June 21, 2024 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how he's going pro in this, plus how to tell when your partner pulls away
Intern John's FROM SCRATCH on sale now!
7/20 Arlington Draft House, Arlington VA
8/15 Rams Head LIVE, Baltimore
InternJohnComedy.com
Intern John's FROM SCRATCH on sale now!
7/20 Arlington Draft House, Arlington VA
8/15 Rams Head LIVE, Baltimore
InternJohnComedy.com
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcometo the Thought Shower. Internshohn is my
name. I had some big news. I'm going pro and golf decided golf
is my thing now. I've beenavoiding it for a while. Gonna be
honest, because I have I wouldn'tsay have an obsessive personality. However,
(00:23):
when I decide I want to dosomething, I tend to go all in
and that's my only focus and that'swhere I put my best in certainly with
the radio show that happens, withthe podcast Happens, comedy coaching, and
I've always kind of pushed off golfbecause I was like, if I get
into this, it's gonna be bad, and not like in a bad way,
(00:48):
but in a way of like I'mgonna want to be the absolute best
and take it very seriously, andthat's gonna be a problem. Now.
For reference, I tend to dowell on things when I don't really care
about the outcome. You know,well, I'm just and let me say
this maybe a better way where I'mjust focused and having fun. It's okay.
Like I was in a poker tournamentat MGM and it was for charity,
(01:14):
and I at the time, hadnever played poker in my life,
had no idea what the hands were. I don't know why I never got
in the card games. I justdidn't. But was in this poker tournament
where I had what the hands wereas a screenshot on my phone, so
I knew what to play. Andwhen I sat down, everybody was kind
of like, oh, he hasnobody's doing. By the end, I
(01:37):
was up like fifty thousand chips andsomebody at the table had the audacity to
accuse me of pretending to know howto play poker, like, oh,
yeah, you never played before,And I was like, my brother in
Christ, this is a charity gameof poker and we can't keep the money.
Why would I lie? I remembersitting there, I'm like, this
is like two hours in the game. I'm like, uh, I want
(02:00):
to go smoke a cigar and bything. Because I didn't know what I
was doing and I didn't think aboutit, I was fine. I mean,
I look at the first comedy show. The first time I talked to
DMed, he asked me how muchtime I was doing and I said an
hour and he almost fell over andhe's like, what do you mean.
I'm like, what do you meanhe goes, well, usually people do
five minutes, ten fifteen, AndI was like, okay, well,
(02:23):
I in my head, I didn'tknow that was like the rule, so
I just assumed I had do anhour. So I rode enough for two
hours, you know what I mean. With golf, I've been like,
actually golfing golfing less than five timesin my life. I would say,
yeah, maybe three or four,so that's less than five. And the
(02:45):
times I go and just have fun, it's just fun, you know what
I mean. The times I reallyget my head about, like the swing
and this step that goes horribly.So yesterday went with buddy Andrew and Corey
to Maryland National and I got inlike two weeks ago my buddy Dante and
did pretty well relative for me becauseI wasn't thinking about it first. T
(03:08):
yesterday get up and I thought aboutit and it went sideways, and after
I stopped thinking about it, itwas fun. I'm like, oh,
this could be a fun thing todo. Here's my issue, though.
Men tend to ruin athletics, whetherit's at the youth level, and it's
adult men ruin athletics. Whether it'sat the youth level by ruin it for
their kids and other players or atthe adult level. This is why I
(03:30):
haven't done like like there's adult hockeyleagues. I did it once for like
a game. The problem was thatlike people took it too seriously, Like
guys took it too seriously, asif they were gonna be picked up by
the NHL, and I was like, no, thank you. I've been
the golfing, Like the first timeI went, there were people behind us
(03:51):
who thought they were going on thepro tour, and it was just annoying
because like the anxiety of like arethey going to pass you? Are they
not? And I was like,eh, I've gone with like really good
dudes a couple of times. Itis relaxing. I'm gonna be honest,
though. My vibe is more justsmoke cigars and drive the cart. That's
kind of my vibe. It's kindof like fishing, you know what I
mean, if you catch something sick, if you don't, you're on a
(04:15):
boat. It's nice weather really cares. I think I got like fifteen thousand
steps that was clutched. So allI'm saying is, you know, maybe
I'll go pro and golf. It'dbe sick as far as like all the
sports to go pro, and likegolf would probably be the best, although
I've heard that golf can be badin your joints if you're a pro because
(04:40):
of the awkward movements. But likeif I was a pro hockey player,
I'd probably have a couple of yearsleft. Realistically, if I was pro
basket, I mean literally any othersport football, unless I was Tom Brady,
I'd be done already. Golf,though, who knows, we shall
see you have seen. The comedytour has got low tickets alerts for the
(05:03):
Arlington show July twentieth, the Ramsheadshow August seventeenth. The upper decks are
all sold out. If you wannago to the rams Head show, getting
close to a low ticket alert forthat Arlington there is a low ticket alert.
