December 18, 2025 • 42 mins
At 101 years old, Deborah discovered a box she'd stashed away a lifetime ago. What was inside reignited an old love and turned her life upside down.
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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Pushkin. Hey, you picked up the phone. Very spontaneous. Do
you think I'm spontaneous? No, nothing spontaneous about you. I'm
pretty spontaneous. I live in Minnesota, Minnesota.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I got married. Oh, while I was at the shopping mill,
I bought a parrot.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
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Speaker 2 (00:44):
Oh did you hear that in the background?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
What Jackie Cohen? Oh did you hear that?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Jackie Coin?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
What she hung up on you? I know she did
imaginary parrot from Pushkin Industries. I'm Jonathan Goldstein and this
is Heavyweight Today's episode. Deborah right after the break.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Hello, Hello, is this Barbara?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
No, this is Deborah.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
How are you related to Barbara?
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I don't know who Barbara is.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Although this might sound like a classic cheech and chong routine,
it's actually me phoning Debrah. Deborah, you should know, is
one hundred and two years old. Yet it is I
who is having the senior moment. Oh my, I'm so sorry.
For some reason, I think I thought your name was Barbara.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Hey, I've lived long enough I could take any name.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I'm phoning Deborah. Her name is Deborah because she made
a discovery recently that has turned her life on its head.
It all began with a phone call from her daughter Lee.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
She called me several months ago and she said, Mom,
given your age, I'd like to help you clear out
your storage room. So I said fine, When are you coming?
She said? Now.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
The storage room is a room in Deborah's Bronx apartment.
She affectionately calls it the snake pit. It's where expired
vitamins and broken kitchen appliances collecked well. Cleaning it out,
her daughter Lee saw something that caught her.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Eye, and she walked out of the storage room with
the cardboard box.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Written across the top of the box were Debrah's initials,
and beside those initials, underlined in black ink, were the
words go through. When Debra lifted the lid, she uncovered
something she'd stashed away long ago and had never gone through.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Two hundred fifty six letters written to me when I
was twenty one.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
The letters, tied up in ribboned bundles were from Deborah's
first love, a man named Jerry Robbins.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
We were engaged to be married. He okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Jerry was killed in World War Two on Christmas Eve
nineteen forty four.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
My future was shredded as well as the man that
I loved.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
And had you forgotten about these letters?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I didn't forget. I just found his death so disturbing
I couldn't take it. So I sequestered that aspect of
my prior life away and never looked at it again.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
She has a really powerful ability to flip the switch.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
As she calls it.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
This is Deborah's daughter Lee.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Put it away, not think about it.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
And that's just what Debra did. To escape the grief
of Jerry's death. She threw herself into graduate school, got
a master's degree in social work, and from there life
just kept unspooling. She married a man named Irving, who
was an attorney and a good provider, and together they
raised three kids. All the while, through sixty four years
(05:11):
of marriage, through every move, every new chapter, Deborah kept
the box with its lid closed shut until recently, nearly
eighty years after Jerry's death and over a decade after
the death of her husband Irving, Deborah was finally ready
(05:33):
to open the box and start reading.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Every letter, every postcard, and every V mail email V mail.
The letter V as in victory right right.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Will you listen to me? V? Mail, as I only
later learned, was a method the government used to get
soldiers letters to their families. And as Deborah read these letters,
something began to happen.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
I fell love with Jerry again.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Not only did the box contain Jerry's handwritten letters, but
also a number of his poems and short stories. Jerry,
Deborah tells me, was an aspiring writer with big dreams.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
His absolute motivation was to write, write, and compose. If
he had a pencil or a pen in hand, he
seek out paper to write on.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
The sheer volume of letters their depth and detail attest
to this, and each day, sometimes all through the day,
Deborah would read and reread Jerry's words, and as she did,
she felt him return to her. It was like time
had collapsed.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
How can ae hundred and one year old woman whose
hormones have long since shriveled fall in love again.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Debra's daughter Lee noticed the change that came over her mother,
how re energized she'd become, and Lee thought that was wonderful.
To a point.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
There's a thin line, because she started slipping into what
we would call Jerry Land.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Oh what is that?
Speaker 5 (07:34):
That is? Not label it too much, but a kind
of overarching obsession with all things Jerry.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
All she did was live in Jerry Land.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
This is Debra's other daughter, Lauren.
Speaker 6 (07:52):
And every time I called her up or would see her,
it would be Jerry said this, and Jerry said that.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
She would spend all my conversations with her just talking
about Jerry.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
It sounds a little bit of the way you just
describe it as like, you know, like when a teenager's
in love. You know, yeah, they're just drawing like the
person's name and tarts, you know, in their notebook or something.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
Yeah, you just can't help but talk about it all
the time.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Lauren says their mother stopped watching movies, reading books, attending
the classes she took online.
Speaker 6 (08:29):
I was concerned about it. Lee was concerned about it.
We all kept saying, here, mom, here's a great book,
read this, watch this. Why don't you invite people over?
And it was truly like she was in a bubble.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Also concerning to Lauren is how since the discovery of
the letters, Jerry has threatened to eclipse her late father Irving.
For proof, you need look no further than Deborah's living room.
On an entry table by the door is a photoph
of Irving. But beside her favorite chair is one of
Jerry sitting.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
Right next to her, and my father is off to
the side.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
What the hell?
Speaker 1 (09:22):
How does that make you feel?
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Weird? Strange?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Deborah, for her part, insists her feelings for Jerry have
no bearing on the love she feels for her late husband.
But this passionate side of Deborah is new to Lauren.
Speaker 6 (09:44):
They always say, we become more of ourselves the older
we get.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Do you think so?
