Calling Off A Wedding: Who Keeps The Ring?

Calling Off A Wedding: Who Keeps The Ring?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Thirteen one sixty five is our number. Ifever you want
to get involved with the show.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
And I think you might want to now because I
think we really need to hear other people's experiences because sadly,
as the divorce rate is at fifty percent in this country,
a lot of people have had failed marriages.

Speaker 3 (00:14):
Yeah, it's one hundred percent in this room.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
Ye, pretty much.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
None number she's at three.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
How is that possible? Yes?

Speaker 2 (00:22):
But here we are so Yeah, Danny and Mason, who
I thought did an extraordinary job with the nine coverage,
particularly because she's said to be devastated and heartbroken. Her
relationship broke down a couple of weeks ago. She was
supposed to get married actually next weekend. Yeah, it was
going to be a destination wedding in the Hunter Valley.
People were flying in from all over the place. And

(00:42):
she called off a wedding. And we don't really know why.
But there were two requests apparently made through a third
person from her ex fiance, whose name is Todd.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
That is to the Ptah Todd the PT.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
And that is nothing like our hot Nathan though is
it really?

Speaker 3 (00:58):
Todd?

Speaker 2 (00:58):
The PT does not sound as good, that's right, as
our producer Cass's boyfriend who's also a PTE who we
call Hot Nathan.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yes, he's tarnishing. He's tarnishing the Pete reputation this bloke is.
But yeah, he's nothing like Hot Nathan.

Speaker 2 (01:10):
I digress. Yes, the two requests were from Todd that
she doesn't speak publicly, which, to her credit, she hasn't,
despite the fact that everyone else has. Yes, Daily Mail
picked up the story and ran with it, and so
have we. And the second is that she give back
the ring. Oh okay, how do you feel about that?

Speaker 3 (01:31):
Look?

Speaker 1 (01:31):
Yeah, I think in my situation, I, you know, had
the wedding for both, so that sort of the ring
becomes part of your assets or whatever when you're dividing
it all. But I do remember thinking, what a terrible investment.

Speaker 3 (01:45):
Both of those both of.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Those diamonds expensive, and you know you never get back
what you paid for him. Yes, so he's going to
you know, it's interesting that he wanted it back.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
I need to sell it.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
I guess I needed it to try and recoup some
of your losses.

Speaker 2 (02:01):
Okay, because if and we've talked about this last week,
you know, both of us said that we really shouldn't
have gone through with our first weddings. We both knew
that they were a bad mistake. If you had called
it off, would you have had the expectation to take
the ring.

Speaker 3 (02:13):
Back pre wedding, Yes, I think so.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Really, I think it's a gift.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Yeah, But it's a gift and it's also a promise, right.
It's a gift that says we're going to get married.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
That's a conditional gift it is.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
It's a promise forgetting it's you know, it's like it's
almost like a dowry back in the day. It says,
this is the gift, and we're going to get married,
and then if you don't get married, then you give
the gift back.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Because I gave back my first ring, did you, Yeah?

Speaker 4 (02:36):
I did.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
I felt like it was the right thing to do.
I wish i'd kept it. It was lovely. Yeah, And
and Lloyd, my first husband, was quite surprised together. It
didn't expect it back at all.

Speaker 3 (02:48):
But I just thought it.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
I just thought, why am I keeping this? And I
thought it might have been a bit of bad jusu
on my ac count. I mean the other two rings
I paid for my own ring when I got married
to Tony and Champaige for that, but I've kept those,
you know, kind of and I think it'll be good
for my boys, Like I might want to give it
to one of them if they want to keep passing
it one maybe they don't, but I've still held them.

(03:11):
I don't know. It's weird when it comes to rings
and does the value have any difference too?

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (03:16):
Who are so? Who owns it? Is the question? Thirteen
six five? Who owns?

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Like once it's given, is it a gift that's been
given and therefore it's done?

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Or is it a promise and it should come.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Back and it's And it's kind of like, I don't
reckon most men would be wanting to wear it. It's
not like it's going to it's purely just sounds slightly
right for me unless you're in.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
The Unless you're in the NBA and you want to
put it into an earring, probably not going.

Speaker 4 (03:41):
It's harder to get rid of these days because you
should just hop them off, didn't it a places like
cash converters and stuff, But now you've got to go
on marketplace and list it. And one of my favorite
things to do is to actually go on to marketplace
and look at engagement rings really because we always sometimes
get you know, these soul stories, people just saying, but
you probably don't want it because it's been bad luck.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
And in that newsroom, you're a celebrant. Have you ever
had a wedding called off just beforehand?

Speaker 3 (04:08):
I have.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
I've had two just yeah in Usually they're like a
month out, yeah, where they found out information that wasn't
very favorable.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
You know, the rings went back.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
Yeah, I think one of them did and the other
one kept it.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
Oh okay, so it's yet split