years ago and has not told and is feeling
very guilty about it.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
And she's known him longer than she's known her, but
it's clearly still eating her up. Aeron of Bronia Heights.
Would you tell or not tell?
Speaker 7 (04:42):
I would tell this girl code like if if I knew,
like I want to know personally, if someone knew my
close friend knew that my man was out there with
public shady and then I found out years later and
she's tell.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Me No, these consequences to that though, erin what if
she turned on her and said he was lying and
what if he denied it?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Like what if that then becomes this big thing and
she's the one that's left out in the cold. No,
oh yes, if she's your.
Speaker 7 (05:15):
Close friend and you trust her enough, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
It's just not live. It's so what do you think?
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Thirteen one, I six five down?
Speaker 5 (05:24):
Number there is in the car now with a dilemma
of her arms.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
When do we go back to when love was love?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Like this from Stephen Sanchez who wrote this last year,
by the way, and then behold it's Robert Terry and
Kip on Kiss ninety seventy three. Robin Terry Pankibs full disclosure,
no exposure, forgive me father, for I sin Yes, today's
story is this one.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
So a few years ago, I got a call from
my friend.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
He said, my card is declining, my phone is about
to go flat, texting you and address. Please come pick
me up, like please, don't ask any questions. I said,
no worries. I went straight out there. But when I
got there, I was actually picking.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Him up from a brothel.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
And the issue is that he had a girlfriend, who
also was one of my really really good friends. Didn't
know what to do. I had already told him that
I'd promised I wouldn't tell anyone. I didn't think it
was my business to get involved, and I trusted that
he would tell her. And he still hasn't told her.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I think it's too late.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah, I know, you don't too late to tell a
lot of we're going to say, no, you've got to tell.
We have a right to know, Alex of Cleveland, what
do you reckon?
Speaker 8 (06:40):
Okay, I reckon, I reckon she has a right to know.
I definitely do. I think that the person should put
himselves in the other person shoot and that think about
how they would feel if they found out their partner
was shooting in their closest like close friend didn't tell them.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
What about how mad they'd be if they found out
that it was eight years ago or how many years
ago it was. There'll be fewurious.
Speaker 8 (07:01):
I don't blame the person. I would be so angry
if I was in those shoes that they didn't tell me.
But I would also take into consideration that they'd be
scared of losing the friendship of you know, me not
believing them, which I did hear you say to Aaron,
and I agree the person didn't believe you. Why would
you feel the need to lie about this? I feel
like is really important and that also values how close
(07:23):
your friendship is.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Then couldn't you just do it as a meeting like
and say to them, if you don't tell her by
this point in time, we're all going to come together
and we're going to talk about it. Yeah, And therefore
when you say it in that moment, she'll be able
to see his reaction and even if he's denying, if
you can eyeball someone where someone else is accusing you,
that's a bold move. Emma of Matt Gravat, what do
(07:44):
you reckon.
Speaker 9 (07:46):
Look, I think you should stay in your lane and
shut your mouth.
Speaker 10 (07:53):
It's it's been.
Speaker 9 (07:54):
Such a long time, and if I was that friend, Mark,
I would be really annoyed that you hadn't told me sooner.
And it's kind of at the point now where you
just have to let it go and let it happen
naturally and now not get yourself in trouble.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Yep.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Yeah, I love everyone so fast on with the two
women involved. I mean, while the guys listening go and
just keep talking to yourselves and just packing the car.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
But you know what is so great when we have
these sorts of scenarios, people listening often have their own
personal experience, and tomorrow of Boronia Heights, you are one
of them. What would you like to say?
Speaker 10 (08:27):
Well, I was actually put in the same situation, and
I knew him a lot longer, and I became good
friends with her. When they became a couple, they had
been together two years. He cheated and I actually had
to pick him up too. And she found out eight
(08:49):
years later when they were engaged, that he had cheated
and he was still doing it over that period of time.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 10 (08:57):
And she confronted me about it, and I ended up
telling her the truth, but I lost him and her
both as friends.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Did they stay together?
Speaker 10 (09:07):
I believe that No, no, no, no, no, no they're not.
They're not together anymore. And I think this girl's in
a really sticky situation. I feel sorry for her because
I've been there and it's it's horrible. He shouldn't have done.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
That to her.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
No, if you can play it over, if you could
do this again, what would you have done tomorrow?
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Teller to carry up?
