June 10, 2024 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his weekend, plus how to know when someone is insecure
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(00:00):
Happy Monday, friends, Welcome tothe Thought Shower. Internshohn is my name,
I'm gonna stop saying it. Itwas a weekend though. We had
the Capitol Pride Parade on Saturday.That was a lot of fun. Sunday
I was very exciting. I rarelydo things on Sundays, like I get
(00:21):
it in my mind, like,note, can't go on Sunday. Monday's
of workday. You know. Inthe past, I've talked myself out of
doing like Sunday fun days and basicallyanything. I'll get a huge anxiety about
going out in Sundays or even justgoing to do whatever. But my buddy
Dante gonna be I town for awhile, hit me up by Hey,
(00:42):
younger golf with my brother with hisbrother. I was like, Sure,
went golfing. Was a lot offun. It's dangerous, though, because
I know I'm gonna get addicted togolf. I know it, and it's
gonna be a problem because golf isone of those things where you either do
really well, oh really bad,and you could have like if it's eighteen
(01:03):
holes, you could have seventeen ofthe worst swings in the history of golf,
right, seventeen of the worst holesever and you're done with golf,
ready to quit. That last holeyou hit it? Well, yo,
I want to what. I justfigured it out, so we'll see.
It's so far right now, it'sfun. I think that's the key to
like, I've golf before, I'mgonna be golf. Like five times in
my life there has been times wherethe other folks on the course acted as
(01:27):
if they were gonna go on thePGA Tour and that made it not fun,
Like they were riding their ass liketrying to play through and like that's
not fun. And this last time, though, everybody's kind of out there
like hey, we're just here tohave fun, have a good time.
It's kind of like adult hockey leagues, Like there's somewhere it's just like,
hey, we're gonna have fun,and there's somewhere it's like these guys thinking
(01:49):
they're gonna get called up to theshow and it's like, let's just relax,
fellas, you know, we're probablynot gonna go pro what else?
To everybody who bought tickets for thecomedy shows, thank you The Arlington show,
which is there's two shows July twentieth, Low ticket alert. So if
you want to go to the show. We're doing just two venues. We're
(02:09):
doing Arlington Draft House on July twentieth. We're doing Ramshead Live on August seventeenth.
These are the only venues we're doingthe Arlington shows. Low ticket alert.
I believe tickets are twenty bucks aswell. So if you want to
go to the Arlington show internshoon Comedydot com. The after party will be
(02:30):
a hide Lounge in Clarendon. That'sthe new restaurant bar that I have a
investor ship in, which I'm veryexcited about that. That happens in a
few weeks, and man, that'sgoing to be interesting. I've never I've
eaten at restaurants, never had astake in a restaurant. We'll play on
words, so I'm excited for thatas well. Lock going on, man,
(02:53):
Lock going on, very exciting tomorrow. I have a facial excited for
that. Trying to keep my youthfulappearing. I had somebody say to me
recently they thought I was five yearsyounger than I am, and I was
so taken back and so like,oh thank you. I do think though
the pandemic was what four years ago, I feel like I'm four years younger
(03:15):
than I am for sure. Ido like mentally, maybe not physically,
like physically the body's starting to breakdown. You know. I've been able
to lift weights the last two weeks. I have like tonightis and my it
can't be tonight's that's in your ears. I had tennis elbow basically, so
the doctor's like, hey, don'tdo any heavy lifting. All good,
(03:39):
but yeah, I do feel likementally mentally, I feel like ten years
younger. Let's be honest. Ilike to give myself a benefit of the
doubt, like, oh I'm somature. Nah, not even a little
bit. So anyway, we're here, We're doing it. I'm excited this
weekend. I think I'm going tothe woods getting away. Haven't any chance
to go this year, which thismight be the latest in the year I've
(04:00):
gone, like usually have gone acouple of times right now, and I'm
very excited for that. For me, it's a chance to get away kind
of just unplug and then right getthese shows ready to go. Man,
I'm excited, excited, and it'sgonna be it'na be fun for it if
everybody involved, it's funny. Getout there as well, let me get
to this for your Monday. Ifsomebody uses these phrases in conversation, they're
(04:25):
probably insecure. Let's get through these. If somebody says I'm not very good
at that and say it's self depreciating, you can the red flag. When
someone expresses doubts about their abilities orself worth, it suggests a lack of
confidence. Yeah. I think it'sone of those things where I always find
it odd to say that out loud, you know what I mean, Like
(04:45):
I never really try to say that, maybe just to convince myself. Yeah.