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I think so, don't you.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I'd like to think so. Yeah. I mean it certainly
seems like with your mother. I mean she continues to grow,
you know.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
She does.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
There's a great line I love to quote and it's
from Metallica, Metallica, the heavy metal Dads, and they one
of the lines is my lifestyle determines.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
My death style. And I think it's a great line.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
Like not she's not dying, but you know, I think
we just keep becoming more. Yeah, and oh there, I'm
sorry for all these texts.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
My husband just got nominated for two Emmys.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Oh my goodness, that's fantastic.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
As it happens, Lauren's husband is the award winning documentary
filmmaker Joe Berlinger. Among his work some kind of monster,
an exploration of Metallica's experience in group therapy.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
He just got dominated in My whole family is like, Yay,
that's great, your grads.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Good for him, But you know, it's also good as good,
if not better than being nominated for TV's most prestigious award.
Helping people. And right now I'm going to help Deborah
with something she's taken to calling her mandate.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
When I was a daughter, I had an obligation to
my parents, as a student, to my teacher in my school,
as a wife and a mother to my family. But
now that I've lived this long, my mandate is to
(11:51):
do something with these amazing letters.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Deborah hopes to honor Jerry by giving his writing an audience.
It occurs to me that I have an audience, and
perhaps if Deborah and I read through the letters together,
it would fulfill her man and allow her to move on.
I put the idea to Lee. Do you think like
getting something out there into the world would allow her
(12:19):
to leave Jerry Land?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (12:22):
I do, because he'll always be twenty one. He'll always
be a writer who never got to live his potential.
So there's this quality of stuckness or stasis getting his
work out there. It's almost like she gets to the.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
End, can you come to my apartment?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Well, I'm in Minnesota.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
I wouldn't fly out where you are, but if you
can come to my home, I would be journally grateful
for as long as I last.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I mean, I would love to see the letters, and
it would be uh, it would be really nice to
meet you in person.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
Okay, mister Goldsting, So come up, yeah, said the old
lighty to the young man.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
And so it looks like this fifty six year old
young man is heading off to New York because, like
the writing on the box says, maybe the only way
out is to go through. And speaking of going through,
it's time for you to grease up the wheels on
your shopping cart and go through some ads. Two hundred
(14:10):
and fifty six letters. It took several weeks for my
producer Phoebe and me to read them all. Many of
the letters were missing dates and locations, but we puzzled
our way through, doing our best to bring chronological order,
and as we did, a life emerged and a portrait
of the young man who lived it. Went through all
two hundred and fifty six of the letters.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Oh boy, so you know Jerry.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Oh yeah, So let's uh, why don't we just start
off by reading the first letter?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Here goes.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Dear deb finding myself with a few spare moments.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Jerry's first letters are from the spring of nineteen forty,
nearly four years before he enlisted.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
My mother advised me that she doesn't mind my saying
in your house till all hours of the night. She
likes you quite a bit, which practically makes it unanimous.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Deborah and Jerry had been friends since their elementary school
days in Brooklyn, but their friendship was beginning to blossom
into something more. What were you guys doing until all
hours of the night?
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Talking as passionate as it was, it was never consummated,
which is my regret. It is a regret, oh intensely so.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Deborah says she was waiting for marriage.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
But we would have had a hot time together. I
forgot that I'm being cool.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Jerry over an hour away by subway, and before texting
emails and the prevalence of phone calls, weekend rendezvous were
planned out over letters. Jerry's writing is clever. In one missive,
he invites Deborah out to a show for New Year's Eve.
When she doesn't give him a straight answer, he sends
a follow up to help you make a decision, and
(16:31):
for your convenience, you will find on page four of
this letter a ballot. Just check one and mail within
the next week. The ballot shows two options, yes and yes.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Be it.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
In his letters or his short stories, Jerry had away
with a closing line. His fiction often showcased an ironic
reveal in the final sentence. In one story, the piecenake
babbling in the mental institution turns out to be a
former war commissioner. In another, the motorist who stops to
help a stranded world turns out to be an executioner
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on his way to put the woman's son to death.
They were like Twilight Zone episodes. Almost twenty years before
the show went on the air, Jerry shared drafts of
these stories along with poems. Deborah appreciated his lyrical turns
of phrase.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
I call them Jerry is instead of war, he says,
man made madness instead of bullet hot sperm of death.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
How is that.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
Hot sperm of death?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
I'm no poet, but it strikes me that the mighty
Metallica itself would be proud to name an album something
so in one's face. As a student at Columbia studying
to be a writer, Jerry was exempt from the draft,
(18:19):
but in the winter of nineteen forty three, he decided
to leave school and enlist. Aside from his parents, Deborah
was the first person he told. Since one of my
guiding rules, he wrote, has always been to thine own
self be true. I feel I can't stay out any
longer just paying lip service to my beliefs. From boot camp,
(18:42):
Jerry's letters arrived in Deborah's mailbox every day. His clever
short stories with the tidy twilight's own endings gave way
to reportage. Jerry detailed the eccentric characters he met, the
sergeant with a jaw like a rock, the chaplain who
was a secret lush, but he also shared his feelings.
In one letter, he described the first time he stood
(19:04):
before a mirror and saw himself in uniform, how it
gave him chills. As training became more grueling and the
thought of war more present and real, Jerry sought refuge
in Deborah, summoning her presence during lonely evenings at camp
or long marches in the heat. I didn't mind walking
because I wasn't alone. You were with me, walking by
(19:28):
my side and keeping me company All the time. We
spoke about a thousand things, my furlough, the invasion, what
we're going to do together when I come back. I
recited poetry to you, and when no one was watching,
I put my arms around you, held you close to me,
and whispered I love you into your ears. Jerry and
(19:58):
Deborah created a ritual which they enacted at ten o'clock
each evening. Jerry called it their nightly meeting. When the
hour struck, they dropped whatever they were doing, and in
the absence of a telephone, each would simply think of
the other. I close my eyes, Jerry rode. The world
fades away, and then it's now.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Now was one of our secret words. The only thing
that was real was here and now. Through the ebony
of night, I reach out for you, and from across
(20:45):
the wide expense of c you come, your eyes flashing,
your body warm and curved. This is the only place,
this is the only time here and now.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Do you want to read another letter?