Speaker 10 (09:30):
Teller?
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Okay, okay, Thaul, you stand behind your convictions and your morals.
Thank you so much. It's a warning.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
It's a warning.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It's kids on Pristone's Kiss Ninet
Robin terarily Kip on Brisbane's Kiss ninety seven.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Three Robinary and Gibbs full disclosure, no.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Exposure, forgive me father, for I have sin.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
So you can head to our website Kiss ninety seven
three dot com dot A. You tell us your story.
It doesn't always have to be a confession.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
No, it can just be something that you've done that
you haven't.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Shared, or just a question, a question which is kind
of what today's is, like what do I do about this?
Here's the story.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
So a few years.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Ago, I probably did one of the worst things that
I have ever done, and it still gets me up inside.
But it wasn't what I did. But it's a secret
that I'm keeping for someone else. And I don't know
whether I'm doing the right thing by my friend keeping
this secret, or if I'm making it worse. I got
a call really early in the morning one day from
(00:54):
my friend. He said, I've my card is declining, my
phone is about to go flat.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I'm texting you on address.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
Please come pick me up, Like, please, don't ask any questions,
I said, no worries.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I went straight out there.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
And also this was not an isolated incident of picking
him up from random places, but when I got there, I.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Was actually picking him up from a brothel.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
And the issue is that he had a girlfriend who
also was one of my really, really good friends.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And didn't know what to do.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
I'd already told him that I'd promised I wouldn't tell anyone.
I didn't think it was my business to get involved,
and I trusted that he would tell her. And he
still hasn't told her, and it was years ago now,
So even though it happened so long ago, I just
still think about it. I'm not sure whether I'm doing
the right thing by standing by him, because I have
(01:50):
been such a good friend for him for so much longer.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Than I've known her.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
But I think I'm still at this moral standpoint of
am I making.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
The right to.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Is he still doing it like it was a long
time ago? But if that's kind of his modus operandi,
if that's how he does what he does, she would
know and neither would potentially. But then the flip side
of that right is that you don't know what goes
on behind closed doors as a negotiated relationship. But if
he was okay with it, then he would have told her.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Thirteen one oh sixty five is our number. I think
it's I think it's past the time to tell.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
It's never past the time.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
It's past the time.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
You can't, Well, it can't be because she's already this
person is feeling terrible.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Yeah, well that's that's that's her problem. Now she left
it too late. Now it's just her. The only thing
that's going to feel better is her relieving her own
guilt by telling it's not gonna it's not going to
help anyone.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
What happens if they get married and she doesn't know
that this guy has does maybe continues to do go
and seek relations with other people in other places.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
That's the moment the wedding, is it? When I say,
does anyone have any reason why this couple should be?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
That's when you stand up?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But what do you think Team one o six y
five Lauren at the morning side, I think.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
That you need to tell the girlfriend for sure?
Speaker 3 (03:06):
How would you say that because it's been such a
long time.
Speaker 6 (03:09):
Yeah, Look, if he hasn't told her and he said
he was going to tell her, he's given him plenty
of time to tell her.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But what about what about the fact that she's been
friends with the man for a lot longer like I mean,
I guess I don't know if time matters, but it
feels like they've been friends for ages and the girlfriends
and you were a friend, So doesn't she have loyalty
to the old one?
Speaker 6 (03:33):
Look if I if it was me, I want to
know if someone was cheating on me, especially in a brothel.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, it is cheating. I mean if you're not upfront
about it. I mean there are people with it because
it's like a non emotional attachment.
Speaker 6 (03:50):
Yeah, right, that almost makes it worse. That almost makes
it worse.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
Yeah, I want sometimes explain that rash that comes and goes,
you know, yes.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 6 (04:00):
He's endangering her as well.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Uh huh, all right, so definitely tell is your is
your idea?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Lauren? Absolutely all right, thank you, thanks mate.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Thirteen one oh sixty five is our number.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
So that's one for tell, one for tell us. And
he said, Nope, not tell.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I say, don't tell.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
It's too late, and I am, well, got splinters up
my butt.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
We're talking full disclosure, no exposure. And Today's stories from
a lady who's friends with a couple. She's close to
both partners. She knows the man cheated at a brothel
many years ago and has not told and is feeling
very guilty about it.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
And she's known him longer than she's known her, but
it's clearly still eating her up. Aeron of Bronia Heights.
Would you tell or not tell?