This next one, that is abigger one. What do you think
slash? How do you feel aboutme? It's an odd question to be
asked, right, they say,if you're constantly seeking external validation and approval
can be a sign of insecurity.When someone relies on other people's opinions to
(05:08):
feel good about themselves or shure theirdecisions, it points to pretty fragile self
esteem. Yeah. I guess that'sone of those things where it's like,
if you're interacting with somebody daily orweekly, whatever it is, I would
assume they like you, right,unless it's a work setting, But like
to have to ask that I don'tknow. Man. If somebody saying how
(05:30):
do you feel about me? Ibeg, well, I'm acknowledging you exist,
you know what I mean? Liketo me, that's a sign.
That's a good sign. If theysay something like I should have dot dot
dot dot, they say no onewants to live with regrets. But someone
uses that phrase often it's clear theydo. It proves they find it hard
forgive themselves or cut themselves any slackso they can move forward. I dated
(05:56):
somebody like this who is sweetest andnever but like kind of second guess themselves
a lot, and I would saythem, hey, like, you know,
if you treated other people like howyou treat yourself, you'd have zero
friends. And also, if youwere doing half as bad as you think
you're doing, we'd have you committed. And I mean that like if you
(06:17):
were doing if you were so downyourself, if you're really doing that bad,
there'd be people in your life whowould step in with professional help.
And that's that's meant to be ajoke. That's a real thing where it's
like, yeah, you're not doingthat bad. Otherwise people around you would
just wave red flags like hey,look at this, something's wrong. If
they say I'm just lucky, Iguess yeah, they say attributing your achievements
(06:42):
to solely luck is one way ofdownplaying your abilities. Well, luck plays
a part in many things. Writingoff or downplaying accomplishments all the time shows
you were lucked. To take creditfor your hard work. Yeah, I've
said that to friends before, Notabout being lucky. It's like, no,
you worked, you worked hard,you put yourself in a position now,
certain luck plays a part of it, right, like every now and
(07:04):
then you need things to go yourway. However, usually I would say
it's not the case. It's hardwork, for sure. If somebody says
I'm probably wrong, but they saythese are self doubt suggestions, a lack
of confidence in their opinions, maybeafraid of confrontation. I know I've said
(07:25):
before an email like I'm probably wrong, but just because I think an email
tone is so hard to tell U. So I don't want to come across
as being a doucher. If somebodysays I don't want to be a burden,
yeah, they say. Expressing fearof burdening people with the problem is
a common trait among insecure people.It may hesitate to share their concerns,
(07:46):
thinking they should handle everything on theirown. I think that everybody at some
point goes through this. I knowI have. I mean this last year,
I've gotten better at it. Whereyou get people in your life want
to help you know for sure theyespecially if you don't ask for help,
they want to help you if youneed help. I think that's a huge
thing to take advantage of. Ifyou can't say no, no, no.
(08:11):
Inability to assert boundaries and constant willingnessto accommodate others can reveal insecurities.
People who say this may be terrifiedrubbing people the wrong way or disappointing them,
leading to self neglect. Empowering themto prioritize self care and to healthy
boundaries can be transformative. Yeah,I think that's a huge thing, especially
the folks like in the workplace oreven like friends will always help out.
(08:35):
It's good to have friends will helpout. But if there's the one friend
that will treat you almost like there, I don't even know, if you're
butler, they're you're made, orthey'll do everything for you, drop the
hat. Is it nice to havethat? Sure? In some ways,
absolutely, but I think that probablymeans they're insecure, like they feel like
(08:56):
they have to constantly go above andbeyond to validate the friendship, to validate
how you treat them. I thinkthat all makes perfect sense. I hope
you have a great Monday. Iappreciate you hanging out. If you get
a chance to get tickets, that'dbe sick. July twentieth, Arlington Drafthouse.
August seventeenth, rams Head Live,Internsoncomedy dot Com. We'll see you
(09:18):
next time.