Speaker 1 (21:17):
This one will be a special one.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Sure, So here I go again, doing things cruelly and
probably very badly, Honey, I want to get engaged on
my furlough. I needn't add that I'm anxiously and eagerly
awaiting your reply.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Just say yes.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
And here Deborah recites from memory her reply from over
eighty years ago.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
My answer to you is yes, yes, Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Back at bootcamp, time marched on, and in the fall
of nineteen forty four, Jerry received notice he was going
to be deployed. But before his deployment, he was granted
a final furlough, so he went home to see Deborah,
where he gave her a ring. Together they made plans
for the future, talked about everything that lay ahead once
(22:17):
he was home for good. Then, standing on the subway
platform in Washington Heights, they said their last goodbye.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I couldn't almost feel it. I remember kissing him and saying,
this isn't good. I don't know what's happening. And I
went into the train and I cried hysterically all the
(22:46):
way till the last stop.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
On that train, Jerry's company was shipped off to England,
where American soldiers were preparing to join the fight in
mainland Europe. Unbeknownst to them, they were destined for one
of the deadliest campaigns of World War Two, the Battle
of the Bulge, but they never made it there. Jerry
(23:13):
was among more than twenty two hundred men loaded onto
a troop ship on Christmas Eve. The ship was bound
for Cherbourg, France, just a short trip across the English Channel,
but hours later, just five miles from the entrance to
the harbor, a torpedo strock. A survivor described the slender
silver missile cutting through the water and colliding with the
(23:34):
ship as having shaken the vessel from stern to stern.
Hundreds of men in the lower decks were killed instantly
as the sea rushed into the massive gash. Those who
made it to the upper decks weren't much better off.
They'd not been briefed on how to lower the lifeboats
or free the rafts that might have carried them to safety.
(23:56):
That they were told was the job of the crew.
But the crew, a Belgian outfit, spoke little English and
had little loyalty to the American troops aboard, And so
it happened that many crew members and in ship, while
the Americans aboard still had no idea they were slowly sinking.
Many soldiers were presumed to have gone down with the ship.
(24:19):
Others were lost to injuries in hypothermia. In the end,
seven hundred and sixty three men died. Jerry was one
of them. After six months of training, he saw one
day of war. The scale of death was so needless,
(24:41):
the failed emergency response so poor that for decades the
US government covered up the details. Survivors risked losing their
veteran benefits if they talked, and so when a family
was notified that they'd lost a loved one, only the
barest details were shared.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I was in Jerry's parents' home. His mother and father
were in the room. They handed me that telegram.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
In the months before he died, looking towards the war
he was about to enter, Jerry wrote a poem, all
I ask for God in the brief second before eternity
swallows me up a glimpse of the world that is
to be where no man need make a prayer like mine?
Then will I know there is meaning amidst this man
(25:33):
made madness.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
In a certain way, I've never verbalized this, but in
a certain way. The discovery of those letters have turned
my life upside down, because I don't feel as happy
(26:03):
as I used to feel. I really don't.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
It's the first time I've heard Debra say this. I
thought for Deborah, jerry Land was a happy escape, and
it seems it can be. But there's sadness there too.
After discovering the box, Deborah found herself having nightmares. The
letters abruptly end in nineteen forty four, so in place
of an actual ending, Deborah's mindcrafted its own. She dreamt
(26:30):
of Jerry in the water. She dreamt of him frozen
in the English Channel, and it was like a piece
of Deborah was stuck there with him. Recently, though, I
learned something that might help Deborah to work herself free.
A few months ago, a genealogist friend of the family
(26:53):
was doing some digging and turned up something surprising, something
that Debora never knew. Jerry's body wasn't in the English Channel,
nor was it buried somewhere in Europe. Jerry's body had
actually been repatriated back to America and interred in a
Jewish cemetery called Mount Lebanon, And it turns out the
(27:14):
cemetery is not an hour's drive from Deborah's apartment. To
move on from jerry Land, maybe Deborah needs more than
just to revisit the past, or honor the past. Maybe
she needs to grieve it. Leaving the house at one
hundred and two is not so easily done, and Deborah
(27:35):
has yet to visit Jerry's grave. I ask if it
might be something we can do together.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Anything that brings me closer to him some game.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
After the break Jerry. Just as I'm about to book
(28:12):
a minivan for our visit to the cemetery, I receive
an invitation to a video conference. Hello, Hey, sorry, I
had to I guess log in. Debra's Emmy Award winning
son in law, Joe Berlinger, also wants to come to
the cemetery to film for his own project about Debra.
Speaker 4 (28:35):
I mean, we're all such huge fans of Heavyweight that
we're so excited that you're engaged.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Yeah, I mean, right back at you. We you know,
we love what you do. So we have I a
pet hamster and my fanny pack. Allow me to explain
my lack of enthusiasm about Joe's participation.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
You know, when I go out and I do something
for Netflix or whatever, it's a little The.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
World of documentary is a hierarchy that breaks down thusly,
Netflix document entries the top floor, Penthouse Suite Audio documentaries
the underground parking garage where audio documentarians park their used
Ford fiestas. So as much as I love Joe's work,
(29:23):
let's just say Metallica doesn't have two lead guitarists. Let's
just say it only has one. And according to the Internet,
his name is Kirkley Hammett. And on this documentary shoot,
I'm the Kirk.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
It's not like we're going to be dueling interviewers or
anything like that.
Speaker 7 (29:44):
I want to assure you of that.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
I just want to be a fly on the wall
and observe what's happening. Canadian etiquette dictates my not saying no,
but I will be documenting you, Joe Berlinger documenting me
as I document Debra. On a sunny morning in October,
(30:09):
we all meet at Debra's Hello Hi.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Debrah is seated by the window, wearing a colorful kerchief
around her neck. The sunlight illuminates her shoulder length white
hair in a puffy halo.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
I'd like to say a few words, if that's okay.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Of course, Debrah has prepared a speech about Jerry that
she'd like to recite at his gravesite. In fact, a
few days earlier, she left a phone message saying it
would be four minutes long, suggesting she'd already timed it
and practiced it just to get it all right. My
worry is that with a speech already committed to memory,
(30:50):
Deborah might have already decided how and how much she
wants to feel.
