August 16, 2023 • 6 mins
Would You Let Your Dying Partner Sleep With Their Ex?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
With this story that's come out of I believe it's
out of the US. A guy put up an anonymous
Reddit account because he was He claims he was so
upset but it obviously couldn't put his name to his
quandary and ask for people for their opinions. And his
story goes that his wife of ten years has been
(00:21):
given nine months to live by doctor, and he says, obviously,
I'm devastated, but she sat me down and said, I've
got four to five months of normal physicality.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Right, good living to live yep.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
And what I would like to do is sleep with
my ex boyfriend, just one last time. And yeah, and
he's devastated and he's just like, what are you talking about?
And you know, she did that whole thing and go,
oh what we have is beautiful and it's emotional and
(00:55):
blah blah blah. But with him, he's he's physically better.
Did she say that basically?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yes, And so he said, now I'm left with this,
deny my wife for dying wish for my ego.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
That's not your ego.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yeah, No, It's more than just ego, isn't it, And
let her f another man that she thought was better
so so you know, what do you what do you do?
If you're him? I mean, he's it's I mean, it's
an awful decision.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
It's so far beyond let's just be friends. Yes, I
met someone else.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, it was this streaming saying what do people say online?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's it's so split most people really, Yeah, yeah, because
people are like, well, she's dying and this is what
she wants. It's a dying request.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Yeah, but the carnage she leaves behind her?
Speaker 1 (01:42):
So have you what have you thought?
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Did Shawn, my husband who died of cancer, actually make
that request?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Did he make any weird requests that not like that?
Speaker 4 (01:53):
Okay, no, I because that's where my head's immediately gone.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Like he said, could I go back to my ex wife?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Just one time?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah, just one time.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
There are natural consequences to everyone's choices. And if if someone,
if Sean had said that to me, I would have gone,
I think I would have gone, you do you boot else?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
To do it?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
You do you boo? But I cannot.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I cannot guarantee what I will feel after that, And
then that's up to you because if you know, and
then the process, the process of dying is actually really tough, right.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You need support.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
So if she chooses to do that, and then he
chooses after not be able to handle it, and she's
left on her own, that's that's the natural consequence, because
I think I do understand this is your dying wish right,
and who is going to deny that? But you still
have a say the outcome of what goes on after that. Yes,
(03:02):
and I mean, what an awful legacy to leave the people,
because when someone dies, it's not the person that dies
they're gone, Yeah, it's the rest of us that are
struggling with the awfulness.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
She's gone with a known quantity or a known quality.
As it turns out, that's worse. Yeah, but that's worse.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
But what she said with your brother or something like that,
she said something that she hadn't heard before.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I'm thirteen one oh sixty five.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I'd be really interested in what people have to say
about this, because I reckon, if you're listening, you'll have
an opinions.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, most of us will never have to make this decision, fortunately,
but yeah, thirty one oh sixty five, I think I
think you'd have to. You'd have to say, okay, you'd
have to say that you're dying wish. But I reckon
it were at me. If I think it'd be almost
part of the that'd be the first step of the
separation process of allowing to grieve someone, because you'd actually go, okay,
(03:52):
I'm not actually losing the love of my life here,
I'm actually losing this person.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Maybe she's helping.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, you can actually it'll actually begin the separation for me,
like you be started.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
We would so not be okay with this. No, you could,
you could say yes.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
But you wouldn't know it'd begin.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
It'll begin my anger and you know, it would begin
my grieving process. Right there, I reckon, you're not You're
not the person anymore.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Would you touch that person again?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I don't know that I could see, because if you're
saying that it begins the grieving process or the separation process,
then you're starting to separate, which means that all the
anger and all the stuff that comes up.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
I mean, we don't know if they have children, do
we No, No, we don't know anything about them.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
But you're competitive. It's not a crack at the title.
Something currently has the title. Get one more crack at
the title before you go, Before I can.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Just make sure that I could have been physically cruis
of ipswich. What do you think about this?
Speaker 6 (04:52):
I kind of think that it's not to cheap in
the moment, but it sounds like excuse so I can cheat.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
It's a hell of a step.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
And what happens if the doctors were wrong? There's one
thing I will.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Say about that whole process of terminal diagnosis. And you know,
doctors do the absolute best and they but they do
it statistically.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
So there are people that don't die. Yeah, and there's certainly.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
You know, the time frames are never often what you're
told they are.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Increase what you exactly?
Speaker 6 (05:27):
What if she doesn't die and she has gone and
seeing the ex boyfriend and her husband's got to live
with it? Oh?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, got to be part of the deal, wouldn't it.