Speaker 7 (04:42):
I would tell this girl code like if if I knew,
like I want to know personally, if someone knew my
close friend knew that my man was out there with
public shady and then I found out years later and
she's tell.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Me No, these consequences to that though, erin what if
she turned on her and said he was lying and
what if he denied it?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Like what if that then becomes this big thing and
she's the one that's left out in the cold. No,
oh yes, if she's your.
Speaker 7 (05:15):
Close friend and you trust her enough, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
It's just not live. It's so what do you think?
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Thirteen one, I six five down?
Speaker 5 (05:24):
Number there is in the car now with a dilemma
of her arms.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
When do we go back to when love was love?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Like this from Stephen Sanchez who wrote this last year,
by the way, and then behold it's Robert Terry and
Kip on Kiss ninety seventy three. Robin Terry Pankibs full disclosure,
no exposure, forgive me father, for I sin Yes, today's
story is this one.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
So a few years ago, I got a call from
my friend.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
He said, my card is declining, my phone is about
to go flat, texting you and address. Please come pick
me up, like please, don't ask any questions. I said,
no worries. I went straight out there. But when I
got there, I was actually picking.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Him up from a brothel.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
And the issue is that he had a girlfriend, who
also was one of my really really good friends. Didn't
know what to do. I had already told him that
I'd promised I wouldn't tell anyone. I didn't think it
was my business to get involved, and I trusted that
he would tell her. And he still hasn't told her.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I think it's too late.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah, I know, you don't too late to tell a
lot of we're going to say, no, you've got to tell.
We have a right to know, Alex of Cleveland, what
do you reckon?
Speaker 8 (06:40):
Okay, I reckon, I reckon she has a right to know.
I definitely do. I think that the person should put
himselves in the other person shoot and that think about
how they would feel if they found out their partner
was shooting in their closest like close friend didn't tell them.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
What about how mad they'd be if they found out
that it was eight years ago or how many years
ago it was. There'll be fewurious.
Speaker 8 (07:01):
I don't blame the person. I would be so angry
if I was in those shoes that they didn't tell me.
But I would also take into consideration that they'd be
scared of losing the friendship of you know, me not
believing them, which I did hear you say to Aaron,
and I agree the person didn't believe you. Why would
you feel the need to lie about this? I feel
like is really important and that also values how close
(07:23):
your friendship is.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Then couldn't you just do it as a meeting like
and say to them, if you don't tell her by
this point in time, we're all going to come together
and we're going to talk about it. Yeah, And therefore
when you say it in that moment, she'll be able
to see his reaction and even if he's denying, if
you can eyeball someone where someone else is accusing you,
that's a bold move. Emma of Matt Gravat, what do
(07:44):
you reckon.
Speaker 9 (07:46):
Look, I think you should stay in your lane and
shut your mouth.
Speaker 10 (07:53):
It's it's been.
Speaker 9 (07:54):
Such a long time, and if I was that friend, Mark,
I would be really annoyed that you hadn't told me sooner.
And it's kind of at the point now where you
just have to let it go and let it happen
naturally and now not get yourself in trouble.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Yep.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Yeah, I love everyone so fast on with the two
women involved. I mean, while the guys listening go and
just keep talking to yourselves and just packing the car.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
But you know what is so great when we have
these sorts of scenarios, people listening often have their own
personal experience, and tomorrow of Boronia Heights, you are one
of them. What would you like to say?
Speaker 10 (08:27):
Well, I was actually put in the same situation, and
I knew him a lot longer, and I became good
friends with her. When they became a couple, they had
been together two years. He cheated and I actually had
to pick him up too. And she found out eight
(08:49):
years later when they were engaged, that he had cheated
and he was still doing it over that period of time.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 10 (08:57):
And she confronted me about it, and I ended up
telling her the truth, but I lost him and her
both as friends.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Did they stay together?
Speaker 10 (09:07):
I believe that No, no, no, no, no, no they're not.
They're not together anymore. And I think this girl's in
a really sticky situation. I feel sorry for her because
I've been there and it's it's horrible. He shouldn't have done.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
That to her.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
No, if you can play it over, if you could
do this again, what would you have done tomorrow?
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Teller to carry up?
Speaker 10 (09:30):
Teller?
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Okay, okay, Thaul, you stand behind your convictions and your morals.
Thank you so much. It's a warning.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
It's a warning.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It's kids on Pristone's Kiss Ninet
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