Speaker 4 (30:57):
Yep, thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
We load into the van Deborah, her aid Hove, her
daughter Lee, and my producer Phoebe. Joe seats himself up front.
The papa ostensibly its so he can silently record Deborah
and me in the seats behind him silently Jonathan, what
(31:19):
are we doing today?
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Well?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Being questioned on one's own podcast is not unlike being
strapped into a baby seat in one's own fourteen seater van,
which might I add, one paid for. Rather than demanding
that everyone in the van pause their various recording devices
so I can throw a full on Kirkley hammet level
artistic tantrum, I instead do this. We are heading off
(31:49):
to the Queen's Cemetery. I obey my master master. That's
a Metallica reference. We ride through Washington Heights where Jerry
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grew up, past the grounds of the World's Fair where
he and Deborah spent many a summer's afternoon.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
That was the greatest states we ever had together.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
They marveled over futuristic architecture, the debut of the first
television Portraits of a Hopeful Future. When we arrive at
the cemetery, we consult the map. The cemetery is so
(32:42):
large that it has streets, and the streets have names.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
Jerry's not on Paradise Savenue, whis he actually is?
Speaker 7 (32:52):
Just on he is?
Speaker 3 (32:54):
How about that?
Speaker 8 (33:00):
Okay, we're ready to go.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
Oh okay, I got to know.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
We all get out of the car. According to the map,
Jerry's grave isn't far. Their brousade wheels her towards the
isle of tombstones. Okay.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
What's going through my mind now is a letter from
Jerry saying there's so many things I want to do
with you.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
Oh my, oh there.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Oh and suddenly there it is the headstone beloved son
and dear brother, Private Jerome Robins.
Speaker 8 (33:51):
Jerry, Oh God, do.
Speaker 7 (34:07):
You want to do this here? Okay, can get cherry.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
We brought along the cottage. If you wanted to say it, you.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
Don't have to bring it to me.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
I know it.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Okay, Yeah, love for you.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
To say, sure, I love my career.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
When she's finished with the prayer for the dead, Deborah
remains quiet. But then something happens, something she hadn't planned
for or prepared for. Taking in the sight of all
those tombstones, she just starts talking a.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
What a waste? This one nineteen, this beloved one twenty two,
the other one twenty No more, No more wars, Please please,
no more wars. There are too many beautiful, healthy, young
(35:34):
veterans who aligned up here and probably never had a
chance to live. What thieves warmongers are. Warmongers are thieves
of life that was never lived. Man made madness, man
(36:01):
made madness. Okay, I said, enough sare.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Deborah will later tell me that she surprised herself for
all the words she'd prepared. These words, she said, came
from the guts to get through her long life. Deborah
learned to box up the pain and store it neatly away.
But maybe if you live long enough, everything, even those
buried things, rise to the surface again, searching for light.
Speaker 4 (36:56):
See one more step, I know.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
We all load into the van and settle back in
for the journey back to the Bronx. How are you feeling.
Speaker 4 (37:12):
I thought it would.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
Be painful, and it wasn't painful. I got a refill
of energy. It was a little bit of steiling from
his strength. And that really came from being with Jerry.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
A young man at a time when he needed love
most conjured a spectral companion to journey by his side. Now,
almost a century later, an old woman does the same.
It's the sort of ironic twist that could have flowed
from Jerry's pen.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
Hey, Joe wants some nuts, aura banana? What about a banana?
Speaker 1 (38:11):
Back in the van, Joe reminds Deborah that it's his daughter,
Deborah's granddaughter's thirty first birthday.
Speaker 4 (38:18):
Oh that's right.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Should we call her? Huh?
Speaker 1 (38:22):
Yes, When she gets home, Deborah will return some phone calls,
maybe take a nap. All the little things that make
up a life, all the little things that make up
to hear and now, happy.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Birthday, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you. Off.
Speaker 6 (39:27):
Now that the furnitures returning to its goodwill home, Now
that the last month's rent is skating with.
Speaker 4 (39:40):
The damage to possum, take this moment to dissolve, if
we meant it, if we talk.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
We felt around for five from things that accidentally talk.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
This episode of Heavyweight was produced by Phoebe Flanagan and
me Jonathan Goldstein. Our senior producer is Khalila holt Our.
Supervising producer is Stevie Lane. Editorial guidance from Emily Condon.
Special thanks to Chris Neary, Lucy Sullivan, Ben Nattihaffrey and
Greta Cone. Special thanks also to Daria O'Connor, Jack Eiferman,
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and Alan Andrade. The author of the book Leopoldville A
Tragedy Too Long Secret, which is a great read if
you want to learn more about the sinking of Jerry's ship.
Debra is publishing a collection of Jerry's writing that will
soon be available on Amazon. You can find more information
about the book at waitformeworld dot com. Her daughter Lee
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has been working on a screenplay about Debra and Jerry.
She's hosting a live read of the script on January
twentieth at Jazz Forum in Tarrytown, New York. As for Joe,
he has two Netflix documentaries coming out early next year.
Emmamonger mixed the episode with original music by Christine Fellows,
John K. Sampson, Blue Dot Sessions, Bobby Lord and Emma Munger.
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Additional scoring by Chris Zabriski. Our theme song is by
the Weaker Than's courtesy of Epitaph Records. This is the
end of our season, the final episode, but we'll be
back in the spring with some more fun stuff, So
keep an ear out and we've got a new season
coming your way next fall. So if you have a
story for us, don't be withholding okay, email us at
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Heavyweight at Pushkin dot FM. Happy holidays to all, and
thank you for your continued support and listenership. I'm Jonathan
Goldstein Tata Chow. For now adieu. Don't use that stuff
at the end, but you could put that part in.