We're not adding any more venues.It's a very limited run of shows.
It's seeking your tickets Internjohncomedy dot com. It's gonna be a lot of
(05:25):
fun. I'm excited, you know, this past weekend as in the Woods
had a chance to work on thematerial. I'm very excited for you to
see it. It's gonna be avery exciting Internjohncomedy dot com. I want
to hit this for your Friday.I thought it was wild. The subtle
signs your partner is considering a relationshippause like they're trying to get out of
(05:46):
it right out the gate. Theirconversations are growing distant and impersonal, where
it feels like they don't want toget to the deep stuff. It's like
you are a coworker in the hallway. One hundred percent, they said,
one of the most common signs yourpartner might be considering a pause is a
shifting conversations. They're pulling back fromdeeper conversations, almost like I I equator
(06:09):
to you, like they're bracing forimpact, you know what I mean,
Like they know the impacts coming andthey're trying to protect themselves, which is
very messed up, especially if you'reon the other side of it, where
it's it's like you feel like you'rekind of left in the dark. You
know, if they suddenly have apack schedule with minimal time for you.
(06:30):
They say, it's natural for folksto have busy periods in their lives,
but if your partner suddenly seems swampedwith commitments leaving very little time for you,
it is worth paying attention to.Maybe they're working late, taking new
hobbies, YadA YadA. Well independenceis healthy. A drastic reduction and time
and dedicate to you could indicate desirefor more space and potential break. I
think I've seen this where like ifone person, all of a sudden,
(06:56):
who's hanging out with their friends alot more? Like a lot more?
Again, I think hang their friendsis important, but if that balance shifts
a lot, that to me bea flag the physical affection and intimacy of
decrease significantly. I think that's true, I think they point out. I
agree too, it's not just likethe relations the hooking up part, even
just like holding hands, cuddling,sitting by each other. If they're literally
(07:20):
creating distance between you, Nah,good time. They seem to pick arguments
more often than usual. Yeah,they say, disagreements are normal. Some
people subconsciously initiate conflicts as a meansof justifying a break. I feel like
I've seen this before too, whereit's like even the smallest thing can cause
(07:43):
a fight, right, and likeit's almost like are you looking for a
reason to get this? Are you'reyou looking for a reason to pull the
parachute? So I speak. Ifthey're constantly talking about needing space or alone
time. Yeah, I mean that'spretty pretty obvious, pretty direct. I
think they're pulling away for sure.They've lost interest in your shared activities or
(08:05):
hobbies. Ooh, ooh ooh.They say one of the joys of being
in a relationship is sharing experiences andhobbies with their partner. However, suddenly
they seem disinterested in the activities youonce enjoyed together. Could be assigned they're
distancing themselves emotionally. Yeah, likeif they don't want to watch your show
that you guys watched together, orgo to your restaurant or do your activity.
(08:26):
Yeah, because that it's almost likemaybe they never like that activity begin
with, they just did it becauseof you, and now that they are
kind of removing themselves from you,they don't want to be part of the
activity. I think that's huge.They're constantly scrolling through their phone when you're
together, yep, because in thatcase, you know they are looking outside
(08:48):
the relationship for attention, or noteven attention, just like to put their
attention elsewhere. Yep. If they'reless interested in making future plans with you,
yeah, I would even say youknow it goes to like not even
just you know, big feature plans. But here we are in the summer,
you know, fourth of July,a couple weeks away. If they
can't make plans for that, thatis a huge, huge sign. The
(09:11):
last one I'll hit today. Theybecome more secretive about their activities and whereabouts.
For sure, if you don't knowwhere your person is or what they're
doing, something's off. Again.I think one of the things about themselves
probably not a big deal, buta couple of these together. Man,
if it looks like a duck quackslike a duck, it's probably a duck.
Have a fantastic weekend again. We'dlove to see you at the comedy
(09:33):
shows. Sauce doing comedy myself,DM Meg, Kyle Kromer as well.