Happy Monday, friends, Welcome tothe Thought Shower. Internshohn is my name,
I'm gonna stop saying it. Itwas a weekend though. We had
the Capitol Pride Parade on Saturday.That was a lot of fun. Sunday
I was very exciting. I rarelydo things on Sundays, like I get
(00:21):
it in my mind, like,note, can't go on Sunday. Monday's
of workday. You know. Inthe past, I've talked myself out of
doing like Sunday fun days and basicallyanything. I'll get a huge anxiety about
going out in Sundays or even justgoing to do whatever. But my buddy
Dante gonna be I town for awhile, hit me up by Hey,
(00:42):
younger golf with my brother with hisbrother. I was like, Sure,
went golfing. Was a lot offun. It's dangerous, though, because
I know I'm gonna get addicted togolf. I know it, and it's
gonna be a problem because golf isone of those things where you either do
really well, oh really bad,and you could have like if it's eighteen
(01:03):
holes, you could have seventeen ofthe worst swings in the history of golf,
right, seventeen of the worst holesever and you're done with golf,
ready to quit. That last holeyou hit it? Well, yo,
I want to what. I justfigured it out, so we'll see.
It's so far right now, it'sfun. I think that's the key to
like, I've golf before, I'mgonna be golf. Like five times in
my life there has been times wherethe other folks on the course acted as
(01:27):
if they were gonna go on thePGA Tour and that made it not fun,
Like they were riding their ass liketrying to play through and like that's
not fun. And this last time, though, everybody's kind of out there
like hey, we're just here tohave fun, have a good time.
It's kind of like adult hockey leagues, Like there's somewhere it's just like,
hey, we're gonna have fun,and there's somewhere it's like these guys thinking
(01:49):
they're gonna get called up to theshow and it's like, let's just relax,
fellas, you know, we're probablynot gonna go pro what else?
To everybody who bought tickets for thecomedy shows, thank you The Arlington show,
which is there's two shows July twentieth, Low ticket alert. So if
you want to go to the show. We're doing just two venues. We're
(02:09):
doing Arlington Draft House on July twentieth. We're doing Ramshead Live on August seventeenth.
These are the only venues we're doingthe Arlington shows. Low ticket alert.
I believe tickets are twenty bucks aswell. So if you want to
go to the Arlington show internshoon Comedydot com. The after party will be
(02:30):
a hide Lounge in Clarendon. That'sthe new restaurant bar that I have a
investor ship in, which I'm veryexcited about that. That happens in a
few weeks, and man, that'sgoing to be interesting. I've never I've
eaten at restaurants, never had astake in a restaurant. We'll play on
words, so I'm excited for thatas well. Lock going on, man,
(02:53):
Lock going on, very exciting tomorrow. I have a facial excited for
that. Trying to keep my youthfulappearing. I had somebody say to me
recently they thought I was five yearsyounger than I am, and I was
so taken back and so like,oh thank you. I do think though
the pandemic was what four years ago, I feel like I'm four years younger
(03:15):
than I am for sure. Ido like mentally, maybe not physically,
like physically the body's starting to breakdown. You know. I've been able
to lift weights the last two weeks. I have like tonightis and my it
can't be tonight's that's in your ears. I had tennis elbow basically, so
the doctor's like, hey, don'tdo any heavy lifting. All good,
(03:39):
but yeah, I do feel likementally mentally, I feel like ten years
younger. Let's be honest. Ilike to give myself a benefit of the
doubt, like, oh I'm somature. Nah, not even a little
bit. So anyway, we're here, We're doing it. I'm excited this
weekend. I think I'm going tothe woods getting away. Haven't any chance
to go this year, which thismight be the latest in the year I've
(04:00):
gone, like usually have gone acouple of times right now, and I'm
very excited for that. For me, it's a chance to get away kind
of just unplug and then right getthese shows ready to go. Man,
I'm excited, excited, and it'sgonna be it'na be fun for it if
everybody involved, it's funny. Getout there as well, let me get
to this for your Monday. Ifsomebody uses these phrases in conversation, they're
(04:25):
probably insecure. Let's get through these. If somebody says I'm not very good
at that and say it's self depreciating, you can the red flag. When
someone expresses doubts about their abilities orself worth, it suggests a lack of
confidence. Yeah. I think it'sone of those things where I always find
it odd to say that out loud, you know what I mean, Like
(04:45):
I never really try to say that, maybe just to convince myself. Yeah.