You could part You could put in the part of
me saying don't use that stuff at the end, and
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then you can put in the part where I'm saying
don't use this stuff. Okay. It'll be fun
Pushkin. Hey, you picked up the phone. Very spontaneous. Do
you think I'm spontaneous? No, nothing spontaneous about you. I'm
pretty spontaneous. I live in Minnesota, Minnesota.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I got married. Oh, while I was at the shopping mill,
I bought a parrot.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Oh wait one.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Second, chicken lever.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Oh did you hear that in the background?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
What Jackie Cohen? Oh did you hear that?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Jackie Coin?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
What she hung up on you? I know she did
imaginary parrot from Pushkin Industries. I'm Jonathan Goldstein and this
is Heavyweight Today's episode. Deborah right after the break.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Hello, Hello, is this Barbara?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
No, this is Deborah.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
How are you related to Barbara?
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I don't know who Barbara is.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Although this might sound like a classic cheech and chong routine,
it's actually me phoning Debrah. Deborah, you should know, is
one hundred and two years old. Yet it is I
who is having the senior moment. Oh my, I'm so sorry.
For some reason, I think I thought your name was Barbara.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Hey, I've lived long enough I could take any name.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I'm phoning Deborah. Her name is Deborah because she made
a discovery recently that has turned her life on its head.
It all began with a phone call from her daughter Lee.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
She called me several months ago and she said, Mom,
given your age, I'd like to help you clear out
your storage room. So I said fine, When are you coming?
She said? Now.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
The storage room is a room in Deborah's Bronx apartment.
She affectionately calls it the snake pit. It's where expired
vitamins and broken kitchen appliances collecked well. Cleaning it out,
her daughter Lee saw something that caught her.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Eye, and she walked out of the storage room with
the cardboard box.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Written across the top of the box were Debrah's initials,
and beside those initials, underlined in black ink, were the
words go through. When Debra lifted the lid, she uncovered
something she'd stashed away long ago and had never gone through.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Two hundred fifty six letters written to me when I
was twenty one.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
The letters, tied up in ribboned bundles were from Deborah's
first love, a man named Jerry Robbins.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
We were engaged to be married. He okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Jerry was killed in World War Two on Christmas Eve
nineteen forty four.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
My future was shredded as well as the man that
I loved.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
And had you forgotten about these letters?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I didn't forget. I just found his death so disturbing
I couldn't take it. So I sequestered that aspect of
my prior life away and never looked at it again.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
She has a really powerful ability to flip the switch.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
As she calls it.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
This is Deborah's daughter Lee.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Put it away, not think about it.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
And that's just what Debra did. To escape the grief
of Jerry's death. She threw herself into graduate school, got
a master's degree in social work, and from there life
just kept unspooling. She married a man named Irving, who
was an attorney and a good provider, and together they
raised three kids. All the while, through sixty four years
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of marriage, through every move, every new chapter, Deborah kept
the box with its lid closed shut until recently, nearly
eighty years after Jerry's death and over a decade after
the death of her husband Irving, Deborah was finally ready
(05:33):
to open the box and start reading.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Every letter, every postcard, and every V mail email V mail.
The letter V as in victory right right.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Will you listen to me? V? Mail, as I only
later learned, was a method the government used to get
soldiers letters to their families. And as Deborah read these letters,
something began to happen.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
I fell love with Jerry again.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Not only did the box contain Jerry's handwritten letters, but
also a number of his poems and short stories. Jerry,
Deborah tells me, was an aspiring writer with big dreams.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
His absolute motivation was to write, write, and compose. If
he had a pencil or a pen in hand, he
seek out paper to write on.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
The sheer volume of letters their depth and detail attest
to this, and each day, sometimes all through the day,
Deborah would read and reread Jerry's words, and as she did,
she felt him return to her. It was like time
had collapsed.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
How can ae hundred and one year old woman whose
hormones have long since shriveled fall in love again.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Debra's daughter Lee noticed the change that came over her mother,
how re energized she'd become, and Lee thought that was wonderful.
To a point.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
There's a thin line, because she started slipping into what
we would call Jerry Land.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Oh what is that?
Speaker 5 (07:34):
That is? Not label it too much, but a kind
of overarching obsession with all things Jerry.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
All she did was live in Jerry Land.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
This is Debra's other daughter, Lauren.
Speaker 6 (07:52):
And every time I called her up or would see her,
it would be Jerry said this, and Jerry said that.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
She would spend all my conversations with her just talking
about Jerry.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
It sounds a little bit of the way you just
describe it as like, you know, like when a teenager's
in love. You know, yeah, they're just drawing like the
person's name and tarts, you know, in their notebook or something.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
Yeah, you just can't help but talk about it all
the time.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Lauren says their mother stopped watching movies, reading books, attending
the classes she took online.
Speaker 6 (08:29):
I was concerned about it. Lee was concerned about it.
We all kept saying, here, mom, here's a great book,
read this, watch this. Why don't you invite people over?
And it was truly like she was in a bubble.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Also concerning to Lauren is how since the discovery of
the letters, Jerry has threatened to eclipse her late father Irving.
For proof, you need look no further than Deborah's living room.
On an entry table by the door is a photoph
of Irving. But beside her favorite chair is one of
Jerry sitting.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
Right next to her, and my father is off to
the side.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
What the hell?
Speaker 1 (09:22):
How does that make you feel?
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Weird? Strange?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Deborah, for her part, insists her feelings for Jerry have
no bearing on the love she feels for her late husband.
But this passionate side of Deborah is new to Lauren.
Speaker 6 (09:44):
They always say, we become more of ourselves the older
we get.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Do you think so?