Get your tickets Internsooncomedy dot com.We'll see on Monday.
And a happy Friday friend. Welcometo the Thought Shower. Internshohn is my
name. I had some big news. I'm going pro and golf decided golf
is my thing now. I've beenavoiding it for a while. Gonna be
honest, because I have I wouldn'tsay have an obsessive personality. However,
(00:23):
when I decide I want to dosomething, I tend to go all in
and that's my only focus and that'swhere I put my best in certainly with
the radio show that happens, withthe podcast Happens, comedy coaching, and
I've always kind of pushed off golfbecause I was like, if I get
into this, it's gonna be bad, and not like in a bad way,
(00:48):
but in a way of like I'mgonna want to be the absolute best
and take it very seriously, andthat's gonna be a problem. Now.
For reference, I tend to dowell on things when I don't really care
about the outcome. You know,well, I'm just and let me say
this maybe a better way where I'mjust focused and having fun. It's okay.
Like I was in a poker tournamentat MGM and it was for charity,
(01:14):
and I at the time, hadnever played poker in my life,
had no idea what the hands were. I don't know why I never got
in the card games. I justdidn't. But was in this poker tournament
where I had what the hands wereas a screenshot on my phone, so
I knew what to play. Andwhen I sat down, everybody was kind
of like, oh, he hasnobody's doing. By the end, I
(01:37):
was up like fifty thousand chips andsomebody at the table had the audacity to
accuse me of pretending to know howto play poker, like, oh,
yeah, you never played before,And I was like, my brother in
Christ, this is a charity gameof poker and we can't keep the money.
Why would I lie? I remembersitting there, I'm like, this
is like two hours in the game. I'm like, uh, I want
(02:00):
to go smoke a cigar and bything. Because I didn't know what I
was doing and I didn't think aboutit, I was fine. I mean,
I look at the first comedy show. The first time I talked to
DMed, he asked me how muchtime I was doing and I said an
hour and he almost fell over andhe's like, what do you mean.
I'm like, what do you meanhe goes, well, usually people do
five minutes, ten fifteen, AndI was like, okay, well,
(02:23):
I in my head, I didn'tknow that was like the rule, so
I just assumed I had do anhour. So I rode enough for two
hours, you know what I mean. With golf, I've been like,
actually golfing golfing less than five timesin my life. I would say,
yeah, maybe three or four,so that's less than five. And the
(02:45):
times I go and just have fun, it's just fun, you know what
I mean. The times I reallyget my head about, like the swing
and this step that goes horribly.So yesterday went with buddy Andrew and Corey
to Maryland National and I got inlike two weeks ago my buddy Dante and
did pretty well relative for me becauseI wasn't thinking about it first. T
(03:08):
yesterday get up and I thought aboutit and it went sideways, and after
I stopped thinking about it, itwas fun. I'm like, oh,
this could be a fun thing todo. Here's my issue, though.
Men tend to ruin athletics, whetherit's at the youth level, and it's
adult men ruin athletics. Whether it'sat the youth level by ruin it for
their kids and other players or atthe adult level. This is why I
(03:30):
haven't done like like there's adult hockeyleagues. I did it once for like
a game. The problem was thatlike people took it too seriously, Like
guys took it too seriously, asif they were gonna be picked up by
the NHL, and I was like, no, thank you. I've been
the golfing, Like the first timeI went, there were people behind us
(03:51):
who thought they were going on thepro tour, and it was just annoying
because like the anxiety of like arethey going to pass you? Are they
not? And I was like,eh, I've gone with like really good
dudes a couple of times. Itis relaxing. I'm gonna be honest,
though. My vibe is more justsmoke cigars and drive the cart. That's
kind of my vibe. It's kindof like fishing, you know what I
mean, if you catch something sick, if you don't, you're on a
(04:15):
boat. It's nice weather really cares. I think I got like fifteen thousand
steps that was clutched. So allI'm saying is, you know, maybe
I'll go pro and golf. It'dbe sick as far as like all the
sports to go pro, and likegolf would probably be the best, although
I've heard that golf can be badin your joints if you're a pro because
(04:40):
of the awkward movements. But likeif I was a pro hockey player,
I'd probably have a couple of yearsleft. Realistically, if I was pro
basket, I mean literally any othersport football, unless I was Tom Brady,
I'd be done already. Golf,though, who knows, we shall
see you have seen. The comedytour has got low tickets alerts for the
(05:03):
Arlington show July twentieth, the Ramsheadshow August seventeenth. The upper decks are
all sold out. If you wannago to the rams Head show, getting
close to a low ticket alert forthat Arlington there is a low ticket alert.