You must die though.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Actually that's the deal you could strike.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
I will allow this to happen, but you must guarantee,
guarantee your death.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
And she started it well And still this is better
than talking about the Matilda's last night, keeping a cheering.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
If you're out there this morning thinking wow, who would
I pick? Wrong? Wrong,
With this story that's come out of I believe it's
out of the US. A guy put up an anonymous
Reddit account because he was He claims he was so
upset but it obviously couldn't put his name to his
quandary and ask for people for their opinions. And his
story goes that his wife of ten years has been
(00:21):
given nine months to live by doctor, and he says, obviously,
I'm devastated, but she sat me down and said, I've
got four to five months of normal physicality.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Right, good living to live yep.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
And what I would like to do is sleep with
my ex boyfriend, just one last time. And yeah, and
he's devastated and he's just like, what are you talking about?
And you know, she did that whole thing and go,
oh what we have is beautiful and it's emotional and
(00:55):
blah blah blah. But with him, he's he's physically better.
Did she say that basically?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yes, And so he said, now I'm left with this,
deny my wife for dying wish for my ego.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
That's not your ego.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yeah, No, It's more than just ego, isn't it, And
let her f another man that she thought was better
so so you know, what do you what do you do?
If you're him? I mean, he's it's I mean, it's
an awful decision.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
It's so far beyond let's just be friends. Yes, I
met someone else.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, it was this streaming saying what do people say online?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's it's so split most people really, Yeah, yeah, because
people are like, well, she's dying and this is what
she wants. It's a dying request.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Yeah, but the carnage she leaves behind her?
Speaker 1 (01:42):
So have you what have you thought?
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Did Shawn, my husband who died of cancer, actually make
that request?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Did he make any weird requests that not like that?
Speaker 4 (01:53):
Okay, no, I because that's where my head's immediately gone.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Like he said, could I go back to my ex wife?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Just one time?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah, just one time.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
There are natural consequences to everyone's choices. And if if someone,
if Sean had said that to me, I would have gone,
I think I would have gone, you do you boot else?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
To do it?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
You do you boo? But I cannot.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I cannot guarantee what I will feel after that, And
then that's up to you because if you know, and
then the process, the process of dying is actually really tough, right.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You need support.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
So if she chooses to do that, and then he
chooses after not be able to handle it, and she's
left on her own, that's that's the natural consequence, because
I think I do understand this is your dying wish right,
and who is going to deny that? But you still
have a say the outcome of what goes on after that. Yes,
(03:02):
and I mean, what an awful legacy to leave the people,
because when someone dies, it's not the person that dies
they're gone, Yeah, it's the rest of us that are
struggling with the awfulness.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
She's gone with a known quantity or a known quality.
As it turns out, that's worse. Yeah, but that's worse.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
But what she said with your brother or something like that,
she said something that she hadn't heard before.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I'm thirteen one oh sixty five.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I'd be really interested in what people have to say
about this, because I reckon, if you're listening, you'll have
an opinions.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, most of us will never have to make this decision, fortunately,
but yeah, thirty one oh sixty five, I think I
think you'd have to. You'd have to say, okay, you'd
have to say that you're dying wish. But I reckon
it were at me. If I think it'd be almost
part of the that'd be the first step of the
separation process of allowing to grieve someone, because you'd actually go, okay,
(03:52):
I'm not actually losing the love of my life here,
I'm actually losing this person.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Maybe she's helping.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, you can actually it'll actually begin the separation for me,
like you be started.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
We would so not be okay with this. No, you could,
you could say yes.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
But you wouldn't know it'd begin.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
It'll begin my anger and you know, it would begin
my grieving process. Right there, I reckon, you're not You're
not the person anymore.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Would you touch that person again?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I don't know that I could see, because if you're
saying that it begins the grieving process or the separation process,
then you're starting to separate, which means that all the
anger and all the stuff that comes up.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
I mean, we don't know if they have children, do
we No, No, we don't know anything about them.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
But you're competitive. It's not a crack at the title.
Something currently has the title. Get one more crack at
the title before you go, Before I can.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Just make sure that I could have been physically cruis
of ipswich. What do you think about this?
Speaker 6 (04:52):
I kind of think that it's not to cheap in
the moment, but it sounds like excuse so I can cheat.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
It's a hell of a step.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
And what happens if the doctors were wrong? There's one
thing I will.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Say about that whole process of terminal diagnosis. And you know,
doctors do the absolute best and they but they do
it statistically.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
So there are people that don't die. Yeah, and there's certainly.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
You know, the time frames are never often what you're
told they are.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Increase what you exactly?
Speaker 6 (05:27):
What if she doesn't die and she has gone and
seeing the ex boyfriend and her husband's got to live
with it? Oh?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, got to be part of the deal, wouldn't it.
You must die though.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Actually that's the deal you could strike.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
I will allow this to happen, but you must guarantee,
guarantee your death.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
And she started it well And still this is better
than talking about the Matilda's last night, keeping a cheering.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
If you're out there this morning thinking wow, who would
I pick? Wrong? Wrong,
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