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I think so, don't you.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I'd like to think so. Yeah. I mean it certainly
seems like with your mother. I mean she continues to grow,
you know.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
She does.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
There's a great line I love to quote and it's
from Metallica, Metallica, the heavy metal Dads, and they one
of the lines is my lifestyle determines.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
My death style. And I think it's a great line.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
Like not she's not dying, but you know, I think
we just keep becoming more. Yeah, and oh there, I'm
sorry for all these texts.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
My husband just got nominated for two Emmys.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Oh my goodness, that's fantastic.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
As it happens, Lauren's husband is the award winning documentary
filmmaker Joe Berlinger. Among his work some kind of monster,
an exploration of Metallica's experience in group therapy.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
He just got dominated in My whole family is like, Yay,
that's great, your grads.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Good for him, But you know, it's also good as good,
if not better than being nominated for TV's most prestigious award.
Helping people. And right now I'm going to help Deborah
with something she's taken to calling her mandate.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
When I was a daughter, I had an obligation to
my parents, as a student, to my teacher in my school,
as a wife and a mother to my family. But
now that I've lived this long, my mandate is to
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do something with these amazing letters.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Deborah hopes to honor Jerry by giving his writing an audience.
It occurs to me that I have an audience, and
perhaps if Deborah and I read through the letters together,
it would fulfill her man and allow her to move on.
I put the idea to Lee. Do you think like
getting something out there into the world would allow her
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to leave Jerry Land?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (12:22):
I do, because he'll always be twenty one. He'll always
be a writer who never got to live his potential.
So there's this quality of stuckness or stasis getting his
work out there. It's almost like she gets to the.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
End, can you come to my apartment?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Well, I'm in Minnesota.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
I wouldn't fly out where you are, but if you
can come to my home, I would be journally grateful
for as long as I last.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I mean, I would love to see the letters, and
it would be uh, it would be really nice to
meet you in person.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
Okay, mister Goldsting, So come up, yeah, said the old
lighty to the young man.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
And so it looks like this fifty six year old
young man is heading off to New York because, like
the writing on the box says, maybe the only way
out is to go through. And speaking of going through,
it's time for you to grease up the wheels on
your shopping cart and go through some ads. Two hundred
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and fifty six letters. It took several weeks for my
producer Phoebe and me to read them all. Many of
the letters were missing dates and locations, but we puzzled
our way through, doing our best to bring chronological order,
and as we did, a life emerged and a portrait
of the young man who lived it. Went through all
two hundred and fifty six of the letters.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Oh boy, so you know Jerry.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Oh yeah, So let's uh, why don't we just start
off by reading the first letter?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Here goes.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Dear deb finding myself with a few spare moments.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Jerry's first letters are from the spring of nineteen forty,
nearly four years before he enlisted.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
My mother advised me that she doesn't mind my saying
in your house till all hours of the night. She
likes you quite a bit, which practically makes it unanimous.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Deborah and Jerry had been friends since their elementary school
days in Brooklyn, but their friendship was beginning to blossom
into something more. What were you guys doing until all
hours of the night?
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Talking as passionate as it was, it was never consummated,
which is my regret. It is a regret, oh intensely so.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Deborah says she was waiting for marriage.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
But we would have had a hot time together. I
forgot that I'm being cool.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Jerry over an hour away by subway, and before texting
emails and the prevalence of phone calls, weekend rendezvous were
planned out over letters. Jerry's writing is clever. In one missive,
he invites Deborah out to a show for New Year's Eve.
When she doesn't give him a straight answer, he sends
a follow up to help you make a decision, and
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for your convenience, you will find on page four of
this letter a ballot. Just check one and mail within
the next week. The ballot shows two options, yes and yes.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Be it.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
In his letters or his short stories, Jerry had away
with a closing line. His fiction often showcased an ironic
reveal in the final sentence. In one story, the piecenake
babbling in the mental institution turns out to be a
former war commissioner. In another, the motorist who stops to
help a stranded world turns out to be an executioner
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on his way to put the woman's son to death.
They were like Twilight Zone episodes. Almost twenty years before
the show went on the air, Jerry shared drafts of
these stories along with poems. Deborah appreciated his lyrical turns
of phrase.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
I call them Jerry is instead of war, he says,
man made madness instead of bullet hot sperm of death.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
How is that.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
Hot sperm of death?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
I'm no poet, but it strikes me that the mighty
Metallica itself would be proud to name an album something
so in one's face. As a student at Columbia studying
to be a writer, Jerry was exempt from the draft,
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but in the winter of nineteen forty three, he decided
to leave school and enlist. Aside from his parents, Deborah
was the first person he told. Since one of my
guiding rules, he wrote, has always been to thine own
self be true. I feel I can't stay out any
longer just paying lip service to my beliefs. From boot camp,
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Jerry's letters arrived in Deborah's mailbox every day. His clever
short stories with the tidy twilight's own endings gave way
to reportage. Jerry detailed the eccentric characters he met, the
sergeant with a jaw like a rock, the chaplain who
was a secret lush, but he also shared his feelings.
In one letter, he described the first time he stood
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before a mirror and saw himself in uniform, how it
gave him chills. As training became more grueling and the
thought of war more present and real, Jerry sought refuge
in Deborah, summoning her presence during lonely evenings at camp
or long marches in the heat. I didn't mind walking
because I wasn't alone. You were with me, walking by
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my side and keeping me company All the time. We
spoke about a thousand things, my furlough, the invasion, what
we're going to do together when I come back. I
recited poetry to you, and when no one was watching,
I put my arms around you, held you close to me,
and whispered I love you into your ears. Jerry and
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Deborah created a ritual which they enacted at ten o'clock
each evening. Jerry called it their nightly meeting. When the
hour struck, they dropped whatever they were doing, and in
the absence of a telephone, each would simply think of
the other. I close my eyes, Jerry rode. The world
fades away, and then it's now.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Now was one of our secret words. The only thing
that was real was here and now. Through the ebony
of night, I reach out for you, and from across
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the wide expense of c you come, your eyes flashing,
your body warm and curved. This is the only place,
this is the only time here and now.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Do you want to read another letter?