We're not adding any more venues.It's a very limited run of shows.
It's seeking your tickets Internjohncomedy dot com. It's gonna be a lot of
(05:25):
fun. I'm excited, you know, this past weekend as in the Woods
had a chance to work on thematerial. I'm very excited for you to
see it. It's gonna be avery exciting Internjohncomedy dot com. I want
to hit this for your Friday.I thought it was wild. The subtle
signs your partner is considering a relationshippause like they're trying to get out of
(05:46):
it right out the gate. Theirconversations are growing distant and impersonal, where
it feels like they don't want toget to the deep stuff. It's like
you are a coworker in the hallway. One hundred percent, they said,
one of the most common signs yourpartner might be considering a pause is a
shifting conversations. They're pulling back fromdeeper conversations, almost like I I equator
(06:09):
to you, like they're bracing forimpact, you know what I mean,
Like they know the impacts coming andthey're trying to protect themselves, which is
very messed up, especially if you'reon the other side of it, where
it's it's like you feel like you'rekind of left in the dark. You
know, if they suddenly have apack schedule with minimal time for you.
(06:30):
They say, it's natural for folksto have busy periods in their lives,
but if your partner suddenly seems swampedwith commitments leaving very little time for you,
it is worth paying attention to.Maybe they're working late, taking new
hobbies, YadA YadA. Well independenceis healthy. A drastic reduction and time
and dedicate to you could indicate desirefor more space and potential break. I
think I've seen this where like ifone person, all of a sudden,
(06:56):
who's hanging out with their friends alot more? Like a lot more?
Again, I think hang their friendsis important, but if that balance shifts
a lot, that to me bea flag the physical affection and intimacy of
decrease significantly. I think that's true, I think they point out. I
agree too, it's not just likethe relations the hooking up part, even
just like holding hands, cuddling,sitting by each other. If they're literally
(07:20):
creating distance between you, Nah,good time. They seem to pick arguments
more often than usual. Yeah,they say, disagreements are normal. Some
people subconsciously initiate conflicts as a meansof justifying a break. I feel like
I've seen this before too, whereit's like even the smallest thing can cause
(07:43):
a fight, right, and likeit's almost like are you looking for a
reason to get this? Are you'reyou looking for a reason to pull the
parachute? So I speak. Ifthey're constantly talking about needing space or alone
time. Yeah, I mean that'spretty pretty obvious, pretty direct. I
think they're pulling away for sure.They've lost interest in your shared activities or
(08:05):
hobbies. Ooh, ooh ooh.They say one of the joys of being
in a relationship is sharing experiences andhobbies with their partner. However, suddenly
they seem disinterested in the activities youonce enjoyed together. Could be assigned they're
distancing themselves emotionally. Yeah, likeif they don't want to watch your show
that you guys watched together, orgo to your restaurant or do your activity.
(08:26):
Yeah, because that it's almost likemaybe they never like that activity begin
with, they just did it becauseof you, and now that they are
kind of removing themselves from you,they don't want to be part of the
activity. I think that's huge.They're constantly scrolling through their phone when you're
together, yep, because in thatcase, you know they are looking outside
(08:48):
the relationship for attention, or noteven attention, just like to put their
attention elsewhere. Yep. If they'reless interested in making future plans with you,
yeah, I would even say youknow it goes to like not even
just you know, big feature plans. But here we are in the summer,
you know, fourth of July,a couple weeks away. If they
can't make plans for that, thatis a huge, huge sign. The
(09:11):
last one I'll hit today. Theybecome more secretive about their activities and whereabouts.
For sure, if you don't knowwhere your person is or what they're
doing, something's off. Again.I think one of the things about themselves
probably not a big deal, buta couple of these together. Man,
if it looks like a duck quackslike a duck, it's probably a duck.
Have a fantastic weekend again. We'dlove to see you at the comedy
(09:33):
shows. Sauce doing comedy myself,DM Meg, Kyle Kromer as well.
Get your tickets Internsooncomedy dot com.We'll see on Monday.
Popular Podcasts
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Special Summer Offer: Exclusively on Apple Podcasts, try our Dateline Premium subscription completely free for one month! With Dateline Premium, you get every episode ad-free plus exclusive bonus content.
24/7 News: The Latest
The latest news in 4 minutes updated every hour, every day.