This next one, that is abigger one. What do you think
slash? How do you feel aboutme? It's an odd question to be
asked, right, they say,if you're constantly seeking external validation and approval
can be a sign of insecurity.When someone relies on other people's opinions to
(05:08):
feel good about themselves or shure theirdecisions, it points to pretty fragile self
esteem. Yeah. I guess that'sone of those things where it's like,
if you're interacting with somebody daily orweekly, whatever it is, I would
assume they like you, right,unless it's a work setting, But like
to have to ask that I don'tknow. Man. If somebody saying how
(05:30):
do you feel about me? Ibeg, well, I'm acknowledging you exist,
you know what I mean? Liketo me, that's a sign.
That's a good sign. If theysay something like I should have dot dot
dot dot, they say no onewants to live with regrets. But someone
uses that phrase often it's clear theydo. It proves they find it hard
forgive themselves or cut themselves any slackso they can move forward. I dated
(05:56):
somebody like this who is sweetest andnever but like kind of second guess themselves
a lot, and I would saythem, hey, like, you know,
if you treated other people like howyou treat yourself, you'd have zero
friends. And also, if youwere doing half as bad as you think
you're doing, we'd have you committed. And I mean that like if you
(06:17):
were doing if you were so downyourself, if you're really doing that bad,
there'd be people in your life whowould step in with professional help.
And that's that's meant to be ajoke. That's a real thing where it's
like, yeah, you're not doingthat bad. Otherwise people around you would
just wave red flags like hey,look at this, something's wrong. If
they say I'm just lucky, Iguess yeah, they say attributing your achievements
(06:42):
to solely luck is one way ofdownplaying your abilities. Well, luck plays
a part in many things. Writingoff or downplaying accomplishments all the time shows
you were lucked. To take creditfor your hard work. Yeah, I've
said that to friends before, Notabout being lucky. It's like, no,
you worked, you worked hard,you put yourself in a position now,
certain luck plays a part of it, right, like every now and
(07:04):
then you need things to go yourway. However, usually I would say
it's not the case. It's hardwork, for sure. If somebody says
I'm probably wrong, but they saythese are self doubt suggestions, a lack
of confidence in their opinions, maybeafraid of confrontation. I know I've said
(07:25):
before an email like I'm probably wrong, but just because I think an email
tone is so hard to tell U. So I don't want to come across
as being a doucher. If somebodysays I don't want to be a burden,
yeah, they say. Expressing fearof burdening people with the problem is
a common trait among insecure people.It may hesitate to share their concerns,
(07:46):
thinking they should handle everything on theirown. I think that everybody at some
point goes through this. I knowI have. I mean this last year,
I've gotten better at it. Whereyou get people in your life want
to help you know for sure theyespecially if you don't ask for help,
they want to help you if youneed help. I think that's a huge
thing to take advantage of. Ifyou can't say no, no, no.
(08:11):
Inability to assert boundaries and constant willingnessto accommodate others can reveal insecurities.
People who say this may be terrifiedrubbing people the wrong way or disappointing them,
leading to self neglect. Empowering themto prioritize self care and to healthy
boundaries can be transformative. Yeah,I think that's a huge thing, especially
the folks like in the workplace oreven like friends will always help out.
(08:35):
It's good to have friends will helpout. But if there's the one friend
that will treat you almost like there, I don't even know, if you're
butler, they're you're made, orthey'll do everything for you, drop the
hat. Is it nice to havethat? Sure? In some ways,
absolutely, but I think that probablymeans they're insecure, like they feel like
(08:56):
they have to constantly go above andbeyond to validate the friendship, to validate
how you treat them. I thinkthat all makes perfect sense. I hope
you have a great Monday. Iappreciate you hanging out. If you get
a chance to get tickets, that'dbe sick. July twentieth, Arlington Drafthouse.
August seventeenth, rams Head Live,Internsoncomedy dot Com. We'll see you
(09:18):
next time.
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