Speaker 1 (21:17):
This one will be a special one.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Sure, So here I go again, doing things cruelly and
probably very badly, Honey, I want to get engaged on
my furlough. I needn't add that I'm anxiously and eagerly
awaiting your reply.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Just say yes.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
And here Deborah recites from memory her reply from over
eighty years ago.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
My answer to you is yes, yes, Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Back at bootcamp, time marched on, and in the fall
of nineteen forty four, Jerry received notice he was going
to be deployed. But before his deployment, he was granted
a final furlough, so he went home to see Deborah,
where he gave her a ring. Together they made plans
for the future, talked about everything that lay ahead once
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he was home for good. Then, standing on the subway
platform in Washington Heights, they said their last goodbye.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I couldn't almost feel it. I remember kissing him and saying,
this isn't good. I don't know what's happening. And I
went into the train and I cried hysterically all the
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way till the last stop.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
On that train, Jerry's company was shipped off to England,
where American soldiers were preparing to join the fight in
mainland Europe. Unbeknownst to them, they were destined for one
of the deadliest campaigns of World War Two, the Battle
of the Bulge, but they never made it there. Jerry
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was among more than twenty two hundred men loaded onto
a troop ship on Christmas Eve. The ship was bound
for Cherbourg, France, just a short trip across the English Channel,
but hours later, just five miles from the entrance to
the harbor, a torpedo strock. A survivor described the slender
silver missile cutting through the water and colliding with the
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ship as having shaken the vessel from stern to stern.
Hundreds of men in the lower decks were killed instantly
as the sea rushed into the massive gash. Those who
made it to the upper decks weren't much better off.
They'd not been briefed on how to lower the lifeboats
or free the rafts that might have carried them to safety.
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That they were told was the job of the crew.
But the crew, a Belgian outfit, spoke little English and
had little loyalty to the American troops aboard, And so
it happened that many crew members and in ship, while
the Americans aboard still had no idea they were slowly sinking.
Many soldiers were presumed to have gone down with the ship.
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Others were lost to injuries in hypothermia. In the end,
seven hundred and sixty three men died. Jerry was one
of them. After six months of training, he saw one
day of war. The scale of death was so needless,
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the failed emergency response so poor that for decades the
US government covered up the details. Survivors risked losing their
veteran benefits if they talked, and so when a family
was notified that they'd lost a loved one, only the
barest details were shared.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I was in Jerry's parents' home. His mother and father
were in the room. They handed me that telegram.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
In the months before he died, looking towards the war
he was about to enter, Jerry wrote a poem, all
I ask for God in the brief second before eternity
swallows me up a glimpse of the world that is
to be where no man need make a prayer like mine?
Then will I know there is meaning amidst this man
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made madness.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
In a certain way, I've never verbalized this, but in
a certain way. The discovery of those letters have turned
my life upside down, because I don't feel as happy
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as I used to feel. I really don't.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
It's the first time I've heard Debra say this. I
thought for Deborah, jerry Land was a happy escape, and
it seems it can be. But there's sadness there too.
After discovering the box, Deborah found herself having nightmares. The
letters abruptly end in nineteen forty four, so in place
of an actual ending, Deborah's mindcrafted its own. She dreamt
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of Jerry in the water. She dreamt of him frozen
in the English Channel, and it was like a piece
of Deborah was stuck there with him. Recently, though, I
learned something that might help Deborah to work herself free.
A few months ago, a genealogist friend of the family
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was doing some digging and turned up something surprising, something
that Debora never knew. Jerry's body wasn't in the English Channel,
nor was it buried somewhere in Europe. Jerry's body had
actually been repatriated back to America and interred in a
Jewish cemetery called Mount Lebanon, And it turns out the
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cemetery is not an hour's drive from Deborah's apartment. To
move on from jerry Land, maybe Deborah needs more than
just to revisit the past, or honor the past. Maybe
she needs to grieve it. Leaving the house at one
hundred and two is not so easily done, and Deborah
(27:35):
has yet to visit Jerry's grave. I ask if it
might be something we can do together.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Anything that brings me closer to him some game.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
After the break Jerry. Just as I'm about to book
(28:12):
a minivan for our visit to the cemetery, I receive
an invitation to a video conference. Hello, Hey, sorry, I
had to I guess log in. Debra's Emmy Award winning
son in law, Joe Berlinger, also wants to come to
the cemetery to film for his own project about Debra.
Speaker 4 (28:35):
I mean, we're all such huge fans of Heavyweight that
we're so excited that you're engaged.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Yeah, I mean, right back at you. We you know,
we love what you do. So we have I a
pet hamster and my fanny pack. Allow me to explain
my lack of enthusiasm about Joe's participation.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
You know, when I go out and I do something
for Netflix or whatever, it's a little The.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
World of documentary is a hierarchy that breaks down thusly,
Netflix document entries the top floor, Penthouse Suite Audio documentaries
the underground parking garage where audio documentarians park their used
Ford fiestas. So as much as I love Joe's work,
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let's just say Metallica doesn't have two lead guitarists. Let's
just say it only has one. And according to the Internet,
his name is Kirkley Hammett. And on this documentary shoot,
I'm the Kirk.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
It's not like we're going to be dueling interviewers or
anything like that.
Speaker 7 (29:44):
I want to assure you of that.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
I just want to be a fly on the wall
and observe what's happening. Canadian etiquette dictates my not saying no,
but I will be documenting you, Joe Berlinger documenting me
as I document Debra. On a sunny morning in October,
(30:09):
we all meet at Debra's Hello Hi.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Debrah is seated by the window, wearing a colorful kerchief
around her neck. The sunlight illuminates her shoulder length white
hair in a puffy halo.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
I'd like to say a few words, if that's okay.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Of course, Debrah has prepared a speech about Jerry that
she'd like to recite at his gravesite. In fact, a
few days earlier, she left a phone message saying it
would be four minutes long, suggesting she'd already timed it
and practiced it just to get it all right. My
worry is that with a speech already committed to memory,
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Deborah might have already decided how and how much she
wants to feel.
