I Feel Used - 973

On this episode of The Thought Shower, did Intern John have the most unproductive weekend ever? Plus how to know if someone is just using you

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Episode Transcript

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While oh friend, Happy Monday.Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John
is my name. It was ina word a weekend. I feel like
I start every Monday podcast by sayingsomething like that, my sleep schedule got
all types of screwed up this weekendFriday. Let's start there, stay up

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late, wash a little playoff hockey, and then like whatever reason, didn't
sleep the full night, Like wokeup, went to bed at like maybe
midnight. My body sometimes on theweekend, I naturally wake up when I
wake up for work, So Ithink I woke up at like two thirty,
and then it was like every twohours was sleeping and didn't go to

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the gym because I've been like restingmy arm. So basically, I've been
watching the show on Netflix called DesignatedSurvivor. If you haven't seen it,
it's pretty good. It came outa couple of years ago. The idea
is it's kind of House of Cardsesque mix the twenty four. When they
do the State of the Union address, there's somebody from the cabinet who is

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hidden in undisclosed location in case ofa catastrophe. They are the Designated Survivor.
They become president and it's kind oflike that and rolls off that way.
So there's three seasons and I'm justjudging by it. There's like two
seasons that aired on TV. Thenthe show is canceled and Netflix picked it

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up. So I'm almost done withseason one. Very exciting. So did
that. But then Sauce's birthday finallyended this weekend. You know, No,
Sauce's birthday May twenty fourth, you'reasking yourself, But John, that
was two weeks ago. Oh,I know, I know. And so
I was surprised she made it becauseshe had said that her plan was to

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go to a pool party on Saturday, then dinner with her friends, then
go out to the club. AndI was like, there's no way you're
making it to the club, zeropercent chance. But they did. Very
surprised. Went to Stfu and NavyYard. It's Eric's place, really cool,
a basement bar speak, easy typeof vibe, and it was a
Sauce a bunch of her friends wentto another place after that, and then

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this is where I became the hero, because it's about midnight ish. I
think I'm like, hey, weshould all go back. So Sauce,
myself, two brother friends go backto her place. I was pretty wrecked.
I was like, there's no way, like I need to eat and
lay down. So I uber eatsMcDonald's to Sauce's house. It's the go

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to move. You don't order thefood once you get home. You order
it and you make sure delivery timeis enough to where you can get it.
I didn't realize how much food Iordered. That was another story.
It came in two giant bags,like two giant Michael's bags. So I
look at the order. I goteighty McNiff it's it's eight zero three mixed

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chickens, three spicy chickens, threeFrench fries, and one cup of ranch.
So uh Thoughts called me the nextday. She's like, don't worry,
I'm still eating nuggets. It's themove, dude. For whatever reason,
like drunk food, it distastes better, especially when you know you've already
made poor decisions, so like youdon't have the guilt, Like if I

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was sober, I would have hadguilt over what I was eating. Because
I was drunkie, I was like, this is for survival, this is
so I don't die. This iswhat we're doing right now. So then
I slept on her all of herfriends stayed over. I slept on her
small ass couch, and I wokeup to like six a home and the
Uber each three times on Sunday.Very exciting. Dude. When I say

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I was a POS this weekend,I was a POS this weekend. So
there is that, which is kindof perfect because it was kind of my
last weekend to mess around. Likethere's a bunch of things kind of happening
right now in my life, oneof those being hockey starts this week,
which is crazy, not like fullon season, but we do like an

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off season camp. So I'm gonnabe on the ice this week for the
first time in since February, Iguess, so first time in four months.
That's gonna be rough for sure.But did meet the incoming freshmen.
That's always very exciting, the classof two and twenty eight. When you
see kids nowadays and the letter jacketsays twenty eight on it, that's not

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their grandpa's from nineteen twenty eight,that is two thousand and twenty eight.
So I'm excited for that. SoI get back on, like the health
thing too. I kind of tooka couple weeks off from that but then
I yeah, I didn't lift alllast week because my elbow is hurting.
So that's kind of like where I'mat right now. A lot of good
things coming, love, happy thingscoming, and I appreciate you being here.

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I want to get to this too. If someone does these things,
they're using you may or may orma'am. If they only reach out when
they need something, yes, I'vehad that happen, and I've realized that,
whether it be somebody only reaches outwhen they're in town because they want
tickets for something or to get contactfor something, I've been very aware that

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it maybe it's because of the jobthat might be it like back home,
like in Minnesota, it was alittle bit different because like when we announced
jingle Ball Minnesota, I would hearfrom people that I went to like preschool
with grade school with friends of afriend of a friend, and be a
thing where when they reach out,like hey, I knew instantly you're asking

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me for something wild. On theflip side, they disappear when you need
them. I've realized this because Itry not to ask people for help.
I try not to do that unlessit's serious. So like I'll help anybody
it's kind of the way I am. But when I do that, and
then if somebody else won't help mewith a small thing, I take none

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of that for sure. For sure, I'm like, oh, okay,
now I need you. You can'tdo You're not there for me. Okay.
They pressure you or do things you'renot comfortable with. They say,
whether it's loaning the money you can'tafford, lying to cover for them,
compromising your values. A user willpressure you across your own boundaries. I

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do believe that, yeah, becausethey're tying to get the most they can
out of you. I also thinktoo, if they're using you, they
don't quite care what the effect ison you, right, They're just trying
to focus about their day move on, which is a wild thing to have
that kind of unawareness of other people. See, I do think they don't
quite care. But making you dothings yet want to do. They take

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credit for your ideas in your accomplishments. Huh. If you share an idea
with them they passed off as theirown. They bask and the praise for
your heart work without giving you anounce of credit. That's a classic sign
of a user. I will saythis, I have learned I did not
give uh my ideas out one onone. I don't do that. I'll

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do it in a room full ofpeople, but one on one, I've
learned not to say something. AndI know, like it feels good to
show how smart you are, butI do think there's something too, like
let's keep the mouth shut. I'velearned it the hard way where I've said
stuff to people that thought it wasa really good idea and they took it
for their own and it is alittle bit like, oh wow, I

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mentioned this before. I think it'sone of those things where because I would
never do that, I wouldn't thinksomebody else would. And you're probably the
same way, you know what Imean, Like because you would never take
advantage of somebody, you wouldn't assumesomebody would do it to you. Mm
hmmmmmmmmmmm. I think always they're alwaysthe victim and never take responsibility. I

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cannot stand these types of people.I've had this before, where like I've
helped and helped and help, butwhen I push back like hey, because
it's never enough. That's like theone thing I've realized with people like this,
it's never enough. They always wantmore. So when you do draw
the line, and when you setboundaries, it becomes a major thing of
like, how dare you? Ithought we were friends and it's like,

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Yo, this is a one wayfriendship. I've helped you with everything I
can. Why now when I tryand like protect myself, protect my own
mental why is that the issue?Right? Why does that become a problem.
Guys are pushing dude because they're usingmy God, there's an ad in
the bottom of this page for pizzahuts, my hut box. This thing

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looks incredible. You can get pizza, wings, fries. Oh it's so
early in the morning, but nowI want all of it. Final one.
They treat you like an option,not priority. I mean this kind
of ties into how you can askthem for help and they're like, nah,
you know what I mean, becausethey're just using you like utility.

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You're the vacuum cleaner. That's it. Your job is to clean. Your
job's a vacuum. Can't use itfor the windows, can't use it for
dishes, But I can use youin the carpet. I think that's probably
the biggest way to realize it isyou're just simple utility for them to make
their life better and You're not utility, You're the whole damn meal. Baby,

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