Speaker 4 (30:57):
Yep, thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
We load into the van Deborah, her aid Hove, her
daughter Lee, and my producer Phoebe. Joe seats himself up front.
The papa ostensibly its so he can silently record Deborah
and me in the seats behind him silently Jonathan, what
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are we doing today?
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Well?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Being questioned on one's own podcast is not unlike being
strapped into a baby seat in one's own fourteen seater van,
which might I add, one paid for. Rather than demanding
that everyone in the van pause their various recording devices
so I can throw a full on Kirkley hammet level
artistic tantrum, I instead do this. We are heading off
(31:49):
to the Queen's Cemetery. I obey my master master. That's
a Metallica reference. We ride through Washington Heights where Jerry
(32:10):
grew up, past the grounds of the World's Fair where
he and Deborah spent many a summer's afternoon.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
That was the greatest states we ever had together.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
They marveled over futuristic architecture, the debut of the first
television Portraits of a Hopeful Future. When we arrive at
the cemetery, we consult the map. The cemetery is so
(32:42):
large that it has streets, and the streets have names.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
Jerry's not on Paradise Savenue, whis he actually is?
Speaker 7 (32:52):
Just on he is?
Speaker 3 (32:54):
How about that?
Speaker 8 (33:00):
Okay, we're ready to go.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
Oh okay, I got to know.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
We all get out of the car. According to the map,
Jerry's grave isn't far. Their brousade wheels her towards the
isle of tombstones. Okay.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
What's going through my mind now is a letter from
Jerry saying there's so many things I want to do
with you.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
Oh my, oh there.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Oh and suddenly there it is the headstone beloved son
and dear brother, Private Jerome Robins.
Speaker 8 (33:51):
Jerry, Oh God, do.
Speaker 7 (34:07):
You want to do this here? Okay, can get cherry.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
We brought along the cottage. If you wanted to say it, you.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
Don't have to bring it to me.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
I know it.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Okay, Yeah, love for you.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
To say, sure, I love my career.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
When she's finished with the prayer for the dead, Deborah
remains quiet. But then something happens, something she hadn't planned
for or prepared for. Taking in the sight of all
those tombstones, she just starts talking a.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
What a waste? This one nineteen, this beloved one twenty two,
the other one twenty No more, No more wars, Please please,
no more wars. There are too many beautiful, healthy, young
(35:34):
veterans who aligned up here and probably never had a
chance to live. What thieves warmongers are. Warmongers are thieves
of life that was never lived. Man made madness, man
(36:01):
made madness. Okay, I said, enough sare.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Deborah will later tell me that she surprised herself for
all the words she'd prepared. These words, she said, came
from the guts to get through her long life. Deborah
learned to box up the pain and store it neatly away.
But maybe if you live long enough, everything, even those
buried things, rise to the surface again, searching for light.
Speaker 4 (36:56):
See one more step, I know.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
We all load into the van and settle back in
for the journey back to the Bronx. How are you feeling.
Speaker 4 (37:12):
I thought it would.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
Be painful, and it wasn't painful. I got a refill
of energy. It was a little bit of steiling from
his strength. And that really came from being with Jerry.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
A young man at a time when he needed love
most conjured a spectral companion to journey by his side. Now,
almost a century later, an old woman does the same.
It's the sort of ironic twist that could have flowed
from Jerry's pen.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
Hey, Joe wants some nuts, aura banana? What about a banana?
Speaker 1 (38:11):
Back in the van, Joe reminds Deborah that it's his daughter,
Deborah's granddaughter's thirty first birthday.
Speaker 4 (38:18):
Oh that's right.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Should we call her? Huh?
Speaker 1 (38:22):
Yes, When she gets home, Deborah will return some phone calls,
maybe take a nap. All the little things that make
up a life, all the little things that make up
to hear and now, happy.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Birthday, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you. Off.
Speaker 6 (39:27):
Now that the furnitures returning to its goodwill home, Now
that the last month's rent is skating with.
Speaker 4 (39:40):
The damage to possum, take this moment to dissolve, if
we meant it, if we talk.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
We felt around for five from things that accidentally talk.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
This episode of Heavyweight was produced by Phoebe Flanagan and
me Jonathan Goldstein. Our senior producer is Khalila holt Our.
Supervising producer is Stevie Lane. Editorial guidance from Emily Condon.
Special thanks to Chris Neary, Lucy Sullivan, Ben Nattihaffrey and
Greta Cone. Special thanks also to Daria O'Connor, Jack Eiferman,
(40:25):
and Alan Andrade. The author of the book Leopoldville A
Tragedy Too Long Secret, which is a great read if
you want to learn more about the sinking of Jerry's ship.
Debra is publishing a collection of Jerry's writing that will
soon be available on Amazon. You can find more information
about the book at waitformeworld dot com. Her daughter Lee
(40:46):
has been working on a screenplay about Debra and Jerry.
She's hosting a live read of the script on January
twentieth at Jazz Forum in Tarrytown, New York. As for Joe,
he has two Netflix documentaries coming out early next year.
Emmamonger mixed the episode with original music by Christine Fellows,
John K. Sampson, Blue Dot Sessions, Bobby Lord and Emma Munger.
(41:09):
Additional scoring by Chris Zabriski. Our theme song is by
the Weaker Than's courtesy of Epitaph Records. This is the
end of our season, the final episode, but we'll be
back in the spring with some more fun stuff, So
keep an ear out and we've got a new season
coming your way next fall. So if you have a
story for us, don't be withholding okay, email us at
(41:30):
Heavyweight at Pushkin dot FM. Happy holidays to all, and
thank you for your continued support and listenership. I'm Jonathan
Goldstein Tata Chow. For now adieu. Don't use that stuff
at the end, but you could put that part in.
You could part You could put in the part of
me saying don't use that stuff at the end, and
(41:53):
then you can put in the part where I'm saying
don't use this stuff. Okay. It'll be fun
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